Speaker 1: This is the Eds with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aoyavi.
Speaker 1: The husbands know best too Cheese Production.
Speaker 2: We are back for episode eight and we're going to
Speaker 2: talk about a topic that a lot of ladies would
Speaker 2: like to hear or get a male perspective on. This
Speaker 2: is sex and intimacy. Yes, I said it, sex and intimacy.
Speaker 2: And when do men not want to talk about sex?
Speaker 2: Do you know? What do you think? And when?
Speaker 1: Because we get in trouble if we talk about it.
Speaker 1: I'm actually so fearful right now. I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: going to get in trouble talk Come on.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love talking about sex with my wife. Although
Speaker 2: I got to say my wife is a conservative one
Speaker 2: in the relationship. So you know, when the kids are
Speaker 2: around and I kiss on her and I love on her,
Speaker 2: the kids are like ew, she pushes me away. I'm like,
Speaker 2: it's natural. This is what couples do. And intimacy is
Speaker 2: so important in my opinion when it comes to relationships, right.
Speaker 1: It's very important. I mean, it's it's a big deal.
Speaker 2: Here's here's our first question. Okay, what do sex mean
Speaker 2: to you before marriage? Before you were married, when you
Speaker 2: met someone new, how quick did you know you wanted
Speaker 2: to sleep with them?
Speaker 1: Interesting question. I can tell you this. The the women
Speaker 1: that I loved and I really really liked, the last
Speaker 1: thing on my mind was having sex with them. Now,
Speaker 1: if I was just physically attracted to them, but that
Speaker 1: was it.
Speaker 3: Because there's some girls I was physically attracted to, but
Speaker 3: I just knew that they weren't the relationship type or
Speaker 3: as I called it, girlfriend material or wife material. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like those girls I wanted a break in first night,
Speaker 3: let's go.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was a very visual person. So you know, if
Speaker 1: if I was very physically attracted and that's all I
Speaker 1: cared about, I I that's all I thought about. But
Speaker 1: what I found, the awareness of it was the girls
Speaker 1: that I really really wanted to like have a relationship with. Really,
Speaker 1: for me, the last thing on my mind when I
Speaker 1: went on that first state was having sex with Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I think I have to clarify something because growing
Speaker 2: up as a young man and full of hormones, especially
Speaker 2: in your teens, you want to hump every chick you meet,
Speaker 2: especially a hot chick or you know, a check that
Speaker 2: you're very attracted to. So it took me, you know,
Speaker 2: going through relationships where I was in love and it
Speaker 2: was intimate, and learning what intimacy was for me, you know,
Speaker 2: what does it mean to be physically in bed with
Speaker 2: a woman and what are we doing here? Is it
Speaker 2: just a physical act or is there a love or
Speaker 2: a connection there? Right? So I think I had two
Speaker 2: deep intimate relationships, maybe three before I met Tarma, and
Speaker 2: then I've had a few relationships where it was just
Speaker 2: strictly sex, you know, like they make movies of it,
Speaker 2: just friends and it's just a sexual thing, no intimacy.
Speaker 2: And I learned that the just sex relationships didn't mean
Speaker 2: anything and they felt kind of empty, right. I just
Speaker 2: didn't feel good about it. But I wasn't ready to
Speaker 2: get into an intimate relationship, but I wanted to be physically,
Speaker 2: you know, physical with this relationship. So there were a
Speaker 2: couple of relationships like that in my life where you know,
Speaker 2: it was just a sexual thing. Yeah, we'd go out
Speaker 2: to dinner, but it was not love, it was not intimate.
Speaker 2: And I think what happened with Tarma is there was
Speaker 2: instant attraction, instant love that and by then when I
Speaker 2: met her, I had already figured out that I don't
Speaker 2: want to be in a just plain sexual relationship. I
Speaker 2: want to be in a loving, intimate relationship, but deep connection.
Speaker 2: That was really important to me. Right. That was like, like,
Speaker 2: when you're going to get into a relationship, you got
Speaker 2: to make sure that there's chemistry. You're not just physically
Speaker 2: attracted to this person. You are like deep down in
Speaker 2: love and in your heart connected with this person. Because
Speaker 2: there's been, you know, instances in my life where I've
Speaker 2: had sex and you roll over and you're like, Okay,
Speaker 2: get off my bed, get out of my life. I
Speaker 2: don't want anything to do with you, right, And it's
Speaker 2: so dirty, it's so empty, and I don't like it.
Speaker 2: So I never wanted to experience that. And I just
Speaker 2: love being connected with Camera. I love the connection I
Speaker 2: have with her. And it's like you said, the last
Speaker 2: thing I thought about, Well, maybe not the last thing.
Speaker 2: Maybe the second thing I thought about with her was
Speaker 2: having sex. But the connection I had with her initially
Speaker 2: was overwhelmingly attracted to her. And then I found out
Speaker 2: she was married, so that kind of shut down everything. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I said, well, you know, I'm not going to
Speaker 2: go there. But when we started spending time together and
Speaker 2: in the same parties, in the same rooms, and talking
Speaker 2: to her and just having conversations with her. That's what
Speaker 2: really led me to really get to know her and
Speaker 2: see there's more to this woman than just a sexual attraction.
Speaker 2: And it wasn't until you know, she was divorced that
Speaker 2: I got the opportunity to take her on her first date.
Speaker 2: And I don't even think we had sex on our
Speaker 2: first date, our official date. It was just like, let's
Speaker 2: go out, get to get get to know each other.
Speaker 2: We go to La Jolla and nobody knows what's there
Speaker 2: and hopefully nobody knows her. And you know, we came
Speaker 2: home and I dropped her off, and it was it
Speaker 2: was a very respectful in my book, what I call
Speaker 2: respectful when you go on a date and you and
Speaker 2: you take the girl out and you take her home
Speaker 2: and maybe you give her a kiss, but you know,
Speaker 2: for the most part, you just show her that I'm
Speaker 2: in this for just the sexual part of it. I'm
Speaker 2: in this because I am connected with you and I
Speaker 2: want to get to know you and everything about you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, to clarify right when you for me,
Speaker 1: when you when I really like someone, the last thing
Speaker 1: on my mind was having sex with them. But if
Speaker 1: they wanted to have sex the first date. I was
Speaker 1: all game. Yeah, I mean that's how I met my wife. Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: So we ended up, you know, hooking up the first day. Now,
Speaker 1: funny enough, I remember that night we hooked up. You know,
Speaker 1: we're both sort of kind of drunk wasted that night
Speaker 1: and I was giving her a kiss, saying goodbye to her,
Speaker 1: and I was putting her in the taxi, and then
Speaker 1: she grabbed me and pulled me into the taxi. So
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, I guess we're going home.
Speaker 1: But I wasn't even planning on it. I was just like,
Speaker 1: all right, we'll see you tomorrow. And anyways, I'm glad
Speaker 1: she pulled me in because you just never know. Things
Speaker 1: happen in life, and who knows what the next day
Speaker 1: would have looked like. We probably would have forgot about
Speaker 1: me and we wouldn't be here today. So you just
Speaker 1: never know. You know what's interesting too, So funny story
Speaker 1: since we're talking about sex and partners and all that.
Speaker 1: So I don't know if you went through this, But
Speaker 1: like whenever I was intimate with someone or I had
Speaker 1: sex with someone for whatever reason, whenever I would ask
Speaker 1: them how many men they slept with. They always told
Speaker 1: me three, so I was always number three. So then
Speaker 1: I'm just like, at some point I'm like, are these
Speaker 1: girls lying to me? Or my ego was like maybe
Speaker 1: I am the third because I was. I'm just so
Speaker 1: good they couldn't help themselves. And I guess they slept
Speaker 1: with me the first night and I'm their third guy, right, So.
Speaker 2: They read that off of US magazine or one of
Speaker 2: those stupid magazines that tells you how to you know,
Speaker 2: make a guy happy and lie to him.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, say we shit. Every girl would tell
Speaker 1: me three, right, so you know when I sleep when
Speaker 1: Teddy and I hooked up, of course I go and
Speaker 1: ask the question. And I'm thinking I'm going to be numbers,
Speaker 1: I think, I think. So I'm like, how many men
Speaker 1: have you slept with?
Speaker 2: Right? And yeah, I'm.
Speaker 1: Thinking she's going to tell me three, because that's what
Speaker 1: every girl has always told me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Man, when she told me that number, I was like, what,
Speaker 1: I like, want to go to the doctor right away?
Speaker 1: And I was like, what, by the way, she told
Speaker 1: me I could share the number? She did? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: asked her, I can, oh, okay, do you want to
Speaker 1: guess what her number was no, because I'll get in trouble.
Speaker 1: I just tell me it was seventeen.
Speaker 3: Seventeen, Okay, I was like what I was like, But
Speaker 3: you know now, I'm like, it's a lot more than seven.
Speaker 1: I know there's a woman out there that it's a
Speaker 1: lot more than seventeen. But all I heard was three.
Speaker 1: So when I heard seventeen, I was shocked.
Speaker 2: That's funny.
Speaker 1: I think they're funny. Yeah, maybe the most had heard
Speaker 1: a girl tell me before it was four. But the
Speaker 1: flip side of that, I'm like, all right, she's honest.
Speaker 1: Girls wouldn't have told me that, so it actually earned
Speaker 1: her a point being honest.
Speaker 2: Well, that's a good positive way of looking at it.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's all how you look at it.
Speaker 2: I asked those questions when I was younger, and I
Speaker 2: paid close attention on how it made me feel, and
Speaker 2: the women that were honest, you know, I was like,
Speaker 2: oh shit, you've had ten guys, I'm eleven. You know,
Speaker 2: it didn't feel good. It didn't feel good at all.
Speaker 2: So I learned quickly. You know what when that conversation
Speaker 2: comes up, because inevitably it always came up, right, It's
Speaker 2: kind of like what do you do for a living?
Speaker 2: You just got to ask how many guys have you had?
Speaker 2: I learned not to ask those questions, and when they
Speaker 2: did come up, I just said, you know, I don't
Speaker 2: want to know. I really rather not know and think
Speaker 2: that I am the first guy that you've ever been with,
Speaker 2: even though you got four kids behind you know, I
Speaker 2: want to be the first guy that you've that you've
Speaker 2: been with, and and just you know, be in my
Speaker 2: denial world and be in love with you, and and
Speaker 2: and that's all that matters to me. I don't care
Speaker 2: how many guys you've been with it because honestly, it
Speaker 2: doesn't matter. You know, it's what's happening today.
Speaker 1: Exactly. Do you use any kind of is it just
Speaker 1: eddie all the time? Or do you do you bring
Speaker 1: in like toys and stuff to the relationship.
Speaker 2: No, we've we've bought toys into the relationship. We recently
Speaker 2: purchased a sex chair where we call it a sex
Speaker 2: chair officially it's a yoga chair, and you know, we've
Speaker 2: used it once or twice since we've bought it, and
Speaker 2: it's just it's really comfortable. It makes for a really
Speaker 2: incredible sexual experience. And I I would love to use
Speaker 2: it more. But what I've what I've recycled it for is,
Speaker 2: like I said, it's a yoga chair, so I like
Speaker 2: to use it to stretch my back. It's our sex
Speaker 2: chair turned into a back chair recently. And she's like,
Speaker 2: what are you doing. I'm like, I'm stretching my back.
Speaker 1: It feels good. Yeah, you know, it's interesting about the
Speaker 1: whole toy thing. So, you know, Teddy and I have
Speaker 1: been together, you know now, I think going on fifteen years,
Speaker 1: we're about to celebrate thirteen years, and we've never used
Speaker 1: any kind of toys, right, So about six months ago,
Speaker 1: I think it was, she's like, hey, do you want
Speaker 1: to start using these like ring you know, I think
Speaker 1: they're called cock rings or whatever they're called. Yes, And
Speaker 1: I kind of got offended. I was like, what am
Speaker 1: I not good enough anymore? Like you're bringing in some
Speaker 1: toys here, Like, do.
Speaker 2: You not say you might never use the cock ring?
Speaker 1: Never? I'd never used the cock ring before.
Speaker 2: Oh dude, it's crazy. That's a big old bulge hard
Speaker 2: on for hours. It's like you don't even have to
Speaker 2: try to keep it hard. It's crazy.
Speaker 1: Right, So it's like my first time using it. But
Speaker 1: it's it's funny how the ego works sometimes. I was like, yeah, what,
Speaker 1: like I could do just fine. I could satisfy you
Speaker 1: just fine by myself. What are you talking about that
Speaker 1: I need to throw something on. But we've actually been
Speaker 1: having a pretty good time with it actually, so yeah,
Speaker 1: it took us. Funny, it took us a long time
Speaker 1: to use some toys. So she.
Speaker 2: Teddy, I think sent my wife those cock rings for
Speaker 2: us to try. And it's funny because I don't know
Speaker 2: if they're going to air it, but we were we
Speaker 2: were filming at the house, just sitting on the on
Speaker 2: the bed talking and all of a sudden, my wife
Speaker 2: pulls out the cock ring and it's it's it lights
Speaker 2: up and it's got a little vibrate right, and and
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is not going to be tight enough
Speaker 2: for me. You need a smaller one. We started playing
Speaker 2: around with it and just joking and it was it
Speaker 2: was I hope they air it because it was such
Speaker 2: a funny scene, funny awkward scene, but yeah, the ego
Speaker 2: jumped in. I'm like, I'm not putting this thing on.
Speaker 2: I don't need it. And then plus, what's a little
Speaker 2: vibration gonna do.
Speaker 1: All right, So so check this out. So so, I
Speaker 1: we probably have a lot of single women that that
Speaker 1: listened to this show, right, and some of them might
Speaker 1: want to date younger guys. I mean, you've been seeing
Speaker 1: it more and more and more. Right, So, when you
Speaker 1: were younger and you met maybe somebody that was older
Speaker 1: that had way more experience than you did, did that
Speaker 1: intimidate you?
Speaker 2: No, that attracted me more. The funny thing about my life,
Speaker 2: in my relationships with my girls, is that I've always
Speaker 2: been attracted to older women. And I used to wonder why,
Speaker 2: but I always thought it's because there's so much to
Speaker 2: learn in life, and particularly was about, yeah, how to
Speaker 2: how to make a woman happy in bed, you know,
Speaker 2: sexually intimately, And I learned it. I mean I think
Speaker 2: I was eighteen and a girlfriend at the time was
Speaker 2: like twenty five years old, and she taught me a lot.
Speaker 2: You know, most of the older women's made the first
Speaker 2: move and they taught me, you know, how to pleasure them.
Speaker 2: So I think it's a good thing.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. By the way, what how many dates did
Speaker 1: it take you to have sex with town? I know
Speaker 1: you guys had to wait because she was married. But
Speaker 1: how many dates do you think you went on before
Speaker 1: you were into.
Speaker 2: I think it was after the first date. Yeah, it
Speaker 2: wasn't too long after. Like I said, there was a
Speaker 2: physical attraction as well. But if I'm to go back
Speaker 2: to the initial reason I fell in love with her,
Speaker 2: I literally open up the front door of my house
Speaker 2: because they came to film at my house and we
Speaker 2: got eye to eye contact and it was love and
Speaker 2: birds and hearts and.
Speaker 1: It was bizarre.
Speaker 2: It was love at first sight. And then after I
Speaker 2: got past her eyes, I saw her body and her
Speaker 2: phys and then her personality and everything just was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, this woman is amazing. And then we
Speaker 2: find out she's married. Dab it. So that was that
Speaker 2: was literally the first experience with my wife. And it wasn't,
Speaker 2: like I said, it wasn't until seven or eight months
Speaker 2: later that we actually got a chance to explore that
Speaker 2: that initial feeling, that that solidified. Okay, this is this
Speaker 2: is the one. This is who I'm going to spend
Speaker 2: the rest of the time my life with.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so after thirteen years, don't tell us what we
Speaker 1: want to hear, tell us the truth here. How many
Speaker 1: times a week do you guys have sex.
Speaker 2: We probably average once a week, you know, we we
Speaker 2: we obviously, And I remember when we first started filming.
Speaker 2: We used to have six hour sessions. It was incredible.
Speaker 2: But I was younger, had a lot more stam you.
Speaker 1: Know, a lot less stress back then too, Probably less stress.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I also felt probably that I had to perform,
Speaker 2: you know, because it was so important to me to
Speaker 2: have such a solid intimate relationship. I think mostly because
Speaker 2: I knew that eventually it's got to be more than sex.
Speaker 2: It's got to be more than this. So there's got
Speaker 2: to be something other than just the physical act of
Speaker 2: having sex that's gonna give us longevity in our marriage.
Speaker 2: And I want to say it might have been two
Speaker 2: or three years ago when that transition started happening, where
Speaker 2: sex wasn't the biggest priority anymore, maybe even four years ago,
Speaker 2: where it was like, Okay, you're working hard, I'm working hard,
Speaker 2: where you know, we have very little time. And I
Speaker 2: don't know if she felt this way, but I felt like,
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm I'm solid. I am confident that
Speaker 2: I'm going to be with this one for the rest
Speaker 2: of my life because every single time, and I'm talking
Speaker 2: every single time we make love, it's like the very
Speaker 2: first time we made love. I just and I tell
Speaker 2: it like it's incredible, and I know that when the
Speaker 2: act happens, we're going to have that same for the
Speaker 2: first time experience for the rest of our life. Right,
Speaker 2: So it doesn't have to happen every day, and it
Speaker 2: doesn't have to be a chore, right, it just it
Speaker 2: just has to happen when she feels it and I
Speaker 2: feel it, and we make it happen. But we don't
Speaker 2: force it. We don't make it happen. And lately it's
Speaker 2: it's I mean, I've gone even two weeks without having
Speaker 2: sex with her.
Speaker 1: But I was going to say, what's been the longest
Speaker 1: have you ever gotten in a rut? Or what's been
Speaker 1: the longest that you've gone without.
Speaker 2: I probably would say I've gone without maybe two to
Speaker 2: three months. And that was during my heart issue. That
Speaker 2: was when I was having heart issues and I my
Speaker 2: life was upside down. I couldn't exercise, I couldn't do
Speaker 2: anything that brought any joy to me physically, mentally, emotionally.
Speaker 2: It kind of took a back seat, right it was.
Speaker 1: It was tragic.
Speaker 2: But then again, like I said, I still had the
Speaker 2: confidence that she's going to be there for me regardless
Speaker 2: of whether we have sex or not, because she's here,
Speaker 2: she's helping me, she's going to the doctor visits with me,
Speaker 2: she's here, you know, living through this with me. So
Speaker 2: it kinda just it was one of those things like
Speaker 2: it's not a big priority, it's not the top of
Speaker 2: mind that I want to think about right now. And
Speaker 2: that was a long time because I think that was
Speaker 2: probably also around the same time I experienced about of depression,
Speaker 2: which I've never experienced before. I'm a positive guy and
Speaker 2: I like to spend every negative situation into a positive situation.
Speaker 2: That's always helped me be who I am. And that
Speaker 2: was the very first time where everything was just coming
Speaker 2: down on me and I was didn't want want to
Speaker 2: do anything, didn't want to I couldn't go to work,
Speaker 2: I had to hire a manager to run the gym.
Speaker 2: I couldn't work out, I couldn't ride my bike, and
Speaker 2: riding my bike was second to having sex with my wife,
Speaker 2: you know, it's like the best, my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 2: And I realized this is this is not me, man.
Speaker 2: I don't like being like this. I don't look I
Speaker 2: don't like who I am. So that's probably the longest
Speaker 2: I've ever been without with her, you know, being intimate
Speaker 2: with her. But but yeah, it's to me, it's it's
Speaker 2: it's there. I know it's always going to be incredible.
Speaker 2: We've I don't think, no, we've never had a bad
Speaker 2: sex session. Honestly, it's always just been great. And and
Speaker 2: there's no insecurities about that, right And and I think
Speaker 2: that's probably why I you know, we we we tried
Speaker 2: some toys. We tried some we tried the sex table
Speaker 2: or the bed I bought her, you know, I went,
Speaker 2: I went to a sex shop by my self to
Speaker 2: go check it out. And that was a pretty interesting experience, like, okay,
Speaker 2: tell me about all these things here, and and the
Speaker 2: lady was very you know, ANIMI animated and excited to
Speaker 2: tell me and educate me on all how all these
Speaker 2: things work. And uh, and that's when I learned about
Speaker 2: butt plugs. People use butt plugs.
Speaker 1: For I don't know, arouse them.
Speaker 2: And it looks like like a spaceship that's about this
Speaker 2: big and it goes up your butt and and that's it.
Speaker 2: I guess that's that's what it does. Like I don't
Speaker 2: see any pleasure in that. So I know that people
Speaker 2: have been telling me before that, uh, there's an orogen
Speaker 2: and sown and men.
Speaker 1: Like I was gonna say, is that for female or
Speaker 1: for male?
Speaker 2: It's it's for both. But apparently men have it too,
Speaker 2: where you could reach climax by you know, tickling this
Speaker 2: certain part, like to call it the clitoris of the male.
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean that's I guess why gay guys
Speaker 2: yeah like it, right, I mean they don't. They don't
Speaker 2: deal with coltaoruses.
Speaker 1: I have a friend who's single who swears by it.
Speaker 1: He's been trying to get me to do it. I just, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's the best thing ever.
Speaker 2: I have no interest in it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I always say there's there's a tattoo, the only tattoo
Speaker 2: I have, and it'sprked by my asshole that says exit
Speaker 2: only that's all it says. But yeah, I mean toys
Speaker 2: are they could be fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I learned that you can use these what otherwise look
Speaker 2: like dusters that you know, the house cleaners used to
Speaker 2: dust your your house. You can use that to arouse
Speaker 2: the body, you know, just light touch. So there's a
Speaker 2: lot of different ways to explore our sexual life that
Speaker 2: I'm open to except butt plus and nothing's going on
Speaker 2: my butt.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sam, I agreed on that. You know, Teddy and I,
Speaker 1: I was going to say Teddy and I we were
Speaker 1: probably two a week. We go twice and when it's
Speaker 1: scheduled too, which I'd love because she's busy, I'm busy,
Speaker 1: and we're both attracted to each other, so it's not
Speaker 1: like we have to feel in the mood. And you know,
Speaker 1: when you have children, you kind of have to schedule
Speaker 1: it right, And I get in my head, like I
Speaker 1: hate being intimate with my wife if the kids are home.
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too, Like I.
Speaker 1: Gotta like try to stay quiet and my back. In
Speaker 1: the back of my mind, I'm like, what if they
Speaker 1: walk in? Yeah, So it's it's like I got a
Speaker 1: window from twelve to three to make that happen. The
Speaker 1: kids get home at three. Once the kids are home,
Speaker 1: and then I have a son that like walks in anytime.
Speaker 1: There'll be nine thirty, we're thinking he's asleep, and he'll
Speaker 1: just open the door. Like last night it was ten thirty,
Speaker 1: ten o'clock, he'll just open the door. So I'm just
Speaker 1: like the only time if we want to enjoy, it
Speaker 1: has to be from this time to this time, and
Speaker 1: usually twice a week is good enough for both of us.
Speaker 1: Sometimes if if we're lucky, if we can fit a
Speaker 1: third one in, well we'll three. You know. I hear's
Speaker 1: couples that say they say they do it every day
Speaker 1: at our age, and I'm like, oh, man, uh because
Speaker 1: and and my my doctor says my testosteral level is
Speaker 1: pretty good. So I'm like, I don't know if you
Speaker 1: because even if I wanted to go all day with
Speaker 1: all the stuff that's in my mind and I got
Speaker 1: to deal with, Like, yeah, I think two to three
Speaker 1: is more than enough. Like I'm we're happy with the two,
Speaker 1: and but we definitely have to schedule it. And it's
Speaker 1: been you know, some people say, well, let's you have
Speaker 1: to schedule it. I'm like, well, something's important to you
Speaker 1: kind of do because if you don't, you can go
Speaker 1: weeks without, you know, And Teddy and I did go.
Speaker 1: We were in a bad rut one time we went,
Speaker 1: I want to say we probably had it took us
Speaker 1: six months to have sex. We had sex one time
Speaker 1: in one year, and it was during our dark time
Speaker 1: where I was going just through like she had just
Speaker 1: had a baby. So, you know, the first you know,
Speaker 1: four years that we were together, I mean we didn't
Speaker 1: it was the best, right, it was all the time.
Speaker 1: And then I think it was around the time the
Speaker 1: Cruise was born that we just we were apart and
Speaker 1: it was mainly me as far as my mind, and
Speaker 1: I just I wasn't attracted and I just but then
Speaker 1: I couldn't get it up. So then I was in
Speaker 1: my head about it because I'm like, oh, what is
Speaker 1: she going to think? Blah blah blah blah blah, and
Speaker 1: I just started overthinking the crap out of it. Well,
Speaker 1: then I got so scared that I just didn't even
Speaker 1: want to try it because it was so awkward, right,
Speaker 1: and like how do you tell your wife that you're
Speaker 1: not as attracted to her anymore?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: And again she had just had the baby, So it
Speaker 1: was just all this stuff, and I was going through
Speaker 1: a rough time myself, and I mean it got bad
Speaker 1: to the point that like how did I get out
Speaker 1: of it? I literally started praying to God. I'm like, God,
Speaker 1: I need to be attracted to my wife, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: just I this needs to happen, because intimate is very
Speaker 1: you know, sex is important. Yeah, And it was crazy
Speaker 1: because I kept praying about it. And then one day
Speaker 1: out of nowhere, just one day, she walks by the
Speaker 1: by the TV and she had a I still remember,
Speaker 1: like it was yesterday. She had a long shirt and
Speaker 1: it was sort of you know, covering her. She was
Speaker 1: underwear and just a shirt on, so all I could
Speaker 1: see is the legs. Yeah, and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: thing boner. I was like, oh shit, like let's go,
Speaker 1: and then it's and then great things after that. But
Speaker 1: I basically got in and all it was is a
Speaker 1: mental thing. I let it get in my head and
Speaker 1: then I got so scared about it, and again it
Speaker 1: wasn't a really good time in our relationship because of it.
Speaker 1: So do I think it's important one thousand percent? Yeah.
Speaker 2: I've heard many stories like that, and hearing the those
Speaker 2: kind of stories like you can't get it up for
Speaker 2: your wife, it's it kind of makes you think, right
Speaker 2: like and by the.
Speaker 1: Way she was, I still thought she was beautiful. Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it was. All it takes is a couple bad
Speaker 1: fall starts, if you will, ye, and then you start
Speaker 1: getting in your head about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, you know, let me. Let me say this,
Speaker 2: because there's two instances where I want nothing physical to
Speaker 2: do with her, Like I don't want I don't want
Speaker 2: to have sex with her, I don't want to touch her,
Speaker 2: I don't want to be intimate with her. And that's
Speaker 2: when we fight and she's being a bitch, and you know,
Speaker 2: there's this whole makeup sex thing that has never worked
Speaker 2: for me. I know that has worked for a lot
Speaker 2: of people, or like it's just this ravishing crazy let's
Speaker 2: just fuck the hell out of our brains out and
Speaker 2: make up that's never worked for me. If I'm mad
Speaker 2: at her or she did something that really offend me
Speaker 2: or pissed me off or hurt me, you know, and
Speaker 2: it's not often, but you know, relationships happen. I want
Speaker 2: nothing to do with there. I don't want to be
Speaker 2: around her, I don't want to be intimate with her
Speaker 2: or anything that also goes with drinking alcohol, like drunk sex.
Speaker 2: I do not like drunk sex. And to me, it
Speaker 2: just feels dirty, right because especially she's really thrashed, she
Speaker 2: might not remember what happened the next day.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: However, I've mentioned this on the show before, which is
Speaker 2: okay for me to mention again. There was one time
Speaker 2: where she got drunk, not so drunk that she was,
Speaker 2: you know, stupid and falling all over herself, but drunk
Speaker 2: enough that she was relaxed and loose and she says, okay,
Speaker 2: let's do it. Do what we're doing it. It's like, no,
Speaker 2: let's let's do anal I'm like what. And it was
Speaker 2: because she was drunk that she said let's do anal right,
Speaker 2: So I didn't like it. She didn't like it, but
Speaker 2: that only impressed upon me, like, Okay, when she's drunk,
Speaker 2: she's doing she wants to do crazy stupid shit right.
Speaker 2: So it's not the right frame of mind, and I
Speaker 2: don't like it. You know. It's it's like it's like
Speaker 2: pretending you're somebody you're not.
Speaker 1: I like to be real.
Speaker 2: I like real emotion and real feelings. And if you
Speaker 2: don't feeling when you're sober and you're feeling when you're drunk,
Speaker 2: they're not they're not sustainable. You know, you're not you're
Speaker 2: not really in love, like you're pretending to love me
Speaker 2: and you only it's it's kind of like a young girl,
Speaker 2: you know, being in a relationship with an older guy
Speaker 2: because he's got money. I assume it's like that, right.
Speaker 2: You know, she's just closing her eyes and she's just
Speaker 2: thinking about his bank account, and this guy is just going, oh,
Speaker 2: she's the hottest thing ever. And you know, if he's smart,
Speaker 2: he knows he's paying for it. See.
Speaker 1: It's funny because I don't even like alcohol, you know,
Speaker 1: but I always drank. I've said on the on the
Speaker 1: show before for women. Right, it just it got me
Speaker 1: a little loose. It got me, you know, just a
Speaker 1: little bit more. It got me in trouble. You got
Speaker 1: me a little confident, right, But I like, does it
Speaker 1: rarely happens now? Because I rarely get drunk, It's rare.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying like drunk where you're just wasted.
Speaker 1: I never get wasted when I'm just throwing up or
Speaker 1: anything like that. But to me, like, I kind of
Speaker 1: like the drunk sex it it. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just I First of all, my stamina goes up quite
Speaker 1: a bit. I've become a machined. I like that part
Speaker 1: of it, right Whereas wheen I'm a little too sober,
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, a couple of bad moves here,
Speaker 1: I could be done pretty quick. I gotta be a
Speaker 1: little more exactly. No, not yet, not yet, right, So
Speaker 1: I guess that's the part I like about that part.
Speaker 1: You know. In fact, I think some of the best
Speaker 1: sex that Teddy and I have had we were both
Speaker 1: a little tipsy, you.
Speaker 2: Know what about angry? Have you ever fought and had
Speaker 2: makeup sex?
Speaker 1: Not as much, not with Teddy?
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: That that was makeup sex is cool too, Yeah, not
Speaker 1: as good as drunk sex, I think. But but again,
Speaker 1: my my, I guess to clarify, like, I still know
Speaker 1: what I'm doing, right, It's just you're just a little
Speaker 1: more loose. You're just a little more you know, not
Speaker 1: in your head about it. So that's the part I
Speaker 1: think I'll like about it.
Speaker 2: I could see that, I could definitely see the benefit
Speaker 2: of that.
Speaker 1: Have you ever role played?
Speaker 2: No, I have not, And I always wonder or what
Speaker 2: it would be like, you know, because you've seen I've
Speaker 2: watched porn before. I've seen movies where they role play
Speaker 2: like that, and I always wonder what that would do
Speaker 2: to the psyche, and if it would be like something
Speaker 2: you like so much, like a drug that you want
Speaker 2: to have it all the time. And then your regular
Speaker 2: sex life is boring and you never want to have
Speaker 2: that again. I don't know. I have never done it,
Speaker 2: and I wouldn't be opposed to trying it, but I
Speaker 2: would be concerned that. Okay, you know, she's in a
Speaker 2: little made outfit or cheerleader outfit or whatever outfit you know,
Speaker 2: and from now on that's what she has to do.
Speaker 1: Are you a talker when you're having sex?
Speaker 2: No? No, no, I do? I do? You know? Reminder,
Speaker 2: I whispering earier. I love you, I love our sex life.
Speaker 2: And you know, we've tried the dirty talking before, but
Speaker 2: it didn't work. It got too dirty, and then it
Speaker 2: wasn't dirty enough and we just picked it all up like, okay,
Speaker 2: we're not gonna do that. I don't know what to say.
Speaker 1: I love it. Well if you if you have a
Speaker 1: little drunk secks, the dirty talk becomes a little easier.
Speaker 2: So yeah, a lot of things happen easier. Hey, before
Speaker 2: we wrap this up, I want to play a little
Speaker 2: game called rapid Fire round it and it's it's basically
Speaker 2: hot or not is the answer. So it's a quick
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm gonna say a word, then you can
Speaker 2: say a word and we'll say yes. I mean hot
Speaker 2: or not? Okay, So starting off, for example, red lipstick,
Speaker 2: is that hot or not?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Hot?
Speaker 1: For sure?
Speaker 2: I like I like it? Yeah, it stands out great.
Speaker 1: Do you have a word nightgown?
Speaker 2: Nightgown hot? I love nightgowns.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna go with hot as well, awesome, lingerie,
Speaker 1: lingerie hot.
Speaker 2: I have to say hot. Yeah, I like to play
Speaker 2: with that.
Speaker 1: Not a big deal for me. No, no, I mean
Speaker 1: it's not a bad thing, but not a big deal
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 2: You can do without it, yeah, okay, role play, fantasies, fantasize.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say fantasize depends on fantasize about somebody else,
Speaker 1: of course, not role play. I mean Teddy and I
Speaker 1: have tried wigs, but I'm still thinking to her. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like now she's a brunette versus a blonde, so it's
Speaker 1: still her, but we're just it's a different look of her.
Speaker 1: And I think Teddy's pretty hot as a brunette, even
Speaker 1: though I'm more into blondes. But having her change it
Speaker 1: up to a brunette is good. What about you so
Speaker 1: hot or not hot?
Speaker 2: Hot?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: I think hot. I think it could be really hot.
Speaker 2: Toys we talked about this already hot hot yeah, yes,
Speaker 2: hot hot yeah, I agree. Scheduling set. I think it
Speaker 2: could be hot when you have to. But if you
Speaker 2: don't have to, I would say not right, But if
Speaker 2: you have to, I think it makes sense being sexually
Speaker 2: adventurous and spontaneous, like having sex at the park hot.
Speaker 2: I agree. I would love to do that, and hiking
Speaker 2: and actually we've done that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. Waxed or unwaxed, unwaxed.
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Waxed, waxed.
Speaker 2: I don't like hair.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, okay.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I don't like hair.
Speaker 1: Waxed. Yeah, no, I'm gonna say waxed all day long,
Speaker 1: dirty talk yes, hot.
Speaker 2: Hot, yes, daytime or night time sex.
Speaker 1: Daytime, all day long. I got way more energy nighttime
Speaker 1: for me, my energy is all depleted. It's tough for me.
Speaker 1: But unless it's I'm drunk. But daytime, all day long.
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree, one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Shower sex hot hot, very hot, very hot.
Speaker 2: Lights on or off?
Speaker 1: On for sure, on.
Speaker 2: I love the lights on, although I mean, does Teddy
Speaker 2: ever like close the curtains and did the night shades
Speaker 2: and all that when you guys are gonna no.
Speaker 1: I mean if again, we don't really have too much
Speaker 1: nighttime sex anymore because of the kids, so it's it's
Speaker 1: lights on for sure.
Speaker 2: As she close the curtains.
Speaker 1: We don't because we have all this like wrapped around
Speaker 1: green trees that cover everything, so no one could really
Speaker 1: see inside. But man, when we lived in Hollywood Hills,
Speaker 1: I was like, man, if people want to see, let
Speaker 1: them let them see, let them see. This one's not
Speaker 1: even on here. But I think, uh well, anyways, let's
Speaker 1: go with for play hot, do or not for play hot?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say hot. Yeah, I'm gonna say for sure
Speaker 1: hot unless you're you're running out of time, you.
Speaker 2: Know, right, unless you have no time?
Speaker 1: Right mirror or no mirror. Mirror, mirror all day long,
Speaker 1: all rday long. Yeah, that's why I like the Encore
Speaker 1: in Vegas. That mirror. Yeah, that is I know, we
Speaker 1: always like the Encore. I'm like, yeah, man, I get
Speaker 1: to do mind. Have you ever watched the movie American Psycho? Yes,
Speaker 1: got you gotta have the mirror once in a while.
Speaker 1: You got to see yourself.
Speaker 2: Man, you gotta see yourself. It's awesome, awesome work well,
Speaker 2: that's the end of our episode eight, and if you
Speaker 2: guys want us to talk a little bit or elaborate
Speaker 2: more on our rapid fire a round, let us know
Speaker 2: on the comments or give us some feedback. If there's
Speaker 2: any anything you guys want us to talk about, give
Speaker 2: us some feedback. We really are enjoying this and we
Speaker 2: appreciate you all listening. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, we can't thank you so much for
Speaker 1: all the support. And as you can see, we're very
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Speaker 1: So thanks guys, See you guys next time. M hmm.