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Speaker 1: This is the Eds with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aoyavi.

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Speaker 1: The husbands know best too Cheese Production.

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Speaker 2: We are back for episode eight and we're going to

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Speaker 2: talk about a topic that a lot of ladies would

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Speaker 2: like to hear or get a male perspective on. This

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Speaker 2: is sex and intimacy. Yes, I said it, sex and intimacy.

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Speaker 2: And when do men not want to talk about sex?

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Speaker 2: Do you know? What do you think? And when?

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Speaker 1: Because we get in trouble if we talk about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually so fearful right now. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: going to get in trouble talk Come on.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I love talking about sex with my wife. Although

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Speaker 2: I got to say my wife is a conservative one

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Speaker 2: in the relationship. So you know, when the kids are

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Speaker 2: around and I kiss on her and I love on her,

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Speaker 2: the kids are like ew, she pushes me away. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: it's natural. This is what couples do. And intimacy is

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Speaker 2: so important in my opinion when it comes to relationships, right.

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Speaker 1: It's very important. I mean, it's it's a big deal.

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Speaker 2: Here's here's our first question. Okay, what do sex mean

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Speaker 2: to you before marriage? Before you were married, when you

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Speaker 2: met someone new, how quick did you know you wanted

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Speaker 2: to sleep with them?

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Speaker 1: Interesting question. I can tell you this. The the women

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Speaker 1: that I loved and I really really liked, the last

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Speaker 1: thing on my mind was having sex with them. Now,

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Speaker 1: if I was just physically attracted to them, but that

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Speaker 3: Because there's some girls I was physically attracted to, but

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Speaker 3: I just knew that they weren't the relationship type or

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Speaker 3: as I called it, girlfriend material or wife material. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like those girls I wanted a break in first night,

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Speaker 3: let's go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was a very visual person. So you know, if

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Speaker 1: if I was very physically attracted and that's all I

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Speaker 1: what I found, the awareness of it was the girls

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Speaker 1: for me, the last thing on my mind when I

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Speaker 2: And I think I have to clarify something because growing

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Speaker 2: especially a hot chick or you know, a check that

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Speaker 2: you're very attracted to. So it took me, you know,

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Speaker 2: going through relationships where I was in love and it

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Speaker 2: a connection there? Right? So I think I had two

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Speaker 2: deep intimate relationships, maybe three before I met Tarma, and

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Speaker 2: then I've had a few relationships where it was just

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Speaker 2: strictly sex, you know, like they make movies of it,

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Speaker 2: And I learned that the just sex relationships didn't mean

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Speaker 2: didn't feel good about it. But I wasn't ready to

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Speaker 2: get into an intimate relationship, but I wanted to be physically,

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Speaker 2: you know, physical with this relationship. So there were a

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Speaker 2: couple of relationships like that in my life where you know,

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Speaker 2: it was just a sexual thing. Yeah, we'd go out

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Speaker 2: And I think what happened with Tarma is there was

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Speaker 2: want to be in a loving, intimate relationship, but deep connection.

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Speaker 2: That was really important to me. Right. That was like, like,

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Speaker 2: to make sure that there's chemistry. You're not just physically

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Speaker 2: there's been, you know, instances in my life where I've

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Speaker 2: thing I thought about, Well, maybe not the last thing.

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Speaker 2: Maybe the second thing I thought about with her was

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Speaker 2: see there's more to this woman than just a sexual attraction.

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Speaker 2: And it wasn't until you know, she was divorced that

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Speaker 2: I got the opportunity to take her on her first date.

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Speaker 2: And I don't even think we had sex on our

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Speaker 2: first date, our official date. It was just like, let's

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Speaker 2: We go to La Jolla and nobody knows what's there

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Speaker 2: was a very respectful in my book, what I call

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Speaker 2: respectful when you go on a date and you and

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Speaker 2: you take the girl out and you take her home

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Speaker 2: and maybe you give her a kiss, but you know,

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Speaker 2: for the most part, you just show her that I'm

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Speaker 2: in this for just the sexual part of it. I'm

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, to clarify right when you for me,

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Speaker 1: when you when I really like someone, the last thing

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Speaker 1: all game. Yeah, I mean that's how I met my wife. Yeah, right,

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Speaker 1: So we ended up, you know, hooking up the first day. Now,

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Speaker 1: funny enough, I remember that night we hooked up. You know,

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Speaker 1: I was like, all right, I guess we're going home.

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Speaker 1: But I wasn't even planning on it. I was just like,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll see you tomorrow. And anyways, I'm glad

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Speaker 1: she pulled me in because you just never know. Things

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Speaker 1: would have looked like. We probably would have forgot about

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Speaker 1: So I don't know if you went through this, But

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Speaker 1: me three, so I was always number three. So then

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, at some point I'm like, are these

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Speaker 1: I am the third because I was. I'm just so

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Speaker 1: good they couldn't help themselves. And I guess they slept

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Speaker 2: They read that off of US magazine or one of

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Speaker 2: those stupid magazines that tells you how to you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, say we shit. Every girl would tell

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Speaker 1: me three, right, so you know when I sleep when

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Speaker 1: Teddy and I hooked up, of course I go and

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Speaker 1: I think, I think. So I'm like, how many men

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Speaker 1: Thinking she's going to tell me three, because that's what

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Speaker 1: every girl has always told me.

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Speaker 1: Man, when she told me that number, I was like, what,

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Speaker 1: And I was like, what, by the way, she told

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Speaker 1: me I could share the number? She did? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: guess what her number was no, because I'll get in trouble.

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Speaker 1: I just tell me it was seventeen.

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Speaker 3: Seventeen, Okay, I was like what I was like, But

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Speaker 3: you know now, I'm like, it's a lot more than seven.

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Speaker 1: I know there's a woman out there that it's a

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Speaker 1: lot more than seventeen. But all I heard was three.

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Speaker 1: So when I heard seventeen, I was shocked.

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Speaker 2: That's funny.

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Speaker 1: I think they're funny. Yeah, maybe the most had heard

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Speaker 1: flip side of that, I'm like, all right, she's honest.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's a good positive way of looking at it.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, it's all how you look at it.

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Speaker 2: I asked those questions when I was younger, and I

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Speaker 2: oh shit, you've had ten guys, I'm eleven. You know,

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Speaker 2: it didn't feel good. It didn't feel good at all.

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Speaker 2: So I learned quickly. You know what when that conversation

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Speaker 2: You just got to ask how many guys have you had?

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Speaker 2: want to know. I really rather not know and think

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Speaker 2: that I am the first guy that you've ever been with,

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Speaker 2: even though you got four kids behind you know, I

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Speaker 2: want to be the first guy that you've that you've

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Speaker 2: and that's all that matters to me. I don't care

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Speaker 2: how many guys you've been with it because honestly, it

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Speaker 2: doesn't matter. You know, it's what's happening today.

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Speaker 1: Exactly. Do you use any kind of is it just

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Speaker 1: eddie all the time? Or do you do you bring

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Speaker 1: in like toys and stuff to the relationship.

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Speaker 2: No, we've we've bought toys into the relationship. We recently

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Speaker 2: purchased a sex chair where we call it a sex

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Speaker 2: chair officially it's a yoga chair, and you know, we've

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Speaker 2: used it once or twice since we've bought it, and

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Speaker 2: it's just it's really comfortable. It makes for a really

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Speaker 2: like I said, it's a yoga chair, so I like

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Speaker 2: to use it to stretch my back. It's our sex

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Speaker 2: chair turned into a back chair recently. And she's like,

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Speaker 2: what are you doing. I'm like, I'm stretching my back.

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Speaker 1: It feels good. Yeah, you know, it's interesting about the

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Speaker 1: whole toy thing. So, you know, Teddy and I have

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Speaker 1: been together, you know now, I think going on fifteen years,

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Speaker 1: we're about to celebrate thirteen years, and we've never used

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Speaker 1: to start using these like ring you know, I think

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Speaker 1: they're called cock rings or whatever they're called. Yes, And

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Speaker 2: No, that attracted me more. The funny thing about my life,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so after thirteen years, don't tell us what we

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Speaker 2: We probably average once a week, you know, we we

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Speaker 2: It kind of took a back seat, right it was.

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Speaker 2: We've I don't think, no, we've never had a bad

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Speaker 1: I have a friend who's single who swears by it.

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Speaker 2: I always say there's there's a tattoo, the only tattoo

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Speaker 2: I learned that you can use these what otherwise look

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Speaker 1: couples that say they say they do it every day

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00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 1: at our age, and I'm like, oh, man, uh because

434
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 1: and and my my doctor says my testosteral level is

435
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: pretty good. So I'm like, I don't know if you

436
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 1: because even if I wanted to go all day with

437
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 1: all the stuff that's in my mind and I got

438
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 1: to deal with, Like, yeah, I think two to three

439
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,120
Speaker 1: is more than enough. Like I'm we're happy with the two,

440
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 1: and but we definitely have to schedule it. And it's

441
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 1: been you know, some people say, well, let's you have

442
00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:33,360
Speaker 1: to schedule it. I'm like, well, something's important to you

443
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 1: kind of do because if you don't, you can go

444
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 1: weeks without, you know, And Teddy and I did go.

445
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: We were in a bad rut one time we went,

446
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 1: I want to say we probably had it took us

447
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:49,120
Speaker 1: six months to have sex. We had sex one time

448
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: in one year, and it was during our dark time

449
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 1: where I was going just through like she had just

450
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 1: had a baby. So, you know, the first you know,

451
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 1: four years that we were together, I mean we didn't

452
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 1: it was the best, right, it was all the time.

453
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,159
Speaker 1: And then I think it was around the time the

454
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:12,159
Speaker 1: Cruise was born that we just we were apart and

455
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:16,439
Speaker 1: it was mainly me as far as my mind, and

456
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 1: I just I wasn't attracted and I just but then

457
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 1: I couldn't get it up. So then I was in

458
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: my head about it because I'm like, oh, what is

459
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: she going to think? Blah blah blah blah blah, and

460
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,880
Speaker 1: I just started overthinking the crap out of it. Well,

461
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 1: then I got so scared that I just didn't even

462
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: want to try it because it was so awkward, right,

463
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 1: and like how do you tell your wife that you're

464
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: not as attracted to her anymore?

465
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: You know?

466
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 1: And again she had just had the baby, So it

467
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,679
Speaker 1: was just all this stuff, and I was going through

468
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:52,959
Speaker 1: a rough time myself, and I mean it got bad

469
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: to the point that like how did I get out

470
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:58,120
Speaker 1: of it? I literally started praying to God. I'm like, God,

471
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: I need to be attracted to my wife, Like yeah,

472
00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: just I this needs to happen, because intimate is very

473
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 1: you know, sex is important. Yeah, And it was crazy

474
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 1: because I kept praying about it. And then one day

475
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 1: out of nowhere, just one day, she walks by the

476
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 1: by the TV and she had a I still remember,

477
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: like it was yesterday. She had a long shirt and

478
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: it was sort of you know, covering her. She was

479
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: underwear and just a shirt on, so all I could

480
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 1: see is the legs. Yeah, and then all of a sudden,

481
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 1: thing boner. I was like, oh shit, like let's go,

482
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 1: and then it's and then great things after that. But

483
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: I basically got in and all it was is a

484
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: mental thing. I let it get in my head and

485
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 1: then I got so scared about it, and again it

486
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 1: wasn't a really good time in our relationship because of it.

487
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 1: So do I think it's important one thousand percent? Yeah.

488
00:25:55,080 --> 00:26:00,160
Speaker 2: I've heard many stories like that, and hearing the those

489
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 2: kind of stories like you can't get it up for

490
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 2: your wife, it's it kind of makes you think, right

491
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 2: like and by the.

492
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: Way she was, I still thought she was beautiful. Yeah, Yeah,

493
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: and it was. All it takes is a couple bad

494
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: fall starts, if you will, ye, and then you start

495
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:15,959
Speaker 1: getting in your head about it.

496
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, you know, let me. Let me say this,

497
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: because there's two instances where I want nothing physical to

498
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 2: do with her, Like I don't want I don't want

499
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 2: to have sex with her, I don't want to touch her,

500
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 2: I don't want to be intimate with her. And that's

501
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:34,479
Speaker 2: when we fight and she's being a bitch, and you know,

502
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: there's this whole makeup sex thing that has never worked

503
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 2: for me. I know that has worked for a lot

504
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 2: of people, or like it's just this ravishing crazy let's

505
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 2: just fuck the hell out of our brains out and

506
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 2: make up that's never worked for me. If I'm mad

507
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 2: at her or she did something that really offend me

508
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,919
Speaker 2: or pissed me off or hurt me, you know, and

509
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 2: it's not often, but you know, relationships happen. I want

510
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: nothing to do with there. I don't want to be

511
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 2: around her, I don't want to be intimate with her

512
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 2: or anything that also goes with drinking alcohol, like drunk sex.

513
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 2: I do not like drunk sex. And to me, it

514
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 2: just feels dirty, right because especially she's really thrashed, she

515
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 2: might not remember what happened the next day.

516
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:21,160
Speaker 1: Right.

517
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: However, I've mentioned this on the show before, which is

518
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:31,640
Speaker 2: okay for me to mention again. There was one time

519
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 2: where she got drunk, not so drunk that she was,

520
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:39,679
Speaker 2: you know, stupid and falling all over herself, but drunk

521
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 2: enough that she was relaxed and loose and she says, okay,

522
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 2: let's do it. Do what we're doing it. It's like, no,

523
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 2: let's let's do anal I'm like what. And it was

524
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,400
Speaker 2: because she was drunk that she said let's do anal right,

525
00:27:56,560 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: So I didn't like it. She didn't like it, but

526
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 2: that only impressed upon me, like, Okay, when she's drunk,

527
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 2: she's doing she wants to do crazy stupid shit right.

528
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: So it's not the right frame of mind, and I

529
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 2: don't like it. You know. It's it's like it's like

530
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:16,239
Speaker 2: pretending you're somebody you're not.

531
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 1: I like to be real.

532
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 2: I like real emotion and real feelings. And if you

533
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 2: don't feeling when you're sober and you're feeling when you're drunk,

534
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 2: they're not they're not sustainable. You know, you're not you're

535
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: not really in love, like you're pretending to love me

536
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 2: and you only it's it's kind of like a young girl,

537
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 2: you know, being in a relationship with an older guy

538
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 2: because he's got money. I assume it's like that, right.

539
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 2: You know, she's just closing her eyes and she's just

540
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 2: thinking about his bank account, and this guy is just going, oh,

541
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 2: she's the hottest thing ever. And you know, if he's smart,

542
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 2: he knows he's paying for it. See.

543
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 1: It's funny because I don't even like alcohol, you know,

544
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: but I always drank. I've said on the on the

545
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: show before for women. Right, it just it got me

546
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: a little loose. It got me, you know, just a

547
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 1: little bit more. It got me in trouble. You got

548
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 1: me a little confident, right, But I like, does it

549
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: rarely happens now? Because I rarely get drunk, It's rare.

550
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying like drunk where you're just wasted.

551
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: I never get wasted when I'm just throwing up or

552
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: anything like that. But to me, like, I kind of

553
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 1: like the drunk sex it it. I don't know. I

554
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: just I First of all, my stamina goes up quite

555
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: a bit. I've become a machined. I like that part

556
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: of it, right Whereas wheen I'm a little too sober,

557
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, a couple of bad moves here,

558
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: I could be done pretty quick. I gotta be a

559
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 1: little more exactly. No, not yet, not yet, right, So

560
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: I guess that's the part I like about that part.

561
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: You know. In fact, I think some of the best

562
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: sex that Teddy and I have had we were both

563
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: a little tipsy, you.

564
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 2: Know what about angry? Have you ever fought and had

565
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 2: makeup sex?

566
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 1: Not as much, not with Teddy?

567
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 2: You know.

568
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 1: That that was makeup sex is cool too, Yeah, not

569
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: as good as drunk sex, I think. But but again,

570
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 1: my my, I guess to clarify, like, I still know

571
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: what I'm doing, right, It's just you're just a little

572
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 1: more loose. You're just a little more you know, not

573
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 1: in your head about it. So that's the part I

574
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: think I'll like about it.

575
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 2: I could see that, I could definitely see the benefit

576
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 2: of that.

577
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: Have you ever role played?

578
00:30:55,560 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 2: No, I have not, And I always wonder or what

579
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 2: it would be like, you know, because you've seen I've

580
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 2: watched porn before. I've seen movies where they role play

581
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 2: like that, and I always wonder what that would do

582
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 2: to the psyche, and if it would be like something

583
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 2: you like so much, like a drug that you want

584
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 2: to have it all the time. And then your regular

585
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: sex life is boring and you never want to have

586
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 2: that again. I don't know. I have never done it,

587
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 2: and I wouldn't be opposed to trying it, but I

588
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 2: would be concerned that. Okay, you know, she's in a

589
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 2: little made outfit or cheerleader outfit or whatever outfit you know,

590
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 2: and from now on that's what she has to do.

591
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 1: Are you a talker when you're having sex?

592
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 2: No? No, no, I do? I do? You know? Reminder,

593
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: I whispering earier. I love you, I love our sex life.

594
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 2: And you know, we've tried the dirty talking before, but

595
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 2: it didn't work. It got too dirty, and then it

596
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 2: wasn't dirty enough and we just picked it all up like, okay,

597
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 2: we're not gonna do that. I don't know what to say.

598
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 1: I love it. Well if you if you have a

599
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: little drunk secks, the dirty talk becomes a little easier.

600
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 2: So yeah, a lot of things happen easier. Hey, before

601
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 2: we wrap this up, I want to play a little

602
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 2: game called rapid Fire round it and it's it's basically

603
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: hot or not is the answer. So it's a quick

604
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna I'm gonna say a word, then you can

605
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 2: say a word and we'll say yes. I mean hot

606
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 2: or not? Okay, So starting off, for example, red lipstick,

607
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 2: is that hot or not?

608
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: Oh?

609
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 2: Hot?

610
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 1: For sure?

611
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 2: I like I like it? Yeah, it stands out great.

612
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: Do you have a word nightgown?

613
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 2: Nightgown hot? I love nightgowns.

614
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna go with hot as well, awesome, lingerie,

615
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 1: lingerie hot.

616
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 2: I have to say hot. Yeah, I like to play

617
00:32:58,680 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 2: with that.

618
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: Not a big deal for me. No, no, I mean

619
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 1: it's not a bad thing, but not a big deal

620
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: for me.

621
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 2: You can do without it, yeah, okay, role play, fantasies, fantasize.

622
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say fantasize depends on fantasize about somebody else,

623
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:24,160
Speaker 1: of course, not role play. I mean Teddy and I

624
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: have tried wigs, but I'm still thinking to her. Yeah,

625
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: like now she's a brunette versus a blonde, so it's

626
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: still her, but we're just it's a different look of her.

627
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 1: And I think Teddy's pretty hot as a brunette, even

628
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 1: though I'm more into blondes. But having her change it

629
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 1: up to a brunette is good. What about you so

630
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: hot or not hot?

631
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 2: Hot?

632
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: Okay?

633
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 2: I think hot. I think it could be really hot.

634
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:54,960
Speaker 2: Toys we talked about this already hot hot yeah, yes,

635
00:33:56,440 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 2: hot hot yeah, I agree. Scheduling set. I think it

636
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 2: could be hot when you have to. But if you

637
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 2: don't have to, I would say not right, But if

638
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: you have to, I think it makes sense being sexually

639
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:19,800
Speaker 2: adventurous and spontaneous, like having sex at the park hot.

640
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 2: I agree. I would love to do that, and hiking

641
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 2: and actually we've done that.

642
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. Waxed or unwaxed, unwaxed.

643
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

644
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:31,720
Speaker 1: Waxed, waxed.

645
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:32,439
Speaker 2: I don't like hair.

646
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, okay.

647
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I don't like hair.

648
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:40,959
Speaker 1: Waxed. Yeah, no, I'm gonna say waxed all day long,

649
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 1: dirty talk yes, hot.

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Speaker 2: Hot, yes, daytime or night time sex.

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Speaker 1: Daytime, all day long. I got way more energy nighttime

652
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 1: for me, my energy is all depleted. It's tough for me.

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00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: But unless it's I'm drunk. But daytime, all day long.

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Speaker 2: I agree. I agree, one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: Shower sex hot hot, very hot, very hot.

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Speaker 2: Lights on or off?

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Speaker 1: On for sure, on.

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Speaker 2: I love the lights on, although I mean, does Teddy

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00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 2: ever like close the curtains and did the night shades

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00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: and all that when you guys are gonna no.

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Speaker 1: I mean if again, we don't really have too much

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Speaker 1: nighttime sex anymore because of the kids, so it's it's

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Speaker 1: lights on for sure.

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Speaker 2: As she close the curtains.

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Speaker 1: We don't because we have all this like wrapped around

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Speaker 1: green trees that cover everything, so no one could really

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00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: see inside. But man, when we lived in Hollywood Hills,

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Speaker 1: I was like, man, if people want to see, let

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Speaker 1: them let them see, let them see. This one's not

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Speaker 1: even on here. But I think, uh well, anyways, let's

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Speaker 1: go with for play hot, do or not for play hot?

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say hot. Yeah, I'm gonna say for sure

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00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: hot unless you're you're running out of time, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, right, unless you have no time?

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Speaker 1: Right mirror or no mirror. Mirror, mirror all day long,

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Speaker 1: all rday long. Yeah, that's why I like the Encore

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Speaker 1: in Vegas. That mirror. Yeah, that is I know, we

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00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 1: always like the Encore. I'm like, yeah, man, I get

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Speaker 1: to do mind. Have you ever watched the movie American Psycho? Yes,

680
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Speaker 1: got you gotta have the mirror once in a while.

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Speaker 1: You got to see yourself.

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Speaker 2: Man, you gotta see yourself. It's awesome, awesome work well,

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Speaker 2: that's the end of our episode eight, and if you

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Speaker 2: guys want us to talk a little bit or elaborate

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Speaker 2: more on our rapid fire a round, let us know

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Speaker 2: on the comments or give us some feedback. If there's

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Speaker 2: any anything you guys want us to talk about, give

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Speaker 2: us some feedback. We really are enjoying this and we

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Speaker 2: appreciate you all listening. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, we can't thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: all the support. And as you can see, we're very

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Speaker 1: transparent about everything and just ask away and we'll answer away.

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Speaker 1: So thanks guys, See you guys next time. M hmm.