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Speaker 1: It's now time for Cannabis Talk one oh one with Blue,

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Speaker 1: Joe Grande and Mark and Craig Wasserman, the pot Brothers

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Speaker 1: at Law. We're the world's number one podcast for everything cannabis.

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Speaker 1: Hello and welcome to Cannabis Talk one on one of the

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Speaker 1: the world's number one source for everything cannabis. My name

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Speaker 1: is Blue. Alongside him is the world famous part Brothers

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Speaker 1: at Law, Mr Mark and Craig Washerman. And next to

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Speaker 1: that is the round mount of Radio. Joe Grande, did

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Speaker 1: you guys say that that come from somewhere else? Round? Now?

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Speaker 1: That was marked? It was Mark. I knew somebody gave

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Speaker 1: me that after Barkley. Yeah, and Barkley's great. I was

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Speaker 1: just watched him last night. You watched the playoff games.

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Speaker 1: I just I'm not a role model, dude. He's just

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Speaker 1: the best. One of the best commercials ever. Bottom line.

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Speaker 1: Watching him on T and T is the best. Well,

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Speaker 1: I hope you all had a great Fourth of July

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Speaker 1: weekend and we are back and Peg you have some

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Speaker 1: news you want to discuss, right, Yeah, I think this

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Speaker 1: is great. Eight man. Really, you know, this is kind

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Speaker 1: of a I don't want to say. When cannabis goes

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Speaker 1: bad light. I mean, did any of you none of

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Speaker 1: the Capitol. Bill at is blaming. We shut up. Listen

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Speaker 1: to this, his attorney, You and your friends, His attorney said, Mr.

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Speaker 1: Whatever guy swing was that freedom PLAUSI in the district

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Speaker 1: with other Trump supporters, he was approached by someone with

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Speaker 1: is palpable in his dilated pupils and grin and in

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Speaker 1: the rambles in comments that ensued when he rambled. When

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Speaker 1: they asked him why he had come, he said to

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Speaker 1: keep the president in. That's what. That's what the that's

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Speaker 1: what the attorneys rambling guys one had just smoked a

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Speaker 1: significant amount of marijuana. When he told others on January

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Speaker 1: fifty planned to keep Trump in, he had allegedly assaulted

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Speaker 1: want to take responsibility for their actions. No, is that

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Speaker 1: what did he, as the as the person being charge

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Speaker 1: with this, decided to do or was it somebody else

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Speaker 1: has said it was because he was high. It was

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Speaker 1: probably his attorny. This is your defense. Probably some kind

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Speaker 1: of insanity. Got so smiling like, oh, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what I'm doing now. Yeah, he got He looked as

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Speaker 1: him on the show. I mean that that's pretty ridicul

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Speaker 1: Blame cannabis for acting crazy and wild and violently. You're

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Speaker 1: shut up. He's running the day before, he's not running

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Speaker 1: the day. The article goes on to say that this

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Speaker 1: without precedent, though, The myth that cannada smoking caused the

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Speaker 1: You bring it via phone sex operator. Are you serious?

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Speaker 1: We gotta role play this. Let's just acting cannabis. Hey, hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: Hold on, Craig, hold on. She did this as a professional.

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Speaker 1: Let's try it out. Hey, baby, what are you wearing? Oh? Well,

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Speaker 1: This is Joe. I'm from Cannabis Talk one on one

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Speaker 1: and Buddy Blue. See my buddy Blue. We're on the

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Speaker 1: Why don't you boys get a little more comfortable? Actually,

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Speaker 1: you're making me sweat already. What do you look like, Ashley? Well,

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Speaker 1: I am a voluptuous blonde with pooling blue eyes and

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Speaker 1: a very very ample bosom When you say ample bosom,

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Speaker 1: like more than a handful, two handfuls at least, so

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Speaker 1: we could both grab one handful each, right, you have

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Speaker 1: I do not? Who bras? Anyway? Can I three way

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Speaker 1: my buddy Craig on this call? You should definitely do that. Craig.

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Speaker 1: we're smoking a joint right now, so you know what?

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Speaker 1: That got me excited and I can continue the whole time.

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Speaker 1: But actually, is that how you got? Like? How does

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Speaker 1: I came here many times. Craig, I didn't even go there.

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Speaker 1: You guys still on the call. Hello, Craig is here hustling.

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Speaker 1: He's all sweaty, wiping down. I'm going wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: my phone all sticky. So you started off as a

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Speaker 1: It wasn't called venereal disease. Back then, it was both. Actually,

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Speaker 1: come back. Funny story about that, Joe, I have herbies

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Speaker 1: and you know, one of four of us back from

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Speaker 1: I have herpies. I take medicine, you use condoms. Everybody's happy,

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Speaker 1: Sex and Relationship coach. You were the Sexpert of the Year.

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Speaker 1: You won the award. Congratulations. How did you find this out?

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Speaker 1: Where was this award given? What was this? Yeah? So,

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Speaker 1: the XPIZ Awards is one of the two big award

422
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: shows in the adult industry, the other one being the

423
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: Avian Awards, which is like the Oscars of porn. I

424
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 1: like to go to that in Vegas every year. Well

425
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 1: when before it right, we might we might be there

426
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 1: normally there it's good times. I love it and x

427
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,159
Speaker 1: BIZ is the l a show. And so I had

428
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 1: been nominated for three years prior and every year I'm like,

429
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: maybe this year I'll win, Maybe this year I'll win.

430
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 1: And then in nineteen I was on the cover of

431
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: Sexual Health magazine as America's High Priests of Pleasure. And

432
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: the following year I was lucky enough to win Sex

433
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,199
Speaker 1: for the Year, which is congratulation cool because I get

434
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 1: to start every bio for the rest of my life

435
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: as award winning. That's always key, right right, That makes

436
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 1: for a good bio intro, Like, not only am I

437
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 1: a sex therapist can can help you, but I'm also

438
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 1: award winning sex therapists. Yes, that's all cool too. And

439
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 1: now I hear you have a couple's retreat and women's retreat.

440
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 1: Where is this at the Coval the Corral Cove Wellness

441
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 1: World in Jamaica? What is that with? Is that with us?

442
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 1: We love Keiko? I thought this was her spot. I

443
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 1: love Keiko. She is their director of education, and she

444
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 1: brought me on. My boyfriend and I are gonna be

445
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: doing the couple's retreat together over Halloween weekend, and then

446
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: he's going to fly home and I'm going to stay

447
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: for another week and do a week long woman's retreat

448
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: and it is going to be suspect. Oh, we need

449
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,360
Speaker 1: to fly up that week. Maybe y'all need to come

450
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: out for that. How do people find out about this?

451
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: You can go to Coral Cove's website, um and under

452
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: the events tab they're both listed and you can they're

453
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,919
Speaker 1: actually taking reservations now. And I know that we're going

454
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: to sell out. You know, we're just at a call

455
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 1: with her earlier to day. She was on a call

456
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 1: with her. Yeah, yeah, we were all with earlier today.

457
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 1: She's friends and family and she's a sexy one. Actually,

458
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 1: wanna wanna Jason Williams, Yeah, Jason Williams. Want to want

459
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,639
Speaker 1: to competition to go out there to Cape cod to

460
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,959
Speaker 1: their location there. Actually want a competition. So and how

461
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 1: can people get ahold of you? Actually, just go to

462
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: the I G. You can follow me on Instagram for sure.

463
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: I'm also on my website can asexual dot com. You

464
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 1: can find me and book a discovery call. Actually just

465
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 1: on board a new set of clients this morning. I

466
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: love working with couples to help them, you know, address

467
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: that they that are getting in the way and really

468
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: uplevel their communication and restart the intimacy that kind of

469
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: gets stale after a while. That's very normal for couples

470
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 1: as they are. What are some of the problems I

471
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: hope that book I will absolutely this for you guys. Actually,

472
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:17,640
Speaker 1: what are some of the problems that you normally hear? Oh, yeah,

473
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: with couples, Like you know what, what's some of the

474
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: good things to help a couple out there that's listening going?

475
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: You know, me and my wife have some problems out there.

476
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: We haven't had sex an x amount of time. What's

477
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: good to restarted up a little bit. One of the

478
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 1: most common things that couples come to me for is

479
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,199
Speaker 1: something called desire discrepancy, which is one partner is more

480
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: interested in having sex more frequently than the other. And

481
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: so what that typically comes down to, like we used

482
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 1: to call it like the lower desire partner. Oh, there's

483
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 1: something wrong with the lower desire partners. So they've got

484
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 1: to like really up level their desire. No no, No.

485
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: What we've learned is that often it's because the lower

486
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: the quote lower desire partner is discerning. It's because the

487
00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: sex isn't that pleasurable for them. And so really what

488
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 1: you want to think about is whoever is not as interested,

489
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: what would make it more interesting for them, what would

490
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 1: make it more fun for them, and that they would

491
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: actually maybe not maybe maybe, because porn can really create

492
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety for folks when if they think

493
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: that they have to emulate that. People watch it and

494
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 1: think that it's sex education and it's not. It is

495
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 1: a fantasy. You are watching sci fi. These are professionals

496
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: on a closed course. You don't see the lube tucked

497
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: behind the cushion. You don't see the huge butt plug

498
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: that she was wearing before she did that double anal scene.

499
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 1: And I know this because a lot of my friends

500
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,719
Speaker 1: are porn stars. Like people hold themselves to these standards

501
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,920
Speaker 1: of like, my body doesn't do that, my my sex

502
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,160
Speaker 1: doesn't look like that, what's wrong with me? And it's like, well,

503
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: they're they're holding their bodies in a way that's gonna

504
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: be good for camera angles, not pleasure. So it's porn

505
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,360
Speaker 1: is fine if that works for you if if it's

506
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: a thing that turns you on. But I find erotica

507
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,880
Speaker 1: is actually a lot more popular with my clients where

508
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 1: they want to read and imagine what's happening instead of

509
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,280
Speaker 1: seeing it depicted for them. So, actually, the person who

510
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 1: is under under sex so to speak, using that terminology,

511
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,399
Speaker 1: what if you asked them what would help and they

512
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: pull the classic answer I don't know which right, I

513
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 1: would imagine that that's gonna be. No, I'm just trying

514
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 1: to be, you know, an interviewer trying to help and

515
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: say the person is going, which I find to be

516
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,360
Speaker 1: most problems with most people. I don't know right, that's

517
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: the answer to a lot of people because they don't

518
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: and it's it sucks for them. How do you help

519
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 1: them explore the I don't know, Joe, what you need

520
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: is testostrum yourself. I've been telling you trying to get

521
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: a shot dog tryans lion, dude, who you I'm sitting

522
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: here hard right now and I'm looking at you right

523
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 1: when you walked in, I didn't sound like looking for

524
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 1: quarters of dropping your shirt. I didn't know what to do.

525
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:53,959
Speaker 1: I'm like, you want a silver dollar? G's within boobs?

526
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: Go ahead, Sorry Craig, Why do you make me go there?

527
00:28:55,880 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 1: St quarters? Come on? Well, I didn't know if I

528
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: can play the game, but it was a sorry Mr

529
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 1: Player over here, I would have dropped bell in there.

530
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 1: So this person I don't know the answer. So the

531
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: first question I would have for that person who's like

532
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: I don't know is what have you tried? Right? Like

533
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 1: process of elimination? Whenever you're sitting down with someone, you're like,

534
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 1: I need to understand what's going on with you? What

535
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 1: hasn't worked so far? Or And this is my favorite question.

536
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: I got this directly from Dr Peggy kin Plots is

537
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: an amazing sex researcher. Tell me about the sex you

538
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 1: don't want to be having because they start to go

539
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 1: into and it's almost verbatim every person they're like, well,

540
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 1: my partner like gets on top of me and we

541
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: start kissing, and then they like go right for penetration,

542
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 1: and then they like kind of thrust around for like

543
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: a couple of minutes, and then they come and then

544
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 1: it's over. And I'm like, I love sex, and I

545
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to have that kind of sex either. So

546
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 1: let's start with how to make this feel good? For you.

547
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: What do you need to be in a sexually receptive headspace?

548
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: Do you need more talk? Do you need phones away?

549
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 1: Do you need some music? Do you need some incense?

550
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: Do you need a BackRub? Do you need a hot bath? Like?

551
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 1: Let's talk about how to get you into that space

552
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 1: and from there what would be fun for you? What

553
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: are your top three favorite things to do with your partner.

554
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: Maybe none of them are penetration. Let's take that off

555
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: the table so you don't have to stress about it.

556
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: Let's find other ways to connect. Because I hate that

557
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 1: four play has become like everything before penetration. That's bullshit.

558
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:33,479
Speaker 1: Sex is any act consensual for the purpose of pleasure.

559
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,719
Speaker 1: I did not have sexual relations with that woman. Bill

560
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: Clinton like ruined it for everybody. No, that was sex, Sorry, bro, Like,

561
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 1: I don't think anybody butt into that any actually, actually listen,

562
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: I love the way you said that that was super

563
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: important is as I think men, we you know, we're

564
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: tending to think that kissing for two point two seconds

565
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: and rubbing some boobies and touching the but you know,

566
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 1: is is for play. And then and then they go

567
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: straight to the hammer, you know, the hammer. And I

568
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: think there's a problem with that, the problem for women

569
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: especially because for us it's like, oh, that is what

570
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: they want, right, you know what I'm saying. They think

571
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 1: that that's but women are so much more sensual. They

572
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: really want to just get into it. And not only that, Actually,

573
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: you're so in tune with yourself. Can you educate everyone

574
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: out there, especially more you're a female. What are some

575
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: of the things that you like that you can say?

576
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 1: Because everything that you just said was so profound of

577
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 1: getting out of somebody, how does one like you relate

578
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: to going this is what I would like? So therefore,

579
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: maybe someone can spark theirtetic going yes, you know what,

580
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: maybe I would try that taking notes, Joe, go ahead,

581
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: I'm ready, I got the camera rolling. What do you

582
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: mean I'm getting a copy of this. I'm just clicked,

583
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 1: Like alright, cool sold. One of the most important things

584
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 1: that I find that people don't realize because we are

585
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 1: not taught pleasure based an out of me. It's nobody's fault.

586
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: It's just as an adult as your possibility to learn

587
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: these things is that the clip has legs, y'all. Everybody

588
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: thinks that just this little button at the top that's

589
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: the jam, and like props. I'm I'm fully excited. Now

590
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: away have props. I don't know whatever. That's like a

591
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 1: service to my clients. I have been going out on

592
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: tender DAGs just to see like what my clients are

593
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 1: dealing with in the wild. And let me just tell you,

594
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 1: having my scratched like a goddamn mosquito bite is not

595
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 1: fucking it. What about the game? Yeah, don't don't, Okay,

596
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,959
Speaker 1: just just wander like I'm trying to turn the game over.

597
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: They want to punish a friend of mine. What I

598
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 1: find a lot of times with with heterosexual men is

599
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: that they try to have sex the way that they

600
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 1: enjoy having sex, which we all do that in relationships.

601
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: We give in the way that we think that we

602
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: would want to receive, like all of that, But when

603
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: it comes to sex, you really need to check in

604
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 1: with the other person in and be like, hey, can

605
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: you show me how you like to be touched? I

606
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: would really like to touch you exactly the way you

607
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: want and have the masturbate in front of you for

608
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: a couple of minutes and fucking take notes, because what

609
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: if they bring the neighbor in and hey, look at

610
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: the way the neighbor doesn't mean that already, it's not

611
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: we're talking an interviewing or you can't even ask your

612
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: question cause you can't move stiff. He's all these pops

613
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 1: all right next to are they can I smell it?

614
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,560
Speaker 1: Let you go in it? So go ahead, please ask me.

615
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: But look, okay, So the clip has legs. The clip

616
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 1: and the penis are anatomically the same. But while the

617
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: penis is external, the clip is internal. So this little

618
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: nubbin at the top, that's what you see on the outside.

619
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: All of the rest of this is internal, and it

620
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 1: gets completely ignored by most people. I talked to women,

621
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, did you know your clip has legs? They're like,

622
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: my clip has what now? Legs? So these two things

623
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 1: are called vestibular bulbs, and that is like the corpus

624
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: cavernosa of your penis. So that's like the bottom with

625
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 1: two chambers, and then these are the legs, and your

626
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: whole clip gets an erection just like a penis. It

627
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: is made out of exactly the same material, it's just

628
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 1: organized differently, and so you can play with this and

629
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,840
Speaker 1: when it gets erect, this causes swelling right around the

630
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: vaginal opening, the most sensitive part of the vagina is

631
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 1: right around the opening. So this like jamming into the

632
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: back wall, like nobody's into this. This is not a skill.

633
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: I agree, I see. Although when you watch porn, it

634
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: looks like that's what they're gonna do. That's what's so crazy,

635
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 1: and so this is why you can't watch porness sex

636
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 1: ed and it's so fucking crazy actually, because let's just

637
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 1: think about who sits there though, I mean, and teaches

638
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: the young or any of us growing up unless you

639
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: find a sex therapist. Nobody teaches unless you find a woman.

640
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: And then at what certain points you feel like it's

641
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: borderline tabooish. Hey, show me how you masterbate. Fuck you

642
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:58,839
Speaker 1: slap you in the face. Maybe you know what I mean,

643
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: like you master bate? Okay, I will, but you know

644
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like some people aren't so I mean,

645
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: some people might take it offensive. Well, then maybe you

646
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: shouldn't be with him. I'm problem. And that's what I mean,

647
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: Like we are so shut down because we're told from

648
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 1: a very early age that sexes everything, but it's bad.

649
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,479
Speaker 1: Don't be smoking weed, yeah, and don't be smoking weed.

650
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 1: And the double taboos and now we're saying do both

651
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 1: of them for a more pleasurable experience. Well, and some

652
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: of cannabis is really I find to help people like

653
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,919
Speaker 1: fight against all of the programming they have around. It's

654
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: wrong for me to want these things. It's wrong for

655
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,399
Speaker 1: me to have these kinky things. Like me, here's my kink.

656
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,839
Speaker 1: I have a huge daddy girl thing. I love being

657
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 1: daddy's a little girl. It totally turns me on. It

658
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 1: is hot as fun and like, oh my god, that's

659
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 1: are you like attracted to your dad? Like what is it? No,

660
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 1: it's fantasy, guys, Like, it's just Craig really got excited

661
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: right now. He's like, hey, like you here girl. So

662
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 1: I think it's important for us to be able to

663
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: own our desires in a public form, you know, not

664
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: in an inappropriate way we're making when adults around and

665
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,800
Speaker 1: you're having a conversation where everybody wants to hear this.

666
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 1: I know you guys want to hear being able to

667
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: be unapologetic and honest about your desires and be like, yeah,

668
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,239
Speaker 1: that fucking turns me on, and there's nothing wrong with it. No,

669
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: I like. I like communication. I think it's the most

670
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 1: powerful form of being able to enjoy another person. And

671
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't have that, like, hey,

672
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 1: we should talk about this, and that's the unfortunate part.

673
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 1: And that's what makes relationships I think goes stale because

674
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,280
Speaker 1: of sex purposes and or making love or being erotic,

675
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 1: you know. I think people just don't have the ability

676
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: to stop and have that conversation with the others. They

677
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: just go, let's do this and let's well. And a

678
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 1: lot of people to get so busy in life. There's

679
00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,399
Speaker 1: ones who have the you know, you have a house

680
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,439
Speaker 1: full of kids, it's you have in laws. Maybe they're

681
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,320
Speaker 1: you know, they're named the scenario that you know, you

682
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 1: can't even make time too busy meets you're cheating. Now

683
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: that's another good on Chronic pain is another on his back,

684
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: her back hurt, they get bad legs, a bunch of excuses. Well,

685
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 1: I don't know what it's not about us, you guys.

686
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying these are common things that I've heard from

687
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: actually interviewing other people, and I'm sure Ashley's heard from

688
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 1: it from hundreds of clients of ourselves. I mean, these

689
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 1: are real things maybe that we don't associate with. And

690
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,720
Speaker 1: I've been in times where I've been too tired, hurting

691
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: my body as well, And I'm like, I'm cool. You

692
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,279
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I don't even try, but can

693
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 1: talk about it too bad? This is right here. It's

694
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:41,800
Speaker 1: two guys who can't have this conversation. This is what

695
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. No, what I'm saying is it's better to

696
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 1: actually talk about it in full form, like don't be afraid,

697
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:50,319
Speaker 1: don't be afraid ed he is, that's what he is doing.

698
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 1: I don't even understand, and I don't think I actually

699
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: understands that you both are saying either, which like nobody

700
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 1: in the room understands where you two are at right now.

701
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: But it's cool. Are the listener, hey, but Joe, the

702
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:02,720
Speaker 1: whole country does. We'll be right back after the spring.

703
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: Take a hit, get lit, sit back and enjoy cannabis

704
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: talk one on one right here with Blue Joe, Grande,

705
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: Mark and Craig Washerman. And with this Joe is Ashley

706
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 1: and Ashley. You know what time it is? What time is?

707
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: It's dime time, dime time. Take a hit of your dimetime, folks.

708
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: Ashley as that we're talking about all this, I've seen

709
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: something about cannabis lube and how you can make it

710
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:58,360
Speaker 1: your own. Talk about that. So I'm so glad that

711
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: you brought this up because, in response to what we

712
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: were just talking about with pain coming up, a lot

713
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 1: of women more than sixty experience what's called pain with penetration,

714
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: and so that means that when they are being penetrated,

715
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 1: it hurts, and that makes you kind of not want

716
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: to be penetrated, right, Like, why would you want to

717
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:16,959
Speaker 1: do something that's painful. That's why a lot of people

718
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,920
Speaker 1: don't enjoy anal because it hurts. It should not hurt.

719
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 1: Just to be clear, anal should not should not hurt.

720
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 1: If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Really. Oh yeah,

721
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: we'll get into that. All those years I've been doing

722
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,319
Speaker 1: it wrong. Do you have just some stretching, right? Get

723
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: your stretch anything stretching communicating? You know, I'm the little

724
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: boy hearing you guys are worse than me right now,

725
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,320
Speaker 1: and I love it. And I don't invite me to

726
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 1: the party because once I go, you know, I don't stop,

727
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: so it's hard for me to come back. I'm trying

728
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 1: to be professional jackass. But in terms of weed lube, um,

729
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 1: the thing that actually got me turned onto sex and

730
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 1: cannabis was that I had pain with penetration, and I

731
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: found this company called I'm back then I was also

732
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: having pain with anal, but that's when I was a

733
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: baby sex educator. I don't know better. But Fouria made

734
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: a th HC lube back in the day, back when

735
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: I first moved to California, and that was the first

736
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: thing that allowed me to have penetrative sex without pain,

737
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: and my brain went, holy sh it, sex can be amazing.

738
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 1: From the beginning whole, I didn't even know that was possible,

739
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 1: and so no one in the sex world was talking

740
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: about sex and cannabis. So I'm like, this could be

741
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: my niche. And now here I am, many many years later,

742
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 1: still working with Fouria and have tried a number of

743
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 1: others over the time, including brewing my own, which there's

744
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: a recipe in the book to make your own. You

745
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:33,880
Speaker 1: can totally do it at home. It's really easy because

746
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: you know, if people live in Prohibition states, it can

747
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 1: be hard to get your hands on. So just if

748
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 1: you have a crock pot, you can make your own

749
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 1: weed loom. And I mean, obviously you need weed also,

750
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: but it's oil based. So the important thing to know

751
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: about weed lube oil bases. You cannot use it with

752
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: latex condoms. Oil degrades latex. So you want to use

753
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 1: nitrial or polyurething unless you wanted to break on accident.

754
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 1: You don't want that to have and it really didn't

755
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: want to wear it anyways, right, so don't do that.

756
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: You want to use barriers that are oil compatible, and

757
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: or if you're fluid bonded with your partner then it

758
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: doesn't matter and you're not condoms anyway. But it's really

759
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: more of a marinade than a lube. And what I

760
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 1: mean by that is that you have to let it

761
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: absorb for twenty thirty even forty minutes optimally, So that

762
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:26,879
Speaker 1: actually requires some forethought of like that's some serious four yes,

763
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 1: exactly minutes before. I like that is that a fact?

764
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: That that is a fact? So you would put it

765
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 1: in thirty minutes before. So right when you go to dinner,

766
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 1: put it on, I start early, Yeah, you know what

767
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 1: I meant, and keep keep going on date night, put

768
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 1: it on before right before, keep applying throughout the night. Right, absolutely,

769
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: that'd better. Right, well, yeah, clearly, right, you start on

770
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 1: and you kind of just keep going. So now that

771
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: helps with that. Let's let's go to what you said earlier,

772
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 1: which you said anals shouldn't hurt. Yes, okay, anal should

773
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: not hurt. Here's the thing. Your ass has two sets

774
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 1: of stincter. Muscle is the internal and the external sphincter.

775
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 1: We're gonna get nerdy for a sec. You only have

776
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: control over the external ones. That's like when when your

777
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: boss calls and you didn't do your ship and you're

778
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 1: like that clench, that's your external sphincter. Okay, okay, we

779
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: all did it right now, we've been there, But I

780
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: feel like that one. I'm about to high like a

781
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: high spot and I looked down. I'm like, yeah, that one.

782
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: When you are going to be the recipient of anal,

783
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: the thing you have to keep in mind it is

784
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: about the receiver's pleasure. So often I get guys that

785
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 1: write to me and they're like, how do I get

786
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: my girlfriend to try ANAL? I'm like, make it about her,

787
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,439
Speaker 1: not about you getting stick your dick in her ass.

788
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: It's gotta be and she's going to enjoy it if

789
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 1: she has to enjoy or whoever's receiving. You know, I

790
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: don't want to assign gender, like whoever taken in the

791
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 1: ass needs to enjoy it, so so you want to

792
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: give it lots of time. You want to start very small.

793
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: Don't go from zero to cock. Start with a pinky,

794
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:04,280
Speaker 1: Start with a finger, very slowly, start with external massage.

795
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: But breathe. Relax you know you can actually clench and

796
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 1: then intentionally relax as you exhale. You tend to release

797
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 1: your muscles on the exhale, and then just communicate, have

798
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: lots of Is this okay? Are you ready for me

799
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: to penetrate you? Do you need anything different? Do you

800
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: want me to stop? Do you want me to pull out?

801
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: Like start with and now you put the finger in

802
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 1: and they tighten up, right, so then you go, okay, pause,

803
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: Can you breathe with me? And you slow down? You

804
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: go so slow. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

805
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: It could take you months years to actually penetrate with

806
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 1: something bigger than a finger. That's okay. It's all about

807
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,439
Speaker 1: enjoying the process. But if you start to do something

808
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 1: and they're like owow, don't keep going, don't override it,

809
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 1: don't It's got to be about their pleasure because if

810
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 1: it feels good for it, they're gonna want it more.

811
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: And then what if during that time, and you're doing

812
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 1: the as rub, you're doing the pinkle, hide the pinky,

813
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: and then the other finger, and then you're bringing finger

814
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: and you know you're moving on, but then you go

815
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: limp okay, you turn around. Then then you turn around

816
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,800
Speaker 1: and you go, hey, turn around work. I don't know

817
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: you're the sex that I'm trying to interview her. I

818
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: don't know you're an interviewer. I don't know you're here

819
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 1: for an interview. Welcome Blue, thank you for coming to

820
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,919
Speaker 1: the show. Conversate. I didn't know you wrote the book.

821
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 1: I'm sorry she wrote the book. I'm trying to ask her,

822
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 1: try to actually ask her an expert, trying to get

823
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:36,919
Speaker 1: the expert advice right here. I forgot you really needed

824
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 1: to use her finger on your butt? Can I can

825
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 1: I get the answer from her? I don't want to

826
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 1: hear your voices. It's clearly I want to hear her

827
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: tell me what she's gonna do, you idiots cases, that's

828
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: the real real advice. I know it is. Next question.

829
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 1: Next people assuming that they are actually ready for a

830
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: penis and you are not in a place to be

831
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 1: able to do that because of a wreck tile. No,

832
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: not even dysfunctions, challenges. Okay, there are a thousand reasons

833
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 1: why you might not be hard. I tell people that

834
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: play with penises all the time, like, if it kills limp,

835
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: don't panic, it's fine. It still feels really good to

836
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 1: touch it, even if it's not hard, like back me

837
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:20,359
Speaker 1: up on this guy's it's still real sensitive. And if

838
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: it's limp, but the whole thing, you don't have to

839
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 1: touch yours right now, dude, geez, you can use a dildo,

840
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: you can use a butt plug, you can use more fingers,

841
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 1: you can go. Well, that's as far as we're gonna

842
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: go this time, until next time, until the next episode,

843
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 1: right game, Just a long bake your time. And you

844
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: also have a podcast. I do have a what's your

845
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: podcast name? It is called Elevated Intimacy Nice and my producer,

846
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: Sam is a real delight Sam. Yes, I want to.

847
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,320
Speaker 1: I want to go on the show. Sam is also

848
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:59,919
Speaker 1: a sex therapist as well. Yes he is. Sam's all

849
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: Sam's licensed. I'm just a coach. But Sam and I

850
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 1: worked together for many, many years in the past, which

851
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: is funny. When he was going to school early on

852
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 1: for it. Also, I didn't know he was actually now

853
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: certified to me, I just got accepted it. How he

854
00:46:17,080 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 1: practiced on you can you get it out? Giggles? You

855
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 1: look at how happy he is right now. I've never

856
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 1: seen him so giggly and red and he's brighter than

857
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 1: her dress. If you do, you do. You can't even

858
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: look that way because he looks straight at your boobs,

859
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 1: which I love about him. He can't even turn your way.

860
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: He's turned our ways hard to miss. I mean, jee's

861
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 1: when they walked in the door, I was like, he's

862
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 1: actually coming with you too. Every once in a while

863
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,879
Speaker 1: they bring me along. Actually do people do people take

864
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 1: what you do the wrong way? I mean sometimes you

865
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:52,880
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Sometimes it's like it's like it

866
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 1: could be like cannabis and sex. It's sometime, you know,

867
00:46:55,719 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 1: sometimes people sex and relationship coach, you're a hard yeah

868
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: or what not? I mean what you know versus the

869
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 1: education side, because obviously we see the education side of

870
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: cannabis and we get it to people are like, or

871
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: you're in the cannabis industry and dealers. Yeah, okay, you

872
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 1: know they think it's a joke. It's nice to meet

873
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: you too. People think that I'm a porn star, not

874
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: that there's anything wrong with being a porn star. But

875
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 1: that's not what I do presently. I have done porn

876
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 1: in the past. Way. Yeah, I shot a scene Nina

877
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 1: Hartley away back in the day. Oh look at you.

878
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: So but you know, people think that I'm important, people

879
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: think that I'm a fucking whore, like whatever, Like it's

880
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: fine for everybody closed doors. Everybody doesn't care. Well, let's

881
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: go deeper. What does the family say about it? Mom

882
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: and dad? Um, So, my mom and I don't talk,

883
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: but not because of that, because of other things. But

884
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: my dad is incredibly supportive of what I do. And

885
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 1: my little brother also, My little brother is a West

886
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 1: Point graduate and is in the army. He's married, he's monogamous.

887
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: Like our lives could not be more different. My dad

888
00:47:56,280 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: works for the federal government. He's conservative. He lives in rold, Pennsylvania,

889
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: and he like goes up to people at the grocery

890
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: stories like, do you know the clip has legs? My

891
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 1: daughter is a sex said to care. Let me show

892
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: you what my daughter taught me on the phone. Let

893
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 1: me see if I mean yeah, so that makes and

894
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 1: and your boyfriend, how did you meet him? Do all

895
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 1: this or something? Random. Um. Funny enough. My boyfriend I

896
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 1: met at a sex party. We're non monogamous, so he's

897
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: married on and his wife knows, and he has other lovers.

898
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 1: I have other lovers. And yes, six years ago. Actually

899
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 1: we just celebrated anniversary. We were both at a sex

900
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: party that a mutual friend was having. I spotted him

901
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 1: across the room and I was like, boy, he's really hot.

902
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:45,359
Speaker 1: I hope he likes me. That would be really cool.

903
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 1: And we ended up having sex that night. It was spectacular,

904
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: and we've been having sex. Explain a little more what

905
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 1: a sex party is and how one gets invited. Well,

906
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 1: in the pre cannabis day or in the pre COVID days,

907
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,000
Speaker 1: I used to host them, but it less so these

908
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 1: days because I don't want to have a super spreader event.

909
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: But literally, literally and figuratively, it is when a bunch

910
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: of adults. This is not to be confused with like

911
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: a swinger party or an orgy, because there are, and

912
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 1: those are fine, and that's that's great. That's not what

913
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 1: these are. This is about adults coming together and it's

914
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,759
Speaker 1: a very consent focused environment. It's a place to to

915
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 1: practice coming up to someone and saying hey, Joe, I

916
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 1: would like to play with your nipples and give you

917
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: a BackRub. How does that sound? And then you can say, no, thanks,

918
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 1: that doesn't really sound good to me, and I'll go

919
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 1: my favorites by the way, nipples back, I'll go, God, God,

920
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,600
Speaker 1: this wasn't about you, she asked. She talked to me,

921
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 1: do you hear say? So? Continue? So somebody would come

922
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: up and say would come up and say that, and

923
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 1: you could say, yeah, that would be I would also

924
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 1: be interested in doing X, Y Z to you. How

925
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 1: does that sound? And I could say, well, I'm up

926
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 1: for X and Z, but not why, and you negotiate

927
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 1: like grown ups and then you go do the thing.

928
00:49:57,480 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: And I might say, when's the last time you got tested?

929
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 1: What kind barriers do you like to use? What kind

930
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 1: of relationship agreements should I be aware of that? I

931
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 1: want to be respectful of that. So it's very open communication.

932
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 1: Is it simple as to walking up going, hey, actually

933
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 1: you look very good. I really like your hair and

934
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 1: your style and everything about you, and what would well,

935
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 1: maybe not bad aggressively, but maybe those maybe I'd like

936
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: to are is it something what would pleasure you? You

937
00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 1: could say that too, It's and could and could I

938
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 1: do those you could do that go up and have

939
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: that style that would be and then I get to

940
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: say yes or no, and if I say yes, and

941
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: a couple of minutes and I'm like, you know what,

942
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: I thought I was going to be into this, but

943
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,279
Speaker 1: I'm not. I can just kind of tap you on

944
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 1: the shoulder and be like I'm feeling done, thanks very much.

945
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 1: Off you go, and it's no hard feelings. Nobody gets

946
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 1: upset and like, but we started, we gotta fit no

947
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 1: no no, no, no, no no, take your blue balls

948
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 1: and go to the bathroom. It is not my responsibility

949
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 1: to take care of your pleasure. You tapped out. I

950
00:50:53,560 --> 00:50:55,799
Speaker 1: tapped you out. How many people show up to these

951
00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 1: parts for that guy that just you know, I mean,

952
00:50:57,480 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 1: I just can't perform, right, he just he just get

953
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:04,759
Speaker 1: tapped out, Like I'm dead here. I'm here Because when

954
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:07,920
Speaker 1: someone says no to you, it's a compliment because one,

955
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 1: they feel safe enough saying no to you, which is

956
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:12,239
Speaker 1: really cool because they trust you to respect their boundaries.

957
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:14,360
Speaker 1: And it's also an opportunity for you to go and

958
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 1: be with somebody who's really excited to be with you,

959
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,359
Speaker 1: which I would generally prefer to somebody who's like, man,

960
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 1: I'm counting the minutes till this is over. Like it's

961
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: also for the guy that's oversized for a woman like yo,

962
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 1: you're too You're too big for me, Like I'm not

963
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: interested in that, Like you know, you know what I mean.

964
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 1: So I typically find that happens with length more so

965
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: than girth, although sometimes if people are really narrow they

966
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 1: worry about girth, but really skilled people with big packages

967
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 1: know how to wield it in a way that allows

968
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 1: their partner to have a lot of pleasure. Like one

969
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 1: of my former lovers, it was massive, just like almost

970
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 1: the size of my forearm, and he kind of almost

971
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 1: made like a like like say when right, like he'd

972
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: go in, go and go in. I'd be like, nope,

973
00:51:57,600 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: stop there, and he'd kind of like make a mental

974
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 1: tick mark on his penis and he'd only go into

975
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 1: there so that my service wasn't getting slammed. I found

976
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:07,240
Speaker 1: that very polite. Yeah, that's very nice of man, Dango,

977
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: very considerable. Like Pete, that was very nice to you.

978
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 1: So you know the size of her arm. Guys, let

979
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 1: me just tell you that she was like, well, the

980
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 1: funny randoms were growing up. I was a bouncer and

981
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 1: my buddy Marcus. So you guys haven't met yet, but

982
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 1: one day you're gonna meet him. He's just a massive man.

983
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,360
Speaker 1: And he's a massive man down there as well. And

984
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:29,879
Speaker 1: back in the day, we had a couple of women

985
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: that were enjoying together and the one goes, I can't

986
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 1: handle him, he's too much, And I was like, Oh,

987
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 1: come in this room, because it's not that bad over here.

988
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: I got better yet, stay there. I'll come in there next.

989
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 1: And yeah, exactly to where there was. I've been in

990
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: a situation where you guys meet my boy markets He's

991
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 1: just huge. But the point is it's great when people

992
00:52:51,600 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 1: can say that Craigs like, you know, it's Craig. I

993
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:02,760
Speaker 1: can't wait for him to slap you in the face.

994
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:07,920
Speaker 1: You're gonna watch for sure, Oh, Ashley, I can't wait

995
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: to see more about your whole thing, can you. Canna

996
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:14,399
Speaker 1: sexual dot com is the website on Instagram at Canna

997
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 1: sexual c A N N A S c x U

998
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:18,920
Speaker 1: A L. We'd like to do the high five with you,

999
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:24,440
Speaker 1: if that's okay, bring it on. Yeah. So, actually, question

1000
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:29,120
Speaker 1: number one, how old were you the first time you

1001
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: smoked cannabis and where'd you get it from? The first

1002
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 1: time I smoked cannabis was actually when I was in

1003
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 1: graduate stool graduate school studying philosophy. To absolutely no one's surprise,

1004
00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:41,760
Speaker 1: my cohort were a bunch of stoners, because that's pretty

1005
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 1: much the only way you can get through Heidegger and

1006
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: um we were at somebody's house. They had a gravity bog.

1007
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:49,360
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I've never spoke before, and they're like,

1008
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,200
Speaker 1: we can fix that. I took one hit. I was

1009
00:53:52,440 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 1: stoned out of my mind, but in a really pleasant,

1010
00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 1: happy way. So I sat down on this love sack

1011
00:53:57,880 --> 00:53:59,640
Speaker 1: and we watched Empire records and I felt like I

1012
00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:03,840
Speaker 1: was in a coon. This is really great with safe

1013
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: people who trusted I trusted, and they took good care

1014
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 1: of me. It's always nice. Question number two, what is

1015
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: your favorite way to use d all of the above. Um,

1016
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:18,880
Speaker 1: I just got a puff co peek a couple of

1017
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 1: months ago, and so doing little micro dabs is my jam.

1018
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:25,919
Speaker 1: I like to do a little like Pinhead, like little

1019
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 1: taster dabs are really good. I love vaping flour from

1020
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 1: my vapex sale, and I also like tinctures before bed.

1021
00:54:33,360 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: You know, a little bit is good for me, and

1022
00:54:35,640 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 1: then uh, I mean we loube obviously in suppositories. I

1023
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 1: swear by suppositories. Nice. Question number three of the high

1024
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:47,359
Speaker 1: five with Asley mentor yes, are you ready? I'm ready?

1025
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:53,640
Speaker 1: Craziest place you've ever used cannabis? We could actually say

1026
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 1: sex all these two with her. Yeah, sex, everything else

1027
00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:00,879
Speaker 1: can go the same way, But I guess from sex

1028
00:55:00,960 --> 00:55:04,439
Speaker 1: and like particularly crazy place I've had sex, Like see,

1029
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,279
Speaker 1: I'm already on sex. I have not smoked weed in

1030
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 1: particularly crazy places. I mean I've hot boxed plenty of times,

1031
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 1: and I've got I've had high experiences with people I

1032
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 1: wouldn't have expected, Like I was at a party with

1033
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 1: Melissa Ethridge and got high there in this like gorgeous

1034
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 1: mansion in Orange County. So that's that's more of the

1035
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:24,799
Speaker 1: crazy for me being from this like small rural town

1036
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:29,440
Speaker 1: in Pennsylvania where god, it was that the mansion up

1037
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:31,720
Speaker 1: on the hill. It was not the O C Mansion

1038
00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 1: up on the hill. This was like an irvine and

1039
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: like two gates to get to this house. It was wild.

1040
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: Question number four, what is your go to Munchy's after

1041
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:45,439
Speaker 1: you get high? Ruffles potato chips? Well, kind of French

1042
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 1: onion dep nice. I just had some cheddar cream and

1043
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:55,320
Speaker 1: I do just a plane. I just had. And I

1044
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: don't know why My wife bought him. She yells at

1045
00:55:57,200 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 1: me when I bought him. She bought them for the kids,

1046
00:55:58,600 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, what do the thing gets

1047
00:55:59,920 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 1: the I can't keep him in the house because there

1048
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 1: is no stuffing point between opening the bag and the

1049
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Speaker 1: all right? Question number five, If you could smoke cannabis

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Speaker 1: with anyone dead or alive, who would it be? And

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Speaker 1: why May? West? May? Why is the name shelth familiar?

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Speaker 1: But I can't put you too young? Who's my West?

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Speaker 1: She is this hilarious body actress from decades and decades ago, yeah,

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Speaker 1: thirties or forties, and she's sassy and she's sexual and

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Speaker 1: one of her favorite my quotes from her that I

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Speaker 1: and when I'm bad, I'm better. Well, you know what,

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Speaker 1: this show has been better with you want it? Actually,

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Speaker 1: you do know? Thank you so much. For making us

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm consensual with that. Consent first always is

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Speaker 1: a big thing you always say, which is great. Real quick, guys,

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Speaker 1: can everyone leave the room please? All the camera operators?

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Speaker 1: He's like this before first time. Actually, did we miss

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Speaker 1: anything that you want to tell everybody about? Anything else? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Love that I want to enroll. Yeah, I'm sorry you

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Speaker 1: don't have a pussy, but I'd like to get I mean,

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Speaker 1: he actually does. It's just inside out. Here is hitting

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Speaker 1: the table. Yeah, you know what we gotta go. I

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Speaker 1: gotta go to the bathroom. Well there it is. Guys,

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Speaker 1: this Cannabis Talk one on one. We want to thank

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