Speaker 1: The second day. Sometimes with a bad first date, there's
Speaker 1: one moment that you can look back on and say
Speaker 1: that was it, That was where I missed everything up? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: For me, each date has about fourteen of those. Is
Speaker 1: it when I did the full re enactment of the
Speaker 1: movie Garden State? Was that it's you? Or was it
Speaker 1: when my zipper got caught in the sushi conveyor belt? How?
Speaker 1: I still don't? Why were you too much? Well? One
Speaker 1: of our listeners says that she knows that she made
Speaker 1: a huge mistake in one moment and she's regretting it today.
Speaker 1: That's why she's asking for our help. Her name's Jessica. Jessica,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. Hey guys, Jica. Before you let
Speaker 1: us know, I just want to say, sometimes it's good
Speaker 1: to only have one giant bad thing go wrong, because
Speaker 1: at least you can when wrong. Yeah. Did you have
Speaker 1: a sushi conveyor belt incident? There was no sushi involved.
Speaker 1: Good tragedy avoided. What happened with this guy what's his name? Oh?
Speaker 1: I went out with Vince? Okay, and how do you
Speaker 1: know Vince? How'd you guys meet? It was online so
Speaker 1: it was kind of you know, like a first sort
Speaker 1: of blind date online and it was good. It was
Speaker 1: it was it was nice. We had a really good
Speaker 1: vibe and all right, well we'll play a song, we'll
Speaker 1: come back. Oh we should hear more about it. Huh.
Speaker 1: I mean were you were you shocked that it was
Speaker 1: going that well? I totally was. I I you know,
Speaker 1: I had kind of low expectations, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: He was just it was humble and cool and fun
Speaker 1: and we're having a good time. The problem is, so
Speaker 1: because I have these low expectations, I kind of sort
Speaker 1: of accidentally double booked myself that night. Oh like with
Speaker 1: another day or with a party or something. No, it
Speaker 1: was another date. Oh girl, So I like options, Okay,
Speaker 1: why too in the same night. I just figured we'd
Speaker 1: we'd eat and you're like, okay, thanks, that was fine
Speaker 1: by and then that would be it because that's kind
Speaker 1: of been my experience. Was Vince aware that you had
Speaker 1: two dates going on that night? He was not. He
Speaker 1: was nut And you know, looking back, I mean that's
Speaker 1: the moment like I should have canceled because I lost
Speaker 1: track of time and when I realized I was like
Speaker 1: twenty minutes away from the second date, and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh shoot, so I had to wrap things up really fast.
Speaker 1: He was like, oh, we're done, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I gotta go. And I then mote
Speaker 1: him some money for the like half a bill, you know,
Speaker 1: because I didn't want it to be like thank good bye.
Speaker 1: Why did you actually leave before the bill came well,
Speaker 1: like it had just gotten there. Yeah, but like you
Speaker 1: didn't let him like walk you back to your car
Speaker 1: or anything like that. No, I had to run. Oh man,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, just as a guy having to sit there
Speaker 1: and watch your date like bolt on you yeah, before
Speaker 1: you were even finished, like totally paying the bill and
Speaker 1: then they vendo you, which is feels it like business
Speaker 1: trains insactioning, right. Yeah. And I think, I mean, I
Speaker 1: think he could tell that something was going on because
Speaker 1: he was asking me, are you okay? Like did I
Speaker 1: did I do something? Or oh you know, when I
Speaker 1: was trying to tell no, no no, no, it's not you,
Speaker 1: You're great, this is good. I just becoming personal came up.
Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta run. I feel like I would
Speaker 1: almost prefer a girl to sneak out on me, yeah,
Speaker 1: rather than like collect herself frantically be like Okay, sorry,
Speaker 1: I gotta go. By, No, you just reschedule. You should
Speaker 1: have been honest and you said the look, I have
Speaker 1: something going on. I want to give you my full attention.
Speaker 1: You know, it's like a job interview. You don't want
Speaker 1: the person interviewing and being like, Okay, just tell me
Speaker 1: about yourself real quick. I gotta go. I gotta go. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Based on your profile picture and your interest, I had
Speaker 1: very very low expectations. I never ever thought this was
Speaker 1: gonna go like this. But yeah, sorry, By. And the
Speaker 1: thing is, I'm guessing the second date went terribly because
Speaker 1: we're not calling the second date for a second date update,
Speaker 1: we're calling the first dude. Oh yeah, what happened with
Speaker 1: guy number two? Yeah? Guy number two was a no show? Oh?
Speaker 1: I bet you, I bet you. I would feel so
Speaker 1: foolish at that point, Oh I did. I waited an
Speaker 1: hour at the bar for this guy, and I just
Speaker 1: felt like a bigots full. And so after my hour
Speaker 1: of waiting, I texted Vince and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: so I cleared that up. If you're still out, I'd
Speaker 1: love to hang out some more, kind of try to
Speaker 1: smooth it over. And he texted me back l oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: oh hell yeah, and that's all you guys have talked since. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I tried texting him one other time and he didn't respond,
Speaker 1: so I was just like, Okay, I'm gonna leave it alone.
Speaker 1: I don't want to picture him, but I'm feeling really
Speaker 1: really bad about it, and I you know, I'm hoping
Speaker 1: it's something that I could kind of come back from.
Speaker 1: I don't know. If you tell him the truth, it
Speaker 1: makes you sound bad, like, hey, I'm only calling you
Speaker 1: back because this guy stood me up, I think. But
Speaker 1: you can explain it as like you made a mistake.
Speaker 1: He's dating, like he gets it, like it's hard, it's
Speaker 1: hard to make decisions. It always feels like the more
Speaker 1: you date, the more options you'll have or something I
Speaker 1: don't want to date to leave me for another day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: nobody would. But do we have to tell him that part? No,
Speaker 1: that's why. Okay, Well, I think we're gonna go in
Speaker 1: planning to not tell him. Yes, But you know what,
Speaker 1: if it slips out, then it slips out. You do
Speaker 1: this every once in a while, somebody wants what they
Speaker 1: can't have. Yeah, and if he thinks that she's wanted
Speaker 1: by a lot of other people. That's not necessarily we're
Speaker 1: going to play some games. I don't know. Maybe we
Speaker 1: should say it wasn't just one extra date. Maybe it
Speaker 1: was twenty extra dance and the other guys could match
Speaker 1: up to Vince. They were all rich and famous, that's right,
Speaker 1: and Vince was better than all of them. We're gonna
Speaker 1: play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Vince, and
Speaker 1: we'll try and get your second date update. Okay, Jessica,
Speaker 1: all right, all right, hold on. You know the saying
Speaker 1: is nice guys finished last. Yeah, but that's not always true.
Speaker 1: Sometimes times they don't even get to finish dinner before
Speaker 1: the date ducks out on you for a hotter guy out.
Speaker 1: Sorry for the low glow there, Jessica, but that is
Speaker 1: what she did to a great dude that she was
Speaker 1: with named Vince. She had to leave early to go
Speaker 1: meet up with another guy, and what happened other guy
Speaker 1: no showed. Yeah, anything is Jeffrey. If you liked Vince Moore,
Speaker 1: you would have booked his date second. Yeah, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, initial like, you wouldn't have put him first.
Speaker 1: She went in with those low expectations. So, Jessica, I
Speaker 1: want you to know we are going to try our
Speaker 1: very best here, but even though we're enjoying ourselves, we
Speaker 1: have another phone call book with a possibly better hotter
Speaker 1: listener in ten minutes, so we're gonna try and make
Speaker 1: this quick. Okay, all right, well really really please if
Speaker 1: we can not tell him about the other date, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so why did you leave? Then? I mean we're going
Speaker 1: to have to tell him something family emergency, right like
Speaker 1: it made it a family emergency and we just met.
Speaker 1: He doesn't have to know those details. Yeah, okay, well
Speaker 1: what's the detail grandpa's sick? Like she said she didn't
Speaker 1: have to know the details. He doesn't need to do
Speaker 1: what if he asks like, oh my god, family emergency?
Speaker 1: Is everyone? Okay? What are we saying? Your business? Okay,
Speaker 1: talk about my family? Yeah, all right, all right, get
Speaker 1: aggressive and vague aggressive Jessica. Alright, we're ready. We're gonna
Speaker 1: dial Vince's phone number, try and get your second day update.
Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello, Hey is this Vince? This is him?
Speaker 1: Who's this Evans? My name is jeff from a morning
Speaker 1: radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. What's up? Okay?
Speaker 1: There was awkward silence. I freaked out. Just say, okay,
Speaker 1: we're all here, what's going on. Great, it's a segment, yea,
Speaker 1: it is an awkward segment that we do. It's called
Speaker 1: a second date Update. We're calling on behalf of one
Speaker 1: of our listeners who went out on a date with you.
Speaker 1: Her name's Jessica. Oh yeah, Jessica. Okay, she really liked
Speaker 1: you really. Yeah, I know it doesn't seem like she
Speaker 1: liked you because she left the date in such a hurry.
Speaker 1: But that's just one of the things that she does
Speaker 1: when she really likes the guy us, she gets nervous
Speaker 1: and panics and leaves. It's a problem. Oh so, so
Speaker 1: she told you guys what happened. Yeah, she gave us
Speaker 1: a little recap of it, and and she actually felt
Speaker 1: bad about it. Yeah, I mean, she she's old. She
Speaker 1: didn't want to have to leave, but she didn't really
Speaker 1: have a choice family emergency. Um okay, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just kind of doubt that's really the case. I mean,
Speaker 1: shee you later, she said, just to let you know
Speaker 1: that she was like still interested. Yeah, yeah, yeah she did.
Speaker 1: She did texting me later. She wanted to like meet
Speaker 1: back up right, And we heard you texted back kind
Speaker 1: of snarky, just lol. Yeah, I mean I said that
Speaker 1: because she really seemed like she had better things to
Speaker 1: do and she had somewhere else more important to be. Like,
Speaker 1: we were having a great time, we were eating, and
Speaker 1: she pretty much ended it in the middle of us
Speaker 1: eating and left. But that's not really fair to her
Speaker 1: because it could have been something that was totally out
Speaker 1: of her control. Oh really, So, I mean, you guys
Speaker 1: talk to her. So what did she say was out
Speaker 1: of her control? She know, she made a commitment that
Speaker 1: she had to follow through on. Yeah, okay, yeah, this
Speaker 1: sounds really general and vague, but yeah, do you have
Speaker 1: a problem with that? Yeah, Vagan aggressive, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just mean it's it's kind of hard to believe
Speaker 1: considering the way that it sort of ended. Like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, I just feel like so that you think
Speaker 1: she's lying. Yeah, well, I mean this is the thing, Like,
Speaker 1: and you know, I'll be completely honest with you guys,
Speaker 1: but I've had some trust issues from the past, and
Speaker 1: everything when we were talking seemed pretty good, the way
Speaker 1: that everything sounded, and she seemed pretty straightforward, but my
Speaker 1: trust issues kind of came into play and I just
Speaker 1: wanted to sort of see like where her head was at.
Speaker 1: So I actually had one of my closest friends who
Speaker 1: is you know, he's basically a model when he is
Speaker 1: a model and looks, you know, really good looking dude,
Speaker 1: and so he actually matched with her, and I had
Speaker 1: asked him, like, you know, why don't you schedule sort
Speaker 1: of like a date for the same day. I know
Speaker 1: this is crazy, and you know, it's like putting it
Speaker 1: all out there, but this is kind of why I feel.
Speaker 1: So this is really disappointing. Hold on, you already knew
Speaker 1: about the other date that she had scheduled. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: he reached out and she already had a date scheduled
Speaker 1: with me. Kid, dude, you set a trap for her. Well,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that, to be honest, she would be
Speaker 1: that thirsty to hop on it. Come on, if you
Speaker 1: had a model that matched with you and wanted to
Speaker 1: go out the same night, you're not telling me that
Speaker 1: you wouldn't book her. Still, I actually would have just
Speaker 1: canceled the other date and gone out with the model.
Speaker 1: Ye are you two dates? You don't want to? Like? Yeah,
Speaker 1: because then it kind of just felt like a pity date,
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, I don't like this. That's low, man.
Speaker 1: I just think that you're missing an opportunity, like if
Speaker 1: you could give her some grace here, like you may
Speaker 1: actually find somebody who you really connect with. And like,
Speaker 1: the reason why I put the test out there was
Speaker 1: because she put on her profile. She's tired of the game,
Speaker 1: she's looking for something really meaningful, and I felt like
Speaker 1: we were aligning really well. I did, and that was
Speaker 1: why I was like before I even how serious are you?
Speaker 1: Or are you just another girl who puts it on
Speaker 1: her profile but really just wants to you know, I
Speaker 1: feel like maybe there is some truth to what she's
Speaker 1: saying there, because she clearly wants to connect with you,
Speaker 1: because she's actually on the other line listening this entire time.
Speaker 1: That doesn't help. Trust is shoes. She wants to talk
Speaker 1: to you right now. Man, Wait, she's listening to this
Speaker 1: whole thing. Yeah, don't you trust her now? She's right there, Jessica, Hi, awkward? Yeah,
Speaker 1: how's it going, Jessica? Not great. I feel really bad
Speaker 1: that I couldn't figure out like what I needed to
Speaker 1: do in that moment and make a better choice. But
Speaker 1: I feel really bad for you and those trust is
Speaker 1: shoes and the mind games and that's wow, that's a lot.
Speaker 1: There's so much on both sides. Like I think you
Speaker 1: both just hang up before we even get into this.
Speaker 1: I'm just too much. I'm not embarrassed at all when
Speaker 1: I did. If anything, I feel like it gave me
Speaker 1: clarity on sort of what you're where you stand, on
Speaker 1: what you're looking for. And I mean, I get it,
Speaker 1: I get why you're you're feeling bad, but like at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, like you could have easily
Speaker 1: just not gone on that date, or you could have
Speaker 1: canceled it, whatever you chose to do that that's totally fine.
Speaker 1: You were set up. I know that's a little embarrassing,
Speaker 1: but I just like you don't have to waste I
Speaker 1: don't think that you can gauge in one date like
Speaker 1: what someone's all about and if they're really serious, Like
Speaker 1: I owed you nothing, And I feel bad that I
Speaker 1: couldn't make the choice because I don't know. I wish
Speaker 1: i'd been more decisive. But I can be decisive right
Speaker 1: now and tell you that absolutely we don't need to
Speaker 1: bother with it because that's my games. I'm not interested.
Speaker 1: You're already cutting it off now. I can totally appreciate that,
Speaker 1: And to be honest, if it wasn't for the fact
Speaker 1: that you texted me back after you were stood up
Speaker 1: asking to hang out again like that same night, I
Speaker 1: totally would have met up for a second date, because
Speaker 1: you know, I just feel little about it, But the
Speaker 1: fact that you text me back right away just kind
Speaker 1: of showed, like how it felt I was into you.
Speaker 1: It says that I was into you. I mean, I
Speaker 1: didn't want to be the one not showing up. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to be the no show because that sucks
Speaker 1: that I know what that feels like. So for whoever
Speaker 1: the other guy was, I didn't want to be that person.
Speaker 1: And when he didn't show up, I was relieved and
Speaker 1: I was like, cool, maybe Vince is still down. Maybe
Speaker 1: I can fix this. You guys are both making it.
Speaker 1: That's a valid point on Jessica's part. I can see
Speaker 1: where she's coming from, and she's probably obviously like, like
Speaker 1: she said, not interested, which is totally fine. I honestly
Speaker 1: don't have any hard feelings toward her. If I saw
Speaker 1: Jessica in the street and we said hello and talk great,
Speaker 1: you just sound a little aggressive, like I should just
Speaker 1: go out and like let your guards down a little bit. Jessica,
Speaker 1: are you not going to apologize to Vince for ditching
Speaker 1: out in the middle of the date? Well, the end
Speaker 1: of the date, paid for half the dinner, like it
Speaker 1: was the end of it. It's not like she'd left
Speaker 1: in the middle, like he should have ologize for Hernce
Speaker 1: did apologize. He was like, I'm sorry if I set
Speaker 1: you up for the trap, but you were the one
Speaker 1: that scheduled another date right after me. Oh, it's not
Speaker 1: a real enough bolz. He none at all. He said,
Speaker 1: I'm proud of what I did. Was this male model
Speaker 1: friend up to anyway? I haven't heard of Jessica apologize once.
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I need to apologize. I did
Speaker 1: not lie to him. I told him I needed to go.
Speaker 1: I didn't owe him anything. Yeah, and it's not your
Speaker 1: it's not your fault, Jessica that his friend was hotter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't about that friend being a hotter you guys, kitty.
Speaker 1: It sounds like we're not going to be able to
Speaker 1: get another date out of this for anybody, But did
Speaker 1: we at least learn an important life lesson from it all? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Online dating is a waste of time. Oh close, this
Speaker 1: show is a waste of time, but you know, thanks
Speaker 1: for playing broken Jeffrey in the morning.