WEBVTT - Sex Like A Man Feat. Mike Johnson 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.840 Women feel like they can get away with more than 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:02.320 a man can. 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:05.000 Yeah, and then it just don't look good like if 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:06.760 a man is like if it may would have come 0:00:06.800 --> 0:00:08.959 out about that, Like the culture we have it doesn't 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:10.320 support that at all. 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:11.000 That's true. 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:13.720 A man that can't comfortably say this bitch was really 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.920 being inappropriate with me and writing anything like Nike A 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:16.240 man up. 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:20.720 That's actually how I got on the show. That's perfectly 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:21.720 how I got on the show. I know we spoke 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:22.440 about a little bit. 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:47.400 So welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:52.440 and I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday, Happy hump Day family. How 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:52.760 are you. 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:55.080 I'm good. How are you? 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.959 I'm good? I am I'm good. 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:02.440 Okay, great. 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:05.680 You know, I feel like as I get older, you 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:07.960 think that like you do you, Like you get into 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:09.920 motherhood and you're like I got this, I know this, 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:12.160 like I can do it, and then there's always these 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:15.039 periods where it's just like what the fuck? Just like 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.080 there's always I feel like as a mother, nobody talks 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:21.720 about enough that like there's so much responsibility on solely 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.040 you to like I feel it, like to like just 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:27.320 supply shit for the family, and sometimes I just think 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.560 about like being alone and eating my own food with 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:32.039 nobody touching it or touching me, or telling me anything 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:34.479 or asking me to do anything, and I think, wow, 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:37.360 am I a bitch? And I just think, no, everybody 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:38.720 just wants pieces of you. 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:40.240 Oh my god, I'm so sorry. 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:46.200 I just had a realization, what, Mela, what you are 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.280 like now a married woman? You don't get breaks anymore. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:51.800 I'm so sorry. 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:53.480 You know you might be like, You're right. 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:56.440 I never equated it to that because I've all, like 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.280 I've we've always been mostly single. 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:00.920 You listening to the show, We've talked tobout how married 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.520 women are fucked because they never get bread. I ever 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:05.880 get breaks, Like even when the kids go away, like 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.160 they're still stuck with the husband or whatever the fuck. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:09.520 There's just always someone in the house. 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.240 Even their self care day is like might get interrupted 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:13.960 for some bullshit. 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.320 You're married now. I'm so sorry. 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:21.760 I think I think that's happy for you, but I'm 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.280 very happy for me too. Someone asked me the other day, 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:28.040 like about Orlando moving here, and I was like, well, 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:29.960 this is the only way that this works for me. 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.440 I was like, no, I need this, I need to 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:36.800 be he needs to be here. It actually makes me 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.920 a better person. But also it is a shift because 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.560 the other day I watched a movie alone and I 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:46.320 was like, this is so great. I just laid on 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:47.880 the couch. I was like, wow, I haven't done this 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.840 in so long. Like I watched that movie like December 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:54.960 June about the fucking crazy pedophilia, fucking teacher who got 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.400 pregnant by her seventh grade student, and I was just 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.720 like in heaven, just alone watching TV, nobody asking me shit. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.639 But I realized, like, can I have this kin of 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:07.840 piece of this cover by this now? And I also 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:09.560 I also came to this own conclusion. No one told 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:12.040 me this, but I think in my past life, whatever 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:14.160 one of my past lives, there was a shortage on food. 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:18.840 I don't know which one. It must have not been 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:19.760 that far away. 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.560 Because probably was the Great Depression. 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:24.560 Every time somebody wants some of my shit, I literally 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:25.120 just want. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.080 To or the Great Famine? What was it? 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.040 Some of the potato famine. 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:30.680 I'm a great time that there was not a lot 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:30.960 of food. 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:32.840 There was a lot of those moments. But I every time, 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:35.560 I'm like, why am I so annoyed by this? I 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:37.800 I've just come to the conclusion that there was a 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:40.240 time where there was scarcity of food, and so that's 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:44.320 why I'm triggered every time still. But I think just 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:46.720 not just being a mom or a wife. I think 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:50.040 it's really just being a business person as well, and 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:54.280 just I just want to lock myself in a beach 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.000 for like thirty days, to lock herself in a beach, yeah, 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:58.200 like just leave me alone. 0:03:58.840 --> 0:03:59.120 Good on. 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.640 But I think it's just me getting older too. I 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.440 think as I get older, I'm like such a friendly 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:06.160 bitch usually and I'm like I'm ready to do this, 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:09.000 I'm ready to do that. And now it's like thirty 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:11.720 five year old woman. I'm like, remember the time we 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:14.160 had the Human Design Aaron on and she was like, 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.640 you probably need to live separately from your husband or 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:18.520 have your own room. And I was like, that bitch 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.200 knew me. I don't want to live separately because I'm 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:23.880 much more needy. I need more things. But I'm just 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:30.840 like I do really need solitude sometimes because like after 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:35.159 four hundred questions or comments, I'm just like I just 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.839 can shake my head and look over and I'm like, wow, 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:40.960 I'm a bitch. But I just think it's the you 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:45.839 know Mother, but I love my family. You know, don't 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:47.800 get it twisted. I do. I love all my family, 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.360 but I understand women who just like one day say 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.120 I'm going to get a cigarettes and never come back 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.800 like a Mother God. Like Mother God. It's fucking psycho 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:56.440 Mother God. 0:04:57.000 --> 0:04:57.680 I got. 0:04:57.720 --> 0:04:58.360 I'm obsessed. 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.000 If anyone has not yet, I've been putting everyone on 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:03.040 to this documentary. 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:08.760 It's called Love Winds, Love Love. I think Love Winds. 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:10.440 That's why I said they stole it from the gays. 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:15.120 Love Winds the Cult of Mother God. Please go watch this. 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.240 Love has one the calls. 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:20.080 One the cult of Mother God. 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:21.880 I'm not finished with it, but I do want to 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:23.560 say it's a cult of this white bitch who's like 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:27.200 basically trailer park trash who started getting to spiritualism, did 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:29.680 ecstasy once and then people started coming to her cult, 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.000 which is crazy that it was that easy. But which 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:34.920 really really got me is that there were two black 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:38.600 people that I saw. But wait, let's rewind. Because she 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:39.960 was not trailer park trash. 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.640 Yeah she I saw her. She came from a well 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:43.320 to do family. 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:45.200 No, she was working. She's a manager at McDonald's. 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.040 Baby, that's because she needed a job. She was like 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:47.640 a teenager. 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.400 Then now she they struggled with money. 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.159 Trailer park trash is a stretch. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:55.839 I don't think I'm the end of it. The bitch 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:59.440 was trailer park trash. Listen that can that's up for debate. 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.039 Mind No, white bitch, she looks like chili park trash. 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.120 She's about to starve me and tell me what to do. 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.479 I just don't. I can't imagine me being ever so 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.680 hopeless and desperate for that. And it just was like, 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:13.200 it's really a deep dive into the psyche of hopeless people, 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:16.440 and I'm really obsessed with it. But it's also like scary, 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:18.920 how like sad people are that they would just go. 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:21.760 Well, she just went to dinner one day with her 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.800 family on her birthday and then said fuck you guys 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:24.279 and went home. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.599 No, she said I'm leaving, and they thought it was normal, 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.080 and they came home and all her shit was gone. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.160 She had three kids, and literally she never came back. 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.880 She went and found her father god, one of her 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.680 many father gods, and started a whole cult in which 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:42.000 people paid her for readings, and she spread some bullshit 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:45.760 and that she had a galactic team that consisted of 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:48.120 Robin Williams. 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:49.120 Donald Trump, Marilyn Monroe, and Tupac. 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:52.680 There's a lot of people in there that those were 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:55.040 the main ones that I was just really wanted her 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.120 to get more into the Tupac, but. 0:06:59.120 --> 0:06:59.680 Never into that. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.960 Fuck. I'm not done with it. I need to finish 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:03.800 that tonight. That's actually gonna be my like, leave me 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:05.000 the fuck alone, be silent. 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.320 We're watching Mother God right now. 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:07.880 It's so good. 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.240 I want to I want to remake it as a spoof, 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:12.280 and I want to play the black girl who was there, 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:13.000 because I. 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:16.840 Want the one that like never spoke, because I only 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:18.720 saw her in like the surveillance video. 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.560 The surveillance one Black Eye. I really want to. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:23.840 I really want to ask these niggas, what in the 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:25.720 fuck happened to you for you to be here with 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:27.760 this white bitch, because this is crazy. 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:30.000 Anyway. 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:33.120 Anyway, Sorry, don't abandon your family like Mother God and 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:35.280 go start your own cult. Although you'd be a great 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.040 cult leader, you know, I saw I saw traces of 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.840 myself and her too. She was like looking into people's 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:42.000 eyes and telling them how great they were. 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:42.560 I'm like, that's me. 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.720 Well, the whole thing was about pleasure, like it's so pleasurable. 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:46.480 Nothing's bad. 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:47.000 That's bad. 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:50.320 Alcohol, cigarettes, weed, it's out's all medicine. It's all medicine 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:52.840 if you use it intentionally. But then she was witch, 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:56.120 was a raging alcoholic, but she was using it as medicine. 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:58.880 And they were like, for most people, alcohol is medicine, 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.440 but for Mother God, it helped her channel for the 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:04.080 pain of the world. I saw her be Robin Williams 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:08.560 when she was on alcohol. I was like, bitch, you're nuts. Yeah, yeah, 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:09.960 please go watch that. 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.840 We were not on HBO Max. If anyone has any 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:13.800 trouble finding it. 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:16.960 If only, if only they were sponsoring this this, I 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:20.120 really wish they were. If anyone works at HBO, call 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:27.400 us or Netflix, I'll watch more TV for you. But anyway, 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:31.800 we have a guest. We have a very special guest 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:33.720 here today. I know people on YouTube hat when we 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:35.440 do this, but you know, we got to catch up 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.200 with each other because we didn't see each other yesterday. 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.360 We didn't talk four times today already, No, not at all. 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.520 Today we have a special guest who is my dear 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:50.480 friend and my my uh my colleague. We just graduated 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:59.240 from sexology and tantric practitioner school. Mike Johnson, Hi, Mike, 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:00.760 you don't how are you? 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:02.920 I'm great, I'm good to be here with y'all. This is, 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:06.080 like I think from my audience, for me to be 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.040 here is really cool. I've never done something I felt 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:09.120 so comfortable right now. 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:10.560 So perfect, you look comfortable. 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.000 Lean him back and shit, we'll be friends. That's my 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:14.240 songa brother. Wait? 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:17.280 Wait, and can I also add to the introduction because 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.000 he is an author, he is a sex coach. 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:22.520 He is an the sexologist. 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:23.600 Trump's the sex coach. 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.559 Sex coach, sexology for sure? Okay, can you be both? 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:26.959 Do you do so? 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:27.800 Identify as both? 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.840 It's a sexology, it's a sexology. Sex coach was cool, 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.719 but you know we've upgraded that title. But I appreciate it. 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.000 So wait, when you were a sex coach, were you 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:37.720 helping people have better sex? Is that what you were 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:38.559 doing or I. 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:40.280 Mean that's a part of it. I think that a 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:42.440 sexologist is just a greater version of what a sex 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.480 coach what I was doing. And so as a sex coach, 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.160 if someone needs to have someone desires to have better sex, 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:51.360 someone desires to have more sex. It was mainly I 0:09:51.360 --> 0:09:53.200 would say as a sex coach. Where I did was 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:57.839 conflict resolution within relationships, and of course sex was always 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.640 a part of that. I loved it was fun. That 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:02.560 was amazing. I want more of it. 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:04.000 So how did you go from? 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:05.959 For those of you who are watching on YouTube, you 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:07.920 might be looking at Mike and be like, why does 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:12.240 he look familiar? And if you watch network television then 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.839 I don't. But if you look, if you look at him, 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:22.880 you might say him just really closely, might say he 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:24.360 was he on the Bachelorette? 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:26.880 Was he on on ABC? ABC? 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.080 Well, let me see you, let me see your demographic, 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:30.199 and I'll tell you they know who I am. 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:32.760 People don't really knowing exactly when. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.000 I go to Atlanta, when I go to Dallas, the 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:34.760 might know who I am. 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:37.000 I only know that because I looked on your Instagram 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:41.280 and I was like, this niggas on the Bachelor, He's famous. 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:42.920 How did you wait? 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:44.280 First of all, how did you Because we're gonna get 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:46.520 into all the sex, but I'm very curious, how did 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:46.920 you get on? 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:48.200 How did you? Why? 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:51.240 Why you never watching? 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:54.800 Mike's a very handsome man. There's only like two niggas 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:57.200 at our school, and the bitches were flocking poor Mike 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:00.560 the whole week at school. I was like, oh my god, 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:01.920 I need to save him. You know, you're in the 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.400 club and you see your friend like say something like that. 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.440 I'm like trying to wink, like save me. I was like, 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:08.520 oh my god, if the bitches don't leave Mike the 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:10.720 fuck alone. And I was like, this feels to be 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:13.520 a tall, handsome black man because I feel bad for you. 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.400 I mean, isn't I think that women have it more? 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.320 So I know it's gonna say you don't you experience 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:21.640 this girl? The bitches are aggressive, they don't have no yeah, 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:23.719 because because I think women feel like they can get 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:24.960 away with more than a man can't. 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:27.280 Hell yeah sure, and then it just don't look good 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:29.160 like if a man is like if it may would 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:30.640 have come out about that, like the culture we have 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:32.880 it doesn't support that at all. 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.640 That's true. A man that can't comfortably say this bitch 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:38.360 was really being inappropriate with me and writing anything like Nike, 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:38.800 A man up. 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:42.040 That's actually how I got on the show. Tell us 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:44.000 that that's perfectly how I got on show. I know 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:46.000 we spoke about it a little bit, so I was, uh, 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:49.480 you know, they say when he get his heart broke. 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.640 It take him a long time, like he really loved 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:53.160 the girl. I don't know if it's true or not 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:54.400 what it did for me, And it took me a 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:56.400 long time. And then I was over. And then I 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:59.640 was you know, I did him a little face, uh 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.280 horrible stories face her face, whole face. And then it 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:07.080 was like I just was ready to be married. I 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:08.400 was ready. I was for real. 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:10.560 I was like, I went from hoe into I'm a husband. 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:12.480 Well, it was never really trying to be a who. 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:16.640 It was just all about or you know how you 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.640 know I'm for real? Do you know how boring it 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:22.000 is being single and not being bad? 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.480 I resonate with this, believe what our whole show is 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:28.240 about about being a hoe and then saying, actually I 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:28.840 want to be a wife. 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:40.240 About five years that was fun, but now three hundred 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:42.199 and sixty five times five, that's how many days it 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:43.760 took to realize we wanted to be wives. 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:48.680 Hey, we were there, you know, turned on and I 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:50.160 said I'm a wife today. 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:53.120 I mean that's what life is, just a bunch of errors. 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:55.480 Right eras as an ear So when. 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.080 The husband switch turned on, you said, I know what, 0:12:58.840 --> 0:12:59.959 I'm going to join the bachelor. 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:02.440 No, so like the husband switch turner. I was deployed 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.440 in the military, and I remember I was like talking 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:05.559 to guy one day and I was like, yeah, I 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:07.600 want the hard road up. And I was I think 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:10.600 I was twenty four at the time, right, yeah, I 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:12.320 think if I was talking about twenty four year old homies, 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:13.080 I was like, nah, bro. 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:15.680 You want the hard road up. You mean like you 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:17.880 want to like really work hard for love? 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:21.040 No, meaning, Like, I think a part of the issue 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.400 with a lot of dating culture today is that we'll 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:29.320 swipe right culture and so therefore, when shit happens, you 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:31.840 could easily leave that situation. That's what I mean by 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.640 hard road up. Like, actually, to be honest, what hard 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:38.400 road up means is working on your own shit. That's 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:39.920 what it means. In comparison is just. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.160 Like just backing out, backing down the moment. 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:44.680 Yeah, it's a little and like blaming shit and like 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.160 you know that all that stuff that people will be doing. Okay, 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:48.360 So that's what I mean by that. 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:50.920 Wait, so tell me how you got on. 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:54.240 Oh my bad, my bad, my bad bad. So I 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.920 was I was at work, I was the financial Levisa. 0:13:57.960 --> 0:13:59.400 My homie that he's the way that put me on 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:02.320 the show. I was I was getting a bunch of 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.920 texts at the time, and like I just threw my 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.360 phone one day, I just threw my phone across the 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.520 room because like, and I was just saying, all these 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:16.800 girls want to do is just fuck. It's weird. 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:19.680 I don't say that you had had enough of these hoes. 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:20.600 They just wanted to fuck? 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:22.120 Yeah. 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:22.760 Wow. 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:26.360 Ever, No, that's one hundred percent false. Like you know, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:28.360 you know how Drake is on his. 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.120 But what made you feel. 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:31.720 Like they just wanted to They were like text you 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:33.760 late night, they were like sending you news. They just 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:37.280 weren't hitting you seriously. They weren't like engaging in serious 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:38.600 wifey conversations. 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:40.760 No, I think they were trying to get in serious conversation. 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:42.520 I think that that that's that's just what they wanted 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:47.440 at that time. Okay, So I mean, yeah, I was 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:50.080 just I wanted, like, damn, can we like go on 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:54.680 a date or some ship? I don't know, like, like 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.320 can we do more than just fucking? Like I don't 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:57.720 want to feel like a piece of meat all the time? 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.680 That it was I really I really enjoy hearing a 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:02.400 man say that way. 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.720 So then from there they then your friend said you 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:05.800 should join the Bachelor. 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.520 Hell no, He was laughing his a off. He was like, 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:12.640 what man that can get pussy? That ain't no girls 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:15.680 around would say something like that. He was so like 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:19.400 just perplexed, dying laughing at me, like forever. He just 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.320 couldn't get it through his head. He was just like, 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.800 why would you say that, bro, you because he's not 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:27.200 I don't want to talk about the helmie. 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.960 Right there, but he ain't getting pussy, like you. 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:32.160 Not there yet? 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:34.560 But okay, yeah, you know what I mean. He wasn't 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:36.160 there yet at that time, right, this is years ago, 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:38.480 and so he was just dying laughing at me. And 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.240 then a few weeks later he sent me, like a 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:43.040 who even goes on Facebook? No more? A Facebook message 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:45.400 and it was like applying for the show. And I 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:49.360 was off work that day, and you said, I was like, yeah, 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:50.680 it wasn't even divine Tommy. 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.400 It was just like it sounds like it was off 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:53.360 work that day you had time. 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:57.080 He was looking for love, but I wasn't, like I 0:15:57.080 --> 0:15:58.840 ain't I was looking for love. I was just like 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:00.520 wanting the real thing, right. I think when we say 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:02.720 looking for love, we think about like you out here 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.880 searching and shit like. It was just more so like 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:06.720 I ain't got time for you. I ain't got time 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.200 for you. I gotta work on myself. Like if you 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:09.240 come through, then you come through. 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:11.320 Had you watched the show at that point? 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:12.120 Never? 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:13.080 Okay, never? 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:14.440 I never I heard of this show. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:16.000 I was like, there's mostly been only white women. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.320 It was zero. I watched zero episodes, And at that 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:21.120 time my life, I didn't know who Chris Harrison was. 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.960 He's the goat host of the show, right, he was 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:25.160 doing it for like twenty years or whatever. 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.360 But has it been around twenty years? 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:29.680 It's been around since one. 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.640 It has been around that long. We're in high school. 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:32.280 The fuck. 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:34.600 It has been around since O one. But no, I 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:36.360 didn't know. I mean I knew it was a white 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.440 show because it wasn't in It wasn't just in my circles, right, 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:40.960 That's just how I knew it was a white show. 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.280 But I was why not? 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.680 Were you like one of two black guys or something 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:47.160 on the show? 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:48.640 Maybe three? 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:52.200 It's a good question. I think. I think after the 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:56.560 first day it was like four max five of us, 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:59.880 And I'm talking about that includes have black guys as well. 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:02.640 If you have black and you I'm including that. 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:04.840 How long did you How long did you last? 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:09.960 You guys sexology? How long did you last? 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:10.720 Mate? 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:14.360 I got sent home. There's a thing to call hometowns 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:16.680 to where they go like to your mama house and 0:17:16.680 --> 0:17:18.600 they meet your people or whatever. I got sent home 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:19.320 the week before that. 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:21.000 But you you opted to go home? 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:21.240 Right? 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.840 No, tell you inside scoop. 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:28.680 They they I got I got sent home. Yeah, I 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:29.320 got sent home. 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:34.080 He got sent home, Jamila, Okay, mouth, Okay. 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:37.400 His mom told him, don't come home. No, who can't 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:43.320 use my comb? And so he didn't go home home home, like, 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:45.879 don't said, don't bring up black, don't no girl home, 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:46.800 she can't use my comb? 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:48.800 Okay, So okay, I got it. 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:52.560 Don't bring a non black woman home. Let me translate. 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.680 Well, you know, you know what I find if it's 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.280 curious about this to me? And you know, how how 0:17:57.280 --> 0:17:59.399 old were you when you were on the Bachelor one? 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:06.239 You were tired of these hosts texting you? But then 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:10.040 you got on the Bachelor, which Bachelorette, which almost for 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.720 me when I watch that show especially like well for 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.120 both for both sides of Bachelorette a bachelor it kind 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:17.760 of feels like a meat market sort of like you know, 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:20.680 like because unless you're going, unless you get way far 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:22.960 in and that's when people finally kind of get to 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:24.400 like know each other. 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:25.879 But it is kind of. 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:28.280 Like swiping right a little bit because it's very based 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:32.399 on like what you look like at first, right for. 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:33.840 The lead person, the male or the female like the 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.359 bachelor bachelorette for them a bit more so, I mean, 0:18:37.359 --> 0:18:37.880 maybe they have. 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.000 A different mentality going in, like they're not they know, 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:42.280 they're not just looking for someone with looks and there. 0:18:42.320 --> 0:18:43.760 I mean, I think about it like this, like if 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:45.960 I was ever a bachelor, if it's thirty women, right, 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.119 I'm only going to be sexually attracted to probably for 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:52.760 y'all max, probably six, right, unless they ask me exactly 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:55.000 who my type is. Right, So let's say six women 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:57.760 right from a sexual and just looks perspective, and then 0:18:58.440 --> 0:19:02.160 out of those six women get oh that think things 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:05.680 like ten eleven weeks, twelve weeks to get to know her, 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:07.320 for her to get to know me, And so I 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:10.199 think it's it's more than just a meat market, I think. 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:13.239 But I mean, I ain't gonna lie to you, like 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:15.480 when you get off the show, or will you go 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:17.760 on Bachelor in Paradise. Bachelor of Paradise is what you're 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:18.160 talking about. 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:19.560 You did that one too, I did. 0:19:19.920 --> 0:19:25.720 Yeah, Peanut Gallery over there. 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:28.240 There's never been a black bachelor. 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:30.240 There has Yeah there was, yeah. 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:32.399 One time in twenty years. Once in twenty years. 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:35.520 Yeah, once in twenty will be in twenty twenty four, 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:37.280 once in twenty three years. Yeah, it's crazy. 0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:39.160 I can see being a Bachelor. 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:41.960 I mean it's it is such a phenomenon, like I 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:47.800 like the kind of loyalty these contents, like as you 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:51.880 as a contestant, and like the Bachelorette, like the fans. 0:19:52.040 --> 0:19:53.160 There's like such super fans. 0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:57.720 I mean there's podcasts literally just just about the Bachelor, 0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:00.000 and they kill it, like they get crazy. 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.200 He listened to Black Girls One Road, shut Out. 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:04.879 Yeah, yeah, they kill it. 0:20:04.960 --> 0:20:08.359 Like there's such a there's such a huge market. 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:11.520 I think at one point that show, that franchise was 0:20:11.560 --> 0:20:16.000 the second biggest unscripted television show in America behind Shark Tank. 0:20:16.600 --> 0:20:18.720 And so yeah, the show is huge. I mean going 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:21.199 to other countries and getting recognized is pretty cool, Like 0:20:21.240 --> 0:20:24.240 I never thought that would happen. So it's a big show. 0:20:24.280 --> 0:20:27.639 So then from there, how how did you get from 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:32.520 there into sex coaching and wanting to be a sexologist 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:34.320 and like, were you always interested in sex? 0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:37.520 And like, yeah, I mean not, Okay, that's a stupid question. 0:20:39.160 --> 0:20:43.600 Were you always interested in I guess coaching, coaching, leading 0:20:43.760 --> 0:20:44.760 in the sex industry. 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:46.679 So what's funny is that I remember I was in 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:49.520 I was eighteen, and I told my homie shout out 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:52.840 Jay caused me. I was like, bro, I'm thinking about, like, 0:20:52.840 --> 0:20:55.200 what if I became a doctor of sex. I really 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:56.800 I remember saying that at eighteen. I was like, look, 0:20:56.840 --> 0:21:00.800 I'm gonna have money, my wife gonna be uh good, 0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:02.760 she gonna be feeling good because I'm gonna be sexual. 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:05.119 What it would also have a mindset to understand some 0:21:05.160 --> 0:21:07.200 things from a mental aspect. I said, well, mama gonna 0:21:07.200 --> 0:21:09.640 be hapy because I'm a doctor. Like I really thought 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:11.800 about all these different aspects of that, and then you know, 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:14.560 obviously life goes on, and then I just came back 0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:16.080 into the field for a few reasons. 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:17.960 How old were you when you lost your virginity. 0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:22.240 I don't think I've ever said it. 0:21:22.880 --> 0:21:25.119 Eleven was a girl older than you? 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:27.080 Yeah, significantly. 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:32.160 What's significant at eleven? Like yeah, so yeah, she was four. 0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:35.240 Nineteen, w we gotta go find her. 0:21:35.280 --> 0:21:38.639 That's not that's that's pedophilia. 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:43.440 It is okay, is your nanny like a girl in 0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:44.040 the neighborhood. 0:21:44.720 --> 0:21:47.040 But I remember when I was five years old. Yes, 0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:49.200 women do stuff too, for sure. When I was five 0:21:49.280 --> 0:21:53.159 years old, my babysitter, like yeah, like fondle. It was 0:21:53.160 --> 0:21:54.920 like I remember, I was in Germany, were playing hide 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:56.639 and go seek, and I came upstairs and she was 0:21:56.720 --> 0:22:00.320 naked on the bed and like, so yeah, there's definitely 0:22:00.400 --> 0:22:03.440 moments that I think helped me to become a sexologist, 0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:07.400 to understand and to work through my own emotional wounds, 0:22:07.400 --> 0:22:10.480 and to really I got into the field, like will 0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:14.159 ultimately put it, because there's like four things. But the 0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:18.840 last straw, I guess was when I didn't know what 0:22:18.840 --> 0:22:21.080 to do in the situation my X we had a miscarriage, 0:22:21.440 --> 0:22:23.200 and so I was like, I don't want to be 0:22:23.240 --> 0:22:25.960 a dumb dude. I don't cheat, and we weren't having sex, 0:22:26.000 --> 0:22:28.240 and so it was like that shit was piecing me 0:22:28.320 --> 0:22:30.879 off right, and I didn't know what to do. But 0:22:31.040 --> 0:22:32.920 I didn't know I was ignorant. The time, I didn't 0:22:32.920 --> 0:22:35.360 know how to because we could talk about my son 0:22:35.400 --> 0:22:37.000 and say how bad guys are, right, But it's two 0:22:37.040 --> 0:22:40.320 sides to a story, and it's two sides to a relationship, 0:22:40.640 --> 0:22:42.560 and it's two brains in a relationship unless you're in 0:22:42.560 --> 0:22:44.560 a throuble, right, then it's three or more. And so 0:22:44.720 --> 0:22:51.360 like I didn't know how to. I didn't understand that 0:22:52.280 --> 0:22:55.680 what if she's not conveying something that nothing is not there? Right, 0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.680 It's like and this is where you know, you got 0:22:58.680 --> 0:23:00.879 to convey how you feel because is like your partner 0:23:01.000 --> 0:23:03.280 isn't a mind reader. But at the same time, I 0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:05.320 want it to be better to be able to pick 0:23:05.400 --> 0:23:06.960 up on social keys, to be able to pick up 0:23:07.000 --> 0:23:09.200 on just a little just small things. 0:23:10.920 --> 0:23:15.440 Yeah, I'm really happy that you just, you know, called 0:23:15.440 --> 0:23:17.399 a spade a spade. I think a lot of a 0:23:17.400 --> 0:23:20.520 lot of men, there's so much ego, and there's so 0:23:20.600 --> 0:23:26.160 much patriarchy, and there's so much fucked up rhetoric around men, 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:29.240 like masculinity and femininity, and like with how that shows 0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:31.600 up that a lot of men that I know have 0:23:32.000 --> 0:23:35.840 lost their virginity really early to women that are significantly 0:23:35.880 --> 0:23:40.399 older that are it's it's like it's it's it's molestation 0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:45.040 or you know, really rape, and they don't equate it 0:23:45.080 --> 0:23:47.440 as such as trauma because they're like thinking that they're 0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:49.680 the young man, like the man of some sort, or 0:23:49.720 --> 0:23:51.560 they're just like because they're a man, that that's not 0:23:51.880 --> 0:23:55.120 a real thing. And so they are carrying this trauma, 0:23:55.359 --> 0:23:58.800 unhealed trauma and not even processing or recognizing how it 0:23:58.800 --> 0:24:00.520 relates to how they treat women or how they show 0:24:00.600 --> 0:24:03.440 up or like even man not recognizing that like damn, 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:05.720 I don't know shit about how I can support this 0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:08.280 woman or what like what this looks like. And then 0:24:08.280 --> 0:24:10.600 they just they're okay with that. They keep moving through 0:24:10.600 --> 0:24:13.600 the world with that, you know, that perception like just 0:24:13.640 --> 0:24:17.280 I guess it's mostly just like compartmentalizing and am in 0:24:17.320 --> 0:24:19.600 a way that like, well, this doesn't mean that and 0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:23.360 just moving forward. And I think that like if any 0:24:23.400 --> 0:24:25.800 meno is into this right now, or women who have 0:24:25.880 --> 0:24:28.080 partners that have experienced things like that and they like 0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:30.520 blow it off or you know, sweep it under their carpet, 0:24:30.600 --> 0:24:34.800 like it's really time to start understanding like yourself in 0:24:34.840 --> 0:24:38.679 a way that recognizes trauma is trauma or else you 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:40.600 cannot process it and you cannot heal from it, and 0:24:40.640 --> 0:24:43.760 you'll project those those you know, that that form of 0:24:43.960 --> 0:24:45.480 abuse onto other people. 0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:47.320 Even if it's not just like that, you know. 0:24:47.359 --> 0:24:49.240 And I think it's just such a it's so fucked 0:24:49.320 --> 0:24:51.240 up that we live in this world that kind of 0:24:53.600 --> 0:24:57.200 makes it okay for boys to like have these these 0:24:57.240 --> 0:25:00.600 sexual experiences with people significantly older than them, and they 0:25:00.640 --> 0:25:04.400 don't really we just don't really talk about it as 0:25:04.480 --> 0:25:05.040 what it is. 0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:07.520 I think that's a part of the issue right there, 0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:11.320 is that we in our society talk about how niggas 0:25:11.320 --> 0:25:13.440 ain't shit, and I agree, niggas ain't shit a lot 0:25:13.440 --> 0:25:15.640 of the times, right, But what we don't hardly ever 0:25:15.680 --> 0:25:20.560 talk about is that at some bitches ain't shit either, 0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:23.240 and so like, but that aspect, since we can't have 0:25:23.320 --> 0:25:27.800 that conversation, right, A lot of men just compartmentalize things 0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:30.080 and just put that down. But women do the same thing, 0:25:30.160 --> 0:25:34.240 put stuff down, compartmentalize fawning, right, and so therefore you 0:25:34.359 --> 0:25:39.480 got both people just like a cycle. It's a fucking cycle, 0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:40.600 and so like that's what it is. And so I 0:25:40.600 --> 0:25:41.439 wanted to kind of stop that. 0:25:43.119 --> 0:25:45.200 I can't help but think that like because I too, 0:25:45.280 --> 0:25:48.720 have met a lot of men that have been raped 0:25:48.840 --> 0:25:51.320 or molested in their childhood and they won't. 0:25:51.520 --> 0:25:53.399 They have a hard time calling it that. 0:25:54.000 --> 0:25:57.119 And I think, I wonder maybe you can shed some 0:25:57.240 --> 0:26:00.080 light on this because I'm not a man, but I 0:26:00.080 --> 0:26:06.480 feel like rape, well two, I to have to say 0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:09.040 that out loud somehow that becomes part of your identity. 0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:14.800 And if and like a man getting raped, I want 0:26:14.800 --> 0:26:19.119 to say, feels like a feminine problem because so many 0:26:19.160 --> 0:26:22.199 women experience this, so it they almost feel like it 0:26:22.280 --> 0:26:24.639 feminizes them in some way, like they're a little like 0:26:24.640 --> 0:26:28.520 they're bitch, you know, like they and so, And because 0:26:29.200 --> 0:26:32.600 they don't acknowledge it as so they try to empower 0:26:32.680 --> 0:26:36.880 themselves and say, oh, yeah, I fought my babysitter when 0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:38.720 I was twelve and she was twenty two, you know, 0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:41.840 and it was like I was that nick. It was experience, 0:26:42.240 --> 0:26:45.640 because to say I was raped feels emasculating. 0:26:45.680 --> 0:26:46.560 Emasculating. 0:26:46.840 --> 0:26:49.880 Yeah, words matter, words matter? Where's matter? Right? 0:26:50.040 --> 0:26:53.320 So Like I'm wondering if it's that word in particular 0:26:54.000 --> 0:26:57.640 that doesn't allow men to really acknowledge. I mean, I'm 0:26:57.640 --> 0:27:00.159 sure it's more than that, but I wonder I'll so 0:27:00.280 --> 0:27:02.880 if that word, in particular, as it pertains to a man, 0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:07.040 makes them feel like we weak or like, ah, that's 0:27:07.040 --> 0:27:09.080 not what happened. I can't relate to that. Well, and 0:27:09.119 --> 0:27:10.320 don't get raped, But think. 0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:11.879 About the word rape in general. I'm gonna have to 0:27:11.880 --> 0:27:14.200 put a trigger rinny on this episode, but just in general, 0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:14.919 even for women. 0:27:15.480 --> 0:27:17.520 I've been raped, and it took me a long. 0:27:17.320 --> 0:27:21.280 Time to say that that word, particularly because it felt 0:27:21.720 --> 0:27:23.320 aggressive and not that it had to be a part 0:27:23.320 --> 0:27:26.639 of my identity, but that that was too heavy of 0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:29.160 a burden to put on somebody. Like even if someone 0:27:29.160 --> 0:27:31.320 has forced themselves on a woman, a woman's not gonna 0:27:31.320 --> 0:27:34.280 be like it's you're a rapist, you raped me. It's 0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:37.000 like it almost feels like I can't say that, you 0:27:37.000 --> 0:27:38.240 know what I mean, Like I can't say that, Like 0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:39.880 I won't say that because most women, let's be real, 0:27:39.920 --> 0:27:42.280 like get raped by people they know, you know, and 0:27:42.359 --> 0:27:46.320 like it just feels like this heavy, this heavy like 0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:49.280 sentence to put on someone, like it's such a huge accusation. 0:27:49.440 --> 0:27:51.400 Even if it is what it is, you're not going 0:27:51.440 --> 0:27:54.080 to like say that. And so I think it's a 0:27:54.119 --> 0:27:57.879 heavy word, but like it triggers men with women so differently, 0:27:58.240 --> 0:28:00.080 you know, because I do think it makes men feel 0:28:00.119 --> 0:28:02.760 like in some ways weak, and I think women too, 0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:04.840 But for women it's just more scary to be like 0:28:04.920 --> 0:28:06.879 the woman who made that accusation. 0:28:07.240 --> 0:28:09.560 I don't think it's just like an automatic thing, like 0:28:09.600 --> 0:28:11.439 you're born a man, you're born a woman, therefore you 0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:13.359 think this way. I think it's just the conditionings we 0:28:13.400 --> 0:28:16.480 have a society, one hundred percent, Like I grew up 0:28:16.520 --> 0:28:21.640 in a you know environment in Dallas and where being 0:28:21.720 --> 0:28:25.720 light skinned going to big t and like niggas want 0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:27.400 to test me, you know what I mean, just because 0:28:27.440 --> 0:28:29.280 of the melanin in my skin, right, And I think 0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.639 the same thing when we talk about, you know, taking 0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:35.840 advantage of someone like, it's the the culture around it, 0:28:36.640 --> 0:28:38.440 truly what it is. I think that when you mentioned 0:28:38.480 --> 0:28:41.520 the word feminine, I think that even the way we 0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:45.720 think of it is incorrect in terms of male female. 0:28:45.800 --> 0:28:47.600 We all have this within us, right, and so I 0:28:47.640 --> 0:28:53.480 think of a person who has both qualities, and I 0:28:53.480 --> 0:28:56.800 think Kanye West has both qualities right truly and lives 0:28:56.840 --> 0:28:58.920 both sides of that to be able to have a 0:28:58.960 --> 0:29:01.120 plan to make that shit happen, but then also to 0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:03.080 be creative as fucking then just to sit with what's 0:29:03.120 --> 0:29:06.080 going on. And so I think that my girl and 0:29:06.120 --> 0:29:11.880 I talk about this often in terms of what we 0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:17.760 see as a man right, the ability to have both truly, 0:29:17.960 --> 0:29:20.280 like the marriage of the two, Like to be able. 0:29:20.080 --> 0:29:22.920 To the feminine and the masculine. 0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:25.320 Yeah, to be able to be a nigga. Don't mean 0:29:25.360 --> 0:29:29.520 like that don't mean you are not hard. That don't 0:29:29.560 --> 0:29:32.560 mean that you were queer of some sort. That just 0:29:32.600 --> 0:29:35.479 means like you able to speak on your shit and 0:29:35.520 --> 0:29:38.320 then stand up and stand on that. Right. I think 0:29:38.320 --> 0:29:40.640 that that, I think truly that makes us stronger. You 0:29:40.680 --> 0:29:42.240 feel me like we talking about what strength? Did you 0:29:42.280 --> 0:29:44.640 mentioned the word weak mealer? Right? That makes you stronger? 0:29:45.080 --> 0:29:46.160 Male or female? Right? 0:29:50.640 --> 0:29:54.400 So, like growing up, I'm curious about your upbringing and 0:29:54.560 --> 0:29:57.840 just your history with sex, Like with sex something that 0:29:57.880 --> 0:30:01.040 your parents talk to you about or was it something 0:30:01.040 --> 0:30:02.680 that you kind of had to like do your own 0:30:03.360 --> 0:30:06.760 due diligence on, Like did you able to talk to 0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:10.240 your parents about sex at all or like how to 0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:13.040 have good sex? Or I mean probably not, that's the reach. 0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:17.360 But like you're from Texas, my dad is from Texas. 0:30:17.400 --> 0:30:20.200 I don't talk about that yp of shit. But yeah, 0:30:20.240 --> 0:30:22.080 I'm just curious, like, did you have that kind of 0:30:22.480 --> 0:30:25.000 openness in your in your bringing? 0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:27.360 Not at all, I would say. I remember one time 0:30:28.160 --> 0:30:30.160 I think my mom called me looking call me looking 0:30:30.200 --> 0:30:32.880 at like a Playboy magazine of some sort, right, and 0:30:32.880 --> 0:30:35.920 then she got mad at me or whatever, and my 0:30:35.960 --> 0:30:38.480 grandma was like, at least he's reading Never. 0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:41.800 Okay, Granny, I never get that. 0:30:41.760 --> 0:30:43.040 Shut out, so you feel me? 0:30:43.120 --> 0:30:50.040 And then not at least he's reading the pictures, Granny, 0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:53.000 you know you feel me. 0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:55.360 It was words in it, but uh, you know what 0:30:55.480 --> 0:30:56.680 is a wreck? Right? You know you don't know if 0:30:56.680 --> 0:30:59.360 we talk about the country were talking about, and so like, 0:31:00.560 --> 0:31:03.200 there wasn't I remember mom when I was like eleven, 0:31:03.240 --> 0:31:05.600 twelve thirteen, maybe she sent me she gave me a 0:31:05.640 --> 0:31:08.800 pamphlet of like how to look at your testicles or 0:31:08.840 --> 0:31:11.440 whatever it is, make sure they straight. And that was 0:31:11.480 --> 0:31:14.480 really about it. Oh and then my aunt I remember 0:31:14.520 --> 0:31:17.120 her saying one time she said, because I got caught 0:31:17.160 --> 0:31:20.400 watching porn or something, and she said, uh, he got 0:31:20.400 --> 0:31:21.360 to learn from somewhere. 0:31:21.560 --> 0:31:22.520 Oh no, ye. 0:31:23.080 --> 0:31:24.440 Would you say there was like one six? 0:31:24.600 --> 0:31:27.480 Because I feel like, because now you work in this 0:31:27.560 --> 0:31:32.360 space and it's you know, like tantra specifically, it's it's 0:31:33.000 --> 0:31:39.320 it's like for a straight black man from Texas, I'm 0:31:39.360 --> 0:31:43.600 not being a what do you call yourself geographically discriminative. 0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.400 I'm just curious because like that's such a I don't 0:31:48.400 --> 0:31:49.719 want to say it's not a wild practice. 0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:51.080 What's the word I'm looking for? 0:31:51.080 --> 0:31:51.840 Foreign It's not. 0:31:52.040 --> 0:31:54.760 It's taboo. It's not traditional for a black person period. 0:31:54.920 --> 0:31:57.440 We think anything outside of Christianity is the devil. 0:31:57.760 --> 0:31:59.080 Yeah, Buddhism, Like, how. 0:31:58.920 --> 0:32:02.720 Do you go from not having you know, any sort 0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:06.160 of like guidance per se then to this space like 0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:08.160 was there? Because a lot of times I do find 0:32:08.200 --> 0:32:12.400 that men that are sexually explorative and very open usually 0:32:12.400 --> 0:32:15.720 there's like that one partner that like bust them open 0:32:16.320 --> 0:32:19.160 and that one woman that like opened them up. Was 0:32:19.200 --> 0:32:21.440 that is that the case for you or was it 0:32:21.520 --> 0:32:24.920 kind of just like a journey of like an un 0:32:25.480 --> 0:32:26.640 like um blossoming. 0:32:27.080 --> 0:32:28.760 I don't think nobody had to bust me open. 0:32:28.800 --> 0:32:30.560 I was just I came out, for lack of a 0:32:30.560 --> 0:32:31.200 better word. 0:32:31.320 --> 0:32:34.680 I came out ready. But yeah, I didn't have that 0:32:34.760 --> 0:32:37.080 experience the work I was with somebody who just turned 0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:37.840 me out per se. 0:32:37.880 --> 0:32:39.040 Well, I wanted to turn you out, but just like 0:32:39.080 --> 0:32:41.360 opened your mind sexually for you to just be open. 0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:44.120 No, so like I'm not I'm from Texas, but I 0:32:44.160 --> 0:32:47.160 live around the world from from child up right living 0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:51.280 in Europe, which definitely opens your eyes up. And then 0:32:51.440 --> 0:32:53.200 as a young man I went back to Europe and 0:32:53.280 --> 0:32:55.880 later for five years. And so I grew up Christian 0:32:55.920 --> 0:32:59.840 in Black Church. But I think one of the dopest 0:32:59.840 --> 0:33:01.959 things that you could do is explore for you and 0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:04.760 be authentically you. And so my grandma and I just 0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:06.640 talked about this too. She was She's very Christian. It 0:33:06.720 --> 0:33:09.000 was like, Mike, my man can't jack off or whatever, 0:33:09.120 --> 0:33:10.000 or he can't you know what I mean. 0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:13.000 I'm like, you mean like your grandmother. 0:33:13.200 --> 0:33:14.040 Yeah, because like. 0:33:14.160 --> 0:33:15.640 She's telling you about her partner. 0:33:15.840 --> 0:33:17.720 No, I had to like open it up right because 0:33:17.720 --> 0:33:21.360 she we don't have that relationship, but she respects what 0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:23.160 I do, and I respect her as a human and 0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:28.360 a woman and a sexually liberated individual. And I was like, well, 0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:32.120 don't you want him to last longer? Don't you want 0:33:32.160 --> 0:33:33.920 him to be able to know what to do and 0:33:34.160 --> 0:33:35.360 you know, be it there for you? And then like 0:33:35.520 --> 0:33:39.520 we're just having conversations, and she kind of like, oh, okay, okay, 0:33:40.040 --> 0:33:41.920 you know, and so like you could be a Christian 0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:46.120 and still be a and receive lots and lots of 0:33:46.120 --> 0:33:49.680 pleasure sexually and give less. Of course, I know, I'm 0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:50.280 with you. I give you. 0:33:50.480 --> 0:33:52.040 I was more so saying like, you know, I know 0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:55.160 the practices that you guys are doing in Tantra are like, 0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:58.600 you know, if for someone who's not who hasn't begun 0:33:58.680 --> 0:34:00.600 to kind of journey into that's would be like. 0:34:00.600 --> 0:34:02.920 What the fuck are y'all doing over there? You know 0:34:03.760 --> 0:34:06.560 I think this, I'm sorry that cuts you off. 0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:08.880 No, I always say, it's like level from where we 0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:10.960 are is like starting off at level. 0:34:10.719 --> 0:34:12.520 Ten and I and I would say, and I told 0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:14.600 Erica this too. I'm like, I'm a pretty open bitch. 0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:18.680 You know, I'm pretty open as a you know, regular 0:34:18.680 --> 0:34:21.560 listener may know. But there were points in this process 0:34:21.600 --> 0:34:25.680 where I was like, this is very interesting because it 0:34:25.719 --> 0:34:29.440 is it's lineage based. We're learning like practices and meditations 0:34:29.440 --> 0:34:32.800 that are thousands of years old, and it's very foreign. 0:34:32.840 --> 0:34:34.760 If someone if I like, you got to ease. 0:34:34.600 --> 0:34:39.280 People in, but like I what I really like, Well, 0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:42.000 there's only a handful of black kids, like students in 0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:45.440 our cohort. But also like I think that me and 0:34:45.600 --> 0:34:47.480 Mike have talked a lot a lot about this, but 0:34:48.280 --> 0:34:50.319 even back to what we were saying about the masculinity, 0:34:50.640 --> 0:34:53.640 I think that there's been like a heavy cloak over 0:34:53.760 --> 0:35:00.160 society's eyes, particularly for Black people because slavery. But there's 0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:04.680 this idea for men. I want you to listen closely, gentlemen, 0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:08.759 there's this there's this false idea of masculinity for men, 0:35:08.840 --> 0:35:11.359 and I think it was the best like kool aid 0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:14.880 they could have given the men, because they're with most 0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:21.000 men or alpha men, how they act out in their 0:35:21.040 --> 0:35:25.600 masculinity is so far from masculine. It's it's it's like 0:35:25.640 --> 0:35:29.440 they've so they're so confused that in fact, the most 0:35:29.520 --> 0:35:33.600 masculine man is able and willing to invite in his 0:35:33.760 --> 0:35:37.320 feminine traits because then there's balance. And even for Black 0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:41.640 women it's been we've been like we've been villainized because 0:35:41.680 --> 0:35:44.600 we are masculine. And even for black men, like well, 0:35:44.600 --> 0:35:46.839 that's why I date white women because Black women are 0:35:46.840 --> 0:35:49.560 too masculine. And it's not that we're too masculine, it's 0:35:49.560 --> 0:35:51.759 that we are we're able to swing on the pen, 0:35:51.920 --> 0:35:53.640 you know, swing back and forth on the pendulum for 0:35:53.680 --> 0:35:56.040 what we need. But the truth, the truth is for 0:35:56.200 --> 0:36:00.640 both parties, we need to have balance and to be feminine, 0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:02.520 I need to be able to fucking fuck you up. 0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:04.080 You need to know I'm not to be fucked with 0:36:04.120 --> 0:36:06.200 because I have cubs and I have family and I 0:36:06.239 --> 0:36:07.719 have to go get the paper and I can take 0:36:07.719 --> 0:36:08.400 care of myself. 0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:09.839 And there's also for men. 0:36:09.880 --> 0:36:11.520 You have to be able to cry and acknowledge your 0:36:11.560 --> 0:36:14.320 issues and like all these things and be self reflective 0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:16.760 and that's actually a masculine man. And to have control 0:36:16.800 --> 0:36:19.560 and discipline over yourself, not to cheat, and to be faithful. 0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:22.239 And niggas are so men. When I say niggas, I 0:36:22.280 --> 0:36:26.000 mean men. Just for those who are just joining us, 0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:30.520 we say niggas and it could mean many things. But 0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:33.520 but you know, I just think that men have this 0:36:33.600 --> 0:36:35.680 idea that you have to like pound your chest fuck 0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:38.120 as many bitches as you can, and that is what 0:36:38.400 --> 0:36:40.560 a masculine man is. And it's so far from the 0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:47.440 truth because you know, in the words a geezy, but 0:36:47.480 --> 0:36:49.319 it's true. If I'm a woman or a man of 0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:51.640 my word, he lied, he did lie. I'm sure he 0:36:51.640 --> 0:36:53.960 did lie because he obviously cheated. But when Jenny said 0:36:54.239 --> 0:36:57.480 I cheated, listen, I wasn't saying Jenny was wrong. 0:36:58.080 --> 0:37:00.000 I'm pretty sure Geez probably fucked around. 0:37:00.040 --> 0:37:01.960 He was trying to get with fucking me along. I 0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:03.640 would be too, he said, let me get in this. 0:37:04.200 --> 0:37:04.919 I would be too. 0:37:04.920 --> 0:37:05.920 I don't see it. 0:37:06.600 --> 0:37:07.560 I want to say something to that. 0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:09.480 Don't want you to finish your thought yea, but okay, 0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:10.680 my thoughts be long. 0:37:10.719 --> 0:37:11.840 Yeah, I know I get long winded. 0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:13.439 I get high. 0:37:13.480 --> 0:37:15.240 That's the problem. 0:37:15.280 --> 0:37:16.560 So I just think that. 0:37:16.840 --> 0:37:22.400 There's this huge, this huge confusion in our culture and 0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:25.759 even for women too, thinking that that's what masculinity means. 0:37:26.040 --> 0:37:29.080 Or if fucking Drake paints his nails yellow, he's sassy 0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:31.200 or whatever the weird shit you know, you wear this 0:37:31.320 --> 0:37:33.680 outfit or you wear the man person, like that's the 0:37:33.760 --> 0:37:36.080 least of the everybody's work, Like how are you holding down? 0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:37.920 How are you holding me down? And how am I 0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:40.120 holding you down? And I just think like it's the 0:37:40.160 --> 0:37:43.160 balance of both. We both have to have equal parts. 0:37:43.400 --> 0:37:45.560 But particularly me and Mike have talked about this for 0:37:45.680 --> 0:37:47.480 like what we have gone, you know, gone through this 0:37:47.520 --> 0:37:50.880 process is two year process of completing this program is 0:37:50.920 --> 0:37:53.560 really for our people. And of course I'm here for everybody. 0:37:53.600 --> 0:37:56.799 I'm a people person, and you know, like we're all 0:37:56.840 --> 0:37:59.120 pink on the inside. 0:38:00.400 --> 0:38:02.760 What never, no, whatever. 0:38:02.840 --> 0:38:03.800 But the point is. 0:38:05.480 --> 0:38:07.880 I had a very weird visual when you're saying. 0:38:07.800 --> 0:38:09.799 When we open up this flesh box. 0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:14.840 All these words all flash box. 0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:18.960 Yeah, this is a flashbox. Essentially we're being just a 0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:19.520 flesh suit. 0:38:20.320 --> 0:38:22.200 Flesh suit. I got that. 0:38:22.360 --> 0:38:28.239 I got that from somebody. It is though essentially we 0:38:28.280 --> 0:38:34.120 are we are, we are souls just utilizing this body 0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:36.680 so we can touch and feel in this lifetime, you 0:38:36.760 --> 0:38:39.120 know what I mean. But like, I think, particularly like 0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:42.960 for black people, our sexuality and our pleasure and our 0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:46.680 idea of masculine and feminine has has been so far 0:38:46.719 --> 0:38:49.799 off because we've been suppressed for so long in so 0:38:49.840 --> 0:38:53.279 many ways that like this work is extremely important for 0:38:53.400 --> 0:38:59.440 us to like kind of spread the word of the 0:38:59.440 --> 0:39:02.399 good words because I just think, you know, you asked Mike, 0:39:02.520 --> 0:39:03.959 like how do you get into this that someone busts 0:39:04.000 --> 0:39:05.320 him open like a bitch or something. 0:39:05.320 --> 0:39:07.040 But I just think, like if. 0:39:08.600 --> 0:39:11.040 If you just take twenty minutes to just have common 0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:13.880 sense man or woman and you're like, let me just 0:39:13.920 --> 0:39:16.960 be better, Let me just be better. Let me just 0:39:17.000 --> 0:39:19.560 be a good person and respect the person I'm with 0:39:19.800 --> 0:39:22.680 and get to understand the other opposite sex more, just 0:39:22.719 --> 0:39:25.480 because that's a part of coexisting in the world. Then 0:39:25.520 --> 0:39:28.120 you kind of want to evolve, and you know, like 0:39:28.200 --> 0:39:31.719 that's just like it's just like a white person benefiting 0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:34.200 from white privilege. You know, like some white people just 0:39:34.200 --> 0:39:37.000 don't believe versism exists anymore because get over it. It's like, 0:39:37.080 --> 0:39:38.719 of course you're not going to tell this bitch because 0:39:38.719 --> 0:39:42.799 this bitch is benefiting from the fucking paradigm being fucked up. 0:39:43.080 --> 0:39:45.319 So it's just like men. If men can get away 0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:48.080 with bitches being afraid to say rape women, knowing that 0:39:48.120 --> 0:39:50.719 women are going to keep their secrets, and they've been 0:39:50.840 --> 0:39:55.040 able to get away with being this fake version of masculine, 0:39:55.320 --> 0:39:58.080 they're not going to then like opts for the equal 0:39:58.160 --> 0:39:59.120 rights because they. 0:39:58.960 --> 0:40:01.040 Know they benefit from this system that exists. 0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:07.800 Okay, sorry, I was I was like, I was just 0:40:07.840 --> 0:40:09.840 gonna speak to the fact that I think that at 0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:12.879 times men actually do want to be expressive and their 0:40:12.880 --> 0:40:15.560 feminine talking. When I say fit, I'm spickly talking about 0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:20.960 strictly talking about expressive of emotions emotions, right, you feel me, 0:40:21.000 --> 0:40:24.400 whether it be sexual emotions or angry emotions, you feel me, 0:40:24.480 --> 0:40:27.879 or sad emotions. But you know these stories I heard, 0:40:28.600 --> 0:40:31.760 I mean stories I've seen myself and from the homies 0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:33.520 that when they try to speak to their women, or 0:40:33.520 --> 0:40:37.040 speak to women in general, they get shunned. You feel 0:40:37.080 --> 0:40:38.719 me like, oh, you're a bitch, you crying like that 0:40:38.840 --> 0:40:40.920 or whatever the case may be. Or you you're doing that, 0:40:40.960 --> 0:40:42.759 you're dressing like this, or whatever the case may be. Right, 0:40:42.800 --> 0:40:48.040 and so therefore it's also hardening us from like elementary school, 0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:51.920 you feel me like, So it's it's if if a 0:40:51.920 --> 0:40:53.160 man tries to cry in front of me and he 0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:57.160 gets shut down trauma, you think he gonna do that again, 0:40:57.680 --> 0:40:59.120 you know what I mean? And so like, I'm not 0:40:59.160 --> 0:41:02.399 saying that that's all me in, but there's an asp 0:41:02.600 --> 0:41:04.560 that I don't think that conversation you had either. 0:41:05.280 --> 0:41:10.080 What do you think women can do to support their 0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:17.200 man's vulnerability? More like what I'm I'm hearing that, like, 0:41:17.719 --> 0:41:20.360 you know, the mistake that women make is you know, 0:41:20.520 --> 0:41:22.960 like because sometimes I probably have been part of this 0:41:23.000 --> 0:41:25.000 because sometimes I don't I have this well. He was 0:41:25.080 --> 0:41:28.080 kind of crazy though, but I didn't understand his emotions, 0:41:28.800 --> 0:41:30.359 so he would cry and be like, what the fuck 0:41:30.400 --> 0:41:32.800 are you crying for? Like this doesn't make any sense? 0:41:33.160 --> 0:41:34.120 Are you manipulating me? 0:41:35.520 --> 0:41:36.440 That answer? 0:41:37.040 --> 0:41:41.640 But but I probably did cause him more trauma because 0:41:41.680 --> 0:41:45.840 of that. But but I didn't start it, you know, 0:41:45.960 --> 0:41:46.520 I didn't. 0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:48.960 Start I just added to it. 0:41:49.000 --> 0:41:53.520 Okay, but I didn't start that trauma to crazy from 0:41:53.560 --> 0:41:58.960 the beginning. But I but I guess, uh, yeah, what 0:41:59.120 --> 0:42:02.880 is what can a woman do? Maybe if maybe like 0:42:03.000 --> 0:42:05.120 someone who's listening right now, maybe they know, like, you 0:42:05.120 --> 0:42:06.680 know what I did shut my man down? How do 0:42:06.760 --> 0:42:09.520 I fix that? How do I what do I do 0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:11.560 to make a man feel safe? 0:42:11.800 --> 0:42:11.920 Like? 0:42:11.960 --> 0:42:16.279 What is what is elementary that maybe we don't get 0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:16.800 as women. 0:42:18.719 --> 0:42:21.560 If a woman were to say to her partner after 0:42:21.920 --> 0:42:24.560 after kind of like coming at him for showing his emotion, 0:42:24.600 --> 0:42:30.439 I would say, for example, not when he doing his thing, 0:42:30.520 --> 0:42:32.560 you feel me, whether that be playing the game, watching 0:42:32.680 --> 0:42:35.120 watching the game, or doing whatever the case right, but 0:42:35.239 --> 0:42:41.960 like tone, timing and turf matters, and so I would say, 0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:43.960 you get that out the way, and then it's like, hey, 0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:50.279 beg I felt I felt weirded out because I haven't 0:42:50.280 --> 0:42:53.920 seen this before, and so I did this whatever this 0:42:54.120 --> 0:42:57.320 is right, and then that man is probably going to 0:42:57.360 --> 0:43:00.839 feel that you're showing some form of respect towards him 0:43:01.239 --> 0:43:04.319 because you're being vulnerable yourself. And this is why it's 0:43:04.320 --> 0:43:06.040 not even a man woman thing. It's just like a 0:43:06.560 --> 0:43:09.239 one thing you feel me. And so if those type 0:43:09.280 --> 0:43:12.880 of conversations were he be had, I think it'll be 0:43:12.960 --> 0:43:17.520 a lot less uh money go into these uh dating apps. 0:43:18.760 --> 0:43:20.040 So I should get off the dating app. 0:43:20.440 --> 0:43:21.640 I ain't say that now shit. 0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:25.759 Evolved people need to be with evolved people. If you are, 0:43:26.320 --> 0:43:26.600 that's a. 0:43:26.600 --> 0:43:28.400 Good dating app. 0:43:29.800 --> 0:43:33.960 Claim to fame the Tantric dating app evolved evolved people. 0:43:34.880 --> 0:43:36.000 How do you vet them? 0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.080 When you say, have y'all talked about that? When you 0:43:39.080 --> 0:43:41.279 say tantra like how you got to like decipher this ship? 0:43:41.719 --> 0:43:43.160 You know what I haven't, because you know what I 0:43:43.239 --> 0:43:47.120 realized too. When I'm talking to like people honestly in 0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:50.239 my community, like mostly my friends, no one, I guess 0:43:50.280 --> 0:43:52.799 people everyone assumes it just has so strictly to do 0:43:52.840 --> 0:43:55.520 with sex. But I don't think anyone has really any clue, 0:43:55.560 --> 0:43:57.040 so I don't have to go deep. But I know, 0:43:57.320 --> 0:44:00.880 like Tantra neo Tantra that's like big white communities or 0:44:00.920 --> 0:44:03.439 big in the Western world, is solely based in sex. 0:44:03.480 --> 0:44:05.439 And there's a lot of bad raps for what that means. 0:44:05.480 --> 0:44:08.240 It's like people fucking their clients on a massage table. 0:44:08.320 --> 0:44:11.400 There's like all types of levels of how people like 0:44:11.880 --> 0:44:17.600 under the skies of Tantra. And I think that, like 0:44:17.640 --> 0:44:20.960 I've been really diligent about saying that it's a lineage based, 0:44:21.239 --> 0:44:24.040 like a lineage based like what we've how how we've 0:44:24.080 --> 0:44:27.680 been inducted into is lineage base, and it's been practiced 0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:30.640 for thousands of years. You know. It's this form of yoga. 0:44:30.680 --> 0:44:33.600 It's it's a form of Buddhism that doesn't separate, doesn't 0:44:33.640 --> 0:44:35.759 shy away from a part of a very big part 0:44:35.800 --> 0:44:40.520 of us, which is sexuality. We are literally a whole mind, body, spirit, 0:44:40.800 --> 0:44:43.279 an alignment of like healing all of those all of 0:44:43.280 --> 0:44:46.920 those things and not just shying away from the sexual parts. 0:44:46.960 --> 0:44:49.560 And it's like like religion generally does That's what I say, Like, 0:44:49.760 --> 0:44:51.759 you know, religion doesn't really tell you it's bad. 0:44:51.880 --> 0:44:53.000 This is not that type of thing. 0:44:53.040 --> 0:44:56.200 It's a practice that is whole encompassing and tech teaches 0:44:56.239 --> 0:44:59.440 you how to like use pleasure as medicine. So I 0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:01.239 mean I don't I I haven't really like led with 0:45:01.320 --> 0:45:03.760 it's not solely sex, but I probably should start. 0:45:04.560 --> 0:45:05.000 That was great. 0:45:05.000 --> 0:45:06.160 I love the way you spoke with how do you 0:45:06.160 --> 0:45:06.960 speak about it. 0:45:08.840 --> 0:45:12.719 Healing? I say that all your biases that you have, 0:45:12.760 --> 0:45:16.799 all your conditions, that you have, all your uh, the 0:45:16.840 --> 0:45:20.799 way that you see the world, we help to to 0:45:20.880 --> 0:45:22.640 erode that and get you back to your full self, 0:45:22.640 --> 0:45:27.120 your fulfilling yoga, you know, I say, yoga of us, 0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:28.480 of nervousness and regulation. 0:45:31.200 --> 0:45:32.560 So what you have to do to get on the 0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:34.480 Evolved Dating app is first you have to complete me 0:45:34.520 --> 0:45:38.640 and Mike's course. Complete the course, the ninety day course. 0:45:38.760 --> 0:45:42.160 You can be then vetted into the system. 0:45:41.640 --> 0:45:43.320 And then yes that's a good months bad choices, of 0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:44.080 course you I got that. 0:45:45.560 --> 0:45:47.880 Then we need to look you in the eyes, make 0:45:47.880 --> 0:45:49.240 sure you're not fucking nuts. 0:45:50.560 --> 0:45:52.160 Only come here when you want to do function like 0:45:52.280 --> 0:45:54.800 just start for the first five years over on Hinge 0:45:54.840 --> 0:45:56.759 like me and Erica did, and then when you're ready 0:45:56.800 --> 0:45:59.239 and you realize there's nothing out there, you can come 0:45:59.239 --> 0:46:01.279 over to the Evolved that I. 0:46:01.239 --> 0:46:03.840 Definitely wasn't on the apps like that. I really wasn't. 0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:05.160 How did you meet your girl? 0:46:05.880 --> 0:46:09.000 My homeboy actually hollered at her at the club, but 0:46:09.120 --> 0:46:11.719 she stood up and like her height kept going to 0:46:11.719 --> 0:46:12.160 his height and. 0:46:12.160 --> 0:46:16.800 Stop, You're like, get out of here. No I was. 0:46:17.239 --> 0:46:19.279 I wasn't even there though, and so like he tried 0:46:19.280 --> 0:46:21.160 to like this is what I was told sold from 0:46:21.160 --> 0:46:23.240 both of them. He tried to like dance with her whatever, 0:46:23.480 --> 0:46:25.760 and she said she tried to spend, but she couldn't. 0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:30.160 Like, oh no, she had a duck. 0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:34.640 Up, you know what. She was like, you nice, but 0:46:34.680 --> 0:46:37.680 I can't do it. And so then you know, he 0:46:37.680 --> 0:46:38.160 put me on. 0:46:39.040 --> 0:46:40.839 So this was later. This didn't all happen in one 0:46:40.960 --> 0:46:41.720 moment in the club. 0:46:41.840 --> 0:46:44.400 No, this was, like I guess, in a weekend. He was. 0:46:44.880 --> 0:46:47.279 It ain't gonna work out somebody on the date. 0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:52.040 He well, that's beautiful. Look at that. I love one 0:46:52.080 --> 0:46:53.200 man can do that for one another. 0:46:53.440 --> 0:46:55.080 See, I think, so I do, Like I think that 0:46:57.040 --> 0:46:59.640 we showed in our own ways you feel, I mean, yeah, 0:46:59.680 --> 0:47:01.600 we do. We can get a lot better though. 0:47:02.280 --> 0:47:04.840 Yeah. 0:47:04.880 --> 0:47:08.880 So I'm single and I I'm still learning how to 0:47:09.800 --> 0:47:13.920 date properly because I don't know what that means anymore? 0:47:14.600 --> 0:47:15.520 What tips do you. 0:47:15.520 --> 0:47:17.920 Have how do to date properly? 0:47:18.120 --> 0:47:18.879 What tips do. 0:47:18.840 --> 0:47:22.120 You have for someone who For me, I'm celibate right 0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:25.279 now and I don't plan on having sex, but I've 0:47:25.280 --> 0:47:30.960 been having like these really interesting interactions with intimacy, but 0:47:31.120 --> 0:47:34.919 not like physical intimacy with someone where like I'm in 0:47:35.080 --> 0:47:41.240 their energy and we both obviously share like this attraction 0:47:41.320 --> 0:47:44.319 to one another, but we're not acting on it, and 0:47:44.320 --> 0:47:47.040 so it's like kind of like building this Like I 0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:47.879 don't know, it's like. 0:47:47.960 --> 0:47:53.759 Energy between us. But I guess my question is like. 0:47:55.000 --> 0:47:57.520 How what is not? What is? If I'm what is 0:47:57.600 --> 0:48:01.000 like you're being celebtate right now and then having that 0:48:01.200 --> 0:48:04.759 energy building? How is that coming true in your life? 0:48:04.760 --> 0:48:06.200 What do you feel is coming out from that? 0:48:10.280 --> 0:48:10.759 I don't know. 0:48:10.920 --> 0:48:14.319 I feel like I feel like it's healing something in 0:48:14.360 --> 0:48:17.719 me that I felt like was like taken from me 0:48:18.440 --> 0:48:21.959 in ways like that I don't actually have to give 0:48:22.080 --> 0:48:26.520 my body to someone in order to I don't know, 0:48:26.640 --> 0:48:31.680 like feel intimacy really like to feel and I wouldn't 0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:33.439 even say love because I know that, but like it's 0:48:33.440 --> 0:48:37.080 more like this intimacy that I felt like my partner 0:48:37.120 --> 0:48:40.000 lived across the country, so there was already like this 0:48:40.040 --> 0:48:43.080 gap in our intimacy anyway, and so like when we 0:48:43.080 --> 0:48:46.000 were together, like I craved it so much, like we 0:48:46.239 --> 0:48:46.920 like you. 0:48:46.840 --> 0:48:48.479 Know, when you're away from someone for so long. 0:48:48.560 --> 0:48:52.920 Like so I'd had these like really intense moments of 0:48:52.960 --> 0:48:58.320 intimacy that felt like otherworldly because not well because I 0:48:58.320 --> 0:49:00.640 think we also had chemistry, but all so because of 0:49:00.680 --> 0:49:06.719 like that that longing. And now in this situation, it's 0:49:06.800 --> 0:49:08.920 kind of the same, but it's healthier longing. 0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:09.400 You know. 0:49:09.520 --> 0:49:12.280 It's not like, oh, you're not here and I'm longing 0:49:12.320 --> 0:49:15.920 for you, or like, you know, are you cheating on me? 0:49:16.760 --> 0:49:19.360 Like and I'm like I need to be near you. 0:49:19.360 --> 0:49:19.600 You know. 0:49:20.719 --> 0:49:24.560 It's more of like a I don't know, like building 0:49:24.600 --> 0:49:27.080 some sort of like safety around the intimacy. 0:49:28.160 --> 0:49:30.560 That's good. I mean you feel comfortable with that. Y'all 0:49:30.680 --> 0:49:32.520 going It sounds like y'all going into your space. 0:49:33.440 --> 0:49:36.560 No, no, no, this is not my pace. It's my 0:49:36.560 --> 0:49:37.160 pace right now. 0:49:37.600 --> 0:49:41.600 You're trying something new, Okay, that's what it is. 0:49:43.440 --> 0:49:43.920 It's been good. 0:49:43.920 --> 0:49:48.160 It's been challenging, but it's been fulfilling. Like I don't 0:49:48.200 --> 0:49:52.520 have any big desire to change to like move faster 0:49:52.680 --> 0:49:55.439 or forward, you know, I mean, but now I lost 0:49:55.440 --> 0:49:57.360 my train of thought because I had a question about dating, 0:49:57.400 --> 0:49:59.239 and now I don't know what it is. 0:50:02.040 --> 0:50:04.239 You know, I think it's in New Year and you're 0:50:04.320 --> 0:50:08.960 still in in How do you call it cuffing season 0:50:09.000 --> 0:50:10.640 while your girls been out of the game a long time? 0:50:10.680 --> 0:50:12.160 How do you call it cuffing season? 0:50:12.560 --> 0:50:14.920 She said, it's still cold? 0:50:15.960 --> 0:50:17.320 And I think that. 0:50:18.640 --> 0:50:20.560 What I hear like people are tired, you know what 0:50:20.560 --> 0:50:22.880 I'm saying. And I think women are confused. I know 0:50:22.960 --> 0:50:31.560 a lot of sane, sexual, cool, successful single women who 0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:38.520 genuinely deserve like good partnership, you know, like this is 0:50:38.560 --> 0:50:42.720 my wife, so we go together, you know, basically minus sex, 0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:48.239 like basically everything except sex. And I think that what 0:50:48.400 --> 0:50:53.040 women for women who are trying to date. Seriously, what 0:50:53.120 --> 0:50:57.840 do you think or like five things men like women 0:50:57.920 --> 0:50:59.600 get wrong in dating? 0:51:00.120 --> 0:51:04.320 I think that, like how you just explained y'all's beautiful relationship, 0:51:05.280 --> 0:51:07.600 I think that when you are in an intimate relationship 0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:09.600 with a person, like the person that you love, like 0:51:09.600 --> 0:51:11.920 in love with, I think that person has a unique 0:51:11.920 --> 0:51:16.880 way of pulling out the emotional wounds within you. And 0:51:16.920 --> 0:51:19.160 so I think it becomes different with that person versus 0:51:19.160 --> 0:51:22.920 like y'all as friends or home ever the case, whoever 0:51:22.920 --> 0:51:25.080 the relationship may be. So I think that it's different 0:51:25.080 --> 0:51:28.560 per relationship. A person could be amazing, terrific love by all, 0:51:28.719 --> 0:51:32.120 but then with their partner and they bring out something 0:51:32.120 --> 0:51:34.040 different in them. And so I think those are the 0:51:34.040 --> 0:51:38.800 things I think in regards to women, but just people again, 0:51:39.680 --> 0:51:44.760 men and women both like working on your shit, taking accountability, 0:51:45.680 --> 0:51:48.160 even accountability when it's like something that took place that 0:51:48.200 --> 0:51:50.759 wasn't your fault, but you've been attached to that for 0:51:50.800 --> 0:51:53.600 too long, Like go over that attachment, right, And so 0:51:53.719 --> 0:51:55.640 I think that would be a few right there. That's 0:51:55.680 --> 0:51:56.279 three right there. 0:51:57.480 --> 0:51:59.960 I think I wonder if, like, do you think that 0:52:00.160 --> 0:52:03.480 women who are like very forthcoming about what their intentions are, 0:52:03.960 --> 0:52:06.560 is that like a mistake that women make? Because I 0:52:06.600 --> 0:52:11.479 feel like that's how I've led in the past, and 0:52:11.880 --> 0:52:14.600 I don't know if that's served me or hasn't served me. 0:52:14.719 --> 0:52:16.640 I don't know, Like I feel like because like niggas 0:52:16.640 --> 0:52:19.719 will lie and say, yeah, I'm ready for a committed relationship, 0:52:20.080 --> 0:52:22.360 So like does it even matter to say that or 0:52:22.400 --> 0:52:24.239 does that turn you off? Like if a woman came 0:52:24.280 --> 0:52:25.960 to you and said, hey, listen, I don't know what 0:52:25.960 --> 0:52:28.640 you're doing like second date, like or maybe even first date. 0:52:28.680 --> 0:52:31.160 And I was like, hey, so listen, I really enjoyed 0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:32.920 this this date. I want to let you know like 0:52:32.960 --> 0:52:36.640 I'm dating with intention. I'm not really interested in, you know, 0:52:37.040 --> 0:52:38.000 casual dating. 0:52:40.080 --> 0:52:41.040 How do you feel about that? 0:52:41.360 --> 0:52:44.680 I think two ways. The first way, it's like if 0:52:44.719 --> 0:52:47.440 you're a salesman. Right, let's say you work I used 0:52:47.480 --> 0:52:50.120 to work in Dialer's Ladies shoes department. Right, I've done 0:52:50.120 --> 0:52:52.000 a lot of different type of sales jobs, right, And 0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:54.440 as good salesman, they're going to pick up on what 0:52:54.480 --> 0:52:57.480 you want and they gonna know how to pivot to 0:52:57.520 --> 0:53:00.200 what you want, right. And so I think in dating 0:53:00.560 --> 0:53:02.839 a lot of times like if a person tells you 0:53:03.440 --> 0:53:05.880 I want this, this, and this, if they're a bad individual, 0:53:06.040 --> 0:53:08.319 they're gonna take advantage of that that and that you 0:53:08.360 --> 0:53:10.279 feel me and so so you shouldn't tell them. No, 0:53:10.320 --> 0:53:12.040 I'm not saying you shouldn't have, just saying that that's 0:53:12.040 --> 0:53:13.719 a fuck up nigga right there. You feel me like 0:53:13.760 --> 0:53:15.239 if that were to be the case. But it's like 0:53:15.239 --> 0:53:20.759 a if you're dealing with an immature individual and you're 0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:23.920 just very forthcoming, and that person does you wrong. I 0:53:24.000 --> 0:53:26.799 think they just let you know that they're not for 0:53:26.880 --> 0:53:28.640 you in a quicker old fashion, in a quicker way. 0:53:28.880 --> 0:53:31.279 But at the same time, do I think that let 0:53:31.320 --> 0:53:35.120 me not skirt around the question to be direct two ways. 0:53:35.120 --> 0:53:37.360 One is per person basis, but then two, I do 0:53:37.440 --> 0:53:39.839 think that it's a it's a it's a dance, it's 0:53:39.840 --> 0:53:42.719 a given take. The dance doesn't start with yeah, you 0:53:42.760 --> 0:53:45.680 feel me, you can't. If we about a dance, you 0:53:45.680 --> 0:53:48.319 don't just grab my hand and just do the whole thing. 0:53:48.960 --> 0:53:50.160 You guys been partying all day. 0:53:50.600 --> 0:53:53.440 You're like, so listen, I'm like, only dating intentions as 0:53:53.440 --> 0:53:55.560 a woman, I've had I've had niggas tell me that 0:53:55.600 --> 0:53:57.640 on dates and immediately I was like, oh, nigga's crazy. 0:53:57.960 --> 0:53:59.680 Like even if I was into. 0:53:59.480 --> 0:54:04.400 It, I would immediately run. Orlando said this to me 0:54:04.440 --> 0:54:06.160 one time, one time around mushrooms. We have known each 0:54:06.160 --> 0:54:09.160 other like a pretty good amount of time, and he 0:54:09.400 --> 0:54:10.840 was like, what are we doing here? And I was 0:54:10.880 --> 0:54:12.440 like what. 0:54:16.320 --> 0:54:17.879 I was like, yeah, that's not a good time. 0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:21.160 Though it wasn't a good time, but also like I 0:54:20.040 --> 0:54:24.280 I I think I have issues with commitment in general. 0:54:24.440 --> 0:54:27.560 But also I even met Steve harvey fucking book where 0:54:27.560 --> 0:54:29.880 he told everybody terrible advice as if he's a master 0:54:29.920 --> 0:54:33.040 of fucking dating. Whoa, and everybody took it and he 0:54:33.080 --> 0:54:35.759 made millions of dollars. But like he's like, tell someone 0:54:35.760 --> 0:54:37.799 on the first date, which you want. I think it's 0:54:37.800 --> 0:54:39.480 cool to be like, yeah, I do want to be married, 0:54:39.520 --> 0:54:41.520 but yeah I do want kids, Like this is like 0:54:41.600 --> 0:54:44.439 this is my intention, but like I'm not telling someone 0:54:44.480 --> 0:54:45.760 the first date just so you know. 0:54:46.120 --> 0:54:48.480 Like that's the Yeah, it's the intention. 0:54:48.239 --> 0:54:50.719 Like the attitude, you know, your last name, like, oh, 0:54:50.760 --> 0:54:52.799 that's a mistake that some woman make, because I feel 0:54:52.800 --> 0:54:55.560 like I feel like women have been fed that information 0:54:55.680 --> 0:54:56.120 as well. 0:54:56.200 --> 0:54:59.239 Steve Harvey, which I don't know why you took Steve 0:54:59.280 --> 0:54:59.960 Harvey's advice. 0:55:00.239 --> 0:55:05.960 He is not the dating master, but. 0:55:06.719 --> 0:55:08.400 Neither one of them because she's dating his ass he 0:55:08.480 --> 0:55:11.080 weren't to pay for years. 0:55:11.400 --> 0:55:14.640 I just had a realization they are trying to make 0:55:14.719 --> 0:55:16.200 Lori Harvey like a dating. 0:55:15.920 --> 0:55:18.040 Expert, aren't they? Have you been seeing this on the internet? 0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:22.560 It just all hit me because she's a regular, are they. 0:55:21.400 --> 0:55:24.760 They're like I've seen like a few place to her. 0:55:25.640 --> 0:55:27.160 She's smart, she'd go into sex ology. 0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:32.440 There's somehow they're like changing the narrative around, like because 0:55:32.480 --> 0:55:35.720 typically a woman, especially a black woman, dating like multiple 0:55:35.760 --> 0:55:39.200 celebrities in like a period of like two years, she'd 0:55:39.239 --> 0:55:41.759 be a hoe. But Steve Harvey ain't playing that ship 0:55:41.920 --> 0:55:42.160 with his. 0:55:42.920 --> 0:55:43.960 Daughter pr Campaign. 0:55:44.160 --> 0:55:47.480 Well, I think that they have crafted away or she 0:55:47.560 --> 0:55:49.680 has been smart in the way that she's talked about 0:55:49.680 --> 0:55:53.840 her relationships where I don't know if you've heard anything 0:55:53.880 --> 0:55:56.360 she said. It's not like she said anything like profound. 0:55:56.719 --> 0:55:58.680 She was just like, you know, if it doesn't serve you, 0:55:58.719 --> 0:56:02.680 like don't don't stay or whatever, like women deserve to 0:56:02.680 --> 0:56:05.480 be treated like goddesses, you know, Like that'sic shit. But 0:56:06.680 --> 0:56:08.600 I just realized, Sorry, I just had this epiphany. I'm like, 0:56:08.640 --> 0:56:11.120 oh my god, she are they trying to coin her 0:56:11.120 --> 0:56:15.959 as like a dainty expert LORI Harvey probably pay for. 0:56:16.239 --> 0:56:18.760 Because Steve Harvey coined himself as a dating. 0:56:18.560 --> 0:56:20.759 Expert, which I don't know. That's what I'm saying. The 0:56:20.760 --> 0:56:23.680 bitches who went like listen to him, like the same 0:56:23.719 --> 0:56:27.240 thing with the Kevin Samuel's nigga, you have to question, 0:56:27.360 --> 0:56:31.279 why are you asking this man for this advice if 0:56:31.320 --> 0:56:34.279 you were asking seeking Like, I know we need male perspective, 0:56:34.800 --> 0:56:37.360 and I know we have vastly different perspectives, so I 0:56:37.440 --> 0:56:44.280 understand having insight on each other's perspective, but also like why, 0:56:44.360 --> 0:56:46.439 like certain people just can't give me dating advice because 0:56:46.440 --> 0:56:47.480 you're not even on my level. 0:56:47.600 --> 0:56:49.120 And I think that's where women fuck up too. 0:56:49.280 --> 0:56:52.160 Is like even for us, women like us who talk 0:56:52.239 --> 0:56:55.840 candidly on the internet about sex, have a lot of 0:56:55.880 --> 0:56:59.840 fun and have cucumbers in people's mouths at live shows, 0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:02.000 and it could be depicted a lot of ways, and 0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:04.000 I think for a lot of men, it's intimidating and 0:57:04.040 --> 0:57:07.560 there's a label that it's associated with a certain type 0:57:07.600 --> 0:57:10.279 of woman. So I know, like I'm not gonna date 0:57:10.320 --> 0:57:14.080 a regular like a pastor. You know, he's probably not 0:57:14.120 --> 0:57:16.440 gonna want to date me. And maybe, but like the 0:57:16.480 --> 0:57:19.040 truth is, like you, I think you should lead with 0:57:19.120 --> 0:57:22.920 who the fuck you are authentically and then don't expect 0:57:23.200 --> 0:57:26.960 don't try and fit a fucking uh like a watermelon 0:57:27.040 --> 0:57:29.280 inside of orange and be like why isn't it working? 0:57:29.400 --> 0:57:32.360 You know what I mean, It's just like you you 0:57:32.400 --> 0:57:32.720 have my. 0:57:32.680 --> 0:57:33.959 Mom theme about watermelon going. 0:57:33.840 --> 0:57:36.880 Into I'm high. 0:57:36.960 --> 0:57:38.520 I was like, well, you could break it up, cut 0:57:38.520 --> 0:57:44.600 it up evasicially, just won't let it go. That's her. 0:57:45.040 --> 0:57:49.240 You won't love me, will respond to me. 0:57:49.840 --> 0:57:53.080 No watermelon lobido trick. Put cut up an entire watermelon 0:57:53.360 --> 0:57:57.040 and put a coconut water in there, you know, like 0:57:57.360 --> 0:57:58.480 mix that up and blend that up. 0:57:59.240 --> 0:58:02.160 He really believes in this because he said this to me. 0:58:02.280 --> 0:58:07.000 Man, it makes you like horning watermelon coconut like not. 0:58:07.040 --> 0:58:08.880 Just the deray apartment, Like, get get up in there, 0:58:08.920 --> 0:58:11.880 you feel me. Yeah, get the green as well, get 0:58:12.640 --> 0:58:22.720 not the green outside. I'm something the white the white white. Okay, interesting, ladies, Well, 0:58:22.760 --> 0:58:24.280 I mean here's things about that too. You gotta stop. 0:58:25.480 --> 0:58:28.040 You gonna stop what coming? You stop ejaculating. 0:58:28.160 --> 0:58:29.320 It's to stop ejaculating. 0:58:29.400 --> 0:58:32.760 Yeah, doesn't mean he gotta stop orgasm, just separating that. 0:58:32.640 --> 0:58:36.400 To preserving life force energy or right, you don't come. 0:58:37.200 --> 0:58:37.880 I didn't say that. 0:58:38.200 --> 0:58:39.600 What the fun said, I. 0:58:40.200 --> 0:58:42.080 Recommend the ship and not do it yourself, because I. 0:58:42.040 --> 0:58:43.600 Do do myself, but not one hundred percent of the. 0:58:45.120 --> 0:58:46.400 No, I just twitch. 0:58:47.400 --> 0:58:49.280 I'm trying to hear what you. I was trying to 0:58:49.320 --> 0:58:51.720 hear you. I was talking. I wanted to hear you. 0:58:53.120 --> 0:58:54.560 Could you. I want to make sure and say what. 0:58:54.560 --> 0:58:57.280 You said, when you have sex with your girlfriend, you 0:58:57.280 --> 0:58:59.520 don't nut every time? Like if you can not, I 0:58:59.680 --> 0:59:01.520 don't think you're like I know, sometimes you just don't. 0:59:01.840 --> 0:59:04.040 You know, you won't nut, But like, do you intentionally 0:59:04.160 --> 0:59:06.360 not nut at this point in time? 0:59:07.400 --> 0:59:11.439 Yeah, of course he's a t Yeah he does nut 0:59:12.040 --> 0:59:13.000 something I doesn't. 0:59:13.440 --> 0:59:18.680 I do, I do. But then there's also tons. 0:59:18.480 --> 0:59:19.720 Of word what does that have to do with him? 0:59:19.840 --> 0:59:22.560 I'm he's talking about like that men should preserve their nuts. 0:59:22.800 --> 0:59:24.880 I'm asking if he does that too, Like, if that's 0:59:24.880 --> 0:59:25.880 what he's doing, I'm. 0:59:25.760 --> 0:59:29.560 Saying, as a man in this practice, he's absolutely not 0:59:30.160 --> 0:59:33.160 nutting one hundred percent of the time he's having sex. Okay, 0:59:33.200 --> 0:59:34.160 that's a part of the practice. 0:59:34.240 --> 0:59:36.800 Yes, okay, I'm asking him because you're not his penis. 0:59:36.960 --> 0:59:39.240 I mean, I'm his song at Sisters. 0:59:39.600 --> 0:59:40.840 I know exactly what he's doing. 0:59:40.880 --> 0:59:42.200 I know his practice, I know what. 0:59:42.160 --> 0:59:44.479 He knows, so I know he's not Mike's my friend. 0:59:44.560 --> 0:59:46.920 So we've spent a week in fucking Mexico talking about 0:59:47.400 --> 0:59:49.960 strange things like preserving life for his energy. 0:59:50.680 --> 0:59:53.240 Yeah, I say about the time, Yeah, I was just 0:59:53.280 --> 0:59:55.720 asking because I was curious to know what Mike's answer 0:59:55.800 --> 0:59:56.280 was going to be. 0:59:56.440 --> 0:59:58.800 I you know, I think that if people feel like 0:59:58.960 --> 1:00:03.440 they hear that it feels so appalling to not nut 1:00:03.480 --> 1:00:05.640 because even me, I have a breeding kink I want 1:00:06.000 --> 1:00:08.720 to see come and I think like it's so it 1:00:08.760 --> 1:00:10.560 feels like alarming, Like what do you mean you don't 1:00:10.560 --> 1:00:12.520 want me to nut? You know, like I think men, 1:00:12.960 --> 1:00:16.320 I think that's like something has to like slowly, slowly 1:00:16.520 --> 1:00:20.680 like put on somebody, because I think everyone's immediate response 1:00:20.800 --> 1:00:22.520 is hell no, yeah. 1:00:22.560 --> 1:00:24.680 I mean well, I think that everyone also has different 1:00:24.720 --> 1:00:28.800 practices and how they practice tantra. Some men, like I 1:00:28.800 --> 1:00:30.640 think about Sting like he was one of the first 1:00:30.680 --> 1:00:33.800 celebrities that really started talking about semen retention and he 1:00:33.880 --> 1:00:36.600 wasn't coming for years, like so I don't know how long, 1:00:36.800 --> 1:00:38.320 Like how deep in the. 1:00:38.240 --> 1:00:40.800 Practice are you? Are you not? That was my question, 1:00:40.880 --> 1:00:42.600 like are you not nutting at all right now? 1:00:42.720 --> 1:00:44.760 Like because some people like that that's what they do 1:00:44.800 --> 1:00:47.360 and they preserve it for whatever it is that they're 1:00:47.360 --> 1:00:48.240 waiting for that. 1:00:48.240 --> 1:00:50.960 Question speak is like are you really are you really 1:00:51.000 --> 1:00:52.200 doing your practice over there? Money? 1:00:52.360 --> 1:00:53.520 That's not what I was at now. 1:00:53.920 --> 1:00:56.360 That's why I was like, why are you attacking me. 1:00:57.960 --> 1:00:58.800 In tangent words? 1:00:58.840 --> 1:01:02.280 That's like you're not No. 1:01:01.760 --> 1:01:03.840 I was just asking because like I don't know, like 1:01:03.960 --> 1:01:06.760 everyone you know, in any practice, you go through phases 1:01:06.760 --> 1:01:07.360 where you're. 1:01:07.160 --> 1:01:10.760 Doing that intensely. You're just sprinkling it into your practice. 1:01:10.960 --> 1:01:13.640 It's not it's not a phase. It's a part of life. 1:01:14.360 --> 1:01:16.080 So it isn't an error, It isn't a chapter. This 1:01:16.160 --> 1:01:19.480 is the book. And so there are times to where 1:01:19.520 --> 1:01:23.080 I definitely do ejaculate, but then there are times of 1:01:23.120 --> 1:01:24.800 where I don't, and so and so when you. 1:01:24.760 --> 1:01:26.880 Do that, when you do ejaculate, it is like even 1:01:27.280 --> 1:01:29.800 more pleasurable. 1:01:29.200 --> 1:01:37.320 Right, pleasurable, stronger, more in general semen. But then depletion 1:01:37.720 --> 1:01:38.840 entiedness is even more. 1:01:38.880 --> 1:01:43.400 So you feel more depleted as you've practiced it more. 1:01:43.760 --> 1:01:45.120 Like because if I'm going like, let's say I go 1:01:45.160 --> 1:02:03.360 at right and then really ship but you out it out. No, 1:02:03.600 --> 1:02:06.240 So like if I go thirty days without and then 1:02:06.600 --> 1:02:08.680 having lots and lots and lots of sexual activity, like 1:02:08.680 --> 1:02:10.320 it's different if you don't have no sense. That's why 1:02:10.360 --> 1:02:11.840 I look at you that way, because the question is 1:02:11.840 --> 1:02:14.280 so multifaceted if you're talking about individual that doesn't know, 1:02:14.360 --> 1:02:16.520 but also they're not having sexual or activity a lot, 1:02:16.720 --> 1:02:18.960 that's completely different versus someone who has a lot of 1:02:18.960 --> 1:02:23.760 sexual activity and still is not nutting. And so I 1:02:23.800 --> 1:02:24.880 don't know why I said it so funny. 1:02:24.960 --> 1:02:27.640 Women need to not do Women also need to practice 1:02:27.640 --> 1:02:30.240 this now because we don't ejaculate, so we're not like, 1:02:30.320 --> 1:02:33.720 so what it requires a band to create? Semen like 1:02:33.720 --> 1:02:37.120 that the life essence, like literally the blood, it's imagine, 1:02:37.120 --> 1:02:40.000 it's it's to make, it's to procreate. So it's taking 1:02:40.040 --> 1:02:42.520 all the best from all of your organs. And so 1:02:42.920 --> 1:02:45.200 it's depleting him every time he does it. But for women, 1:02:45.320 --> 1:02:47.720 we don't nut like that, so it doesn't it's not 1:02:47.760 --> 1:02:49.960 the same thing. But it's such a it's such a 1:02:50.000 --> 1:02:53.080 part of the lineage that we practice that. Like I 1:02:53.120 --> 1:02:56.240 told him, like I haven't really taught Orlando like I should, 1:02:56.280 --> 1:02:58.280 and so every time he nets, I feel like, so 1:02:58.480 --> 1:03:02.760 I feel guilt because I understand. I understand now, like 1:03:02.920 --> 1:03:05.920 what that actually means, and I'm like, oh god, I 1:03:05.960 --> 1:03:08.360 gotta do better because my kids are being. 1:03:08.200 --> 1:03:11.800 Wasted inside me for no reason. 1:03:13.360 --> 1:03:17.680 But yeah, but it's it's a deep, deep spiritual practice. 1:03:17.680 --> 1:03:20.200 And I think once you understand the spiritual side of it, 1:03:20.280 --> 1:03:26.080 then like the sexual side automatically evolves and like grows. 1:03:28.000 --> 1:03:29.760 I feel like I've learned a lot today. Guys. 1:03:31.240 --> 1:03:33.360 I'm happy that he's here because I'm trying to talk 1:03:33.400 --> 1:03:35.160 to all my friends about it, and they're just like, 1:03:36.720 --> 1:03:38.600 I'm like, it's medicine. 1:03:38.960 --> 1:03:41.200 No, we just gotta start appreciating. And then they just 1:03:41.240 --> 1:03:43.040 be like one day they gonna come at you and 1:03:43.080 --> 1:03:46.120 be like me, La, something different, it was goodie, And 1:03:46.160 --> 1:03:47.920 then and then their ears are opened up. 1:03:47.840 --> 1:03:52.919 A little more. I'm passionate about I'm passionate about it. 1:03:54.320 --> 1:03:54.520 Mike. 1:03:54.560 --> 1:03:56.760 Do you have an affirmation that you can share with 1:03:56.880 --> 1:04:00.760 her our tribe? 1:04:01.760 --> 1:04:03.840 Do have affirmation to share with the drive les ask 1:04:03.880 --> 1:04:04.240 our guests? 1:04:04.280 --> 1:04:08.400 Then maybe you have something that's I don't know, maybe trick, 1:04:09.320 --> 1:04:10.920 maybe or maybe not. 1:04:11.360 --> 1:04:14.880 Okay, It's simple. When you ever have a thought that 1:04:14.920 --> 1:04:17.400 you don't like, or I thought that you've been on, 1:04:17.480 --> 1:04:18.920 you've been holding off for too long and it's not 1:04:19.040 --> 1:04:23.640 a good thought, just have positive thought, positive speech, positive action. 1:04:23.800 --> 1:04:25.120 There you go. That's simple. 1:04:25.840 --> 1:04:31.560 Positive thought, positive speech, positive action. Good mine, good one. 1:04:32.000 --> 1:04:39.880 I like that we pulled a card Okay, I think 1:04:39.920 --> 1:04:41.160 I've gotten this one recently. 1:04:42.400 --> 1:04:46.720 I've got that with a lot of trauma. Okay. 1:04:46.760 --> 1:04:50.640 It says heartbreak, emotional pain, sorrow, grief, hurt. 1:04:52.160 --> 1:04:55.600 That's right, that's what I pulled it? 1:04:55.360 --> 1:04:56.320 Was it upright? 1:04:56.360 --> 1:04:56.520 Mic? 1:04:56.560 --> 1:04:59.400 Maybe this is for someone in the collective. Well. The 1:04:59.440 --> 1:05:01.560 three of the words turns up in a taroor reading, 1:05:01.600 --> 1:05:04.640 it signals that you are feeling deeply hurt and disappointed. 1:05:05.000 --> 1:05:07.200 Your heart has been pierced by the sharp blades of 1:05:07.240 --> 1:05:10.960 others hurtful words, actions, and intentions, and they have inflicted 1:05:11.000 --> 1:05:14.600 intense emotions of pain, sadness, grief, and heartbreak. These events 1:05:14.640 --> 1:05:17.080 are unexpected and come out of the blue, making them 1:05:17.120 --> 1:05:20.240 even more painful. The three of swords is also about 1:05:20.240 --> 1:05:23.000 an emotional release when you have suffered a major setback 1:05:23.080 --> 1:05:25.360 or loss, now's an excellent time to have a good cry. 1:05:26.080 --> 1:05:29.160 Expressing your sadness is part of the cleansing process, and 1:05:29.240 --> 1:05:31.640 letting it all out will help you move on to 1:05:31.760 --> 1:05:35.280 better times. Allow yourself the opportunity to experience these emotions 1:05:35.360 --> 1:05:38.680 no matter how painful. Cry, shout, or scream at the 1:05:38.680 --> 1:05:40.960 top of your lungs. Do whatever it takes to express 1:05:41.000 --> 1:05:43.280 your anger or pain. As this will help you emotion 1:05:43.440 --> 1:05:47.000 your emotions flow through you and out of you. However, 1:05:47.040 --> 1:05:49.000 it is essential that you continue to focus on the 1:05:49.040 --> 1:05:51.640 path ahead. You may run the risk of becoming so 1:05:51.760 --> 1:05:54.320 absorbed in the emotions swirling around you that you lose 1:05:54.360 --> 1:05:56.640 sight of the need to just let go and move on. 1:06:02.040 --> 1:06:05.040 I think that I have a fifteen step process to 1:06:05.080 --> 1:06:09.680 becoming the main un becoming, and I just finished three steps, 1:06:09.680 --> 1:06:12.600 and so I think that that is the dying of 1:06:12.640 --> 1:06:14.120 that owed me and growing into the new me. 1:06:15.720 --> 1:06:18.720 Yeah, I mean not even then, it's just being this 1:06:18.800 --> 1:06:20.800 time of the year, but I feel like I resonate 1:06:20.840 --> 1:06:22.120 with that too. I don't know if it's just like 1:06:22.280 --> 1:06:25.920 graduating and going through like that initiation and like he 1:06:26.360 --> 1:06:29.920 I had a like intense release and it was extremely 1:06:29.960 --> 1:06:33.720 emotional and vulnerable in school during testing, which I literally 1:06:33.760 --> 1:06:36.440 was talking shit about, like they were talking about last testing, 1:06:36.480 --> 1:06:39.120 and like somebody started just having some kind of crazy 1:06:39.680 --> 1:06:42.200 screen like she had to stop testing, and I was like, 1:06:42.200 --> 1:06:44.520 what in the fucking what would ever permit someone to 1:06:44.520 --> 1:06:46.800 be screaming during testing? And then it just so happened 1:06:46.840 --> 1:06:49.240 that I was a bitch screaming and crying during testing 1:06:49.880 --> 1:06:52.480 and my dear friend Mike was here supporting me through it, 1:06:52.800 --> 1:06:56.200 and it was it felt like such a heavy release, 1:06:56.240 --> 1:06:59.280 but it also felt extremely intentional, and I felt myself 1:06:59.320 --> 1:07:03.000 tell myself like, don't brush over this, don't make it. 1:07:03.040 --> 1:07:04.440 I was. I felt there's a point I wanted to 1:07:04.440 --> 1:07:07.200 like make a joke and like keep going, and I 1:07:07.240 --> 1:07:09.680 had to tell inside of myself be like, don't do that. 1:07:09.880 --> 1:07:12.160 Just sit here for a minute. And because I was 1:07:12.200 --> 1:07:15.000 at school and I had the tools to like even 1:07:15.120 --> 1:07:16.560 give it a voice and say like what do you 1:07:16.560 --> 1:07:21.200 need from me right now? And that that awareness to 1:07:21.280 --> 1:07:24.360 move through it and transmute it, like days later even 1:07:24.360 --> 1:07:26.080 till now, I feel like it's uh. 1:07:26.160 --> 1:07:26.400 It was. 1:07:26.480 --> 1:07:28.840 It was. It was like there was things that happened 1:07:29.160 --> 1:07:32.520 that woke me up in ways that were super necessary. 1:07:32.960 --> 1:07:34.920 And so I just think, like, maybe you're feeling the 1:07:34.960 --> 1:07:35.360 same way. 1:07:35.880 --> 1:07:40.120 Yeah, I said, I think when you talk about your friends, 1:07:40.120 --> 1:07:41.800 they'd be like, bitch, what the fuck? Like when you 1:07:41.800 --> 1:07:43.120 talk about this stuff, I think a lot of people 1:07:43.160 --> 1:07:44.840 are just numbing. When your numb, you don't even you 1:07:44.920 --> 1:07:47.280 have no recollection of what is you feel me, And 1:07:47.360 --> 1:07:50.600 so I think it's all about just being us and 1:07:50.640 --> 1:07:53.600 becoming in that person and so for me in regards 1:07:53.640 --> 1:07:56.800 to the Three Swords, Yeah, it's just a lot of 1:07:57.080 --> 1:08:01.120 a lot of clarity, a lot of gain, wisdom, a 1:08:01.160 --> 1:08:04.040 lot of I'm a different man, so I think that 1:08:04.520 --> 1:08:07.120 you know I'm no longer Mike Larry with the homies. 1:08:07.120 --> 1:08:07.880 Just call me right. 1:08:11.600 --> 1:08:12.040 Where you know. 1:08:12.400 --> 1:08:13.760 I'm just Mike Johnson. 1:08:16.080 --> 1:08:19.720 Was speaking about Deep Tantra and sex. Did you bring 1:08:19.760 --> 1:08:21.839 a horri for ust Mike Johnson? 1:08:22.000 --> 1:08:23.400 Mike Johnson, I know you have some. 1:08:23.439 --> 1:08:33.240 Horror coming to the stage. Mike Johnson. No, I think 1:08:33.439 --> 1:08:34.799 we'll be our stripper in Dallas. 1:08:34.920 --> 1:08:37.280 I mean that in the best way possible. Don't be offended. 1:08:39.640 --> 1:08:43.519 I mean it's the name of a star star baby 1:08:43.840 --> 1:08:44.160 with me. 1:08:47.320 --> 1:08:49.280 Do I got a horror story, a horrible story? 1:08:49.680 --> 1:08:51.760 No, it could be good. Some horror stories are good. 1:08:51.840 --> 1:08:58.800 Oh yeah, yeah, horror story. Mm hmm. I'm glad it's 1:08:58.800 --> 1:09:01.000 me and not my homies up here talking about me. 1:09:04.320 --> 1:09:08.040 H what horror story do I have? Horrible story? Do 1:09:08.080 --> 1:09:09.600 I have? There was once a point in time in 1:09:09.600 --> 1:09:12.160 my life when I was at a certain location, uh, 1:09:13.720 --> 1:09:16.960 when I was way way younger, that like it was 1:09:17.000 --> 1:09:20.960 really bad because it was like a group of women 1:09:21.040 --> 1:09:23.400 that took a picture. There was a certain percentage that 1:09:23.520 --> 1:09:25.000 I had relations. 1:09:24.600 --> 1:09:27.559 With they were all in one picture. 1:09:29.080 --> 1:09:31.880 Yeah, multiple times in that period of my life. And 1:09:31.880 --> 1:09:34.760 so yeah, it was a horrible story. I said that 1:09:34.760 --> 1:09:36.599 the most discreta you took. 1:09:36.800 --> 1:09:39.760 You saw a picture and you had been with most 1:09:39.760 --> 1:09:41.519 of the women in the picture, like. 1:09:41.479 --> 1:09:42.440 A group of friends. 1:09:42.640 --> 1:09:46.519 Yeah, but it was just like a thing, and so 1:09:47.479 --> 1:09:50.040 I had to change that. It was a period of 1:09:50.080 --> 1:09:52.559 my life. I'll say like this as I'll say, it was. 1:09:52.520 --> 1:09:56.160 Two years of my You're getting very I'm trying to 1:09:56.200 --> 1:10:06.639 decode what the you're saying pouring outside close girl friends. 1:10:06.800 --> 1:10:09.160 No, So, like I was in I was in Portugal 1:10:09.200 --> 1:10:09.679 at the time. 1:10:12.080 --> 1:10:13.920 Particular location, I was living. 1:10:13.760 --> 1:10:15.760 In Portrage at the time. I was on a military base. 1:10:15.840 --> 1:10:16.120 Okay. 1:10:16.439 --> 1:10:20.080 Uh And it's only like six hundred people on that base, okay. 1:10:20.120 --> 1:10:22.400 And so therefore, you know, if you're obviously cut down 1:10:22.400 --> 1:10:26.120 from that the people that fet your group, obviously, I mean, 1:10:26.640 --> 1:10:29.080 it was it was just bad. It was like it 1:10:29.160 --> 1:10:30.840 was just a lot it was running through the base. 1:10:30.920 --> 1:10:32.160 It was like a lot of it was like a 1:10:32.160 --> 1:10:32.400 lot of. 1:10:32.400 --> 1:10:34.919 Percent Is there a lot of sex happening on military basis? 1:10:35.160 --> 1:10:35.400 Hell? 1:10:35.680 --> 1:10:36.800 Yeah, it's like it's like. 1:10:37.680 --> 1:10:42.599 Es, yes, yeah, it's people that get deployed. 1:10:42.640 --> 1:10:44.640 Oh my god, that's like the perfect a lot of 1:10:44.800 --> 1:10:47.120 only fans, people in the army that are like you 1:10:47.160 --> 1:10:49.920 can get maybe like they put I don't know, masks 1:10:49.960 --> 1:10:50.559 on or something. 1:10:50.920 --> 1:10:53.920 Wait, am I the only person who ever considered that 1:10:53.960 --> 1:10:55.200 there's crazy organs. 1:10:55.320 --> 1:10:57.639 It's like it's a bunch of boys and girls on them, 1:10:57.720 --> 1:10:59.960 like a camp camping out together for months. 1:11:00.400 --> 1:11:01.800 Okay, it is not just like that. 1:11:02.600 --> 1:11:04.679 There's always some there's always some dark ship that happened 1:11:04.720 --> 1:11:07.200 too to the women, like there's always some strange there's always. 1:11:06.960 --> 1:11:08.160 The more men than women. I know. 1:11:08.400 --> 1:11:10.679 So I don't know that even seems like a good environment. 1:11:10.720 --> 1:11:13.240 Honestly, a lot more especially in the Navy. 1:11:13.320 --> 1:11:15.840 I don't think it's hard to have, you know, had 1:11:15.880 --> 1:11:18.920 your pick of the litter when there's mostly there's not 1:11:19.000 --> 1:11:21.639 a lot of women, and I would assume, right, you. 1:11:21.600 --> 1:11:23.559 Know, this is the elevator version of me. I'm not 1:11:23.560 --> 1:11:28.320 going to even respond to that. 1:11:29.320 --> 1:11:33.240 You really want to say the old me want to 1:11:33.240 --> 1:11:38.160 say something, but I'm yeah, I feel like you have 1:11:38.240 --> 1:11:40.320 more better horries than that. But I'm gonna let just 1:11:40.479 --> 1:11:42.639 like be shy I'm excited. 1:11:42.640 --> 1:11:44.479 I'm gonna have to go on Patreon and really spill 1:11:44.520 --> 1:11:45.800 the tea, all. 1:11:45.800 --> 1:11:50.759 Right, patre So it could be thirty thousand less people 1:11:50.800 --> 1:11:58.000 in our business. That might be better. Well, maybe we'll 1:11:58.000 --> 1:12:01.040 do a little after dark real quick. Thank you for 1:12:01.160 --> 1:12:03.759 coming to hang out with us, Mike. I'm so happy 1:12:03.760 --> 1:12:07.760 to finally see you in the United States. 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