WEBVTT - Cliff Notes: MARY J. BLIGE'S TAKEAWAYS FROM PAYING $30K A MONTH IN ALIMONY

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<v Speaker 1>You've talked about in the past where you had to

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<v Speaker 1>go on tour to pay alimony. Yeah, to your ex husband.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if the numbers correct not Google. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw it was like thirty thousand a month or something

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<v Speaker 1>like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, correct us if we're wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So, looking back on it in hindsight, what would you

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<v Speaker 1>have done differently when you first got married in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of shielding your assets?

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<v Speaker 3>I would have never let a person have that much

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<v Speaker 3>power over my money, my life, over anything ever again,

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<v Speaker 3>So I would. I would Now I'm learning, I'm in

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<v Speaker 3>control of my business, I'm in control of my life,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's mandatory that I learn more about finance business,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, so I don't ever have to be robbed

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<v Speaker 3>again by you know, maybe somebody you think you can trust,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you think that it was more so just

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<v Speaker 1>a lack of education somebody playing on you not knowing things.

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<v Speaker 3>And then perfectly, yes, it was a lack of education,

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<v Speaker 3>and it also was just trusting people to help you

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<v Speaker 3>when you don't know and you hope that they're going

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<v Speaker 3>to help you and not steal from you and lie

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<v Speaker 3>to you, and and and and and just trying to

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<v Speaker 3>take control over your life. So yeah, exactly. You hope

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<v Speaker 3>that people would help you when you don't know, and

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of times what happened to me, They rob you,

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<v Speaker 3>you know. So it's best to get education so you

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<v Speaker 3>don't have to depend on anybody to control your money

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<v Speaker 3>or to help you, you know, you know, to to

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<v Speaker 3>help you keep your money in a safe place.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Keeping your I mean, we spoke about this a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit earlier before you came on. It's important to make money,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's more important to keep the money. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 2>so we've had plenty of conversations and people in entertainment

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<v Speaker 2>and the one thing that they always talk about. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>Joe spoke about it, Steve Harvey spoken Candy about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's paying taxes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, so so check it out.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking of taxes, I owe so much money. I never

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<v Speaker 3>thought I was ever going to get out of debt.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm out of debt now.

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<v Speaker 4>But I mean I owed millions, millions, like hundreds of

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<v Speaker 4>millions of dollars in taxes, and I think, right, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sorry, I lost my train of.

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<v Speaker 2>Thought, go back to it. So I was right, we

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<v Speaker 2>were gonna get to that. So the lack of education

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<v Speaker 2>around that. Right as you're getting this large sum of

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<v Speaker 2>money you accumulating, give how are we even getting educated?

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<v Speaker 1>Who are we.

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<v Speaker 2>Surrounding ourselves to protect ourselves to make sure that we

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<v Speaker 2>are paying tax? Is it a financial somebody in our.

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<v Speaker 3>Team a great business manage team, and you have to

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<v Speaker 3>have Now I have the wisdom. Now I look at

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<v Speaker 3>my payroll. That's not my money. My taxes are not

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<v Speaker 3>my money, My times are not my money.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, pay my pay pay my business, pay

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<v Speaker 3>my payroll, pay my taxes, pay my times, any all

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<v Speaker 3>of that money. I don't even want to see it

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<v Speaker 3>because it doesn't belong to me. And that's how I

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<v Speaker 3>was moving period. I was moving like that period. But

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<v Speaker 3>nobody listened to me. When I was married. I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>pay my taxes, pay my times, do everything, and then

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<v Speaker 3>you know, they didn't listen to me. So you know,

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<v Speaker 3>but he was in control of everything, so he wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>gonna you know, we don't want to do all of that,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know that's that's how I do. Those things

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<v Speaker 3>are important to me. Payroll, taxes, times, anything that. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>if anyone's doing a service, you have to pay them

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<v Speaker 3>for it, you know, and you have to call people back.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, sometimes people just want to you know what, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get back to you.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not always so much about you know, people vendors

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<v Speaker 3>beating your door down because you know they're just being aggravated.

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<v Speaker 3>They just want to know that you are acknowledging them

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<v Speaker 3>if you owe them money. You understand what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you don't call people back, you know, it

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<v Speaker 3>creates a bad image for you. It creates, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>chatter that you don't do handle do business properly. You

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<v Speaker 3>understand what I'm saying. So, yeah, those things are important

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<v Speaker 3>to me. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is strength of a Woman's Festival. And a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of times when we think about pre numps, it's

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<v Speaker 1>always from a man's perspective, like a man wants his

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<v Speaker 1>wife to sign a pre numb before they get married

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<v Speaker 1>because he has more money. But there's not always the case.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes in your situation, the woman could be the breadwinner

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<v Speaker 1>or the woman can have more money. So what are

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts on pre numps and how would you approach

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<v Speaker 1>you or what advice would you give as far as

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<v Speaker 1>for a woman that may be wealthy all off and

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<v Speaker 1>they're looking to get married.

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<v Speaker 3>Get a pre nump. Because I didn't have one, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's why I was in I ended up having to

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<v Speaker 3>just give everything away because it's so let me just speak,

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<v Speaker 3>it's so whack right now that men, you know, can

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<v Speaker 3>come at you and get and you know, I'm young,

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<v Speaker 3>and get alimony. So when I was getting a divorce,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, you mean to tell me I got

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<v Speaker 3>to pay him? And he cheated and he lied and

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<v Speaker 3>he stolen. You know, not to get all petty, but

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I'm saying. You mean, I gotta pay

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<v Speaker 3>him for cheating and lying to me and ruining my life.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, and and the lord is you have to

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<v Speaker 3>you know, so I say, get a pre nup, cover

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<v Speaker 3>yourself up.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm telling you men this crazy. My wife has here,

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<v Speaker 2>So baby, I love you.

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<v Speaker 5>An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child

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<v Speaker 5>in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador

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<v Speaker 5>accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with

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<v Speaker 5>filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just

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<v Speaker 5>some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President

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<v Speaker 5>Donald J. Trump's leadership. I'm Christy nom the United States

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<v Speaker 5>Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted illegal border

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<v Speaker 5>crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded, and over

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<v Speaker 5>one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested. If you

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<v Speaker 5>are here illegally, your next you will be fine nearly

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<v Speaker 5>one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned and deported, you will

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<v Speaker 5>never return. But if you register using our CBP home

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<v Speaker 5>app and leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.

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<v Speaker 5>Do what's right, leave now. Under President Trump, America's laws,

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<v Speaker 5>border and families will be protected.

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<v Speaker 2>Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,