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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, here are my dates for the High and

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Speaker 1: Mighty Tour. In August, you can find me in Red Bank,

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Speaker 1: September I will be in Santa Barbara, San Diego, New

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Speaker 1: York City, Philly and New Haven, Connecticut. October is Atlanta, Baltimore, Saginaw, Michigan, Pittsburgh, Toronto, Boise,

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Speaker 1: am closing out my tour in Denver and Vancouver. So

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Speaker 1: get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com for the High

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Speaker 2: Hi, Chelsea, are you in Croatia?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 1: Hi, I don't know where I am. I'm getting bounced

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Speaker 1: around Europe like a party favorite. That's what I feel like.

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Speaker 2: Are you so you look freshley showered? Are you like

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Speaker 2: I know it's later for you.

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Speaker 1: I was just at the beach. I was in the water.

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Speaker 1: And then I just came I came home, and I

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 2: That's like the best part of the day during a

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Speaker 1: And I'm reading the best book for our readers. I'm

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Speaker 1: reading The Calamity Club by Catherine Stockett, which is fucking

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Speaker 1: awesome and a page turner. So if people are looking

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Speaker 1: She wrote The Help and so she is like from

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Speaker 1: the South, and it's about a girl who is in

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Speaker 1: and it blooms into this bigger, bigger saga.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of twists and turns, and it's really compelling.

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Speaker 1: I just I don't want to give anything away because

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Speaker 1: I don't know what plot points to give away. But

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Speaker 1: it's a great read, so I highly recommend.

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Speaker 2: I'm reading The Strangers by Bellbird, and on your recommendation,

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Speaker 2: I believe right. Oh yeah, we're about the It's like

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Speaker 2: the memoir that's popping off right now and the husband leaves.

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Speaker 1: Even though I haven't read that book, I listened to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, it's great. Highly recommend. Well, our guest today

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Speaker 1: Yes, our guest today is an Emmy nominated actress, you know,

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Speaker 1: from The Good Place, A League of their Own and

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Speaker 1: our newest project which is called Five Star Weekend. It's

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Speaker 1: Darcy here today. Darcy Carden is our guest today. I

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Speaker 1: which is called Five Star Weekend with I watched two

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Speaker 3: All that damnit Peacock.

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Speaker 1: Whenever I have a guest on, you know, I get

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Speaker 3: Two episodes is like worse than zero.

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Speaker 3: That happens. That can happen. But yeah, when I think

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Speaker 1: You're commiserating together about the nonsense, loves coming out yeah,

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Speaker 3: Like marry that, yes exactly, that's like bonding.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like, you're done.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, whoa, I didn't spend all this time

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Speaker 3: I didn't raise you like this?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I didn't spend money to make sure that

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Speaker 3: Where is is most of your family in California?

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Speaker 3: No, they're in New Jersey. Where did you grow up

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Speaker 3: I bet they love you.

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Speaker 3: So okay. So this weekend I'm going to a cousin's

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Speaker 1: Well when you came, when it came to you later,

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Speaker 3: You're on as many things as Nicole Kidman right now.

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Speaker 1: Imagine you are too, Nicole Kidman. Because there's no way

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Speaker 3: For I know, I know if you like take Ship

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Speaker 1: I want to shoot a season two.

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Speaker 3: I love Australia.

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Speaker 1: I do too.

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Speaker 1: in a fifteen hour flight.

437
00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,560
Speaker 3: But it was it was just great. I loved living there.

438
00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:45,600
Speaker 3: I loved we like went in the ocean lite I

439
00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,240
Speaker 3: sort of I sort of became a beach person and

440
00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:51,840
Speaker 3: then came back here and like went to Santa Monica

441
00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:53,440
Speaker 3: and I was like, like, we don't.

442
00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,040
Speaker 1: Go in the it's just yeah, I know it's there,

443
00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:58,480
Speaker 1: but nobody's really in it, right, So tell me what

444
00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:01,560
Speaker 1: you thought of going to nets. So this show that

445
00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:04,720
Speaker 1: we're talking about, how long did you spend in Nantucket?

446
00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,040
Speaker 3: We were there for like a month.

447
00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:08,520
Speaker 1: And were you guys all in some house together we

448
00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:08,960
Speaker 1: were in.

449
00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,719
Speaker 3: I feel like you probably know Nantucket pretty well.

450
00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:11,840
Speaker 4: Well.

451
00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,879
Speaker 1: I know Martha's Vineyards well because I grew up on

452
00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:17,240
Speaker 1: Martha's vineyards. But I've only been to Nantucket I think

453
00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:18,400
Speaker 1: three or four times.

454
00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:20,800
Speaker 3: There's like a place called the White Elephant.

455
00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:21,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah.

456
00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:22,960
Speaker 3: I feel like it's kind of all over the place

457
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:26,280
Speaker 3: where it's like, you know, apartments and little homes and that's.

458
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,600
Speaker 1: So fun though it would go isn't that so fun?

459
00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,240
Speaker 1: It's so fun go with a bunch of cast members.

460
00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:32,760
Speaker 1: It is a little bit like White Lotus.

461
00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's like we had spent the summer in

462
00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:39,760
Speaker 3: La shooting and we were doing it was like not

463
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:41,920
Speaker 3: a hard shoot, but we were doing six day weeks,

464
00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 3: which I had never done before, and we were just

465
00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:46,320
Speaker 3: like it was like work work, and then we got

466
00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,560
Speaker 3: this little vacation at the end, which still was work,

467
00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:51,000
Speaker 3: like we kind of kept. We would be on set

468
00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:53,560
Speaker 3: in Nantucket like looking around and we're being wait, I

469
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,359
Speaker 3: thought this was any vasion, but it was a vacation.

470
00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,879
Speaker 3: It was like when you're on location, you know this,

471
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,840
Speaker 3: Like when you're on location, it's so different than shooting

472
00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:06,240
Speaker 3: in your home. When you're shooting in your home, you

473
00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,840
Speaker 3: go home afterwards and you like go to the doctor's

474
00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:11,199
Speaker 3: appointment and you have to go grocery shopping or whatever.

475
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,520
Speaker 3: But when you're on vac when you're on location, you

476
00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,399
Speaker 3: really are like, well, what are we going to do tonight?

477
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,440
Speaker 3: When you wrap, You're like, let's go to dinner, Let's

478
00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 3: get a drink, let's see.

479
00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 1: And that's so fun. There's like really sleep away camp.

480
00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:23,919
Speaker 3: It's so sleepway camp. And with these women too. With

481
00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:28,480
Speaker 3: so it's it's Jen Garner, Chloe Seventy, Regina Hall, Gemma

482
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 3: Chan and then like Judy Greer and Timothy Olephant and

483
00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:36,959
Speaker 3: like just an amazing cast. These are also like really professional,

484
00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 3: accomplished people that are you know, every They're like they've

485
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:45,399
Speaker 3: got families and we're not like partying in la or whatever.

486
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 3: And so it was so fun to go to Nantucket

487
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:51,639
Speaker 3: with them and like, really, you know, really really live

488
00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:51,960
Speaker 3: it out.

489
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was great.

490
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:53,600
Speaker 3: It was great.

491
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Speaker 1: Timothy Olephant. I want uh someone When Timothy's Shalame was

492
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,880
Speaker 1: becoming fan, this was years and years ago, someone had

493
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 1: reached out and said, can you get a birthday message

494
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: from Timothy Schallomey? And I thought they meant Timothy Oliphant.

495
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:12,159
Speaker 1: So I forwarded the message from my friend to my

496
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,640
Speaker 1: agent and I said, is there anywhere you can get

497
00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 1: a birthday message to this girl from? I just forwarded

498
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:20,720
Speaker 1: the email, so I assumed it was Timothy Oliphant because

499
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:22,360
Speaker 1: that was the only Timothy I knew, and I had

500
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,679
Speaker 1: just seen him, and I was like, he'll do it.

501
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:27,920
Speaker 1: He's a totally nice guy. And then I got a

502
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 1: video back of Timothy Shallomey and I was like.

503
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 5: Who's this?

504
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,919
Speaker 1: Who the hell is like, who's this little pip squeak?

505
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,640
Speaker 1: And this is when he was like, you know, even

506
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 1: littler and he and but he was so sweet. He

507
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 1: had sent this whole birthday message. And when I sent

508
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,399
Speaker 1: it back to my friend, she was like, oh my god,

509
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,440
Speaker 1: I can't believe you got that. And I'm like, who

510
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:50,000
Speaker 1: is this? And she's like it was right before called

511
00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 1: me by your name. I was his first big movie anyway,

512
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 1: But I was like, I saw Timothy after that and

513
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,239
Speaker 1: I went to go thank him and I was like, oh,

514
00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:01,680
Speaker 1: I want to thank you for that birthday and I'm like, actually, no, yeah,

515
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:02,680
Speaker 1: that's the story of my life.

516
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 3: Getting celebrities can confused and the access you have to

517
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 3: them is so funny.

518
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 1: Y yeah, I know, because it's like, you know, I

519
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: meet celebrities all the time. I think I'm meeting for

520
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,199
Speaker 1: the first time, and then they'll be like, oh, no,

521
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 1: we met you interviewed me, And I'm like, well, that's impossible.

522
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 3: You remember, I think that must be insane to have

523
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 3: to have interviewed everyone. You've met everyone. But also it's

524
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,440
Speaker 3: like a blur on a different level. Yeaheah, it's a blur.

525
00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, and especially Yeah, So anyway back to you, Yeah,

526
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,160
Speaker 1: so is this a kind of trip that you would take,

527
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 1: like with in real life? Would you go on a

528
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: trip with five girlfriends let's.

529
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 3: See, Yeah, I would. I mean, you know what, because

530
00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 3: I'm really close with my two sisters and we take

531
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,439
Speaker 3: trips together. If someone handed me a trip, I'd be like,

532
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,959
Speaker 3: I'd probably say to my sisters, let's go. But you know,

533
00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 3: there was there was a while where let's see, this

534
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:55,920
Speaker 3: is pre COVID, there was like every in between, let's say,

535
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 3: like every New Year's week, a big group of friends

536
00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 3: would go on these kind of like extravagant vacations together.

537
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 3: It was six couples. Holy shit, wow, six couples. Somehow

538
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 3: we made this work. No one had kids yet. It's

539
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 3: all people that like we came up together at UCB

540
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 3: in New York and then everyone is sort of like

541
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 3: working in TV and starting to get like a little

542
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 3: bit of money. So we were like, let's nobody has kids.

543
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 3: Let's like blow it out and go on these amazing

544
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 3: vacations because someone will start having kids next year and

545
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 3: we want to we won't be able to do it again.

546
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,360
Speaker 3: And people just kept not having kids. So we did

547
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,159
Speaker 3: it for like five years, and we went to like

548
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 3: Bora Bora and Paris and Hawaii and Costa Rica and

549
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 3: we did these like really fun vacations and those were

550
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 3: like some of my favorite life memories.

551
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 1: Bora Bora was one of the if it was one

552
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 1: of the top five trips of my life. It's it's

553
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,159
Speaker 1: not real. It's the whole time. I was like is

554
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 1: this man made felt the same way.

555
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 3: I was like, am I at Disney like a offshoot

556
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,920
Speaker 3: of Disneyland? Like it's so it looks like it's created

557
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 3: by imagineers, and I do want to go back, like

558
00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:59,880
Speaker 3: like I haven't had enough.

559
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,879
Speaker 1: I That's what I said. I was like, I was like,

560
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna rent this place out for my fiftieth and

561
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 1: then I didn't. So I have to figure out a

562
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 1: time where I can do that, because I remember crying

563
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: the day I left Bora Bora because it's so beautiful

564
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: and the volcanic rock, like the way the water is,

565
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:16,199
Speaker 1: you can actually see it change color if it's like

566
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 1: bifurcated by volcanic rock, so it goes from like dark

567
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: blue to medium blue to light blue to lavender to

568
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 1: dark purple, and you can just see the ridges. Like

569
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: you go over and you're like it's a completely different

570
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 1: color of water. It's so gorgeous, kind of.

571
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 3: Like never seen anything like it. It feels like you

572
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 3: are in just sort of a state of joy. Yeah,

573
00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 3: it's just like your eyes feel good and it really

574
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 3: it's it's it's not even like there's that much to

575
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 3: do there. It's just there isn't it just feels so good.

576
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 1: It's just beautiful. It really is a slice of heaven,

577
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: and it takes you a long time to get there.

578
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,360
Speaker 1: So once you get there, you can park it.

579
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, park it.

580
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, said you could do it for fifty two fifty three.

581
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 3: You know, it doesn't have to be a special number.

582
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 3: That's true, that's true.

583
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, to throw everybody off. What do you think, like,

584
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 1: since you have two sisters that you sound like you're

585
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 1: pretty close with, who is one of them? Like if

586
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 1: I if you, if I asked you who was the

587
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 1: biggest influence in your life, would it be one of

588
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 1: your sisters?

589
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 3: Mmmm? Biggest influence in my life? Like my immediate answer

590
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 3: is my dad?

591
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:15,919
Speaker 1: Oh great?

592
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 3: Yeah. I feel like as a kid, I really like

593
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 3: looked up to him in a way where I was like,

594
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 3: I want to be like him.

595
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 1: You know what was it about him that you admired?

596
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 3: He was like, I mean is he like what? Growing

597
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 3: up with him? I felt like, I mean so smart, fun,

598
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 3: like I think vivacious is maybe a word that describes women,

599
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 3: but very like full of life and friendly, like every

600
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 3: you know, friends made friends wherever he went. I would say,

601
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 3: like everybody described him the same, which is like I

602
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 3: love him, like, oh, Dennis is your dad? I love Dennis.

603
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:57,880
Speaker 3: Or he owned a music magazine, so he had all

604
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 3: these like cool employees that would always say like he

605
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 3: was the best boss. I don't know, there's just like

606
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 3: I feel like very positive about him, and he just

607
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 3: sort of like went for what he wanted and I

608
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 3: just admired him. He also gave me and my siblings

609
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 3: so much confidence.

610
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: How okay, yeah.

611
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 3: I really in my mom too. They really okay, So

612
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 3: three daughters and a son, they really made us feel

613
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 3: like we could do whatever the goddamn hell we wanted

614
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 3: to in the entire universe. Like I really grew up

615
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 3: thinking that maybe I would be like a major league

616
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,719
Speaker 3: baseball player because my dad was just like, you can

617
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 3: do that, right, And he would say this thing, Meanwhile,

618
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:43,679
Speaker 3: you can't. Meanwhile, don't forget. They won't let you not

619
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 3: ye yeah barely. I mean it's truly so far away.

620
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 3: But he would say this thing to me and my

621
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 3: siblings before like a sports game or before a play

622
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: or something. A sports game. Okay, I would say that, yeah,

623
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, where he would he kind

624
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 3: of like rubbed my shoulders and you go. You are

625
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 3: the best. You are the king of the world. There's

626
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 3: nobody better than you, and you'd like say it over

627
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 3: and over like a mantra or like, you know, it

628
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 3: did something to me. It really I really.

629
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,919
Speaker 1: Took it on well, because I think we take on

630
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: not I think it's pretty obvious that whatever like the

631
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 1: most hurtful things your parents have ever said to you

632
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 1: and the most loving things are the things that stick

633
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 1: with you. The mont is so true when they're constantly

634
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 1: instilling support and love in you, like the reason why

635
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: it adds up. It's kind of like the marble jar

636
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: like right you they keep telling you and like you,

637
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,479
Speaker 1: little by little you believe it, and like what what

638
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: does a little child need more than that to believe

639
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: in themselves?

640
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 3: Totally, Like when I think of sort of like the

641
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 3: best compliment or something I've ever received sieved in my life,

642
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: it would just be my parents saying like we're proud

643
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 3: of you, right, you know, and they're not even they're

644
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 3: not stingy with it, but like, you know, it really

645
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 3: means something.

646
00:27:57,040 --> 00:28:01,159
Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember looking at my father thinking I he

647
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 1: motivated me in the exact opposite way, Like I was like,

648
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: I will not be anything like you, even though I

649
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: am a lot like him in my drive and kind

650
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: of personality. I'm out there and I'm outspoken and all

651
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 1: of those things, his whole like kind of moral compass

652
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:18,880
Speaker 1: was off, and I didn't like that. I was like, oh,

653
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Speaker 1: I'm never gonna be a cheater or a liar or

654
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: that's why I'm so passionate about being direct and being

655
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Speaker 1: honest even when the situation doesn't golf for it, because

656
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,160
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that.

657
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 3: I'm on the level side.

658
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, I'm not a liar, You'll never catch

659
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: me in a way, like if there's something bad I've done,

660
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: I'll come forward with it, well, thank you. But it

661
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: was more of like watching him as a deterrent yah

662
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 1: and me being like, oh, I'm going to be you know,

663
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: different than that.

664
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Speaker 3: That's so interesting that we almost did like the same thing,

665
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 3: but the opposite. I'm like, I want to be what

666
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 3: I will make of my life, and the person that

667
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 3: I will be is like directly related to my dad,

668
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 3: and you're like me too, but the opposite.

669
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Speaker 1: But it's still true that regardless of those differentiations, you

670
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: really all you want as a child is for your

671
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 1: parents to be proud of you, especially when you're a

672
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: girl your dad, and I guess probably if you're a

673
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: boy too, but there's something about your father saying I'm

674
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: proud of you, and you know that we're all striving

675
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: for no matter how old you get.

676
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Speaker 3: Totally, and he was also like he would he would

677
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 3: dabble in acting. He would do like the like community theater,

678
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 3: play here and there. He was on stage a lot.

679
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 3: He was like a he was like a showman, and

680
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 3: it really made it feel possible for me too. I

681
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 3: was like, I want to do that. That's what I

682
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: want to do.

683
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: You're also in Loot, which is on Apple with Maya Rudolph,

684
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: who's one hundred, one hundred and as one hundred. I mean,

685
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 1: that's just one of your shows. And your Handmaid's Tale also,

686
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: which is wild. It's just wild to be able to

687
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: toggle and also very admirable to be able to toggle

688
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: back and forth between comedy and drama in that way.

689
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 3: Thank you so much. That like important to me. You know,

690
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 3: I love doing comedy and I really like found myself

691
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 3: in comedy. But my I mean not to say like

692
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 3: my education, but but my foundation is in like all

693
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 3: you know, Shakespeare and like the straight plays and the

694
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 3: classics and stuff like that, and then sort of realized

695
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 3: that I kept getting cast as like the funny girl

696
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 3: in those things, and then really like dove into comedy

697
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 3: in New York. But I love doing all of it.

698
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 3: Had I had like a friend an early okay, in

699
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 3: New York, when I was like a struggling actor. I

700
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 3: had an older woman friend who actually the story is

701
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 3: too weird, but who actually like used to be my

702
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 3: high school teacher. And then we ran into each other

703
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 3: in New York and she was like divorced and young

704
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 3: and was like, let's hang out. Yeah that it was weird.

705
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: It was I like it, I know, and then we

706
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 3: like really hung out a lot. But because she was

707
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 3: because she had been my teacher, she was always like

708
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 3: giving me advice and she was like, you need to

709
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 3: pick a lane. She was like, you are all over

710
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 3: the place, like you need to be the comedy girl.

711
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 3: You need to be this, or you need to be that.

712
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 3: And I remember being like, I know this is good advice,

713
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 3: but like I really don't want to do that. I

714
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 3: really don't want to I want to, like I'm so

715
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: afraid of picking a line. I'm so afraid of like

716
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 3: being pigeonholed. I guess as one thing. Yeah, so so

717
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 3: I didn't do that. You know, so you didn't take

718
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 3: her I didn't take her advice.

719
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: Are you still friends with that woman?

720
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 3: No? She actually was kind of toxic.

721
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 1: I was gonna say it. It had the makings of

722
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: a toxic relationship. But I like when somebody gives you

723
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: unadulterated advice about something they know nothing exactly based on

724
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 1: what are you giving me?

725
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 3: A total When you're younger, when an older person is

726
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 3: giving you advice, you always think it's like impactful, and

727
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 3: then when you are older than that person giving you

728
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 3: the advice.

729
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 1: You're exactly you are. Yeah, so what's it like to

730
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: be on the set on the Handmaids tend Maids till.

731
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 3: You know what's funny that you asked that is that

732
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 3: I also wondered that, like in the years of watching it,

733
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 3: the years of watching I.

734
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 1: Blame that show for the situation where you're giving all

735
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: of these Republicans these ideas. I know that these ideas

736
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: have been Jerman quite some time. Yeah, and it's not

737
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 1: a new thing, but I feel like that show showed

738
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 1: us what the absolute worst outcome could be and then

739
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: they're like, let's try.

740
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: It right, like, oh it worked, yeah, yeah for the

741
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: moon God. When I was on the Good Place, I

742
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 3: remember watching Handmaids.

743
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: Which is the exact opposite vibe of.

744
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 3: And that was kind of my thought was like, every

745
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 3: day on the good Place is a good day. I'm

746
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 3: like so happy. I'm surrounded by the most wonderful people.

747
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 3: I get to do the most fun, lovely scenes. And

748
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 3: then I was like watching the show which I loved,

749
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 3: The Handmaid's Tale, but I was thinking, like, that's not

750
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: a good day on set. That is like a bad

751
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 3: day at work. And I ran into Bradley Whitford on

752
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 3: an airplane. I love brad love him the best.

753
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: He's the cute. Yeah, I love him.

754
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 3: He truly is so west Wing.

755
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: He's so hot in west Wing and west Wing. Oh

756
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: wes Wing. I mean that is a show worth watching

757
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: every Yeah.

758
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Speaker 3: And I do every night as my husband falls asleep.

759
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 5: Oh you do.

760
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 3: It's like his full comfort show. But yes, so I

761
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 3: were you like looking up lest Wie, Yes, a little bit. Okay,

762
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 3: that wasn't when I watched that wasn't one.

763
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like the Wire. I didn't watch that until

764
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 1: somebody made me watch it and then I tried like

765
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: three times. It was like breaking bad. There are like

766
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: three shows that I've taken it, like it's taken me

767
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: three fall starts to get into and then once I

768
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 1: got in, I watched them all within like once week,

769
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Speaker 1: and you understand. And then I was like, oh my god,

770
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: I'm attracted to Brian Cranston. I can't stop thinking about it.

771
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I do. But so he had just

772
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 3: done his first season on Handmaids, and so I got

773
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 3: to ask him basically like what is that set, like

774
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: it seems so like dark, and he he was like,

775
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,080
Speaker 3: it's actually the opposite. We're like dancing, we're joking. It's

776
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 3: like there there's like it's very light, which I was

777
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 3: almost like, yeah, right, like you're lying, and it is that.

778
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 3: It's really they keep it light. They keep it there's

779
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 3: like I think intentional, you know what I mean, Well,

780
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 3: I think.

781
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, the subject matter is too dark, is too dark.

782
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 3: And the I mean I came on it in the

783
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 3: last three episodes of the last season, so they it

784
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 3: was like a well oiled machine. But they really are

785
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 3: these like some some of the most amazing actors I've

786
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 3: ever worked with that can really just like.

787
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,879
Speaker 1: Well, Lizzie is ridiculous. She does scenes by her, she's

788
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: basically acting alone and half of the show like she

789
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 1: does scenes where there's not another person in them and

790
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 1: the other person is like five minutes the camera that's right, yes,

791
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: And her face, facial expressions and the look of fear,

792
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 1: Like what that woman can accomplish in just like I mean,

793
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 1: it's she should be teaching acting. I'm aking she's like

794
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: she is on another level. She is, she can the

795
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: way she can like pop in and out of it

796
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: is I've never seen it in my life. We're talking

797
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: about Elizabeth Moss. Yeah, yeah, she.

798
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 3: There was like I remembering a scene where she's like

799
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 3: walking out to this isn't a spoiler, well whatever, She's

800
00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:00,320
Speaker 3: like walking out to be hung, which doesn't end up happening.

801
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 1: But she yes, I know what you're talking about.

802
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: And and I'm like in with a noose around my

803
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 3: neck like watching her come out. It's so dark, so dark,

804
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 3: and the camera is an inch away from her face,

805
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 3: and she's also directing this episode and she's like tears

806
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 3: in her eyes. She's about to be murdered and she

807
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 3: can see in the reflection of the camera that her

808
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 3: little like I want to call it a habit, but whatever,

809
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,240
Speaker 3: the like the like you know, their Heandmads and headcover.

810
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 3: Everything is like off and she like giggles and fixes

811
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 3: it and then just like drops back in, doesn't break stride,

812
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 3: doesn't like have to reset, doesn't need to start over,

813
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 3: knows what the edit will look like well enough to

814
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 3: be like they're not going to be I mean, she

815
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:37,800
Speaker 3: just is like a machine.

816
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:39,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty impressive.

817
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

818
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 1: Who's somebody that you've worked with besides Liz Moss, Lizzie

819
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,959
Speaker 1: Moss that you have learned so much from?

820
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 3: You know, like Ted Danson really pops into my hand. Yeah, yeah,

821
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 3: I mean Ted.

822
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 1: He's a smooth operator.

823
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 3: Is a smooth operator. He's been doing it so long.

824
00:35:55,239 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 3: He's so grateful, he's he is his I mean, he's

825
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,439
Speaker 3: he's a couple of things. He's like a good time

826
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 3: on set, he's everybody's best friend. But he's also such

827
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 3: a fucking good actor. And it's almost like you almost

828
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 3: forget that because he's Ted dancing.

829
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,879
Speaker 1: Ye, it's true. As you were saying that, I'm like, yeah,

830
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 1: I guess he is a good actor because it's always

831
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: Ted Dance Totally.

832
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 3: He's so open and receptive and as a person as

833
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 3: an actor, he really just he's listening, he's reacting, he's like,

834
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 3: he's not he's just he's just kind of perfect. He's

835
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:33,840
Speaker 3: kind of like your perfect scene partner, and he's the

836
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 3: type of guy. And also Henry Winkler's like this too,

837
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: where they really they've been doing this a long time

838
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 3: and they remind you, like how lucky we are.

839
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,919
Speaker 1: I'm surmising from what you're telling me and from knowing

840
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 1: both of them that they are good at making sure

841
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 1: you everyone else on set feels really afterble totally.

842
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're both so good at that. Yeah, they they

843
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 3: don't take their position lightly. I think, do you take

844
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 3: acting pretty seriously in a way, like, not in a

845
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 3: method sort of way, yeah at all, but my god,

846
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 3: but in a like I really feel like it's my

847
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 3: life's purpose and so every time I get the opportunity,

848
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 3: I'm like, don't waste this, and I fucking love it.

849
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 1: I think that's a great piece of advice for anybody

850
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 1: and anything and anything they like, don't waste this opportunity, right,

851
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 1: because it's sometimes it's easy to just be like, fuck it,

852
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: let me just get through something. Not necessarily with an

853
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: acting gig, but sort of. But perhaps if you have

854
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: a lot of other things going on in your life,

855
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: or if it's a weak job and you're like a

856
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: fuck it, let me just man this and I've got

857
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 1: other things to deal with whatever. But I think that's

858
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 1: good advice. Yeah, when any opportunity. I read something the

859
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 1: other day that hit me and I don't know maybe

860
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,359
Speaker 1: I said this on the podcast, but like, it's not

861
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:48,839
Speaker 1: about the outcome of your opportunities. It's about the shot

862
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: that you get. I agree, like you got the shot.

863
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: It's a shot to shoot your shot right, and instead

864
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: of attaching yourself to what will result from the opportunity.

865
00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: And I loved that because it's just a reminder to

866
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: stay in the moment that you're in and don't get

867
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 1: ahead of yourself.

868
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 3: I've been really feeling like that with with with like

869
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 3: career and acting stuff, which is that I think in

870
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 3: the beginning it was it was so outcome based. It

871
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: was like, yeah, you know like this, I don't know, like, well,

872
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 3: this industry is outcome back based. And then I started

873
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 3: realizing that like the days on set, the days like

874
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,840
Speaker 3: doing the acting with the people was actually all I

875
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,439
Speaker 3: gave a shit about. Like I have a hard time

876
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 3: like watching it afterwards, like I'm not really you know,

877
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 3: if this show is a hit or not, it's like interesting,

878
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,959
Speaker 3: but it's not the thing, you know, and that Yeah,

879
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,439
Speaker 3: I just I that has really really hit me lately,

880
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 3: and like Australia is a perfect example of that because

881
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: when we did it, it wasn't on Hulu yet. It

882
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: was it was going to just be in Australia and

883
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 3: on Stan Love You Stand, Love You Stan.

884
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 1: But they have great shows. Yeah, I watch a lot

885
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,479
Speaker 1: of crime shows from Yeah, great crime show. Yeah, because

886
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: they have real actors. Yeah, you know, not everybody's beautiful.

887
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 3: And I appreciate that. I totally agree. God I love

888
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 3: those acts. They would be Yeah, but I was like,

889
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 3: if this doesn't it was I was enjoying it so

890
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 3: much that I was like, if this doesn't even go

891
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 3: to America, I kind of don't care, Like I wouldn't

892
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,240
Speaker 3: have done it right right right, you know, America.

893
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: Did you bring her the Land of the Free?

894
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 3: The place?

895
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: Did you bring your short king husband?

896
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: Yes, Australia, thank you. He came with me for like

897
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,240
Speaker 3: half of it. So I was there for like four months.

898
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 1: Is he an actor as well?

899
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 3: He's a producer. He runs Seth Meyer's production company. So

900
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 3: we're both sort of in like the same circle. Yeah,

901
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 3: we're certainly in the same circle.

902
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you are in the same circle.

903
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 3: But he came out for like half of it, the

904
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 3: last half, and he would wake up at like four

905
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 3: in the morning and work and then go to the beach.

906
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 3: It was like a really good life. He would he

907
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 3: would work like whatever America's schedule is, New York schedule

908
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 3: and then yeah, and then he would like the second

909
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 3: half of the day, he would just be like an

910
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,320
Speaker 3: Australian dude.

911
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: I wonder if Australia is ready and has the capacity

912
00:39:57,320 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 1: to absorb half of America. We're there, because how many

913
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:03,399
Speaker 1: people do I just learned that La County is only

914
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: four or not La County, La propers only four million people.

915
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 1: County is like eleven or I thought it would be

916
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 1: way more than four million.

917
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:11,919
Speaker 3: I mean, Australia has a lot of room, right, It's

918
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 3: just like you want to yeah, yeah, the momental.

919
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 1: We want to put the snakes on one side of

920
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: the island. And because it is kind of surprising when

921
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 1: you go to Australia, because I've gone there touring several

922
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 1: times in my career, and you forget that it's basically

923
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: the same like distance as America. Like if you go

924
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: from Perth to Sydney, it's like a five hour flight, right,

925
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: And you're like, wait, what right? I thought this was

926
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 1: a little place.

927
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 3: But there's a lot of spairs. But in that show

928
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 3: Sunday Nights will Forte Place, my brother and his family

929
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 3: was out there, his beautiful wife Olivia and his kids,

930
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 3: and we really have we talk about going back there

931
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 3: a lot, like like living there in a way that

932
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 3: I just haven't experienced.

933
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 1: Before, I know, And they're you know, they're just very

934
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 1: civilized the way that they've set up their lifestyle. Yeah,

935
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 1: there's bike paths in every major city in Australia. They

936
00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: set up like when you're in the in the in

937
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 1: the harbor. The Sydney Harbor is one of the most

938
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: beautiful harbors because they have no shipping containers, right, And

939
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, where did they put the shipping containers somewhere else?

940
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm not anywhere we can see them. And I appreciate

941
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: it too.

942
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 3: I know. I walked I like sort of discovered my

943
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 3: love of just walking like walking, yes, yes, yes, yep,

944
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 3: it's just like you just it's really it's made for

945
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 3: people to like enjoy it.

946
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, we're going to take some callers where we

947
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: give it out advice. People are going to call in live.

948
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: Let's begin this portion of this episode by you can tell.

949
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 1: You can choose to tell me either one great piece

950
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 1: of advice that you've been given or a really bad

951
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 1: piece of advice that.

952
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 3: You've been giving. Okay, it's funny. I mean, I guess

953
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 3: I told you the bad advice from my formal teacher.

954
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 3: I guess, Like it's not funny.

955
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: I just love like do you want to hang out

956
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: with your former student? There's something wrong about that and

957
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure what it is.

958
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 3: And I also wanted to call her like miss whatever.

959
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 3: I know, just like stop like I got a hot

960
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 3: new husband. I'm not a teacher anymore. I'm an inspiring actress.

961
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 3: It was really very funny. Okay, this is too much

962
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,959
Speaker 3: about acting, but it just rings. And it's from Ted,

963
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 3: which was playing Janet on The Good Place, was sort

964
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 3: of like basically he was like, whatever you do next,

965
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 3: have it be the exact opposite from this and continue

966
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 3: to do that throughout your career. And that has really

967
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:28,959
Speaker 3: like been my north star.

968
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,280
Speaker 1: That's great advice and it's.

969
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 3: Helped me with like doing things I'm scared of, doing

970
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 3: things that maybe I wouldn't want to say yes to

971
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 3: to really like follow your gut. I guess, yeah, So

972
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 3: that's really helped me. But that's you know, that's advice

973
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: for an actor. Yeah, or maybe we're not. Yeah, maybe

974
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 3: not it all it can.

975
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: I think in any creative endeavor, it's good to shake

976
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: it up and watch people don't write.

977
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 3: Like in life, we get so stuck in our ways

978
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 3: that we're like, I mean, I'm you know, the older

979
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 3: we get. It's so easy to get stuck in your

980
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:03,560
Speaker 3: in your patterns and to like do things that scare us.

981
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 3: I think is how we like live a full life

982
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 3: and stay young. And you know, I feel like I

983
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:11,959
Speaker 3: see that too much just people sort of.

984
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: Like yeah, it's just also good to get the adrenaline pumping, right,

985
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,720
Speaker 1: Like if you're so accustomed to something or you've gotten

986
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 1: really good at one thing, it's like, okay, that's great.

987
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: But also like the fear subsides, and I feel like

988
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 1: fear is a healthy ingredient before you're about to take

989
00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 1: something on.

990
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,800
Speaker 3: And I'm a big like I talk to my friends

991
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 3: a lot about like fear that you have to be

992
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 3: a little scared of something. Yeah, if you are a

993
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 3: little scared, that's probably a reason to do it, you know.

994
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:41,879
Speaker 2: Absolutely, Yeah, why I have an actor question, So we'll

995
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 2: just go right on your here.

996
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 1: Okay, while Ted is here in Spirited Dancing is always

997
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: in this.

998
00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 2: Podcast, totally well, Cassidy says, Dear Chelsea. I've been an

999
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 2: actor my whole life, and I've spent the last eleven

1000
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 2: years in LA working in commercials, TV and creating my

1001
00:43:56,920 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 2: own projects when opportunities weren't there. Over the year, I've

1002
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 2: learned how to make things happen for myself. I've now

1003
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 2: produced multiple projects. I've done stand up at the Improv

1004
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 2: in the Ice House, and even have a one woman

1005
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 2: show I co wrote and am performing about choosing not

1006
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 2: to have kids and what that means for your identity

1007
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 2: and relationships, and we're putting that up soon.

1008
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 3: But I'm hitting a wall.

1009
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 2: I came out here to be a series regular on

1010
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: a TV show and have a work family, but the

1011
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,360
Speaker 2: industry has changed so much over the past few years,

1012
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,879
Speaker 2: despite everything I've built, I feel like I keep having

1013
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,479
Speaker 2: to start over. I've never been able to fully move

1014
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 2: on from this path, even when it's been painful. But

1015
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 2: I also don't know if I'm being resilient or if

1016
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 2: I'm just stuck. Most of the advice we get is

1017
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 2: just keep going. But what if you really are that

1018
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 2: person that just keeps going? With how much the industry

1019
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 2: has shifted, how do you evolve your path without feeling

1020
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 2: like you're abandoning your original dream?

1021
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 3: Thanks Cassidy, Hi Cassidy, Hi, Hi Cassidy.

1022
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 1: Hi, we have a bona fide actor with us today

1023
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: on the right episode. Hi Darcy, Hi Darcy, why don't

1024
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 1: you start? Okay if you don't mind, I don't guess

1025
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,240
Speaker 1: you are more of an act than anyone else.

1026
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 3: In this room. You're not not on the comedian, you know,

1027
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 3: like a little bit right? Not really. I really relate

1028
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 3: to this, I really like understand and I feel you

1029
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 3: so hard on this. I I know this struggle so well.

1030
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 5: You're like, I also don't want to know what to do.

1031
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,840
Speaker 3: Well truly, I mean, for sure, the industry is changing

1032
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 3: so much, and there is this feeling of like do

1033
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 3: I need to sort of like why diden my view,

1034
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 3: Like do I need to learn how to do other things?

1035
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 3: Or you know you kind of we're in flux right

1036
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 3: now so so much I really feel that, but also

1037
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 3: just the feeling of like moving to a city and

1038
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 3: with this goal and it's not quite happening, but it's

1039
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 3: not not happening, but it's not exactly happening, like I think,

1040
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,760
Speaker 3: you know, I lived in New York for eleven years,

1041
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 3: made five dollars as an actor, but also like was

1042
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 3: very artistically fulfilled because I was doing what you're doing,

1043
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 3: which is like putting shows up and and you know,

1044
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 3: writing and doing improv and doing sketch and stuff like

1045
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 3: that and auditioning for things. And then moved to La

1046
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 3: and it was a similar thing where I was like

1047
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 3: I had this feeling where it's like this thing that

1048
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 3: I wanted seems like it's not going to happen, and

1049
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 3: it's like do I face that reality? Am I happy?

1050
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 3: What's bringing me joy? And I sort of like realized

1051
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 3: that I was. I had to like shift my idea

1052
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 3: of what I thought my life was going to be

1053
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:33,720
Speaker 3: a little bit, but realize that I was happy doing

1054
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 3: the things that you're doing. I was happy doing the

1055
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 3: things that you're doing, but do you know what I mean,

1056
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: like putting up your shows, it's such a struggle.

1057
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: It's just it's such an unpredictable business, and especially the

1058
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 1: time that we're living in, I think it's just so

1059
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 1: important to have like a couple of ducks in a

1060
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 1: row that are not just acting right and not just performing.

1061
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,399
Speaker 1: And it sounds like you do do you I've got

1062
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:58,320
Speaker 1: about three jobs.

1063
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you're for sure the jobs. And also but

1064
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 3: like I mean, so many actors, like you're already in

1065
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 3: a dog you're already so far ahead of it, because

1066
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 3: so many actors come to LA or New York with

1067
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 3: only the goal of like auditioning to get the job.

1068
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: And it sounds like you are. You're doing your own

1069
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 3: thing too, write, you're writing your own shows. You're like that,

1070
00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:21,920
Speaker 3: That's that's the advice is like you you have to.

1071
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 1: Self produce, self create all of that stuff. It sounds

1072
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: like you're on top of it.

1073
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I'm really excited about the show. And I've

1074
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 5: done other shows before, like I said, and have produced

1075
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 5: my own thing, and this one truly does feel like

1076
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 5: it's kind of my purpose on Earth amazing.

1077
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:39,600
Speaker 1: It is a crazy thing to.

1078
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 5: Say, yeah, because just it's what I've gone through with

1079
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 5: unpacking that I don't want to have kids, but what

1080
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 5: that means as an identity and what does that mean

1081
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 5: for my future? Because I discovered that in my twenties,

1082
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 5: So I was like.

1083
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:53,759
Speaker 3: Whoa a lot time.

1084
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, and most people with their older are dealing with

1085
00:47:58,040 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 5: their kids or their grandkids, and I was like, so

1086
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 5: what am I going to be doing? So it is

1087
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 5: fun in a way. And the energy shift that I

1088
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 5: think you both were talking about, I'm getting so much

1089
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 5: better at, especially over the last year, so that and

1090
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 5: I can definitely see things coming toward me because of it.

1091
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm happy about that.

1092
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:21,879
Speaker 5: And I know it's a sort of nuanced question that

1093
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 5: nobody really knows what to say besides like just keep going.

1094
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,320
Speaker 5: But yeah, I was wondering if there was like any

1095
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 5: in between.

1096
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 1: Because I know you.

1097
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 5: I'm sure you two in evening, including Catherine, know what

1098
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 5: I mean. When you're like, okay, cool, like let's discover

1099
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 5: this part of this medium, and then you kind of

1100
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 5: feel like you're starting over and then you're like, okay,

1101
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 5: we did that.

1102
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: That was fun.

1103
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 5: I did it well, actually, but it doesn't feel like

1104
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 5: something I want to do forever. And that's also what

1105
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 5: I kind of came here to do. Like I went

1106
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:59,160
Speaker 5: to school for music, theater, I've done film and TV

1107
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:02,919
Speaker 5: out here. I like it all. But you know, when

1108
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 5: you focus on too many things, your energy gets diffused.

1109
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 5: But then you also don't want to focus only on

1110
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 5: one thing exactly betting on that. So there's all this

1111
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 5: sort of I think in the opposite end of the

1112
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 5: spectrum advice.

1113
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's really discerning, like where you want

1114
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 1: to put your energy and focus and writing that down,

1115
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:23,360
Speaker 1: you know, like what gives you the most feedback, payback,

1116
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: enjoyment out of all of the things that you're doing,

1117
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 1: and then narrow it down to like the three things

1118
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 1: that A are providing you with income and the stability

1119
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 1: to live and be safe, you know, and feed yourself obviously,

1120
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:36,800
Speaker 1: and then get to the second tier of things like

1121
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,720
Speaker 1: which ones do you enjoy, which ones give you life,

1122
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 1: which ones which which aspects of this industry because the

1123
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 1: industry is always going to be shifting. Like I did

1124
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: Howie Mandel's podcast a couple of weeks ago, and he

1125
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: was saying, if you're doing comedy the same way you

1126
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 1: were doing it fifteen years ago. You're missing the whole boat,

1127
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 1: like everything has changed. And I was like, I'm pretty

1128
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 1: sure I'm doing comedy the same way I was fifteen

1129
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,839
Speaker 1: years ago. He's like, no, Chelsea, you have a whole

1130
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 1: social media platform that you didn't have fifteen ye And

1131
00:50:04,719 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, you're right, and he's like, yeah,

1132
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 1: you're on what are you on? I was like all

1133
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 1: of them? Probably, you know, and you're doing a podcast

1134
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 1: like you're adapting. So like that's something that I stood

1135
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:16,359
Speaker 1: out to me that he said is like you do

1136
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 1: see the difference between people who adapt versus people who

1137
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 1: resist totally, Like, yeah, and he's coming. It scares the

1138
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: shit out of everyone, but you can't. You have to

1139
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: deal with it, Like, we can't just be like I'm

1140
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 1: not going to use it. That's not helpful either. And

1141
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 1: live performance is also something that you know is not

1142
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 1: going to be easily replaced. Right, people don't want to

1143
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 1: go see a hologram performing, right, I'm sure some people do,

1144
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 1: but most people don't.

1145
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 3: I heard something interesting recently which was we were very

1146
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:45,800
Speaker 3: excited in the like seventies and eighties about a computer

1147
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 3: being able to win at chess until it actually beat

1148
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 3: a person, and then we didn't care anymore and we

1149
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 3: just watched people play chess. I mean, if you're into

1150
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 3: that sort of thing, right, right, right, So yeah, that's interesting.

1151
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,800
Speaker 3: I okay. One thing that like stuck out to me

1152
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 3: is you said like you feel like this show is

1153
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 3: your purpose on Earth. I think, like follow that feeling, right,

1154
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 3: like like that is so attractive, and I think just

1155
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 3: you know, it's it might not be tomorrow that the

1156
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 3: like the thing happens from the show or whatever, but

1157
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 3: you having that feeling of not the desperation of like

1158
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 3: this is going to bring me something, but just more

1159
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 3: like I love what I'm doing right now. That is

1160
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 3: so attractive, totally right, and so then it's like, you know,

1161
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:28,759
Speaker 3: I think good things will come from that. So I

1162
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 3: think in like loving what you're doing and following your passion.

1163
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 3: I know this maybe sounds a little like duh, but

1164
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,759
Speaker 3: it's like that is you're doing it right and then

1165
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 3: and then you know, yeah, you have to have this

1166
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 3: job and that job that pays the bills, but that

1167
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:45,959
Speaker 3: can start changing tomorrow. I don't know, it's hard.

1168
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,240
Speaker 1: I think absolutely, I think that's true. I think everything

1169
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 1: you're saying it's right. It's very hard to live an

1170
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:53,400
Speaker 1: artist's life. It's very unpredictable. So like that's what you

1171
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 1: signed up for and this is just part of that.

1172
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: And so when you think about it that way, like

1173
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 1: it just kind of comes with the territory. You get

1174
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:02,880
Speaker 1: to do what you love to do with also the

1175
00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:06,000
Speaker 1: side of instability, right, so you just kind of have

1176
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:07,799
Speaker 1: to warm up to that idea and do everything that

1177
00:52:07,840 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: you can to protect all of the things that are

1178
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:12,320
Speaker 1: going to keep you safe housed, clothes and fed.

1179
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 3: I know you know this also, but like you get

1180
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 3: the show tomorrow, you get the TV show, and it

1181
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:19,799
Speaker 3: lasts for one season and then you're like right back

1182
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 3: and this, yeah, you're right back to the same feeling

1183
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 3: that you had before. This business is so up and

1184
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 3: down and I don't I mean, even even someone that's

1185
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:31,399
Speaker 3: been doing it as long as you, like you, I'm

1186
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 3: sure you feel that, you know, like, yeah, like the

1187
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 3: you're on top, you're on bottom, you're on it's just

1188
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 3: it's it's not it's not for the faint of heart.

1189
00:52:38,960 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 3: So whatever.

1190
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, I decided a while ago to stop.

1191
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:44,720
Speaker 1: Putting energy into quitting.

1192
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, because I tried to quit so many times, and

1193
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:48,640
Speaker 5: I just kept coming back to it.

1194
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:51,600
Speaker 1: That's something good and it's a part of the energy shift.

1195
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:56,279
Speaker 6: I think too. Though, there's like, you know, you want

1196
00:52:56,280 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 6: to have goals, and you're supposed to have goals, and

1197
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 6: of course I have because you want to know where

1198
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:03,000
Speaker 6: you're going. But then a lot of the things that

1199
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 6: have been a part of I would have never been

1200
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 6: able to put down, and they've been some of my

1201
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:08,879
Speaker 6: happiest days.

1202
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 5: So there's that weird in.

1203
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,799
Speaker 3: Between, yeah, being open, like want to have a vague goal,

1204
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:15,320
Speaker 3: but you're supposed to have a specific goal.

1205
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 1: I'm not a real goal oriented person. I'm just more

1206
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: of a like I kind of fly by the seat

1207
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: of my pants a little bit, so I can understand

1208
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:25,359
Speaker 1: the goal aspect and why people do that. But I

1209
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 1: also think just like, welcome the challenges, you know, like

1210
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:30,839
Speaker 1: you're talking about shifting your energy and part of that.

1211
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 1: There's a great podcast that I just listened to. Ezra

1212
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: Client had pimas chowdron on She's not a monk? What

1213
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 1: is it called when you're a female monk?

1214
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 3: A monk?

1215
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:45,879
Speaker 1: Guess a monket It's like a smurfet but Anyway, it

1216
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 1: was a lot about not resisting the reality of a situation, right,

1217
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:53,440
Speaker 1: and when we are challenged, like in whatever industry you're in,

1218
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 1: you're talking about this specific entertainment industry, it's good to

1219
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: just kind of look at it and like move towards

1220
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: the challenge rather than move away from it, and and

1221
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 1: like and then that that also becomes like an energy

1222
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 1: vibe that you're giving out where you are attracting different

1223
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 1: things and things are coming your way because you're not

1224
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 1: resisting the fact that the situation is changing or becoming

1225
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,799
Speaker 1: challenging in a different way. You just kind of embrace it,

1226
00:54:17,040 --> 00:54:19,200
Speaker 1: you know, like, and you could apply that to anything

1227
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 1: in life, Like you just kind of embrace the difficulty

1228
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 1: of the moment and move towards it.

1229
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:26,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's interesting. I'll be thinking about that.

1230
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 3: Well, Cassidy.

1231
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 2: Will you send us a link to your show and

1232
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 2: if it's up by the time this goes out, we'll

1233
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 2: put a link in the bio.

1234
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: Love that.

1235
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:37,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, for sure, Thank you all and everybody behind

1236
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 5: the scenes.

1237
00:54:38,600 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 1: Thanks Cassidy, thanks for calling in. Bye bye. Do you

1238
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: have time for one more?

1239
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 2: Okay, great, Okay, Well this is a pretty important one.

1240
00:54:50,320 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 2: It's a pretty big one. So we have Ashley calling in.

1241
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:54,439
Speaker 3: She's twenty six.

1242
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:57,279
Speaker 2: She says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a twenty six year old

1243
00:54:57,320 --> 00:54:59,720
Speaker 2: straight woman freshly graduated from medical school.

1244
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:00,840
Speaker 3: Later this summer.

1245
00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 2: I'm about to move several states away from my family

1246
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 2: to start my career. I'm currently engaged to the guy

1247
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 2: I've been with since I was seventeen, and we've overall

1248
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 2: been really happy. He supported me throughout school, and we're

1249
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: supposed to get married next year. However, there's this guy

1250
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 2: from my medical school class who've had a crush on

1251
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 2: since the first day of school. In the last few months,

1252
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:20,719
Speaker 2: I finally ended up telling him how I felt, and

1253
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 2: it turns out he felt the same way all along.

1254
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:26,360
Speaker 2: When I'm around him, it's electric. I'm nervous, I'm shaky,

1255
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 2: my heart races. I've never wanted somebody like I want him.

1256
00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 2: When graduation came, we essentially said our goodbyes, and he

1257
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 2: made sure I knew that while he's not rooting against

1258
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 2: my future happiness with my boyfriend, if anything happens where

1259
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 2: I end up single, give him a call, whether he's

1260
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 2: in a relationship or not.

1261
00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:44,239
Speaker 1: It's a cow, it's a couple.

1262
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:46,799
Speaker 2: Weeks since graduation, and I hate the thought of never

1263
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 2: seeing him again. I can't stop thinking about him, and

1264
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 2: I'm sadly thinking about ending my marriage before it starts.

1265
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:55,239
Speaker 2: I love my fiancee and he's a really good guy,

1266
00:55:55,239 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 2: and he loves me so much, and we've been happy,

1267
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:58,760
Speaker 2: but there are some feelings in me now that weren't

1268
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 2: there before. If he's still everything I want in a husband.

1269
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 2: I'm also feeling like, if I'm having these thoughts, I

1270
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 2: have to break it off. But this is like the

1271
00:56:06,719 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 2: scariest decision ever, and I don't know if I'll regret it.

1272
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 2: I just have a couple weeks to figure it all

1273
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 2: out and tell my fiance if I decide to break

1274
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:14,840
Speaker 2: it off. What do you think I should do? Do

1275
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:16,680
Speaker 2: I give up what I know is good for something

1276
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:21,280
Speaker 2: that could or could not be great? Ashley, Ashley, Ashley,

1277
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 2: you got stuff going on?

1278
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 1: Yeah? Is your wedding date set?

1279
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:25,919
Speaker 3: Yeah? Next year?

1280
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,880
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay. I feel like you have an opportunity to

1281
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: like look into this situation that you have going with

1282
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 1: this guy. Like, I don't think you have to tell

1283
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 1: your fiance everything right now. I think you can just

1284
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:40,920
Speaker 1: simply say I need a couple of weeks to myself

1285
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 1: to really think about this decision that we're making. I

1286
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 1: love you, I care about you, like, but I really

1287
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 1: just need some time. I'm having all sorts of feelings

1288
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:52,399
Speaker 1: and I just want to take a break. I really

1289
00:56:52,440 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 1: don't think you need to difulge what it is that

1290
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:57,280
Speaker 1: you're doing and at this juncture.

1291
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 3: And what she's doing is fucking that guy.

1292
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, that would be my advice. I would start dating

1293
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 1: this guy, have sex with him, and see if what

1294
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Speaker 1: you're because listen, we've all had crushes and one of

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Speaker 1: the most intoxicating things about them is that you don't

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Speaker 1: know what would happen. And that's why we're so dazzled

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Speaker 1: by this, Like, you know, the idea of someone new

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Speaker 1: and the idea, and when you put pen to paper,

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Speaker 1: you might just go and find out, oh, you have

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Speaker 1: like no sexual chemistry or it doesn't feel good, and

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Speaker 1: then you'll be even more able to double down on

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Speaker 1: the relationship that you are in. But if you don't

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Speaker 1: explore this, you're gonna regret it for the rest of you.

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Speaker 3: You might regret it for the rest of your life.

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 3: And I think like this is a tricky one because

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Speaker 3: I think this might be a little bit about hot

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00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 3: guy and a little bit about like it sounds like

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00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:52,280
Speaker 3: high school boyfriend is lovely and wonderful and my parents

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00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 3: met in high school. But like, other than that, the

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Speaker 3: idea of meeting your soul mate at seventeen is tricky,

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Speaker 3: like you will grow and change so much. And I'm

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Speaker 3: not saying like he sounds wonderful, and I think he is.

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Speaker 3: Otherwise you probably would have gotten rid of him already.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, it would be easier if he wasn't I.

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Speaker 3: Know, I know, Listen, I actually really understand this situation,

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Speaker 3: like like on a deep, deep personal level from my

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00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 3: high school boyfriend, just like a lovely guy, just like

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Speaker 3: nothing wrong with him, but just not quite quite. And

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Speaker 3: I do think if I had married him, I think

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Speaker 3: I would be in a situation where I was like

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Speaker 3: thinking about the medical school guy.

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Speaker 1: Is there any scenario where you can say to your fiance,

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Speaker 1: I need like a month to myself.

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Speaker 4: So I've been thinking about like how to approach it,

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Speaker 4: because we're supposed to move away together at the end

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Speaker 4: next month, so like five six weeks from now, and

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Speaker 4: I don't want to do that. I think I have

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Speaker 4: to move regardless, but I think I need to like

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Speaker 4: sit down and talk to and tell him that I

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Speaker 4: don't want him to move with me at least just yet.

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Speaker 3: Ashley, I think you might want to take a break

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Speaker 3: from this guy from boyfriend. Yeah, I think it might

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Speaker 3: be more than a month. I think you might need

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Speaker 3: to like really.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're already thinking about that moving in with

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Speaker 1: him and then postponing that, I think that it would

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Speaker 1: be in your best interest. Listen, when women have feelings,

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00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 1: you need to pay attention to them because we've come

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Speaker 1: from generations of women who have been taught to ignore

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Speaker 1: what they feel. So in pursuing what you want, even

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Speaker 1: if it doesn't lead to anything exactly, you're listening to yourself.

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Speaker 1: And then you're like breaking the cycle of women that

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Speaker 1: came before you and for the women that come after you.

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Speaker 1: Like you, really I think about those kinds of things

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Speaker 1: When I have a big decision, I just think about

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Speaker 1: how does this decision affect all women? Yeah, And like,

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Speaker 1: I know that sounds crazy, but it's really it's worthwhile

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01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: to think about how you're in you know, how you're

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01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,120
Speaker 1: standing up for yourself. You would give this advice like

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01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 1: to a friend, right, you would say, go explore this

1352
01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 1: and see what's there, right, And even if it's nothing,

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01:00:12,760 --> 01:00:15,480
Speaker 1: you were true to yourself and you examined it and

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01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:17,240
Speaker 1: you're like, okay, and maybe you're going to fall out

1355
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 1: in love with this guy and maybe this is the

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Speaker 1: guy and maybe he's not. But either way, you should

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Speaker 1: follow your heart and follow your emotions because you're young

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Speaker 1: enough to do it. Right.

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Speaker 2: My big question in this scenario is this guy who

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01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 2: feels very exciting. Sometimes those people are it's exciting because

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Speaker 2: they're chaotic, right, or they're messy, or.

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Speaker 3: You're unavailable, and that's one of the room sins yea.

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Speaker 2: And there's like a love bombing situation. So is that

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Speaker 2: what's going on at all? Or you don't feel that

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Speaker 2: at all.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't think he's like just in it for

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01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 4: the chaos of it. I mean, like over the last

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Speaker 4: few weeks months, he was very much on the side

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Speaker 4: of like you need to like try not to cross.

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Speaker 1: Any lines right right right, which is respectful, nice, and

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Speaker 1: if you were toxic, he would have been like yeaeah.

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Speaker 1: And he was.

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Speaker 4: Really keeping me like bron and that. And then when

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Speaker 4: it was time for like to say goobye and hand

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01:01:17,160 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 4: to lead. He was like, you have to figure out

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Speaker 4: what you want to do, like for you and like

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Speaker 4: highly be out of this, like if you end up

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01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 4: sayingle I'll be there. But he was just like, you can't.

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Speaker 4: You can't just swap us out, Like you gotta figure

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Speaker 4: out what you really want.

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Speaker 3: When you think about your fiance, do you feel like

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Speaker 3: you're like in love with him for life or do

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01:01:41,320 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 3: you feel like this is you feel safe with him?

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01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:46,280
Speaker 3: Or what? What do you think? Is it just sort

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01:01:46,280 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 3: of like this, you know, this is like the natural

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01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:51,840
Speaker 3: progression of a relationship is like you date and then

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Speaker 3: you move in together, and then you get married.

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Speaker 4: I felt very in love with him. I just feel

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01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:01,520
Speaker 4: like like a part of that is ron yeah, but

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01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:03,880
Speaker 4: I mean no, I was very happy and like very

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01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 4: excited to marry him.

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01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:08,000
Speaker 1: But I just feel like now.

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01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:12,920
Speaker 4: I've been thinking things differently, and with all these changes,

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Speaker 4: I feel different.

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Speaker 2: I also think if you take the space and you decide,

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01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:19,760
Speaker 2: like I actually do like this person.

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Speaker 3: I'm with now is the person I want to be

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Speaker 3: with long term.

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Speaker 2: I also don't think that you guys need to talk

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Speaker 2: about anything that happened in the interim.

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Speaker 1: I think that's like, I just think you need yourself, yeah,

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01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:31,880
Speaker 1: like more than anything else. I agree how you want

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01:02:31,880 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 1: to handle like the intricacies of it. You need to

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01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:35,440
Speaker 1: listen to yourself as a woman.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and you kind of know already.

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01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:39,000
Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 1: I do.

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Speaker 4: I just I don't know how to do it, you

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Speaker 4: know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I think you just have to sit down with him

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Speaker 1: and be as gracious and as possible, knowing this person's

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Speaker 1: in love with you, sit down with him and be

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01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 1: like listen. And I would be lying if I didn't

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Speaker 1: say that I had some misgivings and I'm getting really

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Speaker 1: nervous about being married and I really need to like

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01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:00,919
Speaker 1: slow it down. Yeah, I need some time, I think

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01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:03,440
Speaker 1: for myself. I owe it to myself, and I want

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Speaker 1: to honor these feelings that I'm having that this I

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01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 1: don't think this has anything to do with you. This

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Speaker 1: is me, and I'm starting to feel panicked about the wedding.

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01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:16,440
Speaker 1: I'm just I just want some time to really like

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01:03:16,600 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 1: clarify or gain some clarity about how I'm feeling. And

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Speaker 1: any real guy, like, of course he's gonna not love that,

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01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: but if he really loves you, he's gonna respect that.

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01:03:28,440 --> 01:03:31,240
Speaker 1: And you just have to be very respectful of him

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01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:33,760
Speaker 1: when you're telling him. I mean, obviously you're not going

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01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 1: to tell him that I'm interested in fucking this other

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01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 1: guy from college, but you can just be like, listen,

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01:03:38,800 --> 01:03:40,840
Speaker 1: I have some things, I have some unanswered questions. I

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01:03:40,840 --> 01:03:43,120
Speaker 1: don't know what that means. Maybe you're going to talk

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01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:45,600
Speaker 1: to a therapist for a month. Maybe you're gonna just

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01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 1: like explore life what it's like without him in it

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01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 1: for a month, but putting it in a way that

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01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 1: there's nothing he can do, you know, and not leaving

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01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,760
Speaker 1: him hanging, being like, listen, just give me some time

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01:03:56,920 --> 01:03:59,440
Speaker 1: and I will come back to you with.

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Speaker 3: A more more realized Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But right now, just like, I don't like the way

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01:04:04,280 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 1: I'm feeling, and I would never want to enter into

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01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:09,800
Speaker 1: a partnership or a living situation feeling this way. Right

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01:04:09,920 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 1: so I have to clear my thoughts and I need

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01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 1: to do that without you.

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01:04:12,560 --> 01:04:15,080
Speaker 3: And you do you need it for you? It's not selfish,

1444
01:04:15,120 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 3: like depending on his response to this, also can kind

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01:04:18,920 --> 01:04:21,640
Speaker 3: of inform you about how you guys are as a couple. Yes,

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01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:25,760
Speaker 3: and it's it's not like selfish. You have to do

1447
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:29,160
Speaker 3: it for you and he should also understand that you

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01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:32,200
Speaker 3: will never sort of forgive yourself or or stop thinking

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01:04:32,200 --> 01:04:33,760
Speaker 3: about this. And I don't even mean the guy. I

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01:04:33,800 --> 01:04:36,640
Speaker 3: mean you being alone for a little while here. Yeah,

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01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:39,320
Speaker 3: so that's huge. Like if he if he doesn't understand

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01:04:39,360 --> 01:04:41,800
Speaker 3: that, that says a lot about y know, absolutely him and

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01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:45,080
Speaker 3: you guys as a couple. All right, Ashley, will you

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01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:48,640
Speaker 3: check in with us, give us the scoop? Yeah, I'll

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01:04:48,680 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 3: email you all right, good luck.

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01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, thanks for calling, Ashley. Good luck

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01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 1: with everything.

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01:04:54,080 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 3: Thank you. Okay you too, wait until you're thirty to

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01:04:57,520 --> 01:04:57,960
Speaker 3: get married.

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Speaker 1: We like your shoulders.

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01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:01,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, shack on.

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01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:04,959
Speaker 1: Okay, Well that was awesome, Darcy. That was our hour

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Speaker 1: with Darcycard and you gave great advice.

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