Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with Denglert and Dared Haven
Speaker 1: and I Heart Radio podcast. What is going on? Everyone?
Speaker 1: Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: At Dating. I am recording from the passenger seat of
Speaker 1: my brother's truck in Hamilton, Montana. Jared, where the heck
Speaker 1: are you? I'm in my man cave, which I think
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a possible baby room in the future.
Speaker 1: We're not really sure what we're doing right now, but
Speaker 1: right now it is surrounded by Tom Brady, Patriots, Buccaneers,
Speaker 1: Red Sox paraphernalia. It's pretty awesome. I love being in here.
Speaker 1: This is the first time I think I'm ever recording
Speaker 1: my our podcast from this room, so I'm pretty excited.
Speaker 1: I think that we can finally say cats out of
Speaker 1: the bag. Right You're having a baby boy, baby boy? Yes,
Speaker 1: we are, so we're very excited. We have the name
Speaker 1: picked out. Ashley has had this name picked out for
Speaker 1: twenty years. She's loved it and when she told me,
Speaker 1: I loved it. So we're do you have a name
Speaker 1: picked out? So pretty much everything's good to go. We
Speaker 1: have a baby boy. You guys gonna do another Amazon
Speaker 1: Live video of telling everyone the name of the baby.
Speaker 1: I mean, fingers crossed. One can only hope, my friend,
Speaker 1: this baby is gonna be have more money than me
Speaker 1: before it even comes out of the freaking womb. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, college tuition ain't cheap. Paying for a coffee
Speaker 1: shop down here, you know, we gotta do what we
Speaker 1: gotta do. But it was actually really fun. So we
Speaker 1: announced on Amazon Live yesterday the same thing we did
Speaker 1: with our pregnancy. And it's actually a lot of fun
Speaker 1: announcing on there because it's a live platform, so it's
Speaker 1: fun interacting with everybody in the live chat with us.
Speaker 1: Uh and you know, just having it live in the
Speaker 1: moment and not prerecorded. There's something to be said about that.
Speaker 1: And it was like a built up like moment. We're like, okay,
Speaker 1: here we go. It's a boy, and everybody's saying congratulations.
Speaker 1: It was It was a fun moment for Ashley and I,
Speaker 1: So I'm really glad we did it that way. Nice man,
Speaker 1: We'll congratulations baby boy. Baby Dean's on the way. Um,
Speaker 1: baby Deanie, Deanie babies you want to I just found
Speaker 1: out too. Yes, they're like three days ago when I
Speaker 1: ever got Spontana is my brother is having a baby
Speaker 1: with his wife. Congratulations. Yeah, it was the weirdest thing.
Speaker 1: They were like, yeah, we just bought a house together.
Speaker 1: I was like, great, an extra room for me to
Speaker 1: sleep in and they're like, yeah, we're gonna need all
Speaker 1: the rooms we can get. And I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I guess it's kind of a weird thing to say.
Speaker 1: What you're talking about gonna be sleeping there all the time, guys.
Speaker 1: And then his wife looks at me and she like
Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, like smiles a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, are you guys like trying to tell
Speaker 1: me something? And then they were like, we're pregnant. And
Speaker 1: I was like, this is the weirdest possible way to
Speaker 1: tell someone that you're pregnant. Just freaking tell me. I
Speaker 1: don't know, pregnant. That's so cute. So you're gonna be
Speaker 1: an uncle? Is that you're gonna be an uncle? Well,
Speaker 1: I Alred was gonna be an uncle with baby ha
Speaker 1: been on the way. But I'm gonna be an official
Speaker 1: real uncle with baby Bell on the way. It who
Speaker 1: would be nice? Oh so it's it's a girl. Bell
Speaker 1: is their last name? Oh okay. I was like Bell
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful name. We already know the gender in
Speaker 1: the name. That's great. But it is a girl, so
Speaker 1: that is going to be a girl because I think
Speaker 1: what is actually do Ashley's do February? February tenth or eleventh,
Speaker 1: I think is the official day their baby is do February.
Speaker 1: So that you guys, oh, you guys had sex like
Speaker 1: right around the same time. Yeah, tight, tight, Tell to
Speaker 1: tell your brother, I said, nicely done, sir, Yeah done.
Speaker 1: There's just something in the air. And may I guess right? Apparently, dude,
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day baby, that'd be pretty cool. Rob Thomas was
Speaker 1: born on the Valentine's Day. It's a great birthday. Yeah. Nice.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe your baby and his baby could get married
Speaker 1: in years Yeah, I mean, who knows. On Bachelor in
Speaker 1: Paradise that would be. That would be something special. That's
Speaker 1: something horribly went wrong. Um. So we do have some
Speaker 1: hot tops coming in. We don't have any guests for
Speaker 1: you today, which is always the best because we're just
Speaker 1: gonna host chatt It. We're gonna talk about hot topics.
Speaker 1: We also have some questions that we pose to you
Speaker 1: on our help. I start a dating instagram, which if
Speaker 1: you're not following already, please do so. Uh, And so
Speaker 1: we're gonna answer some of that, and of course we're
Speaker 1: gonna answer your emails. But the first topic of the
Speaker 1: day is about Alex Rodriguez. This freaking guy, Alex. Uh,
Speaker 1: this guy stinks. Alex Rodriguez shares photo of himself posing
Speaker 1: with Porsche that he gifted Jennifer Lopez. Obviously his ex.
Speaker 1: Alex Rodriguez is certainly enjoying the finer things in life,
Speaker 1: which includes what some fans have pointed out looks like
Speaker 1: a red Porsche that was once a birthday gift to
Speaker 1: his ex Jennifer Lopez. Alex Rodriguez is uh, I guess,
Speaker 1: crushing into his new chapter in life. The former Yankee
Speaker 1: was seen grinning from ear to ear while posing in
Speaker 1: front of a red Porsche in his latest Instagram post,
Speaker 1: which on August eighteenth, is when he posted the caption
Speaker 1: said I'm super down to earth. Real funny Alex. However,
Speaker 1: that wasn't the most noteworthy part of the post, with
Speaker 1: fans immediately noticing that his car that he has seen
Speaker 1: leaning on looked awfully similar to the lavish birthday gift
Speaker 1: he gave to Jennifer Lopez back in two thousand nineteen.
Speaker 1: One person even commented asking, isn't that the red car
Speaker 1: he bought j Lo. Another fan amongst many, obviously also
Speaker 1: hinted the uh at the return gift, writing I thought
Speaker 1: you gave that red Porsche to never mind when the
Speaker 1: quote I'm real swift singer turned fifty. Obviously, Jennifer Lopez
Speaker 1: just turned fift nineteen, and Insider revealed to Eat News
Speaker 1: at the time that Alex gifted the red Heart commodity
Speaker 1: to his then fiance at an estimated cost of buckle
Speaker 1: up a hundred and forty thousand dollars. Holy crap, what
Speaker 1: a I hate this guy. You know, he's a Yankee.
Speaker 1: I've never liked the way he played and he I
Speaker 1: just feel like he's such a faker. That's what I
Speaker 1: think of Alex Rodriguez. And maybe I'm biased because I
Speaker 1: hate the Yankees and he played for the Yankees, and
Speaker 1: he just like was just a I didn't just how
Speaker 1: do I say this without swearing? He was a pansy
Speaker 1: Like I don't know if you were into Intel four alcs,
Speaker 1: but he likes slapped the ball out of the first
Speaker 1: baseman's hand. To try to get on first base. It
Speaker 1: was just like, this guy stinks, and now he's taking
Speaker 1: pictures and smiling from ear to ear in front of
Speaker 1: a gift that he once gave his exten Philipez. Like, bro,
Speaker 1: move on, she's happy with ben Affleck, she's upgraded. Why
Speaker 1: don't you focus on your own life? God forbid the
Speaker 1: guy takes a picture where he's happy. Jared, calm down, man,
Speaker 1: Your disdain for the Yankees can only go so far.
Speaker 1: First of all, the Yankees are great, and the Red
Speaker 1: Sox suck, especially after two thousand seven, but we've won
Speaker 1: two World Series since then. You have the Red Sox. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm including myself in that statement. I'm saying two seven
Speaker 1: was the year that I really don't like because you
Speaker 1: guys swept us in the World Series the Rockies, That's right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you guys were on fire. You guys were like eighteen
Speaker 1: and one in the players or something like that, and
Speaker 1: then you got to the World Series and we kicked
Speaker 1: your ass. Anyway, move on. Um My point is I personally,
Speaker 1: if I bought someone a hundred Porsche and then we
Speaker 1: broke up, I would a thousand percent take the Porsche back. Well,
Speaker 1: My question is is this the actual Porsche or is
Speaker 1: he just trying to like get a rise out of
Speaker 1: j Lo, Because that's my question. I don't think he's
Speaker 1: doing that, man. I think that people are being a
Speaker 1: little too soft with that, Like, Okay, he's a grown man. Yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: Jlo moved on. But what he's not allowed to take
Speaker 1: the freaking picture in front of a sweet red car?
Speaker 1: What's his name? Guy? I'm gonna look him up on
Speaker 1: Instagram here real quick because I want to get some
Speaker 1: more perspective to this. First of all, he's caption I'm
Speaker 1: super down to earth, not funny, it's sarcasm. His sarcasm
Speaker 1: is not my tuppy humor anyway. And this guy is
Speaker 1: leaning against the red Porsche that he apparently famously gifted
Speaker 1: Jennifer Lopez on her fiftieth birthday. He knew when he
Speaker 1: posted this picture that that's what everybody would be talking
Speaker 1: about in including the host of this podcast. And he's
Speaker 1: getting what he wants because we're all discussing it. So
Speaker 1: it worked. So you know what, Clap to you, Alex Rodriguez.
Speaker 1: He got us all to talk about it. Here we
Speaker 1: are talking about you on the podcast today but you
Speaker 1: know what, doesn't mean I have to like it. I
Speaker 1: don't like him one bit because I think he's trying
Speaker 1: to get a rise out of my boy's girlfriend A K.
Speaker 1: Ben Affleck. And you know what, I don't dig it.
Speaker 1: Maybe Jay Look gave it back to a Rod and
Speaker 1: now he's just happy to have his car back. Hey,
Speaker 1: he can have the car back. Yeah, And don't get
Speaker 1: me wrong, sure if you want to take the car back,
Speaker 1: take the car back, like whatever, it's your money, bro,
Speaker 1: But to lean on it, post about it, grinning from
Speaker 1: ear to ear. He knew, he knew everybody, like he
Speaker 1: knew exactly what he was doing. You're just being too
Speaker 1: hard on a Rod. Have you ever kept anything from
Speaker 1: being a hater? Right now you are being a hater? Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like we talked about this before in the podcast, like
Speaker 1: certain sentimental things I kept and then like stored away
Speaker 1: because we couldn't. Like I was like I remember finding
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago and be like, oh do
Speaker 1: I throw rowed away? Like it feels I feel terrible
Speaker 1: throwing away. But like in terms of like anything of value, No,
Speaker 1: I've never taken anything back from an next That would
Speaker 1: be kind of messed up even like a Rod. You
Speaker 1: want to take your porscheback? Bro, Why you really need
Speaker 1: the money that badly? Something tells me that you don't.
Speaker 1: So if he did take the gift back from j Lo,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? Just let her have it, dude,
Speaker 1: I think you're looking at this all wrong. Maybe Jayla
Speaker 1: didn't want it anymore. Maybe Jlo was like, look, dude,
Speaker 1: I don't need this. I'm the freaking richest, hottest girl
Speaker 1: in the world. Why would I need your stupid, ugly
Speaker 1: red Porsche. Take it back? And now a Rod is
Speaker 1: happy he got his car back. He's super down to
Speaker 1: earth and he wants everyone to know it, so he
Speaker 1: takes a picture and post on Instagram. I just I
Speaker 1: think you're being a little too hard on the guy
Speaker 1: you know well as you can tell not a fan. Alright,
Speaker 1: well we agree to disagree. Our next hot topic is
Speaker 1: about a man who breaks up with his girlfriend via
Speaker 1: the Jumpo Tron, which, if if you guys don't know,
Speaker 1: a jumbo tron is, it's the huge television screen that
Speaker 1: is in every stadium of any professional sports league anywhere.
Speaker 1: So apparently this guy on the JumboTron put alyssa. This
Speaker 1: relationship is over from Tim. Uh. Tim, this guy went
Speaker 1: to a place very few are willing to go and
Speaker 1: breaking up with a partner. Recently at Akron Rubber Ducks game,
Speaker 1: which is the double affiliate of Cleveland which, uh, Cleveland
Speaker 1: is no longer there the Cleveland Guardians, right are they
Speaker 1: the Cleveland Guardians this year? They just changed their name?
Speaker 1: I think so right now, so they're the double a
Speaker 1: affiliate of Cleveland Indians. The Akron Rubber tell X what
Speaker 1: a name? Anyway, this is in Cleveland. Tim broke up
Speaker 1: with his girlfriend, Alyssa now ex girlfriend in one of
Speaker 1: the most savage, disrespectful ways possible. Alyssa, this relationship is
Speaker 1: over by the way, the overs and all capital letters
Speaker 1: talk about twisting knife. That's what the L A D
Speaker 1: L E D sign read at Canal Park. Alyssa, needless
Speaker 1: to say, has every right to be infuriated with Tim
Speaker 1: over this classless breakup without knowing the full story. However,
Speaker 1: I can't really cast judgment. This is obviously from the
Speaker 1: author of the article, not me, Because on help I
Speaker 1: suck a dating we cast judgment. Generally speaking, there are
Speaker 1: only really two explanations as to why Tim would decide
Speaker 1: to go to these lengths to break up with a Lissa. First,
Speaker 1: Alyssa is deeply has deeply hurt Tim dealing with these
Speaker 1: feelings Tim right or wrong, So retribution by contacting the
Speaker 1: good people within the Rubber Ducks organization and likely paid
Speaker 1: to have this message displayed for all three thousand one
Speaker 1: and sixty fans to see at Canal Park. The second
Speaker 1: explanation pretty simple. Tim is a scumbag. He's a scumbag
Speaker 1: guy who couldn't muster the courage to break up with
Speaker 1: a Lissa literally any other way. Either way, it sounds
Speaker 1: like it maybe for the best that these two are
Speaker 1: going their separate ways. So what are your overall thoughts
Speaker 1: about this? I think it's a joke and I think
Speaker 1: people misunderstood it. I agree, what kind of douche bag?
Speaker 1: Unless she cheated on him, that's the only explanation. If
Speaker 1: Alyssa cheated on Tim, then maybe he went to these
Speaker 1: lengths to break up with her. But if he, if
Speaker 1: she did cheat on him, wouldn't like he also put
Speaker 1: that in the message, be like, Alyssa, I caught you cheating.
Speaker 1: It's over. It's definitely. It's definitely like they're still dating,
Speaker 1: and he's like playing a prank on her if that's
Speaker 1: if that that's at all? Yeah, it's like, I I
Speaker 1: am even angry to talk about this right now. I
Speaker 1: think it's hilarious. I kind of want to go to
Speaker 1: a Rubber Ducks game with Kaylin and do the same
Speaker 1: thing to her, just to get a rise out of her.
Speaker 1: Just hilarious. All right, Yeah, let's play this out. So
Speaker 1: you go to the Akron Rubber Ducks game in Cleveland, Ohio,
Speaker 1: and you guys go and there's three thousand people there,
Speaker 1: and you get some popcorn. You're watching a baseball game,
Speaker 1: and then in the seventh inning stretch, you go, Caitlin, look,
Speaker 1: I put a message for you up on the JumboTron
Speaker 1: and it says, Klin, it's over from Dean. How do
Speaker 1: you think she'd react, Well, first of all, it would
Speaker 1: be in the Las Vegas Ballpark where the Aviators play,
Speaker 1: because that's a greater street from our house in Las Vegas.
Speaker 1: But yes, let's let's say we find ourselves an Acron
Speaker 1: one day rubber Ducks are playing, we gotta go big
Speaker 1: game in the a c pcl UH tournament with something
Speaker 1: like that, and you know, It's like I and I
Speaker 1: did that to Klin. I think that she would get
Speaker 1: uncomfortable and she would laugh and she would get very
Speaker 1: angry at me, But in hindsight it would be hilarious
Speaker 1: and she would laugh about off. I think, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: curious how Alyssa would react if this was a giant joke.
Speaker 1: If because then like, what's the point? It's like, oh
Speaker 1: a good, It's a like a two second laugh for
Speaker 1: all that hard work, and now everybody in the ballpark
Speaker 1: thinks that you guys broke up. Who cares? What the
Speaker 1: there's thans there and fifty six of those people will
Speaker 1: never know who they're talking about, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Fair point. So this brings up a question. Do you
Speaker 1: think it's ever acceptable to break up with someone not
Speaker 1: in person? I mean I've done it before. I've done
Speaker 1: like the FaceTime breakup, uh, probably a couple of times
Speaker 1: over were you guys in a long distance relationship? I
Speaker 1: feel like that's the only acceptable way to do a
Speaker 1: FaceTime breakup. We were in a long relationship. Have you
Speaker 1: ever done that or are you a face to face guy?
Speaker 1: I've never done that. No, I've never broken up with
Speaker 1: somebody unless like somebody thinks that broke up with them.
Speaker 1: I don't think so. Okay, p s A. If you're
Speaker 1: listening to this and Jared has broken up with you,
Speaker 1: please call in and let us know how he did it.
Speaker 1: No no, no no no no no no no. But
Speaker 1: I do think for a long distance relationship, it is
Speaker 1: acceptable to do a FaceTime breakup. I've had friends go
Speaker 1: through similar situations and like the relationship is dissolving, they
Speaker 1: went to just go visit one another. It didn't go well,
Speaker 1: they didn't break up over there, and then they were
Speaker 1: going to meet up like again and fly to like
Speaker 1: a central location, and all the while, one person knew
Speaker 1: that they were going to break up with the other,
Speaker 1: and it was like what am I doing? Like, I
Speaker 1: know it sucks getting broken up with via FaceTime, but
Speaker 1: what's better breaking up with someone over FaceTime or spending hundreds,
Speaker 1: if not thousands of dollars to travel, stay at a
Speaker 1: hotel all just to break up in person. I think
Speaker 1: the FaceTime breakup is acceptable when in a long distance relationship. Now, listen,
Speaker 1: if you guys live down the street and you don't
Speaker 1: have the balls to break up with them in person, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's a different story. I'm tring to think the last
Speaker 1: time I broke up with someone, I like him really bad.
Speaker 1: At breakups, I my method, Like, let's say I'm dating
Speaker 1: someone and I want to break up with them, I
Speaker 1: just like find ways to make them want to break
Speaker 1: up with me because I'm too scared for them to
Speaker 1: break up with to break up with them. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Is that what happened on the First Paradise? Uh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know that. I don't think that's too far off. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I like this was like, I'm I'm gonna be a
Speaker 1: jerk and hopefully you come to your senses and you
Speaker 1: break it off with me, so that way I don't
Speaker 1: have to feel guilty for breaking off with you, but
Speaker 1: then I feel guilty for being a jerk for wanting
Speaker 1: you to do that. I don't know. It's not definitely
Speaker 1: not the best method, and honestly, it's the root of
Speaker 1: this podcast. It is the genesis that drove this podcast
Speaker 1: into creation. So um, I think we can all agree
Speaker 1: that that's definitely not the best way to approach breakups. Uh,
Speaker 1: if you want to break up with someone, tell them
Speaker 1: why you want to break up with them, face to
Speaker 1: face if you can, or on the phone if you can't,
Speaker 1: and just be an adult about it, right, Could you
Speaker 1: agree with that? Yeah? I mean it's too bad that
Speaker 1: there are no adults on this podcast to really give
Speaker 1: more advice on that. Just to man childs Uh. Last
Speaker 1: hot topic before we take quick break, Jake Cutlor speaking
Speaker 1: of guys that stink. Oh my gosh, let's go from
Speaker 1: a Rod to Jake Cutler. Oh I hate j Cutler.
Speaker 1: Oh it's the worst man. We're also Uh, you're a
Speaker 1: Broncos fan, so norder you hate this guy. J Cutler
Speaker 1: says dating is quote hard as hell. Oh, poor baby.
Speaker 1: After Kristen cavaliery divorce, priorities have changed, he said, getting
Speaker 1: back out there, j Culor's attempt to rejoin in the
Speaker 1: dating world since it's split with Christen Cavaliery has come
Speaker 1: with their fair share of lessons thus far. Quote it's
Speaker 1: hard as hell. Really, Color, who's thirty eight years old,
Speaker 1: said on the podcast Uncut with Jay Cutler. Uh, meeting
Speaker 1: people as hard. I think finding out what people really
Speaker 1: want from you. I think that's probably an issue. Jay Cutler,
Speaker 1: who shares a son, Uh, Camden, two sons, excuse me
Speaker 1: two sons and a daughter uh with Kristen explained the
Speaker 1: struggle to connect with people that are on the same
Speaker 1: page with him, especially as a parent. Now, listen before
Speaker 1: I go further into this article, totally get that as
Speaker 1: a parent, that makes dating harder because you're not only
Speaker 1: you know, introducing someone into your own life, you're introducing
Speaker 1: someone into your kid's life, which is a bigger, bigger deal. Quote.
Speaker 1: I'm at a different phase of my life right now
Speaker 1: with kids. Priorities have changed. Noted during this episode. It
Speaker 1: isn't just a purely selfish play on my part. The
Speaker 1: whole landscape has changed. There are apps, there's Twitter, there's Instagram.
Speaker 1: It's a whole different ball game. You're not just walking
Speaker 1: into a restaurant or bar and talking to somebody that
Speaker 1: doesn't exist anymore. Well, it kind of still exists anyway.
Speaker 1: He goes on to say, we have nothing but love
Speaker 1: and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for
Speaker 1: the years that we shared memories and the children we
Speaker 1: are so proud of, he said, and enjoyed statement. When
Speaker 1: they broke up years ago. This is just a situation
Speaker 1: of two people growing apart. So Jay Cutler talks about
Speaker 1: how difficult dating is out in the world now, Like
Speaker 1: I said, as a parent, as someone who has kids
Speaker 1: with his ex, totally get that that would be very difficult.
Speaker 1: Having said that, you're also Jay Cutler, you're a multi millionaire.
Speaker 1: You're doing okay. Now he could say that, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't know if someone's dating me for quote the right reasons.
Speaker 1: I feel like that excuses a little dramatic and a
Speaker 1: blown out of proportion, Like if you're a good reader
Speaker 1: of people, you'll know if someone really likes you for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean to to just comment on that real quick.
Speaker 1: There were times when I was an insecure little boy
Speaker 1: and I felt that sometimes a little bit. And I'm
Speaker 1: not even I don't even hold the candle to the
Speaker 1: level of celebrity that j Color is, So I kind
Speaker 1: of see where he's coming from. But Color, he's like
Speaker 1: a cocky dish back. He probably eats that crap up
Speaker 1: he like. I mean, I if you don't tell, if
Speaker 1: you can tell I don't like this guy, I bet
Speaker 1: you he probably He probably like gets weirdly turned on
Speaker 1: by knowing that people want to cook up with him
Speaker 1: just because he's Jay Cutler, you know, like he's like
Speaker 1: he seems like that kind of person to me. I
Speaker 1: love how our sports hatred is really just like oozing
Speaker 1: through this podcast my hatred for a rod for the Yankees,
Speaker 1: your j color because of what he did to the Broncos.
Speaker 1: I love it, No, don't I love this? And he
Speaker 1: did a Christen Cavaliery too. Christ And Cavaliery arguably the
Speaker 1: second hottest woman in America behind Calin obviously, and he
Speaker 1: had he had to go out and ruin that relationship. Hey,
Speaker 1: I don't understand how they were even together in the
Speaker 1: first place. I never watched any of those reality shows
Speaker 1: or anything that they were on, But just knowing what
Speaker 1: I knew about Jay Cutler and knowing what little I
Speaker 1: knew about Kristin Cavaliery, it didn't make sense to me.
Speaker 1: But obviously they had three beautiful kids, so I would
Speaker 1: still consider that relationship with success. I suppose. I just
Speaker 1: don't like Jay Cutler and dating as a single parent,
Speaker 1: I'm assuming is very difficult because for the reasons that
Speaker 1: we stated before, But it is easier for certain people
Speaker 1: out in the world because of their status or or
Speaker 1: their fine finances, and I feel like for Jay Culer
Speaker 1: it's probably a little bit easier. So hey, you know,
Speaker 1: do you bro? But yeah, that's it. That's all I
Speaker 1: gotta say about that. Let's make an announcement to Jay Cutler.
Speaker 1: If you're listening to this podcast, which you probably are,
Speaker 1: he's change your minds about you. I would love to
Speaker 1: be your best friend. I would love to hang out.
Speaker 1: And it's not just because you're a famous former professional
Speaker 1: football player. I would love for you to change my
Speaker 1: perception you because what you did to the Broncos I'll
Speaker 1: never forgive you for. But if you come on, plead
Speaker 1: your case and make Chared and I your friends, I'm
Speaker 1: totally done for that. Yeah. I mean, I would love
Speaker 1: nothing more than j Collier to come on this podcast
Speaker 1: because he'd be a great gut for us. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: would be a good gut. He'd be a probably are
Speaker 1: one of our best gets. Are arguably the best cat.
Speaker 1: He's a big I mean, I don't know. Brian bum Gardner,
Speaker 1: he's a good one. We had. Oh that's when you
Speaker 1: guys were the Giants game. I wasn't there, son of
Speaker 1: them that would have been a cool person at time.
Speaker 1: Bum Gardner from the office, Remember Kevin Kevin Malone. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of the picture that's Matt buon Gunner. I
Speaker 1: think no, I think it is Brian as well. And
Speaker 1: I remember when he booked Brian. I was like, why
Speaker 1: are we having the Giants player on our podcast? And
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, it's Kevin from the Office. That's right, dude. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Brian was a big guy. He was awesome. So please
Speaker 1: Brian come back on the podcast. We need you. Yeah, please,
Speaker 1: And I meant to, uh, I guess I don't know
Speaker 1: what I meant, but I did listen to his podcast
Speaker 1: after he guested on our podcast, and man, his podcasts
Speaker 1: are really good. So if you have the time and
Speaker 1: you're looking for more content to consume your day, check
Speaker 1: out Kevin's podcast, Brian's podcast. That's very good. All Right,
Speaker 1: we're gonna take a quick break, and when we come back,
Speaker 1: we asked you sucky daters to share your own dating
Speaker 1: deal breakers and we're going to talk about them right
Speaker 1: after this quick break. All right, welcome back to help
Speaker 1: I suck at dating. Uh. So, we have a couple
Speaker 1: of things here. We asked you guys uh for some
Speaker 1: questions and answers on our Instagram and we also, yeah,
Speaker 1: we also have an article on here about men who
Speaker 1: are asked to share their own deal breakers. I kind
Speaker 1: of conflainted those two between the break. But we have
Speaker 1: an article from BuzzFeed about men and their dating deal breakers,
Speaker 1: and we also have some questions, uh for Dean and
Speaker 1: myself that we posed to you on the help by
Speaker 1: sucitating Instagram. So let's get to the dating deal breakers first.
Speaker 1: So apparently popular Reddit thread. Uh. If you guys are
Speaker 1: not familiar with Reddit, I'm sure you are. It's like
Speaker 1: it's like Twitter. Uh. So this thread asked men of
Speaker 1: the Internet, what are some of the deal breakers for
Speaker 1: potential relationship even if they're very attractive? And of course
Speaker 1: the thread quickly went viral as thousands of men started
Speaker 1: chiming in with their personal dating red flags in here
Speaker 1: or there's some of the top voted responses. So let's see, Dan,
Speaker 1: I want to know if you agree or disagree with
Speaker 1: these deal breakers. Number one having absolutely no sense of
Speaker 1: accountability for their actions. Believe me, it is more common
Speaker 1: than you think. Is that a deal breaker for you? Dane?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Of course accountability. Talk to Calin about
Speaker 1: this all the time. Accountability is very, very important. What
Speaker 1: do you think? Yeah, oh, I totally agree. You need
Speaker 1: self awareness. Number two complaining about everything, Yeah, I tell
Speaker 1: Calin this all the time. Complaining about everything is the
Speaker 1: absolute worst. Number three lying, saying stuff about you behind
Speaker 1: your back, being mean to people for no reason, and
Speaker 1: being fake. Yeah I tell you this to Kailin all
Speaker 1: the time. No, actually, that's the one that I don't
Speaker 1: talk to Cailin about all the time. She's a nice person.
Speaker 1: So I agree. If you're like mean, and I know
Speaker 1: you talk about this all the time, you feel like
Speaker 1: mean to like your waitress or the waiter or any
Speaker 1: like other person that's like simply there to like help you,
Speaker 1: then you're a bad date and probably like got some
Speaker 1: issues you gotta work through. Yeah. No, I can never.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine Calin ever being mean. Is she ever mean?
Speaker 1: Like she ever get like angry? She that's a good question. Um,
Speaker 1: she can get kind of like snippy or something like
Speaker 1: if something's not going exactly how she wants it to,
Speaker 1: or like if she's on hold for too long, she
Speaker 1: gets like franky, And she doesn't get like mean or
Speaker 1: anything like that. But it's funny whenever I like So,
Speaker 1: I'm going to tie these two in real quick. So
Speaker 1: the comple anyone. Like a week and a half ago,
Speaker 1: I got my van stuck in some mud in Utah,
Speaker 1: and I called Triple A to come get me out,
Speaker 1: and Triple A like dropped the ball. We were waiting
Speaker 1: for like four hours for the Triple A tow truck,
Speaker 1: and the whole time Caitlin was like complaining about She's
Speaker 1: like I just want to get out of here, blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. And I'm like, Bro, you're in the van,
Speaker 1: like you have a bed right there, you got a
Speaker 1: fridge full of you know, whatever you want right there,
Speaker 1: your snacks right there, your dogs right there, your boyfriends
Speaker 1: right here? Like what like where if we were somewhere else,
Speaker 1: what would be going on differently than we're going right here?
Speaker 1: So like stop complaining about that. That was like the
Speaker 1: last she and I understand she's kind of stressed out. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I was on the phone with Triple A for like
Speaker 1: four hours, like on and on for four hours, and
Speaker 1: she was like getting really angry at me because she
Speaker 1: was like, dude, you're not being like mean enough to
Speaker 1: the Triple A people because they're dropping the ball and
Speaker 1: you need to like incite some urgency into them. So
Speaker 1: She's like, let me talk to them, and I was like, no,
Speaker 1: you're not going to talk to them because she does.
Speaker 1: I know. This is I went off to on a tangent. No, No,
Speaker 1: this is the most couple thing I've ever heard of
Speaker 1: my entire life. Give me the right. She's really good at, like,
Speaker 1: you know, like if someone like in that case, like
Speaker 1: if they're dropping the ball, she's really good at like
Speaker 1: putting her foot down and be like, no, this is unacceptable,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah. And I like him too
Speaker 1: easy going with that stuff. But so that's kind of
Speaker 1: that's like I wouldn't consider that her being mean, but
Speaker 1: that's how like that's her like snark coming out, got it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just could never imagine Calin talking as as the
Speaker 1: deal breaker says, talking, uh like crap about you behind
Speaker 1: your back. But hey, you know, I I relate to Klin.
Speaker 1: I get cranky when I'm on hold for too long.
Speaker 1: To number four talking about X is too much to
Speaker 1: the point of comparing the two of you, that's a
Speaker 1: big no note for me. What do you think about that? Yeah? Definitely,
Speaker 1: what do you think? Yeah, comparing the two of you together,
Speaker 1: that's weird, Like you shouldn't compare your ex with your
Speaker 1: current boyfriend and girlfriend. It's just like they're different people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would be like, read it out. I think I've
Speaker 1: definitely dated girls before where they like talk about their
Speaker 1: X a lot and it's like, Okay, are you like
Speaker 1: over them or like do you want to date me
Speaker 1: or do you want to date them? Which which one
Speaker 1: would you prefer? It? Yeah, whenever I went on dates,
Speaker 1: a lot of people would ask about Ashley, and that's
Speaker 1: all obviously different because we were dating publicly before you know,
Speaker 1: obviously before we're together. But that was always weird to
Speaker 1: me because it's like, man, I know that it's just
Speaker 1: like where TV characters, but like that actually is like
Speaker 1: something very you know, intimate to me. So it's weird
Speaker 1: to talk about. But I would get obviously would be
Speaker 1: one of the first questions I get, you know, on dates,
Speaker 1: which is understandable. Well, fortunately you didn't have many of
Speaker 1: those dates, no exactly, because I mean, obviously I was
Speaker 1: in love with her, so they had every right to
Speaker 1: ask me about it, right right, and you just didn't
Speaker 1: get many dates to begin with. Anyways, moving on to
Speaker 1: the next one doesn't let you have time to yourself
Speaker 1: for the entire life revolves around you to the point
Speaker 1: that they suffocate you. Oh this is interesting for you
Speaker 1: because I feel like you guys are kind of attached
Speaker 1: at the hip, are you not. Yeah, We're definitely attached
Speaker 1: to the hip. That's one of my favorite things about
Speaker 1: our our relationship is that we truly don't get tired
Speaker 1: of each other. There's I mean, I really, off the
Speaker 1: top of my head, can't think of an instance where
Speaker 1: I thought I need to be away from Ashley for
Speaker 1: an extended period of time, Like if I need to
Speaker 1: walk away because you know, we just had a you know,
Speaker 1: not an argument, but like a tough conversation. I don't
Speaker 1: feel like that's something that I need time away from
Speaker 1: Ashley for more than a few minutes. So I can
Speaker 1: understand this though, because I have had people in my
Speaker 1: past who have been very selfocating, and it's extremely annoying
Speaker 1: because when I'm like, hey, listen, I just need to
Speaker 1: be by myself right now, they're like, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I need to be with you, and You're like no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no, Like you don't understand. You make it
Speaker 1: it worse. Please, I will talk. We'll talk about it later. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's I mean, that's good that you guys are both
Speaker 1: on the same page about it too. I think that's
Speaker 1: the most important thing when it comes to that. With uh,
Speaker 1: With Kaylin, it's I think Kaylin probably is out of
Speaker 1: all the girls I di did, the most suffocating of
Speaker 1: them all. But I've never realized that I actually kind
Speaker 1: of enjoy it. So it's like it's kind of nice.
Speaker 1: I've always thought like, I don't want it, stay away
Speaker 1: from me, I'll you know whatever. But then she like
Speaker 1: like latches on sometimes. I I went on the Knicks podcast,
Speaker 1: like right when we started dating Kylin and I and
Speaker 1: I was like, she's like fell crow She's always sticking
Speaker 1: to me, and she always and we always give me
Speaker 1: crap about that. She's like, I'm like, she's like always
Speaker 1: calling herself my my little bell crowers. I don't know,
Speaker 1: something stupid like that. But it's funny because I like, yeah,
Speaker 1: like I in theory, like in my brain, I like,
Speaker 1: I'm like I don't like this, but then it's happening
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, cool, this is actually really nice.
Speaker 1: And then Kitlin is great too, because while she does
Speaker 1: like to be around me, all the time. She also
Speaker 1: understands that I'm like, I'm going to go into the
Speaker 1: mountains for a week, um and I'll be back. And
Speaker 1: she's like, okay, so she's suffocating, but she also gives
Speaker 1: me a very long leash if you will. That seems
Speaker 1: like a really nice balance. Number six. No testing behavior
Speaker 1: be straightforward, or I'll assume you're likely to instigate um
Speaker 1: drauma honesty for honesty. Uh yeah, I think that's pretty
Speaker 1: I think testing behavior is like pretty immature behavior. You know,
Speaker 1: what the hell's testing behaviors that like playing games? Um?
Speaker 1: I think I interpret testing behavior as something like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go flirt with that guy over there to see
Speaker 1: how you react, or like it, I'm gonna pretend to
Speaker 1: be a girl texting you sexy pictures to see like
Speaker 1: if my boyfriend's loyal like that kind of that's kind
Speaker 1: of how I interpret it to be. Yeah, that's messed up.
Speaker 1: That's like a toxic relationship, and that's like toxic. I agree, toxic.
Speaker 1: You know, astrology is one of those things where you
Speaker 1: do you but if you really believe that stuff, you
Speaker 1: and I are likely not a match. I read a
Speaker 1: horoscope for entertainment at times, but I don't blame my
Speaker 1: behavior or assess my compatibility with someone based on the
Speaker 1: random month I was born. And so this person is
Speaker 1: saying if there date looks to the stars for personality traits,
Speaker 1: not not for them. What do you think? I think
Speaker 1: think that If it's like kind of jokey, that's fine.
Speaker 1: But if they're a serious saying I can't date you
Speaker 1: because I'm meant to data Pisces and you're a Scorpio. Yeah,
Speaker 1: look cucko. Yeah. Or it's like when they're they're blaming
Speaker 1: their bad behavior on like the cycle of the moon.
Speaker 1: That's pretty ridiculous. Yeah, I agree. The moon is a
Speaker 1: waxing gimbus, so I you know, I get a little
Speaker 1: testy during this time. Yeah, you should just Calin should
Speaker 1: start saying that when she's on hold for too long,
Speaker 1: it's not me, it's the moon. Deep mercuries and retrogade,
Speaker 1: can't you see? Um? If they're terrible with finances is
Speaker 1: a big one for this person, which, yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: I could see that. I gotta admit it's so sexy
Speaker 1: knowing that Calin makes so much more money than me.
Speaker 1: It's like such a turn on for me. Is that
Speaker 1: is that weird. Uh No, that's not weird. I think
Speaker 1: this probably is talking. This person is specifically talking about
Speaker 1: not how much money they make, but how much money
Speaker 1: they spend, which obviously is is a conversation. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: have to have as a couple. But you know what
Speaker 1: Andrea three thousand says, it's not how much you make,
Speaker 1: it's how much you spent. Ah, Well, if Andrea three
Speaker 1: thousands said it, yeah, I guess I mean that makes sense.
Speaker 1: Especially look if you're buying silly, silly things. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: like you guys have a baby on the way, so
Speaker 1: there's you guys got a lot of finances to consider. Otherwise, Well,
Speaker 1: I'm lucky that Ashley and I are very much on
Speaker 1: the same page about finances. We discussed it. We just
Speaker 1: have a very comfortable relationship and we talk about our finances,
Speaker 1: and like I'll always ask her, like if I buy
Speaker 1: a new golf polo, I swear to God, bro I
Speaker 1: wanted to buy this new golf polo for like two
Speaker 1: weeks straight. It's company called bad Bertie. I loved it
Speaker 1: so much and I went into the store. I called
Speaker 1: Ashleys said, should I get this polo? Because there's seventy
Speaker 1: dollars and she's like, you don't need it, you have
Speaker 1: so many shirts. You're fine. I'm like, nope, you're right,
Speaker 1: you're right right. So then I kept thinking about it
Speaker 1: from the next week, and then we drove past the
Speaker 1: store and I goes, oh, that's where the polo was,
Speaker 1: and she's like, pull over and get it. She's like,
Speaker 1: if you're still thinking about it after a week, get
Speaker 1: the polo, and I said, okay. So I got the
Speaker 1: polo and I love it. I like those shirts. It's
Speaker 1: just I wish there was more variety with them. They're
Speaker 1: they're They've got like four patterns, the bad birdy shirts,
Speaker 1: and I like them. And the fabric is really nice
Speaker 1: and I'm sure you look dashing in it. I like it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wore I like it so much. I wore yesterday
Speaker 1: for our gender reveal because I got it. It's a
Speaker 1: blue and pink one, so it actually worked out well,
Speaker 1: Oh nice, what's it going to be blue or pink? Yeah? Yeah.
Speaker 1: Kaitlin and I are biggest financial gripe is She likes
Speaker 1: to fly business class and I strictly fly economy. I
Speaker 1: don't care whether I'm sitting in the back of the
Speaker 1: airplane or the front of the airplane, and the airplanes
Speaker 1: in the air and it gets to where we need
Speaker 1: to go. Don't spend the extra thousand dollars to fly
Speaker 1: business class. It's not worth thousand dollars, holy crap, whatever
Speaker 1: it is. I don't know. It could be five, could
Speaker 1: be two thousand. She like insists always on upgrading to
Speaker 1: business or first class, and I, like, I have to
Speaker 1: struggle with arguing with her about how it's an unnecessary
Speaker 1: spend of money. Yeah, I when we bounce back and
Speaker 1: forth from Virginia, I don't care, like you know, but
Speaker 1: last oh, near the bathroom whatever. I was the economy.
Speaker 1: But when when we go from like l A to
Speaker 1: Boston and then we're in the air for six hours,
Speaker 1: sometimes like we'll we'll do a deep dive search to
Speaker 1: see how much more first class is, because sometimes you
Speaker 1: can get a really good deal and it's like an
Speaker 1: extra two for first class. But that's well worth it
Speaker 1: for six hour flight, but not for an hour flight.
Speaker 1: I agree, And so Kayle and I are going to
Speaker 1: Europe next week. And I was kind of one of
Speaker 1: the big arguments, not arguments, but like debates. She's like well,
Speaker 1: we could spend eight more and we're in uh comfort plus,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, it's just not worth it. And
Speaker 1: then I was like, I thought we decided on it.
Speaker 1: And then she comes back a couple of days later
Speaker 1: and she's like, well, yeah, well the upgrade is only
Speaker 1: a couple extra hundrells and like, no, we've already decided
Speaker 1: we're flying economy. It's happening this way. All right, let's
Speaker 1: get a couple more because so who won who won
Speaker 1: that argument? We're flying economy gear She's gonna be so
Speaker 1: cranky that entire flight. So we're flying economy, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to stay there a couple extra days to meet
Speaker 1: up with one of my friends. So she's flying back solo.
Speaker 1: And I would be willing to stake a lot of
Speaker 1: money on the fact that she's going to fly business
Speaker 1: or first class back because she's doing that for herself
Speaker 1: rather than for both of us, you know what I mean? No,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Um, all right, let's see, we've got
Speaker 1: a couple more here. They spend their free time sitting
Speaker 1: on their phone, but get annoyed when I play a
Speaker 1: few hours of PlayStation to relax. Dude, I can relate
Speaker 1: to this so hard. Ashley is on her phone constantly.
Speaker 1: She's out. She just poked her head and I'm sure
Speaker 1: she's gonna pull her head back in to yell at
Speaker 1: me for saying this. She's on her phone. We're both
Speaker 1: on our phones because we work a lot on our
Speaker 1: phones obviously. But then she'll put her phone down and
Speaker 1: I'll be on my phone, and then she'll have the
Speaker 1: guts to look at me and say, you're always on
Speaker 1: your phone. I'm like, oh, here we go, here we go.
Speaker 1: She just puts her phone down, and then I stay
Speaker 1: on my phone for like an extra twenty minutes and
Speaker 1: she looks at me and says, I'm always on my phone.
Speaker 1: Or then she'll be on her phone. Like last night,
Speaker 1: good example, We're sitting on the couch. She's got a
Speaker 1: post like I already posted, did my thing. So I'm
Speaker 1: just watching TV. It's like nine o'clock at night. I
Speaker 1: know I'm gonna have to take the dog out an hour,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, oh, I'm gonna go play a video game.
Speaker 1: And she's like why, and I'm like, well, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: just go play a game in Madden and you're on
Speaker 1: your phone and she's like, and I'm like, you're on
Speaker 1: your phone. Don't get mad at me because I want
Speaker 1: to play a video game. Okay, I agree. Anyway, as
Speaker 1: you can see, I'm very passionate about this. I see
Speaker 1: that this list is supposed to be deal breakers. That's
Speaker 1: obviously not a deal breaker for you, nor should it be.
Speaker 1: This guy seems to be even more And this guy
Speaker 1: definitely like is dating this girl? Right, this person that
Speaker 1: wrote this, I would say, I agree with you, Like,
Speaker 1: especially in the height of the pandemic, I was probably
Speaker 1: playing like six hours of Call of Duty a day,
Speaker 1: you know, because it's like, what else am I supposed
Speaker 1: to do? I'm not I can't go outside, i can't
Speaker 1: leave the house. I'm supposed to hang out with my girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Screw that exactly never And Caylin was like, she was
Speaker 1: like super cool with that at first, but but then
Speaker 1: by like the second week, she was like, dude, you
Speaker 1: play so much video games. And I'm like, well, if
Speaker 1: I wasn't playing video games, what would I be doing?
Speaker 1: Watching TV with you? Which is not a bad thing,
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, but like watching TV and playing
Speaker 1: video games, Comparing those two, playing video games is the
Speaker 1: superior option, because at least you're like interacting with the
Speaker 1: TV instead of just sitting there mindlessly watching you know,
Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Dallas or something like that, which, again
Speaker 1: not bashing because those shows are entertaining and I do
Speaker 1: love just snuggling up and watching TV with Kalin, but
Speaker 1: they're there there. I don't know, it's just like you
Speaker 1: need some variety. Yeah, And I just it's so weird
Speaker 1: how it seems like girls just don't seem to understand
Speaker 1: why boys love video games so much. They're so fun. Oh,
Speaker 1: there's so much fun. One of my favorite jokes of
Speaker 1: all time is Dane Cook's joke about a video games
Speaker 1: because he said he moved into his house with his
Speaker 1: girlfriend and he was playing a video game and she
Speaker 1: was like, oh, why do you even like doing that?
Speaker 1: Video games are stupid? And you look back at her
Speaker 1: and he's like, you better get used to stupid because
Speaker 1: stupid loves here. Um, all right, well i'll do it
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Speaker 1: deal breakers are. Email us, uh, either email us, follow us,
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Speaker 1: remember the email for the podcast? Yes it is no
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Speaker 1: you can email us at I Suck at Dating at
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Speaker 1: Dating at I heart media dot com. Thank you Hannah
Speaker 1: for putting that into the rundown. Uh, let us know
Speaker 1: your deal deal breakers, we want to hear him. We're
Speaker 1: gonna take a quick break, but right afterwards we're gonna
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Speaker 1: course answer an email. Hello everyone, welcome back to help
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Speaker 1: that we had you guys submit on our Instagram page
Speaker 1: just a couple of days ago. I think, um, if
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Speaker 1: any sweet help by secud Dating Updates. So Jared, question
Speaker 1: submitted for you, Jared, are you and actually doing anything
Speaker 1: to keep the marriage spicy during pregnancy, not as of yet,
Speaker 1: uh age. I mean, honestly, we haven't had much into
Speaker 1: the past few months, a couple of months, just because
Speaker 1: of how bad Ashley has been feeling. I mean she's
Speaker 1: been thrown up daily and been pretty sick and not
Speaker 1: feeling her best. And uh, it's it's been fine. You know.
Speaker 1: We just you know, you prioritize things, and uh, I'm
Speaker 1: sure we will over the next you know, weeks or months, Uh,
Speaker 1: you know, work on things to spice things up. It
Speaker 1: was actually really funny, not to like get too gross
Speaker 1: into it, but obviously when a woman is pregnant, her
Speaker 1: body starts changing. And uh, I'm sure she doesn't mind
Speaker 1: me sharing this. I touched her nipples yesterday. Dude, They're
Speaker 1: like weird. She was telling me about it because she
Speaker 1: she Ashley wants to show me pictures because like they
Speaker 1: just like get huge and like they're big. They've gotten
Speaker 1: like very big and apparently not nearly as big as
Speaker 1: some other women have to go through. But it's just
Speaker 1: like crazy, you know what I mean when you say big,
Speaker 1: like the ariola is expanding, or like the nipple part
Speaker 1: is getting longer. Both the nipple parts long, and I
Speaker 1: mean I'll ask her. Hopefully she doesn't mind me saying this.
Speaker 1: The podcast actually loves over sharing. It's great. It's part
Speaker 1: of what makes her so um endearing. She no, that's
Speaker 1: what I said. Comparably speaking, nothing all right, well, comparably speaking,
Speaker 1: apparently they're nothing, but they're still pretty long. Let's just
Speaker 1: be clear. I don't have gigantic areas. She does not
Speaker 1: have gigantic ariolas. That is what I don't want anybody
Speaker 1: imagining that. Okay, nobody's imagining that. We just want to
Speaker 1: set the record straight on this. No, gigantic areal is
Speaker 1: just a little very pointing. But they're definitely pointer than
Speaker 1: I'm used to. So when I touched them, Mr, And
Speaker 1: I was like, holy crap. I just didn't expect it
Speaker 1: because I haven't, like, you know, taking a detailed look
Speaker 1: at him lately. And uh, it was quite kind of funny.
Speaker 1: But no, I'm sure to answer your question. Wow, I'm
Speaker 1: very much oversharing. I'm sure over the next couple months
Speaker 1: we will do things to spice things up, like some
Speaker 1: nipple play. Uh. And I think at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, to comparatively to other people. Maybe not huge,
Speaker 1: but relative to how they're they used to be, you've
Speaker 1: noticed some significant growth. So I think you're you're justified
Speaker 1: and talking about your wife's nipples like that. I love
Speaker 1: my wife's nipples. Yeah, that's great, and now there's more
Speaker 1: of them to love. Uh So, Dean, let me ask
Speaker 1: a question for you, Um, Dean, do you think Calin
Speaker 1: is your soul mate? And if yes or no, do
Speaker 1: you believe in soulmates? I don't know if I really
Speaker 1: believe in soul mates. I we've talked about this on
Speaker 1: the podcast a while ago. I like, I was curious
Speaker 1: about it. I was like, I wonder if Calen thinks
Speaker 1: I'm her soul mate? So I texted her. She says, yes,
Speaker 1: I would I would say yes, but with an ASTERIXX
Speaker 1: of saying I don't really believe in soul mates. So
Speaker 1: that makes no sense. Caitlin is my soul mate, I
Speaker 1: just don't believe in him. If soul mates are a thing,
Speaker 1: I would say, yeah, she's my solmmate. Well that's a
Speaker 1: very sweet answer. I don't believe silmmates are real. So
Speaker 1: I say, now she thinks that we're sol mates? And
Speaker 1: all right, appreciating that al right, next one for you. Well,
Speaker 1: it's a nice it's a nice answer. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: a nicer um, Jared, does actually have a limit on
Speaker 1: how long you'll grow your hair? Uh? Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think she wants it any longer than it is right now.
Speaker 1: I actually just got a trim, but it's still not
Speaker 1: that sure. I am going to cut it short, probably
Speaker 1: sometime over the winter, maybe early next year, somewhere around there.
Speaker 1: Go back to like the length I had at the wedding.
Speaker 1: Does she have any input on the length? Though she
Speaker 1: likes this length, She likes this length a lot, she
Speaker 1: doesn't want it pretty much any longer than this, you know,
Speaker 1: Like like I stated before, Tom cruise a mission possible too.
Speaker 1: That's like the longest it's going to get. But I
Speaker 1: like the long hair. I uh, it's just like, as
Speaker 1: you know, man, it's just like, especially in this heat,
Speaker 1: holy crap, it's like a mop on your head. I
Speaker 1: don't know how a lot of people with long hair
Speaker 1: do it, but I do miss my short hair at
Speaker 1: times as well. So I'm I'm excited to cut my
Speaker 1: hair short, but I also know once I do, I'm
Speaker 1: going to immediately regret it. Hair is so funny because like,
Speaker 1: I'll like go back through old pictures and I'll see
Speaker 1: myself with short hair and I'm like, wow, I was
Speaker 1: so much more handsome with short hair. And then I'll
Speaker 1: go back further to where my hair was even longer
Speaker 1: than it is now, and I was like, man, I
Speaker 1: was so much more handsome with that long, long hair.
Speaker 1: It's like, it doesn't make any sense. I don't understand
Speaker 1: any of Like so pretty much you're just saying you're
Speaker 1: always handsome. Oh I'm so handsome. I just think I
Speaker 1: think in the present moment that I'm always in, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm the least attractive version of myself, and for some reason,
Speaker 1: I look back at old pictures and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: you're so much better looking back then, especially better looking
Speaker 1: than you are now, you know what I mean. And
Speaker 1: I'm sure like in a year, I'm going to look
Speaker 1: back on a picture that I took of myself yesterday
Speaker 1: and be like, wow, dude, you were so much more
Speaker 1: handsome in Montana when you recorded that podcast and your
Speaker 1: brothers truck in the parking lot of a breakfast diner.
Speaker 1: But who knows. I think obviously you're peaking right now,
Speaker 1: but your second highest peak was definitely right around the
Speaker 1: last paradise you were on with Kaylin. I love you're
Speaker 1: so consistent with us walking onto the beach and the
Speaker 1: all black outfit, because at the wedding you look great too.
Speaker 1: But dude, when you walk down those stairs, both I'll
Speaker 1: never forget. Ashley and I looked at each other and
Speaker 1: was like, like, I dare Kylin to not leave with
Speaker 1: this guy. I dare her to try. That's funny, because
Speaker 1: you know, I didn't feel cute in that moment. I
Speaker 1: remember that moment so specifically because I like wanted my
Speaker 1: hair to be nice, and you know how like, especially
Speaker 1: when you have long hair, you want to like shampoo
Speaker 1: it and condition it like a day or two before.
Speaker 1: You want people like before it looks it's best, right,
Speaker 1: so you kind of like get like prepare a couple
Speaker 1: of days in advance. And I remember, like I think
Speaker 1: in the hotel I was staying in, there was no
Speaker 1: conditioner or something like that, and so I couldn't condition
Speaker 1: my hair, and I was like, Ah, this is gonna suck.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna walk down there and my hair is gonna
Speaker 1: be all greasy and gross and I remember that day
Speaker 1: like I was like trying to like style it appropriately.
Speaker 1: They wouldn't let me wear my head band, which I
Speaker 1: was wearing all season because I was in like a weird,
Speaker 1: awkward stage and I was like, oh, my hair is
Speaker 1: just not going to be good. But then it looked
Speaker 1: good on camera. I think there was like some editing
Speaker 1: or something involved, because it did look pretty good. Yeah, Oh,
Speaker 1: it looked amazing. I don't think it was editing. I
Speaker 1: think it was just the glow. All right, we'll do
Speaker 1: one more question before we go into our email. Uh,
Speaker 1: this is for both of us. Would you rather be
Speaker 1: stuck in a room with your significant other? Or wait? Wait,
Speaker 1: would you rather be stuck in a room with your
Speaker 1: significant other or with your celebrity crush? My significantly hold
Speaker 1: on sorry, because it says would you rather be stuck
Speaker 1: in a room with your significant other with your ex
Speaker 1: or celebrity crush? Oh how is that even a question?
Speaker 1: Of course, my significant other with your X. So it
Speaker 1: would be like you, actually you Ashley and Kayla like
Speaker 1: in a room together, or you and Penelope Cruz, Well,
Speaker 1: Penelope Cruises and my my crush. I mean, she's very attractive,
Speaker 1: who is. Jennifer Lopez was my crush for quite some
Speaker 1: time still is obviously, I would say Rachel, Well, Rachel
Speaker 1: McAdams was a big crush. Emma Stone was a big crush.
Speaker 1: Like all very basic answers, who's yours, I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: to think of a better one. Um, my celebrity crush,
Speaker 1: I mean Galgant dots up there, obviously, Yeah, she's cool.
Speaker 1: I think my celebrity crush. I'm gonna get in trouble
Speaker 1: for saying this. I guess it's like. The only only
Speaker 1: non photographer celebrity that I follow on Instagram is Alexis Wren,
Speaker 1: So I would say that's my celebrity crush. Alexis Wren.
Speaker 1: Who's that? She's just like some girl I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: and follow right now. I feel guilty about it actually,
Speaker 1: to be honest, Well, is she like? Who is this
Speaker 1: human being? Oh? She's ford seen the blonde? She was like,
Speaker 1: I'm dancing with the stars. She used to day. J Aubreds,
Speaker 1: who I also followed, who I've also been meaning to
Speaker 1: unfollowed because he's just like weird? Is it this person? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That was my celebrity crush and Caitlyn could confirm that too,
Speaker 1: But like I said, I'm going I'm going through with
Speaker 1: the unfollowing right this, Yeah, unfollowed. We don't need that. Hey,
Speaker 1: I well, I kind of wanted to resent brought this
Speaker 1: question up. Ash. Would you rather be stuck in a
Speaker 1: room with me or leonarder A DiCaprio You had to
Speaker 1: choose one? Are you serious? Wow? That's so sweet. She
Speaker 1: said she'd rather be stuck in a room with me
Speaker 1: rather than Leo. Ash, You're so sweet, I said, you too,
Speaker 1: and no, I did. All right, Well, let's get into
Speaker 1: an email before we head, added, I want to answer this.
Speaker 1: You didn't ask me any of the other other questions.
Speaker 1: I want to answer this first one to read that
Speaker 1: one for me? How does Dean deal with differences of
Speaker 1: religion with Calin? And how would work with your kids
Speaker 1: if you guys have kids. You were holding that one,
Speaker 1: and I think that you were doing it because you
Speaker 1: thought I didn't want to answer it. But I do
Speaker 1: want to answer it, and I'm going to answer it
Speaker 1: right now. We have different takes on religion. Calin and
Speaker 1: I obviously I am agnostic more or less raised Presbyterian
Speaker 1: since transitioned into agnosticism. So I don't really believe in anything.
Speaker 1: I don't disbelieve in anything, but I'm just kind of
Speaker 1: like convinced me. Like if something came down and they
Speaker 1: were like, Okay, like this is real, here's proof, I'd like, Okay, cool,
Speaker 1: that makes sense, I believe. Now. Calin is pretty Christian.
Speaker 1: She goes to church pretty often. She's got like her
Speaker 1: uh religious texts that she has around, like she writes,
Speaker 1: you know, her daily prayers and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: And I think that there is probably a growing number
Speaker 1: of these like inter faith or lack there of relationships,
Speaker 1: And that's kind of why I wanted to answer it. Um.
Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing is just like openness to
Speaker 1: talk about it a and like an understanding that just
Speaker 1: because you think something different than the other person doesn't
Speaker 1: mean the other person is more wrong or less right
Speaker 1: than you are, you know what I mean. So, like
Speaker 1: when it comes to religion, Caitlin and I I like
Speaker 1: support her religion and like her religious efforts and all
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. And I think, at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, like she's not throwing it in my face,
Speaker 1: Like she's not like throwing Christianity in my face, and
Speaker 1: as long as she's not doing that, I totally don't care.
Speaker 1: Like she can do whatever she wants, she can believe
Speaker 1: whatever she wants. I like to press her on a
Speaker 1: couple of certain things, you know, like factual reasonings as
Speaker 1: to like why things are the way that they are,
Speaker 1: especially when it comes to religious texts. I'll press her
Speaker 1: on it, just like to a gain clarity for myself,
Speaker 1: and I like him, just curious to see like what
Speaker 1: she has to say about a lot of that stuff.
Speaker 1: And so she is always going to be Christian and
Speaker 1: I love that, and I think that she definitely should
Speaker 1: and if we have kids, I I guess right. We
Speaker 1: have never really talked about that. Yeah, because that that
Speaker 1: was my next question. Because obviously it's fine that you
Speaker 1: guys can say, hey, I believe this, I believe that,
Speaker 1: and we can live and love each other of that.
Speaker 1: But then how do you do the kids. What are
Speaker 1: you going to do with your with little baby Dean? Well,
Speaker 1: once a little baby Dean comes into the world in February. Uh,
Speaker 1: we haven't really talked about it. Ashley and I think
Speaker 1: are both very similar on our religious beliefs. Um it's
Speaker 1: not a big factor in our lives. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: we don't go to church. Um. I think both of
Speaker 1: us like to believe in a higher power, but we
Speaker 1: definitely are also agnostic to a you know, a certain extent.
Speaker 1: You know, I think we both believe that something is there,
Speaker 1: we just don't know what it is. So, UM, I
Speaker 1: think that's how we're going to kind of raise our kids.
Speaker 1: And you know, I'm You're going to introduce our kids
Speaker 1: to a lot of different ideas and and beliefs. And
Speaker 1: I want them to be exposed to a bunch of
Speaker 1: different ideas and and you know we'll we'll well, we'll
Speaker 1: work together as a family through it. You grew up Catholic, right,
Speaker 1: so you like went to church every Sunday with your parents. No,
Speaker 1: I mean we would go to church occasionally. We were
Speaker 1: not good churchgoers. Uh. So that's why it was never
Speaker 1: really like a huge factor in my life. We always
Speaker 1: believed in the presence of God and and to a
Speaker 1: certain extent, I do now today, um, because I want to. Um,
Speaker 1: But I also realized that you know, there might not
Speaker 1: be But you know, I choose to believe, uh in
Speaker 1: a higher power because I want to. I'll take your
Speaker 1: opinion on this. Then let's say Kylin and I have
Speaker 1: a kid and she wants to take it to church,
Speaker 1: take it as if it's just a thing. She wants
Speaker 1: to take the kid to church to like instill some
Speaker 1: religious values in it at a young age. But I
Speaker 1: don't and I don't care about it. So would you
Speaker 1: say that, like, just them too, you should go to
Speaker 1: church and I stay home? Or should I be supportive
Speaker 1: and go with them all even though I don't believe
Speaker 1: in it? You know what I mean? Like, what would
Speaker 1: you advise someone like someone in my situation, and that's
Speaker 1: to do well? I would say that you should go
Speaker 1: with them and explain things, you know, because I think
Speaker 1: probably one of the reasons why you're agnostic is as
Speaker 1: you grow older, things are more explained to you, and
Speaker 1: I think then you look through a different lens at
Speaker 1: certain things in your life. And so I think if
Speaker 1: you wanted to just you know, give your child as
Speaker 1: much knowledge as possible to let them make the best decision,
Speaker 1: then I would go with them. I wouldn't like just
Speaker 1: be like, oh, you do whatever you want to do
Speaker 1: and then we're not going to talk about it. I
Speaker 1: think the best course would be you to join them,
Speaker 1: because like, if you're agnostic, then you don't really care
Speaker 1: about going to church. Like you can go, you can
Speaker 1: go and take it. Wake up early on Sunday and
Speaker 1: freaking drive to the church and sit through the family trip.
Speaker 1: You get some coffee on the way. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: of course, each family needs to decide what's best for themselves.
Speaker 1: But if you're asking for my advice, that would be
Speaker 1: my advice. Yeah, that's good advice. That's good advice. And
Speaker 1: if it's on a Sunday, hey, maybe I can sneak
Speaker 1: my phone in and watch some some NFL read Zone
Speaker 1: or something. Well, of this sermon is going on. Anyways,
Speaker 1: we are going to get to one quick email and
Speaker 1: then we are gonna let you guys get the heck
Speaker 1: out of here, because I'm sick of sitting in this truck. Um.
Speaker 1: The email is this from chat? Do you have anyone
Speaker 1: out there that wants to read this? Anyone in the
Speaker 1: podcasting universe that wants to read this. I'll read it
Speaker 1: if you're if you yeah, I haven't read in a while.
Speaker 1: Um okay, Hi Miames Eastern And this is an email
Speaker 1: from Chad. A couple of months ago. I slept with
Speaker 1: one of my family friends. The family is literally my
Speaker 1: second family. We spent all major holidays together, we go
Speaker 1: on vacations. She has four years younger than me, and
Speaker 1: it's like my little sister. I have never thought of
Speaker 1: her as attractive and this was just a drunk mistake.
Speaker 1: I am now super nervous and anxious about being around
Speaker 1: her family, and I hope no one ever finds out.
Speaker 1: How do I not act awkward when I see her? Help? Damn? Wow? Wow,
Speaker 1: So you hooked up with your little sister. That's that's dude,
Speaker 1: Thank you the sweeth holme Alabama music. Oh god, d
Speaker 1: If you sleep with someone, please don't ever describe them
Speaker 1: as then as a little sister. Like what the hell? Man?
Speaker 1: I so god, I don't know. This is just weird
Speaker 1: and I've never thought of her as attractive, and this
Speaker 1: was a drunk mistake. I just I guess. Okay, let's
Speaker 1: let's start by saying this, Hey, she never needs to
Speaker 1: know that you don't find her attractive and be that
Speaker 1: you think it was a drunken mistake. Those things should
Speaker 1: never leave your mouth again when it comes to talking
Speaker 1: about this, especially with her. Yeah, you just just freaking
Speaker 1: go talk to her and say, hey, that was great,
Speaker 1: but we never are going to do it again. That's
Speaker 1: what I would say. And if we and like maybe
Speaker 1: throw in like and also if we could like kind
Speaker 1: of keep it a seak, great, that would be really great. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's my advice. What do you think?
Speaker 1: I don't know. There's there has to be more than
Speaker 1: that that has to happen. But uh, Bob, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know. This one kind of stumps me. I just think, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: go talk to her. Hopefully the family doesn't find out.
Speaker 1: Hopefully you guys can move on. Talk to her. That's important.
Speaker 1: But don't say it was a drink mistake and I
Speaker 1: don't find you attractive. Yeah, definitely don't say that. Just
Speaker 1: say hey, it was you know, one night. I'm not
Speaker 1: sure if we should do this again. You know, it's
Speaker 1: complicated his situation. Uh yeah, I got nothing. It's just
Speaker 1: like so awkward. I got nothing for you on this one. Sorry, Chad.
Speaker 1: You can drop from experience on this one, can't you, Obviously?
Speaker 1: I mean I haven't. I haven't slept for like a
Speaker 1: close family friend like that, And I have not regretted
Speaker 1: anyone I've ever had sex with every sex is a
Speaker 1: gift that should be cherished and treasured. Beautiful, beautiful, But damn,
Speaker 1: I think I agree with you guys, So you gotta say, uh, hey,
Speaker 1: that was fun. Uh. You know, I wouldn't expect it
Speaker 1: to happen again because of the the complexities around our
Speaker 1: relationship and how we know each other. Um. I very
Speaker 1: much treasure you as a friend and I would like
Speaker 1: to continue that friendship. And if it were me, I
Speaker 1: would want to be Uh, I would probably want to
Speaker 1: distance myself from this person for a while. Yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: don't go to the family parties for a little while. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: how old Chad is. But like you know, I don't
Speaker 1: know how often these events are happening these days. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I would maybe sit out the next barbecue or two
Speaker 1: and uh and uh. But but you know, have a
Speaker 1: conversation whether he and be honest, because you don't want
Speaker 1: her to feel like like, oh, hey we did this
Speaker 1: and then he just like disappeared. What happened? Um, But yeah,
Speaker 1: don't don't say that you don't find a attractive and
Speaker 1: then it was a mistake. That's good advice to not
Speaker 1: let that leave your mouth, right I I agree with
Speaker 1: your take. The complexities thing really sold me. You are
Speaker 1: a man with a very great vocabulary. Thank you, Thank
Speaker 1: you where economy is important to me? All Right? I
Speaker 1: think that's gonna do it. On this week's episode of
Speaker 1: Help I Suck at Dating, Eastan, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for reading that email, and thank you Chad for us
Speaker 1: where does that email was? Thank you for setting in
Speaker 1: Wishing you the best of luck with that buddy, and
Speaker 1: please keep emailing us. Everybody listening. We love your emails.
Speaker 1: It's Dean's favorite part of the podcast. It is legitimately
Speaker 1: the only reason he sticks around. I Suck at Dating
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Speaker 1: us at help I Suck at Dating on Instagram. Thank
Speaker 1: you to everybody who chimed in for the questions on Instagram.
Speaker 1: Thank you Alex Rodriguez for posting a dumb picture so
Speaker 1: we can talk about it. Uh, And I think that's
Speaker 1: gonna do it. So what can they do next week? Deean,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, they could tune in because Jared, we
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