1 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Body here. You are listening to another 2 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:28,440 Speaker 1: episode of Five Minute Friday from Hurdle. What's up? 3 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 2: Hello? Hi? 4 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: Wow, Last five Minute Friday here in the studio for 5 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks. Although I am doing loads of 6 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: preparation to gear up to get out of town. Literally 7 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: on Monday, I'm heading out to do some work in 8 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: Italy before heading over to Berlin and running the marathon, 9 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: and then going to October Foss and then actually going 10 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: back to Italy. It's gonna be a hectic, but fun 11 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: and rewarding and exciting couple of weeks, and I'm really 12 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: feeling I'm just ready for it. You know. I think 13 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: the thing about training for a marathon is it does 14 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: take such an opportunity cost. It requires so much sacrifice 15 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,600 Speaker 1: in pursuit of a goal. And when you have a 16 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: strong why and a strong foundation, strong reason for going 17 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: after whatever it is that you're after, then that opportunity 18 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:28,199 Speaker 1: cost doesn't really feel all that dramatic. It just feels necessary. 19 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 1: This time around, yes, it's felt necessary, but it's certainly 20 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: been a tad challenging to make sure that I'm doing 21 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 1: all the things that I need to do in preparation 22 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: for this race, while prioritizing my business as well and traveling, 23 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: and also the pain that kind of comes with investing 24 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: in myself. I know that I want to invest in myself, 25 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: but financially monetarily, this is the most money that I 26 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: have ever spent on myself when it to regular physical 27 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: therapy and body work and using different recovery modalities and acupuncture, 28 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: you name it, so I feel like it's worth it. 29 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: I definitely had to get to a place where I 30 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: felt more comfortable investing in myself, and I know after 31 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: my last physical therapy appointment that it was the best 32 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 1: choice that I could have made. Before I walked out 33 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: on Tuesday from my last session, my PT Luke said 34 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: to me that my body is in a better place 35 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: now after three months of marathon training than it was 36 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: when I started, and that really is a testament to 37 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: just how worthwhile that investment has been. Even though, like 38 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: I said, definitely the biggest spend category in my budget, 39 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to be happy to recoup some of those funds. Anyway, 40 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: I'm rambling about this. This is not what I actually 41 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: wanted to talk to you about today. What I actually 42 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: wanted to talk to you about today is the fact 43 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: that I said goodbye to my childhood home in Trumble 44 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: earlier this week. I grew up in Connecticut, in Trumble, Connecticut, 45 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: and my parents, my mom and my dad, when they 46 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 1: were still together, they moved into that house in Trumble 47 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:19,079 Speaker 1: where I was brought up almost thirty seven years ago. 48 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: And so my dad still lives there with his girlfriend, 49 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: and they are finally selling it. And I believe that 50 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: this may happen before I have another opportunity to get 51 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: back to Connecticut with the trouble that I have on deck, 52 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: and so I made it a priority for me to 53 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: get back before heading out. And I did a lot 54 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: of mental preparation thinking about what it might be like 55 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: saying goodbye to that house, and I felt really at 56 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: peace with the entire process. I actually it's so understandable. 57 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I've moved I don't know, maybe eight times 58 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 1: in the last fifteen years. Am I to tell my 59 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: father that he should be staying in the place that 60 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: he has been living for thirty seven I think a 61 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: fresh start is good for everyone, and so I really 62 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: supported this decision. And like I said, I felt at 63 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: peace when I got there that evening earlier this week, 64 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:18,559 Speaker 1: I spent the night. I woke up the next morning. 65 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: I was feeling sentimental, but not necessarily like sad or 66 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: actually crying. And it wasn't until my mom came to 67 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: pick me up at the house and I saw both 68 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: of my parents together. They get along great, and I 69 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: was just like, wow, I guess this is really hitting me. 70 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 1: And we took a photo in the driveway and I 71 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: realized that I was actually leaving, and I get into 72 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: the car with my mom and I just silently lost it. 73 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: I remember she's talking about random things and we're just 74 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 1: kind of, you know, going through the motions and having 75 00:04:56,480 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 1: a conversation and I'm almost trying to hide that I'm 76 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: feeling some kind of way. And we pull into a 77 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 1: diner in the center of town and we get out 78 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: of the car and I just look at her and 79 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, with tears in my eyes, this is really sad. 80 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,039 Speaker 1: And we had like the most wonderful, i don't know, 81 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,480 Speaker 1: minute long hug in the parking lot of this diner 82 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: that was not there when I was growing up, and 83 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: I was like, wow, I guess it's time to make 84 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 1: some new memories. And we will and as emotional as 85 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: this experience is and was on that day, what I'm 86 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 1: reminded of truly is that home really is a feeling 87 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: and home for me over the last two decades has 88 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: looked very different at many different times, but the consistent 89 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:55,119 Speaker 1: for me what makes home feel so beautiful no matter 90 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: where it is is the people in the community that's 91 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:02,039 Speaker 1: around it. For me, home is community, Home is love, 92 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: and I know that there is no shortage of love 93 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: in my life and we will make new memories and 94 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:15,359 Speaker 1: exchange and shair in so much love in the new 95 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 1: home that my dad is moving into. I'd also be 96 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: remissify it and say that this whole experience has me 97 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: like really thinking about the concept of home and the 98 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 1: home that I want to create for myself. I am 99 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: not in the place to buy a home just yet, 100 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: but like when I walk into my home that I 101 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: am renting right now in Brooklyn, I have an even 102 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 1: bigger sense of pride knowing that this home is so 103 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: special to me because I have invested in it, because 104 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: it is mine, because it is something that I have created. 105 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: And I think that's another foundational aspect of what makes 106 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 1: home so special is looking at a place and thinking 107 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: about the memories that you have. They're reflecting on the 108 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 1: different journeys that I have been on. When I stare 109 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: at my bookshelves and I see the different mementos from 110 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: the different experiences that I've had, all of them so beautiful, 111 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 1: some of them easier than others. Home for me, yes, 112 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: it's a feeling, but it is something also that is 113 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: mine to build, and I think that's exciting as I 114 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 1: think about, hypothesized dream about what my own home ownership 115 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 1: journey will look like in the coming years. My question 116 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: for you when you think about home, what do you 117 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: think of? When you think about home? What do you 118 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: think of? And now a listener question. 119 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Dan. I recently discovered your show 120 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 2: and I'm really enjoying it. A lot of us are 121 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 2: now getting brought back into the office after working remotely 122 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 2: for several years and have had really good fitness journeys 123 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 2: because of the flexibility at home. What would you recommend 124 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 2: to somebody who's now having to go back to the 125 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 2: office and doesn't have that same flexibility about some tips 126 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 2: on ways to kind of keep up with fitness journey. 127 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: Hey, Dan, thanks for calling in. Yeah, it's totally understandable 128 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: that there is a little bit of frustration and friction 129 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 1: around the fact that you have to adapt from a 130 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 1: routine that seems to have really been working for you. 131 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: With that said, there is a lot of opportunity in 132 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: re establishing what your movement practice will look like going forward. 133 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: So first and foremost, I would encourage you to ask yourself, 134 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: what are the activities that bring me the most joy? 135 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: Because the research shows that if you are moving in 136 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 1: a way that you really like, then you are more 137 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: likely to keep up with it. So identify what active 138 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,680 Speaker 1: modality is the thing that really lights you up. Maybe 139 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: it's weightlifting, maybe it's kettlebells, maybe it is gosh yoga 140 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: or running or cycling, whatever it may be. Start there. Then, 141 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: once you've identified the activity that brings you joy, something 142 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: that you really can look forward to doing, ask yourself, 143 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: where is it feasible within my routine that I can 144 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:21,720 Speaker 1: add this in? And understand that it may not be 145 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 1: the most convenient now, right, you were talking about having 146 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: so much flexibility before, so making movement a priority is 147 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: going to look a little bit different now. It's going 148 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: to require you to make the time for it. So 149 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: when you look at your calendar, be realistic with yourself 150 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: about how you can slot this in, and you're slotting 151 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 1: your movement break in just like a meeting. Maybe it's 152 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: trying to get used to doing this first thing in 153 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: the morning, and knowing as you slot this in like 154 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 1: a meeting, that you may need to put in a 155 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: buffer around this movement so that you're properly giving yourself 156 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 1: enough time to get it done. That buffer is going 157 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: to give you less excuses if you plan for it. Otherwise, 158 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: you'll wake up in the morning you'll see that you 159 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 1: plot it in I don't know, forty minutes to move 160 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:18,720 Speaker 1: knowing that you also need to get dressed during that period. 161 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 1: You also need to shower for your job, and all 162 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: of a sudden you've got twenty minutes and it feels 163 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: completely unobtainable. That is what we want to avoid. The 164 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: more decision making that you can take out of getting 165 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: in this activity, the less decision fatigue you will experience, 166 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 1: and the more likely you are to keep up with it. 167 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: Two more things to add in here. If it is 168 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: possible to indulge in movement with a friend, a colleague, 169 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: whoever it may be, that's going to give you an 170 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 1: accountability buddy, and that's going to make it more of 171 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: a social opportunity, which may make you more likely to 172 00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: show up. So maybe regular movement is you trying out 173 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: an intermural league. You know a lot of people that 174 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 1: do that here in New York. Or perhaps it's booking 175 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: a once weekly cycling class with colleagues and trying something new. 176 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: Sweat working is all of the rage, so getting other 177 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 1: people involved will help hold you accountable and keep you moving. 178 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,439 Speaker 1: And then the last thing I will say is that 179 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: it also starts with understanding and firmly believing that you 180 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:26,080 Speaker 1: are worthy of this time for yourself. You are worthy 181 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: of your own investment. Think about how you feel after 182 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: you move. I guarantee you feel better, You feel more capable, 183 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: you feel more prepared to handle whatever is going to 184 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 1: come your way that day. So, whether you are a 185 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: first thing in the morning kind of sweat person, or 186 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: you need to schedule it in in the middle of 187 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: a time block during the day or after work, whenever 188 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: you're getting after it, remind yourself that you deserve this, 189 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:54,320 Speaker 1: that you deserve to fill up your own cup that 190 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: you cannot pour from an empty cup. And like they say, 191 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: it's so critical for you to put on your own 192 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 1: oxygen mask before you can help those around you, and 193 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:09,959 Speaker 1: by doing so, you'll be a better friend, partner, teammate, colleague, 194 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: you name it. I hope that was helpful, and as always, 195 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 1: hit me with your listener questions. I want to answer 196 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:18,679 Speaker 1: them on the next show. The link to do that 197 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:20,560 Speaker 1: is in the show notes. And if for some reason 198 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: you have issues with the platform it happens from time 199 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 1: to time, email submissions are totally valid and wonderful, so 200 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: feel free just to record a voice note on your 201 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:33,840 Speaker 1: cell phone and then shoot it over in an email 202 00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: to us over at Hello at Hurdle dot us. That's 203 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 1: it for this week. Thanks for listening everyone, Another Hurdle conquered. 204 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.