WEBVTT - Second Date Update Classic: Train Game

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, you found it the home of the Second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 1>It is Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, and thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for being here.

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<v Speaker 2>On the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you know, I love all the comments we've been

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<v Speaker 1>getting from all over the world, and I think this

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<v Speaker 1>one really sums up what these second dates are. Nicolie

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<v Speaker 1>Hubert in Brazil wrote, the call just gets worse and worse.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh It's true, it does.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like a guilty pleasure listening though.

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<v Speaker 1>It starts right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Second Date Updates.

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<v Speaker 4>Everybody has a different romantic strategy when they're out and

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<v Speaker 4>they see somebody.

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<v Speaker 5>They're attracted to. Oh yeah, okay, like jose will name.

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<v Speaker 4>Drop himself before breaking down the diet and migration patterns

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<v Speaker 4>of Pacific.

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<v Speaker 5>Soft Shell claims.

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<v Speaker 6>Ah, because not the worst part, but I know a

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<v Speaker 6>lot about fish.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Weet, we got Jeffrey, Why did you do that?

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<v Speaker 4>Alexis will shake her empty white clockhand in your direction,

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<v Speaker 4>hoping you'll buy her a new one.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you like?

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't today?

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<v Speaker 5>And Brooke.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, she's married. I am not interested whatsoever. Wink win,

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<v Speaker 4>And she is definitely not going to leave her hotel

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<v Speaker 4>room unlocked, Room three oh seven.

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<v Speaker 5>Wink, wink wink. Why is even the doorstop open?

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<v Speaker 4>So again, guys, don't d m us Brook is not available.

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<v Speaker 5>Who is available is actually one of our listeners, Josie.

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<v Speaker 4>And apparently she has a different strategy when it comes

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<v Speaker 4>to meeting a guy.

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<v Speaker 5>Josie. Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, thank you so much for having me. Are you

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<v Speaker 3>right now Josie winking? No, No, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Secret codes only leads to trouble.

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<v Speaker 4>Brook would know. So tell us about the guy. Apparently

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<v Speaker 4>you met someone when you were out recently.

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<v Speaker 5>Who is it?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? So his name is Benjamin and I actually believe

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<v Speaker 3>it or not met him on the train.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh interesting, like a long trip train or just like

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<v Speaker 1>in town subway situation.

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<v Speaker 3>In town subway situation because that's how I get to

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<v Speaker 3>and from work.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, Oh god, got it?

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<v Speaker 4>So did you pull the Brook move of leaving the

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<v Speaker 4>hotel room card like a dot on the chair?

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<v Speaker 2>She's going to work, get out?

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<v Speaker 5>You said, he said that you have a strategy.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm wondering what it is, yes, so not quite that.

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<v Speaker 3>But here's what I have learned.

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<v Speaker 7>All.

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<v Speaker 3>I've noticed that the way that I can gauge if

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<v Speaker 3>someone's like attracted to me is if I get as

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<v Speaker 3>close as possible to them without actually interacting with them.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really hoping that the train that you're on is crowded, woman,

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<v Speaker 1>just in.

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<v Speaker 4>There's like forty empty seats and you're standing right next

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<v Speaker 4>to it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I'm subtle enough. I hope I'm subtle. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know. We'll find out.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so how does that work?

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<v Speaker 7>Well?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so I've been on the train with him a

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<v Speaker 3>bunch of times.

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<v Speaker 1>So you've noticed him before. Interesting, okay, Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So the first time I decided to use my strategy,

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<v Speaker 3>I got close to him enough but not enough where

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<v Speaker 3>he and I can make eye contacts, right, and ignored him.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and ignore him in the now?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and why don't you say anything?

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<v Speaker 4>Desperate people open their mouths and actually speak like hi. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>you got to let the target come to you, Okay, exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel it's all about the visibility.

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<v Speaker 2>How many rides until you got close?

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<v Speaker 3>So okay, the second rides got a little bit closer,

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<v Speaker 3>than the third ride. I sat right next to him, charm.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like those cat videos where they like, pay away

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<v Speaker 4>for a second and you pan back your cats a little.

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<v Speaker 5>Bit closer, a little bit closer on his back.

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<v Speaker 7>And then.

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<v Speaker 2>Were you sitting at his lap by this time?

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<v Speaker 3>Not quite, but I'm sitting right next to him.

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<v Speaker 5>Did he notice you?

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<v Speaker 3>Then he noticed my jacket?

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<v Speaker 2>How do you know?

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<v Speaker 3>He complimented me on my jacket? He said, Hey, nice jacket.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that jacket.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh what do you say?

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<v Speaker 3>I said, thank you? And continue to.

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<v Speaker 2>Ignore it, and continue to anore, ignore him, ignore him. Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>he's gonna think you don't like him, like that was

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<v Speaker 2>your opening?

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<v Speaker 3>You have headphones on?

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<v Speaker 2>Are You're just sitting there in silence, facing forward?

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<v Speaker 3>At this point I knew that there was trist So

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<v Speaker 3>then when I saw him the next time, he asked

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<v Speaker 3>me if I wanted to get coffee?

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<v Speaker 7>What?

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<v Speaker 2>Whoaay? So he had spoken one sentence to you prior.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, then he said a little bit like okay, it's

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<v Speaker 3>you again, you know, like a.

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<v Speaker 5>Little small okay.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean this is going to help people in real life.

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<v Speaker 4>This is how you meet people in the real world.

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<v Speaker 5>Now you keep playing hard to get like, what happens next?

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<v Speaker 5>At this point? Do you give in?

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<v Speaker 3>At this point, I just prefaced by letting him know

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<v Speaker 3>how incredibly busy I am. But I could maybe squeeze

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<v Speaker 3>him in after work.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, okay, you don't.

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<v Speaker 4>Want to know that you've been slowly like stalking him,

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<v Speaker 4>getting closer and closer to him on.

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<v Speaker 1>The train, and that your heart's about to explode because

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<v Speaker 1>it got you crush it on finally asked you out.

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<v Speaker 2>Cool, right, okay, so did you go after work?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>So we met at the train station and yeah, it

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<v Speaker 3>was a it was a quick fifteen minute situation.

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<v Speaker 5>Why so quick probably because the train was coming.

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<v Speaker 3>So I noticed that like he is kind of I

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<v Speaker 3>guess inexperienced.

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<v Speaker 2>It seems, Oh, why do you say that?

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<v Speaker 3>Because he was he seem a little uncomfortable, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like he didn't know what to do.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, okay, Well maybe that was confusing for him in

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<v Speaker 4>its own right because he was so used to you

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<v Speaker 4>being cold then before. But I'm assuming that you guys

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<v Speaker 4>exchange numbers after that and have stayed in touch.

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<v Speaker 5>So what's the latest.

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<v Speaker 3>So we did exchange numbers, but now whenever I see him,

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<v Speaker 3>he's acting strange. He's acting like it never happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Oh interesting, and you're okay with the inexperienced part.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like I kind.

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<v Speaker 3>Of thought it was cute, you know, like she just

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't look like he's been on a ton of dates,

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<v Speaker 3>which you know is absolutely a good thing, because like

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of the guys on the app seem like

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<v Speaker 3>May's been on three a day.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe he was just really really nervous on that first

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<v Speaker 4>date and had been looking forward to it just as

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<v Speaker 4>much as you were. Yeah, so maybe he's been waiting

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<v Speaker 4>and trying to figure out the right way to contact you.

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<v Speaker 4>We're just gonna jump in and do it for him, though.

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<v Speaker 4>We're gonna call him and try and get you your

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<v Speaker 4>second date update right after this.

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<v Speaker 3>Appreciate it, right hold on. Brooke and Jeffrey in the

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<v Speaker 3>morning second date update.

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<v Speaker 4>They say sometimes silence speaks louder than words. Yeah, never

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<v Speaker 4>understood that, but yeah, Josie, it's not just a quote.

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<v Speaker 4>That's her entire seduction strategy. You get physically close to

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<v Speaker 4>a guy and then just completely ignore him until he

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<v Speaker 4>falls in love with you. Yeah, and now I understand

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<v Speaker 4>why whenever I try to ignore Brooke at work.

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<v Speaker 5>She just wants to talk to.

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<v Speaker 4>Me more and more and more, flagging me down, asking

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<v Speaker 4>me all sorts of questions.

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<v Speaker 5>To talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>I only said, how is your weekend?

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<v Speaker 4>Wow? All up in my business all over again. And

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<v Speaker 4>that's how one of our listeners, Josie, met a guy

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<v Speaker 4>named Benjamin on the train not too long ago. Over

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<v Speaker 4>the course of several trips, she got closer and closer

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<v Speaker 4>and closer to him till she was basically in his

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<v Speaker 4>lap on a coffee date right before their next train.

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<v Speaker 4>And I can feel Brooks staring at me this entire time,

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<v Speaker 4>wanting to say something.

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<v Speaker 5>What is it, Brooke, what do you want?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just listening to what I'm not twisted. Okay, talk

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<v Speaker 2>so much. Just get to the point.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, my point has been made that he's not calling

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<v Speaker 5>her back.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's the bad point.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, Now what would you like to say?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. How are you feeling, Josie? No, obviously

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<v Speaker 2>she's not back.

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<v Speaker 5>Good. She doesn't want to talk to if she wants

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<v Speaker 5>to listen, she's ignoring you.

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<v Speaker 8>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know, like, is she nervous or does

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<v Speaker 1>she think? Like they only spent fifteen minutes together. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what can go so wrong in fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't downplay her amazing date broke, that's really rude.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just done with you. You can talk call.

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<v Speaker 3>The guy, Yes, call the guy. Call the guy.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I like to, you know, have meaningful conversations and

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<v Speaker 4>dive into people's feelings. All right, No, we'll just get

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<v Speaker 4>right to business and called Benjamin.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna dial his number. We'll see if he answers.

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<v Speaker 5>Here we go. Hello, Hey, is this Benjamin.

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<v Speaker 7>As this?

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<v Speaker 8>Uh?

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<v Speaker 5>This is a not just one person, a whole radio show, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 8>Uh, good morning.

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<v Speaker 7>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, we're doing something called a second date update because

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<v Speaker 4>one of our listeners has been trying to get a

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<v Speaker 4>hold of you and apparently she wants to see you

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<v Speaker 4>again on a real date.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know the right way to say this.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes sense, like they only went You only went

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<v Speaker 1>to coffee for fifteen minutes with her.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I wasn't sure if you would consider this a

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<v Speaker 4>date or not. There's a girl from the train named Josie.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh you said it's a date. Did I know go

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<v Speaker 7>from the train named Josie?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Well I didn't want to label it a date.

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<v Speaker 4>But apparently you guys have hung out, seen each other

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<v Speaker 4>a few times and had coffee together.

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<v Speaker 5>That's the date we're referring.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, well, I mean we ride the same train line, and.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so you're in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, why didn't you consider the coffee meet up a date?

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<v Speaker 7>Well? I guess, like technically, like we made an appointment

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<v Speaker 7>or like a time to see each other.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of people would see that as two people

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<v Speaker 4>meeting up and having a drink or whatever together.

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<v Speaker 5>That's considered a date.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, but I mean, like normally there's sort of like,

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<v Speaker 7>I guess date vibes if you.

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<v Speaker 2>Will, Oh you didn't get anything.

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<v Speaker 7>Friendly? Well, I just didn't even know they were supposed

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<v Speaker 7>to be chemistry there. So the deal is, my mom's

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<v Speaker 7>birthday is coming up, and I know this is it's

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<v Speaker 7>like a weird intro. But yeah, what the heck?

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<v Speaker 8>This girl has like I.

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<v Speaker 7>Don't know how to describe it other than like a

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<v Speaker 7>very similar style to my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you just say, Josie has a similar style

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<v Speaker 1>to your mom?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna throw up.

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot think.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, let's hear him out.

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<v Speaker 7>Maybe not like in a gru like just a I

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<v Speaker 7>noticed she was wearing this jacket that my mom has

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<v Speaker 7>the exact same one.

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<v Speaker 1>Of Oh not the jacket we know get grows is

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<v Speaker 1>just insulting.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, gross, he's not into her.

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<v Speaker 5>It's just okay.

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<v Speaker 4>Josie mentioned us that you brought up her jacket looking

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<v Speaker 4>really nice when you guys are on the train together.

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<v Speaker 5>Is that what you're talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, so I noticed her on the train a couple

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<v Speaker 7>of times, and I swear they must shop at the

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<v Speaker 7>same place. And so I'm like, no, I don't know

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<v Speaker 7>where to get a gift for my mom.

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<v Speaker 8>And so I was just gonna pick her brain on

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<v Speaker 8>like where she shot.

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<v Speaker 2>This was an information like where's the Talbots?

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<v Speaker 7>So oh, that might be a good place to go.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you tell Josie during the coffee experience that you

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<v Speaker 4>were looking to buy a gift for your mother or

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<v Speaker 4>you just information gathering.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know if I mentioned specifically that we talked

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<v Speaker 7>about like where she shopped, and like.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean it was brief, like okay, that's why, well

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<v Speaker 8>you said date.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't really think of it as a date.

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<v Speaker 8>All right.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow, somebody who may have seen it as a little

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<v Speaker 4>bit more than that, is Josie, who unfortunately has been

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<v Speaker 4>listening to this entire conversation. Benjamin, she's on the other line.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, you've never seemed interested.

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<v Speaker 5>Hello, that's Josie, jose because.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so offensive, and my mom's cool.

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<v Speaker 8>No, no, no, no, no, your mom is cool.

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<v Speaker 4>It's possible maybe his mom is some sort of model.

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<v Speaker 3>Why didn't you get asked me where I got the

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<v Speaker 3>jacket when you complimented me on it?

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<v Speaker 8>And has that jacket jacket?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, it's kind of funny. He was probably taking your

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<v Speaker 4>feelings into consideration by not bringing that up.

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<v Speaker 1>I bet his mom was really like, maybe a teenager

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<v Speaker 1>when she had him, so she's very young.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm sure he's the product of a teenage pregnancy.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 8>That's not true. Okay, it's like bohemian style.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know what you would call it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's okay, that's true. At no point three people.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what Josie probably wants to hear from you, Benjamin,

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<v Speaker 4>is an apology of some sort.

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<v Speaker 8>Why am I book? What did I do? Well?

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<v Speaker 5>You said that she has the style of your mom?

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<v Speaker 8>Would you rather my mom has your style?

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Nobody each other of you.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, can we get off the whole? I dressed like

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<v Speaker 3>his mom, saying okay, I think that's the established I

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<v Speaker 3>was genuinely like interested. You seem like a really nice guy,

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<v Speaker 3>and you just seem like you were a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>experienced inexperience rather so now I just feel like an idiot.

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<v Speaker 1>Well I think he is inexperienced, I mean find gifts

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<v Speaker 1>for his mom.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I don't think I'm an experienced Like you didn't

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<v Speaker 7>give off any signs of like, hey, let's go have

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<v Speaker 7>a date.

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<v Speaker 3>Why do you think I wanted to have coffee with you?

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<v Speaker 5>She was playing hard to get with you.

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<v Speaker 7>She didn't even want to have coffee with me. It

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<v Speaker 7>was like a point She's like, maybe I can fit

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<v Speaker 7>you in. I was just like, well, perfect, I doesn't

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<v Speaker 7>need like make your brain.

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<v Speaker 5>Between the lines. That means she likes you.

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<v Speaker 3>Telling you that I'm going to make time for you

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<v Speaker 3>should be indicative of interest you.

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<v Speaker 4>You need to be.

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<v Speaker 7>Real clear, I don't have that, Dakoda. Rig I thought

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<v Speaker 7>you were just like literally busy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean she.

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<v Speaker 1>Obviously you know now that she likes you, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's very clear.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so put all the mom stuff aside. Do you

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<v Speaker 4>see her like as a potential romantic interest for you?

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<v Speaker 7>I haven't really even thought about it. Like, all I

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<v Speaker 7>can do is like picture my mom's clothes.

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<v Speaker 5>That could be sexy in something.

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<v Speaker 8>Jack could be No, it's not like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well I'm doing more damage than I am helping.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you like, donate the jacket and then maybe get something.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not changing my wardrobe because of him.

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<v Speaker 8>No, you shouldn't change it. I mean, you look amazing

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<v Speaker 8>at it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was serious for my Complimentager, She's never going to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to wear that jacket again.

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<v Speaker 4>Just so you know, she'll find something out even hotter

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<v Speaker 4>to wear on your first official day that we we're

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<v Speaker 4>gonna send you on it and pay for the day.

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<v Speaker 5>If you want to do this, Benjamin, what do you think.

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<v Speaker 3>Can we just not don't even ask him?

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>You're right, we should probably ask his mom for permission

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<v Speaker 4>for make sure it's okay before he's.

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<v Speaker 5>Allowed to go out with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she's gonna go home you're done with it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't know if there's coming back from this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would agree with that.

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<v Speaker 7>Hey, Josie, I'm sorry, I really didn't see it as

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<v Speaker 7>what you were shooting for. So I apologize, and like,

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<v Speaker 7>they don't want it to be awkward when we see

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<v Speaker 7>each other on the train again, so like, I really

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<v Speaker 7>am sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, it won't be I'm probably gonna start taking

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<v Speaker 3>the bush.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, but that's like ignoring him. And when she ignores someone,

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<v Speaker 4>it means that.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, I think I'm throwing that hut of you

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<v Speaker 3>out from now on. I'm never using that again.

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<v Speaker 2>And Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>This second date update was powered by Talbots. Stop it

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<v Speaker 4>somethings to embrace your inner mom. Put on that floral

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<v Speaker 4>button up blouse under a handstitch sweater vest, and embrace

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<v Speaker 4>the sexy.

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<v Speaker 5>And yeah, is that terrible?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you mean no one wants to be compared to

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<v Speaker 2>their mother.

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<v Speaker 5>Excuse me.

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<v Speaker 4>I would like to ask that we destigmatize the idea

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<v Speaker 4>that moms aren't sexy.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, I don't like.

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<v Speaker 4>This narrative that you guys are painting that moms can't

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<v Speaker 4>be hot.

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<v Speaker 1>Jeffrey, you cannot be attracted to someone who looks like

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<v Speaker 1>your own mother.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter if your own mother is Heidi Clue.

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<v Speaker 2>It is close.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, that's your opinions.

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<v Speaker 4>If you're a hot mom text in the seventy eighty

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<v Speaker 4>five nine as well, if you're singlet are you.

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<v Speaker 2>Trying to get hot moms a text?

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<v Speaker 5>A text?

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<v Speaker 2>That is not what this is about.

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<v Speaker 4>Solidarity in numbers, and if we can't agree on that,

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<v Speaker 4>at least we can agree on this, we'll help you

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<v Speaker 4>with your dating life.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, don't matter who your mom is, no matter what

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<v Speaker 5>they look like.

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<v Speaker 2>Hei Klum's daughter, give us a call.

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<v Speaker 5>That's right, email the show.

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