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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garland. Hello, everyone,

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Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about

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Speaker 1: the choices we make and where they lead us. We're

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Speaker 1: rolling into the holidays, it's happening this week. I just

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Speaker 1: wanted to take some time to chat with you all.

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Speaker 1: I know the holidays can be a mixed bag of

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Speaker 1: feelings for a lot of people, and this time of

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Speaker 1: year is also a great time to reflect on what

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Speaker 1: a year twenty twenty four has been. Maybe try one

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Speaker 1: of my new favorite things I learned from Liz Moody.

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Speaker 1: Look at the past year specifically and pinpoint those times

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Speaker 1: where you were challenged and look at the progress you

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Speaker 1: have made. That practice always makes me feel so good.

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Speaker 1: My favorite thing about this time of year is quiet,

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Speaker 1: albeit only lasts for a week, but my world really

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Speaker 1: slows down. The industry slows down, the decision making slows down,

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Speaker 1: the emails flow down, and I can just exist and

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Speaker 1: experience all the moments of those few precious days. It's

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Speaker 1: been a year full of feelings, that is for sure.

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Speaker 1: And as we've talked about, feelings aren't forever. They come

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Speaker 1: and go, and sometimes they need to be listened to,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes they don't. But look back on the year,

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Speaker 1: I do think it's a good idea to take stock

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Speaker 1: of your emotional roadmap and where you've been and where

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Speaker 1: you are now and give yourself a pat on the back,

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Speaker 1: give yourself some credit, give yourself some grace. You're doing great.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing great. We're all doing great. If I kind

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Speaker 1: of look back on my last year, there's been a

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Speaker 1: lot of excitement and a lot of feeling like curiosity

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Speaker 1: of the unknown ahead of me. I've had feelings of fear,

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Speaker 1: for sure, I think we all have. But I've replaced

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Speaker 1: those fearful feelings, those what ifs and oh no's, with

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Speaker 1: this we'll see. Instead of labeling any feeling good or bad,

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Speaker 1: I try to replace them with this one phrase. We'll see.

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Speaker 1: We'll see how this opportunity flourishes the way I hope

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Speaker 1: it will. We'll see if this new friendship is going

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Speaker 1: to be mutually beneficial and feel good. We'll see if

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Speaker 1: this new relationship is going to work out and become

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Speaker 1: significant in my life. Saying we'll see doesn't mean we

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Speaker 1: just throw our hands up and don't work at things.

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Speaker 1: It just means I'm going to give this my best effort,

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Speaker 1: and we'll see how it works out. There's a certain

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Speaker 1: freedom in that thing that allows things to sort of

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Speaker 1: unfold naturally instead of trying to force anything into anywhere.

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Speaker 1: I think this time of year is always a good

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Speaker 1: idea to get prepped, get ready for twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to try harder to be more present. I

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm pretty present. I try so hard to

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Speaker 1: be present, but I'm going to try even harder to

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Speaker 1: keep my work out of my family room, off of

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Speaker 1: my couch. Basically, we can be watching movies and sometimes

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Speaker 1: I will go to my computer and start working in

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Speaker 1: the middle of a movie. It is so annoying. And

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Speaker 1: would I get annoyed with somebody else in my family

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Speaker 1: sitting on that couch with me doing that? Yeah, So

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Speaker 1: I need to work on those double standards. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I've had so many favorite moments on this podcast that

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Speaker 1: I've laughed, I've cried. I've been really able to listen

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Speaker 1: to the people that we've had on learn so much

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Speaker 1: about them, but not just that, learn so much about

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Speaker 1: myself and about this journey that I am on. And

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Speaker 1: I've loved hearing where other people have triumphed. I've loved

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Speaker 1: hearing other people's challenges because it has made me feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm not alone. I've had some really great guests

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Speaker 1: on that I thought, Wow, their life is so awesome

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Speaker 1: and amazing, and I'm sure you probably think that too.

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Speaker 1: But having them on the podcast and finding out that

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Speaker 1: they are dealing with the same challenges that we're dealing

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Speaker 1: with that I'm dealing with has given me solace. I

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Speaker 1: think I never thought I would come to such a

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Speaker 1: peaceful place with my ex husband. This podcast really opened

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Speaker 1: the door for a new relationship for us, and I'm

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Speaker 1: so grateful for that. And oh my gosh, the experts

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Speaker 1: we've had on and getting to have my daughter for

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Speaker 1: one on the podcast talking about launching our brand together

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Speaker 1: this year was such a pinch me moment because this

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Speaker 1: is a girl who is very shy. She's always been shy.

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Speaker 1: She's always hidden behind my skirt. And just seeing her

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Speaker 1: be able to speak into a microphone eloquently and express

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Speaker 1: herself and be in rooms full of people and feel

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Speaker 1: like she belongs, I don't know. It's given me the

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Speaker 1: greatest gift as a mom to see her unfold in

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Speaker 1: this way. I've gotten to have my husband Dave on

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Speaker 1: the podcast, and it's always a good time when I

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Speaker 1: sit down with him and we have those discussions about

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Speaker 1: connection and about fears, and we just really open up

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Speaker 1: and get vulnerable with each other and with all of you.

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Speaker 1: I love having Adele on. Oh my gosh, our resident

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Speaker 1: in house therapist, Adele House has been in the house,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so glad to be able to share her

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Speaker 1: just valuable information and just her insights. You know, I

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Speaker 1: always have said she's one of the best people I know,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so happy that you all get to know

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Speaker 1: her too. And of course, mister Showbiz, my longtime manager Randy.

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Speaker 1: Having him by my side through all of this and

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Speaker 1: be there to support me and encourage me and throw

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Speaker 1: ideas back and forth has been just such a gift.

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Speaker 1: And I love this feeling of connection with you all,

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Speaker 1: this community that we are building here. It feels so

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Speaker 1: good in my heart. I know it's right. I know

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Speaker 1: this is good, and I'm just getting so much out

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Speaker 1: of it, and I really hope you are too. I

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Speaker 1: feel like, please don't get me anything for Christmas. This

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Speaker 1: podcast has been the biggest gift. Ever, for me, there's

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Speaker 1: so much information thrown at us all the time, whether

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Speaker 1: it's from our favorite podcasts or from books that we read,

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Speaker 1: or the Internet or the Instagram or the TikTok or

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Speaker 1: the Facebook. There's so much messaging out there. I feel

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Speaker 1: like it's all syncing in for all of us all

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Speaker 1: of the time, and we're as we grow and as

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Speaker 1: we evolve, all those good important lessons and messages that

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Speaker 1: are circling around they land. And one of those instances

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Speaker 1: for me was not that long ago, actually, for Thanksgiving.

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Speaker 1: Adele was on the podcast with me and we were

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Speaker 1: talking about how to really just enjoy the moment and

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Speaker 1: make that like my priority at Thanksgiving break to take

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Speaker 1: time to really just enjoy the moment. And I was

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Speaker 1: able to do that at Thanksgiving, and as I was

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Speaker 1: doing it, I thought of her, and I thought of

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Speaker 1: that moment when she was telling us that, And I

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Speaker 1: want you to know that that's possible for you too.

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Speaker 1: So all the things that you're listening to and all

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Speaker 1: the things that are coming into your universe are coming

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Speaker 1: to you for the right reasons. And don't be scared

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Speaker 1: that you're not going to be able to impart them

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Speaker 1: into your life because it will. It will happen if

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Speaker 1: you just stay open. Here's what I'm going to leave

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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. I'm going to leave my feelings

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Speaker 1: of self doubt because they're doing me no good. Thinking

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Speaker 1: to myself, I'm not good enough, or other people are

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Speaker 1: better at this than me, or other people are already

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Speaker 1: doing this, that or the other, so I don't need

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Speaker 1: to be doing it. That's all just fear. That's all

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Speaker 1: just those internal fearful messages trying to hold me back,

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Speaker 1: keep me in a safe place instead of encouraging myself

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Speaker 1: to step out into the world and try new things.

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Speaker 1: And even if I am a little afraid or I

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Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed, it's okay, it will all work out. And

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Speaker 1: just knowing that if I'm going in a direction, it's

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Speaker 1: the right direction. If it feels good, it's the right direction.

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Speaker 1: And I hope for you, my beautiful listeners, this holiday season,

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Speaker 1: I hope you have peace. Just let things unfold without

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Speaker 1: forcing or working ourselves into the ground to get the

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Speaker 1: results we think we want. Have goals for sure, have

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Speaker 1: your dreams thought through and visualize them happening, and then

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Speaker 1: let it go. Oh and get quiet and let peace

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Speaker 1: lead to you. So with that said, I just want

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Speaker 1: to wish everybody the merriest of Christmas, the happiest of holidays,

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Speaker 1: the best New Year. I'm so excited for your twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five. I'm so excited for my twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: Let that excitement fuel you, let it fill you up,

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Speaker 1: and let yourself believe it. Believe in yourself. We can

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Speaker 1: do this. And you know what, twenty twenty five is

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Speaker 1: going to be good. It's going to be huge for

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Speaker 1: you and one of the coolest ways we can start

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Speaker 1: choosing ourselves. Maybe start twenty twenty five off right by

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Speaker 1: coming to my I Choose Me Live event. It's going

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Speaker 1: to be so much fun. We're going to talk, we're

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Speaker 1: going to hang out, We're going to learn from one another.

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Speaker 1: It's going to inspire us all to love ourselves just

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Speaker 1: a little bit. More. Tickets are on sale. Well now,

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Speaker 1: they make great holiday gifts. I'm telling you, if you

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Speaker 1: buy a ticket for this and you stick it in

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Speaker 1: your loved ones stalking, they are going to be like,

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Speaker 1: what is this And when they go and have this experience,

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Speaker 1: they're going to be so grateful. All the info is

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Speaker 1: in our show notes, so be sure to check it out.

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Speaker 1: I hope that I see you there, or maybe I

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Speaker 1: see one of your loved ones there. Thanks for choosing

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Speaker 1: to listen to I Choose Me all this year. It's

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Speaker 1: been such an amazing ride. Merry Christmas everybody, I love you,

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Speaker 1: I will see you next year. Happy New Year,