Speaker 1: It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
Speaker 1: and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
Speaker 1: and more. Please, baby, please submit your Strawberry letter to
Speaker 1: STEVEBARBFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2: We could be reading.
Speaker 1: Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
Speaker 1: to read this one right here, right now, And you
Speaker 1: never know.
Speaker 2: It could be a yours.
Speaker 3: It could be your buckle up and hold on tight.
Speaker 3: We got it for you. Here it Strawberry letter, all right.
Speaker 2: If you thank you. Subject. He might look nerdy, but
Speaker 2: he's not.
Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I grew up as
Speaker 1: friends and we even went to the same college.
Speaker 2: I was always popular. He was nerdy, but he got.
Speaker 1: All the girls because it was okay to date a
Speaker 1: nerdy guy back then. Our senior year of college is
Speaker 1: off campus house flooded, so I told him he could
Speaker 1: sleep on my couch. I shared a three bedroom apartment
Speaker 1: with two other girls. While I was at work. He
Speaker 1: had a threesome with my roommates and none of them
Speaker 1: mentioned it to me. Fast forward to ten years after
Speaker 1: we graduated. We were still friendly and I was already
Speaker 1: married to someone else. This guy told me that he
Speaker 1: always had a thing for me and asked if I
Speaker 1: was happy. I told him, as a matter of fact,
Speaker 1: I wasn't happy, and I was considering getting a divorce.
Speaker 2: To make a long.
Speaker 1: Story short, I got a divorce and we started dating.
Speaker 1: A few years later we got married. I presented the
Speaker 1: idea of a threesome to him and he was cool
Speaker 1: with it. I thought it would shock him since he's
Speaker 1: always been so nerdy. I was surprised at how advanced
Speaker 1: he was sexually, and I mentioned it to him. What
Speaker 1: I said must have damaged his ego because he went
Speaker 1: off so bad on me that he started bragging about
Speaker 1: having a threesome with my two former roommates. I confirmed
Speaker 1: it with my old roommates and they said, there's no
Speaker 1: way I should have married him because he was a
Speaker 1: big nerd. That's a good traction of him. But why
Speaker 1: did why did they all keep this a secret? Should
Speaker 1: I ask this nerd more about his past sexual encounters
Speaker 1: or is it best to leave the past in the past. Well,
Speaker 1: of course, it's best to leave the past in the past.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't really know what I could say
Speaker 1: that would make a difference. Anyway, because it's not going
Speaker 1: to change anything between you guys. I could say stop
Speaker 1: having threesomes and all of that, but I'm not sure
Speaker 1: you know that you want to do that. Since you're
Speaker 1: the one that open up that threesome door. You don't
Speaker 1: really want to stop, do you. You thought it was
Speaker 1: shocked him, and it didn't, so now here you are.
Speaker 1: So I say, go on with your life, start worrying
Speaker 1: about the stuff that happened over ten years ago. Now
Speaker 1: you know what your husband can do and what he's
Speaker 1: been doing. That's why he got so mad at you
Speaker 1: for mentioning he was so sexually advanced.
Speaker 2: He's been doing this.
Speaker 1: I think you need to admit to him that you
Speaker 1: feel betrayed by him when he had a threesome with
Speaker 1: your roommates all that time ago. You could at least
Speaker 1: say that, but don't act like you're okay with it.
Speaker 1: And you're not, even though you were the one that
Speaker 1: introduced it into your marriage. So this sounds, you know, crazy,
Speaker 1: like a conflict of interest. Here you introduced it, but
Speaker 1: now you're mad about it. Make up your mind which
Speaker 1: one it is and which what it's gonna be.
Speaker 2: Tommy, ain't nobody nerdy in this letter.
Speaker 3: Everybody freaky everybody, And that's why you left your husband
Speaker 3: who you was married to, because he wasn't freaking for you,
Speaker 3: so you wouldn't got into this mess. This is freaky.
Speaker 3: This is a mess. This ain't no marriage, this is
Speaker 3: this is this is a mess?
Speaker 4: Who who this?
Speaker 3: If this is how people starting to get married now
Speaker 3: and this is what they do, then so be it.
Speaker 3: This is not nothing that I know anything about when
Speaker 3: it comes to you and your wife and your YO,
Speaker 3: and y'all got some other people. So if this is
Speaker 3: what y'all do, then this is just what you do.
Speaker 3: So more power took you. But I just I guess
Speaker 3: I'm cut from a different clause, come from a different world.
Speaker 3: I just I don't understand how this is your marriage.
Speaker 3: I don't understand how you're supposed to be happy with this.
Speaker 3: And now you introducing this to your husband heating already
Speaker 3: been doing. You might why don't y'all y'all might well
Speaker 3: call the roommates and invite them down. It's been it's
Speaker 3: been it's been a minute. Y'all might as well invite
Speaker 3: them down and going to do what you do, because
Speaker 3: this is just I got nothing for you. This is
Speaker 3: this is this, This is what you call marriage.
Speaker 4: This is what y'all do.
Speaker 2: And she introduced it into the marriage. That introduced it. Yeah, so.
Speaker 3: I just I just can't look across the room and
Speaker 3: my wife over there holling with somebody else. I just can't.
Speaker 3: I can't do that. I didn't tell y'all before. I'm
Speaker 3: a cold seven minutes. Why would I go get myself
Speaker 3: in something like this? Why would I do that with
Speaker 3: some other people? Once I once my self minute says up.
Speaker 3: Now I'm just walking around looking at everybody. Why would
Speaker 3: I do that? Why would I? Why would I even
Speaker 3: put myself in that situation? So, no, I think this
Speaker 3: is stupid. It's ignorant. This is not a marriage. This
Speaker 3: is just this is bes to me. I don't, I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't like it. That's just me being real. Let
Speaker 3: me just say this, y'all are not ready to love. Y'all,
Speaker 3: y'all are ready to have threesomes. Y'all are not ready
Speaker 3: to love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this is this.
Speaker 4: Is not a This is not a legitimate marriage.
Speaker 3: If this is what you bring it into your house
Speaker 3: and you want to introduce.
Speaker 4: This and bring it to your husband and then he
Speaker 4: So what was the question?
Speaker 1: What was the question that what she wanted to know
Speaker 1: was why did they all keep this a secret?
Speaker 2: The three the threesome that they had.
Speaker 1: Back in college when they were roommates, And she wants
Speaker 1: to know should she ask this nerd referring to her husband?
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard that term before?
Speaker 1: Nerd?
Speaker 4: You never heard a nerd? All right?
Speaker 1: What should should I ask this nerd more about his
Speaker 1: past encounters? Or is it best to leave the past
Speaker 1: in the past? Those are her.
Speaker 3: Past will come back. Don't worry about that. It's gonna
Speaker 3: come back. So since you've introduced the streetsome to him,
Speaker 3: he's going to now, in turn, turn around and introduce
Speaker 3: a whole lot more to you than you've opened up
Speaker 3: a whole can of worms. Well, you're about to meet
Speaker 3: some people, and you're gonna and you're gonna meet your
Speaker 3: roommates again, because all that's gonna come back together.
Speaker 4: We're gonna have this party.
Speaker 1: So then it'll be a foursome if she's involved, the
Speaker 1: two roommates, the husband and her.
Speaker 3: Wow, from I understanding, surely, once you get to the threes,
Speaker 3: it's not enough. You're gonna start adding the fours in
Speaker 3: the fives, it's gonna it just takes time. Yeah, once
Speaker 3: you get past the threes, you start getting the four
Speaker 3: five fixes, Georgie.
Speaker 4: Yeah, not enough. He'll come to baby all and he'll
Speaker 4: come to party. You don't you asked? You asked.
Speaker 1: We'll have part two of our response to the Strawberry
Speaker 1: letter coming up at twenty three minutes after we will
Speaker 1: hear from Junior.
Speaker 2: Right after this.
Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. Spending time out, and
Speaker 1: let's talk about skin cancer. Non melanoma skin cancers, or nmscs,
Speaker 1: including basal cell carcinoma and cutaneous squamous cell carcinoma, are
Speaker 1: the most common cancers in the US and can become
Speaker 1: harder to treat if left undetected. That's why sun protection
Speaker 1: and timely detection matter. Our sponsor, Regeneron, is raising awareness
Speaker 1: about advanced nmscs. Learn more and take the pledge to
Speaker 1: see a dermatologist annually. At Let's get real about skin
Speaker 1: cancer dot com. All right, we're gonna recap today's Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1: The subject is he might look nerdy, but he's not.
Speaker 1: A young woman called in. She said she and her
Speaker 1: husband grew up as friends. They went to the same college.
Speaker 1: She was always popular. He was the nerdy one, but
Speaker 1: he got all the girls because back then it was
Speaker 1: okay to date like a nerdy guy.
Speaker 2: So she said skip to the senior year of college.
Speaker 1: His off campus house flooded, so she just told the
Speaker 1: guy that he could come and sleep on her couch.
Speaker 1: At that time, she shared a three bedroom apartment with
Speaker 1: two other ladies. Well, while she was at work, he
Speaker 1: had a threesome with her two roommates and none of
Speaker 1: them cared to mention it or thought it was important
Speaker 1: for them to mention it to her. So now she's
Speaker 1: fast forwarding ten years. Okay, they've graduated, she's married to
Speaker 1: someone else.
Speaker 2: This guy told her that he.
Speaker 1: Had always had a thing for her, and he asked
Speaker 1: her if she was happy. The guy that slept on
Speaker 1: her couch, that had a threesome with her two roommates, and.
Speaker 2: He asked her if she was happy.
Speaker 1: She told him, as a matter of fact, she wasn't
Speaker 1: and she was considering getting a divorce, so she got
Speaker 1: a divorce. Later, the two of them hooked up and
Speaker 1: got married, and then once they got married, the woman
Speaker 1: presented the idea to him to have a threesome.
Speaker 2: And she said, surprisingly, he was cool with it.
Speaker 1: She thought he would be shocked, but uh ah, he
Speaker 1: was not shocked. So after they got married, you know,
Speaker 1: she was surprised at how advanced he was sexually, and
Speaker 1: she just happened to mention it to him, mention it
Speaker 1: to him. He got upset. His ego was wounded, she said.
Speaker 1: Then he started bragging and talking about the fact that, Hey,
Speaker 1: I had a thresome with your two roommates back in
Speaker 1: college days, over ten years ago. So now she's math
Speaker 1: because they didn't tell her, and she wants to know.
Speaker 1: She's calling him a nerd whore now, and she wants
Speaker 1: to know why did they all keep this a secret?
Speaker 1: And should she leave the past in the past.
Speaker 5: Oh, oh, this man is brilliant.
Speaker 2: Why do you say that?
Speaker 5: Yeah, he's brilliant.
Speaker 6: He said, this is what you call mathematical scientific six.
Speaker 5: Oh, this boy he did it.
Speaker 2: What mathematical scientific sex is?
Speaker 3: What us?
Speaker 5: He used science to get this? What do he means probability?
Speaker 6: You can calculate probability now he can bes looking dude,
Speaker 6: y'all said he got the girls.
Speaker 5: He used his own forma. He go to class. They
Speaker 5: take different classes. See you over there in just regular algebra.
Speaker 5: Oh no, he ain't throw it out. Neaviusaid, probability. He
Speaker 5: has some high end plan.
Speaker 6: He gonna try this though she's a nerds. Yeah, I
Speaker 6: got glasses, said, if I can just just you know,
Speaker 6: factor the probability, and the probability is a formula.
Speaker 5: You can do one over one plus e minus two ewlers.
Speaker 6: You gotta the us the two girls that he had
Speaker 6: the sex with the first time. That's huge, did he did?
Speaker 5: He predict it.
Speaker 6: If I marry her, I can get a threesome again.
Speaker 6: And showing up she came around that corner.
Speaker 2: She introduced it. She did.
Speaker 6: He is working science on her. She'll be going with
Speaker 6: logistics and phylis. Nope, he's doing probability. If I can wait,
Speaker 6: if I fact, if I calculate this correctly, once I
Speaker 6: marry her in about six months, I have another threesome.
Speaker 5: I've done it. He is, Steve Rkle for real, I've
Speaker 5: done it, got it and you right now, He pushed
Speaker 5: his glasses up. I have to figured it out.
Speaker 6: It does not matter, he said, He said it now
Speaker 6: e being he'd been he got neither the ebing.
Speaker 5: I tell and Mary if I ain't getting married and
Speaker 5: that I can get carried too.
Speaker 6: So that's one, two three, and then me is the peace.
Speaker 6: That's the probability. Ten years after after this, I get
Speaker 6: married to her another threesome.
Speaker 5: He's having threesomes all the time.
Speaker 6: I love You're a mathematical scientific sex works.
Speaker 5: His voice equal MC squared.
Speaker 2: It worked.
Speaker 5: All these forms, is working on his behalf.
Speaker 6: I ain't mad at him for just using his scientific
Speaker 6: skills just to make threesomes work.
Speaker 5: I wish I would have thought it. I get done,
Speaker 5: but I can't understand the math.
Speaker 3: The math had.
Speaker 2: Heard the term nerd. Have you ever heard that term welling?
Speaker 5: Until today? And he is one and he's probably the famous,
Speaker 5: most famous one.
Speaker 6: Because he had two of them at the same time
Speaker 6: with the same girl who offered him.
Speaker 5: Now that's not my fault. He didn't know she was
Speaker 5: gonna offer it until he.
Speaker 6: Did the math and he said, she's gonna give it
Speaker 6: to me again in ten plus years, he knew it.
Speaker 5: It's probability. It worked in his favor. Y'all need to
Speaker 5: ask this man, what's the lot on numbers? That's what
Speaker 5: we need to be asking you. Because this man is brilliant.
Speaker 5: He move all this gather And why are you mad?
Speaker 5: Because you introduced it to it. You can't be mad.
Speaker 5: It's something that you introduced. And now now you're going to.
Speaker 2: Call him a nerd.
Speaker 6: And he said, wait a minute, wait a minute, I've
Speaker 6: already slept with your two roommates.
Speaker 5: Don't play.
Speaker 2: Yeah he got mad about it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I already got them.
Speaker 6: Don't Maybe go right here and get this equation to
Speaker 6: put your put you in there, and then see what
Speaker 6: happens again. Because I'm gonna tell you right now. Everybody
Speaker 6: is ten years older, and I'm telling you right now,
Speaker 6: I will do this again. He will do it again.
Speaker 1: But would you be mad about something that happened ten
Speaker 1: years ago? Would you still be mad about that? No?
Speaker 5: Because you wasn't married to me?
Speaker 4: Though.
Speaker 6: Well, once the wife opens up about a threesome, well
Speaker 6: you needn't know.
Speaker 5: I had your roommates too. I've had your roommates.
Speaker 2: You need to know that this is not a game.
Speaker 1: Here.
Speaker 6: I wasn't handsome anothering. I just was a nerd. I'm
Speaker 6: dangerous out here. Give me a calculator and I get niked.
Speaker 5: Every day happens I predicted it. I predicted it once.
Speaker 5: I getting my laptop and I'm nicking in a room.
Speaker 2: This gonna happen with those glasses on.
Speaker 5: Glasses on everything. All the thing I do is get
Speaker 5: the glasses. That's it. I don't take them off. I'll
Speaker 5: take it off, flippy glasses.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 2: Thank you guys.
Speaker 1: Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey
Speaker 1: FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Speaker 1: Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never sounded
Speaker 1: so good. You can download it today now coming up
Speaker 1: at forty six minutes after the hour, as he changes.
Speaker 2: Ats Junior with Sports Talk. He's no longer a nerd.
Speaker 2: He's our sports guy. Now right after this, you're listening
Speaker 2: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show