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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm

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Speaker 1: too sexy to have male friends. Dear Stephen Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: have a problem with how men see me. I was

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Speaker 1: years ago and decided to move to another state for

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Speaker 1: a clean slate. I'm not looking for a serious relationship

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Speaker 1: I would like male companionship occasionally. So here's my problem.

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Speaker 1: I look younger than I am, and apparently I ooze

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Speaker 1: sexiness no matter how I'm dressed or if I have

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Speaker 1: how sexy I am. I'm an all natural woman, from

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Speaker 1: my hair, to my breasts and to my behind. Every

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Speaker 1: in seeing me naked. There is always an innuendo about

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Speaker 1: my body or my so the way I walk. I

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Speaker 1: feel like a fantasy more so than a woman. Men

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Speaker 1: don't take me seriously, and I'm not used to this treatment.

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Speaker 1: When I was married, men seem more interested in what

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Speaker 1: I had to say to me. I am average looking

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Speaker 1: and I have a few flaws, but I am funny,

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Speaker 1: smart and loyal. Everyone who knows me knows that I'm

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Speaker 1: not a wild woman that seeks attention from men. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how I can turn this sexy vibe off,

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Speaker 1: but trying to find companionship has been a disappointment. Do

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Speaker 1: people not start out as friends anymore? What can I

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Speaker 1: do to get a man to see pass my sexiness

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Speaker 1: and pay attention to the entire package? Wow, what a

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Speaker 1: problem to have, What a problem to have, all sexy

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Speaker 1: and stuff. I mean, well, you know men are visual,

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Speaker 1: yes they are. But um, the stuff you describe in

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Speaker 1: the letter, all this sexual stuff, these these things they're

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Speaker 1: they're pointing your way. I think it's uncalled for. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it sounds like you're an attractive woman, you're sexy, you're

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Speaker 1: running into some real losers. I guess at this point

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Speaker 1: people that you're not interested in uh, and what you

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Speaker 1: want is a nice gentleman to take you out to dinner,

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Speaker 1: stuff like that. So um, I just think you need

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Speaker 1: to change your game up, you know, online, maybe go

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Speaker 1: to UM because you say, these guys online only want

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Speaker 1: want to see you naked. I'm not one to UM

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Speaker 1: to blame the woman for what she has on or

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Speaker 1: anything like that, but you did mention your your bud

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Speaker 1: and your breasts and and and all of that. So

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Speaker 1: what are you wearing. I'm not blaming you. I'm just

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out, you know, what are you wearing?

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Speaker 1: Are you wearing? What are you what are you wearing?

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Speaker 1: I just want to know. But anyway, you can be sexy,

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Speaker 1: you can be attractive, you can be all those things.

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Speaker 1: I just think this caliber of men that you're attracting,

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Speaker 1: you probably need to go to other places. Go to

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Speaker 1: places where you can meet different types of men. That's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. If you have girlfriends, check out your girlfriends,

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Speaker 1: see where they're going to meet a different class of men.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what the issue is here, especially this

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Speaker 1: online dating sites you're on. So talk to your friends,

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Speaker 1: your female friends things like that, and even your male friends,

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Speaker 1: because you want to meet some classier guys, more gentlemen.

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Speaker 1: gentlemen are basically Steve. Well, you know, this letter is

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Speaker 1: She told us that she was married for twenty five years,

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Speaker 1: everybody knew y'all was married. Everybody knew him or something.

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Speaker 1: Y'all was popular. People don't get a divorce and move

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Speaker 1: she did, she did. Yeah, you can't turn off sexy. Hell,

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Speaker 1: I can't. Come on, come on, I've been struggling with

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Speaker 1: this problem, girl. But that's where you act. What you said?

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Speaker 1: What did he say? Nothing? Go ahead, go ahead? No,

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Speaker 1: she said, you can't turn it off. He said me either.

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Speaker 1: We're confidence. I know, I know, but he didn't mean it. No,

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Speaker 1: he didn't mean that. It just came out. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: I just needed that's what you said. He'd no where

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Speaker 1: in hell he could have meant that. Thank you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we'll be back with what the rest. I think. Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject I'm too sexy

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Speaker 1: to have male friends. Well, as far as we got

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Speaker 1: looking for a serious relationship right now, and I want

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Speaker 1: to be enjoyed being single for a while. Well, this

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Speaker 1: whole letter does just bit, Doug, You're not You don't

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Speaker 1: want a serious relationship now, and you want to enjoy

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Speaker 1: being single, Well, this whole letter is giving you that. See, ma'am,

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Speaker 1: you can't. You can't won one thing then when you

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Speaker 1: me naked. Let's stop right there. Every man you meet

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Speaker 1: I'm like Sherley, What do you have on? Now? Listen

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Speaker 1: to me. It don't take much. I'll give it to you. Look, men,

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Speaker 1: So I'm not blaming you for what you wear. But

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Speaker 1: I want to see you naked. You don't, then what

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Speaker 1: you what you got on? That's damn near got your naked.

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Speaker 1: See something that's happening, man, And I don't know what

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Speaker 1: it is, but I want you to think about this.

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Speaker 1: Then you say, as every man I meet online, there's

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Speaker 1: way you walk, it's caused that's what you posted. Yeah. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man, but that's just all to it. Now.

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Speaker 1: I feel I feel like a fantasy more than a woman.

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Speaker 1: What Wow, Wow, that's that's a pretty cool problem to have, yea.

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Speaker 1: Men don't take me seriously, and I'm not used to

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Speaker 1: this treatment. When I was married, men seem more interested

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Speaker 1: couldn't get to you. To me, I'm average looking. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you be getting average ass requests. And I have a flute,

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Speaker 1: few flaws. Man, we don't see him. But I'm funny,

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Speaker 1: not a wild woman. That's probably true that seeks attention

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Speaker 1: Now if you online and they only want to see

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Speaker 1: right here, right here, somebody is attracting the same thing

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Speaker 1: because you're exuding the same thing. See this sexiness that

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Speaker 1: is now. They're hitting on people, They're hooking up on apps,

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Speaker 1: I don't wan't no serious relationship. Ain'tybody trying to get

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Speaker 1: just said you ain't wan't no serious relationship. See, words

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Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a serious relationship. Ain't nobody offering none?

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Speaker 1: what they're doing now. They're hooking up on tender they

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Speaker 1: they sexed online apples. That's what you asked for. How

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Speaker 1: can I turn this sexy vive off? Why don't you

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Speaker 1: change your request? Why don't you change your ambition now?

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Speaker 1: If you don't want to be in a relationship right now,

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Speaker 1: I can understand that, then don't get in relationship situations.

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Speaker 1: You're sitting down a cross dinner from a man, eat

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Speaker 1: you gonna have, so he's gonna want some kind of

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Speaker 1: relationship now. So if you're tired of being married and

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Speaker 1: tired of twenty five, just go do you for a while.

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Speaker 1: But you didn't invite it. All these men in because

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Speaker 1: you want to have some fun and all this if

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Speaker 1: it's twenty five years later, baby, chant fund and change.

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Speaker 1: What can I do to get a man to see

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Speaker 1: Tell these men that they can only get they that

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Speaker 1: you're only interested in a package. Quit going on these

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Speaker 1: meaningly says dates meaningly, meaningly meaning less meaningless dates is

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