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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Thank you few subject this young man

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Speaker 1: has me weak in the knees. Dear Stephen Shirley, i

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Speaker 1: am a sixty three year old black woman and I've

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Speaker 1: never been married and I don't have any children. I

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Speaker 1: was raised to believe that sex outside of marriage was wrong,

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Speaker 1: years old. It was never that exciting to me, so

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Speaker 1: I did not put much effort into having a great

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Speaker 1: a forty two year old man and we hit it off.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think i'd fall for him, so I never

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Speaker 1: told him my age or my sexual history. The first

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Speaker 1: He did all of the work and I had several

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Speaker 1: out of body experiences with him. I can honestly say

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Speaker 1: that I have been missing out on something magical. I

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Speaker 1: could not get enough of this man. But there's just

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Speaker 1: one little problem. I'm ashamed of him. He's a thug

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Speaker 1: jeans and a hoodie or T shirt. I can usually

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Speaker 1: My neighbors have seen him come and go, and I

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Speaker 1: and that I'm special to him. I may be hypnotized

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Speaker 1: by the sex, but I really enjoy talking to him too.

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Speaker 1: He's got his head unstraight and he takes care of

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Speaker 1: his business. Is this man out of my league and

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Speaker 1: I need to leave him where I found him? Or

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Speaker 1: is it okay to have a secret maintenance man? I

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Speaker 1: have a lot of catching up to do. Yes, you do.

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Speaker 1: First of all, why do you think you have to

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Speaker 1: years old. That means you are good and grown. So

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Speaker 1: I'm amazed that your life is not your own right now.

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Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is you're letting all

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Speaker 1: because you don't want them to meet him. He's a

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Speaker 1: of him. Why why are you ashamed of him because

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Speaker 1: You call him a thug. Why do you call him

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Speaker 1: Is he a thug or does he have his head

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Speaker 1: to him? You know, what do you want for yourself?

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Speaker 1: without all these other people in your business, you've already

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Speaker 1: up to do. Yes, you do a whole lot. So

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Speaker 1: let's start now. Steve, Well, I know what's really going

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Speaker 1: on him, sixty three year old black woman, never been married,

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Speaker 1: But we already know that. That's everybody seeing. So I

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Speaker 1: And then you had some great guys. But day oh, everybody,

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Speaker 1: You know, you're sixty three years old. You could have

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Speaker 1: You just laying up there. What's the name sat near Maya?

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Speaker 1: You know, you know something called after the practice, you know,

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Speaker 1: would have helped. Now for that reason, she said, I've

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Speaker 1: met this funny to you old man, and we hit

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Speaker 1: I never told him my age on my sexual history.

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Speaker 1: First time we was intimate, he didn't care. High experienced

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Speaker 1: several out of body experiences with him. This is what

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Speaker 1: with him. Every woman listening is picked back when you

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Speaker 1: said several out of body experience it because I want

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Speaker 1: all We won't hold on, Steve. We'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up in twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour subject this young man has been weak in

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Steve Hart Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's druery letter. Carl still laughing. Young man

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Speaker 1: has me weak in the knees. This lady sixty three,

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Speaker 1: have sex to she was thirty two. Wasn't that exciting?

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Speaker 1: She didn't put a lot of effort into it? Everybody

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Speaker 1: I've told you several old names. You could have been

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Speaker 1: hollering out. Try something. Reach Rynd there, Frank him a

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Speaker 1: little bit, give him some type of cadgment, you know,

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Speaker 1: bite him on his shoulder, give him something, you know,

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Speaker 1: He did all the work, and I had several out

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Speaker 1: of body experiences. That's what this whole damn letter about.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you wrote for, but I know

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Speaker 1: what this letter about is them out of body experiencing. See,

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Speaker 1: he did all the work. He You was delaying that,

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Speaker 1: doing your usual nothing. But homeboy was in there, turning,

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Speaker 1: re angling, pulling, Yeah, come on, coming in hard left.

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Speaker 1: several out of body experiences. But there's just one little problem.

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Speaker 1: I'm ashamed of him. He's a thug and he owns

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Speaker 1: a barbershop, so he always in jeans and a hoodie

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Speaker 1: or a T shirt. What you can. This ain't about

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Speaker 1: you going nowhere. This about he come over. The neighbors

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Speaker 1: little strange. He leaves late at night. He get that late.

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Speaker 1: You know what this is. But see, you know what

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Speaker 1: you kept doing. You're trying to talk yourself out of

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Speaker 1: this too. Quit talking yourself out of every damn thing.

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Speaker 1: You have had several out of body experiences. That's what

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Speaker 1: somebody who is giving you some moments before your ass.

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Speaker 1: Leave him now, duc going it, Murdle, you're sixty three

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Speaker 1: years I'm just gonna labs here and Murdle listened to him.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to be proud of him. He a thug,

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Speaker 1: he owned a barber shop. He pull up in a

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Speaker 1: It looks straight. He leave it now. I can't let

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Speaker 1: That's not true. How he ain't seeing nobody else. Ain't

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Speaker 1: think he learned how to do it? That ain't at

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Speaker 1: It's because you know how to bring everybody. I say, body,

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Speaker 1: that's the move, checkmate. Let me mark that down. That's

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Speaker 1: how you get experiensed. I may be hypnotized by the

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Speaker 1: them what they hypnotized? Girl in a damn trance? Children

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Speaker 1: of my league? No? No, hein't out your league? Here

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Speaker 1: find it? Where did you find him? Yeah? You know?

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Speaker 1: She a boba, heal baber and he a third. Where

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Speaker 1: was you at murder? Where you met the baber and

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Speaker 1: the third? Or is it okay to have a secret

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Speaker 1: maintenance man? You got one? Don't it feel okay? Gonna

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Speaker 1: have yourself so you ain't never been married, you ain't

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Speaker 1: your whole life. Man, let him come through down do

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