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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, it's today. It's Tuesday. Actually it's election day,

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Speaker 1: so we are recording this episode on election day, and

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Speaker 1: we do not know the results of the election. So

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Speaker 1: here we are.

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Speaker 2: Are you watching the news? You're gonna wait till later.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I've had a very very busy morning, and I am

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Speaker 1: choosing to be as optimistic and positive until we have

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Speaker 1: something to not be optimistic and positive about. I woke

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Speaker 1: up this morning, I did a workout. I signed about

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Speaker 1: a thousand of my books sheets for my new book

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Speaker 1: that's coming out next year, and I signed a bunch

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Speaker 1: so that they can put there called tip sheets, so

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Speaker 1: that they put them in the book. And then we

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Speaker 1: had a huge contractor meeting with all these new contractors

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Speaker 1: that I had to hire to fix my house for

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Speaker 1: all the bad contracting does. So that was a big

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Speaker 1: I wasn't really part of that. I saw it from

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Speaker 1: the inside out, people circling the house. But there was

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Speaker 1: a lot of very responsible looking men here this morning,

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Speaker 1: and that made me feel very excited about the potential

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Speaker 1: of my house finally being done one day. And so

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Speaker 1: all of my team was here working with everyone, and

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Speaker 1: then I did something else. It feels like I've been

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Speaker 1: up for almost three days. I'm going to my friend

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Speaker 1: Connie's house to watch the election tonight. I do not

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Speaker 1: believe that we will have an answer about who won

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Speaker 1: the election tonight, but hopefully we'll get some a lots

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Speaker 1: of good news. And if you're listening to this on

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Speaker 1: Thursday and the election didn't go the way that we wanted,

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Speaker 1: I'll be back to discuss that next week.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a great way to put it. My

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Speaker 2: dad went in for surgery today. He said he doesn't

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Speaker 2: want to be present for the results. He wants to

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Speaker 2: be sedated, So he's having a heart surgery today.

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Speaker 1: That's good. Yeah, that's the right way. That's good. I

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Speaker 1: will also be sedated. I haven't chosen what drug is

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Speaker 1: going to do that yet. I have to go up

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Speaker 1: to my little drawer and figure out what kind of goodies.

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Speaker 1: I have so many goodies. I have so many new

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Speaker 1: goodies to try out. So I don't know what excellent

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Speaker 1: something that says love all over it. So maybe I'll

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Speaker 1: pop one of those suckers fantastic. I feel love. Also, people,

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Speaker 1: we need more of questions. We need people to write

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Speaker 1: in with their problems or asking for advice, and we're

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Speaker 1: doing minisodes this season which are like additional ten minute

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Speaker 1: episodes which we're trying to do with couples and couples counseling.

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Speaker 1: So if you have those issues with anybody that could

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Speaker 1: be a friend or a lover, or a coworker or

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Speaker 1: a family member, but also any of your questions from

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Speaker 1: the silly to the serious, we are accepting questions at

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Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so if you've been thinking about writing in for

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Speaker 2: a long time, this is your sign writ in.

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Speaker 1: It's your sign today our guest. First of all, I

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Speaker 1: was in Vegas this weekend. I saw A Dell on

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Speaker 1: Friday night, which was amazing, before my show at Caesar's

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Speaker 1: on Saturday night, which was amazing, Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: It was so much fun. I loved how many people

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Speaker 1: came out. It was so so much fun. I had

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Speaker 1: it like forty eight hours of great times in Vegas.

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Speaker 1: And then Kevin Hart I ran into unfortunately at Adele

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Speaker 1: and he grew uped me. I groped him too, and

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Speaker 1: then we decided to go gambling. He was with Anico,

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Speaker 1: his wife. I was with my cousin Molly, and I

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Speaker 1: would just like to say that the amount of money

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Speaker 1: that Kevin lost during our gambling session in his private

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Speaker 1: gambling room that was attached to his hotel room is

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Speaker 1: too embarrassing to say on this podcast. You're an idiot anyway.

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Speaker 1: Our guest today stars in Peacock's Fight Out along with

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Speaker 1: every other movie that you'll ever seen in your life,

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Speaker 1: and you can catch him on his newest comedy tour,

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Speaker 1: acting my age, and he is definitely not acting his age.

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Speaker 1: Please welcome Kevin Hart. This is my friend, long longtime friends,

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Speaker 1: Kevin Hart. I'm very happy to see your face. I'm

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Speaker 1: always happy to see you. Actually, I always love to

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Speaker 1: see your face in the beginning, at first glance in

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Speaker 1: the beginning, like I see you coming and I think,

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Speaker 1: oh fun, this will be fun. Well then it's not

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Speaker 1: a dip, but I just there's I think there's an

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Speaker 1: anticipatory level of excitement when I get to see you.

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Speaker 4: Great word.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you've used a couple words wrong in the

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Speaker 1: short time that you've been here, so I had to

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Speaker 1: correct his grammar as I do so hopefully you know

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Speaker 1: if you say anything wrong here.

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Speaker 4: Good news is I'm with the dictionary.

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Speaker 1: And you're only an hour late today, which for you

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Speaker 1: is early late.

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Speaker 5: I call you're not late when you give a heads

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Speaker 5: up to two and a half hours before.

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Speaker 1: When you say that's fine that you're late, I don't care, but.

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Speaker 4: I want to make it back.

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Speaker 1: You said I'm on my way at eleven o'clock and

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Speaker 1: we were supposed to be here at eleven fifteen.

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Speaker 5: Totally five in East Bubblefuck. I'm on the other side.

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Speaker 5: I'm in Calabasas well.

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Speaker 1: That's where the cheaper homes are. I guess, come over

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Speaker 1: the hill, right. I don't know why you live in Calabasas.

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Speaker 5: Because I don't want to backyard the size of my hand. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: how about that? Maybe that's why, Kevin.

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Speaker 1: What do you have to say for yourself?

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Speaker 4: What do I have to say for myself?

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Speaker 1: In general?

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Speaker 4: In general, I have to say I'm proud of me.

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Speaker 1: You are, Yeah, I'm proud of you too.

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Speaker 5: If I had to say something, I would say that,

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Speaker 5: I would. I would say, though we're we're in a

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Speaker 5: different time. I'm getting older, so now.

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Speaker 1: You like you're getting older? Absolutely, I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: fucking crushing it and I'm forty nine.

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Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I'm getting older.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't mean but I mean it looks wise like body wise,

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Speaker 1: you know, like, well, I've always been curious about your

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Speaker 1: desire to work so much. I know you want to

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Speaker 1: Well no, I'll let you speak about why you want

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Speaker 1: to work as hard as you work.

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Speaker 5: I mean, look, half of it's fair, half of its commitment.

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Speaker 5: It's the idea of completion. So starting something you're not finishing,

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Speaker 5: and it doesn't sit well with me. So right now,

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Speaker 5: there's so much that I've started, right, not just in

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Speaker 5: entertainment or comedy or acting, you know, from a creative space.

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Speaker 5: Once you start building businesses and once you start developing

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Speaker 5: like an infrastructure full of minds and people to help

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Speaker 5: this thing last forever, it gets more difficult as you

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Speaker 5: go on. It's not easy building a business with businesses

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Speaker 4: And what that.

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Speaker 5: Looks like, it's still it's still to be determined, right

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Speaker 5: because it's constantly growing, it's expanding. So what once was

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Speaker 5: to merge and partner with like it's grows and grows

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Speaker 5: and grows, and you look up and you got a

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Speaker 5: staff of so many it's like, well, fuck, I can't

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Speaker 5: stop if I wanted to, because now I've invested all

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Speaker 5: this time and people have invested time into the thing

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Speaker 5: that I believe in, so now I owe them.

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Speaker 4: The return of energy. And it just keeps going.

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Speaker 5: But I think I do believe by time I'm fifty

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Speaker 5: to fifty three that a lot of these things should

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Speaker 5: have hard punctuations on them. And then I can kind

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Speaker 4: Did that happen?

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Speaker 1: And how old are you now?

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Speaker 4: Forty five? Now?

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Speaker 1: Okay, forty five? So tell me about how you hand

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Speaker 1: difficult situations in business, like when something doesn't go your way?

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Speaker 1: How do you how have you learned and grown to

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Speaker 5: That's the easiest thing to understand in business. The bulk

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Speaker 5: of things don't go your way at first. All ideas

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Speaker 5: are bad. Idea is to most. You got to prove

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Speaker 5: your case. And what you'll find for me is that

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Speaker 5: a resume without receipts is just it's just a piece

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Speaker 5: of paper, It's just words. Proof of concept is important.

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Speaker 5: So without a proof of concept, I'm always selling you

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Speaker 5: on an idea. What I've learned is that an idea

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Speaker 5: is something that comes a dimind dozen. Everybody has one.

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Speaker 5: But if my idea comes with a return, that's a

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Speaker 5: different thing. So how do I put myself in the

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Speaker 5: best position to make my partners understanding there's a mutual

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Speaker 5: alignment where if I win, you win, If you win,

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Speaker 5: I win.

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Speaker 1: And that's also a track record. Right with all of

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Speaker 1: this stuff you've done, people can trust your company, your brand,

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Speaker 1: your you know whatever you're calling yourself these days. Okay,

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Speaker 1: what are you calling yourself.

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Speaker 5: These you just said? I think you just you just

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Speaker 5: went through it. You're right, right, brand, you know, the

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Speaker 1: And then I'm very curious because I know how close

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Speaker 1: you are with your wife and your family. And this

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Speaker 1: curious as to how you managed to balance everything and

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Speaker 1: spend enough time with your family and your wife and

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Speaker 5: It's a system. It's like a it's a routine system.

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Speaker 5: So if you've been doing it long enough, you'll find

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Speaker 5: that any routine is very easy to stay true to.

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Speaker 5: There's no different from waking up early in the morning

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Speaker 5: going to the gym than going to work. After the gym,

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Speaker 5: they're making it home for dinner, eat dinner with the kids, kids,

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Speaker 5: go to sleep, then you watch a movie, then you

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Speaker 5: go to sleep, you wake up masturbate.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well yeah, I'm sure. Yeah, and I have time.

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Speaker 1: You probably are doing it.

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Speaker 4: I don't think I need to.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's why it's weird that you're doing I get.

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Speaker 4: It, which is which is once again, I just don't

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Speaker 4: feel like I don't need.

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Speaker 1: To, right, you don't need to address it.

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Speaker 4: Fine, but I don't need to address I don't need

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Speaker 4: to do it. My wife, I'm hot, I think.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's a separate conversation. I'm having her on

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Speaker 1: next week.

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, if.

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Speaker 5: You want to talk to her finally, she's going to

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Speaker 5: do is tell you. I want to jump his bones

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Speaker 5: all the time, and I would too. I walked by me,

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Speaker 5: and I want to get a piece of that. No,

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Speaker 5: There's were times where I've looked at myself in like

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Speaker 5: a reflection, I'm like, I fuck, I get it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I don't know if you did.

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Speaker 1: You actually don't even have to look in the mirror,

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Speaker 1: because if you turn onto television. You can just watch

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Speaker 1: yourself at any sort of credit card commercial or airline

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Speaker 1: commercial or toe spacers commercial. It really doesn't matter what

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Speaker 1: you're promoting. Have you ever worn toe spacers?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 1: No, okay, well I just started wearing them the other day.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm not gonna wear them, and I don't need what.

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Speaker 1: If your toes to stay apart?

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Speaker 4: No? I don't.

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Speaker 1: Why not? I didn't know what to get a bion?

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Speaker 4: Okay, then you get a bunion?

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Speaker 1: I would hope. So what do you mean? Forty five?

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Speaker 5: It's crazy, man, because you know, you don't see this happening.

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Speaker 5: Like we're living to hopefully get a high level of

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Speaker 5: it's I don't my kids aren't hanging out after school.

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Speaker 5: That's an interesting point because I don't. I don't suffer

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Speaker 5: If you want to know the true definition of success,

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Speaker 5: of all the things that I was able to do.

439
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Speaker 5: So that panel was very important. When the panel turned

440
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Speaker 5: into just being a guest. Very important. That audience attached

441
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:16,200
Speaker 5: to Late Night with You was a very important audience.

442
00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,240
Speaker 5: Like those things transferring the ticket sales, so you don't

443
00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:21,680
Speaker 5: shut the door on it. You do that while doing

444
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Speaker 5: other things, and I think I did a good job

445
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Speaker 5: of maintaining all of that as things continue to grow,

446
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 5: and even today when you look back and we're able

447
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Speaker 5: to go and do a podcast. The dope thing about

448
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,640
Speaker 5: these relationships is like when people go and look at

449
00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,480
Speaker 5: how long, over the course of time you've stayed true

450
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Speaker 5: to a friendship, or stay true to a great energy

451
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Speaker 5: and a great rapport.

452
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Speaker 4: It's a story. It's one long story.

453
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Speaker 5: Wow, they started here, they went here, and they've been

454
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Speaker 5: doing this all the way. Oh my god, it's so

455
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 5: dope that they still find a way to maintain a relationship.

456
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 5: It's so dope that we're able to connect those dots

457
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Speaker 5: with them. That to me is special and you don't

458
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Speaker 5: have many of those.

459
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Speaker 1: What you do, I mean, loyalty is a big thing

460
00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,679
Speaker 1: for you. You're very loyal and I love that about you.

461
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 1: I feel the same way about being loyal to people

462
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Speaker 1: and reciprocity. But like what you're saying is not hanging

463
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,840
Speaker 1: your hat on reciprocity, like don't expect from others what

464
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Speaker 1: you give, which is also a good life lesson. And

465
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Speaker 1: another thing that I very much respect about you is

466
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 1: your vibration. You are operating at a high vibration. You

467
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 1: want to bring people in. You're a lover, You're always

468
00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:27,080
Speaker 1: you've always been this way. I've never seen you be

469
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Speaker 1: an asshole once. I mean you are an asshole, like

470
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Speaker 1: you are an asshole, like you're an asshole. Which, yeah,

471
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Speaker 1: I mean I already talked about that stuff, so I

472
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Speaker 1: don't need to expound.

473
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Speaker 4: All of that. I just don't think you need to

474
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Speaker 4: say that, right, I think.

475
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Speaker 1: You're an asshole. But and it's a good asshole and

476
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Speaker 1: it's a ridiculous asshole.

477
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Speaker 4: Well you know, a good assle.

478
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Speaker 1: But but loyalty is important to you, very right, absolutely,

479
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Speaker 1: So when you say what you just said, which is

480
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Speaker 1: don't expect other people to give you the love that

481
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Speaker 1: you're giving them necessarily, then how does loyal else play

482
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 1: into that?

483
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Speaker 5: Well, I don't think it's I don't think it's just love.

484
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:06,440
Speaker 5: I think it's the energy. Right, Like if you just said,

485
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 5: if you're operating at this crazy vibration.

486
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 4: It's high vibration.

487
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Speaker 5: Like you just said, I can't expect everyone to meet

488
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Speaker 5: me here. I understand what's special about where I am,

489
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 5: and I understand how passionate I am about wanting so

490
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 5: much for so many. If you don't have the same

491
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:28,200
Speaker 5: wants for yourself, I can't get mad at you. I

492
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 5: can't take that as like disrespector or I can't get frustrated.

493
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 5: I have to then say it's dope, and I understand,

494
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,199
Speaker 5: like what you want for you is for you. I

495
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Speaker 5: want to just do what I can to help you,

496
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Speaker 5: and then I hope you get whatever it is that

497
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Speaker 5: you want. It's much easier when you can process it

498
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Speaker 5: differently and look at it with a dual POV. Then

499
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Speaker 5: look at it from one perspective, which used to be

500
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Speaker 5: for me I used to suffer from. Well, if you

501
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 5: don't want what I want to you don't want the

502
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Speaker 5: best for yourself, Like that's correct, you don't want obviously

503
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 5: not trying to be the best, and everybody's not trying

504
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Speaker 5: to do that.

505
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Speaker 4: Everybody's not trying to be the best.

506
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 5: And some people want to be enough, or some people

507
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 5: want a little bit or a little taste, and some

508
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 5: people want to be content.

509
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 4: There's different levels for a reason. And to.

510
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Speaker 5: My fault, a younger version of myself, it was like, Man,

511
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Speaker 5: if you're not on this page and you just don't

512
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Speaker 5: see what I see, then I just can't have that

513
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 5: or around because your energy is taken away from my energy.

514
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Speaker 4: And that it's not the case all the time. You

515
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,199
Speaker 4: should be able to separate it.

516
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Speaker 5: You should be able to understand it, and you should

517
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 5: also be able to let people figure things out on

518
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 5: their own time. And sometimes when they do, it's a

519
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 5: great it's a great full circle moment. If they don't,

520
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,640
Speaker 5: it doesn't matter, It doesn't affect you to the point

521
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Speaker 5: of no return. But I used to operate as if

522
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 5: it did at one point. That's the biggest lesson that

523
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Speaker 5: I think I had. And when I got out of

524
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Speaker 5: my way and I started letting other people flourish and

525
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 5: be great and stop trying to control and navigate every

526
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Speaker 5: single thing, I started to see things grow.

527
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Speaker 1: Okay, on that note, we're gonna take a break and

528
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 1: we're gonna be right back with Kevin Hart. Okay, and

529
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Speaker 1: we're back with Kevin Hart. Can you put your pants

530
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:10,960
Speaker 1: back on?

531
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Speaker 4: What do you mean?

532
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 1: Oh? Nothing, This is. This isn't a visual podcast, So

533
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 1: I still need you to put your pants back on pants.

534
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 2: I will also have you put on your headphones right

535
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 2: now because we're gonna start.

536
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 1: Put over your pants. Actually, we have callers, and you're

537
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,639
Speaker 1: gonna give advice to real people. They call in for advice.

538
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 1: It's called dear Chelsea. How is that how you wear?

539
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 4: These people are asking you for advice? Do they have

540
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 4: they seen you?

541
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 1: Is that how you wear? Headphones?

542
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 5: Like this?

543
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Speaker 1: Who are you beats?

544
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 6: Well?

545
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Speaker 4: You don't?

546
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: Why not?

547
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:46,080
Speaker 4: Because you don't need to hear in one.

548
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Speaker 1: A this and it's not an air it's an early.

549
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Speaker 4: One of those people that wear pods.

550
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Speaker 1: The point of having a because I want to still

551
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: hear you. Clear, you're gonna hear me in the fucking

552
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:58,360
Speaker 1: microphone miracle.

553
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Speaker 5: I can hear you just like this though. Yeah, see that.

554
00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 5: See this is you know what that's called these crazy gaslighting?

555
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,439
Speaker 4: No, this is crazy. This is what the millennials are

556
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 4: talking about.

557
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Speaker 1: Are you talking about me? I'm a millennium. Are you

558
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:10,679
Speaker 1: talking about me?

559
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 5: No?

560
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 4: I'm saying that you're what they talk about.

561
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Speaker 1: Millennials are talking about us. They're talking about I think

562
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Speaker 1: that I'm talking about me only Yeah, women like me

563
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 1: who go like this, if you did that, she gets it.

564
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 4: No, that's stupid.

565
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Speaker 1: First of all, it fucking hurts my ear rings and

566
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: it hurts my ears.

567
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 4: Well, then has more reason for you to have one off.

568
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 1: No, it hurts my ears to have it off.

569
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Speaker 4: Why would it hurt your ears to have it off

570
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 4: of your ear?

571
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: Because then my ears are way bigger than your ears.

572
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 1: They always have been. It's catching my ear. Look at

573
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Speaker 1: how big my ears are.

574
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Speaker 5: Wow?

575
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:50,719
Speaker 1: Have you ever they keep growings? Are like little two oreos.

576
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Speaker 4: My Jesus, my.

577
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Speaker 1: Ears actually are like my very embarrassing feature. They look

578
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: like a laby. The bottom part is like laby. It's

579
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:02,560
Speaker 1: like flappy, I don't know, bigger than my vagina, like

580
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: a whole person. I can here, Jesus, what do we

581
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: have today, Catherine?

582
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Speaker 2: Oh, we have some very juicy questionss for you, Kevin.

583
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:15,439
Speaker 2: Our first question comes from Kelly, and she has a

584
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 2: question about her best friend.

585
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Speaker 1: Try and be serious. Okay, okay, this could be serious

586
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: or it could not be. I don't know yet.

587
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 2: There's a mix.

588
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 4: This isn't rocket fucking science. This shut up answer the questions.

589
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Speaker 1: I kid it, Dear, Chelsea.

590
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 2: My best friend and I have been friends for over

591
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,920
Speaker 2: twenty years now, but lately she's been getting on my nerves.

592
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 1: Welcome to the club.

593
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Speaker 2: Every time we go out to do anything, she is

594
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 2: overtly sexual with any mail around. She got divorced a

595
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 2: couple of years ago, so this is her first time

596
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 2: being truly single. She's joined every single dating app, and

597
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:47,679
Speaker 2: I'm glad she's getting out there. But what I'm not

598
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 2: so cool about is her acting like a cat and

599
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 2: heat every time we're out in public. A few months ago,

600
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,239
Speaker 2: we were at her daughter's twenty first birthday where she

601
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 2: was hitting on her daughter's friends to the point of

602
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 2: adjusting her shirt so her cleavage was fully on dis play.

603
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: Her daughter was mortified. I did address that her daughter

604
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 2: looked embarrassed by her behavior, and she just laughed it off.

605
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:08,679
Speaker 2: So I don't know how to approach this or if

606
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 2: I even should. Last weekend, she hit on my married

607
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: friend before even taking the time to ask if he

608
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 2: was married. I'm heading out right now with my friends

609
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 2: and did not invite her, but I know this is

610
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 2: going to be a topic of conversation and I feel

611
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,479
Speaker 2: the need to defend her. Am I being a prude

612
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 2: or is this just a phase I should wait out?

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Speaker 1: Kelly, Hi, Kelly, Hey, Kelly. Hi, guys, Hi, this is

614
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 1: Kevin Hart. Do you recognize him? He's our special guest. Yeah. Yeah, Okay,

615
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 1: you want me to go for sure? Okay? Yeah?

616
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,719
Speaker 4: I think I have a pretty good wrap on this.

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00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 5: Okay, First of all, you know, I think you have

618
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 5: to have a little bit of understanding to the fact

619
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Speaker 5: that she's divorced in life after divorce.

620
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Speaker 4: If you haven't been divorced, you don't know what that's like.

621
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Speaker 5: So companionship is something that people want, something that people

622
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 5: long for and fiend for.

623
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Speaker 4: It sounds to me like there's just a want in.

624
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 5: Need for companionship, and that can opinionship right now is

625
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 5: being filled with flirtation or fun any environments that you're

626
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 5: going to. So if you were looking for a real

627
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 5: change and it was annoying you at a high level,

628
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,239
Speaker 5: I think that you should just change the environments that

629
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 5: you attend with this particular friend. In other words, if

630
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 5: you don't want to be a part of the flirtatious

631
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 5: or salacious things or ways, I think you change it

632
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 5: to just lunch or an early dinner and there's not

633
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 5: the crazy party environment or the world where you can

634
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 5: approach or be approached, and I think for you, you'll then

635
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 5: have a better understanding of what that relationship is, and

636
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 5: then you can separate yourself and she can go do

637
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 5: her thing when she wants to, and you don't have

638
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 5: to be annoyed and come off as a friend that's

639
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 5: prudish or just not fun within the world of fun

640
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 5: that she's looking for.

641
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Speaker 1: How long has she been divorced.

642
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 3: She's been divorced about three years.

643
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 1: Okay, so she's not newly divorced, not newly divorced, she's

644
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: just getting out of the newly divorced area.

645
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 3: Right, I'm getting out of it. Yeah, and she's been

646
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 3: in two long term relationships since then.

647
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: And so is this flirtation like horniness level? Has it spiked?

648
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 1: Is that what you're noticing.

649
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: I've Yeah, I've definitely noticed in the past probably three months,

650
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 3: that it's really really spice. She just gets overly, like

651
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,959
Speaker 3: touchy and feely with people that she really doesn't know,

652
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 3: she doesn't really know their situation.

653
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

654
00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 3: No, she's making people around her uncomfortable. Some of my

655
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 3: friends have said, I'm a little uncomfortable with her around

656
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: my husband because she didn't even know that he was

657
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 3: married to me. She was just in this big friend

658
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 3: group and was like petting him. I was like, oh, yeah,

659
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 3: I can see that.

660
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: Well. I think Kevin's advice is great and sound, but

661
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: I think so too if the problem continues, because like

662
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: it could really be like a hormonal female thing, you

663
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Because all of a sudden, someone

664
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 1: going around and like, you know, kind of semi groping

665
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 1: people is a problem, and it will become a problem,

666
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: especially since people are fucking married and they don't like that.

667
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: But if you want to have an honest conversation with her,

668
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: I would, as a woman, appreciate a woman having an

669
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: honest conversation with me saying like, hey, your behavior which

670
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 1: has happened in the past, your behavior was inappropriate or

671
00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: you're you know, like, hey, you made someone feel uncomfortable.

672
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 1: You don't want to shame her and say everyone's talking

673
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: about you, but you want to do you do want to

674
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: be honest, as if out of a friendship you kind

675
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 1: of owe each other honesty to say, hey, that guy's

676
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: married and his wife was there and he was uncomfortable

677
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: and she was uncomfortable and cite one example instead of ten.

678
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 1: You know, when you do want to have a conversation,

679
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: if it gets to the point where you think you

680
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 1: have to have the conversation, if you in the business

681
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: of defending her, I think you could just say, she's

682
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 1: just going through something right now, I'm going to be

683
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: her friend and you know, hopefully this is just a phase.

684
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 5: Is that really going through something that some people were

685
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 5: just a little faster with life?

686
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: No? No, because she said this isn't typical of her behavior, right.

687
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 4: She said in the last three or four months.

688
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 5: So maybe like she's in a fucking mindset like you

689
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 5: know what, I've I haven't let go and just completely

690
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 5: let loose, and you know what, at this time, I

691
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 5: just want to fucking do what I want when I

692
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 5: want in return. Granted, yes, rubbing some people the wrong way,

693
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 5: flirting with husbands when you don't know that they're married, okay, yes,

694
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 5: but it's not like she's going and said, oh, this

695
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 5: is my husband. Then she's still doing the shit she

696
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 5: didn't know. I'm saying, if she's in a mindset of

697
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 5: I'm going to live and operate differently for me, I

698
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 5: think you should just be open and discussion, like, hey,

699
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 5: just tell me where you at, where you are mentally, like,

700
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 5: are you on like a more free life living journey

701
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 5: right now? Because it's appearing like you know, you just

702
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 5: you look like a fucking can and heat right now,

703
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 5: like every guy you flirting with look like you want

704
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 5: to fuck everybody. If that's the case, let table it

705
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 5: so I know where you are and I can let

706
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 5: you operate when and where you want to do that.

707
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 5: But you can't do that in all the settings. It's

708
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 5: coming off crazy, But let me know because me and

709
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 5: you are close enough, so I'm on the table. I'm

710
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 5: on a table of understanding.

711
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: That's actually really good advice, Chris. I wasn't expecting that

712
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 1: from you.

713
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 5: You don't expect me to be a sound not nostalgic board,

714
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 5: no common sense, it's.

715
00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 1: Not common sense. It's a little bit more new on

716
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: than common sense. And I wouldn't expect.

717
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 5: Everybody wants to everybody wants to attack the person with

718
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 5: like whole like activities.

719
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 1: I understand saying that. I'm just saying when you make

720
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: someone feel uncomfortable, I want to know if I made

721
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: someone feel uncomfortable, if I was at a party and

722
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,959
Speaker 1: was like hitting on ancone made Yeah, well that was intentional.

723
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 1: This is not intentional, I don't think.

724
00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 2: Well, and I'm sure there's like room for levity in

725
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 2: that conversation about like girl, you got a.

726
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: Tone of yeah, yeah, exactly. It doesn't have to be

727
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: so serious.

728
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I definitely want to come at it

729
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 3: from a place of love and understanding because I know

730
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 3: everything she's been through on her human diary. She's mine, Yeah,

731
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 3: I get that, But I really love that approach.

732
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's too pronged approach where you talk, but

733
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: also maybe she's a brunch friend for a while.

734
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: What is a too pronged approach called? What is that?

735
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 1: Remember what we used to call it?

736
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 4: To talk about approach? I think that's what you would

737
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 4: call it.

738
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 5: I think I think a too pronged approach is Actually

739
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 5: I was thinking of the shaker.

740
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 1: That's what I remember, the shocker. I think that's sorry related.

741
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, it might be directly related to her.

742
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: Maybe that's exactly what she's looking for, the shocker.

743
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 2: Give her the shocker and send her on her way.

744
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: Anyway, I think that those all sound like good options.

745
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: Do you?

746
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 3: Absolutely? Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate it.

747
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: Okay, thank you, thank you bye. That was good, Kevin

748
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 1: h for you.

749
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 4: Yeah for me, that was impressed by that.

750
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:24,160
Speaker 5: Why can't you just like give you there?

751
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 4: Because you do it?

752
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 5: And then there's this weird change. It happens right after.

753
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 5: It's like the car just goes to the left. It's

754
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 5: like we're on a great road.

755
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: Do you want to make you want to make card

756
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: jokes right now? I don't think so.

757
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 2: So all right, well, our next question comes from Jennifer,

758
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 2: and this one is just an email, so she won't

759
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 2: be joining us, but the subject line is hot tub fury.

760
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea, don't you.

761
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: Have a show about hot tubs or cold cold?

762
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: Oh?

763
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 2: You do the whole plunges and all that stuff.

764
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 1: He does a bit like that, yeah too.

765
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, one day she will support me.

766
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: I believe I have supported you on several occasions. I

767
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: think I worked out with your fucking trainer too on

768
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: a show. What was that show?

769
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:04,239
Speaker 4: Was that?

770
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: The Cold plun Show?

771
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: Jennifer says, Dear Chelsea, I have an absolutely fed up

772
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 2: situation I'm dealing with. I've been married to my husband

773
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 2: for fourteen years, together for twenty we own a business

774
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,280
Speaker 2: and a home together. On to the hot tub fury.

775
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 2: There's a woman who circles our friend group, let's call

776
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 2: her Abby. On New Year's Eve twenty twenty, she got

777
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:30,279
Speaker 2: naked in my hot tub at a party, and I

778
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 2: told her flat out that I was uncomfortable with her

779
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 2: being naked in the hot tub with.

780
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 1: This girl gets around.

781
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 2: I told my husband the same thing. I have zero

782
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 2: problems with him having single female friends, and he has

783
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 2: a lot that he sees for drinks or shows that

784
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 2: I don't wish to attend or don't care about. In

785
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 2: twenty twenty two, when I went on a cruise, I

786
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 2: later learned that Abby had been at my home when

787
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,919
Speaker 2: I was not there. Then this past New Year's Eve,

788
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 2: she got naked in the hot tub again in front

789
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,919
Speaker 2: of me. I confronted her and asked her to leave.

790
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: I was away this past Friday night, and around eleven

791
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 2: pm I got a text from a neighbor telling me

792
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 2: the dogs were barking. I checked the cameras. I see

793
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 2: him standing naked behind our bar with two cocktails in

794
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 2: front of him. So I switch views and see Abby

795
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 2: naked in our hot tub. I didn't say anything to him.

796
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 2: I couldn't decide my next move, so I waited. When

797
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 2: I got home, I realized that I wasn't eating or sleeping,

798
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 2: so I decided to confront him. I have since found

799
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 2: out that Abby is at my house whenever I go

800
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 2: out of town. I have also gone through all the

801
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 2: camera footage and found that nothing beyond the naked hot

802
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 2: tubbing and some bizarres sitting in the bar naked, has happened.

803
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 2: They never touched each other, not even a hug when

804
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 2: she was leaving. It's so bizarre to me. I'm uncertain

805
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 2: if this is cheating or severe boundary stepping. I don't

806
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 2: feel like I can leave and start a new life

807
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 2: and career at forty six.

808
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 1: Help Jennifer, Well, she really needs to be a caller,

809
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 1: I know, because hey, there's so many questions. Do they

810
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 1: have cameras? They don't have camera. The husband knows about

811
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: the camera, right, so of course he's not going to

812
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: be doing anything on camera. So perhaps they're not doing

813
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,720
Speaker 1: anything in front of her, and then they go inside

814
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: and do something. I mean, that's one theory. Like, he's

815
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,880
Speaker 1: not an idiot, it's his house, so why would he

816
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: be fucking somebody on camera that seems really stupid. Kevin,

817
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 1: what is your what do you have to say about this?

818
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 4: I mean, this is this is just stupid.

819
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 5: I mean like literally this is This is one of

820
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:28,439
Speaker 5: the ones where you what are you asking? What help

821
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 5: is she looking for? Like if you're okay with your

822
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 5: husband having female friends, and you have been for the

823
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 5: duration of your marriage and your relationship, and you choose

824
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 5: to not be around those environments, so that means you

825
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 5: support whatever the world of fun is and you're his

826
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 5: level of comfort has progressed and grown over the years.

827
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 5: And if the female friends come over your house when

828
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 5: you're not there and you're aware or not aware, you

829
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 5: said boundaries or linestepping, like, well, it appears that you've

830
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 5: already set some type of boundary that this is okay.

831
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 5: I don't know what husband in his right mind is

832
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 5: having female company over as if a wife can't find

833
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 5: out when there's cameras and camera footage and you checking

834
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 5: the cameras and then seeing her at your house numerous

835
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 5: amount of times, like and then her getting naked in

836
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,320
Speaker 5: front of you when you're there, obviously like she doesn't

837
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:25,720
Speaker 5: feel like she's don't get anything wrong, Like so somewhere

838
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:26,759
Speaker 5: along the line.

839
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 4: Somebody's not being very clear with what's happening.

840
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: Also, you did say she asked this woman to leave,

841
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,919
Speaker 1: and because she was naked, your husband understands. That's also

842
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: setting a boundary saying you don't want to be around that.

843
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: And then the husband's she's there all the time when

844
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 1: you're gone, that's fishy.

845
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 4: But she got naked again, like the first time.

846
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 2: She said the New Year's part.

847
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:53,280
Speaker 1: I don't trust your but I also don't trust the husband.

848
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 5: I think the husband is fine. He's not doing the

849
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 5: husband ain't doing nothing wrong. He's like, look at the cameras.

850
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 5: Go look at the cameras. I ain't touched this woman.

851
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 5: I ain't a goddamn thing with this woman. Yeah, it

852
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:06,240
Speaker 5: was naked. So what we send at the bar having

853
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 5: a drink. The hot tub got hot, we got out,

854
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 5: we sat at the bar. You see it right there,

855
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 5: like he's.

856
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:13,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's his defense. You don't think I know

857
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: there's cameras, obviously, I know you can look at this

858
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:19,720
Speaker 1: not feeling anything wrong. I find that behavior very suspicious.

859
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: I don't think two people are hanging around naked because

860
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 1: they're nudists. I don't think that I don't think that's

861
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 1: a thing. I think there's probably something more to the

862
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 1: story that you're not willing to face. And if you

863
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,959
Speaker 1: don't want to face it, then I would say, turn

864
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: off the cameras and look away.

865
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 5: I tell you another big thing, the whole idea of

866
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 5: strangers over your house, like, I've never been a company

867
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 5: at my house. Guy her saying, oh yeah, well she's there,

868
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 5: and other people were there at the house, Like this

869
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:52,320
Speaker 5: is why you don't invite people to your home. Weird

870
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 5: shit happens when weird people get free and get comfortable.

871
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 5: Somebody feeling that comfortable that they can get naked at

872
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 5: your a home where you lay your head and your husband,

873
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 5: that's a problem within itself. And if it's happening a

874
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 5: number of times, clearly, somewhere along the lines, when it

875
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 5: happened the first time, somebody was like, hey, go girl,

876
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 5: somebody is supporting it, Like, you don't double back and

877
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 5: do the naked thing again.

878
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 4: If it was met with aggression or resistance the first.

879
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 5: Time, exactly, something somewhere there's some information being left out.

880
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: She exactly, you told her not to be naked in

881
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 1: your house, You asked her to leave, and the minute

882
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 1: you were gone, she went back and did the same

883
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 1: thing you asked her not to do. So she has

884
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: no boundary with you because somebody else has let her

885
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 1: know that she doesn't have to have a boundary. And

886
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: that's somebody is your fucking husband. So you have a

887
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,399
Speaker 1: problem with your husband. I believe something more is going

888
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: on between those two. You're forty six years old. That

889
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 1: is not the end of the world. Please don't ever

890
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: say what am I going to do as a forty

891
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: six year old woman? Plenty of shit. You could change

892
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: the channel anytime you want in this life, right And

893
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:56,919
Speaker 1: apparently they say if you make it through the next

894
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,280
Speaker 1: ten years, we can live till War one hundred and twenty,

895
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: so you might have a whole life ahead of you.

896
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,959
Speaker 1: I don't know if I mean, I've already spoken about

897
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 1: how I don't want to live that long. I can't

898
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: afford to live that long. It was, it'll be exhausting.

899
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: What am I going to be doing stand up when

900
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 1: I'm one hundred and nine, like I hope not. I

901
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:12,840
Speaker 1: don't you know that nobody wants to see that. I

902
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 1: mean talk about vaginal dryness, you know, So, I mean, honestly,

903
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: one hundred and nine years old. My god, I will

904
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: figure out a way to get a wet pussy at one.

905
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 4: Hundred and nine.

906
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 1: Anyway, we got a little off track. But you know

907
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 1: who's pussy isn't dry? The woman he's sitting in your

908
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:31,440
Speaker 1: chacuzzi naked.

909
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 5: That's an aggressive that's a very aggress it's an aggressive move.

910
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 2: So do we send her a couple's counseling? The marriage a.

911
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 4: Couple of counseling. I have a direct conversation with your husband.

912
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:45,280
Speaker 4: This is not a very hard problem to solve.

913
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very easy, all right. And if he won't

914
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:49,360
Speaker 2: stop seeing abby when.

915
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 1: Well, then that's a big red flag too. This is

916
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 1: all very odd. There's no counselor that you're going to

917
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 1: go to. I mean it's good actually to go to

918
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: a counsel with him. So so you have someone tell

919
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: him a count of party. This is not normal behavior.

920
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,919
Speaker 1: You don't have naked opposite sex people at your house

921
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 1: when your wife is out of town. That leads to

922
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 1: one thing. I mean, where are they going when they're

923
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: drinks at the bar? Right?

924
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:12,320
Speaker 4: Yeah?

925
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 2: All right, Jennifer, Well keep us posted.

926
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:15,839
Speaker 5: Well.

927
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: Our next caller is Savannah. Her subject line is my

928
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 2: stepmom thinks I'm doing porn. Oh, dear Chelsea.

929
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: Oh, that's perfect. Kevin just launched his only Fans Paid.

930
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 1: That's perfect. It is actually on it right.

931
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 2: Now, Dear Chelsea. My stepmom has been in my life

932
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,399
Speaker 2: since I was ten and I'm now thirty one. We've

933
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 2: had a pretty good relationship for most of my life,

934
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:38,359
Speaker 2: but for a year now we haven't spoken. I got

935
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 2: out of rehab last year, and at first she and

936
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 2: my whole family were nothing but supportive and proud. When

937
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 2: I got out of rehab. I had moved back to

938
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 2: my apartment after treatment and was enjoying some time before

939
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 2: re entering the workforce, especially since I was still in

940
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 2: treatment three times a week. I began to get questions

941
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 2: about how I could afford being unemployed. Then my dad

942
00:41:58,040 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 2: called me, who I have the closest and most love

943
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 2: relationship with, and asked me if I was selling my

944
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 2: body on the internet or doing that quote only funds thing.

945
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 2: I was aghast. I have no judgment, nor do I

946
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 2: condemn that line of work, but it's just simply not

947
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 2: something I'm comfortable with and I have a successful career.

948
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 2: After some interrogation, I found out that my step mom

949
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 2: told my mom and dad that I was doing OnlyFans

950
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 2: because I had once asked an offhand question about, oh,

951
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 2: what do people put on their taxes if they're making

952
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 2: bank doing that sort of work. That was last year.

953
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 2: We haven't spoken since my dad called with her on

954
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 2: the line to host the apology. We haven't had a

955
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:36,360
Speaker 2: genuine conversation since, and that's over a year, which is

956
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: extremely unlike us. How do I get us both to

957
00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 2: move on? I feel like I need a genuine apology

958
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 2: where my dad isn't policing the phone call, and it

959
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 2: appears she's fine going on without speaking forever. Please help.

960
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 2: I want our relationship back, but I need more from her.

961
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:54,879
Speaker 2: Savannah Hi, Savannah, Hi, Savannah Hi, Kelsey Hi.

962
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: In your stepmom's defense, you look like you could have

963
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: your own only fans.

964
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:58,960
Speaker 2: You're very hot.

965
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean. So, and women like

966
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 1: that are always think younger girls are up to something,

967
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:07,479
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm not up to half the shit

968
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 1: you think I'm up to. I'm just honest about what

969
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,479
Speaker 1: I am doing. So it sounds a lot worse because

970
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 1: everybody else is lying. But anyway, so she's just like

971
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 1: kind of holding a grudge against you since that happened.

972
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: Do you feel like or it's just not the same

973
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:19,840
Speaker 1: since she confronted you.

974
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:22,720
Speaker 6: I think she's afraid to talk to me again after

975
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 6: she knows that she spread a rumor about me that

976
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 6: was really damaging, especially in a really vulnerable time. I

977
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 6: was just getting out of rehab, been figuring out what

978
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:31,919
Speaker 6: do people think of me? Now I'm going it back

979
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 6: into the workforce. How do I explain this your gap

980
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 6: I took, so I was really dealing with insecurity. So

981
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:39,399
Speaker 6: she hit me at a really low point. So when

982
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 6: my dad called and said, you know, your stepmom's on

983
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 6: the phone, and she kind of just said, well, we

984
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 6: didn't know what you were doing, so I just didn't know.

985
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 6: And I'm like, that's not a valid enough excuse to

986
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 6: make up the rumor that you did. So we've just

987
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 6: been going for about a year with really not reaching

988
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 6: out to each other, seeing each other at big family

989
00:43:57,200 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 6: events and kind of saying hi and I we need

990
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 6: to have another conversation to really clear the error.

991
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: Well, this is probably a good step in your recovery,

992
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: actually to have an adult conversation that isn't acrimonious. And

993
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 1: to actually say, hey, listen, I know things haven't been

994
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 1: the same in the last year, and I just want

995
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: you to know exactly why it struck me so hard

996
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 1: because I was in such a vulnerable spot in my life.

997
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 1: You really that was so unfair that you assumed because

998
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: I asked one question and so I really really hurt me.

999
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 1: And but I we're past that, I hope, and I

1000
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 1: would love to like work towards building back our relationship, right,

1001
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 1: I mean, that's all reasonable.

1002
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 3: Absolutely.

1003
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 6: I think I just wish she had the gumption to

1004
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:38,879
Speaker 6: you know, I have a stepsister who she fonds over,

1005
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 6: and she should, that's her daughter. But I just wish

1006
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 6: I felt like she knows like something's wrong and she

1007
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 6: misses the relationship too, because it feels like we're just

1008
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 6: in the stalemate forever.

1009
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 1: I know, But don't wish for what you can do,

1010
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: like you could be a bigger person here. Kevin was

1011
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 1: trying to say, what were you trying to say?

1012
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 5: Well, Chelsea, for one of the few times you're actually

1013
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:59,919
Speaker 5: kind of write and I'd never actually say that. I never,

1014
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,880
Speaker 5: I've really never I think I've ever agreed with you.

1015
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 5: This is probably like, yeah, this is probably like one

1016
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 5: of the first times I feel like you said something good.

1017
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:10,920
Speaker 5: I'm going to give you a really good cut to

1018
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 5: the chase moment. And this is what a volume of people,

1019
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 5: high volume of people suffer from. Right. I was talking

1020
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 5: about it earlier, like the expectation of what you feel

1021
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 5: you would do, you put on someone else and if

1022
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 5: they don't meet that expectation, it bothers you. Right, people

1023
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 5: are so afraid to just be direct and have forward

1024
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:35,400
Speaker 5: facing conversations like a year a year gap of a

1025
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 5: fall in a relationship doesn't make sense to something that's

1026
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 5: honestly not that difficult. It's this isn't a hard problem.

1027
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:45,959
Speaker 5: Is she wrong for assuming that you were doing something? Absolutely?

1028
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 5: Is it uncommon for women today to be doing the

1029
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 5: thing that she assumed or that she thought based off

1030
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 5: of whatever was she heard.

1031
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:54,919
Speaker 4: It is what it is, you got.

1032
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 5: It's a multi billion dollar business where everybody's doing it.

1033
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:00,040
Speaker 5: And by the way, it doesn't mean that if you

1034
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 5: were you're doing porn. You could be posting regular pictures.

1035
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 1: You can have your toes, you be wearing toes, spaceers.

1036
00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: There's a lot of footation.

1037
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:08,720
Speaker 4: It could be anything I thought about toes.

1038
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,399
Speaker 5: Okay, listen, it could it could be anything, And I'm

1039
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 5: just saying the first assumption in thought attached to it

1040
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 5: doesn't have to be the worst. So there is just

1041
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 5: an assumption and assumption that's taking place. You're hurt because

1042
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 5: of her assumption and you think that I'm doing something

1043
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:25,839
Speaker 5: that I would never do.

1044
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 4: She's like, well, I.

1045
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 5: Thought because of what you said, and okay, I spun

1046
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 5: it and put it out there. It's a real easy conversation. Hey,

1047
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 5: we were close. It's real stupid for us to have

1048
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 5: this thing holding over our head. I just didn't like

1049
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:39,640
Speaker 5: your timing of it. You know what I was going through,

1050
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 5: and I felt from you, if anybody, you should actually

1051
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 5: have a little more sensitivity in knowing how vulnerable I

1052
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 5: was at that time. Now, if you didn't, maybe we

1053
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 5: missed some key conversations. But how was that a low

1054
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 5: and coming out? You hitting me with that? It kind

1055
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 5: of put me back down. And like now as I'm

1056
00:46:56,200 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 5: becoming like back to myself of old and experiencing life

1057
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 5: and loving life, I'm realizing that I'm missing what we

1058
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:06,760
Speaker 5: once had. I want to work on getting back there,

1059
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 5: but I need you to understand where I was. And

1060
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 5: also I want to hear from you just in like

1061
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 5: addressing that and being accountable for that, then let's move

1062
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 5: on from it.

1063
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 4: But it's a.

1064
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 5: Five minute to ten minute conversation. These things don't have

1065
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 5: to be drawn out.

1066
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 1: And you're being the bigger person because she's your stepmother,

1067
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 1: so technically she is the more mature, older version of

1068
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 1: a woman who should have been, you know, making these

1069
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 1: inroads to you already. But this is a great exercise

1070
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: to actually just say fuck it, I don't care about

1071
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 1: the smallness of another person. I'm going to be the

1072
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: big person and say, yeah, no problem. I mean, you know,

1073
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,279
Speaker 1: it's over, but this is where I was coming from,

1074
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 1: and I'd love to build back our relationship and get

1075
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 1: back to normal.

1076
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 5: This feels awkward, and guess what if the relationship doesn't

1077
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 5: make it back to the standards of old, it happens.

1078
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 5: It's life like. So holding on to a concept, or

1079
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 5: holding on to this feeling of old like that may

1080
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 5: not be in your best entry for the new version

1081
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 5: of yourself that you've now become. So don't be afraid

1082
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 5: to say, okay, like, if we don't get back, we don't.

1083
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 4: But at least I got this off my chest.

1084
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 5: So you can know how I feel, and I know

1085
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 5: that I was very adult with how I approached you.

1086
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 5: It was very much mature. This isn't a Caddy moment

1087
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 5: of back and forth. This is one of simple understanding,

1088
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:19,879
Speaker 5: and I feel like if we had that as.

1089
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 1: Good Absolutely I agree with all of that, and then

1090
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 1: at the end you can just say and thanks for

1091
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 1: the great idea. I actually started an OnlyFans page and

1092
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 1: I'm crushing it.

1093
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, by the way, I'm thinking about.

1094
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 1: It because you need more money. Well, oh for her,

1095
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 1: I thought about that.

1096
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 6: We had a trip to Chicago where you're watching my

1097
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 6: niece and nephew, and it's thought about just saying like, oh,

1098
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 6: I'm going to disappear for an hour. I've got an

1099
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 6: appointment with my only fans, so we'll be right back.

1100
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1101
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think that's the bigger picture, you know,

1102
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: always just step above when people are bringing like being

1103
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: low about something, just be bigger and congrats. Yeah.

1104
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 6: I guess I'm just afraid that if I come with

1105
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 6: that that she'll hide from it or won't address it,

1106
00:48:59,120 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 6: or I won't get the resolute.

1107
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what you get, it matters how you

1108
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:04,880
Speaker 1: go after it, like you be the bigger person. You

1109
00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 1: do it. If you don't get the results you desire,

1110
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 1: that's on her, that's not on you.

1111
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 4: Done your part, Chelsea.

1112
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,440
Speaker 2: Actually you brought this up on another episode recently. Was

1113
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 2: forgiving someone before you get the apology, you know, and

1114
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 2: you had sort of the forest apology. But I wonder

1115
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: if you can go in, you know, with a sense

1116
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:23,800
Speaker 2: of empathy, like she might be feeling kind of embarrassed

1117
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,319
Speaker 2: about what she did, Yeah, and like going in being

1118
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 2: like I like, spend some time with yourself, forgive her

1119
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 2: and then approach it.

1120
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: Do you know what your dad said to her? Because

1121
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 1: I bet you your dad gave her an aar full

1122
00:49:34,760 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: about that.

1123
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 6: So my dad had to call me one morning, early

1124
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,319
Speaker 6: in the morning, and he was like, and my dad

1125
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 6: and I are very close. He'll always see me as

1126
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 6: his little girl. You know, we talk three times a week.

1127
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 6: But it was the worst call ever, you call me

1128
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 6: early in the morning. He just said, are you doing porn? Which,

1129
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 6: hearing that from his mouth, I was just like, oh,

1130
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 6: I told him no. He believes me. He is frustrating

1131
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 6: now that there's tension, of course, so the rumors put

1132
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 6: to bed. But I know he's just wishes the tension

1133
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,439
Speaker 6: would be over, and he has. He believes my side.

1134
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 6: He knows that that's not what I was up to.

1135
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 6: So yeah, it's really just the between us that's left.

1136
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, congratulations on getting sober. Kevin has been struggling

1137
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 1: with his sobriety since I met him.

1138
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 5: Well, you know, I have little shoes, so it's tough

1139
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 5: to kick it.

1140
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 1: No, I did not get that. I don't think about

1141
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,919
Speaker 1: that try together.

1142
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 5: Lucky, lucky enough, I haven't. But I do admire those

1143
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 5: that have made it out of the fire. So that's

1144
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 5: pretty dope to hear you say I did. I was,

1145
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 5: but I am now. Yeah, I think that's Uh, that's special.

1146
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 5: Real heroes don't always wear capes, buddy.

1147
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:46,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, thanks for calling by Savannah. Thanks, Savannah really

1148
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 1: looked like a Savannah. No, I know.

1149
00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 4: So, just to be clear, there is no link.

1150
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 2: Oh no, there is no, although she said on our

1151
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 2: interview her cousin does only fans, so it's like a thing,

1152
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 2: you know, that's in the realm of reality for her family.

1153
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 2: Saying no, there's no link is very hot. Anyway, moving along,

1154
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 2: Moving along, Well, let's take a quick break and we'll

1155
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,399
Speaker 2: be back to wrap up with a very stupid question.

1156
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:13,839
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, we're gonna take a break. I'm gonna give

1157
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:21,959
Speaker 1: Kevin a quick bath, and we'll be right back. And

1158
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: we're back with Kevin Hart.

1159
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 2: We are, and we're back with a final kind of

1160
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 2: dumb question.

1161
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 1: Perfect.

1162
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 2: That's a great way to end us, Gina says, dear Chelsea.

1163
00:51:34,160 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 1: This what this, some of our conversations today is probably

1164
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 1: some of the most serious conversations we've ever had. Even

1165
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:44,319
Speaker 1: though this I wouldn't consider this a serious conversation, there

1166
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: were moments of seriousness within the conversation. I think so

1167
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 1: for you and me, because usually it's not very serious question.

1168
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 4: Some of those questions like required a good peal.

1169
00:51:55,680 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: You know, I mean, even our own conversation before the questions.

1170
00:51:58,640 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 4: Yes, this was a lot. It was.

1171
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:02,800
Speaker 1: There's harassment coming from one of us to the other person.

1172
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 1: To me. Yeah, usually that's true. I'm not gonna lie.

1173
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: And you take the abuse very well. You almost seem

1174
00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: to enjoy it. Well, yeah, I mean I've just grown

1175
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 1: accustomed to it, right, Okay, Yes, that's what I wanted

1176
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:12,759
Speaker 1: to say.

1177
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 2: Well, Gina says dear Chelsea. I couldn't think of a

1178
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 2: better person to help me decide if I should listen

1179
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 2: to the little devil on my shoulder that wants me

1180
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 2: to seek some mostly innocent revenge on my husband. We

1181
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 2: have been happily married for one year and living together

1182
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,800
Speaker 2: for three While living together has come with the expected

1183
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:35,840
Speaker 2: amounts of uncovering stupid shit we are going to argue about.

1184
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 2: There's one silly thing we haven't come to a resolution

1185
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 2: on the water diverter in the tub slash shower. He

1186
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 2: thinks it's no big deal to leave it on the

1187
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,759
Speaker 2: shower setting, and I think it's a common courtesy to

1188
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 2: put it back to the tub setting so no one

1189
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:52,280
Speaker 2: gets sprayed in the face with cold water at six am.

1190
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 2: I'm sure you can guess which of us keeps getting

1191
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 2: sprayed in the face at six am. But I'm not

1192
00:52:56,680 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 2: here to discuss our disagreement nor our flaws, I said,

1193
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 2: I'm here to discuss revenge. We recently installed a dog

1194
00:53:04,480 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 2: shower attachment in our home's only bathroom. Ever since we

1195
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:09,840
Speaker 2: installed it, I can't help but think, how if I

1196
00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 2: just accidentally leave the diverter in the new dog shower position,

1197
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:15,479
Speaker 2: he will get sprayed directly in the face.

1198
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:18,920
Speaker 1: I do it absolutely no question. First of all, I

1199
00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 1: want to thank you for bringing a question like this

1200
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 1: to the podcast because we need more levity, and I

1201
00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:28,240
Speaker 1: like the stupidity of this and absolutely retaliate against your husband.

1202
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,919
Speaker 1: That's so funny. After we I just gave you a bath,

1203
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: that we get a bath sub question.

1204
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 5: That's actually it's not. But I just want to back

1205
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 5: up the dog diverter in the in their shower. Yeah, yes,

1206
00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 5: I sure I heard that.

1207
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 7: Correctly, and the only one in the guaranteed to be

1208
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 7: So the dog takes the shower a couple or in

1209
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 7: the same shower, that's a bigger question.

1210
00:53:51,640 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 4: More Again, I'm going to guess that these people are white.

1211
00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:56,719
Speaker 1: If I have the guess, why do you say that?

1212
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 1: Why are you being discriminatory? Well, fill a little.

1213
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 4: I'm willing to bet the farm on this one.

1214
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 1: Why would you say that white people would have Why?

1215
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 1: Because black people what the dogs?

1216
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:12,879
Speaker 5: The dog is probably showering with the holes outside. There's

1217
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 5: no such thing as a diverter in the black household,

1218
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 5: especially not in the one bathroom in the house. Get

1219
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 5: that goddamn dog outside and don't get that out there,

1220
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:25,359
Speaker 5: that dog in the bucket and figure it out.

1221
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 4: That's what it is.

1222
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: It is so true. You don't let your dog sleep

1223
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:32,400
Speaker 1: in the bed. No, Black people don't like that.

1224
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:32,719
Speaker 4: No.

1225
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:34,920
Speaker 1: All my black friends when they ever see me, they go,

1226
00:54:34,960 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 1: you look like one of those girls who sleeps in

1227
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 1: bed with your dogs. And my other friend Yahya always goes.

1228
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 1: White girls don't wash their legs. We've talked about this.

1229
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:45,640
Speaker 1: White girls don't wash their legs. I go, why do

1230
00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: my legs need to be washed? They're fucking covered, Like

1231
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 1: my legs are going out without me, and when I

1232
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 1: take a shower, all the soap from my shower comes down. Tiffany,

1233
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 1: I had this conversation with two.

1234
00:54:57,120 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 4: So you feel like that's It's not like my legs are.

1235
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 1: Out there gardening all day without me. Wash your legs. No,

1236
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 1: I don't think so.

1237
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:10,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, what do you mean? You don't think what.

1238
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 1: Is going on with your legs that they need washing?

1239
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:17,400
Speaker 5: It's your body. You wash your body, Chelsea, your entire body.

1240
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 5: You don't pick and choose.

1241
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:23,719
Speaker 1: I have hot spots. I have hot spots that I wash.

1242
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 1: I get one, two, three, four, and I get those going,

1243
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 1: and then and then the fifth is the head, and

1244
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:30,840
Speaker 1: then everything is fine.

1245
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 4: No, it's not Chelsea, I.

1246
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,719
Speaker 1: Want to cleaning in between your toes? Who got in there?

1247
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 4: What do you mean?

1248
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:38,799
Speaker 1: Who got it in my leg?

1249
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 4: You that it's dirt and me? You see how to

1250
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 4: back your he is right.

1251
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 1: Now with clean clothes over it.

1252
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 5: Okay, yes, but you're you're gonna conjure of sweat on

1253
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 5: the back of you.

1254
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,040
Speaker 1: No, I don't. I'm not a molester. Why would I

1255
00:55:50,040 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 1: be sweating on the backs of my knees.

1256
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 4: Because you sit You're sitting with your legs crawls.

1257
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, criss cross apple sauce.

1258
00:55:55,360 --> 00:55:57,520
Speaker 4: Okay, this is a hot spot behind these.

1259
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 1: Is a hot No, no, no, not for maybe for you,

1260
00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:01,319
Speaker 1: it's not for me, okay.

1261
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 4: Because this is just what we're culturally different.

1262
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:04,719
Speaker 1: Well yeah, I guess so.

1263
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 5: Well, I'm just telling you it really is. And this

1264
00:56:07,120 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 5: is the thing that we just had to nip in

1265
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:11,760
Speaker 5: the butt. Also, you probably don't even use like a washwrag.

1266
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:12,439
Speaker 4: You're like a hand.

1267
00:56:12,680 --> 00:56:14,399
Speaker 1: I don't use a wash oh my god.

1268
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 4: Oh because your hands have because your hands are why scrubble? Oh?

1269
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:27,320
Speaker 4: Because you have the the loofahs on your hands?

1270
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: Why why don't you Why is sleeping with the dogs?

1271
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 1: I mean I understand that that is that that is

1272
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 1: actually dirty?

1273
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 4: Yes?

1274
00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: Who cares?

1275
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,399
Speaker 4: What do you mean? Who cares? That's my bed, that's

1276
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:37,879
Speaker 4: my bed.

1277
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 5: The dogs are outside all day running around in the backyard,

1278
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 5: playing and stuff that you want them to come in,

1279
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:45,359
Speaker 5: jump in the bed, sleep in the bed.

1280
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:47,359
Speaker 1: You've never pissed the bed and slept in it?

1281
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 5: No, you wake up after you do it. Now, definitely

1282
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 5: I have wet the bed of young, young and old age.

1283
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 5: I am definitely guilty of that. But immediately I get

1284
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 5: up and this has to be changed. This has to

1285
00:56:59,239 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 5: be this.

1286
00:57:00,200 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 1: I I once this is not a flattering story, and

1287
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 1: that's why I'll share it. I once was very I

1288
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 1: don't remember what drugs I was on, but I was

1289
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 1: on something and we were in bed and I had

1290
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,360
Speaker 1: to pee so many times before I could go to sleep.

1291
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 1: And we were in a hotel room in Vegas. This

1292
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 1: is when I was in my twenties, and I was

1293
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:22,800
Speaker 1: so sick of getting up to pee that I just said,

1294
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna pee right here, and I'm going to

1295
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 1: move over onto the other side of the bed. And

1296
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 1: I thought I could do that. And then when I

1297
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 1: moved over to the other side of the bed, I

1298
00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: was like this is disgusting. I can't pee there too, yeah,

1299
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 1: because it sprints. Yeah, and that was the last time

1300
00:57:37,680 --> 00:57:38,439
Speaker 1: I peed in the bed.

1301
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 5: By the way, this is a good moment just to

1302
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:41,840
Speaker 5: kind of point out to the listeners that this is

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Speaker 5: who you're asking your questions to, right, this is who

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Speaker 5: you are.

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Speaker 4: Asking for sound advice from the woman.

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Speaker 5: I felt that she could peel on one side of

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Speaker 5: the bed and roll over and that here wouldn't be

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Speaker 5: pee there and then no, forget the smell, none of

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Speaker 5: that stuff matters. Okay, I'm gonna change her name from

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Speaker 5: Chelsea to Hotspot Hotspot Chelsea because you already watch her.

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Speaker 1: What if I I I go into the shower like

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Speaker 1: it's an emergency. I don't want to be light lingering

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Speaker 1: in there, so I have to get all the zones

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Speaker 1: right away, just in case, because I've treated like a

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Speaker 1: fire drill.

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Speaker 4: No, why are you in a rush?

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Speaker 1: So if I dilly dally around with my legs in

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Speaker 1: my arms, you're adding.

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Speaker 4: A three minute You're adding a three minute times.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like being in the shower for that long,

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Speaker 1: So that's probably it is.

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Speaker 5: Really this is so interesting to me because this debate

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Speaker 5: is ongoing it's the one thing. Like, you know, there's

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Speaker 5: so much that we discussed, but nobody wants to just

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Speaker 5: nip this in the bud, and I think it all

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Speaker 5: goes away.

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Speaker 4: We would feel more.

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Speaker 5: Comfortable as a culture if we were just here some

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Speaker 5: white people say, you know what, I understand the washcloth

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Speaker 5: and I get it. Okay, if that's this is about,

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Speaker 5: I'll meet you halfway and I'll use a washcloth.

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Speaker 4: That doesn't mean I'm going to wash my entire body,

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Speaker 4: but I will.

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Speaker 5: I'll start by at least admitting that the use of

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Speaker 5: the washcloth is important. And then and then we can

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Speaker 5: we can rest there and I think we can work

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Speaker 5: on the other stuff in steps. But the the the

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Speaker 5: double bang of no washcloth and only hotspots, that's a lot.

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Speaker 4: That's a lot to digest.

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Speaker 1: Kevin. I want to thank you for coming over today.

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Speaker 5: What the fuck man, Okay, that's why are you acting

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Speaker 5: like that?

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Speaker 4: Feels like I had.

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Speaker 1: Well, he's his dog sniffing you.

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Speaker 5: But it's the way he looks at me while he's

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Speaker 5: doing very like, what's his deal?

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Speaker 1: Confrontational? Yeah, you've had a problem with all of my dogs,

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Speaker 1: every dog I've had. You're never friendly to.

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Speaker 4: Dog because they all think I'm fifty cent.

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Speaker 1: No, they don't think you're fifty cent.

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Speaker 4: They think him fifty.

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Speaker 2: Before we wrap, Kevin, what do you say to Gina?

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Speaker 2: I know, Chelsea, you say, SPRAYM in the face? Should

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Speaker 2: Gina spray?

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Speaker 5: I want Gina to fucking get a hobby, Okay, I

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Speaker 5: want Jama. I want Gina to figure out what else

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Speaker 5: to do during the day instead of talking to me

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Speaker 5: about the goddamn shower settings. Just like, so what do

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Speaker 5: I do? I mean, what do you guys think? Do

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Speaker 5: I get them back? Or do I I feel like

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Speaker 5: it's payback? Like what are you talking about? Like, God,

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Speaker 5: damn it. Do you want to switch it yourself? If

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Speaker 5: you know what's there? It is?

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Speaker 2: I feel like it automatically happens. Usually it's supposed to automate. Anyway.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway is right? Anyway. This is the end of

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Speaker 1: this episode and the episode. The episode's title will be

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Speaker 1: called Anyway, not to be confused with any ways.

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Speaker 4: Good night, good one, good night man.

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Speaker 1: See you next week.

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Speaker 4: Love you, Chelsea, thank you, I love you, Kevin.

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Speaker 1: My upcoming shows are Brooklyn on November eighth, Bethlehem, November ninth, Philadelphia,

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Speaker 1: November tenth, and then I'm going to Texas November fifteenth, sixteenth,

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Speaker 1: and seventeenth. I will be in Dallas, Austin, and Sugarland, Texas,

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Speaker 1: and then I have another show in Vegas on November thirtieth.

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Speaker 1: San Diego is November twenty ninth, and then Des Moines, Omaha,

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Speaker 1: New Orleans, and Atlantic to close out the year. So

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Speaker 1: check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets and I will see

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Speaker 1: you there.

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Speaker 2: If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email

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Speaker 2: at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and be

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