1 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:10,559 Speaker 1: Don't want to ask your question real good, Let's just 2 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: keep it real straight. Shye, with no chasing, I'm gonna 3 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: get a little bit rougher. I'm here for it. Those 4 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: who really believe in the American process, all of us 5 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 1: street shot no chase with your girls testing figure out 6 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 1: on the Black Effect podcasting at Word. One of the 7 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: things that I tell people, like when you said, we 8 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: all have a different calling and my training push the 9 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: line is all about knowing you know what you're supposed 10 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: to do. And I think, uh, there's a lot of 11 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: power in people knowing, like, yes, when I talk about 12 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: black issues, I'm not anti anybody else. My calling is 13 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: just specifically for you know, my community and politics, because 14 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: in politics, every community is not about let's all come together. 15 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: It is a I don't know if you ever saw 16 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: that's a I love that cartoon, The The Who by 17 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: Doctor Seuss and an animated movie, and it was a 18 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: bunch of little people that were all screw you know, 19 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: trying to get attention. And in politics, each group, each subgroup, 20 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: you know, are all screaming saying, hey, you know, what 21 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: about me? What about me? What about me? And the 22 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 1: group that is allowedest you know, gets the attention. And 23 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: because black people have been marginalized in such a way, 24 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 1: my calling, you know, specifically, has been to make sure 25 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: you know that my community, you know, is getting some 26 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: special attention, some special like you mentioned the extra forty percent, 27 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: because what has happened in politics is that extra forty 28 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: percent that you talked about, that somebody has has been 29 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 1: divided up with everybody else and here we are over 30 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,639 Speaker 1: here and everybody else has already started on this level. 31 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: But to your point, it is important that I still 32 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: recognize your gift so that you can take up the 33 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: slack and and bring everybody together and have their conversation 34 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: and we all can work together in our own in 35 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 1: our own you know, operating in our own way. I'm 36 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: a veteran and I tell people it's a reason why 37 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: you have multiple branches. Any war requires multi branches. You 38 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 1: got the Navy that's in the sea. You have the 39 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: air force that is in the air. I'm air Force, 40 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: by the way, that's in the air. You have the 41 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: Army that's on the ground. You have the Marines that's 42 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: on the ground. Everybody has a particular job and it 43 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: is not anti army or anti marines. I'm just in 44 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: the air force. But it's important for you to be 45 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: a global connector to connect us all, to show that 46 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: love the show crisis love. I just ask that when 47 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:31,359 Speaker 1: people say that when I am looking particularly like Deborah 48 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 1: in the Book of Deborah and says you're going to 49 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: deliver my people of General Barack or he's going to 50 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: deliver it through the hands of a woman. There are 51 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: some wars that need to get fought for a particular sector, 52 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: and so that's where I you know, where you motivate 53 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 1: me and that Lens, and I hope you know that 54 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: makes sense to you as well. And I'm glad you 55 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 1: touched on that because people think it's not anti love everybody. 56 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: I've love for everybody, but I have to pay attention 57 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 1: to those who have been broken in such a way 58 00:02:57,800 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: where they can connect to me to know that they 59 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: have space here. There's space and that's watch ch'all Maine Comedy, 60 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: Whole Whisper. There's space here for you, there's voice here 61 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: for you. And so my message I'll try to touch people, 62 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 1: you know in that way. I hope that makes sense. 63 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 2: Yes, man, I love what you do. You have a 64 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 2: powerful voice, and I want to give your flowers right 65 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 2: now because I see what you're doing. You know, I 66 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 2: want to. I just I want to look at some 67 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 2: things and things you see me as well. I'm like, 68 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 2: man that we had more growing up. A lot of 69 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 2: things been different, but I can't complain what happened yesterday. 70 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 2: Don't focus on now. So what you've been doing yesterday 71 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 2: now and what you're gonna do in the future, we 72 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 2: see you so, especially you know our sisters we see you, 73 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 2: you know, so keep applying that fresh you know we 74 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 2: need you know, and one of your most on one 75 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 2: thing I noticed about you is your confidence. Your traits 76 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 2: of being very confident. And you're not gonna being Overbacca. 77 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 2: You're not gonna budge. If you feel this way, you're 78 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 2: gonna speak on it. And I would tell people if 79 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 2: you feel like that, never make a person make you 80 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 2: retrack on what you say, or make you take back 81 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 2: what you say, or whatever, stand on what you're saying, 82 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 2: because people know you play with everybody else, but you 83 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 2: can't play with her. That's right. 84 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: You hit that on the nail, and you know I'm 85 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:10,839 Speaker 1: all about the old test. But that's why I refer 86 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 1: to Debra Lot. You know everybody wasn't just sitting down. 87 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 1: You know, you had two marriage. You had to Mary 88 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: who was the mother? You know, then you had Mary Maglan. 89 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:20,799 Speaker 1: I'm Mary Maglin, baby, I'm but of tomb. When everybody 90 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: else go home, when all the disciples go home, who 91 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 1: was it that was by the tomb? Because she said, 92 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 1: what if he could do it for me, surely he 93 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: can do it for himself. I know that disciples asleep, George, 94 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: I know they were sleep. I know they went, They 95 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: went and gave upon it for Mary said wait to 96 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: hold on. One said I think I'm just gonna I'm 97 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: a I'm a risk being, you know, killed myself and 98 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna stand by the tomb and see what's happening. 99 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: Who boy that Mary Maglin Cole. That's my favorite speek 100 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: because you know he said, Mary gone go home and 101 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 1: week that's cool. Mary was just two marriage, now the 102 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: mother and I always tell people and some people my 103 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: chaid don't teest. Now we need you to keep us straight. 104 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: That's right. It's something Mary Maglan was at Rider. She 105 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: was the one that said, yeah, no, we ain't. She 106 00:04:58,279 --> 00:04:59,919 Speaker 1: had to go wake them up. You remember that, George, 107 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: All the disciples come on y'all get up, he rolls 108 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: up and has she never been there? We would have 109 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,720 Speaker 1: never saw it. So there is a And that's my 110 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 1: last question I want to ask you because I know 111 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:11,720 Speaker 1: you talk about relationships as well, and you talked about 112 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: your queen, and I want you to give some advice 113 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: on that. But you see on social media it's so 114 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:18,840 Speaker 1: called gender war, and there's not a gender war. I 115 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: tell people all the time, you must just don't know 116 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: good men and good women, because when we operate and 117 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: our king and queen and we understand like the balance 118 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 1: of you know what, then I'm not talking about just 119 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: in romantic relationships, just platonic you know, men and masculinity 120 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: and feminine. And just because I'm strong and I'm assertive 121 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: doesn't mean I'm not operating in my full People like 122 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: to say queens, but everybody ain't no queen. If we're 123 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: gonna be honest about it, Georgia, it's some peasants around it. 124 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: To be a queen, it's required something different. Princesses weight 125 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,280 Speaker 1: on things. My brother nineteen keys, he broke that down 126 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: and said, princesses weight on things to be handed to him. 127 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:59,359 Speaker 1: Queen's build and there's a difference. So yeah, but I 128 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 1: got a little bit something in my voice. I'm a builder, 129 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: so I got a little bit of some in my voice. 130 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: So I want you to speak on that for a second, 131 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:10,279 Speaker 1: because you mentioned relationship, and we see so much negativity 132 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: about relationships, and you know, couples can't get along and 133 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: they this and that. Speak to the power because you 134 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: recognize your queen. Speak to the power of when a 135 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: man and woman, when they they find that thing and 136 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: they build and how that you know, Charlomage talks about 137 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: it all the time his life. When he you know, 138 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: started to really honor you know, what God has given 139 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 1: him and his wife has life just went all the 140 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: way up. Speak to that for those who have given 141 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: up on love, for those that and again love. I'm 142 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 1: not talking about just romance. I'm talking about men and 143 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: women even platonically. How do we operate in that to 144 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:46,119 Speaker 1: become greater? 145 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 2: I say, firston almost be ready for what you ask 146 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 2: Say that one more time, George, for what you ask for. 147 00:06:56,480 --> 00:07:03,839 Speaker 2: H not everybody go into a relationship healed or hold. 148 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,280 Speaker 2: You know, that's when you you know wh I say, 149 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 2: it's imperative that you go through a phase of talking 150 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 2: dating and cordon, so you can though that individual. A 151 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 2: lot of people get into a situation based off lust 152 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: and they end up getting married or wherever take placed, 153 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 2: and they it's friction toxicity. Another thing is a lot 154 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 2: of people don't we don't communicate and talk well. A 155 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 2: lot of people that jump in and fast. I don't 156 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 2: gilty as as well. But me and my wife we 157 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 2: made it. We've been together for Mary for seven, together 158 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 2: for nine. And I say this here. A lot of 159 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 2: people don't go into depth when they day know cordon 160 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 2: or whatever. Ask ask the question anything about childhood trauma, 161 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 2: what you've balcon with, what you suffer with, what took 162 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 2: place five years ago? Ask questions to no people, not 163 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 2: to assume, but to new Never want to assume, you 164 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 2: want to you want to know. Another thing gives too 165 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 2: is George, I can't never meet the right person for me. 166 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 2: Everybody has eating the generals. This is the third. I 167 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 2: understand that I teach people by expectation and requirement. ONNA 168 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 2: fail you every time. But when we start entertaining people, 169 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 2: let them know I have requirement A, B, C and D. 170 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 2: Two things gonna happen if they really want to date 171 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 2: you will be with you. They don't eat it, work 172 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 2: that much harder to meet your requirements, or they gonna flee. 173 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 2: M you see wanna say a lot of people say, oh, 174 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 2: he asked for too much, or he asking for too much. No, 175 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 2: that's that personal requirement. If if if I'm thinking someone 176 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 2: based on expectation or potential, I'm setting myself up a faith. 177 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:37,439 Speaker 2: I can expect you to be a certain way, but 178 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 2: it's not guarantee you gonna be that way. But I'll 179 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 2: let you do off front. Listen, these are my requirement. 180 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,319 Speaker 2: Some people might say asking for too much, but this 181 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: is why I want say right first, you might have 182 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 2: your requirements down. After me, they go to shorty who 183 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,319 Speaker 2: really want to work? Who won't I look at longevity. 184 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 2: I don't look at short love. I want longevy. I 185 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 2: won't leave something. Don't want. Me and my wife's great 186 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:04,520 Speaker 2: history because we can teach is what mayors look like, 187 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 2: which is not perfect. You're gonna have upset down or 188 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 2: you gonna have disagreement. You know, it's based on how 189 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 2: well you know your significant other. Me and my wife 190 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 2: you do everything together. We speak, we talk. I don't 191 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:20,319 Speaker 2: have nobody else but just me and my wife we talk, but. 192 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: It's important to also know, like people, they have brokenness, 193 00:09:23,720 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: you know, And I think what you're saying is for me. 194 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: As long as you're communicating that trauma, you're you're you're 195 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: able to name it and say this is I struggle 196 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: with this because of this, I can work with that 197 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: when you're vulnerable and you're able to say that. Because 198 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 1: some people Georgia, as you know, it may take them 199 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: a long time to heal. They may be some things 200 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: they may not ever properly heal from. But if you 201 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: are at least letting me know this, this elbow is broke, 202 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 1: this arm is broke, I'm letting you know that it's fragile. 203 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 1: I'm letting you know that when you touch it it's 204 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 1: a little bit sore. I've been trying to figure it 205 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: out my whole life. I don't know what it is. 206 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 1: At least now I can family with some type of 207 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: care that does that make sense? 208 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 2: You know? You see this often as well a lot 209 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 2: of people will know that they battle with something until 210 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,719 Speaker 2: something trigger is it, Like they get a relationship, they 211 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 2: know they were still baling with it, or they would 212 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,320 Speaker 2: ballying with it until something triggered. So this why I say, 213 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: if I can teach any individual, why I would say 214 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 2: right now is that if you're single and you think 215 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 2: by dating or whatever, you know, if you know, be 216 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 2: on yourself, take accountability, take ownership what you battle with 217 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 2: before you try to, you know, get relations to somebody else. 218 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 2: Because therapy is not a bad thing. People look at 219 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 2: having a strait or going to counselor it's a bad thing. No, 220 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 2: it's not. It's really help you release anything or free 221 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 2: yourself or have an innificial that you can speak with 222 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 2: and be honest with where everything kept within. Because in 223 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 2: our community, I don't know, nobody's specially growing up to 224 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 2: have account right, we don't. We look down on that. 225 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 2: We seem something wrong with you because you have a 226 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 2: counselor ever stream and those people who try to get 227 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 2: into a relationship, why hurt somebody because you hurt? Why 228 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 2: damn somebody because you damn it? 229 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think we grew up here and kind of 230 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 1: like what we talked about it again and just you know, 231 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 1: go to God, Go to God. So I'm glad you're saying, yes, 232 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 1: go to God, but still go get you some help too. 233 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:13,600 Speaker 1: There's balance in that. 234 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 2: Work with our faith is dead. Faith without work is dead. 235 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,760 Speaker 2: You can have all the faith, But God said, my child, 236 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:21,480 Speaker 2: you're not putting the work in for yourself. You know 237 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 2: that you are baling. I'm sitting you people, but you 238 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 2: keep setting them off because you battle with pride. A 239 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 2: lot of people are battling with pride. Some of these people, 240 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 2: once they drop their pride, they one of the most 241 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 2: precious women or the most intellect gods out here, because 242 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 2: that's something that was in them. But a lot of 243 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:42,079 Speaker 2: people have someone's pride. You don't want to be told 244 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 2: nothing have falter. We become better, mean, we start flo 245 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,319 Speaker 2: we start feeling better with our receiving better and now 246 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:55,000 Speaker 2: we wear an option when it comes today. So we 247 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 2: teach the people the proper structure of how to date 248 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 2: court then get into a marriage by knowing your You 249 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 2: can't nobody else. You don't know yourself. 250 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 1: So you offer those services. So I'm gonna let you 251 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: go because I've spent forty five minutes of your time. 252 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 1: What do you offer, George, Like, how can you say 253 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: you teach? Tell us you know? How can people connect? 254 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: What service do you offer? Do they get mentoring? 255 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: Like? 256 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:19,839 Speaker 1: What do they just follow on YouTube, like, what's what. 257 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 2: I'm no longer doing this tour ship, but if reach 258 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: out to me my email, my manager reached back out 259 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:30,679 Speaker 2: to me. But for bookings or anything else but speaking 260 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 2: engagement or whatever, reach out to me. It's a lot 261 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:35,959 Speaker 2: of people to be outwitch the reason why I can't 262 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 2: do mentorship. It's funny. Yeah, you know, like I told 263 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 2: people before, I tried to respond to many people as possible. 264 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,319 Speaker 2: It's hard to get a lot. 265 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: Of of course, of course you're getting them everywhere. What 266 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: about classes? Are you going to look into maybe doing that? 267 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 2: Well? Have some courses? Yeah, yeah, We'll be having courses 268 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 2: come in the future. I'm big on, like I was 269 00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 2: speaking about the other day, I'm big on with this. 270 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,960 Speaker 2: A lot of people do things for the money. I 271 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 2: do it for the purpose. So I really I want 272 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 2: to pray about it how God want me to. The 273 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 2: Steve was just courses and the way he wanted to 274 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 2: have set up, not just push somebody thirty to get 275 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 2: funds for it. 276 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: So but that's important too, you know. And I'm all 277 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 1: about that too. And I always got to have somebody 278 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,200 Speaker 1: tell me, but you gotta fund it, you know. And 279 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 1: I know where you're coming from. 280 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:27,199 Speaker 2: But I do U. 281 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:33,200 Speaker 1: Doctor Steve Perry's in the house. Who is Puff school? 282 00:13:33,200 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: And I just forgot the name, but doctor Steve Perry 283 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: just joined in and he is the administrator in Diddy's school. 284 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: Great friend of mine, and I hope he's still here 285 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: and listening. And I want to give you your information 286 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 1: because he's always he's in New York. He's always looking for, 287 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: you know, folks that can come in and talk to 288 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: the kids and get you funding. Like it costs to 289 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: do this, you know, like I know what you. I'm 290 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:58,760 Speaker 1: there with you. I've done way more the training I 291 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,559 Speaker 1: did last year, three hundred peop completely free. We spent 292 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: a whole lot of money, you know, to make that happen. 293 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: Shut out to Pumffy was a sponsor for that or 294 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:08,959 Speaker 1: did he brother love or whatever? Whoever you know him? 295 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: Whatever you're doing, boy, but but we need you, you know, 296 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: we need you. Got to take care of your family 297 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 1: as well, you know, And it costs to get you 298 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 1: places and people to come see you and stuff like that. 299 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 2: These people you chase the gift, you don't RaSE the 300 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 2: money that he'll can make room for you. It's very 301 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 2: intellectual It's about how you place yourself and what you 302 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 2: learn what you put out. So also want to show 303 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 2: shout out to everybody who showed me love. Uh did 304 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 2: he they? I said this the rock everyone Steve Harvey. 305 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 2: H if I miss somebody, but I appreciate everybody who 306 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 2: has showed me love. Man Like I tell people, man, 307 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 2: keep your odds from the prize, and that prize is 308 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 2: not always a bad. 309 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: Yep, that's right. 310 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 2: He runs out. See a lot of people use that. 311 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 2: They don't feel motivated once they the money lose it. 312 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 2: See some type man like money don't move me. They 313 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 2: move things. Money doesn't move me. It can move things. 314 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 2: What I mean by that is, yes, I can buy 315 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:12,400 Speaker 2: a house, I can buy flights. I can do this. 316 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 2: They buy things that move. But when you who you are, 317 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,640 Speaker 2: it doesn't move you. Your passion, movie, your purpose. I 318 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 2: feel good waking up knowing that I love my jube. 319 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:25,200 Speaker 2: Back in twenty twenty one, I became a four more 320 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 2: four motivation speaker in a six I'm making big money. 321 00:15:28,880 --> 00:15:30,640 Speaker 2: I don't have a degree. I didn't have a degree. 322 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 2: The field I was working in it takes people ten 323 00:15:32,880 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 2: years to get there. I'm the black person I'm the 324 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 2: only male I worked with doctors. Uh so I trust 325 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 2: the most out We told me that your calling is 326 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 2: different than not sitting behind the death No more, I'll 327 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 2: call you to new group and with people I know. 328 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 2: I don't have a degree, while I do have a 329 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 2: PhD in coming since right since I moved different and 330 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 2: when God tells me to do this, there I gotta move. 331 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 2: So that's why I tell people I don't reason why 332 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 2: the Lord allowed me to be who I am and 333 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:02,760 Speaker 2: what I am and to be here because I never 334 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 2: chased the money. I chase the gift, and that gift 335 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,240 Speaker 2: had made room for me to be one of the 336 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 2: most biggest speaking the word. 337 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I agree, me too. I never chased the money. 338 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: I don't even know if I chase the gift, the 339 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 1: gift chase me. You know, God tell my tiers. I 340 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: was trying to go do something different, but every time 341 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: it just kept circling back, circling back, over and over 342 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: and over and over and over. And this is not 343 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: about uh you know, because I'm not caught up on 344 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 1: name dropping in celebrities and all of that, but it 345 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: really does. You really are an example of how you are, 346 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 1: really touching people that have major pressure on them to 347 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:50,200 Speaker 1: inspire others. That says a lot. You know, everybody can't 348 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: be the pastor for the pastors. You know, everybody can't 349 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: be the minister for the minister, or the motivational speakers 350 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: for the motivation speakers. And you are right about your gift. 351 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: And I knew, you know, And I'm just saying this 352 00:17:01,520 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: is uh we mentioned Puff growing up. I just knew 353 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 1: I was gonna be, you know, the next Little Kim Or. 354 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 1: You know, I knew I was a part of Bad Boy, 355 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,600 Speaker 1: and I never would have thought in a million years 356 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 1: that I would be motivating puff and politics on FaceTime? 357 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 1: You know, should I say this or that? So basically 358 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: a producer for the producer. You see what I'm saying, like, Wow, God, 359 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:26,479 Speaker 1: how did you because I looked at that as us 360 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:29,159 Speaker 1: in the booth, you know, like, how can I be 361 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 1: in the booth with puff awful politics? Off my talk game? 362 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: Now I'm thinking, I'm thinking my talk game, as Mike 363 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 1: was meant for rapping, which I can, you know, drop 364 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:43,119 Speaker 1: a high sixteen by the way, But I'm thinking, but 365 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: I'm thinking it was meant for that, But God had 366 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: it meant for something else, and so just to have, 367 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: you know, conversation with him and so many others, whether 368 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 1: Charlemagne or ben Crump or whoever else. They say, test 369 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: give me a word, you know, talk to I'm listening 370 00:17:57,080 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 1: to fan of lou Hammer, but I need you to 371 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:01,199 Speaker 1: give me a word man that it just says something. 372 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: It just says something. And you have that gift. And 373 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:07,880 Speaker 1: I wanted to give you your flowers, uh and send 374 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 1: my love to you and your wife and your queen 375 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:14,320 Speaker 1: was behind you because I know, again it's a lot. 376 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: It's a lot being the backbone and the motivator for 377 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,120 Speaker 1: the motivator. You know, there's a lot. There's a lot 378 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:21,879 Speaker 1: that she has to and not a bad way, but 379 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: she has to carry all of it. I believe in 380 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:25,920 Speaker 1: women being the spiritual backbone of the household, and so 381 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:29,040 Speaker 1: she has to carry all of that and pray for 382 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:32,520 Speaker 1: you and be wise for you and wise counsel and 383 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 1: telling you when to move and not move and yeh baby, 384 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: that's it and keep doing and ah d oh, it's 385 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 1: a lot. So yeah, I feel I feel queen. Yeah, 386 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:44,920 Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. Everybody don't want to 387 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 1: be the virtuous woman. They all want to be the wife. 388 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 1: But then when you start laying down that what's required 389 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:54,680 Speaker 1: line by line on you, it's a different conversation. It's 390 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 1: a different conversation on what is required. And it's not 391 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:03,120 Speaker 1: for everybody. It's really not for Everybody's not everybody. Everybody 392 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:06,199 Speaker 1: can't be a first lady. You know, I went to 393 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 1: a funeral maybe last month, and the entire funeral they've 394 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 1: been married like forty years, and you know, she has 395 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: her own degree and PhD, Sister Bracy. You know, she's 396 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:17,919 Speaker 1: done her own thing in life. But the entire funeral 397 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 1: was about the wife that she was to him. You know, 398 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 1: he had passed away, Reverend Bracy. And it's a lot 399 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: of sacrifice, a whole lot of sacrifice that goes with 400 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:31,359 Speaker 1: being a spouse or a partner for somebody that the 401 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 1: world is calling upon and draining from. You know how 402 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,120 Speaker 1: you mentioned that extra forty percent. So by the time 403 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: you get that extra forty percent, then you got to 404 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:42,199 Speaker 1: give it to wifey and the kids and this and 405 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 1: that very little for yourself. 406 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 2: And that's why I said that you broke it down. 407 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 2: That's that's that's Zach White. That so I might start 408 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:53,520 Speaker 2: off a one hundred and forty percent, I might have 409 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:55,639 Speaker 2: to give twenty or forty to somebody. Yeah, I got 410 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 2: to give the rest of my family, my kids. But 411 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 2: as a man, we don't make excuse. We make results. 412 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 2: Because the wife make sure the household is straight. Thank them, 413 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:08,280 Speaker 2: the house is still stamping difference. So, like I say, 414 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 2: let me speak about this as well. I met my 415 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:14,560 Speaker 2: wife in twenty fourteen, and she from East Coast. She's 416 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,960 Speaker 2: from Pennsylvania, Pittsburg, Pennsylvania. I'm from Texas, from the Dirk South, 417 00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 2: you know. So she moved down here in twenty fourteen, 418 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:26,400 Speaker 2: and I moved to Dallas, Texas in twenty twelve. I'll 419 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,719 Speaker 2: live another part of Texas. But you know I met her. 420 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 2: Someone told her before before she moved down here, that 421 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:34,200 Speaker 2: your husband is in Texas. She never did understand because 422 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 2: she already had two kids. You know what I'm saying. 423 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,040 Speaker 2: There's a lot of women think there they'll never find 424 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,200 Speaker 2: a man for them because they have kids, and I 425 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,919 Speaker 2: want they just know that you're valuable. Who are you know, 426 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 2: that's what's for you. Can't miss you. If God have 427 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,320 Speaker 2: a man for you, that's gonna be your man. So 428 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 2: don't let the society of the world tell you if 429 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 2: you got two or three kids, you'll never find a 430 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:57,080 Speaker 2: man because nobody want to take care of somebody else 431 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 2: seed or take take care of somebody else kids. It's 432 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 2: end up guys out here, and I'm forcing God to 433 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 2: do that. I'm not saying yeah, because everybody not built 434 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 2: for that or you know, we'll understand that. But if if, 435 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 2: if you have kids, ladies, don't sell yourself short or 436 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 2: sell your worst short Listen to me, don't sell yourself short. 437 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 2: And no, lord, your value based on somebody's inability to 438 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 2: need your worst. This bedful that you two still deserve happiness. 439 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 2: Nobody is perfect a lot. You might have three kids, 440 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 2: you might have been with the same indivisual for ten years. 441 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:39,919 Speaker 2: It just didn't work, the three kids and single. So 442 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 2: don't feel like, oh, I'm gonna have to have me 443 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 2: a hot er summer for the next forty years because 444 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 2: nobody want a woman who have three kids. It's not 445 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 2: true because assistency, if you're with that man for ten years, 446 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 2: you shown that you just recognized it's come on, that's right, 447 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 2: that's right, recognize it. So, uh, we need more of 448 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:56,720 Speaker 2: those conversations. 449 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: George because there is a lot of that, you know 450 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 1: that you hear on social media about value and women 451 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 1: and you know women who are not married. I didn't 452 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,639 Speaker 1: know you lived in Dallas. I lived in Dallas. I 453 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: met my ex husband in Dallas. So and he's a great, 454 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 1: great man. And people a were saying, oh, you always 455 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 1: talk about you. Yeah, I do, because even though the 456 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,199 Speaker 1: marriage didn't work out, it was a great man, you know, 457 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,400 Speaker 1: and it's important that we hear each other lift each 458 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: other in that way. And he says that I have 459 00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 1: a great, great ex wife. We have this is our 460 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 1: only child. We still raise her together. We live in 461 00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: the same city together. Great man. Sometimes things just don't 462 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: work out. We were married thirteen years though, and there 463 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: was a lot of value that came with that, and 464 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,439 Speaker 1: a lot of learning and a lot of you know, 465 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: when you meet somebody twenty one, you don't know you 466 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 1: know necessarily how to be a wife. And I told him, 467 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: I said, you know, there was a lot that I 468 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 1: still needed to learn. You know what you tell me, 469 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: Georgie say hold on, wait a minute, stop right there. 470 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:48,840 Speaker 1: So you did everything you were supposed to do with me. 471 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: We actually have back and forth on who could have 472 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:53,919 Speaker 1: did better, and that's great. How God does that? And 473 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,879 Speaker 1: there's not a we're friends. We've been divorced over ten years, 474 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,679 Speaker 1: so it's not a romantic thing. It's just a recognizing that, 475 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: you know, God puts you in my life for that season, 476 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 1: you know, and and there's seasons that we go through. 477 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 1: And when you have disappointments, it doesn't mean you know 478 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:12,360 Speaker 1: that life ends. It's just you know, another season, and 479 00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 1: your worth is not attached to a past situation. But 480 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: I'm very proud of, you know, my ex and I 481 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,680 Speaker 1: and build a house in Dallas. We built one off 482 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,400 Speaker 1: ground up. We had our only child, his only child, 483 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,680 Speaker 1: my only child, and produced the wonderful you know, family 484 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,800 Speaker 1: and divorce is not the end of everything. Sometimes it's 485 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 1: the beginning. But being able to have that relationship and 486 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: knowing your value and him seeing value in you and 487 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:38,239 Speaker 1: me seeing value in him, it's important. I always talk 488 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,480 Speaker 1: about that. People always know, I big up my ex 489 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,480 Speaker 1: allvatity say well, why did y'all get divorced? Well, we 490 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,560 Speaker 1: got divorced. It just didn't work out. But that don't 491 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:46,200 Speaker 1: mean he's not a good man, and it doesn't mean 492 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:48,680 Speaker 1: that I'm not a good woman. We're so accustomed to 493 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,240 Speaker 1: here and all, my ex husband ain't shit, or my 494 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,639 Speaker 1: baby daddy ain't this, ain't that. No no, no, no no, 495 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: had a great ex husband. I met him and we 496 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,479 Speaker 1: didn't have our child until we were married seven years, 497 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: So there was a lot of thought that went into 498 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 1: is this a man that I want, you know, to 499 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,400 Speaker 1: have a child. And I don't regret any of it. 500 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 1: It just was a different season. So I appreciate you 501 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,320 Speaker 1: speaking to that to women because on the internet you 502 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 1: do here you know women danger zone and after you 503 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 1: get this age and after you this and after you that, 504 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 1: and I think the older you get, the better prepared, 505 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 1: the more seasoning you have in a relationship to have 506 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:27,840 Speaker 1: those conversations that you talked about if you're vulnerable, and 507 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,000 Speaker 1: a lot of men don't want to express their vulnerability 508 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,959 Speaker 1: until they reach a certain age, or women you may 509 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:33,399 Speaker 1: not even know the trauma you dealing with. 510 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,480 Speaker 2: So yeah, a lot of guys feel like they can't 511 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:39,320 Speaker 2: express that, especially in our culture, they show us signs 512 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 2: of weakness. And that's why an individual like me and 513 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:47,000 Speaker 2: other influencers, activists, we can show gods that you can 514 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 2: show your emotional side because one of the most dangerous 515 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:55,399 Speaker 2: things is is living emotionless and being mostly nun because 516 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 2: you people I don't want love, they do. People who 517 00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 2: said I won't love be the main one who won't love. 518 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,440 Speaker 2: Afraid it could have been hurt so many times. So 519 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,920 Speaker 2: I want to let my fellas know that it's okay 520 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:08,080 Speaker 2: to show your emotion. It's okay to I like the 521 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 2: song that Ry Wade for that boys don't cry wish wish. 522 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,639 Speaker 2: He was saying, we do cry. But men gotta understand 523 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 2: this as well. You ain't gotta walk. You gotta walk 524 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,119 Speaker 2: around like you beat the dog all the time. You 525 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 2: ain't gotta be this beat gorilla. It's okay you heal that. 526 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:25,399 Speaker 2: Express yourself. The day you learn to express yourself, today 527 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,520 Speaker 2: you ready to date or court or be in a 528 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 2: relationship and being a thereage. Don't go into a situation 529 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,360 Speaker 2: none because you're hurting everybody around you. But most important, 530 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 2: you're the person you's looking in the mirror and see yourself. Yeah. 531 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 1: Now, let me speak to the women though on that. 532 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: Since you said that to the men, women, you have 533 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 1: to make it a safe place as well, because if 534 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,639 Speaker 1: you're telling a man, oh, you don't speak, show me 535 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,920 Speaker 1: your vulnerability, and it's not safe. You know, people get 536 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,680 Speaker 1: my person of my politics confused with my real life. 537 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 1: It's so funny because I'm the same person. But you 538 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: don't have access to who I am in my personal relationship. 539 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: You know, my go get you know, who I am 540 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:04,719 Speaker 1: with a politician is a lying and trying to take 541 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 1: from my community. Is not who I am with my man. 542 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: You don't get to know that because you don't have 543 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: access to that intimate side of me. But that intimate 544 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:15,199 Speaker 1: side of me is slow to speak and more to 545 00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:18,879 Speaker 1: listen and discernment and not quick to pop off to 546 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 1: think through what it is that I'm saying. They have 547 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: to learn that joy that to learn. Okay, let me 548 00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:24,560 Speaker 1: get my thoughts together, let me see, let me make 549 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: sure I'm addressing this with kindness and patience and love 550 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,360 Speaker 1: and gentle. So if a man is coming and saying, man, 551 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: I'm really feeling a way about this, and you're saying, well, 552 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 1: you know you need to say that, and you're not 553 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 1: recognizing that and sitting in there at that moment and 554 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: being slow, that's why it's important that women read in 555 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: proverbs about the wise woman being slow to speak, you know, 556 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: and moving with grace and so that it doesn't mean 557 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,720 Speaker 1: being a pushover. It just simply means that you are 558 00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: you're allowing a space, you know, to be that spiritual nurturer. 559 00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:55,960 Speaker 1: But at the same time, the man has, like you said, 560 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: be comfortable being vulnerable enough and to speak up. But 561 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:00,640 Speaker 1: she got to know what to do with that. See, 562 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,119 Speaker 1: anybody can give I can give you a bunch of 563 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:04,920 Speaker 1: materials to cook, but if you don't know how to cook, 564 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: you can't do nothing with it. I can give you 565 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:09,879 Speaker 1: ground beef and some season in salt and this and 566 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: that and say, hey, girl, do something with it. But 567 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:13,000 Speaker 1: if you don't know how to cook with it, if 568 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,400 Speaker 1: you don't know how to put it together like Big 569 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:16,400 Speaker 1: Mama then used to do. They could make about fifty 570 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:18,919 Speaker 1: different dishes off beans. If you don't know how to 571 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,960 Speaker 1: do nothing with it, then what's the point of him 572 00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:23,760 Speaker 1: being vulnerable? What's the point of that, good man, if 573 00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,080 Speaker 1: you can't do nothing with it? And that's what I 574 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 1: was that I would say to my sisters, when he's 575 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,440 Speaker 1: bringing you that hurt and that pain, and that strength 576 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:35,040 Speaker 1: and that ambition and his frustration and his irritability and 577 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 1: all this stuff, what are you going to do with it. 578 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 1: But at the same time, women we have to steal 579 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:40,879 Speaker 1: make sure that we're not cold dependent. So a lot 580 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,919 Speaker 1: of times we confuse, you know, being a nurturer to 581 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: being somebody's mama. And so it's important you know that 582 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:52,840 Speaker 1: you're operating in your spiritual backbone versus somebody's mama. And 583 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 1: now you're finding yourself broken and traumatized because you're trying 584 00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,200 Speaker 1: to heal something that is just not your job to fix. 585 00:27:59,200 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 1: Would you agree with that? 586 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 2: Agree? And I want to piggyback when when he was 587 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,840 Speaker 2: speaking about ladies, let the man vent it's just ladies. 588 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 2: I don't know when to speak or although I wanted 589 00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 2: to tell to him, he said, like learn to read 590 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 2: the room. Learn to read the room less im perod it. 591 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,680 Speaker 2: You know when you when you if you're sniffing, or 592 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,679 Speaker 2: to come to the house. You know you had a 593 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,679 Speaker 2: long day of work. He don't want to hear about bills. 594 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,480 Speaker 2: He don't want to hear about what the kids doing. 595 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,640 Speaker 2: He want to come on relaxing and find peace. He'll 596 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:29,359 Speaker 2: get to where you get to it. But a man 597 00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,119 Speaker 2: don't want to always come on for like it's always 598 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 2: something and won't pee. If you if the key to 599 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 2: a man's heart is peace, you know, a man gotta oscillate, 600 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,440 Speaker 2: just like y'all. Sure, when the disciple was sleep, he 601 00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:47,120 Speaker 2: went up there and prayed. He oscillated. No, what God 602 00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 2: has called us to do and season or that particular moment, 603 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 2: or have become a better man, or what a man 604 00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 2: is battling with for whatever, let that man seek his 605 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 2: peace and oscillation. Come on to it, and he gonna 606 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 2: come come to you better be more relieved from what's 607 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: the We've been fighting outside in the in the world 608 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,600 Speaker 2: all day. Our house will be our sanctuary. We find peace. 609 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 2: And I'm thankful that, uh my wife that showed she 610 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,960 Speaker 2: can't understand that. My wife knows that like I'm a 611 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 2: type of care I have oscillate. I'm a different type 612 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,080 Speaker 2: of individual. I'm not like there, but I have so 613 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 2: many gifts. It's benneuveral because I have to hear most 614 00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 2: hot telling me. I have deserned me visions, all different things, 615 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,360 Speaker 2: got the most how it showed me. So I operate 616 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 2: a little different on a lot of people. I'm very intentional. 617 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 2: I love improvement, I love growth, and my wife knows 618 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 2: that I don't get content on get complacent. You know, 619 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,200 Speaker 2: if God give me an opportunity to be better today, 620 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 2: I'm looking forward tomorrow. So she That's why I say 621 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,840 Speaker 2: it's important to though, uh, what type of man you're 622 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 2: dealing with, you know, and that's gonna show you every 623 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:49,600 Speaker 2: they need to knows. Just make sure you read their own. 624 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 1: But I want to just piggyback on that too, because 625 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,560 Speaker 1: the type and you're absolutely right about that man, you know, 626 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:11,760 Speaker 1: isolating and giving him peace. But like women, like myself, 627 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 1: we are we are called to do many of the 628 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,479 Speaker 1: things that you were, like giving to the world, and 629 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:19,240 Speaker 1: I just want to speak to that because all women 630 00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 1: are not out here doing what I do are. Some 631 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 1: of my girlfriends are activists and are constantly you know, giving, giving, given, 632 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: given given, and ministers of sorts and we want peace too. 633 00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: And it's so funny because guys they'll be like, oh, yeah, 634 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 1: let's I want to talk to you about politics. I 635 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,080 Speaker 1: want to talk to you about That's the last thing, George. 636 00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 1: I'm trying to talk any anything that interferes with my peace. 637 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:49,360 Speaker 1: Bickering back and forth. You ain't got to worry about 638 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 1: getting peace on me because you the piece is plentiful 639 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 1: on this end because I literally can't handle you and 640 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,600 Speaker 1: thirty thousand trolls coming at me. I just wanted to 641 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 1: speak to that. You know, a lot of and may 642 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:04,560 Speaker 1: not have that dynamic that me and myself and you know, 643 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 1: a couple of my girlfriends that are in that space 644 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 1: on what we're dealing with, even as women. And so 645 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:14,320 Speaker 1: I do want men to know that it's okay if 646 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:17,560 Speaker 1: it's not a matter of only the woman's supposed to 647 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,480 Speaker 1: vide the man piece. It really sometimes comes down to 648 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,720 Speaker 1: whose job is what. And you may it's not that 649 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 1: your job is not as stressful as mine, but if 650 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:30,640 Speaker 1: you're not dealing with white supremacy like I am, meaning literally, 651 00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: you know, fifty thousand trolls and I'm not exaggerating, like 652 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 1: literally fifty thousand comments, you know, coming at you and 653 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 1: texting you and inboxing you and going to your and 654 00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: you're fighting a war, you know. Mentally, the last thing 655 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,360 Speaker 1: I want to do is trip with you about you know, 656 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,520 Speaker 1: who didn't take out the trash or who didn't I 657 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:55,960 Speaker 1: literally have nothing left to give to a dispute at all. So, 658 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,960 Speaker 1: and there's a misconception about women like me. They think 659 00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 1: that we're always on this all the time, and that's 660 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 1: not it at all. So I'm glad you spoke to 661 00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,560 Speaker 1: that about being a man's piece, But I just want 662 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,720 Speaker 1: to speak to that too, that women need peace too, 663 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,960 Speaker 1: especially if she's you know, battling the world. And it 664 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,560 Speaker 1: doesn't make a man weak if he recognizes that in 665 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:15,720 Speaker 1: a woman. Can you speak to that? 666 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 2: So, you know, but I do agree, just like when 667 00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 2: dudes need peace, women need peace as well, not only 668 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 2: if not only because of the word, but what they 669 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 2: you know, what they have to do at home as well, 670 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,440 Speaker 2: like those who have kids and some of our housewife 671 00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 2: you know. So I do agree. Uh, for a relationship 672 00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:37,720 Speaker 2: or a mayrisson be stable is both of you have 673 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 2: to have understanding. Both of you need your space. Hmmm, 674 00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,000 Speaker 2: different how we want our spaces, just totally different. She 675 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:48,800 Speaker 2: might like to read and this person might The man 676 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 2: liked us so just and then everybody love language different, 677 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:54,840 Speaker 2: everybody what they want is different. You just got to 678 00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:58,000 Speaker 2: understand your person. But to understand your person, you got 679 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 2: to be able to read their own. You can't. You 680 00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,840 Speaker 2: don't know you're in like you do. So, uh, that's 681 00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 2: how you protect the front door in the back door 682 00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 2: on the side door. Mm hmmm, mm hmm. 683 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 1: I love to read or wrong. And sometimes you don't 684 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: have to match the energy all the time. If you 685 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,240 Speaker 1: you on one, you can be on one. I can 686 00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 1: be not on one and just let you be on one. 687 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:23,480 Speaker 1: I had learning George, I wouldn't always because in politics 688 00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm matching your energy. But yeah, I'm absolutely matching your energy. 689 00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 1: But in people that I love, you can't match your energy. 690 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,600 Speaker 1: I have to move softer than you, but have them 691 00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 1: a little a little bit more grace than you, a 692 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,360 Speaker 1: little bit more patience than you, because if you if 693 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:38,960 Speaker 1: you coming at me and I'm coming at you, we're 694 00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:41,480 Speaker 1: gonna always it's gonna always be this all the time. 695 00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:45,760 Speaker 2: Right, But you know I tell you, I tell women now, 696 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 2: I say you got to be quiet, but keep her cute, 697 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:49,880 Speaker 2: keep it, keep it cute, keep it feeling. 698 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 1: It's okay to be quiet. I know you don't want 699 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,560 Speaker 1: to say because the women don't like. No, women be 700 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,720 Speaker 1: slow to speak. I had to learn to be slow 701 00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,160 Speaker 1: to speak, even if he's saying speak, speak speak. No, 702 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit on this a minute. I'm I'm gonna 703 00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:03,960 Speaker 1: sit on this a minute. 704 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:10,120 Speaker 2: The way you were be combatant, you know. Or I'm 705 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,080 Speaker 2: not the type of individual. I don't like to argue 706 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 2: and I'm patient, Like, let's discuss. I'm big on discussion. Yeah, 707 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:25,920 Speaker 2: let's say if if the own the tones says the 708 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 2: if your tone high, my tone high? Just go higher? 709 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Place somewhere else. Why you know why I 710 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:35,960 Speaker 2: don't like all right, y'all tell people I argued by 711 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,280 Speaker 2: hour when you when you can be the same person. 712 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:40,560 Speaker 2: But if you sleep right beside this person, you can 713 00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,480 Speaker 2: take that time and put into something that's gonna benefit 714 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:46,359 Speaker 2: you both. It just takes. It takes. You know, people 715 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,360 Speaker 2: work different. You know the type of person you're with, 716 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,680 Speaker 2: it's what you become. Basically, I'm not an argue I'm 717 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:55,879 Speaker 2: not an argument a type cat. Uh. You know, we'll 718 00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:00,000 Speaker 2: have a disagreement, but I would like now yelling type. 719 00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,560 Speaker 2: Why that's not me. I'm big on communication. I came 720 00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,799 Speaker 2: from background. I've seen I've seen that man arguing. That's 721 00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 2: not me. That's that's not who I am. Just not 722 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,160 Speaker 2: what I stand for. Uh Uh. I sacrificed a lot 723 00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:17,800 Speaker 2: to make the change before I met what I see 724 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,480 Speaker 2: none that my childhood should be a part of my future. 725 00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,359 Speaker 2: What I till ihood, trauma should not be a part 726 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,400 Speaker 2: of my future, in my in my merit. What I 727 00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:28,239 Speaker 2: see in my past is not why I should break 728 00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 2: my present. Here. We got other things we do. We're 729 00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 2: gonna talk that tall, We're gonna chill, we gonna eat, 730 00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,480 Speaker 2: we gonna praise God, we gonna love one of them 731 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 2: if I don't. From Ladies and Jem readthrow yeah. 732 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:43,640 Speaker 1: And it's okay to be It's okay to be the 733 00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:46,000 Speaker 1: one to walk away. You know. I have a very 734 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 1: strong personality, so people assume every battle I'm ready to no, no, no, 735 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,880 Speaker 1: It's okay to just say no. Not with you. I 736 00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,319 Speaker 1: might do that with them, with these politicians are out 737 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:59,480 Speaker 1: here with this, but with you, I kind of you know, 738 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't want to be that way with you. 739 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to be on the battleground with you. 740 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:07,320 Speaker 1: That's exhausting, George, Like literally it's exhausting. So we just 741 00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,880 Speaker 1: have to figure out, you know, how to communicate, and 742 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,720 Speaker 1: I've had to learn that. Sometimes it takes a minute 743 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:16,279 Speaker 1: for you to get it. But I am grateful that 744 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: you know, I'm further in my journey than what I was. 745 00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:22,600 Speaker 1: You know, five years ago, ten years ago, every day 746 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,719 Speaker 1: you get better, but love is definitely the center of 747 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,319 Speaker 1: it all and knowing that it's worth it, you know. 748 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,719 Speaker 1: And again this is not just romantic, this is platonic 749 00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:34,080 Speaker 1: relationships as well, you know, just being able to communicate, 750 00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,440 Speaker 1: to talk through it and not but his I have 751 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 1: enough enemies on the outside. I don't need none at home. 752 00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,960 Speaker 1: But I just appreciate you stopping by. George just went 753 00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 1: longer than what I expected. I didn't think I was 754 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,799 Speaker 1: gonna hold you this long. Where can they find you 755 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:50,520 Speaker 1: on your Instagram, your YouTube, give them your information. 756 00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 2: Anywhere you can google George White the speaker, You don't find. 757 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,080 Speaker 1: It where where God has sent you. I'm gonna keep 758 00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 1: listening to you talk that talk. You are inspiring people, 759 00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,520 Speaker 1: brother in a major way, and just wanted to be 760 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:02,600 Speaker 1: obedient to God and give you your flowers. I don't 761 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,600 Speaker 1: even interview a lot, I do mostly commentary every week, 762 00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,400 Speaker 1: but I wanted to give you your flowers and be 763 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:12,239 Speaker 1: obedient to what God has called me to do. Thank 764 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,960 Speaker 1: you so much George for joining us. For those who 765 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 1: want to watch this again or listen to it again, 766 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,919 Speaker 1: it will be on iHeartRadio. On my podcast Straight Shot 767 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,120 Speaker 1: and No Chaser on Charlemagne The God's Network, which is 768 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: the Black Effect podcast Network. I'm gonna make sure I 769 00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,799 Speaker 1: give you a shout out tomorrow on Breakfast Club so 770 00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,680 Speaker 1: you can have two in one week, just to show 771 00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 1: that God is faithful and committed and he hears you. 772 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,279 Speaker 1: We hear you, We love you, we appreciate it. Give 773 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,200 Speaker 1: my love to your queen for holding it down. I 774 00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 1: know that it really does take men and women to 775 00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 1: make this happen, and you would be nothing without her 776 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:49,000 Speaker 1: and vice versa without having this streand you know what 777 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:50,960 Speaker 1: I mean when I say nothing, But you're so much 778 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:53,440 Speaker 1: stronger together and that says a lot. So thank you 779 00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:58,680 Speaker 1: for your transparency and God's follow George White, thank you 780 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:03,399 Speaker 1: so much, Brother Lessons. If you like what you heard 781 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,960 Speaker 1: on Straight Shot No Chaser, please subscribe and drop a 782 00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,239 Speaker 1: five star review and tell a friend. 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