Speaker 1: I got the answers. Sway, I'm happy to know that
Speaker 1: you got the answers, maybe because sometimes I just don't
Speaker 1: be no way dead as. Hey, I'm Cadine and we're
Speaker 1: the ellis Is. You may know us from posting funny
Speaker 1: videos with our boys and reading each other publicly as
Speaker 1: a form of therapy. Wait, I'll make you need therapy
Speaker 1: most days. Wow. And one more important thing to mention,
Speaker 1: we're married. We are. We created this podcast to open
Speaker 1: dialogue about some of life's most taboo topics, things most
Speaker 1: folks don't want to talk about through the lens of
Speaker 1: a millennium married couple. Dead as is the term that
Speaker 1: we say every day. So when we say dead ass,
Speaker 1: we're actually saying facts, the truth, the whole truth, and
Speaker 1: nothing but the truth. Were about to take Phillow talk
Speaker 1: to a whole new level. Dead ass starts right now.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take us all the way back back in
Speaker 1: the time, two thousand level. Okay, March, Okay, you was
Speaker 1: big pregnant. He was big, big pregnant, big, big pregnant
Speaker 1: human is pregnant. And at the time, you know you
Speaker 1: weren't that big. Just kidding, right, But I think at
Speaker 1: the time we had two cars. The time we had
Speaker 1: two cars, we were living in the apartment and we
Speaker 1: were both working. Yes, we did have two cars because
Speaker 1: we're both working. Yes, still at MAC and I was
Speaker 1: still working at Paris c Speed School. And I remember
Speaker 1: we were going grocery shopping and we got the groceries.
Speaker 1: Now listen to this story. All we got the grocery.
Speaker 1: We didn't have no kids. We got the groceries. We
Speaker 1: got to the apartment. I had a pregnant wife who
Speaker 1: couldn't lift anything, and we had two cars. Codeine used
Speaker 1: to have to park the car in front of the
Speaker 1: in front of the church. Un let's pray it doesn't
Speaker 1: get told. I would have to load the other car,
Speaker 1: unload the groceries, double parked in front of the apartment.
Speaker 1: Unload the groceries. Take the groceries upstairs, multiple trips. If
Speaker 1: we had a lot of groceries, so okay, we'll go upstairs.
Speaker 1: I would load them into the elevator, ok with waiting
Speaker 1: the elevator, send them up, send the elevator back down.
Speaker 1: I would load the groceries again, send the elevator up,
Speaker 1: go up with her. Take the groceries from the elevator
Speaker 1: and walk them into the apartment and then go back
Speaker 1: downstairs and park two cars. The whole time i'm parking
Speaker 1: the first car, I'm praying that the other car doesn't
Speaker 1: get told from being in front of the church. And
Speaker 1: we needed to cars both freelancing, so not freelancing, you're
Speaker 1: working the long out. So UM at that moment, like
Speaker 1: I remember this vividly, dealing with that those more, especially
Speaker 1: towards the end of the pregnancy, I said to myself,
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna have my wife be pregnant while living
Speaker 1: in this apartment. Ever. Again, that was two eleven. Fast
Speaker 1: forward two sixteen and seventeen, we had two more beautiful boys.
Speaker 1: So that was besides the point. But during that time
Speaker 1: I learned so much about how to get you through
Speaker 1: the pregnancy that now I got all the answers. Sway,
Speaker 1: let me find out. You made a list. I got
Speaker 1: a list, y'all, a list all right? Now, let me
Speaker 1: see how accurate this list is. This will be fun.
Speaker 1: So for karaoke, I have a special song that UM.
Speaker 1: Typically at black weddings, the grooms sing this song to
Speaker 1: their mom to it, or they dance. Yea, they danced
Speaker 1: with their moms to this song like, well, is it
Speaker 1: a if it's a West Indian family? Chance to that
Speaker 1: there's another song? Definitely, I'm gonna say country American. Okay,
Speaker 1: I didn't see that. I didn't. I didn't dance with
Speaker 1: this to my song. I didanced the Dear Mama by Tupac. Yes,
Speaker 1: but of course my mother's down for the course. She's
Speaker 1: you know, she's a revolutionary and she knows my love
Speaker 1: for Tupac and as y'all know too because Cairo's middle
Speaker 1: name is Shakoor. But um, this song here, I'm going
Speaker 1: to dedicate to you because you are the mama of mine. Now,
Speaker 1: four boys, I still get chills every time I hear
Speaker 1: four boys. Let meet mom me he man, Mama, Mama,
Speaker 1: you knew love you, you knew I love you, Mamma, Mamma,
Speaker 1: you're the queen of mam Okay, vocals come through your love.
Speaker 1: It is like your love is life from hears from
Speaker 1: the starting is I don't know, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know the word. Just google the lyrics before you
Speaker 1: try to sing. It's all about the melody. I don't know.
Speaker 1: If you've seen my eyes started to water because you know,
Speaker 1: what I envisioned Jackson getting married, and look at you,
Speaker 1: look at the emotion. I cannot believe myself. Continue, go ahead,
Speaker 1: cry you was like food to muscle guys home. Now
Speaker 1: you see what I go through. This is why some
Speaker 1: point to talk about this because so emotional, emotional. But
Speaker 1: let me get to my list. It wasn't sing that
Speaker 1: did that. You remember those days, man, Let me tell
Speaker 1: you those days. I thought they were never being into
Speaker 1: it and never being into it. Was a lot, It
Speaker 1: was a lot. There's a lot. And then you figured
Speaker 1: that was when I was pregnant with Jackson, so we
Speaker 1: hadn't even had him yet. Then you throw Jackson into
Speaker 1: the mix. His grocery, there's laundry, there's this, there's a baby,
Speaker 1: there's strollers, this car is that, And we literally vowed
Speaker 1: like we're going to get out of this place before
Speaker 1: we have another child. Five years passed, and then back
Speaker 1: to back, back to back, three children in that apartment,
Speaker 1: and then things got progressively more difficult. Though I did
Speaker 1: learned about delivering groceries. Deliver groceries helps, That definitely helps.
Speaker 1: Laundry didn't. That was the guy that tried to make
Speaker 1: it in one trip. You ever seen a memesingers red
Speaker 1: try to make it one trip, I'm trapped to be hurt,
Speaker 1: and I like, I just get to get the door impossible.
Speaker 1: But then it used to be the delivery man showing
Speaker 1: up some wedding bullets like, oh my god, how many
Speaker 1: people are you feeding in this house? I'm like, listen,
Speaker 1: I got a house, three boys in a husband. So
Speaker 1: when KEI fool decided to deliver, that was the best
Speaker 1: thing that of never. I was like, I'm gonna paid
Speaker 1: delivery fee without any problems. If I'm being honest, full transparency.
Speaker 1: This list was not developed just because I'm like, I
Speaker 1: need to take care of my wife. This list was
Speaker 1: developed from my sanity, the list that you made as
Speaker 1: a husband, as a husband taking care of some things
Speaker 1: that I need. Let me explain to something these ten things,
Speaker 1: these ten things, and I'm putting on this list. If
Speaker 1: every dude who has a pregnant woman that they're taking
Speaker 1: care of it gets these ten things on his list,
Speaker 1: their life gonna be easier. Okay, Yes, to listen up, listen, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you listen up. Women, I'm gonna put them
Speaker 1: in order from not least important because they're all important,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna put them in order, from ten to one.
Speaker 1: Number ten, number ten. Let's see how uber important pregnancy pillow. Yes,
Speaker 1: m M guess that is. Actually Once again, Codeine has
Speaker 1: not seen this list, so as I speak the list,
Speaker 1: she'll talk about the importance of it. Pregnancy pillow is
Speaker 1: important because of posture when you sleep. Most pregnant women
Speaker 1: after a while cannot sleep on their stomach anymore, so
Speaker 1: they tend to sleep on your side. If your back
Speaker 1: is not in alignment, you can't sleep well. The baby
Speaker 1: will be on your blodder here here there. So a
Speaker 1: lot of women tend to like wrap their legs around
Speaker 1: the pillow, wrapped the pillow around their head. It's like
Speaker 1: they hugged the pillow. Now, I used to be her
Speaker 1: pregnancy pillow before she was pregnant. But what I was
Speaker 1: told was that I'm too hot. He's too hot. The
Speaker 1: body heat. She has no use for me. So now
Speaker 1: why I'm discarded? Now, Okay, this is what that means.
Speaker 1: Pillow him him. The pillow is him. The pillow is
Speaker 1: like six to go all way down to the bottom
Speaker 1: of the bed, all the way to the top, and
Speaker 1: it wraps all the way around her body. So every
Speaker 1: time I try to get close, I feel him it's
Speaker 1: like a big candy case, just like blocking me. I'd
Speaker 1: be like, yo, this is wild, like like why is
Speaker 1: this do in the bed with us? You have not
Speaker 1: slept on you or near you the past five months.
Speaker 1: And then I'm not gonna lie. I'm not jealous. Are
Speaker 1: you serious? You don't feel some kind of way? Can
Speaker 1: we be? Can we be transparent? Here on dead ask
Speaker 1: the podcast. I've gotten some of the best sleep in
Speaker 1: the last two months because I'm not at the edge
Speaker 1: of the bed because you don't want to be near
Speaker 1: me because of the heat, so you all the way
Speaker 1: on your bed. My bad, baby, I'm sorry. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: but I'm preparing. You deserve I deserved, maybe I deserve men.
Speaker 1: It's throw none of the words. I deserve to know
Speaker 1: the words pregnancy pillow Number ten, number nine, yoga ball.
Speaker 1: Do yourself a favor, gentleman, gets her a yoga ball.
Speaker 1: Once you get to the third trimester, She's gonna want
Speaker 1: to sit down, but not She don't want to have
Speaker 1: to feel any weight around her. She don't want to
Speaker 1: sit on the couch and feel heavy. The yoga ball
Speaker 1: allows her to feel bouncy, the buoyancy, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So it allows playing on gravity for a bit.
Speaker 1: It kind of takes because sit down here. Let me
Speaker 1: tell you. By the time I'm done an episode, tell
Speaker 1: them I can barely walk, so the yoga ball helps. Plus,
Speaker 1: while she's bouncing on the ball while you're watching the game,
Speaker 1: two sites you want to see. Trust me. The question
Speaker 1: is that you're gonna do some yoga with me though,
Speaker 1: YOA doing yoga with you is how we got here.
Speaker 1: Make sure you stretch, maintain the flexibility flexibility to obviously, yes,
Speaker 1: we talked. We were to maneuver around the belly. If
Speaker 1: you drop, pick up what I'm dropping. So I tell
Speaker 1: a quick story. When I was playing football, I should
Speaker 1: stretch every day, all day to three times a day.
Speaker 1: Continued to stretch me. It was you know, my hips
Speaker 1: was real flexible. Right as I got older and I
Speaker 1: stopped playing football, everything I do is linear because I'm
Speaker 1: on the treadmill, run, I jump rope, so my hips
Speaker 1: aren't as flexible. So as we were trying to continue
Speaker 1: the hanky panky, as the belly was getting bigger, I
Speaker 1: had to maneuver around the belly and my hips ain't
Speaker 1: the same as that used to whole cramp in the
Speaker 1: middle of the session. I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: wait once you ladies, when you hear your man go
Speaker 1: it's not good, it's two things. The one thing is
Speaker 1: either he about to end the whole session or that
Speaker 1: cramp is that Charlie, who are stuck in there? So
Speaker 1: you you know it was bad. I had to massage
Speaker 1: it out, and then you get back to got back
Speaker 1: to business. You know, we're always gonna find a way
Speaker 1: to get back to you. So that's number that's number
Speaker 1: two right there. We got the pregnancy pillar. We got
Speaker 1: the yoga ball, number eight on the list. Number three,
Speaker 1: being back, get the being back. I got downstairs and
Speaker 1: then oh, yes, so we have yes, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: because yes the sack. What is it called the love side? Yes,
Speaker 1: this this is becoming between You're not gonna pose that.
Speaker 1: Don't pose that nasty. Your mother's gonna hear this. Look,
Speaker 1: we should know not to listen to these episodes. The
Speaker 1: love sack is good because it's like a memory phone
Speaker 1: that she drops in and once again, like gravity, just
Speaker 1: allows her to feel free. It takes all the pressure
Speaker 1: off her lower back, upper back. Either they get in
Speaker 1: their cuddle with me, or they flip. Yeah, they do
Speaker 1: front flips and almost kill themselves. And k is mad.
Speaker 1: So number seven, number four total, but number seven on
Speaker 1: the list. I'll blanket, okay, And I'm gonna tell you why,
Speaker 1: because number six is air conditioning. And what happens is
Speaker 1: KaDee will go from cold to hot instantaneously, and once
Speaker 1: she puts the A C on Alaska, she'll be mad
Speaker 1: at me if the blanket is not within arm's reach.
Speaker 1: But the problem is, right that we're in existing here
Speaker 1: with three adults in the house, right, and my mom,
Speaker 1: being a Native Islander, always likes it warm in here, hot,
Speaker 1: so she'll go through an entire summer with no A C,
Speaker 1: no A C. So it becomes a thing where I'm
Speaker 1: walking past the thermostat right, and I'll go ahead and
Speaker 1: hit the temperature down, So I'll go down to like
Speaker 1: seventy seventy two just to keep it level. I mean
Speaker 1: in our bedroom, maybe like sixty. It depends on the time, right,
Speaker 1: And then literally I'd be like, man, what is something's
Speaker 1: wrong with the HVAC unit? Something I'll walk past, look
Speaker 1: at the thermostat what does it say, Clarendon Jamaica. Mom
Speaker 1: thinks she's home. You don't even be a number no more,
Speaker 1: just be on hot. So at that rate, I'm just
Speaker 1: like there's a battle. And then poor Devo. You know,
Speaker 1: many times I woke up thought I had COVID, woke
Speaker 1: up sweating with the chills, not knowing what the fun
Speaker 1: is going on. I look at the dermostatic Dean got
Speaker 1: it on sixty three. I'm like the Dean really really
Speaker 1: just like you're not because you got all the blankets,
Speaker 1: two sheets and him in the bed and I'm just there.
Speaker 1: I'm just there like freezing, thinking like this something's wrong,
Speaker 1: like this is not right. I mean, it's like the
Speaker 1: warmth up here and the cuddle, but then it's like
Speaker 1: the leg out. You always gonna have the leg out,
Speaker 1: like the one leg out. And then I don't sleep
Speaker 1: with any clothes on anymore at the point, because then
Speaker 1: you get wrapped up in it and it's just too much.
Speaker 1: It's just too much, y'all. So So now I got
Speaker 1: seven and six is a blanket and air conditioning because
Speaker 1: in the apartment, taking it back to the story, we
Speaker 1: didn't have central a c. We had an air conditioner,
Speaker 1: and we had an air conditioner in our room, conditioning
Speaker 1: Jackson's room rooms, and the air condition the living room.
Speaker 1: So if you walk from the living room to the
Speaker 1: dining room to the kitchen, especially in the summertime, because
Speaker 1: you've been pregnant the summertime twice, you would be sweating
Speaker 1: bald by the time you go to the refrigerator. So
Speaker 1: Codini would like go to the kitchen, she would be
Speaker 1: in the living she would walk in the live room.
Speaker 1: When I go in there, I'm like, babe, I thought
Speaker 1: she's coming back. I'm in the fridge. I'm like, what happened?
Speaker 1: She's it just got hot and I just do not
Speaker 1: want to leave right now. She's just being a freezer
Speaker 1: in the fridge temperature. I said, I'm going to make
Speaker 1: my life easier on hers. I'm going to make sure
Speaker 1: we have central a c the next time she gets pregnant.
Speaker 1: That was one of the biggest things. Um, if I
Speaker 1: had to put anything on the list, I would the
Speaker 1: first thing I would say, is a house. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Because it's a comfortable space. A comfortable space, right,
Speaker 1: but I know pretty women on like stairs you don't
Speaker 1: like to move around a lot. You don't like people.
Speaker 1: So if you gotta getting elevator, deal with people in
Speaker 1: the elevator, you don't like that. So if there was
Speaker 1: one thing that I would say, I I didn't want
Speaker 1: to put it on the list, because not everybody can
Speaker 1: get a home. But having a woman in her space
Speaker 1: is like the best thing. And that's what I always
Speaker 1: told you. I said, I can't wait until the next
Speaker 1: time I get you pregnant. I can have you in
Speaker 1: your space where you can feel comfortable, which I feel
Speaker 1: like you didn't promise that, And here we are, Thank goodness,
Speaker 1: I've been very comfortable this time around. So now we
Speaker 1: get into the top five. Right Those those other five
Speaker 1: very very important. Let me recap those pregnancy pillow, yoga ball,
Speaker 1: bean bag, blankets, air conditioning. You agree with those? Right
Speaker 1: now we get to the top five. Number five very
Speaker 1: very important, especially if your wife or baby's mother has
Speaker 1: Melani a gallon of raw shay butter ah, keep the skin.
Speaker 1: Let's oh my god, ahead ahead. Elasticity. Well, I couldn't
Speaker 1: say that struggle moment. Struggle moment for sure, but no,
Speaker 1: that is very true. I mean, people use many different
Speaker 1: concoctions at this point. Um, for me, it's all about
Speaker 1: just keeping the hydration. I don't really have a science
Speaker 1: to it at this point, but as long as I'm
Speaker 1: oiled up and greased uff, you don't really care, because
Speaker 1: you know, I feel greasy all the time. I don't
Speaker 1: mind it. But I know you used to have the
Speaker 1: shade butter was so raw. It was like it was
Speaker 1: like a brick. Like it wasn't the massage, but it
Speaker 1: was a brick that I had to like press my
Speaker 1: fingers in and get it out here. You got to
Speaker 1: kind of like work it, and then once you work it,
Speaker 1: it becomes the oil. And then once I put the
Speaker 1: oil on the stomach, I used to rub the stomach
Speaker 1: all the time. Do it now with all the different
Speaker 1: concoctions you got, but make sure you get a gallon
Speaker 1: of shade butter. And pro tip, don't forget to do
Speaker 1: your legs, thighs, but like that whole upper hip region
Speaker 1: because you remember with jack and that's the best favorite
Speaker 1: part of course. But with Jackson, I was so diligent
Speaker 1: about my stomach doing it all the time that I
Speaker 1: completely neglected my upper thigh, not knowing like, oh, since
Speaker 1: you're gonna gain some weight there too. And of course
Speaker 1: I always had a couple of stretch marks here and
Speaker 1: there after you always had, but it wasn't growing. But
Speaker 1: then it definitely got a little bit worse. As there's
Speaker 1: nothing worse about stretch marks. I'm meaning sorry. As a woman,
Speaker 1: sometimes I embraced them and they are where they are.
Speaker 1: But in terms of like the visibility, I feel like,
Speaker 1: never meta, dude, ever, that's it. Damn shortly fine, but
Speaker 1: she got them stretch marks on her thighs. I've never
Speaker 1: not one time heard a man ever say that. First
Speaker 1: of all, I've never ever heard women say that. You've
Speaker 1: never heard of women complain about marks, Not a woman
Speaker 1: who's attracted to women. I've never heard another woman who
Speaker 1: attracted to women saying I would talk to shorty, but
Speaker 1: she got some stretch me internal never you know women,
Speaker 1: you know, All I'm saying is is that I've embraced mine.
Speaker 1: Because I've embraced them too. That means a lot to me.
Speaker 1: I put them in I count them too. It'd be like,
Speaker 1: do you know the checks? What does those calls? One
Speaker 1: to three shang? Every time I see when I'll be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I did that appreciate badge of honor. I put them
Speaker 1: stretch marks on them. It's so good. Um, I'm at
Speaker 1: this point. I'm like, you know what, it's all good.
Speaker 1: It's gotten me these beautiful boys and um little booty
Speaker 1: low cake and I'll rock with it. You know what
Speaker 1: I mean? It is what it is? Number four? Oh this, oh,
Speaker 1: this one is important. Pregnancy band, the pregnancy band joint
Speaker 1: that goes underneath the stomach to lift that. Yes, that
Speaker 1: is a must. That is a must. That that right there.
Speaker 1: Let me explain something to you at the end the
Speaker 1: end the third trimester that her crotch is gonna feel
Speaker 1: like it's falling out. And it's pretty much because the
Speaker 1: baby's like regurg to take the stuff. And I tell
Speaker 1: you that I feel like my whole vagina is gonna
Speaker 1: fall out. And I was just like, you know what,
Speaker 1: let me make sure that for baby number four she
Speaker 1: has these things so that you don't have to be
Speaker 1: stressed about you're gonna worry about it. Plus it just
Speaker 1: keeps the baby tucked in the for extra weeks. It
Speaker 1: provides a lift, you know, it takes that pressure off.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine even like moms with multiples like, I
Speaker 1: know someone who's having twins, and I was like, girl,
Speaker 1: you have to get this on Amazon because that weight
Speaker 1: sometimes and the way it settles into your pelvis. But
Speaker 1: guess what, also, it helps with stretch marks because if
Speaker 1: your skin is the only thing holding your skin and
Speaker 1: your muscles obviously the only thing holding on to the baby,
Speaker 1: and it's just hanging. The more it hangs, the more
Speaker 1: stretching is gonna get. But if you have something holding
Speaker 1: it up, you know what I'm saying, It helps the skin.
Speaker 1: I told you, I got the I got the answer. Sway.
Speaker 1: Don't never ask me how how because I know how.
Speaker 1: Boom all right. Number three very very important because I
Speaker 1: watch you do this every day. Get that woman leggings
Speaker 1: in every single color, every color, like every single game maternity.
Speaker 1: Enjoy it on Amazon. The ones that under your breast,
Speaker 1: those are great. They come all the way up, they
Speaker 1: really do, and they grow they pretty much as you grow.
Speaker 1: They will always cover. This is not the worst than
Speaker 1: putting on ladies. Nothing worse than putting on some legings right,
Speaker 1: and then the joints be rolling down on the side
Speaker 1: and it's not rolling down on the side, and the
Speaker 1: next new your underwears rolling down with them, and you
Speaker 1: have to constantly be pulling eliminate that. Get you some
Speaker 1: maternity legons, or at the very least, you put you
Speaker 1: on my pants. See what I'm saying, I'll be doing.
Speaker 1: You put on my pants, you sweatpants, everything, she's wear everything.
Speaker 1: I literally spent the majority of my hometime pregnant. And
Speaker 1: it's cool. It's cool. You know what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: know you like me your clothes. I speaking of clothes.
Speaker 1: Number two, get mad onesies and I'm not talking about
Speaker 1: that for you. You know that the gray ones that
Speaker 1: you got, it's like a tank top. Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: The reason why this is important, right, it's not so
Speaker 1: much I do like to see you because the clappage,
Speaker 1: the claps like a Maxi dress, but like the jump
Speaker 1: suit version of it. It's like a pants Maxi dress.
Speaker 1: It is, But I already foresee it's easy access for
Speaker 1: boo bite baby crying, right when when you don't got
Speaker 1: to get undressed, you don't gotta unsnap nothing, They don't.
Speaker 1: I see, I'm you see what I'm saying. Plus it's
Speaker 1: really forward thought. This. I wasn't expecting to this. I
Speaker 1: thought you were going to do a funny list like this.
Speaker 1: You're very practical. I'm because I'm trying to help people,
Speaker 1: trying to help people, not just women. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: help men too, because if they, if they four would
Speaker 1: think this and they have these things on deck, when
Speaker 1: their wives are significant others get pregnant, then they can
Speaker 1: be like, yo, I got these things. And then you
Speaker 1: know they're gonna be like that is true, should be
Speaker 1: like did your research really moved me? And then he
Speaker 1: could be like good. So now that she's good, he
Speaker 1: can chill, because that's the biggest thing. If she's uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: he's gonna being It's definitely it's giving, thoughtful, it's giving.
Speaker 1: He's involved, it's giving. He's in tune to what's happening
Speaker 1: to my body because I don't know that those onesies, right,
Speaker 1: they're not the fleece onesies. They're like the claude, like
Speaker 1: the T shirt onesies, very thin because you be hot,
Speaker 1: but it covers your skin so when the a c
Speaker 1: is blowing, you don't get cold. You don't want me
Speaker 1: to catch your cold. The only person catching colds here
Speaker 1: are me me. But that's fine, that's fine, you know
Speaker 1: you're pregnant. I'll just have a running fever for ten months.
Speaker 1: Number two, I mean number one. It's number one and
Speaker 1: the most important thing. I think people need to understand.
Speaker 1: Pregnant women from the first trimester to the third trimester
Speaker 1: to post partum need naps. Allow them to take naps, yes, naps, yes,
Speaker 1: because then you had there's a point, at least for me,
Speaker 1: I know it's coming. We are Insomnia starts to kick in,
Speaker 1: so I'll be up late and I can't sleep at night.
Speaker 1: But then no, I have to be up at six
Speaker 1: am with Jackson to getting ready for school, for example.
Speaker 1: And then it's like that daytime that which I'm looking
Speaker 1: forward to when the kids are at school, Like that
Speaker 1: daytime that nobody about me. The best part is I
Speaker 1: woke up this morning and just sat at the edge
Speaker 1: of the bed. It was just like I am tired,
Speaker 1: and I just swop video. I woke up. I woke
Speaker 1: up this first of all, I woke up. It was
Speaker 1: like an eerie silence, because typically when CADE wake up,
Speaker 1: she's gonna wake up, she's gonna take a deep breath
Speaker 1: along wolf. I hear phone scroll my head and her
Speaker 1: nails clicking click, like I hear things. When I woke
Speaker 1: up today, I heard nothing. It was just like it's
Speaker 1: like aree silence, and it was like foggy in the room.
Speaker 1: When it be foggy in the room, that's like a
Speaker 1: sign and something up. I don't know where the fall
Speaker 1: come from. I think you'd be steaming woke up. I
Speaker 1: didn't move. I didn't make no sudden movements neither, because
Speaker 1: you don't want to make no sudden movements when you
Speaker 1: have that feeling. So I'll look over and Codeine is
Speaker 1: sitting on the side of the bed like the meme
Speaker 1: of the fox, Oh the fox. Yes, that was me.
Speaker 1: That was actually had both her hands in her lap.
Speaker 1: But what really told me that she was ready for
Speaker 1: war was that she had her hand corn rows. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I had two little friends. It's actually under this wig
Speaker 1: right now. So I was like, she she got the
Speaker 1: Cleo corn rolls right now. I couldn't do it to
Speaker 1: you on camera. For those of you that eventually watched
Speaker 1: this episode, under this wig in his hat right now,
Speaker 1: it's madness. I just knew it was. Maybe at the
Speaker 1: end of the episode, I'll show y'all just for kicks.
Speaker 1: But I was like, yeah, you're gonna show them the
Speaker 1: corn rolls, I might. You know, I got no shame
Speaker 1: at this point. You don't mean anyway, so clearly we
Speaker 1: don't have no shame. But the thing is I asked her,
Speaker 1: I said, you are right, and she said no. So
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to say. So I was like,
Speaker 1: you need a hug. She was like nope. So then
Speaker 1: I was like, what's you know, what's the matter. She
Speaker 1: was like, I just woke up and I'm tired, so
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say. So I was like sorry.
Speaker 1: She looks at me, she said sorry, and so you
Speaker 1: got like, seriously sorry, as you're still laying in bed,
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say. I know what to say.
Speaker 1: So that made number one on my list because clearly
Speaker 1: she tired, so she need naps. Do you feel like
Speaker 1: I missed anything that was very thorough? I thought at
Speaker 1: first when we were going into this episode, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that was gonna be with the Shenanigans and have like
Speaker 1: funny stuff, you know, But this is like a really
Speaker 1: practical list. I'm actually very proud of you. You're very observant.
Speaker 1: I mean, at this rate, I would I would hope
Speaker 1: that you are um. My question is what you want?
Speaker 1: What you mean? What I want? What you want? Because
Speaker 1: you try to be all cute with your little list
Speaker 1: and whatnot what she wants? You know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make a list to how about that? Make a fine
Speaker 1: make a list next week where you have a list
Speaker 1: for me next week, I'm gonna have a little really
Speaker 1: what I want? What would just be nice once in
Speaker 1: a while? Thank you? Oh yeah, I do say thank you.
Speaker 1: Though you said thank you maybe six times in the
Speaker 1: last seven months. I mean that's averaging one of months.
Speaker 1: I don't know. When you let me tell you, I
Speaker 1: would bring Kadina blanket, lift up her feet, do all
Speaker 1: this other stuff, and she would just be like, that
Speaker 1: is not true. I do say thank you. Maybe I
Speaker 1: feel so much better thank you, especially when you get
Speaker 1: my flips and my inversions and stuff you want to
Speaker 1: say thank you? What you're saying? I feel bad you
Speaker 1: have to do all of this, and but so many
Speaker 1: words thank you. Don't you get it? And nobody else
Speaker 1: sees it. She's like, I feel bad for all of this,
Speaker 1: but can you but can you go get I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, all right, what what does you mean? That's
Speaker 1: when I started blinking because I'm like, everything, Babe, I
Speaker 1: appreciate you. This is amazing. I mean the care is
Speaker 1: the TLC for me, you know, the attentiveness. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: it's and ultimately, I think at the end of the
Speaker 1: day's teamwork, right. Um. The only thing I would say
Speaker 1: is maybe if you had to add another one access
Speaker 1: to Uber eats, seamless, any kind of food you eats
Speaker 1: around here me. But I mean sometimes sometimes though, if
Speaker 1: you don't feel like going now, I'd be like, yeah, baby,
Speaker 1: let's just I'm feeling for this. I need access to
Speaker 1: like cravings and snack food. That's definitely something that should
Speaker 1: be on the list too, but that varies from day
Speaker 1: to day. She'll be like, she'd be like, Babe, you
Speaker 1: feel for Chick fil Ach. I'd be like, I'd be like, yeah, yo,
Speaker 1: like I could get me a solid and thirty chicken nuggets,
Speaker 1: get the gallant of the And it should be like,
Speaker 1: you can use my card and I'm supposed to be
Speaker 1: like my my payment, you can you can use my
Speaker 1: car that's then linked to your cards, linked to my account.
Speaker 1: This is what I'm racking up them a max points
Speaker 1: for you boo. So after this baby drops. We can
Speaker 1: go on the real like I'm gonna be honest vacation,
Speaker 1: how about bad? I do not here what you ask for.
Speaker 1: I am proud that I'm able like this for your
Speaker 1: fourth pregnancy, to be able to have you in this
Speaker 1: crib and be able to just be able to get
Speaker 1: everything on the list and know what you need before
Speaker 1: you say it, and be able to be like hi, right.
Speaker 1: It makes me feel good because we struggled, like at first,
Speaker 1: and I'm not saying struggle, like it was just a struggle,
Speaker 1: like when you're not when you don't know what to
Speaker 1: plan for with a pregnancy and you live in an
Speaker 1: apartment and you got two cars and you go to
Speaker 1: at groceries and now you pull up and you're like, fuck,
Speaker 1: she can't help carry none of the groceries. And then
Speaker 1: and then it's like damn, like I really didn't think
Speaker 1: any of this through, or you're about to go into labor,
Speaker 1: or your back at her and you're just sitting there like, damn,
Speaker 1: I wish I had a you know what I'm saying
Speaker 1: That recently happened to a friend of ours having a baby.
Speaker 1: We were like, does she have a ball that she
Speaker 1: can mount? While she's in labor. They were like, no,
Speaker 1: we needed that. Oh I'm calling her, like, yo, send
Speaker 1: whoever's not staying in the hospital with you to your house.
Speaker 1: Get the yoga ball, a sap that's gonna help her
Speaker 1: with labor. But I remember thinking all of these things
Speaker 1: when your first time you're pregnant, thinking I wish I
Speaker 1: had this, I wish I had that, I wish someone
Speaker 1: tell me. But being comfortable being at this point now,
Speaker 1: pregnancy don't feel as bad, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: because we've prepared and these things aren't expensive, like a
Speaker 1: pregnancy pillow, yoga ball, being back, a blanket, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Gallant shape butter, a pregnancy band, these
Speaker 1: are the and leggings. These are things that you can
Speaker 1: get on Amazon or you can get anywhere Target. Target,
Speaker 1: once you find out the first month of pregnancy, get
Speaker 1: all these things. It just makes it easy, especially when
Speaker 1: we have to run somewhere. What you don't want to
Speaker 1: have happened to, gentlemen, is you try to go somewhere
Speaker 1: with your dear lady and she's pregnant and can't find
Speaker 1: something to where. But if you got that will keep
Speaker 1: my ass at home. Exactly. Don't invite me nowhere because
Speaker 1: I'm not going right now. We don't invite me because
Speaker 1: I'm a fel away. If you don't invite me, and
Speaker 1: then so invite me, but I'm not coming. Thanks though,
Speaker 1: you're the worst, You're the worse. You get up, baby,
Speaker 1: gotta go here, okay, her tights on the types come
Speaker 1: all the way up here to the next baby up top,
Speaker 1: baby up top. But well, thank you baby. If I
Speaker 1: don't say it enough like you, definitely make sure that
Speaker 1: I am super comfortable each time around. It just gets
Speaker 1: better and better and better. So don't try to get
Speaker 1: me pregnant again thinking that pregnancy M five is going
Speaker 1: to be out this world because it's a no for me. Dog,
Speaker 1: it's a no for me. Do I have to speak
Speaker 1: on that now? Don't be looking. Don't do it because
Speaker 1: you know he's done this in former seasons, past season. Yeah, exactly. Good,
Speaker 1: All right, let's go pay some ads real quick. You
Speaker 1: don't got to pay the ads. Well, the ads play there,
Speaker 1: you go walk and buy you some more spending. After
Speaker 1: the baby, we'll be back and guys, we're back back
Speaker 1: with listener letters, diving and go first all right, hello
Speaker 1: to both of you. Have been following you guys since
Speaker 1: the Christmas tree that stays up for all holidays, that's me.
Speaker 1: And now we're about to have about four or five
Speaker 1: mysteries up here here, God help us all. It won't
Speaker 1: be one of the man that I can make a
Speaker 1: really cute, decked out one for you. Anyway, let me
Speaker 1: get to the point now, Okay, I truly love you
Speaker 1: guys in your family. Anyway, let's get to the point.
Speaker 1: My husband and I have been married for fourteen years now,
Speaker 1: and we married earlier in our lives, especially my husband.
Speaker 1: I'm eight years older than he is. All my marriage
Speaker 1: isn't bad, so I won't put that in on our title,
Speaker 1: but sometimes it's questionable. My husband is a great man,
Speaker 1: a great dad, a great provider, a big supporter, and
Speaker 1: literally my very best friend, but he lacks empathy and compassion.
Speaker 1: I think it has a lot to do with his
Speaker 1: upbringing bringing. See, my husband and I lost six children
Speaker 1: to spontaneous miscarriages, and still points Brown's early up in
Speaker 1: our pregnance in our marriage while we were dating. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry to hear that. So it changed me in more
Speaker 1: ways than I could imagine. But we finally have our
Speaker 1: rainbow babies, who are nine and eight at the moment.
Speaker 1: Congrats um. But we still feel conflict about the children
Speaker 1: because he feels like I'm overprotective, he feels like I
Speaker 1: baby them. He feels like my life doesn't fit with
Speaker 1: him anymore. Or he says I only care about the children,
Speaker 1: not my husband. I promise you that's not true, because
Speaker 1: I'm madly in love with my husband as if we
Speaker 1: just met. I just feel like if they need more
Speaker 1: of me, or they need more of me because their
Speaker 1: children and with dealing with all of our loss, I'm
Speaker 1: going to protect them till the day I die. What
Speaker 1: should I do or what can I do? It's hard
Speaker 1: to balance my babies being young. He gets mad sometimes
Speaker 1: if we're in the living room talking and my baby
Speaker 1: is coming and ask me for a hug. Then makes
Speaker 1: me and then then that makes me mad, and now
Speaker 1: him and I are upset at each other. I'm so confused.
Speaker 1: I don't want to make my husband feel neglected, and
Speaker 1: I don't want my children to feel like I'm neglecting them.
Speaker 1: Help me if you can, all right, So, Sis, I
Speaker 1: understand that it's probably really difficult to deal with um loss.
Speaker 1: I understand loss as well. UM, and I'm so happy
Speaker 1: to hear that she has an eight year old and
Speaker 1: what was a nine year old now, which is great.
Speaker 1: But just as much as those babies needs you, your
Speaker 1: husband needs you as well. Like you have to remember
Speaker 1: that you guys were together for married fourteen years. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure if you're here together long before that, but
Speaker 1: everything started with the two of you. So the fact
Speaker 1: that you're neglecting him and you have him kind of
Speaker 1: pushed to the side, I can completely understand why he
Speaker 1: feels that level of neglect. UM. Personally, Divin and I,
Speaker 1: we don't believe in babing our children. As much as
Speaker 1: we love and adore them, UM, we don't believe in
Speaker 1: that babying thing because we feel like that's just something
Speaker 1: that they're going to have to not be accustomed to
Speaker 1: as they grow in dealing with the real world. UM.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I know Devo feel strongly about this too,
Speaker 1: because we've had that discussion before. We've had this discussion,
Speaker 1: and I don't think that it's UM, I don't think
Speaker 1: that it's uncommon. I think it's only natural when when
Speaker 1: you have a being grow inside of your body, and
Speaker 1: then comes outside. It's almost as if your heartbeat is
Speaker 1: walking around with arms and legs. So your first instinct
Speaker 1: as a mom is to protect like and that's not
Speaker 1: just humans, that's any species. The mother is the most
Speaker 1: protective of the cubs. So that to me, I understand.
Speaker 1: But um, what tends to happen is that being your child.
Speaker 1: Now trump's the person who you're creating a life with,
Speaker 1: which you have to remember at some point that child
Speaker 1: is going to grow up and go on and have
Speaker 1: their own life, and then you're going to be left
Speaker 1: there with your partner that you're supposed to build a
Speaker 1: life with. So for me, number one, the first thing
Speaker 1: she says is he hates when we're talking and the
Speaker 1: child comes up and ask for a hug. A lot
Speaker 1: of times children tend to do that because they just
Speaker 1: want whoever's attention. If the attention is not on them,
Speaker 1: they want the attention. Condine and I have a thing
Speaker 1: where if we're having a discussion, our children just and
Speaker 1: walk up in between us and just start talking to us.
Speaker 1: First of all, you have to say excuse me. Boundaries,
Speaker 1: of course, you have to say excuse me. We have
Speaker 1: to acknowledge that we recognize that you're standing there before
Speaker 1: you can just come in. Because Number one, if we're
Speaker 1: discussing something that you shouldn't be hearing, you can't just
Speaker 1: sit around and listen to that. Number one. Number two,
Speaker 1: you have to understand that your mom and I have
Speaker 1: a relationship, and you don't get to just come into
Speaker 1: the relationship and say everything is gonna go my way,
Speaker 1: because as they become adults, they're gonna then become entitled
Speaker 1: or feel entitled to everyone's time when they want it.
Speaker 1: That's not the way the world works. And you have
Speaker 1: to start children from young. You know, we our youngest
Speaker 1: now Kas is three. Kas knows and he had to learn.
Speaker 1: In the very very beginning, Kas would walk in. We'd
Speaker 1: be talking and he would just walk in and hug
Speaker 1: and jump on us. Now it's like, hey, bro, you
Speaker 1: gotta say excuse me. You see me and mommy talking
Speaker 1: all right, we're talking, you say excuse me if it's
Speaker 1: not an emergency, and you just want my attention to
Speaker 1: do what kids do? Look what I can do, and
Speaker 1: then they don't do ship, don't step conversation to do
Speaker 1: some wild could not gonna be pissed like you didn't
Speaker 1: stick the landing. You know what I'm saying in the
Speaker 1: middle of a conversation to say, look what I can
Speaker 1: do when you fell? Nobody parents remember what it's rung
Speaker 1: with this kid. So you know, it's important to clay
Speaker 1: boundaries with your children, you know, and in turn they
Speaker 1: also learn how to you know, self suiting and out
Speaker 1: of respect. Self suit is very important as well too
Speaker 1: for children and being eight and nine, they're little, but
Speaker 1: they big. The big eight and nine is big. They
Speaker 1: get in on fire. Do not come in the middle
Speaker 1: of me and your mother conversation. That's the brothers not drowning.
Speaker 1: It's like, if something's not dire, don't just run up
Speaker 1: and hug me or your mother while we're having a conversation.
Speaker 1: It seems like her husband is trying to say he's
Speaker 1: a great man, a great dad, a great provider, a
Speaker 1: big supporter. He's literally your best friend. So let's lean
Speaker 1: on that a little bit more. I'll say this too.
Speaker 1: If he's all of these things and she can acknowledge
Speaker 1: it, it it sounds like he's the type of the type
Speaker 1: of guy who wakes up in the morning and wants
Speaker 1: to make sure his wife is good. It is very difficult,
Speaker 1: Kadina and I have gone through this to wake up
Speaker 1: in the morning and be the type of guy to
Speaker 1: make sure that your partner is good and always feel
Speaker 1: like no one is making sure you're good, feel feeling
Speaker 1: disregard like. It's very difficult for anyone to wake up
Speaker 1: every morning and constantly do that and always be put aside.
Speaker 1: And it's not always men. Sometimes there are wives who
Speaker 1: wake up and they're always like, let me make sure
Speaker 1: my husband is just make sure it's this, And he
Speaker 1: may go out be a provider, but he comes back
Speaker 1: and never checks on his wife. That's difficult for that
Speaker 1: person to constantly give and give and give and never
Speaker 1: feel that reciprocation. So if you know miss that your
Speaker 1: husband is all of these things, and you know for
Speaker 1: a fact that you've disregarded him, that's a change you're
Speaker 1: gonna have to make because it's not fair. Yes, absolutely,
Speaker 1: very well said. I agree. I think we're both on
Speaker 1: the same page with Yeah. So the empathy and compassion
Speaker 1: that you say he lacks, I feel like you lac
Speaker 1: tusis um. Yeah, try putting yourself in his shoes for
Speaker 1: a little bit. And I wish you all the best. Yes,
Speaker 1: number two. I've been a fan of both of you
Speaker 1: ever since I saw your video of k giving birth
Speaker 1: in the pool and your home in Brooklyn. Appreciate that
Speaker 1: I love the narrative that you guys are pre sharing
Speaker 1: a black family and black marriage. Please continue to provide
Speaker 1: the positive, uplifting content. I'm emailing because I'm still a
Speaker 1: virgin and I just turned thirty a couple of months ago.
Speaker 1: In high school and during undergrad I was looking for love,
Speaker 1: but never found someone that I felt a true connection with.
Speaker 1: After undergrad, I told myself that God would send love
Speaker 1: my way when I was ready, and in the meantime,
Speaker 1: I would focus on my own self development. That's smart,
Speaker 1: so I started working and started grad school. I dated
Speaker 1: on and off throughout my twenties, but still haven't found love.
Speaker 1: So I put all of my focus into saving, building
Speaker 1: my credit, becoming the best version of myself, and establishing
Speaker 1: a solid foundation. Now I'm thirty and still haven't found
Speaker 1: anyone special. Yeah, I heard of stuff out there. Um.
Speaker 1: I'll be graduating with my second master degree in December.
Speaker 1: I keep myself up and work out with the trainer
Speaker 1: three times per week to stay in shape physically. I
Speaker 1: thought that eventually I would attract the right one, but
Speaker 1: so far, no luck. I want to have intimacy and
Speaker 1: a real physical and mental connection with a man. But
Speaker 1: at this point I am tired of waiting. I already
Speaker 1: know what the problem is. Should I continue to hold
Speaker 1: out or just find someone to satisfy my physical needs?
Speaker 1: Also devout, from your point of view, is a thirty
Speaker 1: year old virgin to turn off to man? My virgin
Speaker 1: status isn't something that I divulge off the mm hmm, Well,
Speaker 1: she seems to have a lot of things together, but
Speaker 1: this is the thing. It doesn't sound like she's deliberate
Speaker 1: about finding someone. It sounds like she's just sitting back
Speaker 1: and waiting. And she said, God will provide. You ever
Speaker 1: heard the story about the man on the boat. There's
Speaker 1: a man on the boat. The boat has holes in it,
Speaker 1: it's sinking. Boat comes by, says, hey man, your boat sinking.
Speaker 1: You need help. He goes, Nope, God will provide. Boat
Speaker 1: flies on. Second boat comes on, hey man, you need
Speaker 1: to help. You both thinking nope, God got me. Boat
Speaker 1: goes on. Third boat comes said, yo, dude, you're about
Speaker 1: to drown. You need help. He says, while he's drowning, right, dude,
Speaker 1: dies those to heaven. Says, yo, God, don't you have me?
Speaker 1: He said, I sent you three boats, you dune me.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. You have to put in the
Speaker 1: work and be willing to accept what God has given.
Speaker 1: You can just sit back there and wait. Right. And
Speaker 1: it seems that she planned everything out from her master.
Speaker 1: She has two master's degrees, she's a trainer, she's in shape,
Speaker 1: she's all the things. But what are we actively doing
Speaker 1: to find what are you going? Where we're going? Are
Speaker 1: their mutual friends? I always like to think of like
Speaker 1: mutual friends that might potentially work, says, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Hit us up, you know, send me your pay, send
Speaker 1: me a picture, let me see, let me see what
Speaker 1: we're working with me see we can have any matches
Speaker 1: going on. I would say this, you have to be
Speaker 1: as forceful and speak as much truth to power and
Speaker 1: deliberate about finding love as you are about getting a
Speaker 1: master's degree in working out that you got to put
Speaker 1: in the work. You have to put in the work.
Speaker 1: The thought that you're just gonna sit back and then
Speaker 1: just a guy is going to come out nowhere, or
Speaker 1: a girl is gonna come out of nowhere. It's just
Speaker 1: not gonna happen. You have to be deliberate, and if
Speaker 1: you're looking for a certain type of partner, you have
Speaker 1: to be deliberate about where you're looking for that type
Speaker 1: of partner. Exactly, you know what I'm saying. So that's
Speaker 1: what I would say. Because she sounds like she's a
Speaker 1: great catch. Yeah exactly, I'm like, she's thirty now and
Speaker 1: all that. And I don't think the virgin status is
Speaker 1: a turn off because she asked about that. Do you
Speaker 1: think it's a turn off for a man if he
Speaker 1: finds out that I don't. I don't think so, to
Speaker 1: be honest, no, I mean, and here's the truth. There
Speaker 1: is somebody for everybody. You're gonna find guys would be
Speaker 1: like at thirty, I don't want a version. There's gonna
Speaker 1: be some guys like a thirty I would love to
Speaker 1: get a girl woman who's a version. She hasn't been
Speaker 1: with anybody else. So there's always somebody for somebody. So
Speaker 1: if you ever trying to create a generalization about what
Speaker 1: is good for one person, that's never gonna happen. Don't
Speaker 1: focus on what other people are saying, but be deliberate
Speaker 1: about who you're looking for. That is a fact, all right.
Speaker 1: I'm just happy I'm not in these Dayton streets. Man.
Speaker 1: I've heard that it's pretty difficult out there, so best
Speaker 1: of luck to use this. If you want to be
Speaker 1: featured as one of our listener letters, be sure to
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Speaker 1: Moment of truth time. Yes, you want to go first?
Speaker 1: Want to go first? Um, I'll go first after your
Speaker 1: list that you put together so diligently. I just want
Speaker 1: to take this opportunity to publicly thank you and express
Speaker 1: my gratitude to you for just being amazing, being attentive,
Speaker 1: for anticipating my needs before I even know what they are,
Speaker 1: and even when I don't know what my needs and
Speaker 1: wants are in that moment, just providing me grace and
Speaker 1: options and always looking to find a way to alleviate
Speaker 1: any sort of stress or any sort of tension or
Speaker 1: pain that I may be feeling. I mean, you went
Speaker 1: as far as to move your mother in law into
Speaker 1: our house. You went as far as to moving my
Speaker 1: mama into the house. Can we say that one more
Speaker 1: time so people can understand the level of sacrifice to
Speaker 1: move in my mom to just ensure that I have
Speaker 1: extra help and extra assistance with the boys. So that way,
Speaker 1: this time around, everything was that much smoother. In addition
Speaker 1: to you still being a super active dad, a super
Speaker 1: active and attentive husband, and still working and booking the
Speaker 1: lead role, booking the lead role. So that's what we
Speaker 1: need to repeat, booking a lead role in his first
Speaker 1: film film. You just don't miss a beat like ever.
Speaker 1: So I love you, I appreciate you. I thank you
Speaker 1: for this beautiful life that you provided us, myself, the boys. Um,
Speaker 1: you know that we love you like you are the
Speaker 1: king of my heart, the king of our life, the
Speaker 1: king of the boy's hearts. Like that's just what it is.
Speaker 1: So I love you, Ellis I love um. Thing that
Speaker 1: just made me feel good. My moment of truth is Um,
Speaker 1: I feel appreciated. That's the reason why I'm able to
Speaker 1: do those things. Um, You're amazing. You, You're my person.
Speaker 1: Pregnancy is not easy on either one of us, but
Speaker 1: it's so worth it because we're gonna have four beautiful kings.
Speaker 1: But before the boys, before anybody you're worth it, like you. Seriously,
Speaker 1: I fucking worth it? Am I even worth it with
Speaker 1: my Let me show you all my took the wig
Speaker 1: off later? Yes, damn, I love today seems like shucks
Speaker 1: the class. I'm ready to set it off right, and
Speaker 1: this week was hot and uncomfortable to listen. I'll be trying.
Speaker 1: I'll be trying to keep it cute for you, and
Speaker 1: keep it cute for y'all, But there comes a point
Speaker 1: in time where enough, it's enough enough, still cute you
Speaker 1: my moment of truth. But I don't care. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I wonder moment that moment of truth. Your mother, it's
Speaker 1: a huge help. Oh my god, amazing. I like the
Speaker 1: best thing about having a mother in law like your mom.
Speaker 1: She knows how to be involved and stay out of
Speaker 1: the way, because you know, some mothers in laws like
Speaker 1: to mothers in general, like to just be in everything.
Speaker 1: Or you asked me for my help, I'm not here.
Speaker 1: Your mom likes to be helpful but not be overbearing,
Speaker 1: which made it so easy for her to be and
Speaker 1: we wouldn't be able to do everything we got going
Speaker 1: on if it wasn't for your mother. Actually, so if
Speaker 1: y'all ever hear somebody randomly coughing or like stomping in
Speaker 1: the background. It's me, MEI me, me, trying to be quiet.
Speaker 1: But you know, she don't know what that means. But
Speaker 1: I love you too, thank you, and I you and
Speaker 1: so I know. Oh man, trust me. Let's hope that
Speaker 1: he's not filming this movie. Wow, I'm having this baby?
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