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Speaker 1: This is from Alisha Guys on Steve HARVEYFM. Alicia says,

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year.

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Speaker 1: When we first started dating, his ex wouldn't let his

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Speaker 1: kids come around when I was there, which I understood,

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Speaker 1: But now that we've been together for a while, it

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Speaker 1: seems ridiculous that I can't meet my man's children. I

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Speaker 1: think that she wants him back and knows this is

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Speaker 1: the only way she can control him. At what point

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Speaker 1: is it no longer reasonable for her to insist that

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Speaker 1: their children can't meet me. For context, the kids are

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Speaker 1: eight and ten and they know who I am, but

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Speaker 1: we've never actually met.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: How long is it? How long would you go before

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Speaker 2: letting your kid meet who you're dating? You know, first

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Speaker 2: of all, it's got to be serious, But she said

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Speaker 2: it's been long enough. So but I mean, what is

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Speaker 2: it a year? Yeah? Eight months?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they've been together for over a year. Yeah. When

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Speaker 1: you say that was pretty serious.

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Speaker 2: I think that's I think that's pretty serious and so.

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Speaker 2: But you know, but she don't like you though. Let's

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Speaker 2: just be real about this.

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Speaker 3: He don't like you.

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Speaker 2: You're not gonna like anybody that he's with. Let's just

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Speaker 2: be clear, right, all right, there's still some emotions there, Okay,

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Speaker 2: so yeah, but you just gotta wait. That's something you

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Speaker 2: can't You can't pull the cord on that. You gotta wait.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, pretty much. Don't the kids come over and

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Speaker 1: stay with the dad and all of that, and she.

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Speaker 2: Must not be there when they come over there something

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 4: Know, because the mother has probably put her foot down

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Speaker 4: saying they can't come over there. If she's there, you

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Speaker 4: won't see them at all, which is and that's the problem. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: that's the problem.

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Speaker 2: And then here's another, here's another question. Are you the

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Speaker 2: reason why they broke up?

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Speaker 1: Well, she didn't say that, now, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It's a lot. She ain't saying it's a lot. We

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Speaker 2: don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that's the case here though. I

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Speaker 1: think it's it's the case of this mom who wants

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Speaker 1: to control the situation, which we see a lot. They

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Speaker 1: have been together for over a year.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, don't like you right now, you just try to

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Speaker 4: kill maybe when she gets somebody else, maybe the mom

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Speaker 4: is eating somebody else.

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Speaker 2: You just gotta wait. You gotta wait it out. You

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Speaker 2: need to make sure she don't do your braids. That's

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Speaker 2: what you need to make.

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Speaker 4: We're not talking about the strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: I can.

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Speaker 3: First of all, why is we rushing to meet children?

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Speaker 3: Why is we rushing? Count your damn blessings?

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Speaker 2: You don't know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: You don't know what the kids granddaddy, You don't have

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Speaker 3: no idea what you were asking for. This could be

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Speaker 3: a blessings guy the land. As long as you can,

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Speaker 3: you don't need to meet them today. Kemp, it's been

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Speaker 3: If it's better yet, make it too set you set it.

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Speaker 2: That's two less Christmas presents.

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Speaker 3: You got start looking at it. It's two less birthdays too,

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Speaker 3: less Christmas gifts of it. Yeah, win is a winning

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Speaker 3: junior trying to be everything today.

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Speaker 2: Wait a while.

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Speaker 1: Yourself, give it five years.

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Speaker 3: If you can't five wow, trust me. I know.

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Speaker 1: The same day junior became a father and her grandfather the.

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Speaker 3: Same exact day. But Lord, have mercy, the gifts went up.

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Speaker 3: Tell them wait a while. I appreciate Tommy giving you

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Speaker 3: the reasonable as a me myself personally, Hey, delay this.

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Speaker 3: We don't know if they're gonna be good citizens or thugs.

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Speaker 2: We don't know yet.

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Speaker 1: This is true. Watch you play out.

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Speaker 2: A little bit.

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Speaker 3: Let it play out. Talk about the eight and ten,

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Speaker 3: let's see seventeen to nineteen.

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Speaker 1: Do you think the mom wants the husband back? Do

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Speaker 1: you think she wants her man back?

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Speaker 3: That's none of my business. The people, the little people.

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Speaker 3: What I'm concerned about. If she won't hit any What

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Speaker 3: about these two kids you trying to meet?

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Speaker 1: Forget that sometimes.

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Speaker 2: On the back it's just it's just you're still you're

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Speaker 2: still angry about the relationship.

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Speaker 1: That's wait till one.

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Speaker 3: I'm still your car. Then what we're gonna feel like?

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Speaker 4: You still want to meet them, you still don't want

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Speaker 4: to be in their lives.

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Speaker 3: To make sure you want to be in their lives.

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Speaker 3: I did the same thing the women can get you

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Speaker 3: with kids that I fell forward, got it, got a

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Speaker 3: whole wife, took great kids, a marriage fail for some children.

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Speaker 1: Show did all right there? I think got in loss

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