Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we back were black.
Speaker 2: Brown out ambition ambitionus ambition ambition. First of all, Manni,
Speaker 2: why do I look like summertime and you know, like
Speaker 2: what the time?
Speaker 1: Look at the arms are giving drop the workout.
Speaker 2: No, first of all, I.
Speaker 1: Like naturally sculpted. It like naturally sculpted arms. That's really exciting.
Speaker 2: On the top of girl, that they can fool. I
Speaker 2: can fool people in a you know, like if you
Speaker 2: have like a dating profile, I can fool people because
Speaker 2: from the top of it's given. Okay, sculpting from the
Speaker 2: from the from the waist down is given.
Speaker 1: So what you're saying is your everyone's dream girl. Yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: the girls are paying to look like you. If I
Speaker 1: read another story about someone who dies from a BBL
Speaker 1: just the state of America, he looks stunning. It's been
Speaker 1: so I've been I missed you. Thanks for holding it
Speaker 1: down while I was and Georgia. You had a lot
Speaker 1: on your plate. I think the last time I talked
Speaker 1: to you in person, were you about to go to Dubai?
Speaker 1: You were in Dubai.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I went to Dubai and then also Sands and.
Speaker 1: Bar, yeah, of course, and also the White House.
Speaker 2: Girl I know it was sick at the White House.
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm a black girl at the White House.
Speaker 2: Thank you?
Speaker 1: Oh please, what do you want to start with? I
Speaker 1: don't know just who are you? Even who am I?
Speaker 2: That we have talked since we have, since he's been
Speaker 2: our way and we have been talking, Well, maybe I could,
Speaker 2: I could talk about the experience at the White House.
Speaker 2: But honestly, also I think we should talk about like
Speaker 2: the state of the Union, like the financial components of
Speaker 2: the state of the Union that you know, pertains to
Speaker 2: like get our audience. I think that'd be great to
Speaker 2: just get a gage. I know you didn't get a
Speaker 2: chance to watch.
Speaker 1: Oh I had a chance. I just chose not to.
Speaker 1: I had a chance. I had. I was busy, this
Speaker 1: is very busy. Probably I was watching Love Is Blind,
Speaker 1: and somehow I found time to watch like most of
Speaker 1: the oscars. So I'm not even gonna lie, but I
Speaker 1: read some notes, I saw some clips. Doesn't count if
Speaker 1: you watch the cold open of SNL and you saw
Speaker 1: the parody that scarlets of that Republican woman that did
Speaker 1: the for the reports. Anyway, I think I also kind
Speaker 1: of knew that I was going to get you know,
Speaker 1: to talk to you and like.
Speaker 2: The inside skill, but he used.
Speaker 1: To fy it for me. So tell Us was Biden
Speaker 1: like giving, you know, I'm resent mentally like mostly I'm
Speaker 1: young and springing enough for another four years?
Speaker 2: What was I don't know if anybody's youngest bringing up
Speaker 2: another four years, but he definitely took a V eight.
Speaker 2: I'll say that, like Aba, we had a lot of energy,
Speaker 2: which was great to see.
Speaker 1: They gave men Bully Joe.
Speaker 2: We got to meet Jill when you know, first lady again.
Speaker 2: She was really awesome and nice and just like really
Speaker 2: just she's always just really really really easy breezy. You know,
Speaker 2: she came into our room. So just for anybody who's listening,
Speaker 2: this is the second year in a row that they've
Speaker 2: done like a creator kind of like White House invites,
Speaker 2: So they invite like thirty to fifty creators or so,
Speaker 2: and they invite us to watch the State of the Union,
Speaker 2: but in the actual White House. Same thing happened last year,
Speaker 2: and that we got to meet the first Lady. She
Speaker 2: comes to say hello. This time we did a champagne toast,
Speaker 2: which is cool. We also got to meet the first Gentleman,
Speaker 2: Kamala Harris's husband came to say hello, I can't remember
Speaker 2: his name.
Speaker 1: Sorry, sir Dennis, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: We can barely see Kamala, so like let alone her husband.
Speaker 2: And then we watched the State of the Union, take
Speaker 2: your notes, do your socials. And then then afterwards like
Speaker 2: so we get to see the president and the first
Speaker 2: lady leaves. They have us all on like the verandah yeah,
Speaker 2: and then afterwards we kind of you get to actually
Speaker 2: come down to the ground level where the car pulls up.
Speaker 2: President gets out, and then he greeted us. He actually
Speaker 2: said something really really powerful when he came to us.
Speaker 2: He said, you know, you guys on this like you know,
Speaker 2: the fifty of you or whatever like on these on
Speaker 2: these steps, you know you collectively reach you reach more
Speaker 2: people with your platforms than all the networks combined, probably,
Speaker 2: And yes, no it's true because there are people there
Speaker 2: were millions and millions and millions of followers, you know,
Speaker 2: and you think about the views and everything else. And
Speaker 2: he was like, this is why it's so important that
Speaker 2: we wanted to have you here, because we want our
Speaker 2: message to get to as many young people as possible.
Speaker 2: And I just want to really want to thank you
Speaker 2: for helping us spread that message. And I thought that's
Speaker 2: really powerful that this is the second year they've done this,
Speaker 2: and how smart. And if you see, they literally have
Speaker 2: a social media division for the White House and I
Speaker 2: love it because it's filled with young people that understand
Speaker 2: how to navigate, you know, And I just thought, wow,
Speaker 2: first of all, what a cool job.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're basically doing the work of every like grandchild's
Speaker 1: twenty something grandchild like Joe, Papa, Joe, let me see
Speaker 1: your phone. This is how you This is Instagram.
Speaker 2: Yes, And so it's because his grand his grandkids were
Speaker 2: actually there, which is really cute. And so it was
Speaker 2: just a really.
Speaker 1: Love Jill and Biden, Like I love their love story. Yes,
Speaker 1: And I just wish they could sit down and enjoy
Speaker 1: each other, you know what I mean, Like I wish
Speaker 1: they could just like do what my grandparents did, which
Speaker 1: is just have a bunch of frozen apple pie in
Speaker 1: the freezer with the Mayfield vanilla ice cream and box
Speaker 1: and watch Jeopardy and do the crossword and just be happy,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? But here they are
Speaker 1: saving us from potentially another four years with Voldemort. Hey
Speaker 1: be a fan we're going to take a quick break
Speaker 1: and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: I'll say this that, so the state of the Union,
Speaker 2: some of the things that kind of pertain to like
Speaker 2: our audience, I mean, all of it obviously pertains if
Speaker 2: you're in a United States citizen. But some of the
Speaker 2: things that stood out to me were he proposed extending
Speaker 2: negotiations for prescription junk, so Medicare can directly now negotiate
Speaker 2: with drug companies, and they've been able to do so
Speaker 2: very successfully. So, for example, they were able to get
Speaker 2: insolent cap at thirty five dollars, which is tremendous because
Speaker 2: for some people it was just insolent. It's like if
Speaker 2: you don't get it in your diabetic you don't live. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And so to price it at a way that that
Speaker 2: a person can't you're sentencing people to death, right, and
Speaker 2: so's they're.
Speaker 1: Like, it is negotiating with it. So is that for
Speaker 1: people who are on medicare, yes, to be able.
Speaker 2: To say like, Okay, you can't go past this. He's
Speaker 2: also wanted to cap drug cross across the the I
Speaker 2: guess across the map at two thousand dollars monthly and
Speaker 2: not monthly annually. So like if I believe if you're
Speaker 2: Medicare or I don't know, if it's just Medicare and
Speaker 2: he didn't see it didn't specify, or just in general,
Speaker 2: if you are on prescription drugs, that your drugs collectively
Speaker 2: should not cost you more than two thousand dollars for
Speaker 2: the year. That's something that he proposed, okay, because you know,
Speaker 2: for some people, like sometimes one drug is two thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially if you have something like cancer. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean it's wild to me that, like my dad has
Speaker 1: been in the hospital for a long time and we
Speaker 1: are all just like hanging home for dear life with
Speaker 1: those bills that start hitting. Yeah, you got one medication. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's cost that much. So that's okay, But that's proposed.
Speaker 1: So the Congress got to do what Congress.
Speaker 2: Got to do. The thirty five dollars, it's happening already,
Speaker 2: and he wants to extend it like that, extend that
Speaker 2: that that that correction. Something else that he's proposed was
Speaker 2: a four hundred dollars monthly tax credit for two years
Speaker 2: to home buyers to help them buy new homes. So
Speaker 2: you would get this to like you know, so you.
Speaker 1: Can negotiate with the banks for a lower interest.
Speaker 2: I know. Child. He was like, look, this is what
Speaker 2: I can do. He also wants to get rid of
Speaker 2: title insurance. That's what would save about a thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, because like it's such a you know, that's
Speaker 1: supposedly to ensure that like so like someone else could
Speaker 1: come and say, I had the title to this house. Yes,
Speaker 1: just like throw off your whole thing. But I don't
Speaker 1: even know how much that happened so.
Speaker 2: Exactly, so it's like, you know, these for fee's sake,
Speaker 2: fee for the pppee for pepee, you know. So he
Speaker 2: also said that he wants to impose no new taxes
Speaker 2: on anyone, any household earning under four hundred thousand dollars
Speaker 2: a year. Then instead, he was like, they need to
Speaker 2: raise the tax on billionaires. So there's about a thousand
Speaker 2: billionaires in the United States, Mandy, can you guess what
Speaker 2: percentage of their income they pay in taxes? Like what
Speaker 2: their tax rate is currently?
Speaker 1: Probably like two percent, I mean, because they have all
Speaker 1: these loopholes that they get through.
Speaker 2: Girl, the average billionaire pays just over eight percent. Now,
Speaker 2: can you guess what the average middle class person pays
Speaker 2: for taxes.
Speaker 1: I could guess from personal experience it's a lot more.
Speaker 1: It's like twenty five percent.
Speaker 2: Yes, between twenty two and thirty two percent, So you're
Speaker 2: right on the nose. So can you imagine that, like
Speaker 2: these billionaires paying on average eight percent when like, why
Speaker 2: should I remember as a preschool teacher, I remember distinctly
Speaker 2: I was twenty one percent as a preschool teacher, making
Speaker 2: thirty nine thousand dollars a year, and meanwhile, your local
Speaker 2: friendly billionaire is paying eight percent or less. Why why
Speaker 2: is more of my money going when like the impact
Speaker 2: of every billionaire paying he wants to He wanted to
Speaker 2: make it that no billionaire would pay less than twenty
Speaker 2: five percent, which to me is even like low.
Speaker 1: I mean, the tax code is written for businesses and
Speaker 1: billionaires to have that access to those kinds of tax loopholes.
Speaker 1: I mean that was one of Trump's big pieces of
Speaker 1: legislation with the American Jobs and Tax cook a two
Speaker 1: thousand whatever it was. So yeah, it's no surprise. So
Speaker 1: I would love to see some tax reform that eases
Speaker 1: the burden on the rest of us who are like,
Speaker 1: can we get you know, my big thing is like,
Speaker 1: can I get a tax deduction for the three thousand
Speaker 1: dollars a month I pay in childcare?
Speaker 2: Girl?
Speaker 1: Like, that's wild. It is wild that there aren't benefits
Speaker 1: like that. My husband has that, like dependent care FSA
Speaker 1: only five thousand dollars a year. Wow, less than two
Speaker 1: months worth of wow take care expenses. You know. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I hope. I don't know if it'll be like the
Speaker 1: Biden's term, but I'm hoping we get like a family first,
Speaker 1: like childcare activist in the White House, I mean, just
Speaker 1: doing some basic shit.
Speaker 2: You know, I mean, well, you know. And so he
Speaker 2: spoke about investing in HBCUs. You know historically black colleges
Speaker 2: and university. He didn't get specific about it. He just
Speaker 2: said wanted to invest in them. So I don't know
Speaker 2: what that means. Also, too, he spoke about so far
Speaker 2: about four million students have been helped with their reform
Speaker 2: with student loans.
Speaker 1: He pays me one like of his big got that's done.
Speaker 2: Well, you know, obviously he got pushed back, he said,
Speaker 2: because it was about thirty five million students more that
Speaker 2: if he would have pushed it would have been affected.
Speaker 2: So it was about it was about forty million students
Speaker 2: that would have positively been affected by the you know,
Speaker 2: the bill that he was trying to push through, and
Speaker 2: they had to acquiesce to something smaller. But so far
Speaker 2: four million people have been helped, but they're trying to
Speaker 2: still push. Yeah, it was And honestly, afterwards, they did,
Speaker 2: like I think it was CNN or Wall Street Journal,
Speaker 2: they did some sort of like I don't know, like
Speaker 2: a poll, and they said about fifty six percent of
Speaker 2: people who watched the State of the Union felt like
Speaker 2: that he had a better handle on the economy. So
Speaker 2: there seems to be some like, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's the economy, which by all measures is
Speaker 1: doing well, and then they're like, you know, our personal economy, yes,
Speaker 1: which I came home with two bags of groceries and
Speaker 1: it was one hundred and forty.
Speaker 2: Girl, everybody I know is like I broke I dronk.
Speaker 1: When I opened my trunk, Tiffany, this happened this morning.
Speaker 1: The carton of eggs slipped out of the bag and
Speaker 1: fell on the floor, and I was like, I wanted
Speaker 1: to do what those dramatic movie seems like ten fucking dollars,
Speaker 1: I mean, just trash immediately. Yeah, and I think that's
Speaker 1: where the disconnect is. Yes, I'm happy to hear that
Speaker 1: four hundred dollars that tax credit for homeowners. That is
Speaker 1: something that he's proposing. It hasn't been passed or hasn't
Speaker 1: been so something like that. But yeah, this, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: and it just it adds fuel to the fire for
Speaker 1: like families who feel like, Okay, things are getting more expensive.
Speaker 1: The economy is doing well, but at the same time,
Speaker 1: it's like we're not exactly seeing the huge wage growth
Speaker 1: that was happening because you know, the FED is trying
Speaker 1: to stop wage growth because that's part of the fight
Speaker 1: against inflation, right, But it's like, so at what point
Speaker 1: is it too much in the other direction?
Speaker 2: Like well he said like he was like, we have
Speaker 2: to raise So minimum wage was something he talked about
Speaker 2: as well. I remember saying, like, you know, people, minimum
Speaker 2: wage is supposed to reflect that at the bare minimum,
Speaker 2: this should be able to support you and your family, like,
Speaker 2: and it hasn't in a very long time. He's talked
Speaker 2: about that. He also talked about like he has a
Speaker 2: big environmental stance. Apparently he passed the biggest legislation in
Speaker 2: the world to protect and support the environment that's ever
Speaker 2: been passed. And that just was like, okay, So because
Speaker 2: before we met, so when you go to the White House,
Speaker 2: so like before but before you get there, we got
Speaker 2: that little early and you got to we got to
Speaker 2: kind of meet and chat with people who were working
Speaker 2: on like these like so there was an I don't
Speaker 2: remember his name, but he was an environmentalist working at
Speaker 2: the White House and sharing like how this legislation has
Speaker 2: been like literally earth moving, you know, and I did
Speaker 2: not know.
Speaker 1: That I was because that do like like that that
Speaker 1: sounds so stupid, I know, like it I like does
Speaker 1: that environmental legislation.
Speaker 2: Dude, like like you know, minimizing like what kind of
Speaker 2: materials can be used in certain ways, like regulating like
Speaker 2: how materials are disposed of? What else did you say?
Speaker 1: He was just taking care of microplastics because that's taken
Speaker 1: up an inordinate amount of stress, yes, by useless anxiety bucket.
Speaker 2: So it's just like also too, like you know, like
Speaker 2: I'm investing into clean energy. So that was really interesting.
Speaker 2: I was just like, okay, so you got to really
Speaker 2: meet like I got to meet Oh, what's her name?
Speaker 2: She's the the first black woman. Oh my gosh, she's
Speaker 2: so awesome. So we got to ask her a question
Speaker 2: and I was just like, Kareeine Jane, let me say
Speaker 2: press secretary.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I saw that picture and I geeked.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, in my head is April Franklin
Speaker 1: and that is not.
Speaker 2: So it's Karne Jean Pierre. Yes, did I make that up? Okay? No, No,
Speaker 2: she's Haitian. Both of her parents are Haitian, you know,
Speaker 2: like immigrants.
Speaker 1: That was the country that Tom said was like, what
Speaker 1: did you call Haiti something stupid? Yes, just meanwhile, she's
Speaker 1: got her I mean what I.
Speaker 2: Love about her though, so something. Because we got to
Speaker 2: ask her questions. So someone said, how do you manage
Speaker 2: with like all the negative feedback whatever? She's like, honestly,
Speaker 2: she said, I learned a while ago that I don't
Speaker 2: read anything about myself. I don't read anything good, I
Speaker 2: don't read anything bad, So that way nothing affects me, like,
Speaker 2: so I don't get to She's like, because this is
Speaker 2: how to take care of my mental health, because you know,
Speaker 2: the good will have you up and then crashing back down,
Speaker 2: and the bad will have you feeling bad. And she said,
Speaker 2: over time, you develop a really thick skin. She was
Speaker 2: honestly so hilaried. She was like, because you know, they
Speaker 2: were talking about how Fox is always basking me. She's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: they're like obsessed with me. She's like one of my
Speaker 2: girlfriend's like, oh my god, girl, it's giving obsession. But
Speaker 2: she was so like, girl, I mean, say what you want.
Speaker 2: I don't care. She was like, it's honestly, it's borderline obsession.
Speaker 2: But she was like, honestly, it doesn't bother me because
Speaker 2: I just refused to ingest anything good or bad. I
Speaker 2: get to live in the moment with my partner, with
Speaker 2: my family, with my friends, and do my job and
Speaker 2: that's it. So I don't. She's like, you know, of
Speaker 2: course I keep the news on, but I keep it
Speaker 2: on mute. She said, the Big Four, CNN, Fox, I
Speaker 2: forget that too, MSNBC. I guess it's CNBC. I don't know.
Speaker 2: But she's like, I keep it on so I can
Speaker 2: know what's happening. But she was like, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2: I just don't subscribe to any any of the good
Speaker 2: or the bad. And then I ask her questions exactly.
Speaker 2: So I asked her question. I was like, let's lighten
Speaker 2: it up. I was like, you know, Jean Pierre. I
Speaker 2: was like, so both your parents are you know, Haitian
Speaker 2: American immigrants, and I said, and dad are Nigerian immigrants.
Speaker 2: I said, how lit was the WhatsApp Auntie chat when
Speaker 2: you became press the secretary. She was like, girl, because
Speaker 2: I said, I know, especially your mom, but it's telling
Speaker 2: her prayer group her church. Not very easy, but that's
Speaker 2: sacred thing. I was like. She started laughing She was like, girl,
Speaker 2: I can't even go food chopping. My mother be bringing
Speaker 2: up you see those eggs. My daughter's a press secretary.
Speaker 2: Let's get she said. She got to be like mom, no,
Speaker 2: just we're just here to get bread. She's like whatever.
Speaker 2: She said her dad was a cab driver, and I
Speaker 2: forget her what her mother did for a living and
Speaker 2: raised her and like her. I think she got one
Speaker 2: or two siblings and so she was like, you know,
Speaker 2: they're very proud obviously, but she was like yeah. She
Speaker 2: was like, you know, she's a girl. You know, nobody
Speaker 2: brags like an immigant. So I just love that.
Speaker 1: So it was just, I don't say, a very humanizing question.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's why I wanted to because I know it
Speaker 2: could be very like, what are the policies on I
Speaker 2: was like, girl, we go, let's let's giggle a little bit.
Speaker 1: So that was like, you know, don't need any cool
Speaker 1: Like who were the other internet celebs?
Speaker 2: So there was this woman named jet you know econ jests.
Speaker 2: She was like red hair.
Speaker 1: I know now because I saw her on your story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we did, because I could tell what I
Speaker 2: pulled up. She's like, I don't know anybody, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I remember her face, Jeff. She has
Speaker 2: a book that's coming out and I did a blurb
Speaker 2: for it. She's like, thank you so much for that
Speaker 2: a blur for my book. And because I followed her
Speaker 2: and I liked her, and I was like, I never
Speaker 2: met her in person, but she was so nice and
Speaker 2: so cool. There was another guy. He's kind of like
Speaker 2: a fitness model, like I guess he represents like because
Speaker 2: they tried to get people to represent different places, so
Speaker 2: it was LGBTQ. He was talking about his husband and
Speaker 2: but he was just like so much fun. So we
Speaker 2: just had like a time. There were some other people
Speaker 2: who I just this time around, I didn't realize. I
Speaker 2: would say very few people from the first time were
Speaker 2: here this.
Speaker 1: Time, you got a second invite a.
Speaker 2: Girl, so you know who was there. Remember back in
Speaker 2: the day, Ellen used to have this guy on it
Speaker 2: who would talk about food, Kaitlin. I think his name is.
Speaker 1: I didn't watch Ellen.
Speaker 2: Oh black influencer. He's hilarious and funny and he was
Speaker 2: one of my face. When I saw him, I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: I know you.
Speaker 1: So yeah.
Speaker 2: There was a few people who I didn't know names,
Speaker 2: but I knew them because I followed them.
Speaker 1: So that was cool. Michelle Obama portrait.
Speaker 2: Yes again because I took a picture with the last time.
Speaker 2: But I was just like, it was just honestly, it
Speaker 2: was just like a really good time. Although we were
Speaker 2: there fever, I didn't get back to the hotel till
Speaker 2: like one o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: I thought you looked real tired. I'm like, oh, she
Speaker 1: wanted to go home.
Speaker 2: Like three girls, everybody's feet were screaming. This time around,
Speaker 2: I knew better because there's a lot of walking. So
Speaker 2: I brought flats with me. So I was like because
Speaker 2: I had these cute boots, but I was like, girl,
Speaker 2: I already know, and so all the girls were heels
Speaker 2: were like I did not know. I was like I knew,
Speaker 2: so I had my flats on.
Speaker 1: You are a White House veteran, so tell the girls
Speaker 1: how to hack it? How did you keep up?
Speaker 2: And I got invited back on Monday the eighteenth, they're
Speaker 2: having a Women's History Month's reception and they were like,
Speaker 2: we'd like for you to ten. I got an official
Speaker 2: invite from the president of the first Lady, I know
Speaker 2: I live there.
Speaker 1: Now, you keep your little name card.
Speaker 2: Of course I got in their pocket. Okay, they let
Speaker 2: it go, and they like so they give you these
Speaker 2: little like there's fun things on one inside the actual bathroom,
Speaker 2: which looks like I could live here. It's so fancy.
Speaker 2: They have these like hand towels that are like a
Speaker 2: mix between like an actual like cloth towel and like
Speaker 2: you know, like a paper towel with the presidential seal. Girl.
Speaker 2: I took a stack put it right. It was a
Speaker 2: klepto maniac. Old lady. They're like, girl, take out things,
Speaker 2: and then they give you like these little eminems and candies.
Speaker 2: Everything has like the presidential sealed girl on my bag.
Speaker 2: I must have twenty of each because I'm like this
Speaker 2: was for Amelia, for row room, for me, me for
Speaker 2: for my mom, you know, oh my gosh, so like
Speaker 2: yeah for Lily, so like I just like I just
Speaker 2: it was and they encourage it. They're like, girl, we
Speaker 2: don't need all these boxes of eminems and Hersy's kiss.
Speaker 2: But it literally they're so cool because it has it
Speaker 2: and like the presidential seals on everything. So everything I
Speaker 2: could do. I literally brought like a non cute big
Speaker 2: bag so I could just clap though maniac.
Speaker 1: Like all this. Yeah, pocket I didn't.
Speaker 2: I brought a cute little clutch and I wasn't able
Speaker 2: to do damage. And they were like, if you don't
Speaker 2: take these things home this I had a I had
Speaker 2: a satchel to hold my flats and to bring home chatchkeys.
Speaker 1: I love that black girl and.
Speaker 2: The white white.
Speaker 1: I love that so exciting.
Speaker 2: Hey, ba fan, we're gonna take a quick break and
Speaker 2: we'll be right back.
Speaker 1: Well, for those of you who have now been educated
Speaker 1: about the state of the Union, I would like to
Speaker 1: educate you all with the state of pop culture. Yes,
Speaker 1: because that's all my brain could taste past couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: So I did watch the Oscars last night.
Speaker 2: I tried to.
Speaker 1: Anyway. They were fun. There wasn't any like big slash
Speaker 1: you know moment. I don't think we're ever gonna match
Speaker 1: the Will Smith that iconique and tragique moment. But I
Speaker 1: mean there were some wins. Like in Black Girl Magic
Speaker 1: there was Divine Joy Rudolph.
Speaker 2: Is it?
Speaker 1: Did I crack up her last name?
Speaker 2: But she.
Speaker 1: I watched a lot of the I try to watch
Speaker 1: the Oscar movies thanks to streaming, because I have not
Speaker 1: sat in a physical theater I think since like Avatar two,
Speaker 1: which was before I had maybe I just first of all,
Speaker 1: they keep shutting down near me. But anyway, so I
Speaker 1: saw The Holdovers, which had Paul Giamadi and then Divine
Speaker 1: Joy Rudolph, who played She had a really heartbreaking role
Speaker 1: and I totally think she deserves the award. She was
Speaker 1: up against Danielle Brooks from The Color Purple. Of course,
Speaker 1: like took over Oprah's role as Sofia and The Color Purple,
Speaker 1: and she also did it on Broadway and she was phenomenal.
Speaker 1: But Divine Joy Rudolph, she just really let me not
Speaker 1: say her name wrong before I like, is it not
Speaker 1: Rudolph Randolph? God, I knew that was stupid frandal. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she played this woman who was the head cook at
Speaker 1: this like boys prep school in maybe the seventies, I
Speaker 1: want to say, yeah, late seventies. And her she's also
Speaker 1: like a grieving mother and she's she provides. Of course,
Speaker 1: she brings some laps, but also just like a lot
Speaker 1: of humanity in this, like you know, she's clearly trying
Speaker 1: to like work through this grief that she has. It
Speaker 1: was a beautiful, beautiful performance. I'm really happy for her.
Speaker 1: And then I also saw American Fiction, which had my
Speaker 1: girl Aa Ray in it, but it was this really
Speaker 1: funny movie about basically a black author played by what's
Speaker 1: the name, what's his name, Jeffrey Wright, and he played
Speaker 1: a black author who was writing like literature, you know,
Speaker 1: like trying not to be like trying not to be
Speaker 1: too like not too literal, but like trying trying to
Speaker 1: pander to like what publishers think black life is like,
Speaker 1: whereas Asa Ray plays an author who's like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna write about Shanna Nay and they're gonna talk
Speaker 1: an ebonics and it's like, oh, publishing is loving that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and so they're basically he creates this
Speaker 1: fake name and writes like he literally makes up a
Speaker 1: fake book and just like makes it the corniest like
Speaker 1: clear parody or satire of like what the publishing world
Speaker 1: thinks black literature can sound like. But then he ends
Speaker 1: up winning all this award, all these awards. Wow, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's a good movie.
Speaker 2: I remember.
Speaker 1: I think you can definitely stream that one and I
Speaker 1: saw it so sterling. Kate Brown was in that one.
Speaker 1: Also Erica Alexander from Living Single. I know she's done
Speaker 1: so many more.
Speaker 2: Things since then, but she's scene attorney at law.
Speaker 1: What I love it. It's also like he comes from
Speaker 1: like a wealthy family. Oh yeah, Tracy Ellis Ross is
Speaker 1: in there for anyway. He comes from like a wealthy family,
Speaker 1: but it's like you don't usually see like a black
Speaker 1: wealthy family in like a Cape cod esque like beach
Speaker 1: you know, beach house kind of scenario. And that's sort
Speaker 1: of where a lot of it takes place. So that
Speaker 1: was a great film. But I mean Oppenheimer's like, oh
Speaker 1: I swept a lot of the categories, blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: But Ken did you you have to watch her? But
Speaker 1: I didn't watch Ooh bab Bee. I'm not even like
Speaker 1: a Ryan Gosling fan, but he has the Riz, like
Speaker 1: some serious Riz and they brought back a lot of
Speaker 1: the actors from the movie to like perform that, and
Speaker 1: it was just like a highlight for me. Let me think.
Speaker 1: And Laverne Clark was doing the E News interviews on
Speaker 1: the Red Carpet and I'm just like, I wish she
Speaker 1: would be nominated for something. But it was really good
Speaker 1: to see her. She's you know, from Oranges to New
Speaker 1: Black and roundbreaking trends actress and I just I loved it.
Speaker 1: And after I watched the Oscars, I took like a
Speaker 1: hour long shower because I got a new sacred I
Speaker 1: got the whole sacred line. I treated myself.
Speaker 2: Is it beautiful that the packaging? I heard, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's very beautiful. I tried to think about how much
Speaker 1: plastic has been used to create it. But she really
Speaker 1: took care, Beyonce. She really took care of the two
Speaker 1: biggest gripes that I have with and I use a
Speaker 1: lot of different products, which are that they're really bright
Speaker 1: and like they don't really give a great they don't
Speaker 1: really give a vibe in the shower, you know, for
Speaker 1: these you're trying to like, you know, set make your
Speaker 1: make your shower very like calming and spa like the
Speaker 1: nice grays. The whites of her line are just very
Speaker 1: spaw like, and the bottle has like this texture to it.
Speaker 1: The boy doesn't slip out of your hands when you're
Speaker 1: trying to get the product out, so.
Speaker 2: Onto your pink, your baby Tael. You're like, oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but my thing is like, there's there's only
Speaker 1: I think out of the six or seven bottles that
Speaker 1: I got of stuff, like one of them was a
Speaker 1: shampoo and all the rest were some kind of like
Speaker 1: conditioning deep situation. I don't think you're meant to use
Speaker 1: them all back to back to back to back, but
Speaker 1: I like lit a bunch of candles and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're doing so yeah. The ress rints, the rice shaker,
Speaker 1: like you make your own like little rice water cocktail.
Speaker 1: They give you a shaker and a powder and you're
Speaker 1: just like sh And then there was a scalp scrub
Speaker 1: and some hair oil and hair lotion, and I think
Speaker 1: the results, you know, I.
Speaker 2: Mean, wait here has always popping. I'm not even gonna liae,
Speaker 2: so girl, what were you talking about here? Maybe even going?
Speaker 1: But yeah it was really pretty though, thank you, But
Speaker 1: it was nice because it really is like a ritual.
Speaker 1: None of those products is for the quick and easy.
Speaker 1: It's all like twenty minutes, thirty minutes, apply heat all
Speaker 1: this stuff. So it was a nice little self offul
Speaker 1: May Yes, and the last little bit of pop culture news.
Speaker 1: I mean, if it even counts, I guess as love
Speaker 1: is blind.
Speaker 2: Well sidebar one, how much had like the whole set costs.
Speaker 1: I think it was two hundred American US dollars or something,
Speaker 1: and the narrows, Oh, listen, hey, if you're listening and
Speaker 1: you're on the PR line and you want to send
Speaker 1: me some free haircare, but actually don't because it's too much,
Speaker 1: Like it takes forever to go get through product and
Speaker 1: I have too many that I just like still have
Speaker 1: it open anyway. Yeah, but two hundred something dollars, but
Speaker 1: it was basically every product in the line. So but
Speaker 1: I think like most of the products are very reasonable.
Speaker 1: They're just kind of what you expect to be like expensive.
Speaker 1: Why it's like twenty to thirty dollars, Ok, maybe even
Speaker 1: like a forty dollars product here and there, but not crazy.
Speaker 1: And I think we could have gone, you know, she
Speaker 1: could have gone like insane, but I really appreciate her
Speaker 1: for keeping the price point not so painful. And they're
Speaker 1: good sized products and you don't need a ton, so
Speaker 1: I mean, good to know hair is expensive. We all
Speaker 1: know this, but I gotta talk about Love is Blind too,
Speaker 1: because everyone is losing their mind eighty and what did
Speaker 1: you hear? Well?
Speaker 2: I heard that there was a black guy that left
Speaker 2: the black girl at the altar. Yeah.
Speaker 1: See, we got really spoiled by the very first like
Speaker 1: Love is Blind success story Lauren and can't Cameron can
Speaker 1: And then later on the Tiffany and Brett couple from
Speaker 1: a couple of seasons ago from Washington State, like they
Speaker 1: were black love personified, and you got really excited. And
Speaker 1: I honestly think that people go on to this show thinking, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be the Tiffany and the Brett or
Speaker 1: the Lauren and Cameron. And this season I could tell
Speaker 1: off the jump that it was not going to be
Speaker 1: it because this guy, Clay was so like fidgety and
Speaker 1: it's just so awkward. I mean, if you could just
Speaker 1: find some highlights on TikTok, you don't have to watch
Speaker 1: the whole show. But he clearly was like so uncomfortable
Speaker 1: with himself and with the whole situation. But then you
Speaker 1: see this poor girl ad who's like stunning and so
Speaker 1: excited and so wants to fall in love and puts
Speaker 1: everything into this guy, and he's clearly like one foot
Speaker 1: out the door mentally the entire time. And they not
Speaker 1: only let this girl walk down the aisle looking so stunning,
Speaker 1: you know she really thought she was getting married. I
Speaker 1: mean every detail, the dress, the hair, everything, the slit.
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, you need picture and little flower
Speaker 1: girls like I don't know if they were like her
Speaker 1: baby cousins or whatever, but those girls are going to
Speaker 1: be They're going to be traumatized because they had to
Speaker 1: see Auntie a d in tears after being jilted at
Speaker 1: the altar. And I think people are pissed because Clay's
Speaker 1: excuse was, like, my dad cheated on my mom and
Speaker 1: everything is a lie, and I don't know if I'm
Speaker 1: going to be able to not cheat and I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm ready for marriage.
Speaker 2: Well here's the thing, she donned a bullet.
Speaker 1: Then Okay, I know, but I think they might be together.
Speaker 1: I don't know. The reunions on Wednesday, we have to
Speaker 1: see there was this moment that I think the producers
Speaker 1: kept in and which has kind of gone viral, which
Speaker 1: is when Clay's mom, who is the mother. You know,
Speaker 1: he watched his father cheat on his mom for years
Speaker 1: and his dad even apparently took him with him when
Speaker 1: I heard yeah, these little like you know, rendezvous or
Speaker 1: whatever for his affairs, and you see his mom talking
Speaker 1: to his dad, and his dad is clearly like trying
Speaker 1: to you know, has revisionist history. He's like, well, he needs,
Speaker 1: you know, Clay needs to meet a woman as great
Speaker 1: as you. And he's all like, you know, like he's
Speaker 1: got the he's got the charisma and the jokes and
Speaker 1: kind of the smirk. And she's like, well, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no, you did not treat me well like you
Speaker 1: had me, but you hurt me. And I love that
Speaker 1: she kind of got a chance to like put him
Speaker 1: in her place, his place and remind him of the
Speaker 1: pain you know, that he had caused.
Speaker 2: And I say lots of not. I remember when I
Speaker 2: the first time my college boyfriend he had his grandfather,
Speaker 2: was like the first time I went to his island,
Speaker 2: Like he was like, oh, you know me my grandfather.
Speaker 2: So we're out with his grandfather, and his grandfather was
Speaker 2: taking us around to kind of took island's not that big.
Speaker 2: So we're pulling up at this lady's house, beautiful older
Speaker 2: lady because grandfather is probably like six in his seventies eight,
Speaker 2: This beautiful like like, oh, this is my friend Sharon.
Speaker 2: She was sa like, oh, hey, whatever is next person?
Speaker 2: Next person. Then after a while I hear like I
Speaker 2: would say his name. I hear him kind of angrily
Speaker 2: being like I'm not gon't do this. This man is
Speaker 2: taken us at this big grown, seventy seven year old
Speaker 2: age taking us around to his ladies, still married to
Speaker 2: his grandmother. I was like, what does it end? I
Speaker 2: couldn't believe it, Like, can you imagine taking me for
Speaker 2: a tour and then oh, let me let me show
Speaker 2: you my ladies. I think my extra So I couldn't
Speaker 2: believe it. I just thought, yeah, yeah, some people just
Speaker 2: that is just who they are. I remember I was
Speaker 2: telling you talking to a young girl, and she was
Speaker 2: just like, I heard that all men cheat. I said,
Speaker 2: that's not true, you know, but I'm unfortunately good men
Speaker 2: don't have good pr and a.
Speaker 1: Lot of men don't have the multitasking skill that is required.
Speaker 1: I'm so serious to cheat it's very smart and kind
Speaker 1: of and a lot.
Speaker 2: Of it are not that there are like to me.
Speaker 2: I told her. She said, well, how would I find
Speaker 2: a man that's not a cheater? I said, The thing is,
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people, a lot of women
Speaker 2: who are to date men, think that a man is
Speaker 2: not going to cheat on me because he loves me.
Speaker 2: That is actually not what you're looking for. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: because girl, man will love you down you do her
Speaker 2: Facebook post and everything else, but while laying next to
Speaker 2: his other lady. So it's not love that keeps men
Speaker 2: from cheating, it's their own internal code. Like I have
Speaker 2: met men. I remember I was talking to my brother
Speaker 2: in law, Terrelle. He's been with his partner since they
Speaker 2: were fifteen, sixteen years old. He's never cheated. I remember.
Speaker 2: Started to be like Terrell's the most faithful man I
Speaker 2: ever met, never like you know, like they broke up
Speaker 2: for a little bit like in their twenties at her
Speaker 2: request because she wonted to date, I think, and then
Speaker 2: got back together. He was waiting to get back together
Speaker 2: with her, and I was asking to Herell like a
Speaker 2: year or so ago, like wow, you know, like you
Speaker 2: love her so much, and you know, I know. Jerell said, like,
Speaker 2: you know, he's never seen anybody more faithful than you
Speaker 2: because it's been like more than half your life. And
Speaker 2: he was like, oh, I'm not faithful because I love
Speaker 2: her so much. I love her so much. That's why
Speaker 2: I'm with her. He said, I'm faithful because I'm not
Speaker 2: a cheater. And it was like wait what he was Actiffany, like,
Speaker 2: whether it was her or somebody else, I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 2: I'm not cheating. I have an internal code for me
Speaker 2: that says I don't do that. And it was kind
Speaker 2: of like the first time that I realized, like, oh, then, yes,
Speaker 2: he obviously he loves this woman so much. You're not
Speaker 2: with somebody for this long, you hope, not out of love.
Speaker 2: But that wasn't the thing that it was like, I
Speaker 2: have already decided I'm not a cheater, so I don't
Speaker 2: navigate in that space in that way. And you know,
Speaker 2: like Jerrell and Trurel, really handsome guy six five sixty six, high,
Speaker 2: cheap bones, dark skinned, I mean really handsome. I mean, sure,
Speaker 2: there's plenty of opportunity, but I just love that because
Speaker 2: I have met a number of men that operate with
Speaker 2: that same internal code of like I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 2: It's almost like I'm not a smoker. So it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm so wild. You should be so proud of yourself
Speaker 2: that you don't smoke because no, no, I don't smoke,
Speaker 2: not for some moral reason. I don't smoke because I'm
Speaker 2: not a smoker. It comes from inside out. And so
Speaker 2: I think that's really like that love is blind. Like
Speaker 2: you know your father cheats because he's a cheatter. Yeah, period,
Speaker 2: And so if you don't want to be a cheating yes,
Speaker 2: if you don't want to be a cheater, you just
Speaker 2: decide on that and you don't be that everyone doesn't steal.
Speaker 1: You know the fact that he was saying in interviews
Speaker 1: after he's or in like his interviews on the show,
Speaker 1: you know they do like the straight to cam kind
Speaker 1: of like answering a question, and he was saying how
Speaker 1: he just didn't have many he didn't have many black
Speaker 1: male role models you know who he saw that were
Speaker 1: that were wait many black Romeo roll mom, else we're
Speaker 1: male and like we're faithful that he saw a lot
Speaker 1: of unfaithful black role models and I'm like, but there's
Speaker 1: so many like I mean, Sterling K. Brown comes to mind,
Speaker 1: like what's his face from the basketball Lebron Jesus.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And who knows, maybe those men do or don't.
Speaker 2: But as a person, man or woman, at some point,
Speaker 2: you are in charge of your life. You're not ten,
Speaker 2: you're not six. You can decide I'm not a drinker,
Speaker 2: I'm not a smoker, I'm not a cheap like. You
Speaker 2: actually get to decide. You actually don't need an example
Speaker 2: of like like, well you know I've seen people get killed,
Speaker 2: so that made me a kill. No, No, I'm not
Speaker 2: a killer. You know what I mean. You actually do
Speaker 2: get to decide, and if you're having trouble deciding, the
Speaker 2: onus is on you to fix it. There is therapy,
Speaker 2: There is group therapy. There is like like, I'm just like,
Speaker 2: I don't like. One thing therapy has taught me is
Speaker 2: I do not subscribe that. You know, this is my life,
Speaker 2: so this is how it has to go. Like, certainly
Speaker 2: that plays a role, but you can at some point
Speaker 2: we all have to look in the mirror and say,
Speaker 2: I do get to decide how this unfolds for me
Speaker 2: and if I need help figuring that out. It's available,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to lean into it, but just to
Speaker 2: just say, like, well, you know, I'm a person that
Speaker 2: hurts other people. That's just how it goes. It doesn't
Speaker 2: have to go that way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And also you don't get that we have to
Speaker 1: also hold people accountable for being adults with their own thoughts,
Speaker 1: their own less and I mean, he needs some good friends.
Speaker 1: He needs some friends to tell him to sit down
Speaker 1: and take a good look in the mirror, because even
Speaker 1: with his dad, he was so fidgety and awkward and uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: like very uncomfortable. But I hope ad is doing well.
Speaker 1: I also hope that they stop this stupid show from
Speaker 1: like forcing people to get married four weeks after meeting
Speaker 1: each other for the like, it's just it's just not healthy.
Speaker 1: And at this point it's no longer that fun for
Speaker 1: me to watch it.
Speaker 2: Because people deserve good things, Like I just have so
Speaker 2: many girlfriends and people who are like, oh, this guy
Speaker 2: mistreated me. You know, maybe it speaks about myself. I said,
Speaker 2: here's the thing that I've just learned that, like, you know,
Speaker 2: at some point we all run into both good and bad.
Speaker 2: So it's not like, oh, you are attracting like only
Speaker 2: bad things. It's like like learning that hey, when something
Speaker 2: comes in and it's not a fit of not letting
Speaker 2: it linger. You know, like when we read that book Attached,
Speaker 2: and you know, like I tell all my girlfriends it's
Speaker 2: such a great book. If you guys have not read it,
Speaker 2: It's like this kind of book about like how do
Speaker 2: you navigate relationships? It specifically talks about romantic relationships and
Speaker 2: like learning very early on as you're dating to be like, hey,
Speaker 2: I recognize this, this is not actually a healthy connection.
Speaker 2: Because Wendy Womens used to always say interested men at interested.
Speaker 2: You know, we've all had the time when a man
Speaker 2: maybe we were not interested in, was interested and you knew,
Speaker 2: you knew he called you, he texts you, he showed up,
Speaker 2: he pulled your hair at lunchtime, and you know he
Speaker 2: like sat next to you, he brought you cookies, and
Speaker 2: the character you knew because interested men are interested. Oh
Speaker 2: well he's so busy, that girl hand that busy. Oh well,
Speaker 2: you know it's just that you know he has a
Speaker 2: kid and that No, I promise you, when someone is
Speaker 2: interested in you, they show up as an interested person.
Speaker 2: No level of shyness. Yes, is going to like now,
Speaker 2: he might be shy, and it will look like shy
Speaker 2: but shy interest. And so if you have to make
Speaker 2: excuses for yourself and why this person is not making time,
Speaker 2: it's because he's not that into you, and that's okay.
Speaker 1: It goes for friendships.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, that out there. Yes they're not that into you,
Speaker 2: and that's okay. And you are allowed to say I
Speaker 2: am worthy of the best you have to offer. And
Speaker 2: if you're not offering that, I don't need to be here.
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at you when not like no, I look,
Speaker 2: it took me a long time, man, you know, and
Speaker 2: you too, right, it took a long time and from
Speaker 2: my friendship circles to clean house to being like I
Speaker 2: only want people around me who are kind and good
Speaker 2: and interested and make effort. If not, I don't, why
Speaker 2: are you here?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: And so like I just am like no, I just refused.
Speaker 2: My favorite thing I used to heal Darell tell to
Speaker 2: his friends because they if they would want to hang
Speaker 2: out or do something like, oh you should do that, man,
Speaker 2: just tell your wife. I would hear him say, Man, Tiffany,
Speaker 2: ain't with that shit. I love that because what that
Speaker 2: meant was, he knows she whoever, I ain't with the shits.
Speaker 2: So consider that as you make these choices, you don't
Speaker 2: wait next to that man that like it's me, you know,
Speaker 2: because what that told me was that I had created
Speaker 2: a boundary where he knew that, like, yo, if I
Speaker 2: want to maintain happiness in my household, that there's a
Speaker 2: certain level and way I have to show up for
Speaker 2: her because she's not going to allow me to do
Speaker 2: anything else.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I only have to tell him one time. I said,
Speaker 2: just so you know, if we're going to be together
Speaker 2: in a relationship, I don't go through phones. I don't
Speaker 2: look through sock drawers, I don't do any of that.
Speaker 2: I just leave. One day. You will come home and
Speaker 2: the house will be empty, and you will watch me
Speaker 2: on TV. I'm just gonna say that one time, and
Speaker 2: he was like, I'm not even doing I faid, no,
Speaker 2: I'm not saying I'm not cure. I didn't think that.
Speaker 2: I'm just letting you know, just so we're clear, you
Speaker 2: will come home to an empty house. He was like,
Speaker 2: duly noted, you know, like I never had any reason
Speaker 2: to suspect otherwise, But I just wanted to like let
Speaker 2: it be said that, like I'm not the one, the two, oh,
Speaker 2: the three, you know, and we're allowed to say.
Speaker 1: That, you know.
Speaker 2: And I know so many of my friends who are
Speaker 2: like kind of like in their late thirties and forties,
Speaker 2: and they're wanting to be partnered so badly. You know,
Speaker 2: I can promise you that bad partnership is far worse
Speaker 2: than being by yourself, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, one of my good friends was saying, we
Speaker 1: were texting about love is Blind and cheese. We're in
Speaker 1: this group chat and I two of us are married
Speaker 1: with kids and the other two single pringles and like
Speaker 1: live in their best you know, we got we got
Speaker 1: extra money left over. We're living our lives kind of lives.
Speaker 1: And she was like, you know what, it's not said
Speaker 1: often enough that being single and being by yourself is okay,
Speaker 1: And like a lot of us who are single out
Speaker 1: here are made to feel othered and are made to
Speaker 1: feel like, what's wrong with you? And then we find
Speaker 1: ourselves in these horrible situations with people who are not
Speaker 1: right for us to like sort of like make ourselves
Speaker 1: feel better and make other people around us, like, you know,
Speaker 1: more comfortable with who we are and in the process,
Speaker 1: you know, we're missing out on this happy, whole life
Speaker 1: that you can have when you are unpartnered or you know,
Speaker 1: by yourself. And I, yeah, I whole lot of wholeheartedly agree.
Speaker 1: And then you see these shows like Love is Blind,
Speaker 1: and I think that's exactly the kind of person they're
Speaker 1: preying upon.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like Resa Tisa, like let me ignore everything just
Speaker 2: for partnership. I mean, I mean she came up because
Speaker 2: she had a Netflix. She do all the stuff. Now
Speaker 2: she's signed the c aa A something real fast. I
Speaker 2: mean because recent, nothing else is a storyteller.
Speaker 1: So I saw her, I was like, did I miss someone? Like?
Speaker 1: Who is this recent? She was on every single man
Speaker 1: outlet when I went on the I opened my phone
Speaker 1: one day last week and I had to go backtrack.
Speaker 1: But thank god there's people who have done the work
Speaker 1: for us, because you know what, I don't have time.
Speaker 2: To do be watching worth. I said, give me the recap.
Speaker 2: I started to watch a little bit. I say, girl,
Speaker 2: give me the recap. But I'll say that like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I just I just wandered, like you know, I just
Speaker 2: it's I just as more and more of my friends,
Speaker 2: you know, the thought is if I don't get married,
Speaker 2: this is what the world tell you. If you don't
Speaker 2: get married, have kids, who's gonna look after you when
Speaker 2: you get old? You're making the assumption that your husband
Speaker 2: will make it. I'm someone who lost my husband. Getting married,
Speaker 2: even a good marriage, does not guarantee that that's what
Speaker 2: that's what the ending is going to look like. So
Speaker 2: trying to get married for that reason, No, I had
Speaker 2: a great marriage. My husband was great and amazing, and
Speaker 2: but he's not here. I'm forty four. He died when
Speaker 2: I was forty one, you know, And so that doesn't
Speaker 2: guarantee this financial stability at the end, it does it.
Speaker 2: There are financial things that you can do to set
Speaker 2: yourself up that you can have yourself looked after one
Speaker 2: way or the other. And one thing that women are
Speaker 2: really good at is building community around ourselves, meaning like
Speaker 2: your siblings, your friends, your neighbors, and that like, not
Speaker 2: getting married does not mean that you're not going to
Speaker 2: have access to like the glove surrounding you, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? You know, and as somebody who was
Speaker 2: married and it was good, you know, and who is
Speaker 2: not married anymore because he's not here, you know, like
Speaker 2: life is still like I'm learning good despite the loss,
Speaker 2: but I am now navigating from a place of like, Okay,
Speaker 2: what does it look like to make sure I have
Speaker 2: things in place to look after myself? You know, like
Speaker 2: I checked all the boxes what they tell you to do,
Speaker 2: and still I found myself here. So I don't want
Speaker 2: you checking is just because I wanted to check boxes
Speaker 2: for happiness, like if I ever get married again, which
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily see that in my future. I mean,
Speaker 2: you never know, I guess, but if I do, it
Speaker 2: won't be because I feel like I have to check
Speaker 2: a box. It would be because you know that this
Speaker 2: is a connection that I want to like have more deeply.
Speaker 2: But other than that, I'm happy either way not having
Speaker 2: it because I'm surrounded by so much love. I have
Speaker 2: such awesome friends. I have cleaned house. All the friends
Speaker 2: who weren't awesome are no longer here bye, And I
Speaker 2: know they be listening because I'll be here through the
Speaker 2: great from her in a while, she.
Speaker 1: Cleaned me, She threw me out.
Speaker 2: Who wants to clean house? Asked you to have the
Speaker 2: show called clean house? But yeah that ultimately, if you
Speaker 2: take care of your financial life, you know, even if
Speaker 2: you don't, Like, here's the thing, even if you get married,
Speaker 2: that doesn't mean that's not guaranteed that in your old
Speaker 2: age that you know this person is going to look
Speaker 2: after you or be able to take.
Speaker 1: Care of it, that they'll want to. Yeah, you'll want
Speaker 1: them to.
Speaker 2: Even if you have kids, give me kids be like
Speaker 2: they don't talk to their parents. I'm no contact with
Speaker 2: my mom, Like.
Speaker 1: I don't even if they do sibling rivalries and all
Speaker 1: this like girl ship that gets twisted.
Speaker 2: They might be you know, they might marry somebody who
Speaker 2: is not, you know, trying to have them look after you.
Speaker 2: So like, ultimately you create your plan for yourself and
Speaker 2: you lean in and you love on the people who
Speaker 2: were here while they're here, and that's the best you
Speaker 2: can do. It's time for the bootstamp breaking, boots stamp breaking,
Speaker 2: boost them break. That's something else I used to say,
Speaker 2: Do you want a boost? Do you want to break?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 2: You're gonna do?
Speaker 1: What you say?
Speaker 2: But there was something before that I forget. I forgot
Speaker 2: every time that you were to hear many anymody used
Speaker 2: to have to pop and be like, girl, this is
Speaker 2: the song. I don't know why I breakingnot hold today.
Speaker 1: Used to be like a Mickey Mouse club.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Now and now it's time to boost. That's how
Speaker 2: it started. Yeah, are you gonna boot I'm gonna do
Speaker 2: a little promo for my for my boost. So unless
Speaker 2: you got something deep, you got a booty breaking.
Speaker 1: Not too deep, I'm going to do a boost, Okay.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna do a little promo for my aboost.
Speaker 2: So I told myself, I got a little confessional. I
Speaker 2: don't know how to invest. I mean certainly like, oh,
Speaker 2: in the ETF and a mutual fund, yes, But I
Speaker 2: told myself that I actually wanted to like learn how
Speaker 2: to actively invest. I mean investing can look like real estate,
Speaker 2: which I have some. It can look like business, which
Speaker 2: I have, you know, But I mean like in the market.
Speaker 2: If I'm being honest, I feel really overwhelmed and intimidated
Speaker 2: by it. And so I told myself, this is the
Speaker 2: year that you're going to learn. And I actually asked so.
Speaker 2: I when I went to Dubai. One of the people
Speaker 2: out the Mastermind, we had her on the show, Terry Ijama,
Speaker 2: I had asked her. I said, Terry, what would it
Speaker 2: look like if you coached me? You know? I asked
Speaker 2: her for like, what is it like like a one
Speaker 2: on one and she was like, I you know, I
Speaker 2: can help. And I said, okay, what would that look like?
Speaker 2: You know, do you have a course? You like, what
Speaker 2: does it look like? Because I want to tap into
Speaker 2: her personally, you know, like I've read the books whatever,
Speaker 2: but I still am scared to pull the trigger. He said, actually,
Speaker 2: I'm having this challenge, this five day challenge that you
Speaker 2: should join. Matter of fact, she said you should speak
Speaker 2: and I was like, well, I don't know to vest.
Speaker 2: She's like, no, I have speakers talking about regular personal
Speaker 2: finance stuff. Like She's like, maybe you could talk about
Speaker 2: how to budget and save some money so you have
Speaker 2: money to put into the market. I said sure. So
Speaker 2: she's got this challenge. It's this five day challenge and
Speaker 2: it's going to be in April, and I think I
Speaker 2: want to say Day one is like you learn about
Speaker 2: the stock market, Day two about indexes, Day three about
Speaker 2: how to choose a brokerage firm and open up an account.
Speaker 2: Day four how to actually buy a stock. And I
Speaker 2: think you could do so live with her. In day
Speaker 2: five how to sell a stock. So it's like she
Speaker 2: calls it, you take your first trade challenge, So I
Speaker 2: am going to be speaking. I'm excited about that, but
Speaker 2: also I'm not gonna lie. I'm actually excited about taking
Speaker 2: the challenge because Terry has like this is like a
Speaker 2: quick start. Obviously, this is not super you know, it's
Speaker 2: not like, oh, now you can go ahead and start
Speaker 2: training stocks. But it's more so for someone like me
Speaker 2: who is nervous about doing anything in the market by
Speaker 2: myself in this way to be like, literally, how do
Speaker 2: you open a brokeras account. I'm not gonna lie, I
Speaker 2: don't know how how do you just?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: I mean like I know, I know, no, yes, meaning
Speaker 2: like I have one. I mean I have like obous have,
Speaker 2: like Robin Hoood I have, but I kind of like
Speaker 2: feel like I'm playing like a video game, Like I
Speaker 2: don't even know why this should be the right one,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like I feel like whenever
Speaker 2: I want to learn something new, the first thing I
Speaker 2: do is like I read a book, I listen to podcasts,
Speaker 2: and then I look for a teacher. Honestly, that is
Speaker 2: like one of the next things. Like if I like Mandy,
Speaker 2: for example, when we were I had you come to
Speaker 2: the team and talk to the team about like, oh,
Speaker 2: how do we What was it that you came to
Speaker 2: talk to our team about not CEO? Yes, because I'm like,
Speaker 2: we had to listened to the podcast. I had read
Speaker 2: the books, but I'm like, Mandy has done this, so
Speaker 2: I like to tap into who. Like I learned that
Speaker 2: from Lynette. She was like, it's not the how the
Speaker 2: who can you come teach us? And so now I'm
Speaker 2: at the place where I'm like, of course I know
Speaker 2: how to techechnically like open up an account, but I'm
Speaker 2: not really sure why I'm doing it and what I
Speaker 2: should be looking for. So anyway, so I'm excited about
Speaker 2: the challenge and if you want to join us in
Speaker 2: the challenge, So this is my link, right, so I'm
Speaker 2: going to text it to you can put it in
Speaker 2: our in our show notes. It's Trade and Travel dot Com,
Speaker 2: slash the Budget Nesta. So that is my link to
Speaker 2: sign up for the challenge with us. And yeah, it's five.
Speaker 1: Days and find like a teacher. I mean, Terry has
Speaker 1: like the number one. She's in a teachable course, right, ye, Like, hey,
Speaker 1: you think you could like cand In Best She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: she taught like millions of people out of the best.
Speaker 2: Terry is the best at it. I'm like, I'll be
Speaker 2: a light about it, but yes, Terry has taught thousands
Speaker 2: of thousands of people how to trade. Her big thing
Speaker 2: is like how to make a thousand dollars in one day,
Speaker 2: So not every day, but in one day, so you
Speaker 2: learn how to like make a trade that can make
Speaker 2: your thousand. Terry's biggest one of her biggest trades. I
Speaker 2: saw her on I think it was Karen Hunter. That's
Speaker 2: another podcasts at my mom sometimes we're live. I remember
Speaker 2: I asked her about it. She had done this trade.
Speaker 2: She always wanted to do a million dollar trade. So
Speaker 2: I was like, so it was disney stock and she
Speaker 2: started with three hundred thousand dollars and she made a
Speaker 2: trade meaning like you know, bought it and then sold
Speaker 2: it live so we could all see. So she went
Speaker 2: from three hundred thousand dollars to a million dollars in
Speaker 2: that trade. Now, she had been setting that trade off
Speaker 2: for months because you know, you basically there's like charts
Speaker 2: you could follow up when it's going to go up
Speaker 2: and down. It all the stuff that I don't know,
Speaker 2: but you know, she had been like waiting for this moment, like,
Speaker 2: based upon like all of her charting and whatever she
Speaker 2: had been doing, that this should be the day that
Speaker 2: the stock basically should triple within this timeframe or whatever.
Speaker 2: And it did. So she took three hundred thousand and
Speaker 2: made it into a million, and I was like, and
Speaker 2: obviously that is not typical, because girl, who're doing all that?
Speaker 2: Cause who has three hundred thousand? But what if you
Speaker 2: have thirty to make it into one hundred or three
Speaker 2: hundred into a thousand, or three thousand into ten thousand.
Speaker 2: And I just don't want to feel like, like I said, obviously,
Speaker 2: like I know how to do some basic mechanics, but
Speaker 2: I don't feel empowered. Honestly, I don't, you know, Like
Speaker 2: I kind of like set it and forget it, which
Speaker 2: quite honestly is better than nothing if you don't do
Speaker 2: nothing else I set it and forget it. It is
Speaker 2: way better than most. But I wanted this is an
Speaker 2: area where I have this limiting belief that it's too hard,
Speaker 2: and I want to prove myself wrong. Like that's not true, Tiffany,
Speaker 2: you know, so if you want to join along with me,
Speaker 2: she's my coach and you will see me there. But
Speaker 2: I'm not teaching trading like I'm like, I'm one of
Speaker 2: like she like has these bonuses for the challenge and
Speaker 2: I'm one of the bonuses. But teaching you how to
Speaker 2: budget and say, so you have money to trade. But
Speaker 2: Terry's going to teach for the five days. I'm just
Speaker 2: really excited about it. And I told her I want
Speaker 2: to do an even deeper lesson with her later, but
Speaker 2: for now, this is a good quick start. If you
Speaker 2: already savvy in the market, this ain't for you. I mean,
Speaker 2: certainly could sign up if you want to, but yeah,
Speaker 2: but if you're savvy the market, this ain't for you.
Speaker 2: This is really for like the girlies like me who
Speaker 2: are like I know, I'm smart. So it's trade intravel
Speaker 2: dot com, slash the Budgetista, and it'll be in our
Speaker 2: show notes and so like yeah, and it'll be in April.
Speaker 2: I want to say that in nineteenth yes, yes, and
Speaker 2: so five days and yeah, it's gonna be a good time,
Speaker 2: not a long time, but let's do it. So we
Speaker 2: could talk about it, so I could talk stock. Stuff's
Speaker 2: not gonna be like so my stock it's currently I
Speaker 2: can't even tell you what my stock is. The one
Speaker 2: like my retirement accounts and stuff like that. But yeah,
Speaker 2: so join us. That's my that's my boost that like,
Speaker 2: your girl is going to be a savvy investor, maybe
Speaker 2: not by the end of the year, but at least
Speaker 2: on the road to be.
Speaker 1: M I love it. And then if you are by
Speaker 1: osmosis or like I feel like it's gonna be contagious,
Speaker 1: then like I'll also become a savvy investor. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: You're never it's never too late to start learning stuff. Yes,
Speaker 1: I can't wait. I'm gonna sign up now, just because
Speaker 1: everything you say to do, I just do it. Like sickness.
Speaker 1: You're like an influencer.
Speaker 2: Just want you to know that.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I want to do a boost because if you
Speaker 1: guys listen to it. Maybe it was in January or February.
Speaker 1: I had my cousin on and Anna Banana and she's like, please,
Speaker 1: I'm calling me that, but I can't stop. She was
Speaker 1: on the show We did a whole show, Tiffany when
Speaker 1: you were out about her career journey so far and
Speaker 1: like the three years that I adopted her and I like,
Speaker 1: you know, forced her to come up here during the
Speaker 1: pandemic and restart her entire life, and at the time,
Speaker 1: she was working like she basically earns like minimum earned
Speaker 1: minimum wage working at in the luxury spa space. And
Speaker 1: we went to which was beautiful, yes, and we talked
Speaker 1: a lot about her LinkedIn game and how she could
Speaker 1: do a lot better and all this. I like fought
Speaker 1: her on how to put a picture up. You know,
Speaker 1: go back and listen to that episode with Anna. It's
Speaker 1: really good if I do say something myself. But I
Speaker 1: wanted to give an update because Homegirl got her first
Speaker 1: like big girl salaried job where she's making above the median.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not trying to give her business away,
Speaker 1: but like she's making good money. To me, yeah, twenty six,
Speaker 1: you know year old something. It was like a huge
Speaker 1: rais and she's no longer doing like you know how
Speaker 1: a lot of those minimum wage jobs are like weird hours.
Speaker 1: You got to work on the weekends, you got to
Speaker 1: work at nights, and so she wasn't like she wanted.
Speaker 1: I told her be careful what she wished for. She
Speaker 1: wanted like a regular, regular nine to five, and I
Speaker 1: was like, you're gonna find out the reason. You're like,
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, I can do things in the evening now,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, but you're not gonna want to
Speaker 1: because now you got a nine to five sucking the
Speaker 1: life out of here. Just to say, I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm kind of in the corner like a troll under
Speaker 1: the bridge. Come to the nine to five life.
Speaker 2: You're going to love it.
Speaker 1: But I'm super proud of her for taking that leap,
Speaker 1: and yeah, just continuing to move, make moves in her
Speaker 1: career and incrementally just make it happen for herself, you know.
Speaker 1: So she's built a lot of confidence. And so if
Speaker 1: you're out there also, I think she talked about just
Speaker 1: applying to millions of jobs on LinkedIn too. So if
Speaker 1: you're out there and you're waiting for your opportunity, just
Speaker 1: a little extra hope for you. Courtesy of my cousin Anna.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love that. Go ahead, Anna, we love a
Speaker 2: big girl.
Speaker 1: Jab as long as she's still available for babysitting up
Speaker 1: I know, for free.
Speaker 2: All Right, that's the show, folks, here's the thing. This
Speaker 2: was a pretty awesome show. It was go ahead on
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Speaker 2: a quick review? Mandy, when do you read a look review?
Speaker 1: I was right on it, girl. One yeah, oh, here's one. Okay.
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Speaker 1: Oh perfect. I look forward to listening each and every episode.
Speaker 1: I love Mandy and Tiffany as if they were my BFFs. Oh.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, y'all, to see you on Friday for
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Speaker 1: Oh I can't wait, it's been a minute, all right,