1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:03,080 Speaker 1: Well, this is a sad day because you're out of town. 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: So we're on the phone again. Back at it. I 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: ever my family, which is kind of nice for a change. 4 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:12,640 Speaker 1: What are you doing just getting a little visited. Yeah. 5 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: I came home from fourth of July and it had 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 1: been months, obviously since I've seen my parents because of COVID. 7 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: You mean, yeah, yeah, how's that going for you? It's good. 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: I mean it's you know, it's always nice to see them. 9 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: But I'm sort of I'll be ready to mom leaving tomorrow, 10 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 1: so it'll be nice to get back into my own routinely. 11 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:36,240 Speaker 1: There's obviously challenges with seeing family, but it's also great 12 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:39,680 Speaker 1: to see family. Yeah, what a thing to say. Well, 13 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: you know, the one thing that I've noticed is like 14 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: I live, you know, I live alone. Like it's so 15 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:48,160 Speaker 1: quiet in my house because it's just me, and when 16 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm here, it's my my parents, and then my niece 17 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: is here with us because she's obviously out of school, 18 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: so there's like two TVs going, everybody's talking all the time. 19 00:00:57,720 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: To try and like read and concentrate and respond to 20 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: an email that's actually important, it's hard. Yeah, it's like 21 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: overload too, especially when you're used to being by yourself 22 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: so much. Yeah, it's like it makes my brain when 23 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: I pop and they don't understand that, Like they just 24 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: don't understand the entertainment business. It's NonStop. Like my niece 25 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: said to me today, do you ever get a day off? 26 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: And I was like, nope, like even on vacation. You know, 27 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: it's like there are things that happen that need your attention. 28 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: It's like there is a balance that you can find, like, um, 29 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: but you know it's it's never You're never fully off 30 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: of yea. Yeah, well I hope you get some a 31 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: little bit more downtime before you come back tomorrow. Um. 32 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: We did talk about doing a different topic than we're 33 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: actually gonna end up doing today. I posted on my 34 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: Instagram because first of all, you guys are loving the 35 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: sex and dating seven. I actually really like talking about it. 36 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: Do you like talking about it? Ship? Yeah? I mean 37 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: it's you know, we've you and I've had this conversation 38 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: like we're certainly not experts, but we're you know, we're 39 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: human beings. Love to say speak for yourself, but no, 40 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 1: I think like we experience some of the same things, 41 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: so it's we're obviously giving our perspective, and it's it's 42 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: you know, it can be really nice for us to 43 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: hear that people are experiencing the same things as us, 44 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:19,519 Speaker 1: so and the same that we're giving advice, Like it's 45 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: making us feel normal to get these questions well. And 46 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 1: I think like our friend group is oddly like each 47 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 1: other ship, and we talk very openly about all aspects 48 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: of our lives. But I think there's a lot of 49 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: people who wouldn't even feel comfortable to ask their friends 50 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: some of these questions, especially if you're married. I think 51 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: it's like a weird balance between you know, holding the 52 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: confidentiality of your relationship but then also like getting the 53 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: feedback you need. So we're happy that we can be 54 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: here for you guys, for that the world. But it's 55 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: been really yeah, and I think it's like something everyone 56 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: deals with, no matter if you're gay, straight, how old 57 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: you are, Like you deal with sex and dating and 58 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: so it's just a amen denominator that we all have, 59 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: so we're happy to keep talking about it. I actually 60 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: posted on my Instagram yesterday, um, because my birthday is 61 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: coming up this weekend, and every year that you get, 62 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: you know, at this age, I'm gonna be thirty eight. 63 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: When you get a year at turney year older, I 64 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: think it just makes you kind of look back at 65 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,799 Speaker 1: the last year and you go, where am I did 66 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: I accomplish what I think I would? And the thing 67 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: I've learned about aging is like you're never where you 68 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:30,559 Speaker 1: kind of mapped out that you would be, And specifically, 69 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 1: I think that can go hand in hand with dating 70 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: and relationships, even your sex life. So I posted my 71 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: Instagram to ask people kind of feedback about those thoughts 72 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: and what questions they had, and I've long really gotten 73 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: hundreds of messages and so it took me a lot 74 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: longer to navigate through that, and it made me realize 75 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: that this is maybe a bigger topic than I was thinking. 76 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: And so we're going to actually talk about this next 77 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: week when you when you and I have a chance 78 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: to sort through all of these messages and really dive 79 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: into the topic and do it justice. Yeah. Yeah, I 80 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: think that's better because it's some of those um points. 81 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: You know, they definitely are going to take research on 82 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: our part, so well, right, And you and I did 83 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: talk before, and it's sort of the thing about like 84 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:21,719 Speaker 1: when we started thinking about it, It's like I have 85 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: my own personal thoughts and you were like, I have 86 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: my own personal thoughts. And then it's like so much 87 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: bigger than just what's happening in our lives right this minute. 88 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: There's so many different routes to this, and like social 89 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: pressures and sexual dysfunction. I mean, there was all these 90 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,599 Speaker 1: things that came into my messages that I was like, oh, Ship, 91 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 1: this is bigger than I thought. So we will address 92 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 1: all of this next week, and I actually think it's 93 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,280 Speaker 1: going to be a really, really, really interesting topic. You've 94 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: guts since some fascinating messages to me, some that I 95 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: was very encouraged about with aging, so I can't wait 96 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 1: to dive into that. We also still are getting the 97 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 1: sex and dating questions, which keep those coming. We had 98 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:03,960 Speaker 1: some really interesting sex questions that we're going to just 99 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: navigate through those this week, kind of like we've done 100 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: the last two weeks. Um, people keep telling me that 101 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:12,719 Speaker 1: they're laughing out loud, and I'm like, are we funny 102 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: as our sex life funny? I don't know is that 103 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: a good thing or a bad thing? Um, I will 104 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: say I think that it's funny to just talk about 105 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:30,599 Speaker 1: the awkwardness so um this, let's just go ahead and 106 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: dive into these. But the first question, I think you 107 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: might actually be better than at answering this than me. 108 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: But it's from Catherine and she says, what kind of 109 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: condoms do you recommend? Oh? Um, you know, I think 110 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 1: that's really a really good question. I think, you know, 111 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 1: some of it depends on size. Um, there are you know, 112 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: there are people that are allergic to latex, so there's 113 00:05:56,040 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: lamp skin. Um. I mean I think, look, the sinner 114 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: the better, but obviously you don't want to compromise the 115 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: stability of it either. Yeah, So do you have a 116 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: personal preference tip? I mean, I'm sort of a trojan guy. 117 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 1: There's so many different types, but like I think that 118 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: the finner the better. But like when you have the 119 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,920 Speaker 1: really like sort, I mean, none of them are really thick, 120 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:28,280 Speaker 1: but like the bulkier ones are just they do like 121 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: affect the sensation. You know, it's suddenly, yeah, suddenly there's 122 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: like this piece of rubber, you know, between you and 123 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: the Yeah, Gloria, Yeah, god, here's ever muffin you're you know, 124 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: this is a bread of muffin you prefer don't know 125 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: what I said? The love muffin whichever, you know, flavor 126 00:06:55,880 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: of muffin. Yeah, that's whatever. Okay, Okay, I can even 127 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,160 Speaker 1: I was about to make a response. I keep doing 128 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: this where I'm about to make a response and I'm like, 129 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: just stop, just leave it. Um. I I'm gonna get 130 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: so much shipped for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. 131 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: I hate condoms. I am not encouraging unsafe sex, but 132 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: it's such a buzz kill, right, Like it genuinely just 133 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: does not feel the same. I don't think to either person. Well, 134 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: I mean, that's kind of what I wanted my answer 135 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: to be, but I didn't want to be you couldn't 136 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: say it. Yeah, I mean, look, you've done a really 137 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 1: um you've done a lot of work building up this audience. 138 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: The last thing I want to do scare them away. 139 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: I'll do it. Apparently that it's true, like they suck, 140 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: But I think too, it's like it is best to 141 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: be safe. Of course, if you're committed a relationship and 142 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: you trust your person, the sensations are so much better 143 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: without it. Well, that's what I want to say, is 144 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: it's like you're just like hopping around you You have 145 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: to be careful and you have to be safe, like 146 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: that would be that's the responsible thing to do. And 147 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: I encouraged that if you are in a long term 148 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: relationship and you're not worried about pregnancy necessarily or there's 149 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: no STD issues, I mean, you just don't do it. 150 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: But I did because I'm such a like blab person 151 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: about condoms and I am in a long term relationship. Um, 152 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: I don't. I didn't really. I was like, I don't know, 153 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: it's a contribute, like if we when we were doing that, 154 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: he just bought them and that's probably like a whatever 155 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 1: thing of me and like not, um, what's the word 156 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: got any more coffee? Well, look, I also think too, 157 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: you know, the um being the male in the room. 158 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: Like when it comes to heterosexual relationships, oftentimes the protection 159 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: side has fallen on women, and I do think it's 160 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,199 Speaker 1: really important for guys to step up and do their part. 161 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: And um, you know, as long as the the woman 162 00:08:56,920 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 1: in the relationship agrees that she feels safe without it, 163 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 1: then you can move forward along that path. But it 164 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: should never be a guy's assumption that all women, um 165 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: don't like condoms. You know, it's because it's more about 166 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:18,760 Speaker 1: sexually transmitted diseases at point. But the assumption should be 167 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: that everyone wants to be safe, and once you feel 168 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: safe with somebody, you can sort of start taking those 169 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: barriers down a little bit. Yeah, but always be prepared. 170 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: I think that's a great point you make, because I've 171 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 1: gotten this fight with like multiple guys, not even guys 172 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:35,319 Speaker 1: have dated. But it's just like, I like, birth control 173 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: from my body does not work like I'm super sensitive. 174 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: It's kind of the same thing as as hormones I 175 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: was injecting when I was trying to freeze my eggs. 176 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:46,680 Speaker 1: My body is just like no, like I get migraines. 177 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: I've tried multiple different kinds. It just and there's something 178 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 1: about it because of how I like to be kind 179 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: of clean and let my body heal itself and all 180 00:09:57,040 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: of those things that just feels doesn't It doesn't feel 181 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,079 Speaker 1: right to me for myself, I think a lot. I 182 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 1: mean it is you're you're throwing off the chemical balance 183 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: of your natural body exactly. Yeah, it's effective and it 184 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,560 Speaker 1: works for a lot of people, but I mean it 185 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: doesn't negate the fact that, like birth control, it's not natural, 186 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:25,200 Speaker 1: right if you're like natural bodily cycles, right, So for me, 187 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: I'm just chosen like I can't do it, and with like, 188 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: I think that's such a good point to do it 189 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: that you make though, because then that is like, if 190 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 1: you're trying not to get pregnant or whatever, you're left 191 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:39,680 Speaker 1: to like the pull out method, which that's fine too, 192 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: But I do think it's wrong for a guy to 193 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: assume that a girl is the one who needs to 194 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: take that responsibility because some girls are just not going 195 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 1: to be okay with what birth control does to their body. 196 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 1: And yes, maybe that makes it easier on the guy, 197 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:56,719 Speaker 1: but it's like if I'm getting fucking migraines, like we're 198 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: not gonna be having sex anyway, and I'm gonna be 199 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: a nightmare like emotion, only it makes me just a nightmare. 200 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: So um I did for the condom answer. What I 201 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: was saying earlier is I googled. I'm like, what are 202 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: the best condoms? And very well health dot com has 203 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: an article of the nine best condoms of twenty it's 204 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:19,840 Speaker 1: very well Health dot com. Um they have a breakdown 205 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: of like best for him, best for her, best overall, 206 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:26,679 Speaker 1: best for first time, best for snug fit. So if 207 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 1: you are interested in that, are really looking they have 208 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: a great breakdown though, I think is really interesting and 209 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: best for him, like you said, is going to be 210 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 1: the thinner, the bear skin, the Trojan bear skin is 211 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: what they said. Okay, best for her they said, is 212 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: Oka motto zero zero for latex condoms with aloe and Amazon. 213 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:52,319 Speaker 1: I don't know why it says this condom ensures women 214 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: enjoy intercourse. I think it's what you said. It's like 215 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:58,240 Speaker 1: the thinner is kind of the better, best for first time, 216 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 1: they said, ribbed. Okay, all right, I mean I don't 217 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: know that that ripping really It's like, what's the thing 218 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 1: is called tight? Like? How is that really provide much sensation? 219 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: There are I've never used any of those ones that 220 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 1: have like the rating rings and stuff like that, Like 221 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: they've got some pretty fun at this point, so I 222 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: didn't even know that. Well anyway, if you're interested, go 223 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:27,320 Speaker 1: read very well health dot com the best the nine 224 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: best condoms of the article. Um. Catherine also asked, what 225 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:41,560 Speaker 1: is your go to for play, you asshole, because I'm 226 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: gonna have to tell my mom not to listen again. 227 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: Um for okay, I'll just be straight up, guys, if 228 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: you're ignoring the nipples like you're really fucking up. And girls, 229 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: if you don't bring the nipples to the party, then 230 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:57,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what is hell you for me? That 231 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: is like the go to way to get we turned 232 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: on every time and are supersensitive. I don't know. I 233 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 1: just like it obviously, kissing and stuff, and I'm saying 234 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 1: we'll bring in what you got. Well, I was just 235 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: gonna say, like, don't forget how like sensual kissing can be, 236 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:21,199 Speaker 1: like the data that is, I mean, it seems pretty 237 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:24,680 Speaker 1: elementary and like it's I almost feel like I'm saying 238 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: like missionary physician is the best, but like there's nothing 239 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 1: better than a really hot makeout session. I agree. Think 240 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 1: about when you first meet someone and you like have 241 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,319 Speaker 1: the first makeout session on a couch. I mean there's 242 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:43,840 Speaker 1: literally nothing hotter to me, right, especially like when you 243 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: can feel that it's leading to something more, but it 244 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,440 Speaker 1: lasts so long. I think that that's what goes away 245 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: in long term relationships that I really hate. Like for 246 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 1: some reason I've noticed that the kissing part of it 247 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 1: or they're just like where maybe maybe at least something 248 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: else and maybe it does is it like maybe it's 249 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:03,720 Speaker 1: just a hot makeout session and it like leads up 250 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: to something for later. But like when you're in a 251 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 1: long term relationship, it seems like you skip that on 252 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:10,719 Speaker 1: the menu kind of go straight for sex because you've 253 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: been together so long and you're just like, we know 254 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: what to do and I want sex, But it's it's like, 255 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, I just think you need it. Yeah, yeah, um, 256 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: I think the yeah, I just yeah, the kissing thing. 257 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:31,400 Speaker 1: And I don't know if it's because like it's um 258 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 1: sort of the like thing that we can relate to. 259 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: You know. It's like, think about your first kiss, Like 260 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: what a big moment that is to like every relationship, 261 00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: Like the first kiss of your life is like something 262 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 1: that you remember forever. Like there's such like a connection 263 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: to that where I think it's really it's so much more, UM, 264 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 1: I would be more inclined to have disconnected sex than 265 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: a disconnected makeout section with somebody. How do you have 266 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: a disconnected makeout session? I actually don't know. Yeah, I 267 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: mean you're basically right. I feel like there's something so 268 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 1: much more like um, sensual and erotic about kissing somebody 269 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: and having sex with them. Interesting. I feel like you're 270 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:22,080 Speaker 1: giving more of yourself in a way like you have 271 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 1: to mean it more. Yeah, yeah, I mean maybe so 272 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 1: maybe it's like so intimate. Also, there's something to me 273 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: about like feeling someone's breath Like I know that sounds 274 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 1: really gross today, feeling of the breath feel it does? 275 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 1: It feels super intimate and um sexy, like it's just yeah. 276 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 1: So basically our answer is kissing. Start with kissing, and 277 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: then let's just include some nipple action. Look, I think 278 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 1: what you know, you touched on the breath thing too, 279 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 1: and I think that for me is something that I 280 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 1: find really hot, like especially like when it comes to 281 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 1: like nibbling on the ear like that, yeah, and feeling it. Yeah. 282 00:16:04,760 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 1: So those into it into it? Um Okay. This is 283 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 1: from Jacqueline. She says, my boyfriend and I have been 284 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 1: dating for almost five months, and due to Rhona and 285 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: some other circumstances, he moved in with me about six 286 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: weeks ago. In our relationship, I only specifically remember him 287 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,760 Speaker 1: initiating sex once and sometimes feel bad for always being 288 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 1: the one to to kind of start things off. He 289 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 1: works nights and I'm up early mornings for my job, 290 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:34,120 Speaker 1: so during the week, most of the time we're in 291 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: we're together is spent sleeping. We were both in our 292 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 1: thirties and he's two years younger, but we haven't had 293 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: sex in three weeks. How do I fix this? This 294 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:52,120 Speaker 1: is a hard one. Yeah, Jacqueline, you stumped us. Um 295 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 1: I I have a thought, but I like feel like 296 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 1: an asshole. So I'm sort of torn on if I 297 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: say it or not. I want to hear it, but 298 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: I think by answering someone's questions it makes you not 299 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 1: an assholt. It's not like you're just throwing a random 300 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:11,960 Speaker 1: thought out into the world. Okay, well this is actually 301 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:17,400 Speaker 1: a question for you, Chip because um, I and this 302 00:17:17,480 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 1: is not like, oh, this is what's happening here, but 303 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: insert I've actually I feel like I've heard a story 304 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 1: like this before and it's it is interesting, um to 305 00:17:25,840 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 1: think about because a lot, you know, like we're programmed 306 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 1: to think that guys are just so fucking testosterone driven 307 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 1: and just horny all the time, and um, when they're not. 308 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 1: I'm really I'm really having a trouble feeling like figuring 309 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:48,000 Speaker 1: out how to say this. But like I don't know 310 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,199 Speaker 1: that it's the this is like the thing like but 311 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 1: like the first thing that popped in my head was 312 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: like is this guy gay, which I don't think it's fair. Um. Also, 313 00:17:56,280 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: I hear things about, like, you know, when people have 314 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:00,959 Speaker 1: had sexual trauma in the past a lot of times 315 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: like sex, they've kind of can become a sexual or 316 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: anything like that. But I do think it's interesting that 317 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 1: she says she's always the one to initiate and that's 318 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:12,640 Speaker 1: not bad. I mean, maybe that's not his personality, but 319 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: it does seem odd a little bit to me, which 320 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:20,199 Speaker 1: I think it does to Jacqueline too, that a guy 321 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:25,000 Speaker 1: is never just like hey, like right, let's get this started, 322 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:28,040 Speaker 1: you know. And yeah, I mean I think I think 323 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: generally guys are really sexual beings. But I think that 324 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 1: you know, in the same way that there are women 325 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 1: who are super sexual and women who aren't. And true, 326 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: you know, it's there's there's clearly a reason, and and 327 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 1: the reason could be as simple as like, I'm not 328 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: driven by my sexuality, you know. And I don't mean 329 00:18:47,560 --> 00:18:51,679 Speaker 1: that in a homosexual, heterosexual world, like some guys just aren't, 330 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:55,120 Speaker 1: like they're motivated by other things. And I think it's 331 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: a case by case basis, but I also think it's 332 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 1: fair to if her needs aren't being for her to 333 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 1: say like, yo, like what's going on here? You know, 334 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:07,880 Speaker 1: because it could just be as simple as him being like, 335 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: I I respect you too much for for I don't 336 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:15,200 Speaker 1: want you to ever feel like you're just my my, 337 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:18,439 Speaker 1: my sex cushion, you know what I mean? I like 338 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: or or it turns maybe his answers, it turns me 339 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 1: on when you initiate it, like I find that so hot, 340 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 1: so I wait for you. Um, it's it's really about communication. 341 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 1: Like I think that, like there there could be a 342 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 1: million reasons why it's happening, and she Jacqueline, I think 343 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:42,679 Speaker 1: it's incumbent upon you to sort of just have that conversation. 344 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 1: You might find out these guys it couldn't be that 345 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 1: and um, that certainly has happened a million dogs in 346 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,400 Speaker 1: the past, right, which okay, I mean like I don't think. 347 00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 1: I think like when she says, how do I fix this? 348 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 1: I think your best point is you have to talk 349 00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:58,719 Speaker 1: to him? And I think, like, you know, I know, 350 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,320 Speaker 1: if I was sitting there kind of being like, Okay, 351 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: I'm not going to initiate and I'm gonna see what happens, 352 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:05,919 Speaker 1: and he didn't initiate for three weeks, I would be 353 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,919 Speaker 1: like what the fuck? And I would be so in 354 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,600 Speaker 1: my head like is he not attracted to me? It 355 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: would make me feel very insecure, I think, just wondering 356 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:19,400 Speaker 1: why so much time had gone by, especially if you're 357 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:23,879 Speaker 1: living together, because you're you're there, you know. But she 358 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: did say their schedules are very different, and so that's 359 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,400 Speaker 1: hard too, and um, I just wonder. I'm like, if 360 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: she's not getting her needs met, like is he not? 361 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 1: Or is he like is he doing it on his own? 362 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,439 Speaker 1: You know, there's all these things that come up, and 363 00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 1: I think you're right. The best question is you just 364 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 1: have are the best answers, Like you just have to 365 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: talk to him and because hopefully he can be honest, 366 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: and because the whole schedule being different is like, yes, 367 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 1: that is obviously a real factor, but it's also a 368 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,639 Speaker 1: really easy excuse. What's sort of like a girl being 369 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:02,560 Speaker 1: like I have a headache and I you know, I 370 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:06,639 Speaker 1: don't you want to do it? Yeah? I can't remember 371 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:11,640 Speaker 1: in past relationships where it was like I have am 372 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:16,000 Speaker 1: definitely like guilty of sort of not initiating just to 373 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: see if the other person would initiate. And when when 374 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: a relationship is fading, it's like kind of a sense 375 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 1: of relief when you're like, wait, okay, I'm getting I'm 376 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,640 Speaker 1: reading them like they're sort of putting out the same 377 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 1: vibes as me, like, okay, I'm right, I'm recognizing that 378 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:36,639 Speaker 1: things aren't right. So I think if Jacqueline wants to 379 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: be having sex with this guy and does not and 380 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:44,360 Speaker 1: and and the relationship feels strong otherwise, then she needs 381 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 1: to address his head on. Otherwise she might have to 382 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 1: accept that the relationship is shifted and maybe it's not 383 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:57,160 Speaker 1: going to last. Um so um, you know, it's hard 384 00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 1: for us to really get a because we're just getting 385 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:03,639 Speaker 1: a sort of a bird's eye view from her question. 386 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 1: So I think communication like yeah, if you want it, 387 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 1: you gotta you should bring it up. You have to 388 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 1: because there's been a lot of shifts in their relationship 389 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,399 Speaker 1: to where the move in, I mean moving in together 390 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,239 Speaker 1: is a big deal. So who knows what's going on 391 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:21,119 Speaker 1: for him emotionally. But if you're wanting to take this 392 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,320 Speaker 1: relationship further, I do think that you have to communicate openly, 393 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,720 Speaker 1: and especially like you said, if your needs aren't getting met, um, 394 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: that's a big deal too. And that's especially for women. 395 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:34,360 Speaker 1: I think that's a really hard thing to bring up sometimes, 396 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:38,639 Speaker 1: but it's very, very important for the long term. Yeah. 397 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:41,640 Speaker 1: I agree. Well, you could just be so simple as 398 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:45,480 Speaker 1: like got it. I'm like a little regret of moving in, 399 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,480 Speaker 1: you know, like those things are really big seismic shifts 400 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:56,200 Speaker 1: in a relationship. So yeah, communication amen to that. Um, okay. 401 00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: This next one comes from Eric, and Eric's actually emailed 402 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,880 Speaker 1: a couple of times, like in response to the Sex 403 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: and Dating seven was saying how much she's loving it? 404 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 1: So Eric, we appreciate that. He said, Hi, Kelly, the 405 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,640 Speaker 1: second Sex and Dating podcast was as good as the first. 406 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:15,080 Speaker 1: You're a natural. She thinks I'm a natural and talking 407 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 1: about sex. I don't know. Yeah, she's oh remember that song? 408 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:28,760 Speaker 1: Okay anyway, Um, I'm not thinks so Chip the second Okay, wait, 409 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,119 Speaker 1: you're a natural. I'd like to ask a couple of 410 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 1: questions to consider in a future episode. I'm forty five 411 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 1: years old, have been happily married for fifteen years, and 412 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 1: have three wonderful daughters. I have one comment that leads 413 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,439 Speaker 1: to a question and then a second question. First, the 414 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 1: best thing that ever happened to our sex life was 415 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 1: I purchased a magic wand vibrator seven years ago, and 416 00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:52,639 Speaker 1: my wife went from hardly ever having an orgasm to 417 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:56,160 Speaker 1: having one with three within three minutes. We were both stunned. 418 00:23:56,320 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: Best seventy dollars seventy dollar purchase of my life, the 419 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: magic wand. May have to look into that now. My 420 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:07,479 Speaker 1: wife uses it once a week on top of her 421 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 1: underwear while I lightly touched her shoulders and chest, and 422 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:14,960 Speaker 1: she has three to six orgasms each time. Ladies are we? 423 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,720 Speaker 1: I mean, we might need to really think about this 424 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:24,040 Speaker 1: magic wand what the hell? I love seeing her pleasure herself. 425 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 1: She only likes to use it once a week because, motherfucker, 426 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: I don't have the second part of this question. First, 427 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: the best thing that ever happened to our sex life 428 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 1: was that I purchased a magic magic wand vibrators seven 429 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:48,120 Speaker 1: years ago, and my wife went from hardly ever having 430 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,640 Speaker 1: an orgasm to having one within three minutes. I mean, 431 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 1: this is impressive, Okay, we were both donne best seventy 432 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,399 Speaker 1: dollar purchase of my life. Now my wife uses it 433 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,359 Speaker 1: once a week on top of her underwear while I 434 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:03,639 Speaker 1: lightly touch her shoulders and chest, and she has three 435 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:09,679 Speaker 1: to six orgasms each time. Jesus. I love seeing her 436 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 1: pleasure herself. She only likes to use it once a 437 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,680 Speaker 1: week because she says the orgasms are more intense this way. 438 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 1: So I guess my question is, is there any other 439 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 1: way to incorporate the magic magic wand that is really 440 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,520 Speaker 1: hard for me to say for some reason into our 441 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:25,280 Speaker 1: sex routine, or is it is more than once a 442 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 1: week overkill? I guess I only know it works for us, 443 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 1: and I haven't tried anything else. I actually have some 444 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:37,720 Speaker 1: feedback on this, but here I'll give you quick feedback, 445 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:44,200 Speaker 1: like if it ain't broke, don't think that like also okay, Well, 446 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,479 Speaker 1: what I would say is, I know for women, a 447 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: lot of women have a really hard time orgasm ng right, 448 00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: Like it is way more intricate of a process for 449 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,639 Speaker 1: us than it is for guys. And the truth is, 450 00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 1: and this isn't like some not to penises or guys. 451 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:04,119 Speaker 1: It's just something about a vibrator, especially when used on 452 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: the claturus, is different for us and like it just 453 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,440 Speaker 1: is easier to orgasm. I don't I can't explain why, 454 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:16,160 Speaker 1: but that's just the facts. And so if it's working, 455 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 1: like you said, I mean three to six a time, 456 00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, Jesus, I need to get a magic one, 457 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,239 Speaker 1: saying that's amazing. Way to go, Eric. But like, if 458 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 1: it's still connecting you guys and you are comfortable with it, 459 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, keep going. What I would say is 460 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: if you want a different way to use it, um, 461 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,119 Speaker 1: another thing that can happen with a vibrator is you 462 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,120 Speaker 1: can use it on a guy too, and not like 463 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,760 Speaker 1: in the ass. But we all have prostates, you know, 464 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:49,920 Speaker 1: So I know that during sex, if you UM want 465 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,399 Speaker 1: to stimulate a guy, you can hold the vibrator up 466 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,600 Speaker 1: to kind of like that taint area. Yeah, I mean 467 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: I don't taint the balls, taint the ass whatever that 468 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,560 Speaker 1: what's the real word for a scrowed them? No, I 469 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 1: mean screw the asshole. I don't know that. I don't 470 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:13,000 Speaker 1: know what. I'm gonna google it while we're talking about UM. 471 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,920 Speaker 1: It can provide a lot of pleasure to a guy too, 472 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:17,400 Speaker 1: Or you can be having sex and a girl can 473 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 1: use it on her clip. So there's all these different 474 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 1: things you could do. It doesn't have to be just 475 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: she's doing it on herself. Although if you're into it, 476 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 1: I mean I don't see a problem with it. You know, yeah, vibrators, 477 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:38,240 Speaker 1: man if the um perennium perenni um yeah, okay, well 478 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,399 Speaker 1: thank you for that fact, but um yeah, so I 479 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 1: think that's just My answer is like, experiment with different 480 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: ways to use it. If you're into using toys, and 481 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,240 Speaker 1: it sounds like too, if you've been married a long time, 482 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,200 Speaker 1: you guys spice things up. So we kind of talked 483 00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,040 Speaker 1: about that last week. And if you need to incorporate, 484 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,080 Speaker 1: not need to, but if you want to do something different, 485 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:58,560 Speaker 1: incorporate toys, lube, all these different things like make sex fun. 486 00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: It's supposed to be fun, so and it sounds like 487 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: it's working, is what I would say to that. Um. 488 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,720 Speaker 1: Eric has a second question. We have intercourse three nights 489 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:08,720 Speaker 1: a week, and on the fourth night she uses the 490 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,159 Speaker 1: magic wand and then gives me oral sex. It's the 491 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 1: best sex night of the week. Before I purchased the vibrator, 492 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:16,400 Speaker 1: the only chance of her having an orgasm was when 493 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 1: I would go down on her her. This is because 494 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,439 Speaker 1: of the clip deal. It took work. She had to 495 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 1: use her finger to assist, but we sometimes, okay rarely 496 00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:27,399 Speaker 1: would get there. But now if I go down on her, 497 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:32,119 Speaker 1: she's completely bored. She feels nothing. Anyway we can anything 498 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,359 Speaker 1: we can do to make oral sex on her pleasurable 499 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,760 Speaker 1: or should I just stop trying? See, this is a 500 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: hard one because I mean, I feel like I'm giving 501 00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: so much information about myself here. But the thing about 502 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: a vibrator that's great is it does make it easy 503 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 1: for us to orgasm. But it does kind of like 504 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:55,480 Speaker 1: if especially if like you use it and then like 505 00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 1: you have sex or something, it can kind of desensitize 506 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 1: like what a finger could do. And personally, like I 507 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:06,960 Speaker 1: have have a hard time with my clip being stimulated 508 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 1: without a vibrator. I don't know what that's about, but 509 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:12,880 Speaker 1: like it just doesn't really work that well for me. 510 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,160 Speaker 1: So I think that is tough and I don't really 511 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: know that the answer. I don't know the answer about 512 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,760 Speaker 1: that because if the best sex night is the best 513 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:25,000 Speaker 1: sex night, like, why are you going to change it? Right? Yeah? 514 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,440 Speaker 1: I also think too, it's important to remember, like not 515 00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: everybody likes everything's exactly. Everybody has made so different, Every 516 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: female has made so different. Yeah, I mean even even 517 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:40,840 Speaker 1: with like the asshole, Like some people love having their 518 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 1: ass eaten. Yeah, some people don't like For me, it 519 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:47,520 Speaker 1: doesn't really do much. Yeah, well that's true. Like, so 520 00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: maybe maybe Eric's wife is just not that into someone 521 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: going down on her. I mean, well he said that 522 00:29:54,480 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 1: was in the past the only way that she could come, right, Yeah, 523 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,120 Speaker 1: I mean, but I also think our bodies shift and change, 524 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: and it's that is the truth, because mine, like I know, 525 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: in my twenties and like even young thirties, the things 526 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,360 Speaker 1: that would get me into place of orgasm are completely 527 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 1: different than they are now. Even like like it's just 528 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:20,040 Speaker 1: so interesting, like what is sensitive on you or I 529 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 1: don't know. Female bodies are very complicated, I think because 530 00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:26,000 Speaker 1: like we have to almost relearn what feels good to us, 531 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:28,720 Speaker 1: you know. So it's but that could be the fun 532 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:30,760 Speaker 1: of this whole thing is like you guys get to 533 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,480 Speaker 1: explore together. So maybe something that was working in the 534 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:36,360 Speaker 1: past was you going down on her, And maybe now 535 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, you have this magic wand magic wand 536 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:42,000 Speaker 1: why do I keep adding a tea to magic magic? 537 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 1: I can't not do it? Some sort of brain issue 538 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 1: that's happening right now. Um. I think the only issue 539 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,040 Speaker 1: I would see is if Eric's feeling threatened by the 540 00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: magic wand and it doesn't sound like he is, No, 541 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 1: it doesn't. And I also think it's you know, it's 542 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 1: don't force it, because then it's it becomes work for her, 543 00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 1: it becomes work for you, and it's I mean, honestly, Eric, 544 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 1: it's kind of an opportunity to be like, let's spice 545 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: things up and try some new things, you know, and 546 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: it be a way to discover like something really hot, 547 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 1: you know, beyond this wand you know the one so uh, 548 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 1: you know, maybe it's banking. Maybe there's other things that 549 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 1: like you haven't tried that um that she needs, you know, 550 00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,400 Speaker 1: maybe the old the old hat just isn't doing it 551 00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 1: for anymore. Right. Well, I think that's just the whole 552 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,160 Speaker 1: thing about We talked about last week's shift shifting and 553 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,160 Speaker 1: like switching it up and that's what keeps it interesting. 554 00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,840 Speaker 1: And it sounds like you'll have a pretty good program 555 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: having sex three to four times a week at after 556 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,880 Speaker 1: a very long term marriage and three kids. I feel 557 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,800 Speaker 1: proud of you, Eric, I really do. Um, we have 558 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:56,320 Speaker 1: one time for one more question. It's from Molly, and 559 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,920 Speaker 1: I have to tell you a funny story about this 560 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,960 Speaker 1: because Um, I got this question last night and immediately 561 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:07,920 Speaker 1: got completely triggered and like went after my boyfriend. He 562 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: was like, what the fund is happening right now? Um. 563 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,280 Speaker 1: I calmed him pretty fast, but I was like, oh 564 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 1: my god, I would totally go to rate a bobbin 565 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 1: on you if you ever did this to me, Like 566 00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: I just triggered my old ship of just getting cheated on, 567 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,880 Speaker 1: and that's what this has to do with. And Molly 568 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:25,760 Speaker 1: was very open and so this is a place of 569 00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,520 Speaker 1: no judgment, so we're not gonna We're not going to 570 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,720 Speaker 1: judge her, but I do have some thoughts for her. Um, 571 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 1: she said, I feel like I've been wanting to d 572 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 1: M or email you for weeks, but I sound like 573 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,000 Speaker 1: a tramp. I've been single most of my life. I've 574 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: had relationships here and there, but nothing really long. However, 575 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,720 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean I didn't think they were real. I've 576 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,640 Speaker 1: always wanted to get married and have kids and be 577 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: happy and live happily. Ever after, well, it's not even 578 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 1: close to being that way. I graduated high school single, 579 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:54,080 Speaker 1: graduated college single, graduated pharmacy school single. I'm a hustler. 580 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:55,960 Speaker 1: I work hard, I play hard, but I haven't found 581 00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 1: the one. I'm thirty two and all of my friends 582 00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,560 Speaker 1: are in serious relationships, and then there's me. I'm dabbling 583 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,160 Speaker 1: in the online dating crap, but it's just playing old sucks. 584 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,280 Speaker 1: I'm to the point where an arranged marriage sounds perfect. 585 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,280 Speaker 1: The kicker is I've been hooking up with a guy 586 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,040 Speaker 1: I've been in love with for years. We had a fling, 587 00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:18,959 Speaker 1: but it was right after he ended his marriage with 588 00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,680 Speaker 1: a wife who was cheating on him. Um. He dated 589 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,440 Speaker 1: me for a little while, but then he but he 590 00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:26,840 Speaker 1: was still technically married, so I was never like public knowledge, 591 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,320 Speaker 1: which I was fine with, but I knew it couldn't 592 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 1: be like that forever. Well, he ended up being weird 593 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,520 Speaker 1: and just acted like we broke up, but we never 594 00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:39,280 Speaker 1: really were anything officially official, so if it just ended poorly, 595 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 1: I see him at the gym on TV. He's a 596 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: local chef in town. Um, so he would be on TV, 597 00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:47,520 Speaker 1: on billboards, I couldn't un see him. I hate that. 598 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,800 Speaker 1: That's the worst. I live in a city, but it's 599 00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 1: more like a small town Anyway. During a few months 600 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:55,080 Speaker 1: that we aren't talking, he gets with another girl and 601 00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,200 Speaker 1: then it is officially divorced, but then comes crawling back 602 00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:00,440 Speaker 1: to me. He knows I won't say any thing because 603 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,120 Speaker 1: I don't want to lose him. Fast forward, he's engaged 604 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 1: to this girl and find out all through social media 605 00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:12,759 Speaker 1: that he's having a baby with her. Um. Yeah, I 606 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,959 Speaker 1: mean I still love him, but he's having his cake 607 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,920 Speaker 1: and eating it too, and I'm the other girl. I'm 608 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: not a bad person or a whore, and I don't 609 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:21,400 Speaker 1: want anything bad to happen to him or her. But 610 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,799 Speaker 1: this is going to end very poorly. I don't know 611 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,360 Speaker 1: what to do. You do know that the sex is 612 00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,640 Speaker 1: so good. I can't say no. He comes to my 613 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,759 Speaker 1: house most of the time, but sometimes I go to 614 00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: his house. This is what set me off. Bought a 615 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,120 Speaker 1: house with this girl he's going to marry and have 616 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,880 Speaker 1: a child with, so she's having sex with him in 617 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,600 Speaker 1: that bed. This makes me sound absolutely horrid. I know 618 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,080 Speaker 1: it's wrong, but I can't stop. I know I actually 619 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,399 Speaker 1: the therapy and to move on, but I just don't 620 00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,919 Speaker 1: know how to do it and where to start. Maybe 621 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 1: not the best podcast story. Maybe I just needed to 622 00:34:54,239 --> 00:35:00,359 Speaker 1: get it off my chest. Sincerely, a dedicated listener. Um A, Wow, 623 00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:07,800 Speaker 1: there's a lot to unwrap their My initial thought is 624 00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,640 Speaker 1: there has to be someone out there that will respect 625 00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 1: you more. That's just as good in bed. Okay, that's 626 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,320 Speaker 1: exactly what I was gonna say, is there's no chance 627 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,400 Speaker 1: that dude is that good in bed. Like there's just 628 00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:23,120 Speaker 1: no chance. Um. One. My first response is, Molly, you 629 00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: just have to stop. You have to stop, You have 630 00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:28,800 Speaker 1: to stop like that is just you have to stop. 631 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:34,360 Speaker 1: Um But I understand there's some sort of like emotional 632 00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:38,240 Speaker 1: something happening here where she You know that, like, of course, 633 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:40,560 Speaker 1: especially if you're not satisfied in the rest of your 634 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 1: dating life, it's just like the comfort and the whatever. 635 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,400 Speaker 1: But he's not. This dude first of all, sounds like 636 00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:50,600 Speaker 1: a complete dipshit, but he is not respecting you either. 637 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:55,759 Speaker 1: He's definitely not respecting his fiance and baby mama, but 638 00:35:55,840 --> 00:36:03,799 Speaker 1: like he's getting everything he wants. He's whole, exactly. And 639 00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:06,279 Speaker 1: the thought, I think the other thing that set me 640 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,359 Speaker 1: off is thinking about like a pregnant woman and then 641 00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:14,040 Speaker 1: this dude being so disrespectful to that situation and then 642 00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:17,839 Speaker 1: going and doing whatever the funk he wants. Like, Molly, 643 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 1: there's got to be a better dude out there. I 644 00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: know that there is, and like this team and this 645 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:28,200 Speaker 1: doesn't That's what Molly said. But no, it doesn't, Molly, Like, 646 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: like you said, you're in the position of being the 647 00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:34,080 Speaker 1: other woman, and like he's treating you like that, and 648 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:38,279 Speaker 1: you deserve so much more. You just do, Like you 649 00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,440 Speaker 1: deserve to be someone's number one and to be like 650 00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:44,840 Speaker 1: not just having to sneak around or not be talked about. 651 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 1: You need to be You deserve to be a part 652 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,960 Speaker 1: of someone's life and be introduced to their friends, and 653 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,439 Speaker 1: that not to be a secret just when he wants 654 00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:57,040 Speaker 1: to have sex, right, Yeah, because all all Molly's getting 655 00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:03,480 Speaker 1: out of this is set so that can be obtained anywhere. 656 00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:07,200 Speaker 1: I mean, you could sucking buy sex for all I care, 657 00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:13,040 Speaker 1: But I just know that, Yeah, Like you just deserve more. Also, 658 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,239 Speaker 1: like if he's doing that to that girl, like I 659 00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,600 Speaker 1: just don't think. First of all, he's about to have 660 00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,359 Speaker 1: a baby with her, so he's always gonna be tied 661 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 1: to her. But second of all, like you don't really 662 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 1: want this guy anyway, Like it's not like you would 663 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,319 Speaker 1: want him to break it off with her and be 664 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,239 Speaker 1: with him because you'll have such a strong connection. Because like, 665 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,560 Speaker 1: if he's doing that to her, he's going to do 666 00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,880 Speaker 1: it to you, And he's already done it to her essentially, 667 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,680 Speaker 1: like he broke up with her, it kind of ghosted her. 668 00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,680 Speaker 1: It sounds like I'm not a fan of this guy 669 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:47,600 Speaker 1: at all. No, I do you respect Molly for knowing 670 00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:49,799 Speaker 1: like you know, when you just are like, oh my god, 671 00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,000 Speaker 1: why am I doing this? Like what the funk am 672 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:53,360 Speaker 1: I doing? I know? I need to get help? And 673 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: I would just say if like you are in a 674 00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:58,560 Speaker 1: place where you can't you're not able to stop, like 675 00:37:58,640 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 1: it would be a good thing to go talk to 676 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:03,600 Speaker 1: a therapist about and um, figure out some tools you 677 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:07,279 Speaker 1: can put in place to set better boundaries and stuff. Right, 678 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,840 Speaker 1: But you gotta stop, Molly, because it's only going to 679 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:14,800 Speaker 1: be like worse for you the longer this goes on. Yeah, yeah, 680 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 1: and and like and I'm saying that without any judgment 681 00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 1: she I mean, aside from knowing that this stuff is 682 00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:28,719 Speaker 1: going on, like this isn't her fault, like he's the person. Yeah, 683 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,680 Speaker 1: so I don't think that she should give him, like 684 00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:33,440 Speaker 1: he shouldn't get his cake and eat it too, Like 685 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,920 Speaker 1: she Molly needs to find somebody who will respect her 686 00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:40,680 Speaker 1: and have you really good sex and and and the 687 00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,120 Speaker 1: sex could even end up being better because you might 688 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:47,160 Speaker 1: connect on a more like real level. Right, Well, there's 689 00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:51,799 Speaker 1: more to it then you're not just like I don't know, 690 00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,839 Speaker 1: like I will say this. I'm sure there is some 691 00:38:55,000 --> 00:39:01,040 Speaker 1: sort of like exciting factor to you know, being being 692 00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,720 Speaker 1: a secret, and I think there's a lot tied into 693 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,040 Speaker 1: that with affairs a lot of times, you know, it's 694 00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:10,040 Speaker 1: like the tabooon nous of it, um, But like go 695 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: create that with someone else then who's not married, and 696 00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:16,440 Speaker 1: y'all can have a really exciting sex life. But like this, 697 00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:18,399 Speaker 1: I'll tell your friends about it and then it's really 698 00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 1: sex right. But it's just like this just doesn't end 699 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:27,800 Speaker 1: well for Molly and that poor pregnant girl, Good god, 700 00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:32,000 Speaker 1: I feel sad about that for her. It's not gonna 701 00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:36,120 Speaker 1: end well for her either. No, anyway, that that guy 702 00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:40,279 Speaker 1: sounds like a douche, isn't it weird? I hear, um, 703 00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 1: there's a big reputation for chefs of being very arrogant, 704 00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:45,880 Speaker 1: and I'm sure I'm gonna get shipped for that too, 705 00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:49,440 Speaker 1: because that's a big assumption and like generalization. But it's 706 00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:52,160 Speaker 1: sort of like how they say doctors have this god complex. 707 00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:54,440 Speaker 1: I hear that a lot of times about chefs, and 708 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:58,359 Speaker 1: like they kind of do whatever they want, and they're 709 00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:03,000 Speaker 1: all kind of arrogant ass holes. So I don't know. Yeah, 710 00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:09,520 Speaker 1: the rock stars, you know, are they? Though? Not this guy. 711 00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:16,040 Speaker 1: I hate this guy, my poor boyfriend. So I was like, 712 00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:18,800 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm like so triggered by Molly's message 713 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:20,560 Speaker 1: because I just like put myself in the position of 714 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,279 Speaker 1: the pregnant girl. And that's when I was like, oh 715 00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:24,560 Speaker 1: my god, if I was pregnant and you're fucking around 716 00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:26,359 Speaker 1: on me, I would legit go to right to Bob. 717 00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:28,040 Speaker 1: It like he was like, what is that when you 718 00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:32,440 Speaker 1: cut off my dick? And it was like I couldn't 719 00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:37,840 Speaker 1: help myself. Oh yeah, I mean it's well, yeah, I 720 00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:41,640 Speaker 1: think it's you know, unless you know this situation. They 721 00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:44,480 Speaker 1: all want to sit down and discuss the polyamorous relationship, 722 00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 1: right you know, Molly, maybe you should listen to our 723 00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: last week's podcast about polyamory and bring up the topic 724 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,200 Speaker 1: and see if you're open to that or they are. 725 00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,960 Speaker 1: But I have a hunch the pregnant girl is not 726 00:40:55,960 --> 00:41:07,560 Speaker 1: going to be a big thing. That woman a little anyway, Molly, godspeed. 727 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 1: I hope that you can find some peace, and I 728 00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:13,600 Speaker 1: hope that you know that you deserve, yeah, some better dick, 729 00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,040 Speaker 1: Like I hope you know you deserve some better dick 730 00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:19,319 Speaker 1: and a better dude. There's no chance, like that guy 731 00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:24,279 Speaker 1: is that good in bed? Yeah, no chance. All right, 732 00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:29,040 Speaker 1: Well think that on that note, find some better dick 733 00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:32,839 Speaker 1: is our lest we're leaving you with that for this week. 734 00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,360 Speaker 1: Is everyone finds a better dick, um if they're assholes. 735 00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:38,800 Speaker 1: And next week we really are going to dive super 736 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:44,080 Speaker 1: deep into the aging relationships, sex as you age, sex 737 00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,080 Speaker 1: as you've been in a long term relationship, all of 738 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:49,120 Speaker 1: these topics we're going to cover. Chip. I'll see you 739 00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,359 Speaker 1: on Sunday on my birthday party. I hope you're ready 740 00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,880 Speaker 1: to get your temperature checks because that's happening at the 741 00:41:53,920 --> 00:42:00,840 Speaker 1: door if I get turned away from my home birthday party. 742 00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:05,440 Speaker 1: Keep bringing about small gatherings being major places for COVID 743 00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:07,160 Speaker 1: to be spread though, So I'm like, you know, we 744 00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,520 Speaker 1: thought we were doing good just inviting a couple of people, 745 00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:13,400 Speaker 1: but I'm gonna try to be responsible. Hopefully I don't 746 00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:19,680 Speaker 1: get turned away from my own birthday party. Well, hopefully 747 00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,560 Speaker 1: that's the case, and then I'll see you on Sunday. Yeah, TVD, 748 00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,640 Speaker 1: We'll keep you guys posted on that next week. Thanks 749 00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:31,920 Speaker 1: for listening and always remember, Oh my gosh, Remember Castle 750 00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:42,600 Speaker 1: by