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Speaker 1: The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Setty Jay Shetty,

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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I'm your host,

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Speaker 1: Jay Shetty, and I can't believe it's the end of

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Speaker 1: though a cohesive narrative stretches out before us, an inevitable shape,

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Speaker 1: This thing led to that thing, and that thing led

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Speaker 1: to this meeting, and this person and that person, and

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Speaker 1: communicate was that while we are all the heroes and

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Speaker 1: because the form and the format make such intuitive, remarkable

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Speaker 1: this co creator God or a guardian angel or angel

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Speaker 1: numbers or the universe. But the point is there seemed

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Speaker 1: to be a direction that our lives were supposed to take,

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Speaker 1: and our goal is to go with that direction, not

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Speaker 1: against it. That doesn't mean we're passive, or that we

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Speaker 1: a reminder to trust our intuition, to remember that what

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Speaker 1: happens in our life, good or bad, is happening, not

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Speaker 1: to us before us for reasons we may not at

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Speaker 1: back on our lives and see how much their shape

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Speaker 1: This is a good lesson for all of us in

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five to take things day by day, do

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Speaker 1: battle when it's called for, but remember that by and large,

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Speaker 1: most things turn out all right in the end. Don't

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Speaker 1: fight fate, and if you do, remember that battle may

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Speaker 1: play a part in that same fate. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening. I want to thank each and every

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Speaker 1: one of you for dedicating hours and hours and hours

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Speaker 1: the podcast Take on Purpose with you as your friend,

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Speaker 1: as your companion, as your support into twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: I promise you we are just getting started. I am

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Speaker 1: so excited for the future of this podcast. We're working

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Speaker 1: more special, more deep, more profound. I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: see you in twenty twenty five, and I hope a

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Speaker 1: lot of you will join me on my podcast live Tour.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait for that. And remember, I'm forever in

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Speaker 1: your corner and I'm always rooting for you. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: If you love this episode, you will also love my

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Speaker 1: am I hesitating on this because I'm scared of making

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Speaker 1: am I sitting with this because it just doesn't feel

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