WEBVTT - Thurs Part 1: Lunchbox Caused Drama at the CMA's 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:10.559 This guy. 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:13.480 Hey, welcome to Thursday Show Morning Studio Morning. I have 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.000 a story here from the Dance of Anger by Harriet 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:19.200 Lerner the number one husband gripe. Now, these are gripes 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:21.720 by husbands, and I'll read you the story and I 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:24.479 encourage the guys on the show. What is your number 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:28.440 one husband gripe? I'd love to hear it. The question 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:31.000 is what's the number one complain of married men. The 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.880 answer is being criticized by their wives. Nagging husbands tend 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:40.760 to say, I'm tired of being the target. Nagging psychologists 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:42.479 say a solution to the problem is for wives to 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:45.160 dial down the criticism and make sure that positive comments 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:47.680 out number the negative ones by a healthy margin. So 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:49.320 what that sounds like to me is you can still nag, 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:51.760 just make sure you're doing the fake comment the positive 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:52.640 stuff first. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.600 I think for every negative, try to give five positives. 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:58.400 There just aren't that many positive things about me, So 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.040 I know that would just be a lie. If she's like, hey, 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:05.160 I got all the I'm like, that's not true. I'm 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:09.759 not that So what is your number one husband gribe 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.080 to the husband's in the room, Let's go to lunchbox. 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.639 I would say, my wife was like, oh, you unload 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:16.280 the dishwasher. 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.720 So I started unloading the dishwasher and I put a 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:19.199 dish somewhere. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:19.800 Well, actually I. 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:22.440 Would do it this way. Something tells you that, and 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:24.440 then she tells me how to do it. She doesn't 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:26.200 like the way I'm doing it. It's like, if you 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.080 want me to do it, let me do it my way. 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:30.119 Or like she wants me to help her cook. Every 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:32.000 once in a while and I start cutting something up, She's like, 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.240 well I would cut it this way. Well, then do 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:39.120 it yourself. It is so annoying. I just can't help myself. 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:41.240 And she says it every time. I can't help myself. 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.919 You can help yourself. But is it something? 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.080 Because if my wife does something like that, like I'll 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:48.680 load the dishwasher in a very unconventional way at times, 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:52.559 and she's like, this doesn't get cleaned if like stacked 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:54.200 on top of each other. Probably do it this way. 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.160 All she has to just tell me once and I 0:01:57.200 --> 0:02:00.600 never do it wrong again once. Yeah, I don't know. 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:03.040 I'm just saying I know nothing. I'm just saying. 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:04.680 Something like that, yeah, because I don't want to have 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:05.320 to hear it again. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:07.520 Oh, I thought that y'all don't have that thing where 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:09.520 you continuously mess up so you don't ever get asked 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:09.800 to do it. 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:11.280 Well, that's a whole different thing. That's different part of 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:11.640 our life. 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:14.000 Or if there's like papers on the counter, I'll get 0:02:14.040 --> 0:02:15.920 papers and I'll put them there. I wouldn't put them there, 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:18.519 I'd put them over here. Well, if you want me 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:20.040 to pick them up. If you wanted to put them there, 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:20.680 then why didn't. 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:22.320 You put them there? But then if you do it again, 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.640 does she tell you again or do you learn? Because 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:26.880 if you're if you learn, then she can tell you that. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.840 Once I'm done doing it, you're gonna criticize me. I'm like, 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.040 all right, look, then do it yourself. Got it? I 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.040 felt that? Oh man, we only get to do one. 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:35.080 You're fired up, dude. 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:40.280 It irritates me too much as a hole in the wall, okay, Eddie. 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:44.600 Yeah, Mine's more of the expectation, like she always expects 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:48.400 me to do something Like if I, for example, when. 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:50.440 I leave work, I usually call her right. 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:53.120 Say, one day I just don't call her and I 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:54.680 show up and they're like, where were you? 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:56.920 I'm like, what do you mean? You usually call me 0:02:56.960 --> 0:02:59.079 when you leave at work and. 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.639 I'm like, I have to do the same thing all 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:04.240 the time, Like why is it my fault that you're 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.079 expecting me to do something without even asking. 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:09.560 Me to do it. That's a question I would have 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.880 for you back in college. If you had a class 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:14.880 on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and you sat in the same 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:16.560 seat every time because we all did well, because you're 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:19.200 to have it, you'd set you know, third row fit 0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:21.280 seed over that you sat there every time, every time, 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:22.920 every time. Yeah, and then you walk in it's saying 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.000 people in the class, but somebody sits in that seat, 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:29.000 how do you feel it's okay? I just didn't. I mean, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.079 it's all right. They decided to sit there one day, 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.280 even though you've said it every single day, you're not 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:36.560 it at all, because I would be like, I know, 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:40.640 this isn't really my seat. We haven't like taken and 0:03:40.880 --> 0:03:42.800 wrote down this is my but I feel like that's 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:44.600 my seat. Like I'm there every week and you're always 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:47.040 in this class, But why are you sitting there because 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:49.480 you've always had your seat. I feel like there's an 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:53.880 expectation that over time, that that expectation when it becomes 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.080 not only is it met, it's expected. Then when you 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:58.240 don't meet it, because you have set that standard, and 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:02.280 I can understand why there would be concern or irritation. 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:05.200 But everything has to run the same every day. It's 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:07.119 only because you've made it. You've run it the same 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:08.840 every day. So when you don't run it the same, 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:12.800 something must be awf or different, which raises concern, which 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:15.840 they can manif I self into other things, anger, sadness. 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:17.080 So that's why. 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:19.920 So if I fall asleep on the couch because I'm tired, 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.800 she in the mornings like, did you just falls from 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:23.200 the couch? 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.719 Are you mad at me? Like? What's going on? Nothing, 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.000 I fell asleep on the couch. It's not a bus. 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:30.040 Do you have to answer that way? Or can you say, oh, 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:30.920 I was just tired. 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:36.720 Oh no, I'm just I'm just being yea this devil's 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.600 advocate there, I would say, I would understand if you 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:39.960 do something the same every single day, then you don't 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:41.400 do something the same. I would think something different in 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:43.400 your life, and that could concern me because it's not 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.520 so interesting anyone anything. Yeah, And I just used the 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.120 school chair thing because that's what I think about, Like 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:49.719 if I'm in that same chair, I don't own it. 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.919 I never declared it officially, but if someone's in it, 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.720 I'm like, well, that's that's my chair. Yeah, I've been 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:58.279 doing the same way every single time, and that's weird, 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.360 and weird is uncomfortable. You're the whole building. 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:03.360 If we partnered where you parked every day, you wouldn't 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:05.039 have pulled it like I want to park. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.200 Spot. What do you have? Yeah? 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:13.080 Mine or two huge gripes. It's the meal thing, and 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.160 it's because I work different hours. So either we can 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.680 choose to be on the same meal schedule or we're not. 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:19.719 So if I come home and eat it too and 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:20.800 I say, hey, do you want to eat? I can 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.760 put you something up and you say no, then that 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.159 means you have chosen to not be on my meal schedule. 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.000 So at four o'clock, two hours after I just ate, 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:30.080 you cannot say, hey, what do you want to do 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:30.559 for dinner? 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.520 I just ate? Yah. It's fair. We have chosen to 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.280 be on different meal schedules. That's fair. 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:38.200 So that's my biggest one. My second biggest one is 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:41.240 with the TV. So I don't tell you, Hey, I'd 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.159 love for you to come watch football with me. So 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:45.400 why would you love for me to come watch a 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:48.080 movie with you. I can watch a movie if we 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:50.320 both are just in a room together and a movie 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.599 comes on and we're both watching it. Why do I 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.280 have to give up my football to watch a movie 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:57.039 when I would never ask you to give up a 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:58.520 movie to watch my football. 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:02.280 Interesting, that's valid. Well I did. There's a lot of 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:04.479 factors in that, like does he spend enough time with 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:07.640 her in general, Like the football. 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:12.440 Is on Thursday, Friday or no, Thursday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday, 0:06:12.480 --> 0:06:13.000 actually every. 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:14.160 Day of the week and then Friday. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:16.040 If you got on Friday, it's. 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.440 Gonna be a dynamic where he works all the time, 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:20.320 doesn't It's not really about football to movie Ratio, it's 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.600 about Raymundo hanging out with Why Ratio, it's just not 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:24.680 a war against football. 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.080 I would never criticize a movie, but I don't make 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:28.160 you watch my football. 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:31.119 Why are you making me watch these movies? Hey, listen, 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.599 nobody's wrong. We're just talking good, We're just talking through them. 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:37.920 My number one husband, Gripe is probably uh no, no 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:44.000 street clothes in bed ever, like even like sit on it, 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:48.320 that's like like nothing. She is so particular about what 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:50.400 touches after I clean my feet, even though I'm walking 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:52.560 out his barefoot, I have to clean my feet, and 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.040 I get it, like it makes sense, it makes sense, 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:57.800 but it's like it's so much work. Like if I'm 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:59.280 wearing a pair of shorts and I've had outside and 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:01.200 I can't sit on the bed, She's like, we don't 0:07:01.240 --> 0:07:02.720 have no no, Dan, It. 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:05.200 Is weird though, if you like in your bed with jeans, 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:08.159 it does feel weird that you're on the bed with jeans. 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.120 You know, when I was single, not so weird. And 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:13.840 then again, I now am just trying to go in, 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.440 wet a washcloth and wipe my feet down before I 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.560 go to bed every night. So she's like, you've been out, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.480 you take the dogs out of the peene ready barefoot. 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:25.240 You should get a little like wipes to keep by 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:27.040 your bed that you should have to wet a wet cloth. 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:28.760 You can just get like a little white like I 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:30.240 have them for my dog in her paws. 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:31.320 It could be like your sea. 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:35.120 No thanks, you have like a little bowl of water. Anyway, 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:38.160 Thanks for sharing, guys, I appreciate. Let's get the show 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:38.600 going here. 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:49.760 Anymous sin bars. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:58.520 A question to me? Hello, Bobby, bones. This question is 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:00.880 a sad one. A wife and I are seriously at 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:02.920 odd about how to handle it. Our twenty three year 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.080 old daughter is living with us. She has a pet cat. 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:06.960 Yesterday she went off on a ten day trip with 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:10.520 some girlfriends. Today her beloved cat passed away. She's had 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.280 this cat since she was a kid. It's been an 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:14.480 amazing fifteen years. I think we should tell her. My 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:16.680 wife doesn't want to because it will ruin her trip. 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:19.520 She's even suggested just burying it and telling her that 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:21.640 it ran away. I feel like she's an adult, she 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:23.520 can handle it. What's the best way to deal with this? 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:26.920 Signed bearer of bad news? So I have a lot 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:29.080 of answers from personal experience. I like first share a 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.920 story with you. I was doing some work a few 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.320 weeks ago. I was hosting an awards thing in New 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:38.319 York and get a call from We always have somebody 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:41.040 at our house watching our dogs. It's a double security 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.400 dog thing, right. If we're gone, somebody's at our house 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.520 because like Pat mahomes house got robbed, you know, And 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:48.800 if there's somebody who's like Pat Mahomes, just me. Yeah, 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:52.760 in every way except all so the person watching our 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:57.160 dogs called and they were crying, and I was like, 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:00.560 what calmdowncom dot comdown. My wife's me so I know 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:02.920 she's fine and I'm like, what's up? And she's like, 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:07.600 Ella's gone. The dog's gone. But she's calling me. Not 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:10.120 to tell me that just she's gone, because I wouldn't 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:12.040 be able to help find her from there. But we 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:13.959 track her on the Apple lot on the air tag, 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:15.360 so she's like, can you look on your air tag? 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:19.199 Got her right, Luckily we found her. Everything was great. 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.760 So I needed that call in that situation, so because 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:25.240 I could help. Now if I couldn't help, it's a 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.520 different story. I went to South America to tape a 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.160 show called Snake in the Grass and we had to 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:34.040 go live in the jungle. Miserable experience. Fine show, miserable 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.600 experience is a living but we were there and the 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.120 people that stayed at the house, can they stay there 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:42.400 for a month and a half. I told them, if 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:45.760 any the dogs die for any reason, do not tell 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:48.640 me like they're dead. I can't do anything about it. 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:51.880 Don't let the dogs die. But if the dogs die, 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.280 there is nothing I can do that's going to help that. 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:56.360 And there's only news that's going to affect me in 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:58.280 a negative way while I'm here, like, there is no 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:00.960 gain for me knowing that when I can do nothing 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.920 about it. Luckily dogs didn't die and I would check 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.640 in and be like, do the dogs die or how 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:07.000 the dogs? They would say good, and I'd be like, 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:08.439 I don know if I can believe you, because I 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:11.520 had already told them, but there was no benefit to 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:16.400 it running what I was doing. Now. Number One, you 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:18.120 do not need to tell her until she comes back, 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:21.760 because you will remove joy from her trip over something 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.719 that she has no control over in any way whatsoever. 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:27.520 She will get to mourn exactly the same way. But 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:29.679 let her have her fund first. Secondly, you don't lie 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:31.679 about the cat running away, because that is a different 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:33.959 kind of anxiety, like, well, let's find it. Will it 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:36.120 ever come back? Well, there needs to be closure with 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:39.800 this as well. The cat was fifteen years old. It sucks. 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:45.400 It sucks like when my last dog died, Like it's awful. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.600 Makes me so sad, sad thinking about it now. I 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:51.439 dedicated my second book to my dog that died. I 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.800 remember right on the front of the book, failing till 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.480 you don't. I was like two dusty, but a great dog. 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:58.280 Blah blah, you bet. I know you'll never read this 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:01.679 because you're a dog. Was after like, I loved that dog, 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.080 but it would have done me no good if I 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:06.360 could do nothing about it, And I say the same thing. 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.440 But you do need to tell her. It's gonna be tough. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:12.560 The decision is going to be do you freeze the 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:15.319 cat until she gets back and let her bury it, 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:17.480 or do you bury it yourself and say this is 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.839 where the cat is. I think that's what it is. 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:22.000 You freeze in your freezer. 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:26.160 Yeah, somewhere in a box, Yeah. 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:28.600 A cooler, like a place you think a cooler lunch. 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.920 She's probably right. You put it in an ice in 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:32.920 a cooler because you don't want in your fridge or freezer. 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:34.320 But if you put it in a bag in a 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:37.920 box movie your friend has a deep freezer, oh yeah. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:39.040 Something like that's fine, but don't tell them what it 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:45.240 is like. That's the decision you'll have to make knowing 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:48.000 your daughter. If she wants to bury it herself, or 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.120 if she's because she's not gonna be cool, it's gonna 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:51.760 be very sad, or if you think she'd be better 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:53.480 just knowing this is where it's buried. That's the decision. 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.240 The other ones you do not tell her, and two 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.680 you do not say it ran away when you say 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:01.600 when she's back, your cat died. This sucks. And you 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.120 lead it with going, I have terrible news for you, 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:07.320 and then you tell her the news immediately. You don't go, hey, 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.440 let's talk. Hey, you come to the house when you 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.040 talk about this. Nope, when she gets there, you say 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:16.520 the following, I have really bad news for you. Fluffy died, 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:21.040 and then you can do the rest. So good luck. 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:22.400 That sucks. That's a very sad story. It makes me 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:24.959 sad to think about it and talk about Thanks for asking, though, 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:30.040 And don't adopt a cat super fast to replace the 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:32.160 other one. That's what I'm going at. Yeah, I want 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:34.719 to say that, give it a minute. Don't don't ever 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:36.360 adopt a dog or a cat after yours dies to 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.840 immediately replace the other one. You need time to mourn 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:41.760 if you love to. Just like a human, I guess 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.240 we don't adopt a new humans, so do we. One 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:47.160 one dies, though, it's not like an uncle dies, you 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.000 adopt a new uncle. You don't really do that. Don't 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.640 do it, but you could is there an adopted uncle? 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:56.040 All right, you close it up. There's Brittany from Ohio. 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:59.600 Bobby was talking about how he wasn't feeling well and 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.160 he thought he had a stomach bug, but wasn't sure, 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.040 and it wasn't sure. If he knew there is an 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:09.480 e Coli outbreak with certain brands of organic full and 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.720 baby carrots, that might be something he wants to look into. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:14.120 He might have cool. 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:15.080 I love the show. 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:17.320 Why would you say that? Oh geez, have you eaten? 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:19.200 I had the carrots. 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:23.160 I've had carrots. Oh, not only that, we give Ella. 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.400 Ella loves carrots. Our dog like she will take a 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.920 carrot and keep it for two hours, like treasures it. 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:30.400 And so we have a lot of carrots. My wife 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:34.160 like puts, is she sick too? I have a bola 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.520 no e coal? I? Oh sorry, yeah, I got a little. 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:38.440 Ket It's an outbreak. 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.760 But the dates were like you had to buy on 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.000 between this certain time. But I just went ahead and 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:45.880 I had the brands, So I was like, I'm just 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:46.480 getting rid of. 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.120 The scary when you see a recall and you have 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:51.760 that brand. I'm texting my wife right now because I 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.000 had a It's I'm still not all the way down 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:56.080 the stomach bug, and like, let's make up our mind, guys, 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:58.680 is it a twenty four forty eight hour? Seventy two hours? 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:00.400 Like I think people just say it about on how 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.080 sick they are. I had the sixty eight hour stomach bug. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.680 That's a thing. Never heard of that? Or that's along 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.760 you had it. But I'm texting my wife. Did you 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:13.040 see the E Coli outbreak carrot story? I don't know 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:14.880 if there's a story. I'm just trusting a listener here 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:15.520 there is. Yeah. 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:18.520 And if you hear the symptoms severe stomach cramp, I've 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.600 been there, diarrhea, vomiting yep. 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:23.520 And the day one was when I was up here, 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:24.880 I was vomiting. Yeah. Yeah. 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:28.200 The symptoms usually start three to four days after swallowing 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:28.640 the carrot. 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:30.880 I've swallowed carrots there four days ago. Great, Oh my goodness, 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:35.080 whole carrot man, the whole thing. I probably just have 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:37.080 a stomach bug. But thank you for that. But I 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:43.960 am going to check a pile of stories. 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:47.280 So apparently some psychologists is saying that if you already 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:50.600 have your Christmas lights up, you're a self absorbed narcissist. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:54.320 Agree what you don't agree with that. Yeah, well, well no, 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.040 I just don't have mine up. And I'm often called 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:57.800 the self absorbed narciss That's the only way I can go. 0:14:57.840 --> 0:14:59.320 See I'm not one. Got it. 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:04.560 They're saying, it doesn't mean you have narcissistic personality disorder, 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:06.720 which would be like you check a lot of the 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:07.920 narcissistic traits. 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:09.920 This is just a trait. 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:11.720 I would just say it as a look at me trait, 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:15.400 especially way early light look at me. I don't give 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.080 my fancy lights up. I'm Christmas before you are. Even 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:20.320 if it's just like sub gone, just like I think 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:21.920 about that, I don't. 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.200 I don't get this at all, Like what is not 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:24.600 a doctor? 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:27.040 Like we have the joy of Christmas and wanting to 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:27.800 spark it up. 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:30.280 It's not Christmas and spark it up? Interesting term there 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:31.280 four twenty all. 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:35.800 Right, not that, but I mean just like, yeah, just as. 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.920 You know, light it up, exactly, light it up. 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.440 Would you say, Bob Marley, what turn them on? I 0:15:42.480 --> 0:15:44.680 would just say, put your lights up early for Christmas? 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:46.520 It's fine. I love people do that if it makes 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:48.680 them happy. I don't care if it makes you happy. 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:50.680 It doesn't hurt anybody. I don't care, but I do 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.880 feel like there are some of our neighbors who went 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.600 hard two weeks ago are mostly like, we want to 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:57.920 be the first ones to have it up, so everybody 0:15:57.960 --> 0:15:59.320 sees we're the first ones to have it up. I 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:01.840 think that's part of it. Somebody real hard, really hard. 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:03.720 But I also do that in different ways, so I'm 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.240 not hating. I'm just dating well. 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:09.840 So in addition to the whole narcissistic trait, decorating early 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:13.240 may also quote fill a void, making people feel happy 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:14.760 when they otherwise wouldn't be. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.160 And you also are like sealizations were. 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.400 Trying to portray that you're this picture perfect family when 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:28.000 you're not. Well, it's just Christmas deep yeah, okay, Speaking 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:32.000 of Christmas, kit cats that are shaped like Santa Claus 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:34.720 have hit the shelves for the holidays, and this is 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:36.960 the first time they've ever done anything other than their 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.800 normal kit cat shape. And if we know anything, from 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.040 an awesome candy putting things out in cute shapes like 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.800 hearts and santas and footballs like with reeses the reeses 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:50.200 trees and pumpkins and stuff, they taste so much better 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:55.200 and kit Cat says these are even crispier and wayfier, 0:16:55.240 --> 0:16:56.560 like the ratio is they're. 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.320 Still chalkol Like they're just like a cacolic because if 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:03.240 they're doing white chocolate, yeah, like any benefit from them 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:05.520 doing a standish shape is lost in white chocolate. Like 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.320 white chocolate is not as good as dark chocolate. It's 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.800 a novelty if I happen to open up a white 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:14.040 chocolate harshy kiss, because sometimes you get into that. You know, 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.159 it's like sixty percent of the fun. Is it supposed 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:18.800 to taste the same because they tastes different? Okay, here 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:23.160 are my ranks of chocolates. Number one milk chocolate, number two, 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.720 white chocolate, number eight hundred and ninety nine. Dark chocolate 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.720 kill me? Really terrible? 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:32.280 That part, Dount, Yeah yeah, that part okay. 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:32.840