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Speaker 1: Ba fam we have another how to throw back for you,

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Speaker 1: of course we do. We're looking back at some of

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Speaker 1: our favorite episodes from days past for memorable guests who

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Speaker 1: unforgettable moments. There's still so much to learn from the

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Speaker 1: be A Vault. Take a listen, willya?

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Speaker 2: You guys, this is a momentous day for Brown Ambition Podcast.

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Speaker 3: It is we have the most brownest, the most ambitious

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Speaker 3: person that I think my life joining us.

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Speaker 2: She personifies Brown Ambition and I want to do a

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Speaker 2: little intro because she deserves it. I mean, come on.

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Speaker 2: Our guest today is Levey Ajay. She is an award

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Speaker 2: winning writer. If you do not read her blog Awesome

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Speaker 2: welovey dot com, I don't know what is going wrong

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Speaker 2: with your life, but you must do it now. But

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Speaker 2: she's not just a blogger. She is a writer, speaker,

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Speaker 2: a digital strategist, and she says she thrives at the

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Speaker 2: intersection of comedy, technology and activism. Lovey is a thirteen

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Speaker 2: year thirteen year blogging so basically since the Internet was born,

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Speaker 2: Lovey has been blogging. She has the voice behind Awesome

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Speaker 2: Me Lovey, of course, the humor blog that covers everything

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Speaker 2: pop culture. She also has a new book out now

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Speaker 2: called I'm Judging You, The Do Better Manual, which is

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Speaker 2: going to be released in September twenty sixteen. Unless you

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Speaker 2: want to get out of the game, you can pre

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Speaker 2: order it right now wherever books are sold. So I

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Speaker 2: did too, and.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's best friends with Oprah.

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Speaker 4: I mean, now.

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Speaker 2: This has been I feel like this has been the

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Speaker 2: year of lovey but love Thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: coming on Brown Ambition.

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Speaker 4: I am glad to be here. Thanks for having me.

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Speaker 2: Are you calling us from Chicago?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I love the Shy only in the summer though, because

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Speaker 4: Our winter is stupid.

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Speaker 3: Yes, so tell us, like, you know what has been,

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Speaker 3: because honestly, this has been the year of lovey. Every

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Speaker 3: time I turn around, I'm like, well, gosh, darn it,

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Speaker 3: this girl is just killing it in these streets. I mean,

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Speaker 3: you were killing it before. And I hate when people

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Speaker 3: tell me it's your year, girl, I'm like, it's my life.

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Speaker 4: But come on to say that.

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Speaker 3: Yes, but definitely this year you've got some major milestone.

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Speaker 3: What probably is your what was your favorite or your

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Speaker 3: most like momentous milestone that's far this year probably Interviewing

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Speaker 3: Oprah that would do it.

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Speaker 3: That, that must have been it. And when she grabbed

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Speaker 2: Wait, so for me, who's not an inner of this world,

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Speaker 2: I'm like a hanger on. So I just ride Tiffany's

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Speaker 2: delightful coattails. No, tell me, how did this happen? How

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Speaker 2: did you get to sit next How does one sit

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Speaker 3: So first Oprah did this. She chose one hundred people

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Speaker 3: Oprah stars in and executive produces, and they were like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: While you're here. What And I was like, okay, cool.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think the cast will involve would include Oprah.

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Speaker 4: I would think it was everybody but Oprah.

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Speaker 3: You think they were the first person, right, Oprah was

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Speaker 2: They probably purposefully don't tell you though.

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Speaker 4: Well they told me the day of. They were like, yes,

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Speaker 3: She was watching because it was all going down on

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Speaker 3: Like they all stayed up late because in La it

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Speaker 4: But it was incredible, It was It was incredible.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I could only imagine, you know, when

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Speaker 2: Yes, any of her blog.

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Speaker 5: You know, So growing up in a niger household where like,

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Speaker 3: But then I dropped that pre med after first semester

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Speaker 4: They just came to graduation. What they just came a graduation.

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Speaker 4: So I was kind of left to my own devices.

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Speaker 3: I would come home at night and write because honestly,

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Speaker 4: So it was like I was kind of enjoying.

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Speaker 2: I mean you're the first person I go to when

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Speaker 2: then you were doing this Scandal reviews for was it?

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Speaker 3: I actually started Scandal reviews for myself, like and then

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Speaker 3: So I just everything I've been doing has kind of

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Speaker 4: Ah. I feel like everyone's always like, oh, how did

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Speaker 3: I didn't plan anything, which is interesting. I didn't plan

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Speaker 3: Let's get to like the real diitty gritty, because I

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Speaker 4: You don't necessarily Yeah, you can get a degree, that

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Speaker 4: Understand that you are worth what you are.

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Speaker 3: Charging because you have proving this over and over again.

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Speaker 2: I hear some is that a little person in the background.

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Speaker 4: That's my niece.

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Speaker 3: I was just saying, I have no babies.

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Speaker 2: Basically, that's your niece. So what's your family? Like, let's

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Speaker 3: I have a Nigerian family, I am. I mean, honestly,

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Speaker 3: it's just regular, like I don't know. They are interesting,

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Speaker 3: they're funny, they're shady. I have a very Nigerian mom

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Speaker 3: who is amazing a cooking jelf fries because yellow rice

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Speaker 3: is clearly better than Ghanaian rice. That's not even let's

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Speaker 3: not even start because right, Jello, right, So there's a

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Speaker 2: That Guanians and the Nigerian wars.

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Speaker 3: My two friends in college, somebody had the nerve to

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Speaker 4: Don't even You're not even in this you don't even

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Speaker 3: I love y'all. We're talking about your rice.

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Speaker 2: And wait, wait, lovey, you just said school.

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Speaker 3: well you can even get a separate because my account

439
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Speaker 3: was like, oh these received that's cute. But I don't

440
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 3: do that. And so I have a separate bookkeeper where

441
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,440
Speaker 3: literally she lives in LA. Once a month I mail

442
00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 3: her all of my receipt I'm petty, Like if I

443
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 3: go through the toll for fifty cents, I'm like a

444
00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 3: receipt please, I spend all my receipt and then if

445
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Speaker 3: somebody sends me an invoice, let's say I pay like

446
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Speaker 3: my designer to make up of to make like a

447
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Speaker 3: logo or something. Then I forward her those email invoices

448
00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:24,360
Speaker 3: and then I send her to the receipts. And every

449
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 3: month she puts together a quarterly report or monthly report,

450
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Speaker 3: and then every quarter a quarterly report. And I sit

451
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Speaker 3: with my accountant every quarter, like I just sat with

452
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Speaker 3: him literally last week, brought the report and that I

453
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:38,920
Speaker 3: was able to pay because I pay every quarter now

454
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,200
Speaker 3: to write a check and say okay, because it's easier

455
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Speaker 3: to write, you know, like a three thousand dollars check

456
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Speaker 3: or four then like at the end of the year

457
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 3: you have, like, you know, a twenty thousand dollars check.

458
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Speaker 4: So that's what I did.

459
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Speaker 3: Actually, I've been saying that I was going to I'll

460
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Speaker 3: send that I was going to be on quarterly, but

461
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Speaker 3: I just haven't done it. It's been such a crazy

462
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Speaker 3: year that I've been like, oh man, shoot, I just

463
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 3: missed three quarters all shoot want to see Yeah, now,

464
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 3: that's normal, but you the sooner, especially once you get

465
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 3: to a certain tax bracket. You literally, you're gonna have

466
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 3: to pay quarterly because yeah, because the government is like that, now,

467
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 3: we want our money up front.

468
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Speaker 4: He told me.

469
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Speaker 3: This last year was the last year that I could

470
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Speaker 3: get away with my pay. If you're looking for a bookkeeper,

471
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 3: just let me know, because I see too many entrepreneurs

472
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Speaker 3: who are so dope at what they do, but their

473
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 3: business failed because of the back end, not because of

474
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Speaker 3: their talent.

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Speaker 1: You know.

476
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Speaker 3: Yeah, see who I was like, uh uh I rs

477
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Speaker 3: I did not play with them.

478
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Speaker 4: They all will get your money. Yes, here you go.

479
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Speaker 2: Who taught you about money growing up? What was that?

480
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Speaker 2: Who are your sort of financial influences?

481
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Speaker 4: None? I had zero?

482
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Speaker 2: Oh, I don't feel a long.

483
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Speaker 3: Yeah, having conversations about money was not really what I

484
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:57,360
Speaker 3: did growing up.

485
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I kind of self on that.

486
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Speaker 3: She was like, Nope, nope, they didn't talk about in

487
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Speaker 3: my household except for to say there's no money exactly exactly.

488
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Speaker 2: Well, I don't want to. I don't want to let

489
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Speaker 2: you go before we talk about a project that's really

490
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 2: near and dear to your heart and I want to

491
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Speaker 2: hear more about it. It's the Red Pump project, which

492
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Speaker 2: correct me if I'm wrong. But it benefits HIV AIDS

493
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Speaker 2: for women and girls.

494
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so reference any nonprofit that I co founded seven

495
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 3: years ago with a friend of mine, and uh yeah,

496
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Speaker 3: we do raise awareness by the impact of HIV and

497
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Speaker 3: AIDS on women and girls. And we started it because

498
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Speaker 3: I met somebody who had twenty cousins who were living

499
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Speaker 3: with her grandmother in Malawi because their parents had died

500
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Speaker 3: from age related complications. And she had a friend who

501
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 3: had told her a close friend who was who told

502
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Speaker 3: that he was HIV positive. And we were like, oh man,

503
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 3: we didn't even know this epidemic was still this.

504
00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,680
Speaker 4: Bad because we don't even hear about it anymore.

505
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:05,199
Speaker 3: So for us, it was important to generate conversation. We

506
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 3: wanted to decrease stigma about it because we're like, if

507
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:11,239
Speaker 3: we're not hearing about it, everyone else isn't hearing about it,

508
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 3: and nobody's talking about this issue, So let's do it.

509
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 3: And we started as a social media campaign. We started

510
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Speaker 3: by getting bloggers to talk about it on National Women

511
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Speaker 3: and Girls HIV and AIDS Awareness Day, which is March

512
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Speaker 3: tenth every year.

513
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Speaker 4: And that first year, which was in two thousand and nine,

514
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Speaker 4: and we had like one hundred and thirty five.

515
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Speaker 3: Bloggers join us, so that was cool, and then it

516
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Speaker 3: became a nonprofit organization and we've been going for seven years.

517
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Speaker 3: We do events around the country around like safe sex

518
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Speaker 3: and teaching women and girls that it's okay to be sexual,

519
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Speaker 3: but here are the tools you need to know to

520
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Speaker 3: be safe. So and we would have red shoes by

521
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 3: the way, So that's why we call the Red Pump projects.

522
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 3: We use red shoes to kind of grab people's attention.

523
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Speaker 3: So a lot of people see me in red shoes,

524
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Speaker 3: They're like, I.

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Speaker 2: Guess, well, I mean I heard you might like shoes

526
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Speaker 2: a little bit.

527
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Speaker 4: Yes, I have a shoe problem.

528
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Speaker 3: In fact, my accountant Okay, see I think it's my

529
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 3: accountant's fault too.

530
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Speaker 4: Let me tell you.

531
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Speaker 3: Why, because she told me that red shoes are tax

532
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 3: deductible expenses for me. Now yeah, And I was like, well,

533
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 3: then I am doing business every time I buy a

534
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 3: pair of red shoes. No, but she's right though, like you, yeah,

535
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:37,159
Speaker 3: just being able to write off every little thing.

536
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 4: Right off, like I can write off.

537
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 3: Certain clothes up by because I'm always speaking, so your haircut,

538
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 3: my haircuts are now business expenses, y'all. What I'm like

539
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 3: if we talk about business eat ice creabe. I'm like,

540
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 3: I need that cone receipt.

541
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Speaker 4: You're like, that was part of my business meeting.

542
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 3: Thank you. My dad would say more grease to your elbow,

543
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:10,239
Speaker 3: and you know, you make such a nice oh my god,

544
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 3: your elbow. And we're just like really really like proud

545
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 3: of you. And just because when what I love most

546
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 3: about you, I forget where I was. I was just

547
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 3: it was a group of black women. I don't know

548
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 3: where I was, but your name came up and oh,

549
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 3: you know what, I don't know if you know a

550
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 3: Vita from No Madness, Oh yeah, yeah, so she she

551
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,679
Speaker 3: just moved. She had a housewarming and there were so

552
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 3: many dope women in the room. Glinda from Black Girl's

553
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 3: Rock was there. Oh, just a bunch of doulte black

554
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 3: women here because Avita moved to Newark where I live,

555
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 3: and your name came up and across the board, everyone

556
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: was like, you know, what's so dope about lovey like yo,

557
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 3: from people who knew you from way back to people

558
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 3: who know you now, just always the same, funny as hell,

559
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 3: cool as hell, just never any heirs or arrogance or

560
00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,159
Speaker 3: any of that. And you know, and that's saying a

561
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 3: lot for Nigerians because I mean, if we if we're

562
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 3: nothing else, we're prideful.

563
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:06,880
Speaker 4: And yeah, so it's just dope to like.

564
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 3: When I first met you, because Mandy, I first met

565
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 3: love you in person in Barbados last year. Yeah, yes,

566
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 3: my cousin had a she owns this bridal magazine called

567
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 3: Munuluchi and she had this retreat.

568
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 4: And oh my god, I never laughed so hard. We

569
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 4: had a good time.

570
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 3: We did, and I can't wait for it to do

571
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 3: it again in November. I mean remember this year in

572
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 3: New Orleans. But yeah, I just want to one thank

573
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 3: you for always just being so downstairs and cool and

574
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 3: just continue to rise. Where can people find you? Like

575
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 3: if they want to follow you, they want to follow

576
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 3: your shoes, if they want to get your book.

577
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 4: On the down to Earth thing.

578
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 3: People always tell people that, Like, honestly, it's what happens

579
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 3: when you don't take full credit for.

580
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 4: Everything that's happening for you.

581
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 3: It is basically when you understand that you are standing

582
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 3: on the shoulder of God, is in God notices and

583
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 3: basically you're a product of God's great So I don't

584
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 3: have a right to be all arrogant and trifling because

585
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 3: I have enough people in my life who'll be.

586
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 4: Like girls, sit down.

587
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 3: So but yeah, so everyone can find me on the interwebs.

588
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 3: I am all over the place, Lovey on Twitter, Instagram, and.

589
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 4: Facebook, and that's l U v v I E.

590
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: I've actually trained Google to where if you actually type

591
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 3: in just my first name, all my stuff comes up.

592
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 4: So that's cool.

593
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm easy to find. And then I have

594
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 3: my shoes to gram my shoes. My Instagram account is

595
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 3: dedicated to my addiction to shoes, shoes m U s

596
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 3: T l U v V shoes, So yeah, people can

597
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 3: see my kicks of the day and.

598
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 4: All that stuff.

599
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 2: I need to follow that right now, Lovey, before we

600
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 2: let you go, I want to do a quick, little

601
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 2: rapid fire question round. This is the first time. This

602
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 2: is the first time we're doing it, and I.

603
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 3: Feel like, hell, this is new.

604
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: I got ideas. I got lots of ideas behind the scenes. Okay,

605
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 2: so got about I don't know eight or so questions,

606
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 2: but you have to answer the first thing that comes first,

607
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 2: first thing that comes to mind? All right, you ready, yep,

608
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 2: Barack or Michelle Fierce, Game of Thrones or scandal unmissible. No, no,

609
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 2: oh no, I didn't explain the rules of the game, right, gagging. Sorry,

610
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 2: it's my fault. I said the first thing that comes

611
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 2: to but I meant choose one.

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00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 3: Here's the first thing that comes to mind. And I

613
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 3: was like, hilarious. Sorry my face, like, wait, what's happening?

614
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 4: Freaking hilarious? Okay, let's do it. That's funny.

615
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 2: Don't worry. This is just the startup phase. This is

616
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 2: this is We're still in beta testing. We're still in

617
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 2: a B testing. All right, try again? All right, Barack

618
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 2: or Michelle Michelle? Game of Thrones or scandal, Game of Thrones? Why? Okay, Okay,

619
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 2: this is gonna be easy for you. Probably new shoes

620
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: or food.

621
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 4: New shoes unless the food is rice.

622
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 2: A right, oprah? Oprah? Or Gail?

623
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 4: Oh, come on, oprah?

624
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 2: Oh for Gail? All right? Nighttime or daytime? Nighttime Texter

625
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 2: call call Instagram or Facebook, Facebook, breakfast or brunch brunch.

626
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 4: Yep, because I'll be lated to all the types of breakfast.

627
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, last one, Kim or Taylor?

628
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 4: Oh hell no, neither.

629
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Speaker 1: This question?

630
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 4: Like what neither one of them?

631
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 2: Okay, fine, there's an answer. Answer B is none. Of

632
00:31:57,720 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 2: the above.

633
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 3: Yes, you have to keep the misunderstanding in the beginning.

634
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 3: That's just oh yeah, no, please do Your people will

635
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 3: be like why our people who are supposedly so smart.

636
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: Oh my god, this was like my favorite interview ever.

637
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 3: Thank you so so so so much for joining us, Lovey.

638
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 4: Oh my god, this is super fun.

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00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 2: You just made my day. Thank you, Lovey. Everyone go

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00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 2: to awesomelovey dot com right now.

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Speaker 6: Indeed, all right, so you're.

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00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 2: Welcome for that interview. I feel like we just made

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Speaker 2: your Tuesday. So we're gonna piece that a little bit

644
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 2: early on this week's episode. But before we go, Tiffany

645
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: has a reminder for you all.

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Speaker 3: Remember we have a contest in that we want to

647
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 3: know what is Brown Ambition mean to you? And we

648
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 3: are going to pick anywhere from five to ten listeners

649
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: to join Mandy and I for dinner in.

650
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Speaker 4: New York City on us.

651
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 3: I mean, the transportation is on you, but the dinner

652
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,160
Speaker 3: is on us, and we're just gonna sit talk be

653
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Speaker 3: brown and fabulous and fun. So if you can email

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Speaker 3: us at.

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Speaker 2: Brown Ambition Podcasts at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: What Brown Ambition means to you and I guess in

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Speaker 3: the subject line. What should they put?

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Speaker 2: Just like put anything you want just for Grown Ambition contest.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and so yeah, we want to eat because it's

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Speaker 3: our one year anniversary, returning one soon and we want

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Speaker 3: to meet like some of the listeners and just have

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Speaker 3: a good time with y'all. So make sure that you

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Speaker 3: email us, make sure you share you know what Brown

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Speaker 3: Ambition means to you, not necessarily the show, just in

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Speaker 3: general what Brown Ambition means to you. And we will

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Speaker 3: pick our top phades and we'll have dinner.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait. Food booze, brown buzz.

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Speaker 3: I don't even drink, but honey, I don't need to drink.

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Speaker 2: Final I'll have yours.

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Speaker 3: Man, Today was just such an awesome day that was

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Speaker 3: just so so much fun with Lovey.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I hope you guys enjoyed for making it happen.

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Speaker 3: Oh, no, no problem. Honestly, I didn't even have to

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Speaker 3: do anything. She was looking to be interviewed.

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Speaker 4: So okay, all right

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Speaker 3: Y'all, we will see you next week and I don't know,

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Speaker 3: keep it Brown, keep it ambitious, Brooker, Brooker, Okay, bye bye,