Speaker 1: Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
Speaker 1: put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
Speaker 1: share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Speaker 1: Every night on my radio show, I have a feature
Speaker 1: called Delilah's Dilemmas, or folks call me or write me
Speaker 1: and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
Speaker 1: to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
Speaker 1: we're going to listen to some of those unique situations
Speaker 1: right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
Speaker 1: from d her boyfriend. She says, heard your show about
Speaker 1: a gentleman who had been dating a lady for a
Speaker 1: couple of months and she was pressuring him to marry her.
Speaker 1: You told him to put on some shorts and tennis
Speaker 1: shoes and run the other direction. You said the woman
Speaker 1: was controlling. My boyfriend then told me he was sharing
Speaker 1: this story with me because I am the same way
Speaker 1: as that woman, but our story is different. He and
Speaker 1: I have been dating for two and a half years,
Speaker 1: not two and a half months. I asked him about
Speaker 1: our future and told him I was ready for a
Speaker 1: commitment after a year. Don't you think you should know
Speaker 1: if someone is right for you. I'm forty four years
Speaker 1: old and he is forty six. I have a seven
Speaker 1: year old and I desire a complete family. He's a
Speaker 1: good hearted man, but he has a closed mind and
Speaker 1: he feels our situation is the same as the one
Speaker 1: you spoke of. I would like your response, Well, D,
Speaker 1: I will give you my response coming up next. Tonight's
Speaker 1: Delilah's Dilemma is from a forty four year old woman
Speaker 1: who has a son who is seven, who has been
Speaker 1: dating a man for over two years and wants a
Speaker 1: commitment and he's saying, no, you're being too controlling about that. D.
Speaker 1: You're the one who needs to put on the shorts
Speaker 1: and the tennis shoes and run if after two and
Speaker 1: a half years, he doesn't know what he wants. There's
Speaker 1: a great book out it's by Steve Harvey. It's called
Speaker 1: Act like a Lady, Think like a Man, and it
Speaker 1: is so good. D you got to pick it up
Speaker 1: and read it, and then you will discover if he
Speaker 1: is looking for keeps or if he's just out having
Speaker 1: a little bit of fun and not really interested in
Speaker 1: a forever relationship. Read that book and then I'm sure
Speaker 1: you will come to your own conclusions. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says,
Speaker 1: my dad has been in and out of jail since
Speaker 1: I was about two. I am now sixteen, and I
Speaker 1: haven't seen him in about eight years. I mostly just
Speaker 1: tear things, and he used to write to me, and
Speaker 1: I look forward to it. Now I wish I didn't
Speaker 1: know him at all. He video cams homeless people and
Speaker 1: makes fun of them. He's cynical and mean. He's just
Speaker 1: a bad person. So how do I deal with this?
Speaker 1: I'm so disappointed and I'm so hurt. I will have
Speaker 1: my words for you, honey, coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
Speaker 1: Dilemma is from a sixteen year old who's not seen
Speaker 1: or talked to their dad in eight years. Dad's been
Speaker 1: in and out of jail since they were two, and
Speaker 1: dad is a cynical, mean person. How do I deal
Speaker 1: with this? Here's how you deal with this. You thank
Speaker 1: God that you are here and that God allowed your
Speaker 1: father to father you, and then you recognize that just
Speaker 1: because your dad is those things doesn't mean that those
Speaker 1: things have to be visited upon you. In fact, it's
Speaker 1: probably if he's that cynical, and that mean it's a
Speaker 1: good thing that God kept him away from you for
Speaker 1: the last eight years. So number one, you wouldn't be hurt.
Speaker 1: And number two, those character traits are character defects, those
Speaker 1: bad things wouldn't be visited upon you. Because a lot
Speaker 1: of times kids become what they are exposed to. So
Speaker 1: if they're exposed to drugs and fighting and alcohol and abuse,
Speaker 1: they become drug addicts and alcoholics and abusers. But because
Speaker 1: your dad's been in jail and you said you haven't
Speaker 1: had any contact for eight years, he's not been allowed
Speaker 1: to influence you that way. Now, how do you accept
Speaker 1: the fact that your dad is a deadbeat dad and
Speaker 1: as a mean person. You just put him in God's
Speaker 1: hand and say, I don't know how he ended up
Speaker 1: so broken. I don't know what happened to him in
Speaker 1: his childhood that he's got such a mean spirit and
Speaker 1: I can't fix it. So God, you deal with him
Speaker 1: and then you let it go. And I bet you
Speaker 1: have a lot of people that love you, So focus
Speaker 1: on the gifts that you do have, not on what
Speaker 1: you don't. Here Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is so sweet. It
Speaker 1: says I know this sounds silly. I'm sixty two and single.
Speaker 1: I've been single for almost twenty years, and I've not
Speaker 1: dated during this time. I just get on the computer
Speaker 1: and I joined one of the dating sites. I'm very safe,
Speaker 1: very picky. I've had several lunch dates, but the chemistry
Speaker 1: was not there. Two weeks ago, I received a message
Speaker 1: from a guy in another state, and we've been emailing
Speaker 1: and instant messaging constantly. Now we're talking on the phone.
Speaker 1: He's flying here in two weeks, and I'm sure the
Speaker 1: sparks will be flying when we get together. He said
Speaker 1: all the right things. He makes my toes curl and
Speaker 1: anticipation of this visit. Delilah, am I too old to
Speaker 1: fall head over heels in love with this man. He's
Speaker 1: on my mind constantly. I ache with the very thought
Speaker 1: of him. Am I just being silly? I feel giddy,
Speaker 1: not like a sixty two year old grandma. Any advice
Speaker 1: from Linda, young lady. I will have my advice for
Speaker 1: you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Linda,
Speaker 1: who is falling head over heels. She is twitter paid.
Speaker 1: I won't call it love yet because it's only been
Speaker 1: a few weeks, but you are twitter paated, Linda, and
Speaker 1: that's a very very good thing. So long as your
Speaker 1: heart is beating and you are alive on this planet,
Speaker 1: you have the capacity to love. And there are so
Speaker 1: many different kinds of love, and romantic love is just
Speaker 1: one of those kinds. But it's so delightful and so delicious,
Speaker 1: and you have protected your heart for two decades. Good
Speaker 1: for you. Be safe, Be sure you set boundaries if
Speaker 1: you've not met him, make sure that you've got a
Speaker 1: safety net and friends around, and you're not getting into
Speaker 1: a bad situation. He could be a flake. Many people are,
Speaker 1: but if he's as wonderful as you think, you're not
Speaker 1: being silly at all. Good luck. I so hope you
Speaker 1: have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy
Speaker 1: bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each
Speaker 1: weekday on Hey It's Delilah.