WEBVTT - It’s Hot Divorcée Summer! 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:16.759 Hey, I do Part two. 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:20.680 It's your celebrity mentor Deanna Pappas and I'm joined today 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:26.279 by my favorite real life single gal, Luise Hi. We 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:28.960 have to jump right in because we have got to 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:31.160 talk about the hottest trend this summer. 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:35.120 Listen to this forget Brat's summer. That's so twenty twenty four. 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.560 The wedding bands are coming off, and hot divorce Summer 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:42.040 is heating up. Hot Divorce Summer has moved from social 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:46.160 feeds to storefronts. High profile divorce attorney Laura Wasser joined 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:50.320 forces with Reformation to launch the divorce collection, River Island 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:53.080 released a guide for the trend, Twisted Tea launched a 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:56.400 new breakup themed split pack, and even Netflix now has 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:59.360 a Hot Divorce Summer section with movies and shows that 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.520 fit the part. The new trend might help some realize 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:05.680 happily ever After has less to do with finding Prince 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.399 Charming and more to do with finding yourself. 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.920 I kind of had a little giggle when I first 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:14.680 heard this because I was like, Ugh, here we go, 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:19.720 but also was like, yeah, I feel this a lot, 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.440 Like I don't know that I'm like globe trotting and 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:24.880 being like, oh, I'm living my best divorce life. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:25.840 Everybody look at me. 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:30.839 But I definitely think that I have found myself again 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:32.399 through divorce, you know. 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.200 I mean that, like just as a soul woman. 0:01:36.319 --> 0:01:41.040 You know, leaving partnering aside, just as a sole woman, 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:44.120 like finding myself in life again and getting to know 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.960 who I am again, you know, at this point, after 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.480 what was truly one of the one of the most 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:54.960 difficult times of my entire life. Luis, let's pause for 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.320 just a second. I'm going to bring in my friend 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:00.360 and former Bachelor alum, Courtney Robertson Fun. 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:00.760 Hi. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:05.080 Hi, look so beautiful Courtney. This is my friend Louise. 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:06.640 She is nice to meet you. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:10.120 She's our single lady here and we are currently talking 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:13.480 about this hot divorce summer. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:15.320 So Louise and I were just getting into it. 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:16.919 I kind of shared where I was at, and then 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:19.520 Louise was just about to tell me that she has 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:20.560 living her best life. 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.560 Well, I've been living my best life for about ten 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:26.160 years now, and I have to tell you, once you 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:30.160 experience this life, it's kind of hard to go back 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.600 to what we were all dealing with unless we are 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:36.200 with the unicorn. And as somebody who has older kids 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:38.840 and kids who are out of the house and launched 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:42.560 in post college. All of my friends are divorced and 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:45.920 we have a great time. And I have to tell you, 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:47.920 two of my friends just went through divorce and I 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:52.040 just sold them building units in my building and we're 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:54.240 creating Melrose Place up and down. 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:58.960 It is like a modern day sorority. It's so much fun. 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:01.440 That is, it's so much fun. I feel like I 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:03.680 am having like fomo. Is that still a thing? I'm 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:04.520 still having fomo. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:06.160 I can find you something here, don't. 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.600 I'm a real turn But you know the truth is 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.760 is to your point about what you said, So much 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:14.320 of it is the energy and the aura and what 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:19.160 you're feeling about yourself is what we're actually emitting off 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:24.000 to everybody. Right, So the hot girl concept, hot divorce 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:27.200 concept is almost a byproduct of what we're feeling on 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:30.200 the inside, which is radiating off of us. 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:31.799 Yeah, I totally agree. 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.320 I think that people can people can see you coming 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:38.040 from a mile away if they can see your confidence 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:41.000 and your joy and your happiness, like that stuff bleeds 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:42.680 through all aspects of your life. 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:44.280 Cornea know that. 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:48.320 You're just beginning to join us on this side of civilization. 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:50.640 So tell us where you're at with your hot girl 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:51.600 divorce summer. 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:55.040 Well, I'm hot. It's one hundred and fifteen dec. It's 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:56.560 been hot, no, like. 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:58.680 Literally hot, literally she's smoking. 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.840 I think I'm parimuntal and it's in Arizona. It's so hot. 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:06.640 I just got a new residence and my divorce isn't 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:09.720 final yet, so it doesn't feel I don't know, like 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:14.360 I just learned about hot girl divorce summer. But I 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:17.600 will say that I have lost some weight. I love 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:22.200 a good breakup diet. And I've had more time because 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.320 I'm splitting time with the kids now, so I have 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:27.840 had more time to focus on Oh, you know what, 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.000 I'm gonna go get my hair done. I'm gonna get 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.800 my nails done. And there has been in the back 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:36.000 of my mind like I need a glow up, you know. 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:39.920 But my energy is getting stronger every day. I love 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:42.560 that you talked about energy and your aura. And you know, 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:46.080 I took my ring off and I've been going out 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:47.840 in public and I'm like, oh my gosh, guys are 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.599 checking me out, like somebody might hit on me, which 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:54.919 I'm not looking for that. But I love the idea 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:58.440 of your Melrose Place, living your best life with your 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.000 your girlfriends. Because the more people that I talk to 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.880 that are divorced are like, this is the. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.760 Best, it's the best way. I think I'm way ahead 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:08.599 of you. I have to tell you, guys. 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:10.840 We're like in the three stages of divorce here. 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:11.880 Oh my god. 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:15.360 We literally all we do is talk about all the 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:19.400 losers we go out with. Okay, one woman's trash sometimes 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.920 it's mostly not another woman's treasure. Yeah, we have so 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:26.080 many stories we like rehash. We go on girls trips 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:28.880 all the time. We're going next week a group of 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:32.320 us to Vegas and we actually did divorce trips. 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:34.880 I mean, it's really fun. 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:38.640 This sounds like a reality show waiting to happen. 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:40.760 I promise you. 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:43.279 And here's the thing in life, as you guys know, 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:50.080 as one door closes, other amazing doors open, right and 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:52.880 we don't know what's coming, but we have to look 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.800 at it. Life is happening for us, not to us. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.719 It's an opportunity and it's all about our lens. And 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:02.000 I promise you, Courtney, as you're newer to this, you 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:06.520 are going to hindsight twenty twenty and think divorce, as 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:09.800 painful as it was, two happy homes is better than 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:13.240 one unhappy home for all of our children, and for 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:19.119 the kids to see us happy and thriving is everything, right. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.640 And I promise you you are going to remember this 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:24.719 conversation and you are going to be the happiest person. 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:25.960 I promise you. 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:28.000 You know, I was just having this conversation with a 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:32.920 friend of mine and just piggybacking on celebrating divorce. You know, Courtney, 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:34.880 I know you and I have had many conversations about this, 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:37.400 and one most recently when we were together in Tahoe. 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:41.200 But there are phases of this, right. 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.240 You will go down, and you will feel that so 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:48.080 much over the coming years, but there is a part 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.880 where you truly at least what I experienced once I 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:54.440 got through some of those really high highs and the 0:06:54.560 --> 0:07:00.040 very very low lows, is that I truly began to 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:03.400 celebrate myself again. I see so much stuff on social 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:06.000 media and other clips and other podcasts of women talking 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:08.960 about we're now living in a culture. 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:11.040 Where we no longer need men, right. 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.080 I think that as I was growing up, it was 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.800 like I was taught, Okay, you go to school, you 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.320 go to college, you get married, you have children, And 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:22.440 that was what my life was, and I did those things, 0:07:22.920 --> 0:07:27.880 not necessarily so strictly, but I believe that we live 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:29.960 in a world, in a generation right now, where that's 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:33.480 not the way women are going. We provide for ourselves, 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:35.720 and I am speaking for myself. I am a single 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:39.760 woman raising two children, and what should be a dual income. 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:42.920 Place that I put a roof over our heads. 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:45.840 I buy our groceries, I buy their clothes, I pay 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:47.640 for things we go on vacation. 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:48.520 I'm doing it. 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.160 I'm paying the water bill and the electricity bill and 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.720 all of this stuff. I am finding joy and peace 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:59.600 in my own So tell me why I need to 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:00.640 date a man. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.560 It has to be additive. 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:07.560 If it's not additive, your life is filled, right. I 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.960 have my career, I have my family, I have my friends, 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.000 I have my kids. I have the stuff I like 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:16.559 to do on my own. So unless it's literally going 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:21.480 to completely make my life that much more valuable by 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.040 him being a slice of it, because he's never going 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:25.720 to be twenty four to seven like it was when 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:27.960 we first got married and we were having children. Right, 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:32.319 We're way too evolved now as individuals and with all 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:35.640 the different seasons and life transitions, and when your kids 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:39.199 get older, you'll see the whole empty nesting thing is 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:40.040 a whole different thing. 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.840 And then not having a husband. 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.960 You really have to reinvent yourself in terms of, you know, 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:47.400 filling your dance card again. 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:48.439 I think that I. 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:52.240 Am truly okay with that and finding someone that kind 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:55.480 of comes in and lifts you from a better place. 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:58.440 You know. I don't know if I just have really 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.640 bad luck or if I'm looking for love in all 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:05.000 the wrong places, but I've only met men who would 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:07.680 like to do their laundry in my home or like 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.000 borrow twenty dollars. 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:11.319 Like I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but. 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:13.560 I am not getting hit on in the broccoli section 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:14.760 at the Whole Foods? 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.240 What am I not doing right? 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:20.760 As a personal you know, as a person, as a woman, 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:25.040 I am living my best life and feel more aligned 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:29.600 than I ever have. But when it comes to dating 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:36.040 and partnership, are my needs my desires for when I 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:41.800 want in a partnership to hie or what am I 0:09:41.880 --> 0:09:42.880 not doing right? 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:45.600 I think, Dan, I've known you for a long time. 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:49.559 I'm a very strong, independent woman, and I don't know 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.000 that you need a man. I don't know that you're 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.440 you know, you talk about energy and stuff. I don't 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.520 know that you want that. I don't do you do 0:09:57.600 --> 0:09:58.360 you want a party? 0:09:58.520 --> 0:09:59.240 I do? Yeah. 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:03.520 I think that as humans human nature, we crave intimacy 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:07.960 and partnership, and I do crave those things. But I 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:12.760 guess that my bar has jumped so high that I'm 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.280 not sure anybody will ever be able to meet. 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:17.880 That, you know, physical needs aside. 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.040 I'd really like to have safety in a relationship and 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:23.600 a man that I feel safe with, you know, to 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:27.000 be myself, to never be too much you know what 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:27.440 I mean. 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.320 Oh, that's a terrible feeling, because don't you want to 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:32.280 just be able to be one hundred percent yourself. 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:35.600 They're not the right person if they're making you feel that. 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:36.679 You're too much. 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:50.240 Louis, I mean you said, like, unless there's a unicorn, 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.840 have you stumbled across any unicorns in your dating experience? 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:59.040 I have dated a lot of amazing guys, and I 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:02.720 can tell you that as I have done a lot 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:06.719 of work on myself right because these years alone are 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:11.760 opportunities to be constantly improving and becoming the best version 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:16.320 of ourselves. So basically we attract where we think we 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:20.440 are in our lives, right, and it gets better and better. 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.520 And sure we have default you know, kind of go 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.920 to reactions and behaviors, but I can tell you that 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:31.720 as I have gotten, as I've worked out my edges 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.680 that needed to be worked out, the level of people 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:38.440 that I have met and been involved with obviously not 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:39.680 the final destination. 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:39.960 Right. 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:42.680 I'm not remarried because it has to feel so right, 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:46.720 and I have to feel truly like safe and like 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.520 I'm ready to give up a lot of these amazing, 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:51.920 you know kind of moments in my life to really 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:56.040 lean into somebody. I haven't found that person yet, but 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:59.840 there's been plenty of people that are really really good people, 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.800 and I'm grateful for it, and I'm grateful for all 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:07.640 the different experiences I have, right because you know, when 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:10.840 we first, you know, we're young, and we all have 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.360 this plan of our fairy tale, get married, have kids 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:17.400 like we all did, right yea, And basically you know 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:21.000 that fairy tale ended for a lot of us. 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:21.240 Right. 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:23.520 Every time I tell my children and somebody's getting divorced, 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:25.679 they like look at me like I'm crazy, because doesn't 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.360 everybody get divorced. I mean, how sad right that that's 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:31.240 what they're you know, they're kind of floor that they're 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:38.000 starting from. But you there's so many different ways to 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.000 grow in this chapter, right and I will tell you 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:46.600 to the point of Hot Divorce Girls summer is I 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:49.679 look at most of my married friends and they're fing miserable. 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:53.320 Okay, I don't want to be anyone of them. Let 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.000 me take I go to dinner with my friends. 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:58.600 I can spend what I want, drink what I want, 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.200 come home, why to whatever show I want in the 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:02.840 middle of the night, I don't. 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:03.800 Have to answer to anybody. 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:06.280 It's that kind of stuff right there, Luise that I'm like, 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:09.560 why would I ever be in another relationship. 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.960 Unless it is so amazing? But I'll tell you what 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:13.120 you have to be careful for. 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:17.679 As we get more and more comfortable and very you know, 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:21.640 enjoying our lives, it does make it, to your point, 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:25.000 that much harder to make rooms. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.800 So what happens is is you know, it's it's got 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:30.800 to be really, I don't know you'll know it. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:32.320 I guess I haven't known it yet, But I have 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.520 a great life, Like my plan tonight with my friends. 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.559 I just got back from Europe with a group of girlfriends. 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:39.880 I mean, we're going to New York in the fall. 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.640 I mean it's like I can't even schedule, you know, dates, 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:44.400 because I'm busy traveling with my friends. 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.240 Oh my god, you are living your hot divorce a 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:50.280 summer like you legit are like living it for us. 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.280 But I also don't have kids at home, so I'm 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.640 a bright step ahead of you. But it's not just 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:58.880 hot divorce summer, guys. It's hot divorce all the time. 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:01.680 It doesn't act in the summer. The only difference is 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:02.800 you're wearing leather pants. 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.280 You're not wearing a miniver. Do you see what I'm saying? 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:09.680 And the truth is is, here's the sad thing. I 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.520 don't know about you where you live in Arizona, but 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.600 I know where you and I live. When does anybody 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:17.400 approach a table and send drinks over? 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:18.439 Not ever. 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.600 I lived in la for fifteen years. I did the 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:25.840 actor thing. I've dated some incredible men, really incredible men. 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:29.400 I've had the fun in the twenties, the thirties, getting serious. 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:32.200 The dating apps. Do you do dating apps? 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:34.720 I have done dating apps, but I am telling you 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:36.800 I never get hit on in the wild. 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:38.280 I don't know why I have. 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.480 A misting bitch face if I do not look approachable. 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.720 I try to make eye contact. I try to smile. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.760 I try to make sure they see that there's no 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.880 jewelry on my left hand. No, I do not get 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.160 hit on. I don't get slid into my DMS or 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:55.480 whatever it is the sliding. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.480 I don't get any of that. I get nothing. I 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.760 get absolutely nothing. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:03.080 To change that into. Now watch you just said that, 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.080 and it's like it's gonna just start happening. 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.040 No, I put it out there, Courtney. 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:09.960 No, I'm gonna change it for you. 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:11.360 Were you thinking the same thing? 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.000 No, I have to tell you I tried this this week. 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:15.200 You're gonna think I'm crazy. 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:16.760 No, I love a little woo woo. 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:17.080 Oh. 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:19.000 Nobody's more woo woo than me. I mean, come, you 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:20.000 should see the. 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:23.480 Crystals and the eleven elevens and dame. I mean my 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:25.840 kids wear an eleven eleven. Now, it's like it's our family, 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:26.440 you know, yes? 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.440 Right? Anyways, So I. 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.920 Was watching a TikTok and what the TikTok was saying was, 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:35.160 if you're if you're out or you're at dinner, you're 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:36.640 supposed to like touch your. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.240 Neck like the diessential or something. 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.000 And when I was doing it, so God came up 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:42.840 to be and talk to me. 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:46.040 I was like, this is working, so you have to 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:46.320 do that. 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:50.560 Start like sitting there and just being like touching yourself, Like. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:52.760 I don't know what okay, So I did something similar. 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.760 I had to admit. It has to feel somewhat. 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:59.920 I guess natural to who I am, and I would 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:01.640 tell you most of my life I have been the 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.800 type of girl who always waits for the man to 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:04.400 make the move. 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.160 I have just always. I'm from the South, I have 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:08.320 I believe. 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:12.080 In very Jewry is not dead. I know, I know, 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:15.240 but it's not working in my favor. I hope that 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.520 like my hot girl summer looks like if I see 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:20.920 a cute guy, that I would have the courage to 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:22.640 go up and be like, oh my God, hi, Like 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:23.520 I don't even know. 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:24.000 What I would say. 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:26.160 I don't think I have like game. I'm in Hawaii 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:28.400 for work and I was just leaving the beach and 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.760 i was walking and I'm just living my best life. 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.200 I'm so happy. I was meditating and praying by the 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.120 ocean and I'm smiling and I'm walking back, and I 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:40.000 saw this man walk past me and he smiled and 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:43.040 we made eye contact and I smiled back. And the 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:45.240 whole way is I'm walking away. I thought, Oh, I 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.160 hope he comes and approaches me, because I didn't have 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:49.880 the guts to turn around and be like, oh my, 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.200 did we have a moment like I didn't have the 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:54.400 guts to do it. But the whole way up, I thought, 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.520 oh God, if this is meant for me, let it 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:57.280 find me, you know. 0:16:57.360 --> 0:16:58.640 And if it's not, then it won't. 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:00.960 It'll drop in your lap when it's supposed to. I 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:02.960 promise you, the universe is listening. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.199 It happens. I'll sit there and all of a sudden, 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:08.200 it'll be like I'll be down or whatever. 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:11.480 I'll just talk to the universe and randomly I'll get 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:14.520 a call for a setup. I'm just saying, it's all 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:17.320 about that energy. But one thing you could do is 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:19.080 if you do you have a guy best friend. 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.040 I do. Mine's actually here in town helping me move. 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.399 I have a lot of guy friends that I actually 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:27.320 didn't talk to while I was married, that I've reconnected with. 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.920 And I told I was I'm sorry if i I'm 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:32.920 just going to jump in here. I just had lunch 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:35.080 with my family members today and they're like, how are 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:38.320 you doing. I'm in that phase where everyone's like, you know, worried, 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:41.359 and I'm like, I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm grieving. The 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.520 kids are resilient, and I said, I don't ever want 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:46.760 to get married again. And I know, Diana, you have 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:49.639 felt that way before. But I have guy friends that 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.240 help me out with things. We go to beautiful dinners, 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:56.119 they're attractive, We talk about their dating lives and that 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:56.639 sort of thing. 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:57.560 And that's my point. 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:01.320 It's what I think is really good is sometimes I 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:03.400 have a guy best friend and I'll say to him, 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:05.680 what am I giving off? 0:18:06.040 --> 0:18:08.160 Oh yeah, they'll tell you because. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:10.240 They tell you so, Deanna. 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:13.320 So maybe if you think you're giving off, resting bitch, please. 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:16.320 I just asked this guy who is a close friend 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:18.639 of mine. I was like, is something on? Is something 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:19.440 wrong with my face? 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:19.920 Is this why? 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:22.480 And he said, no, you're just too hot. And guys 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:24.719 won't approach a woman who's too hot because they think 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:28.720 you're taken. And I was like, wave that, Okay, I 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:31.880 don't think that I'm just too hot. I don't think 0:18:31.920 --> 0:18:34.320 I'm unattractive, but I would never label myself as I'm 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:36.160 just so hot that I'm unapproachable. 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:38.960 But like, what should I cut my hair off? 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:39.040 Like? 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:39.840 What should I do? 0:18:39.960 --> 0:18:40.160 Oh? 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:41.400 Do not cut things? 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:42.800 But never so hair off. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:46.200 You're in Hawaii, that's not geographically desirable, and I because 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:47.640 you live in LA. 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:49.320 But a lot of people come here from. 0:18:49.240 --> 0:18:52.160 LA to hang out and visit I and you were 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:54.960 saying that you would never You're old school. I have been, 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:57.400 especially when I was single, like I just will start 0:18:57.440 --> 0:18:59.480 talking to everybody. I was raised that way. My mom 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:01.320 was like, you know, we talked to the butcher the 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:05.480 floor is but I would say, like I be brave. 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:06.800