WEBVTT - Why We Put Things Off, Trusting the Wait & The ADHD Paradox

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<v Speaker 1>Cats up thing, little food for yourself life.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's pretty bad. Hey, it's pretty beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Thing beautiful that for a little more exciting, said, he

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<v Speaker 1>can cut your kicking with four thing with Amy Brown,

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<v Speaker 1>Happy Thursday.

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<v Speaker 2>Four Things, Amy here and I've got an og episode

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<v Speaker 2>for you. Four totally different things, although I will say

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<v Speaker 2>the first and the second thing are sort of related,

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<v Speaker 2>Like the title of the first thing is why do

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<v Speaker 2>we put things off that we really want to do?

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<v Speaker 2>And the second thing is just do the dang thing?

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<v Speaker 2>But they are different and when you hear the things,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll understand why. Third thing is the ADHD paradox. I

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<v Speaker 2>found this very interesting when I saw it. And the

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<v Speaker 2>fourth thing encouragement for a season of waiting, because waiting

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<v Speaker 2>is hard, and if you happen to be in a

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<v Speaker 2>season of waiting, this will just give you that extra

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<v Speaker 2>nudge that you need to be patient.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's get started.

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<v Speaker 2>First, man, Right, all right, let's talk about why we

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<v Speaker 2>put things off that we really want to do. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to think about something that you really

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to do but you put it off, or that

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<v Speaker 2>you currently really want to do but you are putting

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<v Speaker 2>it off at this exact moment, even though you know

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<v Speaker 2>it's something that you're going to totally enjoy and you

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<v Speaker 2>want to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I have done this many.

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<v Speaker 2>Times now, about a year and a half ago, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it was maybe even two years at this point.

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<v Speaker 2>Time has been weird lately. I took an improv class

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<v Speaker 2>and I absolutely loved it. I left it feeling energized,

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<v Speaker 2>and I told myself that I would sign up for

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<v Speaker 2>another session soon. So they're eight week courses, yes, but

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<v Speaker 2>guess what, I totally put it off.

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<v Speaker 1>And put it off and put it off.

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<v Speaker 2>I originally signed up for improv after I had that

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<v Speaker 2>teeny tiny role in the Christmas movie Holiday Harmony. My

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<v Speaker 2>scene was in the bathroom. Not sure if y'all saw it.

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<v Speaker 2>My kids thought that my bathroom scene was hilarious. My

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<v Speaker 2>debut in a movie and I had my lines in

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<v Speaker 2>a bathroom. But I loved the entire experience. So after that,

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<v Speaker 2>I decided to take improv lessons and acting lessons to

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<v Speaker 2>you know, hone in on my skills. I obviously should

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<v Speaker 2>have done that stuff before I filmed the movie, but

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<v Speaker 2>I was playing myself and it was sort of a

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<v Speaker 2>last minute thing that I got invited to do, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't have time to take any lessons.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna go for it. And I had no

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<v Speaker 2>idea how much I was gonna love the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I decided I would like to pursue more

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<v Speaker 2>of these opportunities, So I'm gonna do the acting lessons,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do the improv.

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<v Speaker 1>And I did all.

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<v Speaker 2>That in the and then just stopped, stopped going, didn't

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<v Speaker 2>pursue anything. And I really think it boiled down to

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<v Speaker 2>that I feared the rejection. And I don't know why

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<v Speaker 2>we do this to ourselves, because I know better than

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<v Speaker 2>that I have heard from others. I've even shared on

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast. I know that we have to just go

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<v Speaker 2>for things. We can't fear the failure because even from

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<v Speaker 2>the failure, obstacle is the way we will learn from it.

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<v Speaker 2>We will grow from it. We have the question that

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<v Speaker 2>Donald Miller gave us, what does this make possible? So

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<v Speaker 2>I know all the things, So why was I putting

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<v Speaker 2>it off? Like why did I quit? And then why

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<v Speaker 2>did I just ignore it? Even though I've had it

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<v Speaker 2>on my list for sure the last six to eight months.

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<v Speaker 2>Sign up for another improv class. Sign up for another

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<v Speaker 2>improv class. Like when we know we want something and

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<v Speaker 2>then fear creeps in. Uh, it's the worst when the

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<v Speaker 2>fear wins. And that's what happened to me. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like we easily can convince ourselves that we don't really

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<v Speaker 2>want it, because that's easier than failing. And it's sort

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<v Speaker 2>of what I started to tell myself. I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess it's not something that I really wanted, because

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<v Speaker 2>if I wanted it, I would be signing up for it.

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<v Speaker 2>Or we tell ourselves that we're going to wait for

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<v Speaker 2>the perfect time, then the perfect time never comes, and

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<v Speaker 2>we think about doing it so much that we exhaust

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<v Speaker 2>ourselves before we even get started. And that's exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>happened to me. However, I had a turning point today.

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<v Speaker 2>I finally signed back up for the improv classes. Like

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<v Speaker 2>before I hit record, I made myself go to the website.

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<v Speaker 2>I signed up. I'm going to be taking classes starting

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<v Speaker 2>in March. It'll be for eight weeks every Tuesday night,

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<v Speaker 2>six thirty to nine thirty. I'm sure I'll run into

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<v Speaker 2>some issues there, but I'm going to have to navigate

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<v Speaker 2>around it. This is something that's important to me. So

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<v Speaker 2>for the next eight weeks, that's where I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>be on Tuesday nights. You can't miss more than two

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<v Speaker 2>or you have to you start over. And I did

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<v Speaker 2>level one a while back, and I got to do

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<v Speaker 2>level one again because so much time has passed. I

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<v Speaker 2>would feel ridiculous going into level two. So I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>start level one. I'm going to see how it goes,

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<v Speaker 2>and then if I still love it, I'm gonna roll

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<v Speaker 2>in to level two. But I'm proud of myself for

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<v Speaker 2>finally signing up for the class, and I hope that

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<v Speaker 2>that will encourage any of you. Right now, if there's

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<v Speaker 2>something you've been putting off, maybe even pause this right

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<v Speaker 2>now and go look up what it is you need

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<v Speaker 2>to do. Go to the website. Can you sign up

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<v Speaker 2>for it? Do you need to look at your calendar?

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<v Speaker 2>What is it you need to do? Like, if you've

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<v Speaker 2>been putting off something, ask yourself why you're putting it off.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it fear, is it perfectionism, is it lack of time,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it is, Acknowledge why you're putting it off and

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<v Speaker 2>figure out a way to make it work. When we

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<v Speaker 2>do that, it will help get us out of the

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<v Speaker 2>what if cycle, which is what I need to get

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<v Speaker 2>out of, I will just know and I owe it

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<v Speaker 2>to myself to give it a try.

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<v Speaker 1>And so do you.

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<v Speaker 2>All right? So why is it so hard to do

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<v Speaker 2>the thing we know we need to do? This is

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<v Speaker 2>different from the first thing because in the first thing,

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<v Speaker 2>we're putting off something that we want to do. This

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<v Speaker 2>is something that we need to do, and we put

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<v Speaker 2>it off. Why do we do that? Whether it's a

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<v Speaker 2>difficult conversation, maybe sending a hard note or email, or

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<v Speaker 2>making a tough decision, I will put that off and

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<v Speaker 2>then it just causes more trouble for me. I tend

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<v Speaker 2>to get stuck in thought overload. I know this about myself.

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<v Speaker 2>My therapist gave me that term thought overload because I

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<v Speaker 2>have so many thoughts at once and it paralyzes me.

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<v Speaker 2>I was talking to my boyfriend about it the other

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<v Speaker 2>day and he could not relate to me, not one

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<v Speaker 2>single bit. He was like, I don't really know how

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<v Speaker 2>to help you through this. Because I have one thought

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<v Speaker 2>at a time, one task at a time. I finish

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<v Speaker 2>that thought or that task and then I move on

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<v Speaker 2>to the next. I cannot imagine what that must feel like,

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<v Speaker 2>must be amazing for me. I sat down to try

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out what I'm doing when I'm procrastinating a

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<v Speaker 2>hard task, and it boiled down to that I'm overthinking

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<v Speaker 2>every possible outcome. I don't want to deal with feeling uncomfortable,

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<v Speaker 2>like I don't want to deal with the discomfort that

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<v Speaker 2>that moment will cause me, and I somehow convince myself

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<v Speaker 2>that avoiding it will somehow make it easier later, when

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<v Speaker 2>I know with one hundred percent certainty that it does

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<v Speaker 2>not make it easier later. I've shared the buffalo versus

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<v Speaker 2>cow analogy before you know how buffalo will run into

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<v Speaker 2>the storm while cows turn away from it, ultimately staying

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<v Speaker 2>in the storm longer. I've shared that multiple times. I

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<v Speaker 2>even have this gold buffalo that my sister gave me

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<v Speaker 2>as a reminder. When I see the buffalo, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>be the buffalo, don't be the cow. Sometimes it's easier

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<v Speaker 2>to be the buffalo, and then sometimes I know I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just being the cal But I have that thought overload

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<v Speaker 2>and I just get paralyzed, like I don't take any

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<v Speaker 2>action when I know that taking action and doing it well,

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<v Speaker 2>That's another thing I get caught up on.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm being honest.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, I think about, Oh, I want this to

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<v Speaker 2>be warded so perfectly, and I want to do it well,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want it to be thoughtful, and I want

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<v Speaker 2>it to be kind, and I want to make sure

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<v Speaker 2>I'm staying on my side of the street. This is

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<v Speaker 2>an example of some conversations, like even in co parenting

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<v Speaker 2>with Ben, like I'll be drafting a text message or

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<v Speaker 2>an email with him or to him, and I'll delete

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<v Speaker 2>it like fifty times because I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 2>taken the wrong way. And I'm like, Okay, I'll just

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<v Speaker 2>make this a phone call because I feel like if

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<v Speaker 2>you were to read this on text or email, it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to come across the wrong way. But then we

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<v Speaker 2>like having things in email or text message because then

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<v Speaker 2>we can go back to it in case there's any

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<v Speaker 2>misunderstanding or miscommunication. It's good to have it in writing.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's that whole thing. Like that's an example, but

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<v Speaker 2>it could be a work related thing that you need

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<v Speaker 2>to tackle or something personal.

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<v Speaker 1>But we got to be the buffalo.

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<v Speaker 2>The band aid theory also is another good analogy. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like, right now I need to go to my

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<v Speaker 2>bathroom and get a band aid out and put it

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<v Speaker 2>on my skin and practice just ripping it off.

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<v Speaker 1>Because that's what I need to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I have something that I'm putting off, and I just

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<v Speaker 2>need to look at it and rip it off because

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm gonna feel the sting, but then I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be able to move on. Because we all know

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<v Speaker 2>if we've had a band aid on and we start

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<v Speaker 2>to peel it off slowly and makes the pain last longer.

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<v Speaker 2>So why not just rip the band aid off? If

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<v Speaker 2>we need to just do the dang thing. We don't

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<v Speaker 2>need to prolong the discomfort. Let's just handle it. Here

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<v Speaker 2>are some ways that we can just do the dang thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe we give ourselves a five minute rule, like we

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<v Speaker 2>tell ourselves I only have to think about this for

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<v Speaker 2>five minutes and then I'm doing it. Maybe I stop

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<v Speaker 2>rehearsing worst case scenario. That's another tip, Like our brains

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<v Speaker 2>will make up so many stories that probably will not happen,

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<v Speaker 2>and we just need to stop ourselves from doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>Easier said than done, I know. And then another thing.

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<v Speaker 2>We can do is treat it like a muscle. And

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<v Speaker 2>the more we start to tackle things head on, the

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<v Speaker 2>more we are the buffalo. The more we rip the

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<v Speaker 2>band aid, the easier it gets to continue to be that.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will say that I've had that experience before,

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<v Speaker 2>like when I've been the buffalo and I've done things

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<v Speaker 2>head on. Yes, I get into that groove and it

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<v Speaker 2>feels good. But sometimes I feel like I'm two steps forward,

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<v Speaker 2>two steps back, and then I have to pep talk

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<v Speaker 2>myself again. So that's what this is for you. If

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<v Speaker 2>you've been putting something off that needs to be done,

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<v Speaker 2>do the dang thing.

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<v Speaker 1>The relief that we will feel after we do it

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be totally worth it. Here we got

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<v Speaker 1>the third day.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I need encouragement in the waiting. We all go

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<v Speaker 2>through seasons of waiting and it can be really difficult.

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<v Speaker 2>This came about because I got an email from a

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<v Speaker 2>listener asking me about this, and then I have my

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<v Speaker 2>own thing that I'm also waiting on. Sometimes I share

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<v Speaker 2>the emails, but when something is super personal, I will

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<v Speaker 2>reply back to the person just make sure, Hey, is

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<v Speaker 2>it okay if I read this say your name or

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<v Speaker 2>I can leave you anonymous and still read it. And

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<v Speaker 2>she just shared some very personal things where she was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd rather you not say anything about the email, But

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<v Speaker 2>that's what brought up my desire to make this a

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<v Speaker 2>thing and talk about it and also helped me find

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<v Speaker 2>comfort in my own season of waiting that I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>right now and my patience and how my patience is

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<v Speaker 2>being tested, and my patience has been tested multiple times

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<v Speaker 2>in life, just like I'm sure the same is for you.

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<v Speaker 2>But the waiting doesn't get any easier. Sometimes waiting is

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<v Speaker 2>just hard period, whether it's waiting for an answer to something,

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<v Speaker 2>we're waiting for a breakthrough, or we just went clarity

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<v Speaker 2>on something. It's tough to feel like nothing is happening.

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<v Speaker 2>But even when nothing's happening, something is happening, like it's

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<v Speaker 2>not wasted time. And so as I was thinking through

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<v Speaker 2>what I was going to reply to the listener that

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<v Speaker 2>was asking me about this, and even you know, through

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<v Speaker 2>my own journaling, I'm just going to share with you

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<v Speaker 2>some things that God is doing while we are in

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<v Speaker 2>a season of waiting. And I know this first thing

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to share has been very very helpful for

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<v Speaker 2>me to just keep in my back pocket and say

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<v Speaker 2>anytime that I need it, like sometimes delays are for

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<v Speaker 2>our own good and we're being protected from something that

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<v Speaker 2>we cannot see even when we don't understand it. So

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<v Speaker 2>that's one thing God could be doing.

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<v Speaker 1>He could also be.

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<v Speaker 2>Preparing something bigger for us than we could ever even

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<v Speaker 2>ask for. He could be strengthening our patients, which is

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<v Speaker 2>literally what is happening to me at this moment. I

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<v Speaker 2>am worried about something that I don't need to be

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<v Speaker 2>worried about.

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<v Speaker 1>I can wait to worry.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm creating scenarios that don't need to be created during

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<v Speaker 2>my season of waiting when I just need to be

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<v Speaker 2>still and for me, because faith is an important part

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<v Speaker 2>of my life, I need to make sure that my

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<v Speaker 2>faith is in check, it's in the right spot. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not just making sure that a result happens. I

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<v Speaker 2>have to surrender and maybe I won't ever get clarity

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<v Speaker 2>on certain things, and I need to have peace either way,

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<v Speaker 2>and I need to trust that there's a process, something

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<v Speaker 2>bigger is happening. And sometimes waiting has nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with me, not one single bit. God might be aligning

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<v Speaker 2>things in other people's lives before it's time for something

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<v Speaker 2>to happen in my own, so there's nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with me, has nothing to do with you, and I

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to remind you and myself that in

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<v Speaker 2>the waiting, God is still working, the season is not wasted,

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<v Speaker 2>And for me personally, I'm really trying to focus on

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<v Speaker 2>trusting that what's ahead is even better than what I

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<v Speaker 2>could dream up at this very moment. So if you're

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<v Speaker 2>in a season of waiting like me, and like the

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<v Speaker 2>listener that emailed, you're not alone. I'm just sharing with

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<v Speaker 2>you all some of the thoughts that I replied to

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<v Speaker 2>them and that I journaled through myself. Trust the process,

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<v Speaker 2>trust his timing, and know that even in the silence,

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<v Speaker 2>things are happening.

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<v Speaker 1>All right.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you heard of the ADHD paradox? I saw this

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<v Speaker 2>post on Instagram from an account. It's Molly's Underscore ADHD

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<v Speaker 2>Underscore Mayhem, and it really resonated me. She was talking

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<v Speaker 2>about how ADHD creates contradictions in our behavior and if

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<v Speaker 2>you have ADHD you'll probably find this very relatable.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's what you put up the ADHD paradox.

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<v Speaker 2>Feeling very confident versus feeling very self conscious. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to do everything versus I don't want to do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't focus versus I can't stop focusing. I want

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<v Speaker 2>a routine versus it's impossible for me to stick to one.

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<v Speaker 2>I have so much energy versus I am completely burnt out. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't have ADHD, then you don't really know

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<v Speaker 2>what it's like to have your brain constantly pulling you

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<v Speaker 2>into opposite directions. And this gives an example of what

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<v Speaker 2>it can be like. And it's not that we don't care,

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<v Speaker 2>We're not trying. It's just that our brains operate on

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<v Speaker 2>a different rhythm. Like imagine driving a car with only

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<v Speaker 2>two speeds parks your full throttle like sometimes there is

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<v Speaker 2>just no in between, and that's often how ADHD can feel.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all or nothing thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And for me, what's helpful is I have to identify

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<v Speaker 2>which mode I'm in. Am I in my burnout mode

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<v Speaker 2>or I'm in my hyper focus I'm about to get

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<v Speaker 2>stuff done mode, And then I have to adjust my

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<v Speaker 2>expectations accordingly, because if I know that it's a low

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<v Speaker 2>energy day, I cannot force high energy tasks. And I

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<v Speaker 2>try to pay attention to my body because that's how

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to survive, especially as I'm unmedicated. I also

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<v Speaker 2>use opposite strategies like if I can't focus, I'll go

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<v Speaker 2>move my body like I'll jump on my rebounder. If

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<v Speaker 2>I'm overstimulated, I will do a five minute meditation, because

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes you don't really have a choice in what you

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<v Speaker 2>need to get done. I do try to listen to

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<v Speaker 2>my body when I can, but there are times when

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, well, okay, I get that I can't focus

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<v Speaker 2>right now, but also I have a deadline for something,

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<v Speaker 2>so I have to use opposite strategies to come in

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<v Speaker 2>and help me out. So if you have ADHD, you're

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<v Speaker 2>not alone in this paradox. Instead of fighting it, we

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<v Speaker 2>have to really just learn how to recognize our patterns.

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<v Speaker 2>That's been very, very helpful for me in my unmedicated

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<v Speaker 2>season of life, which now it's officially been. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I started over Christmas break. I was thinking it

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<v Speaker 2>was that the new year, but it was a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit before the first of the year, so I'm probably

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<v Speaker 2>coming up on two months no meds and really implementing

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<v Speaker 2>some of these strategies, which if you want more exercises

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<v Speaker 2>and things you can do for yourself, if you go

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<v Speaker 2>to YouTube and put in brain gem exercises for ADHD,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of things will come up that are helpful

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<v Speaker 2>for adults to do and kids.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you have a child that has.

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD, you can look up some of these exercises and

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<v Speaker 2>start doing them with them at home. They're just like

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<v Speaker 2>easy things, like if they're home from school, maybe they're

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<v Speaker 2>having a burnout day they can't focus, try some of

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<v Speaker 2>these exercises.

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<v Speaker 1>Or if you'll both have.

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<v Speaker 2>ADHD, then you get to do the exercises together as

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<v Speaker 2>a family. So I hope that that's helpful, because the

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<v Speaker 2>extremes can feel pretty crazy, can feel very very high

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<v Speaker 2>and then very very low at times, which can be

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<v Speaker 2>confusing and confusing for those around you if they don't

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<v Speaker 2>really understand the ADHD paradox. So I hope that this

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<v Speaker 2>is helpful for someone. I'm not an expert, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>thankful for all the accounts that I follow and the

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<v Speaker 2>people in my life and my therapist and people that

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<v Speaker 2>have helped me as I navigate some of this. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>hope y'all are having the day that you need to have,

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<v Speaker 2>and I will see you on Saturday for Outweigh and

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<v Speaker 2>then on Tuesday for the fifth thing with Kat.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye.