Speaker 1: Hell, all right, suck Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven
Speaker 1: and I heard radio podcast. Hey, We're gonna help I
Speaker 1: suck at Dating? Another episode dean myself and we have
Speaker 1: the wonderful Sierra Jackson joining us once again for today's podcast.
Speaker 1: And we also have a very special guest who is
Speaker 1: the CEO and founder of several global six and seven
Speaker 1: figure businesses and brands. It is Rebecca Lynn Hope. Rebecca,
Speaker 1: how are you? I am doing wonderful. How are you
Speaker 1: guys doing? We are doing well. So tell us a
Speaker 1: little bit about Marry Me Now, the new unscripted series.
Speaker 1: So Marry Me Now. I'm the brand new host, brand
Speaker 1: new show. We premier this week, um, and I am
Speaker 1: coaching and guiding eight beautiful Houston women who are going
Speaker 1: to propose to their boyfriend and if they say yes,
Speaker 1: they're going to get married right then? WHOA? So okay,
Speaker 1: I'm guiding them through proposal, but also planning an entire wedding,
Speaker 1: helping them do wedding preparation and planning in three days
Speaker 1: on entire wedding. So where did that our total of
Speaker 1: three days getting all of that done? How did you
Speaker 1: find these couples? Because it takes a special kind of person,
Speaker 1: especially in today's day and age, for the girl to
Speaker 1: propose to the guy. Right. Yeah. I I am very
Speaker 1: open and vocal about saying I don't believe that. I
Speaker 1: believe of women, if surveyed, would say absolutely not. I
Speaker 1: would never ever in a million years propose to anyone. Um.
Speaker 1: So definitely a much smaller, you know, percentage I think
Speaker 1: of the female population would even be willing to do this,
Speaker 1: much less do it right on National tell A Vision.
Speaker 1: So yeah, casting was uh, you know, very uh. They
Speaker 1: had to be very thorough and they had to really
Speaker 1: reach out and put up a lot of marketing in
Speaker 1: order to the women who were willing to do this
Speaker 1: for well, for what it's worth. I've talked about it
Speaker 1: on this podcast before. I'm totally fine with just being
Speaker 1: in a partnership with my girlfriend for the rest of
Speaker 1: our lives. But she wants to get married. And I
Speaker 1: told her, I was like, well, if you want to
Speaker 1: get married and then you can propose to me. And
Speaker 1: I said it half jokingly, but she's taking it seriously.
Speaker 1: So maybe maybe uh we'll be on season two of
Speaker 1: this show. Well. And and that's the thing though, it's
Speaker 1: like Dean so far when when we in the show
Speaker 1: younger men, when presented with this whole idea, we're kind
Speaker 1: of like, hey, that might be kind of cool that
Speaker 1: a woman would be so into me and love me
Speaker 1: so much that she would actually, you know, do this
Speaker 1: huge gesture of of love and commitment and and be
Speaker 1: willing to ask me to marry her. Some of them,
Speaker 1: in their their response was like they would be very
Speaker 1: flattered that that has a lot of the younger men
Speaker 1: responded and you're you know, a lot of our older
Speaker 1: traditional men that I met that were actually you know,
Speaker 1: friends of the bride's family, extended friends and family of
Speaker 1: the brides. You know, the older gyleman were like, oh, hell,
Speaker 1: this is not right. You shouldn't be doing this. This
Speaker 1: is you know, this is backwards, this is out of
Speaker 1: order he supposed to be. Why isn't he proposed to
Speaker 1: my sister? You know, there was one brother who was
Speaker 1: really upset, like, you know, why why should you even
Speaker 1: have to be doing this? M Yeah, no, I agree. Um, Sarah,
Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this whole concept.
Speaker 1: I so me personally, I'm I'm really excited to, you know,
Speaker 1: to watch this. That's it's gonna be amazing. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be great. I personally me, I I don't have a
Speaker 1: problem asking a man to marry me. If I want
Speaker 1: to marry him and I'm ready to marry him, why
Speaker 1: can't I ask? You know? So that is that's my
Speaker 1: idea yet, you know for that, Um, sometimes you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes men need to be guided, you know, you know,
Speaker 1: and sometimes they need a little push or a little nudge. Um.
Speaker 1: They don't realize what they got, you know. So um,
Speaker 1: sometimes you do have to say, look, you know, like
Speaker 1: I want to marry you. I I want this with
Speaker 1: you and I want to life with you. Are you
Speaker 1: in the are you out? Because if you're out, stop
Speaker 1: wasting my time, honey. Um. So I don't know. I
Speaker 1: think that I think it's it's amazing and it does,
Speaker 1: Um it does give women like you know, power and
Speaker 1: say and I think that, you know, I think that's
Speaker 1: something you know that dates like way back, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, women were moral seen as like
Speaker 1: property and they were they didn't have a voice, and
Speaker 1: they didn't have a right to vote, and they didn't
Speaker 1: have a right to do this or that right. So
Speaker 1: obviously the norm was the man asked. It's all about
Speaker 1: the man when he wants it, um, how he wants it,
Speaker 1: and he pulls those strings. UM. But I think that
Speaker 1: as time changes, and you know, we are we are
Speaker 1: no longer their property, right we are um, you know,
Speaker 1: equals to them that we should be able to ask
Speaker 1: to you know, But that's just me. A lot of
Speaker 1: people don't agree. I see, I see. I agree with
Speaker 1: where you're coming from. How Come how come it's been
Speaker 1: so romanticized throughout the years. I'm curious then, because I
Speaker 1: agree it's kind of like a it was like a
Speaker 1: transactional thing a long time ago, and we've kind of
Speaker 1: gotten away from it, and now it's become this big
Speaker 1: romantic gesture. I'm just curious maybe where that transition took place.
Speaker 1: You know, No, me too, I'm I'm curious too, And
Speaker 1: I mean I definitely want to know, like what your
Speaker 1: thoughts are about it, Rebecca, you know, on gender roles
Speaker 1: and how they are outdated, and like kind of how
Speaker 1: you feel about it, Like I agree. Interested see, are
Speaker 1: you hit the nail on the head. We're talking about
Speaker 1: thousands of years guys of you know, patriarchal the man's
Speaker 1: the leader. You know, I think sometimes in two thousand
Speaker 1: twenty two, it's easy for us to forget that it
Speaker 1: wasn't that long ago that women really didn't have hardly
Speaker 1: any rights. It was if you go back us to
Speaker 1: the seventies, guys in a divorce was very new, even
Speaker 1: the concept of getting divorced. And in divorces, women would
Speaker 1: lose all rights to their children. They would give the
Speaker 1: children to the men because they were considered to be
Speaker 1: because they were breadwinners, and women didn't have a lot
Speaker 1: of money, right they the kids would automatically go to
Speaker 1: the husband's We're talking about the right to vote, the
Speaker 1: right to work, the right to make money, the right
Speaker 1: I mean, all of this stuff is I mean, considering history,
Speaker 1: this is all very new. It doesn't feel new to
Speaker 1: us in this you know, current last two generations right here,
Speaker 1: but it is very new and and so too. Really
Speaker 1: turn it around, and for women to be proposing is
Speaker 1: really turning the whole concept of traditional gender roles on
Speaker 1: its head, right. And I love what Sierra is saying
Speaker 1: because what I saw in the show, we predominantly our
Speaker 1: brides were twenty five to thirty five or young women
Speaker 1: from Houston right, and and the are empowered women. I
Speaker 1: said it throughout every episode in the show that this
Speaker 1: takes a bold woman, This takes a confident woman, This
Speaker 1: takes a very empowered, almost more like boss chick type
Speaker 1: of young woman, right, because the traditional stuff and all
Speaker 1: of that, you're just gonna throw that out the window.
Speaker 1: Anybody who is really still stuck on that is you know,
Speaker 1: never going to do this. So that is really who
Speaker 1: the show is really showcasing. It's just a really a
Speaker 1: lot of bold, confident young women who are saying and guys,
Speaker 1: it's not even people who have been together for like,
Speaker 1: you know, tons and tons of years. We had couples
Speaker 1: that have been together like a year, all with up
Speaker 1: to seven plus years, and you know those seven plus years,
Speaker 1: they're kind of like like, wait a minute, what are
Speaker 1: we doing. It's time to you know, it should get
Speaker 1: off the pot, right like, But in those couples that
Speaker 1: were like a year, it's more like she's in love,
Speaker 1: she's met what she considers to be the one that
Speaker 1: he's just you know, a maze using to her, and
Speaker 1: she's ready to do this. Yeah. I'm exciting to watch too,
Speaker 1: because as much of a of a statement it is
Speaker 1: that they're making to propose to their men. Uh two,
Speaker 1: then put that on television as well as a whole
Speaker 1: new dynamic of it, you know, because it's not something
Speaker 1: that we're used to seeing on TV. So you're opening
Speaker 1: yourself up to a lot of scrutiny and criticism for it.
Speaker 1: So uh definitely takes a lot of courage to do
Speaker 1: what they're doing. I really respect that, a lot of courage,
Speaker 1: and especially because the only per you know, the only
Speaker 1: visuals we've had of women proposing. I don't know about
Speaker 1: you guys, you can correct me if I'm wrong, but
Speaker 1: the only time I've seen this is like these viral
Speaker 1: cringe e video clips on Instagram, you know, where a
Speaker 1: woman's getting down on one knee or something and poet
Speaker 1: and he's like walking away and you're like, don't do it,
Speaker 1: you know, like it's like so embarrassed for her. And
Speaker 1: so this, this is, you know, quite different, because these
Speaker 1: are very real relationships. These some of these couples have
Speaker 1: children together. I mean, these are very real women, real
Speaker 1: relationships where I think the women's timeline is saying, let's
Speaker 1: do this and let's see what the man's gonna do.
Speaker 1: What's the format of the show going to be, Like,
Speaker 1: is each episode going to be focusing on a different couple?
Speaker 1: One couple of her episode to eight couples? Okay? And
Speaker 1: then do we get to follow them around like post
Speaker 1: and pre marriage and all that stuff or what like
Speaker 1: what do we got to see? The entire episode is
Speaker 1: literally when I say, we are hitting the ground running
Speaker 1: because we've got three days to plan proposal and complete wedding.
Speaker 1: So they're meeting me as their life and love coach.
Speaker 1: That's the introduction, and then I'm getting in. I start
Speaker 1: digging because I want to know, you know, the truth
Speaker 1: behind the relationship, what's really going on, what issues maybe there?
Speaker 1: Why is she doing this right? We you gotta be
Speaker 1: able to understand what is the reason for why you're
Speaker 1: doing this? And so each episode is literally walking us
Speaker 1: through that coaching process and then up to proposal, which
Speaker 1: by the way, is in her wedding dress. She's proposing
Speaker 1: in her wedding dress. And then if he says yes,
Speaker 1: we went, we go right into a beautiful wedding with
Speaker 1: vowels and everything. And how quickly, how quickly into meeting
Speaker 1: these couples, can you tell whether or not it's gonna
Speaker 1: work out. Guys. I'm gonna be honest. Um, some of
Speaker 1: these couples really through me. Um the some of them
Speaker 1: that I would I was lying my girlfriend, are you
Speaker 1: sure you want to do this? Like I'm nervous forward
Speaker 1: you right, Like I don't based on just the facts.
Speaker 1: I don't see how we came to this decision to
Speaker 1: do this. And then you know, the man is absolutely
Speaker 1: in love with her and and he's just head over
Speaker 1: heels excited when she proposed this, and they're off to
Speaker 1: get married, and I'm sitting there like, Okay, I guess
Speaker 1: this it worked, you know, so I gave up trying
Speaker 1: to judge one way or the other. I would get
Speaker 1: these very strong feelings of you know, this is definitely
Speaker 1: a yes. Oh my god, they're so in love and
Speaker 1: I love her family and his family and it's just
Speaker 1: an amazing dynamic and the families love each other, and
Speaker 1: and then it was a no, m devastation. Do you
Speaker 1: think there's any coming back from a rejected proposal, like
Speaker 1: let's say you asked it to marry you and then
Speaker 1: they say no. Is there any coming back from that?
Speaker 1: Or is that like the end of the relationship? Attently.
Speaker 1: I think it depends on the woman. I think it.
Speaker 1: You know, personality types play into this a lot. Being
Speaker 1: you know, some people are fiery and angry, and you know,
Speaker 1: it's you can piss someone off and she's feisty, and
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like you don't get another chance. Um.
Speaker 1: In my observations from the couples, I'll say, I think
Speaker 1: it depends a lot on the explanations for why it
Speaker 1: maybe you know, right, like what is it real? Is
Speaker 1: it you know that we really need to take more
Speaker 1: time we have been together long enough? Or or is
Speaker 1: it he's making up some lame excuses and is you
Speaker 1: know really never has any intention of really marrying her?
Speaker 1: And you know, and I think that in this situation,
Speaker 1: when you do something this big, it you don't have
Speaker 1: a choice but to face the reality of whatever that
Speaker 1: answer is. Right. You know how in relationships we can
Speaker 1: kind of put our head in the sand, and women
Speaker 1: can kind of oh, you know, she's in our inner
Speaker 1: head with the fairy tale and you know, and and it's, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, one day he's going to propose and we're
Speaker 1: in love, and she might be ignoring a bazillion red
Speaker 1: flags that it's it's not what you know, she wants
Speaker 1: it to do your thing. It is. But I think
Speaker 1: in with this show, in that moment, there's just no denying.
Speaker 1: This is a definitive yes or no. And you know
Speaker 1: it's some and some of the guys, like with the nose,
Speaker 1: I was just sitting there like that was the lamest,
Speaker 1: Like I can't even you couldn't do better than that.
Speaker 1: Like I also don't know how someone will be able
Speaker 1: to come back from a no on the show, because
Speaker 1: you know, you have as a woman going out on
Speaker 1: such a limb and proposing specifically on national TV, but
Speaker 1: just even proposing in general and kind of like we
Speaker 1: talked about, flipping those social norms upside down, and then
Speaker 1: to have the guy say no, I think as the
Speaker 1: woman who's taking his chance or proposing to a man,
Speaker 1: that's a tough one to come back from. The crazy.
Speaker 1: The crazy thing to me too, is is the proposal
Speaker 1: is one thing, but then you guys go straight into
Speaker 1: the wedding. That's crazy. A lot of pressures here, even
Speaker 1: just at the top of this podcast was saying, oh,
Speaker 1: engagements can be broken, and they certainly can be, but
Speaker 1: not if you go right into the marriage you know,
Speaker 1: you have off So this is my it's my question
Speaker 1: for you, Rebucca. What are the men you know getting
Speaker 1: getting asked off guard? You know, what are they what
Speaker 1: do they think is going on? Like? How are they?
Speaker 1: You know, how are they unaware of what's happening? You know, um,
Speaker 1: you know, this is their partner and typically you know
Speaker 1: what your partner is doing or what your partners up
Speaker 1: to or their schedules. Right, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: your partners like, you know, weird, you know, and do
Speaker 1: they do they suspect something's happening? I mean kind of
Speaker 1: what you know, how are they getting this surprise? So
Speaker 1: one of the things that Owned did a really great
Speaker 1: job of this is really kind of plotting out exactly
Speaker 1: how this would be orchestrated in a way for him
Speaker 1: to not be aware of what was coming. And the
Speaker 1: first step is that I never meet the men. I
Speaker 1: never meet the boyfriends because they're they're very much aware,
Speaker 1: you know, ongoing we have a hit show. They would
Speaker 1: know my face immediately like, oh my god, that that's
Speaker 1: that lady from that show. So I never meet the men.
Speaker 1: And then each episode there is a show ruse, there's
Speaker 1: if if the bride. If if our lady is a realtor,
Speaker 1: she's pretending she's on a reality real estate, Hot real
Speaker 1: Estate in Houston, right if he thinks he's supporting her
Speaker 1: and her Houston Hot real estate show. And so they
Speaker 1: do these interviews together and it's more about like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're gonna buy a house or the real estate market
Speaker 1: and things like that, and he just thinks he's on
Speaker 1: camera to support her, you know, or whatever the show
Speaker 1: is about that makes sense for the couple. So each
Speaker 1: show is different. One one couple had they were going
Speaker 1: on a fix her Upper show to remond give him
Speaker 1: a man cave in the house or something. So he
Speaker 1: was like so excited because I'm gonna get a man
Speaker 1: cave and she she ends up proposing, And the first
Speaker 1: thing he said after bose I was like, well, am
Speaker 1: I still getting my man cave? Like She's like, I
Speaker 1: wasn't even anything, you know real. So yeah, they do
Speaker 1: a really great job with the ear of like really
Speaker 1: keeping him in the dark about what's going on up
Speaker 1: to that very moment where she is walking up to
Speaker 1: him in her wedding dress and going to propose, and
Speaker 1: he turns around and sees her. Okay, Okay, I've got
Speaker 1: a question for you. So for our listeners, um out
Speaker 1: there for for your reference, I guess, Rebecca, a lot
Speaker 1: of our listeners I would say majority of them are women. Um.
Speaker 1: Let's say someone is in a relationship now, their partners
Speaker 1: dragging their feet when it comes to a proposal. Uh.
Speaker 1: And and maybe one of the girls is thinking about
Speaker 1: proposing to their boyfriend. What kind of advice would you
Speaker 1: have for someone in that situation. I think there's really
Speaker 1: great signs if a man is really thinking long term
Speaker 1: and is looking at you like he wants to marry you,
Speaker 1: he wants you to be his wife one day, There's
Speaker 1: gonna be lots of conversations about your combined future together.
Speaker 1: There's going to be conversations about children, you know, finances, whatever,
Speaker 1: the future goals, business goals, where you want to live.
Speaker 1: There's going to be lots of conversation around this because,
Speaker 1: you know, getting married just such a huge decision, especially
Speaker 1: for men. Right, So, if if this is on a
Speaker 1: man's mind, he's going to be talking about things that,
Speaker 1: even if he doesn't mention the word marriage, he's talking
Speaker 1: about the two of you in your combined future in
Speaker 1: big plans, not like what we're doing next Tuesday for
Speaker 1: date night, but like, oh yeah, by the way, honey,
Speaker 1: my four old one kid is doing this, or like,
Speaker 1: you know, just the different things that go along with
Speaker 1: very serious the issues of life, right, the real stuff. Um,
Speaker 1: and so if he is not having any of those
Speaker 1: types of conversations, I mean, Dean, I don't encourage any
Speaker 1: woman to think about proposing without having some conversations to
Speaker 1: even know if you're on the same page, right, Like
Speaker 1: it only to me it only makes sense if you're
Speaker 1: going to think about marrying when you have to have
Speaker 1: really great communication. That's number one. With great communication comes sharing,
Speaker 1: right and and just talking about your heart's desires, your
Speaker 1: your plans. I mean, so I think that mature couples
Speaker 1: for sure should be having these conversations about, you know,
Speaker 1: what they're expecting, what they want. I don't think that
Speaker 1: any woman should just be proposing out of the blue,
Speaker 1: and you know, you haven't even had those type of
Speaker 1: real conversations with him to even know that that that's
Speaker 1: where he's at and that's what he wants. Jared, what
Speaker 1: do you think do you think it would ever would
Speaker 1: have been a possibility for asking you to propose to
Speaker 1: you or do you think it was always destined for
Speaker 1: you to ask the question to her? She's so the
Speaker 1: problem is and Rebecca, I'm sure this is an issue
Speaker 1: that you face as well as I feel like a
Speaker 1: lot of women don't want to propose. They want to
Speaker 1: wait until their man proposes to them, and that was
Speaker 1: something that Ashley would be in agreeing with. She would
Speaker 1: she would have waited till I proposed, because that's just
Speaker 1: what she wanted. She always wanted to be proposed to. Um,
Speaker 1: It's part of the dream exactly. So there's yeah, there's
Speaker 1: no way Ashley would have proposed to me. She would
Speaker 1: have waitted. She would have killed me if I didn't
Speaker 1: propose to her. Alright, that's reasonable. I mean I I
Speaker 1: could see it going both ways, you know. I I
Speaker 1: agree with the idea of like it's kind of ingrained
Speaker 1: in our heads since at a very young age to
Speaker 1: you know, like the guy proposes to the girl and
Speaker 1: you get married and you have kids and you move
Speaker 1: in the house, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. But I always think
Speaker 1: it's so cool when you hear stories about like just
Speaker 1: like on I mean, granted, you guys have a very
Speaker 1: unique story. Obviously you proposed to actually on a beach
Speaker 1: in Mexico in front of you know, millions of people. Um,
Speaker 1: I just I love the unique stories, you know, So like,
Speaker 1: I'm sure that we're gonna see a lot of great
Speaker 1: marriages out of this show that we're about to see Rebecca.
Speaker 1: That's I feel like them being able to tell their
Speaker 1: children like, yeah, your mom proposed to me. I think
Speaker 1: is that it's a really cool thing to be able
Speaker 1: to say, well, you know, we're back. I wanted to
Speaker 1: ask you before you go to do you think that
Speaker 1: this will ever become a staple in our society that
Speaker 1: will change where when we're more women do propose or
Speaker 1: do you think it's gonna be still what it is now,
Speaker 1: which is very rare? And then furthermore, do you ever
Speaker 1: see the constructive marriage changing as society evolves? Guys, I've
Speaker 1: said it for several years and people women especially get
Speaker 1: really upset when I say this, But if things continue
Speaker 1: to trend the way it's going, I don't believe that
Speaker 1: we will see marriage as a predominant principal moral you know,
Speaker 1: outlook expectation goal in fifty years. I mean, if things
Speaker 1: keep going the way the way they're going, And there's
Speaker 1: just no denying that millennials are leaning away from mayor
Speaker 1: Ridge more towards life partnerships. Um, there's this new thing.
Speaker 1: Have you heard of this about partner Uh not partner proposals,
Speaker 1: but it's like a ceremony, partner ceremonies that are not No,
Speaker 1: I have you heard of this? Yes, I know exactly
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. When people are basically agreeing to
Speaker 1: basically be partners for life a wedding, but without the
Speaker 1: legalities of a wedding and being married. This is and
Speaker 1: you know, it's so, this is I mean, I'm about
Speaker 1: to be a grandma. You know, I'm older, you know,
Speaker 1: of course, I'm coming from being more traditional, got married
Speaker 1: really young, had my kids young, you know, um, three
Speaker 1: grown sons, you know, And I talked to my sons.
Speaker 1: My oldest is twenty eight. He definitely still believes in marriage,
Speaker 1: but he is he's not moving fast in that direction.
Speaker 1: It's I think we're going to continue to see young
Speaker 1: people either not getting married or waiting a lot longer
Speaker 1: before they do get married. It's called the commitment ceremony.
Speaker 1: There we go commitment ceremony. I just heard about that
Speaker 1: the other day, and I was like, more of this trend, right,
Speaker 1: Like why do we have to involve the court systems?
Speaker 1: Why do we are important legal? You know, in your right?
Speaker 1: Because the more I think about it, the more everybody
Speaker 1: dreams of having a wedding and this big day and
Speaker 1: his celebration of love. But what comes with it is
Speaker 1: a lot of heaviness with signing your life and really
Speaker 1: becoming half of a whole, both emotionally, physically, financially, so
Speaker 1: on and so forth. So it would make sense that
Speaker 1: everybody's like, well, I want the wedding, but I'm not
Speaker 1: sure if I want to like sign my life away
Speaker 1: to you, so to speak. That's interesting, and I think
Speaker 1: more people do need to take marriage more serious because
Speaker 1: it is very soon. Like you know, see are you
Speaker 1: wouldn't go and just become business partners with some ray
Speaker 1: random person you met three months ago and and signed
Speaker 1: on the dotted line to start a business with someone
Speaker 1: you don't even barely know, but well, oh he's got
Speaker 1: to be the one. She's the one, and thread to
Speaker 1: six months you're like, oh, we might be getting married,
Speaker 1: and it's like that's your whole like when you sign
Speaker 1: on the dotted line, it's your whole life. And the
Speaker 1: one thing I've I've recently been really thinking about is
Speaker 1: how men traditionally have been more worried about marriage just
Speaker 1: because they have typically been they hire breadwinners, earners right income,
Speaker 1: and then marriage is like this really big risk without
Speaker 1: a pre nump, because you can lose half of everything,
Speaker 1: your children. If she just wakes up tomorrow and says, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't love you anymore and and I just wanna
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave you, divorce you, and take your kids,
Speaker 1: There's like really nothing he can do, which is what
Speaker 1: I hear from younger men. They they're they've witnessed all
Speaker 1: of this for years and are saying, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't I don't really know that. I'm I'm down to
Speaker 1: put my life on the line like that. But now
Speaker 1: with women making a lot more money, your women are
Speaker 1: as just as much at risk without a prenup marrying
Speaker 1: somebody and and he leaving you and taking half of
Speaker 1: your money and whatever enterprise you've created. I'm all for
Speaker 1: a prenup, I will say, And I don't care when
Speaker 1: I get married. I'm signing a prenup, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm all for a prenup because it's like people, I
Speaker 1: think people have this idea too that prenups are if
Speaker 1: you get divorced, you get nothing, And I think, like,
Speaker 1: it's like, no, it's a contract that you decide together
Speaker 1: on what's gonna happen if we don't work out under
Speaker 1: what circumstance if you cheat? Yeah, I'm about to take
Speaker 1: half of all your all of it, yes, but maybe
Speaker 1: sevent shoot, yeah, and we can put it in there.
Speaker 1: But if we fall out of love naturally, then we
Speaker 1: take what's hours. We take, you know, we we you
Speaker 1: know we I take what I worked on or or whatever.
Speaker 1: Your stay at home mom, It's like, okay, for every
Speaker 1: year that I was a stay at home mom, there's
Speaker 1: much money so that I can get back on my
Speaker 1: feet and get a career because I would stay at
Speaker 1: home mother because that's what you wanted and you were
Speaker 1: the breadwinner. So like, prenups are so great. I think
Speaker 1: so because it is. It's like it's like going into business.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't go into business without a contract because why
Speaker 1: are you gonna get married with that one? Like you
Speaker 1: have these things and it's not about like, well, if
Speaker 1: you love me, we're gonna last forever because blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: It's like no one knows what's gonna happen. No one
Speaker 1: ever knows. I mean, that's like my alition Roulette, you know.
Speaker 1: So I mean, I just think that prenumps are a
Speaker 1: very logical I think. But that's part of the problem
Speaker 1: why so many people don't like prenumps Because it cuts
Speaker 1: into the fantasy and romance being in love, you know,
Speaker 1: and so people don't want to think about if we
Speaker 1: break up or if you cheat, or they don't want
Speaker 1: to deal with the reality. And relationships are difficult. Relationships
Speaker 1: are hard. Marriage is hard. People get mad when I
Speaker 1: say that too. Marriage is hard, you know, dealing with
Speaker 1: another human being is not easy when you're merging your
Speaker 1: life with someone. Most definitely, we re Becca, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for joining us. For the listeners out there,
Speaker 1: be sure to check out it's Marry Me Now and
Speaker 1: it's on the Oprah Win Free Network. Right, well, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us. We're excited to watch it.
Speaker 1: Sounds like it's going to be quite the who so um,
Speaker 1: we're looking forward to it. Thanks for joining us, all right,
Speaker 1: thank you guys. All right, that's gonna do it for
Speaker 1: this week's episode of Help I Suck at Dating. Thank
Speaker 1: you guys so much for joining us again. Rebecca, thank
Speaker 1: you for joining us. Be sure to check your show
Speaker 1: out Marry Me Now on the Oprah Win Free Network
Speaker 1: on Saturday, March nineteen. Uh, Sierra, we are excited to
Speaker 1: see your journey continue on. We want you to. We
Speaker 1: want you to go to Paradise only if you only
Speaker 1: if you're up for it, Only if you think you
Speaker 1: could find a non f boy down there to fall
Speaker 1: in love with. Yeah, if I can get a whole
Speaker 1: as man, then yes, I mean I hope. I'm in
Speaker 1: pain of cuts because I have a party mouth, so sorry,
Speaker 1: but yeah, I him to be like man, you know
Speaker 1: I need. I need a man like Bard. He's pushing
Speaker 1: it too. I want him to have like, you know,
Speaker 1: the features like he was, like he smells of mahogany
Speaker 1: in a roof and stepping on an old smolky old
Speaker 1: fashioned with a cigar in his mouth. There you go,
Speaker 1: there you go for for anyone that's pining after this, yarra,
Speaker 1: you know exactly what it's gonna take, Um, Michael, Only
Speaker 1: if you're listening to this, you better show up to
Speaker 1: Paradise with a smoky Old Fashioned and a cigar in
Speaker 1: your mouth. Otherwise I have many leather bound books. Anyways,
Speaker 1: thank you guys for for being here with us for
Speaker 1: this podcast. Jared Um, thanks for taking time out of
Speaker 1: your busy schedule. I know, I know you're a busy
Speaker 1: guy these days. I'm fine. Cool. Well, that's gonna do
Speaker 1: it for this week's episode of Help I Suck At Dating.
Speaker 1: Be sure to tune in next week, where maybe we
Speaker 1: suck just a little bit less. Follow help by Suck
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