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Speaker 1: Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 1: who talks. Thank you for tune in a friend new

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Speaker 1: episode and we talked back and she was dedicated to

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Speaker 1: your niggas and these bitches in these hoes and everybody else.

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Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, it's me Tim Bam. I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: Did you say you were my co host AJ? That

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Speaker 1: was my co host AJ? Everybody?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I didn't get to you know, but it's me, you know,

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Speaker 1: small back a j Oh, I'm big, bigger person. I'm

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Speaker 1: big her back this year and I'm never going to

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Speaker 1: be the bigger person.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's big back Tam Bam, y'all, I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: We gotta go. We got a co host this week, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Uh look, y'all listen. This is my friend from first

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Speaker 1: grade through fucking college. Okay, Terry, what you want to

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Speaker 1: go by? We're doing low Oh you ain't going back

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Speaker 1: to low teen.

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Speaker 3: Y'all can call me Terry. Only people that know me

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Speaker 3: like that can call me that, but everybody else come.

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Speaker 4: And this has been my friends since eighteen years old

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Speaker 4: to we're now twenty seven, so good good ten years

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Speaker 4: almost y'all listen.

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Speaker 3: More than that. More than that. We met in two

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Speaker 2: We're twenty seven, nigga, I just said that ten years.

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Speaker 1: Shame, y'all. Terry has been telling us fucking lie about

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Speaker 1: me since I had a Jerry carl and elementary Okay,

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Speaker 1: he has been going around and even into my adult

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Speaker 1: life lying.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead and tell everybody's story, Terry.

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Speaker 3: Listen. One day we was in elementary school, Snandra's elementary school,

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Speaker 3: Ashley had a Jerry cirl. It's not a lot everybody, Ashley,

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Speaker 3: jeez is, why why are you saying my whole name?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: We go ahead, all right, y'all to school.

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Speaker 5: One day Ashley came to school one day. I remember

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Speaker 5: what she had on.

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Speaker 3: She had the Jerry Curle for starters. She had on

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Speaker 3: all black sweatsuit, the Lie Russell by Black Chuck Taylors

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Speaker 3: and black Chuck Taylors. And I was like, yo, here

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Speaker 3: a break dance and ever since game we been going that.

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Speaker 3: And she called my mom a demolition man because she

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Speaker 3: had going here.

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Speaker 1: No, that same day, y'all, he go like, Terry cat

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Speaker 1: oh because he got gray hand.

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Speaker 2: I don't, okay. So let's be very clear, right, So.

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Speaker 3: He you used to crack with my mama because she

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Speaker 1: And tell him about your mom in a minute. But okay,

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Speaker 1: Terry used to tell people. I would say, hey, guys,

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Speaker 1: check it out, and then busting to me and then

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Speaker 1: busting to the break dance. First of all, my mom

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Speaker 1: was not buying no name brand ship, so I know,

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Speaker 1: damn well. I had no Adidas or Russell anything in

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Speaker 1: elementary school. Okay, it could have been Walmart, but I

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Speaker 1: definitely was not wearing no fucking tracksuits back then, y'all.

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Speaker 1: This never fucking happened. And he's been telling the same

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Speaker 3: Okay, y'all think I'm gonna meet this up and carry

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Speaker 3: us home for all these years.

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Speaker 1: For forty years, but I love My name is a

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Speaker 1: j we're characters on this podcast.

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Speaker 3: Okay, y'all calling me Terry all right, as I.

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Speaker 2: Wanted to be referred to by, as I asked.

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Speaker 3: You forgive me, y'all forgive me.

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Speaker 4: So Ashley was wearing no boundaries outfits.

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Speaker 3: Hey, she.

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Speaker 1: And Charlie Terry Carroll dripping in Charlie Taylor's y'all, I

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Speaker 1: used to hate Jerry carl so bad because the fucking

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Speaker 1: mosquitos in the summertime at Charleston ain't no fucking joke.

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Speaker 1: Then she used to be stuck and.

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Speaker 2: My hair stuck to the curls, stuck to the juice.

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Speaker 2: They was like, Oh that looks shiny, let's land on it.

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Speaker 3: And then die. Girl.

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Speaker 1: My sister would come home and be like, girl, so

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Speaker 1: and so said, you were sitting in that seat on

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Speaker 2: Right, this is how I learned all you mama jokes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is how I learned how to fucking trip

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Speaker 2: All right, all right, so go glow. Let's get into internet.

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Speaker 1: Least. We ain't talked about our weekends. We've been talking

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Speaker 1: about growing up and shit, I ain't do nothing this weekend. Nowhere,

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Speaker 4: I ain't just shit either. My hair been looking fulled up.

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Speaker 4: I went back to swim class. It's just so hard

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Speaker 1: Yeah, black women be having it, howered, man, trying to

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Speaker 1: trying to stay healthy and keep your head done is

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Speaker 1: a real, real life struggle.

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Speaker 2: So I didn't know what you had going on this weekend, Terry.

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Speaker 3: Nothing much, man. I went to an all black party,

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Speaker 3: A lot worked and uh just lively chilled out. You

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. With my homebole house to watching football.

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Speaker 3: That's about it.

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Speaker 1: What's your favorite team?

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Speaker 3: Cowboys?

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Speaker 6: Okay, stupid, stupid Sexy Red is pressed. Actually stupid Internet news.

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Speaker 6: Go ahead, town, Sexy Red is pregnant, you guys. I

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Speaker 6: know y'all seen it, but we're gonna report it. She

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Speaker 6: is pregnant, and I think that is in a line.

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Speaker 2: With her whole esthetic.

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Speaker 1: Be pregnant baby mama. Yeah, like, we just saw a

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Speaker 1: sex tape of her about two weeks ago, and now

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Speaker 1: she's pregnant, y'all. And listen, we all swards just two

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Speaker 4: I didn't pay a really good attention to her stomach,

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Speaker 4: but it didn't look like she she don't look super pregnant.

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Speaker 1: You know that belly is round. We would have seen

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Speaker 1: that round belly her performing three times. She performed three

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Speaker 1: that stomach girl. And then the pictures that are out.

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Speaker 1: pictures that are out. She said, she I don't know

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Speaker 1: how you sucked that much stomach in, but more power

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Speaker 1: to her. I wonder if the nigga she was on

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Speaker 1: the sex tape, what is her baby daddy? We gonna

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Speaker 2: What did you think about sexy Red terry.

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Speaker 3: Sexy Red is one interesting character. I saw that photograph

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Speaker 3: of her, I guess saying that she was pregnant. I

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Speaker 1: You think she full of ship?

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Speaker 3: She said, And then she came back and said she

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Speaker 3: But if Sexy Red.

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Speaker 5: Is pregnant, we're gonna have to expect a Sexy Red

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Speaker 4: Sexy Red baby. All right, y'all, listen, stick that stomach

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Speaker 4: out let that pussy breathe.

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Speaker 1: It's definitely gonna sound something like that. That sounds about right.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you should go ahead and write the album for her,

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Speaker 1: I mean I could.

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Speaker 2: The lyrics are very elementary.

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Speaker 1: Easy, okay, dumbitch, just rap speed easy, Right, y'all, Let's

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Speaker 1: talk about this goddamn megachurch pastor in Texas who was

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Speaker 1: just sued for two point forty five million dollars right

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Speaker 1: are two point four million dollars forgiving women herpes that

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Speaker 1: he was meeting on Facebook? Okay? A Texas pastor has

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Speaker 1: her her herpes. Ralph Douglas West the Second, the assistant

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Speaker 1: an online church. I don't know, was found guilty battery,

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Speaker 1: intentional infliction of emotional distress, and fraudulent concealment. So apparently

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Speaker 1: he knew he had herpes when asked about it. And

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Speaker 1: so y'all think because he a pastor, like a safe

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Speaker 1: to fuck him wrong? I know, I promote like i'd

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Speaker 1: definitely be on here talking about you know, fucking without

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Speaker 1: a condo. But the thing is that her piece is

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Speaker 1: skin contact, so even if you use a condom, you

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Speaker 1: might end up with herpees. People don't realize that herpee

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Speaker 1: simplex one. Like the lips you could give you could

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Speaker 1: also have fever. Blessings can also be simplex two, and

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Speaker 1: you could give a person vaginal herpes via oral sex.

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Speaker 1: Home Slow down, wait a minute, Winter, there's a couple

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Speaker 1: of different forms of herpees, and you know, the herpes

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Speaker 1: chicken POXX, all that shit go together, right, herpes simplex

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Speaker 1: one and two. A person who gets let me stop

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Speaker 1: pointing at my motherfucking mouth like that and knock on wood,

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Speaker 1: a person that gets one on their mouth. Absolutely absolutely so,

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Speaker 1: even if you know, people don't associate that type of

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Speaker 1: herpee with vaginal herpee. But it's all transferable, right so

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Speaker 1: after that's something different that's warts. No, that's actually warts though.

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Speaker 1: But HPV more so affects women more than affects men

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Speaker 1: because we get cervical cancer. Well, I'm glad that.

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Speaker 4: Women getting paid two point four million dollars. I know

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Speaker 4: some people who got herpes for free.

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Speaker 1: Listen, they say one in one in three and one

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Speaker 1: in four people in America have herpes. It's something like

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Speaker 1: seventy percent other people in America have herpes.

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Speaker 2: Seventy people got herpies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you've never been test you may have never

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Speaker 1: even had a house outbreak. But that's not something that

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Speaker 1: it's so common. Yes, it's just that common. It's alright,

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Speaker 1: it's three of us right now. Which one of y'all

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Speaker 1: got herpes? You been hate me?

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Speaker 2: Not gonna will, right, Terry, he says, Terry got two

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Speaker 2: or more?

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Speaker 1: Congregate, somebody got herpies, Terry, real quiet.

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Speaker 3: Recent test shows.

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Speaker 4: They don't test you for that. You got to ask

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Speaker 4: for no, ask for it. Yes, that's so you went.

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Speaker 4: You went and asked for a herpes test.

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Speaker 3: Why nah, you No, you ask for everything. They just

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Speaker 3: do everything they want. They draw blood, you actually test

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Speaker 1: This is why I was like disgusting when people were

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Speaker 1: talking about usher because a lot of the people, like

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Speaker 1: in the comments online, don't know their status.

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Speaker 2: When it comes to herpees. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: If you've never actually been tested, and a lot of

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Speaker 1: people don't know they got dash it until they have

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Speaker 1: a fucking output, So it lies dormant on your spinal cord.

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Speaker 4: Well, I had a full panel test when I had

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Speaker 4: my fireboards removing may so I think they tested.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna imagine they would test me for that too, right,

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Speaker 1: it's a full panel, A full planel really doesn't include

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Speaker 1: a herpes test though, that's a whole separate thing. Even

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Speaker 1: stuff like that, it seems like they would. Well, you

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Speaker 1: look and see if you actually have a test. Therefore

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Speaker 1: it I'm a look on mine. So it says. After

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Speaker 1: God damn Jada.

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Speaker 2: If we can smith, it's like, why she don't stop?

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Speaker 4: Let me just say this. I love Jada. She was

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Speaker 2: I was definitely going to buy it so I can.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually want to read her book and Will Smith's book,

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Speaker 3: But she's not doing.

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Speaker 1: Anything that he didn't do before her, you know, and

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Speaker 3: You know. You have to really I always think, why

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Speaker 3: Don feel I say this publicly.

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Speaker 5: But because the internet is vicious, I would tell you

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 3: I'm just like, look, this man.

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Speaker 1: Just ain't nothing worse than the August Elsina. What the

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Speaker 1: What are we talking about today?

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Speaker 4: We're talking about people in your motherfucking business. When you're

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, so we're back, and just like Tam said,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell my business to tell me.

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Speaker 2: I literally got bout five people.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell the same fucking story too until I

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Speaker 3: Try to be fair if you're telling the story. But

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Speaker 3: what did you do? You know what I'm saying. I

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Speaker 2: You know, some people be weird those though.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing some people do. I got a text

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Speaker 2: So I can tell the story, and we and me

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Speaker 1: Talk about perspective and perception a lot, right, because that's

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Speaker 1: You're the cause of it. But this is fun for you.

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Speaker 1: Don't mind it because let me tell y'all, I really

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Speaker 4: I think a lot of people is not just black women.

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Speaker 1: People, No, No, most people don't like.

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Speaker 4: Omitting when they're wrong, and a lot of people have

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Speaker 3: When I'm conversing with men, almost ninety eight percent of

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Speaker 1: I agree, black women, I'm not really I wasn't throwing

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you, I try to do my best.

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Speaker 1: That is one of the four agreements, doing your fucking best.

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Speaker 1: I ain't did that shit?

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Speaker 2: It was that, nigga.

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Speaker 4: No, I've definitely started shit and fucked up and made

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Speaker 4: I'm human, I was growing, I was learning. I think

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Speaker 4: And I had to get away from that because not

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Speaker 1: Be Leave that motherfucker bitch.

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Speaker 3: So the first thing, see, that's one thing I never

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Speaker 3: Depends on something like that. Yeah you're getting your behind,

440
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 3: you getting your ass kicked, or they're just doing something

441
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 3: that they can't take back. It's like, okay, yeah, you

442
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 3: have to you know what I'm saying, get the kids.

443
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 4: If you very verbally abusive too, I will the girl.

444
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 4: You need to get up out of there. Then he

445
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:24,439
Speaker 4: don't respect you.

446
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially if he's calling you out your name. I

447
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 3: can say that too.

448
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 1: Well sometimes y'all, just that I don't like Sometimes if

449
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:38,679
Speaker 1: you're acting like a bitch, somebody need to tell you.

450
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 3: No, no, no. If you huh no, how you gonna

451
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:44,919
Speaker 3: tell him you being a bitch right.

452
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 2: Now you're telling a homegirl that or the man he

453
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 2: being a bitch to do that? No, I mean if

454
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 2: your dude can't tell you you being a bitch.

455
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 3: All right? Oh okay, I thought you say.

456
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,160
Speaker 1: You know I can't call no man, not my man.

457
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,159
Speaker 1: I want to talk to my man like.

458
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 2: No, if I start calling you a bitch, just kind

459
00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 2: of go. But if I don't like you.

460
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: But if I'm being a bitch and you say, all right, man,

461
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 1: you being a bitch, like chill out? I can.

462
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 3: I can?

463
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,919
Speaker 2: I can, because sometimes I do, and somebody need to

464
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 2: tell me.

465
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 3: You know. See, one thing about men, men are very

466
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 3: cooperative women only check it out now, but're not very

467
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,959
Speaker 3: cooperative with their women. But you got to know how

468
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 3: to get that out of him. It's haul on how

469
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 3: you talk a woman tongue listen, that they can either

470
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 3: lift you up tail ass.

471
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 1: That's true.

472
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:42,119
Speaker 3: You got to know how to talk to them. That

473
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 3: nigga will move how you want him to move, but

474
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 3: you got to speak it into him. You know, trust

475
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 3: me on this, but.

476
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 2: I think it's the same way the other way around.

477
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,640
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like women need a man

478
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 1: that's going to affirm them, who want to Who's going

479
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: to give them words of affirmation depends I've had. I

480
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: feel like my last couple of relationships, this is where

481
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 1: I get this. You gotta talk to me nice. I

482
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: really mean that shit right, because I was in relationships

483
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 1: where motherfuckers was not talking to me nice right. And

484
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,439
Speaker 1: I'm a one upper, so I find myself being extra

485
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: nasty to counter your nasty and that's not my normal setting.

486
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to I don't want to be

487
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: able to say like the worst ship to my dude

488
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 1: to win an argument or like to kind of leverage

489
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: out how he's treating me. I don't want that, like,

490
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: talk to me nice, because women are different when you

491
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 1: talk to them nicely.

492
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 3: Too.

493
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 1: Everybody likes respect right. And you know we talk about

494
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 1: this a lot on the show, like niggas always saying

495
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:42,879
Speaker 1: how they want peace, but a lot of these niggas

496
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: are not peaceful. Okay, So you want to be a

497
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 1: whole demon and you want me to still be loving. No,

498
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 1: you have to be inviting of that type of shit.

499
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 1: You cannot walk in the house change the energy at

500
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 1: a home and I'm supposed to stow Come over, baby,

501
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: what's the matter are you? No, y'all need you to

502
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: be a big man and use your words. Tell me

503
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 1: how you feel. And because the thing is, men will

504
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: go outside the house and treat people better out there,

505
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: then they treat the person that they got to deal

506
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 1: with on a daily basis.

507
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 4: But but no, that's not fair because sometimes like you

508
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 4: need to baby your man every now and then you

509
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 4: come home in his energy bad. It's okay to shift

510
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,639
Speaker 4: the energy in your space. Like maybe he had a

511
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 4: real man my energy, but maybe he had a really

512
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 4: bad day. Maybe something happened to him that day. He

513
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 4: hasn't even had an opportunity to speak on it. And

514
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 4: here you come, like, what's wrong with you?

515
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 3: No? I don't say nothing. That's the thing.

516
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: I match energy, right, So, and that's that is a

517
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 1: problem of mine, right, I match energy. So my attitude

518
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 1: depends on you. So if I'm chippery and I'm happy

519
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,880
Speaker 1: and you come in the house crazy, I'm automatically coming down.

520
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 1: Like now I don't feel good because I could feel

521
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 1: I could feel your energy. Right, So it's like, exactly,

522
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 1: you've now you've completed how I and I've been chilling

523
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: all day long, feeling great, feeling good, right, But that's

524
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: not your normal setting. And this is me going based

525
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: off of previous situations when men, I just want people

526
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 1: to get away from the finger pointing as if this

527
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 1: is something that women do, because there are a lot

528
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 1: of men out here who and I won't call it

529
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 1: feminine energy because it may very well be a part

530
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 1: of masculinity, right, because we already know when niggas get mad,

531
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 1: somebody could die. When niggas getting their feelings, somebody gets shot.

532
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 1: It's a real thing. So who's more emotional?

533
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 3: Men?

534
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 2: Are women?

535
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 1: Who's more violent?

536
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,479
Speaker 4: I think we're more emotional, But these niggas is more

537
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 4: violent than this. When they get emotional, we typically ain't

538
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 4: gonna kill nobody. I mean we do sometimes don't get

539
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 4: me wrong.

540
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 1: But men go there more than we do.

541
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 5: So'll y'all basically think that a lot of men have

542
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 5: a communication.

543
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 3: Is absolutely.

544
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: I think, and we just communicate differently.

545
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 3: Well, that's the thing I disagree that men. If we

546
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 3: just stay on that men have a communication issue, because

547
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 3: men will come into a barbershop or whatever and spill

548
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 3: everything out in front of a room full of strangers. Right,

549
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,199
Speaker 3: So that tells me right there, you don't have a

550
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 3: communication issue. I think they have a communication issue with that.

551
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 2: That's still a communication issue.

552
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,959
Speaker 1: So if you can tell strangers of what's going on,

553
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,439
Speaker 1: but you have neglected because I got little toys and

554
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 1: tell me all their business. But have you communicated that

555
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: with your woman so she can course correct the problem.

556
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 3: Most of the time, and most of the time most

557
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: men who have not communicated that with their women after

558
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 3: you ask them, it's mostly it's because that woman having

559
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 3: created that space for him to come to her knowing

560
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 3: that it's a safe space.

561
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 5: Basically, she have to create that safe face for him

562
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 5: to come to him, becau it's already hard coming to

563
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 5: woman be vulnerable without it being tossed back in your face.

564
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: You know, that's a mean person and I want to

565
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: get away from that too. That is not a woman thing.

566
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: That is just a mean person thing when somebody throws

567
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 1: your vulnerabilities into your face, because it's happened to me

568
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 1: for men, right, So yes, in order to be in

569
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with somebody, y'all got to be able

570
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: to communicate whatever it is. And that's when me and

571
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: Tom talk about like open relationships. It's not just about fucking.

572
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 1: It's just like being able to be completely open with

573
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: the person you sleeping next to every night, Like why

574
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 1: do you Why are you more comfortable telling one of

575
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: your homegirls about me and you can't tell me about me?

576
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 1: Right now? That is where accountability comes in a women's part,

577
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: right if a man, I think a lot of times

578
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 1: that a lot of times women think that they have

579
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: no fault in a relationship. They're not at fault for

580
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 1: anything because a man never communicated his grievances with her.

581
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 2: We are very vocal when we have a problem with

582
00:29:58,840 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 2: a man.

583
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: We tell you until you until you correct the issue,

584
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna keep telling you about it. Men have a

585
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 1: tendency of going outside the relationship to resolve the issues. Right,

586
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: they might go fuck on somebody else to complete their happiness,

587
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: and they still come home and be disgruntled towards you.

588
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: They haven't communicated to you what the problem is right

589
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: so that they can correct, so that you can correct it.

590
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: We gonna keep telling you, keep telling you. So women

591
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:23,959
Speaker 1: really be thinking they don't have no problems out here.

592
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 1: Meanwhile your nigga think you nasty, like you even clean

593
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: your bathroom?

594
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 3: Been sure, I'm telling.

595
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 5: You it comes back to not being a conversation bully.

596
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. So if your man come

597
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 5: to you about an issue, listen, I understand and adjusts.

598
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 3: That's it. It's really simple. But when you hear something

599
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 3: coming from your partner and it's on you, it's hard

600
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 3: to take accountability for something like that. Damn really pointing

601
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 3: out some shit I said or did last last night

602
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 3: or yesterday? Why he said then probably trying to you know,

603
00:30:58,920 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 3: process it.

604
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 4: My thing is, I don't like when I'm complaining to

605
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 4: you any of my agrievances, and then that's when you

606
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 4: take the time to give me your a grievances. When

607
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 4: you was upset about whatever you were upset about, you

608
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 4: should have told me in that moment, because now it's

609
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 4: just coming to me like this makes it okay what

610
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 4: I did because of some of the old ship, Like

611
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 4: you should have been said that ship. Don't wait till

612
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 4: I'm saying something, because.

613
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 3: That's a fact. Don't you use my moment to address

614
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 3: something that I'm taking the address?

615
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: But do you do y'all consider that maybe this moment

616
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: stems from a moment that they created. Why I can

617
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: even go back and say something about what you previously did,

618
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: Like like I said, I might type type shit, I

619
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 1: might not leave right, but you're gonna feel my wrath

620
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: because I'm gonna put a mirror. I'm gonna show you

621
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: what you did based off what the funk I'm about

622
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 1: to do to your eyes.

623
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 2: But that's manipulation though.

624
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 1: It's just.

625
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 4: If you are upset about something, if you want to rectify,

626
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 4: you do it in a loving way.

627
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 1: That's not loving. If this is your person, you need

628
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: to do.

629
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 4: It in a loving manner because the issue is not

630
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 4: the person, is the behavior.

631
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 2: So you attack that the issue. So if you're just.

632
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, but maybe not intentionally, they're not intentionally hurting you.

633
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 1: They're just like, let's talk about cheating, then is that

634
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: not intentional? When somebody makes a conscious decision, because that's

635
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 1: all cheating is is a choice. So now if you've

636
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: continuous made a choice to cheat, and I take your

637
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: ass one time, and I may not even actually have

638
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: sluck with somebody, I might have just went and hung

639
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 1: out with a nigga, right, and now this is the

640
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: now the argument is, AJ you did such and such,

641
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: you was talking to this nigga, but you've been talking

642
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: to hundreds of bitches.

643
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 2: Yeah right, yeah, but it's not You're not right because

644
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 2: you did that.

645
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 3: You just even I'm.

646
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: Not saying I'm not I'm not saying I'm right. I'm

647
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 1: saying the same way I gave you grace with your situation,

648
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: let me get mine, or we could just stop all

649
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: of this, right because I'm only doing what you've got

650
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: what you're doing basically okay, but you don't think that

651
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: women are the reason man need a time and place

652
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: for cheating. But you don't feel like all of that

653
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 1: is just toxic. It is, right, So I'm no longer

654
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 1: I'm no longer in that energy field, right, but I've

655
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: definitely been on that type of time in a relationship

656
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: because I just feel like we are humans, so can

657
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 1: I be human too, since since this is regular human behavior, can.

658
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 4: I be like, yeah, that's even. Let me let me

659
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 4: get even with your ass, nigga. That's what that is. No,

660
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 4: that's let me show you how it feels. Yeah, let

661
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 4: me show you how it feels.

662
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 3: Listen, but show him show him listen you can, you can.

663
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:47,120
Speaker 3: You can show him how it feels in the most

664
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 3: simplest way. And that ship will sting worse than you

665
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 3: sleeping with another man if you just leave. And then

666
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 3: if you leave, trust me, that ship will sting worse

667
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 3: than a hundred niggas that ran up in you. Which

668
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 3: ain't saying gon let hunte niggas unp for you. What

669
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 3: I'm saying is you packed your ship and you say,

670
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 3: you know what, cool, I'm gona take that l.

671
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you got the first time. What I'm talking

672
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: about is after you and then now you.

673
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 3: Tell a nigga not to play with you. If he

674
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 3: know you capable of doing that, he had no not

675
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 3: to play with you. Leave. That's a fair. I'm trying

676
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 3: to tell you the reason why most niggas do this

677
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 3: because they know y'all ain't going nowhere. She ain't going nowhere.

678
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 3: She probably even but she's gonna stay here. If you

679
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 3: just said, hmm okay, James, I know you slept with

680
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 3: Kim and it's cool. Your ship already packed, you know

681
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Your car already packed, gas already full,

682
00:34:56,680 --> 00:35:00,080
Speaker 3: of the closet empty. That niggas gonna lose plenty.

683
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 1: N then she might you might lose your life. So

684
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: my suggestion, bitches, leave you left.

685
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 3: You're on the phone, right, Yeah, you left already. You

686
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,759
Speaker 3: gotta be real strategic with this thing and calculated. You're

687
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: already left, telling you and they're gonna be coming back,

688
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 3: hands and knees crawling. Baby, I'm sorry to Yeah, that.

689
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 1: Was my mistake leaving the last relationship I told the

690
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: nigga I was leaving. I should have just already been

691
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: gone and then like, yeah, I'm out. Ahad that ship.

692
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 4: But leaving ain't always easy as just packing it up

693
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 4: the next day being out, You got it.

694
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 1: You have to strategically plan that ship. Mm hmm.

695
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 3: That's a fact, especially if you you know, we're talking

696
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 3: about just regular people that dating. If you're married. I

697
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:46,360
Speaker 3: would never tell about.

698
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: Taking peles like small pebbles at a time, baby, small

699
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: moving it from here today. That's like a bird. But

700
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 1: that's where I was at when I left. I was

701
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: like moving like so my last little bit of shit.

702
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: I'm like, dog, I'm taking all this ship today and

703
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:01,359
Speaker 1: I ain't never coming back.

704
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: Come back. This nigga get home is one wire hanger

705
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 2: in the closet for.

706
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,880
Speaker 3: Y'all. Do y'all think it's levels the cheating what you mean?

707
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 1: Yes?

708
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 4: There are emotional, financial, sexual online?

709
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 1: Yeah?

710
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely, what's the simplest what do you what do

711
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:29,240
Speaker 3: y'all think the simplest level of cheatiness? Internet sport?

712
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:36,399
Speaker 1: Niggas? Just listen. I like to frightenize a little bit.

713
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 1: I like it, okay, And I think that anybody I'm

714
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: in my next relationship with need to understand like I'm

715
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:43,800
Speaker 1: a flirt.

716
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,720
Speaker 3: I feel like it's natural. A lot of people are flirts.

717
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 1: A lot of people are flirt but some people they'll

718
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 1: be flirting while you're making it a problem for your

719
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: partner to be flirting. You know what I'm saying.

720
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 2: Let's just be honest that this is normal human behavior.

721
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: And it's not like something that should happen every single day,

722
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 1: but the occasion, like you want to feel like you

723
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: still got it a little bit. You know what I'm saying,

724
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,239
Speaker 1: Niggas is checking for me. Nigga, don't get it. Don't

725
00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 1: get me fucked up. Okay, that's a slippery slope. That's

726
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,440
Speaker 1: a slippery slope because first kid, you mess around and

727
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:18,760
Speaker 1: slip on a banana piel and land on somebody. Why no, no, baby.

728
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 1: I feel.

729
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 5: I think that the simplest form of cheating is communicating

730
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 5: with somebody while keeping it away.

731
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 3: From your partner.

732
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 5: You don't want your partner to know you're just communicating.

733
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:33,760
Speaker 3: It could be texted.

734
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: That's the Internet sport.

735
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like the simplest.

736
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 1: That's snap Chat. Ship messages disappear. Now, that's where the

737
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:43,919
Speaker 1: cheaters at the cheaters is on Snapchat.

738
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 4: Let me tell you where the cheaters. Let me tell

739
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 4: you where the cheater is really at Android users. If

740
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 4: that nigga don't want no iPhone. He don't want to

741
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 4: be facetimed, bitch. He don't want you to be able

742
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 4: to FaceTime.

743
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: And that was me for years. I always used to

744
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: be like, iPhone is for fucking stalkers. That's why I

745
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,399
Speaker 1: don't want to eye for y'all. Niggas want to see

746
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 1: when I see the message y'all want to see where

747
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:11,880
Speaker 1: I'm at iPhone is how I got caught up in

748
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: my last situation. This nigga like really was logged into

749
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:18,240
Speaker 1: my ship and he had that fucking that that find

750
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 1: my phone ship on.

751
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

752
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 2: If your nigga got an Android, he hiding some ship, bitch.

753
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't even when I see it back to

754
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 4: android and nigga text me and it's green, I'd be like, oh, nigga,

755
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 4: you toxics full.

756
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's try to get back on topic a little bit.

757
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: As far as like telling people about your relationships. Okay,

758
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: like I said, I'm uh I do that ship. I

759
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 1: definitely be telling people ship. Niggas be mad. They be

760
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 1: mad because they you know. I guess you gotta be

761
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 1: careful who you're telling your shit too, because I don't

762
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: want to like once I'm good, but my man, I

763
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: don't need you like acting nasty towards something because I

764
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 1: told you some ship that he pissed me off about.

765
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:12,240
Speaker 4: Hi, James, that's how you speak to your friend nigga

766
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 4: because some shit he did. Yes, yeah, be like that,

767
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 4: So you gotta be careful if you're gonna stay with

768
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 4: him and you know you ain't leaving. You gotta be

769
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,479
Speaker 4: careful what you tell him because your family ain't gonna

770
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 4: want him as a cookout, you know, right.

771
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, there are some things even like in any relationship

772
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 5: I've ever been in, if my partner did something, I'd

773
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 5: be like, I want to tell somebody, but nah, I

774
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 5: don't want them.

775
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: And you don't want people to judge you for staying

776
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 1: with somebody, judge you yourself.

777
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 4: I love my friend, but that's this week ass bitch boy,

778
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 4: she keeps saying with that nigga, I just be listening.

779
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: I don't say nothing.

780
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 3: I hate to sound like this, but that's a woman thing.

781
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 3: Like men don't tell they homeboys nah, because they know

782
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 3: you ain't leaving. I've heard mos sleep women tell different.

783
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 2: What Meanwhile, they'll say situation.

784
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 3: Take them in private.

785
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 4: The people I tell my ship too, is the ones

786
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 4: that I know that ain't just gonna be like agreeing

787
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 4: and full agreeance with me all the time. Like I

788
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 4: have certain people like aj my best friend Takia Janee,

789
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 4: They'll and Ryan, They'll tell me. They'll like tell me

790
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 4: and don't care if I'm mad, don't care if I'm

791
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 4: like trying to combat them with how I feel. They

792
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 4: be like, no, bitch, you're wrong. Bitch I said you're wrong,

793
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 4: You're wrong, be mad about it, you know. So I

794
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 4: need people like that because I do have friends that

795
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 4: be like, girl, you're right and give me high five

796
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:42,760
Speaker 4: every time.

797
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 2: You know, I need them.

798
00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:47,760
Speaker 1: I need them to No.

799
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 3: No, you need them. But I'm saying them the ones

800
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:52,359
Speaker 3: they gonna tell you you right every time.

801
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 4: Sometimes sometimes when I'm on my toxic time, I just

802
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 4: go to them so I can be like, I'm right.

803
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 2: Ain't a bit the valide?

804
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 1: Yeah you right, you bitch, I knew you was on

805
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 1: my side.

806
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 3: Yes, man, yes, But then I feel like my own

807
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 3: boys when they call me, I'm I'm fair across the

808
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 3: board because I know you, nigga, Like I know what

809
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 3: you do. I know what you came for love, So

810
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 3: if you tell me some ship, I'd be like, all right,

811
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 3: but you know you, okay, so you understand I know

812
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 3: you for twenty years. I know what you did. What

813
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,279
Speaker 3: are you talking about? She did this? Okay? But what

814
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 3: you did to cause this? Oh?

815
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: That was okay for a third party to point out

816
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 1: what they did, but it's not okay for if the

817
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: partner herself is saying we I did this because you

818
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: did this.

819
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 2: That's not okay though.

820
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 3: That's for that, like you said, right.

821
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: But why is it okay outside the relationship.

822
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 5: When he do it, you need to address it right there,

823
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 5: like Tam said.

824
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 3: I agree, I address it right there. I don't wait

825
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,839
Speaker 3: till he brings something you to bring up something he did. No, no, no,

826
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 3: that's not what I'm saying.

827
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: So I okay, I consciously like it's for sure now

828
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: and I'll see how it actually goes in my next relationship.

829
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 1: I'm not letting nothing fester. And it's so I told Tammy,

830
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: I'm and I told multiple people this this year. I'm

831
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 1: not arguing with nobody no more. I'm just not doesn't

832
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 1: make me feel good. I don't feel well. I physically

833
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: feel sick when I argue with people, right, So I'm

834
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: no longer in the business of arguing. So my next

835
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: relationship Dog and I actually had a situation recently, like

836
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 1: I was dating this guy, and I just I just

837
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 1: knew that if I would stay in that situation because

838
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 1: in the past, like I would just end up in

839
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 1: a five year fucking relationship somehow right.

840
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 2: With somebody I know. I wasn't supposed to be with.

841
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:51,919
Speaker 1: So now I'm learning to nipshit in the bud soon

842
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:56,920
Speaker 1: because I have foresight right that me and this person

843
00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 1: gonna be arguing a lot. I'm saying, like the back

844
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 1: and forthness, like I am not, I'm not into it anymore. Right,

845
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: So if we cannot effectively communicate from day one, I'm

846
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: not fucking with you.

847
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 3: Hmmm. I'm just not doing it.

848
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 2: Because you gotta learn people.

849
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:19,760
Speaker 1: You gotta learn.

850
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 4: People, you know, but you also got to meet people

851
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 4: with the I don't have to do to do that.

852
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:31,840
Speaker 3: What I'm saying, show you whant somebody, show you exactly

853
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:33,959
Speaker 3: who they are.

854
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: I disagree.

855
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 4: Do you see how many times black men will be

856
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 4: at they wait and be like she made me a

857
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 4: different man, She changed me, She helped me to grow

858
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 4: into the man I am.

859
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for you because sometimes these niggas be

860
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: me and not just the me and the women too.

861
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: You know, they come into each but each I don't

862
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: change much. We're getting older. People don't change much. So

863
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: who you meeting today, what's going to be going on

864
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: going forward?

865
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 4: Like I I disagree with you, that's fine, you can

866
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 4: meet somebody and what I'm saying is I don't want

867
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 4: constant compromise.

868
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: I don't want constant compromise in a relationship. I do

869
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,279
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I want constant compromise.

870
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 4: I want someone who's willing to compromise with me at

871
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 4: all times because they love me and I love them,

872
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 4: so instead of us button heads, we're compromising for each other.

873
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 1: I think you mistaken what I'm saying. In a relationship,

874
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: there should be a meeting of the minds to where

875
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 1: there is not always constant compromised, because what constant compromise

876
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 1: means is that you're constantly bumping heads with this person

877
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:41,479
Speaker 1: and somebody has to digress every single time. I don't

878
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 1: want that in a relationship. You should be able to

879
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: have a partner that y'all have a meeting in the

880
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:48,240
Speaker 1: minds where y'all agree a lot of times. Y'all agree

881
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: on a lot of things. It shouldn't be constant compromises.

882
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,200
Speaker 3: What I'm saying. You understand what I'm saying.

883
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 4: Now, I get what you're saying, But I think I

884
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 4: think compromise is always necessary in a relationship, and you're

885
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 4: not always going to agree and see things exactly the same.

886
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: Oftentimes opposite to track. You're with somebody who isn't exactly

887
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: like you, and that's why you're going to compromise. But

888
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: compromise doesn't have to be a negative thing, you know.

889
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 1: I think people if you compromise something that's negative, and

890
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be. It's just about ebb and

891
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 1: flow and give and takee.

892
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 3: You know, I think to respond to both of you.

893
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 3: I think that in any relationship, especially if it's new,

894
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 3: each person have to ask every question they need to ask.

895
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 3: Don't wait later and then you find out damn, I

896
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 3: ever knew this motherfucker, think like this, this is crazy

897
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 3: and you really think like that's norm You have't been

898
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 3: talking to somebody you like yes, Like yeah, you'd be like,

899
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,400
Speaker 3: look at that's not normal, Like what That's why in

900
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 3: the beginning you need to ask every necessary question.

901
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 5: You need to ask whatever them questions may.

902
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 3: Be, because later on your five years in damn this

903
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 3: thing is like the way his draws inside out and

904
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:07,359
Speaker 3: said put him in the dirty clothes, You'll be like.

905
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 2: Get yeah, like what would you ask to know that?

906
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,320
Speaker 4: Like it's like that you only go learn about people

907
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 4: by being with it, living with them, like.

908
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 1: You're sitting there and they're like, do you want do

909
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:29,280
Speaker 1: you watch? You watch where you wear your draws? Twice?

910
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 2: Like you can't ask nobody that.

911
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 3: No, no, you wash clothes every week? Gonna be two weeks?

912
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 3: You shall we use wash clod or loofah or just

913
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,439
Speaker 3: the soap. Nigga might be like, I just use my hand.

914
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:42,320
Speaker 4: You know You're gonna be like this bitch is weird.

915
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 4: She asking weird? Ask questions, you know what I'm saying.

916
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 3: You might be like, what that's what I'm saying that

917
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 3: these are the questions you might need to ask. It

918
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 3: might be like low debatable questions like what you thinking

919
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 3: about like people using wash rags, you know, sponges, and

920
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 3: might be like, ship, I don't use none of that.

921
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 3: Ship You'll be like, will you I use my hand?

922
00:46:59,440 --> 00:46:59,799
Speaker 3: Like what?

923
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 1: Because European people don't use wash clothes like that and

924
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 1: washlots who hold a lot of bacteria. So really using

925
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 1: your hands to take a shower with the soap bar

926
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:14,759
Speaker 1: itself is not really a bad thing, Like we use

927
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: washwrags in the Western I remember I went to Grenada.

928
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 1: They didn't even exist wash rags, because they do if

929
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: you're not using a new one every single day. It's

930
00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: holding bacteria, so at least with soap, like the bacteria

931
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:27,959
Speaker 1: slides off.

932
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 2: That's the slippery thing is. So if somebody says, why

933
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:31,359
Speaker 2: use my hand to.

934
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,360
Speaker 1: Wash like, I'll be like, okay, now you ain't sliding

935
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:34,239
Speaker 1: your hand up your ass, crag?

936
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 3: Are you just say the nigga take his hand, take

937
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 3: the damn thing and squeez.

938
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how they do in England and stuff like that.

939
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 1: And the hotels.

940
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 3: Doesn't even you in the shower, y'all take the shower.

941
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 3: I don't like.

942
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 4: Don't wear the same draws twice. That's a problem for me.

943
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 4: And don't try to use them shots. Oh that be

944
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 4: uh them gem shots be stinking the cross area.

945
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: I bet you the areas all type of ship right there.

946
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:04,399
Speaker 4: I used to make my nigga like when he came

947
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 4: back from the gym, take them ships off in the garage.

948
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:09,399
Speaker 1: Nigga, that ship smell bad. How does that coming off

949
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 1: for you?

950
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 2: I think they like it.

951
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 1: Listen, my gym boyfriend, that nigga hands be so stink.

952
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: One day I smell his hands. He was like, I

953
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 1: love how that ship smelled. Make me feel like I'm

954
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: getting it in what I smelled? Bacteria, bitch, that's what

955
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: I smell. If you don't them gloves in the trash,

956
00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 1: nasty bastard.

957
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 2: So what's the what's the questions that you feel like

958
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 2: you need to ask a woman?

959
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 3: Number one for me? Hygiene? That's number one.

960
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 5: Yes, hygen, that's self explanatory.

961
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: Okay, what you're gonna ask her?

962
00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 3: Like, Yeah, what kind of body watch you use? You

963
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:54,439
Speaker 3: smell good the other.

964
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 4: Day, But that don't mean she got good HII she

965
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 4: could use that that best once a week.

966
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 3: I used. That's how you started. You started like that.

967
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:08,440
Speaker 3: They y'all going to you know what I'm saying. I used, So.

968
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 1: That's all she used.

969
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 3: Dry listener, you got bad hygiene. Out of it.

970
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 5: I don't care how fine you was. You got bad hygiene.

971
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 5: I'm out of it.

972
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 2: Okay, But that's that's basic.

973
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: What else.

974
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 3: Different questions about that hygiene?

975
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,279
Speaker 4: Let me tell you, like just most women washing the

976
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 4: body regularly, that is not true.

977
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:38,720
Speaker 3: You were off a lot of people struggling with hygiene problems.

978
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, that's why we putting it on Facebook

979
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:42,440
Speaker 3: in the morning that morning. Fellas, don't forget to take

980
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 3: a shower. Yeah, you got to tell.

981
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: People that don't.

982
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 2: Because a lot of people be taking baths and dirty showers.

983
00:49:53,200 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, start worry about cleaning the tough second clean. You

984
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,960
Speaker 3: gotta clean first to have the tough get dirty. If

985
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 3: the top clean and you ain't washing wash, that's first,

986
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 3: clean a tough second, people will be like, that's clear.

987
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 3: You gotta tell people that, Yes, we all know somebody

988
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:20,240
Speaker 3: or know somebody that knows somebody who struggle with hygiene.

989
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,879
Speaker 3: Even in college, everybody had that one roommate or friend

990
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 3: that had a roommate wash you. Oh man, man, y'all

991
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:30,399
Speaker 3: smell him or her, and they don't be taking our

992
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 3: house just I'm telling you, we'll struggle with that.

993
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: I might watch too much though, so like I know

994
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,439
Speaker 1: some people might skip even in a bath. I don't.

995
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 1: I can't, like, I can't, like even if I like,

996
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: take a shower right now and I run outside to

997
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 1: the store and I don't leave the house for the

998
00:50:47,239 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: rest of the day, Like I still have to take

999
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 1: a shower right before bed, right, everybody don't do that.

1000
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 1: So if I have a partner who like we we

1001
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 1: go out and he comes in and then get in

1002
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 1: the bed, and I.

1003
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 2: Took a shower, like, don't be right.

1004
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm like looking at you a little bit from the side,

1005
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: even though you might still smell that you might have

1006
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 1: took a shower right before we went out, And my

1007
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:11,600
Speaker 1: mind is like I have to excuse some things, right,

1008
00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: because maybe it's me that I washed so much.

1009
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,799
Speaker 3: Now that's a compromise that you talking about that, Yeah,

1010
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:17,760
Speaker 3: because it's funny.

1011
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 2: You come in and he drunk and want to fuck

1012
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:21,359
Speaker 2: me real hard, and I don't want to wait.

1013
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes I can, Okay, we can start in the shower,

1014
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: my nigga.

1015
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 4: Sometimes that energy you kind of fuck it up with it.

1016
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 4: Sometimes the energy just be like, come here, get me

1017
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 4: on the counter, right that your.

1018
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 2: Mouth is for a bit, you can get it back together.

1019
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 1: I don't want no nigga who gotta come in and

1020
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: fold up his clothes before we fuck, Like, oh, I'm

1021
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: gonna after this you sleep.

1022
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:01,879
Speaker 3: Might that man might be O C D one.

1023
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: Listen, I'm not gonna get Yes, you know what I

1024
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:09,720
Speaker 1: don't like, Like I love hotel sex, but I always

1025
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 1: side I a nigga who puts his clothes on the

1026
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:15,439
Speaker 1: hotel floor, like even in your own home, like, get

1027
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 1: your clothes off the fucking floor. I don't like that.

1028
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: So me if my nigga falling ship up before you

1029
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: fuck me, like I'm cool, like hang your ship up

1030
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 1: or whatever.

1031
00:52:24,200 --> 00:52:28,080
Speaker 3: How it is you coming y'all, ain't coming in the

1032
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:37,839
Speaker 3: room and just taking clothes. TV it real, baby, that's

1033
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 3: y'all been out on the town. Y'all had a good time.

1034
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:42,239
Speaker 3: Y'all feeling good.

1035
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:47,320
Speaker 1: Shot before you touch me. Oh my god, I swear,

1036
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 1: I swear I've been feeling.

1037
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 2: So clammy clean.

1038
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 3: We showered before we left, but I don't feel like that.

1039
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

1040
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 2: It could be with me, so that.

1041
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: And not the pictures off the wall, bitch, come not

1042
00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: the pictures off the wall. I had this what nigga,

1043
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: we got all the pictures off the wall. We was

1044
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 1: all on the counter like, Yes, that's the energy I like.

1045
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 3: I mean, if we said we're going out at nine thirty,

1046
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,319
Speaker 3: we both showered at eight, we get back at one.

1047
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 3: We're clean.

1048
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 2: No, it depends we're just sitting down.

1049
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 1: It just depends we've been touching door knobs and ship

1050
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 1: and now you want to put that in my hands.

1051
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:34,239
Speaker 1: If I feel like, if I I feel like I

1052
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 1: do a smell check, if I feel like a little musty,

1053
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: I'll be like, all right, no, baby, wait a minute,

1054
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 1: but if I feel clean, take out of me these titties, y'all.

1055
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 3: Think y'all, TITTI is gonna be having a little older

1056
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 3: from eight pm to one.

1057
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: Sweeties, titties, I ain't got enough to titties a little

1058
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:56,360
Speaker 1: smaller the wheaties.

1059
00:53:56,400 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 2: Titties said baby, yes, okay, down in the middle, like.

1060
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 4: I'm definitely what I'm definitely, I'm definitely going to do

1061
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 4: a smell check on my vagina before I feed it

1062
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:11,760
Speaker 4: to you.

1063
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: So I need niggas that washed just as much as

1064
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: me as with all I'm saying. And I have had that.

1065
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: I have had men who he takes just as many

1066
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 1: showers as I do. Like that's on my list of things. Okay, yes,

1067
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 1: that's one of my deal breakers. Sometime the energy you

1068
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:30,759
Speaker 1: so you ain't never came in and was like, oh

1069
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 1: when we getting that door, boy, and he was like, no,

1070
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: let me go, I'm about.

1071
00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:37,919
Speaker 2: To take a shower when we get in that door,

1072
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:41,760
Speaker 2: and I'm the latest.

1073
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 1: When I get out.

1074
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 3: Yes, you know, listen, you know some men like that

1075
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 3: natural vagina smell.

1076
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 4: That's the pheromones you washing all your pheromones, your vagina.

1077
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:03,280
Speaker 1: It's not stink. Just relax and let him stink.

1078
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 3: Have it.

1079
00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:05,160
Speaker 1: Not about it being stink.

1080
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:07,840
Speaker 2: It's clean, it's clean.

1081
00:55:08,160 --> 00:55:12,760
Speaker 1: It's clean, your vagina self clean. It's not even about

1082
00:55:12,760 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 1: my vagina because the vagina's covered up. It's about the

1083
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 1: skin that was exposed outside. Girl, you are up the earth,

1084
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:24,680
Speaker 1: you are up the earth. It's okay. We're from a

1085
00:55:24,680 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 1: different tribe. I ain't trying to explain shit to y'all

1086
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:30,279
Speaker 1: no more. My tribe were the perst civilized tribe. Okay.

1087
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 1: We used to take it.

1088
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 3: If I take a shower, a good, good shower at

1089
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 3: eight thirty pm, I get dressed, were in the room.

1090
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 3: We probably ain't leaving until ninety five, So we get

1091
00:55:43,640 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 3: back at one am. I'm clean, I know I'm clean fresh.

1092
00:55:49,680 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: It depends on that we were sweating, Like if we

1093
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 1: were sweating heavy, then okay. But if we're not sweating,

1094
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

1095
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 3: We do. You were walking walking down to be hog,

1096
00:55:59,400 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 3: going to.

1097
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:04,719
Speaker 1: This time to be hot. We was at the main event, right,

1098
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:08,399
Speaker 1: We was at the main event, and little Wayne came home,

1099
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:08,879
Speaker 1: was like.

1100
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:13,840
Speaker 3: Right, So.

1101
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 1: It just depends.

1102
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 2: But I'm not going to ruin the moment with a

1103
00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 2: full my clothes up, hang your pants up?

1104
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 1: What I lean?

1105
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 4: My pennies and the ball on the floor. If it ain't,

1106
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:30,239
Speaker 4: it wasn't good.

1107
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 3: Just don't win.

1108
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: That's me. I don't win, that's for real. Did y'all

1109
00:56:36,280 --> 00:56:37,880
Speaker 1: be packing so many panties when I go out of

1110
00:56:37,920 --> 00:56:40,359
Speaker 1: town and bitch, don't wear that panties. I don't even

1111
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 1: know why I'm doing this.

1112
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:45,560
Speaker 2: Bitch, belly wear bras. Okay, just packing ship the package, y'all.

1113
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:47,160
Speaker 1: But we're gonna take a break right quick, and when

1114
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 1: we come back, we're gonna get a simp story from Terry.

1115
00:56:50,719 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 2: Okay, way to say this.

1116
00:56:55,080 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: But y'all we back. Tam had to take a ship,

1117
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 1: all right.

1118
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 2: Why you gotta tell everybody my business? I had, everything

1119
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:15,840
Speaker 2: came out, all right. It was Starbucks, man, I had Starbucks.

1120
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:23,919
Speaker 1: Hey, he's definitely a diarrhetic diuretic, yes for me as well.

1121
00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: All right, all right, Terry, Now we want to hear

1122
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 1: about this this sim story.

1123
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 3: Oh man, I remember it like it was yesterday. Go ahead,

1124
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 3: This is like I think, all right, eight or nine.

1125
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 3: I used to go to Atlanta to go see my

1126
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:47,200
Speaker 3: homeboys and party with them. Back back in the day.

1127
00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 3: So I met this chick. It was at Compound exchange

1128
00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 3: phone numbers, but I was leaving the next day, so

1129
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:56,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, all right, I'll call her when I get home.

1130
00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:02,479
Speaker 3: You connect with schedule. Were talking on the phone every day,

1131
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 3: everything going good. So she started taking the conversation to

1132
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:08,960
Speaker 3: the next level. I'm like, oh, word, that's how we're coming.

1133
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 5: All right, cool, you already know what we're talking about.

1134
00:58:11,840 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 3: So I said, all right, I'm gonna come see you,

1135
00:58:13,880 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 3: right and uh, we agreed to a date. I'm already

1136
00:58:21,080 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 3: anticipating everything you saying you're gonna do. Oh I feel

1137
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:31,840
Speaker 3: like such a sympom. So I hit up Aging, right.

1138
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 3: I head up Aging and like, Yo, I'm coming to Atlanta.

1139
00:58:34,520 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 3: She was living in Atlanta. I'm like, yo, I'm just

1140
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 3: there for like a day and a half. I can

1141
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:43,280
Speaker 3: get a room, but let me just crash on the couch.

1142
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 3: She's like, all right, cool, boom, get there, Boom, hit

1143
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 3: the check up. You know I'm in town. I was

1144
00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:50,720
Speaker 3: a little nervous because she wasn't answering the phone like

1145
00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 3: you know, you call people just to be like everything's

1146
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:56,360
Speaker 3: still good. Good for eight o'clock or whatever. She wasn't

1147
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 3: answing the phone, so she finally hit me back head.

1148
00:58:58,120 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 3: I took a nap. I'm like, all right, cool. I

1149
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 3: then drove three hours. Oh my god. We get up,

1150
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 3: I get dressed, tell aj boom, I go pick her

1151
00:59:10,320 --> 00:59:13,960
Speaker 3: up from her spot. We go to a nice restaurant

1152
00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:17,640
Speaker 3: in uh it's Atlantic something. What's it called. It's like

1153
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 3: an area in Atlanta, Atlantic Station.

1154
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:23,200
Speaker 5: Atlantic Atlantic Station.

1155
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,080
Speaker 3: That's where it was at. Go this nice restaurant, right,

1156
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 3: she ordering drinks. I'm ordering drinks. I'm like, oh, okay,

1157
00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:37,040
Speaker 3: we lit boom. I'm holding the dope. And for trying

1158
00:59:37,080 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 3: to be a gentleman, she asked for the man. The

1159
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 3: bill came out to like three eighty four with tip. Yes,

1160
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 3: this spot. I didn't she picked the spot. I'm like,

1161
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:51,400
Speaker 3: all right, cool. I had a little bit of cheese

1162
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 3: at the time of little something. The bill came out

1163
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,520
Speaker 3: of like three. I never really I was like, oh

1164
00:59:55,800 --> 01:00:00,440
Speaker 3: a lot, but alcoholic beverages. Runs to the checker. Everybody

1165
01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 3: got to know that you ordering them drinks that would

1166
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:06,000
Speaker 3: drinks me twelve dollars in restaurants and I'm like all right,

1167
01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 3: I'm like, are you ready to get out of here.

1168
01:00:09,760 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 3: She's like, yeah, we can get out of here. So

1169
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 3: I'm thinking, like, finally get back to the car, held

1170
01:00:15,760 --> 01:00:18,320
Speaker 3: the door before we driving on the way back to

1171
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 3: her house, I don't got my overnight bag in the trunk.

1172
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 3: So I'm like yeah, so I'm like we pull up.

1173
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:34,680
Speaker 3: We pull up to the door. She's like, all right, thanks,

1174
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:37,919
Speaker 3: thank you for good night and uh it was good

1175
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 3: seeing you again. So I'm like huh. So I'm like, okay,

1176
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 3: let me finesse it. I got finansa in somewhere right,

1177
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 3: So I'm like, oh, well, let me let me walk

1178
01:00:48,720 --> 01:00:50,160
Speaker 3: you to the door. You know, I think about walking

1179
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 3: to the door. I might can just get inside, you

1180
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. Maybe try to get a little

1181
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 3: kissed or whatever like that. Get to the door, she

1182
01:00:57,720 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 3: gave me like a little hug, like one of them

1183
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:07,440
Speaker 3: lit like all right. Like I was just like wow, Wow.

1184
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 3: She's like, yo, text me when you get back to

1185
01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:10,320
Speaker 3: your people house. And I'm just like.

1186
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 1: Wow, hold on what you mean what you thought? Because

1187
01:01:14,680 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 1: you bought her dinner and drink? She owe you some pussy. Nah.

1188
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 1: She was talking about.

1189
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 3: Talking like that. She was talking heavy like that.

1190
01:01:22,880 --> 01:01:24,040
Speaker 1: She initiated, she.

1191
01:01:24,160 --> 01:01:28,280
Speaker 3: Was talking like. I was like, all right, cool, Like.

1192
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:31,200
Speaker 1: So she made you think that it was up.

1193
01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 3: And then I got back to South Carolina hit her up.

1194
01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 3: A nigga answered the phone.

1195
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh yeah, there's this story.

1196
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 3: Don't be calling my girl phone. I'm like, oh god.

1197
01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:53,800
Speaker 3: And that was it. Man. I drove three hours, then

1198
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:57,320
Speaker 3: three hours back and spent almost four hundred dollars plus gas.

1199
01:01:57,400 --> 01:02:05,280
Speaker 1: You came back with he came to visit me. That's it.

1200
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. Actually didn't open her doors. I had

1201
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 3: to spend on the hotel. I appreciate her for that.

1202
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 1: You spent the hotel money on that. You ain't get.

1203
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:20,720
Speaker 3: Everybody got everybody, and I had a few of them,

1204
01:02:20,720 --> 01:02:23,000
Speaker 3: but that one stuck up. That one stuck out the most. Man.

1205
01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:25,800
Speaker 3: I was like, oh god, yeah, we all got.

1206
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:28,400
Speaker 4: At least you got a grown up story. Some of

1207
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 4: these guys be talking about high school lunch money.

1208
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 5: That don't count. I was a young adult then.

1209
01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 3: But.

1210
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 2: Money back then.

1211
01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 5: I'm telling you it's the alcoholic beverages.

1212
01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:46,400
Speaker 3: That's what it was. She kept ordering drinks like top

1213
01:02:46,440 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 3: shelf drinks, like.

1214
01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 1: You got her drunk for the next nigga, go ahead,

1215
01:02:52,680 --> 01:02:54,479
Speaker 1: if you went out on the day with the girl,

1216
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 1: and she ordered four trays of oysters and ate all

1217
01:02:57,040 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 1: of them, and the bill came out high and a

1218
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:03,680
Speaker 1: bunch of drinks. Would you leave her there? Did y'all

1219
01:03:03,680 --> 01:03:06,080
Speaker 1: see that with a girl? I saw that.

1220
01:03:06,560 --> 01:03:08,560
Speaker 3: I saw that I wouldn't leave her there. But in

1221
01:03:08,600 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 3: the process of her order, I'm like, yo, good, I'm

1222
01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:12,720
Speaker 3: gonna say something.

1223
01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 5: All right, you can't now you're just being greed Like.

1224
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 2: Come on now, oss, we could have went the highs

1225
01:03:22,040 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 2: that house, bitch.

1226
01:03:26,320 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what people got to know. Man. Well, I'll

1227
01:03:29,720 --> 01:03:32,240
Speaker 3: just say this, women, if a man is going to

1228
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:33,840
Speaker 3: take you out of the day, he asks you, he's

1229
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:34,840
Speaker 3: fronting the bill everything.

1230
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 5: There's a certain level of class you gotta have when ordering.

1231
01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 3: If he's paying the bill, what the fun? Basically, don't

1232
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 3: just take advantage of this just because I'm pain. We

1233
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 3: can tell when you're just trying to be greedy versus hey,

1234
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 3: we just hunger. Youre trying to get something to eat.

1235
01:03:52,720 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 3: Don't think of this, nigga. Pan.

1236
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:56,320
Speaker 4: I'm like, I want to I ain't gonna lie. I'm

1237
01:03:56,320 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 4: gonna get what I want. But you know what, let

1238
01:03:57,720 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 4: me tell you, especially when I.

1239
01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 1: Can I get not can I get some more oysters?

1240
01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:02,320
Speaker 1: I'm asked.

1241
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:05,560
Speaker 4: Uh, when I used to go out with drug dealers,

1242
01:04:05,960 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 4: I'd be like, the money are scammers, like the money supplies,

1243
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:13,320
Speaker 4: use all them that, Uh what a gift cards?

1244
01:04:13,440 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 2: My boy car good? But like I got a whole

1245
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:20,920
Speaker 2: Charlotte bitch, we be running it up.

1246
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 4: But if he but we're talking about average the working man,

1247
01:04:25,760 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 4: and I'll because I'll be conservative, be conservative.

1248
01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:31,280
Speaker 2: But I had to learn that.

1249
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that.

1250
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:34,720
Speaker 4: Like I was ordering drink after drink and then I

1251
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:36,640
Speaker 4: looked and he was looking like.

1252
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:39,959
Speaker 1: Nervous about the bell. I was like, damn, this ain't

1253
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:42,720
Speaker 1: a jointing lost and banking app and all that.

1254
01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:46,840
Speaker 5: Working man he's gonna he's gonna be calculating his head.

1255
01:04:46,880 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 2: And then he kept saying he didn't want nothing else.

1256
01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:50,439
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you know what. He probably can't.

1257
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 4: So I was like, no, the fact that he just

1258
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 4: don't want to break our help, like I'll pay for

1259
01:04:57,000 --> 01:04:57,560
Speaker 4: my drinks.

1260
01:04:57,960 --> 01:05:00,840
Speaker 1: He's like, no, no, no, man, you ain't gotta do that.

1261
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 1: You ain't gotta do that.

1262
01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:06,240
Speaker 3: But I felt I'm.

1263
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:07,200
Speaker 2: Felt bad after I realized this ain't a drug dealer

1264
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:07,720
Speaker 2: and scammer.

1265
01:05:07,840 --> 01:05:10,280
Speaker 1: This is a and it's not even about him not

1266
01:05:10,320 --> 01:05:12,280
Speaker 1: being able to afford it. It's just like some people

1267
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:14,160
Speaker 1: don't want to spend that type of money on entertainment,

1268
01:05:14,240 --> 01:05:16,480
Speaker 1: especially entertaining a bit he may not get pussy from.

1269
01:05:16,520 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 1: Like that's really what it falls down to. That.

1270
01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:21,480
Speaker 2: So it's understandable. And let's be very clear.

1271
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:23,800
Speaker 1: When young girls go eat, I'll go look at a

1272
01:05:23,840 --> 01:05:25,400
Speaker 1: black woman's table when it's for them.

1273
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:28,640
Speaker 4: No, it looks like a buffet. Right, I still would

1274
01:05:28,640 --> 01:05:30,520
Speaker 4: eat like that by myself. Don't get a twisted.

1275
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:31,680
Speaker 1: I didn't come with you.

1276
01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 2: I didn't come with you and run it up in

1277
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:35,880
Speaker 2: a way I read it up by myself.

1278
01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:37,120
Speaker 1: Right.

1279
01:05:37,240 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 3: See, y'all be trying to act cute on fun, not me.

1280
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:42,200
Speaker 3: Y'all know y'all be hungry. Some of y'all know y'all

1281
01:05:42,240 --> 01:05:44,280
Speaker 3: be hungry. And she'd be like, oh, I'm just gonna

1282
01:05:44,280 --> 01:05:46,000
Speaker 3: get ah.

1283
01:05:46,960 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 2: That was twenty year old me, Yo, that's.

1284
01:05:49,840 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 3: All you're gonna eat. But I done heard women say

1285
01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:54,360
Speaker 3: I don't want to look. I don't want him to

1286
01:05:54,360 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 3: be like I'm greedy. I don't want to look.

1287
01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:58,080
Speaker 2: He need to know who he getting involved with.

1288
01:05:58,320 --> 01:05:59,200
Speaker 1: I could telling nigga.

1289
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:01,960
Speaker 2: Fact right, I've been telling the nigga before we go.

1290
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, we're your wallet because I'm bringing my appetite.

1291
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:10,320
Speaker 3: Like that. That's good though. We want you to be

1292
01:06:10,400 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 3: comfortable and eat, but at the same time have like

1293
01:06:14,560 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 3: dining CURDI just be courteous, like have some cool like

1294
01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 3: don't be like, oh yeah for appetiser, let me get

1295
01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:26,040
Speaker 3: the she crab soup and me get the cocktails. And

1296
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:28,880
Speaker 3: for my aunt, I'm going to get the rabbi medium.

1297
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:29,640
Speaker 1: That's not right.

1298
01:06:29,720 --> 01:06:34,680
Speaker 3: Go to big theme vegetables, shrimp skewers grilled on both sides.

1299
01:06:38,000 --> 01:06:40,040
Speaker 2: If you see my drink low, just bring another.

1300
01:06:42,440 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 3: He's gonna be like, well, god damn. She mustn't get

1301
01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 3: out much.

1302
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Speaker 5: She's just taking advantage of the opportunity.

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Speaker 1: Yes she do, yes, the yes.

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Speaker 3: How often people eating shrimp skewers and steak surfing turf.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, when I come back here, which is often,

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Speaker 1: this is my spot, they know me. I did the

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Speaker 1: same ship.

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Speaker 3: Problem him.

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01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 1: I definitely take all my niggas in the same place,

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01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:12,800
Speaker 1: and if I catch you in there with another bitch,

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Speaker 1: is gonna be a motherfucking problem. I own this place.

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01:07:19,280 --> 01:07:21,440
Speaker 1: I'm clearing the table if I catch you in here

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01:07:21,960 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 1: when somebody else introducing people to my place, like you

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01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:25,760
Speaker 1: know where it's good to eat at.

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Speaker 3: Boy, that's funny, y'all. I do say, don't be bringing

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01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:29,880
Speaker 3: nobody no place.

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01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:34,760
Speaker 1: I don't introduce you to yrus. Now you're impressing the

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Speaker 1: next bitch with my again.

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Speaker 3: You see? Yeah, what's up? Yeah? Here, what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Put this drink on their tab over there, the nigga

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Speaker 2: over there, No.

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Speaker 5: Sir, I yeah, bring somebody to the restaurant.

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Speaker 1: I put them because what are you doing? You don't

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Speaker 1: even notice place existed.

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Speaker 2: I come over the table like, so did your peace?

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Speaker 1: I break Clara Terry? Yeah, okay, well y'all enjoy girl,

1327
01:08:06,400 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 1: don't lick them. Yeah, y'all, let's get out of here.

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Speaker 1: We run it all forever.

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Speaker 2: Can you log into your my chart for me, please, sir?

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Speaker 3: That's crazy, yo.

1331
01:08:23,439 --> 01:08:25,400
Speaker 1: That might be. That might be the new thing. Y'all

1332
01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:27,400
Speaker 1: might have to tell motherfuckers to pull up that my chart.

1333
01:08:27,720 --> 01:08:30,120
Speaker 1: If a nigga don't got my chart, it's problem. Just

1334
01:08:30,200 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 1: air dropping. Air drop your my chart before we go

1335
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Speaker 1: out on the day.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, why would I have to do that? I don't

1337
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Speaker 5: even know if we're gonna sleep together.

1338
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Speaker 1: That's the only way you're gonna considering it. Yeah, right,

1339
01:08:42,880 --> 01:08:45,639
Speaker 1: I'm considering fucking. That's the thing now, y'all be thinking.

1340
01:08:45,680 --> 01:08:48,720
Speaker 1: Y'all got some control over whether or not we fuck. Nah,

1341
01:08:48,880 --> 01:08:52,759
Speaker 1: and we already calculating that l A F N score

1342
01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:56,920
Speaker 1: and ahead. Okay, we we we thinking about fucking you already.

1343
01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:59,400
Speaker 1: We just need to We needed more information.

1344
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Speaker 3: I was tell me this too, I said, Usually when

1345
01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:06,160
Speaker 3: you meet a woman and you're thinking, she already, you

1346
01:09:06,200 --> 01:09:08,120
Speaker 3: already got it. You just gotta get it.

1347
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:11,719
Speaker 2: I don't fumble it, right.

1348
01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 3: Don't fumble it. Don't fumble it. So just don't say

1349
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:18,800
Speaker 3: nothing stupid, don't talk yourself out of it. You'll be

1350
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:21,080
Speaker 3: all right, be cool, you'll be.

1351
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:23,439
Speaker 2: All right, y'all.

1352
01:09:23,439 --> 01:09:28,000
Speaker 1: That's our homeboy, lo T Terry and I I ain't

1353
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:29,679
Speaker 1: talk about your mam at this time. I ain't gonna

1354
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:33,200
Speaker 1: talk about her, man low T. I did talk about

1355
01:09:33,200 --> 01:09:36,519
Speaker 1: her before on this show, but not this episode, like

1356
01:09:36,600 --> 01:09:42,120
Speaker 1: literally last weekliaus lady, go ahead.

1357
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 2: Tooous lady. Okay, she still got here too. All right,

1358
01:09:48,040 --> 01:09:48,599
Speaker 2: y'all listen.

1359
01:09:48,760 --> 01:09:51,519
Speaker 1: If you enjoyed this episode, tune in every Thursday on

1360
01:09:51,560 --> 01:09:53,720
Speaker 1: the iHeart Radio appor wherever the fuck you get your

1361
01:09:53,720 --> 01:09:54,439
Speaker 1: podcast at.

1362
01:09:54,520 --> 01:09:57,760
Speaker 2: This is your co host a j Holiday.

1363
01:09:58,040 --> 01:10:00,680
Speaker 1: It's two point zero on Instagram, y'all follow me now

1364
01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:03,479
Speaker 1: if you won't get on. What's up y'all? It's official

1365
01:10:03,520 --> 01:10:06,400
Speaker 1: Tambam On Instagram, y'all follow me. I love y'all.

1366
01:10:06,400 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 4: Thanks for y'all fortunity in Terry before you go, do

1367
01:10:09,040 --> 01:10:10,080
Speaker 4: you want to plug anything?

1368
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 1: You're at barbershop? Tell people where to come get a

1369
01:10:12,280 --> 01:10:13,840
Speaker 1: cute anything like that.

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01:10:15,960 --> 01:10:19,040
Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate that. Yes, it's Terry on Instagram,

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01:10:19,080 --> 01:10:22,559
Speaker 3: I am I am so Choston as I A M

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Speaker 3: S O. Charleston C H A R L E S

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Speaker 3: T O N Instagram. Hit me up. I'm in Columbus,

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Speaker 3: South Carolina. Shout out to Bennedict.

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01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:36,480
Speaker 1: DC GC A best barber Yes, awesome.

1376
01:10:37,439 --> 01:10:40,719
Speaker 3: I appreciate y'all. Man, see y'all in a few days.

1377
01:10:41,000 --> 01:10:43,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, hold on, yeah a few days, y'all.

1378
01:10:43,920 --> 01:10:46,120
Speaker 1: If y'all listening and you in Columbia, South Carolina or

1379
01:10:46,160 --> 01:10:48,600
Speaker 1: I shout out to all the Benedict College alumni. This

1380
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 1: weekend is Bendict Benedict's homecoming. We will be hosting a party.

1381
01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:54,760
Speaker 2: Damn, what's the name of the god?

1382
01:10:54,840 --> 01:10:56,120
Speaker 1: Damn please Stammy.

1383
01:10:56,760 --> 01:11:01,599
Speaker 2: Sixty the former The Weekend. Yeah, that's where we at, y'all,

1384
01:11:01,640 --> 01:11:02,760
Speaker 2: and I might hop on the mic.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 1: I hope they let me do what the funk I

1387
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:06,559
Speaker 1: want to do, bitch, because I like to rock the mic.

1388
01:11:09,439 --> 01:11:13,759
Speaker 1: Remember speak now and never hold your peace our feet

1389
01:11:15,120 --> 01:11:17,320
Speaker 1: or what you want to eat at a restaurant order

1390
01:11:17,360 --> 01:11:23,000
Speaker 1: what the stomach, bitch. This is by