1 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. 2 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 2: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of horrible decisions. 3 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mady B and I'm race Face. 4 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 2: Oh okay, come on AKA Mandy. 5 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: The second they put them on, I was like, take 6 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,079 Speaker 1: it off. You can't do that would have been what. 7 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: The third time, I was like I don't like it 8 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: and she was like, you just gotta get used to it. Whatever. 9 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 3: So the first two the first day I cried. I 10 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 3: was like, this is I'm ugly, Like, this is not 11 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 3: I'm not cute at all. Then this is so fucked up. 12 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 3: I hope he doesn't see this because for some reason, 13 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 3: my man is starting to click on horrible. 14 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: I don't know why, but get him out of you. 15 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: Block you is the whole ip. 16 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 3: But if I couldn't, okay, So this is really why 17 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 3: I don't want to say nothing. 18 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: He was like, baby, you look amazing. This is so cute. 19 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 3: I told you this better than this line's gonna perfect you. 20 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 3: You're gonna be so happy, like it's such a vibe. 21 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 3: Blah blah blah. Don't care. Still crying. Go in the 22 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 3: morning to the charging station. This dude is staring at me. 23 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:14,320 Speaker 3: He said something, oh, who did your who did your paint? 24 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,399 Speaker 3: I answered him. He's like, the racist look good as 25 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:18,000 Speaker 3: fuck on. 26 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: You, girl. That's all I need? Oh god, why is 27 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: it a random nigga can't do that? What is it 28 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: about random man and give you a comment? And random 29 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 1: people who. 30 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 2: I'm telling you you don't want no compliment from your nigga, 31 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 2: but you try to do. 32 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: But he had to tell me that. 33 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 3: For example, I put on an outfit, I feel fat, right, 34 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:37,479 Speaker 3: I you a good baby? 35 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: Okay boom. I go on the train and girls like yo, 36 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: that shit look fire on you. 37 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 2: Ooh very I should curry of you, y'all y'all, no, no, no, no, no, 38 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 2: not you start. 39 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: Like aleisken bitch. 40 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 2: So Aisha Curry got drug a couple of years ago 41 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 2: because she talked about like kind of feeling undesirable or 42 00:01:55,800 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 2: less desirable with Steph but kind of just wants the 43 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 2: attention from outsider sometimes to feel beautiful. Oh yeah, bitch, moyther, 44 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:10,399 Speaker 2: fuck you want attention from other niggas over your husband. 45 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: You know. 46 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 3: I don't really think it's that you don't want the 47 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 3: attention from the person you love. I think when a 48 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 3: person owes you nothing. It feels oh my god, shit, 49 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,920 Speaker 3: this must be real. For example, all of the love 50 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 3: I have I received from a few main sources my parents, 51 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:32,399 Speaker 3: my boyfriend, and my friends. Then Nina, if someone random 52 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 3: pays me a compliment, it does kind of do something 53 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 3: for my egos slightly. 54 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: I also women. 55 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: I also think that a compliment given depends on where 56 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 2: you're at in your mood, because I feel like, if 57 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 2: you're feeling ugly and you get that compliment at the 58 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: right moment at the right time, cool, if you are 59 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 2: like in maybe whatever other space, like, it goes to 60 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 2: where we where we say, what is it? It's a 61 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 2: it's either a compliment, it's it's flirting or harassment, like 62 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 2: I think it Also, I'm not talking about flirt I'm 63 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 2: talking about I think it depends who gives it to you. 64 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 2: Sometimes just say women then, because like you like you 65 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 2: like a compliment from a woman over a man, I would, 66 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, like, I really don't that to me, 67 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 2: I don't want to confuse complimenting with flirting only because 68 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 2: to me, flirting can annoy somebody. But a compliment when 69 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 2: it's real and sincere, okay, Like I think it's something 70 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 2: that we need more of. So I hate saying, well, 71 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 2: the parliament was on your Well I guess that means 72 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,920 Speaker 2: and here's how we can decipher that. Right, he complimented 73 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 2: your braces, which is not saying, like to me, someone 74 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 2: saying you're beautiful or damn that dress, it's fitting your 75 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 2: body night. Like that to me is when it gets 76 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 2: to flirting, when they're talking about your beauty or your physique. 77 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 1: Right when that's fair. 78 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 2: To me and a compliment if they talk about, yeah, 79 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 2: you'll fit your hair, like bitch that hair, Oh my god, 80 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 2: I love that. Like I'll take a compliment on a 81 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 2: part of me, but not holisthetically. 82 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: Honestly though, and not literally. 83 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 3: I remember one of my friends told me I always 84 00:03:57,800 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 3: compliment a girl on her fit because it's the way 85 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 3: to break them down out. So maybe that's why he 86 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 3: did it. Who cares, But it did kind of just 87 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 3: feel like he had no idea. I just got these 88 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 3: braces yesterday. 89 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So I will say a 90 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: few things they. 91 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 3: Made me realize, like to appreciate my beauty, Like there 92 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 3: was a moment where I caught myself putting on like 93 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 3: actually my man called me out. He was like, don't 94 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 3: be putting on more makeup because you hate your races. 95 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 3: Oh and I actually caught myself doing well already. He 96 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 3: already told you he don't like make a period. He 97 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 3: said you in a mirror too long, That's what it was. 98 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 3: But he was like, don't do too much just because 99 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 3: you feel and to hear all these braces like don't 100 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,359 Speaker 3: like they look good on you. And it took me 101 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 3: a minute to think to myself, like, yo, it's like 102 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 3: a girl that cuts her hair, like to know that 103 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 3: you're beautiful without hair. It's a very freeing thing. And 104 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:51,359 Speaker 3: I'm not talking about to anybody. You a bitch that 105 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:53,920 Speaker 3: cut her head. That's the girl. That's thing that I'm 106 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 3: making many very extreme thing for women that have to 107 00:04:57,279 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 3: cut their hair, that make the choice to like have 108 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 3: a style that's not necessarily a representation of femininity, right 109 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 3: because we always hear like longer hair. 110 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: This and that. 111 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 3: So yeah, it just took me time to realize. I 112 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:14,359 Speaker 3: got appreciate myself. And I really think a lot of 113 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 3: us don't take steps for improvement because we're worried about 114 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 3: the ugly phase. So I would say the braces is 115 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 3: one of them for me. Like even when it comes 116 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 3: to hair, right like a lot of my homegirls are 117 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 3: constantly wearing wigs or styles that are damaging their hair 118 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,280 Speaker 3: instead of getting through that ugly growth phase, you know 119 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 3: what I'm saying, like instead of protective styles or just 120 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 3: something else that's more natural. Like literally, my homegirl doesn't 121 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 3: want to go through an ugly phase of growing out 122 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 3: color on her hair, so she keeps bleaching it. 123 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, babe, but when are you gonna fucking em? 124 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 2: And then if she want to cut it off, she 125 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 2: cut it off and put a wig on while. 126 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 1: They grow out. 127 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 3: Not everybody feels comfortable to cut their hair. So that's 128 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 3: what I mean by the in between. So I think 129 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 3: for right now, the braces are eight for me. Were 130 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 3: the in between? The only thing they did that I 131 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 3: want to fight out about. I didn't know she was 132 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 3: gonna shave down my teeth like there was in ears, bitch, 133 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 3: Oh what the fuck is that? To make room for 134 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 3: them to move? Oh I only let it get three? 135 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 3: I said, Oh, yeah, I guess that. 136 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, that does make sense well because also they yeah, 137 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 2: they're literally going to be moving. 138 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: They need kind of room to move. 139 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 3: They need room to move, so they have to like 140 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:21,920 Speaker 3: shave them down like when ears and I was like, oh, 141 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 3: you have to. 142 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: Stop, sorry, baby shark, you know. 143 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 3: And then when I was on live, people were asking 144 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 3: me about it, right, and this ship made me like, 145 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 3: oh my god, I can't believe they're looking at it. 146 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 3: So I was talking about the steps they made and 147 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 3: mad people were like, oh yeah, I don't remember them 148 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 3: gaps before. 149 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, so you see it. That's crazy people. 150 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: They play way too much. They just be wanting to 151 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: say any goddamn thing. But you know, I. 152 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 3: Will say I am happy about it, like because in 153 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 3: this line was not working for me and the pain 154 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 3: that I've been experiencing. 155 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 2: Small Dry got a whole four thousand dollars for me 156 00:06:59,080 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 2: that I've never used. 157 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: I got the trade two and that was it. Get 158 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 1: your money back I went bankrupt. Oh on your I 159 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: think I did. Girl, I have my money back. Let 160 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: me tell y'all how to get y'all bob. 161 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 2: First off, don't be out here like the people that 162 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 2: was yelling Chase's name, And now Chase is like, no, lie, 163 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 2: I'm gonna put your. 164 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 3: Time as a protection plan on certain cards, right, which 165 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 3: me and you have the same one. 166 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: I think you're good. 167 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 3: Smile direct at a lifetime warranty and now they don't exist. 168 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 3: So if I want to come there at any point 169 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 3: in my lifetime to get my smile corrected. 170 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 2: I paid this four thousand. They give me all my 171 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 2: money back. Oh I'll be giving them a call. Oh yeah, expeditiously. 172 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 2: I think, yeah, No, you won't at all. No. 173 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: Uh uh trade for the left too? Well? 174 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, all right, all right, uh I guess 175 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 2: an update with me? 176 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: Uh, I don't know. I've been in a funk. 177 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 2: I think the move is like brought the most anxiety 178 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 2: I've felt in a very long time. You should be excited, 179 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 2: I'm not. It's it's anxiety ridden. Like I've been in 180 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 2: New York for thirteen years, it's moving to a whole 181 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 2: new state. 182 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. The anxiety that I 183 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: have right now and leaving. 184 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 2: Is fucking insane. I just got the email like, will 185 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 2: you be renewing the lease? I'm about to say, no, bitch, 186 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 2: I've been in this apartment for four years now. I 187 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 2: did two two year leases, So just the anxiety with 188 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 2: that is out of this fucking. 189 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 3: World doesn't make you feel like you don't want to 190 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 3: do it? Where what is your anxiety stepping in? 191 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 2: I don't know even when people are like, so are 192 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 2: you really moving? And I'm like ninety three percent like 193 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 2: cause I don't know why. I don't know what could 194 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,679 Speaker 2: happen to make me stay. Actually I do know if 195 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 2: a nigga wanted to pay my rent for a year 196 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 2: in a two bedroom here in New York, I'd stay. 197 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 1: I think you should. 198 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 3: I mean the second you told me you were moving 199 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 3: in my brain and I know I have a bicostal 200 00:08:57,920 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 3: brain right now because I've been doing it for three years, 201 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 3: but I did think, oh, she must be getting a 202 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 3: two bedroom with somebody here in New York. 203 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: Like you must be having like a space like no, 204 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: I don't want a roommate. No, but you wouldn't live here. 205 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 3: So in my brain I was thinking, like, you must 206 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 3: be having like a place here, No for what because 207 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 3: you have. 208 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 2: I have a discount, I have a discount on Marriott, 209 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:20,959 Speaker 2: and I got a lot of friends here the way, 210 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 2: I wouldn't have a spot here like to me, I'm 211 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 2: literally looking to buy a home, so just financially, that 212 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 2: doesn't make sense. For me to be spending one hundred 213 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 2: thousand dollars on rent when I'm trying to buy a house. 214 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: I didn't think you'd be spending one hundred thousand dollars. 215 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 2: I mean, if I even spend two thousand dollars a 216 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:40,199 Speaker 2: month here, that's twenty grand plus maybe another Like okay, 217 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 2: so maybe not a one hundred thousand, but sixty thousand 218 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 2: doll rent in a year doesn't make sense when I'm 219 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 2: looking to buy, when I'm investing, when I'm thinking of, okay, 220 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 2: in the next three years, what i want to do, 221 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 2: Like I'm really thinking long term on just a lot 222 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: of things in my life right now, and I'm just like, yeah, 223 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 2: that doesn't make sense for me. 224 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: I want to come back. I don't know. 225 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 2: Dating right now just doesn't make sense. I mean nothing 226 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 2: makes sense to me right now in life. Like I'm 227 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 2: in just a very weird funk, Like I hate people I'm. 228 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 1: Dealing with, Like I accept you guys at pay on 229 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: the Patriot No. 230 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 2: Like I literally like want sex and then immediately after 231 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 2: I want it, I'll go to text Nigga and then 232 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 2: if he don't respond in four minutes, I'm like, I 233 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,679 Speaker 2: really don't even want this nigga, like I don't want nobody. 234 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 2: It's so crazy. I thought of the one nigga that 235 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 2: I talk to every day. I'm like, well, I'm excited 236 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 2: to see you, and he'll be here this weekend. But 237 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:37,679 Speaker 2: I'm like I hate everybody. I literally hate everybody. And 238 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 2: then dealing with this emotion while dealing with grief, like 239 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 2: I lost someone recently and I was just with them 240 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 2: like a couple weeks before, so like going on and 241 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 2: off spiraling with grief and I don't want to cry, 242 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 2: like it's just been like a part of me feels 243 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 2: guilty for not spending more time with him, but right now, 244 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,200 Speaker 2: I just want to be alone. But then I'm feeling 245 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 2: guilty like I want to spend as much time as 246 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 2: I can with people I love because I just lost 247 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 2: somebody and so like all of it's just conflicting, like 248 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 2: and I hate it because I'm just like what is life? 249 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: Like I don't fucking up, Like I hate it about 250 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 1: your friend. 251 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, like so, and he invited me to Doubtless, He 252 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 2: invited me to Tokyo, like and I'm just like, I 253 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 2: was just with you, monigga, like so to know, like 254 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 2: I'm not going or spending time with people because I'm 255 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 2: in this funk right now. I'm like, I don't want 256 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:35,080 Speaker 2: to miss out spending more time with people because of 257 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 2: this mood, and I don't know how to get out 258 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,559 Speaker 2: of it. The anxiety of moving is fucking me up. 259 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 2: There's just a lot. There's a lot. There's a lot 260 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 2: right now just with my mental and working and I'm 261 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 2: still like extremely angry about just the treatment of my 262 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 2: last business and how that ended, and then even worse 263 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 2: and y'all gonna hate me right now, Bitch, I'm beating 264 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:08,360 Speaker 2: myself up because I'm missing this fuck fuck ass nigga. 265 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 2: Like I've found myself thinking about my ex but literally 266 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 2: in my mind just thinking of the. 267 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 1: Laughs, all the good moments. 268 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 2: And then immediately I'm like, bitch, get the fuck out 269 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 2: of it, like because he, like I know the psychology 270 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 2: of what that relationship really was. And I'm like, bitch, 271 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 2: are you are you fucking stupid? 272 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:30,719 Speaker 1: I don't think what you're doing is like something that we. 273 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 2: I'm upset, ye, but I'm upset that I'm even thinking 274 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 2: about him, But I'm thinking about specifically all the good moments, 275 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 2: all the good moments that I questioned if we're even 276 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 2: real because he was such a fucked up. 277 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: Like individual overall. 278 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:48,479 Speaker 2: Then I'm just like, bro, bitch, you out here depressed, 279 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 2: anxious about to make this move, like really shaking a move, 280 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 2: and we got some dope shit coming for you, and 281 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:56,319 Speaker 2: you think about this, nigga. 282 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:59,559 Speaker 3: So I'm literally do you know this episode? I actually 283 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 3: feel like nobody is. 284 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: Oh, we'll get we'll get to that. We'll get to that, you. 285 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 3: Know, when you were crying, always thinking of something that 286 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 3: Vinnie said to me. So, one of Vinnie's friends mom 287 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 3: just got sick, and I was like, damn, dude, can 288 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 3: you even be there for her right now? Because of 289 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 3: what actually it's one of his family members, because of 290 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 3: what you've been going through. He was like, Yeah, what's 291 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 3: happening to her right now? In her pain is at 292 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 3: this age, it's the first time of her seeing the 293 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 3: fragility of life. And I thought it was such a 294 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 3: powerful thing to say, because when you were crying, like 295 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 3: I have to spend time with all my friends, that's it. 296 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 3: You're just seeing that, like, oh my god, this is 297 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 3: so dicey, Like, yeah, we know that people can leave 298 00:13:41,840 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 3: and transition, but like, ooh, now, I have to like 299 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 3: hold on to you because what if you don't. 300 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 1: And it's such a weird thing. 301 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 3: And I just walked in the studio and told you 302 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 3: Brionda lost someone today and I was like, oh my god, 303 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 3: Like it's so heavy, it's such a it's such a 304 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:59,680 Speaker 3: horrible thing to think about. But what we have to 305 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 3: be rightful for and honestly pushing through and keeping busy 306 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 3: is a great way I think to deal with grief. 307 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 1: Like for me, you have to sit through the feelings. 308 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:15,320 Speaker 3: But sometimes I found myself finding ways to blame myself 309 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 3: in a selfish way, for example, like I don't do 310 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 3: this enough, and I don't do this. I'm like, why 311 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 3: am I not doing this xyz? And I was like 312 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 3: really pushing myself down because someone else died, when in reality, 313 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 3: I know that person's life and how they were and 314 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 3: they wouldn't have valued that in me. So I think 315 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 3: a lot of times when we're grieving, we've got to 316 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 3: remember the person that we love and how they would 317 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 3: have wanted our attitude to be. So yes, grieving that person, 318 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 3: but also pushing forward. You worked with this person too, Yeah. 319 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:44,479 Speaker 1: I think it's also. 320 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 2: I don't think I had lost up until this point, 321 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 2: someone that I was just with and someone who literally 322 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 2: passed on a trip I was supposed. 323 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 1: To be on. So it's like, I think it's I 324 00:14:59,200 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 1: think it's that. 325 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 2: I think it's just another life experience, honestly, and I'm 326 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 2: just like, oh shit, like this is something I've never 327 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:07,280 Speaker 2: experienced before. 328 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: It's weir to a virus. Go thing. Yeah, you know 329 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 1: my cousin you met, Sureif. I hate that. I'm crying too, 330 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: because I have some jokes for this fucking episode. 331 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, so like, fuck, bitch, stopped crying like you've 332 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 2: been crying for the last week. 333 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 3: Sureif was supposed to start work on The Twin Towers 334 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 3: on nine thirteen. 335 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 1: So it's funny. Did you see the story virus? 336 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:33,360 Speaker 2: Because not that it's funny, but in Mariah Carey's book, 337 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 2: this is why I gotta get off the internet. 338 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: I just be reading random shit. 339 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 2: Apparently Mariah Carey's glitter dropped the same day of The 340 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 2: Twin Towers, and this bitch was gonna get to work 341 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 2: late because she wanted to go get Mariah Carey's thing 342 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 2: and the Twin and she worked at the Twin hours 343 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 2: and literally she was like Mariah Carey saved my life. 344 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 2: The blueprints dropped that day. Apparently, wait it, what's crazy 345 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 2: is it was a Tuesday. And I only know that 346 00:15:58,520 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 2: because my mama came and pick me up. 347 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: She was man. She she left with too. 348 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,360 Speaker 2: Why you because I up from Oline, But I'm gonna 349 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 2: hold you. And apparently it wasn't like Michael Jackson and Prince. 350 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:12,240 Speaker 2: There was a huge Michael Jackson concert the night before 351 00:16:12,280 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 2: at the Garden that no one ever talked about because 352 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 2: of nine to eleven or it was supposed to be 353 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 2: all nine to eleven. Bitch, I don't know these fucking 354 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:22,000 Speaker 2: rabbit holes on the internet. It's only what makes me happy. 355 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 2: I've gotten away from watching puppies and kitten videos and 356 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 2: now I just be reading these weird ass but did 357 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 2: you know? And I'm just like, God, damn, the world. 358 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: Is really fucking weird. 359 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 2: You need you need a good When I say distraction, 360 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 2: no girl, My distraction is about to be I'm about 361 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 2: to get I'm about to become a streamer, so y'all 362 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 2: couldjoin me. I'm about to become a streamer. Hold on 363 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 2: and guess what video game I'm about to play for 364 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:42,560 Speaker 2: the people? 365 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: Silms and so I'm about to hold on. 366 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:48,520 Speaker 2: I'm about to make a little a sex club, strip club. 367 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 2: Gotta have a clinic because the niggas got to get tested. 368 00:16:51,360 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 2: I heard that's how they. My friend told me, girl, 369 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 2: make sure you have a medical center, because she said, 370 00:16:57,400 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 2: my friend got on it and it was free at first. 371 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 2: Then the niggas already get sick and he had to 372 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 2: put his card down to build a hospital. I said, bitch, 373 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 2: a clinic gonna get up, built up. 374 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 1: But then I was like, let me just say this, then, 375 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 1: don't don't do this. Don't do this. Mandy is about 376 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: to play videos hold on, but only because that's why 377 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 1: it come for me. 378 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 2: No, no, no, But the way I'm gonna do it is 379 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:23,879 Speaker 2: I'm gonna voice the people. Look, I'm gonna have a 380 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 2: whole family, and guess what, I'm gonna make it the 381 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,879 Speaker 2: reality that's real. I'm gonna make sure this nigga, the 382 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:32,879 Speaker 2: husband got a whole family at the end of the 383 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:33,400 Speaker 2: block too. 384 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:35,159 Speaker 1: So i'ma voice them niggas and talk. 385 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 2: About and show you all how these niggas be living 386 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 2: two lives at once. 387 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 1: It's gonna be if you started dating a nigga. 388 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:45,320 Speaker 2: Played sims No no, no, no, no, no, no no. I'm not 389 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 2: gonna date a video gamer. This is gonna be a 390 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 2: job for money and storytelling. It's gonna work on my 391 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:51,479 Speaker 2: storytelling skills. 392 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,880 Speaker 3: Now, what if someone needed that job to help as 393 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 3: their hobby with. 394 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 2: Okay, one moment, I don't want to if there's a 395 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,479 Speaker 2: video gamer that's making like, I ain't gonna hold you. 396 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: I'll take a little. 397 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, that nigga be stream, that nigga. Duke Dennis look good, bitch, bitch. 398 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:10,919 Speaker 2: I just followed him and I was like, let me 399 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,600 Speaker 2: make sure he of aged first, because he little stream 400 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 2: is young. 401 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:18,360 Speaker 1: You looked up his age too. 402 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 2: I was just like, nah, I'm him. But it's crazy. 403 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 2: I've been like, oh, it's Duke. 404 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: Kind of. 405 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 2: Maybe Duke seals with me? What games Duke Dennis bee playing? 406 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:31,920 Speaker 2: And you know what, we hold on, hold on because 407 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 2: he might see this clip. Let me wipe these tears. 408 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:36,159 Speaker 3: Well, you've never had a streamer on. I think we 409 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 3: should diversify our guests have no. 410 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:41,640 Speaker 2: No, no, no no no no no no. 411 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: No no no no. 412 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:45,920 Speaker 2: We already we done talked about other people to come 413 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:47,879 Speaker 2: on the pot. As soon as I know, I'll give 414 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 2: a nigga some pussy, he can't come on the pot, 415 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 2: so he got to turn me out right now, Duke 416 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:55,439 Speaker 2: Dennis could get some pussy, so he's not welcome on 417 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 2: the show. 418 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 1: I don't mix business and pleasure. 419 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 2: Now, if he gets a girlfriend, then you can have 420 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 2: them all, because I ain't. I ain't sitting here having 421 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:02,879 Speaker 2: niggas cheat no more. 422 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:05,680 Speaker 1: He plays video games. You don't like that he get. 423 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 2: Paid though, maybe he get paid Okay, yeah, no, no, no, 424 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 2: I'm cool with that. 425 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 3: I'm what do you think about the new era of 426 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:16,399 Speaker 3: like I don't know, like the whole Elliott Wilson coment. 427 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 3: You know, we love Elliott like people not fucking with 428 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 3: kay Sanat Like I feel like a lot of older 429 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,919 Speaker 3: journalists like don't like that shit. And I kind of 430 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:27,640 Speaker 3: be honest, like I kind of love I don't watch 431 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:29,520 Speaker 3: any kind of streaming, but I kind of love seeing 432 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 3: kids this young. 433 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 2: So all I know is I was setting up my 434 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 2: little Twitch account the other day. Kai is the only 435 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 2: person I follow right now. Then that nigga went live, 436 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 2: I said, okay, let me see what I'm about to 437 00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 2: get myself into. 438 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:42,800 Speaker 1: So I joined his. 439 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 2: Live bitch four minutes in He's like, I'm giving a 440 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:47,960 Speaker 2: hundred thousand dollars away this stream. I said, oh yeah, 441 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 2: let me get my ass up in here, cause niggas 442 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: just given a hundred thousand dollars away. 443 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:52,400 Speaker 1: Okay. 444 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 2: I mean in terms of that, I think I've gotten 445 00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:00,479 Speaker 2: to the say, like, I think it's a as old 446 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,359 Speaker 2: as time, Like the same way our parents didn't like 447 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 2: our music growing up, and now we don't like kind 448 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 2: of the music dropping. To me an older journalist who 449 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:10,959 Speaker 2: maybe had to go to school and had to get 450 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 2: a degree and had to work their way up and 451 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,879 Speaker 2: climb their way to a certain galaries, you know what 452 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 2: I mean, it's the same thing. So I think the 453 00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:21,720 Speaker 2: journalists right now are like, this isn't real journalism happening. 454 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 3: But these people may think that they're trying to do 455 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 3: real journalism. 456 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:26,600 Speaker 2: I mean, but I think that's why the journalists are mad, 457 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 2: because they're getting the interviews that the journalists want, Like Nigga, 458 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,560 Speaker 2: how the fuck you sitting with Nicki Minaj. 459 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 3: And Harris to go up there. I don't believe that 460 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 3: she and her team contacted. 461 00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: I don't think so either, But I'm not gonna hold you. 462 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: I do not care at all. 463 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:46,919 Speaker 2: To see a Kamala Harris sit with Aka Sanat, because 464 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:52,439 Speaker 2: I thought it was completely awkward that redacted Minaj seemed 465 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:56,399 Speaker 2: really out of place because she's late into her thirties 466 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,360 Speaker 2: sitting with a twenty one year old Like it. 467 00:20:58,359 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: Was just strange. It was strange to me. 468 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,959 Speaker 2: Kevin Hart ken Herd made sense. But they're they're boys, 469 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 2: They're they're comedians. They were doing like a grown ass 470 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 2: woman sitting with a twenty one year old boy just 471 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:09,199 Speaker 2: doesn't make sense to me. 472 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, but Speedy Iss would have said, And then that's 473 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 1: the thing. 474 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,160 Speaker 2: Kyle Sanat also said, like I don't give a fuck 475 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 2: about politics. What the fuck they sitting together for? 476 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 3: To be honest with you, though, I kind of think 477 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 3: he doesn't need to give a fuck about politics, Like 478 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 3: I think that's the point, like humanizing these politicians. Like 479 00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:28,880 Speaker 3: Charlotine's been talking about Kamala a lot, and I think 480 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:30,960 Speaker 3: everybody's like, oh, he's getting paid, but he doesn't really 481 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 3: Like they don't realize, Like she been talking about Charletne. 482 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: Every when she came on to the Breakfast club, ye. 483 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 3: Know, but like there's no and she went to South 484 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 3: Carolina and like that whole thing about the greens and 485 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 3: the airport, like she told that story two or three 486 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 3: years ago. So of course he gonna pipe up somebody 487 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 3: that's his girl because he knows. 488 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,000 Speaker 1: How she is. Yeah. 489 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 3: I literally said to charlat Mane, I feel like because 490 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 3: so many black men are out here like supporting Trump, 491 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know why they can't connect 492 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 3: with Kamala. I think they really It shows how much 493 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 3: men like Charleston White like just don't respect They don't 494 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,439 Speaker 3: respect women. I was like, if Kamala ever said the 495 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 3: word nigga in front of you, just slip and tell 496 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:05,720 Speaker 3: the story. 497 00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. I ain't going to 498 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 1: hold these niggas. I think people need to know. 499 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 2: No, listen the other the ship. A couple of weeks ago, 500 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,640 Speaker 2: the internet was an uproar. Mind you, they didn't catch 501 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 2: the whole fucking conversation, but the whole internet when it 502 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 2: gets me because I had an opinion about Meek Mill 503 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:28,760 Speaker 2: not being top three anything, and I was like, whoa, 504 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 2: like roaches, who the fuck new Meek Mile had this 505 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 2: many supporters. 506 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 1: The niggas came out to goddamn whyn't nigga said they 507 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: were a supporters, bro I said name but the oh yeah, 508 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: he invited me to his concert. He said that. He said, uh, 509 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 1: we're gonna make sure you come to my next concert. 510 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: Maybe I was really surprised you made that. But again, 511 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 1: you're going three No, no, you're going off of a clip. 512 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 1: But that's my point, y'all. Nigga's upset. No, you were 513 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: saying the thing about five songs. 514 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:56,400 Speaker 2: No, but the whole conversation was there's a big three, 515 00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:03,320 Speaker 2: there is Drake Kendrick Cole. The conversation, since these motherfuckers 516 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:06,479 Speaker 2: don't want to look at a goddamn full context of anything, 517 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:09,880 Speaker 2: was outside of this big three. 518 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,080 Speaker 1: If there was a big three of the blog era, 519 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 1: who would it be? 520 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 2: They the previous week decided it would be Walle, Big Sean, 521 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 2: Meek Mill I said, I'm here for Big Sean being 522 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:23,920 Speaker 2: on it, said I hate what Kanye did with the 523 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 2: Good Musical. I'm so fucking lutely. Then I said, walla 524 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 2: makes sense, wailea. This is blog era, so eight, it's 525 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 2: about twenty fourteen. We're talking about a specific time. So 526 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 2: then they said wall a Walle. At one point was 527 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 2: bar for bar damn near with Cole like Wailea is 528 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:43,439 Speaker 2: fucking phenomenal. Meek, I said no for a few reasons. 529 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 2: I said, A, how do you have another Big three 530 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:49,359 Speaker 2: without representing the West Coast or Atlanta. Secondly, I was 531 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 2: in the clubs, working in the clubs and in height 532 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 2: like during that time. I said Big Three, not Meek, 533 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 2: especially because I think he's a regional personally outside of 534 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 2: the Nightmares and some of his other music. 535 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 1: But I'm like, two Chains are whiz wiz turned niggas. 536 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:09,960 Speaker 2: Like not only we smoking weeds, from smoking he's from Pittsburgh, 537 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,160 Speaker 2: but smoking well smoking weed. 538 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 3: Well they just said, not representing the western East coast. 539 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,160 Speaker 3: Well he's well Pittsburgh. 540 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 2: But no, wait wait wait, So I said, wait, wait, 541 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 2: wait one moment, one moment, and then I put two 542 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:22,360 Speaker 2: Chains Atlanta. 543 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 1: I said, two Chains had a way bigger run at 544 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:24,600 Speaker 1: this time. 545 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 2: His features Two Chains to me is so I just 546 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 2: named two other people like, but I think that those 547 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 2: two people had a bigger run during that time. 548 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I only think your comment about five meet 549 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:36,400 Speaker 1: Meal songs with you, So that's where? 550 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 2: So that was you a potter, And I'll be honest 551 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 2: with you, No, me and my friends are not naming 552 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:48,160 Speaker 2: fucking five meet Meal songs, Dreaming, Nightmares and Amen, going Bad, 553 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 2: sharing locations, Rico fucking tupax back. 554 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: I just listened to on the fucking train. 555 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:58,280 Speaker 2: Okay, Bro, No, we said besides dreams and Nightmares, said 556 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,480 Speaker 2: Amen and Drake. 557 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,280 Speaker 1: Theaters hold on. So that's what I said too, but 558 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:06,240 Speaker 1: in the full context, in the in the full context, 559 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: I said. 560 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,399 Speaker 2: That, like, if you even look on the streaming platforms, 561 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 2: of his five top songs, three of them are features, 562 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 2: two of them are Drake features. 563 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,760 Speaker 1: Bro Drake on any on any song over the last 564 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 1: fifteen years is you're gonna know it. So anyways, that 565 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 1: was this is not a music pod, but. 566 00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 3: I'm just saying because then I think people probably didn't 567 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,680 Speaker 3: fuck with that take because you comment on hip hop. 568 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 2: No, but no, people didn't like to take because it 569 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,600 Speaker 2: was clipped up into a sixty second way to get 570 00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 2: you to respond, And the full context was listen, I 571 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 2: don't hate the guy, but he's not top three, big 572 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 2: three nothing especially no, maybe top three of Nicki Minaja's 573 00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,920 Speaker 2: fucking boyfriends, which that's not to say much she dates, 574 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 2: Like honestly, I don't even think I don't even know 575 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,359 Speaker 2: she's three she's top three one of Nicky's nick I 576 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:56,359 Speaker 2: really like me. That's crazy. But that's the thing me 577 00:25:56,560 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 2: saying I like pancakes. Isn't me saying I absolutely no, 578 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:02,480 Speaker 2: I would actually say this, you know what I mean? 579 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,119 Speaker 2: Like I would rather go see Meek Mill performed than 580 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:05,640 Speaker 2: Big Sewan. 581 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 1: Nah. So no, this is the analogy. 582 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:10,680 Speaker 3: I know what you're saying, because you're saying like, just 583 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 3: because I said one better than. 584 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,640 Speaker 1: The other people should have been top three. It wasn't 585 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:15,399 Speaker 1: even a better thing. 586 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 2: We're talking top three within the blog era. Like this 587 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 2: is why I say context me ship. My argument isn't 588 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 2: that Meek Mill sucks, isn't none of that. It's that 589 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 2: within that those six seven years, I would put Wiz 590 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 2: and two Chains over Meek and that I don't think 591 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,600 Speaker 2: Meat makes a top three or Big three anything. 592 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,560 Speaker 1: He doesn't. Y'all can still like him, y'all, Caul name 593 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 1: ten songs. 594 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,080 Speaker 2: I still don't think within the hip hop realm that 595 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:45,359 Speaker 2: Meek is him and what I found crazy and all 596 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:45,919 Speaker 2: of that can be. 597 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: True to. 598 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:52,159 Speaker 2: Meat got them yeah on one song that you know 599 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 2: he yell okay, whiz bro Wiz turned niggas into fucking 600 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 2: Steelers fans. You feel me, he say, we made we 601 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 2: cool before that shit started becoming legal. 602 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 1: You feel me. 603 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 2: Anyways, I want to get into our vanilla shit because 604 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,480 Speaker 2: y'all know that I was swiping on that dating app 605 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 2: that got Weezya foursome and me and threesome. 606 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,320 Speaker 1: But I wanted to get into all of these other 607 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:23,480 Speaker 1: sexualities that. 608 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,159 Speaker 2: I saw in there, because where we talk about the 609 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 2: alphabet community and the lgbt Q, I a plus plus plus. 610 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 2: These are I guess some of the other pluses. And 611 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:36,879 Speaker 2: I ran into this one specifically, and I was like, well, 612 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:38,439 Speaker 2: what the fuck is that? So then I ended up 613 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 2: googling so gynosexual is Oh my. 614 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 1: God, were you watching ninety Fiance? 615 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 2: No? 616 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:45,720 Speaker 1: I wasn't. I just told you this is from the 617 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: day to app. Bro. I just learned this word yesterday. 618 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,399 Speaker 1: I know, I just learned it last week. It was 619 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:51,439 Speaker 1: on ninety day Fiance. 620 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,280 Speaker 2: Oh they got a dude on there before the ninety 621 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:58,320 Speaker 2: day who basically is like, yo, I'm not gay, but 622 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 2: I'm so That's that's why this word. I was like, well, 623 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:02,960 Speaker 2: let me look this up because what the fuck do 624 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 2: this mean? 625 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 1: So I said, because g in the LGBTQ was gay, 626 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:08,879 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I heard of a kind of. 627 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:10,159 Speaker 2: Sexual Wait, let me tell you what he said to 628 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 2: see the matches, Okay, I mean I literally watched this 629 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,680 Speaker 2: last night. So what he said he said, He's He's like, 630 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 2: I'm not gay, but but attracted to femininity. So that's 631 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,520 Speaker 2: what they say. And I like women with penises, wow, 632 00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,800 Speaker 2: but if the penis has a manbody all on. So, 633 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 2: gynosexual are individuals who experience sexual attraction towards. 634 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 1: Women, females, and or femininity. 635 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:36,639 Speaker 2: Regardless of what they were, regardless whether they were assigned 636 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 2: female at birth. So this is why so many of 637 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,760 Speaker 2: the men that I know that are into trans women 638 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 2: still identify as straight. 639 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 1: But this is actually what they are. 640 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 2: They're gind of sexual gynologist niggas. Maybe you a motherfucking 641 00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:48,480 Speaker 2: ghando sexual and. 642 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 1: You over here talking about you heteroid? What did they 643 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,760 Speaker 1: say on ADAM twenty two? Hom homosexual axally a gynocologist listen. 644 00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 2: So then it made me get into other sexualities because 645 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 2: I don't know if I really got into it on here, 646 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 2: but I when I went and got tested for everything, 647 00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:07,120 Speaker 2: I'm like, I know, y'all be dealing with niggas who'll 648 00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 2: be lying but these niggas be honest with me, and 649 00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 2: I was like, let me get on prep because niggas 650 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 2: out here slaying that thing. So anyways, I wanted to 651 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:17,120 Speaker 2: get into more of the sexualities that we have not 652 00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 2: even really discussed, and maybe we can dig deeper in 653 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 2: on another topic. 654 00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 1: So on another episode. So phrase. 655 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:27,360 Speaker 2: Sexuality, also known as ig not a sexuality, is a 656 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 2: sexual identity in which people experience a strong attraction to 657 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 2: strangers and less attraction to people they know well. Which 658 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:35,800 Speaker 2: makes me think of even what you just said about 659 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:40,720 Speaker 2: the compliment, like they'll be in relationships, but their attraction 660 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 2: comes to the idea or. 661 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 1: I'm so fright. 662 00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 2: Sexuality is yeah, people experiencing just stronger attractions to strangers 663 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 2: than the people that they actually know. Qpio sexual refers 664 00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 2: to an individual who does not experience sexual design but 665 00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,360 Speaker 2: still wants a sexual relationship. 666 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 1: I feel like this explains all my friends. 667 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 2: All my friends recently have been talking about how they 668 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 2: want relationships but they don't really care for sex. They 669 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:11,760 Speaker 2: know that sex has to happen, but they feel like 670 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 2: sex is a chore, which is why they feel like 671 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 2: something right with me up here, because they're like, bitch. 672 00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,960 Speaker 1: How the fuck you enjoy sex so much? Oh, I've 673 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:19,080 Speaker 1: been experiencing the same. 674 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:23,360 Speaker 2: Like yeah, so then and then the last one is 675 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 2: a bro sexuality. Uh ab abro he bro a bro sexuality, 676 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:35,160 Speaker 2: sexual people of all identities who are romantically or sexually 677 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 2: attracted to more than one gender, people who are sexual, 678 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,000 Speaker 2: people who are abro sex No, because you can there's 679 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 2: more than just everything bias to pan So this is 680 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,520 Speaker 2: where I was like, how is this different than pan sexual? 681 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 1: So I looked it up. 682 00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 2: People who are abro sexual freely choose different romantic and 683 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 2: sexual partners or no partners at all. So you a, 684 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:56,960 Speaker 2: I think I'm abro bitch. 685 00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,600 Speaker 1: I was looking into this. I might be a bro 686 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:04,600 Speaker 1: like I I like, from hey, bro, bro, I'm a hole. 687 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say something real right now, and I mean 688 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 1: it don't be problematic. I'm gonna say, oh well, I'm 689 00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 1: gonna get more problems exactly why the Republicans hats, why 690 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: it's too much? No, it's not. I think this is 691 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:18,120 Speaker 1: m not stop it. 692 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,000 Speaker 2: This is why I went down the rabbit hole because 693 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 2: I've been wondering what bucket I fall into, because. 694 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,960 Speaker 1: Sometimes you should have thought bucket could just be like, oh, 695 00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna hold you. I was with, are you're richer, 696 00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:30,320 Speaker 1: you broke? I'm somewhere between. 697 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,880 Speaker 3: We don't need a title for it, like elis kidnight 698 00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 3: name Like this is too much now, but. 699 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,040 Speaker 2: It's how other people want to also identify you, because 700 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm deeper than By. So I've been 701 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,680 Speaker 2: I've been like, ooh, I'm queer. So I went out 702 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:44,960 Speaker 2: with At and Crystal and they say, bitch if you 703 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 2: say queer one more time, and I was like, but 704 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 2: I'm queer because I'm not just by, I'm queer and 705 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,120 Speaker 2: Crystal was like, bitch too much. 706 00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 1: But me, I heard we're talking about. 707 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,840 Speaker 2: Heart dynamic A sane with his gay ass. We just 708 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 2: he was gonna come, So we talk about this shit. 709 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 2: So I might do a deeper episode with a sante. 710 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:06,960 Speaker 2: So speaking of queer, I've been getting into the queer 711 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 2: terminology and I just want to educate the audience. 712 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:12,920 Speaker 1: This is not it's just like a family tree. 713 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,200 Speaker 2: Well this is no, no, no, this is me updating 714 00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:20,560 Speaker 2: for safety reasons and for for shifts and gigs. So 715 00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 2: updated queer terminology. This one is for safety. So they 716 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 2: there is a word now being referred to as Tina, 717 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 2: which is math. Apparently it is heavily being distributed and 718 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:40,360 Speaker 2: used within the gay community right now, and it just well, 719 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,440 Speaker 2: I wanted to update people that on the dating apps, 720 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 2: specifically Grinder or Field or any of those apps, if 721 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,640 Speaker 2: there's if they're d ming you or it says in 722 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,920 Speaker 2: their bio that they're looking to party with a capital T. 723 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:56,800 Speaker 1: The capital T is tina. 724 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 2: And so if someone's asking you a party with a 725 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,760 Speaker 2: capital T and your DMS, nine times out of ten. 726 00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:09,080 Speaker 1: They are looking to do meth with your ass. And 727 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,960 Speaker 1: Vinnie found that out the hard way, and that's what 728 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:12,360 Speaker 1: I'm saying. 729 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,640 Speaker 3: So this is I think it was like I think 730 00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 3: I've heard of this like when I say, maybe more 731 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 3: than five years ago, but a lot of Grinder terms 732 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:20,520 Speaker 3: like there's a. 733 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: Whole glass, I want to go through the glassory, Yeah, 734 00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,640 Speaker 1: but the Tina is like a big one. Well, and 735 00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:27,800 Speaker 1: it's funny because it was big for the whites, for 736 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:29,520 Speaker 1: if you were dealing with the whites, but now it's 737 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:32,400 Speaker 1: getting into the with the black gays or just being. 738 00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:35,160 Speaker 3: All black people do as many drugs as white people. 739 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,200 Speaker 3: They just throwing it in your face. But the thing 740 00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,440 Speaker 3: that's interesting about Tina. When I heard it the first time, 741 00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:44,680 Speaker 3: I thought, because I think it was Rick Ross setting 742 00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:46,920 Speaker 3: this on something about moving Christina and he was talking 743 00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 3: about cocaine. 744 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 1: I thought any white girl name was cocaine. 745 00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 2: Oh, I thought Christina, Crystal mess Oh, well, Christine, Chris, 746 00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 2: it should be Christy. 747 00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,000 Speaker 1: It's too much. It's all I know is Molly, and 748 00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 1: that's why I'm trying to be around. 749 00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:02,040 Speaker 2: Well, I want to bring up another thing that's happening 750 00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 2: in the queer community, and this is gonna lead to 751 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 2: our hoar dirt. 752 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:13,759 Speaker 1: Okay, So you familiar with the term Mona Lisa? No, oh, bitch. 753 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:15,840 Speaker 1: That's why I put it in the outline because I 754 00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 1: wanted to surprise you. If y'all had to guess. 755 00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:20,399 Speaker 2: Damn, y'all ain't miked up. If you had to guess 756 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:24,479 Speaker 2: what Mona Lisa meant? What would you think it means? 757 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,320 Speaker 1: Is it kenemine that you're saying on the drugs? 758 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:28,759 Speaker 2: Oh? 759 00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,320 Speaker 1: I thought that's the point. It's a little different than that. 760 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:35,400 Speaker 1: So hilarious. Y'all know. I follow all the guys, the 761 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,320 Speaker 1: gays on Twitter. It will forever be Twitter. Fuck elon. 762 00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:46,040 Speaker 1: So Mona Lisa is the art of painting and shit, bitch. 763 00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:49,440 Speaker 2: So let me tell y'all how I went down a 764 00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 2: whole thread. And this is where y'all can't cancel me 765 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 2: because this is what they be talking about. So this 766 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:57,759 Speaker 2: guy talked about fucking a Mexican bottom, and apparently there 767 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:02,080 Speaker 2: is a stereotype about Mexican bottoms, and it makes sense. 768 00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:05,840 Speaker 1: The tacos, the rice and beans, the hot sauce. 769 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 2: Apparently they are known to ship on dicks because they 770 00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,520 Speaker 2: just are Mexican. 771 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,080 Speaker 3: This is my favorite clip of all time on Twitter 772 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,279 Speaker 3: or not Twitter, Instagram, anything. I want to interview this 773 00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:20,480 Speaker 3: dude one day. What do you say you've seen this? 774 00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 3: It was the first time where I'd really heard someone 775 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,920 Speaker 3: talking about painting and shitting, but they were. Now they 776 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,799 Speaker 3: call the person he's interviewing right away. The first you're 777 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,000 Speaker 3: gonna hear talking his white man. 778 00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 4: Out in prison as a BO T C O M. 779 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:39,960 Speaker 4: How do you clean out in prison? You don't in prison, 780 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,000 Speaker 4: you don't really clean out, so you would what you 781 00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 4: would have to do is star of yourself for two 782 00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,759 Speaker 4: or three days. So everybody knows Tuesday is what you 783 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:53,360 Speaker 4: call chicken to be mad, I mean for real, But 784 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 4: you know what they were freaking in there, freaky bab 785 00:35:58,800 --> 00:35:59,120 Speaker 4: like they. 786 00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:00,799 Speaker 1: Wouldn't they wanted the paint on them. 787 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:02,200 Speaker 4: Mm hmm. 788 00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:08,080 Speaker 1: Just that that a man. I want to interview them 789 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 1: so bad. 790 00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 2: The conversation right now about painting the whole thing. So 791 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,920 Speaker 2: I wanted to talk to you all about not painting. 792 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:17,400 Speaker 4: Uh. 793 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,279 Speaker 1: We is gonna keep it clean over here. 794 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:26,600 Speaker 2: So the wardrve uh for this week is about antal training. 795 00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 2: I do want to just give you the quick four 796 00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:34,279 Speaker 2: steps of antal training. Of course, the first one is 797 00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 2: cleaning it up so you can douche also uh and 798 00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,320 Speaker 2: a lot of antal training kits. 799 00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,120 Speaker 1: There is like a douche thing. 800 00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:43,759 Speaker 2: What is it like? You know the little things that 801 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:45,440 Speaker 2: they be using to get the little boogers out the 802 00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:48,120 Speaker 2: kids noses. It looked just like that, but you fill 803 00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,760 Speaker 2: it up with water and you're supposed to just splash 804 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:50,759 Speaker 2: it up into your boota hole. 805 00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:54,160 Speaker 1: It looks like like a turkey baster, just like that. 806 00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:56,359 Speaker 2: So you kind of put the tip in your ass 807 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,120 Speaker 2: and just put some water and let that ship fall 808 00:36:59,160 --> 00:36:59,960 Speaker 2: out into the toilet. 809 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:02,759 Speaker 1: Then you want to lub it up. This is for 810 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:03,560 Speaker 1: anal training. 811 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,000 Speaker 2: So this is if Yeah, this is so that you 812 00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:08,520 Speaker 2: could get the boot hole ready then you lub it up. 813 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:12,000 Speaker 2: There is also in anal training kits which I just 814 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,080 Speaker 2: got one. That's why I know all the little tools. Uh, 815 00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:19,799 Speaker 2: there are lube injectors. So if you feel like maybe 816 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:22,759 Speaker 2: you're not getting deep enough into the rectum, there are 817 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:24,520 Speaker 2: now lube injectors that. 818 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:26,240 Speaker 1: You just kind of it's like a syringe. 819 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,440 Speaker 2: You put it in your little boodhole and then you 820 00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,919 Speaker 2: push the lube up into the bootohole. Then you choose 821 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,360 Speaker 2: your butt your your butt plug size. This is what 822 00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:37,719 Speaker 2: you want to do to widen up your boodhole, to 823 00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,160 Speaker 2: get it ready to take some dick. 824 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:39,680 Speaker 1: Now. 825 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,239 Speaker 2: I did look this up because it was a question 826 00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,520 Speaker 2: I had because it's something where I be thinking I'm 827 00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:48,440 Speaker 2: getting ready. They do say that you should not have 828 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,960 Speaker 2: a butt plug in your ass for longer than thirty minutes. 829 00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:55,680 Speaker 2: Not sure why this is what the internet said. This 830 00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,800 Speaker 2: is from love plugs dot co UK because I was 831 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:00,080 Speaker 2: looking up like can you sleep. 832 00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:01,719 Speaker 1: With a butt plug? Can I go to dinner with 833 00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,040 Speaker 1: a butt plug? How long can his butt plug stay in? 834 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,320 Speaker 2: And they say thirty minutes max for the butt plug 835 00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:12,000 Speaker 2: in yo ass. Now, the hoardurv that I have for 836 00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:16,120 Speaker 2: y'all if you're into using a butt plug. I did 837 00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:19,160 Speaker 2: this a couple months ago and it was really sexy, 838 00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:20,759 Speaker 2: and so I just wanted to. 839 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,360 Speaker 1: Share what to do. So you then bubbles in a 840 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:24,360 Speaker 1: three yo shut. 841 00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:27,919 Speaker 2: The fuck up, So I ended up doing I love 842 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:31,040 Speaker 2: the jewels, like the bedazzled butt plugs where it looks 843 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:32,600 Speaker 2: like my little bootle hole is a diamond. 844 00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,680 Speaker 1: So I had that in because it looks good Darren backshots. 845 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:38,960 Speaker 1: And so my tip is, after you. 846 00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 2: Give him the visual of the butt plug in your 847 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 2: ass and he does it, turn to the side, make 848 00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,360 Speaker 2: sure his dick stays inside of you. And this is 849 00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 2: where you also talk to him like did you like 850 00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 2: fucking me from the bank you side? So while he's 851 00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:57,920 Speaker 2: doing that, say you want to feel something, and literally, 852 00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,880 Speaker 2: while he's in y'all, pussy, y'all, why then, yo, pussy, 853 00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,400 Speaker 2: grab the butt plug and slowly pull it out. He 854 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,040 Speaker 2: can feel it because your rectum in your vagina is 855 00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,120 Speaker 2: right there. So literally pull it out and be like, 856 00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:11,400 Speaker 2: oh you feel that, you feel that? 857 00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:11,960 Speaker 1: You feel that? 858 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,400 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, this ain't no ship, because you 859 00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,239 Speaker 2: done did the other steps to clean your baint all 860 00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:16,799 Speaker 2: out ship. 861 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:18,840 Speaker 3: But you know as well as I know. Whenever you 862 00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:21,759 Speaker 3: pull something out finger, No, it's a little bit of 863 00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:22,400 Speaker 3: shitty feeling. 864 00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:26,120 Speaker 1: No, no, you're telling me. Whenever somebody exit you action, 865 00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:28,880 Speaker 1: don't think about shit. Well, so this is so, this 866 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,359 Speaker 1: is what you do after you slowly pull it out. 867 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:31,920 Speaker 2: First off, you're not supposed to think about that ship 868 00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,080 Speaker 2: because then you're gonna ruin the moment. 869 00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:35,120 Speaker 1: So what I did do hold on so you ready? 870 00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,279 Speaker 2: So what I did do is after you pull it out, 871 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:39,040 Speaker 2: Oh you feel that, you feel like you Philip coming 872 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,520 Speaker 2: out on your deck, the bitch, I throw it across 873 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:41,799 Speaker 2: the room. 874 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:43,800 Speaker 1: Ain't nobody see what was on it? So if anything 875 00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:45,520 Speaker 1: was on it, I'm gonna deal with that later. Smart 876 00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:50,920 Speaker 1: pulled it, bitch through that ship. Heisma war bitch across 877 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:51,359 Speaker 1: the room. 878 00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:53,480 Speaker 2: Nobody saw it. So if you got shipp on it, 879 00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:54,799 Speaker 2: I'm gonna wipe that shit off later. 880 00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:56,279 Speaker 1: But not in the not in the mix. 881 00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:57,560 Speaker 2: And you don't want to keep it on the bad 882 00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,080 Speaker 2: because if there is shit on it, then there's gonna 883 00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:01,160 Speaker 2: be shit on the sh chocolate me. 884 00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,239 Speaker 1: So that's my HORDERR. That's my tip. Uh getting to 885 00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:08,160 Speaker 1: the horrible decision. 886 00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:11,640 Speaker 2: I love that you have a different outtake on this, 887 00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:14,880 Speaker 2: so I wanted to choose this specific by choice. 888 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,279 Speaker 1: Well, can I introduce the goddamn Typing Girl? It's a 889 00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,560 Speaker 1: title little episode. Well, I wanted to bring. 890 00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,640 Speaker 2: It up specifically because the internet right now has been 891 00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,160 Speaker 2: talking about not only the doctor who sat with Kim 892 00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:32,279 Speaker 2: and Nick Cannon. They've recently destroyed Tracy Ellis Ross and 893 00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,319 Speaker 2: I think maybe once a quarter they come after her, 894 00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,719 Speaker 2: questioning if she's really happy being single. But also I 895 00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:42,320 Speaker 2: came across a recent article and it's actually old. I 896 00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:45,839 Speaker 2: didn't know this happened so long ago. But Maya, who 897 00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:49,200 Speaker 2: has been performing and being seen on many festival stages 898 00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:52,400 Speaker 2: lately looking fucking amazing, married herself. 899 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,719 Speaker 1: So you ain't knowing. I don't even know what you're 900 00:40:55,719 --> 00:41:00,319 Speaker 1: talking about. Maya the singer My love is Li whoa mine? 901 00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,480 Speaker 1: She married? She married? Oh, in a whole bitch. She 902 00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:07,160 Speaker 1: has wedding pictures. Let me bitch in a whole ceremony 903 00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:08,960 Speaker 1: on a beach. This how did we miss it? 904 00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:13,760 Speaker 2: This is why I said, wait a second, Maya married herself. 905 00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,880 Speaker 2: I want you to see the wedding pictures. Maybe we 906 00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,600 Speaker 2: can have them pull up bitch and she's She explained 907 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:20,800 Speaker 2: the reef. 908 00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,919 Speaker 1: Don't do this. Don't do this, goddamn faith. 909 00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:24,440 Speaker 2: I know we talk about the women that get on 910 00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,960 Speaker 2: their knee to propose to a nigga. This bitch said, 911 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,080 Speaker 2: I'm gonna put the ring on my own finger, be 912 00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,840 Speaker 2: on the beach. Glham was glamoring, and she married herself. 913 00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:37,000 Speaker 1: So I really like Maya and like the feelings that 914 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:37,719 Speaker 1: I have about this. 915 00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:42,479 Speaker 2: So she married herself in say show uh two months, 916 00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,960 Speaker 2: Oh well this is this was in twenty twenty actually, 917 00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:45,879 Speaker 2: so four years ago. 918 00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,560 Speaker 1: You been too much going on. That's why we missed no, 919 00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:52,080 Speaker 1: That's what period the world was ending. That's why we ain't. No. 920 00:41:53,320 --> 00:42:00,440 Speaker 2: So she married herself and pretty much expresses that this 921 00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,520 Speaker 2: is what makes her happy. She was like, she figured 922 00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:06,200 Speaker 2: she had made let me see where the fuck I 923 00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:09,560 Speaker 2: want to get her exact explanation to marrying herself. But anyways, 924 00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:11,719 Speaker 2: I see all that to say, she has talked about 925 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:16,680 Speaker 2: being celibate. She has you know, been by herself, and 926 00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:20,280 Speaker 2: I want to talk about if being single by choice 927 00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:24,560 Speaker 2: is really as liberating or as much of a choice 928 00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:29,319 Speaker 2: as we are currently talking about it being. I also 929 00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:32,520 Speaker 2: want to say shout out to our patrons. If you're 930 00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:34,080 Speaker 2: not a patron, by the way, please join us on 931 00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:38,280 Speaker 2: Patreon as patreon dot com back slash horrible decisions before 932 00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,359 Speaker 2: we get started this lady, and I want to make 933 00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,279 Speaker 2: sure I give her her credit, because that bitch went 934 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,560 Speaker 2: to the dictionary, she said. 935 00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:45,680 Speaker 1: Shout out to j T. 936 00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,120 Speaker 2: She said, as someone who is not single by choice, 937 00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:51,359 Speaker 2: I have a perspective to add to this conversation. When 938 00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,479 Speaker 2: looking at the definition of choice, it is, in fact, 939 00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:56,120 Speaker 2: and that's why I love. I wanted to bring up 940 00:42:56,160 --> 00:43:00,680 Speaker 2: the definition. It is, in fact, an act of selecting 941 00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:05,120 Speaker 2: or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities. 942 00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,320 Speaker 2: So if you are not faced with two or more possibilities, 943 00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:09,920 Speaker 2: are you really making a choice? 944 00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:11,000 Speaker 1: She said. 945 00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:14,239 Speaker 2: I'm twenty eight from Kentucky in nursing school. All of 946 00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,600 Speaker 2: my white or other race colleagues were married by twenty 947 00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,520 Speaker 2: three to twenty five. As a black woman who desired 948 00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,279 Speaker 2: a black man, my options were very slim. A lot 949 00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:26,799 Speaker 2: of them were either interested in other races exclusively, jailed, murdered, gay, etc. 950 00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:30,439 Speaker 2: So that leaves for every one black man, ten black 951 00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,800 Speaker 2: women looking for love. And I wanted to read this 952 00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:36,280 Speaker 2: option the difference she said. When I started travel nursing, 953 00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:39,080 Speaker 2: I went to bigger cities LA New York City, DC. 954 00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:41,920 Speaker 2: I didn't really have that much better of an experience 955 00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:44,040 Speaker 2: in those cities. The most attention that I get is 956 00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:46,840 Speaker 2: when I have been out of the country Africa, London, Portugal. 957 00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:49,360 Speaker 2: At this point in my life, I do think that 958 00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,560 Speaker 2: I have become more jaded on the topic and have 959 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,960 Speaker 2: stopped trying. I would love to have love, but I 960 00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,840 Speaker 2: do not think it is as simple as just desiring 961 00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:58,080 Speaker 2: it or wanting. 962 00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:00,880 Speaker 1: To choose it. It does have to recip choose. You 963 00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:02,759 Speaker 1: completely agree. That's why. 964 00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:04,600 Speaker 2: That's why I wanted to read this one too. Single 965 00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:08,240 Speaker 2: by choice is not real explain that we can stop. 966 00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,959 Speaker 3: So when I've been single by choice, and I'm putting 967 00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,440 Speaker 3: that in quotation marks for people that aren't watching, it's 968 00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:16,520 Speaker 3: because I wanted to stop dating for that moment. Okay, 969 00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,239 Speaker 3: As somebody that has seeked out partners before and one 970 00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,040 Speaker 3: of those relationships to work, I am clearly not single 971 00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:24,719 Speaker 3: by choice. If my relationships would have worked out and 972 00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,560 Speaker 3: we're prosperous and we're great, I would not be single 973 00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:30,480 Speaker 3: by choice. Like I didn't want to be single. That's 974 00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,880 Speaker 3: why I've pursued relationships. The reason I had moments of 975 00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,600 Speaker 3: being single is because I knew I had to focus 976 00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,480 Speaker 3: on myself to heal from whatever fuck shit happened the 977 00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:44,400 Speaker 3: last time. Okay, that's the choice, but it's only the 978 00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,040 Speaker 3: choice because it didn't work out. If I had a 979 00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:48,120 Speaker 3: good nigga around. 980 00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:50,000 Speaker 1: I would not be single by choice. And this is 981 00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:50,560 Speaker 1: why I say that. 982 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,120 Speaker 3: I've always thought it was bullshit when people say that, 983 00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,600 Speaker 3: and I've had so many times throughout the term of 984 00:44:56,640 --> 00:45:00,759 Speaker 3: this podcast. A lot of people tell me that I'm 985 00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:04,080 Speaker 3: a pick mey right like Twitter, YouTube, whatever, even in 986 00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:06,360 Speaker 3: my Instagram comments. And I think it's because I have 987 00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,759 Speaker 3: a lot of relationship girl energy. I always have, but 988 00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,400 Speaker 3: it's because I'm very open and comfortable with saying I 989 00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,600 Speaker 3: love companionship now. I was single the last two years 990 00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,600 Speaker 3: because I wasn't finding people that were a match for me. 991 00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:20,879 Speaker 3: But I've been actively trying to find myself. I think 992 00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,320 Speaker 3: I did find my partner because I wasn't pressed. I 993 00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:28,040 Speaker 3: wasn't necessarily single by choice when I met him. I 994 00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:31,360 Speaker 3: think I was just single and enjoying being single. But 995 00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,600 Speaker 3: if someone comes around, that's great. Maya would not have 996 00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:38,080 Speaker 3: married herself if Maya met the perfect nigga, she would 997 00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,440 Speaker 3: not have married herself. If you could list out the 998 00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,439 Speaker 3: qualities you want in a person and that person showed 999 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,680 Speaker 3: up at your door, why would you still be single? 1000 00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:46,960 Speaker 1: No, you wouldn't. 1001 00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,080 Speaker 3: You're not gonna turn the person that's great for you away. 1002 00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:54,320 Speaker 3: You are single because of your options now, there's nothing 1003 00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:57,000 Speaker 3: wrong with that. I'm not even saying that to be shady. 1004 00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:58,359 Speaker 3: Just because I got a nigga right now. 1005 00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,200 Speaker 1: Don't mean anything by that. I don't want to like 1006 00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:01,960 Speaker 1: I'm on a high horse. I mean, especially because that 1007 00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:03,040 Speaker 1: we have talked about it. 1008 00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:05,359 Speaker 3: I think on Patreon where you met, if your ex 1009 00:46:05,480 --> 00:46:08,120 Speaker 3: boyfriend wasn't a piece of shit, you being with that 1010 00:46:08,239 --> 00:46:08,759 Speaker 3: nigga right now? 1011 00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,120 Speaker 2: Yeah he wasn't shit though, Yes you know, but so. 1012 00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:15,000 Speaker 2: But I think that that's the problem, even you using 1013 00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:19,719 Speaker 2: the word perfect. I think that what I'm seeing for 1014 00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:23,960 Speaker 2: even my friends that are in relationships and not single. 1015 00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:28,160 Speaker 2: I don't know if I necessarily have the capacity, Like 1016 00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:30,760 Speaker 2: right now, I do feel like i'm single by choice 1017 00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,720 Speaker 2: a because I am figuring out. 1018 00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:37,960 Speaker 1: Still what a relationship to me would look like. But 1019 00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:39,160 Speaker 1: I think it also. 1020 00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:43,279 Speaker 2: I just also don't think I have the capacity to 1021 00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,080 Speaker 2: deal with an eight shit person. And I've said this 1022 00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:48,680 Speaker 2: on Patreon, and maybe this is my jaded as talking. 1023 00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:50,600 Speaker 2: Maybe I get better ten years from now. 1024 00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:50,920 Speaker 1: I don't know. 1025 00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,399 Speaker 2: I genuinely find people to be shitty, and I find 1026 00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:59,719 Speaker 2: it to be very difficult to coexist with someone who 1027 00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,239 Speaker 2: is living their life and trying to navigate and figure 1028 00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:03,839 Speaker 2: it out the same way that I am, to where 1029 00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:05,080 Speaker 2: it almost seems like another job. 1030 00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:08,359 Speaker 3: But if you met someone, Mandy that had a lot 1031 00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:11,080 Speaker 3: better qualities than these last people, like you've been annoyed 1032 00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:13,319 Speaker 3: by a lot of the men you've dated, if somebody was. 1033 00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,600 Speaker 1: Not annoyed by all the friends my friends are dating, Like, 1034 00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:17,080 Speaker 1: what do your friends have to do with you? Well? 1035 00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:19,400 Speaker 2: Because when we're talking about how people are showing up 1036 00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:24,120 Speaker 2: right now, just overall, and this fucking podcast could be 1037 00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:26,600 Speaker 2: one of the things y'all blame too, even seeing the 1038 00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,920 Speaker 2: iterations of what's happening online and listening to what my 1039 00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:31,480 Speaker 2: friends are dealing with and going through. 1040 00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:33,080 Speaker 1: I don't know. 1041 00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:36,840 Speaker 2: I think I'm I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted, but I 1042 00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:38,640 Speaker 2: have very also little faith with. 1043 00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:41,319 Speaker 1: Thinking someone can't show up. 1044 00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,439 Speaker 3: First of all, whatever your friends are going through cut 1045 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,640 Speaker 3: that out. People stay in situations they shouldn't be in. 1046 00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,160 Speaker 3: You've mentioned your friends have cheated, Like all of our 1047 00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,239 Speaker 3: friends are not perfect either. They all make mistakes. You 1048 00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:54,280 Speaker 3: don't know what your friends are doing in their relationship. 1049 00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,239 Speaker 1: My point, people are shitty. I think they're doing shitty too. 1050 00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:00,920 Speaker 1: Don't let their situations stop you from faith in people. 1051 00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:02,920 Speaker 1: Oh bitch, the nigga's on my phone right now. I'm good, 1052 00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:04,600 Speaker 1: but I don't like anybody. 1053 00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:06,520 Speaker 3: If they I So this is why I think the 1054 00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:08,360 Speaker 3: single by choice thing is a really thing, is a 1055 00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,080 Speaker 3: thing that sucks. I think by choice you can stop 1056 00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,960 Speaker 3: dating for a period. That's what I think you do 1057 00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:17,160 Speaker 3: when you say single by choice. Yeah, to me, there's 1058 00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:18,760 Speaker 3: no one that will choose. 1059 00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:20,200 Speaker 1: Maybe, I don't know. 1060 00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,359 Speaker 3: I think the bulk of people, if they could say 1061 00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,399 Speaker 3: I would be in a healthy, happy relationship with someone 1062 00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,440 Speaker 3: I'm comfortable with or like or attracted to whatever. 1063 00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:31,799 Speaker 1: They would take it. I think you stop dating by choice, And. 1064 00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:34,040 Speaker 3: I actually think that only comes from when you know 1065 00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,280 Speaker 3: you need a break, when dating has either become something 1066 00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:39,719 Speaker 3: toxic to you, something that hasn't worked out, when you 1067 00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,560 Speaker 3: need a reevaluation, or even when you need some fun. Hey, 1068 00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:44,640 Speaker 3: I was in a long term relationship it didn't work out. 1069 00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,120 Speaker 3: I need some whole years. That to me is a choice, 1070 00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,160 Speaker 3: but it's because you're actively not dating. The scary thing 1071 00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:53,520 Speaker 3: about whole years is when someone comes up in your 1072 00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 3: life that's dope and you're like, damn, I don't really 1073 00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:57,920 Speaker 3: want to be single anymore because I don't want to 1074 00:48:57,960 --> 00:48:58,480 Speaker 3: let this person go. 1075 00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:02,440 Speaker 2: I do not believe this is even even the happy 1076 00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,880 Speaker 2: and healthy I think the same way you're single for 1077 00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,920 Speaker 2: a moment, A happy and healthy relationship is only for 1078 00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:13,959 Speaker 2: a moment. And I guess absolutely, I think that relationships. 1079 00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:15,919 Speaker 2: Have you really not met a married couple that's happy 1080 00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:19,839 Speaker 2: absolutely there Again, they're happy for a moment that it's 1081 00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,040 Speaker 2: healthy for a moment, and then life happens, Like I 1082 00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:26,800 Speaker 2: don't think a relationship this is why relationships don't last forever. 1083 00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:29,760 Speaker 2: I think that there are happy and healthy even moments 1084 00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,759 Speaker 2: in a relationship. So to me, it's the part of 1085 00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:34,359 Speaker 2: knowing that people. 1086 00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:34,960 Speaker 1: Most people in. 1087 00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:37,600 Speaker 2: Relationships We've talked about this a couple episodes ago, will 1088 00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,600 Speaker 2: stay miserable for a long time in a relationship because 1089 00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,600 Speaker 2: they want to be in a relationship more than they 1090 00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:45,600 Speaker 2: feel like being single because of a what I think 1091 00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:49,560 Speaker 2: society like looks onto you as as a pressure specifically 1092 00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,960 Speaker 2: as a woman to bear children, get married, the same 1093 00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,080 Speaker 2: way I believe that having kids is a choice. 1094 00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:57,120 Speaker 1: I absolutely believe being single as a choice. 1095 00:49:57,120 --> 00:50:00,319 Speaker 2: But even the way that you umbrella certain relationships being 1096 00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,680 Speaker 2: happy and healthy, the same way you're single for a moment, 1097 00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:06,719 Speaker 2: I think relationships realistically are only happy and healthy at 1098 00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:07,759 Speaker 2: a moment, or for you. 1099 00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:10,239 Speaker 1: Think people are not for a moment happy and healthy 1100 00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:11,319 Speaker 1: while single. I have a lot of. 1101 00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:13,840 Speaker 3: Complain but I didn't, but I didn't say that, So no, 1102 00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:15,799 Speaker 3: but I'm saying that's my point. But but you could 1103 00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,800 Speaker 3: say that about relationships. But that's where we're comparing the choice. 1104 00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:20,799 Speaker 3: Being single has a lot of. 1105 00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:22,680 Speaker 1: Dark moments too that we aren't talking about. 1106 00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,040 Speaker 3: When it comes to holidays, when it comes to feeling 1107 00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,239 Speaker 3: feeling like you're being left out, when it comes to intimacy. 1108 00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:29,160 Speaker 1: Nobody's going to convince. 1109 00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:32,680 Speaker 3: Me that they're not equitable, Like I hate the I 1110 00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:34,960 Speaker 3: used to make the comment a lot of times, like yeah, 1111 00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:37,200 Speaker 3: I'm single, but and like I heard doctor Bryan doing 1112 00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:40,239 Speaker 3: that Cam marton Cam Newton thing. But at least Sian 1113 00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,000 Speaker 3: getting cheated on at least I got I only lived 1114 00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:43,400 Speaker 3: in a house and crying and dah da da da. 1115 00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,319 Speaker 1: We always compare being single. 1116 00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:49,120 Speaker 3: To not being miserable, and that's because we are so 1117 00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:52,279 Speaker 3: focused on thinking relationships are always going to be bad. Bro, 1118 00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,400 Speaker 3: it's not true. We've got to stop doing that. There 1119 00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:58,040 Speaker 3: are healthy relationships, and I think if we don't change 1120 00:50:58,080 --> 00:50:59,840 Speaker 3: that framework, we're always going to be ready for it 1121 00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:00,600 Speaker 3: to be painful. 1122 00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:04,440 Speaker 2: Like I mean, I think because again I think getting in, 1123 00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:11,680 Speaker 2: removing ourself from Delulu, getting into reality. Relationships end work relationships, friendships, 1124 00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:16,840 Speaker 2: platonic friendships, romance like romance relationships, they all end, and 1125 00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,239 Speaker 2: so in order to end, it's because something went bad. 1126 00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:23,919 Speaker 1: So this idea of a healthy and happy relationship, to me, yes, 1127 00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:25,600 Speaker 1: it is only at a moment. I think. 1128 00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:29,080 Speaker 2: Then I'm speaking to maybe again the trauma. We talked 1129 00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,000 Speaker 2: about this on Patreon. I think, the constant desire to 1130 00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,520 Speaker 2: be in a relationship without working those things out. I 1131 00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:37,120 Speaker 2: don't know if I realistically want to ever feel the 1132 00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:39,880 Speaker 2: heartbreak that I just felt giving myself to someone that 1133 00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:42,040 Speaker 2: I gave to and I don't know how long. 1134 00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:42,600 Speaker 1: That's going to take. 1135 00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,120 Speaker 2: I know that I was in my relationship with this 1136 00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:48,040 Speaker 2: fucking narcissist for three years. But I have my mom 1137 00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:50,279 Speaker 2: and two other friends that also just got out of 1138 00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:54,200 Speaker 2: those relationships, and it's like, bro, the psychological damage as 1139 00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,680 Speaker 2: well as the heartbreak, you know, setting yourself up to 1140 00:51:57,719 --> 00:51:59,839 Speaker 2: be in another relationship, you're setting yourself up to feel 1141 00:51:59,880 --> 00:52:03,279 Speaker 2: that way again, like because not everything is gonna last. 1142 00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:10,480 Speaker 1: But married, I'm sorry that you really haven't. I'll say this. 1143 00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:12,719 Speaker 3: I can eaven three friends right now, and one of 1144 00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:15,160 Speaker 3: them is newly married. But Serena and Alan, my friend's 1145 00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:18,040 Speaker 3: been married I think maybe more than fifteen years. My 1146 00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:20,879 Speaker 3: friends for Nia and Eddie, I think they're at about 1147 00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,319 Speaker 3: twenty years, and she's my age even together. 1148 00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,000 Speaker 1: This is high school. 1149 00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,200 Speaker 3: And my homegirl Geila and Nick they just got married. 1150 00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:28,440 Speaker 3: And I only want to make this point. All of 1151 00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,520 Speaker 3: these women know shade to their husbands if they listen. 1152 00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:33,279 Speaker 3: Of course, have called me with an issue, right he's 1153 00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:36,800 Speaker 3: doing XYZ. My homegirl and Nia and I talk often. 1154 00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:38,799 Speaker 3: She's one of my closest friends. She literally complained about 1155 00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:40,520 Speaker 3: some of her husband the other day, right, she goes, girl, 1156 00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:43,239 Speaker 3: I would not trade him in. I'm just saying this, 1157 00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:45,719 Speaker 3: and I even am trying to hold myself back from 1158 00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:49,359 Speaker 3: venting because I know how lucky I am. Like he's 1159 00:52:49,400 --> 00:52:51,839 Speaker 3: my best friend, he's my soulmate. This nigga just getting 1160 00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:53,880 Speaker 3: on my nerves right now. Everything is always gonna have 1161 00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,000 Speaker 3: a moment. Charlotte and Sex and the City Don't Laugh 1162 00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:57,520 Speaker 3: said something that as a kid. 1163 00:52:57,640 --> 00:52:58,160 Speaker 1: I remember. 1164 00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:01,080 Speaker 3: I don't I remember who asked her the question, but 1165 00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:03,879 Speaker 3: she was like, you can't tell me you're happy every day. 1166 00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:05,960 Speaker 3: She's like, maybe not all day every day, but like, yeah, 1167 00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,960 Speaker 3: I'm happy every day. I do think there can be 1168 00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:12,759 Speaker 3: some happy relationships. I think we're on overload of hearing 1169 00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:15,280 Speaker 3: about bad stuff. And also I don't call my friends 1170 00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:18,360 Speaker 3: when my man does something amazing for me, mainly because 1171 00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:21,200 Speaker 3: sometimes I feel like I'm showing off. I think I 1172 00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:22,880 Speaker 3: said that a few weeks ago, like I don't want 1173 00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:23,839 Speaker 3: to say how happy I am. 1174 00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:27,839 Speaker 2: He even tells me the Internet, y'all niggas not even 1175 00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:30,719 Speaker 2: the Internet like our own listeners. When I was in 1176 00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:34,000 Speaker 2: a puppy phase for the first year of my last relationship, 1177 00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:36,560 Speaker 2: niggas was like, ain't no way, ain't no way, And 1178 00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:41,440 Speaker 2: then I almost felt like there was happiness or some 1179 00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:45,120 Speaker 2: sort of way in which people felt like, oh, told you, bitch. 1180 00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:47,319 Speaker 2: Once the shit started going like this, it was like, yeah, 1181 00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,000 Speaker 2: this is what a real relationship was, but she was 1182 00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:51,360 Speaker 2: too happy. Like the fact that they felt like I 1183 00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:54,280 Speaker 2: was happy for too long because it starts, it should start, 1184 00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:56,719 Speaker 2: y'all should start arguing within two or three months is 1185 00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:57,440 Speaker 2: also crazy. 1186 00:53:57,760 --> 00:53:59,320 Speaker 1: I mean, here's the thing, Like, I don't want to 1187 00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:02,200 Speaker 1: be with someone of our it you're not supposed to 1188 00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:03,560 Speaker 1: be arguing. I don't argue with my friends. 1189 00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:05,600 Speaker 2: I didn't agree with this will happen, right, And like, 1190 00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:09,080 Speaker 2: I think I know the difference between an argument and a. 1191 00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:13,719 Speaker 3: Disagreement very and I think women don't have arguments to 1192 00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:17,399 Speaker 3: that level. Like I have disagreements, sure, but like I'm 1193 00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:20,120 Speaker 3: not like fuck you nigga, Like you know that's something 1194 00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,120 Speaker 3: that that's when we know it's toxic to. 1195 00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:22,800 Speaker 2: Be honest with you. 1196 00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:26,000 Speaker 3: Even though my relationship with ol Bay wasn't great at 1197 00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:31,000 Speaker 3: the end, I may have only had three real arguments 1198 00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:33,719 Speaker 3: and almost three years with him, everything was a disagreement. 1199 00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:37,040 Speaker 3: He didn't scream, we didn't yell when I found out. 1200 00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:39,440 Speaker 3: Even he cheated and excuse me lied the first time, 1201 00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:42,640 Speaker 3: it was still a disagreement. Like it was levelheaded talking 1202 00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:46,520 Speaker 3: you and I I really believe this. I can't speak 1203 00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,040 Speaker 3: for other women. The way that we run business in 1204 00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:50,839 Speaker 3: our lives and the way that we are. We can't 1205 00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:52,160 Speaker 3: deal with a nigga that guy energy like that. 1206 00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:53,520 Speaker 1: No, I don't have it. I can't. 1207 00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:57,680 Speaker 3: And so I think meeting your match will come to 1208 00:54:57,760 --> 00:55:02,000 Speaker 3: you and you'll realize and you start having healthier conversations 1209 00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:03,960 Speaker 3: with men. It's so tough right now because it doesn't 1210 00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:06,799 Speaker 3: matter if it was a year ago that nigga made 1211 00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:09,960 Speaker 3: that imprint for a long time, and like, even when 1212 00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:12,040 Speaker 3: you're healed, even when you date someone else, you're gonna 1213 00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:15,160 Speaker 3: always remember that that was your first love. Yeah, it sucks, 1214 00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:18,600 Speaker 3: but there are happy people and just because relationships have 1215 00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:22,440 Speaker 3: arguments or disagreements doesn't mean they're unhealthy going through those weeds. 1216 00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:25,920 Speaker 3: It sucks, But like I got into an I was 1217 00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:28,160 Speaker 3: about to say argument disagreement with my boyfriend in London, 1218 00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:30,600 Speaker 3: and it was the first day of our trip. And 1219 00:55:30,680 --> 00:55:32,600 Speaker 3: when we got over the disagreement, it was same day 1220 00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:34,680 Speaker 3: and he literally came to me and was like, I 1221 00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,840 Speaker 3: know that shit sucks, And then know you're like complaining 1222 00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,440 Speaker 3: because it happened on vacation. But I really feel like 1223 00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:41,880 Speaker 3: I got over this hump with you, and like I 1224 00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:44,960 Speaker 3: know you deeper in this weird way, like every disagreement 1225 00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:48,200 Speaker 3: we've ever had its growth, and like I feel closer 1226 00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:51,320 Speaker 3: to you, and I do think that's how it's supposed 1227 00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:54,279 Speaker 3: to happen. You and I have had really healthy disagreements 1228 00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,520 Speaker 3: and ways to overcome them in the last few years 1229 00:55:57,560 --> 00:55:58,440 Speaker 3: where we didn't before. 1230 00:55:58,840 --> 00:55:59,759 Speaker 1: Like damn, this felt good. 1231 00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:01,160 Speaker 3: Thank you if you're texting me in this with the way, 1232 00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,120 Speaker 3: thank you for letting me know you will have that 1233 00:56:03,239 --> 00:56:06,359 Speaker 3: same respect from a partner when you meet them. It's 1234 00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:08,919 Speaker 3: just we can't pretend that it's all bad. 1235 00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:12,080 Speaker 1: Trust me. I know bitches where ansia niggas too, but 1236 00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:13,200 Speaker 1: it ain't all bad. 1237 00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:17,440 Speaker 2: I think then we're gonna simply agree to disagree with this. 1238 00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:19,920 Speaker 2: I don't think being single is all good or all 1239 00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:23,440 Speaker 2: bad either. I think in both places you can be 1240 00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:29,680 Speaker 2: fulfilled in technically or essentially the same way. You can 1241 00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:33,120 Speaker 2: be just as fulfilled, happy, or unhappy in a relationship, 1242 00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:37,240 Speaker 2: and you can be just as happy, fulfilled or unhappy 1243 00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:41,600 Speaker 2: in being single. No, but I think the way that 1244 00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:47,640 Speaker 2: the society applies these pressures in these antidotes and these 1245 00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:50,839 Speaker 2: negative stereotypes on women who do choose to be by 1246 00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,760 Speaker 2: themselves has to be let go because a woman who's 1247 00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:56,280 Speaker 2: single can absolutely the same way. 1248 00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:58,440 Speaker 1: You said a happy, healthy relationship. 1249 00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,120 Speaker 2: There could be a woman who's happy, being healthy and 1250 00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:05,240 Speaker 2: being single without the addition to a man or woman 1251 00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:06,760 Speaker 2: being their romantic partner. 1252 00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:10,480 Speaker 3: I agree with you only if that person isn't dating. 1253 00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:14,080 Speaker 3: So to me, that is the happy, healthy single by choice. 1254 00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:18,080 Speaker 3: When you start involving other people, I think that's when 1255 00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:20,520 Speaker 3: the threat of your single and is being happy happens, 1256 00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:23,360 Speaker 3: because then you're dating for what purpose? 1257 00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:25,400 Speaker 1: If it's just sex, it's just sex. Cool. 1258 00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:27,240 Speaker 3: We know not a lot of women can handle that. 1259 00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:30,320 Speaker 3: We start wanting more. So when you're starting to be 1260 00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:33,760 Speaker 3: single and dating, I then don't know if it's a 1261 00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:37,000 Speaker 3: choice anymore. I think complete being alone and being single 1262 00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,960 Speaker 3: is a real thing, with like spurts of little things 1263 00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:42,160 Speaker 3: here and there that you're having for fun. I don't 1264 00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:44,160 Speaker 3: know if you can be single and dating and it 1265 00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:47,400 Speaker 3: be a choice that. I don't believe what y'all think 1266 00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:48,640 Speaker 3: because we've been sitting here talking. 1267 00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,360 Speaker 2: Damn we said, we said we'll fuck with the mike 1268 00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:55,120 Speaker 2: next next episode, will fobawly all the next. 1269 00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:58,360 Speaker 3: Act because I really I feel bad to have this 1270 00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:02,840 Speaker 3: conversation right now because now my relationship is new. Right, 1271 00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:06,120 Speaker 3: it's been a year. We met last July. You know, 1272 00:58:06,200 --> 00:58:07,560 Speaker 3: I'm ann counted from when the Hinge. 1273 00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:10,640 Speaker 1: Message on Yeah, now you're wrong, he claimed, yo yo 1274 00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:12,400 Speaker 1: days be all off. It's okay. We talked about it now. 1275 00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,520 Speaker 3: I started from the her first hint message Hinge message 1276 00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:17,520 Speaker 3: July twenty seven, that Nigga's like, bitch, I really need 1277 00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:18,440 Speaker 3: a phone number. 1278 00:58:18,360 --> 00:58:20,400 Speaker 1: Right, nothing. Yeah, that's not where I started. That's not 1279 00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:21,720 Speaker 1: when I started. That's not what it started. 1280 00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:26,440 Speaker 3: But I don't well anyway, woman man, I said, girl man, 1281 00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:28,560 Speaker 3: that is girl math. I say that to say like 1282 00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:33,400 Speaker 3: it's hard because I don't like sometimes talking about single 1283 00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:36,040 Speaker 3: shit because I feel like it's very difficult because there's 1284 00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:38,480 Speaker 3: so many people in relationships that I see online that 1285 00:58:38,720 --> 00:58:40,280 Speaker 3: kind of punch down when they're talking. 1286 00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:40,520 Speaker 2: They do. 1287 00:58:41,120 --> 00:58:45,280 Speaker 3: And I was single because I wanted to be. But 1288 00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:48,760 Speaker 3: when I say that by choice, I only mean because 1289 00:58:48,800 --> 00:58:51,960 Speaker 3: I knew I was still healing. I think if I 1290 00:58:52,000 --> 00:58:54,200 Speaker 3: could have gotten over old Bay and his shit, I 1291 00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:57,240 Speaker 3: would have been super excited to meet someone great. Yeah, 1292 00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:01,280 Speaker 3: but it is a tough answer because eventually I knew 1293 00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:02,280 Speaker 3: I wanted a partner. 1294 00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:05,080 Speaker 1: Eventually I know what my goals look like. That's why 1295 00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:06,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, I think, But that's I think. 1296 00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:10,120 Speaker 2: That's where I'm in right now, this shit storm of 1297 00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:12,720 Speaker 2: knowing that I do not want marriage, knowing that I 1298 00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:17,320 Speaker 2: do not want kids, what I think identifying what a 1299 00:59:17,400 --> 00:59:18,320 Speaker 2: partner looks like for me? 1300 00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:18,560 Speaker 1: Then? 1301 00:59:19,240 --> 00:59:22,920 Speaker 2: Like and how as a woman in my thirties dating 1302 00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:26,120 Speaker 2: probably a man in his thirties or forties, how I 1303 00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:28,120 Speaker 2: find someone that aligns with those things? 1304 00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:28,520 Speaker 1: Like? 1305 00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:31,560 Speaker 2: So do I sit here and and have the Internet say, 1306 00:59:31,600 --> 00:59:33,640 Speaker 2: bitch you dumb as hell because you dating a nigga 1307 00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:36,320 Speaker 2: with eight kids, three baby mamas? Because that might be 1308 00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:39,560 Speaker 2: someone that works for me, because because hopefully he doesn't 1309 00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:42,959 Speaker 2: want anymore. Like so the things that I'm also seeing 1310 00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:45,960 Speaker 2: punched down on online is like, well, damn that might 1311 00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:48,360 Speaker 2: make sense for me? Does will it make sense for 1312 00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:50,280 Speaker 2: me too? I want to be a step mom, like 1313 00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:53,200 Speaker 2: I don't want to be married. Like there's just all 1314 00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:57,960 Speaker 2: these things that, again societal pressures has me just feeling 1315 00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,360 Speaker 2: like maybe I'm just gonna I'm just gonna stick to myself, right, now, 1316 01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:02,400 Speaker 2: and I think that I am like the fact that 1317 01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:06,480 Speaker 2: in this moment of grief and anxiety, my ex who 1318 01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:09,320 Speaker 2: fucking terrorized me as popping back in my mind. I 1319 01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:12,960 Speaker 2: just I know right now, I'm not sure how long 1320 01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:16,200 Speaker 2: I am one hundred percent single by choice. Yeah, like 1321 01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:20,320 Speaker 2: I think, I think even going after the failed throuttle, 1322 01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:23,240 Speaker 2: which I have not got back on, I have not 1323 01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:28,120 Speaker 2: got back on dating apps, even feeling like well even 1324 01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:32,439 Speaker 2: even me you know, toying with that dating app finding 1325 01:00:32,520 --> 01:00:36,000 Speaker 2: a couple and really like in my mind seeing like oh. 1326 01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,200 Speaker 1: Maybe this could work and them not being on this ship. 1327 01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:40,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to deal with it. Let me tell you. 1328 01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:43,160 Speaker 3: That's why I wanted my man to listen to that episode, 1329 01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:46,000 Speaker 3: because I was really like, I want you to hear this, 1330 01:00:46,200 --> 01:00:49,800 Speaker 3: because there are so many things, like I could tell 1331 01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:51,920 Speaker 3: you wanted to have a nice relationship with them, which 1332 01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:54,880 Speaker 3: is why I didn't go hard during the episode, because 1333 01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:56,880 Speaker 3: I had nothing to do with you. It's just, you know, 1334 01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:58,680 Speaker 3: at the same time, trying to be respectful to people 1335 01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:01,240 Speaker 3: you liked. But it really showed me like, oh, I 1336 01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:03,560 Speaker 3: don't want this. It showed me so many things about 1337 01:01:03,680 --> 01:01:07,080 Speaker 3: like domination that I don't appreciate. It showed me so 1338 01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:10,960 Speaker 3: many things about pleasing someone that I don't appreciate it. 1339 01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:14,800 Speaker 3: And it's funny because I feel like listening to that 1340 01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:17,400 Speaker 3: story made me think, this must be when my homegirls 1341 01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:19,720 Speaker 3: think I'm in I almost think because I'm the sub, 1342 01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:21,880 Speaker 3: like I'm that girl that's just like, oh, okay, we're 1343 01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,160 Speaker 3: meeting someone today, or like I don't know. And then 1344 01:01:24,160 --> 01:01:26,840 Speaker 3: I saw a comment about someone saying you had more 1345 01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:28,040 Speaker 3: of a connection with the dude, or. 1346 01:01:28,080 --> 01:01:30,320 Speaker 1: Like, oh, bitch, I wanted to respond to it. You know, 1347 01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:33,760 Speaker 1: I don't think that bothered. 1348 01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:37,400 Speaker 2: Me because bitch, me and her were talking, we were 1349 01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:40,240 Speaker 2: we were on like I was so much more involved 1350 01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:40,520 Speaker 2: with her. 1351 01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:42,720 Speaker 1: I was showing I was only even allowed to show 1352 01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:43,360 Speaker 1: affection of her. 1353 01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:47,080 Speaker 2: Fumblic you had more of a connection with her. I 1354 01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,680 Speaker 2: felt like I was surprised at how much I really 1355 01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:50,160 Speaker 2: enjoyed her. 1356 01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,160 Speaker 1: That's why I was so upset to talking about No, 1357 01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:53,000 Speaker 1: I think I did. 1358 01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:55,200 Speaker 2: But let's be very clear, I've also sat on this 1359 01:01:55,280 --> 01:01:58,560 Speaker 2: pod and said sexually, I want to be with a woman, romantically, 1360 01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:00,360 Speaker 2: I want to be with a man, which is what 1361 01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:02,480 Speaker 2: I felt like in that dynamic, I was going to 1362 01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:04,360 Speaker 2: be able to get both without crossing the boundaries for 1363 01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:06,680 Speaker 2: whatever they had going. Oh bitch, you said something right now, 1364 01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:10,040 Speaker 2: that's probably the reason she fucked with She she didn't 1365 01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:12,080 Speaker 2: know that, but no, but I think that would may 1366 01:02:12,200 --> 01:02:13,120 Speaker 2: have come to fruition. 1367 01:02:13,360 --> 01:02:14,920 Speaker 1: But reading that comment. 1368 01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:17,680 Speaker 2: Also funnuse you jump? Well it frustrated me. Well no, 1369 01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:20,920 Speaker 2: because that's what I'm saying. We then were bitch cheers thing. 1370 01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:22,640 Speaker 2: I had to do a pickleback shop for the first time. 1371 01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:25,520 Speaker 2: We went and got oysters. You had fun on friendship, right, 1372 01:02:25,640 --> 01:02:28,160 Speaker 2: So on a friendship level. Romantic no, but on a 1373 01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:31,400 Speaker 2: friendship level that was still there. I can still the 1374 01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:33,360 Speaker 2: way I show up for my friends. Let's be very clear, 1375 01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:35,720 Speaker 2: I'm not talking about your friends. No. What I'm saying 1376 01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:38,080 Speaker 2: is how I show up for my friends goes way 1377 01:02:38,160 --> 01:02:39,760 Speaker 2: deeper than how I showed up for to some niggas. 1378 01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:42,960 Speaker 2: So to me, how I know again how to show 1379 01:02:43,040 --> 01:02:44,959 Speaker 2: up and what I was willing to give her would 1380 01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:46,720 Speaker 2: have been stronger than what how the fun I would 1381 01:02:46,720 --> 01:02:47,640 Speaker 2: have showed up with him? Right? 1382 01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:50,200 Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is, like you said, I wanted 1383 01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:52,120 Speaker 3: something sexual with a woman, romantic with him. 1384 01:02:52,440 --> 01:02:54,240 Speaker 1: But that's all I was looking to date them as 1385 01:02:54,280 --> 01:02:55,960 Speaker 1: a couple, right, But I'm. 1386 01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:59,400 Speaker 3: Saying they romantically, that maybe maybe there was more of 1387 01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:00,919 Speaker 3: a connection that you couldn't even see. 1388 01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:03,960 Speaker 2: She didn't even want to be romantic or be called 1389 01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:05,440 Speaker 2: a girlfriend. She didn't want any to see at all. 1390 01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:08,080 Speaker 2: She wanted a unicorn, which is so to me. She 1391 01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:10,240 Speaker 2: wasn't looking for someone to love her show up as a. 1392 01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:13,080 Speaker 1: Girlfriend actually talking about anything you did. By the way, No, no, 1393 01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:14,640 Speaker 1: And I get that. I'm not taking them saying this. 1394 01:03:14,720 --> 01:03:16,600 Speaker 3: I find that there was a connection with you and 1395 01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:19,800 Speaker 3: him that you probably couldn't see. I'm saying that which 1396 01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:24,000 Speaker 3: she saw outside of the dog he's not dating. Well, 1397 01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:25,920 Speaker 3: there was a dom dynamic, but that's what I'm saying. 1398 01:03:25,760 --> 01:03:28,240 Speaker 2: There's a connection. What you're saying right now is why 1399 01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:31,120 Speaker 2: I hate people took them. They all got their own 1400 01:03:31,160 --> 01:03:32,240 Speaker 2: little fucking tick. 1401 01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:33,800 Speaker 1: But do you see what I'm saying now? They have 1402 01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:35,480 Speaker 1: their tics and traumas. But this is the thing. 1403 01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:38,120 Speaker 2: This is in any relationship that you get into with 1404 01:03:38,200 --> 01:03:41,120 Speaker 2: anybody new, whether it's a couple, whether it's h E, 1405 01:03:41,280 --> 01:03:44,240 Speaker 2: M M, whether it's monogamous relationships, niggas are coming in 1406 01:03:44,320 --> 01:03:45,760 Speaker 2: with their own thoughts, traumas and don't know how to 1407 01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:47,200 Speaker 2: effectively communicate it. 1408 01:03:47,720 --> 01:03:50,520 Speaker 1: I don't have the patience to deal with these nigs. 1409 01:03:50,560 --> 01:03:51,160 Speaker 1: I'm just saying. 1410 01:03:51,320 --> 01:03:53,520 Speaker 3: When I read that comment, I took it like you did, like, oh, 1411 01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:56,360 Speaker 3: why would they say that? But then I was like, oh, 1412 01:03:56,440 --> 01:03:59,840 Speaker 3: the connection wasn't on Mandy. It was actually just what existed. 1413 01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:03,959 Speaker 3: For example, when Well almost said his name. When Old 1414 01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:06,400 Speaker 3: Bay and I would engage in threesomes, they were very 1415 01:04:06,480 --> 01:04:08,680 Speaker 3: just kind of like whatever. There was one woman we 1416 01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:10,560 Speaker 3: engaged with that was in her forties and he was 1417 01:04:10,640 --> 01:04:12,440 Speaker 3: in his forties, and it was the first time I 1418 01:04:12,520 --> 01:04:16,600 Speaker 3: felt so like disconnected them. Niggas had jokes, them, niggas 1419 01:04:16,640 --> 01:04:19,560 Speaker 3: knew songs. They just had this thing that I couldn't 1420 01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:22,160 Speaker 3: match with. Now, it doesn't mean he doesn't fucking love 1421 01:04:22,240 --> 01:04:25,160 Speaker 3: me whatever, it just is what it is, right. Oh yeah, 1422 01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:26,960 Speaker 3: and this nigga was into production. We had a lot, 1423 01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:28,919 Speaker 3: We had a lot of That's what I'm saying. Fuck 1424 01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:32,040 Speaker 3: the fact, bro, it's black. Okay, girlfriend can't say nigga. 1425 01:04:32,680 --> 01:04:34,840 Speaker 1: Do you know how fucking deep that shit gets for 1426 01:04:34,880 --> 01:04:38,120 Speaker 1: black men in interracial relationships like Mandy? I know. 1427 01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:43,440 Speaker 3: And listening that shit right, there is a layer that 1428 01:04:43,560 --> 01:04:45,160 Speaker 3: people probably don't even realize, but you. 1429 01:04:45,360 --> 01:04:48,440 Speaker 2: Did have a deeper connection with him now, so again, 1430 01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:53,480 Speaker 2: fuck people, but Dayton, fuck these dumb ass relationships. I 1431 01:04:53,480 --> 01:04:55,720 Speaker 2: ain't got time to sit here and go to layers 1432 01:04:55,760 --> 01:04:58,280 Speaker 2: with niggas, in they trauma or in they bullshit? 1433 01:04:58,360 --> 01:05:01,280 Speaker 1: Is y'all saying nigga around her? I say, bitch, I'm 1434 01:05:01,320 --> 01:05:04,800 Speaker 1: trying to limit not you. That's how we talk. And 1435 01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:06,920 Speaker 1: my point is, you know, when he were heart you 1436 01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:09,360 Speaker 1: probably gonna be like, oh people, well no. 1437 01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:11,280 Speaker 2: Because I mean, there was a joke that she's the 1438 01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:12,800 Speaker 2: nigga of Asia. She's Filipino. 1439 01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:16,600 Speaker 1: I'm so tired, that's you know what I mean. No, 1440 01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:17,840 Speaker 1: but no, no, no, I get it. 1441 01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,440 Speaker 2: I'm not giving I'm not giving anybody a pass to 1442 01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:20,919 Speaker 2: say nigga. 1443 01:05:21,040 --> 01:05:24,320 Speaker 1: No but no, when Latinos love to do that, they do. 1444 01:05:24,640 --> 01:05:26,360 Speaker 1: It's too much going on in the bay. I'm gonna 1445 01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:26,800 Speaker 1: say it again. 1446 01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:29,960 Speaker 2: No, we had the conversation having sex with Filipinos and 1447 01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:34,640 Speaker 2: there's blazons, because there's blazing the regular Filipino cousins. 1448 01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:36,000 Speaker 1: I get it. Yeah. 1449 01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:38,560 Speaker 2: No, at the end of the day, again they got 1450 01:05:38,600 --> 01:05:41,000 Speaker 2: the black I'm not gonna sit here and dissect even 1451 01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:46,280 Speaker 2: the disparities between ethnicities and cultural backgrounds when dating somebody like, 1452 01:05:46,400 --> 01:05:48,560 Speaker 2: I'm just I give up girl, Like right now. 1453 01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:52,200 Speaker 1: I'm good. You wanted to top was good and you did. 1454 01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:52,640 Speaker 1: I'm not. 1455 01:05:54,000 --> 01:05:57,360 Speaker 2: I'm good, and that be very clear. I let both 1456 01:05:57,400 --> 01:05:59,280 Speaker 2: of them know if they got on the same page, 1457 01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:01,680 Speaker 2: I would love to revisit. I have fun with them, 1458 01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:05,120 Speaker 2: but they need to they need to figure they shit out. 1459 01:06:06,440 --> 01:06:08,160 Speaker 2: We're getting the wrap up. I guess we went over 1460 01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:11,160 Speaker 2: on time. But y'all, thank y'all for tuning in to 1461 01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:17,320 Speaker 2: another episode. Uh, y'all, make sure you motherfucking subscribe to 1462 01:06:17,560 --> 01:06:20,360 Speaker 2: us on Patreon. That's patreon dot com back slash Hoard Decisions. 1463 01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,800 Speaker 2: If you want to watch us, make sure you subscribe 1464 01:06:22,880 --> 01:06:25,640 Speaker 2: to our YouTube channel. We also have a clips channel 1465 01:06:25,680 --> 01:06:28,000 Speaker 2: if you have ADHD and don't want to watch a 1466 01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:32,360 Speaker 2: full episode, our clips here on our w D clips channel, 1467 01:06:32,640 --> 01:06:34,600 Speaker 2: So make sure you subscribe to both to keep up 1468 01:06:34,640 --> 01:06:36,480 Speaker 2: with everything we got going on. And y'all, this has 1469 01:06:36,560 --> 01:06:38,640 Speaker 2: been you hat another episode before we get out of here, 1470 01:06:39,160 --> 01:06:43,320 Speaker 2: go ahead, you disagreeing ass sense of the best cocks fucks. 1471 01:06:43,560 --> 01:06:46,560 Speaker 1: Drop in below the COMMENTY I want you to. I 1472 01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:48,720 Speaker 1: think more people will be on your side and mind no, no, no, no, no. 1473 01:06:48,960 --> 01:06:50,560 Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck who's on my side because 1474 01:06:50,560 --> 01:06:54,280 Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. Okay, I don't need size 1475 01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:58,280 Speaker 2: side because nine times out of ten you're a fucking 1476 01:06:58,360 --> 01:07:01,280 Speaker 2: hypocrite anyways, and you're not happy, So fuck you. 1477 01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,120 Speaker 1: I don't need your opinion on my fucking life. Have 1478 01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:04,160 Speaker 1: a good fucking day. 1479 01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:06,600 Speaker 3: I'll tell you what's about to happen real quick. You 1480 01:07:06,640 --> 01:07:08,440 Speaker 3: don't even just about to be like I am so 1481 01:07:08,760 --> 01:07:11,320 Speaker 3: happy with my boyfriend now, You're not a. 1482 01:07:11,360 --> 01:07:13,040 Speaker 1: Bunch of people about to act like they face. I 1483 01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:14,960 Speaker 1: don't care. I really don't care about your Instagram. I 1484 01:07:15,040 --> 01:07:17,240 Speaker 1: don't care about I don't like it. Ain't given. I 1485 01:07:17,400 --> 01:07:20,000 Speaker 1: hate people right now. So there's that, all right, y'all. 1486 01:07:20,000 --> 01:07:21,919 Speaker 1: We'll try to give Andy some dick by next week, y'all. 1487 01:07:22,040 --> 01:07:24,000 Speaker 1: Oh no, I'm gonna get dick. I just don't like people. 1488 01:07:25,320 --> 01:07:31,200 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get dick. But because you ain't never ready, 1489 01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:33,280 Speaker 1: that's fine. I don't know when that we're supposed to go. 1490 01:07:33,480 --> 01:07:36,800 Speaker 1: It's given its bonus. Bitches is ready to go. It's 1491 01:07:36,840 --> 01:07:40,880 Speaker 1: given his Petreon, it's given. You gotta even talk about 1492 01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:42,080 Speaker 1: this ship that I. 1493 01:07:44,840 --> 01:07:48,840 Speaker 2: You gotta you gotta see you're just come on, be professional, 1494 01:07:48,920 --> 01:07:54,760 Speaker 2: bitch disgusting all right? Gross, well I'm back, holy shit, 1495 01:07:56,360 --> 01:07:58,080 Speaker 2: I only give you a COVID tests after that. 1496 01:07:58,320 --> 01:08:01,320 Speaker 1: Gross. My mom hos COVID right now? Oh y. 1497 01:08:02,360 --> 01:08:04,680 Speaker 3: If anyone has a friend that has COVID, they just 1498 01:08:04,760 --> 01:08:06,840 Speaker 3: don't know what to do with themselves. My mom was like, 1499 01:08:06,880 --> 01:08:08,400 Speaker 3: do you think I could walk around the block if 1500 01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:09,240 Speaker 3: I don't touch anybody? 1501 01:08:09,400 --> 01:08:12,320 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying, Like, bro, that's why, that's why 1502 01:08:12,360 --> 01:08:15,440 Speaker 2: I was spreading the way it was, Mitch. I think 1503 01:08:15,520 --> 01:08:20,559 Speaker 2: my mama waited till the exact hour that they said 1504 01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:22,840 Speaker 2: it was good. As she went to the club, I said, 1505 01:08:22,880 --> 01:08:25,800 Speaker 2: Mama not, I said, she went downtown it was drinking, 1506 01:08:25,840 --> 01:08:27,360 Speaker 2: and she stayed home for the five days. 1507 01:08:27,720 --> 01:08:30,559 Speaker 1: And it was like, I've reached the fifth day, bitch, 1508 01:08:30,600 --> 01:08:32,759 Speaker 1: I'm going out. I've been in the house. I said, 1509 01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:35,200 Speaker 1: you don't know if it's gone yet. What are you 1510 01:08:35,280 --> 01:08:37,840 Speaker 1: talking about? Do you know when from two weeks to 1511 01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:39,360 Speaker 1: wait till you get a negative results? 1512 01:08:39,360 --> 01:08:42,479 Speaker 2: And now it's only five days? But everybody five days differently, 1513 01:08:42,520 --> 01:08:44,400 Speaker 2: And I was like, you know what, I hate everybody 1514 01:08:44,560 --> 01:08:46,080 Speaker 2: girl speaking of downtown Orlando. 1515 01:08:47,120 --> 01:08:49,280 Speaker 1: I have to go to a wedding. Do you remember James. 1516 01:08:49,640 --> 01:08:51,320 Speaker 1: He came on like one of my first episodes. 1517 01:08:51,920 --> 01:08:54,439 Speaker 2: My friend James, who was in a call who met 1518 01:08:54,560 --> 01:08:57,240 Speaker 2: Vinnie yes because they went on a date, is now 1519 01:08:57,280 --> 01:08:59,560 Speaker 2: getting married to a woman that he's been dating for 1520 01:08:59,600 --> 01:09:00,160 Speaker 2: four years. 1521 01:09:00,200 --> 01:09:04,320 Speaker 1: Who was an only fan who her name? Oh should 1522 01:09:04,360 --> 01:09:04,720 Speaker 1: I give it out? 1523 01:09:04,720 --> 01:09:06,720 Speaker 3: I can't give it, but anyway, I wanted to bring 1524 01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:09,840 Speaker 3: up her OnlyFans because literally I was like, I've never 1525 01:09:09,920 --> 01:09:11,840 Speaker 3: been to an only fans girl wedding and if better 1526 01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:16,519 Speaker 3: be turned up, okay, so I want to say, And 1527 01:09:16,640 --> 01:09:18,560 Speaker 3: we're on Patreon, so I'm just gonna go ahead and 1528 01:09:18,600 --> 01:09:18,840 Speaker 3: say it. 1529 01:09:20,160 --> 01:09:24,240 Speaker 2: So, yes, I've been actively speaking to just multiple sex 1530 01:09:24,320 --> 01:09:28,280 Speaker 2: workers at this point because I would assume that sex 1531 01:09:28,320 --> 01:09:35,559 Speaker 2: workers just have a different mindset of liberation, acceptance of things. 1532 01:09:36,680 --> 01:09:41,000 Speaker 1: And one of my sex workers recently just had to 1533 01:09:41,040 --> 01:09:42,240 Speaker 1: block him on everything. 1534 01:09:43,520 --> 01:09:48,200 Speaker 2: Because this dumb ass fuck nigga uh huh felt the way. 1535 01:09:48,280 --> 01:09:50,280 Speaker 2: By the way, seek this is not the clip because 1536 01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:52,720 Speaker 2: I don't need niggas thinking guessing at and I don't 1537 01:09:52,760 --> 01:09:55,360 Speaker 2: need to go deeper into this episode. Do not make 1538 01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:58,320 Speaker 2: this the goddamn clip on YouTube or clip anyways. 1539 01:09:59,760 --> 01:10:01,559 Speaker 1: I I was so offended. 1540 01:10:02,880 --> 01:10:06,840 Speaker 2: This nigga literally felt away and did not want to 1541 01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:10,519 Speaker 2: see me because I posted the couple the throttle. They 1542 01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:14,400 Speaker 2: lasted for only two and a half weeks, so because 1543 01:10:14,439 --> 01:10:16,640 Speaker 2: I posted them on Twitter and he saw that I 1544 01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:19,920 Speaker 2: was dealing with a couple, I reached out to him 1545 01:10:20,280 --> 01:10:23,600 Speaker 2: a little while after, clearly once I knew it was 1546 01:10:24,040 --> 01:10:27,760 Speaker 2: dead in the grass to see him, like, bitch, he 1547 01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:30,960 Speaker 2: lives in New York. He lives in another state, but 1548 01:10:31,400 --> 01:10:34,000 Speaker 2: would like to see you, bitch. I got miles, You 1549 01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:36,360 Speaker 2: got miles. We could fly, we could meet, we could 1550 01:10:36,840 --> 01:10:40,519 Speaker 2: you know. So hit him up to link. 1551 01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:47,680 Speaker 1: And he goes down this rabbit hole. I guess with 1552 01:10:47,960 --> 01:10:51,799 Speaker 1: me on how he was completely turned off. 1553 01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:57,200 Speaker 2: By me having that couple or me having a couple, 1554 01:10:57,800 --> 01:10:59,720 Speaker 2: and he literally I told him he shamed me. He 1555 01:10:59,840 --> 01:11:02,080 Speaker 2: just me, he said, I'm not judging you, but it's 1556 01:11:02,120 --> 01:11:04,240 Speaker 2: what he did. He said, I was so turned off 1557 01:11:05,040 --> 01:11:07,799 Speaker 2: to see that she was out here with a couple 1558 01:11:08,439 --> 01:11:11,760 Speaker 2: like a man and a woman. Wow, I don't get it. 1559 01:11:11,840 --> 01:11:14,400 Speaker 1: Hold on, let me keep finishing beating a bit ch. 1560 01:11:14,400 --> 01:11:16,000 Speaker 1: I'all don't get it either. Doesn't he know you date 1561 01:11:16,040 --> 01:11:19,639 Speaker 1: other people? Do you know? He said? In his mind 1562 01:11:20,720 --> 01:11:26,719 Speaker 1: had I hit him up and said, I need no bitch, 1563 01:11:26,800 --> 01:11:30,840 Speaker 1: let me. This is delusion. This is the delusion of men, 1564 01:11:31,400 --> 01:11:31,800 Speaker 1: he said. 1565 01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:35,360 Speaker 2: Had I hit him up and said, I've been so 1566 01:11:35,680 --> 01:11:39,120 Speaker 2: deprived from dick that the only dick I want is his, 1567 01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,640 Speaker 2: that would have been fine, But the fact that he 1568 01:11:42,840 --> 01:11:46,200 Speaker 2: knew I could have and fuck whoever I want, both 1569 01:11:46,280 --> 01:11:50,839 Speaker 2: men and women, he said, whoa, you'd be outside fucking 1570 01:11:52,240 --> 01:11:54,960 Speaker 2: he and I was like, even though I don't just 1571 01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:59,200 Speaker 2: fuck anybody, he said, he was turned off and seeing 1572 01:11:59,240 --> 01:12:00,840 Speaker 2: that I was even I had. 1573 01:12:00,760 --> 01:12:03,360 Speaker 1: The ability to date a couple and fuck a couple. 1574 01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:07,120 Speaker 2: And he said, if I fuck anybody at this point 1575 01:12:07,160 --> 01:12:09,760 Speaker 2: in my life, I want my dick to be the 1576 01:12:09,880 --> 01:12:10,760 Speaker 2: only dick they want. 1577 01:12:10,960 --> 01:12:15,599 Speaker 1: Huh, hold on the only dick that they crave, because 1578 01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:17,000 Speaker 1: that's what would make me feel good. 1579 01:12:17,040 --> 01:12:21,840 Speaker 2: And I said, my nigga, right after I fucked you 1580 01:12:22,120 --> 01:12:24,400 Speaker 2: the last time, a week later, I had to see 1581 01:12:24,400 --> 01:12:27,600 Speaker 2: you fuck a bitch online because because so. 1582 01:12:27,720 --> 01:12:31,160 Speaker 1: You just called a segment from our bonus content over 1583 01:12:31,280 --> 01:12:31,879 Speaker 1: on Patreon. 1584 01:12:32,040 --> 01:12:36,120 Speaker 3: We have so much more bonus content, BTS live episodes, 1585 01:12:36,560 --> 01:12:37,479 Speaker 3: hundreds of hours. 1586 01:12:37,840 --> 01:12:41,080 Speaker 1: How are you not subscribed? 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