Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
Speaker 2: Talk Talk Talk.
Speaker 3: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 1: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to
Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. But I don't chase shit, not
Speaker 1: even my liqua. You know. This is your co host,
Speaker 1: AJ Holiday two point Oh, what's up, tam Bam.
Speaker 3: Hey, y'all, it's tam Vaan. I love y'all. I love
Speaker 3: you to AJ. How you doing well?
Speaker 1: You see how big these cities?
Speaker 3: That's what I was saying.
Speaker 1: You couldn't hear me. I never realized this talk make
Speaker 1: my titties look that big. But listen to episode for
Speaker 1: this week, y'all. Obviously it's pre recorded. Why am I?
Speaker 1: You can see my whole nip Ninny ninny Yeah, and y'all,
Speaker 1: so we say nanny. You can see my whole nanny
Speaker 1: in that video the whole.
Speaker 3: The whole time, this nipple and Jordan ain't say ship.
Speaker 1: I was gonna put some sunglasses on them, like a
Speaker 1: little MODI sunglass.
Speaker 3: Them so we can get our views up girl.
Speaker 1: I look like Mama Titties, like Mama tad exactly my
Speaker 1: little mils. I'm a milk kids. Shall I do much
Speaker 1: and nothing?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 1: Work a little bit on the stuff. And what did
Speaker 1: I really do this weekend? I don't think I did
Speaker 1: ship like for real? No, not too much, not too much,
Speaker 1: not too much.
Speaker 3: I went One of my best friends had her twins'
Speaker 3: first birthday. Baby would have thought this was roomy and
Speaker 3: sir birthday. It was like she rented out this whole
Speaker 3: petting zoo. And how she had it decorated. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: it was like the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.
Speaker 1: She had all those nice balloons, nice balloons.
Speaker 3: It was like flowers. She had like flowers hanging from
Speaker 3: the trees. She had a blue carpet. She had like
Speaker 3: a big old entry sign that says daily and DJ's
Speaker 3: circuits like they turned one. They'll never remember any of them.
Speaker 1: That's for everybody else.
Speaker 3: The party mom right, people walking on stilt walkers and
Speaker 3: like acrobatics, and they had like a girl.
Speaker 1: It was I don't want to have a baby. If
Speaker 1: I can't have a baby like that, so good.
Speaker 3: Yes, I was like, I ain't never had a party
Speaker 3: for my grown self. This familyous okay, they were so cute.
Speaker 3: They looked so cute. So that was Sunday and after
Speaker 3: the party, she had rented the airbnb for all her
Speaker 3: friends and family that came from out of town. So
Speaker 3: I went to the Airbnb and we you know, drinking
Speaker 3: at the Botto pool. I got pushed in the pool.
Speaker 3: Look at my head. I got put what is wrong
Speaker 3: with people pushing people in the pool.
Speaker 1: That's dangerous. No horse playing around the pool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was drunk. They said I fell in slow
Speaker 3: motion like I was deciding if I weren't. I was
Speaker 3: trying to balanced. Bitch, can you swim?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, did they ask you if you can
Speaker 1: swim before they had?
Speaker 3: I was it?
Speaker 1: Was it three foot?
Speaker 3: It was no, it was deep. But I was already
Speaker 3: in the pool. So I was coming out of the pool.
Speaker 3: And but I was like waiting in the pool, like
Speaker 3: I wasn't getting my hair wet, and I had it like,
Speaker 3: you know, tied up on the top of my head.
Speaker 3: So when I got pushed in, obviously I went under
Speaker 3: and my hair got wet. So I was mad.
Speaker 1: Them dreads be heavy as tail too.
Speaker 3: When they're coming out of Mars over shame.
Speaker 1: No horse playing at the pool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I made that bitch. I made that bitch. Go
Speaker 3: get a blow dry and plug it up outside and
Speaker 3: drive my roots sha Yeah, but that was my weekend.
Speaker 3: Let's getting this in. What the hell? What the hell?
Speaker 1: What the hell? All that's stupid internet news. So we uh,
Speaker 1: who's on the docket first up? Please take all them?
Speaker 1: So beyond say Beyonce is not on the fucking docket.
Speaker 1: What Beyonce did?
Speaker 3: Beyonce? Well, actually she ain't do shit, but my her
Speaker 3: bees and everybody else was talking about Beyonce. What's going uh?
Speaker 3: To the DNC right on Thursday, yes, August twenty second,
Speaker 3: and she was gonna perform and freedom, Freedom, freedom everybody.
Speaker 3: I was waiting and.
Speaker 1: She she wasn't coming.
Speaker 3: Which I'm at home drinking whiskey, drinking my whiskey that's
Speaker 3: about to come out, That's what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: I know she wasn't coming. I don't think that the
Speaker 1: card are fucking with politics right now. They haven't really
Speaker 1: endorsed the presidential candidate since since Obama. And if this
Speaker 1: is what y'all niggas need to decide, who y'all voting for?
Speaker 1: Y'all already fucking lost. Y'all need Beyonce to co sign? Okay,
Speaker 1: what's your what y'all doing? So I already knew Beyonce
Speaker 1: was coming. It was kind of weird even when I
Speaker 1: started seeing the headlines about her supposedly supposed to support perform,
Speaker 1: because nobody was sure anyway, And why would it be
Speaker 1: a secret if she was going to be performing, Like,
Speaker 1: Beyonce is a regular fucking person. Man, she is man,
Speaker 1: that is regular, Okay. She takes all shits just.
Speaker 3: Like she was watching, like I'm waiting to see who
Speaker 3: coming out, right, So, it says.
Speaker 1: The twenty twenty four Democratic National Convention saw its fair
Speaker 1: share of buzz, but one rumor that circulated was that
Speaker 1: Beyonce wouldn't make a surprise appearance on the final night.
Speaker 1: The speculation, however, was unfounded, it says Ricky Kirshner and
Speaker 1: Glenn Weise, the executive producer and director of the convention,
Speaker 1: addressed to president rumor no excuse me. Addressed a persistent rumor.
Speaker 1: In a recent interview, Ricky told Hollywood reporter, we never
Speaker 1: put anything about Beyonce. We denied every time the media
Speaker 1: asked about it, even though, by the way, people on
Speaker 1: my staff didn't believe me. I kept getting text from
Speaker 1: news organizations saying, when is Beyonce coming out? But come on,
Speaker 1: we have the biggest star, the Democratic nominee of nominee
Speaker 1: for president. Why would we overshadow that? So y'all thought
Speaker 1: y'all think b was going to overshadow.
Speaker 3: Kamala? Yes, she definitely would have, you know, like so Ya.
Speaker 1: Had other people performed so that other people didn't overshadow her. No, girl,
Speaker 1: y'all put y'all have it to take these people off pedestals.
Speaker 1: That's why y'all be so disappointed when shit be going
Speaker 1: down with them. These be regular motherfucking people with a
Speaker 1: little access.
Speaker 3: Who is y'all? I ain't really cared about nobody like
Speaker 3: I did feel the energy when Nipsey Hustle died. I
Speaker 3: felt it.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I was just talking about Nipsey today.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But and then when MJ died I felt that. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Typically I don't be like, I don't really fan girl
Speaker 3: too crazy. They do just be regular with people, and
Speaker 3: they sometimes you meet somebody who you think is just
Speaker 3: like extraordinary in their birthstink, and then you realize they're
Speaker 3: just a regular motherfucker.
Speaker 1: To check their gut health. That part Beyonce said he
Speaker 1: was she was never going to be there. Okay, y'all
Speaker 1: lost it. Y'all lost it. Shout out to Beyonce, stay
Speaker 1: out this mess. This is about the most mess.
Speaker 3: I can't wait for her whiskey to come out. You
Speaker 3: buy it? Yeah, by it, I'm good. I'm going for it.
Speaker 1: Y'all. Keep buying all them spirits, y'all.
Speaker 3: Not you with the Costco spirit, won't support be honest.
Speaker 1: Nope, I trust Costco more.
Speaker 3: And watch it be at Costco.
Speaker 1: At Costco we trust. Okay, y'all. First of all, y'all
Speaker 1: ain't grown until you get a Dicon in a Costco card.
Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all know that or not. But
Speaker 1: y'all can walk around here like y'all grown because y'all
Speaker 1: got kids in all type of shit. But if you
Speaker 1: don't have a Dyson in a Costco card, you a little.
Speaker 3: Bitty bitch bitty because I got neither one of those.
Speaker 1: Okay, y'all. This happens a lot in the Black family.
Speaker 1: I believe what's up next on the dock, and it's
Speaker 1: very sad, so it says Craig Max family reveals he
Speaker 1: died of untreated HIV slash AIDS complications, claiming they said
Speaker 1: it was heart failure to honor his privacy wishes, so
Speaker 1: he wanted his family to keep it a secret exactly.
Speaker 1: He you know, was sick. So apparently he actually passed
Speaker 1: and it was on his death certificate. Actually, TMZ Nosey
Speaker 1: Asses said his death certificate actually said, you know, complications
Speaker 1: from HIV and AIDS. And I know people who have
Speaker 1: passed away and the family always be saying cancer or
Speaker 1: my daddy call it a broken heart.
Speaker 3: When I tell you.
Speaker 1: It's like pulling teeth and nails, like trying to get
Speaker 1: the cause of death out of black people about their
Speaker 1: loved ones.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's crazy, But I think if his privacy wishes
Speaker 3: word to keep it as a heart failure, then why
Speaker 3: are y'all telling it now? I'm just confused as to
Speaker 3: what that's about. Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 1: I saw him on an interview like when he was
Speaker 1: kind of you know, looking sick, and you can kind
Speaker 1: of tell, you know, what I'm saying. People will be
Speaker 1: you know, they act like you're making it up when
Speaker 1: you ask, Like, damn, he's sick because you know he's sick.
Speaker 1: What black people means do he got that ship right oftentimes,
Speaker 1: but he looked like that. You know they get the
Speaker 1: fine hair. But also with cancer, when people go through chemo,
Speaker 1: their hair start getting fine and curly. But that's how
Speaker 1: he was looking at them final days.
Speaker 3: And that's unfortunate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's sad. They should have continued to respect his wishes,
Speaker 1: Like what why why just stop black people be cloud
Speaker 1: chasing man?
Speaker 3: Yeah, clout chasing.
Speaker 1: That's terrible. I would have never Yeah, man, let that
Speaker 1: man rest in peace.
Speaker 3: Mm.
Speaker 1: That business did not pay them, No, it didn't pay them.
Speaker 3: And other business that don't pay Judge Matthew's wife fould
Speaker 3: divorce for him.
Speaker 1: Now that business might pay. Bitch don't pay his money.
Speaker 3: But after thirty nine years file for divorce from Judge Mathis.
Speaker 3: It's crackish to me, That's all I'm saying that what
Speaker 3: he says.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of cast somebody a damn crackhead. He
Speaker 1: might've been smoking crack. Why she wanted to get divorced. No,
Speaker 1: Judge Mathis, I like Judge Mathis man, thirty nine years,
Speaker 1: that's a long ass time to call it quits. Man
Speaker 1: like y'all could just live together and be in separate houses.
Speaker 1: Maybe somebody got some tax issues or something, right, I
Speaker 1: would like to think that's what it is.
Speaker 3: After thirty nine years, I ain't getting divorced. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: be a widow before I ever divorced.
Speaker 1: You know, I always be telling my mom, I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck if I'm a hundred, if I'm unhappy,
Speaker 1: I'm getting the fuck up out of there. And I
Speaker 1: kind of mean that, but it just depends on like
Speaker 1: where I'm at in life. Really, like thirty nine years,
Speaker 1: you guys have probably accumulated all types of shit together,
Speaker 1: you know, house home kids. Do you have kids? I'm
Speaker 1: not sure.
Speaker 3: Who want to be outside after thirty nine years? Men?
Speaker 1: Men, men don't want to be outside. And she probably
Speaker 1: hided that ship because I know, judge matthis probably be outside. Okay,
Speaker 1: probably been out be outside. You always hear that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a fuck, we neither.
Speaker 3: I don't be way in this room over here, and
Speaker 3: I have me a little like I do, like, oh,
Speaker 3: what's that girl Giselle bunching? And fuck the jiu jitsu trainer.
Speaker 3: I'll be taking jiu jitsu classes.
Speaker 1: The only way I'll leave your gass and get and
Speaker 1: have you in court is if you start discounting me,
Speaker 1: if you start taking the money and doing X, Y
Speaker 1: and Z with it when it when it becomes financial,
Speaker 1: I'm a divorce your ass and I'm gonna eat your pockets.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat THEMB pockets because who you're playing with
Speaker 1: after thirty nine years, she has probably known the worst
Speaker 1: of him.
Speaker 3: Well what if? But you know, we're assuming she might
Speaker 3: have been the villain the whole time and they was like,
Speaker 3: you know what, let me just lead this man.
Speaker 1: You make me sick with that Devil's advocate bullshit.
Speaker 3: I always would have played Devil's advocate because you never know.
Speaker 1: Man, Yes we do, we know, Judge Matthews. I stay
Speaker 1: in the Caribbean, Okay, who you out there with? You
Speaker 1: went out there with Linda? Well Linda, and I don't
Speaker 1: seen him in the Caribbean. And I never seen Linda, Okay.
Speaker 3: Oh Linda, Rich Linda. If they ain't signed no prena.
Speaker 1: Thirty nine years, they might not have one. They was
Speaker 1: together when he probably they ain't shit.
Speaker 3: Sick of your shit, girl, rather be alone.
Speaker 1: Now I'm born June nineteen eighty four. These people have
Speaker 1: been married since you and nineteen eighty five.
Speaker 3: Mm, as long as you've been alive. They've been in
Speaker 3: a house together.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. And where are you going?
Speaker 3: Going around the corner and sit down.
Speaker 1: This bella duplex mansion.
Speaker 3: So listen to this. Two black men who recently had
Speaker 3: to fight for their freedom against a white woman who
Speaker 3: falsely accused them of rape are now suing the woman
Speaker 3: and the police department for ruining their lives. So this
Speaker 3: woman had a three song with these two brothers and
Speaker 3: then accused them of rape. And then there was footage.
Speaker 3: Apparently there was some type of footage that vindicated them
Speaker 3: of all wrongdoing. She was on their parent and my god,
Speaker 3: you're black cock. You're black cock.
Speaker 1: God, God shut up. Like one of the dudes look nice, man.
Speaker 1: The other one got slashes in his eyebrow. I feel
Speaker 1: like I seen this white lady before, Like this was
Speaker 1: she not in another story? Is that not the same
Speaker 1: person who got the train ran or her by all
Speaker 1: her co workers?
Speaker 3: No? You sure that's not her?
Speaker 1: What a look like her? They call?
Speaker 3: Don't But you know what I feel. I feel bad
Speaker 3: for these black men, but I also don't because why
Speaker 3: is y'all listen if y'all not learned any lessons about
Speaker 3: you know, I don't want to say that white women
Speaker 3: will ruin your life because this is some good white
Speaker 3: women that I know that are nice white ladies, you know.
Speaker 3: But gots to be more careful.
Speaker 1: No, almost these niggas be getting what's coming, so it says.
Speaker 1: According to The Daily Mail, Freddie Douglas forty three and
Speaker 1: John Marks forty one, grown as men who are lifelong partners,
Speaker 1: decided to have fun, have a fun night in the
Speaker 1: pool at Marx's newly built house in a neighborhood outside
Speaker 1: of Texas on the night of November eighth. Marx and
Speaker 1: his neighbor Amanda z Because what forty, had already been
Speaker 1: having an affair prior to this day, so he invited
Speaker 1: her over to get in a pool with them. So
Speaker 1: now you already have an affair with one of the niggas,
Speaker 1: he invites you over with him and his homeboy. As
Speaker 1: the night went on, all of them skinny dipped in
Speaker 1: the pool, which led to some consensual friggy deeky action
Speaker 1: a threesome. Marx had repeatedly excuse me, Marx had reportedly
Speaker 1: recorded Douglas and Z Douglas the lady okay, Amanda having
Speaker 1: sex on his phone, and his in home security footage
Speaker 1: caught all of the action as well. Can I get
Speaker 1: in trouble for that? If she didn't know she was
Speaker 1: being recorded? Now I can see the cell phone right
Speaker 1: because you see me recording with my cell phone. But
Speaker 1: like home footage, I mean, y'all are outside if that's
Speaker 1: where it took place at and then it says Three
Speaker 1: weeks later, Amanda, who was separated from her husband at
Speaker 1: the time, went to the police to file a report,
Speaker 1: claiming that the man raped her and held her against
Speaker 1: her will that night. She claimed, even though her and
Speaker 1: Marx were involved in an affair, the night with Marx
Speaker 1: and Douglas was not consensual and she was scared for
Speaker 1: her life. She alleged that she tried to fight Marks
Speaker 1: off and then pushed her, and then he pushed her
Speaker 1: over to Douglas, who, man, this sounded like a whole skit, bitch.
Speaker 3: What plan diabolical?
Speaker 1: What plan you may.
Speaker 3: It's probably your work fantasy.
Speaker 1: Yes, these people are dangerous and these black men stay
Speaker 1: stayed trying to trash and just talk crazy about black women. Man,
Speaker 1: And this is how y'all be getting caught up from
Speaker 1: high school and on on a.
Speaker 3: This is like, like, so, I wonder if you if
Speaker 3: you cry rape and it's proven that you're lying, you
Speaker 3: should be able. You should receive some jail time for that.
Speaker 1: No, absolutely, and nothing ever ever happened. So apparently Douglas
Speaker 1: he's also a police officer in the area, so he
Speaker 1: was immediately arrested and charged with aggravated sexual assault. Marx
Speaker 1: was also charged, despite both of them pleading their innocence
Speaker 1: to the El Campbo police, so they both got arrested.
Speaker 1: One of these guys is a police officer. Are both
Speaker 1: of them cops? Wait a minute, no, one of them
Speaker 1: is a cop. This is disgusting.
Speaker 3: It is so yet again.
Speaker 1: Another white woman trying to ruin black men's lives. And
Speaker 1: y'all stay crossing that Dan fence. Stay your ass in
Speaker 1: the yard.
Speaker 3: Listen. I don't have no problem with people dating who
Speaker 3: they want to date, but I mean, this is the
Speaker 3: consequences because white women crying rape against unharmed from black
Speaker 3: people using the weaponizing the police again and has been
Speaker 3: a thing since the beginning of time and Unfortunately y'all
Speaker 3: don't lost all a lot of the things you have
Speaker 3: because of it. And now you're on we talk back
Speaker 3: and don't you.
Speaker 1: Under the no donkey other day when we talked back,
Speaker 1: shut up. We gotta come up with some ship like that.
Speaker 1: Rme like, y'all, I'm sick of y'all, stay your ass
Speaker 1: in the house. I wonder if they was an intimate
Speaker 1: with each other too, cause.
Speaker 3: Them slitting your eyebrows trying to wild out.
Speaker 1: And we know those other women like you know. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying none of the sisters don't go for that
Speaker 1: type of shit, but we know them niggas can be
Speaker 1: who they want to be with the mothers mm hmm, okay.
Speaker 3: Score fighting the pool.
Speaker 1: I'd like to see that video we too.
Speaker 3: I hope somebody put it on ex videos at.
Speaker 1: Some point, like to pay for them legal fees. They
Speaker 1: better go ahead post that you're up there, then they're
Speaker 1: it'll be revenge porn though if they do that.
Speaker 3: And then she'll then she'll have a case then, so
Speaker 3: leave it alone.
Speaker 1: Shame.
Speaker 3: So what's our episode today, y'all?
Speaker 1: Okay, So naddi I was about to say, speaking to
Speaker 1: Judge Matthews, but no, that is not a good segue.
Speaker 1: We we we want to delve in matter of fact,
Speaker 1: a future episode, we're gonna talk about this Cam Newton ship. Okay,
Speaker 1: but on today's episode, we have one married man and
Speaker 1: a single man. I just want to understand the lives
Speaker 1: and the dynamic, uh between these two people, like between
Speaker 1: these two type of men. Right, so one's inside and
Speaker 1: one's outside.
Speaker 3: I thought you was about to say I just want
Speaker 3: to dive into the lies, but you say lives. Okay,
Speaker 3: oh that part too. We'll be right back you guys,
Speaker 3: stay tuned, all right, y'all.
Speaker 1: So we're back, and we do have some lovely guests.
Speaker 1: When we talked back this week, we got Jay Fresh
Speaker 1: by way of Miami, and we got John John from.
Speaker 3: The PD Helenkat South Carolina. Don't play with it, hemen.
Speaker 1: How y'all doing today? Bob, Bob, I'm chilling introduce yourself
Speaker 1: to our guest. What the waterfuck do? I keep saying that?
Speaker 1: Introduce y'allself yourself to turn our audio?
Speaker 2: How's everybody doing? My name is Jay Freshaw.
Speaker 4: I'm hopping a three point nine ninety three point nine
Speaker 4: Monday through Friday, seven to eleven night show.
Speaker 2: Check me out three or five today? Though three represent
Speaker 2: we do? Oh what's up? And I'm John John. I'm
Speaker 2: a little less famous than him, but I'm a ball
Speaker 2: Brandon chef man rock with me.
Speaker 3: Oh you can cook? Oh? Want you be cooking anything?
Speaker 3: What's your specialty? Like when you turn in person? Woman?
Speaker 3: What you're gonna make for her?
Speaker 2: Woman like that?
Speaker 3: I don't like seafood, Like if she's a seafood girl.
Speaker 2: Everybody loved pasta. Just depends on what you do with it.
Speaker 2: That'll be it. So I'll figure out what she liked.
Speaker 1: Then from okay, okay, what type of fish you be cooking?
Speaker 1: Because I'm tired of seeing salmon people be rolling the salmon.
Speaker 3: For I love salmon, do so much with it. Ye,
Speaker 3: Tilapia used to be the ship, remember when you was Like.
Speaker 1: When it first came out and.
Speaker 3: With Tilapia dropped, there was the ship.
Speaker 2: Great, one of the best fishes you can get.
Speaker 1: Yes, that.
Speaker 2: Is great.
Speaker 3: All right, let's get on topic. Why did you why
Speaker 3: did you invite these Why did you pick these particular
Speaker 3: gentlemen to come on the shows?
Speaker 1: I wanted to have a conversation with men, right because
Speaker 1: a lot of ours should be.
Speaker 3: Very female related.
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, one married gentlemen. So Jay Fresh is a
Speaker 1: married man, happily married. How long have you been married?
Speaker 2: It's coming up on six years.
Speaker 1: Okay, he's been married for six years.
Speaker 2: You got kids? Yes, I have two kids.
Speaker 3: And your beer looked very moisturized. I feel like your
Speaker 3: wife has something to do with that. But we'll get
Speaker 3: into that later. Oh wait, I didn't do it that way.
Speaker 3: I'm very sad.
Speaker 1: We got John John. John John is a single man.
Speaker 3: He outside?
Speaker 1: Yeah, are you actively outside.
Speaker 2: Every now and then?
Speaker 5: I mean, I've been outside for how are you?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 3: I no, I don't play that game.
Speaker 1: I said, I'm thirty six thirty seven.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I do know you're thirty eight. Okay,
Speaker 3: black don't crack. So that's why I don't play with
Speaker 3: black people. White people. I'll be like forty four, forty five, thirty.
Speaker 1: They know that. It's the running joke that everybody know.
Speaker 1: They look at old.
Speaker 3: All right. I put this weird question, and I want
Speaker 3: to ask it right now. How many times a day
Speaker 3: do you think about your wife?
Speaker 1: Hm?
Speaker 3: Hmm.
Speaker 2: I would say I can't put a finger on it.
Speaker 4: I would say, you get random thoughts you might think
Speaker 4: of like what's going on today, what we're doing today?
Speaker 4: Or you might think about how was your day? And
Speaker 4: then sometimes you might just think about like, yo, hey,
Speaker 4: what were eating tonight?
Speaker 3: You know, So I will say, if you could put
Speaker 3: a number on it, I'll say ten, ten times a day?
Speaker 3: How many times a day do you think about sex?
Speaker 1: Look, he's married. I don't think married many.
Speaker 2: Things, but that's part of it.
Speaker 3: I was going to ask him that too. I was
Speaker 3: gonna come back to him five times a day. That's
Speaker 3: fair morning.
Speaker 2: It's a man like So you know, can I hit
Speaker 2: it in the morning, that's like a bib on so morning, I.
Speaker 4: Will say for sure, for sure. Afternoon, maybe at the workout, definitely.
Speaker 4: And then sometimes you know, if you get into bed
Speaker 4: earlier than the day or early in the night, excuse me,
Speaker 4: you know you might rock that to you know, it depends.
Speaker 4: So like three, I would say three, three to four.
Speaker 4: It depends on what's going on that day. Having kids,
Speaker 4: I will say, has changed.
Speaker 2: That before that university you think about it.
Speaker 4: I mean, it could be random thoughts, but if I
Speaker 4: had to pick, I would say three three four.
Speaker 3: So is it fair to say that once you're married,
Speaker 3: you think of sex less than when you're single.
Speaker 2: Hell no, I.
Speaker 1: Think it's the same with God.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I feel like you're gonna you're gonna
Speaker 4: always You're gonna always feel that no matter what.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
Speaker 4: So I won't say it's less. I just will say, like,
Speaker 4: it depends on what you got going on. Like I
Speaker 4: said before, kids, I feel like, yeah, shit all the time,
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Like you try to avoid
Speaker 4: random thoughts, especially when you're married, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: So like in that case, I would say that.
Speaker 3: So have y'all ever seen the movie I Think I
Speaker 3: loved my wife with Curse her up and the wife
Speaker 3: she was like, I can't wait till you get home.
Speaker 3: I want to suck your dick. And then after they
Speaker 3: got married, she was like, I can't wait till you
Speaker 3: get home. I want you to see these drapes. Like
Speaker 3: it just changed. That's the fact it just changed.
Speaker 4: So I would say this, you have to find a
Speaker 4: way to make sure you don't forget about how you
Speaker 4: got them.
Speaker 2: You know how you get them and how you keep
Speaker 2: them right.
Speaker 4: So definitely, if we started off we were want to
Speaker 4: freaky stuff, we talking about this and then we're talking
Speaker 4: about that. Drapes are great, you know, that's cool. Generations great,
Speaker 4: stuff with the kids is great, but never forget how
Speaker 4: you got your man rekindling those rekindling those same things
Speaker 4: that made you love them before. So yeah, that's cool
Speaker 4: that happens the drapes, but I would definitely say I
Speaker 4: don't forget.
Speaker 3: See that's the scary part though. I just feel like
Speaker 3: I see a lot of people who get me married
Speaker 3: and they like lose that passion for their partner and
Speaker 3: they start becoming more like brother and sister than husband
Speaker 3: and watching.
Speaker 1: I already want to my own bedroom and bathroom when
Speaker 1: I get.
Speaker 3: There and you ain't even marry it. I want my
Speaker 3: own bathroom.
Speaker 1: Bathroom for sure, and appointments to sleep in my room
Speaker 1: because I have the appointment and sleep in your rooms.
Speaker 4: Linen, I will say this, you got to have your space.
Speaker 4: You know, if you did you before, I did me before,
Speaker 4: you gotta have your space.
Speaker 2: That's the balance. That's actually what makes I feel like.
Speaker 4: We'll make a marriage work if you know each other,
Speaker 4: that to that point where it's like, yo, I know
Speaker 4: you need your space right now. Shit, I might want
Speaker 4: to play the game I might want to do something else,
Speaker 4: you know, so you gotta have that space. You might
Speaker 4: want to watch some show that I do not want
Speaker 4: to watch. Give you your space and that way when
Speaker 4: you do connect this kind of like you got you.
Speaker 4: You talk about mommy Tom and.
Speaker 3: So women Men typically give women access to marriage and
Speaker 3: not the way other way around. Why would you say
Speaker 3: that you're not married at thirty eight?
Speaker 2: Honestly, let me just say I funneled a bad a
Speaker 2: good opportunity.
Speaker 3: Oh you let one get away?
Speaker 1: Is she married?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 3: So if you could talk to her right now, look
Speaker 3: into that camera and tell.
Speaker 1: Her what you what you would say to her married?
Speaker 2: That's it?
Speaker 3: You just say, you fumble her. Is she not married?
Speaker 3: Why wouldn't you want to say more?
Speaker 1: She got a baby with somebody?
Speaker 2: Now we talked about it. We talked about it that
Speaker 2: we and we moved crafted.
Speaker 3: So it's just not gonna ever happen. I don't think
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. It's kind of said, do you feel a scorpion?
Speaker 3: How old were you when you lay? This happened yesterday?
Speaker 2: No? I mean I exact age. They say early thirties,
Speaker 2: So it's been a minute time.
Speaker 1: As you wait something years.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say all of them was wasted.
Speaker 5: But let's just say we we was bagging forth interacting probably.
Speaker 3: Ten ten years. I'm sorry, my sister.
Speaker 1: So, as a married man, advice for women, how long
Speaker 1: should they wait on a man and be ready? How
Speaker 1: long should they wait to get a ring for a man?
Speaker 4: I would say, don't put pressure on him at all,
Speaker 4: you know, like like let him do him, you know,
Speaker 4: because I feel like if he chooses to do that,
Speaker 4: if they ain't ready, you know, if he choose to
Speaker 4: do that, the most likely he's ready to make sure
Speaker 4: that like, yo, you're the only person I want to
Speaker 4: be with and I want to be with you forever.
Speaker 2: You know. So if you put that pressure on him,
Speaker 2: it might make him.
Speaker 4: It might make him, let's say, relapse into like old habits.
Speaker 4: It could make him second guess xyz that might be
Speaker 4: going on.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't say put pressure on it, you know, if
Speaker 4: you know, you know, like, hey, I feel the way
Speaker 4: I feel about you, you feel way you feel about me,
Speaker 4: that at some point you know what's coming. But I'll
Speaker 4: still say not pressure. Maybe ring shopping, maybe that that's
Speaker 4: like the extent, But I.
Speaker 2: Would say that's that's pressure.
Speaker 3: That's pressure.
Speaker 1: Pressure, Like it's just like you just say, oh, that
Speaker 1: is a I got engaged somebody. I was engaged, right,
Speaker 1: and he didn't know my ring size. He really didn't
Speaker 1: know what I like. He went and bought what he liked, right,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't a bad ring, right, It wasn't bad.
Speaker 1: It wasn't what I liked. So I would have liked
Speaker 1: to had.
Speaker 3: A like he should have communicated with one of your
Speaker 3: friends or something.
Speaker 4: You know, I'll say it's indirect pressure, especially when you
Speaker 4: like cohabitating, you know what I'm saying, Like if you're chilling,
Speaker 4: you know, you go to different family events and that
Speaker 4: like it might somebody might say it before she says it,
Speaker 4: but I would still say for her, don't don't pressure them,
Speaker 4: just like let him, let him figure it out, like
Speaker 4: usually they would figure it out eventually.
Speaker 2: I would ship me.
Speaker 3: He said he had that girl for ten years and
Speaker 3: they proposed to what you said.
Speaker 2: Off and on we deal with each other.
Speaker 7: That lines I had nobody.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, you gather up, Sorry, don't do that.
Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, I feel like that'll be they're ready to
Speaker 4: do it, you know, but you can't. You can't personal
Speaker 4: because again it's sometimes it's just what does it flight
Speaker 4: or fight like? People might rebel against that and you
Speaker 4: don't know how to. It could be relapsing into a situationship.
Speaker 4: It couldn't be finding new situationships.
Speaker 3: Could be So you don't think men need that pressure,
Speaker 3: just a little bit, just that little.
Speaker 2: I would say. Again, family might do that indirectly too.
Speaker 2: You might be at an event, they might do that.
Speaker 4: I would say, let it come from that more so
Speaker 4: than anything else, because if you have respect for that
Speaker 4: person's family, you have respect for them, you could see
Speaker 4: a lot you at times when you're dealing let's say
Speaker 4: little multiple people. Right, you're gonna find the best quality
Speaker 4: that you like in that particular person, and you're gonna
Speaker 4: choose to be with that particular person. So when you
Speaker 4: do that, you know you have a sense that they
Speaker 4: maybe one day I would marry this person.
Speaker 2: You know, you look for that.
Speaker 3: What was the thing that your wife had.
Speaker 4: Out of everybody that was a tough one. I would
Speaker 4: say we were more like friends first. It was times
Speaker 4: she would put me on girls like it was.
Speaker 2: It goes back.
Speaker 4: We our friendship goes back that deep to where when
Speaker 4: we did decide to talk, it was like, yo, you're
Speaker 4: my dog at the end of the day, you know
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. And so now us being married and
Speaker 4: us being parents, like we cheated out just like yo,
Speaker 4: hey you my dog. You don't even know they have
Speaker 4: the ship we done did together. And so I feel
Speaker 4: like them stories will help or they would be they
Speaker 4: would love the side of marriage based off of those stories,
Speaker 4: Like I don't see my parents go through a lot
Speaker 4: of shit, you know, like marriagees is working still, marriag Yeah,
Speaker 4: they just actually just hit seven years.
Speaker 2: Just they just hit thirty seven years on longer stories,
Speaker 2: so you know, so like but in that time, you know,
Speaker 2: I've seen all types of shit, all types of shit.
Speaker 2: So marriage to work. You know, marriage is working. You
Speaker 2: got to kind of go on to do with the mindset,
Speaker 2: like yo're really ready for this shit? You know.
Speaker 3: Does your wife come from a single parent home.
Speaker 4: Or a I would say in a way, it was,
Speaker 4: but she has a father that was in her life.
Speaker 4: Her dad was in life as well, so she has
Speaker 4: two fathers. So it's a little bit different from mine.
Speaker 4: Like I said, my parents have been married thirty few years.
Speaker 4: Her parents have been married a little bit less than that.
Speaker 4: But at the same time.
Speaker 1: She always had a father.
Speaker 2: She did have a father.
Speaker 4: Figure, but I ain't a lot to raising like JITs
Speaker 4: kids together. You see different parents in office, you see
Speaker 4: like yo, what you came from, and even coming together
Speaker 4: sometimes you're like yo. Like That's why I feel like
Speaker 4: that cohabitation part before getting married is super vital because
Speaker 4: you get to know that person. You get to know
Speaker 4: what you like, what you don't like. Also, you get
Speaker 4: to know, like how you use raised. You might say
Speaker 4: I don't want to clean up. I just clean up
Speaker 4: when I'm ready, you know. Or it might be a
Speaker 4: situation where you wake up every Saturday morning you clean
Speaker 4: it up like it's it's different things. You will find
Speaker 4: out that you liked about the person, and it's also
Speaker 4: different things. You will find out that you you grew
Speaker 4: up different that particular person. So just getting used to that,
Speaker 4: the coappetation parts, I feel like before you get married.
Speaker 1: So who was your family dynamic? Did you are your
Speaker 1: parents married?
Speaker 2: Okay, my father was around though I would only say
Speaker 2: that to us, but you know, single mom, uh work
Speaker 2: a lot. That was kind of my bringing.
Speaker 5: But I mean I still had family she had, I
Speaker 5: mean full sisters cousins on our dad's side, that wasn't far.
Speaker 2: But other than that, like parent house or more single
Speaker 2: mind yet m interesting.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think that's common for if you were
Speaker 3: grew up in the eighties, you.
Speaker 1: Know, like you can come from a single I would say,
Speaker 1: my mom was a single married woman for a long
Speaker 1: time and then it went to being a single parent.
Speaker 4: So my mom definitely was single married a few times
Speaker 4: in the relationship. I would say I learned from that.
Speaker 4: But I was around them all a lot social in
Speaker 4: those days, you know. So yeah, I would say that.
Speaker 3: Do you want to be married? Okay, but right now
Speaker 3: you enjoy outside or do do you feel like because
Speaker 3: sometimes I'd be like, I'm outside beach, we outside the night,
Speaker 3: and then when I get home, I'll be like, lord,
Speaker 3: it be so body like, like I really need that.
Speaker 2: I mean outside, I said at my age.
Speaker 3: Anyway, you know what I'm saying, Outside you've been out there?
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely one day old the world. That's a beautiful talent.
Speaker 1: So social media is a part of all our lives.
Speaker 1: See you see these people online saying how men don't
Speaker 1: really benefit from marriage as a married man, do you
Speaker 1: think that's true. Or do men benefit actually more from marriage?
Speaker 1: I was I would say more than the woman.
Speaker 2: Yeah, does the men benefit more than the women all
Speaker 2: of them? Depends on how you look at it.
Speaker 4: I feel like, if you find that person that you
Speaker 4: that you love, y'all can build together, you know, and
Speaker 4: at that particular point, Like I saw this story the
Speaker 4: other day on this TV show where I'm saying wrong
Speaker 4: place for the Detroit Lions. His dad was saying women
Speaker 4: are like dream killers, right, And it was a situation
Speaker 4: where it's like, sometimes if you're focused on a certain thing,
Speaker 4: maybe it could if you let it.
Speaker 2: But I would say it depends on the person. You know.
Speaker 2: Being married, it can motivate you do want to do better.
Speaker 2: It can motivate you do want to do more.
Speaker 4: Also, being single, I feel like you might be more
Speaker 4: focused and not worried about certain things that come with
Speaker 4: being a relationship because you know, a lot comes of
Speaker 4: being in a relationship and a lot comes of being married,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 2: So I would say it depends on the person.
Speaker 3: As far as that, well, statistics show that married men
Speaker 3: live longer than men who are single.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, it's a good thing to go home
Speaker 2: it be all I got to get paid to be
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 4: I'm chilling at like I'm violent, you know, But then
Speaker 4: you get to murger sometimes like I want to go outside.
Speaker 4: I took a shot at the crib downstairs. She upstairs
Speaker 4: and she she chilling. I'm gonna hit the club, you know.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you you know, you gotta have that you just.
Speaker 3: Be wanting to see if you still got it.
Speaker 2: I won't say that. I would just say, like, you know.
Speaker 3: Let me ask you, and you and your homeboys get
Speaker 3: a section and y'all gonna invite random girls into the section.
Speaker 3: Y'all just gonna be in there and looking like some
Speaker 3: dummies by yourself.
Speaker 2: It happens, you know, people sometimes people want to just
Speaker 2: drink some of the ship. You guys, you don't have
Speaker 2: all dumb I.
Speaker 3: Was why you got to Yeah, like I would be out,
Speaker 3: like I think it's weird for a bunch of men
Speaker 3: to be in the section in the club that is together.
Speaker 3: All the gay guys got a section over there, crazy
Speaker 3: and being.
Speaker 4: Look being being brother. Sometimes I feel like, yo, hey
Speaker 4: you got your vibes together. But in the same time,
Speaker 4: if you're out and about the bobs and we we
Speaker 4: we through cookouts, and that's the same vibe. It's no
Speaker 4: different than it was.
Speaker 3: So your wife would be okay if you had a
Speaker 3: section and y'all invited girls into the section.
Speaker 2: I feel like she would be because she knows like
Speaker 2: she knows me.
Speaker 3: I'm yeah, I would be okay with it as a wife,
Speaker 3: because don't I don't want my nigga being out there said,
Speaker 3: look at it, stupid.
Speaker 2: You got to have your You gotta have your time.
Speaker 4: You gotta have your meet talk like I ain't when
Speaker 4: you go to brunch and you get no emotions because
Speaker 4: you're gonna come back home and it's gonna be it's
Speaker 4: gonna be. Do you like I'm a boby of the
Speaker 4: crib and it's like we switch out, like I might go,
Speaker 4: do me go? Do you know I get that balance
Speaker 4: helps you know if you don't have that balance, you
Speaker 4: know she got that way?
Speaker 3: All right. I want you to rank this in order
Speaker 3: of the value to you. Okay, So it's money, career, family, fitness,
Speaker 3: health hobbies, money career, family.
Speaker 1: That's too much.
Speaker 3: It's not. It's money, career, family, fitness, hobbies. I said
Speaker 3: health and hobbies, but we're putting fitness and health as one.
Speaker 4: Okay, So I'm gonna say family first.
Speaker 2: I'm big on family.
Speaker 3: Hm.
Speaker 4: It's funny because one of the my favorite animals to
Speaker 4: kill a will. You know that's a family into it,
Speaker 4: like a family centered animal, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Like the Traveling Facts for life. But families first.
Speaker 2: For sure.
Speaker 4: I want to say money, but I'm gonna say health.
Speaker 4: Hell gotta be second. You know you can't enjoy them money.
Speaker 4: If you know, I would say, uh, definitely, hell second. Money,
Speaker 4: What was it?
Speaker 2: What was the other?
Speaker 3: It was money and career we'll keep We'll make those one.
Speaker 4: All right, Money and career. You got to support the
Speaker 4: things you want to do, like, hey, we want to
Speaker 4: go to Ruber tomorrow. You know we want to do this.
Speaker 4: Money helps, you know, what's hobbies?
Speaker 2: Hobbies?
Speaker 4: Damn, hobbies can come last because you could. It's a
Speaker 4: thing at being with somebody, like I feel like y'all
Speaker 4: can join and love the same hobbies. Like you might
Speaker 4: like something different. I'm like something different, but we might
Speaker 4: eventually like that together, like y'all seen the X.
Speaker 1: Men and.
Speaker 2: Dip movie.
Speaker 1: Not yet, but I like excellent.
Speaker 4: She likes Marvel right, but in a way like she
Speaker 4: went because you know, but she enjoyed the movie when
Speaker 4: she went So it's kind of like or I might
Speaker 4: go to some I ain't want whatever ship, but oh
Speaker 4: this was actually dopel girl.
Speaker 3: What you're doing today? Girl? Doing this nerdy ass ship
Speaker 3: with my hands?
Speaker 2: Fine?
Speaker 4: When they love the saying ship you love is doing
Speaker 4: and then like I like from the jit perspective, like
Speaker 4: our kids like she is she a cowboy fan again,
Speaker 4: I'm born in bread day kind of three all day
Speaker 4: right when they come to Miami Dolphins, Like, my daughter
Speaker 4: loves the dolphins and so like seeing that is like, yo,
Speaker 4: the ship I love you love too, you know, but
Speaker 4: at the same time our kids love it.
Speaker 3: Too, So she probably loves dolphins, you know, like with
Speaker 3: this team because it's they're cute.
Speaker 4: We got a cowboy fan on the counts, right, so
Speaker 4: you know dolphins Listen, she will singing the song.
Speaker 2: Bro, She'll get her hat, She'll get the hat. She'll
Speaker 2: be like, dolphins, know what a dolphin is? Miami Dolphins. Look,
Speaker 2: I play that song right now.
Speaker 3: She will start dan because she makes her think about dolphins.
Speaker 3: All right, what about you put that in order and rate?
Speaker 3: Do you need me to read them again? I know
Speaker 3: they were a lot. It was you already, okay, thank you,
Speaker 3: thank you, No, no, you don't sound crazy.
Speaker 2: I like money and career a little first, just because.
Speaker 5: Boom, some saying you gotta be in a situation to
Speaker 5: be able to take care of family behind.
Speaker 3: Her family all y'all or creative family, yeah, all of that.
Speaker 2: So that first, then family, their fitness thin.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm okay, how about you?
Speaker 2: Hm?
Speaker 1: I think I might be because I don't have any
Speaker 1: kids yet. I think a lot of things we do
Speaker 1: drive like money is the motivator, right, I'd like it. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'd like a lot of it. So I would say
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say money is my main thing, health right,
Speaker 1: I think health would be my my top on the
Speaker 1: very top of the list. Then money or maybe family health, family,
Speaker 1: then the money and what was what would the other
Speaker 1: two careers sound like?
Speaker 2: Work?
Speaker 1: Okay, I want to do what I want to do
Speaker 1: for the money.
Speaker 3: Yeah, money, I tied money in career be so many
Speaker 3: a job Like when people say what is your dream job,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I do not dream of working. What are
Speaker 3: you talking about? Absolutely not?
Speaker 1: And what was the other one? The hobbies and hobbies
Speaker 1: I would like for my hobby to make me some money. Okay,
Speaker 1: so here we are talking ship that that's that's goal.
Speaker 1: I've always wanted a job being myself because I think
Speaker 1: when you start, when you work for other people, even
Speaker 1: when you running a business of some sort, you have
Speaker 1: to put a hat on for that.
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't like not being me, so I think I'm
Speaker 1: pretty cool.
Speaker 3: So mm hm.
Speaker 1: So the hobby can make the money to feed the
Speaker 1: family and I can work out in between. That's goals.
Speaker 2: What you got, no, what made you choose that? Help?
Speaker 1: So I have this the skin disorder called uh it
Speaker 1: is petrisis, so pretty ry is having too rosia and
Speaker 1: you know roseaesia rosatia, so it's petty rized rosia. And
Speaker 1: and what I think I got diagnosed to that in
Speaker 1: like twenty thirteen. And I feel like it's viral because
Speaker 1: my niece came to my house with like a little
Speaker 1: spot on her and then all of a sudden I
Speaker 1: broke out in the spot. But maybe it just exposed
Speaker 1: something pre existent.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: But it wasn't until I started removing shit from my
Speaker 1: diet right and then adding things back on that I
Speaker 1: could see what was actually helping because the dermatologist doctors,
Speaker 1: they don't really have a cure for half the ship
Speaker 1: that they don't feel like having a cure, right exactly.
Speaker 1: So starting with a fast, and then I did vegan,
Speaker 1: and I couldn't keep up with that shit because if
Speaker 1: you're real vegan, like you're looking at you're looking at
Speaker 1: like all the byproducts and stuff you can't eat shit for.
Speaker 1: And then I added fish back of my diet. But
Speaker 1: it was the chicken, the chicken that was causing my
Speaker 1: skin to break out.
Speaker 2: I would have thought beef already.
Speaker 1: What Actually, I had stopped eating pork and beef wit
Speaker 1: even before I stopped eating chicken. I did turkey and
Speaker 1: chicken for a while, and then I just took that
Speaker 1: ship on my diet and my skin clear though, so
Speaker 1: I eat for my blood type. At this point I.
Speaker 4: Saw a book about of blood type. If you if
Speaker 4: you this, you get this, need this, And I'm like, dank.
Speaker 4: Some of that stuff on actually got right, especially with
Speaker 4: the dairies.
Speaker 3: I mean, so I don't think none of us should
Speaker 3: eat dairy honestly because of the mucus and all that stuff.
Speaker 2: But let me do mine.
Speaker 3: Niggas talk about dairy. Hold on, let me give you
Speaker 3: my list. So obviously, for me, health is first, Uh
Speaker 3: I do I don't say I have MS. MS tries
Speaker 3: to have me, but it don't. So I always have
Speaker 3: to be very mindful of my health. So that be
Speaker 3: first for me. Family, because your wealth is in your family,
Speaker 3: honestly to me. Next would be I guess money because
Speaker 3: you can't do. I guess because I mean I love it.
Speaker 3: I mean, I like money, but I just don't love money.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't love money. I just like I
Speaker 3: love the things that money can provide, but I just
Speaker 3: don't love money Like I could. I would be happy.
Speaker 1: I could be.
Speaker 3: Happy with a man that I love, living on some island,
Speaker 3: like growing my own fruit and vegetables, and like renting
Speaker 3: jet skis or something shit like that if I was
Speaker 3: in love life. Yeah, so so I'll be okay with
Speaker 3: that and without a whole bunch of money. And then hobbies,
Speaker 3: you know, I mean, I guess hobbies would be last
Speaker 3: for everybody because they are extracurricular in comparison to these things.
Speaker 3: So that's the list.
Speaker 4: Other than we talk back some hobbies andy.
Speaker 1: Shit, I'll be studying the starking mat all day making money.
Speaker 3: I love movies. I love comedies like stand up that's
Speaker 3: my ship. I love any stand up that comes out.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna watch it. Books. I'm an avid reader, So
Speaker 3: me and my sister, Yeah, what's my favorite book? If
Speaker 3: I had to pick a favorite book, I guess it
Speaker 3: would be Okay, let me ask this question, The Alchemist.
Speaker 2: That's a. That's a. I would say, what book made
Speaker 2: you like reading?
Speaker 3: Would be The Alchemist. That was one of my first
Speaker 3: ones that I read, like cover to cover real quick,
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, this is inspiring. What is
Speaker 3: my legend? Personal legend like that?
Speaker 2: Growing up?
Speaker 4: But I was getting in trouble if my mom gave
Speaker 4: me sister Soldier the Coldest.
Speaker 3: Whatever, that's everybody black man.
Speaker 1: I even that as an adult though with it, like
Speaker 1: when she came out with that last book.
Speaker 3: That book, read that book to the what did you
Speaker 3: think of a new one?
Speaker 1: It was so it was weird, Okay, it was trash.
Speaker 3: It was let's called the Spade and Spade. It was
Speaker 3: so weird.
Speaker 1: It was it wasn't trash, but it was. It was
Speaker 1: winter speaking from the grady essentially, right, was.
Speaker 3: That when she turned into a dog.
Speaker 8: I was like, man, I'm sorry, I was mad.
Speaker 3: I was like man third ist in the fire.
Speaker 1: She was the one to release the book. That's how
Speaker 1: I feel.
Speaker 3: She must have been an under contrary. What was it? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 3: those were good. Those were excellent. Black. You should read that.
Speaker 3: You would read it so quick. It was so good.
Speaker 4: That's what actually made me dial in and so like
Speaker 4: Aaron Jerome Dickley and like that, like like the sex
Speaker 4: books actually got.
Speaker 3: So let's pause for a commercial and we are going
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Speaker 3: we are back, and I already got some questions for you.
Speaker 3: Tell us your top three anxieties as a man. Oh,
Speaker 3: I wasn't ready for that, questions.
Speaker 2: Grow three anxieties? You already got some. I don't know, man, that's.
Speaker 3: Because you know, like I feel like men aren't really
Speaker 3: like vulnerable enough with themselves to even know their anxieties.
Speaker 4: It makes you got to it makes you think, you know,
Speaker 4: I would definitely say anything going wrong with your family.
Speaker 2: First, Like I would say that's the top one.
Speaker 4: I want to make sure everything to do with your
Speaker 4: family at all times and out having kids in our life.
Speaker 2: You want to like, what's going on you know, Oh, I.
Speaker 4: Would say feeling. Feeling is a big one. You know,
Speaker 4: you don't want to you don't want to fail as
Speaker 4: a man. You know you have goals, you have things
Speaker 4: you want to do. So I guess that fear of
Speaker 4: feeling would always keep you motivated to to not fail.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: So I'll say that's number two.
Speaker 1: Three, feeling at what like for you? Just because that's subjective. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not reaching your full potential.
Speaker 2: Not reaching your.
Speaker 4: Full potential, that's a big one. Like if you know,
Speaker 4: like yo, I know I could be a mean, I
Speaker 4: know I can do this. I know I get that.
Speaker 4: You definitely want to make sure that you can strive
Speaker 4: to that. So just feeling that anything I would say
Speaker 4: in general, but I would say feeling that your goals,
Speaker 4: if you got a goal, feeling that your number one goal,
Speaker 4: not your fifth goal, your number one goal.
Speaker 2: That could that's an anxiety. Third, that's a tough one.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I have to think about something for
Speaker 2: number three. But family and failings like you.
Speaker 5: About and when you say family, I'm I'm gonna say
Speaker 5: specific beely like parents, mm hmm, like.
Speaker 1: You have children?
Speaker 2: Eighteen year old?
Speaker 3: So old?
Speaker 5: Okay, feeling like you didn't do enough, or if you
Speaker 5: could do something different, or just not doing it.
Speaker 2: I guess what'suse.
Speaker 5: I guess what they consider right in what you might
Speaker 5: see it right is gonna be two different things sometimes,
Speaker 5: So I guess it's not being the parent that they
Speaker 5: particularly need in that particular had. But that's a that's
Speaker 5: a big thing that I guess I think about a
Speaker 5: lot when it comes to like raising up.
Speaker 2: A black boy in the world when live in Yeah,
Speaker 2: like you said, just feeling that career wise, I think.
Speaker 5: It's that you know, you good at things that you
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying you Lilly gagg or just and
Speaker 5: they can lead back to your like you said, family
Speaker 5: or parents or y'all.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You feel that this so
Speaker 2: you can't do that for your kid or for your
Speaker 2: wife or something like that.
Speaker 4: So, yeah, money doesn't solve everything, but reaching those goals.
Speaker 4: I feel like if you don't get that money, you
Speaker 4: can't provide for that family. Yeah, and then sometimes you
Speaker 4: might just say it that I feel like, you know,
Speaker 4: I mean, know my kid. You know, it's all types
Speaker 4: of shit. So yeah, third one, that's tough.
Speaker 3: I don't know, yes, those two are good.
Speaker 1: That's like a major one though not reaching your foot
Speaker 1: from me? Right, I used to be afraid of like
Speaker 1: God for what until I realize, like it's inside me, right,
Speaker 1: ship like that or being homeless was always a fair
Speaker 1: for me. That's what I'm saying, Like once you, bitch,
Speaker 1: I don't restart my life a couple of times, and.
Speaker 3: I'm living out a suitcase right now, so there's no
Speaker 3: good at it, okay.
Speaker 2: Like that like middle school, like going to high school?
Speaker 4: That should Actually it humbleed me to a point where
Speaker 4: like it don't matter what I go through, I can
Speaker 4: push them anything because I went through that for sure.
Speaker 3: Are my questions too deep?
Speaker 1: Yes, bitch? Anyway, so when you dating a bitch, all right,
Speaker 1: here's I may not talk about women like that. When
Speaker 1: you going to date with a woman or when you're
Speaker 1: dealing with a woman, what are some of the like
Speaker 1: things that because I want to preface this question a
Speaker 1: little bit. For women, right, when we don't like a guy,
Speaker 1: we can point out exactly why we don't like them.
Speaker 1: I don't like it's something that we were having all tight,
Speaker 1: Like we can tell our friends exactly why we don't
Speaker 1: like no, I don't think they're petty at all, But
Speaker 1: I don't think men are able to men actually start.
Speaker 1: I feel like men stop talking to women for the
Speaker 1: most subtle bullshit. What are some things that women do
Speaker 1: to make you be like? Nah, I ain't funk with
Speaker 1: this no more. I don't like her, like because you
Speaker 1: want to at least have sex with her? What makes
Speaker 1: you not want to have sex with a woman? No more?
Speaker 3: Nothing like?
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the last time I fucking no more.
Speaker 3: I'm done with this.
Speaker 1: About Oh ye're just something about?
Speaker 3: What's like? What does the turnoff for you? That's just like,
Speaker 3: I don't I'm not feeling it. Cringe.
Speaker 2: I don't like a conceited woman.
Speaker 3: And what does conceit look like to you?
Speaker 5: Like that that your your self compliment sounds like insecurity?
Speaker 1: Now, I'm a bad itch like that every day? Right
Speaker 1: to convince herself?
Speaker 2: Let me compliment you know what I'm saying. Okay, let's
Speaker 2: make it.
Speaker 6: A reason to to make sense in the moment and
Speaker 6: not just say it every day all day or telling
Speaker 6: it he didn't say it enough, like what you're doing right?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: So what I'm hearing is you don't like women with
Speaker 1: a lot of insecurities because that that does come off
Speaker 1: as me as being.
Speaker 5: Because I understand it, like I feel like your energy,
Speaker 5: the way you walk and give you that that what you're.
Speaker 2: Talking about it is like you need to hear it
Speaker 2: more something. So that's all. It just can be a
Speaker 2: little like too much idea. Yeah about like a I would.
Speaker 4: Say, not being discreet. You know, there's certain things that
Speaker 4: we talk about. You feel like you've got like you
Speaker 4: got to put it out there or talk to so
Speaker 4: and so about it. Not being discreet. I feel like
Speaker 4: that's a turn off to me because like you know,
Speaker 4: like I got a close family and we're closing certain things,
Speaker 4: like you got to keep certain parts of your like private,
Speaker 4: and I feel like not being discreet or in the
Speaker 4: social media era.
Speaker 3: Are dirty, laundery on it.
Speaker 4: I come from a city where people, you know, South
Speaker 4: Beach is one of those things. But like you don't
Speaker 4: want to always post certain things because somebody might pull.
Speaker 2: Up on you, you know, things like that.
Speaker 4: So I would say, like being discreet, having a certain
Speaker 4: way you carry yourself, like yeah, we could post it
Speaker 4: we're here, but don't do it in real time. Or
Speaker 4: we could flaunt some shit flex or some shit, but
Speaker 4: do it in a way where it's like it's not
Speaker 4: exposing us, you know, whether that's whether we're mary situationship
Speaker 4: or we're just talking like if I didn't actually can
Speaker 4: take a picture, wellf ially give a cent my picture, Like,
Speaker 4: you know, we got a situationship, we understanding that we're
Speaker 4: not public.
Speaker 3: You know, that's so true. I went out with this
Speaker 3: guy one time and it was our first day and
Speaker 3: he was like, can we take a picture? I was like, sure,
Speaker 3: we can take a picture. And then I mean, he
Speaker 3: invited me to move in with him on the first date,
Speaker 3: so I was like, okay, this.
Speaker 1: Niggas next level, you know what he wanted.
Speaker 3: But that was too much for the first day. But
Speaker 3: that wasn't even that was I know, we didn't even
Speaker 3: sleep together. It was just like we went to we
Speaker 3: went to then and we went to lunch. That was it.
Speaker 3: And then I went home and later, because we were
Speaker 3: he had we met on Facebook. So this is how
Speaker 3: long ago that was. So when I got home, I
Speaker 3: was on Facebook and he posted a picture and tagged
Speaker 3: me and his family and his cousins and all these
Speaker 3: people in this picture and made a post like why
Speaker 3: like like on some wifey vibes. And that was like
Speaker 3: a huge turnoff for me because nigga, I don't even
Speaker 3: know you like that.
Speaker 5: The first baddy, he's gonna lose his mind and so
Speaker 5: you got to check the nigga history probably right, I
Speaker 5: see somebody was losing his mind, like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: she really went he knew that's it's crazy.
Speaker 1: That first daddy ship is a real thing.
Speaker 3: I see.
Speaker 1: I've seen something that was like, you don't want to
Speaker 1: be a man's friends daddy because they don't know how
Speaker 1: to act. They don't they be insecure as fun, like
Speaker 1: this is what you wanted and when you get it,
Speaker 1: you're trying to dismantle it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. You can't be like that, you know, man,
Speaker 2: it ain't yours. Man.
Speaker 4: If your girl choose, let her do a thing like
Speaker 4: you know, so at the end of like you can't.
Speaker 4: You got to know that at the end of the day.
Speaker 3: But some some men get upset, like if you're out
Speaker 3: with him and you're posting a picture of the food,
Speaker 3: he all in did you give me in the picture?
Speaker 3: Paved with that to lock you?
Speaker 4: I feel like if you take that, like you know anonymous,
Speaker 4: like yo, you don't know, but you know you see
Speaker 4: them like bank.
Speaker 5: For the discretion because on the situation, right, don't put
Speaker 5: me on the food with mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Some men don't like that though, Like don't text your
Speaker 3: picture of the food that I'm paying for and then
Speaker 3: I'm not in it.
Speaker 1: I try to have my phone out whatever I'm on
Speaker 1: a date or something like that.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't even.
Speaker 4: You enjoyed the vibes like I do, say, like if
Speaker 4: somebody want to do that, that's the securities we.
Speaker 2: Were talking about, Like, Yo, I gotta be in a
Speaker 2: picture much. I got to know them.
Speaker 4: What you I'm like you keeping that ship player, Like
Speaker 4: that makes sense. You gotta do it discreet, like you
Speaker 4: wonder who's with me, You wonder what's going on?
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, that's not like you're like see a little sneaker,
Speaker 3: a little wrists. That's it.
Speaker 1: So as a single man, John, John, what are some
Speaker 1: misconceptions you believe that people get our people have about
Speaker 1: single people are single men, especially a single emotions?
Speaker 2: Okay, they're always true. Some probably fit the description, but
Speaker 2: not everybody.
Speaker 3: What about you?
Speaker 2: I got emotions I used to do.
Speaker 3: How long ago did you delete your wholeness? Yesterday, she
Speaker 3: might happen again to night.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you need to go through.
Speaker 3: Do you think women should have a hostage?
Speaker 2: We don't got it. You don't suck up a good thing.
Speaker 2: Go out there, you knocking the streets. Don't love you
Speaker 2: for real?
Speaker 3: So you would want your woman to have a hostage before.
Speaker 2: I don't care about the history. Don't give me the
Speaker 2: DETAI mean, we can't take the details.
Speaker 5: But just no, and you I feel like you can
Speaker 5: kind of not all men but me, like I can
Speaker 5: probably get a by you did your things most.
Speaker 2: Of the time.
Speaker 1: Just like, is it in the head like.
Speaker 4: This before I want to look, I want to learn
Speaker 4: to teach me something, you know, exactly a little experience.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't. Don't be here, not ar back. You
Speaker 2: got scary can step back, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: You will finally.
Speaker 1: Y'all be running out Sometimes you literally gotta do yoga
Speaker 1: and stretch before the sessions.
Speaker 5: Man, like just your social media everything people listening to
Speaker 5: want to talk about making a little the move.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, dress, throw your bank out.
Speaker 1: All kinds. I always say I'm glad to know the
Speaker 1: man because man like I couldn't do that, like I
Speaker 1: couldn't do all that thrusting my back. I respect it now.
Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna question. Now I'm in a question, but
Speaker 1: having it like slang dick. I don't think I could
Speaker 1: do it like I'll be a lazy ass nigga. Okay,
Speaker 1: get on top, not on the side.
Speaker 2: Be good. This is why you want that experience.
Speaker 4: You know, you don't want nobody that came satisfying that
Speaker 4: you want someone to cut up for, So cut.
Speaker 5: Up for show it again. I guess you still gotta
Speaker 5: both have experience because as a nigga, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying. You kissed that willing that got that.
Speaker 2: Now you crazy just like so would you prefer? So?
Speaker 3: Would you prefer a woman who came already ready to
Speaker 3: know how to do everything or someone who you could
Speaker 3: teach to do it just how you like it?
Speaker 5: Yet, first we can be talked to, so supposed to
Speaker 5: deal with somebody like everybody likes stuff different, So we're
Speaker 5: dealing with them.
Speaker 2: You gonna, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Learn what they like and but you ain't gonna be
Speaker 1: trying to figure out how she who taught her how
Speaker 1: to do that easy time?
Speaker 2: He would do that?
Speaker 1: You want your dig something, not like why are you
Speaker 1: so concerned about who taught me?
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, that's kind of you know, you know, like
Speaker 2: not teaching me you know what I want you to.
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: What do y'all feel like? Is some of the white
Speaker 3: lies that you're telling the relationship they are just okay,
Speaker 3: like this little white life, little white lies they happen.
Speaker 3: Let's not pretend like.
Speaker 1: They don't have a sample. Give me an example of
Speaker 1: your white lie, bitch, despite the major lie, a.
Speaker 3: White lie that I might tell, h no, no, no,
Speaker 3: no no, Like if he asks something and I give
Speaker 3: a white lie, like let's say, oh no, I don't
Speaker 3: lie to my nigga about how his fit. The men
Speaker 3: a lot to a woman about how they feel. That's
Speaker 3: a white lie that a man will tell. But I'm
Speaker 3: never gonna lie to my nigga because I don't want him, Like, boy,
Speaker 3: what the fuck is that you gotta? But men do that.
Speaker 3: But I would say, like, let's say if my man
Speaker 3: just was trying to be nice and was like, I'm
Speaker 3: gonna cook something for you and it don't taste good
Speaker 3: like that, I might, yeah, but just because a person
Speaker 3: can cook doesn't mean their food is always good, right,
Speaker 3: you can have an off meal. So I would be like, oh,
Speaker 3: this is good, and then I call my home girl like, girl,
Speaker 3: I'm shipping right now because this nigga, this bullshit. My stomach. Fuck,
Speaker 3: he's talk about, Oh, what's my favorite meal? Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: I guess I don't know if I have a favorite meal.
Speaker 3: I guess I love a good mac and cheese. I
Speaker 3: love all right, so hold on, you're judging me. Why
Speaker 3: would you assume? No, You're right, But that was just.
Speaker 2: What kind of what kind of mac and cheese?
Speaker 3: Though, like like black South Carolina baked mac and cheese
Speaker 3: with all the cheese and the milk and the butter
Speaker 3: and the eggs. I love that.
Speaker 4: If you cook all your favorite foods around some craft macaroni,
Speaker 4: how would you.
Speaker 3: Feel around the craft? That's the white line. I was like,
Speaker 3: this ship was busting, baby bitch. He had a box
Speaker 3: macaroni and cheese on the.
Speaker 2: Bring the craft.
Speaker 3: I would just say, this was just because of the
Speaker 3: effort that it took to go into it, and like no,
Speaker 3: but everything else, he did the best he could. And
Speaker 3: I'm just grateful that he wanted to please me in
Speaker 3: that way. So that is a wide.
Speaker 2: Line, lady.
Speaker 3: Effort, it's the effort. It's the for ever that the kitchen.
Speaker 1: Just try. I don't like what I get on my nerves.
Speaker 3: If you can read, you can cook.
Speaker 4: That's how I put love into it, though, ye matter.
Speaker 2: Man, look like everybody putting YouTube on your phone. I
Speaker 2: don't care.
Speaker 3: That's so what's the white lie? Y'all have told a woman.
Speaker 2: Outfit for sure?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was something like, Yo, hey, you like that,
Speaker 4: but if you like it, if you look it gonna
Speaker 4: be an outfit I hate.
Speaker 2: But I might not like it as much as you
Speaker 2: like it. I don't I don't care to tell you
Speaker 2: not to wear.
Speaker 4: I might say something about it, but at the same time, like, yo,
Speaker 4: do you I want to see your style. I want
Speaker 4: to see what you like to wear. So I might
Speaker 4: not like it, but I'm be like, yo, that's your fire,
Speaker 4: do your thing for me.
Speaker 3: So yeah, now see that would piss me off because
Speaker 3: if I see you in your group chat like man,
Speaker 3: my blue chair or some foolish That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Look, yo, you wore that ship the other day because
Speaker 4: you want to wear I feel I with it. It
Speaker 4: depends on your attitude when you rocket That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: So if I don't like your attitude.
Speaker 3: Is don't like, Yo, you need to tell me if
Speaker 3: I look stupid, like don't let me leave like that.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell my nigga every time if it's out here.
Speaker 4: Hey, I think you should do this, but I want
Speaker 4: to take away from the whole songble like, Yo, that's
Speaker 4: what you want to do because we got but that
Speaker 4: would be my white lie.
Speaker 2: Like hey, if you like it, I love it, he said.
Speaker 1: I just need you to be able to do all
Speaker 1: the things right. I don't want to always see sneakers
Speaker 1: and basketball shorts with the fitted you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I like, I got a whole sneakerhead, okay, like for real,
Speaker 1: for real.
Speaker 3: And the only time to wear a suit is the court.
Speaker 4: But let me be clear, let me speak for all
Speaker 4: sneakers when I say this, Like, you know, sometimes it's
Speaker 4: a it's a sneaker for everything you could, you could.
Speaker 2: Find one that will set it off the right way.
Speaker 4: Like I remember doing sneaker balls before there was even
Speaker 4: a hot commodity.
Speaker 3: Like I hate sneaker balls.
Speaker 1: I hate when they first because if I hated it.
Speaker 4: Kids doing it it's kind of like, Okay, it's gone,
Speaker 4: but but at the same time, it's a sneaker for
Speaker 4: every outfit I feel, you know, so I had.
Speaker 3: A gown and a sneaker together. It's just never I've
Speaker 3: never seen one that I was like, that was excellent. Yeah,
Speaker 3: based on thing. It never translates for me. Like the
Speaker 3: suits and the sneakers they can get away with, but
Speaker 3: the women in the gowns and the sneakers, it's just like, girl.
Speaker 2: Did y'all have a jersey dress?
Speaker 3: Era? Yeah, we were allied for that. We were alive
Speaker 3: for that era. I can't even tell you. I guess
Speaker 3: what Charlotte the Magic, Yeah, that was like the bulls.
Speaker 1: What's what's one of the best things for you about
Speaker 1: being married?
Speaker 2: Experiences?
Speaker 4: For sure, hands down, Like you remember when we went here,
Speaker 4: Like you ever look back at like old pictures of yourself,
Speaker 4: You remember where you was at you hear a song,
Speaker 4: you remember where you were at that time. I would
Speaker 4: say being married different experiences, different situations. Like we could
Speaker 4: laugh about you having a peel on the side of
Speaker 4: the road, you know what I'm saying. We could laugh
Speaker 4: about no, seriously, we could laugh about the time we
Speaker 4: went to such and such place and I fell down
Speaker 4: the stairs, you know what I mean, Like I would
Speaker 4: say experiences like that's probably one of the best parts
Speaker 4: in like having two JITs now to kids telling them
Speaker 4: like yo, hey, me and mom did this, or showing them,
Speaker 4: you know, like you can see the picture we were
Speaker 4: right here, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: And I feel like experiences matter the most.
Speaker 1: What's the best part to you about being single?
Speaker 2: All right? Probably not having to feel obligated to listen
Speaker 2: to let so unstressed something that least.
Speaker 7: That's like as a husband, no people, but you sometimes
Speaker 7: white first, you're gonna be a punching bag.
Speaker 5: Let me tell you what you're gonna have to listen about, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying. But other than that, but.
Speaker 3: Uh right, so she comes out with her work drama,
Speaker 3: like let me tell you what that bitch Brenda did
Speaker 3: today at work, and you don't have to Yeah, you
Speaker 3: don't want to hear about that.
Speaker 1: You mean to be a bunch of surface level things
Speaker 1: like that, Like that's like the main thing you don't want.
Speaker 1: That sounds like you don't want to talk to a
Speaker 1: woman then to me, like I don't feel like having
Speaker 1: a topic.
Speaker 2: I still came, but I don't. I feel like a husband.
Speaker 1: I feel like you obligated to talk to your wife.
Speaker 2: Versus me can selectively when you don't want to.
Speaker 1: Talk to.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel you on that because I was listening
Speaker 3: and I'll be like, my mam will calling me. I'm it's.
Speaker 1: So, where do I do like enjoy conversations with my
Speaker 1: homegirls over a man?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And that's fucked up. Listen.
Speaker 2: I wish we would understand that too, because you get
Speaker 2: that all the time. Members we talk about the same ship.
Speaker 2: Nig I can't tell you right. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: You don't care about sports. We really talk about sports
Speaker 5: for hours straight. You don't drink beer. We can literally
Speaker 5: talk about drinking beer. Like what I'm saying, I'll drink beer, dude.
Speaker 1: But when me and Sam started this podcast, I was
Speaker 1: in another relationship and we would talk about stuff, a
Speaker 1: different one. It's a different one, but it's old, okay,
Speaker 1: it's a refurbished relationship. I'm calling it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So when we first started a relationship, I was engaged
Speaker 1: at the time to somebody else, and the things we
Speaker 1: talk about. He would say, I didn't know that I'm like,
Speaker 1: you're not supposed to know that, Like I'm talking to
Speaker 1: my homegirl. Our conversations are supposed to be the same,
Speaker 1: Like they're just not going to really not as interesting
Speaker 1: as my friends.
Speaker 3: Okay, talking to that's not the engagement.
Speaker 2: This was the one that you wasn't she was engaged.
Speaker 1: No, he's definitely. He was definitely interesting. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: like when you dealing with somebody every day, we see
Speaker 1: each other every day, we don't have no new stories.
Speaker 1: Like my homegirls they living life, they outside, like I
Speaker 1: want to hear this stuff. And then when we having
Speaker 1: these conversations, we're talking about past things, things that don't
Speaker 1: have nothing to do anymore.
Speaker 3: So yeah, like why would you be having that conversation,
Speaker 3: Like why.
Speaker 1: Would I talk to you about sending me some dick
Speaker 1: one time? Like why would you know that?
Speaker 3: Why does everybody keep having to bring that up? It
Speaker 3: was one time? It was pandemic, I was lonely. Okay,
Speaker 3: let's move on.
Speaker 1: Sonny asked me about that ship last week.
Speaker 4: No situationships though that you might have had passed or whatever.
Speaker 4: Right do you feel that soul.
Speaker 2: Tars are real?
Speaker 1: Absolutely? You need to Like sometimes people be living in
Speaker 1: you like you not got rid of them, but they
Speaker 1: just they still there. You need to do you listen
Speaker 1: Lionsgate August eighth, and it's twenty twenty four, which is
Speaker 1: also eight is coming up on the eighth. Y'all, bet
Speaker 1: do y'all some spiritual baths and watch some of these
Speaker 1: niggas out, okay, because they still be around you.
Speaker 3: What is a spiritual bad?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, men can do it.
Speaker 3: What is a spiritual band?
Speaker 1: For sure? A lot of things. But magic is just
Speaker 1: about the intention. So you any everybody's like a like cooking,
Speaker 1: like a recipe. Everybody got a different recipe. I can
Speaker 1: give you a recipe for a spiritual bath, but you
Speaker 1: can do your own little little thing. No, you could
Speaker 1: do your own little thing. But it's the intention that
Speaker 1: you put on what you're doing. Right, So I always
Speaker 1: tell people don't order shit online, like go to the store.
Speaker 1: It's the whole thing. So is it like the tanica?
Speaker 1: Go there, get you put my.
Speaker 3: Legs in the air, blow steam at like I saying,
Speaker 3: even you can do the steam too.
Speaker 1: You can start there, set your ass in the bathtub.
Speaker 1: You might need to put a cap full of bleaching
Speaker 1: that No, seriously, I don't need that. I got a
Speaker 1: cap full of bleach. I'm serious, though, like, okay to talk.
Speaker 2: About tell me.
Speaker 3: Goodness. All right, I got one last question for you
Speaker 3: guys before we get out of here. What would you
Speaker 3: say your greatest regret is thus far.
Speaker 1: Relationship wise? Is just overall?
Speaker 3: Like over all?
Speaker 4: I usually say, like, don't regret things you do, regret
Speaker 4: things that you don't do. So it's hard for me
Speaker 4: to like really answer that one, because like you living,
Speaker 4: you learn without without doing something, you won't know what
Speaker 4: to do forward, like yeah, fucked up that time, but
Speaker 4: I know that the next time, or yeah.
Speaker 3: Like so no regrets.
Speaker 1: The regrets probably be repeated, probably be uh just doing
Speaker 1: what you love.
Speaker 2: Earlier in life.
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like that retail world was like super
Speaker 2: draining for me. Nothing they can't see know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I loved it.
Speaker 5: But cooking and cooking here like I can be like, okay,
Speaker 5: I'm excited to get this.
Speaker 3: That makes you happy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to say, I don't know I regret.
Speaker 3: I don't think you don't have no regrets. That's that's excellent.
Speaker 2: No regret.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean again, it's the experience thing to me, Like,
Speaker 4: so I learned from that experience.
Speaker 2: So like I don't regret that happened.
Speaker 4: I don't regret that I did what I did or
Speaker 4: messing up or you know whatever, because like, you know,
Speaker 4: I learned from it.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: So as much as I would want to say it,
Speaker 4: you know, life is an ongoing cycle. I need a
Speaker 4: complete specific projects in my life, and so therefore, at
Speaker 4: this chapter, what happened happened, But the second chapter I
Speaker 4: learned from it, so therefore it went better, you know.
Speaker 4: So I won't say any regrets.
Speaker 3: What about you?
Speaker 1: You don't have any regrets these motherfucking niggas, I don't
Speaker 1: really have. I don't have regrets. You do learn from
Speaker 1: every situation. I just wish, I wish I would have
Speaker 1: learned a lesson and get the fuck up out of there.
Speaker 1: So it's just like staying places too long, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Like, so, we had young women on
Speaker 1: an episode, and you know, don't stay in the wrong
Speaker 1: place too long, you know what I'm.
Speaker 2: Saying, especially if you can go back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't stay in the wrong place too long
Speaker 1: because you know, your relationships really shape your future, So
Speaker 1: you want to make sure like you, even if it's
Speaker 1: somebody you're dating, they add value. So even if y'all
Speaker 1: stop talking, you still you can still remain friends. And
Speaker 1: y'all you still see I got some I know some
Speaker 1: real people, and some of them are probably smash that
Speaker 1: sometimes at one point, but they're doing real good things
Speaker 1: and then you can still have conversations. It's still connections,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And not just everybody. I
Speaker 1: didn't smash everybody. I'm just saying something she did. You
Speaker 1: realize as friends, I'm talking about the deep relationships where
Speaker 1: you know you need to have got the fuck up
Speaker 1: out of there, get out of there sooner than.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 2: Like you say, they similar regret in it, But.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't regret the relationship. I just regret, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing the thing and not getting out of it sooner.
Speaker 1: And I think only women calculate wasting time because we
Speaker 1: literally have a clock, right, So men, y'all can always
Speaker 1: get a younger woman once our good years are gone.
Speaker 1: And that's all we gotta get. Listen, we got to
Speaker 1: hit the cave and running as the team. You know,
Speaker 1: you don't really have a whole lot of time to waste,
Speaker 1: so women calculate time different from men like men. Men
Speaker 1: now consider a relationship with a woman a waste of time,
Speaker 1: but were always telling men, oh, you waste my time.
Speaker 1: But you know, really it was the experience and you
Speaker 1: had to go through that thing to be who you are.
Speaker 2: Now. Both spend time, so yeah, mutually.
Speaker 3: So exactly right.
Speaker 2: I don't think you went with it didn't work out right?
Speaker 3: What's my biggest curgrant? Damn? I hate to admit this,
Speaker 3: this is true though, that was one of but that's
Speaker 3: not my biggest. My biggest hergret is mm. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: say it. I wish I had learned to shut the
Speaker 3: fuck up earlier, like with men like I wish I
Speaker 3: had been so mauthy and I done lest some good
Speaker 3: men pass me by, And here I am whatever age
Speaker 3: I am without a husband. I don't know, my age
Speaker 3: is fluid. But I wish I had learned to just
Speaker 3: pick my battles more wisely and not be so combative
Speaker 3: with men earlier in life. And I probably would be
Speaker 3: somebody's wife right now had I not, I think I would,
Speaker 3: And I've lest some very quality men pass me by
Speaker 3: because of my mouth. Honestly, baby, I used to. I
Speaker 3: don't anymore. Now I can't. I still can if I
Speaker 3: want to, but I don't. Yeah, yeah, that part it
Speaker 3: is in me. But I just learned, like everything ain't
Speaker 3: worth a fight, Everything ain't worth a rebuttal.
Speaker 4: You know, something you learn. I was talking about habitating early.
Speaker 4: That's something you learn in those periods. Like if you
Speaker 4: don't get that out before, then.
Speaker 3: I was terrible. The nigga could be like, Serie, what
Speaker 3: more motherfucking thing? And I'd be like, hmm, I would
Speaker 3: find something to say, you know, just just always.
Speaker 4: But now, so how do you fix that?
Speaker 3: I just think I think growth and wisdom and getting
Speaker 3: older and realizing that it ain't worth a fight, Like
Speaker 3: what did I What did I gain from always having
Speaker 3: something to say? What did I gain? Ain't say that,
Speaker 3: But I'm just going to like be more conscious of
Speaker 3: how I communicate, Like how I'm going to think about
Speaker 3: how my words. What if someone said what I'm saying
Speaker 3: to them to me, how would I take it? You know?
Speaker 1: But you probably still say the things that you would
Speaker 1: probably you would want to change how you singing them,
Speaker 1: because I think that's the problem with that that black
Speaker 1: men in particular have with black women. I was recently
Speaker 1: watching that with Trump on the National Association of Black Journalists,
Speaker 1: and somebody on the YouTube comment was like, because he
Speaker 1: was up there, Trump with three black women, And the
Speaker 1: dude in the comments was like, this is exactly how
Speaker 1: I feel when black women talk to me, because it
Speaker 1: wasn't it time, you know what I'm saying. So I understand,
Speaker 1: like I I I understand, But it's how we say.
Speaker 3: It's how we.
Speaker 1: Say that, right, That's what I choosing to be happy.
Speaker 4: You know. You think I'm old like you can It's
Speaker 4: like you're like, I'm gonna take that from my mom.
Speaker 4: You know, my mom typened me up, but you like
Speaker 4: certainly ways like yo, like just you know, let me
Speaker 4: bob a little bit.
Speaker 2: You don't want too much, you know.
Speaker 1: But I feel like some men are literally sons of bitches.
Speaker 1: So I dated somebody who had a real combative mom.
Speaker 1: So I'm not like that. Right, So now your love
Speaker 1: language is me cussing you out. So you're doing ship
Speaker 1: to get cussed out because now we can make up
Speaker 1: and now you feel loved.
Speaker 3: People that people, Yes, yeah, that is, but that's definitely.
Speaker 1: A lot of black men come from single black women.
Speaker 1: Who were frustrated and angry and mad that they got
Speaker 1: to deal with these kids and where is the man
Speaker 1: daddy maybe and they don't know how to do.
Speaker 4: Like it's just crazy like dukes. But like I remember
Speaker 4: my dad was incarcerated. It would be times like we'll
Speaker 4: be cutting up the house and she'll kick us our
Speaker 4: house like no locked the door and not know, like
Speaker 4: not looking back at it. I'm like, damn, my mom
Speaker 4: was really going through something, you know what I meaning?
Speaker 4: So like some of that stuff she could have projected
Speaker 4: on us in a way, like it could have made break.
Speaker 2: It's three of y'all, so it's like it's one of
Speaker 2: them things.
Speaker 3: So and then here you come in here looking.
Speaker 2: Just like you.
Speaker 3: Wor yeah, get off.
Speaker 2: My to it.
Speaker 4: You know, see where just a parent in general, it
Speaker 4: don't have to be a mom or it could be
Speaker 4: a dad to like sense of a parent fall on
Speaker 4: the child. Some things that you might have went through
Speaker 4: could have an effect job, you know.
Speaker 2: So it's it's best I.
Speaker 4: Would say, have a clear mind and a lot of
Speaker 4: that stuff and just try to raise them mutually.
Speaker 1: And I'm calling y'all mama's bitches. I'm just saying, though,
Speaker 1: you know your mom was on your neck. We're not
Speaker 1: that's on your neck.
Speaker 3: We just call it as a collective.
Speaker 1: Collectively, the bitches.
Speaker 3: Creatures.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So before we do have a segment
Speaker 1: when we talked back, we got simp series for men. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you gotta tell us the time y'all got played
Speaker 1: by a woman or whoever.
Speaker 2: Real easy way to say this, but damn.
Speaker 4: I had a situation in high school where I was
Speaker 4: caught up she in't doing different things like that. So
Speaker 4: I would say my experience came from carma with that
Speaker 4: freshman year of college, like you know, I'm out of
Speaker 4: here doing.
Speaker 2: My own thing. I still got that relationship back home
Speaker 2: in Mia.
Speaker 4: I'm in South Carolina and I'm doing me or whatever,
Speaker 4: and the joint I was feeling like like I bought
Speaker 4: some I feel like I've bought a bunch of shit
Speaker 4: for valance. I was day all right, And I typically
Speaker 4: don't do that for nobody, like yo, my mind something
Speaker 4: for you fuck me, you know what I mean? So
Speaker 4: I would say I did that, and at the end
Speaker 4: of the night there was really not a situation and
Speaker 4: not over that.
Speaker 2: Not only that, it was like another situation at all.
Speaker 2: It was crazy, right, So it was one of the
Speaker 2: situations like damn, like what the fuck?
Speaker 4: Meanwhile I'm cutting up on what was happening in Miami,
Speaker 4: So like that was like my instant karma, Like yo,
Speaker 4: I'm playing you down here doing what I'm doing in
Speaker 4: f C and then I get played in that C
Speaker 4: by somebody from VA and it was like fuck. It
Speaker 4: was like damn that eventually happened, you know, it still happened,
Speaker 4: but it didn't happen at that time. I just remember
Speaker 4: myself looking at myself like, bro, I want to custs
Speaker 4: this whole lot, you know what I mean. And it
Speaker 4: was one of a situation like and it was key.
Speaker 4: I did snap a little bit because it was it
Speaker 4: was a dumb ass situation like it was. I don't
Speaker 4: want to bring up a high school situation, but it
Speaker 4: was like freshman of college, you still kind of on
Speaker 4: them high school jit vobes, but you stepping into the world.
Speaker 4: So it's like, yo, I learned instantly that it's instant karma, Like, bro,
Speaker 4: you it's gonna happen.
Speaker 2: And I felt like a sucker. I'm like I watch
Speaker 2: you on this ship, and you know what, I mean
Speaker 2: that was on them like it was crazy.
Speaker 3: Again, thank you.
Speaker 2: It did happen. But she got me, I got you. Dang. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this thing from Charleston for real went war hopping. That's
Speaker 2: all that she was kind of feeling me a little bit,
Speaker 2: but it was it was just for the dreams, That's
Speaker 2: all I'm gonna say. It was time to go, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean it was like we just went separate ways and.
Speaker 3: I thought I was gonna get something that ain't that bad,
Speaker 3: like you just but I.
Speaker 5: Guess like I came up different lane on circle like,
Speaker 5: so I'm gonna see it before it happened in that aspect,
Speaker 5: but I wish I would have saw that.
Speaker 3: So what you were anticipating that the drinks was gonna
Speaker 3: get you something?
Speaker 2: Talked about what it was. I just meant like I
Speaker 2: came to Charleston for this, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Oh damn.
Speaker 3: So the conversation was like, oh, it's going down and
Speaker 3: I see yeah.
Speaker 1: And then so did she even let you come back
Speaker 1: to the crib or you had to go back.
Speaker 5: And somebody driving you drive let nobody follow you.
Speaker 1: I was just straight lost to you on the highway.
Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, Tokyo, drip your ass.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I feel you.
Speaker 1: God damn, I feel you.
Speaker 3: Getaway driving y'all.
Speaker 4: I would say this, y'all are different down in Chawston,
Speaker 4: like me being from Florida and like coming up here
Speaker 4: Carolina different. You know, he got his different Like Chaunton
Speaker 4: is really good. You can tell that was like throwbacks, man,
Speaker 4: I messed with it.
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