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Speaker 1: But Part five you ready for it? Were locking in?

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Speaker 1: According to his cheating wife's public post, she is expecting.

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Speaker 1: I have spoken to my insurance company and they said

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Speaker 1: If so, a contact or advice on how to find

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Speaker 2: Most of his movement back. There you go.

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Speaker 2: But what do you think? What should op do? I

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Speaker 2: because I feel like there is a way, there has

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Speaker 2: an update, John, let's get into it. Update.

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Speaker 1: United came through and paid ninety five percent of the

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Speaker 1: So at least it ended up with a fifty five

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Speaker 2: And you know, like in the grand scheme of things,

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Speaker 2: But even if OP never you gets the money back.

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Speaker 2: Not bad, not bad.

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Speaker 1: Going from fifty five K to four point six k

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, covered by insurance, totally fine, got it removed, right,

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Speaker 2: Come on, how shity is that? Dude?

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna leave with a gaping hole, like like,

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Speaker 4: Yeah it is.

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Speaker 2: Did I just find one million dollars? I just discovered

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Speaker 2: bought an island for eight hundred thousand. I'm just buying

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Speaker 1: I twenty six male, recently bought out my cousins and

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Speaker 1: I said, I would give them the cash and the

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Speaker 2: Right here? I actually think if it was their grandparents,

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Speaker 2: I think it should be split among the family. Here

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Speaker 2: divide the value by how many people there are, you know,

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Speaker 1: My husband's new bimbo is stealing my daughter's money and clothes.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to sue for full custody. So am I

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Speaker 4: Why don't we take them for everything they got?

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Speaker 1: I thirty six female, have a daughter, Sadi twelve, with

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Speaker 1: She just doesn't want to work. While John works at

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Speaker 1: than what I usually buy her. I asked her why

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00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:06,719
Speaker 1: that is, and she told me that while she's at

443
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:10,080
Speaker 1: her dad's, Amanda takes away her knife clothes and gives

444
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 1: them to her kids, while Sadie gets the clothes they.

445
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 2: Buy from targets. Wow, this is like the worst case

446
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:20,240
Speaker 2: of robinhood I've ever heard. Let's try from the rich

447
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:23,159
Speaker 2: your kids and give to the poor my kids.

448
00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 1: I asked if she wanted them back, but she said

449
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,120
Speaker 1: she didn't mind sharing since all her favorite clothes were

450
00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 1: kept here, which is a phenomenal attitude. The problem came

451
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:33,879
Speaker 1: when I went to pick her up last weekend. I

452
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 1: had a business meeting and couldn't drive her over, so

453
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 1: Amanda offered to just pick Sadie up from school, which

454
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 1: hadn't happened before. When I got there on Sunday, John

455
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,800
Speaker 1: and Amanda asked me to sit down with them, and

456
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 1: when Sadie came to hug me, Amanda sent her to

457
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:51,880
Speaker 1: her room quite harshly, saying her punishment wasn't over yet.

458
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 1: I was confused because Sadie very rarely misbehaves. They sat

459
00:21:57,119 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 1: me down in the kitchen and said it was unfair

460
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: for Sadie to be going to private school while her

461
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,959
Speaker 1: kids had to go to a public one. So they

462
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 1: had decided that Sadie would be pulled out of the

463
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 1: private school and put in the same school as the girls.

464
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 4: What you're fucking bunkers.

465
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 2: What the fuck?

466
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,040
Speaker 1: And this is like a private school that OP is

467
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 1: paying for. You do not get to decide this, They said.

468
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 1: I should keep up Sadie's punishment because when they told her,

469
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 1: she blew up at them, told them it wasn't fair

470
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:32,800
Speaker 1: and yelled that Amanda and her kids weren't even her

471
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: real family, that all they did was steal.

472
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 2: What is freaking true? How dare you tell the truth?

473
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 2: I told them, in no uncertain terms, to fuck off.

474
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: I would not be pulling my child out of a

475
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:47,240
Speaker 1: school she likes, away from her friends because they can't

476
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,439
Speaker 1: afford it. I told them they could easily make as

477
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:52,000
Speaker 1: much money as me if Amanda started working in her field,

478
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 1: because she has the qualifications and the job market is

479
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 1: very good. I told them that their money problems are

480
00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: not my issue. And if Sadie's items get stolen again

481
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 1: or they try to pull her out of school, I'll

482
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 1: be taking them to court. Yeah, blowing up my phone

483
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,120
Speaker 1: ever since calling me selfish an a hole, and after

484
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 1: telling the story to a friend, he told me I

485
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 1: was rubbing my success in their face. But I still

486
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,680
Speaker 1: don't feel like I did anything wrong. Oh am, I

487
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 1: the a hole. And there is an edit and an update,

488
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 1: but I want your gut check right.

489
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 4: Now, AB salute Lee.

490
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 2: Not not at all. This other couple is crazy. They're

491
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 2: absolutely X couple is insane. How do they think that's okay?

492
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 2: I just don't know how they think it's okay to

493
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 2: pull a kid out of the school they've been going

494
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 2: to randomly A okay, already a big one and then

495
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 2: be like like you really think you're gonna like get

496
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 2: away with this and like that you have the authority,

497
00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 2: Like ah, okay. So here's the edit. Okay, I got

498
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 2: temporary guardianship while waiting for a court hearing. We're going

499
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: to try to get full custody and have John get

500
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,160
Speaker 2: one day a week of visitation supervised for at least

501
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 2: the first few months, and no contact with Amanda or A.

502
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 2: This way, he still sees Sadie just as much and

503
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 2: they can try to repair their relationship, but she doesn't

504
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 2: have to go back there. All contact between us is

505
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 2: made through emails, which are seed by my lawyer, and

506
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 2: I've asked for Sadie's things back. I've talked to Sadie

507
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,159
Speaker 2: and we decided that she's going to try therapy for

508
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: a little while to help deal with everything that's happened.

509
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,199
Speaker 2: And here's the update. We've had the hearing and our

510
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 2: custody arrangements been modified Amy Any and all decisions relating

511
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:27,959
Speaker 2: to Sadie are made by me and me alone, who

512
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 2: John has supervised visitation once a week, and Sadie will

513
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:34,640
Speaker 2: continue in therapy to deal with all the issues Amanda

514
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 2: and co have caused her. They tried to push for

515
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 2: fifty fifty custody split on grounds of alienation, so me

516
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,960
Speaker 2: trying to put Sadie against my father. But we made

517
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 2: it clear from the start that we wanted to keep

518
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 2: Amanda and her children away and wanted supervision only because

519
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 2: we don't feel safe leaving him alone as of gets,

520
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 2: but that we were open to modifications. Thanks to that,

521
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 2: the proof of stealing and Sadie's therapist testimony. Their claim

522
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: was thrown out pretty quickly. Yes, Amanda pissed and it's

523
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 2: trying to contact me and Sadie. But I made it

524
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 2: clear that if she keeps harassing me or my daughter,

525
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:07,919
Speaker 2: all have to make this known to the authorities. Sadie

526
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: and I have blocked her everywhere and any communication between

527
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 2: John and us is made through text messages or emails only.

528
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 2: Like to thank you all for the support throughout. This

529
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 2: really means a lot to us. Sending you loads of

530
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: love and that's the end of the story. Wow, So

531
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 2: I wanted to kick it to the comments. I mean,

532
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,640
Speaker 2: what do you think of this situation? Do you think

533
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 2: OPI made the right decision by getting full custody of

534
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 2: the kids? Was that too much?

535
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: Was it too little? Let us know the comments below, John,

536
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: what do you think?

537
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 2: Uh, not at all. I think Ope was not only

538
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,439
Speaker 2: way in the right, but it was also like very

539
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 2: smart about it and reasonable, Like like OPI was like,

540
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 2: I do want to have still some visitation. I am

541
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,200
Speaker 2: open to like you know, basically a very open and

542
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 2: I would say very empathetic approach considering how unempathetic and

543
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 2: what act poles? That shit crazy?

544
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:56,639
Speaker 1: This dude was, Oh my god, my mom is trying

545
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: to steal my liver to save her life.

546
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 2: The thing is, I don't really care if she dies.

547
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 2: Am I the A hole?

548
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,479
Speaker 1: When I was a kid, my mom was pretty awful

549
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 1: to me and my sibling. Resentful, a bit of a bully,

550
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: never hugged any of us, and mainly told us how

551
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 1: we ruined her life. You get the picture. I moved

552
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: out at seventeen to keep my sanity. It sounds like

553
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:15,640
Speaker 1: a lovely home.

554
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 4: It's so nice.

555
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: I'm twenty eight now and have never had much of

556
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 1: a relationship with her after moving out, as she never

557
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 1: once admitted that she had done something really effed up

558
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: to us. My sister is married and has two kids.

559
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 1: My brother is divorced with three kids. I got a

560
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,879
Speaker 1: call from the hospital that my mom managed to drink

561
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: her liver out of order and need to transplant. All

562
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: of us siblings were found out to be a match.

563
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: My sister and brother, once they realized that cutting out

564
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: part of your lover isn't risk free, backed out. I

565
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: was told I have something called sidis and versus, meaning

566
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 1: my organs are abnormally placed and that it would make

567
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: the risk of surgery higher for me four percent risk

568
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 1: of death within two weeks of surgery and higher risk

569
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:02,120
Speaker 1: of other off happened, and of course one hundred percent

570
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 1: guarantee that my mother will drink away.

571
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: That liver too. Yeah. That's the other thing is you're

572
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 2: almost like enabling now.

573
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: Everyone, the doctor, my mom, siblings, everyone is telling me

574
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 1: I should do it because I don't have kids, so

575
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 1: who cares if the risk is high?

576
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 4: I have kids, So you're useless.

577
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 2: You're a waste of human life. You're not popping out

578
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 2: babies like a gatlin gun. This piss me off.

579
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 1: My family never valued my lifestyle as a decided not

580
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: to do life by the script about a cabin in

581
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: the wilderness in the north and work from home, so

582
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: I rarely have to leave my lovely little hideaway. I

583
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,879
Speaker 1: make enough money to live the life I'm always dreamed of.

584
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: But apparently that does not count since I don't want kids,

585
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 1: and my mom, who never cared if I lived or died,

586
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: suddenly thinks she deserves my liver because she gave birth

587
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:51,440
Speaker 1: to me.

588
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 4: She's a vending machine of organs.

589
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:53,639
Speaker 2: You know.

590
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 4: It's like b three liver please.

591
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: The fact that she then spent seventeen years bullying me

592
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: is irrelevant, because family and kids are a gift from God. Well,

593
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,640
Speaker 1: the doctor said to me, well, it is an increased risk,

594
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 1: but your mother needs a new liver. At least you

595
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: don't risk leaving children behind. That I was so stunned

596
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: I forgot the entire Swedish language and just sat there.

597
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 2: I'm guessing, oh piece from Sweden?

598
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: What did I just hear? And who will care for

599
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: my pets if I die?

600
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 2: Oh? Pie's a dog balles and my mom. I gave

601
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: you my life, you should do the same for me.

602
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 2: After all, I gave you my best years and raising you.

603
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 4: Were no j'all.

604
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 1: She also gave me two fractured ribs, and one time

605
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: locked me out of the house in the middle of

606
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: winter and I had to smash a window with my

607
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 1: hand to get in. I can't believe I even tried that.

608
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: I agreed to be tested as a donor, as if

609
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: she would have magically changed. I'm leaving the city tonight,

610
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: taking the train north, and will hopefully be back in

611
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: my cozy home tomorrow. So the doctor calls to hear

612
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: my decision. I might not even pick up cold. Guess what,

613
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: John what, there's a freaking up date. Oh goodness, OP

614
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: sent an image of where they live, and it's beautiful.

615
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: I've spoken to the people involved, my mom, my siblings,

616
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: and the medical staff, and I told everyone that I

617
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: won't donate a part of my liver to my alcoholic mother.

618
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 1: The doctor at the hospital where my mother was treated

619
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 1: initially when her liver crash simply said, I understand, but

620
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: that also means that I must inform you you need

621
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: to prepare to say goodbye to her in a not

622
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 1: so distant future. I might not particularly like my mother,

623
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 1: but I don't wish death on anyone, so that sucks.

624
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: But again, she drank her own liver away. It took

625
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: years of hard work to reach the place where she

626
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 1: is now.

627
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 2: She's been to.

628
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: Several clinics on all sorts of help. She would stay

629
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: until they stopped treating her with oxes can and then

630
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 1: check out and start it all over again. So much

631
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: of the taxpayer's money has been spent and thrown away

632
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 1: on her, and she refuses to take any responsibility at all.

633
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 1: It's always the nurses or the doctor's fault.

634
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 2: That she drinks. It don't give me the right treat married.

635
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: I think she would do the same to any donated liver,

636
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 1: and I told the doctor this. My sister said that

637
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 1: she understood, and now that things have had time to

638
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: calm down a bit, even said that she thinks it's

639
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: the right thing to do.

640
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 2: My brother does not agree.

641
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: With my decision, so maybe donate your own liver bro

642
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 1: on which actually op he said. And I told him

643
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: that he can donate a nice size of his own

644
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 1: liver then, But then of course he tells me he

645
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: can't because he's got kit and it's too much of

646
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: a risk for it. I, on the other hand, and

647
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: am obviously disposable and my mother, so I honestly can't

648
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 1: be bothered to type it out.

649
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: I phoned her to tell her that she will not

650
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 2: be getting my liver, and as.

651
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 1: Expected, she went from jovial to resentful by the drop

652
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 1: of a hat. Everything from I'm your mother, you only

653
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: get one mother, two you must be there for family

654
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: was throw it at me. She even referred to the

655
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: fact that I once risked my life for my dog

656
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 1: when she went through the ice on a frozen lake.

657
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: But you won't this for your mom, No, No, I

658
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 2: will not.

659
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: Actually, she said many awful things. I guess I can

660
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 1: understand that she's upset and scared, but even I have

661
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: a limit how much of that I'm.

662
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 2: Willing to stand.

663
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: So eventually I just said I'm done and I hung up.

664
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: Not sure what to expect now, don't really care either.

665
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: I'm glad that my sister came around. Perhaps my brother

666
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: will if given time.

667
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 2: Maybe not.

668
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 1: Either way, I'm happy to have made my decision clear.

669
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: Now that it's done, I can get back to enjoying

670
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: my life far from the mall, in the comfort of

671
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: my home and the company of my awesome dogs.

672
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: Oh, he's colder than an ice liver fresh off the surgery,

673
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: colder than her dog when it fell through the ice.

674
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, So my question is, if your parents

675
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: was dying of liver cancer, would you give your liver

676
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: to them? Let's say they don't have a drinking problem,

677
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: they just had liver cancer. Would you give your liver

678
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 1: to your mom or dad? I want to hear what

679
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: everyone else in the comment says, and why, John, you

680
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: would Yeah, I mean.

681
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 4: Like my mom is not like this mom, like this

682
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 4: mom is crazy.

683
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I would definitely do it, but I think

684
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 2: it's also an interesting scenario of like putting yourself in

685
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 2: OPI sues of like, if this person is your mom,

686
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 2: would you do the same thing this person is my mom,

687
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 2: I wouldn't.

688
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 1: If it was my actual mom, I would give her

689
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 1: my liver. Yeah, but where do you give your liver

690
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: to your mom? Put your answers in the comments and

691
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: tell us why.

692
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 2: My friend is jealous of my special needs privileges and

693
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 2: demands that I don't need them.

694
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 4: It's not my fault. I have a disability. Am I

695
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 4: the a hole?

696
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 2: About a year ago, my university added psychological problems to

697
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 2: these special needs students requests. I have been diagnosed with

698
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 2: severe anxiety and clinical depression, so I decided to apply

699
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 2: to the program. The program is strictly enforced, and they

700
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 2: requested my diagnosis, the date, and the doctor. Then they

701
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 2: contacted my doctor about it. Well, I got in and

702
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 2: I now have about fifty percent more time in my exams,

703
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 2: and I'm able to record the lectures. I can get

704
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: them from the program when I need. There's some absences allowed,

705
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera. One of my friends learned about

706
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 2: my special need status and then confronted me the first

707
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 2: thing you do whenever your friends get a dyke. Yeah,

708
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 2: this episodes, you just got cancer? How dare you? They

709
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 2: told me, since I was stable and functioning, I shouldn't

710
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 2: be using the program, and I was probably taking away

711
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: from someone who needed it more. It's true that I

712
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 2: have been in therapy for a while and I've been

713
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 2: taking my medication. My panic attacks are less frequent and

714
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 2: less damaging. She called me an a hole for taking

715
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 2: part in a program that is quote unquote not meant

716
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 2: for me. Some of my friends told me that they

717
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 2: agree with her and that they have also been thinking

718
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 2: this for a while. Wait, so they're all mad that

719
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: OPI's getting better. So now I am truly conflicted. On

720
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 2: one hand, I truly benefited from the program, But on

721
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 2: the other hand, maybe they're right and I'm using this selfishly.

722
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: So redda, am I the a hole? Now there is

723
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 2: an update, But Sam, as of right now, do you

724
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 2: think OPI is the A hole? No?

725
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: I mean the school is deciding who gets into the

726
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: programs and who doesn't, and they are deciding the criteria.

727
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:10,800
Speaker 1: If OPI fits the criteria, then they get in.

728
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:12,800
Speaker 2: OPIE got in fair and square.

729
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 1: Ooh ooh, are Opie's friends to say that you're not

730
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 1: disabled enough.

731
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 2: For the first of all, thank you to everyone for

732
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 2: the encouragement to use my special needs status and to

733
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 2: confront my friend about her reaction. I admit I used

734
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 2: some of your words when talking to her to better

735
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: explain myself. So we talked, and at first it seemed

736
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 2: like she was sympathetic to my situation, but after a

737
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 2: while she told me that I was exaggerating, and she

738
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:39,360
Speaker 2: specifically told me, quote, I deal with depression and anxiety,

739
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: and I don't need a program.

740
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: Well for you, then I guess you don't need the program.

741
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 4: Congratulations, Oh my god wants the program?

742
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 2: You don't. She expressed that she feels as though this

743
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 2: was encouraging me to be lazy, and while she understood

744
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 2: there wasn't a limit to students in the program, she

745
00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 2: told me that I was being unfair to those with

746
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: learning disabilities by getting the same accommodations. I tried to

747
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 2: explain my accommodations my need to get more time because

748
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 2: of a panic attack I had during a Procter Zoom exam,

749
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 2: but she kind of flared up and shouted that it

750
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 2: wasn't fair to her that she was not getting the

751
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 2: same treatment. She felt like the university was playing favorites.

752
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 2: Has she applied?

753
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 4: Have you applied?

754
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 2: I decided to remove myself from a situation and told

755
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 2: her that I was rethinking our friendship and not to

756
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 2: contact me for now. So there, it is not a

757
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 2: happy update, but I at least got to explain myself.

758
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 2: I'm also contemplating whether I should send this post to

759
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 2: her for her to see other people's reactions, but I'm

760
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: not sure.

761
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think it could help, Like, maybe that would help.

762
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: I think that probably would help to show her how

763
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 1: much of it that dumb dumb she's being.

764
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 2: Thank you guys again, you all really helped me with

765
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 2: my confidence in this situation.

766
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: I love when Reddit actually comes out to bad for people.

767
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 1: That is a beautiful moment when it happens. Quick question,

768
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: So I think we've discovered OP is not the a hole.

769
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: Is the friend the a hole for saying this with

770
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:02,959
Speaker 1: a friend? Yeah, I think the friend is the ale.

771
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 1: I think OP should send the Reddit post.

772
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 2: My selfish husband stole my bonus and spend it on himself.

773
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 4: No one takes my.

774
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 2: Money and lives. Am I the a whole and lives Hey,

775
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 2: you gotta know which I gotta though I am not

776
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 2: sure how to do this or if this is the

777
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 2: right community. I would like some objective third party advice

778
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 2: I put for my current situation as I am at

779
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 2: a loss to history. My husband, twenty eight male, and

780
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 2: I twenty seven female, have been married for about four

781
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 2: years now. We dated in college and got married afterwards.

782
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 2: He finished college with a finance degree and thought he

783
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 2: would go into accounting, big money bags over Yeah, yeah,

784
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:43,320
Speaker 2: I know. Oh. My man quickly found out that accounting

785
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 2: was not his passion. He started bouncing around jobs and ideas,

786
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,479
Speaker 2: business ideas, being a teacher, being a lawyer, but nothing

787
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 2: really kept him saying, this is what I want to

788
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 2: do my passion. This was pre COVID. Since COVID, he

789
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 2: has not attempted anything. He says, after the pandemic there

790
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:05,879
Speaker 2: will be a boom and jobs and he can find

791
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: something easily then that he's passionate about.

792
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,240
Speaker 1: Man is the king of procrastination.

793
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 2: I'm telling you me, when this pandemic blows over, that

794
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 2: all look for something. I've been working full time and

795
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,959
Speaker 2: thankfully my job became remote and pays the bills while

796
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 2: putting food on the table. What is he doing all

797
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:27,839
Speaker 2: that playing video games like masturbating? After the fiscal year

798
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,799
Speaker 2: closed out, my work was done really well. We sell

799
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 2: medical testing equipment, so it was a big product of

800
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 2: twenty twenty. I was given a promotion. I got a

801
00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 2: little pay raise and a small bonus. I was really

802
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 2: excited because I could finally repair my purse and replace

803
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 2: my shoes. My friend's puppy destroyed it, but I acknowledge

804
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 2: I should not have left my purse on such a

805
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 2: low stool in front of the puppy's bed. So my

806
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 2: fault side note totally not your fal topee. The friend

807
00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: should pay for that. I was so excited to tell

808
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 2: my husband, but he seemed more excited than me over

809
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,919
Speaker 2: this promotion. He started going off on hell he could

810
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:09,240
Speaker 2: redo his game area and get the nice new system

811
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 2: since he was tired of his others.

812
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: Bro, why would she get you something that's just gonna

813
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: make you more of a piece of.

814
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: Shy was dumbfounded. I got really quiet because I almost

815
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,839
Speaker 2: could not believe what he was saying. He eventually goes

816
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 2: out and gets himself a new system, chair and a mouse.

817
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,760
Speaker 2: Is he trying to become a streamer? He had basically

818
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 2: spent my bonus. I was so upset and ultimately hurt

819
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 2: a numb We ended up getting into an argument, and

820
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 2: he called me selfish for not being happy that he

821
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 2: got to achieve his dream and I'm being spoiled for

822
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 2: being upset that I couldn't spend this money on me. First,

823
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 2: it's her money. I basically called him an ungrateful ahole

824
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 2: and asked why does he deserve new stuff when I

825
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:57,359
Speaker 2: have been providing. He got really quiet on that one

826
00:38:57,520 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 2: and just stormed out, saying that he would be staying

827
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 2: with his family only about an hour away. And I've

828
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: been getting angry calls and texts due to the fact that.

829
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 5: He doesn't feel supported in his own home, supported doing

830
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 5: what And if I'm making the money, then I can

831
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,399
Speaker 5: get whatever I want when I want.

832
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: And I shouldn't throw it in his face that he

833
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 2: doesn't have any gum, which is not true. I'm not

834
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 2: saying that I'm trying to keep a roof over his

835
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 2: head and food on the table. All of his friends

836
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,959
Speaker 2: and family think I'm way overreacting to something that makes

837
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 2: my husband happy. How about you get a job or

838
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 2: just just contribute or work in some way, manner or fashion,

839
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: do anything but play video games and steal money. And

840
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 2: the next time we get a large sum of money,

841
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:45,280
Speaker 2: my husband said that he would let me repair my purse.

842
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 2: I haven't responded, and don't think I will for a

843
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 2: few days. But I've gotten so many You're such a

844
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 2: bee and you're the a hole. I'm starting to wonder

845
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:57,720
Speaker 2: if I really am. There is a wow, a pretty

846
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: meaty up the actually updates which is OPI the ahole?

847
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 2: What should OPI do? Yeah, let us know in the

848
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 2: comments when you say comments right now?

849
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: But Sam, I feel like no matter the gender of

850
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 1: your partner, just like, bring something to the table is important.

851
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 1: But that could look like a different bunch of ways.

852
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 1: It could look like, you know, helping out with the house,

853
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 1: taking care of kids. All right, well, let's see you

854
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: that at this update.

855
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 2: Let's see, let's see I was not expecting this kind

856
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 2: of support. I appreciate all the kind messages and compassion.

857
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 2: This is more than I've ever felt in my life,

858
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: So thank you, redd it. I took the weekend to

859
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 2: reflect on what I want and read through the comments

860
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: and messages. I see your point and that I can't

861
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 2: keep treating this like a marriage if he doesn't. So

862
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 2: here's to today and my first steps towards freedom. I

863
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:42,360
Speaker 2: am separating the finances immediately and contacting a local lawyer

864
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 2: to see my options and rights, as well as therapy

865
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 2: options for him. I will present this to him and

866
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 2: he gets to choose, but I refuse to baby an

867
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 2: almost thirty year old. If he wants that, well, he

868
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 2: has his mother and we have one final update. I

869
00:40:57,920 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 2: want to thank everyone who reached out and snap me

870
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 2: out of this days with my soon to be ext

871
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,400
Speaker 2: he was extremely toxic and just made me feel not

872
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 2: worth anything, thus probably why it was so hard to

873
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 2: see he wasn't it. So I want to thank everyone

874
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 2: who offered words of encouragement and even the tough love

875
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 2: I needed to hear it. After we went back to

876
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 2: his parents, he was waiting for my apology, which I

877
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 2: never did, and when he noticed I drained our joint

878
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 2: bank account, he escalated, saying I was his and how

879
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 2: I could never actually leaved him, and that he owned me.

880
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god, all of my success was his and

881
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 2: without him I would be a loser drop out. His

882
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 2: family was even worse. I had already blocked them, so

883
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 2: they started making fake accounts and using apps to hide

884
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 2: their number to harass me, saying I ruined their son's life,

885
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 2: and how he sacrificed everything to get me where I

886
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 2: am to throw him to the city's sacrifice. He wouldn't

887
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 2: even sacrifice his gaming console for your purse, and that

888
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 2: this was disgusting and that I deserved to rot. I

889
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 2: provided all of this to my lawyer, who recommended that

890
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 2: I take a restraining order in case he wanted to

891
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: to escalate further, and not to engage ever, but just

892
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 2: to keep the record. This has caused my anxiety to

893
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 2: go through the roof, and I'm working on this with

894
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 2: my therapist. I've separated the finances completely and changed my banks,

895
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:14,439
Speaker 2: even told them I soon to be X is never

896
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 2: allowed to access these accounts because he would take it

897
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 2: all and run. I have changed my number and gone

898
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 2: completely dark on social media. Besides, this, part of me

899
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 2: is broken that our marriage came to an end over

900
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 2: a computer. I keep thinking I am stupid and how

901
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 2: I couldn't see the warning signs. I must look like

902
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 2: a fool to everyone. All in all, I'm slowly picking

903
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: up the pieces of my life and figuring out how

904
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:36,880
Speaker 2: to move forward. Thank you to anyone still reading this,

905
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,720
Speaker 2: and thank you everyone who helped get me here. Opie,

906
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 2: You've been through the ringer, But I feel like this

907
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 2: is probably the best conclusion that you could have hoped

908
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:52,240
Speaker 2: yes for. It sounds like the guy completely just showed

909
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 2: his colors, and better that he show you and you

910
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,760
Speaker 2: get out of it than like you know him stringing

911
00:42:58,760 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 2: you along.

912
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 4: Imagine spinning your whole life with this guy. I mean

913
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:02,600
Speaker 4: that would be awful.

914
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,439
Speaker 1: So please share your stories of your significant other being

915
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 1: a piece of and not working at all if you

916
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 1: have those.

917
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 2: My boyfriend is boning a stranger, so I broke into

918
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 2: his house and caught him inside her.

919
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 4: He yelled at me for spying on him, and I

920
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 4: the ahole.

921
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 2: Give the man some privacy. No, my boyfriend is cheating

922
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 2: on me with an eighteen year old who still lives

923
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 2: with her parents. He is thirty six man robbing the

924
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 2: cradle over here. He my boyfriend passed me his phone

925
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 2: and a message came through saying I miss you, bab.

926
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 2: How many emojis were there? No emojis that we know

927
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 2: that we know, Okay, that we know of.

928
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 4: He travels a lot for work and he had just

929
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 4: gotten back that weekend.

930
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 2: I said nothing. I was taken, aback. I spent that

931
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:52,320
Speaker 2: night at his place and checked his phone while he slept,

932
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:56,879
Speaker 2: and I confirmed it. Oh No. All the time while

933
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 2: I was texting him and he never responded to me,

934
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 2: he was talking to her, an effing eighteen year old

935
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,720
Speaker 2: who he had mentioned in the past was the daughter

936
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 2: of a family friend.

937
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:12,800
Speaker 1: Oh that cannot be a good luck for that family

938
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 1: friend relationship.

939
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 2: He mentioned how he missed her, how much he wanted her,

940
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,399
Speaker 2: and how much loving he needed when he got back.

941
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 2: All the while he is telling me how much he

942
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:25,320
Speaker 2: loves me and wants a future with me. Bro, he

943
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 2: just wants a future with both of them. Come on,

944
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 2: he said so much to ask. I haven't confronted him

945
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 2: about it. I don't even know how to. I've never

946
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:35,439
Speaker 2: been cheated on before, and I feel dirty and disgusting.

947
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,879
Speaker 2: How can people be so fine? Pretty rough? Dude.

948
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: It's like bad enough to cheat on someone, and then

949
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: it's bad enough to cheat on someone who is like

950
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: half your age, but that it's way worse to cheat

951
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: on someone who is half your age and is your

952
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:50,839
Speaker 1: family friend.

953
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 2: God, dude, Sam, we have a series of updates are

954
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,359
Speaker 2: Are you ready I'm about to smack you. I don't know, man,

955
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 2: I don't know. Yes, thank you all for the support

956
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 2: and responses. I am crying my eyes out. Some things

957
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 2: to quickly clarify. We don't live together. However, I did

958
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 2: leave something in his place that I need to get back.

959
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 2: I did take some screenshots. The messages are creepy and disgusting.

960
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:12,320
Speaker 2: I do have the girl's phone number, and with a

961
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 2: little digging, I found her parents' social media. Oooh, there's

962
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 2: gonna be some sweet revenge in the future. I agree

963
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 2: that maybe I should not confront him, though part of

964
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 2: me wants her parents to know the pity revenge all right.

965
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: On to update number two. Overwhelmed by this response is

966
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 2: some more context. He had mentioned this girl before and

967
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 2: how he sort of defended her because someone was bullying her.

968
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: She's very overweight. I never imagined he would be screwing

969
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:43,800
Speaker 2: her based on the conversation. She's got some self esteem

970
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 2: issues and he comes across as a creep example, he

971
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 2: tells her that she is too young and he doesn't

972
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 2: think she's ready for the ride, even though he's all

973
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 2: about her. Her response is that she likes that he

974
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 2: has his life put together and that she will do

975
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 2: anything for him. His response, I want you and hope

976
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 2: you know your mind. Now weird, bro, this is some manipulation.

977
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 2: I feel gross even writing this. I don't know how

978
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 2: long this has been going. For the conversation in the

979
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 2: screenshots started over a week ago, and it seems like

980
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 2: he has been deleting them. Yikes. Also, I don't know

981
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 2: for how long he's known this family. He lived out

982
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 2: of state for a while and he's only been here

983
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 2: for three years or so. We've been together for one year.

984
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 2: And no, I'm not blaming this girl. As far as

985
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 2: I know. She's unaware of my existence too. I found

986
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 2: out over the weekend. I was in shock, but I

987
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 2: didn't confront him about it, so it's still very raw

988
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 2: regarding exposing him. He's going to get angry as his

989
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 2: image is important to him and this coming out would

990
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 2: damage it. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Bro. He knows where

991
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 2: I work, where I live, and then I'm alone. I'm

992
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 2: getting out and have to do it carefully because once

993
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: he finds out that I outed him, he will retaliate.

994
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 2: The final update, I decided to go to his place.

995
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,080
Speaker 2: I called him and texted him letting him know I

996
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 2: was on my way. He didn't respond. I still went stupid.

997
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,919
Speaker 2: I know his car was there, so I called again,

998
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 2: no response. Long story short, I saw them together by

999
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 2: going and peeking through the back window. I knocked on

1000
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 2: the front door, and well, no surprise, she was in shock.

1001
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 2: He got angry and closed the door in my face.

1002
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 2: I walked away. He proceeded to text that showing up

1003
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: unannounced was crappy, and I just replied that it would

1004
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: be the last time. You know what else is crappy?

1005
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: You teating on me with this eighteen year old family bread.

1006
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 2: I couldn't get my things, which wasn't a lot, so

1007
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 2: I will just take that as a loss. It's over.

1008
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 2: While I don't have family around, I do have a

1009
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 2: solid friend group. He's blocked everywhere, and I just want

1010
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 2: to hide under a rock for a while. How can

1011
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:52,799
Speaker 2: I be so effing blind and stupid. Whether I'll send

1012
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 2: the messages to the parents, I haven't decided yet, Plus

1013
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 2: the possibility of him coming after me as selfish as

1014
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 2: it sounds, I gotta take care of myself first or

1015
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 2: I'm going to lose it completely. If she didn't know

1016
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 2: about me, now she knows, and if she did, I

1017
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,800
Speaker 2: just feel sorry for her. I truly appreciate the supporting

1018
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 2: and caring comments. And yes, as of last night, that

1019
00:48:14,160 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 2: piece of Dodo Man is out of my life. Thank god.

1020
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 4: Wow.

1021
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 2: I mean I would love to hear everyone's like cheating stories, yeah,

1022
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 2: if they've ever caught a partner cheating. I think she

1023
00:48:27,760 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 2: made the right decision in leaving this guy. I think

1024
00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 2: also do what makes her feel best, you know, like,

1025
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 2: you know, don't bend over backwards to do like like

1026
00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 2: what you think is best for like the other girl

1027
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 2: or for him, like just you know, you need to

1028
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 2: take care of your mental health first. Yeah, and then

1029
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 2: maybe once you're feeling in a better place, you can

1030
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:48,760
Speaker 2: talk about talking to the parents.

1031
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 1: But yeah, protect yourself first. The car salesman was sexist,

1032
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,479
Speaker 1: so I bought the car from someone else. He lost

1033
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 1: his commission and made nothing.

1034
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

1035
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: I need a new car as my old one is

1036
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,240
Speaker 1: over thirty five years old and on its last legs.

1037
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: Oh p, your dummy cars have wheels. I also decided

1038
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 1: to get an upper end luxury car, which was a

1039
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 1: huge upgrade from my old but reliable voll Though since

1040
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,880
Speaker 1: I figured I'd earned it and I could pay for

1041
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 1: it outright. I took my boyfriend with me to the dealership,

1042
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: as you do as a couple. A salesman approached us,

1043
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:28,280
Speaker 1: and the entire time, from start to finish, kept talking

1044
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend, even though I clearly introduced myself and

1045
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 1: told him the car was for me and that I

1046
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:37,479
Speaker 1: would be paying for it outright. He's like, all right, honey,

1047
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: that's that's super sweet of you, But uh oh, what

1048
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:43,320
Speaker 1: does the man think about this car? My boyfriend was

1049
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: off put by the whole thing, kept referring the salesman

1050
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 1: to me when he asked my boyfriend a question, and

1051
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 1: even pointedly said at some point, I don't know it's

1052
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: delicious cancels car asked her. The salesman would look at

1053
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 1: me i'd answered the next question, and then back to

1054
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 1: the boyfriend. The only question I was asked was around

1055
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 1: color preference and leather versus fabric interior. I was kind

1056
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 1: of fuming at this point. The final straw was after

1057
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 1: the test drive, again this is a car four op.

1058
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 1: The salesman gave the keys to the boyfriend. I said

1059
00:50:15,760 --> 00:50:18,360
Speaker 1: that I really liked the guy, and he turned to

1060
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and said if he should get the paperwork ready.

1061
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 1: I interjected and said I wanted to think about it.

1062
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: I had already decided on the car, but I didn't

1063
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: want the commission to go to him. My boyfriend could

1064
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: tell I was a bit upset about this interaction and

1065
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:34,800
Speaker 1: offered to go to another dealership with me tomorrow or

1066
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 1: leave a review or something. So the boyfriend's like, let's

1067
00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: just purse him out over Google reviews. So we left

1068
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 1: and came back the next morning. So the same car dealership,

1069
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: a different salesperson greeted us, and this one was much better,

1070
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:51,959
Speaker 1: ridiculously charming, flattered me by saying a hard working woman

1071
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: like me deserved a good car and all the flattery

1072
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 1: I was expecting when being sold to, and then he

1073
00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 1: asked for my number.

1074
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 2: That's about it is.

1075
00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 4: This is going to be I left my boyfriend for

1076
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:02,880
Speaker 4: the car.

1077
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: I told him we'd driven the car yesterday and decided

1078
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 1: to buy it, and we did so no hassles. I

1079
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,319
Speaker 1: even managed to negotiate some extra since I told him

1080
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: I was giving him a sale for very little effort

1081
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 1: on his part. I was recounting this story to a

1082
00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: friend of mine yesterday who was in sales, but in

1083
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 1: I t told me I was a bit of an

1084
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:24,800
Speaker 1: a hole because a previous salesman had done all the

1085
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 1: work and I gave the sale to someone else when

1086
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,799
Speaker 1: I was wanted to buy the car anyway. The guy

1087
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 1: with duxast, though, he said I should have asserted myself

1088
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: a bit more on the spot and given the previous

1089
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 1: salesman more of a chance, rather than try to screw

1090
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: him over behind his back, because now he'd never know

1091
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:46,400
Speaker 1: why he'd lost the sales. It's not her job to say, like, yo,

1092
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 1: you're being sexist and here's why, and let me let

1093
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 1: me tell you about the beg doll test really quick.

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Speaker 4: Six a sack.

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00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 1: He also said that the sales job was tough and

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00:51:57,840 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 1: maybe old habits die hard, or if I didn't want

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00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 1: to buy from him at all, I should have given

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00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 1: him him a concrete reason so he could learn. I

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00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 1: think my thing is it's twenty twenty and it's basic

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00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 1: sales one oh one to speak to the person who

1101
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: holds the purse strings, and it is not my job

1102
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: to teach a salesperson anything. I just want to have

1103
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 1: a smooth experience buying a car, so am I the

1104
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: a hole for going out of my way to not

1105
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 1: give a sale to what I believed was a sexist salesman.

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00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: I want to know what everyone thinks of the comments

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00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: to be tapping of the comments below. But John, what

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00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:26,880
Speaker 1: do you think again?

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00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:30,359
Speaker 2: Not only is this guy being sexist, it's he's also

1110
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 2: being bad at his job at the same time, he's like,

1111
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 2: he's not being a good salesman. If someone doesn't want

1112
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 2: to buy from you, you're not a good salesman. What

1113
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 2: does a great salesperson do? Knows who the person is

1114
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 2: and you know, works with them to give them exactly

1115
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,120
Speaker 2: what they need. Like that is like the definition of

1116
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,880
Speaker 2: a great salesperson. This person's the who can identify a

1117
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 2: man and only talk to them exactly. It's not a

1118
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 2: great salesman.

1119
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: A grocery store, Karen called the cops because I took

1120
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,439
Speaker 1: my service dog into the store, but then my dog

1121
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 1: scared her kid. The a hole, the ad bare you

1122
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: traumatize my child more than me. I have an invisible

1123
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 1: disability and a service dog.

1124
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 2: Wasn't it like.

1125
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:10,879
Speaker 4: Something that you can't see?

1126
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 2: I turned invisible. No one can see me.

1127
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:21,360
Speaker 1: She's a cardiac alert dog. I bring her everywhere, and

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00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 1: it has been such a big quality of life difference

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00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 1: for me. Yesterday, I was in bulk Foods buying some

1130
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 1: supplies and brought my dog with me. While I was

1131
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 1: buying candy, a girl nearby started to cry wee. The

1132
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 1: mother walked over and started demanding that I leave the

1133
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: store immediately. I tried to tell her that my dog

1134
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: was working and was not a pet. She wasn't having

1135
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 1: any of it and didn't believe me because I was

1136
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 1: too young to have a medical condition. Too for a

1137
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,680
Speaker 1: medical condition, she said that regardless of whether or not

1138
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:58,399
Speaker 1: my dog was an authentic working dog, her child had

1139
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 1: autism and was so I had to leave immediately and

1140
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 1: wait until they were done shopping until I could come

1141
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:07,480
Speaker 1: back inside. Because you know, I refused and continued shopping.

1142
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: I simply went to another area of the store to

1143
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:11,959
Speaker 1: get the rest of the stuff on my shopping list.

1144
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 1: The woman had to bring her child and leave the

1145
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 1: store because she was too scared. The entire time, she

1146
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:21,720
Speaker 1: kept saying I should be ashamed of myself for scaring

1147
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:23,719
Speaker 1: a child and refusing to leave.

1148
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:26,240
Speaker 2: And yes, my dog wears a harness.

1149
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:28,759
Speaker 1: With patches on it to clearly identify it as a

1150
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 1: service dog and to have people not distract while she's working.

1151
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 2: And there is an update.

1152
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: But John, gut check, what do you think is op

1153
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 1: and a hole for scaring an autistic kid with her dog.

1154
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:45,240
Speaker 4: No, you're crazy. She set me up for failure there, buddy.

1155
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:47,880
Speaker 1: No, no, no joke believes that all dogs should be

1156
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 1: used to scare artistic children.

1157
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I mean, like, at the end of the day,

1158
00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 2: it's like two people have two needs, and it's like,

1159
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 2: unfortunately they are competing with each other. Unfortunately. It just

1160
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 2: is what it is. Maybe the mom could have gone

1161
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 2: up and been like, hey, I know that this is

1162
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 2: a service dog, but my daughter is autistic. If there's

1163
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 2: any way, like you know, we can kind of just

1164
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 2: like kill it. There's any ways your dog, you know,

1165
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 2: that's a lot more reasonable. Maybe even that's too much

1166
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 2: to the other side of the store. Yeah, just go

1167
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:23,360
Speaker 2: just avoid it.

1168
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: But there is an update. John, Okay, okay, like chlamydia,

1169
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 1: you're getting it again.

1170
00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 2: Yes, jokes.

1171
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 1: So I saw the Karen with their child again, by

1172
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 1: this time in Walmart while it was grocery shopping.

1173
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 2: So Karen has appeared once more. Oh god, I.

1174
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 1: Made the mistake of ignoring my dog when she was

1175
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 1: alerting to my heart rate. I genuinely thought she wanted

1176
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:48,320
Speaker 1: the sandwich I was eating.

1177
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 2: Boy was I wrong.

1178
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 1: I ended up really dizzy and out of breath and

1179
00:55:52,120 --> 00:55:53,840
Speaker 1: had to sit down in the corner of the store

1180
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:56,960
Speaker 1: while she was doing deep pressure therapy. I must have

1181
00:55:57,000 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: been on the floor for about ten minutes. During this time,

1182
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:02,560
Speaker 1: a member at Walmart came over to check on me

1183
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 1: and asked if I was all right. They gave me

1184
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 1: a free bottle of water as well, and I'm very

1185
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: appreciative of that. Anyways, while I was down, the same

1186
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 1: child saw me again from a distance and had another meltdown.

1187
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: The child's mom already explained to me last time that

1188
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: her daughter had autism. She was screaming and crying about

1189
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 1: my dog because she was terrified. I can understand why

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00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 1: she would be scared because my dog is by no

1191
00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 1: means small. She is a one hundred and fifteen pound

1192
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 1: female cane Corso yeah, those dogs are huge pounds as

1193
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 1: massive too.

1194
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:35,000
Speaker 4: It's a big boy.

1195
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:37,919
Speaker 2: That's how big dog. That's a big dog. Dang.

1196
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 1: Aside from alert and response, she's also trained for mobility assistance.

1197
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: Her breed isn't typically used as a service dog, but

1198
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:47,759
Speaker 1: she was a natural. I got her as a pet dog,

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Speaker 1: and she became the service dog I needed. She's one

1200
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: hundred percent good girl. This woman did not leave the

1201
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 1: store with her child that was having a meltdown. Instead,

1202
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:59,840
Speaker 1: she had the audacity to call nine one one on me.

1203
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: Eventually the cops show up, and she kept shouting that

1204
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 1: I was faking having a disability because I was too

1205
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:09,400
Speaker 1: young to actually be disabled, that it was illegal for

1206
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:12,920
Speaker 1: me to have my service dog anywhere near food, and

1207
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:15,920
Speaker 1: that people like me are the reasons she has to

1208
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 1: suffer lockdowns.

1209
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 2: I'm Asian, yi oh, she said.

1210
00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: The least I could do is be considerate and stay home,

1211
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: away from everyone and keep my dog at home where

1212
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:29,720
Speaker 1: it belongs. My dog was very clearly vested with tags

1213
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: and says service dog. I showed the cops my medical

1214
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 1: note that I carry, stating I require a service dog.

1215
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 1: In the end, the manager and the woman from coming

1216
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:39,640
Speaker 1: to the local walmart for a year.

1217
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 2: Woo.

1218
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: Cops only gave her a warning for wasting their time

1219
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: and escorted her off the property. Bro, So do you

1220
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 1: think op is the a hole for letting her dog loose?

1221
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:51,440
Speaker 1: On autistic children.

1222
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:55,720
Speaker 4: Again with the seff Opie is not the a hole

1223
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:56,439
Speaker 4: at all.

1224
00:57:56,760 --> 00:58:00,960
Speaker 2: The shocking audacity of this Karen, This lady is like

1225
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 2: so beyond crazy. She's just I feel like this, Like

1226
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 2: Karen's like, these are just looking for reasons. Like again,

1227
00:58:09,040 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 2: she kept her daughter close to the dog. After the

1228
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 2: daughter's freaking out. Move the daughter from the situation, the situation,

1229
00:58:16,640 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 2: take her outside, Like I get it's like inconvenient, but

1230
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 2: leave her there. I get it's inconvenient, but it's like,

1231
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 2: what can you do? Like Walmart's big. Walmart is huge,

1232
00:58:27,720 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 2: Go to another area, go to the blind give your

1233
00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 2: kid an iPad.

1234
00:58:32,200 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 4: Honestly, iPad is not a bad idea at all, Like

1235
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:36,120
Speaker 4: that could that could work?

1236
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 2: Why not a blindfold? Something about removing vision from my

1237
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 2: child doesn't seem like the most optimal.

1238
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:45,440
Speaker 1: Rather have them have a melt down. He probably barely

1239
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: has object permanence. Just delete it from the wart.

1240
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 4: Walmart is literally a warehouse you can so easily.

1241
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 2: Find go blindfold.

1242
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:57,320
Speaker 4: They have so many options.

1243
00:58:57,960 --> 00:59:01,479
Speaker 2: My coworker kidnapped a kid, but now she's changing her mind.

1244
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 2: She wants to kick him to the streets. I'm calling

1245
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 2: the cops. Am I the ahole. My coworker is kind

1246
00:59:07,280 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 2: of a weirdo. I will call her Mary for the

1247
00:59:09,440 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 2: sake of this post. Her and her husband are one

1248
00:59:11,600 --> 00:59:14,200
Speaker 2: of those people that have a ton of adopted kids

1249
00:59:14,320 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 2: eight so far. That's crazy. Is that like one of

1250
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,360
Speaker 2: those like hack schemes where you get money because you

1251
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: adopt more kids, and like, are they trying to gain

1252
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 2: the system? And they're super religious to each his own.

1253
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 2: Mary enjoys telling everyone at work her business, so when

1254
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 2: she decided to adopt a kid from Ukraine, everybody heard

1255
00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 2: about it. She went with an older kid because it

1256
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:37,360
Speaker 2: was easier for her and her husband. She says this

1257
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 2: was two years ago. Mary has always asked me to

1258
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:43,360
Speaker 2: babysit the boy a couple of times. I'll call him Tony,

1259
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 2: and it's never been a problem because I like kids.

1260
00:59:46,440 --> 00:59:50,200
Speaker 2: I didn't see any glaring problems despite Mary's constant dramatics

1261
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,760
Speaker 2: about how awful the kid was, and he seemed to

1262
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,080
Speaker 2: like being over. It's just me and my boyfriend here

1263
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 2: and our place is small, but clean and really well kept.

1264
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 2: Mary's house is disguss for lack of a better word.

1265
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:04,880
Speaker 2: I mean, I can imagine eight kids just run in

1266
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 2: a while. Lately, Mary has been at work talking to

1267
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 2: anyone that'll listen about how awful Tony is, how horrible

1268
01:00:11,680 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 2: he is to the other kids, and how she going

1269
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 2: to get rid of him, Like that's gotta be traumatic

1270
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 2: for the kids, oh for sure? Like Oh. She sent

1271
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:24,240
Speaker 2: out a freaking mass email to everyone in our department

1272
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 2: asking if someone wanted to take her kid from her

1273
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 2: bro She calls it re homing and that it's okay.

1274
01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 2: I logged onto Facebook today and same story. She has

1275
01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 2: pics of Tony posted on her timeline, advertising him for

1276
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 2: readoption and to contact her if interested.

1277
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 1: You know, this sounds like a dog your pictures of

1278
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 1: this kid? Do you want to adopt?

1279
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:49,040
Speaker 2: I haven't replied to her email yet, and I haven't

1280
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:51,960
Speaker 2: commented on her post, but I'm this close to ripping

1281
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:54,479
Speaker 2: into her for what she's doing. She's crossed the line

1282
01:00:54,520 --> 01:00:58,800
Speaker 2: from weird into full blown cycle? Should I call CPS?

1283
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,000
Speaker 2: I called the police just now, but they sounded completely

1284
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 2: confused on what to do. They agreed to do a

1285
01:01:04,480 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 2: welfare check. This post is still up. Is this really legal?

1286
01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 2: I don't know much about adoption, and a quick search

1287
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:15,840
Speaker 2: for rehoming gets leep mostly results about animals, any advice.

1288
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:16,840
Speaker 2: Is there an update?

1289
01:01:16,880 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 4: There is an update.

1290
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 2: I got personal messages from people that worked for local

1291
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 2: and state governments and private agencies that were outside of

1292
01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 2: my state, but offered their.

1293
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 4: Contact rannit coming in clutch, guys, here we go, let's go.

1294
01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 2: I had people that spoke Russian and Ukrainian offering to

1295
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:34,800
Speaker 2: help me contact through Ukrainian embassy and offered me contact

1296
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:38,840
Speaker 2: information for embassy departments. People even contacted us offering money

1297
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:40,880
Speaker 2: for Tony's immediate needs in the event.

1298
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:42,400
Speaker 4: We decided to take him in no way.

1299
01:01:42,840 --> 01:01:45,960
Speaker 2: I am sincerely touched by the genuine concern all of

1300
01:01:46,040 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 2: you had for Tony and his siblings. I hope one

1301
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 2: day I can tell Tony that despite everything that's happened,

1302
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 2: there's people out there like you guys that care about him.

1303
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 2: The information you guys gave us helped us act fast

1304
01:01:57,080 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 2: and got the ball rolling on the situation faster than

1305
01:01:59,840 --> 01:02:02,440
Speaker 2: me and my boyfriend would have figured out alone. I

1306
01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 2: talked with the cops about the situation, and honestly, they

1307
01:02:05,400 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 2: were just as confused as I was. The person I

1308
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:10,000
Speaker 2: talked to on the phone was just as stumped, but

1309
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 2: he agreed that at a minimum, they did need to

1310
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 2: do a welfare check. I've had experiences with welfare checks before,

1311
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 2: and I had the nagging feeling that something just wouldn't

1312
01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:22,920
Speaker 2: go right. Oh no, and someone personal messaged me the

1313
01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:27,080
Speaker 2: priority line for my state's Child Perspective Services hotline. I

1314
01:02:27,160 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 2: got someone on the phone right away, and as soon

1315
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 2: as I mentioned that trafficking could be going on and

1316
01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:35,720
Speaker 2: that she advertised the kid on Facebook it was a

1317
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:39,720
Speaker 2: public post here too, people, they acted with a quickness.

1318
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:42,040
Speaker 2: I gave him all the information I had on Mary

1319
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 2: and Tony and all the information I had from Mary

1320
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:47,960
Speaker 2: about Tony's adoption. The person I spoke to right away

1321
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 2: said that she suspected that the adoption might not even

1322
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 2: be legal. I was floored. I emailed all the screenshots

1323
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:58,600
Speaker 2: I had to the person I spoke with and asked

1324
01:02:58,640 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 2: for a follow up if that was at all possible.

1325
01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:03,120
Speaker 2: I said that myself and my boyfriend were willing to

1326
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 2: take Tony on a temporary basis if necessary, but the

1327
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:11,200
Speaker 2: CPS representative said that likely wasn't possible. Then the waiting

1328
01:03:11,280 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 2: game began. Last night was probably the most stressful night

1329
01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:16,520
Speaker 2: I've ever had. At one point, I was ready to

1330
01:03:16,640 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 2: drive out to Mary's house myself, but was stopped by

1331
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 2: my boyfriend. It was tough. The cops followed up with

1332
01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:25,440
Speaker 2: us at approximately two am. Note that I hadn't heard

1333
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 2: from CPS. The officer I spoke with was very cautious

1334
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 2: and limited in what he said, but he told me

1335
01:03:31,560 --> 01:03:34,600
Speaker 2: that CPS arrived at the home shortly after he did.

1336
01:03:34,720 --> 01:03:37,360
Speaker 2: In not so many words, he implied that Mary had

1337
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 2: been talking with someone about meeting Tony the very next day,

1338
01:03:41,840 --> 01:03:47,640
Speaker 2: and CPS's suspicions were confirmed. Tony's adoption was not legal.

1339
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 2: Tony was rehomed to Mary and her husband from another

1340
01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 2: state where placement needs to be approved by a judge.

1341
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:57,200
Speaker 2: That are like kicking the can down the road. He

1342
01:03:57,280 --> 01:04:00,760
Speaker 2: didn't elaborate further except to say that other issues came

1343
01:04:00,800 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 2: to light and all of the children were removed from

1344
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:07,480
Speaker 2: the home for their own safety by CPS. Wow. He

1345
01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:10,360
Speaker 2: didn't say how long they were there, but said it

1346
01:04:10,560 --> 01:04:13,200
Speaker 2: wasn't a long time quote unquote. I was asked to

1347
01:04:13,280 --> 01:04:15,720
Speaker 2: drop off all emails and printouts to the station in

1348
01:04:15,800 --> 01:04:18,440
Speaker 2: the morning, and I agreed. My boyfriend and I wanted

1349
01:04:18,480 --> 01:04:21,560
Speaker 2: to make doubly sure that all of the cases were checked,

1350
01:04:21,680 --> 01:04:24,520
Speaker 2: so I called our local FBI office, who said they

1351
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 2: lacked jurisdiction in that matter, but would be writing up

1352
01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:30,400
Speaker 2: a complaint and referencing the issue to the state department.

1353
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:33,600
Speaker 2: We called the Ukrainian embassy and made a detail complaint

1354
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:36,320
Speaker 2: and I included the contact information I had for the

1355
01:04:36,360 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 2: office from the apartment. Really hit the fan when I

1356
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:43,520
Speaker 2: went into work to print out the email. Our company

1357
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 2: is pretty small, and the company owner, I'll call her

1358
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:49,360
Speaker 2: Big Ang because of her resemblance to the mob wives lady,

1359
01:04:49,480 --> 01:04:54,120
Speaker 2: had gotten wind of Mary's email. Big Ang was furious

1360
01:04:54,360 --> 01:04:57,080
Speaker 2: and waiting at Mary's desk to see if she would

1361
01:04:57,120 --> 01:04:59,720
Speaker 2: show up for work. My friend reported that Big Ang

1362
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 2: from seven fifteen to nine thirty and that Mary came

1363
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:07,320
Speaker 2: to work with a sob story about how her kids

1364
01:05:07,400 --> 01:05:12,000
Speaker 2: were being unfairly taken away. Oh Man. Mary wanted time

1365
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 2: off from work to quote unquote clear her name and

1366
01:05:15,000 --> 01:05:19,120
Speaker 2: quote unquote devote herself to reclaiming her family from this misunderstanding.

1367
01:05:19,240 --> 01:05:21,680
Speaker 2: I wasn't there to witness this, but Big Ange, who

1368
01:05:21,760 --> 01:05:26,439
Speaker 2: has six kids herself, apparently ripped Mary a new toll.

1369
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 2: Mary has been dismissed, and rumor has it that Big

1370
01:05:29,320 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 2: Ange may or may not allow her to claim unemployment. Wow,

1371
01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:36,240
Speaker 2: Big Anne, just bring it down the hammer. My head

1372
01:05:36,320 --> 01:05:39,320
Speaker 2: is honestly still spinning from everything that has happened. The

1373
01:05:39,400 --> 01:05:42,680
Speaker 2: past twenty four hours have been insanity. I'm so grateful

1374
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 2: that the system worked as quickly as it did. I

1375
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:48,040
Speaker 2: only hope it works out a long term solution to

1376
01:05:48,200 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 2: this problem and that Mary doesn't get to reclaim her kids.

1377
01:05:51,760 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 2: My heart is breaking for Tony and the other kids

1378
01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:57,120
Speaker 2: right now. I don't know what the f was happening

1379
01:05:57,200 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 2: in Mary's house that made CPS remove them that night,

1380
01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:02,840
Speaker 2: but I'm going to sleep better knowing that they aren't

1381
01:06:02,960 --> 01:06:06,800
Speaker 2: with Psycho Mary and her husband, at least for a while.

1382
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 2: What the future holds for Tony and the other kids,

1383
01:06:09,760 --> 01:06:13,760
Speaker 2: especially because Tony's adoption was apparently illegal, makes me sick,

1384
01:06:13,840 --> 01:06:16,120
Speaker 2: but I'm going to wish for the best. I need

1385
01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:21,000
Speaker 2: a damn drill. That is crazy, dudeyeh, it's crazy. I

1386
01:06:21,040 --> 01:06:22,760
Speaker 2: feel like it was the right move because it's like

1387
01:06:22,920 --> 01:06:25,440
Speaker 2: the consequences of not doing that, I feel like are

1388
01:06:25,480 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 2: too higher, Like the risk is too These are children,

1389
01:06:27,800 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 2: these are Innocentatically. I told my coworker what an idiot

1390
01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:33,800
Speaker 2: she is. For her horrible baby names. I'm just a

1391
01:06:33,920 --> 01:06:36,600
Speaker 2: brutally honest guy, am I the ahole?

1392
01:06:36,720 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 1: You know what they say what honesty without empathy is cruelty.

1393
01:06:40,640 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 4: I heard that honesty is the best policy. That's what

1394
01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:43,439
Speaker 4: I've heard.

1395
01:06:43,560 --> 01:06:46,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you're gonna be honest, you're probably also

1396
01:06:46,400 --> 01:06:47,240
Speaker 1: going to be an apple.

1397
01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:50,320
Speaker 2: I cannot believe that there's a split opinion for this

1398
01:06:50,440 --> 01:06:53,479
Speaker 2: at my office, but here we go. A coworker of mine,

1399
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:57,000
Speaker 2: thirty nine female, recently had twin boys after a long

1400
01:06:57,120 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 2: battle with infertility. She has made her first appearance into

1401
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:02,760
Speaker 2: the office with her new babies to introduce them to

1402
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 2: our team. That's the infertility jackpot right there. When people

1403
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:09,680
Speaker 2: asked what she named the boys as up until this appearance,

1404
01:07:09,800 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 2: she was undecided. She told me that she was naming

1405
01:07:13,320 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 2: them Sean. Okay, that sounds normal.

1406
01:07:16,600 --> 01:07:18,440
Speaker 4: Terrible name, How dare you so?

1407
01:07:18,520 --> 01:07:22,000
Speaker 2: When I asked about the other baby, she said, no,

1408
01:07:22,680 --> 01:07:26,720
Speaker 2: they're both Sean, one with an A and one with

1409
01:07:26,880 --> 01:07:27,160
Speaker 2: an E.

1410
01:07:27,760 --> 01:07:31,560
Speaker 4: So there's s E A N and s e E N.

1411
01:07:32,320 --> 01:07:36,400
Speaker 2: S E E N that is Scene. It's Sean.

1412
01:07:37,400 --> 01:07:38,280
Speaker 4: That is Sean.

1413
01:07:38,960 --> 01:07:41,800
Speaker 2: You were just named your kid Sean and Scene.

1414
01:07:42,240 --> 01:07:45,360
Speaker 4: The coworker's last name is also Sean.

1415
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 2: So when I pointed this out, she said, yes, it's

1416
01:07:50,240 --> 01:07:55,400
Speaker 2: like Tom, Tom or JJ. I immediately and without thinking, said,

1417
01:07:55,600 --> 01:07:57,760
Speaker 2: that is the most idiotic thing I've heard.

1418
01:07:58,440 --> 01:08:00,200
Speaker 4: Is going to be confused us.

1419
01:08:01,800 --> 01:08:06,240
Speaker 2: Oh god. A bunch of people laughed and a bunch

1420
01:08:06,320 --> 01:08:09,080
Speaker 2: of people looked away. After she left, I got a

1421
01:08:09,160 --> 01:08:12,080
Speaker 2: few text messages saying it's not my place to comment

1422
01:08:12,240 --> 01:08:14,600
Speaker 2: on people's choice of name. Am I the a hole

1423
01:08:14,680 --> 01:08:17,800
Speaker 2: for saying that is a terrible naming idea? And some

1424
01:08:17,920 --> 01:08:22,280
Speaker 2: additional information. No, they don't have meddle names. She wanted

1425
01:08:22,320 --> 01:08:26,120
Speaker 2: their names to be like Tom, Tom or JJ. This

1426
01:08:26,240 --> 01:08:28,840
Speaker 2: apparently is not the first round of negative feedback she

1427
01:08:28,920 --> 01:08:32,960
Speaker 2: has had. Oh yeah, we're on good terms. We have

1428
01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:37,080
Speaker 2: worked together across three companies over twelve years. And she

1429
01:08:37,320 --> 01:08:40,920
Speaker 2: said it'll grow on you. The names are both pronounced Sean,

1430
01:08:41,479 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 2: like Sean saha w n. There's a decent actually a

1431
01:08:45,560 --> 01:08:48,799
Speaker 2: man of meat left on it, some meat on the bones.

1432
01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:54,720
Speaker 2: Everyone watching Sam right here is a or. I mean,

1433
01:08:55,120 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 2: it's definitely a dumb name.

1434
01:08:56,320 --> 01:08:59,280
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a dumb question that someone tells you

1435
01:09:00,000 --> 01:09:02,599
Speaker 1: their baby name and you think it's them as a brick,

1436
01:09:02,960 --> 01:09:04,880
Speaker 1: do you them to their face?

1437
01:09:05,200 --> 01:09:08,360
Speaker 2: My coworker's husband, who was also a coworker, saw the

1438
01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:12,799
Speaker 2: post last night. Uh uh. They had a good chuckle

1439
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:15,559
Speaker 2: and ended up agreeing with the replies that the naming

1440
01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:19,240
Speaker 2: process wasn't ideal and maybe the overwhelming process of having

1441
01:09:19,400 --> 01:09:22,719
Speaker 2: two newborns left them too tired to think straight, despite

1442
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:25,320
Speaker 2: the fact that they had already sent off the paperwork

1443
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:29,080
Speaker 2: to Births, Deaths and Marriages Office the place you lodge

1444
01:09:29,160 --> 01:09:32,040
Speaker 2: bursts for in Australia they called it the Brisbane Office,

1445
01:09:32,160 --> 01:09:35,360
Speaker 2: and the paperwork had only been provisionally processed due to

1446
01:09:35,439 --> 01:09:38,920
Speaker 2: Christmas time, and they have used this time to reassess.

1447
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:43,760
Speaker 4: They have withdrawn the paperwork for seen only the see en.

1448
01:09:46,160 --> 01:09:49,040
Speaker 2: There's still on and they'll think of a new name,

1449
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:52,000
Speaker 2: but they are keeping Sean Sean as they like it.

1450
01:09:52,200 --> 01:09:55,400
Speaker 2: Have also been reported to HR for making this Reddit post,

1451
01:09:55,560 --> 01:09:58,439
Speaker 2: not by the parents. They think it's hilarious, so well,

1452
01:09:58,520 --> 01:10:01,400
Speaker 2: well if it isn't the concept of my actions. They

1453
01:10:01,439 --> 01:10:04,240
Speaker 2: also want everyone to note that calling her an idiot

1454
01:10:04,400 --> 01:10:06,599
Speaker 2: wasn't the worst thing I've said to her this year,

1455
01:10:06,720 --> 01:10:09,040
Speaker 2: and while I'm definitely an a hole, that it's more

1456
01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:11,839
Speaker 2: of a general thing than being tied to the situation.

1457
01:10:12,080 --> 01:10:16,400
Speaker 2: Happy holidays everyone, and there is a final update. All right,

1458
01:10:16,479 --> 01:10:18,320
Speaker 2: let's blaze through it. A lot of people want an

1459
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 2: update post on my meeting with HR for whatever reason,

1460
01:10:21,320 --> 01:10:23,760
Speaker 2: so here it is. But as expected, it was underwhelming.

1461
01:10:23,840 --> 01:10:26,679
Speaker 2: I met with HR yesterday. The meeting was pretty brief

1462
01:10:26,760 --> 01:10:29,439
Speaker 2: and definitely a waste of everyone's time. They asked if

1463
01:10:29,439 --> 01:10:31,600
Speaker 2: I was aware of the company's social media policy. I

1464
01:10:31,680 --> 01:10:34,360
Speaker 2: said I was. I'm fairly confident that I hadn't breached it.

1465
01:10:34,479 --> 01:10:36,720
Speaker 2: They agreed I hadn't and asked me to be more

1466
01:10:36,800 --> 01:10:39,479
Speaker 2: considerate of my coworkers' feelings and to not push this

1467
01:10:39,640 --> 01:10:42,479
Speaker 2: meeting all over the internet. What are we doing here, o,

1468
01:10:42,600 --> 01:10:45,280
Speaker 2: b they have your post. I said, I'll definitely be

1469
01:10:45,400 --> 01:10:47,720
Speaker 2: doing an update and that I'll be sure not to

1470
01:10:47,840 --> 01:10:51,719
Speaker 2: call the person naming their child Seene Sean an idiot.

1471
01:10:51,880 --> 01:10:52,160
Speaker 4: Again.

1472
01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:54,320
Speaker 2: I work in banking, and while there is a long

1473
01:10:54,360 --> 01:10:56,400
Speaker 2: way to go to fixing the culture across the entire

1474
01:10:56,439 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 2: banking organization, I think HR was just doing their thing

1475
01:10:59,360 --> 01:11:02,600
Speaker 2: and making sure I'm on notice in case I don't know.

1476
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:04,880
Speaker 2: I take a photo of me stealing candy from a

1477
01:11:04,920 --> 01:11:08,160
Speaker 2: baby while wearing the company logo or something like that.

1478
01:11:08,720 --> 01:11:13,400
Speaker 1: Well, that was quite the adventure. It was quite the adventure.

1479
01:11:13,439 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 1: But I think someone I want to know from everyone

1480
01:11:15,640 --> 01:11:17,400
Speaker 1: else is one is OP the a Hole. I think

1481
01:11:17,439 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 1: maybe a little bit, maybe a little bit. But two,

1482
01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:23,360
Speaker 1: what are the worst baby names that you've heard? Put

1483
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:27,160
Speaker 1: your answers in the commons below. They gave their baby

1484
01:11:27,280 --> 01:11:30,280
Speaker 1: a dumb name, So I just pointed out how stupid

1485
01:11:30,360 --> 01:11:33,080
Speaker 1: and dumb dum baby name is am I the a Hole.

1486
01:11:33,400 --> 01:11:36,560
Speaker 1: I have a tradition of making tooth fairy pillows for

1487
01:11:36,680 --> 01:11:39,840
Speaker 1: my friends and family when someone is pregnant. I am

1488
01:11:39,920 --> 01:11:43,400
Speaker 1: broider a fancy crest on it with the child's initials

1489
01:11:43,479 --> 01:11:45,920
Speaker 1: in the center. One of my cousins announced she and

1490
01:11:46,040 --> 01:11:49,000
Speaker 1: her husband were pregnant and that's it online, and of

1491
01:11:49,080 --> 01:11:51,920
Speaker 1: course I was excited for her. I messaged her and

1492
01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 1: asked if she wanted me to make a pillow for

1493
01:11:54,400 --> 01:11:57,519
Speaker 1: her baby, and she said yes, okay. I told her

1494
01:11:57,640 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 1: I could make it now or wait until the baby

1495
01:12:00,680 --> 01:12:02,559
Speaker 1: is born and make it then. I always give people

1496
01:12:02,600 --> 01:12:05,559
Speaker 1: the option to keep the name a surprise. She wanted

1497
01:12:05,560 --> 01:12:07,280
Speaker 1: me to make it now so that she could show

1498
01:12:07,320 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 1: her in laws as the baby name was going to

1499
01:12:09,479 --> 01:12:15,479
Speaker 1: have significance to her husband's family. Ooh, building, well, this

1500
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:18,320
Speaker 1: is where it gets awkward. She told me the name,

1501
01:12:18,439 --> 01:12:22,679
Speaker 1: and it's a lovely name. However, the first name starts

1502
01:12:22,720 --> 01:12:26,200
Speaker 1: with an akay, the middle name starts with an s. Ooh,

1503
01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:29,799
Speaker 1: and their last name starts with an S. I asked

1504
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:33,080
Speaker 1: her if she really wanted me to embroider that on

1505
01:12:33,200 --> 01:12:37,000
Speaker 1: a pillow. She video called me at that moment, laughing hysterically,

1506
01:12:37,479 --> 01:12:40,200
Speaker 1: saying she didn't even realize, and that she was going

1507
01:12:40,280 --> 01:12:42,360
Speaker 1: to have a talk to her husband about it and

1508
01:12:42,520 --> 01:12:45,799
Speaker 1: hold off. I go about my business thinking, whew, bullet

1509
01:12:45,880 --> 01:12:48,760
Speaker 1: dodge for that kid. Yeah, and then she and her

1510
01:12:48,840 --> 01:12:51,559
Speaker 1: husband would get a good laugh about their almost mistake.

1511
01:12:52,040 --> 01:12:52,280
Speaker 2: Nope.

1512
01:12:52,320 --> 01:12:55,200
Speaker 1: A couple hours later, her husband called me and laid

1513
01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:58,720
Speaker 1: into me about how the name chosen was special and

1514
01:12:58,840 --> 01:13:02,559
Speaker 1: I was trying to turn crass and make juvenile jokes

1515
01:13:02,600 --> 01:13:05,000
Speaker 1: out of something that was so meaningful to his family.

1516
01:13:05,200 --> 01:13:08,280
Speaker 2: You joked on yourself, buddy, You literally name your kids,

1517
01:13:08,800 --> 01:13:10,920
Speaker 2: he said a lot. But that was the just of it.

1518
01:13:11,120 --> 01:13:14,360
Speaker 1: He told me I was an ass, that he didn't

1519
01:13:14,360 --> 01:13:16,880
Speaker 1: want my stupid pillow and told me to stay away

1520
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:19,800
Speaker 1: from his family as clearly I had no respect for them.

1521
01:13:19,880 --> 01:13:21,760
Speaker 1: I honestly didn't realize it would be that big of

1522
01:13:21,760 --> 01:13:24,600
Speaker 1: a problem. I just didn't want to embroider profanity on

1523
01:13:24,720 --> 01:13:27,559
Speaker 1: a pillow, not for a baby. Anyway, his reaction has

1524
01:13:27,600 --> 01:13:29,719
Speaker 1: me wondering if maybe my mind is in the gutter

1525
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:32,160
Speaker 1: and I'm the only one who has a problem with it.

1526
01:13:32,479 --> 01:13:35,320
Speaker 1: So am I the a hole? There is an update,

1527
01:13:35,479 --> 01:13:36,960
Speaker 1: But John, what do you think?

1528
01:13:37,160 --> 01:13:39,240
Speaker 2: I love how we're asking if he's the asshole for

1529
01:13:39,320 --> 01:13:42,800
Speaker 2: writing acts? That's so great meta. He was basically like, Hey,

1530
01:13:42,960 --> 01:13:44,600
Speaker 2: are you just wanted to know what you want me

1531
01:13:44,640 --> 01:13:46,120
Speaker 2: to put out? Do you want me to put this

1532
01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:47,679
Speaker 2: on the pillow? I think that's fine.

1533
01:13:47,800 --> 01:13:50,040
Speaker 1: Before I can decide what to do, my cousin and

1534
01:13:50,240 --> 01:13:53,360
Speaker 1: her husband called for all of you calling him and ask, well,

1535
01:13:53,439 --> 01:13:56,360
Speaker 1: you were right. He is an act too, the third

1536
01:13:56,439 --> 01:14:01,040
Speaker 1: to be prey. They're all at He always went by

1537
01:14:01,560 --> 01:14:03,840
Speaker 1: middle name, so I didn't know he's getting in a

1538
01:14:03,880 --> 01:14:06,080
Speaker 1: lot of pressure from his parents to carry on the

1539
01:14:06,160 --> 01:14:09,719
Speaker 1: family tradition for his unborn son. He apparently was also

1540
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:12,720
Speaker 1: bullied a lot in school for his initials.

1541
01:14:12,840 --> 01:14:14,880
Speaker 2: He was actually really sorry for going off of me.

1542
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:17,240
Speaker 1: I guess my cousin called him laughing about it, and

1543
01:14:17,320 --> 01:14:19,040
Speaker 1: he didn't want to get mad at her, so he

1544
01:14:19,240 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 1: redirected to me. The messenger drab broke the Campbell's back

1545
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,400
Speaker 1: kind of situation. He admitted he's got some issues to

1546
01:14:25,439 --> 01:14:27,600
Speaker 1: work through, but he gave me a proper and I

1547
01:14:27,720 --> 01:14:31,200
Speaker 1: feel sincere apology, and my cousin has promised.

1548
01:14:30,880 --> 01:14:33,160
Speaker 2: Me some of my favorite chocolate is on the way

1549
01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:35,720
Speaker 2: to my house as we speak. I'm relieved because I

1550
01:14:35,800 --> 01:14:38,760
Speaker 2: didn't want family functions to become awkward, nor did either

1551
01:14:38,800 --> 01:14:41,080
Speaker 2: of us want the wrath of our grandma to befall

1552
01:14:41,280 --> 01:14:43,800
Speaker 2: cousin's husband. They've been discussing it and they're going to

1553
01:14:43,880 --> 01:14:47,040
Speaker 2: go with the name they actually like rather than making

1554
01:14:47,080 --> 01:14:50,719
Speaker 2: their son in. They did as nicely if I would

1555
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:53,719
Speaker 2: still make a pillow, but after the kiddo was born,

1556
01:14:53,920 --> 01:14:57,559
Speaker 2: so his dad won't have pre warning. The kiddo won't

1557
01:14:57,720 --> 01:15:00,559
Speaker 2: be an act also, and they have a whole name

1558
01:15:00,600 --> 01:15:02,320
Speaker 2: to figure out again too. I will make them the

1559
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:09,200
Speaker 2: pillow after the chocolate arrives. It really did, I mean

1560
01:15:09,280 --> 01:15:11,719
Speaker 2: the fact you know it was it was the trauma

1561
01:15:11,800 --> 01:15:15,360
Speaker 2: of being being a man. He just you know, he

1562
01:15:15,439 --> 01:15:16,840
Speaker 2: couldn't help, but unleash UPONO.

1563
01:15:17,080 --> 01:15:19,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, he's still figuring out his identity.

1564
01:15:19,960 --> 01:15:21,160
Speaker 4: That's that's exactly.

1565
01:15:21,479 --> 01:15:25,160
Speaker 1: My ex has a restraining order against me and wants

1566
01:15:25,240 --> 01:15:26,439
Speaker 1: to a vict me from my home.

1567
01:15:26,640 --> 01:15:29,360
Speaker 2: I don't care about the law. I'm not leaving. Am

1568
01:15:29,400 --> 01:15:30,360
Speaker 2: I the a hole? Dang?

1569
01:15:30,439 --> 01:15:34,240
Speaker 4: When you've got a whole restraining order against.

1570
01:15:33,840 --> 01:15:36,960
Speaker 1: Somebody, don't restrain yourself, don't stop keep going.

1571
01:15:37,120 --> 01:15:40,560
Speaker 2: My ex wife and I had a rocky marriage, and

1572
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:43,760
Speaker 2: my alcoholism didn't help. There we go, all right, opee, Well,

1573
01:15:43,800 --> 01:15:45,679
Speaker 2: at least you could admit to stuff.

1574
01:15:45,840 --> 01:15:48,799
Speaker 1: She pushed for a divorce. We lived together during the divorce,

1575
01:15:48,880 --> 01:15:51,920
Speaker 1: and one day I found out she was dating another man.

1576
01:15:52,120 --> 01:15:55,360
Speaker 1: I snapped and hit her pretty hard. I was charged

1577
01:15:55,360 --> 01:15:59,040
Speaker 1: with assault, spent three months in jail, went to anger management,

1578
01:15:59,160 --> 01:16:02,360
Speaker 1: and I was also issued a three year restraining order,

1579
01:16:02,439 --> 01:16:03,760
Speaker 1: which probably honestly good.

1580
01:16:03,960 --> 01:16:05,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, this was two years ago.

1581
01:16:05,800 --> 01:16:08,759
Speaker 1: I've since sobered up, met a wonderful woman, and moved

1582
01:16:08,800 --> 01:16:12,080
Speaker 1: to a completely different apartment complex in a completely different

1583
01:16:12,120 --> 01:16:15,400
Speaker 1: part of the city, and have never had any further

1584
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:17,800
Speaker 1: contact with my ex wife. I admit what I did

1585
01:16:17,960 --> 01:16:21,080
Speaker 1: was wrong. I paid the price. I've since re established

1586
01:16:21,080 --> 01:16:23,600
Speaker 1: myself My current woman, who have been in relationship for

1587
01:16:23,760 --> 01:16:26,800
Speaker 1: two years, is aware of this background story, which makes

1588
01:16:26,920 --> 01:16:28,080
Speaker 1: things slightly easier.

1589
01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 2: Well. Unknown to me, my ex moved into my apartment

1590
01:16:31,600 --> 01:16:34,799
Speaker 2: complex about five months ago with her now new husband,

1591
01:16:34,920 --> 01:16:37,960
Speaker 2: who had always lived here. I just didn't know this. Wow.

1592
01:16:38,160 --> 01:16:40,760
Speaker 1: I saw her in the lobby just before New Year's

1593
01:16:40,880 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 1: She greeted me. I turned shocked and said hello. She

1594
01:16:44,040 --> 01:16:46,320
Speaker 1: asked me what I was doing in the lobby. I

1595
01:16:46,439 --> 01:16:48,840
Speaker 1: said I was just coming in from work, and she

1596
01:16:49,040 --> 01:16:51,880
Speaker 1: told me the restraining order is still in effect and

1597
01:16:52,000 --> 01:16:52,599
Speaker 1: that I need.

1598
01:16:52,600 --> 01:16:53,639
Speaker 2: To move out. Wow.

1599
01:16:54,720 --> 01:16:56,400
Speaker 1: I can't imagine that is legal.

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01:16:56,439 --> 01:16:58,280
Speaker 2: I don't know. We'll see, we'll see. I tried to

1601
01:16:58,400 --> 01:17:00,920
Speaker 2: reason with her and told her I'd be happy to

1602
01:17:00,960 --> 01:17:02,800
Speaker 2: steer clear of her. I know we don't live on

1603
01:17:02,840 --> 01:17:04,680
Speaker 2: the same floor. I don't even know what floor she

1604
01:17:04,760 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 2: lives on.

1605
01:17:05,200 --> 01:17:07,000
Speaker 1: I don't care to know. I told her if I

1606
01:17:07,080 --> 01:17:09,040
Speaker 1: saw her in an elevator, I wouldn't get in and

1607
01:17:09,160 --> 01:17:10,800
Speaker 1: just wait for the next one. She told me she

1608
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,920
Speaker 1: was going to enforce the restraining order against me. My

1609
01:17:14,040 --> 01:17:17,240
Speaker 1: partner and I literally signed a brand new two year

1610
01:17:17,400 --> 01:17:20,439
Speaker 1: lease six months ago. We love the place we live

1611
01:17:20,520 --> 01:17:23,000
Speaker 1: in and wouldn't want to move, and it feels unjust

1612
01:17:23,200 --> 01:17:26,240
Speaker 1: having to move slashing curve financial hardship because the person

1613
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:30,360
Speaker 1: I had a restraining order against moved into my apartment complex.

1614
01:17:30,400 --> 01:17:32,639
Speaker 1: The reason why I'm bringing this up is because last

1615
01:17:32,720 --> 01:17:35,439
Speaker 1: night the building manager was informed of the restraining order

1616
01:17:35,560 --> 01:17:37,240
Speaker 1: and told us that we need to figure this out.

1617
01:17:37,320 --> 01:17:39,800
Speaker 1: So the question is, would she really be able to

1618
01:17:39,880 --> 01:17:41,880
Speaker 1: force me out of my home even though I lived

1619
01:17:41,920 --> 01:17:43,760
Speaker 1: here before her? As long as I do my best

1620
01:17:43,800 --> 01:17:46,760
Speaker 1: to avoid any contact with her, which I'm perfectly fine doing,

1621
01:17:46,880 --> 01:17:50,120
Speaker 1: shouldn't that be sufficient. I work a really early schedule,

1622
01:17:50,280 --> 01:17:52,519
Speaker 1: and I learned of the fact that she has been

1623
01:17:52,640 --> 01:17:55,839
Speaker 1: dating this guy and coming over to this apartment complex

1624
01:17:55,920 --> 01:17:59,040
Speaker 1: for the entire time I've been here. We just recently

1625
01:17:59,160 --> 01:18:01,600
Speaker 1: have crossed paths. He's been living here full time for

1626
01:18:01,680 --> 01:18:05,200
Speaker 1: the past five months. I'm not sure what to do. FYI,

1627
01:18:05,640 --> 01:18:07,519
Speaker 1: this is New York City. I mean, John, what do

1628
01:18:07,560 --> 01:18:08,000
Speaker 1: you think.

1629
01:18:08,000 --> 01:18:09,679
Speaker 4: It could get? Very very dicey.

1630
01:18:10,000 --> 01:18:12,960
Speaker 2: If that's all true, then it seems like probably a

1631
01:18:13,160 --> 01:18:17,120
Speaker 2: reasonable situation, and that I would guess you would go

1632
01:18:17,320 --> 01:18:20,800
Speaker 2: to a court and like basically like state your case

1633
01:18:20,880 --> 01:18:22,800
Speaker 2: of like hey, like basically everything you just said, I

1634
01:18:22,920 --> 01:18:25,639
Speaker 2: feel like she has every right to enforce the restraining order,

1635
01:18:25,760 --> 01:18:29,040
Speaker 2: especially with that additional context. But John, there is an update.

1636
01:18:29,160 --> 01:18:30,160
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, let's see.

1637
01:18:30,360 --> 01:18:33,240
Speaker 1: The public defender that represented me was no longer practicing

1638
01:18:33,320 --> 01:18:35,160
Speaker 1: in the New York City area, but I retained a

1639
01:18:35,280 --> 01:18:37,200
Speaker 1: lawyer who was a friend of a friend who has

1640
01:18:37,280 --> 01:18:40,280
Speaker 1: experienced in this area. My lawyer got references from my

1641
01:18:40,439 --> 01:18:44,120
Speaker 1: parole officer, employer, and AA sponsor. Our goal was to

1642
01:18:44,200 --> 01:18:47,680
Speaker 1: get the restraining order modified to a simple no contact

1643
01:18:47,880 --> 01:18:51,120
Speaker 1: order with no distance requirements so I could continue living

1644
01:18:51,160 --> 01:18:53,360
Speaker 1: with my partner. I spoke to the judge, told in

1645
01:18:53,439 --> 01:18:55,519
Speaker 1: my story and what I had done to correct my

1646
01:18:55,680 --> 01:18:59,919
Speaker 1: past transgressions. He reviewed my record and we submitted our references.

1647
01:19:00,280 --> 01:19:02,639
Speaker 1: During this time period, I was crashing on a friend's

1648
01:19:02,680 --> 01:19:05,120
Speaker 1: couch as to not violate my protective order.

1649
01:19:05,240 --> 01:19:06,480
Speaker 2: The parole officer.

1650
01:19:06,160 --> 01:19:08,920
Speaker 1: Said I had to pay my fines, followed all the rules,

1651
01:19:08,960 --> 01:19:11,320
Speaker 1: and never once had to remind me of my restrictions

1652
01:19:11,400 --> 01:19:14,120
Speaker 1: and so forth, and said he was impressed with my turnaround.

1653
01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:16,280
Speaker 1: So the parole officers saying like basically everything that he

1654
01:19:16,360 --> 01:19:17,040
Speaker 1: did was good.

1655
01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:19,400
Speaker 2: On his side. Essentially, my employer said that I was.

1656
01:19:19,439 --> 01:19:22,720
Speaker 1: Always early never seemed to be under the influence or

1657
01:19:22,920 --> 01:19:26,000
Speaker 1: a hangover from anything, and even at our company functions,

1658
01:19:26,120 --> 01:19:29,080
Speaker 1: was very open and honest about my sobriety and didn't

1659
01:19:29,120 --> 01:19:32,599
Speaker 1: partake in drinking. My AA sponsor said good things about

1660
01:19:32,640 --> 01:19:34,600
Speaker 1: me too, how he was impressed with my maturity and

1661
01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:38,439
Speaker 1: openness on my alcoholism and addiction. The judge asked my

1662
01:19:38,600 --> 01:19:42,200
Speaker 1: ex wife to speak. My ex wife said she was shocked.

1663
01:19:41,880 --> 01:19:42,679
Speaker 2: By my turnaround.

1664
01:19:42,800 --> 01:19:45,360
Speaker 1: She said that it seemed unfair to her to require

1665
01:19:45,400 --> 01:19:48,160
Speaker 1: me to move because she moved into my building unknowingly,

1666
01:19:48,360 --> 01:19:50,600
Speaker 1: and that she no longer felt threatened by me. This

1667
01:19:50,760 --> 01:19:52,800
Speaker 1: was a shock to both my lawyer and I, as

1668
01:19:52,840 --> 01:19:55,080
Speaker 1: I expected my ex to want to keep the protective

1669
01:19:55,200 --> 01:19:58,639
Speaker 1: order in place. The judge said that he wouldn't modify

1670
01:19:58,720 --> 01:20:02,000
Speaker 1: the productive order, but in in fact lifted entirely as

1671
01:20:02,080 --> 01:20:04,719
Speaker 1: he felt it had served its purpose, and that based

1672
01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:08,200
Speaker 1: on my references, my testimony, and most importantly the testimony

1673
01:20:08,320 --> 01:20:10,439
Speaker 1: of my ex, that he didn't see how keeping it

1674
01:20:10,520 --> 01:20:13,720
Speaker 1: in place was benefiting anyone anymore. He did tell my

1675
01:20:13,800 --> 01:20:16,360
Speaker 1: ex that if she ever felt threatened or in danger

1676
01:20:16,479 --> 01:20:18,879
Speaker 1: because of something I said or did, she could contact

1677
01:20:18,920 --> 01:20:21,559
Speaker 1: the police. The judge then told me his main reason

1678
01:20:21,600 --> 01:20:23,680
Speaker 1: for lifting the order was to allow me to live

1679
01:20:23,760 --> 01:20:26,120
Speaker 1: in my current apartment, but advised that it was a

1680
01:20:26,200 --> 01:20:28,840
Speaker 1: good idea to avoid contact with my ex to avoid

1681
01:20:28,920 --> 01:20:31,960
Speaker 1: potential complications down the road. He reminded me, because of

1682
01:20:32,040 --> 01:20:34,719
Speaker 1: my past, it wouldn't take much to get another protective

1683
01:20:34,840 --> 01:20:36,840
Speaker 1: order in place. I told the judge I had no

1684
01:20:36,960 --> 01:20:40,000
Speaker 1: intention of talking slash contacting my ex, and I was

1685
01:20:40,080 --> 01:20:42,240
Speaker 1: thrilled that I don't have to move and get to

1686
01:20:42,320 --> 01:20:44,960
Speaker 1: stay with my current girlfriend. So over the course of

1687
01:20:45,040 --> 01:20:48,000
Speaker 1: this weekend, I moved back into my apartment with my girlfriend,

1688
01:20:48,080 --> 01:20:50,000
Speaker 1: and I'm glad that this was resolved.

1689
01:20:50,120 --> 01:20:52,439
Speaker 2: Every once in a blue moon, Sam, we have a

1690
01:20:52,600 --> 01:20:55,320
Speaker 2: story that has a happy ending.

1691
01:20:55,520 --> 01:20:57,560
Speaker 1: But you know what we would like to hear. We

1692
01:20:57,600 --> 01:21:00,479
Speaker 1: would like to hear from Republic subscribers about you know

1693
01:21:00,680 --> 01:21:03,559
Speaker 1: who are some people that you actually saw do a turnaround?

1694
01:21:03,680 --> 01:21:05,360
Speaker 1: Lease share in the comments below.

1695
01:21:05,520 --> 01:21:07,760
Speaker 2: My brother was bullying a kid for taking the bus,

1696
01:21:07,960 --> 01:21:10,280
Speaker 2: so I'm never driving him to school again. Now he

1697
01:21:10,360 --> 01:21:12,799
Speaker 2: has to take the bus with all the other losers.

1698
01:21:12,960 --> 01:21:13,839
Speaker 4: Am I the ahole?

1699
01:21:14,000 --> 01:21:15,800
Speaker 2: Give him a taste of his own medicine. Ooh, it

1700
01:21:15,920 --> 01:21:19,519
Speaker 2: tastes nasty. It tastes like the bus floor. My brother, fifteen,

1701
01:21:19,680 --> 01:21:22,320
Speaker 2: goes to the same private school that I attended. It's

1702
01:21:22,320 --> 01:21:24,920
Speaker 2: full of a bunch of spoiled, rich kids whose entire

1703
01:21:25,040 --> 01:21:28,280
Speaker 2: identity is surrounded by how much money their parents make.

1704
01:21:28,439 --> 01:21:30,600
Speaker 2: If you don't get a car by sixteen, you'll be

1705
01:21:30,720 --> 01:21:34,080
Speaker 2: bullied without a doubt, God, as you should be. So

1706
01:21:34,200 --> 01:21:37,280
Speaker 2: a friend shared a TikTok her sister posted, and it

1707
01:21:37,439 --> 01:21:40,760
Speaker 2: was a group of boys bullying a kid waiting for

1708
01:21:40,880 --> 01:21:43,640
Speaker 2: the bus. They were mocking him, laughing at him, and

1709
01:21:43,720 --> 01:21:46,760
Speaker 2: at one point someone off camera threw food at the kid.

1710
01:21:47,080 --> 01:21:51,320
Speaker 2: I recognized two kids, one of them being my brother.

1711
01:21:51,560 --> 01:21:54,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, geez. I told my parents, and they

1712
01:21:54,800 --> 01:21:58,040
Speaker 2: brushed it off, saying he's a teat boy.

1713
01:21:58,560 --> 01:22:01,600
Speaker 1: You know how they go who just take away the

1714
01:22:01,640 --> 01:22:03,720
Speaker 1: bed cleve for a couple of days and he'll learn

1715
01:22:03,800 --> 01:22:04,280
Speaker 1: his lesson.

1716
01:22:04,400 --> 01:22:06,439
Speaker 2: When my brother got home, I told him what he

1717
01:22:06,560 --> 01:22:10,000
Speaker 2: did wasn't right, and he walked away laughing. I told

1718
01:22:10,080 --> 01:22:12,240
Speaker 2: my mom, as long as he continues to bully people

1719
01:22:12,320 --> 01:22:14,400
Speaker 2: and they do nothing about it, I won't take him

1720
01:22:14,400 --> 01:22:17,519
Speaker 2: to school anymore. Right. That is actually genius. This will

1721
01:22:17,600 --> 01:22:20,720
Speaker 2: mean that he'll have to take public transportation because my

1722
01:22:20,800 --> 01:22:23,280
Speaker 2: parents leave too early for work to take him to school.

1723
01:22:23,400 --> 01:22:26,080
Speaker 2: My parents are livid, saying I'm an a hole for

1724
01:22:26,160 --> 01:22:30,040
Speaker 2: being so unreasonable and sensitive over a joke. Let him

1725
01:22:30,240 --> 01:22:32,680
Speaker 2: take the bus? Am I in the wrong here? This

1726
01:22:32,760 --> 01:22:36,720
Speaker 2: show was sponsored by your sweet sexy ass. If you

1727
01:22:36,800 --> 01:22:40,519
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1728
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1729
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1730
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1731
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Speaker 2: Off, all naturalow not to mention.

1733
01:22:55,240 --> 01:22:58,200
Speaker 1: We'll do it together live in front of a camera

1734
01:22:58,439 --> 01:23:00,880
Speaker 1: with assholes anonymous. You'll get a chance to talk to

1735
01:23:01,040 --> 01:23:03,719
Speaker 1: us directly and maybe be featured on the YouTube channel.

1736
01:23:03,800 --> 01:23:04,840
Speaker 4: Wait say not like that?

1737
01:23:05,160 --> 01:23:07,120
Speaker 2: Like the fans get to share their stories with us

1738
01:23:07,240 --> 01:23:09,200
Speaker 2: and other fans and we get to talk about it

1739
01:23:09,360 --> 01:23:11,240
Speaker 2: right and then moot each other at the end.

1740
01:23:11,439 --> 01:23:14,680
Speaker 1: Oh god, So if you want all that axe ass,

1741
01:23:15,280 --> 01:23:18,920
Speaker 1: support your boys at patreon dot com slash Okop show.

1742
01:23:19,000 --> 01:23:22,400
Speaker 2: That's patreon dot com slash okop show. So real quick,

1743
01:23:22,479 --> 01:23:25,200
Speaker 2: Sam is Op being the ahole heart No Op is

1744
01:23:25,280 --> 01:23:29,400
Speaker 2: actually being a parental figure unlike these actual parents. Onto

1745
01:23:29,400 --> 01:23:31,800
Speaker 2: the first update, Hey y'alls, tomorrow is his first day

1746
01:23:31,840 --> 01:23:34,400
Speaker 2: taking the bus since my parents couldn't find anyone else

1747
01:23:34,479 --> 01:23:38,000
Speaker 2: to take it. Nice given that medicine back to them.

1748
01:23:38,240 --> 01:23:40,320
Speaker 2: I'll update all this weekend and tell you how the

1749
01:23:40,400 --> 01:23:42,760
Speaker 2: week went. Now it's pretty late and I don't think

1750
01:23:42,760 --> 01:23:44,880
Speaker 2: i'll be doing any replies, but I do want to

1751
01:23:44,920 --> 01:23:48,400
Speaker 2: clarify two things. One, I bought my car with my money.

1752
01:23:48,560 --> 01:23:51,479
Speaker 2: My parents didn't. It's not their car, it's mine. Two,

1753
01:23:51,960 --> 01:23:54,719
Speaker 2: I'm not parenting my brother. I don't know how anyone

1754
01:23:54,840 --> 01:23:57,240
Speaker 2: jumped to that conclusion. If I no longer wish to

1755
01:23:57,320 --> 01:23:59,280
Speaker 2: go out of my way and pay for gas to

1756
01:23:59,360 --> 01:24:01,400
Speaker 2: take him to and from school every day, I don't

1757
01:24:01,439 --> 01:24:03,519
Speaker 2: have to. Like I said, he has to take the bus,

1758
01:24:03,640 --> 01:24:06,240
Speaker 2: and all it costs for kids under eighteen is a dollar.

1759
01:24:06,479 --> 01:24:08,360
Speaker 2: Two dollars a day is not going to hurt my

1760
01:24:08,439 --> 01:24:11,439
Speaker 2: parents in the slightest lol. Also, I would take the

1761
01:24:11,560 --> 01:24:13,640
Speaker 2: bullied kid to school if I knew who he was.

1762
01:24:13,800 --> 01:24:16,160
Speaker 2: The principal and vice principal had the video send to

1763
01:24:16,200 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 2: them already, so if I find who the kid is,

1764
01:24:18,520 --> 01:24:20,960
Speaker 2: I'll see if his parents are okay with me taking

1765
01:24:21,040 --> 01:24:23,360
Speaker 2: him to school. That's awesome. Yeah, shout out to it not.

1766
01:24:23,479 --> 01:24:27,320
Speaker 1: Only punished the bully, but uplift the bullied.

1767
01:24:27,560 --> 01:24:30,840
Speaker 2: Yes, I can't make any promises on anything happening, since

1768
01:24:30,960 --> 01:24:33,240
Speaker 2: I know how this school is and how they deal

1769
01:24:33,320 --> 01:24:36,240
Speaker 2: with bullying, and I'm not sharing this TikTok on here.

1770
01:24:36,439 --> 01:24:38,439
Speaker 2: There seems to be some confusion. I said, he goes

1771
01:24:38,479 --> 01:24:42,800
Speaker 2: to the same school I attended, not attend. I graduated,

1772
01:24:42,880 --> 01:24:45,280
Speaker 2: and I'm not a minor. Loll okay, So this is

1773
01:24:45,360 --> 01:24:47,400
Speaker 2: the last I'm adding on to this. I don't know

1774
01:24:47,520 --> 01:24:49,960
Speaker 2: how me questioning if my actions were right or wrong

1775
01:24:50,240 --> 01:24:53,479
Speaker 2: led to people discussing me living with my parents. Then again,

1776
01:24:53,560 --> 01:24:56,000
Speaker 2: it's the internet, so I'm not surprised. So I was

1777
01:24:56,040 --> 01:24:58,720
Speaker 2: giving my brother rise even when I was moved out,

1778
01:24:59,000 --> 01:25:01,200
Speaker 2: but I lived with crappy room May and then I

1779
01:25:01,280 --> 01:25:03,200
Speaker 2: moved back home. I am to move back out in

1780
01:25:03,320 --> 01:25:05,439
Speaker 2: less than a month if it all works out, and

1781
01:25:05,560 --> 01:25:09,000
Speaker 2: if it doesn't, then I'm at home longer than I anticipated.

1782
01:25:09,120 --> 01:25:11,759
Speaker 4: Why are strangers so bothered? My parents aren't.

1783
01:25:11,560 --> 01:25:13,960
Speaker 2: Forcing me to move out laughing emoji. On to the

1784
01:25:14,040 --> 01:25:16,760
Speaker 2: final update. So, as I said, I'm no longer taking

1785
01:25:16,840 --> 01:25:19,160
Speaker 2: my brother to school, and my parents couldn't find anyone

1786
01:25:19,240 --> 01:25:21,760
Speaker 2: else to take him, so he did have to take

1787
01:25:21,800 --> 01:25:24,880
Speaker 2: the bus. Someone mentioned why not uber or Lyft, and

1788
01:25:24,960 --> 01:25:27,800
Speaker 2: that's because my parents don't trust either of them. I mean,

1789
01:25:27,880 --> 01:25:31,320
Speaker 2: that's honestly good, because then that's that means he has

1790
01:25:31,439 --> 01:25:34,200
Speaker 2: to take the bus. Thing is he was off the

1791
01:25:34,280 --> 01:25:37,080
Speaker 2: hook the first three days October twenty seventh to the

1792
01:25:37,160 --> 01:25:39,559
Speaker 2: twenty ninth, which is why y'all didn't get an update

1793
01:25:39,600 --> 01:25:42,280
Speaker 2: on the weekend, because my mom let him stay home

1794
01:25:42,439 --> 01:25:45,720
Speaker 2: the first day. Oh my god. Then one of his

1795
01:25:46,000 --> 01:25:49,839
Speaker 2: friends was taking him, which stopped because he was grounded

1796
01:25:50,000 --> 01:25:52,680
Speaker 2: as he was one of the bullies. God. Then the

1797
01:25:52,880 --> 01:25:56,840
Speaker 2: next Monday through Thursday, November first fourth, he had to

1798
01:25:56,880 --> 01:25:58,280
Speaker 2: get on the bus. I love how it took him

1799
01:25:58,400 --> 01:26:01,479
Speaker 2: four days to actually take the bus and get his punishment.

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01:26:01,600 --> 01:26:04,320
Speaker 2: This guy is just like slipping, slipping out of every

1801
01:26:04,400 --> 01:26:07,320
Speaker 2: possible crist too many friends, you gotta take away his friends.

1802
01:26:07,400 --> 01:26:10,200
Speaker 2: On Monday, he still took me as a joke, woke

1803
01:26:10,320 --> 01:26:12,200
Speaker 2: me up and told me to take him to school.

1804
01:26:12,360 --> 01:26:14,519
Speaker 2: I said no, and that's when it hit Then I

1805
01:26:14,760 --> 01:26:17,800
Speaker 2: was dead serious. I gave him a dollar and told

1806
01:26:17,880 --> 01:26:21,960
Speaker 2: him to take the bus. Yeah, as some of you guess,

1807
01:26:22,200 --> 01:26:25,240
Speaker 2: he hated it. And according to my mom, I quote

1808
01:26:25,320 --> 01:26:28,160
Speaker 2: unquote made him have a panic attack because he had

1809
01:26:28,200 --> 01:26:32,000
Speaker 2: to take public transportation. Honestly, good, I'm I'm not sad

1810
01:26:32,080 --> 01:26:36,040
Speaker 2: about that. I'm not mad. I'm not mad anyways. YadA, YadA, YadA.

1811
01:26:36,200 --> 01:26:38,920
Speaker 2: He missed the bus and was late to school. Oh

1812
01:26:39,000 --> 01:26:41,439
Speaker 2: my god. The other days he took the bus, and

1813
01:26:41,560 --> 01:26:44,120
Speaker 2: I didn't hear anything about him being bullied for it,

1814
01:26:44,200 --> 01:26:47,280
Speaker 2: because here's the bully who's the source of the issues.

1815
01:26:47,479 --> 01:26:49,640
Speaker 2: To those of you who claims I was making him

1816
01:26:49,800 --> 01:26:52,280
Speaker 2: take the bus to get bullied Friday, my mom let

1817
01:26:52,360 --> 01:26:55,040
Speaker 2: him stay home again because you guessed it.

1818
01:26:55,280 --> 01:26:57,960
Speaker 1: He didn't want to take the bus. What a pampered

1819
01:26:58,160 --> 01:27:01,280
Speaker 1: puss is He just gonna not get it? Yeah right,

1820
01:27:01,320 --> 01:27:02,639
Speaker 1: he's just gonna drop out of school.

1821
01:27:02,920 --> 01:27:05,840
Speaker 2: So he only took it those four days. And for

1822
01:27:05,920 --> 01:27:08,280
Speaker 2: those of you who think I stopped him from taking

1823
01:27:08,360 --> 01:27:11,720
Speaker 2: an easy way out, literally piss off, because that is

1824
01:27:11,840 --> 01:27:14,160
Speaker 2: not the case. It's not hard to see why I

1825
01:27:14,200 --> 01:27:18,599
Speaker 2: stopped taking him. You guys are reaching. If you see your.

1826
01:27:18,640 --> 01:27:22,439
Speaker 1: Kid making fun of another kid, let them experience what

1827
01:27:22,680 --> 01:27:25,640
Speaker 1: it's like to be the thing that they're making fun of.

1828
01:27:25,880 --> 01:27:28,000
Speaker 1: You know, It's like, oh, you're making fun of the band, nerds,

1829
01:27:28,320 --> 01:27:30,840
Speaker 1: you're signing up for tuba lessons right now. When people

1830
01:27:31,040 --> 01:27:33,240
Speaker 1: bully other people, it's because they don't have empathy for

1831
01:27:33,479 --> 01:27:36,920
Speaker 1: the position of the bullied kid exactly. So your job

1832
01:27:37,000 --> 01:27:40,400
Speaker 1: as a parent is to instill empathy in that kid

1833
01:27:40,520 --> 01:27:42,760
Speaker 1: for those people. Most of the time, like putting him

1834
01:27:42,760 --> 01:27:44,439
Speaker 1: on the bus, he says he doesn't harm them. He

1835
01:27:44,479 --> 01:27:46,080
Speaker 1: doesn't harm him at all, you know what I mean.

1836
01:27:46,680 --> 01:27:49,920
Speaker 1: My friend exploded on me for asking if she was pregnant,

1837
01:27:50,200 --> 01:27:52,120
Speaker 1: but her top does look way bigger.

1838
01:27:52,439 --> 01:27:53,240
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

1839
01:27:53,560 --> 01:27:57,040
Speaker 1: My male twenty five friend female twenty three, usually goes

1840
01:27:57,080 --> 01:28:00,559
Speaker 1: to the gym regularly and parties a lots. Lately, I've

1841
01:28:00,600 --> 01:28:03,639
Speaker 1: noticed that she stopped drinking entirely the same as smoking,

1842
01:28:03,760 --> 01:28:06,120
Speaker 1: and has stopped heavy lifting and going to the gym

1843
01:28:06,240 --> 01:28:09,439
Speaker 1: as regularly as she used to. On top of that, lately,

1844
01:28:09,600 --> 01:28:12,880
Speaker 1: she'll often excuse herself to go to the toilet, presumably

1845
01:28:13,000 --> 01:28:15,000
Speaker 1: to throw up. And I've noticed she got a bit

1846
01:28:15,479 --> 01:28:18,960
Speaker 1: thicker and watery. Don't get me wrong, I'm not jabbing

1847
01:28:19,000 --> 01:28:24,840
Speaker 1: her looks. I'm just noticed also her chest has noticeably grown.

1848
01:28:25,280 --> 01:28:29,320
Speaker 2: Opie is I'm sorry entirely to observe it, Like going

1849
01:28:29,360 --> 01:28:31,439
Speaker 2: to the bathroom, presumably to throw up.

1850
01:28:31,520 --> 01:28:34,040
Speaker 1: She's gone from a thirty six seed to a thirty

1851
01:28:34,080 --> 01:28:36,960
Speaker 1: six double D. When we were out the other week

1852
01:28:37,120 --> 01:28:39,880
Speaker 1: and I noticed she didn't have even a touch of

1853
01:28:40,000 --> 01:28:42,040
Speaker 1: her red bull, I pulled her aside to have a

1854
01:28:42,240 --> 01:28:45,840
Speaker 1: private conversation, and he asked don He asked something that

1855
01:28:45,920 --> 01:28:49,960
Speaker 1: you never ask woman ever, hmm, are you pregnant? She

1856
01:28:50,120 --> 01:28:53,760
Speaker 1: immediately flipped out and denied it right after she went home,

1857
01:28:53,880 --> 01:28:55,840
Speaker 1: and I covered for her when the group asked me

1858
01:28:55,960 --> 01:28:58,000
Speaker 1: why she went home. I text her late the same

1859
01:28:58,080 --> 01:29:01,559
Speaker 1: night if I overstepped, and she said replied, you literally

1860
01:29:01,720 --> 01:29:04,240
Speaker 1: called me fat, douchebag. I never did such a thing,

1861
01:29:04,320 --> 01:29:07,000
Speaker 1: but I simply let her be instead of arguing. Today,

1862
01:29:07,120 --> 01:29:10,360
Speaker 1: another friend told me she indeed is pregnant, and I

1863
01:29:10,520 --> 01:29:12,640
Speaker 1: don't know what to make of her reaction towards me

1864
01:29:12,840 --> 01:29:16,760
Speaker 1: when I asked her in a four I conversation am

1865
01:29:17,000 --> 01:29:18,880
Speaker 1: id al there is an edit, But.

1866
01:29:18,960 --> 01:29:20,880
Speaker 2: John, what do you think? Yeah? I think op is

1867
01:29:20,920 --> 01:29:23,120
Speaker 2: the a hole because it's like if you ask someone

1868
01:29:23,280 --> 01:29:27,880
Speaker 2: are you pregnant and they say no, it's kind of insinuating.

1869
01:29:27,479 --> 01:29:29,200
Speaker 4: That they look kind of fat, and it's just like

1870
01:29:29,479 --> 01:29:29,800
Speaker 4: it's just.

1871
01:29:29,840 --> 01:29:31,960
Speaker 2: A weird, quite a weird question to ask.

1872
01:29:32,200 --> 01:29:35,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I also just I can't imagine asking any of

1873
01:29:35,120 --> 01:29:37,200
Speaker 1: my friends if they're pregnant. There is an update, but

1874
01:29:37,320 --> 01:29:40,639
Speaker 1: question to the audience, is there ever an appropriate time

1875
01:29:40,960 --> 01:29:42,879
Speaker 1: to ask a woman, are you pregnant?

1876
01:29:43,360 --> 01:29:44,439
Speaker 4: If you think it's your baby?

1877
01:29:44,840 --> 01:29:48,000
Speaker 2: That is true only time?

1878
01:29:48,200 --> 01:29:50,080
Speaker 1: Well, this post has been a waste of time except

1879
01:29:50,240 --> 01:29:52,439
Speaker 1: you don't do that, which is most of the replies.

1880
01:29:52,520 --> 01:29:54,879
Speaker 1: There's been little actual useful feedback.

1881
01:29:54,960 --> 01:29:55,760
Speaker 2: Why don't you do that?

1882
01:29:56,000 --> 01:29:58,360
Speaker 1: Why is it not socially acceptable to ask a close

1883
01:29:58,439 --> 01:30:00,960
Speaker 1: friend a normal question in a private setting. It's none

1884
01:30:01,000 --> 01:30:03,439
Speaker 1: of your business, Like, if that's the energy, you could

1885
01:30:03,439 --> 01:30:06,720
Speaker 1: apply that to any question. Ever, it's simply a yes

1886
01:30:06,880 --> 01:30:09,799
Speaker 1: slash no common thing. Are we still in the nineteen fifties?

1887
01:30:11,080 --> 01:30:13,439
Speaker 1: I love how everyone's like, bro, you don't ask that?

1888
01:30:13,560 --> 01:30:16,000
Speaker 1: And he was like, what, I can't a girl's prayer?

1889
01:30:16,000 --> 01:30:18,519
Speaker 1: Are we still the nineteen fifties or something? She messaged

1890
01:30:18,560 --> 01:30:21,400
Speaker 1: me and we met up during lunch break. She apologized

1891
01:30:21,439 --> 01:30:25,840
Speaker 1: for overreacting, and I apologize for if my question was intrusive.

1892
01:30:25,920 --> 01:30:29,320
Speaker 1: Became to the conclusion that my question wasn't intrusive, and

1893
01:30:29,479 --> 01:30:32,759
Speaker 1: she also didn't overreact She told me she's two months

1894
01:30:32,840 --> 01:30:34,240
Speaker 1: pregnant and didn't think.

1895
01:30:34,120 --> 01:30:35,439
Speaker 2: Anyone had noticed.

1896
01:30:35,760 --> 01:30:38,720
Speaker 1: Little does she know eagle eyed man on the tatas

1897
01:30:38,840 --> 01:30:42,880
Speaker 1: noticed you're you're a full cup bigger. She was keeping

1898
01:30:42,960 --> 01:30:44,920
Speaker 1: it a secret, at least to the guy circle of

1899
01:30:45,000 --> 01:30:47,880
Speaker 1: our group, because she was afraid of being called a hole.

1900
01:30:48,200 --> 01:30:50,960
Speaker 1: That's why she freaked out when I asked, and it's

1901
01:30:51,040 --> 01:30:53,000
Speaker 1: also why she tried to decleect it by saying I

1902
01:30:53,080 --> 01:30:55,200
Speaker 1: called her fat. I reassured her that no one would

1903
01:30:55,200 --> 01:30:57,080
Speaker 1: think she's a home, especially.

1904
01:30:56,760 --> 01:30:57,439
Speaker 2: Not in our group.

1905
01:30:57,520 --> 01:31:01,080
Speaker 1: We're all very supportive and are looking forward to doing

1906
01:31:01,439 --> 01:31:03,560
Speaker 1: our best to help her out the following months. I

1907
01:31:03,760 --> 01:31:05,800
Speaker 1: also shorted the post, and she had a good laugh

1908
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:07,400
Speaker 1: at some of the way over the board. If you

1909
01:31:07,439 --> 01:31:10,280
Speaker 1: are the comments, especially the ones calling me a pervert.

1910
01:31:10,360 --> 01:31:13,280
Speaker 1: To be fair, she said many of them also had

1911
01:31:13,400 --> 01:31:16,719
Speaker 1: valid points, but that they in most cases rather concerned

1912
01:31:16,800 --> 01:31:20,400
Speaker 1: strangers and not close friends you've shared big things with before.

1913
01:31:20,600 --> 01:31:23,400
Speaker 1: So after all, I retract my second edit, and I'm

1914
01:31:23,400 --> 01:31:26,080
Speaker 1: actually happy with how this turned out, especially after receiving

1915
01:31:26,120 --> 01:31:28,000
Speaker 1: more useful feedback from the point I made in the

1916
01:31:28,040 --> 01:31:30,880
Speaker 1: second ediot. Some of y'all got to butt hurt over

1917
01:31:31,040 --> 01:31:35,599
Speaker 1: edit to though l m a oh so question again?

1918
01:31:36,080 --> 01:31:39,120
Speaker 1: Is OP thea hole? And number two is there any

1919
01:31:39,439 --> 01:31:43,519
Speaker 1: appropriate time to ask are you pregnant? I still feel

1920
01:31:43,680 --> 01:31:46,200
Speaker 1: like hope he just weirds me out. I don't know,

1921
01:31:46,320 --> 01:31:49,080
Speaker 1: I just get such a strange vibe. But what if

1922
01:31:49,120 --> 01:31:52,519
Speaker 1: your friend is like obviously like six months pregnant. I mean,

1923
01:31:52,760 --> 01:31:54,360
Speaker 1: are you gonna ask are you pregnant? Orre you just

1924
01:31:54,439 --> 01:31:56,040
Speaker 1: gonna be like going on as normal.

1925
01:31:56,360 --> 01:31:58,200
Speaker 2: I feel like if you're like freaking six seventy eight

1926
01:31:58,240 --> 01:32:01,600
Speaker 2: months pregnant, like you're telling me Wow, I feel like

1927
01:32:01,680 --> 01:32:06,559
Speaker 2: that wow, John, not a reasonablyhy medical are wow? John?

1928
01:32:07,040 --> 01:32:09,960
Speaker 2: So what you're saying, she doesn't really have the choice

1929
01:32:10,800 --> 01:32:12,040
Speaker 2: of whether I tell you or not?

1930
01:32:12,439 --> 01:32:15,639
Speaker 4: No people would I So. I mean there's definitely people

1931
01:32:15,640 --> 01:32:16,000
Speaker 4: who go.

1932
01:32:16,120 --> 01:32:18,240
Speaker 1: Away, people who have been like eight months pregnant and

1933
01:32:18,360 --> 01:32:19,439
Speaker 1: said like nothing to anyone.

1934
01:32:19,640 --> 01:32:22,960
Speaker 2: That's true, that's true. But generally speaking, like ninety nine

1935
01:32:22,960 --> 01:32:25,040
Speaker 2: percent of the time, like you're going to tell people

1936
01:32:25,080 --> 01:32:28,400
Speaker 2: that you're pregnant, Like it's obvious. Why we're talking about

1937
01:32:28,439 --> 01:32:29,320
Speaker 2: the EDU cases?

1938
01:32:29,760 --> 01:32:30,680
Speaker 4: God, I don't know.

1939
01:32:30,800 --> 01:32:33,599
Speaker 2: I guess I guess I would eventually ha John would

1940
01:32:33,680 --> 01:32:34,839
Speaker 2: ask if you're pregnant.

1941
01:32:39,680 --> 01:32:43,479
Speaker 1: My parents are trying to force me into an arranged marriage,

1942
01:32:43,600 --> 01:32:45,479
Speaker 1: but they just caught me with another man.

1943
01:32:45,800 --> 01:32:47,160
Speaker 2: I refuse to.

1944
01:32:47,240 --> 01:32:51,360
Speaker 1: Follow their traditions. I'm twenty two females. Moved out of

1945
01:32:51,400 --> 01:32:54,080
Speaker 1: my parents' house last year to a condo that is

1946
01:32:54,240 --> 01:32:55,280
Speaker 1: thirty minutes away.

1947
01:32:55,439 --> 01:32:58,120
Speaker 2: I did this because I plank women with them. Because

1948
01:32:58,160 --> 01:32:59,439
Speaker 2: you're marry, controlling and like to.

1949
01:32:59,520 --> 01:33:02,919
Speaker 1: Force my siblings and me to follow their beliefs.

1950
01:33:03,160 --> 01:33:03,639
Speaker 4: That's not fun.

1951
01:33:03,760 --> 01:33:06,040
Speaker 1: Stop trying to control me, mom. Yeah, stop trying to

1952
01:33:06,080 --> 01:33:08,639
Speaker 1: control me, dad, and stop trying to control me mother.

1953
01:33:08,880 --> 01:33:12,200
Speaker 1: My oldest sister, twenty four female, is like my parents,

1954
01:33:12,360 --> 01:33:15,280
Speaker 1: very traditional and controlling. My parents never approved of us

1955
01:33:15,360 --> 01:33:18,640
Speaker 1: getting a boyfriend. They believed in an arranged marriage and

1956
01:33:18,800 --> 01:33:21,920
Speaker 1: prohibit us from engaging in pre marital sex. I mean,

1957
01:33:21,960 --> 01:33:24,800
Speaker 1: my parents never said, like, don't engage in premarital sex,

1958
01:33:24,840 --> 01:33:26,960
Speaker 1: but they're like they weren't, like, you know, we have

1959
01:33:27,120 --> 01:33:27,839
Speaker 1: monkey sex.

1960
01:33:27,680 --> 01:33:31,040
Speaker 2: In the house, my dad, They let it be known.

1961
01:33:33,000 --> 01:33:36,800
Speaker 1: But I don't care about this bullsh Yeah, that's what

1962
01:33:36,840 --> 01:33:38,960
Speaker 1: I'm assuming Opius saying is not what they actually said.

1963
01:33:39,560 --> 01:33:43,839
Speaker 1: I've had boyfriends behind their backs, and only my youngest sister, sixteen,

1964
01:33:43,880 --> 01:33:46,200
Speaker 1: female knows about it as we are very close. I

1965
01:33:46,280 --> 01:33:48,400
Speaker 1: have a boyfriend twenty three male whom I have been

1966
01:33:48,439 --> 01:33:51,680
Speaker 1: going out for eight months now. Yesterday I invited him

1967
01:33:51,720 --> 01:33:54,040
Speaker 1: over to hang out at my home and guess what

1968
01:33:54,160 --> 01:33:54,479
Speaker 1: they did?

1969
01:33:54,640 --> 01:33:55,160
Speaker 2: John what.

1970
01:34:02,520 --> 01:34:05,439
Speaker 1: My oldest sister decided to visit me out of nowhere

1971
01:34:05,640 --> 01:34:06,920
Speaker 1: and caught us in the air.

1972
01:34:07,240 --> 01:34:08,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1973
01:34:10,840 --> 01:34:13,880
Speaker 1: It pissed me off so much that she visited without

1974
01:34:13,960 --> 01:34:17,719
Speaker 1: notifying me. She then started screaming at Bay and called

1975
01:34:17,760 --> 01:34:20,160
Speaker 1: me a far for sleeping around. I try to make

1976
01:34:20,200 --> 01:34:22,439
Speaker 1: her understand that it was my boyfriend and even if

1977
01:34:22,520 --> 01:34:24,960
Speaker 1: I was sleeping around, it was none of her freaking business.

1978
01:34:25,200 --> 01:34:25,400
Speaker 2: Oh.

1979
01:34:25,479 --> 01:34:27,400
Speaker 1: She didn't like my answer and proceeded and call my

1980
01:34:27,680 --> 01:34:31,080
Speaker 1: parents to stitch on me. Well, they weren't pissed, and

1981
01:34:31,160 --> 01:34:33,479
Speaker 1: my mom and started going on about how I committed

1982
01:34:33,600 --> 01:34:35,920
Speaker 1: a sin. I'm an atheist, but she hasn't respected and

1983
01:34:36,120 --> 01:34:38,639
Speaker 1: forced me to break up with my boyfriend. My dad

1984
01:34:38,720 --> 01:34:41,920
Speaker 1: started saying how it was time they find a groom

1985
01:34:42,000 --> 01:34:44,639
Speaker 1: for me and that I would behave. I kicked them

1986
01:34:44,640 --> 01:34:46,559
Speaker 1: out of my house and told them to only talk

1987
01:34:46,600 --> 01:34:48,759
Speaker 1: to me if they're willing to apologize to my boyfriend

1988
01:34:48,800 --> 01:34:51,880
Speaker 1: and me for disrespecting us. My mom is now trying

1989
01:34:51,880 --> 01:34:54,240
Speaker 1: to guilt trip me by stating that she's my mom

1990
01:34:54,360 --> 01:34:56,960
Speaker 1: and has sacrificed a lot to raise me. I know

1991
01:34:57,040 --> 01:34:58,840
Speaker 1: that she sacrificed a lot, but I'm not too fond

1992
01:34:58,880 --> 01:35:01,600
Speaker 1: of the way she's treating me. I'm twenty two, not well,

1993
01:35:02,479 --> 01:35:06,800
Speaker 1: my drop, Op, you oldest fuck. They're still pissed and

1994
01:35:06,920 --> 01:35:09,560
Speaker 1: have spam my phone. My cousin's heard about it and

1995
01:35:09,680 --> 01:35:12,400
Speaker 1: forced me to apologize my parents and sisters for kicking

1996
01:35:12,520 --> 01:35:13,800
Speaker 1: them out and yelling at them.

1997
01:35:14,000 --> 01:35:17,679
Speaker 2: I refuse to do so and block them. My youngest

1998
01:35:17,720 --> 01:35:19,679
Speaker 2: sister and boyfriend are on my side.

1999
01:35:19,760 --> 01:35:22,400
Speaker 1: She even called my oldest sister for being a nod bitch,

2000
01:35:22,640 --> 01:35:24,320
Speaker 1: but nobody is listening to her.

2001
01:35:24,400 --> 01:35:27,320
Speaker 2: And she's not an adult. He's just sixteen after all.

2002
01:35:27,720 --> 01:35:31,840
Speaker 1: Sure, so am I the ax whole for standing up

2003
01:35:32,120 --> 01:35:34,920
Speaker 1: for myself and my boyfriend.

2004
01:35:36,720 --> 01:35:39,160
Speaker 2: Give it up for Sam's performance comedy Ladies.

2005
01:35:38,920 --> 01:35:42,600
Speaker 4: And gentleman, My goodness, Jim Carrey over here, thank you,

2006
01:35:42,720 --> 01:35:42,960
Speaker 4: thank you.

2007
01:35:43,479 --> 01:35:46,400
Speaker 2: There's a little edit. But what do you think off rip?

2008
01:35:46,640 --> 01:35:50,800
Speaker 2: Absolutely not. I applaud Op for standing up for what

2009
01:35:50,960 --> 01:35:52,800
Speaker 2: she wants. Look, at the end of the day, you

2010
01:35:53,040 --> 01:35:57,120
Speaker 2: just can't laying down for what she wants off fuck

2011
01:35:57,200 --> 01:35:59,720
Speaker 2: my phone? Oh my god, Well you know something else

2012
01:35:59,720 --> 01:36:03,439
Speaker 2: is stu both of our wieners. Yeah, we're rock hard.

2013
01:36:03,680 --> 01:36:06,800
Speaker 2: That's while recording these yep, this is why we You

2014
01:36:06,880 --> 01:36:07,960
Speaker 2: know you can't see blow of the waist?

2015
01:36:08,000 --> 01:36:10,000
Speaker 4: What do you think is holding out this microphone right here?

2016
01:36:10,200 --> 01:36:13,160
Speaker 2: No, man, but now, OPI is not the wrong, and

2017
01:36:14,120 --> 01:36:17,840
Speaker 2: you just can't control people, especially your kids. At the

2018
01:36:17,920 --> 01:36:20,080
Speaker 2: end of it. But here's a little edit for some clarity.

2019
01:36:20,280 --> 01:36:23,080
Speaker 1: Everyone asks if I was Indian, and the answer is yes,

2020
01:36:23,360 --> 01:36:25,680
Speaker 1: I'm Indian, but not from India. My sister got into

2021
01:36:25,720 --> 01:36:27,680
Speaker 1: my house with a spare key I gave her and

2022
01:36:27,800 --> 01:36:30,120
Speaker 1: I trusted her to use it with my knowledge. But

2023
01:36:30,240 --> 01:36:33,120
Speaker 1: since she breached my trust, I have taken it away

2024
01:36:33,160 --> 01:36:35,120
Speaker 1: from her and my parents. I don't think I can

2025
01:36:35,160 --> 01:36:37,519
Speaker 1: go no contact with my parents, but thank you everyone

2026
01:36:37,600 --> 01:36:38,560
Speaker 1: for your opinion.

2027
01:36:38,320 --> 01:36:39,439
Speaker 2: And take on this issue.

2028
01:36:39,600 --> 01:36:42,040
Speaker 1: I definitely will get some distance between us and try

2029
01:36:42,080 --> 01:36:44,360
Speaker 1: to make them understand, but if they still try to

2030
01:36:44,439 --> 01:36:46,560
Speaker 1: be difficult, I'll have to go no contact for a

2031
01:36:46,600 --> 01:36:49,080
Speaker 1: few weeks at least to make them realize I'm legit

2032
01:36:49,120 --> 01:36:51,599
Speaker 1: about this. Thank you again. As for my youngest sister.

2033
01:36:51,840 --> 01:36:54,280
Speaker 1: She can't live with me now, even though I would

2034
01:36:54,360 --> 01:36:56,280
Speaker 1: love to take her in, but she's also planning to

2035
01:36:56,320 --> 01:36:58,679
Speaker 1: move in with me once she turns eighteen.

2036
01:36:58,920 --> 01:37:00,519
Speaker 2: My parents are to wear with this.

2037
01:37:00,760 --> 01:37:03,400
Speaker 1: Thanks for the context, op, but yeah, I'm curious, like,

2038
01:37:03,560 --> 01:37:06,519
Speaker 1: for anyone in the comments that has a religious upbringing,

2039
01:37:06,600 --> 01:37:10,000
Speaker 1: religious family, how did you either stick with it or

2040
01:37:10,240 --> 01:37:12,240
Speaker 1: exit it? Because I mean there's there's also this whole

2041
01:37:12,240 --> 01:37:14,960
Speaker 1: community of like ex Mormons, even on like there's a

2042
01:37:15,000 --> 01:37:17,320
Speaker 1: subred ex Mormons, and they talk about like how they

2043
01:37:17,680 --> 01:37:21,479
Speaker 1: leave the community gracefully or not so gracefully, right, so

2044
01:37:21,640 --> 01:37:24,559
Speaker 1: they can just live their own lives as they see fit,

2045
01:37:24,600 --> 01:37:27,360
Speaker 1: because not all of them have the same ideals and

2046
01:37:27,439 --> 01:37:30,439
Speaker 1: morals and as their family did one hundred percent.

2047
01:37:30,640 --> 01:37:33,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think there are some parents in

2048
01:37:33,360 --> 01:37:36,679
Speaker 2: these situations who have these beliefs because of their religion

2049
01:37:36,720 --> 01:37:39,200
Speaker 2: where they want to you know, kind of control orchestra

2050
01:37:39,400 --> 01:37:42,519
Speaker 2: arrange the marriage and things of that nature. And again,

2051
01:37:42,600 --> 01:37:45,160
Speaker 2: like I said before, I understand if that's what they've

2052
01:37:45,200 --> 01:37:48,200
Speaker 2: been kind of essentially indoctrinated to believe like their whole life,

2053
01:37:48,240 --> 01:37:51,040
Speaker 2: I understand how they get there, but ultimately.

2054
01:37:50,800 --> 01:37:53,360
Speaker 1: It's your kid's choice now once, once your kid has

2055
01:37:53,760 --> 01:37:57,240
Speaker 1: flown the coop. I mean, you can only suggest things

2056
01:37:57,280 --> 01:37:59,800
Speaker 1: you can't control exactly. Well, what we'd love to hear

2057
01:38:00,680 --> 01:38:04,080
Speaker 1: two sides of the coin. Either your religious exit stories

2058
01:38:04,400 --> 01:38:07,880
Speaker 1: or you know your parents being controlling stories or your

2059
01:38:08,000 --> 01:38:10,759
Speaker 1: best someone walked in while you were doing it stories.

2060
01:38:10,960 --> 01:38:16,520
Speaker 1: Oh dude, those ones got to be good thing. Juicy, slimy,

2061
01:38:16,760 --> 01:38:19,639
Speaker 1: oh drenched in sweat? Oh God, I want to hear those.

2062
01:38:19,960 --> 01:38:20,960
Speaker 1: Put them in the comments.

2063
01:38:21,080 --> 01:38:24,200
Speaker 2: My dad stole my mom's most prized possession during the divorce,

2064
01:38:24,479 --> 01:38:27,400
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna steal it back, am I the ale

2065
01:38:27,760 --> 01:38:31,880
Speaker 2: It was the pegging paraphernalia prize possession, superprised. So my

2066
01:38:32,000 --> 01:38:34,400
Speaker 2: dad and I twenty five mail, aren't close and I

2067
01:38:34,560 --> 01:38:37,320
Speaker 2: was never interested in having a relationship with him. He

2068
01:38:37,560 --> 01:38:39,800
Speaker 2: was a type of guy that was out all the

2069
01:38:39,920 --> 01:38:42,920
Speaker 2: time with his friends and never home. My mom divorced

2070
01:38:43,000 --> 01:38:45,640
Speaker 2: him when I was twelve, and it got ugly. Sometime

2071
01:38:45,840 --> 01:38:48,800
Speaker 2: during the divorce we came home and stuff was missing.

2072
01:38:48,920 --> 01:38:51,320
Speaker 2: Not his stuff, by the way, because that was cleaned

2073
01:38:51,320 --> 01:38:55,200
Speaker 2: out when he left. So yeah, he's taking from the family. Geez.

2074
01:38:55,560 --> 01:38:58,320
Speaker 2: One of the things missing was my mom's bracelet that

2075
01:38:58,400 --> 01:39:00,840
Speaker 2: she kept in a small box under some stuff in

2076
01:39:00,920 --> 01:39:04,160
Speaker 2: the closet. This bracelet was super special to her. Her

2077
01:39:04,320 --> 01:39:08,000
Speaker 2: parents were toxic af but my mom was really close

2078
01:39:08,080 --> 01:39:11,040
Speaker 2: to her English teacher slash mentor in high school, who

2079
01:39:11,120 --> 01:39:13,040
Speaker 2: was like a mom to her. Her teacher gave her

2080
01:39:13,080 --> 01:39:15,680
Speaker 2: that bracelet at her high school graduation and my mom

2081
01:39:15,840 --> 01:39:19,360
Speaker 2: kept it all these years. Wow. My dad knew she

2082
01:39:19,520 --> 01:39:22,840
Speaker 2: treasured it, and who else would look in that specific

2083
01:39:22,960 --> 01:39:26,040
Speaker 2: place and take only a bracelet when there was other

2084
01:39:26,120 --> 01:39:28,479
Speaker 2: stuff in the house. She knew it was him too,

2085
01:39:28,840 --> 01:39:31,680
Speaker 2: but he always played dumb. The divorce was finalized and

2086
01:39:31,800 --> 01:39:34,760
Speaker 2: we didn't see my dad after that. My mom never

2087
01:39:34,920 --> 01:39:37,320
Speaker 2: got it back. Last June she got the VID and

2088
01:39:37,600 --> 01:39:41,880
Speaker 2: unfortunately didn't make it. Oh No, I was broken over that.

2089
01:39:42,240 --> 01:39:45,120
Speaker 2: Still am I guess glad at least me, my sister

2090
01:39:45,360 --> 01:39:48,440
Speaker 2: and my stepdad have each other for support. Around October,

2091
01:39:48,640 --> 01:39:50,840
Speaker 2: my sister told me that my dad wants to talk

2092
01:39:50,880 --> 01:39:53,600
Speaker 2: to me, so she gave him my number. He apologized

2093
01:39:53,640 --> 01:39:56,280
Speaker 2: for being a piece of shit Dad and asked if

2094
01:39:56,360 --> 01:39:58,680
Speaker 2: we could meet to talk at his place. I was

2095
01:39:58,760 --> 01:40:00,680
Speaker 2: ready to straight up say no, oh, but then I

2096
01:40:00,840 --> 01:40:03,720
Speaker 2: remembered he stole her bracelet and maybe there was a

2097
01:40:03,840 --> 01:40:06,160
Speaker 2: chance to get it back. I've asked my sister before

2098
01:40:06,240 --> 01:40:08,400
Speaker 2: to push him about it, since they talk, but she

2099
01:40:08,640 --> 01:40:10,880
Speaker 2: only asked him once and left it at that. I

2100
01:40:11,000 --> 01:40:13,800
Speaker 2: decided I could handle one visit just to see if

2101
01:40:13,880 --> 01:40:17,320
Speaker 2: he has it, so I told him i'd hear him out. So, yeah,

2102
01:40:17,560 --> 01:40:19,880
Speaker 2: I met at this place. We caught up on stuff.

2103
01:40:20,000 --> 01:40:23,240
Speaker 2: He told me his sorry story about being immature and

2104
01:40:23,320 --> 01:40:25,960
Speaker 2: too focused on stuff that wasn't more important than being

2105
01:40:26,000 --> 01:40:28,799
Speaker 2: a dad or whatever. I ended up bringing the bracelet

2106
01:40:28,920 --> 01:40:32,280
Speaker 2: up and how important that was to me since my

2107
01:40:32,439 --> 01:40:34,800
Speaker 2: mom's not here anymore. He kept trying to act like

2108
01:40:34,920 --> 01:40:37,599
Speaker 2: it wasn't him, until I said, the only way I'd

2109
01:40:37,680 --> 01:40:40,600
Speaker 2: consider having a father son relationship is if he just

2110
01:40:40,680 --> 01:40:43,559
Speaker 2: stopped with that and gave me my mom's bracelet, which

2111
01:40:43,600 --> 01:40:46,160
Speaker 2: also like, if you're trying to like reconnect, why would

2112
01:40:46,200 --> 01:40:47,320
Speaker 2: you lie about that.

2113
01:40:47,600 --> 01:40:50,800
Speaker 1: Maybe it's like he's so embarrassed about it that he's

2114
01:40:50,960 --> 01:40:53,160
Speaker 1: like possible, he doesn't even want to admit it to himself.

2115
01:40:53,200 --> 01:40:54,560
Speaker 2: I don't know if it was valuable or if he

2116
01:40:54,680 --> 01:40:56,320
Speaker 2: sold it and he was like, oh I like it.

2117
01:40:56,520 --> 01:40:58,519
Speaker 4: I sold it a long time ago, yikes.

2118
01:40:58,840 --> 01:41:02,559
Speaker 2: But he finally gave and thank god he actually kept

2119
01:41:02,600 --> 01:41:03,800
Speaker 2: it instead of throwing it out.

2120
01:41:03,840 --> 01:41:06,280
Speaker 1: I wonder if it was maybe more of a spikee thing. Oh,

2121
01:41:06,320 --> 01:41:07,960
Speaker 1: it was one hundred percent of spite thing. Yeah, he

2122
01:41:08,080 --> 01:41:11,000
Speaker 1: was stealing it just to make his ex wife feel terrible.

2123
01:41:11,080 --> 01:41:13,320
Speaker 1: He apologized for taking it and knew that it was

2124
01:41:13,360 --> 01:41:15,679
Speaker 1: super childish. I was just happy to have it back,

2125
01:41:15,880 --> 01:41:18,639
Speaker 1: but mad my mom didn't get it before she passed away.

2126
01:41:18,800 --> 01:41:21,599
Speaker 1: I never guaranteed my dad a relationship. I just said

2127
01:41:21,600 --> 01:41:24,200
Speaker 1: I'd consider it, but I already made up my mind

2128
01:41:24,360 --> 01:41:26,840
Speaker 1: that I don't want anything to do with him. It's

2129
01:41:26,880 --> 01:41:29,280
Speaker 1: been months since our meeting, and my sister is pissed

2130
01:41:29,360 --> 01:41:31,800
Speaker 1: because my dad is disappointed I haven't talked to him.

2131
01:41:31,920 --> 01:41:34,200
Speaker 1: She says I was a huge piece of crap for

2132
01:41:34,320 --> 01:41:37,639
Speaker 1: making him think we'd reconcile. My only goal was getting

2133
01:41:37,640 --> 01:41:40,000
Speaker 1: the bracelet back, and I wouldn't have talked to him

2134
01:41:40,000 --> 01:41:42,160
Speaker 1: in the first place if it wasn't for that. So

2135
01:41:42,600 --> 01:41:44,840
Speaker 1: that's why I wonder if I'm the a hole.

2136
01:41:45,000 --> 01:41:47,479
Speaker 2: My sister is biased here since she was little when

2137
01:41:47,479 --> 01:41:50,559
Speaker 2: they split up and has a different version of him,

2138
01:41:51,000 --> 01:41:54,080
Speaker 2: So I mean, I think the big question for everyone

2139
01:41:54,200 --> 01:41:57,080
Speaker 2: watching is is Op the a hole for, you know,

2140
01:41:57,200 --> 01:42:00,560
Speaker 2: basically just getting the bracelet back and not building the relationship.

2141
01:42:00,640 --> 01:42:02,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the dad's definitely a hole, but

2142
01:42:03,040 --> 01:42:06,679
Speaker 1: it seems like he's trying to change. It does seems

2143
01:42:06,720 --> 01:42:10,120
Speaker 1: like he's trying to change, although he did continue lying

2144
01:42:10,240 --> 01:42:12,639
Speaker 1: about it when he eventually asked, that's a red flag

2145
01:42:12,680 --> 01:42:15,200
Speaker 1: for me. Maybe not maybe a red flag for that's

2146
01:42:15,360 --> 01:42:18,280
Speaker 1: pretty red flag. So if he lied about it a

2147
01:42:18,400 --> 01:42:21,040
Speaker 1: bunch of times before, I'll look conflicted because he did

2148
01:42:21,160 --> 01:42:24,360
Speaker 1: eventually give it. But you know, it seems like he

2149
01:42:24,439 --> 01:42:26,600
Speaker 1: did so much terrible stuff in the past that I

2150
01:42:26,640 --> 01:42:29,160
Speaker 1: don't think Op needs to have a relationship with him.

2151
01:42:29,400 --> 01:42:32,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she didn't necessarily lie. She said she'd consider it,

2152
01:42:32,479 --> 01:42:35,599
Speaker 2: and she's done her consideration, decided not. And I think

2153
01:42:35,720 --> 01:42:38,640
Speaker 2: too that like we don't know the exact timeframe that

2154
01:42:38,720 --> 01:42:40,720
Speaker 2: this all happened in. I think I think I said

2155
01:42:40,760 --> 01:42:42,360
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks, so like this is a very

2156
01:42:42,680 --> 01:42:45,160
Speaker 2: fresh thing. Like Op I mentioned when he was twelve

2157
01:42:45,400 --> 01:42:47,559
Speaker 2: that he basically accepted that his dad was not going

2158
01:42:47,640 --> 01:42:50,040
Speaker 2: to be engaged with him anymore. So like that's a

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01:42:50,280 --> 01:42:54,200
Speaker 2: lot many years in a few weeks, So I don't

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01:42:54,240 --> 01:42:56,719
Speaker 2: think he's a hole just because of the time it'll

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01:42:56,760 --> 01:42:58,439
Speaker 2: take him. Like the dad, it's like, hey, you did

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01:42:58,680 --> 01:43:01,479
Speaker 2: years of damage. You have to put in a lot

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01:43:01,560 --> 01:43:03,960
Speaker 2: of time and effort to building that trust back if

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01:43:04,000 --> 01:43:06,200
Speaker 2: you want to, truly, and it's going to take time.

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Speaker 2: I don't think opca hole.

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01:43:07,800 --> 01:43:10,719
Speaker 1: Yeah I don't either. But you know who's never the ahole?

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01:43:10,960 --> 01:43:14,280
Speaker 1: Our beautiful commenters. Oh, comment your stories and tell us

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01:43:14,320 --> 01:43:16,479
Speaker 1: the freak up things your parents did do. My uber

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01:43:16,600 --> 01:43:19,000
Speaker 1: driver just got into a wreck, so I left. I

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01:43:19,080 --> 01:43:21,120
Speaker 1: probably should have stayed, but I don't want to.

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01:43:21,360 --> 01:43:22,880
Speaker 2: Am I the a whole. I don't care if you're

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01:43:22,920 --> 01:43:25,000
Speaker 2: bleeding out, Oh I'm about to die. Well, I'm about

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01:43:25,000 --> 01:43:25,960
Speaker 2: to be late for my meeting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I have brunch with Carla. You can deal with

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01:43:28,320 --> 01:43:31,200
Speaker 1: your afterlife. I gotta deal with this life. I spent

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01:43:31,400 --> 01:43:34,040
Speaker 1: sixty dollars on a ride out of town towards a

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Speaker 1: casino tonight. We needed to take a turn, but emergency

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01:43:37,000 --> 01:43:40,120
Speaker 1: vehicles were blocking the highway exit. Oddly enough, there were

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01:43:40,200 --> 01:43:42,880
Speaker 1: dudes racing their cars to the exit before mine, so

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01:43:43,000 --> 01:43:45,639
Speaker 1: we looped around and found ourselves on a long stretch

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01:43:45,720 --> 01:43:47,960
Speaker 1: of side road perils in the main route This part

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01:43:47,960 --> 01:43:51,600
Speaker 1: of the area is a weird mix of warehouses with suburbs.

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01:43:51,160 --> 01:43:54,240
Speaker 2: Out of the city. This long road is apparently perfect

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01:43:54,479 --> 01:43:57,080
Speaker 2: for street racing, and we end up going one way

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01:43:57,200 --> 01:43:59,720
Speaker 2: while cars are burning down the other lanes. Kind of

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01:43:59,720 --> 01:44:02,679
Speaker 2: cool looking. Actually, it seems like a big Friday night party.

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01:44:03,000 --> 01:44:05,559
Speaker 2: It is kind of cool okey, but super annoying.

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01:44:05,640 --> 01:44:07,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, super annoying if you're an Uber driver trying to

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Speaker 1: not kill your passengers. So we passed the end of

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01:44:10,240 --> 01:44:12,880
Speaker 1: the line where kids are lined up before taking off,

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01:44:12,960 --> 01:44:15,679
Speaker 1: and one of them crosses in front of us after

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01:44:15,840 --> 01:44:18,200
Speaker 1: his run to get in and we smash.

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01:44:18,520 --> 01:44:22,559
Speaker 2: Oh god, and it felt so good. Smash. Now.

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01:44:23,080 --> 01:44:25,640
Speaker 1: The Uber driver might have been going ten miles per

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01:44:25,720 --> 01:44:27,680
Speaker 1: hour faster than he should have been, but with all

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01:44:27,760 --> 01:44:30,519
Speaker 1: the chaos, it seems safe enough. As he hit the brakes,

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01:44:30,600 --> 01:44:33,920
Speaker 1: the Ralphee on the bus, I'm in danger, meme across

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01:44:34,000 --> 01:44:36,040
Speaker 1: my mind. I'm sure everyone else who has been in

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01:44:36,040 --> 01:44:38,920
Speaker 1: an accident knows that slow motion feeling. I get out

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01:44:38,960 --> 01:44:41,120
Speaker 1: of the back and ask everyone if they are okay.

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Speaker 1: And it was obvious that there was some bad cosmetic damage,

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01:44:44,120 --> 01:44:47,400
Speaker 1: maybe some structural, but nobody was hurt at this point.

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01:44:47,520 --> 01:44:51,000
Speaker 1: My destination is a mile away and last call is

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01:44:51,320 --> 01:44:52,120
Speaker 1: less than an hour.

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01:44:52,400 --> 01:44:56,840
Speaker 2: Man's got his priorities. I gotta get drunk. Come on.

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01:44:57,400 --> 01:44:59,439
Speaker 1: I look at the driver and tell him I am

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01:44:59,520 --> 01:45:01,760
Speaker 1: not mad at him at all, and he can have

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01:45:01,920 --> 01:45:05,080
Speaker 1: my number, but I'm not sticking around. The racers seem cool.

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Speaker 1: But did I leave him in a dangerous position? I

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01:45:07,560 --> 01:45:10,639
Speaker 1: don't think so. Nobody wants the police crashing the party,

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01:45:10,720 --> 01:45:12,680
Speaker 1: and I simply did not want to be involved at

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01:45:12,680 --> 01:45:14,640
Speaker 1: that point. So would I be the asshole if I

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01:45:14,760 --> 01:45:15,240
Speaker 1: reported it?

2214
01:45:15,400 --> 01:45:15,599
Speaker 2: Though?

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01:45:15,800 --> 01:45:20,200
Speaker 1: In the app to get find money back, not only

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01:45:20,640 --> 01:45:24,240
Speaker 1: does he leave the driver to get a drink, but

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01:45:24,320 --> 01:45:25,960
Speaker 1: he wants to report the driver too.

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01:45:26,360 --> 01:45:27,559
Speaker 2: That's funny.

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01:45:27,720 --> 01:45:30,439
Speaker 1: He took me nineteen of the twenty miles, but then

2220
01:45:30,520 --> 01:45:33,200
Speaker 1: again I did have to walk, and sixty bucks is

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01:45:33,280 --> 01:45:36,080
Speaker 1: sixty bucks for me. Then again, he may need it more.

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Speaker 3: Three.

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01:45:36,640 --> 01:45:38,599
Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie and pretend I was hurt

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01:45:38,680 --> 01:45:41,719
Speaker 1: or anything, so that is off the table. Okay, Edit, hey'all,

2225
01:45:41,880 --> 01:45:44,960
Speaker 1: it's sober and not rattled me. It is legal for

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01:45:45,040 --> 01:45:47,920
Speaker 1: a passenger to leave the scene per my state's law. Okay,

2227
01:45:48,000 --> 01:45:48,559
Speaker 1: so what do you think?

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01:45:48,800 --> 01:45:49,000
Speaker 3: Yeah?

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01:45:49,080 --> 01:45:53,680
Speaker 2: I mean, like ultimately kind of ope, he was uninvolved.

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01:45:53,760 --> 01:45:55,680
Speaker 2: I feel like low key is kind of out of

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01:45:55,720 --> 01:45:58,920
Speaker 2: their hands and the driver wasn't hurt. If someone was hurt, definitely,

2232
01:45:58,920 --> 01:46:00,920
Speaker 2: it's like okay, wait for an am on it's like something.

2233
01:46:01,000 --> 01:46:02,920
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's like, no one's hurt. This is now

2234
01:46:03,040 --> 01:46:04,800
Speaker 2: just an issue between the two of them because it's

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01:46:04,880 --> 01:46:07,240
Speaker 2: the cars, right. So to me, I'm like, yeah, like

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01:46:07,320 --> 01:46:09,280
Speaker 2: go ahead and leave, like there's nothing you can really

2237
01:46:09,360 --> 01:46:12,920
Speaker 2: do on the on the refund, the reporting, I mean,

2238
01:46:13,200 --> 01:46:15,439
Speaker 2: you didn't get into a crash. Yeah, it's a tough one.

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01:46:15,479 --> 01:46:18,280
Speaker 2: I mean like if the Uber driver, because of their negligence,

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Speaker 2: caused a crash, for sure, like give me, give me

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01:46:20,360 --> 01:46:22,080
Speaker 2: a refund at a bare minimum. Right.

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01:46:22,240 --> 01:46:26,360
Speaker 1: If it happened to me, I probably wouldn't try to

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01:46:26,400 --> 01:46:28,800
Speaker 1: get my money back from Uber. Me four years ago

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01:46:28,920 --> 01:46:31,880
Speaker 1: might have college me sixty bucks and sixty bucks depending

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01:46:31,920 --> 01:46:33,560
Speaker 1: on how it hurt my neck is I might be

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01:46:33,720 --> 01:46:37,160
Speaker 1: like called Jacob dot com, let me get some lawsuit

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01:46:37,280 --> 01:46:39,479
Speaker 1: money out of this, but probably not now, and I

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01:46:39,560 --> 01:46:41,160
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't have done it that honestly.

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01:46:41,400 --> 01:46:45,280
Speaker 2: Yeah. Is the money coming out of the Uber driver

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Speaker 2: or from Uber?

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01:46:46,640 --> 01:46:49,879
Speaker 1: I think coming out of Uber because usually the drivers

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01:46:50,000 --> 01:46:52,800
Speaker 1: are insured that's what I'm saying. But they probably might

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01:46:52,920 --> 01:46:56,160
Speaker 1: lose their driving thing. Actually yeah, wow, that's like so

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01:46:56,320 --> 01:46:58,720
Speaker 1: much worse, so I probably wouldn't report. Yeah, I don't

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01:46:58,760 --> 01:47:01,479
Speaker 1: think that's the move, which it doesn't. OP was just asking,

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01:47:01,720 --> 01:47:03,840
Speaker 1: as I contemplate it more, I am going to seek

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01:47:03,880 --> 01:47:05,760
Speaker 1: my money back. If that makes me an asshole, so

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01:47:05,880 --> 01:47:08,519
Speaker 1: be it. I consider it justice. I'm the one who

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01:47:08,600 --> 01:47:10,600
Speaker 1: paid for the service that was not fulfilled. I'm the

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01:47:10,680 --> 01:47:12,640
Speaker 1: one sitting next to a crumpled door, and it was

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01:47:12,680 --> 01:47:15,200
Speaker 1: at risk of both drivers being stupid.

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01:47:15,360 --> 01:47:18,120
Speaker 2: Screw both of those guys. Yeah, I mean I totally

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01:47:18,240 --> 01:47:20,720
Speaker 2: hear OP in that perspective, like you were involved in

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01:47:20,800 --> 01:47:23,439
Speaker 2: an accident and the driver's going faster than he should have.

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01:47:23,600 --> 01:47:25,640
Speaker 2: That is true. I guess I can't really blame there

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01:47:25,760 --> 01:47:28,000
Speaker 2: for me. It's like if there was no ultimate, like

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01:47:28,120 --> 01:47:29,880
Speaker 2: true harm done, I just had to walk a mile.

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01:47:30,240 --> 01:47:31,439
Speaker 2: It's a story, you know.

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01:47:31,600 --> 01:47:33,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not one to like go and leave

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01:47:33,479 --> 01:47:35,760
Speaker 1: bad reviews even when things are bad. I was just like,

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01:47:35,920 --> 01:47:38,040
Speaker 1: I feel like it takes more mental energy than it's worth.

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01:47:38,120 --> 01:47:38,760
Speaker 2: But what would you do?

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01:47:38,840 --> 01:47:40,920
Speaker 1: Would you leave a bad review or would you try

2274
01:47:40,960 --> 01:47:43,400
Speaker 1: to get your money back from this crashed uber. Put

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Speaker 1: your answers in the comments below.

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Speaker 4: We just love hearing from you in general.

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01:47:46,800 --> 01:47:48,720
Speaker 2: We'd love to see your comments. See you on the

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Speaker 2: next serie.