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Speaker 1: I answer your questions. You email me Grangersmith Podcast at

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Speaker 1: Subject Cline says curious, and the question says, Hello, granger

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Speaker 1: don't care what hobbies they like or how their tastes

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Speaker 1: line up with mine, but I think the kind of

427
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Speaker 1: family they want to raise and how that lines up

428
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Speaker 1: is very vital. I've told myself that she's not the

429
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Speaker 1: one for me, but I can't get rid of this

430
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 1: undying feeling for her no matter what I tell myself.

431
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Speaker 1: So my question is this, should I ignore my logical

432
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Speaker 1: side and just blindly like her or try to kill

433
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Speaker 1: my feelings for her? Sorry for the email, yege uh

434
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Speaker 1: and this is yeah from Spencer. Thanks to Spencer. Appreciate

435
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Speaker 1: your brother. Man, You're too young to be thinking about this.

436
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 1: I'm just going to straight up this is this is

437
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: tough love. Stop stop worrying. These are natural things. I

438
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: should say it that way. It's it's natural for you

439
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 1: to be thinking down the road about what you want,

440
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 1: right man, I think it would be nice to have

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00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,719
Speaker 1: four to six kids, two dogs, and a big property

442
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 1: in the country. Okay, it's it's good. It's good to dream.

443
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 1: It's good to have that kind of feeling, and you

444
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,200
Speaker 1: can kind of start crafting your life around that dream.

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00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 1: That's good. It could change, know that, it definitely could change,

446
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 1: but it's good to nonetheless have this kind of dream.

447
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 1: Where it gets dangerous and bad, in my opinion, is

448
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Speaker 1: when you start needing that from a girlfriend who's fifteen,

449
00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: and you're like, hey, I want you to I want

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Speaker 1: you to just know, oh that my life is going

451
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Speaker 1: to consist of four to six kids, two dogs, and

452
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Speaker 1: a big house in the country. That's when it gets

453
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Speaker 1: weird because you don't expect a girl that's fifteen to

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Speaker 1: have that kind of vision. Her clock hasn't started, her

455
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: biological clock hasn't started even ticking yet. It's cool that

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Speaker 1: you're planning, but she has other dreams and you can't

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Speaker 1: make a fifteen year old girl think like you do

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Speaker 1: because you're planning for the future. And because she doesn't

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Speaker 1: and because she says, yeah, I guess I could have

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Speaker 1: one or two kids. Just because she says that doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean that that's not going to change, and that she's

462
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Speaker 1: not when her clock kicks in about twenty five years

463
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Speaker 1: old and she's ready to make babies, it could be

464
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Speaker 1: totally different. So you're basing whether or not you should

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Speaker 1: even talk to this girl and worry and you're stressing

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Speaker 1: about it, and you're emailing me on something that really

467
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Speaker 1: does not matter at all. It doesn't matter. Let it go.

468
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 1: Change the subject here. I got a new one for you.

469
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: What kind of milkshake do you like? Chocolate or vanilla?

470
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Speaker 1: Where do you want to What movie do you want

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Speaker 1: to see on Friday night? At best, that's the conversation

472
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: you could have, and do it with friends around you,

473
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 1: because it's also it's also pretty young to be going

474
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 1: on private dates anyway. So bring a bunch of friends.

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Speaker 1: You guys, go see the high school football game together.

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Speaker 1: If you're not playing and she's not cheering, and you're

477
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: just in the stands, whatever, join the community. They have

478
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: a bunch of friends around, and go get you a milkshake.

479
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: But don't be worried about where you're going to live

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Speaker 1: and how many kids you're gonna make with the girl.

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Speaker 1: That's fifteen, Okay, that's way down the road. That's ten years.

482
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Speaker 1: That's a decade down the road. Okay, I'm gonna end

483
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Speaker 1: with that. All right. Here's this is a interesting subject

484
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Speaker 1: line says Lord's name in vain. Hello, Granger, I'd like

485
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Speaker 1: to stay anonymous. I have two questions. I'm gonna try

486
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Speaker 1: to keep them phone length and get right to the point.

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Speaker 1: Number one, I know it's wrong to use the Lord's

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Speaker 1: name in vain and a cringe whenever someone uses it,

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Speaker 1: especially when it's somebody close to me. My question is

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Speaker 1: how do you tell them or somebody it's wrong? Number two,

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Speaker 1: how do I help my best friend stop sabotaging self sabotaging?

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Speaker 1: And number three? Was there a third question? There is

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Speaker 1: a third question? How do you stay faithful to God

494
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Speaker 1: when it feels like He isn't responding to any of

495
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 1: your prayers and you can't fill his presence in your life?

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Speaker 1: Thanks for your music in your podcast. They helped me

497
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Speaker 1: get through that Monday work. Can't wait to see her

498
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Speaker 1: Like a river tour in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania. All right, Anonymous,

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00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 1: I'll keep it there. Thank you so much for emailing.

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00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: I appreciate you so much. And let's kind of walk

501
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Speaker 1: through these questions. Number one, lord's name in vain. I'm

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00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: here's the deal. Let me let me take a different

503
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Speaker 1: route with this. Number one. You said you know it's

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Speaker 1: wrong to use the Lord's name in vain, and you

505
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Speaker 1: cringe whenever somebody uses it, especially someone close to you.

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00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: That's that's your words, right, it's number one, that's your question.

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00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 1: Let me repeat that question. I know it's wrong to

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Speaker 1: use the Lord's name in vain, and I cringe whenever

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Speaker 1: someone else uses it. I'm gonna switch to question three.

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Speaker 1: How do you stay faithful to God when it feels

511
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Speaker 1: like He isn't responding to any of your prayers and

512
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: you can't feel his presence in your life? You see

513
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: what you did there. You trust, You trust God, You

514
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 1: believe in God. You trust God when someone uses his

515
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 1: name in vain or around you, But you don't trust

516
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: God really and every other circumstance because you don't feel

517
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: like he's there responding, You don't feel like he's listening.

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Speaker 1: You can't fill his presence in your life. It's interesting, right.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm not blaming you, I'm not criticizing

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Speaker 1: you or judging you anyway. Just I'm kind of holding

521
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Speaker 1: these two sides up here, and i just want you

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Speaker 1: to look at what is in each of my hands.

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Speaker 1: Your question one in three, it's interesting to hold them

524
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Speaker 1: side by side, in case you haven't done that. It's interesting, right,

525
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 1: it's very interesting. I've said this before, and I know

526
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Speaker 1: it was recently, and I might as well. I might

527
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: as well say it again because I think it matters.

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Speaker 1: But I'm going to pull up on my phone here,

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Speaker 1: pull up Psalm thirteen. So for your question three, I

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Speaker 1: would meditate on Psalm thirteen. I think it's great for

531
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Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. I think it's lost in today's culture.

532
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: The laments are lost in today's culture. And this is

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Speaker 1: David the Psalmist writing these words. Okay, keep in mind

534
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Speaker 1: David was a man after God's own heart. Psal I'm thirteen.

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Speaker 1: How long, O Lord, will you forget me forever? How

536
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Speaker 1: long will you hide your face from me? How long

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Speaker 1: must I take counsel in my soul and have sorrow

538
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,560
Speaker 1: in my heart all the day? How long shall my

539
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 1: enemy be exalted over me. Consider and answer me, O,

540
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: Lord my God, lift up my eyes, lest I sleep

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Speaker 1: the sleep of death. Lest my enemies say I have

542
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: prevailed over him. Lest my foes rejoice because I am shaken.

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00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: But that is a powerful butt, y'all. In verse five.

544
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Speaker 1: But I have trusted in your steadfast love. My heart

545
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Speaker 1: shall rejoice in your salvation. I will sing to the Lord,

546
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Speaker 1: because he has dealt bountifully with me. I will sing.

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00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 1: So you sing. That's David's example here. What do you do?

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Speaker 1: What do you do when you feel like he's not listening,

549
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: you can't feel his presence? You sing? It's interesting, right,

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00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 1: that's what David said. I would go back and back

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Speaker 1: to that Psalm thirteen. I've gone back to it just

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Speaker 1: two podcasts in a row. And I think it's important

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00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 1: for people to know what the psalmist feels. Right, he

554
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 1: feels like he's abandoned, and then when he feels that way,

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00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: he goes back to what he knows, and the way

556
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Speaker 1: he deals with what he knows is by singing praises.

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Speaker 1: It's interesting how that works. Right. God has set up

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00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 1: his system for us. We don't know why, but it's

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00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 1: it's highly entwined in faith. It's always there's always room

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00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 1: in our lives for faith. He's never gonna he's never

561
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: gonna fill up his presence so much that there's no

562
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 1: room left for faith, no room left for us to say,

563
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Speaker 1: I don't see you, I don't hear you, and I

564
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 1: don't feel you, but I know you God, and I

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00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: believe you, and I trust you and I love you.

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Speaker 1: That's faith. Now, there are times when he's so present

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Speaker 1: and so real and in our lives and speaking to

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Speaker 1: us so clearly, and it's great that we have those moments,

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Speaker 1: and then it goes. Then we go into other moments,

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Speaker 1: other seasons of our life when we just don't feel it.

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Speaker 1: Those are those are the times when it's faith that

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00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: fills the gap. Right. This is why I was reading

573
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 1: the Bible so important, because we go, oh, it's not

574
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 1: just me, I see it right here, and so I'm thirteen.

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00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 1: It wasn't just me. I thought it was just me,

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Speaker 1: But it's David, a man after God's own heart. Wow.

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Speaker 1: So back to question one. I need you to work

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Speaker 1: this out, and I need you to work out question three.

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00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:13,399
Speaker 1: And that's gonna help a lot with question one because

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Speaker 1: question one when you when you hear someone speak the

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Speaker 1: Lord's name in vain and they're they're not a believer,

582
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Speaker 1: they don't trust the Lord, they don't love the Lord.

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Speaker 1: Are you surprised? Is that surprising to you? And so

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00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: at that point it's almost weird to say, oh, don't

585
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: do that, because it begins to sound legalistic, it begins

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Speaker 1: to sound like you're judging. Don't say that. Don't say that.

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00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: You can kind of WinCE and they go, what you go?

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00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: Just what you said. It just kind of makes me wins.

589
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: I would do it more like that and less like,

590
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 1: don't say that, don't use the Lord's name in vain,

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Speaker 1: because the truth is people do a lot of things

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00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: when they don't know Jesus, and it shouldn't surprise us. Instead,

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00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: we should model Jesus as a mirror that of his

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00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 1: light back to them and live that out for them

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00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: and preach that out to them in a way that

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00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 1: shows forgiveness and love. Right. Yeah, Question two, how do

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Speaker 1: I help my best friend stop self sabotaging? Rewind and

598
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: listen to what I just said about all of that?

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00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 1: There you go, there you go. Let's hit another one here. Yeah,

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00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: let's see some crazy subject lines here. It's so hard

601
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 1: when I only have a few questions to randomly pick

602
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: what I think is going to be the right one.

603
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: But here we go. Subject line veteran. I'd like to

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Speaker 1: remain anonymous. I love listening to your podcast, love your music,

605
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 1: and respect your decision to leave the music industry for

606
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:14,720
Speaker 1: a higher calling. Raised Catholic, and after my first deployment

607
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: to Afghanistan, I stopped believing question how do I trust

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00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: in people again? I've closed my circle and shut people out.

609
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: I believed time would heal all things, but it doesn't

610
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:29,640
Speaker 1: seem to get better. I read my late Grandpa's Bible

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00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 1: frequently on Saturday and Sunday mornings when my family is

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00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: still asleep, but I can't seem to find the answers interesting. Anonymous,

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Speaker 1: thanks for the question, Thanks for your service. Can't imagine

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Speaker 1: what you saw in Afghanistan. Can't imagine, so thank you

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Speaker 1: for your service. Let me kind of dissect your question,

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00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: how do I trust in people again? Talking about it

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00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 1: after deployment, I've closed my circle and shut people out.

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00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 1: I believed time would heal all things, but it doesn't.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't. I read my Bible, your great grandpa's you're late.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me. Grandpa's Bible frequently on Saturday and Sunday mornings

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Speaker 1: when your family is still asleep. Okay, all right, A

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Speaker 1: couple of things here. I just want to encourage you. First,

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Speaker 1: I love the search. I love searchers. I'm a searcher myself,

624
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Speaker 1: and I love to hear from searchers. And I love

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Speaker 1: searcher questions. Because what I mean is this. You could

626
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Speaker 1: have said this. You could have said this, hey man.

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Speaker 1: After my first deployment to Afghanistan, I stopped believing in

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Speaker 1: God and I don't trust people anymore. And I thought

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Speaker 1: time would heal all things, but it doesn't, and some

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Speaker 1: I'm stuck and I don't know what to do. You

631
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Speaker 1: could have said it that way, right, But that's not

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Speaker 1: what you said. You said you said, I'm looking, I'm

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Speaker 1: reading frequently, I'm searching, and then you said, but I

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Speaker 1: still can't seem to find I can't find. That's insinuating

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Speaker 1: that you're searching but you can't find m I like that.

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Speaker 1: That sets you up for success right away. For me.

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Speaker 1: If I'm if I'm speaking to you, if I'm speaking

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Speaker 1: to you about truth, I'm like, all right, Okay, good, good.

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Speaker 1: I love that this guy's searching because it's you haven't

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Speaker 1: closed the door. You got the windows open and the

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Speaker 1: door open, and you're like, I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying different things and I can't find it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but you're going down the right path. What I always

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Speaker 1: recommend on this podcast is community because we were just

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Speaker 1: never made to process things alone. Humans are not made

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Speaker 1: to process anything alone. So I recommend community wise counsel. Friends.

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Speaker 1: Be careful who you choose for this. This is important.

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Speaker 1: That's why I say going to a local church is

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Speaker 1: a good place. It's a good place to start. It's

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Speaker 1: a good community, it's a good small group. You can

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Speaker 1: be the guy who walks into church, who shows up

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Speaker 1: on a Sunday. You can be the guy that says,

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Speaker 1: I'm coming here, and mister pastor, I just want to

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Speaker 1: let you know I don't believe. I don't believe in

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Speaker 1: your Bible stuff. My grandpa did, but I don't. But

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Speaker 1: I'm coming here because I'm searching. I'm here trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out what this is all about. Here trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out what my grandpa saw and this whole thing,

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Speaker 1: this whole Christian thing, this whole. Christ came from heaven

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Speaker 1: and entered humanity and died on a cross to cover

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Speaker 1: my sins because I couldn't do it. In mankind, no

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Speaker 1: one could do it, no one could live up to

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Speaker 1: the standard of God. Even though so many people and

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Speaker 1: so many other religions, including the Catholic Church, say that

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Speaker 1: you got to work to be good. You gotta like

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Speaker 1: Santa Claus's checklists, you gotta work to be a certain

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Speaker 1: level so that maybe at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: if you helped enough old ladies across the street, you're

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Speaker 1: worthy of heaven. And the Christian God says no, Jesus says,

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Speaker 1: I am enough. It is finished. I have paid the price.

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Speaker 1: I came down in a substitution for your worthlessness. I

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Speaker 1: then made you worthy because I was worthy. And I

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Speaker 1: died as a sacrifice to take the place of all

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Speaker 1: the sacrifices that you couldn't have done. And all I

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Speaker 1: ask in return is you trust in me, trust me,

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Speaker 1: believe me. I got you covered. And you're going You

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Speaker 1: are sitting there, anonymous, and You're like, I just want

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Speaker 1: to know what this is all about, and I'm skeptical

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Speaker 1: about it. It's a good place to be Did you

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Speaker 1: know that it's a good place to be skeptical about

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Speaker 1: it on Sunday mornings in church. It's a lot better

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Speaker 1: than not going, and it's a lot better than not

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Speaker 1: than having a closed mind about it. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: tell me more about this stuff. I'm interested. I'm looking

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Speaker 1: for something. Let me warn you. Let me warn you

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Speaker 1: you listening. I hope you're listening. The Bible says seek

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Speaker 1: and you will find knock and the door will be opened.

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Speaker 1: I'm warning you when you keep seeking like this, you

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Speaker 1: keep searching for answers like this, and you're going down

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Speaker 1: this path, the path of the Bible, you might just

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Speaker 1: find what you're looking for. Let's grab one more. We'll

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Speaker 1: go back to one of those teenagers teenage ones. Subject

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Speaker 1: line is my heart too attached? Hey Granger. My name

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Speaker 1: is Eli, I'm sixteen. I'm from Cheyenne, Wyoming. I'm a

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Speaker 1: huge fan of your music and podcast. My favorite song

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Speaker 1: without a doubt is Remington. Thank you, buddy. There's a

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Speaker 1: girl I really like and she likes me too. She

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Speaker 1: cheated on me, and I chose to forgive her. My

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Speaker 1: mama and friends keep telling me I made the wrong choice,

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Speaker 1: and I need to break up with her. I'm torn

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Speaker 1: between breaking up or staying together to work it out.

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Speaker 1: I've been praying, and I'm just lost. I also feel

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Speaker 1: like I made too much. I've made girls too much

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Speaker 1: of a priority in my life, so that is playing

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Speaker 1: a big role in my confusion. Any advice, thanks in Yigi. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I have advice, Eli. Thanks, thank for email and brother.

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Speaker 1: Here's my advice. When you're sixteen and older than that.

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Speaker 1: There's something to say about trusting mama. There's something to

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Speaker 1: say about trusting your friends. And when both of them

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Speaker 1: are saying the same thing, your mama and your friends,

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Speaker 1: you should listen to them. The girl's not right for you.

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Speaker 1: I know she's not right for you, not because of

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Speaker 1: anything you said about her cheating and you forgiving. I

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Speaker 1: know she's not right for you because your mama and

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Speaker 1: your friends told you so. You just don't want to

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Speaker 1: listen to them, but you need to, because when mama

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Speaker 1: and friends say something about a girl that you're dating,

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Speaker 1: do it. They see the outside perspective, They're looking at

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Speaker 1: the whole picture. You can't. You're blinded. You got blinders

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Speaker 1: on and you can't see what's going on like they

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Speaker 1: can't from the outside. Listen to them. Take counsel in, Mama,

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Speaker 1: take counsel in your friends, move on from this girl'll

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Speaker 1: break up with her. Thanks for emailing, buddy. We'll see

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Speaker 1: all you guys next Monday. Thanks for joining me on

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Speaker 1: the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys.

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