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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't She cleaned, cared for her children and the

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Speaker 1: man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 1: She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was

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Speaker 1: a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 2: That we're good Mom's bad choices. Who's single mom who

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Speaker 2: said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices and

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Speaker 2: sound out they were so bad. After all, we're expert

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Speaker 2: overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 3: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 2: I can do it.

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Speaker 1: That.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Mela, and it's Wednesday. It is

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Speaker 2: welcome back to the Good Mom Show. How are you feeling?

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Speaker 2: I'm good.

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Speaker 3: We're doing this episode from home today, which is very rare.

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Speaker 3: We decided to honor our energy and keep it in

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Speaker 3: the crib, so I feel good. I put makeup on,

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Speaker 3: and shit, I got lipliner overdrawn on my lips and

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Speaker 3: stuff like I'm going somewhere. But if you saw what

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Speaker 3: I was wearing under below this shirt, I'm still in

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Speaker 3: my pajamas, not below the shirt. But I do have

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Speaker 3: my I do have our merch on which I do too.

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Speaker 3: Oh look, see if we' even mean to do this.

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Speaker 3: I think that one's sold out, but this one is not.

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Speaker 2: I wear our merch a lot, and you should too.

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Speaker 2: lot of can of mom shit, a lot of bold statements,

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Speaker 2: a lot of things that you want to say, but

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Speaker 2: sometimes you don't say it. This one says goddess spiritual sorority,

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Speaker 2: because where a god is spiritual sorority?

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Speaker 3: Black as fuck, mom as fuck, fine as fuck?

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Speaker 2: Yep, do you wear that one?

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Speaker 1: Me?

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Speaker 2: Do you wear that one? When you pick up Iri

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Speaker 2: from school?

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Speaker 3: I wear all of our I think I talked to

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Speaker 3: you about this on the few episodes ago. I don't

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Speaker 3: not wear our merch. I don't spare my child's feelings

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Speaker 3: when it comes to my merch because I created this.

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Speaker 3: This is my shit, and I want and I know

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Speaker 3: when other moms, and it happens every time I wear

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Speaker 3: it and I go to the school, they're like, oh

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Speaker 3: my God, where suld I'm like, I need it. So

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Speaker 3: I think that we should normalize wearing statement pieces.

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Speaker 2: Just schools to school pick up.

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Speaker 3: These parents know who we are and don't add me

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Speaker 3: to the group text bitch. Maybe I'll prevent her about

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Speaker 3: unless you're with the shits.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I'll present them from asking for sleepovers and play dates.

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Speaker 2: That's fine, I hate and Lona's like, can you get

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Speaker 2: some and seose mom's numbers if you have a play date?

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Speaker 3: And no, at this point, I know I don't. I

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Speaker 3: don't do that anymore, and say, if you want me

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Speaker 3: to have the you get her mom's number. I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to go search the databases of the onlines of

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Speaker 2: I've done that, and I will.

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Speaker 3: But also like, I think our kids are old enough

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Speaker 2: Write it on a piece of paper and get yeah,

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Speaker 2: literal will bring home the paper. I'm like, Okay, I'll

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Speaker 2: do what I gotta do. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: But honestly, this summer, like Iri hasn't really been like

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Speaker 3: First of all, if she was in camp, she would

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Speaker 3: be on her tenth activity, which is great too, But

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Speaker 2: Doesn't talk to me. What am I doing?

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Speaker 3: Like I felt like I'm doing everything my mom didn't

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Speaker 3: So I actually advocate for not sending your kid to

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Speaker 2: But I need the break.

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Speaker 3: I mean, and you have if you have multiple kids,

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Speaker 2: I'm lucky, So yeah, I the summer break is for

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Speaker 2: do school camp with Irate, it was actually in my

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Speaker 2: I that was my like, here, she's going to camp

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Speaker 2: get a good break. Twenty years is not enough. I

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Speaker 2: mean how many years did I get, Like eighteen? I

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Speaker 2: mean yeah, it just wasn't enough. And so I'm just like,

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Speaker 2: since that last time Adventure Bay took us one hundred

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Speaker 2: years ago. But I have no equipment. So finally, my friend,

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Speaker 2: like why and because we're going camping And I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: We all drove back up together and we had the

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Speaker 2: And we were there for like five days. We were

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Speaker 2: Like it was just really fun and all day long

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Speaker 2: it was really fun. We didn't bathe really for like

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Speaker 2: so they smoke weed. It was very interesting, but it

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Speaker 2: just like and I realized I don't have like as adults,

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Speaker 2: you know, me and Shawnie were friends when I was

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Speaker 2: in like college ish, but you don't have a lot

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Speaker 2: since then, every time I've been in Atlanta, it's been

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Speaker 2: for like a show, we're for a speaking event, and

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Speaker 2: we haven't like we'll have like a couple hours or

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Speaker 2: out and part Like it's like, I think that we

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Speaker 2: don't give our adult friendships enough like downtime. You have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like, she's sweet. I don't want to talk shit,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't think you could do six months.

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Speaker 2: Also, we started we started a business in like ten minutes,

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Speaker 2: We're eight years apart. But like, yeah, like spend times

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Speaker 2: It was a nice time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes the brunch is not enough. Sometimes the brunch

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Speaker 3: Ooh that sucks?

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Speaker 2: He did?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 3: Oh crazy? So how's work? Like it's just so there's

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Speaker 2: Hoops, and now I feel like I feel like that's

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Speaker 3: But just.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, my brother's texting me.

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Speaker 3: Look, my brother wants to come by, like people want

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Speaker 2: Anyway.

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Speaker 3: We it was just nice to like get in a

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Speaker 2: What's going on?

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I think it is important to like spend

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Speaker 2: I can't remember right now, Sam Samantha is that her name? Redhead? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: And Emily, No, that's a different that's a different white girl,

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Speaker 3: The other girl she white as hale. Redhead went over

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Speaker 2: We're just like we'll go.

436
00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:02,439
Speaker 3: To lunch, get coffee, and then and then we're wondering, like, damn,

437
00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:04,960
Speaker 3: we're not We're not like I don't really know her anymore,

438
00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:06,720
Speaker 3: We're not close anymore. And it's like, no, you just

439
00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:09,000
Speaker 3: haven't like really carved out any time to really see

440
00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 3: what's going on with them and check in with them

441
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:14,320
Speaker 3: and vice versa. Like you guys are having very surface

442
00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:18,200
Speaker 3: surface experiences, but we're having like we're scheduling sleepovers for

443
00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:21,399
Speaker 3: our for our daughters and our kids, but never really

444
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,960
Speaker 3: like prioritizing I guess sleepover as adults.

445
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 2: Adults, sleepovers are necessary to cultivate adult friendships. Like that's

446
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 2: how that's why the retreat works the way it does,

447
00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:33,439
Speaker 2: because we're literally waking up and going to sleep with

448
00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 2: people every day, and like you have a day in

449
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 2: and day out, day in and day out, there's like

450
00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:41,479
Speaker 2: you get to cultivate a particular type of relationship because

451
00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:45,919
Speaker 2: you get that all day like all day experience on

452
00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,280
Speaker 2: a multiple days. We're doing the same things, we're going

453
00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:51,719
Speaker 2: on the same adventures, and so it's fun to just

454
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 2: like I realized this too, Like adults will do fun

455
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,120
Speaker 2: things and then we'll talk about them for the next day.

456
00:20:58,080 --> 00:20:59,520
Speaker 2: We did like all these fun things, like oh my god,

457
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 2: remember last tonight when we jumped up about naked and

458
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:04,239
Speaker 2: then you know, like we were all there, but just

459
00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:08,280
Speaker 2: to reminisce on the things that were fun, even like, oh,

460
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:12,119
Speaker 2: that's what kids do too, exactly, and that's what we like.

461
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:14,199
Speaker 2: That's the human experience that we like think that we

462
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 2: grow out of, but we don't. A lot of my

463
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,920
Speaker 2: adult friendships have been cultivated because of sleepovers and because

464
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 2: of extended stays, like even me and Aaron, She's come

465
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,439
Speaker 2: and stayed with us a bunch of times. He's gone

466
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:26,439
Speaker 2: on trips. I think trips can be trips can go

467
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,639
Speaker 2: either way, but you can you'll find out quickly if

468
00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 2: it's someone who needs to be your friend or not,

469
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:34,439
Speaker 2: because I've gone on fucking terrible trips with people that

470
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 2: are no longer my friends because they didn't need to be.

471
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:38,399
Speaker 2: And that's good too, because then I get to figure

472
00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:42,919
Speaker 2: it out quickly. But I think that trips and sleepovers

473
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:47,920
Speaker 2: really help cultivate adult friendships and it's necessary.

474
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,239
Speaker 3: You mentioned high school like feeling like high school. And

475
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 3: I just finally got the invitation to my high school reunion.

476
00:21:58,359 --> 00:21:59,240
Speaker 2: What is it? Twenty years?

477
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 3: Twenty fucking year high school reunion?

478
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 2: Bitch?

479
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: Did you go to your tenure?

480
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 2: I did? You did? Yeah? And was it? It was great?

481
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: No?

482
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 2: It was fucking stupid. Oh see, I love it.

483
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 3: I love to see all the fucking guys that were

484
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 3: so rude and dick dick holes just to be trash.

485
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 3: It was like, I couldn't wait to go, and it

486
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 3: really validated my feelings the first time. So I'm really

487
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 3: looking forward to round two of my twenty year high

488
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:31,680
Speaker 3: school re union.

489
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 2: I become my kids like Ruby and Michell's high school reunion, Come.

490
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 3: On, come, And honestly, I'm very disappointed in this reunion

491
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 3: because first of all, they were like, there's this a

492
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 3: two part reunion. Part one, come to the football game

493
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 3: and hang out at the football game, and I'm like, no,

494
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:53,879
Speaker 3: of the high school yes, I was like no. So

495
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 3: then I was like I don't want to go to no,

496
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:56,440
Speaker 3: fucking I don't want to go on to a high school

497
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 3: fucking football game and see y'all No, no, no. So

498
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 3: then the next day is then we'll have a barbecue

499
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 3: on campus.

500
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:04,640
Speaker 2: I was like, you.

501
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 3: Guys are fucking cheap. You want to have a barbecue

502
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 3: on campus. I'm like, I was like, can we really

503
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 3: reminist bring back? Can we bring back the throwback?

504
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:13,119
Speaker 4: Like?

505
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 3: Can we bring back the kickback? And someone does someone

506
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 3: have a home in Sherman Oaks that we can have

507
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 3: a kickback?

508
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 2: Somebody does? Can we do a throwback? Like?

509
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,679
Speaker 3: We need kegstands, we need, we need these things. We

510
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 3: need to run it back like we used to party

511
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 3: back in the day. Stop acting like fucking grown ups

512
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 3: and run this shit back. It's twenty years. We haven't

513
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 3: done this shit in twenty fucking years. I think that

514
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 3: every twenty year in high school, ring and beyond needs

515
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 3: to be like we need to throw it. We need

516
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,479
Speaker 3: to be like the ultimate kickback. So I was like,

517
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 3: I literally thought. I was like, are you gonna do

518
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:48,879
Speaker 3: You're gonna be my house?

519
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 2: No? Oh god no. I was like, too many people.

520
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:52,879
Speaker 2: There's so many people.

521
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: I know, some people probably die.

522
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,399
Speaker 2: You be acting like you're so with the ships, and

523
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 2: then you'd be like no, you be like, yeah, everybody

524
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 2: in my house, why did I do this? I don't

525
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 2: like any of these people I just, well, no, not

526
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 2: with our friends.

527
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 3: But I don't really ever have parties like that where

528
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,679
Speaker 3: I feel like that at my house. But that particularly

529
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 3: thing might happen because a I don't know these people anymore,

530
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:16,720
Speaker 3: like they could be serial killers and now they know

531
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 3: where I live and be I just like I don't

532
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 3: know who's like an alcoholic and it's going to overstay

533
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,479
Speaker 3: their welcome and just be stupid or you know, just

534
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: like I don't want to deal with any sort of

535
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 3: dramas that might come up. I just but I do

536
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 3: think that somebody needs to volunteer their home, and I'm like,

537
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,679
Speaker 3: someone has to have a house near our high school

538
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 3: that we can make this happen, because a barbecue on

539
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 3: campus sounds like some bullshit. But anyway, I'm going to

540
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: go either way because I have to. I have to

541
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 3: come I have to come through. I have to come

542
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 3: through with all this beauty.

543
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 2: Just part two, not part one. I said, you just

544
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 2: gonna go to part two, not part one.

545
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:59,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, show all these white boys what they missed out

546
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 3: on because they were too busy looking at Cali And.

547
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: They're probably still looking at Callie and Jessica Booth.

548
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 3: I know, but they I'm even at my last reunion,

549
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: one of the white boys came by to me. He's like, Erica,

550
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 3: I always had a thing for you, And I was

551
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 3: like really, because you didn't say shit. I was like, here,

552
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 3: I am the fucking only other black. There was like

553
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: two black girls and my whole fucking grade, throughout my

554
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 3: whole high school experience, and I'm thinking, like, Wow, nobody

555
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 3: likes black girls.

556
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 2: Huh.

557
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 3: I just want the fucking white girls with the fucking

558
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 3: franky bees on and the fucking parcels whatever the fuck

559
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 3: those jack parcel shoes and the high socks and anyway

560
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 3: I know a parcel. They are like these shoes with

561
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 3: like there's like these like shoes that have a little

562
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:45,120
Speaker 3: platform on them that everyone was wearing at a certain time,

563
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 3: and at least at my high school.

564
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if it was at your high school.

565
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 2: But I am just.

566
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 3: Looking forward to connecting with some people that I haven't

567
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 3: seen in a while, and also shitting on these nicks.

568
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 2: That's my goal.

569
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 3: That was my goal round one. My goal round two

570
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 3: is to them Yep, I'm still that bitch, and you

571
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 3: guys look old and I do not, oh my god,

572
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 3: speaking because they do I've seen some of them on

573
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 3: Facebook and I'm like, yo, sunscreen, sunscreen, water speaking, no

574
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 3: more cigarettes speaking.

575
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, like the aging thing. I have never been so

576
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,439
Speaker 2: thankful to be black, like because I was on that

577
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:23,880
Speaker 2: trip and it was predominantly white people. First of all,

578
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,360
Speaker 2: I realized a lot of like and I can't send

579
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 2: this to my day friends, but whatever, a lot of

580
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 2: those women, white women had black babies. I didn't see

581
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: the dad anywhere. Me and Orlando were the only black couple.

582
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 2: There's only my friend's family was only black family. The kids,

583
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 2: lots of mixed children, but there was one. There's a

584
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:46,880
Speaker 2: couple of women and I was just like, how old

585
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 2: are you? And they were like, first of all, I

586
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 2: think a lot of them thought we were high school students.

587
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 2: One person one high school speaking, but this was like

588
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,280
Speaker 2: the this I felt like I was in high school.

589
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 2: There's bongs everywhere. I was like, who's they were like

590
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 2: just sitting there not helping. I was like, whose fucking

591
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 2: kids are these? Get the fuck up. One kid asked

592
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 2: Orlando about Luna, Is that your sister? Ask Orlando if

593
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 2: Luna was his sister, and I was I almost was

594
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,120
Speaker 2: like whoa. I almost was like who am I? Then

595
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 2: who do you think I am? But then you know

596
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 2: what I contained myself. I said, I'm going to shut

597
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 2: the fuck up because you're his sister too. I was like,

598
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 2: I think maybe that was his girlfriend and see that

599
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 2: was his sister or whatever, but like, there's no way

600
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:28,880
Speaker 2: you can think I'm both their moms. And I didn't

601
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 2: even I didn't even entertain that conversation, but I realized, like, yeah,

602
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 2: the aging is totally different, Like it's totally different. A

603
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,719
Speaker 2: lot of those women were the same or close to

604
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 2: the same age as me, or like older.

605
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 5: But looked like old older, And I was like, whoa,

606
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 5: And I think, like in certain role, it's the sun

607
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 5: and I want to say the son.

608
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: And this is not a kind statement, and I'm just

609
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,119
Speaker 2: going to just keep it on a hundred. Okay, a

610
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 2: lot of those women have black baby daddies and they're

611
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,880
Speaker 2: single moms now. But sometimes I think and then they,

612
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 2: like my friend was telling me, a lot of the

613
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 2: black guys will like leave them, steal from them. I

614
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 2: have an announcement for white women that date outside of

615
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: their race. Okay, let them know.

616
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 3: Okay, And this is already I already support this message.

617
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 2: Don't even know what it is yet, I'm you just

618
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 2: take it for me. I'm your black friend online. Okay,

619
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 2: maybe I'm your black friend in real life. But I

620
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 2: just need to I just need to be realistic with

621
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,360
Speaker 2: yourself when a black guy approaches and maybe you guys

622
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: are in the dating phase and you really you know

623
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 2: they're great, and everything feels like it's going well. As

624
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 2: a white woman who dates black men, there are certain

625
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 2: things you have to be aware of. Does he really

626
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 2: like me? Or is he using me? Am I a

627
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 2: place to stay? Does he have a home? Does he

628
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: have a vehicle? Does he have a job?

629
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 3: Am I putting my name down on anything?

630
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 2: Okay? These are the credit because that's a big one.

631
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 2: If you think you're in love and he has none

632
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: of the above or two of the above, and he

633
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 2: doesn't and he asks you to co sign, or you

634
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 2: notice that he's spending more than three days when week

635
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 2: at your house and then it turns into four, then

636
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 2: terms into five, and then he's moved in and the

637
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 2: words of Ken the man that is not your nigga

638
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 2: for real, Like, I don't want to be the bitch,

639
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 2: but I'm like, and then this is what happens. White

640
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 2: women get with the black men, they're like, we're in love,

641
00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: they get babies, they put their name on things, and

642
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 2: then those niggas leave them and take some shit with them,

643
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 2: and then they're like black guys blah blah blah, I

644
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 2: don't date black guys. Nah, bitch, you dated the worst

645
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 2: black guy that there was, and you got got because

646
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 2: you weren't. You didn't have a black friend to tell you, no,

647
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 2: he doesn't like you, he's using you, and not to

648
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: say that this is the this is the happens to

649
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 2: all white women. No, there's definitely genuine love is love,

650
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 2: and there are people fall in love. But a lot

651
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: of times, unfortunately, black men see white women and they

652
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 2: take advantage of you. Okay, they take advantage because they

653
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 2: think you're really nice, and you probably are, but there's

654
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 2: such thing as being too nice. So I think that

655
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 2: there's a level of I noticed in this group of

656
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 2: friends there's literally very little black women, but there's a

657
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: bunch of white women with black kids. And I think

658
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 2: that sometimes you think that they're choosing you over us,

659
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: and this is just I think that there's a level

660
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 2: of ignorance that you guys have that you have to

661
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 2: be aware of when dating outside of your race. There's

662
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 2: a stereo you do just like me as black women

663
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 2: have to be. There's a level of ignorance that I

664
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 2: think black women have when dating white men too. So

665
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 2: there's like rules and regulations around Unfortunately, because we live

666
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 2: in a society that has created these fucking these steps

667
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 2: operations between us and distrust between us and fetishizing between us.

668
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 3: Not all the time. I do believe obviously people love.

669
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 3: Love is love, but I think that there's things that

670
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,239
Speaker 3: we both, we all parties, need to be aware of

671
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 3: and as blastifically, I have seen this a lot. As

672
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,719
Speaker 3: your black friend, Toney, I love you, I do, I

673
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 3: really do. This is a safe space for you too.

674
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 3: It is tell me the truth. Yes, it's time for

675
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 3: you to know. And if you feel triggered by this,

676
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 3: then you need to maybe go write the pros and

677
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 3: cons down, Go get your journal, write it out. Maybe

678
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 3: maybe dm us let us know what's going on. Let

679
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 3: us know what's going on. If you join Patreon, then

680
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 3: we can really have a full conversation. Because my time

681
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 3: does cost a little bit. It's cost ten dollars. My

682
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 3: time costs ten dollars so I can deep dive with

683
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 3: you on this in our Patreon chat. And I'm sure

684
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 3: there's gonna be other women too that can give you perspective.

685
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: There's a lot of women that there's a lot of

686
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 3: white women, brown women, black women in Patreon that have

687
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 3: experienced all the all of the above. And I just

688
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 3: want to be clear, Black women, we are not and

689
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 3: we are not what it's called excluded from the fuckery

690
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 3: of our of our of our men as well. We

691
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 3: also can be dumb bitches.

692
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 2: Also, we can also be dumb. But I do think

693
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 2: we also are dumb bitches, like historically. Let's be clear

694
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 2: because there's a lot.

695
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 3: Of black single baby mom my baby mamas. But yeah,

696
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 3: baby mom is out here too.

697
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 2: So I want to be clear, but I want to

698
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 2: be clear.

699
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 3: But we but we have a different sort of discernment.

700
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 3: We are we are choosing, we are not actually choosing

701
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 3: to be dumb bites.

702
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that the most important message is you're

703
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 2: not exempt, Stacy, Kelly, Katie, You're not exempt. This is

704
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 2: just this doesn't mean that this is not going to

705
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 2: happen to you. So don't get up, get your black

706
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 2: jamal and think that you're high and mighty, and you've

707
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 2: done the damn thing. And he and also another thing.

708
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 2: Please don't tell your black friends, Oh I got a

709
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 2: new guy. His name is Jamal. He's so fine and

710
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 2: he is a big dick. Don't do that. That is sheep.

711
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 2: It's going, it's taking its way back. This is how

712
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 2: you get cut off from your friends. This is how

713
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 2: you don't get help. This is how you don't get advice.

714
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 3: When we are silent while we're listening to your tragic story, and.

715
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 2: We're like, we're gonna let you see how that plays out.

716
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 2: When you start saying shit like that, we're gonna let

717
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 2: you see how it plays out without putting in our

718
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 2: two cents. But for real, you guys, you have to

719
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 2: date more more warely, because it's real. It's real right here.

720
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 2: People are predators and of all different people, and the

721
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 2: stereotypes do exist, and I just want you, guys, everyone

722
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 2: to be aware of it.

723
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 3: Like, you know, what I think is like a tip

724
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 3: for white women who want to date black men. What

725
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: the first step in this is you need black girlfriends first.

726
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 3: You can't be a white woman that's dating black men

727
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 3: and only have white friends. Like that's just it's not

728
00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 3: gonna work.

729
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 2: I have to just to get black girlfriends. Actually, then

730
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 2: you're more like that. You're more likely to be a

731
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 2: target if you have no black friends, because Jamal is

732
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 2: going to be like oh perfect, no one to Warner.

733
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 2: He's gonna be like sh ballin because you don't have

734
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 2: one Jamala or Erica to be like knock or no, no, no, no,

735
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 2: no no, Please don't do this because let me tell

736
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 2: you what Jamal's thinking. He's thinking you're stupid, bith Okay,

737
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:33,399
Speaker 2: So that's my announcement about interracial dating for the day.

738
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 2: I just think that, yeah, don't think that. Just be

739
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 2: on your just be on your toes, keep your eyes

740
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 2: peeled because a lot of times, stereotypically, I think you

741
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 2: think that you're like, oh, yeah, I'm the winner and

742
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 2: you're It doesn't necessarily work that way. You have to

743
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:54,760
Speaker 2: have discernment when it comes to interracial dating because sometimes

744
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 2: there are stereotypes that make you targets. And because we're

745
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 2: your friends and we love you, we want you to

746
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 2: know about these things.

747
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 3: Do we need an affirmation that supports this? Like, what

748
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 3: is the affirmation?

749
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure we've already done. Don't be a dumb bitch.

750
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 2: So we're gonna have to do You're not exempt, Yeah,

751
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 2: you're not exempt. White friends need white friends that date

752
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 2: black guys need black friends too. Honestly, if if you

753
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 2: have a black boyfriend and you have no black friends

754
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 2: and he doesn't think anything's wrong with that, that's a

755
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 2: red flag. I think it's a red flag. I think,

756
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 2: why do you not have any black friends and you'll

757
00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 2: have one black boyfriend. There's just certain things. But yeah,

758
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 2: I think what's the affirmation. White women who date black

759
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:55,759
Speaker 2: men need friends, White women who date black men need

760
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 2: black friends. Very simple, simple.

761
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 3: I can't wait to see that written out on Instagram

762
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 3: and see if anyone shares it.

763
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 2: I've got to see the shares hate it.

764
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 3: You don't have to start with the baseline is get

765
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 3: a black girlfriend, you know, and you know what, maybe

766
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 3: that goes the other way too. Black women that want

767
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 3: to date white men get some white friends.

768
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 2: But do you think, but do you think white friends

769
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 2: are gonna be like, hey, babe, Dan is using you

770
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:37,479
Speaker 2: to flaunt you around as white friends, like he's he's

771
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 2: fetishizing you. I think you do need white friends. I

772
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 2: don't know if white friends are going to warn you

773
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 2: the same way, but I think you need There's questions

774
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 2: that you asked when I dated white guys five times

775
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 2: I went on dates. There's questions that I asked, have

776
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 2: you ever dated a black girl before? What would your

777
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 2: family think if you brought me home? These are like

778
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 2: two very important questions. I never even got that got

779
00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 2: that far. No, I I've never ever brought a white

780
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 2: man home in my whole life. Wow. Never I've made

781
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 2: in college, like in my early twenties.

782
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 3: But even like, I don't be cause I think I've

783
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 3: only ever been on like two dates with the white

784
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 3: like what the same white man ever, I've never it's

785
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 3: never gone past that. And even like the white like

786
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:18,839
Speaker 3: model homeless man that I had sex with, like very

787
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 3: early on in our podcast.

788
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I forgot. Oh my god, was this name

789
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 2: like Peacock or something online or like Pete. I don't know.

790
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 3: He was like he was targeting black women because remember

791
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 3: he was in my DMS too, Yeah, he was targeting

792
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 3: he was on America's Next Top Model or some shit.

793
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 3: And then he picks me up in like this hoop

794
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 3: de I've never seen a hoopdie this hoop deing. I've

795
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 3: never been in a hoopdie that hoopedy to this hard

796
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 3: and he didn't even live here, he lived in.

797
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 2: Like where the fuck was he living? Who knows? He

798
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 2: was homeless?

799
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 3: Anyway, we didn't even go on a date. We just

800
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,839
Speaker 3: got drunk and had sex. But we never got past that.

801
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 3: And yeah, I don't I don't even know.

802
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: I don't even know. I can't even give real advice.

803
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 3: I think that you maybe be more well versed in

804
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 3: this space for this conversation.

805
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 2: But I've retired from my pink meat days, but I've

806
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 2: never like brought him home to my family.

807
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 3: My dad, Oh my god, I could only see your

808
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 3: dad just clowning the fuck out of.

809
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 2: You back in the day, Like in like elementary junior high,

810
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 2: I had a white boyfriend and he clowned me. But

811
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 2: the most recent time he dropped actually me and this

812
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 2: white boy off, Remember the one I was just so

813
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: head over heels.

814
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 3: For the locks.

815
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he ended up cutting his hair, but he

816
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 2: dropped me and him off at the Hollywood Bowl for

817
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: a concert. Like maybe this is more recently, I don't know,

818
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,320
Speaker 2: hollewhid No, it can't be that recent. It was like

819
00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:44,799
Speaker 2: four years ago, Okay, yeah, four or five years ago.

820
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 2: That seems so recent. It seems like yesterday. But he

821
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 2: didn't talk. He was I don't know, he was just

822
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 2: actually nuts. But I was just he didn't say anything

823
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 2: about him being white. I was just embarrassed with my

824
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 2: dad that day. He was just like talking shit to

825
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 2: me and I was like, okay. But that was like

826
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 2: the first time he's ever like as an adult. I've

827
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 2: even brought someone around him that it wasn't black. But yeah, interesting,

828
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 2: these are these are This wasn't supposed to be the topic. Guys.

829
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 2: I just want to be clear. This is just this

830
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 2: is the divine just telling us what to say. This

831
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:16,439
Speaker 2: is important, This is what needed to be said today.

832
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 2: This is on my heart today, this was on my spirit.

833
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:23,359
Speaker 2: Just came through. I just channeled this. I just got

834
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 2: a Dowtler's talk.

835
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 3: I just got a download.

836
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:26,360
Speaker 2: I just channeled.

837
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 3: I had to let these white bitches know the etiquette

838
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 3: for dating a black man. I just had to come through.

839
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 3: Thank you most high.

840
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 2: I mean because they'll stress. I mean, you'll be stressed

841
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 2: out and confused thinking you're in loudly stressed out and

842
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 2: then hate black people. You will, and this is my problem.

843
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 2: Then they're like I hate black guys and I don't

844
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 2: date black guys. Like, no, bitch, because you dated all

845
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 2: the wrong black guys and they aged you and now

846
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: you look fifty and you're twenty seven, and that's your fault.

847
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 3: Okay, what we got here, the aging into dating black men.

848
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 2: No, No, but I do think if you, if you

849
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 2: date the wrong black guy, or any guy for that matter,

850
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 2: they will, they will stress you.

851
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 3: And I'm pretty sure that my ex boyfriend gave me

852
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:06,839
Speaker 3: all the gray hairs on my head that I had.

853
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 2: You and if you're white, you could have looked fifty

854
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 2: right now. Luckily you have God. Thank you. I'm just saying,

855
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:14,320
Speaker 2: like you, it would be like the presidency, you know,

856
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 2: how you see the president before and after the term.

857
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 2: If you pick honestly, ay, that will happen.

858
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 3: Honestly, let's just say a prayer. Thank you God for

859
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 3: making us black, because the amount of niggas that have

860
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:31,440
Speaker 3: stressed me the fuck out. I should look four hundred

861
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 3: years old, honestly, but I don't because melanin, even if

862
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 3: I don't have the most of it, it still came

863
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 3: through for me. So thank you God, amen.

864
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 2: I mean, and luckily, because sometimes it does it, you know,

865
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 2: it just you have to be at this age. You

866
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 2: have to be weary because if you let them stress

867
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 2: you and age you, it could go really wrong.

868
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 3: And then at this point in this at this specifically

869
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 3: at this age, we can't allow men to stress us

870
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 3: out because if you're vain like me, it's dire. It's

871
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 3: just not an option. Like you really got to think

872
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 3: about your looks. You got to think about your neck

873
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 3: and your under eyes and those frown lines that are

874
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 3: constantly being activated because you're crying at night letting these

875
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 3: men stress you out. If you are above the age

876
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 3: of thirty five and dating, you cannot allow the men

877
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 3: to stress you out, especially if you're white.

878
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 2: Especially and also, and this is going to not sound

879
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 2: that kind too, but like, are you also like the

880
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 2: same level of fine or is he using you?

881
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 3: You know, we can't just we can't just say if

882
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 3: you're if this is the first fine nigg you've ever

883
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 3: been here, I'm not saying because because even Ken the

884
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 3: Man said she was that Nigga's first bad bitch, Like

885
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:45,440
Speaker 3: I don't know if.

886
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 2: That's the six that's my favorite line in all of

887
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 2: her music, because I am that Nigga's first bad bitch.

888
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 2: He's gonna edit this. I mean I would agree a

889
00:41:56,960 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 2: so with she can. I think I'm his first bad

890
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 2: I mean, like, come on, maybe make a little timid

891
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 2: and scared. Maybe me and Erica are just delusionally conceded confident.

892
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 2: I mean when I go If I go out and

893
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 2: a guy who's like very not attractive talks to me

894
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 2: or tries to I get offended, like, come on, come

895
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,920
Speaker 2: on you, why'd you come over here? I'm nice, I'm

896
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 2: always right.

897
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 3: But I think also, because yes we're beautiful women, we're

898
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 3: going to hell. I think, yes, we're both beautiful women.

899
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 3: But I think also our personalities make us bad bitches,

900
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 3: and we know that.

901
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 2: So that adds to the bad.

902
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:37,800
Speaker 3: Bitchness, which is why we're secure saying we're that niggas

903
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 3: first bad bitch, because not only do we look good,

904
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 3: but we're smart and we're fun and we do have

905
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 3: shit going on, and we're funding just the looks. There's

906
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 3: like there's like a foundation to this bad bitchery.

907
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 2: It's a package.

908
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 3: It's a foundation to bad bitchery. And it's not just

909
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 3: it looks. It's confident, it's substance. You have to have

910
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 3: some substance.

911
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 2: There a substance, like you said, the con confidence. Yeah,

912
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 2: the confidence, and you know.

913
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 3: You're if you can call yourself a bad bitch confidently,

914
00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 3: because that's actually I mean, it's it is pretty like

915
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 3: conceited and pathological to.

916
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 2: Say that about yourself.

917
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 3: But also like I don't think that it's I mean

918
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: I'm a bad bitch. I'm just I'm just saying, yes, yes, yes,

919
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 3: I mean I call myself bad bitch all the time.

920
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 3: I'm just saying for most people that feel really uncomfortable

921
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 3: saying that even though they are. There's a lot of

922
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 3: bad bitches that have all the things that we have, right,

923
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,720
Speaker 3: but they lack the confidence. Like they have the success,

924
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 3: they have the looks, they have the personality, but they

925
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 3: would never feel comfortable even saying that about themselves.

926
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 2: And I understand that. I think I've just gotten to

927
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 2: a place where I'm confident about saying it because I

928
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 2: always thought that it meant like I'm I thought I

929
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: confuse it of being conceited, and I realized that that's

930
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 2: the that's the trick that they tell women, you know

931
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 2: what I mean, Like men are more allowed to be

932
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 2: more like both boastful and like confident about who they are.

933
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 2: But women, Yeah, but women are supposed to be modest

934
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 2: and humble, And you can be modest and humble, but

935
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 2: you can still know what the fuck it is. And

936
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 2: what it is is that I'm a bad bitch. And

937
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,320
Speaker 2: I think that is important and that goes far. And

938
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 2: I think that we've been given this lie that we're

939
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 2: supposed to be like I'm all right, I'm okay now, bitch,

940
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 2: get the fuck out my way. I look good, you

941
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 2: know what I mean? And I and I think that

942
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,879
Speaker 2: I think that we should all possess that feeling about ourselves,

943
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 2: even if I mean, even me, I'm not like the

944
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 2: most I'm not the video model version of beautiful. There's

945
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 2: every there's only a very small slither of what society

946
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 2: tells you it's beautiful. We're all gonna veer outside of that.

947
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,840
Speaker 2: I'm not the most beautiful women in the world. However,

948
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 2: I think that that's all that matters. It's about like

949
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,360
Speaker 2: the how you feel about yourself, how you present, and

950
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 2: the confidence that makes it go far. And I think

951
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,760
Speaker 2: everyone should feel that way about themselves period.

952
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 3: Maybe the affirmation is, oh, it's not, it's not.

953
00:44:56,400 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 2: It can't be white part affirmation in case the first

954
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 2: one doesn't go as well. It goes so well.

955
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 3: Take a deep breath, Take a deep breath, and repeat

956
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 3: after me.

957
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 2: I am a bit, I am a bad bitch. I'm

958
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: a bad bitch. I'm that bitch. And if you don't

959
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: know it, move out my way like Luda.

960
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 3: Well before we get out of here, bad bitch member two. Uh,

961
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 3: we have a hory. It's a short one. It's not

962
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 3: really a hooy.

963
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 2: It's kind of like an.

964
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:39,439
Speaker 3: Advice question slash share in our discord. Okay, someone wrote

965
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 3: in our discord. And if you haven't joined Patreon, once

966
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 3: you join Patreon, you get access to our discord, which

967
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 3: is if you don't know what discord is, because I

968
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 3: think a lot of people don't really understand what discord is.

969
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 3: It's like an online chat community. So once you join Patreon,

970
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 3: you get access to Discord, which you have to download

971
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 3: the app Discord, and then you get into our server

972
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 3: and there's all these conversations happening, so many conversations, different channels,

973
00:46:02,880 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 3: different channels where you can find people in your city.

974
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,760
Speaker 3: There's people sharing their whore stories, there's people sharing their titties,

975
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 3: there's people sharing they're venting. So there's this whole channel

976
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:12,799
Speaker 3: just for venting.

977
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:13,400
Speaker 2: If you just need to.

978
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 3: Get some shit off your chest that like you can't

979
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 3: text or say to anybody, or maybe you feel even

980
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 3: embarrassed that you need to say, that's the.

981
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 2: Place to do it. Yeah, it's just it's a place.

982
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 3: Where you can be free with your fingers. But anyway,

983
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 3: I just got this today from somebody in our hoary

984
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 3: section and it said, hey, y'all, I started having sex

985
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 3: with this man and I plan on doing it again

986
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 3: as often as possible. But he's bigger than what I'm

987
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 3: used to. This happened on Saturday. My neck still ain't

988
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 3: right today, lots of deep throating. Well, my neck get

989
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 3: used to this question, Mark, I.

990
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:57,479
Speaker 2: Might to say, No, I don't think so. I don't

991
00:46:57,560 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 2: think my neck has it. But why is it because

992
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 2: you're doing this? Is he pushing your head a lot?

993
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 3: Or like what you got to relax, relax your neck,

994
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 3: relax your shoulders.

995
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 2: You gotta get to be in a comfortable position.

996
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, make sure you're make sure that you're checking in

997
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 3: with your comfort while you're I think as women like

998
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 3: we make ourselves very will like sit in a very

999
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 3: we'll put our bodies in such uncomfortable positions during sex

1000
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 3: to please the person, to please the other person because

1001
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,959
Speaker 3: like they're close, bit, nigga, you better we gotta start

1002
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 3: over then because I'm uncomfortable.

1003
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 2: That doesn't make for good sex.

1004
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,800
Speaker 3: No, because they because now your neck hurts.

1005
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 2: If one person is uncomfortable, it's just not it's not

1006
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 2: the move.

1007
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 3: I also think if you haven't tapped into our girl,

1008
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 3: Smaya's classes on Patreon, I don't know if she still

1009
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 3: has them up and going, but she has a dick

1010
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 3: sucking class on Patreon and I me and Mila took

1011
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:56,959
Speaker 3: it and it was very informative. Okay, like you you

1012
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 3: you need every woman I think needs a dick sucking class.

1013
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 3: And you have to relax. You have to like do

1014
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 3: a yawn that's really a ship to open up your

1015
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:12,480
Speaker 3: to open up your throat so that you can take

1016
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 3: more in. And it's like a like.

1017
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: An ah, I'm gonna make my own class dick sucking

1018
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1019
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1020
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1021
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1022
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 2: and open your mouth. Okay, Well when.

1023
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 3: That well that until that debut is go check out

1024
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Speaker 3: her or go look it up on YouTube. Honestly, there's

1025
00:48:39,040 --> 00:48:42,319
Speaker 3: probably YouTube videos about this at this point. But I

1026
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:45,880
Speaker 3: do think that it could get better. But some sometimes

1027
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 3: a niggas dick is just big, and it's just big,

1028
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 3: and it's not meant to fit. It's not meant to

1029
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: fit all the way in. And that's okay, there's that's

1030
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 3: why you have hands.

1031
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, used a hand. Yeah, thank you for the question.

1032
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 2: I was a good one.

1033
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 3: Well, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. If you did,

1034
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,760
Speaker 3: and make sure you go rate and review us on Apple,

1035
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Speaker 3: Go subscribe to our YouTube channel.

1036
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 2: Oh what what was he? Osborne died? I mean, I know,

1037
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:26,760
Speaker 2: I mean, I it's horrible. I feel sorry.

1038
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:28,919
Speaker 3: I just got an alert on my phone right now.

1039
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 2: God, you know what's so crazy? Rest in peace, Ozzy Osbourne?

1040
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 2: Because I watched that show growing up, but recently.

1041
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: Literally just had his last he just had his last

1042
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 3: Black Sabbath concert.

1043
00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:39,359
Speaker 2: Ever.

1044
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 3: This was literally like a week and a half ago.

1045
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 3: Because I saw a bunch of like like like rock

1046
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 3: artists currently right now basically do the concert for him.

1047
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 3: And he was like wheelchaired out there was he a

1048
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 3: wheelchair for real?

1049
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1050
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:57,359
Speaker 3: Like he's not he the drugs he was going ever

1051
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 3: on the reality show, he was barely like barming words.

1052
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 2: That's why I was surprised he was still alive. I

1053
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 2: reached I recently literally said, wow, he's still alive. Seventy six.

1054
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 2: Oh wow, he's like he's pretty. I mean, it's old young.

1055
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 2: I don't know what's the average rate of death these days.

1056
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 2: I mean with all the food and the fucking heavy metals,

1057
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 2: it's probably fucking sixty. But also I think that it

1058
00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 2: was like preserving him.

1059
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,320
Speaker 3: He was like, no, no, no, for sure, the drugs preserve

1060
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 3: preserve people. Like when I look at what's his name,

1061
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 3: Mick Jagger, he has like his face is old as fuck,

1062
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 3: but his body is like a twenty two year old

1063
00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 3: really yeah, girl, go look it up.

1064
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, how fuck you got?

1065
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:41,319
Speaker 3: How is your body looked twenty five and your face

1066
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 3: looks one hundred and two.

1067
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 2: He's probably working out and doing drugs.

1068
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 3: It's almost like you can't stop doing the drugs because

1069
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 3: if you do, you might you might actually really die anyway.

1070
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:55,080
Speaker 2: Rest in peace, Ozzy Osboorren, Rest in peace. Yeah, and

1071
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 2: rest in peace, Malcolm Jamal Warner.

1072
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,760
Speaker 3: I know, yeah, that was really and and it breaks

1073
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 3: my ant because it happened in our town of Costa Rica,

1074
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:05,480
Speaker 3: where we bring the ladies for the retreats. When I

1075
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 3: heard when when they said Costa Rica, I was like, God,

1076
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 3: please not please, not.

1077
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 2: Important, so please I had I had a feeling because

1078
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 2: that's where the black people go, I know.

1079
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 3: And yeah, Troy told me it wasn't Cochalis, it was

1080
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 3: pli A Chaquitha.

1081
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:17,760
Speaker 2: Really.

1082
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what's what it's what's true or not,

1083
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,880
Speaker 3: but both those places the tide can get strong.

1084
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,680
Speaker 2: Someone told me was pl Okay we go. There's a

1085
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 2: lot of rumors going. We're gonna, we're gonna have We're

1086
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 2: gonna when we get there, we'll be there in two days.

1087
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 2: We're gonna be on the ground. We'll figure this out.

1088
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 3: We'll tell you we're gonna leave an offering in the

1089
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:40,760
Speaker 3: ocean for him because he's God. He was like, he's excellen.

1090
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 3: It's a black legend icon like people grew up with him. Yeah,

1091
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 3: it's just really sad. So anyway, I hug the people

1092
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 3: you love, Tell the people you love that you love

1093
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:54,239
Speaker 3: them even when you're mad at them. And yeah, just

1094
00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:58,399
Speaker 3: take take advantage of just appreciate every morning that God

1095
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 3: wakes you up because it's just literally not guaranteed. Like

1096
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 3: you just don't know. You think you're on a family

1097
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,560
Speaker 3: vacation and then you like the first beach you go to,

1098
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 3: like I can only imagine, like when you're in that scenario,

1099
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:12,879
Speaker 3: you're like, this is.

1100
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 2: How I'm gonna go. This is it.

1101
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 3: That was his first day, the first day there, like

1102
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 3: this is how, this is it, this is God, this

1103
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 3: is this is how I'm going.

1104
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 2: Fuck, you just don't know, So appreciate, appreciate the present absolutely,

1105
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:37,799
Speaker 2: and and I love you and we'll see you next week. Bye.

1106
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:40,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm Lina, been so good, can't you tell? I

1107
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 4: went through a drought. That's until I found out where

1108
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 4: may my have been known? Art that used to be

1109
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:49,320
Speaker 4: broken tail now got the blue dance And like Beyonceasell.

1110
00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 2: Throat shot with pop and it's cowering our voices.

1111
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 4: Patriarchy kept it in the box to exploited women put

1112
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 4: the p and power.

1113
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 2: So what's pointless. They want me to be good, So

1114
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:00,800
Speaker 2: I made that sad mom. Not a bad mom, but

1115
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 2: a bad mom.

1116
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:04,720
Speaker 4: It's in on for cannabis in her bath. Bon walked

1117
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:07,520
Speaker 4: in Boston's cap and I blew his cat boss hot Dog.

1118
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:08,840
Speaker 2: Now I'm immune to the.

1119
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 4: Cat called Herbie in the waisted straight to it like

1120
00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 4: a dollar sign.

1121
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 2: Mother, rent the lover, when to it.

1122
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 4: It's like a water simmer where you rent the winter

1123
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:17,319
Speaker 4: essential will when the summertime.

1124
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 2: I do it all. Ain't know one that needs to

1125
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 2: run it by