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And I do 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:50.280 want to give a shout out to all of y'all listening. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:51.640 I know we kind of had a back and forth, 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:53.480 but again, I know most of y'all are at your 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:57.520 desk because we have hard working listeners and followers, So 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.320 whether you're at your desk, you're working overnight. The truck 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.800 drivers did say shout out for giving a shout out 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:04.440 to the truck drivers, and then for all of y'all 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.880 who listened to us on the plane and on your 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.360 road trips with your families. I do want to give 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.040 a shout out to our mutual friend Dubbs. I was 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.280 hanging out with her last weekend. She says she listened 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:18.519 to the abortion episode with her mother and it led 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:22.200 them to have like a really deep conversation. So I'm 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:24.560 just glad that our episodes are bringing you guys to 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.639 have these conversations with your family members, you know, and 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:30.720 why we like be holes and ship. This episode ain't 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.480 gonna be as hollish, so we're gonna I mean, it's 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.640 that gonna be as who wish, Like we are sitting 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:41.600 across someone who is married. So so okay, I mean, 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:46.080 well around of applause, y'all. We have the infamous. You're 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:51.240 kind of infamous. Infamous. Um, she's an author, guys. You 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:53.680 guys may know her for her beautiful eyes and curly hair. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.720 On the ground. Could she'd be giving us space? Baby? Um? 0:02:57.760 --> 0:03:00.600 She is? Also, can I say relationship x spur because 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:03.239 you say sex sexologists? What's that degree you guys? Yeah? 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:06.560 What is the sexology? I like antimacy experts, I like 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:11.440 an umbrella term. Sexologist is my like scholastic term, And 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:19.560 go ahead, and drop the names we got Shambo. So 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:21.400 I do want to give a quick shout out to San. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:23.800 I had said something on this podcast recently that a 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.239 few people took to heart and maybe you don't even 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:30.799 realize when you said it. Yeah, so Shan said to me, Um. 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:32.480 I was telling her how I was dating someone, and 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:36.200 I felt like, sometimes my life will never having this 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:38.280 podcast won't find me love, Like, you know, people are 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.440 gonna meet me and think I'm too wild and whatever. 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.600 And she's like, the next time you meet someone, you 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:45.880 know and therefore you they're going to tell everyone about 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:48.920 how how wild you are and love it. Not how 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:50.560 wild you are and be ashamed of it, but like 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:53.320 how wild you are and how amazing it is. And 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:56.040 it really meant a lot to me because in the moment, 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:58.320 I've always thought, oh my god, I have to hide 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.280 and then let it out. And she's like, no, someone's 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:02.160 gonna love all of that. When have you ever felt 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:06.400 you had to hide when a podcast? Yeah, dating, dating 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.440 is hard. I'm not gonna lie in the room with you, right, 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.400 Do you think I think there's a people listening? Yeah, no, 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:13.720 it's different. It's different. And then like, I'm not gonna lie. 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:16.400 Like when I meet someone to think of what episode 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.760 to even send them, I'm automatically like, oh ship, what 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:23.640 thet no? So and like so even with talking about 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:25.479 dating and you even mentioning that, like the guy that 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:27.520 I just most recently mad, he had no idea what 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.920 I did. Um, I split in his MS and so 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:34.360 we started talking, yes I did, Oh, I'm it's gonna 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:38.960 manifest y so on Instagram, I split in his dems 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:41.400 and we were talking um briefly and I was like, yeah, 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:42.640 he's like, so what do you do? We had the 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:45.040 whole career talk. I told him I'm leaving my job 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:47.159 to podcast, but at the point he didn't know what 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.920 my show was about. So here he goes. He's like, 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.719 I'm not gonna lie. When you first told me that, 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:53.640 and then when you can get your page, I was 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:55.600 ready to see booking info. I thought you were just 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:57.480 one of those and I was like, oh, well, they know. 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.680 And then we like got on the phone and he 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.480 was early reading the titles and on our YouTube at 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:04.800 the same time, and I'm just like red in the 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:08.040 face and he's like and from there he like shouted 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.920 me out on his platform and he's like I'm like, 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:12.720 he's like, I love what you do. He's like, I 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.200 feel like I can grow from you with the tour. 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:15.919 He's like, what you're doing, I wish I could do 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:18.719 so like us having these back and forth conversations, like 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.960 I'm enjoying talking to him, and he's much older and 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.640 we disagree on fucking everything. So I don't know how 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:25.800 that's gonna work, like literally, but it seems like you're 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:29.600 into that. Um. Well, I think he's a very good conversationalist. 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:32.039 So I'm like, we debate, and I feel like I 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.120 can alter your mind because he's, um, what's the generation 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:41.880 before us X? For what? But how old his baby? 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:44.160 How old his baby boomers? Boomers are over in the 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:48.080 mid sixties. Oh no, he's not a baby boomer. Oh no, 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:51.520 she's not that. Um but yeah, so he's Gen X then, 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:56.000 and oh my god. His thought process is all like, sir, 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:58.479 you're a little outdated in your mindset, but we're gonna 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.040 work all this. It's like, because you know, by the way, 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:02.400 I don't mean to be rude, Shan, I was take 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:05.599 finishing up your quiz. Um we gonna talk about it. 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:11.400 Were she'd be feeling left up. Well, so guys, you know, 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:13.080 I really felt like one day you would need me. 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.120 I thought you and Jay just be like yo, come over, 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:19.839 and I was just like, hey, I mean the day 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:22.560 are you trying to her husband too? I feel this 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.880 her thing, This is her thing every y I shouldn't 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:28.400 get fired thing. I don't suck couples like that. I 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:30.080 mean it's her thing to flirt with our guests and 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:31.919 say she wants to suck them in their partners different. 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:35.159 But she won't know the different because look, look look 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.760 at our camera. Me a last, he's lasting everybody on 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:44.919 her things fairly. It's like, let me leave, been just 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:49.360 paying me on what is my thing? Man? I don't 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:54.039 know you're the Jesus, I don't you guess. I don't 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:55.760 even know what that means. What does that mean? Jesus? 0:06:56.120 --> 0:07:00.240 What does the Jesus to the dick Jesus? What one 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:03.840 is Merrow? That's the dark one. I'm not the Spanish one. 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:07.479 I'm definitely the black one, just because I'm black. Anyway, 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:10.760 they're both black. No, he said, want of Spanish, but 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:14.280 he's black. Well, I'm definitely not Latino. Alright, I'm just 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:16.280 saying I want to be the black one, just like, 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:19.200 if we're going off Dessie Child, I'm Beyonce. If we're 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:21.480 going on Spice Girls, I'd like to be scary, Like, 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.520 what is the problem? You're not but the black one 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:26.960 of the group. It doesn't matter. I'm the leaded, Okay, Okay, 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:33.720 on the um so we're gonna start off Okay, Michelle, 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:36.520 let's not. I would love to be the Kelly. Kelly's 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:44.480 She's well at that's the point, you know, why you 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:47.360 do that? Because do you always ever have an emoji 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:52.000 crisis of like which emoji do I choose? It represents me? No? 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:55.960 My mine is the purple, the purple emotion the thing though, 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:59.040 but I'm like, I'm so pale sometimes that the purple 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.640 feels like a privilege to me, Like I can't actually 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.400 work for the purple one. Well, all of my friends say, 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.280 the real people emojis that is too dark for me. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:08.960 They be coming for me with my little one of 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:11.920 my friends listeners of the show, who knows who mouse is? 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.840 Whenever he's like skin, but whenever he sends emotions there 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:18.480 black as fun. Mouse is not light skinned? Okay, let's not. 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:23.120 Mouse is brown mosses. I wouldn't call mouse red like 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.360 a red in the streets. He's brown. Well, we're gonna 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.000 go ahead and get into our icebreakers. So we are 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:29.520 going to break the ice with you just a little bit. 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:32.800 And because you are an intimacy expert. There's a lot 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:34.400 of things going on in social media, and I want 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:36.120 your input on this too, because we haven't even got 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:38.120 to talk. We never get to talk like current events. 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:40.439 But there's like mad ship going on with relationships. So 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:43.240 the first one is going to be in reference to 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:49.200 Diddy and Cassie. Oh, would you congratulate your ex on 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:53.280 their new relationship and or baby on the way absolute? 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:57.840 It depends, I mean congratulate in my head, perhaps publicly 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:01.400 you saw the public very public though, I mean she 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.520 public were her man? I didn't know so so Cassie publicly? 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:08.840 Other way around? Did he publicly of her in her 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:12.120 new bow? Yeah, he said congrats. He should have done that. Now, 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:13.840 that makes sense. I I thought it made sense too, 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:16.040 mainly because there were rumors that he didn't want to 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:18.160 give her a family. Yes, Oh, I see, I didn't 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.120 know that. And a second to that, like just losing 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.440 someone that you love like you also, that might be 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.960 a way to show gratitude for that relationship. Like if 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.120 Kim didn't die, maybe he wouldn't have done that. Maybe 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.160 he'll be a little more pretty. And I feel like 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:30.560 that this is just a way where you're like I 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:32.760 have to show love, I have to be this person, 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.160 Like that's a good way to heal with Kim. After 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.280 they broke up as well too, they were still all together. 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.200 I feel like she never moved on. I felt like 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:43.280 she was always still apart. Well kids, yeah, they have 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:46.400 mad kids. But I feel like she romantically moved on. 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:49.120 She was on vacations with Cassie and did he Yeah, 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:50.440 but I think she had her own thing on the side. 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:52.040 I mean I'm not a Kim Porter expert. Yeah, I 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:53.640 mean that she lived her own life. I think that did. 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:57.719 He just creates this like all in the family foundation. Yes, 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.400 I can look at how we embraced I thought. I 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.640 thought his Instagram was great, like when I saw that 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:05.600 post it made. But so you would do that, yeah, 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:08.760 Like if I was a public person like that knowledge, 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:11.079 I would absolutely still like leave a comment or anything 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:13.160 like that. And also the narrative people were creating around 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.960 it would be so irritating if I were here not 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:19.520 every someone said to me once I remember who it was. 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:21.880 They were like, I think it's my old work husband. 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:24.839 He's like, you either Mary or you break up, right, 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:26.480 And he's like, so it's always like most of your 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.200 relationships fail And I was like, my breakups aren't failures. 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:31.760 We just decide to part. You know what I'm saying, 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:36.360 Like I've really Victorian perspective, it is, Yeah, but I 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:40.199 can understand the theory of like feeling like single women 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:42.959 can't give advice because they've never had a you know, 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.080 they don't have a husband or something like that. People 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.559 will say that to me sometimes, like oh, both y'all 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.600 ain got no naked And I'm like, but that doesn't 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.280 mean that we haven't experienced love. That you don't consider 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:53.960 yourself to be in a relationship when you're in a 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:57.440 full blown relationship with somebody, I mean a long term, 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:03.120 full blown, consensual, open communication, healthy intimate connection with somebody. 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.920 I am, but I think that sometimes like saying this open, 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:10.040 saying those words freak me out. So I like saying 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:13.120 single because I feel like once I start meeting people 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.920 and I say open relationship, then they're confused on what 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:20.120 that means. Well, so trying to educate them like the primaries, 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.560 like I have a male and female primary, right, Like 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.160 I saw someone that two years ago this weekend in Atlanta. 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:27.400 I feel like open relationship is like the new kale. 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.800 I just think it's like it doesn't grow. We is 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:33.960 not gonna cauliflower open relationships. It's not weird. Yeah, but 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:36.600 cauliflowers like the new thing. Bitch is now rice, you 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:39.439 can now do cauliflower mesh like you have said it, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.920 like it's a new I just like a relationship a 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:45.480 lot of the times can have bad, bad stigma around it, 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.319 right like Okay, well you know whose idea was it? 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:50.800 Or it's just everyone always has these questions. So I 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:53.560 just say they have primaries. But I mean, I don't 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.960 say I'm taken because I don't really like that ownership 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.160 on that word. I like, I like this conversation because 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:05.520 at least to the next question said, So this actually 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:09.480 relates to what is going on with Mellow and La La. 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:11.840 Do you stay with a man if he has a 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.480 break baby or has a baby while y'all y'all are 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:17.360 in a relationship. If you say, do you add the 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:20.240 baby to your family bonding? This is such a complex question. 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:23.040 It is. So this is asked because baby so La 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:28.600 La is getting flak because apparently the baby that Carmelo 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:31.640 had while they were on a break or so whatever 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:34.640 the timeline was of that. Um they are now back 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.520 together and La La wants nothing to do with the 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:41.000 baby he created outside. So that's that's where this question 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:42.880 stems from. But I did get kind of piste off 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:45.640 this weekend on Twitter. I'm like new to Twitter, and 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.520 I saw people like talking to thank you about La 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:51.360 La and like her decision making, and I'm like, why 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:55.000 are people always so mad that you take somebody back? Why? 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:58.080 Why do we have so much entitlement? I don't think 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.080 that there's really upset, Like from the tweets that I 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:02.760 was saying, it's not that people were mad that she 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.440 went back to him, but it's like it's kind of 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:08.120 like if you go and you decide to data stripper, 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:10.520 and then once you start dating, you're like, oh, I 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:14.559 don't want you to stripping. It's like apparently been like 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.240 she's said it apparently like in like a interview of 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.880 some sort, but basically she does not want the baby 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:25.400 involved with her. Cayent and and mellow like she doesn't 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:30.040 want a blended family. Basically right, it's a long life, 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:36.079 though it's notions about forever. In like a linear way 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:39.400 of dating, the average person died a lot sooner, or 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:41.480 one of your partner's gone malaria, like you you were 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:45.280 able to read malaria. Something happened, so it's like, yes 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:48.040 they did, um, I think a joke about But I 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.400 think the point is it's a long ass life. If 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.760 you just rekindle a romance that was so public, you 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.199 have a billion different opinions about it, your family's opinion, 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:58.560 your own perspective, and now you have to try to 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.319 reblend that relationship as is and reconnect with your family 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:03.920 and your kids. Now you got to add another person 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:05.520 into the pot, because it wasn't as if they were 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:07.880 all cool this whole time. There's so much try to 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.120 work out, so introducing that baby to his kid, having 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:13.400 to all of that, like, yeah, I know sometimes like 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:17.160 who you're right? You're right, And that's probably just what 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.040 it is. Like she doesn't know how to process it 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:20.720 and you have to think about something like that. It's 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.080 not like you have experience with it before. Oh let me, 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:27.600 let me go back to what happened last time. That's no, like, 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:29.680 you don't. I'm thinking if I should say this or not. 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:32.920 But nobody else. But a friend of mine has a kid, 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:36.360 kids like four years old. Baby daddy has another kid. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.080 She finds out from the internet, and she's like, completely, 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:43.800 she found out from the internet. Girl. So she's like, yo, like, 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.280 I'm not ready to tell my daughter this because I 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:50.080 just really don't think she can imagine her daddy like. 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:53.360 She's like, I don't think she understands love. I think 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:57.080 she's going to feel jealousy, left out, completely forgotten. And 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:58.640 she's like, and I don't know if I can handle this. 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.200 The guy's a ball player, so he travels a lot. 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.520 And she's like, I think she already feels a little neglected, 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:05.520 even though she has admitted he's a great dad. But 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:07.160 she's like, I don't know if I can tell my 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:11.480 kid this until she's old enough to understandsite another sibling. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:13.760 I would want to tell them soon. The kids would 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:19.360 be so excited to have another I think they they 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.440 start to see like you nurturing the pregnancy, like when 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:23.920 they start to realize their rooms getting moved, like when 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.680 they start to see you physically make space based for 0:15:26.720 --> 0:15:29.240 someone else and move their ship out the way. But 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:31.000 when that baby just shows up to play with you 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:33.400 like you're excited, Yeah, that might be more of her 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:38.560 thing that needs to ye like that, We're gonna go 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:41.560 ahead and get onto our vanillitious segment. This one is 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:44.600 actually really interesting. I've found it on Twitter, so shout 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:48.040 out to you guys who um at Wheezy and I 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.080 and the Horrible pod page. In so many like news 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:54.360 articles pertaining to sex, this one was really interesting, especially 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:56.200 with us living in New York and dealing with the 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:59.120 train um and I've shared on this podcast how I've 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:03.040 witnessed us on a train. So apparently in Tokyo they 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:06.920 have um a trained pervert issue. I talked about this 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:10.320 on an episode when I went where oh you talked 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:13.720 about So there's a videos women only train, So there's 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:16.000 women only trains, but for the ones that are co ed, 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:19.520 apparently like the men in Tokyo are just so like perverted, 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:23.240 Like there's actual video of men jacking off, standing really 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.880 close and bumping their dick onto women, which is so 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.920 that's actually what happened to me. A guy like undid 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:30.800 his pants and had his whole dick out on the 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.240 back of my ass during rush hour and I didn't 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:35.160 know until he had to step out. So I'm looking 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:38.120 at this video and so they're trying to crack down 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:42.040 in Tokyo with what to do? Yes, yes, Oh it 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.480 was trauma and it was like my first really feeling 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:47.600 violated in that way. And it even like sucked me 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:49.200 up more, which is also kind of bad that it 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:50.800 was a black man. And I don't know why, but 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:52.760 I only deal with black men. So like for a while, 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.000 I was just like, like they fucking disgusted me. I 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.040 was like so turned off. But they're trying to find 0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:00.440 a way, um to kind of get a hold of it. 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:03.680 So these men in Tokyo are referred to as chicken. 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:06.199 You know, I don't need knowing words c H I 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:08.240 K A N. How would you say that? Don't put 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:09.639 an accent too, because you know they go come for 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:16.800 your ass. How would you say that when chick? I 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:18.679 don't know. So that is what they're called. But the 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.280 app that they did, um that the app that Tookyo 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:24.320 created is called Digi Police App. What a woman does 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.760 is presses that app when she feels like she's being 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:30.280 sexually assaulted or there's a perfet around her, and what 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:34.159 it yells is like help me, police police, But in 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:39.919 what I swear to God video and he's like hell, 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:46.400 like nobody's so. So this app basically what it does 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:49.320 is it alerts everyone around that there's a fucking pervert 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:52.520 that you feel sexually harassed. And basically like the police 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.160 in the trains are tackling these men that are accused 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:58.360 of this and they're getting like arrested for it, ticketed 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:00.439 and all that, but this app is to help them 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:02.239 feel safer. I guess that app just made me think 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:04.240 about Lift. Have you heard about the Lift panic button? 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:07.720 There's Lift just trying to create a panic button because 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:09.879 all these uber drivers. But here's the thing that I 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:12.879 was thinking, there's a part of me that's concerned and 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:16.680 worried for black drivers because I feel like you can 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:19.240 just think about that be like, oh, I feel scared. 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.719 You know what I'm saying, Like, well, in Tokyo, like 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:27.240 you don't have the problem. In Atlanta have had a 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.879 lot of women drivers too. I don't have some women drivers, 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.480 but I mean one Carsmelo likely And then dude apologize 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:33.640 me and said, do you want to cancel the ride? 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:34.840 I was like it's cool. It was like, I really 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.520 need to go right. So he's like, what kind of 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:39.240 music you like? And I'm like, you see these braids, 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:45.120 you know you can go ahead and stereotype. Don't understand. 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:47.560 But then like one of them stopped to get gas. 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:49.480 I'm like, damn, this ratchet. So I could see someone 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:51.200 pressing a panic button for that, and I feel like 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:53.359 this could be very target against, you know, drivers of 0:18:53.400 --> 0:18:55.760 color um. The other thought I just had with the 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:58.119 train another thought, but what did the panic button do 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:02.159 other than just gas? It tracks you, creates uh. I 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:04.560 think police can be alerted and they're trying to figure 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:06.800 out what they're gonna do with it. It doesn't exist yet. 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.480 At least he did a great job with you. He 0:19:09.560 --> 0:19:12.000 got you, got into the car, he laid out the 0:19:12.080 --> 0:19:13.800 light land for you, said it smells like we do 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:16.679 you want to cancel? He gave me. Appreciated that too, 0:19:16.800 --> 0:19:19.879 he communicated. So this is the problem because the power 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:21.919 of choice is a big deal. But here's also the 0:19:21.920 --> 0:19:23.760 problem with these And I'm not sure if you guys 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:26.400 have noticed with your Uber and lift apps, it's been 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:29.240 telling you to make sure you double check the license 0:19:29.240 --> 0:19:31.399 plate and asked the name. So basically in Atlanta, and 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:33.280 I found out through cutty she talked to one of 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:36.840 the locals. So in Atlanta or whoever, whatever fucking hacker 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:40.560 made this app, there's some sort of perverted app in 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:43.680 the dark hole web that is allowing people to see 0:19:44.960 --> 0:19:47.480