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Speaker 1: on with the show. So it's Monday yet again, and
Speaker 1: we are in the building the people who make your
Speaker 1: Monday so freaking amazing. Girl. Anyways, it's horrible decisions. Y'all
Speaker 1: know this is your girl, Mandy B. And I do
Speaker 1: want to give a shout out to all of y'all listening.
Speaker 1: I know we kind of had a back and forth,
Speaker 1: but again, I know most of y'all are at your
Speaker 1: desk because we have hard working listeners and followers, So
Speaker 1: whether you're at your desk, you're working overnight. The truck
Speaker 1: drivers did say shout out for giving a shout out
Speaker 1: to the truck drivers, and then for all of y'all
Speaker 1: who listened to us on the plane and on your
Speaker 1: road trips with your families. I do want to give
Speaker 1: a shout out to our mutual friend Dubbs. I was
Speaker 1: hanging out with her last weekend. She says she listened
Speaker 1: to the abortion episode with her mother and it led
Speaker 1: them to have like a really deep conversation. So I'm
Speaker 1: just glad that our episodes are bringing you guys to
Speaker 1: have these conversations with your family members, you know, and
Speaker 1: why we like be holes and ship. This episode ain't
Speaker 1: gonna be as hollish, so we're gonna I mean, it's
Speaker 1: that gonna be as who wish, Like we are sitting
Speaker 1: across someone who is married. So so okay, I mean,
Speaker 1: well around of applause, y'all. We have the infamous. You're
Speaker 1: kind of infamous. Infamous. Um, she's an author, guys. You
Speaker 1: guys may know her for her beautiful eyes and curly hair.
Speaker 1: On the ground. Could she'd be giving us space? Baby? Um?
Speaker 1: She is? Also, can I say relationship x spur because
Speaker 1: you say sex sexologists? What's that degree you guys? Yeah?
Speaker 1: What is the sexology? I like antimacy experts, I like
Speaker 1: an umbrella term. Sexologist is my like scholastic term, And
Speaker 1: go ahead, and drop the names we got Shambo. So
Speaker 1: I do want to give a quick shout out to San.
Speaker 1: I had said something on this podcast recently that a
Speaker 1: few people took to heart and maybe you don't even
Speaker 1: realize when you said it. Yeah, so Shan said to me, Um.
Speaker 1: I was telling her how I was dating someone, and
Speaker 1: I felt like, sometimes my life will never having this
Speaker 1: podcast won't find me love, Like, you know, people are
Speaker 1: gonna meet me and think I'm too wild and whatever.
Speaker 1: And she's like, the next time you meet someone, you
Speaker 1: know and therefore you they're going to tell everyone about
Speaker 1: how how wild you are and love it. Not how
Speaker 1: wild you are and be ashamed of it, but like
Speaker 1: how wild you are and how amazing it is. And
Speaker 1: it really meant a lot to me because in the moment,
Speaker 1: I've always thought, oh my god, I have to hide
Speaker 1: and then let it out. And she's like, no, someone's
Speaker 1: gonna love all of that. When have you ever felt
Speaker 1: you had to hide when a podcast? Yeah, dating, dating
Speaker 1: is hard. I'm not gonna lie in the room with you, right,
Speaker 1: Do you think I think there's a people listening? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: it's different. It's different. And then like, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: Like when I meet someone to think of what episode
Speaker 1: to even send them, I'm automatically like, oh ship, what
Speaker 1: thet no? So and like so even with talking about
Speaker 1: dating and you even mentioning that, like the guy that
Speaker 1: I just most recently mad, he had no idea what
Speaker 1: I did. Um, I split in his MS and so
Speaker 1: we started talking, yes I did, Oh, I'm it's gonna
Speaker 1: manifest y so on Instagram, I split in his dems
Speaker 1: and we were talking um briefly and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's like, so what do you do? We had the
Speaker 1: whole career talk. I told him I'm leaving my job
Speaker 1: to podcast, but at the point he didn't know what
Speaker 1: my show was about. So here he goes. He's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. When you first told me that,
Speaker 1: and then when you can get your page, I was
Speaker 1: ready to see booking info. I thought you were just
Speaker 1: one of those and I was like, oh, well, they know.
Speaker 1: And then we like got on the phone and he
Speaker 1: was early reading the titles and on our YouTube at
Speaker 1: the same time, and I'm just like red in the
Speaker 1: face and he's like and from there he like shouted
Speaker 1: me out on his platform and he's like I'm like,
Speaker 1: he's like, I love what you do. He's like, I
Speaker 1: feel like I can grow from you with the tour.
Speaker 1: He's like, what you're doing, I wish I could do
Speaker 1: so like us having these back and forth conversations, like
Speaker 1: I'm enjoying talking to him, and he's much older and
Speaker 1: we disagree on fucking everything. So I don't know how
Speaker 1: that's gonna work, like literally, but it seems like you're
Speaker 1: into that. Um. Well, I think he's a very good conversationalist.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, we debate, and I feel like I
Speaker 1: can alter your mind because he's, um, what's the generation
Speaker 1: before us X? For what? But how old his baby?
Speaker 1: How old his baby boomers? Boomers are over in the
Speaker 1: mid sixties. Oh no, he's not a baby boomer. Oh no,
Speaker 1: she's not that. Um but yeah, so he's Gen X then,
Speaker 1: and oh my god. His thought process is all like, sir,
Speaker 1: you're a little outdated in your mindset, but we're gonna
Speaker 1: work all this. It's like, because you know, by the way,
Speaker 1: I don't mean to be rude, Shan, I was take
Speaker 1: finishing up your quiz. Um we gonna talk about it.
Speaker 1: Were she'd be feeling left up. Well, so guys, you know,
Speaker 1: I really felt like one day you would need me.
Speaker 1: I thought you and Jay just be like yo, come over,
Speaker 1: and I was just like, hey, I mean the day
Speaker 1: are you trying to her husband too? I feel this
Speaker 1: her thing, This is her thing every y I shouldn't
Speaker 1: get fired thing. I don't suck couples like that. I
Speaker 1: mean it's her thing to flirt with our guests and
Speaker 1: say she wants to suck them in their partners different.
Speaker 1: But she won't know the different because look, look look
Speaker 1: at our camera. Me a last, he's lasting everybody on
Speaker 1: her things fairly. It's like, let me leave, been just
Speaker 1: paying me on what is my thing? Man? I don't
Speaker 1: know you're the Jesus, I don't you guess. I don't
Speaker 1: even know what that means. What does that mean? Jesus?
Speaker 1: What does the Jesus to the dick Jesus? What one
Speaker 1: is Merrow? That's the dark one. I'm not the Spanish one.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely the black one, just because I'm black. Anyway,
Speaker 1: they're both black. No, he said, want of Spanish, but
Speaker 1: he's black. Well, I'm definitely not Latino. Alright, I'm just
Speaker 1: saying I want to be the black one, just like,
Speaker 1: if we're going off Dessie Child, I'm Beyonce. If we're
Speaker 1: going on Spice Girls, I'd like to be scary, Like,
Speaker 1: what is the problem? You're not but the black one
Speaker 1: of the group. It doesn't matter. I'm the leaded, Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: on the um so we're gonna start off Okay, Michelle,
Speaker 1: let's not. I would love to be the Kelly. Kelly's
Speaker 1: She's well at that's the point, you know, why you
Speaker 1: do that? Because do you always ever have an emoji
Speaker 1: crisis of like which emoji do I choose? It represents me? No?
Speaker 1: My mine is the purple, the purple emotion the thing though,
Speaker 1: but I'm like, I'm so pale sometimes that the purple
Speaker 1: feels like a privilege to me, Like I can't actually
Speaker 1: work for the purple one. Well, all of my friends say,
Speaker 1: the real people emojis that is too dark for me.
Speaker 1: They be coming for me with my little one of
Speaker 1: my friends listeners of the show, who knows who mouse is?
Speaker 1: Whenever he's like skin, but whenever he sends emotions there
Speaker 1: black as fun. Mouse is not light skinned? Okay, let's not.
Speaker 1: Mouse is brown mosses. I wouldn't call mouse red like
Speaker 1: a red in the streets. He's brown. Well, we're gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead and get into our icebreakers. So we are
Speaker 1: going to break the ice with you just a little bit.
Speaker 1: And because you are an intimacy expert. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of things going on in social media, and I want
Speaker 1: your input on this too, because we haven't even got
Speaker 1: to talk. We never get to talk like current events.
Speaker 1: But there's like mad ship going on with relationships. So
Speaker 1: the first one is going to be in reference to
Speaker 1: Diddy and Cassie. Oh, would you congratulate your ex on
Speaker 1: their new relationship and or baby on the way absolute?
Speaker 1: It depends, I mean congratulate in my head, perhaps publicly
Speaker 1: you saw the public very public though, I mean she
Speaker 1: public were her man? I didn't know so so Cassie publicly?
Speaker 1: Other way around? Did he publicly of her in her
Speaker 1: new bow? Yeah, he said congrats. He should have done that. Now,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. I I thought it made sense too,
Speaker 1: mainly because there were rumors that he didn't want to
Speaker 1: give her a family. Yes, Oh, I see, I didn't
Speaker 1: know that. And a second to that, like just losing
Speaker 1: someone that you love like you also, that might be
Speaker 1: a way to show gratitude for that relationship. Like if
Speaker 1: Kim didn't die, maybe he wouldn't have done that. Maybe
Speaker 1: he'll be a little more pretty. And I feel like
Speaker 1: that this is just a way where you're like I
Speaker 1: have to show love, I have to be this person,
Speaker 1: Like that's a good way to heal with Kim. After
Speaker 1: they broke up as well too, they were still all together.
Speaker 1: I feel like she never moved on. I felt like
Speaker 1: she was always still apart. Well kids, yeah, they have
Speaker 1: mad kids. But I feel like she romantically moved on.
Speaker 1: She was on vacations with Cassie and did he Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I think she had her own thing on the side.
Speaker 1: I mean I'm not a Kim Porter expert. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean that she lived her own life. I think that did.
Speaker 1: He just creates this like all in the family foundation. Yes,
Speaker 1: I can look at how we embraced I thought. I
Speaker 1: thought his Instagram was great, like when I saw that
Speaker 1: post it made. But so you would do that, yeah,
Speaker 1: Like if I was a public person like that knowledge,
Speaker 1: I would absolutely still like leave a comment or anything
Speaker 1: like that. And also the narrative people were creating around
Speaker 1: it would be so irritating if I were here not
Speaker 1: every someone said to me once I remember who it was.
Speaker 1: They were like, I think it's my old work husband.
Speaker 1: He's like, you either Mary or you break up, right,
Speaker 1: And he's like, so it's always like most of your
Speaker 1: relationships fail And I was like, my breakups aren't failures.
Speaker 1: We just decide to part. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like I've really Victorian perspective, it is, Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: can understand the theory of like feeling like single women
Speaker 1: can't give advice because they've never had a you know,
Speaker 1: they don't have a husband or something like that. People
Speaker 1: will say that to me sometimes, like oh, both y'all
Speaker 1: ain got no naked And I'm like, but that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that we haven't experienced love. That you don't consider
Speaker 1: yourself to be in a relationship when you're in a
Speaker 1: full blown relationship with somebody, I mean a long term,
Speaker 1: full blown, consensual, open communication, healthy intimate connection with somebody.
Speaker 1: I am, but I think that sometimes like saying this open,
Speaker 1: saying those words freak me out. So I like saying
Speaker 1: single because I feel like once I start meeting people
Speaker 1: and I say open relationship, then they're confused on what
Speaker 1: that means. Well, so trying to educate them like the primaries,
Speaker 1: like I have a male and female primary, right, Like
Speaker 1: I saw someone that two years ago this weekend in Atlanta.
Speaker 1: I feel like open relationship is like the new kale.
Speaker 1: I just think it's like it doesn't grow. We is
Speaker 1: not gonna cauliflower open relationships. It's not weird. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: cauliflowers like the new thing. Bitch is now rice, you
Speaker 1: can now do cauliflower mesh like you have said it,
Speaker 1: like it's a new I just like a relationship a
Speaker 1: lot of the times can have bad, bad stigma around it,
Speaker 1: right like Okay, well you know whose idea was it?
Speaker 1: Or it's just everyone always has these questions. So I
Speaker 1: just say they have primaries. But I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: say I'm taken because I don't really like that ownership
Speaker 1: on that word. I like, I like this conversation because
Speaker 1: at least to the next question said, So this actually
Speaker 1: relates to what is going on with Mellow and La La.
Speaker 1: Do you stay with a man if he has a
Speaker 1: break baby or has a baby while y'all y'all are
Speaker 1: in a relationship. If you say, do you add the
Speaker 1: baby to your family bonding? This is such a complex question.
Speaker 1: It is. So this is asked because baby so La
Speaker 1: La is getting flak because apparently the baby that Carmelo
Speaker 1: had while they were on a break or so whatever
Speaker 1: the timeline was of that. Um they are now back
Speaker 1: together and La La wants nothing to do with the
Speaker 1: baby he created outside. So that's that's where this question
Speaker 1: stems from. But I did get kind of piste off
Speaker 1: this weekend on Twitter. I'm like new to Twitter, and
Speaker 1: I saw people like talking to thank you about La
Speaker 1: La and like her decision making, and I'm like, why
Speaker 1: are people always so mad that you take somebody back? Why?
Speaker 1: Why do we have so much entitlement? I don't think
Speaker 1: that there's really upset, Like from the tweets that I
Speaker 1: was saying, it's not that people were mad that she
Speaker 1: went back to him, but it's like it's kind of
Speaker 1: like if you go and you decide to data stripper,
Speaker 1: and then once you start dating, you're like, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't want you to stripping. It's like apparently been like
Speaker 1: she's said it apparently like in like a interview of
Speaker 1: some sort, but basically she does not want the baby
Speaker 1: involved with her. Cayent and and mellow like she doesn't
Speaker 1: want a blended family. Basically right, it's a long life,
Speaker 1: though it's notions about forever. In like a linear way
Speaker 1: of dating, the average person died a lot sooner, or
Speaker 1: one of your partner's gone malaria, like you you were
Speaker 1: able to read malaria. Something happened, so it's like, yes
Speaker 1: they did, um, I think a joke about But I
Speaker 1: think the point is it's a long ass life. If
Speaker 1: you just rekindle a romance that was so public, you
Speaker 1: have a billion different opinions about it, your family's opinion,
Speaker 1: your own perspective, and now you have to try to
Speaker 1: reblend that relationship as is and reconnect with your family
Speaker 1: and your kids. Now you got to add another person
Speaker 1: into the pot, because it wasn't as if they were
Speaker 1: all cool this whole time. There's so much try to
Speaker 1: work out, so introducing that baby to his kid, having
Speaker 1: to all of that, like, yeah, I know sometimes like
Speaker 1: who you're right? You're right, And that's probably just what
Speaker 1: it is. Like she doesn't know how to process it
Speaker 1: and you have to think about something like that. It's
Speaker 1: not like you have experience with it before. Oh let me,
Speaker 1: let me go back to what happened last time. That's no, like,
Speaker 1: you don't. I'm thinking if I should say this or not.
Speaker 1: But nobody else. But a friend of mine has a kid,
Speaker 1: kids like four years old. Baby daddy has another kid.
Speaker 1: She finds out from the internet, and she's like, completely,
Speaker 1: she found out from the internet. Girl. So she's like, yo, like,
Speaker 1: I'm not ready to tell my daughter this because I
Speaker 1: just really don't think she can imagine her daddy like.
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't think she understands love. I think
Speaker 1: she's going to feel jealousy, left out, completely forgotten. And
Speaker 1: she's like, and I don't know if I can handle this.
Speaker 1: The guy's a ball player, so he travels a lot.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I think she already feels a little neglected,
Speaker 1: even though she has admitted he's a great dad. But
Speaker 1: she's like, I don't know if I can tell my
Speaker 1: kid this until she's old enough to understandsite another sibling.
Speaker 1: I would want to tell them soon. The kids would
Speaker 1: be so excited to have another I think they they
Speaker 1: start to see like you nurturing the pregnancy, like when
Speaker 1: they start to realize their rooms getting moved, like when
Speaker 1: they start to see you physically make space based for
Speaker 1: someone else and move their ship out the way. But
Speaker 1: when that baby just shows up to play with you
Speaker 1: like you're excited, Yeah, that might be more of her
Speaker 1: thing that needs to ye like that, We're gonna go
Speaker 1: ahead and get onto our vanillitious segment. This one is
Speaker 1: actually really interesting. I've found it on Twitter, so shout
Speaker 1: out to you guys who um at Wheezy and I
Speaker 1: and the Horrible pod page. In so many like news
Speaker 1: articles pertaining to sex, this one was really interesting, especially
Speaker 1: with us living in New York and dealing with the
Speaker 1: train um and I've shared on this podcast how I've
Speaker 1: witnessed us on a train. So apparently in Tokyo they
Speaker 1: have um a trained pervert issue. I talked about this
Speaker 1: on an episode when I went where oh you talked
Speaker 1: about So there's a videos women only train, So there's
Speaker 1: women only trains, but for the ones that are co ed,
Speaker 1: apparently like the men in Tokyo are just so like perverted,
Speaker 1: Like there's actual video of men jacking off, standing really
Speaker 1: close and bumping their dick onto women, which is so
Speaker 1: that's actually what happened to me. A guy like undid
Speaker 1: his pants and had his whole dick out on the
Speaker 1: back of my ass during rush hour and I didn't
Speaker 1: know until he had to step out. So I'm looking
Speaker 1: at this video and so they're trying to crack down
Speaker 1: in Tokyo with what to do? Yes, yes, Oh it
Speaker 1: was trauma and it was like my first really feeling
Speaker 1: violated in that way. And it even like sucked me
Speaker 1: up more, which is also kind of bad that it
Speaker 1: was a black man. And I don't know why, but
Speaker 1: I only deal with black men. So like for a while,
Speaker 1: I was just like, like they fucking disgusted me. I
Speaker 1: was like so turned off. But they're trying to find
Speaker 1: a way, um to kind of get a hold of it.
Speaker 1: So these men in Tokyo are referred to as chicken.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't need knowing words c H I
Speaker 1: K A N. How would you say that? Don't put
Speaker 1: an accent too, because you know they go come for
Speaker 1: your ass. How would you say that when chick? I
Speaker 1: don't know. So that is what they're called. But the
Speaker 1: app that they did, um that the app that Tookyo
Speaker 1: created is called Digi Police App. What a woman does
Speaker 1: is presses that app when she feels like she's being
Speaker 1: sexually assaulted or there's a perfet around her, and what
Speaker 1: it yells is like help me, police police, But in
Speaker 1: what I swear to God video and he's like hell,
Speaker 1: like nobody's so. So this app basically what it does
Speaker 1: is it alerts everyone around that there's a fucking pervert
Speaker 1: that you feel sexually harassed. And basically like the police
Speaker 1: in the trains are tackling these men that are accused
Speaker 1: of this and they're getting like arrested for it, ticketed
Speaker 1: and all that, but this app is to help them
Speaker 1: feel safer. I guess that app just made me think
Speaker 1: about Lift. Have you heard about the Lift panic button?
Speaker 1: There's Lift just trying to create a panic button because
Speaker 1: all these uber drivers. But here's the thing that I
Speaker 1: was thinking, there's a part of me that's concerned and
Speaker 1: worried for black drivers because I feel like you can
Speaker 1: just think about that be like, oh, I feel scared.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, well, in Tokyo, like
Speaker 1: you don't have the problem. In Atlanta have had a
Speaker 1: lot of women drivers too. I don't have some women drivers,
Speaker 1: but I mean one Carsmelo likely And then dude apologize
Speaker 1: me and said, do you want to cancel the ride?
Speaker 1: I was like it's cool. It was like, I really
Speaker 1: need to go right. So he's like, what kind of
Speaker 1: music you like? And I'm like, you see these braids,
Speaker 1: you know you can go ahead and stereotype. Don't understand.
Speaker 1: But then like one of them stopped to get gas.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, this ratchet. So I could see someone
Speaker 1: pressing a panic button for that, and I feel like
Speaker 1: this could be very target against, you know, drivers of
Speaker 1: color um. The other thought I just had with the
Speaker 1: train another thought, but what did the panic button do
Speaker 1: other than just gas? It tracks you, creates uh. I
Speaker 1: think police can be alerted and they're trying to figure
Speaker 1: out what they're gonna do with it. It doesn't exist yet.
Speaker 1: At least he did a great job with you. He
Speaker 1: got you, got into the car, he laid out the
Speaker 1: light land for you, said it smells like we do
Speaker 1: you want to cancel? He gave me. Appreciated that too,
Speaker 1: he communicated. So this is the problem because the power
Speaker 1: of choice is a big deal. But here's also the
Speaker 1: problem with these And I'm not sure if you guys
Speaker 1: have noticed with your Uber and lift apps, it's been
Speaker 1: telling you to make sure you double check the license
Speaker 1: plate and asked the name. So basically in Atlanta, and
Speaker 1: I found out through cutty she talked to one of
Speaker 1: the locals. So in Atlanta or whoever, whatever fucking hacker
Speaker 1: made this app, there's some sort of perverted app in
Speaker 1: the dark hole web that is allowing people to see
Speaker 1: who's getting picked up around in that area. So yes,
Speaker 1: So basically you'll have a car pull up and they
Speaker 1: can shout your name out because there's an app that's
Speaker 1: allowing them to see what rides are being picked up,
Speaker 1: and it gives them your information and name. So they're
Speaker 1: driving up like say that, they'd be like, we's and
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh yeah, thinking it's your car. And
Speaker 1: then this is someone who has not always checked the
Speaker 1: license late. But but in a lot of states they
Speaker 1: don't have front and back license plate like like they
Speaker 1: do in New York. So there's that and so up,
Speaker 1: and then I don't know if you saw, there was
Speaker 1: another one where her ride was just going off. She
Speaker 1: had to jump out of a moving car. He canceled
Speaker 1: the ride. He can't um he canceled the ride, kept driving,
Speaker 1: was trying to take her to like, uh desolated area
Speaker 1: the childlock. You know, you could put the child luck on.
Speaker 1: I just think that it's definitely, um we need to
Speaker 1: be safe out here. I don't know how many times
Speaker 1: I've gotten into a uber and was ship faced drunk
Speaker 1: and passed out and they woke me up when I
Speaker 1: got home. That to me, now that I'm seeing all
Speaker 1: these things happen, I'm like, Okay, that's something I can't
Speaker 1: do it with. A driver was in a cab. I
Speaker 1: was actually on Instagram live shout out to the people
Speaker 1: that were in this live. No bullshit, I'm drunk. I
Speaker 1: don't remember where I was leaving, and the guy was
Speaker 1: asking me such creepy questions that I started to get scared.
Speaker 1: Then when I actually opened the door and it was
Speaker 1: on child or, he locked it and I asked him
Speaker 1: why I was locked and he was like, well, people
Speaker 1: have to pay their fare. Totally made to end because
Speaker 1: I'm sure people the taxi taxi I could see making sense.
Speaker 1: So people on Instagram will like flip the camera to
Speaker 1: take a picture of that. Um I D So people
Speaker 1: are writing me and they're don't have them drop you
Speaker 1: off right in front of the house. So he heard
Speaker 1: me give the initial address. I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: drop me off on first and first, which is a
Speaker 1: few lots of way. He's like, no, no, no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: it's about terrain. Let me drop you off on the front.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to right here is good. No,
Speaker 1: I want to drop you out of the the front, make
Speaker 1: you're sure you're safe, and I'm like no, no. And
Speaker 1: then when I'm paying and he's like, oh, pretty girl
Speaker 1: like you, you don't have to worry about it. So
Speaker 1: fucking scary. The Tokyo thing. I posted the women only
Speaker 1: card and I said how do you guys feel about this?
Speaker 1: On my Instagram story story, and a lot of girls
Speaker 1: wrote and said, so women, Candid saw you, this is
Speaker 1: fucked up. And at first I didn't really consider that
Speaker 1: at all women statistically sexually assault as frequently, and so
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna right not fan that women can sexually
Speaker 1: as all you do, but I do feel that I
Speaker 1: could see feeling safer. This is also the case in
Speaker 1: the Philippines when I went, like ladies had to board
Speaker 1: all the way in the back of the train and
Speaker 1: then men kid get on, specifically during rush hour, like
Speaker 1: there was a women only cart and we had to
Speaker 1: go like there was police, Like no you have to
Speaker 1: go this way, Like there's whole lines in the Philippines
Speaker 1: um for their trens. I just feel like we'd do
Speaker 1: a lot of work to avoid communication because the problem
Speaker 1: is that we have two different working definitions of consent.
Speaker 1: For some people, it's an enthusiastic yes, and for other
Speaker 1: people it's just attendance. Just you being in the vicinity,
Speaker 1: just you being around is consent in their minds, and
Speaker 1: we really don't approach that in the me too movement.
Speaker 1: I know if you guys had a ton of conversations
Speaker 1: with men and you're like, funk, I didn't know you
Speaker 1: actually thought that way. Still, Like the notion that women
Speaker 1: play hard to get is like such a perfect strong
Speaker 1: Like men really believe that. They believe that majority of
Speaker 1: women say no as a tactic to get a stronger
Speaker 1: yes down the line. Someone we've had as a guest
Speaker 1: on this show, he didn't say it on our show,
Speaker 1: but he was like saying, because that we we we
Speaker 1: we had this conversation learning he said it somewhere else.
Speaker 1: He said, it turns me off, So like I have
Speaker 1: to figure out what the consent is. He's like, that's
Speaker 1: a turn off to me. Trying to figure out the lines.
Speaker 1: Luck right right then we turned very we have to
Speaker 1: come to a unanimous definition of what consent is is
Speaker 1: a society, And then I think all these things are
Speaker 1: wonderful and they're awesome, but it's just us avoiding the
Speaker 1: discussion that has to be had about Like, hey, like
Speaker 1: you guys clearly need to understand where the line is
Speaker 1: and that has to be done culture to culture, person
Speaker 1: to person. Seeing how far back we are right now,
Speaker 1: I still feel like in the discussion, do you feel
Speaker 1: like we'll see that in our lifetime? Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: think but as long as we could tell you to
Speaker 1: put in panic buttons and different trains and social media
Speaker 1: call outs like that, even that panic button to me
Speaker 1: seems like art imitating life. That's what we do right now. No,
Speaker 1: we we had a whole conversation. There's um Wee and
Speaker 1: I were talking about the sex button and how it
Speaker 1: just made for couples. You press the button when you
Speaker 1: want to have sex so that they see it when
Speaker 1: it likes instead of just communicating I want to have
Speaker 1: sex tonight. Like, so there's all these ways, but even
Speaker 1: how do you think I'm thinking right now in this
Speaker 1: moment right. I mean we talk about consents so many times,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, when I don't get verbal yeses, what
Speaker 1: am I doing? Now? I realize I'm the one being
Speaker 1: the aggressive or basketball moving my own clothes. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: you think you'll have problem? You know what. I got
Speaker 1: checked once for not exercising consent with people, and it
Speaker 1: was a moment for me to be like, no, one's
Speaker 1: above this. No. Consent is not a word. It's a
Speaker 1: literal ass language and there's many different meaning that. Like,
Speaker 1: so I used to take pictures with people who came
Speaker 1: up to me really sexually because I'm like, I talk
Speaker 1: about sex for it. We do that. But I'll tell
Speaker 1: you we asked you. Remember what I said. I didn't
Speaker 1: like how people have been like touching me, and we
Speaker 1: get touched at our meet and greets, and we as
Speaker 1: you mentioned that, like okay, like thank you guys for asking,
Speaker 1: And a lot of people do like our consent conversation,
Speaker 1: so during the meet and greet, they'll ask, can I
Speaker 1: tell your ass kind of touch your boobs like they
Speaker 1: didn't have been the men, Yes, men have been so violating.
Speaker 1: What could so what did you do? So that was it?
Speaker 1: I was taking these pictures, and then there was another
Speaker 1: it was like a sex panel. There's a doctor in
Speaker 1: the panel, and she like text me afterwards and was like,
Speaker 1: I just don't think you realize how uncomfortable some people
Speaker 1: looked like it just wasn't the picture when they say
Speaker 1: yes to a picture? What were you doing? I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean it might just be you know, I always like, yeah, yeah, inappropriate. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But it's the thing is I think because I'm a woman,
Speaker 1: people wanted to when I talk about but none of
Speaker 1: us are above the learning about consents. Well, and it's
Speaker 1: funny that we just brought this up because those of
Speaker 1: you that didn't know ice Cream Shan's mouth was very
Speaker 1: close to mine. I can't with you, but one of
Speaker 1: there's a million pictures of me online that of the
Speaker 1: people you know, and just how you hut on every
Speaker 1: single couple and it's not special. Look, it ain't never
Speaker 1: I do. You guys are really secure. While we brought
Speaker 1: this up though, on women not sexually assaulting, there is
Speaker 1: a case going on currently right now with one of
Speaker 1: my um husbands in my head, Vic Mensa. He just
Speaker 1: came out in one of his interviews and actually said
Speaker 1: that Tiffany Hattish sexually assaulted him. Um, and what she
Speaker 1: did was basically in saying bye, she ball checked him
Speaker 1: and grabbed his package. And so he's coming out and
Speaker 1: saying that he felt sexually assaulted. She hasn't responded to
Speaker 1: it at this very moment um, but I'm looking forward
Speaker 1: to see kind of what she says. But she's also
Speaker 1: apparently been doing it. None of us can be above
Speaker 1: this discussion. We no because no, no one. So I
Speaker 1: think it's exciting. Um, we're gonna get into oh you
Speaker 1: want to tell you? In my book, we had a
Speaker 1: stripper come through and talk to us, and she said
Speaker 1: she leads every single interaction to strip club with consent,
Speaker 1: Like how does she do that? Can I touch your shirt? Daddy?
Speaker 1: Like does it feel good when I do this to you? Like?
Speaker 1: Do you like the way that my boobs look before
Speaker 1: she puts it in their face? Like she leads every
Speaker 1: single action needs to get Yeah, that's it also creates
Speaker 1: a culture amongst them. So they asked they never do
Speaker 1: without asking her, and she says even when she picks
Speaker 1: up dudes, she'll come and she'll walk by and say,
Speaker 1: do you mind if I join you? She'll never just
Speaker 1: sit down so like that. We think of consent as
Speaker 1: the button. It's not. It's not the like police to
Speaker 1: remember it can be sexy. Don't think like you. I
Speaker 1: talk about this moment where it is, it's kind of hot.
Speaker 1: I would want But the guy that I fucked jeeves
Speaker 1: somebody remember the story. But he asked me if he
Speaker 1: could taste me, if he could take off my panties, um,
Speaker 1: if he could lick me like literally everything, and when
Speaker 1: he was about to suck me, and he told me
Speaker 1: to tell him that I wanted it, and that I
Speaker 1: realized in that moment that was it for him. That
Speaker 1: was his consent. Yeah, oh yeah, My My consent with
Speaker 1: the guy I'll be fucking is just me coming over
Speaker 1: because I let him know in the text message I
Speaker 1: want to say your nuts um and I put the
Speaker 1: nut emoji. Girl. We I swear up childish but he
Speaker 1: does like he doesn't like it, but he also likes
Speaker 1: his nuts flick. So when I say nuts nuts, I
Speaker 1: will show you. That's exactly what I wrote to I said,
Speaker 1: I want to write squirrel back bitch, no but no,
Speaker 1: but no, but no. But sometimes he'll write me and say, yo,
Speaker 1: come flet these nuts that's how we talked. We could
Speaker 1: call them nuts fuck you hope. Anyway, we're gonna get
Speaker 1: into our kink of the week UM, and this one
Speaker 1: is super exciting UM because it's one that we actually mentioned.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, maybe in like the first ten episodes.
Speaker 1: We think I got an email, um and they offered
Speaker 1: us four hundred dollars UM for these what they did.
Speaker 1: And I'm man, we adn't take a bitch. I could
Speaker 1: have used that bad Damn. I'm rached now, So it
Speaker 1: might be a little bit. But the kink of the
Speaker 1: week for this week is underwear fetishism. It's a sexual
Speaker 1: fetishism relating to undergarments and refers to preoccupation with the
Speaker 1: sexual excitement of certain types of underwear, including panty stockings,
Speaker 1: panty hose, brawls, or other items. Some people can experience
Speaker 1: sexual excitement from the wearing, while others get their excitement
Speaker 1: when observing, handle, or smelling the underwear worn by another
Speaker 1: or somebody putting underwear honor taking it off. Some may
Speaker 1: still use underwear to get satisfaction. Not only does this
Speaker 1: include physical contact with the garments or their wearers, but
Speaker 1: also includes arousal by printed or electronic images with depictions
Speaker 1: of underwear. We brought this motherfucking Kink of the Week
Speaker 1: to you because of Sophia gray Um. They are the
Speaker 1: sponsored by a fucking creepy as lucrative nasty webs and
Speaker 1: I'm excited. So they did offer us to sell our panties,
Speaker 1: So I think I am going to put a pair
Speaker 1: of panties up there. I have no I swear to guy.
Speaker 1: So that's actually my question for the Kink of the week.
Speaker 1: How much would you sell your panties for? Okay, but
Speaker 1: no to a buyer like as Wheezy from a horrible decision?
Speaker 1: Yes you why you gotta maybe? How much would you
Speaker 1: sell your pennies? To be honest to be a thousand books?
Speaker 1: I don't think that I'm rich by the same, but
Speaker 1: I didn't want to say a thousand and it sounds
Speaker 1: too hot. I don't need a thousand dollars though, but
Speaker 1: I feel like I can't make it for a few
Speaker 1: hundreds because I don't need it impact my life. It's
Speaker 1: going to impact their life in a positive way. It
Speaker 1: has to be a mutual. What's the part I think
Speaker 1: I was six? So these these valenciagas that I've been
Speaker 1: white and they're only six seventies. Yeah, they're only six seventies,
Speaker 1: so I would go for six seventy. Um, let me
Speaker 1: sell these panties seventy dollars worth. No, well you know
Speaker 1: so no, I mean and on this site. So I
Speaker 1: did go on there. Um they can request like ladies
Speaker 1: they can request if it's out the gym. And then
Speaker 1: the women who sell their panties and ladies. For you guys,
Speaker 1: I do want you all to know, y'all can go
Speaker 1: on there and sell your panties. And what I've noticed
Speaker 1: for the women, they'll put if their milks the size
Speaker 1: they are, they'll put if their college students. So men
Speaker 1: do specify the type of woman that they want to
Speaker 1: wear a more knowing, like it's a certain type of
Speaker 1: like you want to kind of know about them, like
Speaker 1: you want somebody. I want somebody with box. And then
Speaker 1: by the way I went looking on it, not everybody
Speaker 1: has a face, so you can be you shouldn't make
Speaker 1: it out. I mean, that's my tattoos would tell on me.
Speaker 1: So you're gonna notice. So that's the thing to do
Speaker 1: a picture of the pool. So that's the thing when
Speaker 1: when men not the poone, not the pussy, but like
Speaker 1: in the pend Yeah. By the way, what kind of
Speaker 1: panties are you guys? Right now, let's service. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm actually wearing undwards. I thought it might be
Speaker 1: a period day, so these are preventative underwear. My god
Speaker 1: babes me till that time. I know about to get
Speaker 1: some dicks. I put on some decent ones like oh wow,
Speaker 1: like real cute. I love that color with like, so
Speaker 1: I had dick this morning. I ain't got no I
Speaker 1: ain't got no draw So you don't have underweard No,
Speaker 1: I don't have underwear. I don't wear them. So literally
Speaker 1: I would have to go buy underwear just to seldom hose,
Speaker 1: so I might have to add the text. So whatever
Speaker 1: the god damn pan, it's cost me. And you know,
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Speaker 1: Y'all just got a clear sighting of her not listening
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Speaker 1: highest panti so so fi? Five thousand euros? Is the
Speaker 1: highest that the filter allows you to? Shorts, bras, briefs
Speaker 1: and g strings? Can I just say when I thought
Speaker 1: I was going to quit my job and make money,
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you know I'm gonna do some
Speaker 1: some TV stuff from some podcast ads. Never did I
Speaker 1: think my mother's asked me what kind of coke did
Speaker 1: you get? That? You're saying you want to fans for free?
Speaker 1: Why not sell your panties. You weren't going to charge
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Speaker 1: say your panties and get money. What let me here
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Speaker 1: a pussy out there though, I will say that, but
Speaker 1: this is not gender exclusive so men can. Men can
Speaker 1: also sell their boxer briefs and draws as well. So
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you, guys, would you be okay
Speaker 1: with your partner making money on the side by selling
Speaker 1: his boxer briefs or person? Yes, that's so hot to me?
Speaker 1: Could I be honest now that I'm looking at this
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Speaker 1: let's get back one with the show. This girl that
Speaker 1: I know so that she had like it was a
Speaker 1: fun buddy, but it was like an arranged fun buddy.
Speaker 1: That's my situation, right, that's my situation, escort. But they
Speaker 1: came together to meet in the city just to have
Speaker 1: sex after like meeting on some funk. Okay, So he's
Speaker 1: prepped her and was like I really want to eat
Speaker 1: your ass, and like that was like the big focal
Speaker 1: point of the night. Like when I come into the
Speaker 1: hotel room, I want your ass spread open, Like I
Speaker 1: just want to eat your ass, right, away, and so
Speaker 1: sure enough she got to hotel room first, busted over
Speaker 1: in the bed. He came in eight her ass, and
Speaker 1: then afterwards he was like, I was really really happy,
Speaker 1: like followed my instructions, but it seemed like you showered first,
Speaker 1: and I kind of wish you didn't. You just posted
Speaker 1: a meme like that, So about the pussy had almost
Speaker 1: a thousand comments because like, some people don't want a
Speaker 1: freshly clean pussy. Funny that, like you're talking about that meme.
Speaker 1: I had a conversation this weekend one one of my friends, Rashida,
Speaker 1: and I was talking about how I really hate when
Speaker 1: many pussy and they're like and they're done. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I can only understand that if it was a really
Speaker 1: foul smelling or snak. She was like, funk that you're
Speaker 1: down there, you're committed. Nigod agree, and it's like any
Speaker 1: other tady, she'll get used to it. Yeah before wait dog,
Speaker 1: you're just you get grocer and grocer every fucking episode.
Speaker 1: First of all's bloody pussy. Now it's pissy pussy. You
Speaker 1: ain't bloody pussy. Everybody knows. It's like like it wasn't
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not doing this with you real quick, y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all know we recorded right, you know, scissored on our
Speaker 1: pay Can you help me pull out audio? And Chris,
Speaker 1: I'm going to sneak the audio in this. Now are
Speaker 1: you eating blood pussy? Now? Go ahead with your pisty pussy.
Speaker 1: Go ahead. All I'm saying is we were drunk. We
Speaker 1: were about to have this reason with this dude. It
Speaker 1: was me collect so we're drinking. We already like we're
Speaker 1: kind of fucking She runs the bathroom, she comes back.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, she ain't gonna down. I still
Speaker 1: like a tang. What does piss taste like? Weezy, since
Speaker 1: you're out here looking honestly like so like Corona, I'll
Speaker 1: convince Corona tastes like fist and I don't know if
Speaker 1: it tastes like but if it tastes like anything, it
Speaker 1: tastes like Corona tasted. No, I'm not, because I don't
Speaker 1: know where your mouth has been, ma'am, and mine was
Speaker 1: just on some nuts and ask this morning. So okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I will say too, because we just had such a
Speaker 1: nasty anal story from the guys from dad hats and
Speaker 1: bow ties, I will say so I had antal sex
Speaker 1: this morning, and I will say he like kind of
Speaker 1: gave me my kudos. He's like, and he didn't make
Speaker 1: a mess, and I was like, I didn't, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't um no, but like we were on his
Speaker 1: couch and so and I was wanting him in my
Speaker 1: ass a general crapshoot with that you don't go as well.
Speaker 1: So here's the thing that I mean. I felt like
Speaker 1: I knew my my body. I didn't have coffee nothing before.
Speaker 1: I want to fu him and I had eight way before.
Speaker 1: So I was like, you know, I ain't had no
Speaker 1: wet ship lately or nothing like that. I can't be
Speaker 1: proud to have a clean booty hole just pointed. I mean,
Speaker 1: so just for contacts, the guys that we had on
Speaker 1: tell the story about anal right, and because no shame
Speaker 1: and a shitty g that's all I'm saying for people
Speaker 1: who have a little bit. Wasn't a little he said,
Speaker 1: he took his dick out and he goes, she sh
Speaker 1: and then he's like, we had to take the sheets
Speaker 1: off the bed. She couldn't even keep them. And he's like,
Speaker 1: and you know what, real ship? I kept going. So
Speaker 1: I'm excited to get into this conversation and with shan Um,
Speaker 1: I think it's very prevalent to a lot of you listening,
Speaker 1: especially as we preach um and you try to segue
Speaker 1: from the ship conversation to what you know. So if
Speaker 1: y'all have a casual sex with niggas, this is the
Speaker 1: conversation that happened with them. So the conversation that we're
Speaker 1: going to have today is dating with dominance. And I
Speaker 1: really like this even just reading through through your book. Um,
Speaker 1: you have a podcast as well coming out well with
Speaker 1: the featured of the book. Yes, Yes, let's talk about
Speaker 1: what's your book about. There we go, let's just basically
Speaker 1: like set yourself up for success. Like if you want
Speaker 1: to if you came to me and said I'm shit
Speaker 1: at cooking, there would be a tried and true process
Speaker 1: to get you to feel apt in that area. If
Speaker 1: you felt like you were doing bad and math, etcetera, etcetera,
Speaker 1: Like we would take that person and give them confidence
Speaker 1: through strategy, through knowing themselves, through the help of mentors,
Speaker 1: through practice, through practice in low interest environments, through trying
Speaker 1: out some new ship until you found what your zone was.
Speaker 1: But yet when it comes to dating. The advice we
Speaker 1: get people like just be yourself. Like what, because you're
Speaker 1: writing a dating book. What is your take then on
Speaker 1: books like Steve Harvey's Dating Book or I think like
Speaker 1: a man, act like a woman, or whatever the thing
Speaker 1: is like, because yeah, strategy, it's a strategy you're looking
Speaker 1: probably for like to the quiz about to take a
Speaker 1: modern monogamous or traditional monogamous relationship with an older person
Speaker 1: in gen X and up? So what is it like?
Speaker 1: The Rules, for example, was a book that was written
Speaker 1: by Ellen Feene that was passed around for a long time.
Speaker 1: It was a strategy, but that it's a one size
Speaker 1: fits all strategy, and so I think that my book
Speaker 1: is really just more about like women getting to the
Speaker 1: driver's seat of your love life. I look at it
Speaker 1: like dating in nineteen is like a motherfucking Nascar. It
Speaker 1: goes a hundred miles an hour. It could do some
Speaker 1: crazy tricks, but people don't know how to drive, and
Speaker 1: so just get into the driver's see if your love life,
Speaker 1: get to know yourself, know some strategies, and use some
Speaker 1: psychology by yourself. You know, that's just I took six
Speaker 1: women who were just like chronically single but it was
Speaker 1: important for me to pick six what is chronic? Sing
Speaker 1: just always goes did always being picked last always in
Speaker 1: situation sign these women did you reach out? And I
Speaker 1: interviewed over three women for this because it was important
Speaker 1: for you. I didn't want to find a woman whom like,
Speaker 1: nothing in her life was going well, because at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, it's not the be all and
Speaker 1: end all for us of comic relationships are a piece
Speaker 1: of the pie. And so if you have other ship
Speaker 1: to figure out right now, I'm not going to ask
Speaker 1: you to devote yourself to a six month program with me.
Speaker 1: So I was looking for women specifically who were like
Speaker 1: bomb and every other category, but this is the one
Speaker 1: area they just weren't getting the results they wanted in. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like that. And in the end one of them
Speaker 1: got to have sex with like their dream celebrity mate.
Speaker 1: It was like, really really crazy, don't ask her who,
Speaker 1: because I know you'd be like, I don't wait, what
Speaker 1: do you wait? Like she'd let an intention like just
Speaker 1: you didn't do no like who? You say your celebrity
Speaker 1: crush was? Oh, I got so many no, So so
Speaker 1: I really like one. I really loved Todd dollars sign
Speaker 1: he could get oh right now, bitch with Kalievla could
Speaker 1: get it wrong and I'll even go wrong, but he
Speaker 1: could in all my holes. Uh oh, well, that's what
Speaker 1: I say. That's what I told this nigga when I
Speaker 1: got all my Can I really tell you? Pause? It
Speaker 1: was the first time I ever had this feeling in
Speaker 1: my life, and I felt like I wasn't in control.
Speaker 1: So I haven't sucked. I've been on a drought. It
Speaker 1: was like five and a half six weeks. That is
Speaker 1: a drop. I just caught you on the day that
Speaker 1: you had sexist more about later, I thought, oh no,
Speaker 1: but out of a drought, I haven't sun. I went
Speaker 1: to the Bahamas, no Dick. I went to Toronto, no Dick.
Speaker 1: I went to South Carolina, no Dick. I just have
Speaker 1: not haven't getting Dick here. He be hit me up
Speaker 1: at ten am. I'm like, Nick, I'm at work, so
Speaker 1: we just haven't our schedules having a line. So today
Speaker 1: I'm go and fuck him, and bitch, I start shaking
Speaker 1: and have an orgasm as he's entering me, Like the
Speaker 1: whole dick isn't even in there, just the head, and
Speaker 1: I'm like coming shaken like to where I'm pushing him
Speaker 1: out and I'm like, why am I coming like this?
Speaker 1: For like eight to ten seconds, bitch I was orgasming
Speaker 1: without him even being fully inside of me anything else
Speaker 1: that was I had sucked a dick for about the
Speaker 1: twelve minutes maybe fifteen, and that would say his debut
Speaker 1: with that, because were you touching yourself when no, I
Speaker 1: mean I was leaking, but that was just off sucking
Speaker 1: his pussy, sucking his pussy, sucking his dick. And then
Speaker 1: I literally turned around on the couch and he went
Speaker 1: to inswer me, and bitch I was flailing like a fish,
Speaker 1: and I felt like he just probably thought he was
Speaker 1: the goddamn man, and I felt some I couldn't stop shaking,
Speaker 1: but I was shaken as if as I shake when
Speaker 1: he makes me come. I was like, nig you're not
Speaker 1: even on the way amy I was. I was embarrassed.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like this is an incredible I was like, funk,
Speaker 1: I can't. It was like if a nigga like bus
Speaker 1: before he even get in a pussy, That's what I did.
Speaker 1: And I didn't continue. I did, and then I I
Speaker 1: kept going. He was like don't have that refractory period
Speaker 1: that man had. We don't. We don't, and so did
Speaker 1: not a multiple orgasm hate my second orgasm with him
Speaker 1: like four times in one session on the question I
Speaker 1: really need to know you and your hobby are so
Speaker 1: fucking hot? What out of your book? What do you
Speaker 1: define your relationship as? Our relationship is free, I think,
Speaker 1: and free is a part of the quiz. It's right,
Speaker 1: look look at the So if you guys, um, we're
Speaker 1: gonna put the link my stories on bitch I came
Speaker 1: and then and then yeah, by the and then I
Speaker 1: told him to getting my ass and yeah. Then we
Speaker 1: went again someone that you have like even first six years. No,
Speaker 1: we just I did, just don't her. This is what
Speaker 1: we're doing? Are we doing this? She's like, no, no,
Speaker 1: we just be fucking. But it's like such a good
Speaker 1: dick that I literally wouldn't allow myself to fun anyone
Speaker 1: else because if I sucked bad dick within that drought,
Speaker 1: I probably would have killed somebody. I was going to
Speaker 1: be miserable. So I literally was telling him like I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't funk until I fuck you, nigga,
Speaker 1: I'm in a drop. He's like, man, I said, not
Speaker 1: in New York. I don't have no other niggas. He
Speaker 1: was like, well in other places. So I had to
Speaker 1: list down where I've been trying and said, no, no, dick,
Speaker 1: and none of these. I'm waiting on you fuck me nigga,
Speaker 1: but no. So if you guys don't know, Shambooty has
Speaker 1: created you, You manifested and created this whole quiz. Can't
Speaker 1: just say great marketing, dog, it's so good because I'm
Speaker 1: so fucking good. They're like better than BuzzFeed, so don't
Speaker 1: say that right now. They're better than what's kying a
Speaker 1: fucking fast food Friday? Am. So I'm look, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I took the quiz and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I feel like I know what I am. And I
Speaker 1: was actually slightly different than what I thought. UM, So
Speaker 1: I didn't try to What are the relationship types that
Speaker 1: you could be considered? You could be casual dating, which
Speaker 1: is essentially like no ties, no nothing, I see you,
Speaker 1: Whatever happens happens. It's transactional. It's like going to McDonald's
Speaker 1: buy a hamburger, go home doesn't mean McDonald you should
Speaker 1: next day. Then there's casual noncommitted dating where it's situation ships.
Speaker 1: Essentially you don't necessarily want the full gamut of the
Speaker 1: relationship experience, but somewhere kind of close to there. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's what That's what I thought I was going to be.
Speaker 1: My guest for you is something different, yeah, some different
Speaker 1: than you could do. Traditional monogamy. Then there is modern
Speaker 1: monogamy is one person at a time. Traditional monogamy is
Speaker 1: one person for life. Okay, yeah, that's about right. And
Speaker 1: then you have monogamysh free relationships, open relationships, and then mine,
Speaker 1: so mine is considered mine is considered free. Inference between
Speaker 1: free and open. Free is essentially that you could fit
Speaker 1: inside a multiple relationship style depending on your partner, which
Speaker 1: which I completely agree with. And I love how you
Speaker 1: started it. So she broke this down, and I want
Speaker 1: to read this to you guys, because maybe this is
Speaker 1: something that you may actually be as well. So for
Speaker 1: free relationship, you are DTF by that. She does not
Speaker 1: mean down to fuck, but in stead, you're down to
Speaker 1: figure it out. And when I read that, especially after
Speaker 1: telling you, I'm now talking to someone who is so
Speaker 1: out my norm but I could see myself kind of
Speaker 1: whatever he's into I'm cool, um. So your relationships may
Speaker 1: swing from monogamous to open to polly to back to monogamy,
Speaker 1: and you're down for the ride as long as it's
Speaker 1: what's best for you and your partner or partners. Your
Speaker 1: relationship is not defined by the rules or titles you
Speaker 1: chose in the beginning, but instead by how each other's
Speaker 1: partner feels at any given time. You like to leave
Speaker 1: space for the unexpected, and you trust that your partner
Speaker 1: can handle that responsibility as well. In order for this
Speaker 1: relationship to thrive, you must be professional at communication and
Speaker 1: self discipline. So I feel like that's why this would
Speaker 1: work with me and him. He's super communicative and I'm
Speaker 1: communicative as well, and like we've been a FaceTime and
Speaker 1: every day. Don't even do that with niggas um. But
Speaker 1: it says by saying yes to a free relationship, you
Speaker 1: are saying yes to circumstances and arrangements that you may
Speaker 1: not have been in before. Of course, you can opt
Speaker 1: out and in time when your partner has pushed beyond
Speaker 1: your comfort zone, but understand that since you haven't placed
Speaker 1: any restrictions on them, they're the high probability that this
Speaker 1: could happen. So Wheezy said that she also got that,
Speaker 1: which that's no surprise. I think that you've even throughout
Speaker 1: the different relationships that you've talked about on this podcast,
Speaker 1: they've all kind of been different, um in a sense.
Speaker 1: So and it is kind of just with what your
Speaker 1: partner is open jealous being has been different too, Like
Speaker 1: I've noticed where it was more monogamous that I was
Speaker 1: more jealous, really, yes, because I think there was more restriction,
Speaker 1: like we could only do it together, so if there
Speaker 1: wasn't together in my mind right, whereas like with the
Speaker 1: partners I have now, I don't know. I can't I
Speaker 1: can't explain how comfortable I am. I feel very safe,
Speaker 1: Like you know, the person I'm dating was out this weekend,
Speaker 1: fucking like I knew you were happy for them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And it's a weird, crazy feeling that it's like okay,
Speaker 1: guy's missy and like fun little teasing jealousy but not
Speaker 1: real anger um and that I'm just not really used
Speaker 1: to I would even say I would be okay, but
Speaker 1: I did, I wasn't for sure and how I meant it,
Speaker 1: And I think right now I just feel so satisfied
Speaker 1: with the openness and the communication opposed to before with
Speaker 1: monogamous ship. Knowing that we would only fund someone else together,
Speaker 1: they would lie about anything else. Right, you wouldn't tell
Speaker 1: me about these other interactions because you knew that wasn't
Speaker 1: in the agreement. So where there is no restrictions, there
Speaker 1: is nowhere to get angry. Right, you know you can
Speaker 1: do what you want to do and what you need
Speaker 1: to do. So you're married, Can I ask how you
Speaker 1: and your husband started dating and what kind of relationship
Speaker 1: role you guys played with each other. Yeah, we started
Speaker 1: as fund buddies, um, and so that I think was
Speaker 1: just a great foundation for us because it was again
Speaker 1: it was a clearly transactional of like this is what
Speaker 1: I want, this is what you want, and we did
Speaker 1: that so successfully. I actually didn't interview once where I
Speaker 1: was like, I didn't even believe in friends with benefits.
Speaker 1: But now I would honestly make the poster, I would
Speaker 1: run the campaign. It was such a great experience long Um. Honestly,
Speaker 1: we didn't define a relationship until he moved in with me.
Speaker 1: He moved from buddies to him moving in because he
Speaker 1: didn't he stayed in. He was like in a transition
Speaker 1: period where like his roommate was moving out, so you
Speaker 1: need someone were to stay. I'm like, come and stay
Speaker 1: with me, and he was like that's weird. I'm like
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, it'd be fine. And then once he
Speaker 1: was staying with me, like two weeks in, he was
Speaker 1: going to look for new apartments and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, like I do not want you
Speaker 1: to leave. At that point, I was like, now, this
Speaker 1: is something different. But I think because I was so
Speaker 1: strict about this is the relationship that we've defined and
Speaker 1: this is all that I'm looking for. And I made
Speaker 1: a lot I did this full last Um private podcast
Speaker 1: on this, like all the psychological tricks I played on
Speaker 1: myself to ensure that, like I could make this a
Speaker 1: successful Friends with Benefits. So it truly wasn't until we
Speaker 1: lived together that we're like, Okay, we can't just be
Speaker 1: that anymore and there's something different. How long were your
Speaker 1: Friends with Benefits October to July? Oh damn, almost a year? Yeah.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that. I like that. There's a lot to
Speaker 1: be said of experts who say like, oh, if you
Speaker 1: started like this, it's gonna end like or or you
Speaker 1: know things like that. It's a pro move. I'll say that,
Speaker 1: like at the end of the day, you gotta know
Speaker 1: your discipline, and like we never had sleepovers ever. We
Speaker 1: he didn't My birthday happened in April. I didn't tell him.
Speaker 1: I was like, what's the point of my buddy knowing
Speaker 1: my birthday? You know? My family was over, Like I
Speaker 1: can't see this week my families here. There was never
Speaker 1: a confusion in my mind of like my mom and
Speaker 1: dad should know you. Like, there was just a real
Speaker 1: compartmentalization and so I think, if you want to do that,
Speaker 1: you have to really be on top of it. Two
Speaker 1: weeks and then you were like, I have to keep them.
Speaker 1: It was like I think honestly, I mean, it was
Speaker 1: like two thousand and fifteen, so it's like a bit
Speaker 1: foggy in my mind now, but I really genuinely don't think.
Speaker 1: And he told me he loved me. I came to
Speaker 1: New York and I was spending some time with this
Speaker 1: dude in New York that I saw all the time.
Speaker 1: It was super cute, really fun, probably gay and not
Speaker 1: quite sure, but right, he's so fine. I see. I
Speaker 1: think actually moved to l A but I spent some
Speaker 1: time with him, but I still like told Jared because
Speaker 1: we were like, we were still only having sex to
Speaker 1: each other, so he was my only person that was sucking.
Speaker 1: But I was still seeing other dudes. I just want
Speaker 1: to write a buy him seeing this dude in New York.
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, it's cool. So I was on Twitter
Speaker 1: and I was like coming going back to the to
Speaker 1: the airport, and I was like, man, I'm learning so
Speaker 1: much about love, not being an aeroslove, Like by having
Speaker 1: all these great compartmentalized relationships that are not necessarily romantic love,
Speaker 1: I'm learning more about myself. And then he text me
Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, it is our love not romantic.
Speaker 1: And I was like, but do you love me? And
Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, I love you. And that was
Speaker 1: the first time that he said it. And I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: and I don't even think in my mind I allowed
Speaker 1: myself to think about loving him because of the relationship
Speaker 1: dynamic that we had, and at that moment I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I love you too. And then next shortly thereafter we
Speaker 1: moved in and etcetera. So your story makes me think
Speaker 1: so much of kind of where I am currently dating
Speaker 1: and it's actually um the question that I have kind
Speaker 1: of just even wrap up dating in general. Is there
Speaker 1: all wrong or right way to date? So I asked
Speaker 1: this because even the guy that I'm talking to now, like,
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, Okay, I know, I don't really
Speaker 1: if I go see him because he lives in Chicago.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Okay, if I go to Chicago, do
Speaker 1: we have sex the first time in there? Do I not?
Speaker 1: If I want this to be long term? Do I
Speaker 1: give it up that quick? Or do I make him
Speaker 1: come to New York and then we go back and
Speaker 1: forth before we decide as more like And so I'm
Speaker 1: in this position where Okay, maybe the things in the
Speaker 1: past haven't worked. They've led the situation ships that have
Speaker 1: gone on for years, but they never really manifested, say
Speaker 1: anything else. So I feel like that is the definition
Speaker 1: of insane or insanity is to continue doing the same
Speaker 1: things over and over again expecting a different result. So
Speaker 1: that's where I am now, where Okay, I'm dating? Was
Speaker 1: I dating wrong? And is there a right way to date?
Speaker 1: Should like? Dating wrong is when you put yourself in
Speaker 1: a position to not be your coolest, most awesomest, sexy,
Speaker 1: down to earth empowered confidence self when you start putting
Speaker 1: yourselves in positions where you don't feel comfortable and now
Speaker 1: you're jealous, or you're weird, or you're quiet um or
Speaker 1: you're starting to take away privileges and feeling that that's
Speaker 1: going to get you the results that you want. When
Speaker 1: you don't feel like you can be fun and fucking
Speaker 1: cool anymore, that's when you're dating wrong. And so that's
Speaker 1: why you answer that. That was a great answer, because
Speaker 1: I think what's so great about you saying that is
Speaker 1: when someone realizes they want more, they start being like, well,
Speaker 1: now this and what I need you to commit? I
Speaker 1: gotta be wifey materials. So they start to take away
Speaker 1: the things about themselves that they feel like a man
Speaker 1: may push them away for, which is fine. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: there's no right answer that because the things that not
Speaker 1: everyone could do abody relationship, and not everyone wants that.
Speaker 1: And so if you know, look, if I get a
Speaker 1: situation with something, I sleep over with them, and now
Speaker 1: we're not advancing the intimacy, I'm going to start to
Speaker 1: feel weird around them. Don't sleep over with them, like
Speaker 1: only you don't go to subway sandwiches expecting lobster. If
Speaker 1: somebody is like I'm giving sandwiches out, go for a
Speaker 1: fucking sandwich and if you want something more, and they're saying,
Speaker 1: we don't provide that, you know, find somewhere else to go.
Speaker 1: So I say that, but there's no right, you know,
Speaker 1: but everyone has their own their own threshold what they're
Speaker 1: looking for. And even with what we these going through
Speaker 1: and how she's how we both kind of been with
Speaker 1: this podcast now and pretty much being so vulnerable and
Speaker 1: letting all of our information now, it is refreshing that
Speaker 1: like we talk and he knows exactly what I talked about.
Speaker 1: We we just we just had the conversation last night
Speaker 1: because we were talking about UM like he shared it
Speaker 1: on his pro platforms. Yes, he already like he's like,
Speaker 1: I'll showing to you out on so I'll show you
Speaker 1: him Like, well, yeah, but we were talking about his
Speaker 1: UM just last relationship and how like he'll say when
Speaker 1: he's uncomfortable with something, and we even talked about he's like,
Speaker 1: I know I'll probably get a nickname if we like continue,
Speaker 1: like we're talking and he's like you, I feel like
Speaker 1: he's like, well, I've already told him, like get nickname
Speaker 1: um and so I'm trying to get creative with it
Speaker 1: before I give him one. But he was like, I
Speaker 1: already know, like this is a part of your life,
Speaker 1: and so if I'm going to move forward with talking
Speaker 1: to you, that's something I'm gonna have to accept it.
Speaker 1: If I ever feel like something does make me uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. But that's gonna be something that we
Speaker 1: communicated about. But he's like, I see what you do,
Speaker 1: and he he just sees that we're so successful at it,
Speaker 1: and so he's like, I can't even be mad. So
Speaker 1: I like that exactly what you said. I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: think the more we grew to like at first, a
Speaker 1: few months in, I didn't feel as secure as I
Speaker 1: do right now. The money Now, I feel like we
Speaker 1: have accolades. Yes, you know what. I'm like, HBO, just
Speaker 1: know this is like Rihanna Plissy. It has been good
Speaker 1: to like be with someone that like understands it, loves it,
Speaker 1: and wants to like help you. You know what, if
Speaker 1: you try to replicate your career journey in your romantic life,
Speaker 1: I think you would find yourself in an incredible position.
Speaker 1: It's what I've been it's kind of what I've been
Speaker 1: doing now and I'm getting like such a good response,
Speaker 1: like I love it. I'm I'm me like, I'm probably
Speaker 1: gonna put my wig on on FaceTime with him today.
Speaker 1: I didn't have to send like he hadn't see it
Speaker 1: all my pictures, so I'm like, yeah, just you know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna look different every time you see me probably, Um,
Speaker 1: just be prepared, Just be preparing. I do. I'm excited
Speaker 1: that we're kind of talking about this level of communications.
Speaker 1: Who got my homemat? We'll do both? Okay, we can
Speaker 1: do both. We got we got time, Brianna shout out
Speaker 1: the podcast studiving us some extra minutes in here. But
Speaker 1: y'all don't get it. We specially y'all. So I gotta
Speaker 1: stay all time. And X writes me today, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to say his name. Does he have a nickname?
Speaker 1: He does? I don't want to say I'm not. I
Speaker 1: want to say, oh yeah, because I don't know where
Speaker 1: they're at right this right now here it goes him
Speaker 1: and I are great, really care about him in lovel
Speaker 1: because they just had a sex a couple of months ago.
Speaker 1: So he says, possible, t M. I but I have
Speaker 1: to tell you this telling me about the girl's dating.
Speaker 1: She's been sending me memes from the Horrible Decisions Instagram
Speaker 1: and then send me YouTube clips, and now she's gone
Speaker 1: as far as to say she wants us to go
Speaker 1: to a show together. She has no idea Wheezy is
Speaker 1: my ex that I told her about, right because he
Speaker 1: says my name, but he doesn't say Wheezy. Mind you.
Speaker 1: He's been at every show we've had except the first.
Speaker 1: I said, bro, He goes right. Now, she's working from
Speaker 1: the top down, so all she hears about his scissors
Speaker 1: in Beard Bay. What do I do when she gets
Speaker 1: to me, I said, this ain't real? Is she black?
Speaker 1: And he goes yes. He says she's a sweet girl.
Speaker 1: I don't want to taint something. I know that she
Speaker 1: really enjoys. She has a really difficult job, loves the content.
Speaker 1: I can't make her insecure about hearing about the time
Speaker 1: we spent. I worried that she'll question herself or compare
Speaker 1: herself to you, whether it be sexually, aesthetics, et cetera.
Speaker 1: That is my main concern. We got on the phone,
Speaker 1: He's like, I've let it gone on so long now,
Speaker 1: knowing that she's playing it, and I don't say anything that.
Speaker 1: I feel like, how could I even tell her? Now
Speaker 1: he says he needs to. I know he needs to.
Speaker 1: I said that. I told Fellam Bay that immediately. This
Speaker 1: about the second time he came over, he kept bringing
Speaker 1: up I said, oh, nigga, that's I'm just gonna tell you.
Speaker 1: That's the nigguy, So can you please not bring him? Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so like this nigga was like on his Instagram
Speaker 1: bringing up like you listen to him, like really bringing
Speaker 1: this nig up to me and I'm like, yeah, he
Speaker 1: in my tunes and like still bringing him up. Then
Speaker 1: started bringing up how he dresses, like y'all, I was
Speaker 1: listening to this nigga when I was locked up, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, Okay, this is getting uncomfortable now, just
Speaker 1: so you know. Yeah, And then when we stopped on
Speaker 1: that nigga met the nick in the club and they
Speaker 1: got a picture together on Instagram. I'm like, this is
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable. Someone that Beard baby fucked. I am a
Speaker 1: crazy fan of and I'll still be posting her ship.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fun. Yeah, So what do you think?
Speaker 1: How do you think she should there's no other advice. No,
Speaker 1: he has to tell her right because to your point,
Speaker 1: it's going to get revealed, and it's also making him uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: You can tell you. He said that he was walking in.
Speaker 1: We run on the phone for like ten minutes. She's like, dude,
Speaker 1: He's like, I walked into my apartment. She's cooking, and
Speaker 1: I can hear you. Are you kind of getting off
Speaker 1: on this? No, Like I really love and care about him,
Speaker 1: I don't want any I don't want it for I
Speaker 1: don't because it's every scenario. He compared her love for
Speaker 1: horrible decisions to me and Jesus in Meryl. Oh lord,
Speaker 1: we know you obsessed with I am Jane in Miami
Speaker 1: just to see a me beard Bay and says, we out.
Speaker 1: But here's how much I love it. If I found
Speaker 1: out that, like, I don't. I guess it's different for me,
Speaker 1: but I don't know if I would care. But he
Speaker 1: feels like it's really going to ruin it. And on
Speaker 1: another level, I talked about every detail of our relationship.
Speaker 1: This is someone that yeah, he was he was talking
Speaker 1: about for quite quite a few months. So she's about
Speaker 1: to get to it. And then you didn't let a
Speaker 1: few details slad about his arts, yeasts, and then what
Speaker 1: he looked like this a little bit, so she gonna
Speaker 1: be like a white niggah. No. But it what's even
Speaker 1: weirder about it is like he was just saying that,
Speaker 1: Oh god, I'm assuming at this point maybe she knows
Speaker 1: it's me, but I can only I'm taking this as
Speaker 1: a guess. Him and I were into a lot of
Speaker 1: b D S M. What if she isn't and what
Speaker 1: if she knows that there's this part of him and
Speaker 1: they haven't gotten there yet. I think that's awesome. Well,
Speaker 1: he needs to go ahead and find out what episode
Speaker 1: the fun she owned, and he needs to go ahead
Speaker 1: and be ready to just I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I was like, let's start from the game. You know
Speaker 1: what this is is like a classic rom com, like
Speaker 1: and are seeing the whole thing happened, you know when
Speaker 1: you watch a romantic comedy, and like the lie begins
Speaker 1: in the beginning, and we watched the whole relationship form,
Speaker 1: but we know it's based in the lie, y as
Speaker 1: if you were we understand why that person lie, But
Speaker 1: when that plot twist happens when they find out like
Speaker 1: how could you lie to me. Were like, you can't understand,
Speaker 1: Like Jim, don't you stay that look, but this could
Speaker 1: be a show for us, bitch, let's write it down
Speaker 1: that we got to pitch this ship. She's don't be like,
Speaker 1: we are not. No, no, she said she was the
Speaker 1: last time you brought anyone that you were involved with,
Speaker 1: you thought we was all getting sued. So no, we're not.
Speaker 1: We're not. She was gonna go crazy. We're to know
Speaker 1: more of your lovers in here. We we have real
Speaker 1: money now. One time and she tried to see as well.
Speaker 1: We was broke. Lord knows what someone like lawsuit like.
Speaker 1: Literally while she was sitting here right, she was ready
Speaker 1: to sue loud speaker network everything, and we was like not.
Speaker 1: She started that. I was like, she's doing wheezy, but
Speaker 1: she is soon a horrible decisions. I don't know you bitch.
Speaker 1: We're gonna say it's going to suck. So I do
Speaker 1: want to get into this homemail before we get out
Speaker 1: of here. UM and I want your health specifically because
Speaker 1: you're the intimacy x UM. So this one it says
Speaker 1: this help and I think this is really good. We
Speaker 1: talked about dating communication. This is bedroom communication. So, ladies,
Speaker 1: I am in a sticky situation. I am currently married
Speaker 1: and my husband and I are very open sexually. We've
Speaker 1: engaged in threesomes and much more. But recently my husband
Speaker 1: has been into anal to him. It started with us
Speaker 1: having drunk sex one night and him inching me down
Speaker 1: to touch his butt. No biggie there. I was trying
Speaker 1: to see if he would let me, and he did.
Speaker 1: He's been taking it further and further. This only happens
Speaker 1: when he's drunk. Last night, he grabbed my butt plug
Speaker 1: I use it once anal is not for me, and
Speaker 1: told me to use it on him. He got in
Speaker 1: doggy style position for it and all uh. I was surprised.
Speaker 1: It wasn't painful. I fingered him before, and the butt
Speaker 1: plug isn't super big. But I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: think he's gay, but this is going too far from
Speaker 1: my liking and I am beyond uncomfortable. I don't want
Speaker 1: to shame him, but this is too much. This only
Speaker 1: happens also daring drunk sex, very confused plus turned completely
Speaker 1: off any advice. Sounds like it only happens when he's
Speaker 1: drunk because he's too worried about telling you because you're
Speaker 1: gonna act like this, Yeah, I mean the end of
Speaker 1: the day. It's like women have multiple ways of orgasm
Speaker 1: ng some men. I don't know if it's the exact equivalent,
Speaker 1: but like, of course twin to the clitterist is the
Speaker 1: penis head and the anatomicals win to the g spot
Speaker 1: is the prostate. And so men who have prostate orgasms
Speaker 1: will say, like, I don't orgasm from penetration, but men
Speaker 1: who have prostate orgasms, like, every dude needs to get
Speaker 1: fucked in the ask, it's the most incredible thing in
Speaker 1: the world. And so for him, this guy has the
Speaker 1: ability to get orgasms from annual penetration. The question the
Speaker 1: question that I wanted doing it with you, but but
Speaker 1: the question that I want to derive from this was
Speaker 1: for our listeners who have been in long term relationships.
Speaker 1: When you're with someone and you meet them there one
Speaker 1: way and now they've been together, they're now married, and
Speaker 1: now he's wanting to try something different, how does that
Speaker 1: conversation go when your partner is wanting to try something
Speaker 1: that we're just I would hate to have. Yeah, be
Speaker 1: grateful that he's open for that, and also to like
Speaker 1: don't do that sex negative shaming ship. I know, the
Speaker 1: whole automatically going to thinking, I know he's not gay,
Speaker 1: So girl, why you said it? Yeah? Why did you
Speaker 1: say it's can? I be honest? Why I believe she's
Speaker 1: uncomfortable and saying it's too much is because she feels
Speaker 1: like he's gay. Women have almost a worse like homophobic shaming. Well,
Speaker 1: it's still a cultural perpetuation, like when amber Rose came
Speaker 1: out with Kanye, Like that was the same thing that
Speaker 1: we did, so we still that happened in that movie
Speaker 1: recently with Chris Rock, right when the guy was getting
Speaker 1: like tampons in the ass and it's this big joke.
Speaker 1: It's like, it's not funny. It's just a way of
Speaker 1: experiencing pleasure. It's not funny, it's not I mean, it's
Speaker 1: just like it's a way of experiencing pleasure. It's a
Speaker 1: valid form. You like, probably can you can you stop
Speaker 1: talking now? Because you sound like my text messages to
Speaker 1: these niggas, and I don't want them thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, this is what I'd be telling these things,
Speaker 1: like listen, it's okay, I don't think you're gay, Like,
Speaker 1: let me just play with that. Basically, girl, stop sing?
Speaker 1: Do you and Jared have three simms or what? Look?
Speaker 1: See here we go? Are your options more like separate
Speaker 1: or linked together? We talked about this that like, I
Speaker 1: don't think that the reason why we are attracted to
Speaker 1: the open concept is because we want to do all
Speaker 1: things together, because for me, it's just like, for example,
Speaker 1: for this girl, for example, she really hated the whole
Speaker 1: anal thing. There's a bunch of communities that just focus
Speaker 1: on that fisting itself is like a fetish alone, and
Speaker 1: weould be at her fists and pussies. She's fisting. I
Speaker 1: put three fingers in four. You said, your whole hand
Speaker 1: was like this anal fisters And so there's kind of
Speaker 1: how she'd just been taking away these stories because she
Speaker 1: really mist It was just like you know, and then
Speaker 1: she was like, give me another one, and then there's
Speaker 1: another one, and I was like, her whole hand was
Speaker 1: in the pussy. I didn't, I mean, but it was
Speaker 1: like this type of fisting, bitch, it was still the fistle.
Speaker 1: Were you there? Man? You said you told us. I
Speaker 1: told you, look, we gotta get the sound. Give July
Speaker 1: is mom for editing, and it ain't happen. Oh, this
Speaker 1: goes July one, therefore it's technically a June edit. I
Speaker 1: got this. Uh no, But before we get out of here, Shan,
Speaker 1: where can they find you? When does your book drop?
Speaker 1: What's the website? And where can they take the personality quizzes?
Speaker 1: Let's favorite If you go to the game of Desire
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Speaker 1: Pre order is there, and also you have to submit
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Speaker 1: cool perks. I have my podcast. You can get first
Speaker 1: paging pages of the book. You can get a phone
Speaker 1: call for me. You can get a one hour session
Speaker 1: with me. You can also get a vibrating necklace depending
Speaker 1: on how many books you order. What is vibrating? Oh,
Speaker 1: vibrate in my bag for you today? Oh damn, you
Speaker 1: ain't throw able to Also um, if you guys, just
Speaker 1: don't remember that all of that information is going to
Speaker 1: be in the description of this episode as well as
Speaker 1: if you just go and I'm just gonna shout it
Speaker 1: out because I'll be on air scrolling lesson um Shan
Speaker 1: booty on Instagram. It's in her bio, which is where
Speaker 1: this time. This is the time. But we would never
Speaker 1: have a three sim so you gotta have a step No, okay,
Speaker 1: you guysn't even join hands just now? Was here I
Speaker 1: felt that? Yeah that's funny. It's funny. Hey expert, Hey,
Speaker 1: we do not be You are not going to therapist
Speaker 1: us right now? Okay? Actually that would be a great secondary.
Speaker 1: How about people have been asking for a therapy episode,
Speaker 1: didn't you? But I don't want it to be like real,
Speaker 1: like I wanted to be a softer more. You don't
Speaker 1: get soft when we really get to talking, bitch, it
Speaker 1: gets loud. I don't want that. I want like, how
Speaker 1: do you think you can improve? Like congratulate each other
Speaker 1: on like something you're proud of that the other one
Speaker 1: is doing differently. I'm bored already. Anyway, Is there anything else? Again?
Speaker 1: When does your plug your ship? Bro? July? And I
Speaker 1: will say I will do for anybody who pre orders
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