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Speaker 1: these things happen, I'm like, Okay, that's something I can't

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Speaker 1: do it with. A driver was in a cab. I

425
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,560
Speaker 1: was actually on Instagram live shout out to the people

426
00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,000
Speaker 1: that were in this live. No bullshit, I'm drunk. I

427
00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,840
Speaker 1: don't remember where I was leaving, and the guy was

428
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:52,480
Speaker 1: asking me such creepy questions that I started to get scared.

429
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,680
Speaker 1: Then when I actually opened the door and it was

430
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:56,919
Speaker 1: on child or, he locked it and I asked him

431
00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:58,280
Speaker 1: why I was locked and he was like, well, people

432
00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:00,360
Speaker 1: have to pay their fare. Totally made to end because

433
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 1: I'm sure people the taxi taxi I could see making sense.

434
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 1: So people on Instagram will like flip the camera to

435
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 1: take a picture of that. Um I D So people

436
00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 1: are writing me and they're don't have them drop you

437
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 1: off right in front of the house. So he heard

438
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 1: me give the initial address. I was like, you know what,

439
00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,000
Speaker 1: drop me off on first and first, which is a

440
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 1: few lots of way. He's like, no, no, no, no no, no,

441
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:22,400
Speaker 1: it's about terrain. Let me drop you off on the front.

442
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,199
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to right here is good. No,

443
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:25,399
Speaker 1: I want to drop you out of the the front, make

444
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:33,280
Speaker 1: you're sure you're safe, and I'm like no, no. And

445
00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,280
Speaker 1: then when I'm paying and he's like, oh, pretty girl

446
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,760
Speaker 1: like you, you don't have to worry about it. So

447
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 1: fucking scary. The Tokyo thing. I posted the women only

448
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 1: card and I said how do you guys feel about this?

449
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,959
Speaker 1: On my Instagram story story, and a lot of girls

450
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,960
Speaker 1: wrote and said, so women, Candid saw you, this is

451
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:54,359
Speaker 1: fucked up. And at first I didn't really consider that

452
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:58,439
Speaker 1: at all women statistically sexually assault as frequently, and so

453
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna right not fan that women can sexually

454
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,399
Speaker 1: as all you do, but I do feel that I

455
00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:09,520
Speaker 1: could see feeling safer. This is also the case in

456
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 1: the Philippines when I went, like ladies had to board

457
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:13,200
Speaker 1: all the way in the back of the train and

458
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 1: then men kid get on, specifically during rush hour, like

459
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: there was a women only cart and we had to

460
00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 1: go like there was police, Like no you have to

461
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 1: go this way, Like there's whole lines in the Philippines

462
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 1: um for their trens. I just feel like we'd do

463
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:27,199
Speaker 1: a lot of work to avoid communication because the problem

464
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:30,360
Speaker 1: is that we have two different working definitions of consent.

465
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 1: For some people, it's an enthusiastic yes, and for other

466
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 1: people it's just attendance. Just you being in the vicinity,

467
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,199
Speaker 1: just you being around is consent in their minds, and

468
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 1: we really don't approach that in the me too movement.

469
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 1: I know if you guys had a ton of conversations

470
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: with men and you're like, funk, I didn't know you

471
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 1: actually thought that way. Still, Like the notion that women

472
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 1: play hard to get is like such a perfect strong

473
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 1: Like men really believe that. They believe that majority of

474
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,720
Speaker 1: women say no as a tactic to get a stronger

475
00:22:57,800 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 1: yes down the line. Someone we've had as a guest

476
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 1: on this show, he didn't say it on our show,

477
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: but he was like saying, because that we we we

478
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 1: we had this conversation learning he said it somewhere else.

479
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 1: He said, it turns me off, So like I have

480
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 1: to figure out what the consent is. He's like, that's

481
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: a turn off to me. Trying to figure out the lines.

482
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 1: Luck right right then we turned very we have to

483
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: come to a unanimous definition of what consent is is

484
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 1: a society, And then I think all these things are

485
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 1: wonderful and they're awesome, but it's just us avoiding the

486
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 1: discussion that has to be had about Like, hey, like

487
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 1: you guys clearly need to understand where the line is

488
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: and that has to be done culture to culture, person

489
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 1: to person. Seeing how far back we are right now,

490
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 1: I still feel like in the discussion, do you feel

491
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 1: like we'll see that in our lifetime? Yeah, but I

492
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 1: think but as long as we could tell you to

493
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: put in panic buttons and different trains and social media

494
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 1: call outs like that, even that panic button to me

495
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 1: seems like art imitating life. That's what we do right now. No,

496
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: we we had a whole conversation. There's um Wee and

497
00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: I were talking about the sex button and how it

498
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 1: just made for couples. You press the button when you

499
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: want to have sex so that they see it when

500
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:07,719
Speaker 1: it likes instead of just communicating I want to have

501
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 1: sex tonight. Like, so there's all these ways, but even

502
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,280
Speaker 1: how do you think I'm thinking right now in this

503
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 1: moment right. I mean we talk about consents so many times,

504
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 1: so I'm like, when I don't get verbal yeses, what

505
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 1: am I doing? Now? I realize I'm the one being

506
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:27,400
Speaker 1: the aggressive or basketball moving my own clothes. Yeah, so

507
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: you think you'll have problem? You know what. I got

508
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 1: checked once for not exercising consent with people, and it

509
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 1: was a moment for me to be like, no, one's

510
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: above this. No. Consent is not a word. It's a

511
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:40,560
Speaker 1: literal ass language and there's many different meaning that. Like,

512
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: so I used to take pictures with people who came

513
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 1: up to me really sexually because I'm like, I talk

514
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: about sex for it. We do that. But I'll tell

515
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: you we asked you. Remember what I said. I didn't

516
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: like how people have been like touching me, and we

517
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: get touched at our meet and greets, and we as

518
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:56,040
Speaker 1: you mentioned that, like okay, like thank you guys for asking,

519
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 1: And a lot of people do like our consent conversation,

520
00:24:57,960 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: so during the meet and greet, they'll ask, can I

521
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: tell your ass kind of touch your boobs like they

522
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: didn't have been the men, Yes, men have been so violating.

523
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 1: What could so what did you do? So that was it?

524
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 1: I was taking these pictures, and then there was another

525
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: it was like a sex panel. There's a doctor in

526
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: the panel, and she like text me afterwards and was like,

527
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 1: I just don't think you realize how uncomfortable some people

528
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,640
Speaker 1: looked like it just wasn't the picture when they say

529
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 1: yes to a picture? What were you doing? I mean,

530
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 1: I mean it might just be you know, I always like, yeah, yeah, inappropriate. Yeah.

531
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: But it's the thing is I think because I'm a woman,

532
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 1: people wanted to when I talk about but none of

533
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: us are above the learning about consents. Well, and it's

534
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: funny that we just brought this up because those of

535
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,360
Speaker 1: you that didn't know ice Cream Shan's mouth was very

536
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 1: close to mine. I can't with you, but one of

537
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 1: there's a million pictures of me online that of the

538
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: people you know, and just how you hut on every

539
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 1: single couple and it's not special. Look, it ain't never

540
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 1: I do. You guys are really secure. While we brought

541
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: this up though, on women not sexually assaulting, there is

542
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,919
Speaker 1: a case going on currently right now with one of

543
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: my um husbands in my head, Vic Mensa. He just

544
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 1: came out in one of his interviews and actually said

545
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 1: that Tiffany Hattish sexually assaulted him. Um, and what she

546
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 1: did was basically in saying bye, she ball checked him

547
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: and grabbed his package. And so he's coming out and

548
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,199
Speaker 1: saying that he felt sexually assaulted. She hasn't responded to

549
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: it at this very moment um, but I'm looking forward

550
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 1: to see kind of what she says. But she's also

551
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: apparently been doing it. None of us can be above

552
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 1: this discussion. We no because no, no one. So I

553
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: think it's exciting. Um, we're gonna get into oh you

554
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: want to tell you? In my book, we had a

555
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 1: stripper come through and talk to us, and she said

556
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,679
Speaker 1: she leads every single interaction to strip club with consent,

557
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: Like how does she do that? Can I touch your shirt? Daddy?

558
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 1: Like does it feel good when I do this to you? Like?

559
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:51,640
Speaker 1: Do you like the way that my boobs look before

560
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 1: she puts it in their face? Like she leads every

561
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: single action needs to get Yeah, that's it also creates

562
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,199
Speaker 1: a culture amongst them. So they asked they never do

563
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,400
Speaker 1: without asking her, and she says even when she picks

564
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 1: up dudes, she'll come and she'll walk by and say,

565
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: do you mind if I join you? She'll never just

566
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 1: sit down so like that. We think of consent as

567
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 1: the button. It's not. It's not the like police to

568
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,879
Speaker 1: remember it can be sexy. Don't think like you. I

569
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 1: talk about this moment where it is, it's kind of hot.

570
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: I would want But the guy that I fucked jeeves

571
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: somebody remember the story. But he asked me if he

572
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 1: could taste me, if he could take off my panties, um,

573
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: if he could lick me like literally everything, and when

574
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 1: he was about to suck me, and he told me

575
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 1: to tell him that I wanted it, and that I

576
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: realized in that moment that was it for him. That

577
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 1: was his consent. Yeah, oh yeah, My My consent with

578
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 1: the guy I'll be fucking is just me coming over

579
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: because I let him know in the text message I

580
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: want to say your nuts um and I put the

581
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: nut emoji. Girl. We I swear up childish but he

582
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 1: does like he doesn't like it, but he also likes

583
00:27:56,160 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 1: his nuts flick. So when I say nuts nuts, I

584
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: will show you. That's exactly what I wrote to I said,

585
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: I want to write squirrel back bitch, no but no,

586
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 1: but no, but no. But sometimes he'll write me and say, yo,

587
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: come flet these nuts that's how we talked. We could

588
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,360
Speaker 1: call them nuts fuck you hope. Anyway, we're gonna get

589
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: into our kink of the week UM, and this one

590
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: is super exciting UM because it's one that we actually mentioned.

591
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, maybe in like the first ten episodes.

592
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: We think I got an email, um and they offered

593
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 1: us four hundred dollars UM for these what they did.

594
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: And I'm man, we adn't take a bitch. I could

595
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: have used that bad Damn. I'm rached now, So it

596
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: might be a little bit. But the kink of the

597
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: week for this week is underwear fetishism. It's a sexual

598
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: fetishism relating to undergarments and refers to preoccupation with the

599
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: sexual excitement of certain types of underwear, including panty stockings,

600
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: panty hose, brawls, or other items. Some people can experience

601
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 1: sexual excitement from the wearing, while others get their excitement

602
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: when observing, handle, or smelling the underwear worn by another

603
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: or somebody putting underwear honor taking it off. Some may

604
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: still use underwear to get satisfaction. Not only does this

605
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 1: include physical contact with the garments or their wearers, but

606
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 1: also includes arousal by printed or electronic images with depictions

607
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: of underwear. We brought this motherfucking Kink of the Week

608
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: to you because of Sophia gray Um. They are the

609
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 1: sponsored by a fucking creepy as lucrative nasty webs and

610
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: I'm excited. So they did offer us to sell our panties,

611
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: So I think I am going to put a pair

612
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: of panties up there. I have no I swear to guy.

613
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 1: So that's actually my question for the Kink of the week.

614
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 1: How much would you sell your panties for? Okay, but

615
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: no to a buyer like as Wheezy from a horrible decision?

616
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 1: Yes you why you gotta maybe? How much would you

617
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: sell your pennies? To be honest to be a thousand books?

618
00:29:55,040 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't think that I'm rich by the same, but

619
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 1: I didn't want to say a thousand and it sounds

620
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: too hot. I don't need a thousand dollars though, but

621
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 1: I feel like I can't make it for a few

622
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:12,719
Speaker 1: hundreds because I don't need it impact my life. It's

623
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: going to impact their life in a positive way. It

624
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: has to be a mutual. What's the part I think

625
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: I was six? So these these valenciagas that I've been

626
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: white and they're only six seventies. Yeah, they're only six seventies,

627
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 1: so I would go for six seventy. Um, let me

628
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 1: sell these panties seventy dollars worth. No, well you know

629
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: so no, I mean and on this site. So I

630
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: did go on there. Um they can request like ladies

631
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 1: they can request if it's out the gym. And then

632
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: the women who sell their panties and ladies. For you guys,

633
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 1: I do want you all to know, y'all can go

634
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: on there and sell your panties. And what I've noticed

635
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: for the women, they'll put if their milks the size

636
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Speaker 1: prepped her and was like I really want to eat

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Speaker 1: your ass, and like that was like the big focal

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728
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Speaker 1: just want to eat your ass, right, away, and so

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Speaker 1: sure enough she got to hotel room first, busted over

731
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Speaker 1: in the bed. He came in eight her ass, and

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Speaker 1: then afterwards he was like, I was really really happy,

733
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Speaker 1: like followed my instructions, but it seemed like you showered first,

734
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Speaker 1: and I kind of wish you didn't. You just posted

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Speaker 1: I had a conversation this weekend one one of my friends, Rashida,

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Speaker 1: and I was talking about how I really hate when

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Speaker 1: I can only understand that if it was a really

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743
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Speaker 1: down there, you're committed. Nigod agree, and it's like any

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Speaker 1: other tady, she'll get used to it. Yeah before wait dog,

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Speaker 1: you're just you get grocer and grocer every fucking episode.

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Speaker 1: First of all's bloody pussy. Now it's pissy pussy. You

747
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Speaker 1: ain't bloody pussy. Everybody knows. It's like like it wasn't

748
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Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not doing this with you real quick, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Y'all know we recorded right, you know, scissored on our

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Speaker 1: Go ahead. All I'm saying is we were drunk. We

754
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Speaker 1: were about to have this reason with this dude. It

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Speaker 1: was me collect so we're drinking. We already like we're

756
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Speaker 1: kind of fucking She runs the bathroom, she comes back.

757
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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, she ain't gonna down. I still

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Speaker 1: you're out here looking honestly like so like Corona, I'll

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Speaker 1: convince Corona tastes like fist and I don't know if

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Speaker 1: it tastes like but if it tastes like anything, it

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Speaker 1: tastes like Corona tasted. No, I'm not, because I don't

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Speaker 1: know where your mouth has been, ma'am, and mine was

764
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Speaker 1: just on some nuts and ask this morning. So okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: I will say too, because we just had such a

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Speaker 1: this morning, and I will say he like kind of

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Speaker 1: gave me my kudos. He's like, and he didn't make

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Speaker 1: a mess, and I was like, I didn't, you know,

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Speaker 1: I didn't um no, but like we were on his

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Speaker 1: couch and so and I was wanting him in my

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Speaker 1: So here's the thing that I mean. I felt like

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Speaker 1: I knew my my body. I didn't have coffee nothing before.

776
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Speaker 1: I want to fu him and I had eight way before.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, you know, I ain't had no

778
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Speaker 1: wet ship lately or nothing like that. I can't be

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Speaker 1: proud to have a clean booty hole just pointed. I mean,

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Speaker 1: so just for contacts, the guys that we had on

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Speaker 1: who have a little bit. Wasn't a little he said,

784
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Speaker 1: he took his dick out and he goes, she sh

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Speaker 1: and then he's like, we had to take the sheets

786
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Speaker 1: off the bed. She couldn't even keep them. And he's like,

787
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Speaker 1: and you know what, real ship? I kept going. So

788
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Speaker 1: I'm excited to get into this conversation and with shan Um,

789
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: I think it's very prevalent to a lot of you listening,

790
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Speaker 1: especially as we preach um and you try to segue

791
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Speaker 1: from the ship conversation to what you know. So if

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Speaker 1: y'all have a casual sex with niggas, this is the

793
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 1: conversation that happened with them. So the conversation that we're

794
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Speaker 1: going to have today is dating with dominance. And I

795
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Speaker 1: really like this even just reading through through your book. Um,

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Speaker 1: you have a podcast as well coming out well with

797
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Speaker 1: the featured of the book. Yes, Yes, let's talk about

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Speaker 1: what's your book about. There we go, let's just basically

799
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Speaker 1: like set yourself up for success. Like if you want

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Speaker 1: to if you came to me and said I'm shit

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Speaker 1: at cooking, there would be a tried and true process

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Speaker 1: to get you to feel apt in that area. If

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Speaker 1: you felt like you were doing bad and math, etcetera, etcetera,

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Speaker 1: Like we would take that person and give them confidence

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Speaker 1: through strategy, through knowing themselves, through the help of mentors,

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Speaker 1: through practice, through practice in low interest environments, through trying

807
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Speaker 1: out some new ship until you found what your zone was.

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Speaker 1: But yet when it comes to dating. The advice we

809
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Speaker 1: get people like just be yourself. Like what, because you're

810
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Speaker 1: writing a dating book. What is your take then on

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Speaker 1: books like Steve Harvey's Dating Book or I think like

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Speaker 1: a man, act like a woman, or whatever the thing

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Speaker 1: is like, because yeah, strategy, it's a strategy you're looking

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Speaker 1: probably for like to the quiz about to take a

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Speaker 1: modern monogamous or traditional monogamous relationship with an older person

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Speaker 1: in gen X and up? So what is it like?

817
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Speaker 1: The Rules, for example, was a book that was written

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Speaker 1: by Ellen Feene that was passed around for a long time.

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Speaker 1: It was a strategy, but that it's a one size

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Speaker 1: fits all strategy, and so I think that my book

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Speaker 1: is really just more about like women getting to the

822
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Speaker 1: driver's seat of your love life. I look at it

823
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Speaker 1: like dating in nineteen is like a motherfucking Nascar. It

824
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Speaker 1: goes a hundred miles an hour. It could do some

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Speaker 1: crazy tricks, but people don't know how to drive, and

826
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Speaker 1: so just get into the driver's see if your love life,

827
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Speaker 1: get to know yourself, know some strategies, and use some

828
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Speaker 1: psychology by yourself. You know, that's just I took six

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Speaker 1: women who were just like chronically single but it was

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Speaker 1: important for me to pick six what is chronic? Sing

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Speaker 1: just always goes did always being picked last always in

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Speaker 1: situation sign these women did you reach out? And I

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Speaker 1: interviewed over three women for this because it was important

834
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Speaker 1: for you. I didn't want to find a woman whom like,

835
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Speaker 1: nothing in her life was going well, because at the

836
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Speaker 1: end of the day, it's not the be all and

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Speaker 1: end all for us of comic relationships are a piece

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Speaker 1: of the pie. And so if you have other ship

839
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Speaker 1: to figure out right now, I'm not going to ask

840
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Speaker 1: you to devote yourself to a six month program with me.

841
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Speaker 1: So I was looking for women specifically who were like

842
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Speaker 1: bomb and every other category, but this is the one

843
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Speaker 1: area they just weren't getting the results they wanted in. Okay,

844
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Speaker 1: I like that. And in the end one of them

845
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Speaker 1: got to have sex with like their dream celebrity mate.

846
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Speaker 1: It was like, really really crazy, don't ask her who,

847
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: because I know you'd be like, I don't wait, what

848
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: do you wait? Like she'd let an intention like just

849
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: you didn't do no like who? You say your celebrity

850
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: crush was? Oh, I got so many no, So so

851
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 1: I really like one. I really loved Todd dollars sign

852
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: he could get oh right now, bitch with Kalievla could

853
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 1: get it wrong and I'll even go wrong, but he

854
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: could in all my holes. Uh oh, well, that's what

855
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: I say. That's what I told this nigga when I

856
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:15,719
Speaker 1: got all my Can I really tell you? Pause? It

857
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 1: was the first time I ever had this feeling in

858
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: my life, and I felt like I wasn't in control.

859
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:23,880
Speaker 1: So I haven't sucked. I've been on a drought. It

860
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 1: was like five and a half six weeks. That is

861
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 1: a drop. I just caught you on the day that

862
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: you had sexist more about later, I thought, oh no,

863
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: but out of a drought, I haven't sun. I went

864
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: to the Bahamas, no Dick. I went to Toronto, no Dick.

865
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: I went to South Carolina, no Dick. I just have

866
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: not haven't getting Dick here. He be hit me up

867
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: at ten am. I'm like, Nick, I'm at work, so

868
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 1: we just haven't our schedules having a line. So today

869
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: I'm go and fuck him, and bitch, I start shaking

870
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: and have an orgasm as he's entering me, Like the

871
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: whole dick isn't even in there, just the head, and

872
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm like coming shaken like to where I'm pushing him

873
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: out and I'm like, why am I coming like this?

874
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: For like eight to ten seconds, bitch I was orgasming

875
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 1: without him even being fully inside of me anything else

876
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: that was I had sucked a dick for about the

877
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: twelve minutes maybe fifteen, and that would say his debut

878
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,880
Speaker 1: with that, because were you touching yourself when no, I

879
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 1: mean I was leaking, but that was just off sucking

880
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: his pussy, sucking his pussy, sucking his dick. And then

881
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 1: I literally turned around on the couch and he went

882
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 1: to inswer me, and bitch I was flailing like a fish,

883
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 1: and I felt like he just probably thought he was

884
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: the goddamn man, and I felt some I couldn't stop shaking,

885
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:34,839
Speaker 1: but I was shaken as if as I shake when

886
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: he makes me come. I was like, nig you're not

887
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 1: even on the way amy I was. I was embarrassed.

888
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like this is an incredible I was like, funk,

889
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,799
Speaker 1: I can't. It was like if a nigga like bus

890
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: before he even get in a pussy, That's what I did.

891
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: And I didn't continue. I did, and then I I

892
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 1: kept going. He was like don't have that refractory period

893
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 1: that man had. We don't. We don't, and so did

894
00:43:55,680 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 1: not a multiple orgasm hate my second orgasm with him

895
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 1: like four times in one session on the question I

896
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: really need to know you and your hobby are so

897
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 1: fucking hot? What out of your book? What do you

898
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: define your relationship as? Our relationship is free, I think,

899
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:17,399
Speaker 1: and free is a part of the quiz. It's right,

900
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 1: look look at the So if you guys, um, we're

901
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: gonna put the link my stories on bitch I came

902
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: and then and then yeah, by the and then I

903
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 1: told him to getting my ass and yeah. Then we

904
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 1: went again someone that you have like even first six years. No,

905
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 1: we just I did, just don't her. This is what

906
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:45,359
Speaker 1: we're doing? Are we doing this? She's like, no, no,

907
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 1: we just be fucking. But it's like such a good

908
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,720
Speaker 1: dick that I literally wouldn't allow myself to fun anyone

909
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,800
Speaker 1: else because if I sucked bad dick within that drought,

910
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 1: I probably would have killed somebody. I was going to

911
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: be miserable. So I literally was telling him like I

912
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: was like, I can't funk until I fuck you, nigga,

913
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 1: I'm in a drop. He's like, man, I said, not

914
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 1: in New York. I don't have no other niggas. He

915
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: was like, well in other places. So I had to

916
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 1: list down where I've been trying and said, no, no, dick,

917
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 1: and none of these. I'm waiting on you fuck me nigga,

918
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: but no. So if you guys don't know, Shambooty has

919
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 1: created you, You manifested and created this whole quiz. Can't

920
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 1: just say great marketing, dog, it's so good because I'm

921
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: so fucking good. They're like better than BuzzFeed, so don't

922
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 1: say that right now. They're better than what's kying a

923
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: fucking fast food Friday? Am. So I'm look, I'm not

924
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:38,439
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I took the quiz and I was like, okay,

925
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,359
Speaker 1: I feel like I know what I am. And I

926
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 1: was actually slightly different than what I thought. UM, So

927
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 1: I didn't try to What are the relationship types that

928
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: you could be considered? You could be casual dating, which

929
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: is essentially like no ties, no nothing, I see you,

930
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: Whatever happens happens. It's transactional. It's like going to McDonald's

931
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 1: buy a hamburger, go home doesn't mean McDonald you should

932
00:45:57,239 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 1: next day. Then there's casual noncommitted dating where it's situation ships.

933
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 1: Essentially you don't necessarily want the full gamut of the

934
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,879
Speaker 1: relationship experience, but somewhere kind of close to there. I mean,

935
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: that's what That's what I thought I was going to be.

936
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 1: My guest for you is something different, yeah, some different

937
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: than you could do. Traditional monogamy. Then there is modern

938
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: monogamy is one person at a time. Traditional monogamy is

939
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 1: one person for life. Okay, yeah, that's about right. And

940
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 1: then you have monogamysh free relationships, open relationships, and then mine,

941
00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 1: so mine is considered mine is considered free. Inference between

942
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,839
Speaker 1: free and open. Free is essentially that you could fit

943
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: inside a multiple relationship style depending on your partner, which

944
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 1: which I completely agree with. And I love how you

945
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: started it. So she broke this down, and I want

946
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: to read this to you guys, because maybe this is

947
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 1: something that you may actually be as well. So for

948
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 1: free relationship, you are DTF by that. She does not

949
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:00,880
Speaker 1: mean down to fuck, but in stead, you're down to

950
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: figure it out. And when I read that, especially after

951
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,120
Speaker 1: telling you, I'm now talking to someone who is so

952
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:07,839
Speaker 1: out my norm but I could see myself kind of

953
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 1: whatever he's into I'm cool, um. So your relationships may

954
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 1: swing from monogamous to open to polly to back to monogamy,

955
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: and you're down for the ride as long as it's

956
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 1: what's best for you and your partner or partners. Your

957
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: relationship is not defined by the rules or titles you

958
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 1: chose in the beginning, but instead by how each other's

959
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: partner feels at any given time. You like to leave

960
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,720
Speaker 1: space for the unexpected, and you trust that your partner

961
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:35,399
Speaker 1: can handle that responsibility as well. In order for this

962
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: relationship to thrive, you must be professional at communication and

963
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,479
Speaker 1: self discipline. So I feel like that's why this would

964
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:44,919
Speaker 1: work with me and him. He's super communicative and I'm

965
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: communicative as well, and like we've been a FaceTime and

966
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 1: every day. Don't even do that with niggas um. But

967
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,360
Speaker 1: it says by saying yes to a free relationship, you

968
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: are saying yes to circumstances and arrangements that you may

969
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 1: not have been in before. Of course, you can opt

970
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,359
Speaker 1: out and in time when your partner has pushed beyond

971
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:03,919
Speaker 1: your comfort zone, but understand that since you haven't placed

972
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: any restrictions on them, they're the high probability that this

973
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: could happen. So Wheezy said that she also got that,

974
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: which that's no surprise. I think that you've even throughout

975
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 1: the different relationships that you've talked about on this podcast,

976
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,280
Speaker 1: they've all kind of been different, um in a sense.

977
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: So and it is kind of just with what your

978
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 1: partner is open jealous being has been different too, Like

979
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: I've noticed where it was more monogamous that I was

980
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 1: more jealous, really, yes, because I think there was more restriction,

981
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 1: like we could only do it together, so if there

982
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: wasn't together in my mind right, whereas like with the

983
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 1: partners I have now, I don't know. I can't I

984
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 1: can't explain how comfortable I am. I feel very safe,

985
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 1: Like you know, the person I'm dating was out this weekend,

986
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 1: fucking like I knew you were happy for them. Yeah,

987
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 1: And it's a weird, crazy feeling that it's like okay,

988
00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: guy's missy and like fun little teasing jealousy but not

989
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 1: real anger um and that I'm just not really used

990
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: to I would even say I would be okay, but

991
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: I did, I wasn't for sure and how I meant it,

992
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: And I think right now I just feel so satisfied

993
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 1: with the openness and the communication opposed to before with

994
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 1: monogamous ship. Knowing that we would only fund someone else together,

995
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 1: they would lie about anything else. Right, you wouldn't tell

996
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,440
Speaker 1: me about these other interactions because you knew that wasn't

997
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 1: in the agreement. So where there is no restrictions, there

998
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 1: is nowhere to get angry. Right, you know you can

999
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 1: do what you want to do and what you need

1000
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:33,879
Speaker 1: to do. So you're married, Can I ask how you

1001
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: and your husband started dating and what kind of relationship

1002
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 1: role you guys played with each other. Yeah, we started

1003
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: as fund buddies, um, and so that I think was

1004
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:45,879
Speaker 1: just a great foundation for us because it was again

1005
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 1: it was a clearly transactional of like this is what

1006
00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 1: I want, this is what you want, and we did

1007
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:52,759
Speaker 1: that so successfully. I actually didn't interview once where I

1008
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:54,760
Speaker 1: was like, I didn't even believe in friends with benefits.

1009
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:57,399
Speaker 1: But now I would honestly make the poster, I would

1010
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 1: run the campaign. It was such a great experience long Um. Honestly,

1011
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 1: we didn't define a relationship until he moved in with me.

1012
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,320
Speaker 1: He moved from buddies to him moving in because he

1013
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 1: didn't he stayed in. He was like in a transition

1014
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 1: period where like his roommate was moving out, so you

1015
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 1: need someone were to stay. I'm like, come and stay

1016
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 1: with me, and he was like that's weird. I'm like

1017
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, it'd be fine. And then once he

1018
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,360
Speaker 1: was staying with me, like two weeks in, he was

1019
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 1: going to look for new apartments and I was like,

1020
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:22,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, like I do not want you

1021
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 1: to leave. At that point, I was like, now, this

1022
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 1: is something different. But I think because I was so

1023
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 1: strict about this is the relationship that we've defined and

1024
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:33,239
Speaker 1: this is all that I'm looking for. And I made

1025
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:36,240
Speaker 1: a lot I did this full last Um private podcast

1026
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 1: on this, like all the psychological tricks I played on

1027
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: myself to ensure that, like I could make this a

1028
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 1: successful Friends with Benefits. So it truly wasn't until we

1029
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 1: lived together that we're like, Okay, we can't just be

1030
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: that anymore and there's something different. How long were your

1031
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 1: Friends with Benefits October to July? Oh damn, almost a year? Yeah.

1032
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: I appreciate that. I like that. There's a lot to

1033
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 1: be said of experts who say like, oh, if you

1034
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: started like this, it's gonna end like or or you

1035
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 1: know things like that. It's a pro move. I'll say that,

1036
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 1: like at the end of the day, you gotta know

1037
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:11,480
Speaker 1: your discipline, and like we never had sleepovers ever. We

1038
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 1: he didn't My birthday happened in April. I didn't tell him.

1039
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:15,879
Speaker 1: I was like, what's the point of my buddy knowing

1040
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 1: my birthday? You know? My family was over, Like I

1041
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:19,839
Speaker 1: can't see this week my families here. There was never

1042
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 1: a confusion in my mind of like my mom and

1043
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,479
Speaker 1: dad should know you. Like, there was just a real

1044
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 1: compartmentalization and so I think, if you want to do that,

1045
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: you have to really be on top of it. Two

1046
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 1: weeks and then you were like, I have to keep them.

1047
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: It was like I think honestly, I mean, it was

1048
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: like two thousand and fifteen, so it's like a bit

1049
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 1: foggy in my mind now, but I really genuinely don't think.

1050
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: And he told me he loved me. I came to

1051
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: New York and I was spending some time with this

1052
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 1: dude in New York that I saw all the time.

1053
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: It was super cute, really fun, probably gay and not

1054
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:51,360
Speaker 1: quite sure, but right, he's so fine. I see. I

1055
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,400
Speaker 1: think actually moved to l A but I spent some

1056
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 1: time with him, but I still like told Jared because

1057
00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: we were like, we were still only having sex to

1058
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,040
Speaker 1: each other, so he was my only person that was sucking.

1059
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 1: But I was still seeing other dudes. I just want

1060
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 1: to write a buy him seeing this dude in New York.

1061
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, it's cool. So I was on Twitter

1062
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: and I was like coming going back to the to

1063
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 1: the airport, and I was like, man, I'm learning so

1064
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 1: much about love, not being an aeroslove, Like by having

1065
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: all these great compartmentalized relationships that are not necessarily romantic love,

1066
00:52:18,239 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: I'm learning more about myself. And then he text me

1067
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, it is our love not romantic.

1068
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:25,839
Speaker 1: And I was like, but do you love me? And

1069
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, I love you. And that was

1070
00:52:27,920 --> 00:52:29,839
Speaker 1: the first time that he said it. And I was like, oh, ship,

1071
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: and I don't even think in my mind I allowed

1072
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 1: myself to think about loving him because of the relationship

1073
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,879
Speaker 1: dynamic that we had, and at that moment I was like, yeah,

1074
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 1: I love you too. And then next shortly thereafter we

1075
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:41,800
Speaker 1: moved in and etcetera. So your story makes me think

1076
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 1: so much of kind of where I am currently dating

1077
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 1: and it's actually um the question that I have kind

1078
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: of just even wrap up dating in general. Is there

1079
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:52,560
Speaker 1: all wrong or right way to date? So I asked

1080
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: this because even the guy that I'm talking to now, like,

1081
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,800
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, Okay, I know, I don't really

1082
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:00,800
Speaker 1: if I go see him because he lives in Chicago.

1083
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 1: So I'm like, Okay, if I go to Chicago, do

1084
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: we have sex the first time in there? Do I not?

1085
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 1: If I want this to be long term? Do I

1086
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 1: give it up that quick? Or do I make him

1087
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 1: come to New York and then we go back and

1088
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: forth before we decide as more like And so I'm

1089
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 1: in this position where Okay, maybe the things in the

1090
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 1: past haven't worked. They've led the situation ships that have

1091
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: gone on for years, but they never really manifested, say

1092
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 1: anything else. So I feel like that is the definition

1093
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:27,839
Speaker 1: of insane or insanity is to continue doing the same

1094
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:30,840
Speaker 1: things over and over again expecting a different result. So

1095
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 1: that's where I am now, where Okay, I'm dating? Was

1096
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 1: I dating wrong? And is there a right way to date?

1097
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: Should like? Dating wrong is when you put yourself in

1098
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 1: a position to not be your coolest, most awesomest, sexy,

1099
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,320
Speaker 1: down to earth empowered confidence self when you start putting

1100
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: yourselves in positions where you don't feel comfortable and now

1101
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:54,279
Speaker 1: you're jealous, or you're weird, or you're quiet um or

1102
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 1: you're starting to take away privileges and feeling that that's

1103
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:58,279
Speaker 1: going to get you the results that you want. When

1104
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 1: you don't feel like you can be fun and fucking

1105
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:03,799
Speaker 1: cool anymore, that's when you're dating wrong. And so that's

1106
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:08,320
Speaker 1: why you answer that. That was a great answer, because

1107
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: I think what's so great about you saying that is

1108
00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 1: when someone realizes they want more, they start being like, well,

1109
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 1: now this and what I need you to commit? I

1110
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:19,359
Speaker 1: gotta be wifey materials. So they start to take away

1111
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:21,879
Speaker 1: the things about themselves that they feel like a man

1112
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 1: may push them away for, which is fine. I mean, like,

1113
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 1: there's no right answer that because the things that not

1114
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 1: everyone could do abody relationship, and not everyone wants that.

1115
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:32,719
Speaker 1: And so if you know, look, if I get a

1116
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: situation with something, I sleep over with them, and now

1117
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,239
Speaker 1: we're not advancing the intimacy, I'm going to start to

1118
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 1: feel weird around them. Don't sleep over with them, like

1119
00:54:39,719 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: only you don't go to subway sandwiches expecting lobster. If

1120
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:46,799
Speaker 1: somebody is like I'm giving sandwiches out, go for a

1121
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:49,279
Speaker 1: fucking sandwich and if you want something more, and they're saying,

1122
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 1: we don't provide that, you know, find somewhere else to go.

1123
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: So I say that, but there's no right, you know,

1124
00:54:55,440 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 1: but everyone has their own their own threshold what they're

1125
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 1: looking for. And even with what we these going through

1126
00:55:00,719 --> 00:55:03,600
Speaker 1: and how she's how we both kind of been with

1127
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 1: this podcast now and pretty much being so vulnerable and

1128
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: letting all of our information now, it is refreshing that

1129
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 1: like we talk and he knows exactly what I talked about.

1130
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 1: We we just we just had the conversation last night

1131
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 1: because we were talking about UM like he shared it

1132
00:55:16,280 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: on his pro platforms. Yes, he already like he's like,

1133
00:55:18,760 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: I'll showing to you out on so I'll show you

1134
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 1: him Like, well, yeah, but we were talking about his

1135
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 1: UM just last relationship and how like he'll say when

1136
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 1: he's uncomfortable with something, and we even talked about he's like,

1137
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 1: I know I'll probably get a nickname if we like continue,

1138
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 1: like we're talking and he's like you, I feel like

1139
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 1: he's like, well, I've already told him, like get nickname

1140
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: um and so I'm trying to get creative with it

1141
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: before I give him one. But he was like, I

1142
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:44,959
Speaker 1: already know, like this is a part of your life,

1143
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 1: and so if I'm going to move forward with talking

1144
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 1: to you, that's something I'm gonna have to accept it.

1145
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 1: If I ever feel like something does make me uncomfortable,

1146
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. But that's gonna be something that we

1147
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,640
Speaker 1: communicated about. But he's like, I see what you do,

1148
00:55:55,719 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 1: and he he just sees that we're so successful at it,

1149
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: and so he's like, I can't even be mad. So

1150
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 1: I like that exactly what you said. I'm like, Okay,

1151
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 1: think the more we grew to like at first, a

1152
00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: few months in, I didn't feel as secure as I

1153
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 1: do right now. The money Now, I feel like we

1154
00:56:18,120 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 1: have accolades. Yes, you know what. I'm like, HBO, just

1155
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 1: know this is like Rihanna Plissy. It has been good

1156
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:30,319
Speaker 1: to like be with someone that like understands it, loves it,

1157
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 1: and wants to like help you. You know what, if

1158
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:37,319
Speaker 1: you try to replicate your career journey in your romantic life,

1159
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:39,280
Speaker 1: I think you would find yourself in an incredible position.

1160
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 1: It's what I've been it's kind of what I've been

1161
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:43,400
Speaker 1: doing now and I'm getting like such a good response,

1162
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:45,280
Speaker 1: like I love it. I'm I'm me like, I'm probably

1163
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: gonna put my wig on on FaceTime with him today.

1164
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:49,400
Speaker 1: I didn't have to send like he hadn't see it

1165
00:56:49,440 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 1: all my pictures, so I'm like, yeah, just you know,

1166
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna look different every time you see me probably, Um,

1167
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:56,320
Speaker 1: just be prepared, Just be preparing. I do. I'm excited

1168
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: that we're kind of talking about this level of communications.

1169
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 1: Who got my homemat? We'll do both? Okay, we can

1170
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:06,240
Speaker 1: do both. We got we got time, Brianna shout out

1171
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,880
Speaker 1: the podcast studiving us some extra minutes in here. But

1172
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 1: y'all don't get it. We specially y'all. So I gotta

1173
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 1: stay all time. And X writes me today, I'm not

1174
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:17,720
Speaker 1: going to say his name. Does he have a nickname?

1175
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 1: He does? I don't want to say I'm not. I

1176
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: want to say, oh yeah, because I don't know where

1177
00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 1: they're at right this right now here it goes him

1178
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:24,200
Speaker 1: and I are great, really care about him in lovel

1179
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 1: because they just had a sex a couple of months ago.

1180
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:29,840
Speaker 1: So he says, possible, t M. I but I have

1181
00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 1: to tell you this telling me about the girl's dating.

1182
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: She's been sending me memes from the Horrible Decisions Instagram

1183
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: and then send me YouTube clips, and now she's gone

1184
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: as far as to say she wants us to go

1185
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: to a show together. She has no idea Wheezy is

1186
00:57:42,560 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 1: my ex that I told her about, right because he

1187
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:46,840
Speaker 1: says my name, but he doesn't say Wheezy. Mind you.

1188
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:49,160
Speaker 1: He's been at every show we've had except the first.

1189
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: I said, bro, He goes right. Now, she's working from

1190
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 1: the top down, so all she hears about his scissors

1191
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:56,760
Speaker 1: in Beard Bay. What do I do when she gets

1192
00:57:56,800 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 1: to me, I said, this ain't real? Is she black?

1193
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:01,919
Speaker 1: And he goes yes. He says she's a sweet girl.

1194
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to taint something. I know that she

1195
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: really enjoys. She has a really difficult job, loves the content.

1196
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: I can't make her insecure about hearing about the time

1197
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:13,560
Speaker 1: we spent. I worried that she'll question herself or compare

1198
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 1: herself to you, whether it be sexually, aesthetics, et cetera.

1199
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:19,240
Speaker 1: That is my main concern. We got on the phone,

1200
00:58:19,920 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 1: He's like, I've let it gone on so long now,

1201
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 1: knowing that she's playing it, and I don't say anything that.

1202
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 1: I feel like, how could I even tell her? Now

1203
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 1: he says he needs to. I know he needs to.

1204
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 1: I said that. I told Fellam Bay that immediately. This

1205
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 1: about the second time he came over, he kept bringing

1206
00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:38,760
Speaker 1: up I said, oh, nigga, that's I'm just gonna tell you.

1207
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: That's the nigguy, So can you please not bring him? Yeah,

1208
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 1: And so like this nigga was like on his Instagram

1209
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 1: bringing up like you listen to him, like really bringing

1210
00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 1: this nig up to me and I'm like, yeah, he

1211
00:58:48,640 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 1: in my tunes and like still bringing him up. Then

1212
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: started bringing up how he dresses, like y'all, I was

1213
00:58:53,280 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 1: listening to this nigga when I was locked up, and

1214
00:58:54,920 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 1: I'm just like, Okay, this is getting uncomfortable now, just

1215
00:58:57,040 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 1: so you know. Yeah, And then when we stopped on

1216
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 1: that nigga met the nick in the club and they

1217
00:59:01,360 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 1: got a picture together on Instagram. I'm like, this is

1218
00:59:05,240 --> 00:59:10,000
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable. Someone that Beard baby fucked. I am a

1219
00:59:10,040 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 1: crazy fan of and I'll still be posting her ship.

1220
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 1: I don't give a fun. Yeah, So what do you think?

1221
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 1: How do you think she should there's no other advice. No,

1222
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:22,919
Speaker 1: he has to tell her right because to your point,

1223
00:59:22,960 --> 00:59:26,000
Speaker 1: it's going to get revealed, and it's also making him uncomfortable.

1224
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 1: You can tell you. He said that he was walking in.

1225
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 1: We run on the phone for like ten minutes. She's like, dude,

1226
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 1: He's like, I walked into my apartment. She's cooking, and

1227
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:37,360
Speaker 1: I can hear you. Are you kind of getting off

1228
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 1: on this? No, Like I really love and care about him,

1229
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:42,440
Speaker 1: I don't want any I don't want it for I

1230
00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:47,080
Speaker 1: don't because it's every scenario. He compared her love for

1231
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 1: horrible decisions to me and Jesus in Meryl. Oh lord,

1232
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 1: we know you obsessed with I am Jane in Miami

1233
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: just to see a me beard Bay and says, we out.

1234
00:59:57,960 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 1: But here's how much I love it. If I found

1235
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 1: out that, like, I don't. I guess it's different for me,

1236
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 1: but I don't know if I would care. But he

1237
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:08,880
Speaker 1: feels like it's really going to ruin it. And on

1238
01:00:08,920 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 1: another level, I talked about every detail of our relationship.

1239
01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 1: This is someone that yeah, he was he was talking

1240
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 1: about for quite quite a few months. So she's about

1241
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:19,400
Speaker 1: to get to it. And then you didn't let a

1242
01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 1: few details slad about his arts, yeasts, and then what

1243
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,160
Speaker 1: he looked like this a little bit, so she gonna

1244
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 1: be like a white niggah. No. But it what's even

1245
01:00:29,800 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 1: weirder about it is like he was just saying that,

1246
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:35,560
Speaker 1: Oh god, I'm assuming at this point maybe she knows

1247
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: it's me, but I can only I'm taking this as

1248
01:00:38,560 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 1: a guess. Him and I were into a lot of

1249
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:43,520
Speaker 1: b D S M. What if she isn't and what

1250
01:00:43,600 --> 01:00:46,280
Speaker 1: if she knows that there's this part of him and

1251
01:00:46,320 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 1: they haven't gotten there yet. I think that's awesome. Well,

1252
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 1: he needs to go ahead and find out what episode

1253
01:00:50,640 --> 01:00:52,720
Speaker 1: the fun she owned, and he needs to go ahead

1254
01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 1: and be ready to just I didn't know what to do.

1255
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 1: I was like, let's start from the game. You know

1256
01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 1: what this is is like a classic rom com, like

1257
01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 1: and are seeing the whole thing happened, you know when

1258
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 1: you watch a romantic comedy, and like the lie begins

1259
01:01:03,880 --> 01:01:06,800
Speaker 1: in the beginning, and we watched the whole relationship form,

1260
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: but we know it's based in the lie, y as

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Speaker 1: if you were we understand why that person lie, But

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Speaker 1: when that plot twist happens when they find out like

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Speaker 1: how could you lie to me. Were like, you can't understand,

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Speaker 1: Like Jim, don't you stay that look, but this could

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Speaker 1: be a show for us, bitch, let's write it down

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01:01:20,280 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: that we got to pitch this ship. She's don't be like,

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Speaker 1: we are not. No, no, she said she was the

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Speaker 1: last time you brought anyone that you were involved with,

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Speaker 1: you thought we was all getting sued. So no, we're not.

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Speaker 1: We're not. She was gonna go crazy. We're to know

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Speaker 1: more of your lovers in here. We we have real

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Speaker 1: money now. One time and she tried to see as well.

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01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 1: We was broke. Lord knows what someone like lawsuit like.

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01:01:48,800 --> 01:01:53,800
Speaker 1: Literally while she was sitting here right, she was ready

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Speaker 1: to sue loud speaker network everything, and we was like not.

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01:01:57,280 --> 01:01:59,880
Speaker 1: She started that. I was like, she's doing wheezy, but

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Speaker 1: she is soon a horrible decisions. I don't know you bitch.

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01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 1: We're gonna say it's going to suck. So I do

1279
01:02:07,320 --> 01:02:09,600
Speaker 1: want to get into this homemail before we get out

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Speaker 1: of here. UM and I want your health specifically because

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Speaker 1: you're the intimacy x UM. So this one it says

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Speaker 1: this help and I think this is really good. We

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Speaker 1: talked about dating communication. This is bedroom communication. So, ladies,

1284
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:27,120
Speaker 1: I am in a sticky situation. I am currently married

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01:02:27,240 --> 01:02:29,919
Speaker 1: and my husband and I are very open sexually. We've

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01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 1: engaged in threesomes and much more. But recently my husband

1287
01:02:34,160 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 1: has been into anal to him. It started with us

1288
01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 1: having drunk sex one night and him inching me down

1289
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:43,680
Speaker 1: to touch his butt. No biggie there. I was trying

1290
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 1: to see if he would let me, and he did.

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01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 1: He's been taking it further and further. This only happens

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01:02:49,040 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: when he's drunk. Last night, he grabbed my butt plug

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01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:54,880
Speaker 1: I use it once anal is not for me, and

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01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 1: told me to use it on him. He got in

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01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:01,400
Speaker 1: doggy style position for it and all uh. I was surprised.

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01:03:01,480 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 1: It wasn't painful. I fingered him before, and the butt

1297
01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:07,160
Speaker 1: plug isn't super big. But I don't know. I don't

1298
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:09,320
Speaker 1: think he's gay, but this is going too far from

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01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:12,240
Speaker 1: my liking and I am beyond uncomfortable. I don't want

1300
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,640
Speaker 1: to shame him, but this is too much. This only

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01:03:14,720 --> 01:03:19,200
Speaker 1: happens also daring drunk sex, very confused plus turned completely

1302
01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:21,880
Speaker 1: off any advice. Sounds like it only happens when he's

1303
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 1: drunk because he's too worried about telling you because you're

1304
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 1: gonna act like this, Yeah, I mean the end of

1305
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 1: the day. It's like women have multiple ways of orgasm

1306
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:31,960
Speaker 1: ng some men. I don't know if it's the exact equivalent,

1307
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:35,400
Speaker 1: but like, of course twin to the clitterist is the

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01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:37,800
Speaker 1: penis head and the anatomicals win to the g spot

1309
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:42,240
Speaker 1: is the prostate. And so men who have prostate orgasms

1310
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 1: will say, like, I don't orgasm from penetration, but men

1311
01:03:45,640 --> 01:03:48,480
Speaker 1: who have prostate orgasms, like, every dude needs to get

1312
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:50,320
Speaker 1: fucked in the ask, it's the most incredible thing in

1313
01:03:50,360 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 1: the world. And so for him, this guy has the

1314
01:03:53,400 --> 01:03:56,960
Speaker 1: ability to get orgasms from annual penetration. The question the

1315
01:03:57,080 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 1: question that I wanted doing it with you, but but

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01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 1: the question that I want to derive from this was

1317
01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 1: for our listeners who have been in long term relationships.

1318
01:04:05,280 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 1: When you're with someone and you meet them there one

1319
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:09,480
Speaker 1: way and now they've been together, they're now married, and

1320
01:04:09,560 --> 01:04:12,120
Speaker 1: now he's wanting to try something different, how does that

1321
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:14,919
Speaker 1: conversation go when your partner is wanting to try something

1322
01:04:14,960 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 1: that we're just I would hate to have. Yeah, be

1323
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:21,440
Speaker 1: grateful that he's open for that, and also to like

1324
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 1: don't do that sex negative shaming ship. I know, the

1325
01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:26,880
Speaker 1: whole automatically going to thinking, I know he's not gay,

1326
01:04:27,000 --> 01:04:28,960
Speaker 1: So girl, why you said it? Yeah? Why did you

1327
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:31,439
Speaker 1: say it's can? I be honest? Why I believe she's

1328
01:04:31,480 --> 01:04:34,480
Speaker 1: uncomfortable and saying it's too much is because she feels

1329
01:04:34,480 --> 01:04:42,240
Speaker 1: like he's gay. Women have almost a worse like homophobic shaming. Well,

1330
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 1: it's still a cultural perpetuation, like when amber Rose came

1331
01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 1: out with Kanye, Like that was the same thing that

1332
01:04:46,360 --> 01:04:48,840
Speaker 1: we did, so we still that happened in that movie

1333
01:04:48,920 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 1: recently with Chris Rock, right when the guy was getting

1334
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 1: like tampons in the ass and it's this big joke.

1335
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:55,640
Speaker 1: It's like, it's not funny. It's just a way of

1336
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:58,240
Speaker 1: experiencing pleasure. It's not funny, it's not I mean, it's

1337
01:04:58,280 --> 01:05:00,160
Speaker 1: just like it's a way of experiencing pleasure. It's a

1338
01:05:00,240 --> 01:05:02,760
Speaker 1: valid form. You like, probably can you can you stop

1339
01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:04,680
Speaker 1: talking now? Because you sound like my text messages to

1340
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:06,840
Speaker 1: these niggas, and I don't want them thinking, you know,

1341
01:05:07,080 --> 01:05:08,800
Speaker 1: I mean, this is what I'd be telling these things,

1342
01:05:08,960 --> 01:05:10,760
Speaker 1: like listen, it's okay, I don't think you're gay, Like,

1343
01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 1: let me just play with that. Basically, girl, stop sing?

1344
01:05:12,920 --> 01:05:14,600
Speaker 1: Do you and Jared have three simms or what? Look?

1345
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:20,400
Speaker 1: See here we go? Are your options more like separate

1346
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:23,240
Speaker 1: or linked together? We talked about this that like, I

1347
01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:25,400
Speaker 1: don't think that the reason why we are attracted to

1348
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:28,520
Speaker 1: the open concept is because we want to do all

1349
01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 1: things together, because for me, it's just like, for example,

1350
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 1: for this girl, for example, she really hated the whole

1351
01:05:33,360 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 1: anal thing. There's a bunch of communities that just focus

1352
01:05:35,440 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 1: on that fisting itself is like a fetish alone, and

1353
01:05:38,560 --> 01:05:41,680
Speaker 1: weould be at her fists and pussies. She's fisting. I

1354
01:05:41,760 --> 01:05:44,439
Speaker 1: put three fingers in four. You said, your whole hand

1355
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:46,880
Speaker 1: was like this anal fisters And so there's kind of

1356
01:05:47,920 --> 01:05:50,160
Speaker 1: how she'd just been taking away these stories because she

1357
01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 1: really mist It was just like you know, and then

1358
01:05:55,120 --> 01:05:56,439
Speaker 1: she was like, give me another one, and then there's

1359
01:05:56,440 --> 01:05:58,920
Speaker 1: another one, and I was like, her whole hand was

1360
01:05:58,960 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 1: in the pussy. I didn't, I mean, but it was

1361
01:06:02,680 --> 01:06:06,080
Speaker 1: like this type of fisting, bitch, it was still the fistle.

1362
01:06:06,440 --> 01:06:09,160
Speaker 1: Were you there? Man? You said you told us. I

1363
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 1: told you, look, we gotta get the sound. Give July

1364
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Speaker 1: is mom for editing, and it ain't happen. Oh, this

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Speaker 1: goes July one, therefore it's technically a June edit. I

1366
01:06:19,920 --> 01:06:24,600
Speaker 1: got this. Uh no, But before we get out of here, Shan,

1367
01:06:24,880 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 1: where can they find you? When does your book drop?

1368
01:06:27,520 --> 01:06:30,360
Speaker 1: What's the website? And where can they take the personality quizzes?

1369
01:06:30,440 --> 01:06:33,920
Speaker 1: Let's favorite If you go to the game of Desire

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Speaker 1: dot com slash, let's go, that's the commitment quizzes there.

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Speaker 1: Pre order is there, and also you have to submit

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Speaker 1: proof of purchase order to get a bunch of other

1373
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Speaker 1: cool perks. I have my podcast. You can get first

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Speaker 1: paging pages of the book. You can get a phone

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01:06:46,600 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: call for me. You can get a one hour session

1376
01:06:48,400 --> 01:06:50,560
Speaker 1: with me. You can also get a vibrating necklace depending

1377
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Speaker 1: on how many books you order. What is vibrating? Oh,

1378
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Speaker 1: vibrate in my bag for you today? Oh damn, you

1379
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:02,360
Speaker 1: ain't throw able to Also um, if you guys, just

1380
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:05,120
Speaker 1: don't remember that all of that information is going to

1381
01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 1: be in the description of this episode as well as

1382
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:09,680
Speaker 1: if you just go and I'm just gonna shout it

1383
01:07:09,680 --> 01:07:12,400
Speaker 1: out because I'll be on air scrolling lesson um Shan

1384
01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:15,600
Speaker 1: booty on Instagram. It's in her bio, which is where

1385
01:07:18,440 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 1: this time. This is the time. But we would never

1386
01:07:20,920 --> 01:07:22,800
Speaker 1: have a three sim so you gotta have a step No, okay,

1387
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 1: you guysn't even join hands just now? Was here I

1388
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:31,840
Speaker 1: felt that? Yeah that's funny. It's funny. Hey expert, Hey,

1389
01:07:32,600 --> 01:07:35,360
Speaker 1: we do not be You are not going to therapist

1390
01:07:35,480 --> 01:07:38,920
Speaker 1: us right now? Okay? Actually that would be a great secondary.

1391
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Speaker 1: How about people have been asking for a therapy episode,

1392
01:07:42,320 --> 01:07:43,760
Speaker 1: didn't you? But I don't want it to be like real,

1393
01:07:43,920 --> 01:07:46,960
Speaker 1: like I wanted to be a softer more. You don't

1394
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,600
Speaker 1: get soft when we really get to talking, bitch, it

1395
01:07:49,680 --> 01:07:53,280
Speaker 1: gets loud. I don't want that. I want like, how

1396
01:07:53,320 --> 01:07:56,200
Speaker 1: do you think you can improve? Like congratulate each other

1397
01:07:56,400 --> 01:07:58,160
Speaker 1: on like something you're proud of that the other one

1398
01:07:58,240 --> 01:08:05,800
Speaker 1: is doing differently. I'm bored already. Anyway, Is there anything else? Again?

1399
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Speaker 1: When does your plug your ship? Bro? July? And I

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Speaker 1: will say I will do for anybody who pre orders

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Speaker 1: before July if you put in the promo code horror,

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Speaker 1: but I will give you an extra book. Yeah I

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Speaker 1: bought type it in No, in real life, for real,

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Speaker 1: this is what you have to get again. I'm also

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Speaker 1: going to read the book because I'm currently dating, so

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Speaker 1: I want to be dominant in my dating life and

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Speaker 1: I'm taking short all all the things. Okay, yes, do yes,

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Speaker 1: thank you? So you don't like reading, you want to

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Speaker 1: just listen? Just just trying to be shady. I do

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Speaker 1: like your voice. Well, I am super glad. Again, before

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Speaker 1: we like right by Times Square, So technically I don't

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Speaker 1: want you to trying to have You're right, yeah, because

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Speaker 1: So thanks um and huge, huge shut up. Don't do me,

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Speaker 1: broker is a word technique. I mean, we'll broker, I

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Speaker 1: mean whatever, It's a word. Maybe not what I'm trying

1428
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Speaker 1: to say, because we're not we're not talking about real estate,

1429
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Speaker 1: person who buys and sells good their assets? Not what

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Speaker 1: the That's what I say. It's still a word. Technically,

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Speaker 1: I was still right. It's still a word. Um. But yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions. We want to give a huge shot out

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Speaker 1: just got off of work in my forehead pilling. This

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Speaker 1: ain't you, But okay, we can do it. Uh but yeah,

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Speaker 1: we want to thank you guys again um for tuning in,

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Speaker 1: and before we get out of here, you guys will

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