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Speaker 1: Thank you, nep you subject the motion of the Ocean.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I caught my husband on the phone

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Speaker 1: with a female reminiscing about the sex they had earlier

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Speaker 1: that day. I tried to control my laughter so he

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Speaker 1: wouldn't hear me. I was cracking up inside because the

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Speaker 1: girl was talking about how he put it down and

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Speaker 1: it was the best she had in a long time.

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Speaker 1: She sounded young, so I wondered how many men she'd

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Speaker 1: been with. I was very relieved to hear that they

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Speaker 1: used protection. Yet I sat on the floor in the

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Speaker 1: of it. It was a FaceTime call, but I couldn't

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Speaker 1: see her face. I made it my mission to find

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Speaker 1: out who the lady was. I got her number from

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Speaker 1: his phone, and I FaceTime her from his phone when

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Speaker 1: he was asleep. She was shocked to see me. I

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Speaker 1: showed her how he looks asleep, lying there, fat and naked.

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Speaker 1: She opened up and told me everything and apologized. I

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Speaker 1: asked why she lied to him about his performance, because

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Speaker 1: it's only going to make him cheat even more. She says,

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Speaker 1: it's not the size for her, but it's the motion

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Speaker 1: of the ocean that has her turned on. I knew

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Speaker 1: that she was lying about that too, and then she

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Speaker 1: really opened up and told me that my husband pays

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Speaker 1: her for sex. What kind of marriage is this where

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Speaker 1: he's not just cheating on me, he's paying for it.

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Speaker 1: I can get past the cheating, but he has given

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Speaker 1: this woman close to two thousand dollars from our family's

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Speaker 1: pot of gold. I am finally ready to tell my

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Speaker 1: husband to get out, but the lady has stopped cooperating

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Speaker 1: with me. I guess the motion of the ocean is

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Speaker 1: better to her than doing what's right. Should I file

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Speaker 1: for divorce or tell him I know everything and see

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Speaker 1: what he has to say for himself. What is it

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Speaker 1: that you that you want him to say? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you have all the evidence you need to make a

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Speaker 1: rational decision. I agree with you that cheating is bad enough,

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Speaker 1: but yes, your husband is taking your family's money, your money,

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Speaker 1: money that you've worked for, and paying another woman for sex.

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Speaker 1: I mean he's violated so many marital rules. Then you

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Speaker 1: ask the question, should you file for divorce or let

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Speaker 1: him know that you know everything and see what he

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Speaker 1: has to say for himself. Sounds a little code like

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Speaker 1: you really don't want to divorce him or something, because

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Speaker 1: if you want out, I mean you're laughing, you know,

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Speaker 1: when you hear him talking about having sex with another woman,

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Speaker 1: you don't have to have to ask Steve and I

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Speaker 1: what to do. I mean, anyway, your husband already knows,

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Speaker 1: you know, the young girl told him everything. So does

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Speaker 1: it really matter what he says at this point? I mean,

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Speaker 1: once you file divorce papers. If you file, he'll have

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Speaker 1: a lot to say then for sure, and he'll start

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Speaker 1: with buy Steve.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I don't even know how the letter is titled

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Speaker 2: the Motion of the Ocean. I don't know what they

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Speaker 2: got to do with it, but I guess she tried

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Speaker 2: to make a point of it. I caught my husband

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Speaker 2: on the phone with a female. Now that right there,

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Speaker 2: that right there alone would be so damn detrimental. They

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Speaker 2: I had to control my laughter so he wouldn't hear me.

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Speaker 2: so I wondered how many men she been with. I

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Speaker 2: was very relieved to hear that they used protection. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I don't even understand this. This is how you reacted

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Speaker 2: the phone facetim and this was your reaction. You sat

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Speaker 2: in the flow laughing. Ain't but one thing obvious to me.

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Speaker 2: You don't give a damn about this man right here.

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Speaker 2: You stop caring about what he thought, said or felt

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Speaker 2: a long time ago. You hear they having sex and

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Speaker 2: you sitting in the floor laughing. Ha ha he yeah,

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Speaker 2: most women would have toe that damn doe down. It

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Speaker 2: would have been some hell to pay man anyway. I

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Speaker 2: guess you just don't care about the man anyway. But

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Speaker 2: mission to find out who this lady was. Now we talking. See,

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Speaker 2: Now this is how normal people react to their spouse.

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Speaker 2: Cheek okay. I got her number from his phone and

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Speaker 2: I face timed her from his phone when he was asleep.

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Speaker 2: She was shocked to see me. I showed her how

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Speaker 2: he looks asleep, laying that fat and naked.

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Speaker 1: God damp, oh God.

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Speaker 2: Then she opened up and told me everything and apologized what.

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Speaker 2: I asked her why she lied to him about his performing,

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Speaker 2: because it's only gonna make him cheat even more. She said,

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Speaker 2: it ain't the size for her, but it's the motion

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Speaker 2: she was lying about that too, and she really opened

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Speaker 2: up and told me that my husband pays her for sex.

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Speaker 2: You done had this whole conversation. Then guess what this

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Speaker 2: lady said? What kind of marriage is this? Well, he's

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Speaker 2: not just cheating on me? He's paying for it. You

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Speaker 2: got to get a side piece, some money. This has

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Speaker 2: how this worked, That's really what is you shocked about?

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Speaker 2: You shocked that he paying her money two thousand from

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Speaker 2: our family pot of gold.

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Speaker 1: I hang on, Steve, I know this letter right here.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how to help.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour of today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: subject the motion of the Ocean. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening morning show. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: here we go with this letter. Let's recap. All right,

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Speaker 1: let's all right.

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Speaker 2: Lady just been married to this man. She found out

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Speaker 2: she was cheating up. He was cheating on her because

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Speaker 2: she overheard a conversation he was having on the phone

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Speaker 2: with a girl he had just had sex with earlier

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Speaker 2: that day, and they were going over how it was.

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Speaker 2: The woman was listening to this sitting on the floor,

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Speaker 2: and was laughing at the whole thing because she thought

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Speaker 2: he ain't that good, and it was funny to her.

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Speaker 2: And but now they was facetiming, so she couldn't see.

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Speaker 2: So she made it her mission to find out who

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Speaker 2: she picked up his phone called the girl. The girl

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Speaker 2: laying the fat and naked and asleep, and then asked

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Speaker 2: her why she cheated with her husband, he said, She said,

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Speaker 2: it ain't the size, it's the motion of the ocean

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Speaker 2: the line too. So then the girl went on and

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Speaker 2: apologized and everything. But then they kept talking and the

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Speaker 2: girl finally informed the wife that he pays her for sex.

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Speaker 2: Now he would have let it get real interested, she says,

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Speaker 2: opened up and told me that her husband pays for sex.

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Speaker 2: What kind of marriage is this? Well, he's not just

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Speaker 2: cheating on me, he's paying for it. That's the part.

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Speaker 2: That's the part. You don't think the side he's supposed

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Speaker 2: to get, no, nothing, just and but it don't stop there.

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Speaker 2: Her next line was I can get past the cheating. Okay,

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Speaker 2: that's a good one. Right here, This is a good

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Speaker 2: wife right here, laughing when she found out about it,

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Speaker 2: sitting in the floor cracking up. And now she say

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Speaker 2: I can get past the sheat Really that's a new one.

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Speaker 2: But he has given this woman close to two thousand

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Speaker 2: from our family pot of gold. Now I'm finally ready

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Speaker 2: to tell my husband to get out, but the lady

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Speaker 2: has stopped cooperating with me. What you say you're close

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Speaker 2: to ready to telling your husband to get out, but

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Speaker 2: the lady has stopped cooperating with me? How much more

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Speaker 2: damn cooperation you need?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 2: What do you think she gonna make a good witness?

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Speaker 2: I mean, the lady doesn't stop cooperating. What they got

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Speaker 2: to do with anything? You ain't heard? You heard the conversation.

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Speaker 2: You the facetimed the woman. You know who she is.

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Speaker 2: She thene told you everything, and now she didn't told

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Speaker 2: you that your husband two thousand. You thinking about leaving,

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Speaker 2: But the girl doesn't stop cooperating with me, And Shirley

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Speaker 2: said it best. The young girl then told your husband

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Speaker 2: that he got a call from you. You can believe

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Speaker 2: that he on pins and needle. He can't believe me.

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Speaker 2: They saw so guess what he doing. He ain't saying nothing.

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Speaker 2: He just said the house scared to death. He's scared

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Speaker 2: to death. The fact that she said, I guess the

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Speaker 2: motion of the ocean is better to her than doing

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Speaker 2: what's right. Should I file for divorce or tell him

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Speaker 2: I know everything? He already know you know everything? See

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Speaker 2: here the crazy part in this letter. She know the

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Speaker 2: dude was cheating. She done talked to the girl that

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Speaker 2: he was cheating with. She done facetimed the girl. The

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Speaker 2: girl on the FaceTime he saw, she saw who the

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Speaker 2: in the bed while they discussed him. Wow, everybody, And

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Speaker 2: then the young girl hung up. And the next day

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Speaker 2: you better believe she called him and said, guess who

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Speaker 2: called me? Now he going simply you're wife, as she facetiming,

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Speaker 2: and she showed me you laying in the bedsleep nicked.

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Speaker 2: And I told her everything? What you told her? What?

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Speaker 2: Because right now he trying to figure out how he

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Speaker 2: gonna just weave the part that he don't even know her.

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Speaker 2: But now they done face timed and talked, so now

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Speaker 2: that I don't even know her what you told her? What?

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Speaker 2: I told her everything? What you mean you told her everything?

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Speaker 2: I told her that you paid for it. Do you

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Speaker 2: know this man ain't getting no sleep? So now she's saying,

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Speaker 2: everything and see what he has to say for himself. Lady,

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Speaker 2: that's gonna be the most uninteresting conversation you've ever had,

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Speaker 2: because you already know all the facts. Shirley's right, you're

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Speaker 2: not going nowhere because you done created any excuse as

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Speaker 2: to why you can't go. I don't know where because

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Speaker 2: you say the girl don't stop cooperating with you. I

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Speaker 2: don't know what they got to do with anything, what

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Speaker 2: that got to do with the price or rice. But

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Speaker 2: if that's your excuse for staying with him, then just

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Speaker 2: stay with your husband. You already said you can get

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Speaker 2: past the cheating. If you can get past the cheating,

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Speaker 2: you can get past the two thousand dollars. All he

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Speaker 2: gotta do is put it back. You the most go

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Speaker 2: long way person I don't ever met. I don't even

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Speaker 2: You like fat boy. Everybody else like fat Boy, So

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Speaker 2: have a real marriage. You think him sleeping with this

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Speaker 2: other girl's funny. Yeah, this letter is confusing.

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Speaker 1: It is he did you care?

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Speaker 2: You don't care.

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Speaker 1: I don't think she cares.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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