WEBVTT - Finally! A Show About an 83 Year Old Calendar Girl

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Jean.

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<v Speaker 3>It's five point thirty and the morning I just woke

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<v Speaker 3>up and I am getting ready to go out and

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<v Speaker 3>make some coffee, spend an hour either you know, catching

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<v Speaker 3>up on the news for the day or coming into

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<v Speaker 3>my office and doing a little bit of work. And

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<v Speaker 3>then Mike gets up at six point thirty and we

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<v Speaker 3>light our candles in the living room. It's very dark

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<v Speaker 3>here in Minneapolis when we get up and we light

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<v Speaker 3>our candles and talk and have coffee, and then we

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<v Speaker 3>meditate together.

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<v Speaker 4>This is finally a show about an eighty three year

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<v Speaker 4>old pin up. Jeane Ketchum lives in Minnesota and is

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<v Speaker 4>the co founder of Aging But Dangerous.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no age limit on living your best life. Jane Ketcham,

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<v Speaker 2>founder of Aging but Dangerous.

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<v Speaker 5>Joins us happy to have our next guest on the show.

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<v Speaker 5>Her name is Jeane Ketchum, co founder of Aging but Dangerous.

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<v Speaker 2>Aging the Dangerous is an organization of women that share stories,

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<v Speaker 2>that do things together and during covid became an online

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<v Speaker 2>business here in Minneapolis, and we just try to get information.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very important to get information to women and talk

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<v Speaker 2>about things that are taboo, you know, like fecal incontinence.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifteen years ago women, it was totally different than women today.

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<v Speaker 2>At fifty years old. Fifteen years ago women they're empty

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<v Speaker 2>nesters because they were having babies earlier than they do now,

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<v Speaker 2>and so they were just traumatized about turning fifty. Susanna

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<v Speaker 2>and I I was sixty nine. Suzanne she was sixty one,

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<v Speaker 2>and she and I both have been really movers and shakers,

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<v Speaker 2>so I mean, they just didn't want to do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>She and I decided that we were going to just

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<v Speaker 2>get them out off the sofa and doing things, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's what we did, and we just have We affected

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<v Speaker 2>huge amounts of people. We started out with the big

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<v Speaker 2>fashion show, dispelling the myths of fashion. Back then, they

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<v Speaker 2>were writing all these books and all these articles on

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<v Speaker 2>women and how you should wear your skirt a certain

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<v Speaker 2>length and you should wear a certain pink lipstick. And

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<v Speaker 2>I just went crazy. So we did that. We had

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<v Speaker 2>five hundred women. I mean, it was like so successful,

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<v Speaker 2>so fabulous. And then after that we did Martini Skydive,

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<v Speaker 2>which I'm skydiver, and I skydived at sixty with my

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<v Speaker 2>ninety one year old dad. And then Suzanne said, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you got a skydive again, and I said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so we can get people. And I said, I am

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<v Speaker 2>not going to do it. Just for aging, but dangerous.

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<v Speaker 2>But then one morning I got up one night and

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<v Speaker 2>I got on the internet and I saw this seventy

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<v Speaker 2>year old woman jumping out of a plane and it

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<v Speaker 2>showed her going to and I'm like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>my heart started pounding, and I thought, so I called

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<v Speaker 2>Suzanna about four o'clock in the morning, I said, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do it. Well, I am not kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>There were We got one hundred and seven women all

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<v Speaker 2>jumping out of an airplane from eight o'clock in the

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<v Speaker 2>morning to eight o'clock at night. One hundred and seven.

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<v Speaker 2>I went on a TV. I went on one of

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<v Speaker 2>the local TV stations on Saturday morning, and I came

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<v Speaker 2>home and I swear to you, and this is so true.

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<v Speaker 2>I had one hundred email from women that want to skydive.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm tired of looking at that picture, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Picture in the Star Tribune Variety section with me and

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<v Speaker 2>nude eight by eight picture on the front page of

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<v Speaker 2>Variety in the Star Tribute of Minneapolis. Let's say I

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<v Speaker 2>don't get mortified or anything, but I do get a

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<v Speaker 2>little I am a little uncomfortable with that.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, do we have a calendar?

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<v Speaker 1>I eat a calendar. I don't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>Mary.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me just show it to you.

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<v Speaker 2>This is our tastefully nude calendar. I really want people

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<v Speaker 2>to see the purpose of this calendar and what it

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<v Speaker 2>stands for. This is having fun. This is showing your

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<v Speaker 2>spirit and style. It's women being authentic and being themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, I always say it's not about the body,

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<v Speaker 2>it's about the attitude. Well, this picture is I'm leaning

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<v Speaker 2>on a bar and I've got cocktail bar like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>with a drape behind me, and then I've got this

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<v Speaker 2>really oversized martini class. I love martinis and this is

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<v Speaker 2>such a great prop. I've got my big honk and

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<v Speaker 2>huge martini glass, and then I've got my jewelry because

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<v Speaker 2>i love jewelry, and I'm leaning on the bar. My

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<v Speaker 2>arm is across my boobs, but you can still kind

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<v Speaker 2>of see the boob. You can see the top of

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<v Speaker 2>the boobs, and my little, you know, fat back is

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<v Speaker 2>in the back.

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<v Speaker 1>That's me.

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<v Speaker 2>I love aging. Being in my eighties is so much fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Meeting new people and learning new things. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>make it until i'm a hundred because I have people

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<v Speaker 2>to meet and things to do. You know, Face got

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<v Speaker 2>stage four colon cancer and she's really doing well. And

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<v Speaker 2>I really she's the only one I had to really

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<v Speaker 2>convince to be in the calendar, because she said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I don't feel like I just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>getting like you know, things are just happening. And I said, Faye,

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<v Speaker 2>she's always been very feisty. And I said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've known her a long time, and I said, Fae,

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<v Speaker 2>you have this is going to be such a good

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<v Speaker 2>legacy for your family. She's got a daughter, she's got granddaughters,

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<v Speaker 2>she's got great granddaughters. And so she came that morning.

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<v Speaker 2>She was feeling really good, and when we had the

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<v Speaker 2>shoot and she she just looked fabulous and she's so

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<v Speaker 2>glad she did it now, and this is Gail, she is.

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<v Speaker 2>She wrote the most fabulous piece. She said, Hygiene, I

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<v Speaker 2>saw that you intend to create a tastefully new calendar.

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<v Speaker 2>And for reasons I cannot explain, I think I would

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<v Speaker 2>like to be considered as one of the women. I've

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<v Speaker 2>never considered myself a beautiful woman, but that's the point.

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<v Speaker 2>You can feel beautiful in your skin despite cultural pressures.

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<v Speaker 2>So here I am at sixty four cellu light dancing

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<v Speaker 2>on my thighs, skin stretched to remind me of the

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<v Speaker 2>babies once cradled within, thinking, of course, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>show people that beauty isn't necessarily a look, but an attitude.

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<v Speaker 2>Gives me cold chills every time I read that. So here,

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<v Speaker 2>she is this beautiful little thing. You can just see

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<v Speaker 2>her spirit in this picture. She's sitting on the floor,

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<v Speaker 2>her legs are crossed, her arm is across her boobs,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's listening to some music and looking up at

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<v Speaker 2>the sky. I mean, she's just so such a beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>soul and always come.

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<v Speaker 1>In a light my little candle.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wait, okay wait, I got to get my clips

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<v Speaker 2>I use for moisturizer. I just used this nut Regina

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<v Speaker 2>Invisible Daily Defense for thirty. It goes really well under

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<v Speaker 2>this makeup. You have to be kind of careful to

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<v Speaker 2>not get fun thing with silicon in well. I grew

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<v Speaker 2>up in a small town in Kansas. Went for Kansas

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<v Speaker 2>and my dad delivered bread in that town. My mother,

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<v Speaker 2>as you can imagine, was not very happy about me

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<v Speaker 2>coming because my brother is eleven months apart. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>so that means she got pregnant like what two months

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<v Speaker 2>or a month after.

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<v Speaker 1>My brother was born.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it was like so she was not happy

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<v Speaker 2>and I was not her favorite child. I I knew

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<v Speaker 2>at a very early age, at nine years old, in

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<v Speaker 2>third grade, that my mother was not going to be

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<v Speaker 2>able to take care of me emotionally. And I knew

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<v Speaker 2>I just had to be strong. And I started my

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<v Speaker 2>period in third grade because I'd had an appendectomy and

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<v Speaker 2>the doctor said that it was you know, i'd probably

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<v Speaker 2>start my period early. So I'm sitting on the stool

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<v Speaker 2>and this blo's coming out and yell to my mother,

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<v Speaker 2>come here.

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<v Speaker 1>She saw it.

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<v Speaker 2>She went screaming out of the house over across the

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<v Speaker 2>street to her sister, Maxine. Maxine, come here, come here,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. And so they find and I'm sitting there

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<v Speaker 2>on the stool and I'm thinking, good lord.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't ever remember being upset with my mother or

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<v Speaker 2>but I would lose my patience with her, you know

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of times. But I thought, where's the kotex?

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's a tr us the bathroom to the

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<v Speaker 2>and that was a big bathroom. But if I go

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<v Speaker 2>over there and get the cotext, so I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>dripping blood everywhere. So you know, I'm just gonna sit

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<v Speaker 2>here until she comes back. So they came back and

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<v Speaker 2>they're saying, they're wringing their hands. They said, mother, would

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<v Speaker 2>you please go get the cotext. So she's got the

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<v Speaker 2>cotext and everything. But that incident, and I know that

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<v Speaker 2>sounds weird, but that one incident made me realize that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm in this alone because I didn't talk

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<v Speaker 2>to my brother about stuff like that. I watch a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of videos and makeup, and a lot of young

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<v Speaker 2>women say, this is a cream makeup. No, no, a

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<v Speaker 2>cream makeup. It does not go into the wrinkles and

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<v Speaker 2>that's what makes it so good. And then I come

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<v Speaker 2>along and say, a cream makeup is good because it

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<v Speaker 2>does go into the wrinkles.

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<v Speaker 1>So I say just the opposite.

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<v Speaker 2>I just like, you know, I just I just get

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<v Speaker 2>into a teaching mode. I don't know, I really I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know why. I really don't know why that I

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<v Speaker 2>think I have to help women age, you know, And

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<v Speaker 2>that's the way I mean in high school, they would

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<v Speaker 2>be lined up outside the house and I'd be down

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<v Speaker 2>the base and mother would want them come in at

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<v Speaker 2>a time to talk to me. I always have been

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<v Speaker 2>like that, and it's just it just has developed more

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<v Speaker 2>and more just helping women, helping women get over their

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<v Speaker 2>you know, insecurities.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where that came from, but.

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to help my friend, and I just

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to help women get out of their ruts. My

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<v Speaker 2>whole living mantra, if you don't like the way your

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<v Speaker 2>life's going, then do something about it. Life is so

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<v Speaker 2>much fun when you are who you are and you're not.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have the don't have to use the energy

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<v Speaker 2>to try to be something else or something that you're not,

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<v Speaker 2>because that takes so much energy, and that's just I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to spend all that energy doing that. And

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<v Speaker 2>then plus I have a husband that's so easy. That's

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<v Speaker 2>not always you know, it doesn't always happen to women,

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<v Speaker 2>but they still need to try to try to be

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<v Speaker 2>their own person and not dress for their husband or

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<v Speaker 2>do things for their husband that they don't want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, I tell you I was one of my

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<v Speaker 2>good friends. This is quite This is years ago. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like fifty years ago, and she said she was so

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<v Speaker 2>upset because she was a real caretaker for her husband

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<v Speaker 2>and her kids were off, you know. But she said,

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<v Speaker 2>if I have to match up one more pair of

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<v Speaker 2>socks for him, I am going to start screaming. And

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<v Speaker 2>I said, then, don't do it. And she said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how I cannot do it. And I said,

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<v Speaker 2>you can just not do it. Tell him he can

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<v Speaker 2>match up his own damn socks. You know, it's like this,

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<v Speaker 2>don't do whatever, you you know. And then I was

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<v Speaker 2>at Thanksgiving dinner with him one year and she worked

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<v Speaker 2>so hard to get all this dinner on the table,

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<v Speaker 2>and all be darn, we're sitting down there, and he

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<v Speaker 2>looks up at her and he said, get me a

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<v Speaker 2>you know, give me a glass of water. I looked

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<v Speaker 2>over at him and I said, you get up and

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<v Speaker 2>get your own damn water. She has worked all morning

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<v Speaker 2>getting this Thanksgiving dinner together, and you can get your

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<v Speaker 2>own water. And he looked over at me and just glared.

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<v Speaker 2>And she just jumped up and went and got his water.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, see that, when you do things like that,

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<v Speaker 2>that is what makes and I talk about women, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>men probably the same. But that is what makes you

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<v Speaker 2>a cranky old person when you start aging, because you

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<v Speaker 2>have spent your life doing things that you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to do. So you just stop it and don't do

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<v Speaker 2>it anymore. If you don't want to match socks, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't match socks. It's as simple as that, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>The most important thing I think is I use this

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<v Speaker 2>mac color and plum to outline it. Really it makes

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<v Speaker 2>a huge difference. It's makes your lips look fuller, and

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<v Speaker 2>I really stress that. So it's back to that feeling

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<v Speaker 2>good about yourself. It does take energy, but I find

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<v Speaker 2>that the older I get, the more important it seems

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<v Speaker 2>to me to get this out. That's why my next

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<v Speaker 2>step is about vibrators. We are going to Smitt and Kitten,

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<v Speaker 2>which is a sex shop here in Minneapolis, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>the best one, and honestly, because I want to check

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<v Speaker 2>out vibrators for women. I want to get one that's

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<v Speaker 2>good for a beginner woman. But women don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>to do. I've got to help them. It's like I

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<v Speaker 2>have to help them with I don't have to help them.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to help women as they're aging and just

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<v Speaker 2>let them know it's okay. It's okay for that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>for it to be you know, to use a vibrator.

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<v Speaker 2>And I want to go into the health part of vibrators,

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<v Speaker 2>the health issues of vibrators. They help with urinary in continence,

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<v Speaker 2>they help the pelvic floor, and plus they give you pleasure.

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<v Speaker 2>And there it's a taboo subject. It's embarrassing. It's an

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<v Speaker 2>embarrassing subject. We have our families and our kids and

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<v Speaker 2>our husbands and all these people, but when it comes

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<v Speaker 2>right down to it, it's up to you, kiddo. I've

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<v Speaker 2>said these things for so many years that I really

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<v Speaker 2>get tired of hearing myself talk. And I really do.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like, for some reason, it seems to be

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<v Speaker 2>important for me to tell my message.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 6>My name is Dianna. I'm the store manager.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I am going to go on stage. I'm writing

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<v Speaker 2>a book and I'm going to be on stage speaking

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to speak about vibrators. And so what

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do is it's a topic that is

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<v Speaker 2>still taboo, especially for older women, and so I want

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<v Speaker 2>to try to get them more comfortable with the subject.

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<v Speaker 2>And that.

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<v Speaker 1>Is what I'm here about.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't it just terrible that it's still so taboo when

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<v Speaker 2>it's just normal.

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<v Speaker 6>I like to what analogy I like to use with

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<v Speaker 6>someone that's visiting our shop and that's very nervous about

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<v Speaker 6>shopping for vibrators.

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<v Speaker 4>I like to compare it to.

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<v Speaker 6>The massage chair at an al salon. It'll work out

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<v Speaker 6>any kinks or any tension in the back. It will

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<v Speaker 6>help you relax. And there's so many settings there are

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<v Speaker 6>like base like settings like the thumping feature or something

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<v Speaker 6>more more surface level, like just simple vibration, and the

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<v Speaker 6>same thing. It applies for these types of products. It's

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<v Speaker 6>just what setting do you respond to.

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<v Speaker 2>Frankie and Grace they did a lot for the world

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<v Speaker 2>by having that, you know, they developed their own vibrator

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<v Speaker 2>and all that. I don't understand what the big fat

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<v Speaker 2>ones are, and there's really big and fat are those?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean what you don't put those inside of you?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you do? Some people like a penis.

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<v Speaker 6>Some people like a really nice full feeling and the

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<v Speaker 6>vaginal opening when aroused, it expands when you're old. It

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<v Speaker 6>is a case by case basis and what the body

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<v Speaker 6>responds to. But those larger ones, like there are some

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<v Speaker 6>people that they like a fuller feeling to stretch out

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<v Speaker 6>those muscles.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to go that that much, but I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to ask you there are a lot of women

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<v Speaker 2>that have never a lot of older women that have

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<v Speaker 2>never experienced a orgasm. I still say climax. I say climax,

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<v Speaker 2>and my friend said that is an old fashioned word.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody uses that anymore, so orgasm. But and I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's so sad.

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<v Speaker 6>There is an increase in older customers that come in look,

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<v Speaker 6>and a trend that I'm seeing is definitely an increase

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<v Speaker 6>in interest in external vibrators.

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<v Speaker 2>All my friends, it's the external I think that's what

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<v Speaker 2>everybody kind of want. I can't imagine and anybody wanting

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<v Speaker 2>to stick anything inside of them.

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<v Speaker 6>Now, well, let me show you a really great diagram.

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<v Speaker 2>Love diagram. And they have all kinds of stuff back

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<v Speaker 2>there that you know, if you're an broken hip, you know,

0:20:18.640 --> 0:20:21.760
<v Speaker 2>they have a slant thing that you can lay on to. Still,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, they have all kinds of stuff. I just

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<v Speaker 2>am so impressed. Well, you know, like, you know, just

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<v Speaker 2>different things. Of course, they can't go into that, and

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<v Speaker 2>they don't want sex games. I don't want to get

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<v Speaker 2>into any of the hardcore stuff. You see things like

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<v Speaker 2>it's like that rabbit. Everybody talks about the rabbit and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what that what that does, but it

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<v Speaker 2>seems complicated. I don't want anything complicated. See like these

0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:54.800
<v Speaker 2>big knobby things. Does that win inside? I mean, is

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<v Speaker 2>that supposed to be a penis?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, so if you see here it's kind of color coded.

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<v Speaker 2>My group just did a tastefully I just produced a

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<v Speaker 2>tastefully nude calendar. Yeah, and I, oh, did you about that?

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<v Speaker 2>And I always call this the vagina and one of

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<v Speaker 2>my friends says it's not. I always say, we covered

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<v Speaker 2>the vagina and the boobs, and she said, no, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not a vagina.

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<v Speaker 6>It's a the outside part what we see is called

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<v Speaker 6>the vulva.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's what she said.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm, vulva.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be darn all right, my darling show. It's some simple,

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<v Speaker 2>easy outer stimulation vibrators.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay. So here we have our internal stimulation shelf, and over.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we have I think those are scary looking.

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<v Speaker 6>This one here nice and slender. So vibrator just would

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<v Speaker 6>be nothing. I mean it has different settings, different intensities.

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<v Speaker 6>But you'll notice it's a very high frequency.

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<v Speaker 1>Vibrator.

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<v Speaker 6>So very buzzy is how we like to describe the sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Get it to the strongest frequency.

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<v Speaker 6>Sure, yeah, so this model in your hip pocket. Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>so this is meant to be pressed up against the body.

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<v Speaker 2>It has a nice Oh that's better. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>So this one is going to be one of the

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<v Speaker 6>more high end ones. It's the touch X by we

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<v Speaker 6>Vibe And if you feel this one, you'll notice it

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<v Speaker 6>has a nice amount of base to the vibration.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah but that's okay, So you just put this on

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<v Speaker 2>the the body. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know, but it just seems to me

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<v Speaker 2>like when you get older, you don't have quite the

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<v Speaker 2>it's harder to stimulate. Yeah, that's why I think that

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<v Speaker 2>they need a stronger one and a you know something

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<v Speaker 2>like that that gets right on the point.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, keep hearing about that magic wand. What is that?

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, magic Wand's right next to us.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, oh lord, oh see that is so scary it

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<v Speaker 2>will oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh good heavens. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well I'm gonna take some pic. Let's pick out

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<v Speaker 2>what you did?

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<v Speaker 1>You are a doll?

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<v Speaker 2>Can we take a picture? Yeah? Okay, thank you forgetting that,

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<v Speaker 2>No problem.

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<v Speaker 1>My granddaughters.

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<v Speaker 2>Take a picture, Grandma.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a very good job you did. That was like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I would say you come on stage.

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<v Speaker 4>Fr next week on Finally a show. Magic is real.

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<v Speaker 4>It's hard. Dreams are hard because you fail. You know

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<v Speaker 4>you fail.

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<v Speaker 2>I fail every fucking day.

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<v Speaker 5>I fail.

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<v Speaker 4>But you got to learn how to feel and be

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<v Speaker 4>okay with that.