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Speaker 1: Good morning.

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Speaker 2: This is Jean.

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Speaker 3: It's five point thirty and the morning I just woke

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Speaker 3: up and I am getting ready to go out and

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Speaker 3: make some coffee, spend an hour either you know, catching

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Speaker 3: up on the news for the day or coming into

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Speaker 3: my office and doing a little bit of work. And

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Speaker 3: then Mike gets up at six point thirty and we

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Speaker 3: light our candles in the living room. It's very dark

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Speaker 3: here in Minneapolis when we get up and we light

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Speaker 3: our candles and talk and have coffee, and then we

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Speaker 3: meditate together.

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Speaker 4: This is finally a show about an eighty three year

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Speaker 4: old pin up. Jeane Ketchum lives in Minnesota and is

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Speaker 4: the co founder of Aging But Dangerous.

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Speaker 2: There's no age limit on living your best life. Jane Ketcham,

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Speaker 2: founder of Aging but Dangerous.

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Speaker 5: Joins us happy to have our next guest on the show.

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Speaker 5: Her name is Jeane Ketchum, co founder of Aging but Dangerous.

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Speaker 2: Aging the Dangerous is an organization of women that share stories,

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Speaker 2: that do things together and during covid became an online

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Speaker 2: business here in Minneapolis, and we just try to get information.

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Speaker 2: It's very important to get information to women and talk

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Speaker 2: about things that are taboo, you know, like fecal incontinence.

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Speaker 2: Fifteen years ago women, it was totally different than women today.

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Speaker 2: At fifty years old. Fifteen years ago women they're empty

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Speaker 2: nesters because they were having babies earlier than they do now,

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Speaker 2: and so they were just traumatized about turning fifty. Susanna

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Speaker 2: and I I was sixty nine. Suzanne she was sixty one,

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Speaker 2: and she and I both have been really movers and shakers,

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Speaker 2: so I mean, they just didn't want to do anything.

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Speaker 2: She and I decided that we were going to just

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Speaker 2: get them out off the sofa and doing things, and

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Speaker 2: that's what we did, and we just have We affected

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Speaker 2: huge amounts of people. We started out with the big

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Speaker 2: fashion show, dispelling the myths of fashion. Back then, they

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Speaker 2: were writing all these books and all these articles on

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Speaker 2: women and how you should wear your skirt a certain

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Speaker 2: length and you should wear a certain pink lipstick. And

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Speaker 2: I just went crazy. So we did that. We had

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Speaker 2: five hundred women. I mean, it was like so successful,

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Speaker 2: so fabulous. And then after that we did Martini Skydive,

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Speaker 2: which I'm skydiver, and I skydived at sixty with my

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Speaker 2: ninety one year old dad. And then Suzanne said, okay,

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Speaker 2: you got a skydive again, and I said, you know,

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Speaker 2: so we can get people. And I said, I am

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Speaker 2: not going to do it. Just for aging, but dangerous.

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Speaker 2: But then one morning I got up one night and

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Speaker 2: I got on the internet and I saw this seventy

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Speaker 2: year old woman jumping out of a plane and it

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Speaker 2: showed her going to and I'm like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 2: my heart started pounding, and I thought, so I called

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Speaker 2: Suzanna about four o'clock in the morning, I said, okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to do it. Well, I am not kidding.

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Speaker 2: There were We got one hundred and seven women all

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Speaker 2: jumping out of an airplane from eight o'clock in the

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Speaker 2: morning to eight o'clock at night. One hundred and seven.

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Speaker 2: I went on a TV. I went on one of

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Speaker 2: the local TV stations on Saturday morning, and I came

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Speaker 2: home and I swear to you, and this is so true.

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Speaker 2: I had one hundred email from women that want to skydive.

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm tired of looking at that picture, the.

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Speaker 2: Picture in the Star Tribune Variety section with me and

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Speaker 2: nude eight by eight picture on the front page of

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Speaker 2: Variety in the Star Tribute of Minneapolis. Let's say I

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Speaker 2: don't get mortified or anything, but I do get a

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Speaker 2: little I am a little uncomfortable with that.

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Speaker 4: All right, do we have a calendar?

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Speaker 1: I eat a calendar. I don't see it.

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Speaker 2: Mary.

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Speaker 1: Let me just show it to you.

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Speaker 2: This is our tastefully nude calendar. I really want people

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Speaker 2: to see the purpose of this calendar and what it

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Speaker 2: stands for. This is having fun. This is showing your

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Speaker 2: spirit and style. It's women being authentic and being themselves.

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Speaker 2: Of course, I always say it's not about the body,

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Speaker 2: it's about the attitude. Well, this picture is I'm leaning

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Speaker 2: with a drape behind me, and then I've got this

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Speaker 2: really oversized martini class. I love martinis and this is

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Speaker 2: such a great prop. I've got my big honk and

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Speaker 2: huge martini glass, and then I've got my jewelry because

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Speaker 2: i love jewelry, and I'm leaning on the bar. My

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Speaker 2: arm is across my boobs, but you can still kind

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Speaker 2: of see the boob. You can see the top of

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Speaker 2: the boobs, and my little, you know, fat back is

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Speaker 1: That's me.

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Speaker 2: I love aging. Being in my eighties is so much fun.

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Speaker 2: Meeting new people and learning new things. I'm going to

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Speaker 2: make it until i'm a hundred because I have people

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Speaker 2: to meet and things to do. You know, Face got

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Speaker 2: stage four colon cancer and she's really doing well. And

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Speaker 2: I really she's the only one I had to really

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Speaker 2: convince to be in the calendar, because she said, oh,

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Speaker 2: you know, I don't feel like I just you know,

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Speaker 2: getting like you know, things are just happening. And I said, Faye,

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Speaker 2: you have this is going to be such a good

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Speaker 2: legacy for your family. She's got a daughter, she's got granddaughters,

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Speaker 2: she's got great granddaughters. And so she came that morning.

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Speaker 2: She was feeling really good, and when we had the

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Speaker 2: shoot and she she just looked fabulous and she's so

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Speaker 2: glad she did it now, and this is Gail, she is.

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Speaker 2: She wrote the most fabulous piece. She said, Hygiene, I

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Speaker 2: saw that you intend to create a tastefully new calendar.

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Speaker 2: And for reasons I cannot explain, I think I would

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Speaker 2: like to be considered as one of the women. I've

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Speaker 2: never considered myself a beautiful woman, but that's the point.

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Speaker 2: You can feel beautiful in your skin despite cultural pressures.

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Speaker 2: So here I am at sixty four cellu light dancing

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Speaker 2: on my thighs, skin stretched to remind me of the

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Speaker 2: babies once cradled within, thinking, of course, I want to

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Speaker 2: show people that beauty isn't necessarily a look, but an attitude.

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Speaker 2: Gives me cold chills every time I read that. So here,

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Speaker 2: she is this beautiful little thing. You can just see

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Speaker 2: her legs are crossed, her arm is across her boobs,

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Speaker 2: and she's listening to some music and looking up at

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Speaker 2: the sky. I mean, she's just so such a beautiful

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Speaker 2: soul and always come.

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Speaker 1: In a light my little candle.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, okay wait, I got to get my clips

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Speaker 2: I use for moisturizer. I just used this nut Regina

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Speaker 2: Invisible Daily Defense for thirty. It goes really well under

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Speaker 2: this makeup. You have to be kind of careful to

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Speaker 2: not get fun thing with silicon in well. I grew

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Speaker 2: up in a small town in Kansas. Went for Kansas

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Speaker 2: and my dad delivered bread in that town. My mother,

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Speaker 2: as you can imagine, was not very happy about me

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Speaker 2: coming because my brother is eleven months apart. I mean,

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Speaker 2: so that means she got pregnant like what two months

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Speaker 1: My brother was born.

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Speaker 2: I mean it was like so she was not happy

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Speaker 2: at a very early age, at nine years old, in

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Speaker 2: third grade, that my mother was not going to be

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Speaker 2: able to take care of me emotionally. And I knew

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Speaker 2: I just had to be strong. And I started my

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Speaker 2: and this blo's coming out and yell to my mother,

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Speaker 2: She went screaming out of the house over across the

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Speaker 1: I don't remember.

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Speaker 2: I don't ever remember being upset with my mother or

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Speaker 2: but I would lose my patience with her, you know

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Speaker 2: a lot of times. But I thought, where's the kotex?

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Speaker 2: and that was a big bathroom. But if I go

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Speaker 2: here until she comes back. So they came back and

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Speaker 2: they're saying, they're wringing their hands. They said, mother, would

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Speaker 2: you please go get the cotext. So she's got the

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Speaker 2: cotext and everything. But that incident, and I know that

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Speaker 2: sounds weird, but that one incident made me realize that,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm in this alone because I didn't talk

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Speaker 2: to my brother about stuff like that. I watch a

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Speaker 2: lot of videos and makeup, and a lot of young

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Speaker 2: women say, this is a cream makeup. No, no, a

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Speaker 1: So I say just the opposite.

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Speaker 2: I just like, you know, I just I just get

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Speaker 2: don't know why. I really don't know why that I

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Speaker 2: like that, and it's just it just has developed more

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Speaker 1: I don't know where that came from, but.

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Speaker 2: I just wanted to help my friend, and I just

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Speaker 2: life's going, then do something about it. Life is so

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Speaker 2: much fun when you are who you are and you're not.

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Speaker 2: You don't have the don't have to use the energy

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Speaker 2: because that takes so much energy, and that's just I

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Speaker 2: don't want to spend all that energy doing that. And

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Speaker 2: then plus I have a husband that's so easy. That's

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Speaker 2: not always you know, it doesn't always happen to women,

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Speaker 2: but they still need to try to try to be

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Speaker 2: do things for their husband that they don't want to do.

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Speaker 2: In fact, I tell you I was one of my

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Speaker 2: good friends. This is quite This is years ago. It's

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Speaker 2: like fifty years ago, and she said she was so

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Speaker 2: upset because she was a real caretaker for her husband

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Speaker 2: and her kids were off, you know. But she said,

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Speaker 2: if I have to match up one more pair of

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Speaker 2: socks for him, I am going to start screaming. And

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Speaker 2: I said, then, don't do it. And she said, well,

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Speaker 2: I don't know how I cannot do it. And I said,

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Speaker 2: you can just not do it. Tell him he can

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Speaker 2: match up his own damn socks. You know, it's like this,

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Speaker 2: don't do whatever, you you know. And then I was

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Speaker 2: at Thanksgiving dinner with him one year and she worked

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Speaker 2: so hard to get all this dinner on the table,

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Speaker 2: and all be darn, we're sitting down there, and he

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Speaker 2: you know, give me a glass of water. I looked

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Speaker 2: And I want to go into the health part of vibrators,

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Speaker 1: Hello, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I am going to go on stage. I'm writing

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Speaker 1: Is what I'm here about.

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Speaker 2: Isn't it just terrible that it's still so taboo when

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Speaker 6: I like to what analogy I like to use with

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Speaker 4: I like to compare it to.

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Speaker 6: The massage chair at an al salon. It'll work out

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Speaker 2: I mean what you don't put those inside of you?

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Speaker 1: I mean you do? Some people like a penis.

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Speaker 6: Some people like a really nice full feeling and the

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go that that much, but I

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Speaker 6: There is an increase in older customers that come in look,

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Speaker 2: All my friends, it's the external I think that's what

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Speaker 6: Now, well, let me show you a really great diagram.

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Speaker 2: I mean, they have all kinds of stuff. I just

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Speaker 2: seems complicated. I don't want anything complicated. See like these

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Speaker 6: Okay, so if you see here it's kind of color coded.

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Speaker 2: And I always call this the vagina and one of

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Speaker 2: I'll be darn all right, my darling show. It's some simple,

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Speaker 6: Okay. So here we have our internal stimulation shelf, and over.

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Speaker 6: So very buzzy is how we like to describe the sense.

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Speaker 2: Get it to the strongest frequency.

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Speaker 6: Sure, yeah, so this model in your hip pocket. Okay,

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Speaker 2: It has a nice Oh that's better. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah but that's okay, So you just put this on

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Speaker 2: And I don't know, but it just seems to me

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Speaker 1: Okay, keep hearing about that magic wand. What is that?

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Speaker 6: Yes, magic Wand's right next to us.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well I'm gonna take some pic. Let's pick out

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Speaker 2: what you did?

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Speaker 1: You are a doll?

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Speaker 1: My granddaughters.

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Speaker 2: Take a picture, Grandma.

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Speaker 1: That's a very good job you did. That was like,

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Speaker 4: Fr next week on Finally a show. Magic is real.

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Speaker 4: It's hard. Dreams are hard because you fail. You know

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Speaker 2: I fail every fucking day.

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Speaker 5: I fail.

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Speaker 4: But you got to learn how to feel and be

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