1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,520
Speaker 1: Hey, this is em This is John, your og Okay

2
00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,200
Speaker 1: Storytime podcast host, and we got some delicious, juicy stories

3
00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:06,640
Speaker 1: coming up.

4
00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:08,960
Speaker 2: But if you want to hear that deliciousness, you know,

5
00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:10,959
Speaker 2: just stick around for a two minute break with a

6
00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:12,320
Speaker 2: word from our sponsors.

7
00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:15,480
Speaker 3: My friend's wife accused me of flirting with him. She

8
00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:17,680
Speaker 3: embarrassed me in front of everyone.

9
00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:19,680
Speaker 4: Oh nos, so good.

10
00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,439
Speaker 3: I'm so embarrassed right now. But I do not think

11
00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,919
Speaker 3: I did anything wrong. Let me explain the situation. I've

12
00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:28,880
Speaker 3: had the same mutual friend group since I graduated college

13
00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:31,480
Speaker 3: three years ago. It's a group of people I met

14
00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:34,400
Speaker 3: through my best friend Jenna female twenty five, who was

15
00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,480
Speaker 3: my sorority sister in college. Included in the friend group

16
00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,959
Speaker 3: is her older brother male twenty nine, Joe and his wife, Diana,

17
00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:45,120
Speaker 3: female twenty eight. I considered both them my friends too,

18
00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,639
Speaker 3: but would say I was closer to Joe as he's

19
00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:50,800
Speaker 3: Jenna's brother. By the way, this comes from direct Caterpillar

20
00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,800
Speaker 3: seventy seven on the Okay Storytime suppared it. So, Diana

21
00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:56,560
Speaker 3: hosted a birthday dinner for Joe over the weekend. Our

22
00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,680
Speaker 3: mutual friends were there, but so is Jenna and his family.

23
00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:01,480
Speaker 3: I was happy to get to know some of the

24
00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,040
Speaker 3: people I hadn't met. I know his parents well and

25
00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,240
Speaker 3: caught up with him too. Diana and Joe also had

26
00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,880
Speaker 3: a child recently, and I did see him a few times.

27
00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:13,759
Speaker 3: He's adorable. When we were sitting down after dinner, Diana

28
00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,360
Speaker 3: freaked out on me. She yelled at me in front

29
00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,200
Speaker 3: of everyone to stop flirting with her husband, stopped touching him,

30
00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,440
Speaker 3: and did not come into her house and be disrespectful.

31
00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:27,840
Speaker 1: Whoa wow o, whoa.

32
00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:30,680
Speaker 3: That's a big accusation.

33
00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, and making a scene out of it too. Yeah.

34
00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,679
Speaker 3: People got quiet after this before my best friends started

35
00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:40,000
Speaker 3: talking about something else. I left shortly after. I wouldn't

36
00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:43,399
Speaker 3: want to stay. I'm gonna go cry. I truly don't

37
00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,320
Speaker 3: think I did anything disrespectful throughout the night. I of

38
00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,480
Speaker 3: course talked to the birthday boy a lot. Everyone was

39
00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:51,720
Speaker 3: I didn't remember touching him too much, but it was

40
00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:53,920
Speaker 3: close quarters, so I did brush up against him a

41
00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:56,280
Speaker 3: few times. I did give him a big hug when

42
00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,520
Speaker 3: I saw him, and later when I gave him his gift.

43
00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,760
Speaker 3: That's it, Jenna, and she said that I should talk

44
00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,800
Speaker 3: to Diana and Joe about it, but that I should

45
00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,960
Speaker 3: keep my distance from him for now, because she's never

46
00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:10,519
Speaker 3: seen Diana this angry. I was supposed to attend their parents'

47
00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:12,800
Speaker 3: anniversary party, but she told me that wouldn't be a

48
00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,520
Speaker 3: good idea right now. I am a very friendly person,

49
00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,720
Speaker 3: but I respect people's personal boundaries. If anyone had an

50
00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,720
Speaker 3: issue before, they could have mentioned it to me. I

51
00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,000
Speaker 3: have not changed this in the past three years since

52
00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,279
Speaker 3: I've met both Joe and Diana. I am so embarrassed

53
00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,840
Speaker 3: that she basically accused me of trying to sleep with

54
00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,440
Speaker 3: her husband in front of all of her friends and

55
00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,440
Speaker 3: his family. I feel like I can't show my face now.

56
00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:38,720
Speaker 3: And there are some relevant comments. Dapple Gray says, do

57
00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:41,880
Speaker 3: you value salvaging your relationship with this woman? If so,

58
00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:43,919
Speaker 3: I give her a call and ask for a brunch

59
00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,160
Speaker 3: or coffee or some girls outing thing and explain to

60
00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,720
Speaker 3: her that you're really not into her guy, sorry that

61
00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,320
Speaker 3: you came off that way, how horrible it must have felt,

62
00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,040
Speaker 3: et cetera, etc. Showing empathy is the best way to

63
00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,640
Speaker 3: get people to soften up once you reach an understanding,

64
00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:00,400
Speaker 3: tell her that what she did was really jar for

65
00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,160
Speaker 3: you and hurt your reputation, and ask her to fix it.

66
00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:05,280
Speaker 3: Since she's the one that damaged it, she needs to

67
00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,400
Speaker 3: tell other people that she had the wrong idea and

68
00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,920
Speaker 3: clean up her own mess. I know it's a tall

69
00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,360
Speaker 3: order and most won't do this, but this would be,

70
00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:15,520
Speaker 3: in theory, the proper way to repair the relationship so

71
00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,280
Speaker 3: that everyone's happy and all the pieces are picked up.

72
00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,480
Speaker 3: An OP response, yes, because if I'm not good with her,

73
00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:23,720
Speaker 3: then I won't be good with Joe or his family

74
00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,120
Speaker 3: or his close friends. They were looking at me like

75
00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:28,839
Speaker 3: I had five heads after she yelled at me. When

76
00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,440
Speaker 3: I left, His mom said that's for the best. Ooh,

77
00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:34,720
Speaker 3: Like these are people she's known forever.

78
00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:36,400
Speaker 4: Right, and everyone's just like believing her.

79
00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,200
Speaker 3: I asked Jenna today if she thinks she would apologize,

80
00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,040
Speaker 3: and she said not to expect that and to better

81
00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:46,800
Speaker 3: respect boundaries. I don't know, OPI says. Joe hasn't talked

82
00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:49,240
Speaker 3: to me since and didn't respond to my texts. No

83
00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,320
Speaker 3: one is going to apologize to me, and I didn't

84
00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,080
Speaker 3: do anything wrong. I feel like I'm in an alternate

85
00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:56,840
Speaker 3: universe right now. No one has ever complained about how

86
00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,560
Speaker 3: I act. Jenna all but told me not to attend

87
00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,400
Speaker 3: the party. I really want to go, I say, do

88
00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:03,680
Speaker 3: not have family near me and her parents have treated

89
00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:05,360
Speaker 3: me well, I don't know if I should push that

90
00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,840
Speaker 3: or not. And there is an update from Ope, But

91
00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:10,080
Speaker 3: what do you think?

92
00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,440
Speaker 2: I really am still stuck on, like I feel like

93
00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:13,840
Speaker 2: I want to see the other sides.

94
00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:15,360
Speaker 3: I believe you Ope.

95
00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:18,680
Speaker 2: Like everyone turning on you like that, like there's gotta

96
00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,720
Speaker 2: be something else going on.

97
00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:22,280
Speaker 3: Like there's me and well, you wouldn't help, but you

98
00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,360
Speaker 3: would hope that there was like some reason for Ope

99
00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,360
Speaker 3: to get this barrage of like maybe.

100
00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,159
Speaker 4: The why what is her name? Diana?

101
00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:29,719
Speaker 3: Diana?

102
00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe she like really did see something that's like questionable.

103
00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:35,040
Speaker 2: But also it's like she could talk to her normally

104
00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:36,640
Speaker 2: about it. You don't need to like yell at her

105
00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:37,479
Speaker 2: in front of everyone.

106
00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:39,560
Speaker 3: Also, I think a lot of times in other stories

107
00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,000
Speaker 3: where we have like a person like Ope, they're like

108
00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:45,760
Speaker 3: touching another person's partner and they're being overly friendly and

109
00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,000
Speaker 3: blah blah blah, and then you have like the other

110
00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,960
Speaker 3: partner who steps in and says, hey, like that's inappropriate.

111
00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:54,039
Speaker 3: Can you stop? And then in those stories that person

112
00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:55,800
Speaker 3: like keeps going and that's when you have the big

113
00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:57,360
Speaker 3: blow up. But here it seems like there was no

114
00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:59,679
Speaker 3: previous conversations. It was just the big.

115
00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:01,640
Speaker 2: Blow up right right, and then I want to know

116
00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,520
Speaker 2: what he thinks about exactly, Like he's not even talking

117
00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:07,360
Speaker 2: to Opie like this is your friend and to say

118
00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:10,200
Speaker 2: like hey, either hey, you were being a little bit

119
00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,560
Speaker 2: overly touchy these you know in the future, or no,

120
00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:14,240
Speaker 2: I'd like, I'm.

121
00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:17,240
Speaker 3: Like, you didn't do anything wrong, like give ape something exactly.

122
00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:20,120
Speaker 3: Update Jenna and I just FaceTime for the past like

123
00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,640
Speaker 3: forty ish minutes. She said that she talked to her

124
00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,200
Speaker 3: sister in law, Diana, and her brother over the weekend.

125
00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,599
Speaker 3: This is what Diana said. I am always touching and

126
00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,760
Speaker 3: always flirting with Joe. I'm route to her, ignoring her

127
00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:33,640
Speaker 3: and not saying HI when I go over to their house.

128
00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,280
Speaker 3: I've texted Joe late at night, even though he had

129
00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:38,479
Speaker 3: a pregnant wife at home and now a young baby.

130
00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:41,080
Speaker 3: On his birthday. I went to their house, barely said

131
00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,839
Speaker 3: anything to her, went to see their baby. I hadn't

132
00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:46,120
Speaker 3: met him yet, got them all worked up, but had

133
00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:49,000
Speaker 3: enough time to take a picture for Instagram, and then

134
00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,680
Speaker 3: she had to spend the next fifteen minutes calming him down.

135
00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,719
Speaker 3: When she came back out. She saw us in a

136
00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:56,920
Speaker 3: corner alone, me giving him his gift and hugging him.

137
00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:59,359
Speaker 3: I touched him other times throughout the night, and no

138
00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,960
Speaker 3: one else had problem. I did not talk to her

139
00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,120
Speaker 3: at dinner. She was on the opposite end of the table,

140
00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:06,839
Speaker 3: so of course not yet. I was joking and flirting

141
00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:08,960
Speaker 3: with her husband. She said I am not welcome in

142
00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,720
Speaker 3: her home again. She said. Her brother said that he's

143
00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:13,880
Speaker 3: sorry his wife yelled at me, because he was the

144
00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,680
Speaker 3: one who she should have been yelling at. Diana asked

145
00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,360
Speaker 3: him multiple times to pull back on our friendship because

146
00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:21,600
Speaker 3: I was being rude to her and I was always

147
00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,799
Speaker 3: touching him, and he said nothing. He'll now be doing

148
00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,320
Speaker 3: that apparently. So this is something that Diana has brought

149
00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:30,679
Speaker 3: up multiple times to Joe, and this is the first

150
00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:33,240
Speaker 3: time that Ope's here's about her, Like, that's pretty disrespectful

151
00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:35,640
Speaker 3: for him not to put up any of those boundaries.

152
00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:38,960
Speaker 2: Like Diana should be more mad at Joe in this situation. Obviously,

153
00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,160
Speaker 2: Opite doesn't note.

154
00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:43,160
Speaker 3: By the way, you know what I know. You can

155
00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,440
Speaker 3: listen to full episodes of stories like this if you

156
00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:48,479
Speaker 3: go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasts, app

157
00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:49,840
Speaker 3: and search. Okay, storry time, And.

158
00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:51,119
Speaker 4: There is a little bit more.

159
00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:54,560
Speaker 3: If we are to believe what Opee is writing, which

160
00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:56,440
Speaker 3: is the only thing we can do. It seems like

161
00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:59,760
Speaker 3: Diana might be someone who is like my partner cannot

162
00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:02,440
Speaker 3: have or my husband cannot have female friends, and it's

163
00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:06,520
Speaker 3: like any any sort of contact, even a hug, is

164
00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,600
Speaker 3: too much, in which case it's like very hard to

165
00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:11,960
Speaker 3: be friends with the person like that, who has a

166
00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,480
Speaker 3: partner who is just like so controlling.

167
00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,200
Speaker 4: I don't know. We also have heard a lot.

168
00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,080
Speaker 2: Of stories where like the person that's accusing someone of

169
00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:21,520
Speaker 2: cheating is the one.

170
00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:24,400
Speaker 3: That is Yeah, maybe she's projecting. Maybe she has her

171
00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,160
Speaker 3: own thing going on, right, Like.

172
00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,400
Speaker 2: Maybe she thinks that this is a little suspicious because

173
00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:30,440
Speaker 2: she's doing the same spicious things.

174
00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:30,920
Speaker 1: Yeah.

175
00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:33,560
Speaker 3: No, but it is pretty ridiculous that they've had this

176
00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:37,720
Speaker 3: conversation multiple times and Opie's just hearing about it now. Ridiculous.

177
00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:39,760
Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left. No one ever

178
00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,840
Speaker 3: called me out about these things, and I still think

179
00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,080
Speaker 3: that Diana is reading a lot more into everything than

180
00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:47,400
Speaker 3: there was. I did not purposely ignore her. I always

181
00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:49,480
Speaker 3: talk to her. I just know Joe better and felt

182
00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,560
Speaker 3: more comfortable with him. She's always been preoccupied with her

183
00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:54,840
Speaker 3: pregnancy and now their son, so I haven't seen her

184
00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,200
Speaker 3: as much owls and Cardinal says, It's hard to say

185
00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:00,400
Speaker 3: whether you've been out of line or not. It is

186
00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,120
Speaker 3: clear you do not feel you of but I strongly

187
00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:05,960
Speaker 3: encourage you to see this as a learning experience. When

188
00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:07,960
Speaker 3: you're friends with the couple, it is good to nurture

189
00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:11,720
Speaker 3: the relationship with both, and perhaps especially with the female.

190
00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:14,800
Speaker 3: Women often are not completely comfortable with their husbands being

191
00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,400
Speaker 3: close with the female friends that seem to maintain distance

192
00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:20,680
Speaker 3: with the wives themselves, and the same goes for men

193
00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:23,120
Speaker 3: not being comfortable with wives being close to men that

194
00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:26,120
Speaker 3: the husband is not. And well, you may see that

195
00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:29,160
Speaker 3: as silly, but it is pretty standard in my experience,

196
00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:31,640
Speaker 3: knowing that it is to be expected. You don't want

197
00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,160
Speaker 3: to invite the situation again. It seems clear, at a

198
00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,480
Speaker 3: minimum that you considered her much more of a secondary

199
00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:39,480
Speaker 3: friend and didn't really try to connect with her. And yeah,

200
00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,200
Speaker 3: the late night texts are somewhat over the line. If

201
00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:44,439
Speaker 3: she raised this to him to set some boundaries first,

202
00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,679
Speaker 3: and he refused or failed her, her bigger issue should

203
00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:50,560
Speaker 3: be with him than with you, and it's too bad

204
00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:52,520
Speaker 3: you took the brunt of it. Try to see your

205
00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:54,600
Speaker 3: role in this only to try to avoid a similar

206
00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:57,440
Speaker 3: thing from occurring in the future. And Opie says, thanks.

207
00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,559
Speaker 3: I don't have too many friends who are married and parents,

208
00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:01,200
Speaker 3: so it's different than when I hang out with other

209
00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,439
Speaker 3: people who are in a friend group. The late night

210
00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:06,160
Speaker 3: texts are something I've sent to other people too. I

211
00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:08,160
Speaker 3: know now I shouldn't do that, but it isn't like

212
00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,680
Speaker 3: I was hitting on him. I was wasted when sending

213
00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,320
Speaker 3: some of them. I now know to hide my phone

214
00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,880
Speaker 3: when that happens. I should have maybe tried harder with her,

215
00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,360
Speaker 3: but we were closer in the beginning. Since she's gotten

216
00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:21,160
Speaker 3: pregnant and had her child, she's been busy with all

217
00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,760
Speaker 3: these pregnancy things and taking care of the baby. It's

218
00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,560
Speaker 3: hard to be friends. Test user name says, wasted texting

219
00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:30,559
Speaker 3: a married man late at night is sketch af not

220
00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:32,880
Speaker 3: trying to be friends with his wife because it's too hard,

221
00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:37,160
Speaker 3: is too I think her call out was probably justified. Oh,

222
00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:38,840
Speaker 3: he says, I can see why you think that, But

223
00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,160
Speaker 3: to me, he wasn't a married man but a friend.

224
00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:44,240
Speaker 3: He isn't the only person I've wasted texted. The list

225
00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:47,360
Speaker 3: is pretty long and someone hilarious. I have tried to

226
00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:49,160
Speaker 3: be friends with her, she has been busy and not

227
00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:51,679
Speaker 3: around his off as Joe has. I do think she's

228
00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:53,960
Speaker 3: reading too much into it. I'm closer to Joe than

229
00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:56,320
Speaker 3: I am to her. That doesn't mean I'm flirting with

230
00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,880
Speaker 3: her husband or trying to get him. And test Username

231
00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:01,240
Speaker 3: says Joe seems to think her complaints of some basis

232
00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:04,160
Speaker 3: in reality. Maybe you are the one not seeing things

233
00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,920
Speaker 3: clearly slash in denial being one hundred percent honest with yourself.

234
00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,840
Speaker 3: Are you attracted to Joe even if you've never acted

235
00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,240
Speaker 3: on it? Opie says he's an attractive guy. Sure, that

236
00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,319
Speaker 3: doesn't mean I'm flirting with him or trying to sleep

237
00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:19,360
Speaker 3: with him or anything. That is the end A little

238
00:10:19,360 --> 00:10:21,880
Speaker 3: bit more of a suspicious reply at the end, right, And.

239
00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:23,960
Speaker 2: It's just normal for you to like drunk text your

240
00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,120
Speaker 2: friends and give them compliments and stuff like.

241
00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it really depends on the context, but that's the

242
00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:30,800
Speaker 3: end of that story.

243
00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:35,600
Speaker 2: My best friend is a cheater, so I sided with her.

244
00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:37,599
Speaker 4: Ex husband when they got divorced.

245
00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:38,200
Speaker 1: Good.

246
00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:39,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's good.

247
00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,360
Speaker 2: My best friend thirty five female, Emily and I thirty

248
00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:45,480
Speaker 2: five female, have been friends since college and lived together

249
00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,960
Speaker 2: for three years. Since then, we've both been married, had jobs,

250
00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:52,079
Speaker 2: had kids, and plenty of moves, but we have.

251
00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:53,720
Speaker 4: Been very close friends through it all.

252
00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,240
Speaker 2: When she got married, I was her maid of honor,

253
00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:58,800
Speaker 2: and when I got married, my only sister was my

254
00:10:58,840 --> 00:10:59,440
Speaker 2: maid of honor.

255
00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:00,839
Speaker 4: But she's still right next to her.

256
00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:04,079
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Primary Possession twenty one

257
00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,480
Speaker 2: on the r slash Okay story time separad it. So

258
00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:09,200
Speaker 2: I have always valued Emily as a friend. She was

259
00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:10,679
Speaker 2: always my practical friend.

260
00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:12,360
Speaker 4: I was always the.

261
00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:15,760
Speaker 2: Mom of the group, making the plans, planning the itinerary,

262
00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,680
Speaker 2: keeping our friends safe, et cetera. But I wasn't alone

263
00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:21,120
Speaker 2: when she was around. She was a good time, but

264
00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,920
Speaker 2: level headed. She was there for me throughout college and

265
00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:26,920
Speaker 2: through the many ups and downs. One of those friends

266
00:11:26,920 --> 00:11:29,760
Speaker 2: that can pick up at any time right where.

267
00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:30,120
Speaker 4: You left off.

268
00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,440
Speaker 2: Three years ago, we did a couple's vacation to wine Country.

269
00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:36,000
Speaker 2: It was supposed to be a fun weekend away without

270
00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:39,600
Speaker 2: kids and all of us like wine. Emily was a

271
00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:43,280
Speaker 2: mess got super wasted by the second vineyard and was

272
00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:47,439
Speaker 2: practically falling over herself, broke some of the wine glasses

273
00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:48,439
Speaker 2: and threw up.

274
00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,120
Speaker 4: Oh hey, Emily.

275
00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,920
Speaker 2: I've never been like wine tastes or anything, but I

276
00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,080
Speaker 2: have heard that it's like really easy to get dr well.

277
00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,280
Speaker 3: I mean, you're like jess is so many sip it up.

278
00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:04,960
Speaker 3: I had one glass of shame pain on. I was like, that's.

279
00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:07,280
Speaker 2: Whoa, But still like you should probably understand when like

280
00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:09,640
Speaker 2: you're getting there. You know, we're in our thirties and

281
00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:12,040
Speaker 2: I've done tastings in wine trips before, so it's not

282
00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:13,080
Speaker 2: like she didn't know how.

283
00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:13,679
Speaker 3: To pace herself.

284
00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:16,480
Speaker 2: It was weird, but we tried to just go home

285
00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:18,600
Speaker 2: and to bed and try again the next day.

286
00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:20,439
Speaker 4: But the whole trip was just weird.

287
00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,320
Speaker 2: Emily picked fights with me and with her husband, wound

288
00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:25,600
Speaker 2: up crying and literally laying on the lawn of the

289
00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:29,600
Speaker 2: house we stayed at for a while. Her husband told

290
00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:32,080
Speaker 2: me at one point that she threatened to divorce him

291
00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:35,800
Speaker 2: if he didn't agree to another kid. WHOA, that's not

292
00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:37,559
Speaker 2: how you want to go into planting.

293
00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,120
Speaker 3: I kind of led to my parent's divorce right well.

294
00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,560
Speaker 2: I told him their family planning is private and between them.

295
00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:45,840
Speaker 2: I also said that ultimatums had no place in a

296
00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,720
Speaker 2: marriage and advised marriage counseling instead of coming to me.

297
00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:51,120
Speaker 2: The last day of our trip, I pulled her aside

298
00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:52,680
Speaker 2: and said that I was worried about what I was.

299
00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,520
Speaker 4: Seeing and that she might want to consider talking to someone.

300
00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,120
Speaker 2: I told her therapy helped me so much and I

301
00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:01,280
Speaker 2: think she might really benefit from it considering everything she

302
00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:03,720
Speaker 2: had going on. She also revealed a bunch of family

303
00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:06,400
Speaker 2: trauma during the trip that was very dark. She flipped

304
00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:08,199
Speaker 2: out at me and told me that there was nothing

305
00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,640
Speaker 2: wrong with her, that if I needed a shrink, that

306
00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:12,960
Speaker 2: was on me, but that she didn't need that.

307
00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:14,640
Speaker 4: And I should mind my own business.

308
00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:17,760
Speaker 2: I put my hands up and said, okay, no problem,

309
00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:21,000
Speaker 2: my bad, and left it alone. Our friendship wasn't the

310
00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:23,640
Speaker 2: same after Mind you, this is three years ago. She

311
00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,959
Speaker 2: lives about thirty minutes from me and has seen me

312
00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,480
Speaker 2: a handful of times since I reached out to her

313
00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:30,560
Speaker 2: two years ago when my second son was born and

314
00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,880
Speaker 2: having postpartum, asking to spend some time together since I

315
00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:37,560
Speaker 2: was really struggling. And while she was empathetic and would

316
00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,839
Speaker 2: text me back, we didn't send any time together, nor

317
00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,520
Speaker 2: did she reach out or support me in any way

318
00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:47,040
Speaker 2: not directly requested. We were invited to the big things,

319
00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:51,120
Speaker 2: birthday parties, et cetera, but the texting, calling, and everyday

320
00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,920
Speaker 2: friend stuff pretty much stopped. She invited me to a

321
00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:57,280
Speaker 2: concert about a year ago with another friend, Brie, and

322
00:13:57,440 --> 00:14:00,360
Speaker 2: during the concert accidentally revealed that she had asked every

323
00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,760
Speaker 2: single other one of her friends to go before she

324
00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,240
Speaker 2: asked me because they had an extra ticket.

325
00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:07,760
Speaker 3: Why want you reveal that. It's like, yeah, you were

326
00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:08,920
Speaker 3: my last choice, but.

327
00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:10,000
Speaker 2: Like, so glad you're here.

328
00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:13,160
Speaker 4: All that to say we're not super close anymore.

329
00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:16,360
Speaker 2: Fast forward to three months ago, her husband text me

330
00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:18,280
Speaker 2: at six am asking me to call.

331
00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:20,320
Speaker 1: He told me that he found.

332
00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:23,520
Speaker 2: Out while on vacation with Brie and her husband that

333
00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:26,520
Speaker 2: Emily had been cheating on him. She told him that

334
00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:29,280
Speaker 2: she never loved him, wanted a divorce, and had planned

335
00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:32,360
Speaker 2: to stay together until after the holidays. Brie called me

336
00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:34,520
Speaker 2: the same day and said that her husband found out

337
00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,600
Speaker 2: because Bree's husband knew the details of their girls strip

338
00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:41,880
Speaker 2: the weekend before, where Emily slept with two random men

339
00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:45,920
Speaker 2: connected with her ex boyfriend from college, and asked me

340
00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:49,520
Speaker 2: to keep this all secret until after the holidays, oh man,

341
00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,640
Speaker 2: right before they were all going on vacation together.

342
00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,400
Speaker 4: It was a total mess. Dang.

343
00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:57,840
Speaker 2: Sorry, I know this is really long, but I'm trying

344
00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:00,000
Speaker 2: to include the details so people get the whole picture.

345
00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,800
Speaker 2: Since this happened, she has lied continuously to her now

346
00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:07,720
Speaker 2: ex husband, her friend Brie, and to me. She called

347
00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,960
Speaker 2: me the day all of this happened and said that

348
00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:12,800
Speaker 2: she was sorry for our falling out, but I had

349
00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:16,400
Speaker 2: seen things during the trip that she wasn't ready to face,

350
00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,520
Speaker 2: and that she realized that she's unhappy in her marriage

351
00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:23,560
Speaker 2: and motherhood two months prior, and that she missed her

352
00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:25,400
Speaker 2: ex so she decided to leave.

353
00:15:25,760 --> 00:15:28,680
Speaker 3: Like what, Yeah, that's a lot of info. Seems like

354
00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,000
Speaker 3: she does this trauma dumping thing a lot. I'd happened

355
00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:34,080
Speaker 3: on the wine trip too, Yeah, I guess. So he's like, hey,

356
00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:35,880
Speaker 3: you should get that checked out, and she's like, I'll.

357
00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:36,680
Speaker 5: Let a problem.

358
00:15:36,840 --> 00:15:39,480
Speaker 4: She's like, let me lay in the lawn just because

359
00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:41,960
Speaker 4: I want to. Yea, nothing's wrong.

360
00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,840
Speaker 3: Literally, nothing's wrong. I just am touching grass.

361
00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:47,680
Speaker 4: I'm just cheating on my husband with multiple people.

362
00:15:47,480 --> 00:15:48,480
Speaker 3: Including my ex.

363
00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:50,800
Speaker 2: We talked for a while and I asked if she

364
00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:53,480
Speaker 2: would try counseling or anything to save their marriage, especially

365
00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:57,000
Speaker 2: considering the kids. And she said absolutely and that she

366
00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:59,600
Speaker 2: didn't want to throw her life away but realizes it's

367
00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,280
Speaker 2: not worth. When she got home to her husband, she

368
00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:05,520
Speaker 2: said she wouldn't do counseling, already had a boyfriend and

369
00:16:05,640 --> 00:16:06,520
Speaker 2: wanted a divorce.

370
00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:08,800
Speaker 4: Dang, that took a whole one eighty.

371
00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,240
Speaker 3: Well, it seems like she's just trying to say whatever

372
00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:13,440
Speaker 3: op he wants to hear. So she's like, because she

373
00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,760
Speaker 3: doesn't want to lose this friend. I guess I don't know.

374
00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, she gave him the house as long as he

375
00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:22,000
Speaker 2: would pay for her tummy tuck. She moved into an

376
00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:24,840
Speaker 2: apartment and is thrilled to be on her own, booked

377
00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,240
Speaker 2: about five vacations in the first couple of weeks on

378
00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:31,080
Speaker 2: her own. She has no job, no prospects, no applications

379
00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:34,440
Speaker 2: out the door, and the only money she had after

380
00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:38,000
Speaker 2: their divorce was final is gone already. I guess you

381
00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:41,640
Speaker 2: can get a divorce in thirty days if uncontested. Anyways,

382
00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:44,480
Speaker 2: this brings me to now. Several of her friends, including

383
00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:46,760
Speaker 2: brit You, have talked to me since expressing their dismay

384
00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:48,400
Speaker 2: for the whole situation, and we.

385
00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:49,840
Speaker 4: All feel so bad for the kids.

386
00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:54,280
Speaker 2: She was superbombed that imploded and is basically gone. She's

387
00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:57,160
Speaker 2: up one minute and down the next. We all strongly

388
00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:00,360
Speaker 2: suspect there was something very wrong, but Emily, he has

389
00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:02,200
Speaker 2: not been receptive to me in the past, and a

390
00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:05,480
Speaker 2: few others have recommended therapy or at least to put

391
00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:09,240
Speaker 2: on the breaks before changing anything to no a veil.

392
00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:12,320
Speaker 2: Emily and I have talked once in the last few months,

393
00:17:12,359 --> 00:17:14,840
Speaker 2: and then when she told me to come visit her

394
00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:17,879
Speaker 2: at her new apartment and to let me know she

395
00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:20,440
Speaker 2: and her husband got divorced, at which point I told

396
00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:22,760
Speaker 2: her I knew that since he and my husband are

397
00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:25,159
Speaker 2: friends and have talked several times while all of this

398
00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:28,080
Speaker 2: was going on. Her husband, my husband, and I have

399
00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:31,480
Speaker 2: all been friends for now ten years, and this is

400
00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,280
Speaker 2: just so unlike the Emily we knew. So we all

401
00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:37,239
Speaker 2: have whiplash and have been in touch with him a

402
00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:41,080
Speaker 2: lot throughout all of this because he's completely devas stated

403
00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:44,600
Speaker 2: and very much in the place of is this seriously

404
00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:48,119
Speaker 2: who I'm married? We also want to be a support

405
00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,520
Speaker 2: for the kids as much as possible. We've been talking

406
00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:53,040
Speaker 2: to her ex husband now for months and have gotten

407
00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:55,159
Speaker 2: together a few times with the kids without Emily to

408
00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:57,720
Speaker 2: give him support and have our kids who are all

409
00:17:57,800 --> 00:18:01,160
Speaker 2: friends and little like all under the age of eight,

410
00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:04,760
Speaker 2: some happy fun times. I haven't said anything to her

411
00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,240
Speaker 2: about it, and while on one hand, I feel I

412
00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:09,480
Speaker 2: don't really owe her anything at this point, on the

413
00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,200
Speaker 2: other hand, I feel incredibly guilty and like I'm going

414
00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,600
Speaker 2: behind her back since we have been friends for a

415
00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:17,720
Speaker 2: long time. By the way, you never have to feel

416
00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:22,199
Speaker 2: incredibly guilty if you just listen to full episodes like

417
00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:27,359
Speaker 2: these with stories like this, just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts.

418
00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:30,560
Speaker 4: Or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime, do it.

419
00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:32,040
Speaker 4: There is a little bit more, but I think we

420
00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:32,800
Speaker 4: need to unpack.

421
00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,840
Speaker 3: So oh, he has been with a couple other friends.

422
00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:40,040
Speaker 3: I guess she's been helping out Emily's ex husband with

423
00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:42,879
Speaker 3: the kids because they're friends too, and is not told

424
00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:44,800
Speaker 3: Emily about any of us, And that's what she's kind

425
00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:46,879
Speaker 3: of asking. No, I don't think you're the ahole for

426
00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:50,840
Speaker 3: helping out this ex husband who's also your friend and yeah,

427
00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:53,919
Speaker 3: his kids, because it's clear that you and Emily just

428
00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:57,280
Speaker 3: have very different values and more rooms and stuff.

429
00:18:57,040 --> 00:19:00,320
Speaker 2: Right, and you have come to Emily, like you been

430
00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:02,560
Speaker 2: there for Emily and like talk to her about it, but.

431
00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:03,720
Speaker 3: She pushed you off.

432
00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,520
Speaker 2: She's yelled at you, right or like when she does

433
00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,080
Speaker 2: take your advice and like agree with you, then like

434
00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:10,480
Speaker 2: behind your back, you'll.

435
00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:10,879
Speaker 3: Switch us up.

436
00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,439
Speaker 2: And I mean you can still have the idea of like, listen,

437
00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:15,400
Speaker 2: if she comes to me she needs help, like I'll

438
00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:17,520
Speaker 2: be there for her, but right now I'm not gonna

439
00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:17,879
Speaker 2: come to her.

440
00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:19,399
Speaker 4: I think that's totally reasonable.

441
00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, but there is a little bit more, so

442
00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:25,320
Speaker 2: let's get on into it. That said, my husband now

443
00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:28,040
Speaker 2: pretty much hates her for everything she's done to her

444
00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:31,000
Speaker 2: husband and children and wants nothing to do with her.

445
00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:33,720
Speaker 2: Her ex husband has been floundering through all of this

446
00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,639
Speaker 2: and has been isolated, So I do think a connection

447
00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:38,520
Speaker 2: with him and the kids through this is where the

448
00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,960
Speaker 2: support is needed. And I really don't think that you

449
00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,720
Speaker 2: can or should be friends with both sides in a

450
00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:44,680
Speaker 2: situation like this.

451
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,240
Speaker 4: I haven't posted pictures of our kids together or.

452
00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,680
Speaker 2: Hinted at seeing them in any way, but it all

453
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:51,920
Speaker 2: just feels icky and like I'm abandoning her.

454
00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,000
Speaker 4: So am I they ajo? And that is it?

455
00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 2: So why do we think.

456
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,000
Speaker 3: I don't think you're abandoning her. I think that she

457
00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,119
Speaker 3: has kind of pushed you to the side multiple times, yeah,

458
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:00,960
Speaker 3: when you try to help.

459
00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:03,600
Speaker 2: So, yeah, I think she's the one that's like not

460
00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:06,439
Speaker 2: putting in the effort into the friendship or any of

461
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:10,159
Speaker 2: her relationships. Obviously, I think it's okay to have a

462
00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,439
Speaker 2: friend that you don't agree with what they're doing and

463
00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:14,159
Speaker 2: try to urge them to do the right thing.

464
00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:15,919
Speaker 4: And be like, you know what, they're going to figure

465
00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:16,280
Speaker 4: it out.

466
00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 2: But in this situation, it seems a little extreme for that, Yes,

467
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 2: and also to the point where she's like, you know,

468
00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,000
Speaker 2: attacking you and not really like listening.

469
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:29,920
Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. My entitled friend kicked

470
00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:32,199
Speaker 3: my dog, so I kicked her out?

471
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,680
Speaker 2: There you go, very fair response.

472
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,399
Speaker 3: As the title says, last week, I kicked what I

473
00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:39,520
Speaker 3: thought was a good friend out of my house because

474
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,879
Speaker 3: I could no longer handle her antics. Just want to

475
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 3: write it here just to distress and deal with the

476
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:48,120
Speaker 3: grief of losing a friend. By the way, this comes

477
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 3: from Uncle Barnacle on the Okay Storytime Severed It. So Kendall,

478
00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 3: twenty five, female and I met in university in twenty sixteen.

479
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:59,040
Speaker 3: We studied different majors, but we're from the same department,

480
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,639
Speaker 3: so we share many classes together and bonded over our

481
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:06,680
Speaker 3: passion for gaming and memes. Upon graduation, Kendall moved back

482
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,920
Speaker 3: to her hometown due to COVID and found a job there.

483
00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:13,600
Speaker 3: We kept in touch online through Instagram. About three years later,

484
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 3: Kendall told me she found a better paying job in

485
00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:18,879
Speaker 3: the city, so she's planning to move out from her

486
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 3: parents place. When I asked her about her plans on

487
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 3: her accommodations, she replied with that's the thing I was

488
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,399
Speaker 3: gonna ask if you have an extra bedroom that I

489
00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:33,160
Speaker 3: could move into. Very presumptuous, right was It hadn't even

490
00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:35,399
Speaker 3: like was like, yeah, I'm planning to move to the city.

491
00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 3: Didn't really think about where I'm gonna live beyond your

492
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:40,960
Speaker 3: I'm gonna live with you. For a context, I have

493
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,760
Speaker 3: inherited an apartment from my late grandfather, which is a

494
00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:46,920
Speaker 3: nice three bedroom, two bath near the city center last

495
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:50,200
Speaker 3: year or January, and I currently live alone there since

496
00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 3: it's closer to my workplace and it has all the

497
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 3: convenience of public transport. After some thinking, I thought there's

498
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,719
Speaker 3: no harm in living with Kendall. Since I considered us

499
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 3: close friends, we just gus the terms and of course

500
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 3: the rent. A week later, Kendall moved into my apartment.

501
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,439
Speaker 3: It was great at first. My home felt more lively

502
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,399
Speaker 3: than usual, and the thought of going home to a

503
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:12,639
Speaker 3: close friend warmed my heart and gave me a sense

504
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,680
Speaker 3: of security. Things were okay for a while, and then

505
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,960
Speaker 3: crap goes downhill super quick. Kendall started complaining about many

506
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:23,160
Speaker 3: things at home, about her work, her savings, and how

507
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 3: she felt homesick. At first, I was very accommodating, thinking

508
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:28,520
Speaker 3: maybe she just needs time to get used to the

509
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 3: city life. I offered as much help as I can,

510
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,359
Speaker 3: even to the point of if she's low on money,

511
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 3: I don't mind voiding a month's rent if it meant

512
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 3: I could help her to achieve financial stability. I taught

513
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 3: her how to save money, how I live off with

514
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,920
Speaker 3: my then low salary with several commitments like my car,

515
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 3: my dog, and a student loan. I grew up where

516
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 3: my parents expect me to be independent, so I told

517
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,400
Speaker 3: her things I do when I'm low in cash, how

518
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 3: to get freelance jobs, et cetera. But she always seems

519
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 3: to have an excuse for every suggestion I have finding

520
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 3: a freelance's job is too hard, or how she couldn't

521
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 3: let go of her premium junk food that she isn't

522
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 3: willing to cook or meal prep. And I eventually decided

523
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 3: to leave it as it is. And after two months

524
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:14,040
Speaker 3: of living together, I realized Kendall started treating me as

525
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: some kind of competition. She would constantly ask me things

526
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 3: like how much money I make a month, how many

527
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 3: job hoppings did that take? Anything that she thinks she's

528
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 3: better than me, She'll definitely pop that question. She boasts

529
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 3: about how she's loyal to her crappy paying company and

530
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 3: how I would never be able to move up the

531
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 3: corporate ladder, as she called me an industry frog. What

532
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:37,639
Speaker 3: hopping from? What does it even mean? I have no

533
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 3: idea like you're hopping from one job to the next,

534
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:42,360
Speaker 3: or something like you can't move up. She once snooped

535
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 3: my savings balance and asked how the f did I

536
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 3: have so much saved up with commitments, et cetera. Mind you,

537
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 3: she didn't have a lot of commitments, since her parents

538
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 3: paid off her student loans and fully paid off a

539
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 3: brand new car for her and maybe I should stop

540
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 3: collecting rent from her. I got mad and told her,

541
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 3: if she isn't happy living with me, maybe she should

542
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 3: move out. Que crocodile tears, and she said it was

543
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 3: a joke. I didn't have to take her seriously. She

544
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 3: begged for forgiveness and promised to never snoop my personal

545
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 3: items and details. Again. I let it go once, but

546
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 3: she kept bringing things up like well, you have the

547
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,199
Speaker 3: cash and a credit card every time. I told her

548
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 3: I'd rather stay home because I no longer have the

549
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 3: budget to go out and have fun. Comments like these

550
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 3: became more frequent when I got a new job six

551
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 3: months ago. On top of that, she doesn't clean up

552
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 3: after herself, tried to flirt with my boyfriend, and at

553
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: times parked in my parking space when our initial agreement

554
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 3: was that she had to find her own parking space

555
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 3: if she's moving in with her own car, because my

556
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 3: apartment only is one parking lot per unit. The straw

557
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 3: that broke the Camel's back was when I caught her

558
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 3: kicking my dog in his abdomen when I got home

559
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 3: from work. I yelled at her and rushed to check

560
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 3: my dog. Luckily, he was fine, but I still rushed

561
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 3: him to the vet for safety measures. I got home

562
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:02,919
Speaker 3: and she sneered that it was just a dog, and

563
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 3: as a friend, I shouldn't treat her like that. I

564
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 3: asked why she kicked my dog, and she didn't answer me.

565
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 3: She just shrugged and tried to escape into her room,

566
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 3: pausing for a second.

567
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:17,119
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, this is the first time that Opee's

568
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 2: caught that. When we were read the story, or like

569
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 2: the title, I was imagining like, okay, maybe some sort

570
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 2: of like argument broke out and then she got mad

571
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,160
Speaker 2: and just like kicked the dog once. She just got

572
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 2: home from work and happened to catch her doing this, Yeah,

573
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 2: which to.

574
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 3: Me implies that she's done this more than once.

575
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, and kicking too like it could have been you know,

576
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 2: more than one, just like quickly little, which still would

577
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 2: not be good.

578
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 5: Yeah.

579
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 2: If she closed the door and wouldn't open it and

580
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 2: like locked or something, guess who's kicking down that door.

581
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,919
Speaker 2: I'm kicking it down, barging.

582
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 4: In out here, dude.

583
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 3: At this point, it was already about a year since

584
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 3: Kendall moved in with me. I lost my cool and

585
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,199
Speaker 3: told her off, bringing up her problems and how I

586
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,719
Speaker 3: tried to be nice and accommodating. Then I told her

587
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 3: I'm giving her a week to move out and that

588
00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: from then on, I rather we keep our relationship casual

589
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: or we don't even talk at all. Kendall cried and

590
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 3: begged me not to kick her out, but soon it

591
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 3: turned into her screaming back at me, calling me a

592
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: bad friend because apparently, in her words, I didn't tell

593
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 3: her off on how badly she was behaving, like WTF.

594
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 3: There was a lot of back and forth, which I

595
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:22,679
Speaker 3: don't remember what I said, but I remember eventually calling

596
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 3: her an entitled bratt. She cried again, saying it was

597
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 3: uncalled for, and stormed off to her room. The next day,

598
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 3: I was bombarded with text from other UNI friends, some

599
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 3: calling me selfish and other sympathizing with me. Apparently Kendall

600
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 3: posted our argument on Facebook, Classic Move and Instagram, painting

601
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,119
Speaker 3: me to be the bad guy. I was upset at first,

602
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 3: but I decided that after Kendall moved out, we would

603
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 3: no longer be friends, as well as those who took

604
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 3: her side of the story and condemned me. Anyone's posting

605
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 3: any personal information or personal fights and stuff on Facebook

606
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,159
Speaker 3: is already the bad guy to me. Honestly, if I

607
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 3: ever see someone like being like and then they did

608
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 3: this bah on like a public story, I'd be like,

609
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:05,640
Speaker 3: so you're the problem, right.

610
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 2: It's like, I feel like the only reason you're trying

611
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: to get the public's opinion on this is because you

612
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 2: think that you know different I think from Reddit stories.

613
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: Well one, because those are usually anonymous, right, But also

614
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 3: it's just like a different Reddit is not usually geared

615
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 3: towards people in your circle.

616
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

617
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 3: Last week Kenda left and I have changed the locks

618
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 3: on my apartment. I curled up in my bed and

619
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 3: cried myself out, probably from the sadness of losing a friend,

620
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 3: or maybe I'm finally letting out all the frustrations. I'm

621
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 3: definitely still grieving about this loss of a friend, as

622
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 3: I've had many good times with Kendall. For now, I

623
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 3: want to focus on myself and hopefully I eventually get

624
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: over this at it. The whole teasing that I have

625
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 3: more money than Kendall got worse when I told her

626
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 3: I was given an offer by MNC as a senior designer,

627
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 3: and I disclosed her the offered salary as we always did.

628
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 3: Like I know how much year its two, which was

629
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 3: about fifty percent more than hers. That was dumb on

630
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 3: my part. I now understand why my parents told me

631
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 3: to never disclose slash discuss salaries the moment I started working.

632
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 3: And there is an update. But man oh man, man

633
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 3: oh man, Yeah, this is not a person that you

634
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 3: want to be friends with at all.

635
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 4: The money thing is like one thing too.

636
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 2: Like we've said in other stories, it's like you can't

637
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 2: tell someone how to spend their money, you know, you

638
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 2: just can't, and then literal like abuse to your dog

639
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 2: and just saying, oh, it's just a dog, and then

640
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:27,959
Speaker 2: shruggling about why you did it.

641
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 4: It's like this person is like deranged. This person is psychotic.

642
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 3: Literally, It's like when I was watching Planet of the Apes,

643
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,959
Speaker 3: they're all like all the humans are like being all

644
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 3: like kicking the monkeys and stuff, and I was like,

645
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 3: even if you don't think that they're like smart or anything,

646
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 3: why are you mistreating them? Why are we doing that?

647
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 4: Something's not right?

648
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 3: Update? Hello everyone, I'm here with some updates about me

649
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 3: and my DOGO, as well as my now ex friend Kendall.

650
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 3: Let's start off with the update about myself. I've been

651
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 3: doing well, and surprisingly, as some of you mentioned previously,

652
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 3: I've gotten over the loss of this friendship rather quickly. Well,

653
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 3: I mean, she's been awful this whole time, it's not. Yeah,

654
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 3: my boyfriend planned a trip to a pet friendly beachfront

655
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 3: hotel and I spent a few days with just my

656
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 3: boyfriend and Doggo. We played in the seawater and I

657
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: watched my dog play in the sand. Overall, had a

658
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 3: great time, and we even grilled fish together while watching

659
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 3: the sunset. Doggo had a d bone fish file at

660
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 3: What a nice time. I am also grateful for my

661
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: friends who stood by my side regarding this issue. They

662
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 3: check in on me from time to time and sent

663
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 3: me funny content to watch during my free time. Some

664
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 3: of them even told me their stories about Kendall and

665
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 3: their discontentment with her behavior, which I will list some below.

666
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 3: Friend A Kendall ridiculed Friend A several times because Friend

667
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 3: A earned less than Kendall despite working a year longer

668
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 3: than Kendall. Friend B Kendall talked trash about friend Bee's

669
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 3: company via Instagram just because Kendall flunked her interview with

670
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 3: said company with Flying Colors. Friend see Kendall always demanded

671
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 3: Frenzy to be her personal driver during our college days.

672
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 3: If Frenzy refu use, Kendall would guilt Tripper Friendy. Ruined

673
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 3: Friendy's assignment by pranking him. She actually formatted his laptop

674
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 3: when the project was due in two weeks. When confronted,

675
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 3: all Kendall said was oopsies, there are many more, but

676
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 3: these are the more icky ones I've received from my friends.

677
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 3: And now, at that out of the way, here is

678
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 3: today's main course. After I kicked Kendall out of my house,

679
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 3: one of my unie friends, let's call her Anne, stood

680
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 3: by Kendall's version of events and has allowed Kendall to

681
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 3: move in with her instead. Ooh boy, she's about to

682
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 3: have a wake up call Kendall, like your kettle's the

683
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 3: been totally wrong. She's the victim here. And then she's

684
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 3: gonna live with Kendall and she's gonna be like, oh, Anne,

685
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 3: call me out of the blue this afternoon, and her

686
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: first question to me was, how on earth did you

687
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 3: manage to put up with Kendall for a year. She's

688
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: driving me crazy. Long story short, whatever Kendall did when

689
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 3: she was living with me, she now does to Anne.

690
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 3: Snooping Anne's personal items, leaving dirty laundry around, generally being

691
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 3: a prick in the butt, and told me she's planning

692
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 3: to force Kendall out of her house too. I didn't

693
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 3: comment much since Anne was among those who called me

694
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 3: a cruel person. But now it's come back to bite her. Yeah,

695
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 3: by the way, you know what never comes back to

696
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 3: bite you?

697
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 4: What listening to full episodes with stories like this.

698
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 3: Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast

699
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 3: app and search. Okay, storytime, but there is a little

700
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 3: bit left to the story, but you have any final thought.

701
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 2: It's like just another one of those stories where it's

702
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 2: like you are being bad mouths to people, but you

703
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 2: know you're in the right. And then soon enough, those

704
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,719
Speaker 2: people who believe the bad mouth thing they understand and

705
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 2: they finally come around.

706
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 3: You don't have to do anything. All what this does

707
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 3: is it shows you who your true friends are exactly.

708
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 3: They'll eventually realize that you were right, which is its

709
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 3: own reward. But there is a little bit left. But wait,

710
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 3: that's not all. According to Anne, Kenda lost her job

711
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 3: because she tried to ask for one hundred percent increment

712
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: and attacked her supervisor When the increment request was turned

713
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 3: down two weeks ago, she was immediately escorted out of

714
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 3: the office building by security. WHOA, And she just texted

715
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 3: me twenty minutes ago saying she needed a favor from me,

716
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 3: that she wants a job at my workplace. Oh, he

717
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 3: already kicked you out. Why would she ever want to

718
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 3: give you.

719
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 2: A job even if she didn't kick you out, Like,

720
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 2: just off of that, Like, what if.

721
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 4: You don't get a job, now you're attacking everyone? Is

722
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 4: that happy with the dog? He didn't give you a.

723
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 3: Job, I replied, stating, ooh, there isn't any vacancy tbh.

724
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 3: Even if there was, I wouldn't hire her out my

725
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 3: own So yeah, I hope this is the last time

726
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 3: I'll hear from Kendall, and I'll only update if somehow

727
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 3: something interesting happens that involves Kendall. And that is the

728
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 3: end of that story.

729
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam. We get back to the stories. But

730
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

731
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 5: I refuse to rekindle a relationship with my ex wife

732
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:51,719
Speaker 5: because she had an affair.

733
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: There's a reason she's your ex.

734
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 5: I know what you're gonna say, it's fake and that

735
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 5: you saw this in a Wholemark Christmas movie, and I'm

736
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 5: right there with you. Honestly, I wouldn't believe it either

737
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 5: if it didn't happen to me. So if you can't

738
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 5: believe it, then just pretend and give me advice anyways,

739
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 5: Like I'm a real person, because.

740
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 1: I am, you are a real person, Opie.

741
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from amazing a Hole on

742
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 5: the r slash Okay story time, so I read it.

743
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 5: So I thirty two, mal met Sarah, thirty female. That's

744
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 5: where you went wrong in grade school in our small town.

745
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 5: She was my first everything, girlfriend, love, and eventually wife.

746
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 5: We both went to college together, and after I graduated,

747
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 5: we got married when I was twenty three, she was

748
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 5: twenty one. Sarah was still finishing her degree and I

749
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 5: worked hard to support both of us while she completed

750
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 5: her studies. When she got her first job, I was

751
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 5: so proud of her. It felt like all her sacrifices

752
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 5: and hard work were paying off, and I thought we

753
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 5: were on our way to building a life together. For

754
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 5: two years, everything seemed fine.

755
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: Or at least I thought so done done.

756
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 5: Then one day I came home from work and found

757
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 5: her packing a bag. She sat down and told me

758
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 5: she had been having an affair with a coworker. I

759
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 5: was completely oblivious. She was crying and apologetic. She just

760
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 5: loved me, but that she was in love with the

761
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,280
Speaker 5: coworker and they had this chemistry and a deep connection

762
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 5: that she never felt this level of excitement and attachment

763
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 5: with me.

764
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: I'm happy for her to find that reasoning during your relationship.

765
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 5: At the same time, she seemed to be really apologetic

766
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 5: and acted very guilty. She moved in with the coworker

767
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,720
Speaker 5: that night. Oh wow, she felt guilty, Riley. She felt

768
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 5: guilty that she was cheating on her husband, her first love,

769
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 5: her first everything. That's so funny. Sarah made the divorce

770
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 5: quick and as easy as possible. She didn't contest anything

771
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 5: and took almost nothing. In the state we live in,

772
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,799
Speaker 5: you can get a divorce in ten days if there

773
00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,040
Speaker 5: aren't any children involved. We found the papers ourselves. I

774
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 5: was no lawyer, couldn't afford one. After it was final.

775
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 5: If she asked if we could be friends, and I

776
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 5: am ashamed to say that, I just broke down and

777
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 5: sawved like a baby in front of her, said nothing

778
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 5: and left. At that point, she was twenty three and

779
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 5: I was twenty five. A couple of years later, in

780
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 5: early twenty twenty, while riding out COVID in my hometown,

781
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 5: my mom casually mentioned that Sarah had married the guy

782
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,560
Speaker 5: she left me for. Apparently, Sarah's parents and mine had

783
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 5: talked about it since they were longtime friends, and Sarah's

784
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 5: parents were hesitant about the marriage but supported her. Hearing

785
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,840
Speaker 5: that stunk. I had done everything I could to move on,

786
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:41,240
Speaker 5: but knowing she had married her a fair partner felt

787
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 5: like reopening the wound. I told my mom as kindly

788
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 5: as I could that I didn't want to hear about

789
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 5: Sarah anymore. She understood and never brought it up again.

790
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 5: That's good, dude. You know how many guys I met

791
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 5: at church near here that have been divorced, and they're

792
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 5: under like twenty three three.

793
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: That's still a lot. Well, divorce rates are going even

794
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: more up.

795
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 5: I want to change that me too. I was broken

796
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 5: and depressed at first, but I went to see a

797
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 5: therapist and got some meds. I got some certifications, and

798
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 5: through a friend from college, I got an interview with

799
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 5: a global consulting company. My friend was married and couldn't

800
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,360
Speaker 5: do the amount of travel that job. Required, so he

801
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 5: pushed hard for me to get the position.

802
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 1: Good friend.

803
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,720
Speaker 5: I started traveling around the world and pretty much worked

804
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 5: all the time. At first, on any Giving Day, I

805
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 5: was either in the gym working or having a virtual

806
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 5: therapy session at three am. I was a dull boy.

807
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 5: I got into incredible shape thanks to lifting and running.

808
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 5: Eventually got a long term project in Romania and was

809
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 5: able to meet and have relationships with women.

810
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: Nice Okay, I feel like this is the distraction OP

811
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: needed after.

812
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 5: Every bad break up. I hit the gym so hard

813
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 5: I lost twenty five pounds.

814
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: There you go, good for OP. On all of this

815
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: like this is the distraction that they definitely needed.

816
00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 5: Oh heck, yes, dude. Fast forward a few years. Recently,

817
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 5: I had a few weeks of vacation saved up and

818
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 5: I wanted to spend Christmas in Iceland. I went to

819
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 5: my parents' place in my hometown for Thanksgiving with my

820
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 5: sister and brother. Last Thursday, I was at the local

821
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 5: independent drug store in what passed for downtown in my hometown.

822
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:20,360
Speaker 5: It was a lunch counter, like an old fashioned drug store.

823
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 5: I got a cup of coffee and sat down at

824
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 5: the counter drinking it. When Sarah sat down beside me

825
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 5: and said hello. No, she was super nervous and red

826
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 5: in the face. I was shocked and just sat there

827
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 5: looking at her. I was exploding inside, but I kept

828
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 5: my cool Outwardly. She was still beautiful. She was very

829
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,760
Speaker 5: fit herself and had lost her baby face and became

830
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 5: maybe even more beautiful. She started off by apologizing for

831
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 5: the way she ended her marriage. I told her she

832
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 5: already apologized like one hundred times when she dumped me,

833
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,360
Speaker 5: but she insisted that she was young and stupid, and

834
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 5: over time she realized how much she had hurt me. Dude,

835
00:37:58,280 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 5: she's trying to come back to the honey.

836
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, is she? Like? Oh? He go, he worked out,

837
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: he looks good, he's traveling, he's enjoying life without me.

838
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:08,319
Speaker 1: He no, he can't do that.

839
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,439
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, because the parents are talking. He said, stop

840
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 5: talking about Sar to me. But Sarah didn't say stop

841
00:38:14,040 --> 00:38:14,839
Speaker 5: talking about Op.

842
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh look at us, And I'm not taking her

843
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 1: back the way Op's writing about it. He wants her.

844
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:24,879
Speaker 5: Oh, this is the first time he's seen her since

845
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 5: the divorce.

846
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 1: I think you've done it. I've done it. Like, oh,

847
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 1: what happens if you saw your ex and like, what

848
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 1: would you say? Like I would say this, I would

849
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 1: say that, And then when it happened, she.

850
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 5: Wanted to meet me later in a last crowded spot

851
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 5: with fewer spies small town. Remember, I shook my head

852
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 5: no and told her frankly that I didn't see what

853
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 5: I could possibly get out of the meeting with her again.

854
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: Nice.

855
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 5: That kind of took the wind out of her cells,

856
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 5: and she kind of deflated. She admitted that it was

857
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 5: probably more for her than for me. She said that

858
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 5: I'd get closer not only for how she ended things,

859
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 5: but for the kind of person she was back then.

860
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 5: She wanted to tell me about how she changed and

861
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 5: what she learned about herself and what real love is.

862
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 5: She wanted me to see that the person she become

863
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:15,800
Speaker 5: is someone that I could respect and maybe be friends with. Again. Nope,

864
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 5: I wanted to get the heck out of there, so

865
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 5: I just told her I think about it. She gave

866
00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:24,799
Speaker 5: me her number and went home. Apparently my mother and

867
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 5: sister had already heard about it from Sarah's mom. So

868
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 5: I am a big dumb victim of some kind of

869
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 5: big dumb Hallmark Christmas movie hit job. My sister twenty

870
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 5: nine female and mom fifty five female told me that

871
00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:43,399
Speaker 5: they kept up with Sarah since our divorce and they

872
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 5: know that she's changed and that I should hear her out.

873
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,400
Speaker 5: My dad fifty six male, just shook his head and

874
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 5: walked off. My brother twenty two mail, thought all of

875
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 5: this was hilarious. I asked if he wanted to chime in,

876
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 5: and he just shrugged his shoulders and said that since

877
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 5: Sarah and I knew each other from when we were kids,

878
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 5: I should at least hear her out just to keep

879
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 5: the peace between our families, since we live in a

880
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:09,760
Speaker 5: small town.

881
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 1: If I were OPI, I don't owe her a d thing.

882
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,959
Speaker 1: I don't care about people's peace. I don't care about

883
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 1: her piece. You have no idea what trauma Opie's gone for.

884
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 5: And dude, she cheated on him. No one's like hearing

885
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 5: that part.

886
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, why is everyone like kind of like, Oh, let's

887
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: hear her out like she deserves it. You guys have

888
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 1: been like lifelong friends. You guys should hear it out,

889
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 1: like No, she burnt that bridge long ago when she

890
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,240
Speaker 1: moved in with the person she was having an affair

891
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: with that night. That too, she had an affair on you,

892
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: and she was like, oh, sorry, it's not you, it's me,

893
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: And now she's giving you the peace of day that

894
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 1: oh I've grown as a person. I was young and naive.

895
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 1: I want you back in my life.

896
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 5: Gosh, dude. Personally, I do think that her family would

897
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 5: feel insulted if I didn't at least talk with her.

898
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 5: I know for a fact that she's living with her

899
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 5: parents now, so it seemed like her life completely crap

900
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 5: the bed. I kind of like to get the gory

901
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 5: details as maybe a form of shade and fro, but

902
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 5: it's all behind me now, and I think it would

903
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 5: all just make me sad. I guess I'm a better

904
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:14,360
Speaker 5: man now that I'm more mature, more wealthy, and fitter

905
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 5: than I was when I was with her, But I'm

906
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 5: still the same guy that she didn't have chemistry or

907
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 5: connection with back in the day, So I think whatever

908
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 5: comes out of her mouth would be bull crap. I

909
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 5: think she's probably a dragon cosplaying as a princess and

910
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 5: wants me to be her White Night. My mom and

911
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 5: sister are pushing hard for me to meet her, and

912
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 5: my mom says that she's afraid if I didn't at

913
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 5: least hear Sarah out that Sarah's mom will resent her

914
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 5: and make her social life more complicated. Let me make

915
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 5: it clear that I have no intention of getting back

916
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 5: with Sarah. Sarah's beautiful, but so are the women of Romania,

917
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 5: Iceland and elsewhere, and they have the added bonus of

918
00:41:56,680 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 5: not breaking my heart. I'm interested in going just to

919
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 5: hear about what happens to her after she dumped me,

920
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 5: to smooth things over for my folks. What do you

921
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,399
Speaker 5: think right it? Should I go? I kind of want

922
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 5: to talk me down off the ledge. Would I'd be

923
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 5: the a hole if I ghosted my ex wife and

924
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 5: we got a freaking day. Are we going or not?

925
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:19,359
Speaker 1: She doesn't deserve you, OPI. That's the thing. I do

926
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 1: believe in hearing people out. She wants to give you

927
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: the closure that you so called deserve. You don't deserve it.

928
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 1: You already had your closure, you already moved on. But

929
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 1: I would hear her out. I like giving people second chances.

930
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:31,439
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, you changed, I'll hear you good, good

931
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 1: for you, and that's it. We go our separate ways.

932
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, it definitely will close that chapter of.

933
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: Your life completely. Yeah. I think that you get the

934
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: closure that that person wants to give you. You don't

935
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: not saying she deserves it, but you get that closure.

936
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,439
Speaker 1: She gets that closure. Finnay, it's done.

937
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 5: I think I got closure from my ex whenever I

938
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 5: moved out of my home. Sound.

939
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got distance. You're not getting reminded of her.

940
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 1: You're like, now I can move on. That's what OPI did, Like,

941
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about it from my family,

942
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: don't talk about it, don't talk about her. I'm gonna

943
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: go travel the world. And at the first maybe a

944
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 1: couple of months, he's like, oh, I'm sad. He's like,

945
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: why am I sad? I'm traveling the world, enjoying life.

946
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 1: I should enjoy it to the fullest.

947
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, this probably will help OPI out in some ways.

948
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 5: Therapy session talk to him.

949
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's going to bring up some like

950
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 1: internal trauma, but I think that's gonna be the best

951
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:19,720
Speaker 1: for just like the full closure.

952
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,319
Speaker 5: We got an update, folks, Hi, I'm apparently known as

953
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 5: the horror Mark Christmas movie guy. I'm currently writing this

954
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 5: from Iceland. I have some friends I met while doing

955
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 5: some consulting work here. This time of year, the days

956
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 5: are very short and the northern lights are visible. Unfortunately,

957
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 5: it's supposed to be cloudy and rainy for this foreseeable

958
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 5: future here, so I'm out of luck with the Aura

959
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:45,760
Speaker 5: boy alas we're doing a Christmas pub crawl among other things.

960
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 5: Reg Vic is very single friendly during the holidays. After

961
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 5: I posted, for the next couple of days, my mom

962
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 5: and sister kept bugging me about it until I caved.

963
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 5: I know. I made it clear to them that I

964
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 5: had no intention of getting back with Sarah and that

965
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 5: I was pissed that they thought there was a chance

966
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:05,919
Speaker 5: I'd get back together with someone who stabbed their son

967
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 5: and brother in the art. Finally, I told Sarah i'd

968
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 5: meet her at the playground at our old school. It's

969
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 5: a small town, so there's only one school that's K

970
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 5: through twelve. When we met, I told her upfront that

971
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 5: I'm just there as a favor to our parents and

972
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 5: my sister. She acknowledged that and we engage in a

973
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 5: little small talk. She told me that she had started

974
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,840
Speaker 5: following me on social media. I've since made it friends

975
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 5: and family only, and she saw how I've been all

976
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 5: over the world and even commented on the girlfriend I

977
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 5: had in Romania. I told her the name was Monica,

978
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 5: and we had a great time together. Then she started

979
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 5: in with the juicy stuff I wanted to hear. Unfortunately

980
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 5: it wasn't very juicy, just regular boring relationship craft. She

981
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 5: started living with the guy, and it quickly became a

982
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,879
Speaker 5: parent that once she was with him, the relationship went

983
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:58,919
Speaker 5: from exciting affair to regular home drum relationships.

984
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: I haven't seen that one coming. Like that happens every time. Oh,

985
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 1: the affair so spicy, I'm cheating. I can't do this. Oh,

986
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 1: and you get caught and you're like, uh, now it's boring,

987
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: not just a standard relationship.

988
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 5: She might have a type for married men. Now she's

989
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 5: just She said she knew the forbidden sparks were gone

990
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 5: the first time she had to pick up and launder

991
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 5: the guy's skid mark underwear. Yep, she left me for

992
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 5: a guy who was barely toilet trained. She said that

993
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 5: she was into now that she couldn't have thrown me

994
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 5: away for a guy who is no good, so she

995
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 5: doubled down by marrying him. Sarah was always very stubborn.

996
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 5: He was apparently a good salesman and earned a lot

997
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 5: in commissions but he was really bad with money. They

998
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 5: had a lot of fights about money and household chores,

999
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 5: and finally she caught him cheating with a coworker. Oh

1000
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 5: the irony.

1001
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 1: Wow, what goes around comes around.

1002
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 5: She left him with a wrecked credit score. She was

1003
00:45:56,719 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 5: pregnant with his kid at the time, so she terminated it,

1004
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 5: trying to avoid the filter. This was something no one

1005
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:06,839
Speaker 5: in her families know about. She's been living with her

1006
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:10,280
Speaker 5: parents and working at the same feedstore her dad works at.

1007
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,560
Speaker 5: She said she wanted to reconnect with me due to

1008
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 5: the fact that we were childhood friends and had been

1009
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 5: each other's best friends for seventeen years and she missed me.

1010
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 5: She started on about how much therapy she's been through

1011
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 5: and she is a completely different person now. She wants

1012
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 5: to know how much she cares about me, and that

1013
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 5: girl I was best friends with is still there. Blah

1014
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 5: blah blah blah blah. I can't even write this manipulative

1015
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:36,760
Speaker 5: crap anymore. I guess I'm not a nice guy anymore.

1016
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 5: I didn't want to start any kind of beef with

1017
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 5: her family and mine, so I just told her that

1018
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 5: I also changed since she dumped me. I told her

1019
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 5: that when I touched something and get burned, I don't

1020
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 5: touch it anymore. I told her that it's great she

1021
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 5: worked on herself, but some new guy idiot will have

1022
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 5: to benefit from that. When I look at her, all

1023
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 5: I see is her crying, telling me she's leaving me,

1024
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 5: holding a proverbial knee with my blood all over it.

1025
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,719
Speaker 5: In my mind, she's a person who says, honey, I

1026
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 5: love you, but I also love stabbing. No, thank you, ma'am.

1027
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 5: I told her that if we got together, the resentment

1028
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 5: would make me treat her like crap all the time,

1029
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 5: and that she didn't want or deserve that. I told

1030
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 5: her good luck in her future endeavors, and I hope

1031
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 5: she keeps up with her changes, and that I had

1032
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 5: to leave to go to Iceland for Christmas. Yes, I

1033
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 5: was bragging. She was tearing up and trying not to

1034
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:32,240
Speaker 5: let me see her cry, and I pretended to not notice.

1035
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 5: By the way, you can notice us on all the

1036
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 5: similar stories like this on our podcast platforms. Join us

1037
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:41,879
Speaker 5: on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

1038
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 5: Just search Okay, story Time and Kean, how are you

1039
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 5: feel about this? Do you think she wrote this out

1040
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 5: scripted it and memorized her thoughts and like.

1041
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: She recited it now in the shower as well, and

1042
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,919
Speaker 1: that's what she wanted to say, and she got it out.

1043
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: But guess what Op is doing one the right thing

1044
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 1: of hearing her out, hearing her sob story, like you

1045
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,200
Speaker 1: kind of brought this upon yourself. And he's gonna go

1046
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: to Iceland and go enjoy Christmas pub brawl. And this

1047
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 1: is great for Obie. He's not rubbing it in too

1048
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 1: much to like hurt her, but he's like, I have

1049
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: my life and honestly, because of you dumping me, I

1050
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 1: wouldn't be enjoy enjoying my life now. And look how

1051
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: that's changed. You left me for this guy who literally

1052
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 1: isn't great. You can't even wipe his own.

1053
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 5: At that's crazy. Yeah, hope he made it work out.

1054
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: It's gonna make Op feel so much better about himself.

1055
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 1: It's sorry for the girl. I mean, you brought this

1056
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 1: upon yourself, But guess what sucks for you, Sarah. You

1057
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 1: brought this upon yourself. You left a great man and

1058
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: you made him even greater.

1059
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 5: Sarah's of the world. Stop ruining men's lives.

1060
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 1: Opyrooting lives back to the story.

1061
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 5: My dad was disappointed. I cave to my mom and sister.

1062
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 5: He made it feel like I failed the test of manhood.

1063
00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 5: I told my mom and sister not to expect any

1064
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 5: wedding bells or grandchildren's flash and nephews anytime soon. My

1065
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:57,440
Speaker 5: brother called me a simp, so I had to wrestle him.

1066
00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 5: He got me to headlock. The guy's getting too big

1067
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 5: and I held back too much. I love for ies

1068
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:04,879
Speaker 5: in the next day and I'm there until the new year.

1069
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,760
Speaker 5: I'm headed to Budapest for a following up project. Sarah

1070
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:09,760
Speaker 5: is not invite.

1071
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: This was great, good job, Oop, no matter how you

1072
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:15,359
Speaker 1: perceive it, Like if Sarah was the one that got

1073
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:17,879
Speaker 1: cheated on and Op was, It's just one of those

1074
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,080
Speaker 1: like sweet stories of like you got cheated on, they

1075
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 1: left you for someone they thought was better, and you did.

1076
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 5: The best revenge by working on yourself.

1077
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 1: You worked on yourself, you did therapy, you worked out,

1078
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 1: you traveled the world, and you bet cool people and

1079
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 1: they come back into your life, crawling back into your

1080
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:36,160
Speaker 1: life asking you, oh, like I messed up, you were

1081
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:39,360
Speaker 1: the one, and you're just like, okay, well that's I

1082
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 1: was the one. You're not my one anymore. I love

1083
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 1: this story.

1084
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,279
Speaker 5: You do also. I hate that you had to go

1085
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 5: through Sarah Op for you to find your best life.

1086
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: But sometimes you got to go through those obstacles, you know,

1087
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: to get to the load to enjoy the high.

1088
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 5: My ex best friend is having an affair with a

1089
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 5: married man.

1090
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 1: Get I'm unmarried.

1091
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 2: Now.

1092
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 5: The events in this post are all real, but since

1093
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 5: some some events include have made our local news, names

1094
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 5: and details have been excluded or changed. This is a

1095
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 5: long story, so we'll have three parts. Hello, you can

1096
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 5: call me Grace. My best friend we can call her Anna.

1097
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 3: By the way.

1098
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 5: This comes from disabled Pan on the r Slish. Okay,

1099
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:18,839
Speaker 5: story time, self about it. Anna and I have been

1100
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 5: friends since high school. She was one of those girls

1101
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 5: who had always needed to have a boyfriend, leading to

1102
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 5: many bad relationships. She mostly met guys through Xbox, Snapchat,

1103
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 5: and tendered. Her sourcing is spot on crazy Xbox.

1104
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 1: It's like, oh my god, are you actually really a girl? Yeah?

1105
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: Meet me here at that seven eleven. We'll get out

1106
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: those slurpace.

1107
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 5: Sometimes. She wasn't very into the guys she was with,

1108
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 5: and our friend group had to convince her to break

1109
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 5: it off of them other times she was obsessed with

1110
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 5: the guys who just did not want the same things

1111
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 5: from her. Being teenagers, I chalked this up to her

1112
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 5: low self esteem. In other areas of life, she was kind, supportive,

1113
00:50:57,480 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 5: and very honest, so I thought I always matched her

1114
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:06,080
Speaker 5: energy and we were never afraid to speak our minds. Eventually,

1115
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,320
Speaker 5: other drama led us to breaking off from the friend group,

1116
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 5: and we became best friends since graduating high school. In

1117
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:16,760
Speaker 5: her late teen slash early twenties, Anna started riding motorcycles.

1118
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 5: I did not, but I did my best to be supportive.

1119
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 5: She joined a local riding group, not a gang, and

1120
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 5: found people to meet up with rides, which I thought

1121
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 5: was great until a few months later when she started

1122
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 5: talking a lot about this one guy and his wife.

1123
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 5: This couple was in their forties at three kids, and

1124
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 5: frequently hung out together in motorcycle group with Anna. But

1125
00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:44,799
Speaker 5: the guy who called Jack had a very specific and

1126
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 5: very cool motorcycle that they Anna and Jack would ride

1127
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:53,240
Speaker 5: on together. I was skeptical, but didn't go off yet,

1128
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 5: so it continued. Jack was showing her some new tricks.

1129
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:01,320
Speaker 5: Then Jack was helping her repair her bank at her house.

1130
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 5: Jack was paying for parts and gears for her riding,

1131
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 5: and for some reason his wife was acting jealous.

1132
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is all reasonable and gross.

1133
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 5: At this point, I assumed it was obvious that Jack

1134
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 5: was hitting on Anna and she was either oblivious or

1135
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 5: being witfully ignorant to get some perks. She laughed it

1136
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 5: off and said not to worry, nothing was going to

1137
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 5: happen between them. Little did I know by this time

1138
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 5: she was completely used to lying to me. Weeks later,

1139
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:35,120
Speaker 5: when I had not changed my opinion, Anna finally confessed

1140
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:37,280
Speaker 5: to me that she and Jack had been doing a

1141
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 5: lot more than what she was saying. She had hidden

1142
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 5: her full blown affair with Jack from me because she

1143
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 5: knew I wouldn't approve, and also because Jack had instructed

1144
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 5: her to keep their little secret ill. She tried to

1145
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 5: defend the affair by admitted that she had also cheated

1146
00:52:55,680 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 5: in many of her Xbox Slash Snapchat relationships in the past,

1147
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 5: and had hitten it from me. Shocked, baffled, since everyone cheated,

1148
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 5: it wasn't that big of a deal, right, Well, call

1149
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 5: me a luxury Vinyl plank. Because I was floored. She

1150
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 5: also gave excuses on his part, all the usual ones.

1151
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,719
Speaker 5: His wife was awful. She didn't want to sleep at

1152
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:26,120
Speaker 5: ham as much after their three children. She apparently turned

1153
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 5: the kids against him too, But he didn't want to

1154
00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:34,360
Speaker 5: have a broking home, so obviously his only option was

1155
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 5: to have an affair with this girl who's less than

1156
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 5: two years older than his oldest child, his still minor child.

1157
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 5: So I'm guessing Anna is like eighteen or nineteen.

1158
00:53:47,800 --> 00:53:50,720
Speaker 1: I would assume she's in the late teens. I hope,

1159
00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: I really hope.

1160
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 5: What's like keep kids being minors if they're their twenty one?

1161
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 1: I don't like you.

1162
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 5: I didn't feel like I was adult until I was

1163
00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:57,400
Speaker 5: like twenty.

1164
00:53:57,680 --> 00:53:59,440
Speaker 1: I feel like there's times where I'm like, oh, I'm

1165
00:53:59,440 --> 00:53:59,880
Speaker 1: an adult.

1166
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 5: I can imagine being anywhere like this until I was

1167
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,760
Speaker 5: like twenty. I made my feelings very clear to Anna.

1168
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:08,680
Speaker 5: This whole situation was not okay and this was not

1169
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 5: a good man. When she pushed back, I tried to

1170
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:15,840
Speaker 5: empathize with her because she was my best friend. Maybe

1171
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 5: he made her feel desirable, gave her advice, and bought

1172
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:22,359
Speaker 5: her stuff, but none of that mattered because of all

1173
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:26,319
Speaker 5: the obvious ways that he was a terrible man. She

1174
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 5: would not hear any of it. He was a great

1175
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 5: guy who did great things for her. She was an

1176
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 5: adult who could make her own choices, and he just

1177
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:39,440
Speaker 5: wanted what was best for his kids. Yeah right. She

1178
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 5: also refused to tell his wife, shocking. Ope ultimatum, you

1179
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 5: tell the wife, or she tells a wife, or he

1180
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,479
Speaker 5: tells a wife. Someone's telling the wife in a week.

1181
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 1: At this point, in an hour, I'm over there.

1182
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:55,640
Speaker 5: If I get any small sniff of a cheatings affair happening,

1183
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:57,239
Speaker 5: I'm letting the partner.

1184
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:58,920
Speaker 1: Up, even if you don't know them, even if.

1185
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 5: I don't know them. It was like on train and

1186
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 5: I hear it, okay, whatever, but it's like I hear

1187
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 5: your friend of a friend and I'm like, oh, I

1188
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 5: kind of know her in some way or know him.

1189
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, hey, I'm gonna stop this tomfoolery.

1190
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, as a human, you cannot allow that. For the

1191
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 5: next several months, Anna and I also had a strain

1192
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:19,719
Speaker 5: of relationship. We fought, but I was also busy with

1193
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 5: college and work, so I mostly wanted to ignore the

1194
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 5: whole situation. I had never met those people and had

1195
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,479
Speaker 5: no proof of anything, so there wasn't much I could

1196
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 5: have done. Anyways, During this time, Jack proved to be

1197
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 5: a complete d bag. He constantly degraded Anna, calling her

1198
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 5: a stupid child, and getting pissed when she wouldn't drop

1199
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,840
Speaker 5: everything to wait on him hand and foot. For example,

1200
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:46,799
Speaker 5: if he forgot to bring lunch for work, she was

1201
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:50,240
Speaker 5: expected to make something and bring it to him immediately,

1202
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 5: no matter what she was doing. I continue to tell Anna, yeah,

1203
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 5: he's awful, get rid of him. But after all his

1204
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:02,800
Speaker 5: love bombing, she was attacked. Eventually, the inevitable happened.

1205
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, gross, maybe she's into that.

1206
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 5: I think she's super young. She doesn't know what love

1207
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:08,920
Speaker 5: bomby is or what this looks like.

1208
00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: Who is the worst here, Jack the forty year old

1209
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: who's cheating on his wife and his family, or Anna

1210
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 1: the one that's going into it and like just enabling it.

1211
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 5: I don't think she knows any better, dude.

1212
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,760
Speaker 1: So it's Jack. Jack's using Anna for sure, and Anna's

1213
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:25,319
Speaker 1: just like this is what it's supposed to be, right,

1214
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 1: Like he's the good guy and I love him, love

1215
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 1: him because she doesn't know what love is and she

1216
00:56:30,520 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 1: doesn't want to listen to anyone, like you just want

1217
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 1: to hear anyone about it. She's like I'm in the

1218
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:36,239
Speaker 1: right there, Jack tells me, I'm right.

1219
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:39,279
Speaker 5: It's sad Jack you His wife had been moving in

1220
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 5: the shadows and somehow sinked his phone to their laptop

1221
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 5: so she could read all the messages he had been

1222
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:49,680
Speaker 5: leading She had all the proof she needed. She kicked

1223
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:53,320
Speaker 5: him out and changed the locks. This man actually broke

1224
00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 5: the door handle trying to get into the house to

1225
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 5: just have a conversation, and this led to the wife

1226
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 5: getting a restraining war and filing for divorce. Jack and

1227
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:06,400
Speaker 5: Anna were also banned from the writing group. Why do

1228
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 5: I know this information? Anna told me about it because

1229
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 5: she and Jack had decided to move in together and

1230
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 5: she wanted me to meet him.

1231
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's such a great guy. He just broke off

1232
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: a handle because he just wanted to talk.

1233
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:19,840
Speaker 5: I would never want to meet Satan.

1234
00:57:19,800 --> 00:57:22,479
Speaker 1: Never, no, no, but he's great.

1235
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 5: Apparently, now that she was separating from his wife, he

1236
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 5: supposedly wanted to meet some of Anna's friends and family.

1237
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 5: He was somehow always busy and never met her family.

1238
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 5: I told her that based on his actions and how

1239
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,919
Speaker 5: he has treated her in the time, since I would

1240
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 5: never willingly put myself in a room with that man.

1241
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 5: She was upset with me and we had a major

1242
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:49,480
Speaker 5: fight where she says some completely hurtful things about me

1243
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 5: and my fiance. This was the straw that finally led

1244
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 5: to me blocking her on social media and we didn't

1245
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 5: talk for months. Part three The Rest That's a New Time.

1246
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 1: I like that title.

1247
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 5: This is the final act climax. Oh boy. The only

1248
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 5: thing I never actually blocked was Anna's phone number, because

1249
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 5: part of me held out to hope that she would

1250
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:13,800
Speaker 5: come to her senses and eventually want to apologize. Boy,

1251
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:16,960
Speaker 5: was I wrong. Months after our fight and a cause

1252
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 5: I decided to answer. She tells me that she and

1253
00:58:20,760 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 5: Jack had been riding a motorcycle in the next town over,

1254
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 5: but something happened and Jack was arrested. She might need

1255
00:58:27,680 --> 00:58:30,160
Speaker 5: to ride to a place to stay. I asked if

1256
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 5: she had anyone else to call, finally gaining a spine,

1257
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:36,320
Speaker 5: and she ended up getting a ride from her dad

1258
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 5: back to her place with Jack. I get on the

1259
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:41,640
Speaker 5: Facebook page for our local police scanner and found out

1260
00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 5: what actually happened instantly. These idiots had been riding with

1261
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 5: Anna on back, going over one hundred miles an hour

1262
00:58:49,880 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 5: when they passed a state trooper instead of stopping, they

1263
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 5: started an hour long police chase, trying to outrun several

1264
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:03,240
Speaker 5: officers and police helicopter, but he ran out of gas

1265
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 5: in the next town over and was immediately arrested.

1266
00:59:07,440 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 1: He's just a good guy.

1267
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 5: At first, they arrested Anna too, but the cops assumed

1268
00:59:11,720 --> 00:59:16,440
Speaker 5: she was his daughter and let her go. Jack is

1269
00:59:16,480 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 5: now facing several charges, including felonies, and it is almost

1270
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 5: certainly going to prison. Even if he doesn't. This has

1271
00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 5: cost him his career as a car salesman. As for Anna, well,

1272
00:59:28,680 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 5: I'm still a recovering people pleaser, so I gave her

1273
00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 5: a spot on my couch for two days before she

1274
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:36,920
Speaker 5: was supposed to move to her grandparents house. During that time,

1275
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,800
Speaker 5: I got filled in on all the horrible ways he

1276
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 5: treated her. The house was never clean enough, she was

1277
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 5: lazy and stupid. He had even gotten her fired from

1278
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 5: one of her jobs by showing up at her work

1279
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 5: trying to fistfy a mal coworker who had invited her

1280
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 5: out for drinks. All of this made me feel really

1281
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:58,400
Speaker 5: bad for Anna, and though I thought she was done

1282
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 5: with him for good. Maybe we can recover from this.

1283
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 5: I honestly should have learned my lesson by now. A

1284
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:08,800
Speaker 5: few days later, Anna calls me crying. Even after that arrest,

1285
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 5: she continued speeding and ended up getting two separate tickets

1286
01:00:14,840 --> 01:00:17,840
Speaker 5: in less than twenty four hours by the same cop.

1287
01:00:18,040 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 5: That's even more embarrassing because of her driving history. She

1288
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:23,439
Speaker 5: will have to go to court for these and will

1289
01:00:23,560 --> 01:00:27,479
Speaker 5: almost certainly lose her license. And apparently Jack was mad

1290
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 5: at her about it. Why does he even know about it?

1291
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 5: We should all know by now, because instead of going

1292
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 5: to her grandparents, she went back to him. I hung up,

1293
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 5: But if you're not done reading this story, you don't

1294
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:41,440
Speaker 5: have to hang up the phone, and you can go

1295
01:00:41,480 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 5: to our spodcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts wherever you listen

1296
01:00:44,800 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 5: to your podcast. Just search up Okay story Time for

1297
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:49,880
Speaker 5: more stories like this. What's wrong with her? Keon?

1298
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 1: I was gonna say therapy, but this is not good.

1299
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 1: I don't think there's any excuse here. This girl has

1300
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 1: been manipulated and emotionally and mentally. I guess you can

1301
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 1: say I feel bad for her, but like nothing is

1302
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 1: gonna fix her. It seems like you gotta just take

1303
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:07,240
Speaker 1: her away from this guy. I think you gotta put

1304
01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 1: her somewhere where it's just like she can't really do.

1305
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:12,360
Speaker 5: Much back to the story, so she and Jack are

1306
01:01:12,360 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 5: completely screwed. Since he's going to jail and lost his job,

1307
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 5: he is sure to lose the kids and just about

1308
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:22,360
Speaker 5: everything else in the divorce. Apparently his wife is trying

1309
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 5: to take his very cool motorcycle, and I hope she

1310
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 5: gets it. Anna will have nowhere to live because she

1311
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:31,480
Speaker 5: was never actually on his lease, and her job is

1312
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 5: at a different car dealership parking cars, so she will

1313
01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 5: probably lose that too, But I won't know because the

1314
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 5: next time she calls she will find out I finally

1315
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 5: blocked her number. Ope, he got a spine and is strong.

1316
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:47,080
Speaker 1: I feel bad for Anna because that's just a terrible

1317
01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: life to live, but you brought that upon yourself, and

1318
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 1: you keep doing, keep going back. You're just gonna have

1319
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 1: to learn the hard way. And looks like she is.

1320
01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 5: Hit the fire's hot. Stop touching it.

1321
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:57,840
Speaker 1: John here og host, We're gonna get back to these stories,

1322
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 1: but a quick three minute break from hous from our sponsors.

1323
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: My ex confessed her feelings for me, but we are

1324
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 1: both married.

1325
01:02:05,560 --> 01:02:07,640
Speaker 5: That's why you don't go to high school reunions.

1326
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:09,920
Speaker 1: So this will be a weird one. I made a

1327
01:02:09,920 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 1: throwaway for it as I think it's a pretty unique

1328
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 1: situation that this person in question could very easily figure

1329
01:02:15,720 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 1: out is about them. I don't want them knowing my man,

1330
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: even if they have or use Reddit. I thirty five male,

1331
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 1: am happily married with two children. My wife thirty two female,

1332
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:28,439
Speaker 1: and I have been together for eight years, married for four.

1333
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,520
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user thrown away Underscore

1334
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 1: Rebound on the ar Slash showcase Storytime Separate. So we

1335
01:02:34,400 --> 01:02:36,880
Speaker 1: were out shopping in our hometown when we ran into

1336
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:41,040
Speaker 1: my ex friend, her parents, and her children. She moved

1337
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 1: out of the state over ten years ago and I

1338
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:45,800
Speaker 1: haven't seen her since, nor have we had any contact

1339
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 1: other than Facebook happy birthday wishes? Do you do that

1340
01:02:48,720 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 1: with your exes?

1341
01:02:49,720 --> 01:02:50,040
Speaker 5: Nope?

1342
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 1: Sorry, she's married with two kids of her own. Anyway,

1343
01:02:53,720 --> 01:02:56,960
Speaker 1: onto the situation, My father in law and her father

1344
01:02:57,080 --> 01:02:59,760
Speaker 1: are friendly with each other. They're both retired military, and

1345
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 1: they they occasionally have breakfast together with their other retired friends.

1346
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:07,160
Speaker 1: When we ran into each other, her aka my ex

1347
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 1: dad congratulated my wife and I on our children. We

1348
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 1: figured my father in law told them we were expecting

1349
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 1: our third child. I saw my ex friend look at

1350
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 1: my wife's belly and then acted distant for the rest

1351
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:21,080
Speaker 1: of the exchange, whereas she was friendly starting off. We

1352
01:03:21,160 --> 01:03:24,400
Speaker 1: trade pleasantries and said goodbye. My wife and I continue

1353
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,840
Speaker 1: our shopping. By the time we're done, I checked my

1354
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 1: phone and see I have a Facebook message from that

1355
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 1: ex friend. Ex friend says, it was good to see

1356
01:03:31,880 --> 01:03:35,440
Speaker 1: you again. I say you too. The family looks good.

1357
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 1: Ex friend yours too? Would you want to grab coffee

1358
01:03:39,520 --> 01:03:42,640
Speaker 1: and catch up. I'm in town for a couple more days. OP,

1359
01:03:43,040 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 1: We're actually pretty busy, otherwise I would be down. I'm sorry,

1360
01:03:47,360 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 1: ex friend, I understand adulting. Can I ask you a question? OP? Sure?

1361
01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 1: What's up? Ex friend? Was I just not your type? OP?

1362
01:03:56,680 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 1: What do you mean? Ex friend? I'm asking? What did

1363
01:04:00,640 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 1: I do wrong? OPI didn't respond, as this was out

1364
01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 1: of nowhere?

1365
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:06,120
Speaker 5: Facts all right? I like that.

1366
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:10,160
Speaker 1: Ex friend says, I pursued you for years. We were

1367
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:13,400
Speaker 1: inseparable for years, and you never gave us a real chance.

1368
01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:17,840
Speaker 1: I loved you, our families loved us, our friends loved

1369
01:04:17,880 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 1: us together. You just never committed all the way for us.

1370
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:23,400
Speaker 1: You wouldn't even have spicy sleep with me, and I

1371
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 1: need to know. Why was I not good enough? Could

1372
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 1: you not see yourself married to me and having a

1373
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:30,160
Speaker 1: family together?

1374
01:04:32,240 --> 01:04:34,920
Speaker 5: Hey, what does your husband Greg think about this?

1375
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 1: Let's talk to your husband about that. I didn't respond

1376
01:04:37,280 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 1: and showed the messages to my wife. She knows of

1377
01:04:40,480 --> 01:04:43,560
Speaker 1: this girl and my reasoning for her and I growing apart,

1378
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:47,960
Speaker 1: mostly because we see her family everywhere, and she asked.

1379
01:04:48,200 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 1: My wife told me to be honest with her, but

1380
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if that's right. It feels mean. I'm

1381
01:04:53,200 --> 01:04:55,480
Speaker 1: going to give my point of view on our friendship,

1382
01:04:55,480 --> 01:04:57,439
Speaker 1: and I'm hoping I can get some advice on where

1383
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,120
Speaker 1: to go from here. So basically, she and I I

1384
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:03,080
Speaker 1: met through friends in high school. I was very interested,

1385
01:05:03,240 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 1: but she was dating someone at that time. She ended

1386
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:07,680
Speaker 1: up asking me out a month or so later, and

1387
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:10,439
Speaker 1: we went on dates and kissed a few times, though

1388
01:05:10,440 --> 01:05:13,040
Speaker 1: we never had any conversation of being official, hence me

1389
01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:16,520
Speaker 1: calling her friend and not girlfriend. One night, while riding

1390
01:05:16,560 --> 01:05:19,360
Speaker 1: in the car, her who I thought was her ex boyfriend,

1391
01:05:19,800 --> 01:05:22,160
Speaker 1: called her and asked her when she'd be over. She

1392
01:05:22,240 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 1: didn't have it on speaker, but I can still hear

1393
01:05:24,320 --> 01:05:27,680
Speaker 1: the conversation. She told him. I can't talk right now,

1394
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:30,520
Speaker 1: and he asked, who are you with. She didn't tell him.

1395
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:32,960
Speaker 1: He later figured it out and messaged me on Facebook

1396
01:05:32,960 --> 01:05:36,280
Speaker 1: asking if I knew they were still together. I apologized

1397
01:05:36,320 --> 01:05:38,880
Speaker 1: and said I didn't, and I would cut things off.

1398
01:05:39,160 --> 01:05:41,919
Speaker 1: I called her and she started crying, saying she didn't

1399
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 1: have the courage to tell me they were still together,

1400
01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:46,440
Speaker 1: but she liked me so much and was going to

1401
01:05:46,440 --> 01:05:49,240
Speaker 1: break up with him. I cut her off anyway. Woo.

1402
01:05:50,360 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 1: It's one of those things where, oh, wow, you're cheating

1403
01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:54,920
Speaker 1: on two guys and you don't get either of them. Yeah,

1404
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 1: she just wants more.

1405
01:05:55,960 --> 01:05:56,960
Speaker 5: I need more attention.

1406
01:05:57,200 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 1: I like you so much. Guess what, I guarantee you.

1407
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 1: She saying that to the other guy too. Oo, I

1408
01:06:01,960 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 1: like you so much. He's just a friend.

1409
01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:05,760
Speaker 5: He's just a friend. Don't worry about him.

1410
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:08,440
Speaker 1: Fast forward a few more months and she reaches out

1411
01:06:08,520 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 1: and we go through the same motions, her wanting to

1412
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:14,480
Speaker 1: be with me, but always having another guy messaging her

1413
01:06:14,760 --> 01:06:16,880
Speaker 1: that I would catch out of the corner of my eye.

1414
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:22,320
Speaker 1: This lasted embarrassingly for years throughout college in our early twenties.

1415
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:25,160
Speaker 1: It was always the same, She'd reach out, we'd reconnect,

1416
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:27,960
Speaker 1: and things begin getting series again. I'd check her social

1417
01:06:28,000 --> 01:06:31,120
Speaker 1: media and see she just broke up with someone. We

1418
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:33,480
Speaker 1: even went on vacation to the mount together for a

1419
01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:37,280
Speaker 1: weekend and the same thing she had literally just been

1420
01:06:37,360 --> 01:06:39,840
Speaker 1: there a month ago with her ex. The trip with

1421
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: me was her idea.

1422
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 5: Maybe she wants you, but needs to make sure that

1423
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 5: with other guys she doesn't want that. She would like

1424
01:06:48,680 --> 01:06:50,520
Speaker 5: to do the activity with you by checking with the

1425
01:06:50,560 --> 01:06:52,480
Speaker 5: other guys first and then do them with you. That's

1426
01:06:52,480 --> 01:06:52,920
Speaker 5: what I think.

1427
01:06:52,920 --> 01:06:55,760
Speaker 1: I'm going to say this right now. She's but also

1428
01:06:55,880 --> 01:06:59,400
Speaker 1: o piece for falling for this many times. This seems

1429
01:06:59,400 --> 01:07:02,080
Speaker 1: like it happened more than three times, where it's like

1430
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 1: he's like this happened countless times. It's the same emotions

1431
01:07:04,680 --> 01:07:07,120
Speaker 1: over and over again. So you're kind of enabling her

1432
01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:09,480
Speaker 1: and following her in her footsteps. She's treating you like

1433
01:07:09,520 --> 01:07:11,880
Speaker 1: a little puppy. The worst part is both of our

1434
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,840
Speaker 1: families really did love us together. My parents were never

1435
01:07:15,280 --> 01:07:18,200
Speaker 1: rude to my girlfriends, But what asked me how ex

1436
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 1: friend is doing these days? Or Snyder remarks about how

1437
01:07:21,440 --> 01:07:25,040
Speaker 1: her parents miss me. Heck, even my now father in

1438
01:07:25,120 --> 01:07:27,920
Speaker 1: law at one point mentioned that X's dad brought up

1439
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:30,520
Speaker 1: how he really thought I'd be his son one day.

1440
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:33,200
Speaker 1: I confide it in my friends years ago that I'm

1441
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 1: always just a rebound or backup plan, and that's why

1442
01:07:35,960 --> 01:07:38,360
Speaker 1: I can never commit or get more physical with her.

1443
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 1: They told me just to sleep with her when she

1444
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:44,040
Speaker 1: comes calling, and don't pursue anything more. No, don't do that.

1445
01:07:44,320 --> 01:07:48,480
Speaker 1: The problem was I wanted more but felt used. Anyways,

1446
01:07:48,560 --> 01:07:51,640
Speaker 1: every time we would plan things out where spicy sleep

1447
01:07:51,920 --> 01:07:54,160
Speaker 1: was more than likely on the table, I'd see a

1448
01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:56,200
Speaker 1: guy message her and or I'd see a post on

1449
01:07:56,240 --> 01:08:00,080
Speaker 1: social media, and it just ruined my enthusiasm. When I

1450
01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 1: say that, I mean literally it crushed my confidence every

1451
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 1: single time. Again, like I said, you're like her little

1452
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: puppy dog. She just wants you as a little lap

1453
01:08:09,360 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 1: dog and just like, oh yeah, let me play with

1454
01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:14,240
Speaker 1: you for a little bit. No, don't give her the satisfaction.

1455
01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 1: Don't keep doing it. But it seems like, oh, he

1456
01:08:17,160 --> 01:08:19,200
Speaker 1: keeps doing it. One of my best friends told me

1457
01:08:19,320 --> 01:08:21,000
Speaker 1: I didn't have to pay attention to all of that

1458
01:08:21,120 --> 01:08:24,160
Speaker 1: nonsense and could have just had my fun with her. Also,

1459
01:08:24,280 --> 01:08:26,080
Speaker 1: don't do that. Didn't mean I had to chase a

1460
01:08:26,120 --> 01:08:29,599
Speaker 1: relationship with knowing I was always a rebound that felt

1461
01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:32,320
Speaker 1: crappy to me. I had other girlfriends here and there,

1462
01:08:32,479 --> 01:08:35,080
Speaker 1: but I wanted this girl. We just clicked, you know.

1463
01:08:35,400 --> 01:08:38,000
Speaker 1: But it's like some sort of god dang mystical being

1464
01:08:38,120 --> 01:08:41,320
Speaker 1: was showing me a sign every single time things were

1465
01:08:41,320 --> 01:08:44,320
Speaker 1: going to progress our relationship. So every time he was like,

1466
01:08:44,320 --> 01:08:46,479
Speaker 1: oh I should do this, a guy's messaging her, or

1467
01:08:46,520 --> 01:08:48,960
Speaker 1: like he sees like, oh, she just broke up with someone,

1468
01:08:49,040 --> 01:08:51,680
Speaker 1: but like there's something something, It's always something. I just

1469
01:08:51,720 --> 01:08:54,160
Speaker 1: didn't want her to be getting over someone else or

1470
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 1: having someone on a back burner when we'd reconnect, and

1471
01:08:57,439 --> 01:08:59,840
Speaker 1: that's what she does. She sees you as her plan

1472
01:09:00,479 --> 01:09:00,880
Speaker 1: B or C.

1473
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:03,400
Speaker 5: Yeah you're not second choice, buddy.

1474
01:09:03,240 --> 01:09:04,280
Speaker 1: Your first choice.

1475
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:06,240
Speaker 5: I think she likes to do this thing where she's

1476
01:09:06,280 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 5: always going after her next guy. So whenever she's with you,

1477
01:09:09,360 --> 01:09:10,880
Speaker 5: she's always after her next guy.

1478
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:13,320
Speaker 1: She has you in like her back pocket. Whenever he's like,

1479
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:15,840
Speaker 1: oh that's speed dial, like oh I need you, like

1480
01:09:15,880 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 1: I just need comfort, I need a motion, I need

1481
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:18,280
Speaker 1: someone to talk to.

1482
01:09:18,360 --> 01:09:21,400
Speaker 5: She's after her next guy, calling me her next guy.

1483
01:09:21,680 --> 01:09:23,840
Speaker 1: And guess what, op he's feeding into it. Every single

1484
01:09:23,880 --> 01:09:25,200
Speaker 1: time I think he wants to be her friend, but

1485
01:09:25,240 --> 01:09:27,800
Speaker 1: also he's like, I really like you, I really like her.

1486
01:09:27,920 --> 01:09:29,360
Speaker 5: That's the one I need to see a picture of

1487
01:09:29,400 --> 01:09:30,800
Speaker 5: these people. That's what I need.

1488
01:09:30,920 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe she's just super hot. Maybe that's my own insecurity,

1489
01:09:33,880 --> 01:09:36,759
Speaker 1: but I know how I felt, and it didn't feel good.

1490
01:09:37,160 --> 01:09:40,600
Speaker 1: So I slowly distanced myself. After a short amount of

1491
01:09:40,680 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 1: time passed, I met my wife, she met her husband,

1492
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,559
Speaker 1: and our lives moved on with little to no contact

1493
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:48,520
Speaker 1: until the other day. I haven't responded to the messages

1494
01:09:48,760 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 1: and it's been two days. I was thinking of just

1495
01:09:51,479 --> 01:09:54,680
Speaker 1: lying and saying it's not her fault, or just not responding,

1496
01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:57,800
Speaker 1: but my wife is insisting I tell her the whole thing.

1497
01:09:58,120 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 1: I know this is a word wall, but I'm on conflicted.

1498
01:10:01,360 --> 01:10:04,800
Speaker 1: Why are you conflicted? You are married and you have children.

1499
01:10:05,600 --> 01:10:07,599
Speaker 1: She is married and she has children.

1500
01:10:07,720 --> 01:10:09,639
Speaker 5: I mean, if your wife's excited about this, she can

1501
01:10:09,720 --> 01:10:11,360
Speaker 5: like type up a message and send it for you.

1502
01:10:11,560 --> 01:10:13,040
Speaker 1: I mean I would just be like, yeah, ghosting her

1503
01:10:13,120 --> 01:10:13,479
Speaker 1: is one thing.

1504
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 5: He's like, I'm done with this, Why are you doing this? Still?

1505
01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:16,919
Speaker 1: I don't think that's why he's conflicted.

1506
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:18,679
Speaker 5: Ooh, he still has those like Dyleen.

1507
01:10:18,960 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 1: I told my wife I was going to ask others

1508
01:10:21,080 --> 01:10:25,080
Speaker 1: for their opinion, and I'm considering the internet as my others.

1509
01:10:25,360 --> 01:10:28,519
Speaker 1: We have some relevant comments here the Taco life. Ope,

1510
01:10:29,000 --> 01:10:33,320
Speaker 1: she's doing exactly the same thing she always did with you.

1511
01:10:33,600 --> 01:10:35,680
Speaker 1: I would bet all the cash in my wallet if

1512
01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:38,679
Speaker 1: you were able to look into her life. Her marriage

1513
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:41,720
Speaker 1: is crumbling or her husband isn't paying enough attention to her.

1514
01:10:42,200 --> 01:10:45,320
Speaker 1: You were the great white whale that got away, and

1515
01:10:45,400 --> 01:10:47,559
Speaker 1: she is trying to test the water to see if

1516
01:10:47,560 --> 01:10:50,000
Speaker 1: you're down to do the same old song and dance.

1517
01:10:50,680 --> 01:10:53,000
Speaker 1: Now even more of a challenge since you have a

1518
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:57,479
Speaker 1: happy family and marriage. Don't engage with her. This sounds

1519
01:10:57,479 --> 01:10:59,760
Speaker 1: exactly like the same cycle you described from your young

1520
01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:03,240
Speaker 1: dad adulthood. Like I said, little puppy, what do you think?

1521
01:11:03,439 --> 01:11:05,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, just keep living life. I wouldn't respond.

1522
01:11:06,000 --> 01:11:08,240
Speaker 1: I wouldn't respond. I would tell her like, that's gross.

1523
01:11:08,240 --> 01:11:10,800
Speaker 1: And if you keep pursuing, I'm gonna tell your husband.

1524
01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:13,760
Speaker 5: I'm a screenshot away from ruining your marriage. Please stop

1525
01:11:13,800 --> 01:11:14,240
Speaker 5: talking to me.

1526
01:11:14,400 --> 01:11:18,360
Speaker 1: We have an update. Thank you everyone for your responses.

1527
01:11:18,800 --> 01:11:21,040
Speaker 1: I decided to listen to the majority and responded to

1528
01:11:21,080 --> 01:11:24,960
Speaker 1: ex friend, let's call her a Ava, let's call her Eva.

1529
01:11:25,040 --> 01:11:27,439
Speaker 1: The response was well received, and we chatted the rest

1530
01:11:27,479 --> 01:11:29,719
Speaker 1: of the week and met up on the weekend before Easter.

1531
01:11:29,880 --> 01:11:32,960
Speaker 1: The short of it is, we're both leaving our partners.

1532
01:11:33,160 --> 01:11:35,439
Speaker 5: What dude, that was none of my bingo part.

1533
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:36,280
Speaker 1: Where's the referee?

1534
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:36,439
Speaker 3: Like?

1535
01:11:36,479 --> 01:11:39,320
Speaker 1: No yellow flag? Ava and I are gonna try this

1536
01:11:39,400 --> 01:11:42,920
Speaker 1: relationship again now that we completely open up to each

1537
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,200
Speaker 1: other about our true feeling. Thank you all for the

1538
01:11:45,280 --> 01:11:48,200
Speaker 1: encouragement to do this. Couldn't have done it without you.

1539
01:11:48,520 --> 01:11:52,120
Speaker 1: April fools, I would never I hate when they do that.

1540
01:11:53,080 --> 01:11:55,599
Speaker 1: It really had us in the first half there they

1541
01:11:55,640 --> 01:11:57,080
Speaker 1: always do, They're so good at that.

1542
01:11:57,120 --> 01:11:58,959
Speaker 5: And then we went to the cabins. This all bigfoot

1543
01:11:58,960 --> 01:12:00,240
Speaker 5: in the Lautinus monster.

1544
01:12:00,280 --> 01:12:03,840
Speaker 1: And the aliens abducted us. The real update is pretty

1545
01:12:03,840 --> 01:12:07,400
Speaker 1: anti clomactic. Unfortunately, I ended up just never resplying to Ava.

1546
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:07,920
Speaker 5: Nice.

1547
01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:10,240
Speaker 1: It had already been five days by the time I

1548
01:12:10,320 --> 01:12:13,240
Speaker 1: read through every response and decided just to let it go.

1549
01:12:13,680 --> 01:12:15,640
Speaker 1: My wife was fine with that, but told me to

1550
01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:18,599
Speaker 1: block her if she messages me again. Smart. We did

1551
01:12:18,600 --> 01:12:21,600
Speaker 1: a couple Easter icons with different family members yesterday, including

1552
01:12:21,880 --> 01:12:24,360
Speaker 1: at my father in law's. They have a decent sized

1553
01:12:24,400 --> 01:12:27,120
Speaker 1: property and host quite a few people, so I wasn't

1554
01:12:27,120 --> 01:12:30,679
Speaker 1: surprised to see non family members. I was, however, surprised

1555
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:34,599
Speaker 1: when Ava's parents were there with her children. After all

1556
01:12:34,600 --> 01:12:37,080
Speaker 1: the adults scattered and hid the eggs. When the kids

1557
01:12:37,080 --> 01:12:40,040
Speaker 1: started their search, Ava's dad came over to chat with me.

1558
01:12:40,400 --> 01:12:42,559
Speaker 1: Nothing out of the ordinary, and we shot the craft

1559
01:12:42,560 --> 01:12:45,080
Speaker 1: for a few minutes. By the way, you could shoot

1560
01:12:45,080 --> 01:12:46,960
Speaker 1: the crap with us for more than a few minutes

1561
01:12:47,120 --> 01:12:49,920
Speaker 1: because you can listen to full episodes with stories just

1562
01:12:50,080 --> 01:12:53,280
Speaker 1: like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast, or your

1563
01:12:53,280 --> 01:12:56,280
Speaker 1: favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime, there is a

1564
01:12:56,280 --> 01:12:58,719
Speaker 1: little bit more to this. But what do you think

1565
01:12:58,960 --> 01:12:59,920
Speaker 1: was that the right thing to go to?

1566
01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:03,760
Speaker 5: Yeah? It was. It was Okay, he's already done, Tom

1567
01:13:03,760 --> 01:13:06,600
Speaker 5: and tell me again. He's married now, in a committed relationship.

1568
01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:08,800
Speaker 1: He really had me with that. I was like, oh, no,

1569
01:13:09,320 --> 01:13:11,200
Speaker 1: I hate when you people do that, but like it's fun.

1570
01:13:11,200 --> 01:13:12,880
Speaker 5: I should have called it. I should have been like, yeah,

1571
01:13:13,200 --> 01:13:14,320
Speaker 5: that happened to me once before.

1572
01:13:14,400 --> 01:13:16,280
Speaker 1: No, you did the right thing, you have a family,

1573
01:13:16,360 --> 01:13:19,559
Speaker 1: you're happy. Good on you. This never happens. But Opie

1574
01:13:19,560 --> 01:13:23,040
Speaker 1: communicated this with his wife that is true. He was like, look,

1575
01:13:23,160 --> 01:13:25,320
Speaker 1: and she was like, okay, well, what do you do

1576
01:13:25,360 --> 01:13:26,839
Speaker 1: about it? You have my full support.

1577
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:27,080
Speaker 5: True.

1578
01:13:27,200 --> 01:13:29,000
Speaker 1: But back to the story. Towards the end, I asked

1579
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:30,920
Speaker 1: if the kids were staying with them for Easter, and

1580
01:13:30,960 --> 01:13:33,400
Speaker 1: he basically told me Ava and her husband were having

1581
01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:36,439
Speaker 1: some troubles and they needed some time alone to sort

1582
01:13:36,560 --> 01:13:37,120
Speaker 1: things out.

1583
01:13:37,360 --> 01:13:38,280
Speaker 5: Who would have called it?

1584
01:13:38,360 --> 01:13:41,200
Speaker 1: We're not shocked here. He didn't go into specifics, so

1585
01:13:41,479 --> 01:13:45,440
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what the troubles were, but congratulations

1586
01:13:45,479 --> 01:13:47,559
Speaker 1: to those of you who called that one. For now,

1587
01:13:47,800 --> 01:13:50,680
Speaker 1: this should conclude the story. If she does happen to

1588
01:13:50,680 --> 01:13:53,040
Speaker 1: reach out again and I feel it's worth letting you

1589
01:13:53,080 --> 01:13:56,519
Speaker 1: all know, then I will Otherwise thank you again. We

1590
01:13:56,560 --> 01:13:58,639
Speaker 1: have a one more elevant comment and it's the same person,

1591
01:13:58,720 --> 01:14:00,559
Speaker 1: the talc of Life. Oh my god, I knew it.

1592
01:14:00,800 --> 01:14:02,880
Speaker 1: I called this on the original post, that she and

1593
01:14:02,920 --> 01:14:05,080
Speaker 1: her husband were having trouble and she was just trying

1594
01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:07,720
Speaker 1: to get the same old ego boost slash even more

1595
01:14:07,840 --> 01:14:11,639
Speaker 1: of one, because you are clearly very happily married. Congrats

1596
01:14:11,680 --> 01:14:13,760
Speaker 1: on the baby, by the way, Op, you win the

1597
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:15,840
Speaker 1: Reddit gold Star of the Month for handling this like

1598
01:14:15,840 --> 01:14:18,920
Speaker 1: a god dang hero, excellent husband, and your wife is

1599
01:14:18,960 --> 01:14:24,000
Speaker 1: an awesome teammate slash bad but herself. Good job, Op.

1600
01:14:24,439 --> 01:14:26,519
Speaker 1: She clearly just needed some attention, and even though you

1601
01:14:26,560 --> 01:14:29,400
Speaker 1: were married, had moved on and she'd be a home wrecker,

1602
01:14:29,600 --> 01:14:32,640
Speaker 1: she didn't care, even asking why didn't you want me?

1603
01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:36,160
Speaker 1: WAW after ten freaking years. This is obviously fishing for

1604
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:39,320
Speaker 1: compliments and an ego boost, especially since she was the

1605
01:14:39,400 --> 01:14:42,200
Speaker 1: reason you never worked out. Maddening. You did the right

1606
01:14:42,200 --> 01:14:44,880
Speaker 1: thing one hundred percent edit spelling error that annoyed me,

1607
01:14:45,200 --> 01:14:47,760
Speaker 1: OP says, thank you. I know it's on the original post.

1608
01:14:47,840 --> 01:14:50,639
Speaker 1: You talked about it possibly being competitive. My wife said

1609
01:14:50,640 --> 01:14:53,240
Speaker 1: the same based on her reaction to the pregnancy news,

1610
01:14:53,320 --> 01:14:56,640
Speaker 1: either competitive or possibly fertility issues after two children. To

1611
01:14:56,680 --> 01:14:59,519
Speaker 1: be honest, she's put a lot more thought into reasoning

1612
01:14:59,560 --> 01:15:01,240
Speaker 1: than I have. And that's the end of that story.

1613
01:15:01,320 --> 01:15:02,720
Speaker 5: That's a good teamwork right there.

1614
01:15:03,120 --> 01:15:05,360
Speaker 1: I like this good job, you did the right thing,

1615
01:15:05,600 --> 01:15:06,160
Speaker 1: congrats

1616
01:15:06,320 --> 01:15:07,719
Speaker 5: And that's it for that story.