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Speaker 1: The Nicker Podcast. NICKI Hello, welcome to the show. It's

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Speaker 1: Nicklaser Podcast Here. I am um, It's Wednesday in Lafe.

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Speaker 1: I'm joined by Noah and Anya. What's up, girlies? How

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Speaker 1: are you International Women's Day? I hate this day? Can

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Speaker 1: I just say, oh, just posturing? It's like I just

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Speaker 1: Matt's post was nice, but I don't want to be

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Speaker 1: included in any other Women's Day posts. Are their beds days?

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Speaker 1: It just feels like it just feels like we have

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Speaker 1: to give them one because they're lesser. It's a Russian holiday.

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Speaker 1: What a big deal in Russia. Yeah, and I knew that.

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Speaker 1: Gleb told me that back in the Like he's not

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Speaker 1: it's not even an option he like was given. He

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Speaker 1: gave his like x white flowers. He had to buy

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Speaker 1: her his like fill a room with flowers because it's

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Speaker 1: like he's the mother, she's the mother of their child.

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Speaker 1: Like there's no or maybe it wasn't that he was

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Speaker 1: just talking about something like he's like, oh, he had

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Speaker 1: to like fly home earlier. Maybe it was his wife

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Speaker 1: at the time, but he like had to fly home

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Speaker 1: early to observe it in order to like make sure

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Speaker 1: his marriage would be okay, his Russian marriage, because it's

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Speaker 1: like a day you cannot it's Valentine's Day times a thousand.

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Speaker 1: Well I think it's cool because it has to do

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Speaker 1: with women gaining the right to vote in Russia in

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Speaker 1: nineteen seventeen. So I don't know, Just like so if

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Speaker 1: we knew that, I guess, yeah, that's that's really What

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Speaker 1: year did they gain the right to vote? Nineteen seventeen? Wait,

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Speaker 1: what we were in nineteen twenty? They were nineteen seventeen. Wow,

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Speaker 1: they were ahead of us. Sorry to make a joke

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Speaker 1: that Russia was behind us, Yeah, nineteen seventeen. Well do

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Speaker 1: you know this because you're Russian or do you like

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Speaker 1: know it from I just looked it up today because

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Speaker 1: I was wishing my mom and all my Russian relatives

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Speaker 1: happy International Women's Day. Do you know that it's that

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Speaker 1: you can't skip it as a Russian years? My mom

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Speaker 1: has suddenly become very attached to Russian holidays. I think

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Speaker 1: as she gets older, she's like like the other day

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Speaker 1: she's like happy, I'm sorry to any Russians listening, but

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Speaker 1: she was like happy molest or some something. I'm like what,

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Speaker 1: And then I look it up. I'm like this is

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Speaker 1: like a religious that you're not even religious. What are

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Speaker 1: you talking about? And she's like, well, like I wasn't

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Speaker 1: allowed to celebrate. I'm like, you're just watching Putin on

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Speaker 1: TV and like getting really nationalists right right or eighties.

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Speaker 1: I if you're Russian, happy International Women's Day. If you're American,

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Speaker 1: you're using it as an excuse to like post women

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Speaker 1: you want to bang or whatever not. But like Matt,

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Speaker 1: I know, because Matt does not want to happen. Matt

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Speaker 1: does not want to celebrate his own birthday, and so

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Speaker 1: he's got to deflect. He doesn't want his too much

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Speaker 1: love for him, so he's got to give it back out.

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Speaker 1: I know what Matt's doing. I appreciate what Matt's doing.

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Speaker 1: I've so like that was so sweet. I like almost

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Speaker 1: thought about crying about his post. I like, oh, it

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Speaker 1: was almost like should I let this in? No, I

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Speaker 1: can't got a podcast to do. You gotta wake up.

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Speaker 1: But I got how much you both know each other

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Speaker 1: so well on tour, I'm often like wow, like Matt

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Speaker 1: really gets Nikki in a way sometimes like he knows

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Speaker 1: things about you that I don't, and you know things

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Speaker 1: about him that I don't not that you have confided

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Speaker 1: them in each other. You could just intuitively get each

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Speaker 1: other in a cool way that I'm always like, I

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Speaker 1: love that we're both like depressed M, really anxious, feely

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Speaker 1: um yea emotional moody M. I don't know that he

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Speaker 1: understands your darkness and like certain things about like your

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Speaker 1: relationship with your family that I sometimes like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I forgot about that. He's like, yeah, don't forget like

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Speaker 1: X y Z about her. I'm like, yeah, yeah, you're right, huh.

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Speaker 1: And you'll be the same about him. But you do

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Speaker 1: you think I'm right about he can't take all the

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Speaker 1: attention on him. Yeah, he's he really embraced this holiday

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Speaker 1: he would have picked. I mean, if it was like

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Speaker 1: a National Waffle Day, he would have been posting about. Well.

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Speaker 1: Also just a flect like the last few videos he's

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Speaker 1: done of all starred women. And I do think, like

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Speaker 1: my friends, he's a total feminist and like, yeah, he

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Speaker 1: loves he loves women for sure. He's just a women soul.

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Speaker 1: No offense, Like yeah, yeah, and I like that, I

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Speaker 1: say no offense. I'm such a feminist. I'm like, well

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Speaker 1: that would be offensive, but to men sometimes it could

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Speaker 1: be offensive. I'm saying it as a compliment, like he's

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Speaker 1: has depth, but he also is very masculine, and there

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Speaker 1: are sometimes that I'm like, there is a definite cleave

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Speaker 1: in between the way I would respond to this and

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Speaker 1: the way he does. Or like, you know, he doesn't

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Speaker 1: want to hear about the Cheshire murders, Like that is

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Speaker 1: a that's a very feminine to me, of like it's

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Speaker 1: can't handle hearing about violence, which is a good trait,

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Speaker 1: Like we shouldn't be hearing about violence all the time.

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Speaker 1: It's that's a good trait. But that is so sweet.

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Speaker 1: And yet he told the other day yeah inside him again,

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Speaker 1: I think it's deflection of like I can't hear about

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Speaker 1: this because I'm thinking about it all Okay, Oh sorry, wait,

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Speaker 1: we have to say what happened. I told I kind

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Speaker 1: of Um Easter egged it fashion yesterday with UM, I

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Speaker 1: was talking about we had a lot of experience at Marriott's.

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Speaker 1: We wrote this Marriott and Charles Charleston, South Carolina will

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Speaker 1: never be back, so just be on the lookout for

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Speaker 1: the Marriott and Charleston South Carolina. There we check in

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Speaker 1: that day, and I just get a vibe about the

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Speaker 1: guy at the front desk. I walk in and I

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Speaker 1: can't put my finger on it, but I was greeted

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Speaker 1: in a way that was like he thought I thought

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Speaker 1: I was better than him or something. And so he

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Speaker 1: kept projecting all of this like I'll be done in

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Speaker 1: a second, Oh, this torture will be over soon, of

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Speaker 1: him telling me the times for the breakfast or like

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Speaker 1: the where the pool is, the amenities there, But he

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Speaker 1: didn't tell me any of that. He was just you know,

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Speaker 1: running my card and stuff and he goes and I

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Speaker 1: did not I remember as soon as I sensed it,

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Speaker 1: because before he said anything, I sensed that he thought

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Speaker 1: I hated him or something. And so I was being

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Speaker 1: overly like wake up because I had just woken up

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Speaker 1: from the car ride. I was kind of like just

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Speaker 1: walked in like a zombie. I wasn't being rude. I

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Speaker 1: didn't just like checking in, this is my name like

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Speaker 1: I was. I know that I wasn't unpleasant. Maybe I

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Speaker 1: was and he assumed or he I don't know what

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Speaker 1: it was why he hated me, so much off the gate,

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Speaker 1: but I felt this like massive resentment towards myself, and

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Speaker 1: I remember scurring away so quickly and taking my key

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Speaker 1: and being like I didn't even ask him where the

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Speaker 1: elevators are. Usually it's kind of confusing when you check

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Speaker 1: another right, and they say it so fast, like because

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Speaker 1: figured it out on my own because I just this

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Speaker 1: many little snide comments under his breath that we were

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Speaker 1: said to like make me feel like, sorry, this is

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Speaker 1: taking so long, but it wasn't. It was almost like,

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Speaker 1: you're being rude, ma'am, and I'm gonna acknowledge that you're

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Speaker 1: so rude and so impatient with me, even though I

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Speaker 1: wasn't being I know what I were you asking like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you know, could help me anything. You just sunglasses. You

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Speaker 1: like somebody maybe famous, but you had sunglasses on, and

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Speaker 1: of the just I was holding a pillow that had

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Speaker 1: like maybe to get my pillow, and I had big,

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Speaker 1: or I don't know, like it felt very much judged

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Speaker 1: like going on where they were whispering the N word

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Speaker 1: in sear sucker ships for sure, Like you just looked

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Speaker 1: at on this so many folk comments and there was

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Speaker 1: just a bunch of old, rich white men who definitely

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Speaker 1: we're gonna drop some fucking end bombs later that night

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Speaker 1: in the comfort of one another. You could just tell

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Speaker 1: that was the type of people. These people were, just

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Speaker 1: like kind of alcoholic rich, think they're better than everyone else.

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Speaker 1: A fucking Marriott. So maybe upgrade a little bit, Like

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Speaker 1: it's not that nice, um, we're saying there because we

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Speaker 1: saying somewhere nicer. This isn't even that nice of a place.

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Speaker 1: Mister bowtie at the front desk, think sho better than us.

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Speaker 1: But the bow tie wasn't one of these guests. He

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Speaker 1: was an employee. Like I'm trying. And that's another thing

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Speaker 1: us because he worked there. I'm like, you work at

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Speaker 1: a marriage Now, no offense to anyone. That's a pro job,

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Speaker 1: but like, don't act like you're like the governor or

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Speaker 1: like judging Southern's letting in. Yes. So then I the

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Speaker 1: find the hair dryer in the hotel room, which is

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Speaker 1: another kind of like scavenger hunt. Every time you go

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Speaker 1: what I come to find out. It's some dispatch center

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Speaker 1: a good fake accent. I said, Hi, um, do you

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Speaker 1: was my question, not I didn't get a hair dry

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Speaker 1: because I made the mistake last time. I was like,

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Speaker 1: So to me, I was like, it should be. It's

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Speaker 1: with me to this thing I'm going to and bring

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Speaker 1: I don't like when it's used to already like we

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Speaker 1: I have to be on Matt's side, even though I'm

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Speaker 1: very scared right now and I don't know who said

424
00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:57,959
Speaker 1: to be on it and I don't want to get

425
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 1: catched out of our rooms. But he used to find

426
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,040
Speaker 1: me and I loved it, but at the same time,

427
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 1: I was just like, we need to flee. And then

428
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 1: we got to the car, but we both felt like

429
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 1: so alive because it was like we just had had

430
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 1: witnessed a confrontation. We had just both taken part in one.

431
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 1: The guy threatened to call security on Matt for looking

432
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 1: at him weird, and we drove to the place and

433
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: we were both like Bonnie and Clyde just like, oh

434
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 1: my god, like are we is our stuff gonna be

435
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 1: like in the driveway when we get there, like they

436
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: are going to kick us out, And I'm like, there's

437
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 1: no way they go in our hotel room like pack

438
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,959
Speaker 1: up my stuff, like my vibrators, like out on the bed.

439
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,520
Speaker 1: I was like, there's no way they're gonna do that.

440
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 1: That would be so humiliating. Um, but this guy bow

441
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 1: Tie and Marianne, you fucking suck, dude, and your life

442
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 1: is miserable. There's something he was separately from you. Another

443
00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: woman who I think runs are actually you're weak, and

444
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 1: we're gonna hear about it. Okay, I have to go

445
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 1: to break. I'm so sorry this has taken way too

446
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 1: long for me to tell, but we'll be right back

447
00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:03,400
Speaker 1: after this and hear about Anya's root encounter three besties.

448
00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: I hope you're enjoying the show today. I definitely enjoyed

449
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,399
Speaker 1: recording it, even though it was a lot of emotions

450
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:12,919
Speaker 1: to work through, So thank you for listening today's therapy session.

451
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:15,239
Speaker 1: Real quick, before we get back to the show, will

452
00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 1: you guys come see me this weekend if you live

453
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Speaker 1: in New York State. I am going to be all

454
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: over the place, three different cities to choose from. No

455
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 1: excuse not to go if you were up in that area.

456
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure there's good excuses. But if you're free,

457
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:29,720
Speaker 1: I would love to see you and meet you. You

458
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 1: can always stop by the merch booth and tell them

459
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:34,399
Speaker 1: you're a bestie and that you want to get a

460
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 1: free meeting. Great, and you know that I'll hook you up.

461
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:37,960
Speaker 1: So I'm going to be at the State Theater and

462
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Speaker 1: Ithaca tomorrow night on Thursday the ninth. That's tomorrow night,

463
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Speaker 1: Ithaca tomorrow night, and then Friday, I'm going to be

464
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 1: in Rochester at the Kodak Theater, and then I'm going

465
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:51,320
Speaker 1: to be in Buffalo on Saturday at Asbury Hall. So

466
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Speaker 1: if any of those places are familiar to you, or

467
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 1: you live nearby them, or you have a friend that

468
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 1: lives nearby, I would love for you to tell them

469
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: to come see me. And I would love to meet

470
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 1: you and see you, and I hope you can make it.

471
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 1: Tons of other dates at nikiglazer dot com to check out,

472
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: including Europe Tel Aviv. Baby, that's the one I'm supposed

473
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: to be pushing, right now based on ticket sales, if

474
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 1: you want to go over to Israel and see me,

475
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:18,880
Speaker 1: or if you're already there, come see me. By all right,

476
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 1: we're back, um Anya. Who was her? Do you how

477
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,199
Speaker 1: did it happen? Well, my favorite part of boats I

478
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 1: encounter was Matt said that he walked in. He was like,

479
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 1: what happened? Did you upset her? And he the guy

480
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:32,440
Speaker 1: was like, she it's fine, Like she asked her hair,

481
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: it's fine. And Matt was like, don't upset her, you know,

482
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,720
Speaker 1: blah blah. And then he goes, I want to talk

483
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 1: to your manager. And the guy goes, I am the

484
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:44,439
Speaker 1: manager and Matt goes, you are not. He goes, I

485
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 1: don't think you're the guy at the top. He said

486
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,400
Speaker 1: that to him, He's like, I doubt you're the guy

487
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: at the top at working six pm on a Friday night.

488
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 1: Doubt it. And he had come back yeah, and then

489
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: the guy was just staring. They were just staring at

490
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 1: each other. Was so tense I've ever been, not gonna

491
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,920
Speaker 1: say never, but it is rare. I don't think i've

492
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: ever I think as I'm almost after twenty twenty and

493
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: every twenty twenty of all the care and stuff. I

494
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: think there's this whole thing of like, I never want

495
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: to be in a situation as a white woman or

496
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 1: any I never really like confrontation, but I definitely think

497
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 1: it's a bad look to ever get into anything with

498
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 1: someone who works somewhere, even though it's not like I'm

499
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: you know, it's sometimes they deserve it, but I tend

500
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: to think their lives are so shitty that I usually

501
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 1: feel really bad whenever I do confront people that are

502
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: working these jobs. Because this guy did not want to

503
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 1: be working the front desk in a Marriott. He was

504
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,159
Speaker 1: miserable with his life, and I really like that was

505
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 1: the takeaway was like, thank God our lives aren't what

506
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 1: he has, because there was no reason for him to

507
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: be so rude. He must have been going through something horrible.

508
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: Who knows what's going on in that guy's life. I

509
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 1: honestly feel bad for him because he was such a

510
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: pill um. But what what was The woman was rude

511
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: to you about something about the car right when we yeah,

512
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 1: right when we walked in. This woman just same attitude

513
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 1: of like what like when you walk up to the

514
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: front desk, not hi, how are you? Just like yeah

515
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: what and just annoyed with everything like credit card nope,

516
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 1: not that nope nope, and then what's your him or

517
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: whatever like that kind of shit, yeah, and like you

518
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 1: have to register your rental car. I'm like register. She's like,

519
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: what's a license plate? I'm like, I don't know to

520
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,640
Speaker 1: my goddamn rental car. And then I go, oh, it's

521
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: on the keychain, and I go, I'll get it off

522
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: the keychain. And then Matt walks and she goes, it's

523
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,439
Speaker 1: very often not the number on the keychain. I'm like, no,

524
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:50,360
Speaker 1: it's good, and then she goes, I know. And then

525
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 1: the other woman at the desk was so nice, and

526
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 1: I was like, do we really need to It was

527
00:26:55,440 --> 00:27:00,200
Speaker 1: taking twenty minutes to get this yeh. Normally Marryotts are

528
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 1: so nice. The one in Charleston. I don't know what's

529
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 1: going on, but the one woman seemed like she was

530
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 1: a hostage there because I go, uh, this woman to

531
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: the right says that we might get a ticket if

532
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 1: we just leave it here for an hour and we

533
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,239
Speaker 1: have to register it is that true? And she's like,

534
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: you're fine, don't worry about it. I'm like, why are

535
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 1: you whispering? Like say it out loud. Yeah, She's like,

536
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 1: are we gonna get a ticket or not? We cannot

537
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,199
Speaker 1: afford to get a ticket, so what's happening. She's like,

538
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 1: I'm sure you'll be fine. I'm like, I want to guarantee. Yeah,

539
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 1: why obviously everyone there? Do you know you hear about

540
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: these places. My friends have worked at places like this

541
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: where everyone hates everyone and the boss at the top.

542
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 1: The guy at the top is a dick, So it

543
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: all trickles down. Everyone's fucking miserable. Shout out to everyone

544
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 1: working at Marian. I'm sorry. Yes, I'm sure this podcast

545
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 1: is going to get passed around with internally, and hopefully

546
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: it avoids bow Tie because no one even likes him.

547
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 1: He doesn't evenally have any friends there. So I'm sure

548
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: this is gonna start with like someone in the valet.

549
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: They seem like they listen to podcasts, and it's gonna

550
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 1: get past to like kitchen. Everyone knows bow Tie. You know,

551
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,520
Speaker 1: he's a dick. I'm sorry to work with him. Happy

552
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: international women say. But he also said to Matt have

553
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:10,360
Speaker 1: a great night, like it was insane, Like really sarcastically,

554
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 1: have a great night. You know what, I do appreciate

555
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:14,959
Speaker 1: it a bow tie. Let me give him a bow

556
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: tie a little credit. He didn't fall into the rule

557
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 1: of a customers always right, which I do disagree with.

558
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,360
Speaker 1: I think the customer is mostly wrong, and I always

559
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: do want people to stand up for themselves, that workers,

560
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: and not fear losing their job because they have a

561
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 1: shitty customer. So if he did think we were shitty

562
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 1: customers and he thought that he was being disrespected, I

563
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:39,479
Speaker 1: will give him a little credit for like not just

564
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 1: falling into this like American like bullshit of like you know,

565
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 1: you go to France and they're like annoyed every anytime

566
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 1: you walk into a shop or like a restaurant, like

567
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: you are a burden on there. Like I kind of

568
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: like that style of like we should be grateful they're

569
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: providing the service instead of like yes ma'am all the time.

570
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:59,719
Speaker 1: So I'll give him a little credit. But you got

571
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 1: up on your shoulder, and uh, I hope you go

572
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: to therapy or something. I hope, um. And I hope

573
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: that you know your Marriott benefits, your health benefits cover

574
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: that therapy. Um. Yeah, I hope your mom if she

575
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: just died or something, someone just died in his life,

576
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 1: like I hope he's healing from that. Um, you're probably

577
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 1: a good guy deep down. You probably get bullied in

578
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: high school because you you just look like someone who

579
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: gets bullied a lot. Um that's me making a dig,

580
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: but um, yeah, I feel sad for you and sorry

581
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: that we contributed to any um, anyone who works there

582
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: and like had to face his wrath because he was

583
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 1: so triggered by our experience. I'm sorry you had to

584
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: like get punished by him and he made you work

585
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: over time or like not take your break or whatever,

586
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 1: because that's probably what happened speaking to people. Yeah, don't

587
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: know what being passive aggressive is, and it was I

588
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: was in my late twenties before I realized, oh, I'm

589
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 1: saying a lot of shit. I don't mean thinking people

590
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 1: are going to read my mind. Like I thought I

591
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: was the kindest person. And then I got accused of

592
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: being passive aggressive, and I was like, oh, I communicate

593
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: in a really fucked up way. And so this guy

594
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 1: has never realized that saying something like don't worry, you'll

595
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: be done with this torture soon is passive aggressive and

596
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: he's not getting his real point of cross. He's not

597
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 1: in touch with you. Just totally hit the nail on

598
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 1: the head I have. They're a friend of mine. Recently

599
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: just learn that one of her traits is she's like,

600
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: I hate passive aggressive people. I think I told you

601
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,080
Speaker 1: about this. She's like, I hate passive aggressive people. It's

602
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: my least favorite quality in people. And I just read

603
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 1: an article that said something about different forms of passive aggression,

604
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 1: and one of the things I do in life more

605
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 1: than anything was on that list of like when someone

606
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: up shot me, I just shut down and like kind

607
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 1: of ignore them and do one word answer like that

608
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. She was like, I just learned that

609
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: that's I'm so embarrassed that that like the thing I

610
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 1: hate the most I am doing all the time. And

611
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: she like had this big epiphany. So I think that

612
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:14,719
Speaker 1: some people really don't realize. I think I've always been

613
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: aware of my passive aggression, but I I guess sometimes

614
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: I know that I'm doing it, but I don't realize

615
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: that other people pick up on it. That people because

616
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 1: I usually am doing it so under the radar, because

617
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I feel like I'm kind

618
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: of like smarter in that way, and most people I'm

619
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 1: not trying to be like, I'm just more shrewd when

620
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: it comes to like and then the only times that

621
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: it comes comes out, I immediately get really read Like

622
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 1: if I get passive aggressive and then I can sense

623
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: that the person senses it, I feel flushed and I

624
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: feel really embarrassed because it is such a lame way

625
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 1: of communicating time still, Like, and if you don't know

626
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: what it is and you're listening, if you say I'm

627
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 1: kid a lot, you're passive aggressive. Like if you're constantly kidding, like, hey, Slot,

628
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:11,959
Speaker 1: I'm kidding and people aren't laughing at your jokes, you're aggressive.

629
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: Who when you said I do it a lot and

630
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 1: I go, oh, I know that was past. I just

631
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 1: did it as you were saying it. I just was

632
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 1: fighting with Matt and I go, glad you can sleep.

633
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: That was like my text to him. I'm not glad

634
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 1: he can sleep. I'm being facetious or sarcastic, whichever. Are

635
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: you having trouble sleeping still? Even last night? No, No,

636
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 1: we were fine, but we were in a fight the

637
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: other night. I was like, glad you can sleep, and

638
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, this isn't best self. Yes, I've said that

639
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 1: before of like have fun like have a good ye,

640
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: like I have a good night stuff, or like yeah, no,

641
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 1: it's like I'm sure you'll have a great time. I

642
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: did it the other day to Chris. I said something like, oh, well,

643
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: I guess I'll just watch Last of I'll watch Last

644
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: of Us alone then, because he like something like that

645
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:05,959
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Martorie, What the fuck am I a child?

646
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 1: Like why can't I just communicate my Why is it

647
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: so hard to just be like I'm sad that I

648
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: that you're going to this thing and we can't watch

649
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: Last of Us together? Like isn't it isn't that going

650
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: to get me so many more things than just being

651
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: a fucking cunt? But you know, it's funny or to

652
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 1: be passive aggressive. It's so because sometimes it's really you

653
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: have a good line and you're like, oh, that was

654
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: good to yourself. They're not like person, yeah, and that

655
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: hurts the other person. It's fun too, and it's fun

656
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: for a second and then immediately feels so so shitty. Um.

657
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: There is a moment of triumph though, when I have

658
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 1: a really good line coming out of something. Okay, I

659
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 1: want to talk about last night I went to the

660
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: Ted Lasso premiere. Yes, Um, which was amazing. I got

661
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 1: so the first two episodes of the New ted Lasso.

662
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: The only thing I'm so disappointed in is that I

663
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: thought that the woman who owns UFC Richmond, the you know,

664
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:09,280
Speaker 1: the older woman. I got there's a whole side story,

665
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:12,200
Speaker 1: but okay, the older one, Rebecca. Yeah, you would say

666
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 1: she's an older woman, right, Like, if you were talking

667
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 1: you're trying to characterize that show and talk about her

668
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: without knowing her name, you'd be like, the older woman

669
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 1: who owns the team, right, like, she's an older woman. Yeah,

670
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:31,479
Speaker 1: I would say late forties. No way, really, I would

671
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: say she looks like she's in her late forties, but

672
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 1: she's probably in her fifth She's someone who looks good

673
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: for her age. But I could be so wrong. She's

674
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 1: so gorgeous, one of the most stunning people. Just watching

675
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: her on the big screen, I was just like her skin,

676
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: like her makeup, everything, her style. She's impeccable. I'm sad

677
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: to learn that she's no longer fucking that guy from

678
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 1: the team. I guess they're a relationship wrapped up last season.

679
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 1: I didn't remember that. I thought it was still going

680
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 1: and I'm waiting the whole time like when she gonna

681
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: fuck that young guy. Like I was like, yes, let's

682
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,760
Speaker 1: get back into that. That was a fun really because

683
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:10,760
Speaker 1: you never see older women with younger men. It's always

684
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 1: the other way around. I was really just happy to

685
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: have them embrace it and not make it, not fetishize it,

686
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: because let's say, like in Succession there is a thing

687
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: going on with an older woman and a younger guy,

688
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: but it's like mommy, mommy, and like you're a naughty

689
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 1: little boy, and it's like totally fetishized. And this just

690
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: seemed to be like, oh, they love each other. But

691
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: so during I watched the whole first episode and they

692
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 1: show two episodes, and then I turned to the guy

693
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 1: next to me, who is one of my Jamie Lee,

694
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: Who's I went with. She's one of the producers on

695
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: the show and writers. She invited all her friends to

696
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 1: like fill this row. And so I was sitting next

697
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: to one of her friends, this guy, Heath, and he's

698
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 1: a director at Always Sunny, and I was like, Um,

699
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 1: I go wait a second, isn't it isn't the older woman.

700
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: Isn't the older woman? What are we going to see

701
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 1: the older woman one of those that young guy again? Like,

702
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: when's that happening? And he goes the old woman at

703
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: the bar. He was thinking it was that, you know

704
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 1: when they of the bar scenes where there's like a

705
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: really really old woman who's like, oh, sonny is he's

706
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 1: your soup and upbread bull and like he has your

707
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,279
Speaker 1: ale and she's kind of like saucy. He thought that

708
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 1: old woman was banging one of those young guys I like,

709
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 1: comes and he goes, wait, that's a bla. So it

710
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 1: was really funny, but I was so sad to see

711
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 1: that that wasn't still going. Do you remember them like

712
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: deciding not to be together or something? Yeah, I think

713
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 1: they had a very quick breakup at the very ended

714
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 1: back I was like, we've gone it was it was

715
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: halfway through the second episode where I go, why aren't

716
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 1: they addressing this again? But time yeah, yeah, maybe no.

717
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 1: I was glued to the TV whenever she was banging

718
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: that young guy, like I was like, this is International

719
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: Women's Day, this is the type of ship we should celebrate.

720
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 1: Like I wrote Bill Lawrence The Creative Show, I'm like,

721
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 1: thank you for like modeling that it can go the

722
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 1: other way for once and it's not like totally insane

723
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: and like whenever there's an older woman and a young man,

724
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: it becomes like that's the storyline, that's that she's old

725
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 1: and he's young and it can't be, Whereas like if

726
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: it's an older man and a young woman, it's just

727
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 1: like that's just maybe they'll make a couple jokes about it,

728
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 1: but it's like, oh, your wife needs to be her bedtime.

729
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 1: Stories are like did you get her a happy meal?

730
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: But it's kind of it's it's not like taboo, whereas

731
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 1: this was treated like it wasn't taboo. Is nice Anyway,

732
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 1: Let's take a quick break. I'll come back with more,

733
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 1: because you know I will. I always have walk. Okay,

734
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 1: and we're back, so let's get back into it. Went

735
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 1: to the premiere. Let me just say so I know

736
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: this is get ready for unrelatable, Nikki. When you go

737
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 1: to these things and there's a red carpet and you

738
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,959
Speaker 1: are going to walk it, you know that you're gonna

739
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 1: get a bunch of pictures taken of you, and you're

740
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 1: gonna know it's gonna be like a big deal, big night.

741
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 1: I went to the second season premiere and it was

742
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: a lot smaller than this one, so I was projecting

743
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: it to be a little bit like less of a thing.

744
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,399
Speaker 1: But that was during COVID. I kind of forgot the circumstance.

745
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: It was such a big thing. It was such a

746
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 1: big premiere. It was like hundreds of fans on the street,

747
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 1: like screaming, so excited, holding soccer balls, like holding those

748
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: like fucking scarf things that everyone wears that fans of football.

749
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: And I'm walking through Westwood like trying to get to

750
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 1: the theater to like the red carpet entrance. I look

751
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: like shit because I styled myself, which was a mistake.

752
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:42,720
Speaker 1: I based a whole outfit around some Cynthia Rally pants

753
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 1: and a Cynthia Rally top. But I didn't get a

754
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: spray tan. So I was like, I need a blazer.

755
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: So I bought a blazer on the reel reel that

756
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: Sarah Lena helped me pick out. Then I got shoes

757
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 1: that Sarah Lena helped me picked out, but they were

758
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: like velvet. The pants were like a scuba material. The

759
00:38:56,600 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 1: shirt was like a sparkly thing. The blazer was like gold.

760
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 1: The outfit wasn't the worst thing. The worst decision I made.

761
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 1: Let me just okay, if I get styled for something,

762
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 1: it's twenty five hundred dollars before tailoring. Okay, I don't

763
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: get to keep any of the things. Maybe I get

764
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 1: to keep the thought. Okay, that's how much it is

765
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: every time, and it involves a fitting, So it involves

766
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: like a two hour plus if you add the commute

767
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: of a fitting. And this is all great. I mean,

768
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 1: that's why I looked stunning and all the photos I've

769
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: ever been on a red carpet or any show that

770
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: I've ever done. Usually if I were a writer on

771
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 1: Ted Last, or if I were on Ted Last, so

772
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: the studio would pay for all of the stuff. They

773
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 1: would pay for my glam. They would pay for my

774
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 1: so it wouldn't matter. And that's why you know celebrities

775
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 1: always look amazing is because they're not really out of

776
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: pocket for this stuff. The studio is. And there are

777
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: sometimes where I just pay that fee because it's important

778
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: enough and I just need to look great and I

779
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 1: can't risk it on my own. Then let's add hair

780
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 1: and makeup. So hair five hundred dollars, all right, flat

781
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: feet like that's five makeup seven hundred and fifty dollars

782
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 1: because I have to go through her agency. God, so

783
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 1: all in all, if I want to look my very best,

784
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:13,359
Speaker 1: I am talking over three three hundred and I think

785
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 1: thirty five hundred dollars at least. Okay, so there's almost

786
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 1: four thousand dollars for one look one night, and I

787
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: mean I will look the best that I can possibly look.

788
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 1: I mean, this is like the best it could be.

789
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:31,399
Speaker 1: There really is no other option. There's no stylist that's

790
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 1: cheaper than this. I mean there are, but you kind

791
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 1: of can't take a risk with it. I don't know

792
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: stylist that are cheaper than this. I've like always used

793
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: the I wouldn't even want to use them because I

794
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 1: would feel like it would be betraying the girls that

795
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: I do use. They're I just I don't know what

796
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: to do about it. I asked friends for advice. So

797
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: the styling portion I give myself like a C on,

798
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 1: which is like as good as I can get on

799
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: my own, like I did, which is an A for me. Right,

800
00:40:57,239 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: I'm fine with the style part. I can take a

801
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: hit there, like I didn't know what I was doing.

802
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: I like, don't have that good of jewelry like styling covers,

803
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 1: you know, they borrow jewelry from places here where thousands

804
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: of dollars of jewelry and thousands of dollars is closed.

805
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 1: So and it's all tailored to fit you. They bring

806
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 1: in a tailor and then hair and makeup. There's really

807
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 1: not another option for those either to go like half

808
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 1: the price, there's no Why isn't there a place to

809
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: go get your makeup done? How could you tell it

810
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: wasn't up to par? Because the pictures And I cannot

811
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,399
Speaker 1: die until I get new pictures because if I die,

812
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: the pictures that the Daily Mail will run are the

813
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 1: most recent of me on the red carpet, and this

814
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: is my least sub marine moment, like, no matter what

815
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 1: happens to me, and if I die tragically, you will

816
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:46,439
Speaker 1: look at these pictures and go, we should have seen

817
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: it because I look fucking horrible. I'm begging everyone who's

818
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,439
Speaker 1: listening to this, if you love me, you will not

819
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: look for them. It's almost like my nudes were leaked.

820
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,399
Speaker 1: I wish I could well like thought about is there

821
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 1: a way I can write, like, is there a way

822
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: that someone can get these removed from I'm not even

823
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:09,399
Speaker 1: gonna say where you can find them, like I want

824
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 1: the off the internet. If your hair and makeup would

825
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: have been pro and the styling would have stayed the same.

826
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: Oh I would put they would be an Instagram post

827
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,839
Speaker 1: and they would have twenty four thousand weeks by within

828
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: an hour. It would have been a moment because so

829
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 1: it's a big event. I would have like had so

830
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: much more confidence on the red carpet. To spend four

831
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,240
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for a night where you get a picture

832
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: with a lot of likes, it makes it ups your

833
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:34,800
Speaker 1: status to the industry because it's all about showing people

834
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 1: what you're at and what you're doing. So now I

835
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 1: can't post any photos from it. I can maybe post

836
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 1: the picture I took of like me inside the theater,

837
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 1: like looking at the screen, but I'm not even in it.

838
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: It's gonna be on my story. It's not even gonna

839
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 1: people might know that I was there. But it's like

840
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 1: a red carpet photo buys you things in this business.

841
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: It's like why people go to these things. They that's

842
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 1: why people go to red carpet events, and then they

843
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: don't even stay for the premiere. They just go to

844
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 1: get their picture taken. Because this whole industry is based

845
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 1: on optics. There's nothing talent is so minor, like it

846
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 1: gets you to the place, but once you're in, it's

847
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 1: all about optics. It's all about I want to start

848
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 1: photoshopping um announcements of things I get as jokes and

849
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 1: just see and see how it elevates my career if

850
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: I just go off deadline articles that people post, because

851
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: it's all that matters is just seeing someone got this thing.

852
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 1: Nikki Glazer slated to two star in HBO's new drama

853
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 1: series based on you know, Frogger or whatever the you

854
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:37,400
Speaker 1: know the video game Frog, like Atari's war Zone whatever.

855
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: I want to start writing these fake things because people

856
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 1: are so susceptible to just bullshit and it's I hate

857
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: that part of But this was this was a misstep,

858
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 1: Like I wish I would have spent the four thousand dollars.

859
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 1: I probably would have cried about it and been like,

860
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 1: why am I even fucking doing this? I'm not even

861
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: on this show, No one's paying for it. This is

862
00:43:55,120 --> 00:44:00,439
Speaker 1: so overpriced. But I it was a way. It wasn't

863
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: a waste of an evening because I got to see

864
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: ted Lasso premiere and it was awesome, and I get

865
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 1: to hang out with my friends and I got to

866
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 1: go the after party and eat delicious food, and I

867
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 1: got to see celebrities and like see the show with

868
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: Ted Lasso fans and with the crowd, and that was

869
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 1: so exciting. But in terms of a night I really

870
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 1: did only go because it was my night off and

871
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna watch Ted lesso. Anyway, I went to support

872
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 1: my friend Bill. I went because Jamie is my friend

873
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: and she is, you know, a writer on it, and

874
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 1: she invited me. It was really nice. I needed the

875
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 1: night off. I should have stayed home. I went for

876
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 1: the photo. I went to go. I was here. This

877
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 1: was the thing I did. Look at Instagram. Look Instagram

878
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 1: like because I've noticed that when I see people when

879
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 1: I come to LA and I visit, I see people

880
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:52,359
Speaker 1: I haven't seen in a while, they always go, you're

881
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 1: killing it. And they only know from Instagram. They don't

882
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 1: really know anything I'm doing. They only reference things that

883
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: I give them, pictures that I post on my feed.

884
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: No one really knows what anyone's doing unless you tell

885
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,399
Speaker 1: them what you're doing. You're like, wait till you see

886
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: my photoshopped posts, I'll be really killing it. Nikki Glazers

887
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 1: comes at THEO James Kanye West, Yes with Last of

888
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: Us actor who just kind of came out. Um, it

889
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 1: seems like he's back on the other side now. I

890
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:38,399
Speaker 1: flipped him. Guys, if if we saw these photos from

891
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 1: last night, which we won't see because we'll never go digging,

892
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 1: but if we did, you're saying we would be able

893
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 1: to be professional. Oh, Jess, and I tried hard. You

894
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: know what the problem was? First of all, there's nowhere

895
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:54,920
Speaker 1: to go for your makeup. But I did go to

896
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: dry bar, and I want to call out dry bar.

897
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 1: You are the McDonald's of hair Charleston what oh yeah,

898
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: were the Charleston Marriott of hair girl. I think dry

899
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:15,959
Speaker 1: bar is acceptable. Honestly. I think if you had your

900
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: hair just air dried, I think that would be better

901
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:21,400
Speaker 1: than going to dry bar, because dry boar makes it

902
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: look like you put an effort and fucked up, whereas

903
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,359
Speaker 1: air drying your hair makes it look like she didn't try.

904
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: That's why it looks shitty. Do you know what I mean?

905
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: Dry bar? This is gonna sounds like a newscaster when

906
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 1: I go there, exactly. I'm sitting at dry bar, I'm

907
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:42,279
Speaker 1: getting my hair done. I can't say what I'm gonna say,

908
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna say it. I made it. I had

909
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: a huge epiphany. I go, I understand if you're working

910
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 1: in Hollywood at um a restaurant, if you're a struggling

911
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,399
Speaker 1: actress trying to make it in the business, you gotta

912
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: take jobs that are beneath you. You know, I understand.

913
00:46:57,680 --> 00:46:59,760
Speaker 1: If we're working in the frontest of the Marriott in Charleston,

914
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: if your dream is to be a podcaster, or to

915
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: run a Hilton in Shanghai someday or something like, you

916
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 1: gotta work your way up. That's like a good position.

917
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: If you're working at a dry bar and you don't

918
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 1: like manage it, things aren't going well, and your goal

919
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:22,239
Speaker 1: is to be a hairstylists in Hollywood, which is like,

920
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 1: if you're out here doing hair, isn't your goal to

921
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: like maybe work at a high in salon or have

922
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 1: your own salon? Would you think that's what the goal is? Yeah? Yeah,

923
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:35,800
Speaker 1: this is like a stepping stone, right. But if you're

924
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 1: not in your twenties and you're working at a dry bar,

925
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: do you think maybe you're probably not that talented at

926
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 1: your dream or maybe it's just a way of getting

927
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 1: income Because you can't like it's too competitive of a

928
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 1: market in the salons, right, Yes, yes, I agree with that.

929
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:02,839
Speaker 1: I yes, okay, I'm seeing that side of it because

930
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: I look at someone like you know, Carlyle, who is

931
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: a great comedian and actress and hasn't made it big

932
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 1: in the business yet she can't afford to, like quit

933
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 1: her day job. She's working in restaurants still, And I'm like,

934
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 1: I get that. I don't judge anyone in their thirties, forties,

935
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: fifties working in like restaurant industries. But if your goal

936
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: is or if you're working at dry bar to support

937
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 1: your dream of being a comedian, that makes sense to me.

938
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 1: But if your goal is to be there, I just

939
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 1: maybe it is too competitive of an industry and that

940
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 1: is why we do need people we're gonna dry bar.

941
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: Maybe they're not being paid enough. But it felt to

942
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,239
Speaker 1: me like, oh, this one's on me. If I don't

943
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: like my hair here, why am I going to dry

944
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: bar to get it done? Because people at dry bar

945
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 1: are doing they're not as skilled as someone who's been

946
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 1: in the industry for thirty years, or maybe they or

947
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: maybe they just got started in the industry, Like I'm

948
00:48:57,560 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: not begrudging that someone in the hair industry is like

949
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 1: decided late in life, like I love doing hair and

950
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to start in my forties and that's why

951
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm working at dry bar. I gotta like put in

952
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: the hours. But if you've been working since you're twenties

953
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: at hair and makeup and you've landed at dry bar

954
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 1: twenty years in, I don't, which is okay. We can

955
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 1: have people at every skill, but you're not gonna get

956
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: the most skilled person doing your hair or else they

957
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 1: b elsewhere, So don't go to dry bar expecting great

958
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: stuff unless it's I would next time I go dry bar,

959
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 1: if I ever go, which I will not, I'm gonna

960
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 1: go for like a twenty Like I want the youngest

961
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 1: person there because it means that they're probably just starting out.

962
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: Does this make sense? Or am I being very classist

963
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:45,400
Speaker 1: and which I'm open to it. Am I being Because

964
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 1: I had a really bad experience at dry bar. I

965
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:50,359
Speaker 1: felt like I was being man handled. I felt like

966
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 1: and then I kind of looked around and I was like, this,

967
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 1: I shouldn't expect this to be. This is like going

968
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,959
Speaker 1: to McDonald's and being like, why isn't this gourmet even

969
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 1: though it costs a hundred dollars, because I totally just

970
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 1: to get your five percent. I mean, I tipped well

971
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 1: because I realized this woman's probably not being paid enough,

972
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: like these people are being paid enough based on the

973
00:50:11,160 --> 00:50:15,399
Speaker 1: skill level. Here. This whole story to me is like

974
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:17,879
Speaker 1: the equivalent of one a friend is like, oh my god,

975
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 1: I have to tell you the most insane thing. Oh

976
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 1: I can't. Actually I can't because I am dying to

977
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:28,399
Speaker 1: see these photos now after this, there's so much don't

978
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 1: look at them. I mean, I stay true to what

979
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 1: I just said. Of course, of course you're not no

980
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:38,720
Speaker 1: one that I just asked. I'm not gonna google. Yeah right, really,

981
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: I'll confess I looked them up, but it was before

982
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 1: you gave the caveat of don't look these up, right

983
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:48,919
Speaker 1: and right. It's not they've grown on that bad. I've

984
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,320
Speaker 1: The first time I saw them, I was like, I

985
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: by the way I have. I wasn't depressed. I wasn't

986
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: like crying about it. I wasn't like I just can't

987
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 1: like what it's not think to do. It's not a

988
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 1: look for photos like I think you look beautiful. You

989
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,839
Speaker 1: always do. But I know what you mean like there's

990
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 1: like a certain look. Look my hair, I look like

991
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 1: my photographer Jeff's cult like it's curled that away that

992
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:17,920
Speaker 1: I look like. It looks like I put an effort

993
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 1: and it didn't work out. I would have rather gone

994
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,360
Speaker 1: totally makeup lists and air dried hair, because then everyone

995
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: could go she didn't try. It's like Sharon Stone wearing

996
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: a gap T shirt at the Oscars. You're like, she

997
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 1: looks amazing because the bar is so low. Last there's

998
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:35,360
Speaker 1: effort put in right and I don't astand it because

999
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 1: I don't know how to do pro hair and MAKEUPO

1000
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 1: to do? What should I spend four thousand dollars every

1001
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,799
Speaker 1: time to look a certain way at these things? I

1002
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 1: just don't know. I just don't know if it's worth it.

1003
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 1: It really hurts next time. I think I'm just gonna

1004
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: turn these down because it's like I can't spend that

1005
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:54,839
Speaker 1: much money on something I'm not being paid for. I

1006
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 1: just can't. Well, these are uh, you know, not that

1007
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: I know that much about like account or anything, but

1008
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:04,439
Speaker 1: these are business expenses and it's things I don't pay

1009
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,839
Speaker 1: taxes on it, but or I like can yeah I can,

1010
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: but you get it back in a way, right, right,

1011
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: so you're not spending exactly four thousand, but like a

1012
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 1: piece of it you do get back later on in

1013
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 1: the year. Yeah, And if and if it prevents you

1014
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 1: feeling this way like and and just like relaxing and

1015
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 1: enjoying yourself and then having like a great story to

1016
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: talk about without like all this angst, why not just

1017
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: free yourself from it? Because it's it's just a waste

1018
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:39,799
Speaker 1: of money. I think it's that that money could I

1019
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 1: would rather donate that to tic tax you know, diapers.

1020
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 1: I like, it's just it's and it's not a waste

1021
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 1: of money because I know that the people that the

1022
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: money goes to, Like I love all these women who

1023
00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 1: work for me and who do my makeup, But four

1024
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for one look, and you don't get to

1025
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: keep any of it and you get in the shower

1026
00:52:57,280 --> 00:53:00,880
Speaker 1: and everything goes away. It's just a lot. And I

1027
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:02,680
Speaker 1: do it, you know, four times a year, but I

1028
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,279
Speaker 1: can't do it five or six or seven. But I mean,

1029
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:07,839
Speaker 1: I guess I have to because those pictures could have

1030
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 1: made someone go, oh my god, she's actually killing it.

1031
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: We should consider her for this thing, like it would

1032
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 1: have led to that investment in your career. I was

1033
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:20,200
Speaker 1: shocked when I think I hate when I regret things,

1034
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 1: like I hate when I fuck things up, and you're

1035
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 1: gonna have that's the problem now. But you know what,

1036
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 1: I would have been crying yesterday because I would have

1037
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: been like, this is a waste of money. And then

1038
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 1: if something would have been slightly off about it, I

1039
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,440
Speaker 1: would have been like, why did I spend all this

1040
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 1: money when my hair was like out of place in

1041
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:38,720
Speaker 1: that picture? Like I would have gone that way with it. Yeah,

1042
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,320
Speaker 1: I think something This is an interesting thing for therapy,

1043
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 1: maybe because it's not just a question like for the

1044
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: lay person. This is deep shit. This is like Julie

1045
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:53,360
Speaker 1: Glazer EJ Glazer, stuff that's been put in you, and

1046
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:56,720
Speaker 1: you are in a dilemma because you are a person

1047
00:53:56,800 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: that's worked really really hard. You're known, you're a famous,

1048
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:04,880
Speaker 1: you're a celebrity, you are have an insanely packed life

1049
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 1: and insanely busy life. Yet you are very often in

1050
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:14,239
Speaker 1: coach depressed, sad or and like trying to save money

1051
00:54:14,239 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 1: in these ways, and then it ends up costing you

1052
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 1: emotionally and physically. Yeah, but it's just I think that

1053
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: I get depressed a lot though by spending too much

1054
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: money too, so you can't really Like it's like we

1055
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 1: were talking about yesterday, Like you're stuck between like do

1056
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 1: I do I not care what people think? Or do

1057
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 1: I work out very hard and feel good about myself?

1058
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:37,719
Speaker 1: Like do I let myself out of the pizza or

1059
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:39,919
Speaker 1: do I starve myself so I look skinny and feel

1060
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: good about myself? Does relate to the pizza, because if

1061
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 1: you didn't want to go to ted Lasso and you

1062
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 1: could afford the night off, you're famous enough you don't

1063
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:51,760
Speaker 1: have to show up on a red carpet because admit,

1064
00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 1: when people are not famous enough, they actually pay publicists

1065
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: eight thousand dollars a month to get them invited to

1066
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,719
Speaker 1: these events to go on the red carpet. So you're

1067
00:55:00,760 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 1: actually getting invited. You didn't have to spend a bunch

1068
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 1: of money to get invited because you're famous enough, you're

1069
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 1: known enough, you're friends with these people. But like if

1070
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:10,960
Speaker 1: you're like, ah, I don't need it, I'm famous enough

1071
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 1: right now, you could skip it. You know. It's almost

1072
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,320
Speaker 1: like the pizza thing, like do I need pizza for

1073
00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 1: lunch and dinner? I don't want it. I've had it

1074
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 1: five nights in a row for dinner. I don't want

1075
00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: to have it for a lot. You know, like you

1076
00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:27,560
Speaker 1: intuitively make these choices, so it's not like you're always

1077
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:32,439
Speaker 1: choosing to do this stuff. If you can afford not to, don't,

1078
00:55:32,520 --> 00:55:34,760
Speaker 1: But if you are going to do it, then treat

1079
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:38,919
Speaker 1: yourself like the star that you are and don't let

1080
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 1: yourself fall into this thing of yeah, but I'm going

1081
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,319
Speaker 1: to cry about having spent the money. That's the thing.

1082
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: I feel like a therapist could help you with the

1083
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:50,879
Speaker 1: whole Like, Nikki, you did a bad thing, you spent

1084
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 1: too much, you wasted money. Well, now I'm not on

1085
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 1: myself because I didn't spend the money and I'm like,

1086
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 1: I'm in trouble now. I'm like, I literally am like

1087
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:01,439
Speaker 1: I can't die, Like I'm for the first time ever,

1088
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 1: I'm worried about getting in a plane crash for I

1089
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 1: really want to do a red carpet tonight because these

1090
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 1: would music would be the pictures that would be used

1091
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 1: because they're the most recent. They would just go to, like,

1092
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 1: what's the most recent photos of her that have been

1093
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 1: professionally taken, and then that would be it, and like, also,

1094
00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:19,279
Speaker 1: no one last night said you look pretty. Not one

1095
00:56:19,320 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 1: person was like you look great, not one. And when

1096
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:23,960
Speaker 1: I get gussied up for things, I usually get that

1097
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:27,879
Speaker 1: a lot, like it's an event, and so I felt gross.

1098
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: I felt like, but it also is maddening because men

1099
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:36,480
Speaker 1: don't have to fucking do anything. They get they just wear.

1100
00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 1: No one cares about their suit, and there's that's also

1101
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: a sadness to that, like men can't elevate as much

1102
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: as women can and like put on a show and

1103
00:56:43,560 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 1: make a big presentation. So there is Pedro Pascal or

1104
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:50,879
Speaker 1: spending some money on a stylist. But you're right, yeah,

1105
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:53,839
Speaker 1: they're not doing anything with hair and makeup. They don't

1106
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 1: have to have that extra fifteen hundred dollars. Like it's

1107
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 1: hard for me to spend four thousand dollars a look

1108
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: when I have friends who get excited if they make

1109
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 1: fifty dollars for a set. It's just it's hard for

1110
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:09,360
Speaker 1: me to do that. I just can't. I can't justify it.

1111
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: I think it's wrong. I think I think there's too

1112
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,359
Speaker 1: much excess that I should be able to spend two

1113
00:57:14,440 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 1: hundred dollars on an outfit and one hundred dollars on

1114
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 1: makeup and do it myself and look nice's it sucks

1115
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 1: that I can't, though, and I'm pretty good at doing

1116
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 1: my own makeup. I fucked it up last night because

1117
00:57:25,560 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying it in a cheap airbnb that has bad lighting,

1118
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 1: no counterspace, so I had to do all my makeup

1119
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 1: and put the makeup in the sink? Do you ever

1120
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:35,520
Speaker 1: do that? And then you just like because there's no

1121
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: because sinks are made by men who never have used

1122
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: a counter space. I guess that don't have to put

1123
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:43,040
Speaker 1: like a powder anywhere. So I'm knocking powders on the floor.

1124
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 1: They're cracking like. I use cheap makeup that I buy

1125
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 1: from Target. I use wet and wild like that's another

1126
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 1: problem I have, like dirty brushes. It's like I there

1127
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 1: just needs to be a complete overhaul of my life.

1128
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 1: But I refuse to be one of these people who

1129
00:57:57,640 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 1: spends zuberant amount of some money on dumb shit. I

1130
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 1: think it's I think it's wasteful. I think it's a

1131
00:58:04,120 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 1: bad example. I think it's capitalism and it's worse, and

1132
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 1: I hate that I have to give into it. Sometimes

1133
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 1: I guess makes sense yeah, it's a it is a

1134
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:16,680
Speaker 1: tough you are in a tough spot, like I couldn't

1135
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 1: do what you do? What would you want done? Would

1136
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:21,400
Speaker 1: you spend four thousand dollars for that look last night?

1137
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: If you want to imagine that? Because I don't, you

1138
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,880
Speaker 1: have to ask. If I go, let's and we're gonna

1139
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 1: walk the red carpet, I could get you on the

1140
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 1: red carpet with me. What would you don't have it?

1141
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:33,600
Speaker 1: I don't have that much to spend, So what would

1142
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:35,360
Speaker 1: you do? Would you just do your own makeup? And

1143
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: would you just yeah? Probably the alace to know, I

1144
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 1: guess I'm asking that is not a seven hundred fifty

1145
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: dollars makeup artist? Is there a market here for like

1146
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 1: a place to like almost like the dry bar for makeup?

1147
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: When I went to see you at Dancing with the

1148
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 1: Stars with our friend Jen, who like knows all about makeup,

1149
00:58:56,600 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: she's like very very feminine, girly. Yes, um, we she

1150
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 1: took me to Support to get our makeup done because

1151
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:06,200
Speaker 1: we weren't just going to show up looking like gross?

1152
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:08,040
Speaker 1: But did you pay for your makeup to be done

1153
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:11,520
Speaker 1: at Support? You? Just like I use the people free? Actually, no,

1154
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 1: the people there. It's a lot of like makeup artists

1155
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:17,959
Speaker 1: who just like there. I know there's some big, big

1156
00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 1: people that work at those places. Yeah, so I mean

1157
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 1: they're not being paid to do makeup though, well I back,

1158
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:27,200
Speaker 1: I definitely tipped, but you know, like they're like, oh,

1159
00:59:27,240 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 1: you know, like um buy this flip gloss to keep

1160
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 1: the look all night and stuff, and they're probably don't

1161
00:59:33,880 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: like doing touching people up and like you know, they're

1162
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 1: just but that could be an alternative. So it's not

1163
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: you doing it. But you are at the level though, babe,

1164
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 1: where you can't. You gotta kind of stop comparing yourself

1165
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 1: to your friends because we are at your level. Like

1166
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 1: you need to talk to some celebrities who are at

1167
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:56,560
Speaker 1: your levels and they'll be like, no, you always pay

1168
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:58,680
Speaker 1: for a professional hair and makeup. You always go through

1169
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 1: the agency. You can't be cutting corners and say get

1170
01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: them taken down? Like what do I do? Like do

1171
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 1: I talk to the Kardashians and how they can just

1172
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: swallow it? Do you just go like what do you

1173
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: guys do when you see a photo of yourself that

1174
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 1: is so heinous that someone has put up this is

1175
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 1: gonna exist forever. What are you gonna do it? What

1176
01:00:15,760 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 1: do you do? Accept myself? I accept myself. I prove

1177
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 1: of myself. I approve, I approve of myself. I approve

1178
01:00:21,880 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 1: of myself. I approve of myself. I did get to

1179
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 1: that place last night. I've got to there almost immediately.

1180
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 1: That sounds cool. No, my outfit, I like my I

1181
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: like my outfit. I would wear it again. It was

1182
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 1: like a sheer top, so it was was mostly covered up,

1183
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:37,080
Speaker 1: but the sheerness of the top like, I like the outfit.

1184
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 1: The hair and makeup is atrocious, like it's I was

1185
01:00:41,880 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 1: zooming into my eye. I just made some I didn't

1186
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,560
Speaker 1: do it big enough, wing on the top. Like there's

1187
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 1: things that I know that I could course correct with

1188
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 1: my makeup. I my bronzer. I need new bronzer. It's

1189
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:56,200
Speaker 1: two orange. I dusted, I contoured wrong. I'm you know,

1190
01:00:56,200 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 1: what I'm most embarrassed about is having people see it

1191
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:01,919
Speaker 1: and go like anyway. I feel sorry for her. She's

1192
01:01:01,960 --> 01:01:03,840
Speaker 1: like tried to do it herself. Like whenever I see

1193
01:01:03,840 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 1: a red carpet moment where I'm like, like, I'm just

1194
01:01:06,880 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 1: worried about people judging me because I know that I'm beautiful.

1195
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: I know that that is not what my face usually

1196
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 1: looks like. I'm comfortable with, Like that is not who

1197
01:01:15,560 --> 01:01:18,840
Speaker 1: I am. I can really look stunning when done right.

1198
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 1: I'm worried about people, especially my friends who are makeup artists,

1199
01:01:23,200 --> 01:01:26,880
Speaker 1: going like this cheap bitch tried to do it herself

1200
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 1: and she failed. Like it's just like I tried to.

1201
01:01:29,040 --> 01:01:31,160
Speaker 1: Like it's the same way I feel about singing and

1202
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 1: playing guitar, like professionals going like, oh oh my god,

1203
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 1: look at the school like crying. I think it's cooler

1204
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: to try and fail a little then spend tons of

1205
01:01:42,880 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 1: money on stylists and look insane. So many celebrities spend

1206
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:50,400
Speaker 1: a bunch of money on stylist to I mean, let's

1207
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 1: think about not no shade. I love Gwyneth sometimes, but

1208
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 1: remember the look that was immortalized forever where she forgot

1209
01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:58,760
Speaker 1: to wear a bra and she was like, I'm got

1210
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 1: it looked good, but the flashbulbs we could all see

1211
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: our nipples at the oscars, and that everyone made fun

1212
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:07,440
Speaker 1: of her forever. Oh yeah, that's a good point. There's

1213
01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: not a great look. I can think of so many

1214
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 1: examples of women looking like really rough on the red

1215
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:15,080
Speaker 1: carpet because they just had bad powdering or like their

1216
01:02:15,120 --> 01:02:17,640
Speaker 1: makeup got done in the dark. And I've had even

1217
01:02:17,680 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 1: my first um stand up special that I did my

1218
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 1: half hour for Comedy Central, they had the makeup artists

1219
01:02:22,960 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 1: working in the dark. We were literally had like a

1220
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:27,640
Speaker 1: little table side lamp in this dark room. And I

1221
01:02:27,680 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: was like, and so when I got on stage, I

1222
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 1: looked insane. So there's gonna be looks that follow me forever.

1223
01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 1: But it's just like I just realized that it's this

1224
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:39,640
Speaker 1: job is too much pressure sometimes of like how to look,

1225
01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:42,800
Speaker 1: and it really does start to fuck with you because

1226
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:47,040
Speaker 1: it's like so much pressure you You should have seen

1227
01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:50,320
Speaker 1: it last night. I and I think if I would

1228
01:02:50,360 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 1: have known what a big event it was and how

1229
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 1: much I'm known, I would have treated it better because

1230
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 1: I thought I was just going to be like kind

1231
01:02:59,200 --> 01:03:01,800
Speaker 1: of like hold on the red carpet and like maybe

1232
01:03:01,800 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 1: gotten a couple picture, like no one, it's not my nights,

1233
01:03:04,400 --> 01:03:07,120
Speaker 1: no one knows who I am, like, but I was

1234
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 1: paparazzied on the way there, like getting out of my uber.

1235
01:03:10,280 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: I get there and I'm not bragging, this is just

1236
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 1: what happened. I get on the red carpet, and I

1237
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:17,040
Speaker 1: am standing there in front of the photographers for like

1238
01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 1: three minutes, whether they're like Nikki over here, NICKI, NICKI

1239
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:22,200
Speaker 1: right here, NICKI NIGGI like it was and I go.

1240
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,200
Speaker 1: I literally said them, I go, you guys know I'm

1241
01:03:24,200 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 1: not fucking someone famous, right, Like who do you think

1242
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:32,000
Speaker 1: I am? And I was like I literally kept joking

1243
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,480
Speaker 1: with them of like do you are you mistaking me

1244
01:03:34,520 --> 01:03:36,800
Speaker 1: for someone else? Because the girl Jamie Lee, who was

1245
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 1: with was like, I've never seen anything like that, and

1246
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 1: I go, how long was that? I blacked out? Because

1247
01:03:42,840 --> 01:03:44,880
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I've done events where it is

1248
01:03:44,920 --> 01:03:47,000
Speaker 1: my night and it doesn't go on that long. So

1249
01:03:47,040 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 1: I think that that was a part of it too,

1250
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:50,840
Speaker 1: was like I didn't under I was worried that I

1251
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: would spend four thousand dollars and get there and not

1252
01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:55,440
Speaker 1: even walk the red carpet, like it wasn't guaranteed. So

1253
01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 1: there was too many variables that were like I'm not

1254
01:03:57,400 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 1: going to spend this much to just sit in the

1255
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:02,200
Speaker 1: theater and watch something if I'm not even guaranteed to

1256
01:04:02,280 --> 01:04:05,160
Speaker 1: be walk the red carpet. I think this will help you,

1257
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:07,280
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure that it will. But what Noah

1258
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 1: said earlier is really important to get and maybe you

1259
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,280
Speaker 1: can talk to not only another celebrity, but also your

1260
01:04:12,320 --> 01:04:16,640
Speaker 1: business manager. It really is like getting four thousand dollars

1261
01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 1: back because the amount of money you have to spend

1262
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 1: for taxes is a big number every year, but you

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Speaker 1: get four thousand dollars taken off of that number, so

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01:04:27,240 --> 01:04:30,880
Speaker 1: it is real. It is a real savings. Somebody back

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Speaker 1: me up on this if you know what you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: But I'm almost sure of what I'm saying, so to

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Speaker 1: only everything I do is a tax write off, because

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01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:39,080
Speaker 1: I can talk about in my act anything I do,

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01:04:39,240 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 1: and then it's like, okay, tax write off, this is

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Speaker 1: what I want to why I pay any taxes? Then

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Speaker 1: I think, I think you have to flip it, like

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Speaker 1: your view a little bit of like a personal expenditure

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01:04:52,560 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 1: and then a business expenditure, because you have Nikki Gleaser

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01:04:55,480 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 1: the person, and you would never go and like buy

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01:04:58,320 --> 01:05:01,000
Speaker 1: yourself a four thousand dollars coach your suit just to

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01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:03,600
Speaker 1: wear out like around Saint Louis. And then you have

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Speaker 1: Nikki Glazer the business, which is not just stand up,

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01:05:07,680 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 1: it's it's a it's a variety of things where it's like, Okay,

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01:05:11,040 --> 01:05:13,680
Speaker 1: I have to go and spend four thousand on stylist

1280
01:05:13,680 --> 01:05:17,120
Speaker 1: and hair because this event will get me press and

1281
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 1: that will be an opportunity. I'm going to meet other people,

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01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 1: and yeah, that is something that you've created for yourself.

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01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:27,160
Speaker 1: I learned a lesson. I learned that this is what

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01:05:27,240 --> 01:05:28,960
Speaker 1: I got out of it when you make a mistake

1285
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:30,720
Speaker 1: like this, Like, all I want to do right now

1286
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:34,640
Speaker 1: is punish myself all day long. I wanna um zoom

1287
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:37,880
Speaker 1: in on the picture I wanna be. I want to

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01:05:37,880 --> 01:05:41,160
Speaker 1: just go like, you fucking idiot, You're so fucking stupid.

1289
01:05:41,280 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 1: Why did you do this? You? It was Do you

1290
01:05:43,800 --> 01:05:45,480
Speaker 1: ever do that where you make a mistake and you're like,

1291
01:05:45,680 --> 01:05:48,480
Speaker 1: it was just yesterday? How could I have How could

1292
01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:50,600
Speaker 1: I know so clearly what to do right now? But

1293
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:53,640
Speaker 1: an hour ago or a day ago, I made the

1294
01:05:53,720 --> 01:05:58,400
Speaker 1: opposite decision? Like what a fucking That's why hindsight twenty

1295
01:05:59,000 --> 01:06:02,160
Speaker 1: like that phrase, it's not even twenty twenty, Like I

1296
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 1: have got lastic in one eye, so it's like twenty forty.

1297
01:06:04,960 --> 01:06:07,640
Speaker 1: I literally have better than twenty twenty now because I

1298
01:06:07,680 --> 01:06:13,600
Speaker 1: have I'm like a bioptic. But you're right. Final thought, Okay,

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01:06:13,680 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 1: let me give you another expense coming up? Got its

1300
01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:18,160
Speaker 1: like I'm already like this morning, it's already coming in.

1301
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to see after our girls trip or going

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01:06:20,920 --> 01:06:24,920
Speaker 1: to Palm Springs at the end of the month. Taylor's

1303
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:27,640
Speaker 1: I got invited by a bestie I believe she's a

1304
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 1: bestie to go to Taylor Swift in Dallas on April second.

1305
01:06:34,520 --> 01:06:37,240
Speaker 1: I believe it's the Sutnday show and it would be

1306
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:38,960
Speaker 1: the first Taylor Swift concert that I'm going to go

1307
01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 1: to her star tour starting very soon. And I think

1308
01:06:42,640 --> 01:06:44,400
Speaker 1: I'm getting the ticket for free, like she's giving it

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01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:49,360
Speaker 1: to me for free. That night, I want to stay

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01:06:49,360 --> 01:06:52,479
Speaker 1: in a hotel. That's like nice, What do you think

1311
01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:54,920
Speaker 1: eight hundred and forty five dollars is too much for

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01:06:55,000 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 1: one night in a hotel? You a question to put

1313
01:06:59,760 --> 01:07:03,440
Speaker 1: out to everyone. It's more like, would you spend point

1314
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:06,480
Speaker 1: o five percent of your annual income on a hotel

1315
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:09,600
Speaker 1: room one night? Yes, Like it's you have to do

1316
01:07:09,640 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 1: a percentage of what you're making and you don't make

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01:07:11,960 --> 01:07:15,920
Speaker 1: that average because it's like it's the it's it's my

1318
01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: mom is in my head going yes, Oh, said it

1319
01:07:22,040 --> 01:07:26,880
Speaker 1: is swift concert. I have to make the decision today

1320
01:07:26,920 --> 01:07:30,200
Speaker 1: because these these hotels are booken up. I know two

1321
01:07:30,240 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 1: celebrities I will put you in touch with, and they

1322
01:07:32,440 --> 01:07:36,400
Speaker 1: have worked through this exact shit in therapy and they

1323
01:07:36,440 --> 01:07:39,200
Speaker 1: will help you. They will help you lean into your

1324
01:07:39,280 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: stardom and let go of some of the shame and

1325
01:07:42,640 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 1: guilt and like discomfort around money and fame. I think

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01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:47,720
Speaker 1: you have a lot of comfort trying to get new

1327
01:07:47,760 --> 01:07:50,720
Speaker 1: friends because I can't. I can't. I'm not kidding you,

1328
01:07:50,760 --> 01:07:53,880
Speaker 1: Like there's no way for me to have my complaints.

1329
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:57,000
Speaker 1: And then hear my friends be like I can't pay

1330
01:07:57,080 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 1: my bills this month, and then go, I'm not going

1331
01:07:59,200 --> 01:08:02,040
Speaker 1: to give them money that like how how am I not?

1332
01:08:02,280 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 1: Or like see a dog that um is going to

1333
01:08:05,040 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 1: be put down because their medical fees can't be paid for,

1334
01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:10,000
Speaker 1: Like why would I spend eight hundred and forty five

1335
01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 1: dollars on a fucking dumb suite in Houston or Dallas

1336
01:08:14,720 --> 01:08:17,160
Speaker 1: then save a dog. That's what I struggle with because

1337
01:08:17,360 --> 01:08:20,000
Speaker 1: if I'm like, that is what I will have to

1338
01:08:20,040 --> 01:08:22,640
Speaker 1: talk to a therapist about. Not like I get them

1339
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:25,320
Speaker 1: that like spending this percentage that other people spend on themselves,

1340
01:08:25,360 --> 01:08:28,559
Speaker 1: like based on your income. I get it. I understand

1341
01:08:28,600 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 1: that logically, yeah, either or Why is it an either

1342
01:08:34,240 --> 01:08:37,040
Speaker 1: or a thing? Because that's philosophy, man, Like that's like

1343
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:39,920
Speaker 1: that is the conundrum of like, it's the trolley problem,

1344
01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:43,360
Speaker 1: it's the um, it's the There was this really interesting

1345
01:08:43,400 --> 01:08:47,080
Speaker 1: thought exercise that I heard on Sam Harris where a

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01:08:47,200 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 1: man is wearing new shoes and he's walking by a

1347
01:08:51,479 --> 01:08:53,680
Speaker 1: lake and he sees a little drowning child in the lake,

1348
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:58,800
Speaker 1: and should he jump in and save the child or

1349
01:09:00,040 --> 01:09:04,559
Speaker 1: save one life? Or should he sell his shoes back

1350
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:07,559
Speaker 1: to like a resale shop for five hundred dollars whatever

1351
01:09:07,560 --> 01:09:09,759
Speaker 1: you can get from them, and then send that money

1352
01:09:09,840 --> 01:09:14,760
Speaker 1: to Africa to fight malaria and save thirteen kids and

1353
01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:17,960
Speaker 1: let the kid drown. So it's like he could save

1354
01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:21,200
Speaker 1: thirteen Like there's no doubt about it, that money could

1355
01:09:21,200 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 1: save thirteen lives in Africa to buy mosquito nuts or whatever.

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01:09:25,960 --> 01:09:28,519
Speaker 1: Or does he get his shoes wet and save one child?

1357
01:09:28,720 --> 01:09:30,360
Speaker 1: And you would go, well, if you're gonna save thirteen

1358
01:09:30,400 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 1: children or one child, you should save thirteen children, right,

1359
01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 1: Like anyone would argue thirteen children are more valuable than

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01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:40,880
Speaker 1: one child because we're all equal. But then who could

1361
01:09:40,920 --> 01:09:43,880
Speaker 1: ever walk by a dying child? Isn't that an interesting

1362
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:47,040
Speaker 1: thought exercise though? Or the trolley problem of like are

1363
01:09:47,040 --> 01:09:49,880
Speaker 1: you gonna kill one guy or four? Like if you

1364
01:09:49,960 --> 01:09:51,800
Speaker 1: go this, do you know that one where it's like

1365
01:09:51,840 --> 01:09:54,160
Speaker 1: you're on a trolley and you have to like pull

1366
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:55,960
Speaker 1: a lever and you either kill one guy that's on

1367
01:09:56,000 --> 01:09:58,479
Speaker 1: the tracks or either thing goes off and it kills

1368
01:09:58,479 --> 01:10:01,439
Speaker 1: like four people and you go either way, but most

1369
01:10:01,479 --> 01:10:07,160
Speaker 1: people choose, And then there's a really interesting thought that

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01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:11,360
Speaker 1: they did. They do research and they know that people

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01:10:11,439 --> 01:10:14,559
Speaker 1: empathize with one person more than they do groups. So

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01:10:14,600 --> 01:10:17,680
Speaker 1: that's why there's always these campaigns of like this is Joshua.

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01:10:18,160 --> 01:10:20,400
Speaker 1: He lives in Africa and he has flies around his

1374
01:10:20,439 --> 01:10:23,120
Speaker 1: head like whatever it is, and that makes you Whereas

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01:10:23,120 --> 01:10:25,200
Speaker 1: if you show a whole tribe, if you show Joshua,

1376
01:10:25,360 --> 01:10:27,479
Speaker 1: the kid that you had were pulling your heartshrings for,

1377
01:10:28,040 --> 01:10:30,439
Speaker 1: but you put him with his family, you go, I

1378
01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:34,519
Speaker 1: don't really care more people, we care about less, but

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01:10:34,600 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 1: if Joshua, even if we add Joshua to it, when

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01:10:37,000 --> 01:10:38,720
Speaker 1: we cared about Joshua when he's on his own, but

1381
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:41,320
Speaker 1: now Joshua was with a group of children and we

1382
01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:44,200
Speaker 1: care about him less. That's the human condition and it's

1383
01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:47,800
Speaker 1: fucked up, and that is what I'm struggling with. No,

1384
01:10:47,920 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 1: it's not interesting, why do we Why would humans think

1385
01:10:50,479 --> 01:10:53,360
Speaker 1: that way? But based on research, it shows that humans

1386
01:10:53,360 --> 01:10:56,400
Speaker 1: always will care about an individual more than a group.

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01:10:57,120 --> 01:10:59,479
Speaker 1: It feels a little bit, even if they're gonna die.

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01:11:00,040 --> 01:11:03,200
Speaker 1: It feels it feels manipulative to me because these are

1389
01:11:03,320 --> 01:11:09,840
Speaker 1: kind of like arbitrary situations where we're looking, of course

1390
01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:13,640
Speaker 1: we want to save people and Joshua and whoever. But

1391
01:11:13,680 --> 01:11:15,920
Speaker 1: it's like when you're in the moment and your face

1392
01:11:16,000 --> 01:11:18,800
Speaker 1: with something, I think that's when like the decision is

1393
01:11:19,200 --> 01:11:23,160
Speaker 1: true to yourself as opposed to just like these arbitrary

1394
01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 1: Like but I should always be using this money that

1395
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:28,840
Speaker 1: I spent on shoes to save children always, and if

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01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:31,000
Speaker 1: you're not. It's the way I feel about when people

1397
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:35,080
Speaker 1: no offense have kids or go to breeders for dogs.

1398
01:11:35,560 --> 01:11:38,160
Speaker 1: Because you're doing that, a kid that you could adopt

1399
01:11:38,280 --> 01:11:40,400
Speaker 1: is going to go homeless, and you're making that choice.

1400
01:11:40,439 --> 01:11:43,760
Speaker 1: And I know it's not like directly that choice, but

1401
01:11:43,840 --> 01:11:46,080
Speaker 1: it's kind of that because if you didn't have a kid,

1402
01:11:46,120 --> 01:11:48,040
Speaker 1: you would probably adopt and then there would be one

1403
01:11:48,120 --> 01:11:50,800
Speaker 1: less kid. That's like crying alone in a foster home.

1404
01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:53,759
Speaker 1: You're you're, you're taking. That's how I do my life.

1405
01:11:54,080 --> 01:11:57,560
Speaker 1: I get it, and and I totally understand that perspective.

1406
01:11:57,600 --> 01:11:59,560
Speaker 1: But it's just like you can't take a box and

1407
01:11:59,680 --> 01:12:02,200
Speaker 1: just like push everything into it that makes sense to you.

1408
01:12:02,640 --> 01:12:06,519
Speaker 1: It's two different things, the adopting a dog and adopting

1409
01:12:06,520 --> 01:12:10,640
Speaker 1: a child, And like, in my brain, I can't like

1410
01:12:11,080 --> 01:12:14,559
Speaker 1: and for example, spending money on your makeup or spending

1411
01:12:14,600 --> 01:12:17,040
Speaker 1: money to save a bunch of dogs, I can't see

1412
01:12:17,040 --> 01:12:19,040
Speaker 1: that as the same thing. I just see it as

1413
01:12:19,080 --> 01:12:22,559
Speaker 1: two separate things. But they can't be separate things because

1414
01:12:22,600 --> 01:12:26,120
Speaker 1: money can solve world issues and money can also buy

1415
01:12:26,160 --> 01:12:31,000
Speaker 1: you stuff at Sephora, So it's like the same currency

1416
01:12:31,200 --> 01:12:35,240
Speaker 1: can do amazing things or really vapid things, and I

1417
01:12:35,320 --> 01:12:39,000
Speaker 1: struggle with the vapidity. Now, one could argue you spending

1418
01:12:39,000 --> 01:12:40,680
Speaker 1: a lot of money at ted Lasso will get you

1419
01:12:40,720 --> 01:12:42,519
Speaker 1: to make more money which you can then put into

1420
01:12:42,520 --> 01:12:44,920
Speaker 1: an animal shelter and open a bigger shelter. Am I

1421
01:12:45,000 --> 01:12:48,439
Speaker 1: gonna open that shelter? You know? I'm not like you like,

1422
01:12:48,560 --> 01:12:51,080
Speaker 1: these are the things like you can always justify, like,

1423
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:53,040
Speaker 1: but that's gonna make me more money in the future.

1424
01:12:53,080 --> 01:12:55,679
Speaker 1: Which I'm gonna do for good? Is am I gonna

1425
01:12:55,720 --> 01:12:57,479
Speaker 1: do for good? Or am I just gonna get greedier

1426
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:59,479
Speaker 1: like everyone does on succession? I've been watching too much.

1427
01:12:59,520 --> 01:13:04,040
Speaker 1: Succession is probably the answered all of this. Don't go

1428
01:13:04,160 --> 01:13:07,720
Speaker 1: to dry Bar again. I'm sorry to anyone who works

1429
01:13:07,720 --> 01:13:09,719
Speaker 1: at dry Bar. I know that they are talented people

1430
01:13:09,760 --> 01:13:12,240
Speaker 1: that work there. I got a bad egg. Don't not

1431
01:13:12,320 --> 01:13:14,639
Speaker 1: go to dry Bar because I said so. Because they

1432
01:13:14,720 --> 01:13:18,120
Speaker 1: are the only medium between spending five hundred dollars and

1433
01:13:18,240 --> 01:13:21,320
Speaker 1: spending zero dollars and doing it yourself. There's gotta be

1434
01:13:21,360 --> 01:13:23,920
Speaker 1: a sal Did you choose I've only been there once,

1435
01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:29,160
Speaker 1: and it was like Beachy Waves or newscaster or I

1436
01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:31,680
Speaker 1: mean I got a little bit. Yeah, it was like

1437
01:13:31,840 --> 01:13:39,719
Speaker 1: Fox News, CNN Local. Um, so it was I chose

1438
01:13:39,760 --> 01:13:42,400
Speaker 1: one that was almost like I wanted it to be

1439
01:13:42,439 --> 01:13:45,040
Speaker 1: simple so that I could judge it. So I was

1440
01:13:45,080 --> 01:13:47,800
Speaker 1: just soft curls. But I look up from my I

1441
01:13:47,840 --> 01:13:49,760
Speaker 1: was doing spelling Bee New York Times Spelling Bee, and

1442
01:13:49,800 --> 01:13:53,200
Speaker 1: I look up and my hair is in like these ringlets,

1443
01:13:53,400 --> 01:13:57,720
Speaker 1: right like curly Sue Shirley Temple ringlets. You know, that's

1444
01:13:57,720 --> 01:13:59,760
Speaker 1: what they do before they brush it out. And I

1445
01:14:00,080 --> 01:14:02,000
Speaker 1: where to god. She goes, do you want me to

1446
01:14:02,040 --> 01:14:03,720
Speaker 1: brush it out? Or do you want to do it

1447
01:14:03,760 --> 01:14:07,519
Speaker 1: yourself and leave like this? And I looked at her

1448
01:14:07,560 --> 01:14:12,280
Speaker 1: like what do you what do you think? Like? I

1449
01:14:12,400 --> 01:14:14,559
Speaker 1: just go, oh, no, do you brush it out? And

1450
01:14:14,560 --> 01:14:16,839
Speaker 1: she was like okay, and she kind of had a tude.

1451
01:14:17,080 --> 01:14:19,599
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say she didn't have a tude. And then

1452
01:14:20,040 --> 01:14:21,840
Speaker 1: she brushed it out and I go, oh, this is

1453
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:23,599
Speaker 1: way too curly. It was like, I mean my hair

1454
01:14:23,640 --> 01:14:25,479
Speaker 1: was up to my shoulder length because it was so hard,

1455
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:27,760
Speaker 1: and the picture I like, maybe just a little bit

1456
01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:29,800
Speaker 1: blow I mean look at it now, like it just

1457
01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:34,160
Speaker 1: looks thin and like it's just I mean, look it's

1458
01:14:34,479 --> 01:14:38,240
Speaker 1: it's a bad blowout. So then can you straighten it?

1459
01:14:38,240 --> 01:14:40,800
Speaker 1: Because it was so curled. But anyone who knows hair,

1460
01:14:41,160 --> 01:14:43,439
Speaker 1: once you curl hair, it's not gonna go back to straight.

1461
01:14:43,520 --> 01:14:46,800
Speaker 1: It's just like it's a mess to wash it. But

1462
01:14:46,880 --> 01:14:48,640
Speaker 1: I looked at the I pulled out the book that

1463
01:14:48,680 --> 01:14:50,640
Speaker 1: I told her like that's the one I want. I

1464
01:14:50,680 --> 01:14:54,360
Speaker 1: go if you see this, there's one ring and then

1465
01:14:54,400 --> 01:14:57,800
Speaker 1: another half. It's like two. It goes around twice, and

1466
01:14:57,960 --> 01:15:02,400
Speaker 1: this goes around. Sick seen time like these they're not

1467
01:15:02,479 --> 01:15:04,559
Speaker 1: the same. Like I didn't say that, but I go,

1468
01:15:04,840 --> 01:15:07,160
Speaker 1: see it's like only twice, and she goes, well, your

1469
01:15:07,160 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 1: hair's a lot longer than hers. And I'm like, it

1470
01:15:09,960 --> 01:15:12,280
Speaker 1: doesn't look it right now, because I looks like I

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01:15:12,320 --> 01:15:14,719
Speaker 1: have a bob haircut, even though my hair is literally

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Speaker 1: down half my back because it is so curled. I

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Speaker 1: left there. I was embarrassed to walk down the street.

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Speaker 1: Even I was like, I have to go home and

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Speaker 1: fix this, and then I didn't have time to fix it,

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01:15:23,400 --> 01:15:24,880
Speaker 1: and so I just go, you know, it's probably not

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Speaker 1: as bad as I thought. And then the red carpet photos,

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Speaker 1: which I know everyone will look at. I don't. I

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01:15:29,280 --> 01:15:32,040
Speaker 1: don't begrudge you. I would do the same thing they are.

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Speaker 1: I mean, my biggest mistake, I just want to say,

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Speaker 1: I know what I did. My bronzer is too crazy.

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01:15:37,640 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 1: I contoured wrong. I did not my lower eyelid. I

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01:15:40,760 --> 01:15:43,160
Speaker 1: didn't do enough makeup. I put too much whitening on

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Speaker 1: the insides of my eye im and there and my

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01:15:47,720 --> 01:15:49,760
Speaker 1: face just looks all one color. Even though I did

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Speaker 1: try to contour, I didn't have a good I don't

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Speaker 1: have any lip color on. And I tucked my hair

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01:15:56,840 --> 01:15:58,559
Speaker 1: behind my ears and then it made this little like

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Speaker 1: amish curl come out out. I mean I had there's

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Speaker 1: no mirror before you walk on the red carpet. There

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01:16:04,040 --> 01:16:06,040
Speaker 1: was nothing I could do. I was in a dark

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01:16:06,040 --> 01:16:08,360
Speaker 1: I got into an uber. It was pitch dark inside

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Speaker 1: because every uber here is their fucking windows tinted, so

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01:16:11,040 --> 01:16:14,960
Speaker 1: you have no natural light coming in. Um, I'm blaming

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01:16:14,960 --> 01:16:17,600
Speaker 1: everyone else but myself, but I'm really it's because I

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Speaker 1: didn't spend four thousand dollars and kill those kids in Africa.

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Speaker 1: And that's really what the problem is. You saved the money, though,

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Speaker 1: and that's yeah. And what am I gonna do with it?

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01:16:25,840 --> 01:16:30,320
Speaker 1: Like what I should donate four thousand? I should donate

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Speaker 1: thirty something one hundred dollars today that I would have

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Speaker 1: spent to make this all right in the world. And

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna consider doing that. I will you ask me

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Speaker 1: next week what I do. But I'm gonna be more

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01:16:41,320 --> 01:16:44,519
Speaker 1: generous this week with money because I need if. I

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01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:47,800
Speaker 1: was so such a good person and I saved that money,

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01:16:47,840 --> 01:16:50,519
Speaker 1: I better put it towards something fucking good and and

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Speaker 1: good for the world. So I'm gonna I'm gonna look

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01:16:53,920 --> 01:16:56,360
Speaker 1: into something and I'm gonna try to maybe help some

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Speaker 1: people out today with the money that I saved to

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Speaker 1: justify how shitty I looked at the red carpet and

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01:17:01,240 --> 01:17:03,879
Speaker 1: if you look at my picture today, because you betrayed

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01:17:03,880 --> 01:17:05,960
Speaker 1: my trust. If you are one of those people, you

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01:17:06,080 --> 01:17:08,439
Speaker 1: have to donate ten dollars to someone's go fund me.

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Speaker 1: Is the That is the rule we make besties. You're

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01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,000
Speaker 1: allowed to go look at the picture, but if you

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01:17:13,080 --> 01:17:15,800
Speaker 1: do ten dollars to a go fund me, go to

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01:17:15,840 --> 01:17:18,280
Speaker 1: go fund me dot com, find one that suits you,

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01:17:18,520 --> 01:17:21,720
Speaker 1: and you show me proof of purchase and then you

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01:17:21,760 --> 01:17:23,720
Speaker 1: can look. Then I will grant you access and you

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01:17:23,760 --> 01:17:25,839
Speaker 1: will not have to feel bad like you betrayed me, bestie,

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01:17:25,840 --> 01:17:27,559
Speaker 1: because you did betray me if you didn't donate ten

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Speaker 1: dollars to go fund me. That's the rule. I'm sticking

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Speaker 1: to it. I hope you got to the end of

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Speaker 1: the podcast before you google it. If you already looked,

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01:17:35,479 --> 01:17:38,640
Speaker 1: you better gonna go fund me right now dot com

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01:17:38,680 --> 01:17:42,000
Speaker 1: and look it up. Find a charity. It's ten dollars

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Speaker 1: to see those photos and a lifetime of pain for me.

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Speaker 1: All Right, guys, thank you so much for listening to

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Speaker 1: the podcast this week. Really work through some shit. I think, man,

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01:17:49,800 --> 01:17:51,080
Speaker 1: you hit the nail on the head of the podcast

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Speaker 1: this week where she goes, I think you need to

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01:17:52,840 --> 01:17:57,760
Speaker 1: go to therapy instead of using iHeart Radio's time to

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01:17:57,880 --> 01:18:00,639
Speaker 1: work out your shit. Oh, I hope I hear someone

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01:18:00,680 --> 01:18:03,840
Speaker 1: out there. Would you say I love it here too.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying, you know what, like I. By the way,

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Speaker 1: I am going to therapy like I do go to therapy.

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01:18:11,720 --> 01:18:13,439
Speaker 1: I guess I just need more of it. But thank

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Speaker 1: you guys so much for listening. And that wasn't me

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01:18:15,200 --> 01:18:17,120
Speaker 1: being like, I guess I need more of it, an ya.

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01:18:17,240 --> 01:18:18,920
Speaker 1: I was just being like, I literally guess I need

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Speaker 1: more of it. That wasn't me being passive aggressive. Happy Birthday, Matt,

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Speaker 1: Happy International Women's Day, and urge, don't be cool and

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01:18:27,160 --> 01:18:29,720
Speaker 1: just spend the money, bitch so you don't look like

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Speaker 1: a fucking dried up housewive. Season one. Bye