WEBVTT - 6 Step Blueprint to Achieve All Your Goals for 2025 (Proven Method- Don't Skip This) 0:00:00.000 --> 0:00:02.400 Everyone who's trying to build an online following right now. 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:04.800 The rule of thumb is that it takes two years 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:08.760 of posting consistently to break through. Why because those two 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:13.680 years you're basically moving through learn, experiment, perform, struggle. If 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.800 you've posted every single day or multiple times per week 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:20.680 for two years, I promise you you have learned, you've experimented, 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:24.160 you've performed, You've struggled for sure, and now you're going 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:34.080 to thrive. The number one health and wellness podcast Say station, Hey, everyone, 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:39.240 welcome to on Purpose twenty twenty five. This is going 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:44.840 to be our biggest, best year yet. I want this 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:50.000 year to be your most powerful, your most abundant, your 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:55.560 most creative, your most mindful year yet, a year filled 0:00:55.560 --> 0:01:00.280 with opportunity, a year filled with wins and success, is 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:06.440 a year filled with depth and fulfillment. This is the 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:10.560 year you'll remember and look back on in years to 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:14.920 come and say, in twenty twenty five, I remember that 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:17.679 episode where Jay said he wanted it to be the 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:22.040 year that I finally get to where I want to 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:25.920 get to the year that I've been waiting for. Mark 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:30.759 your calendars, remember this year. The way we infuse our 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:37.720 year with intention, with ideas, with identity, with energy is 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:40.600 what we get back from it. And I think for 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:43.920 so many of us, we've had so many years of 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:48.880 trying new habits, trying new tasks, maybe trying to manifest, 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:54.279 and when it doesn't work out, we get that enthusiasm again, 0:01:54.960 --> 0:02:00.360 but then it wanes after seven days, fourteen days, thirty days, 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:03.920 whatever it may be. This year, it's changing. And the 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.920 reason is changing is not because this year is different. 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:12.080 We often say, I hope this year brings Well, here's 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:16.919 the reality. The year doesn't bring anything that you don't 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:20.120 bring to it. The energy that you bring to twenty 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:24.720 twenty five is what you're going to receive back. This 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.440 year can be your best year because you're going to 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:31.240 be at your best. This year can be your most 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:35.120 abundant year because you're going to focus on building an 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:40.160 abundance mindset. This year can be your most phenomenal year 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:45.640 yet because you're going to bring your most phenomenal energy. 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:50.919 What I'm sharing with you in today's episode is my proven, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:57.560 tried and tested six step method to achieve all of 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:01.120 your goals this year. I have I've tested this method, 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.920 I've tried it, I've worked on it. I've practiced it 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.600 over the last few years, and I have been able 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:12.399 to accomplish my personal and professional goals every single year. 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.520 And here's what I want to share with you. It's 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:20.120 not magic. It's really not a secret because I'm sharing it, 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.720 and it's something that each and every one of you 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:27.320 can do. I truly believe that if you follow this, 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:32.520 if you listen really carefully, you will also get to 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:36.640 where you want to go. Now, I'm going to say 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:41.040 one thing. As you listen to me share this, Please 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:44.160 allow it to sink into your ears, and into your 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:48.080 mind and into your heart. Allow it to truly go 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:52.320 that deep, Allow it to truly go that far. Don't 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:56.120 just let this be a mental thinking exercise when I'm 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:59.520 sharing these ideas. Let them become your reality. Let them 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:06.640 become something you're thinking, believing, practicing. So the first step 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:13.920 is identifying your one personal goal and your one professional goal. 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:17.520 I'm going to ask you to just pick one top 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:24.000 personal goal and one professional goal. Your professional goal could 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:27.560 be this is the year I get promoted. Your professional 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:30.760 goal could be this is the year I launched that podcast. 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:34.039 Your professional goal could be this is the year I 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:37.760 launch my new business and your personal goal could be 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:41.440 this is the year I shed that weight. This is 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.960 the year I build a muscle, this is the year 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:47.840 I get strong. But I want you to be really specific, 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.440 and I want you to describe it as if you're 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:57.120 telling a story. Imagine you were telling a story about 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.799 this year to someone next year, and you were saying, 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:05.919 twenty twenty five is the year that I shared that weight. 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:10.640 I felt lighter, I felt stronger, I felt better. It's 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:13.520 the year that I got promoted. It's the year that 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:16.960 I worked really hard and showed myself what I was 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:21.200 capable of. It's the year I discovered my potential. It's 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:25.880 the year I was fascinated with this subject or this expertise. 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:28.960 Talk about it as if you're being interviewed on a 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:35.320 podcast and someone asked you, describe what happened that year. 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:40.680 How did that year change your life? What was the 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:46.040 most pivotal moment in that year that redefined your trajectory, 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:51.400 that rewired your transformation, that brought you so much joy 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:55.640 and passion in your life. Talk about it like a story. 0:05:56.279 --> 0:06:07.000 Often we talk about our goals like theory, mathematical, algorithmic tools. 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:11.240 Our goals become this language that we don't really feel 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:15.560 connected to. It feels like something we want to do, 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:18.400 somethings we have to do, something we wish would happen, 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:23.160 something we're waiting for to happen, rather than a story 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:27.800 that feels natural and organic. Often our goals feel so 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:32.320 lofty and separated, even in the language we use around them, 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:37.359 because we don't talk about them in how they feel. 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:41.760 We talk about them in how we think they'll make 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:47.039 us feel. So I want you to describe, right pour 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:53.240 out onto a page, what your personal goal and professional 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:57.200 goals sound like when described like a story to a friend, 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:01.159 like an interview on a podcast you're sharing with someone. 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:06.400 How twenty twenty five was the most pivotal year. What happened? 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.840 I often have talked about interviews, how meeting monks was 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.280 transformative for me. How in twenty sixteen when my first 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:19.040 video went viral, what that felt like. How in twenty twenty, 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:22.680 when I remember being able to serve so many of 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:26.480 you through the pandemic, leading live meditations on Instagram and 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:29.800 Facebook and YouTube. When I talk about it in hindsight, 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:32.880 I've realized that I've got to learn to talk about 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:37.440 it right now. As aum manifesting and when I describe 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:39.920 it like a story, it feels real to me. Right. 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:42.600 How many times have you ever written a goal and 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.880 you don't even believe it? Right, You write it down 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:49.000 and you're already doubting it, you're already questioning it. You're 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:55.080 already investigating it, assessing it, evaluating it, wondering if it's 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:58.720 even true and going to happen. But when you describe 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:02.680 a story, when you describe something with passion and emotion 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:08.760 and feelings, it hits you deeper. That's what self belief is. 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:12.239 You don't get self belief because you write down a goal. 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:17.760 You get self belief because you describe something in how 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:22.080 you believe it's possible. So I want you to take 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:28.680 that time, really spend some time describing it in that 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:31.920 way and the way I want you to think about 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.040 your goals, because you might be saying, Jay, I've got 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:37.199 more than two goals, one personal one professional. I have 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:41.880 so many. Well, here's the reality. Twenty percent of our 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:46.720 life leads to eighty percent of our wins, right, the 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:50.520 eighty twenty rule. When you focus on the twenty percent, 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:55.640 that affects the entire eighty percent. But afteren, what we 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:58.360 do is we focus on working so hard on eighty 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:02.359 percent of things that maybe impact twenty percent of things. 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:06.679 When you're forced to pick one goal for each you 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:10.480 pick the root, You pick the habit that transforms it all. 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.480 Someone just asked me earlier today, Jay, what's the one 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:19.199 habit that changed your life? And maybe they were thinking 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.080 I was going to say something big, something profound, and 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:27.720 I replied very simply going to bed early. Because here's 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:31.560 the reality. Going to bed early is the twenty percent 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:35.280 that affects the eighty percent. Let me explain what I mean. 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.800 When you go to bed early, you feel rested when 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.920 you wake up, you feel focused. When you wake up, 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:45.280 you feel energized. You eat less junk food because your 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:48.480 body's not craving sugars to give you energy, because you 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:52.800 have energy. It's affecting eighty percent of your life. And 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:58.400 it was one decision. One personal goal and one professional 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:03.679 goal can absolutely transform your trajectory. So don't underestimate it. 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:09.400 Don't underestimate the power of one goal in each Now, 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:13.240 step two, I want you to take your goal and 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:18.679 ask yourself, what do I have to grow in in 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:22.839 order to achieve that goal. This is the biggest misstep 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:26.320 it's not that I don't believe in goals. I believe 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:29.240 more in growth. One of the biggest mistakes we make 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.400 is we set goals, but we don't know how we 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:34.679 need to grow in order to achieve them. So if 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.000 I said, hey, I really want to build this business, 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.160 but the growth I need to do is I need 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:43.600 to understand that industry. So what do I need to 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:45.640 understand that industry. I need to read a book about 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.360 that industry. I need to shadow someone in that industry. 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:50.880 I need to get a coach in that industry. I 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.480 need to go and learn online, listen to podcasts about 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:57.720 that industry. That's the growth. What skill do I need 0:10:57.760 --> 0:11:01.040 to grow in order to achieve that goal? If you 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.400 want to get promoted, what growth do you need to make? 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.640 Do you need to learn sales better? Because let's say 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.080 your goal is, hey, I want to get promoted, and 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:12.040 in order to get promoted, you need to bring in 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.440 a certain amount of business this year. Now, if your 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.680 goal just becomes this arbitrary target, I need to do 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.400 X in sales this year, I need to do X 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:23.880 as a result this year. That's not the growth. The 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.880 growth is I need to build a sales skill set. 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:31.319 I need to build a negotiation skill set. I need 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:34.360 to build a networking skill set. Maybe that's what's holding 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:39.520 you back. Growth is identifying what is that one skill 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:42.679 that you don't have that is holding you back from 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:46.680 a promotion. And the best way to decipher this if 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:49.040 you're trying to get promotion is talk to your boss 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.199 and say, what is the one skill that's holding me back? 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.199 What am I missing that if I were to develop, 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:59.640 it would be easy for you to give me a promotion, right, 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:03.760 Same with starting a business, same with starting a podcast. 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:07.480 What is the skill that you haven't learned that would 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:11.120 help your podcast go from strength to strength? Einstein famously 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:15.760 said insanity is doing the same thing over and over 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:20.120 again expecting a different result. Maybe you've been making videos 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:22.960 for thirty days and you're not going viral. What's the 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:25.520 skill you need to learn. It's no point having a 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:27.319 goal that says I'm going to have a million followers 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:30.040 by the end of this year. That doesn't mean anything. 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:32.760 Setting your sights on a goal doesn't get you there. 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:36.200 It's the system and the process, and this point in 0:12:36.240 --> 0:12:38.600 the system is always skipped. What's the skill is it 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:43.400 learning thumbnail design? Is it learning the algorithm. Is it 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.080 recognizing that the first three to eight seconds of a 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:49.640 video or all you have to capture attention. Is it 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.000 making sure you have a call to action at the end. 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:55.600 Is it making sure that people feel like sharing your content? 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:59.760 What is it that you have not learned? What do 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:01.760 you need to grow? What do you need to build? 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:06.120 What's the skill you need to learn in order to 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:11.520 catapult to the next level, and go and commit to 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:16.160 learning that skill. Make this a skills year, not just 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.280 a wish year. Right. We live in a year full 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:22.360 of wish lists, But there's a skill we're missing. Maybe 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:26.240 the skill is discipline, Maybe it's sales, Maybe it's negotiation, 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:32.480 Maybe it's relationship building, maybe it's public speaking. Whatever it is, 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:35.520 you can develop it if you put enough work into 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:39.520 it and obsess over that skill. Make it the plan 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:42.720 for your next four weekends. Saturday and Sunday going to 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:46.920 be dedicated to building that skill. Saturday and Sunday for 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:50.280 the next month, the next three months are going to 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:56.520 be completely absorbed in developing that skill. Is it organization? 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:00.240 Is it social media management? What is it that's holding 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:03.200 you back from that big win? The goal is not 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:05.280 enough and that's where so many of us go wrong. 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:06.880 We set this goal and then at the end of 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:09.360 the year we go I didn't achieve my goals. Well, 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:11.360 of course you didn't because you didn't grow the skill. 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:15.360 You didn't grow the muscle. The goal isn't going to 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:20.080 make it a difference. So take a look. Figure out 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:24.520 what it is that's holding you back. What skill are 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:30.720 you missing that is blocking you from becoming the version 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:34.320 of yourself that you know you can be. A goal 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:38.960 a different level to achieve requires a different level from you, right, 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:42.280 It requires a different frequency from you, and that's what 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:47.680 you're focusing on growing. Step number three, This is my 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:51.400 favorite piece of advice that I truly believe will change 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:56.640 your life. You have to decide what type of year 0:14:57.160 --> 0:15:07.000 it's going to be, and you have five choices. Learn, experiment, perform, struggle, thrive. 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:11.360 What I mean by this is if you want a 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:16.400 win but you have never learned, you've never experiment, you've 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:20.760 never performed, and you've never struggled, you can't suddenly thrive. 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:24.000 You can't go from zero to one hundred this year 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:27.400 if you've never done this thing, if you have no 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.360 background in it. So often our goals are just so 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:34.400 lofty and so high that we miss the steps. If 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:37.800 you want to thrive, you will have to learn, you'll 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:41.840 have to experiment, you'll have to perform, you'll have to struggle, 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:44.840 and then you'll thrive. There is no one who has 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:49.120 skipped any of those. So what I mean by that is, 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:51.440 let's say last year you spend a lot of time learning, 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:55.240 This is the year to start experimenting. Maybe last year 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:57.800 you spend a lot of time experimenting. This is the 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.960 year to get into a groove and start performing. Maybe 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:03.280 you've been performing, and maybe you've been going through some struggle. 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:04.600 Now I'm not saying the whole year is going to 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.600 be struggle, but there's going to be challenges, and maybe 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.800 you've done all of those four and this is the 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:14.360 year you finally win. If you look at everyone who's 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:16.960 trying to build an online following right now, the rule 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.320 of thumb is that it takes two years of posting 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:23.760 consistently to break through. Why because those two years you're 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:28.920 basically moving through learn, experiment, perform, struggle. If you've posted 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:32.560 every single day or multiple times per week for two years, 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:36.440 I promise you you have learned, You've experimented, you've performed, 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:39.480 You've struggled for sure, and now you're going to thrive. 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:44.080 It's interesting how there's that tipping point, that threshold from 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:48.760 which you launch this brilliance. But it comes in that order. 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:52.800 Sometimes we struggle because we always want it to be 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:54.960 a thrive year. We want every year to be the 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:59.320 year we win awards, the year we win trophies. I've 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:01.760 actually noticed that there have been certain things where I've 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:06.120 built relationships for five years and then they've fructified. There 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:08.280 are things I'm going to be doing in twenty twenty 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:10.200 five that you're going to see and you're going to 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.720 be mind blown, and I've been working on them for 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.800 six years. You just want to have seen that. It's 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:19.800 the invisible. That's what's so crazy that learn, experiment, perform, 0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:23.560 and struggle are all invisible and the thrive is visible. 0:17:23.840 --> 0:17:27.720 So when you see me have my next win, you'll say, oh, 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:31.879 that's amazing, that's incredible. But I promised you, I promise you. 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:35.359 Over the last five years, it's been learn, experiment, perform, 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:40.720 and struggle to get to that. And so knowing being 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.920 conscious of what type of year it's going to be 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:46.720 is almost like asking yourself what is this season like. 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:49.520 For example, if you know it's winter and it's going 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:53.400 to rain, you don't go in expecting sun. So now 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.639 when you get rain, you're not disappointed. And if you 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.400 get sun, it's a bonus. So if you walk into 0:17:58.400 --> 0:17:59.760 this year and you say it's going to be a 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:02.919 larert learning year, you're not expecting to win an award, 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:07.080 it's like expecting rain. And when you expect rain, you 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:09.320 can flow with it. You have your umbrella, you have 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:13.000 your boots, you have all the gear you need to survive. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:16.040 And by the way, if the sun creeps through, if 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:19.080 you get an opportunity, you get a bonus. That's amazing. 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:22.280 The challenge is we walk into every year wanting it 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:25.239 to be summer. We want this year to be the 0:18:25.240 --> 0:18:29.040 best summer of all time, but we're not aware of 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:33.399 what type of year it is right, what type of 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:40.800 exchange it is. And so ask yourself very clearly, is 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:44.600 this a learning year? Is this an experimenting year? Is 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:47.000 this a performing year? Is this a struggle year or 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:48.840 a thrive year? Now the struggle I want to be 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:52.919 careful with because our negativity bias goes yep, it's going 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:55.919 to be another struggle year. And the other thing I'm 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:59.199 going to add is these are not years you can do. 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:01.960 A learning call just depends on how quickly you want 0:19:02.000 --> 0:19:04.879 to learn. You could have an experiment in quarter, depends 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:09.600 on how quickly you want to experiment. Right, Struggle is 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:11.159 the one that's always going to come in, So I 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:12.920 wouldn't even say it's going to be a struggle year. 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:15.919 Is this the year you're going to learn, Is this 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:18.159 the year you're going to experiment with ideas? Is this 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:19.880 year you're going to perform? Or is this the year 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:22.840 you're going to thrive? And they have to follow in 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:25.320 that order. So if you tried, if you didn't do 0:19:25.400 --> 0:19:30.200 the first few, you're not suddenly going to switch to thrive. Right. 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:34.360 You have to live through spring to get to summer, 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:36.560 to get to autumn, to get to winter. That's how 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:39.439 it works. You don't just get to fast forward and 0:19:39.440 --> 0:19:42.639 skip a few steps. So I really want you to 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:49.000 take that in step number four. Remember this, it's small changes, 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:53.080 but they're a big priority. Most of our struggle with 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.480 change because we want a big change, but it's a 0:19:56.520 --> 0:19:59.440 small priority. I'll give you an example. A small change 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:02.000 is going to early but it has to be a 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:05.320 big priority, because what happens is you miss one night 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:08.160 topples over. You miss a second night, it topples over. 0:20:08.240 --> 0:20:10.240 You miss a third night, it topples over. And now 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:13.439 you're beating yourself up. So you need grace that you 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.200 will topple over. You need to know that your habit 0:20:16.280 --> 0:20:18.679 will go out the window. I think the mistake we 0:20:18.720 --> 0:20:22.040 make is thinking this is the year of no mistakes. 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:27.080 The biggest mistake you will make this year is think 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:32.600 that it's a year of no mistakes. You can't avoid mistakes, 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:39.240 you can't avoid failure. Give yourself grace and give yourself 0:20:39.280 --> 0:20:42.840 the energy to get back from that mistake as quick 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:46.560 as you can, to get back from that failure as 0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:52.600 quick as you can. The failure is not failing. The 0:20:52.720 --> 0:20:57.000 failure is to recognize that you will fail. And so 0:20:57.080 --> 0:21:01.320 your objective is not to avoid fail failure, but to 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:04.720 get back up from failure. If you realize that your 0:21:04.840 --> 0:21:08.080 focus and your energy should always be on how quick 0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:11.960 you can respond and react, not how you can avoid. 0:21:12.720 --> 0:21:14.240 And I think so many of us are putting so 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:17.639 much energy into thinking I'm going to avoid all failure 0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:21.240 and mistakes this year, and that is our greatest failure 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:27.679 and mistake. Small changes, big priorities. Right, what's the small 0:21:27.760 --> 0:21:34.200 change you're making. What's the big priority, what's the big priority. 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:36.520 What is it that you're sleep It's a big priority 0:21:36.560 --> 0:21:38.720 this year. Your diet, it's a big priority this year. 0:21:38.800 --> 0:21:40.680 How are you going to make it easy for yourself? 0:21:41.560 --> 0:21:43.639 That's a really important part. How are you going to 0:21:43.680 --> 0:21:48.280 make it easy for yourself to live that way? For example, Like, 0:21:48.480 --> 0:21:51.440 I've been really focused on my diet last year, and 0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:53.960 I realized the only way to make it easy is 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:56.320 to not eat out. And when I am going to 0:21:56.359 --> 0:21:58.680 eat out, have a list of restaurants and meals set 0:21:58.760 --> 0:22:03.840 up on my ubreats that I know have great healthy 0:22:03.880 --> 0:22:07.760 takeout options. Right, to be really conscious and aware before 0:22:07.760 --> 0:22:10.399 it gets that moment, because if it gets that moment, 0:22:11.000 --> 0:22:12.960 I have no idea if I'm going to be able 0:22:13.000 --> 0:22:18.440 to maintain it. Step number five this is huge. There's 0:22:18.480 --> 0:22:23.919 a great book called Measure What Matters, And this is 0:22:23.920 --> 0:22:26.840 what step five is about. What are you going to 0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:32.960 measure daily, weekly, monthly, and then yearly. You're not going 0:22:33.000 --> 0:22:38.399 to achieve your goal if you're not measuring it daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:41.960 We have to look at our social media podcast data 0:22:42.080 --> 0:22:45.560 every single day, every single week, every single month, every 0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:48.000 single year, so we can create better things for you, 0:22:49.000 --> 0:22:51.119 so we can get the best guests, so we can 0:22:51.160 --> 0:22:55.479 have the best conversations, release amazing workshops. I'm listening and 0:22:55.560 --> 0:22:59.960 learning from you all the time. So whatever your goal is, 0:23:00.640 --> 0:23:02.960 how are you going to measure it daily? That you're 0:23:03.040 --> 0:23:06.560 learning that skill? Do you know that you're getting better 0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:08.840 at it? How are you going to measure it weekly? 0:23:09.960 --> 0:23:13.520 You have to measure what matters. If you don't measure it, 0:23:13.520 --> 0:23:17.080 it won't expand if you don't measure it, it won't move. 0:23:17.160 --> 0:23:19.080 And a lot of us don't measure it. We just 0:23:19.119 --> 0:23:21.439 go with our feelings. And I think this is a 0:23:21.520 --> 0:23:24.200 challenge in today's world. I think in the past, past 0:23:24.240 --> 0:23:28.280 generations ignored their feelings and the problem is we trust 0:23:28.320 --> 0:23:31.800 our feelings. And the problem with trusting your feelings is 0:23:31.960 --> 0:23:35.320 you don't get a chance to do what's right for you. Sometimes. 0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:37.919 For example, before we ignore our feelings. If we were 0:23:37.960 --> 0:23:40.679 burnout today, if you're tired, you trust in and go, oh, 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:43.080 I'm just going to be lazy today. But actually getting 0:23:43.080 --> 0:23:46.439 a workout may actually benefit you more. But you have 0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:49.320 to measure that. So I want you to figure out, 0:23:49.320 --> 0:23:51.760 when you set your goal, how are you going to 0:23:51.800 --> 0:23:56.560 measure that you're on track? Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly? How 0:23:56.560 --> 0:24:00.000 are you measuring it? What's the yardstick, what's the post? 0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:02.720 What's the target you have to reach? What is it 0:24:02.880 --> 0:24:05.920 that When you're trying to grow a skill. For example, 0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:07.520 if you're trying to become a black belt in kari, 0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:10.480 you know you have the other belts before it, how 0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:13.840 are you measuring that you're closer to your next belt? 0:24:14.760 --> 0:24:18.679 The sixth step of the method is even after all this, 0:24:18.960 --> 0:24:22.760 if it's not working. If you're like Jay, I tried 0:24:23.000 --> 0:24:28.320 all of that and it is not working, here's what 0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:30.840 you do when something's not working in your life, When 0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:34.600 something's not changing in your life, when something's not building 0:24:34.640 --> 0:24:38.160 in your life, it's because you lack one of these 0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:43.639 three things. The first is coaching. You might need someone 0:24:43.680 --> 0:24:46.800 who's been there, done that, who's three steps ahead of you, 0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:50.680 who's done the thing before and knows how to guide 0:24:50.720 --> 0:24:54.479 you and can set you up for success. The second 0:24:54.520 --> 0:24:59.200 thing is consistency. You might not have a consistent calendar 0:24:59.280 --> 0:25:03.000 of learning. You might not be learning often enough or 0:25:03.040 --> 0:25:06.639 deeply enough, and the third is community. You may have 0:25:06.640 --> 0:25:08.919 no one around you who wants the same goal. You 0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:12.320 may have no accountability. There's a famous quote that says, 0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:16.800 if you have five smart friends, you'll be the sixth. 0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:21.320 If you have five healthy friends, you'll be the sixth. 0:25:21.920 --> 0:25:25.120 If you have five rich friends, you'll be the sixth. 0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:28.880