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Speaker 1: Everyone who's trying to build an online following right now.

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Speaker 1: The rule of thumb is that it takes two years

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Speaker 1: of posting consistently to break through. Why because those two

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Speaker 1: years you're basically moving through learn, experiment, perform, struggle. If

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Speaker 1: you've posted every single day or multiple times per week

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Speaker 1: for two years, I promise you you have learned, you've experimented,

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Speaker 1: you've performed, You've struggled for sure, and now you're going

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Speaker 1: to thrive. The number one health and wellness podcast Say station, Hey, everyone,

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Speaker 1: welcome to on Purpose twenty twenty five. This is going

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Speaker 1: to be our biggest, best year yet. I want this

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Speaker 1: year to be your most powerful, your most abundant, your

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Speaker 1: most creative, your most mindful year yet, a year filled

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Speaker 1: with opportunity, a year filled with wins and success, is

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Speaker 1: a year filled with depth and fulfillment. This is the

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Speaker 1: year you'll remember and look back on in years to

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Speaker 1: come and say, in twenty twenty five, I remember that

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Speaker 1: episode where Jay said he wanted it to be the

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Speaker 1: year that I finally get to where I want to

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Speaker 1: get to the year that I've been waiting for. Mark

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Speaker 1: your calendars, remember this year. The way we infuse our

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Speaker 1: year with intention, with ideas, with identity, with energy is

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Speaker 1: what we get back from it. And I think for

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Speaker 1: so many of us, we've had so many years of

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Speaker 1: and when it doesn't work out, we get that enthusiasm again,

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Speaker 1: but then it wanes after seven days, fourteen days, thirty days,

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Speaker 1: whatever it may be. This year, it's changing. And the

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Speaker 1: reason is changing is not because this year is different.

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Speaker 1: We often say, I hope this year brings Well, here's

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Speaker 1: the reality. The year doesn't bring anything that you don't

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Speaker 1: bring to it. The energy that you bring to twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five is what you're going to receive back. This

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Speaker 1: year can be your best year because you're going to

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Speaker 1: be at your best. This year can be your most

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Speaker 1: abundant year because you're going to focus on building an

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Speaker 1: abundance mindset. This year can be your most phenomenal year

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Speaker 1: yet because you're going to bring your most phenomenal energy.

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Speaker 1: What I'm sharing with you in today's episode is my proven,

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Speaker 1: tried and tested six step method to achieve all of

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Speaker 1: your goals this year. I have I've tested this method,

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Speaker 1: I've tried it, I've worked on it. I've practiced it

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Speaker 1: to accomplish my personal and professional goals every single year.

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Speaker 1: And here's what I want to share with you. It's

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Speaker 1: not magic. It's really not a secret because I'm sharing it,

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Speaker 1: and it's something that each and every one of you

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Speaker 1: that deep, Allow it to truly go that far. Don't

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Speaker 1: just let this be a mental thinking exercise when I'm

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Speaker 1: sharing these ideas. Let them become your reality. Let them

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Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you to just pick one top

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Speaker 1: How twenty twenty five was the most pivotal year. What happened?

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Speaker 1: twenty five was different, but because you chose to be different.

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Speaker 1: about the relationship between nutrition and health, and people are

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