WEBVTT - Mid-Week Mom Chat: Vision Boards. 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.400 Well, hello and happy New Year friends. I hope that 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:06.360 you all had an incredible start to your new year. 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:11.600 And something that I like to do every year when 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:16.040 embarking on a brand new chapter of life, it's like 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:20.040 opening a new present. We get to start fresh, we 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:23.640 get to start clean, and we get to realign our 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:30.880 intentions with what it is that we want to be achieve, um, 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:34.000 how we want to live. I think it's just such 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:38.240 a great time to take a breath, take a break, 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:42.159 and really focus in on what we want to put 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:45.760 out into the world every new year, because if we 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.879 don't take a minute to think about it and to 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.560 get clear, then it's so easy just to get caught 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:55.680 up in life and let life start leading us and 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:59.800 reacting instead of responding, instead of being intentional. And so 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:02.880 every New Year I like to I had been just 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:05.520 writing down all my goals and visions for the year 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:10.240 in a note in my phone, and I think that's sorry. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:14.119 I'm kind of recovering from allergies, so my voice sounds 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:21.080 a little more deep and manly today. Uh. And I'm 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.120 just drinking my coffee as well, so if I have 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:24.840 to take SIPs of coffee, I might have to take 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.480 a long little like a few second breaks to take 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:28.800 a few SIPs of coffee. You know how it is 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:30.000 when you have a baby, you got to get your 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:34.000 coffee in anyway, I think it's just really amazing to 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:36.920 start each new year with a vision board. And I 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:38.840 had been doing that, just writing into my phone on 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:42.920 a note, writing down all my goals and dreams and 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:48.800 like dreams for my family, like family goals. Last year 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:53.280 on the dream was to have a baby, um dreams 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:57.240 for my career, dreams for I even put Michael's career 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.840 on there because he does he writes his visions down also, 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:03.200 and so I like to put his visions on the 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:07.200 vision board. And so I just encourage you all to 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:12.200 take a minute and sit down, get very clear on 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:15.839 what it is that you want to achieve this year. 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.320 And it doesn't have to be these great successes, like 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:23.880 career successes, like you don't have to become this business 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:29.000 mogul or make millions of dollars or do anything crazy. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:34.679 But I do think it is important two know where 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:37.320 you want to go, like dive into your soul. We 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:41.160 all came here to this earth with the soul's mission, 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:46.400 is what I believe. I believe that we came to 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:49.480 this earth to have an experience, and each one of 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:52.360 us has a different blueprint on our heart that we 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:56.520 desire to experience in this earth. And you know what 0:02:56.600 --> 0:03:00.160 it is, because when you're doing what feels right to you, 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:04.000 when you're on your path, it feels free, it feels right, 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:10.760 it feels easy, it feels joyous, it feels like you're elated. 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:12.799 You're like, oh my god, I could I just love 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.679 doing this. I could do this forever. I feel so recharged. 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:19.520 When you're not on your path, you feel drained, you 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:24.720 feel resentful, you feel resistance, you feel angry, you feel 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.120 all the negative feelings. And so I have lived both 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.480 sides of that coin, where I have been on my 0:03:30.520 --> 0:03:33.919 path and felt free and light and engaged in love 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:35.760 with what I'm doing, and I've also been on the 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:38.800 path where I have felt so much resistance it literally 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:41.520 made me like keel over and have a panic attack. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:45.240 So I don't know if you relate to that, but 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:48.760 I do. And so, after like examining my life and 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:52.839 realizing the difference, I am very intentional about making sure 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:55.160 that I live a life where I feel elated and 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.320 joyful and happy and even though you can't do that 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:00.920 every day because we're humans and life happens, you can 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.480 strive for it. And to me, a big way that 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:07.760 I stay in the light and on my path is 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:12.160 by knowing where I want to go. And to me, 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:16.920 I'm not someone who can just I have to get clear. 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.159 I can't just like start living and be like, oh, yeah, 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.200 this is great, this is great. I need to like 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:25.400 sit down, get intentional and get clear on what it 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:27.719 is that I am trying to do in this life. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.880 And I think trying to figure out your whole life 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.760 is too much at once. So I think breaking it 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:38.960 down in your segments is great because, and like I said, 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:41.279 each new year, you get a chance to reassess. You 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.839 can examine the past year and see what was working 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.080 for you, what wasn't, Where were you stressed, Where weren't 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.800 you stressed, what made you happy, what didn't, And then 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.240 you can tweak your vision. You don't have to get 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:53.000 all figured out at once, But I do think for 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:54.919 me and I think this helps a lot of people. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:58.200 To have a clear set intention and roadmap of what 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:01.280 you want to do this year is so helpful. So 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:05.679 at the beginning of each year, I'm meeting with my friends. 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:09.000 Um when this podcast comes out next week. I will 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:10.960 be meeting with my friends the following week on jan 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.839 And there's four of us who made vision boards last year. 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.400 My friend Kristen Brust, who y'all should follow her a 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.919 little bit fancy. She's amazing. She has a new podcast 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:24.600 coming out. Also my friend Mallory Irvine who's so super inspiring. 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.679 She is just next level inspiration. She has a podcast 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.800 called living Fully. Y'all should follow her to check her out. 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:35.480 Mallory Irvine. And my other friend Ashley Wilson, who is 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.880 all about living intentionally and she has a great blog. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.599 She's a beautiful Instagram page where she just talks about 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.840 things that she loves intentionally and like intentional motherhood, all 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:48.479 sorts of stuff and hers is bows and Ashley b 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:53.080 E A U S and Ashley, So check all of 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:55.760 them out. And we made vision boards last year and 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:57.720 it was so awesome to see it on my wall 0:05:57.760 --> 0:05:59.880 every single day because I put it in my bath 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:04.760 room above the toilet, so beautiful and romantic and sexy 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.960 and every because like you go in your bathroom every 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.760 single day, I mean you take a shower in there, 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:12.040 let's just be wrong. You should shower and shape in 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:14.960 your bathroom, so that is a place that you're all 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:16.920 the time, and it's a personal spot because I feel 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:20.000 like in your personal bathroom, really only you are going 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.440 in there and your husband, I mean other people, your 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:27.400 close friends may pop in there, but not really. I'm 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:30.240 sorry that I am getting over this cough and you 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:32.560 are having to hear me cough and like clear my throat. 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:37.120 I'm gonna try not to because I know it's annoying. Um, 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:41.080 but it's crazy how when you look at it every day, 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.480 it seeps into your mind and it helps you stay clear. 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.520 And that was something that was different for me this 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.040 year than just having it written down because I've always 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:51.560 been a goal writer, Like I have notebooks upon notebooks 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.719 upon notebooks of writing down my visions, of writing down 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:57.240 my goals, of writing down my dreams, and like I've 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.000 gone back and looked at my notebooks and I have 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:02.520 checked off every single thing and then the thing in 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:04.640 some parts in my notebooks that I've written, because I've 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:06.599 done this for years. For each year, I would pretty 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:08.200 much just write now my goals and then I would 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:10.320 rewrite them down and rewrite them down. Like every month, 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:12.680 I would just clean them up and like take some 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:16.000 stuff off that wasn't resonating anymore, and like just make 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:20.240 them more precise. And that's the thing. I could ex 0:07:20.320 --> 0:07:22.760 off things that didn't feel right. Like I started off 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:27.280 with my notebooks of everything that I had could possibly 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:28.640 dream of that I wanted to do, and then I 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:32.720 started diving into the year, diving into my career more 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:34.360 and more, and I'd be like, Okay, you know what, 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.520 Actually that doesn't feel right anymore. I'm going to take 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.200 that off. That's not really a goal that I want 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:39.800 to do, So you could just clean it up as 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:44.920 the year goes on. And I went back and I checked. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:47.200 I've looked through all my notebooks and pretty much everything 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:50.160 that I really wanted to accomplish as I have accomplished, 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:54.320 which is amazing. So the power of taking it to 0:07:54.560 --> 0:08:01.080 an actual picture board was really amazing because now I'm 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:03.360 looking at things and I might so I'm not just 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:06.640 like seeing them in writing and then creating a imaginary picture. 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:10.360 I'm actually like looking at pictures on a board every 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.360 single day, and these pictures it just makes it so 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:18.680 much more real. So I really think taking it to 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:21.680 the board. It's kind of next level and helps things 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:25.600 materialize faster. So I'll go ahead and tell you all 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:28.400 my goals because I think it's great to speak him 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:30.160 out loud. So these are the goals that I'm going 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:36.560 to be putting on my vision board, and um, I'm 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.079 gonna find pictures and you know, just trying to match 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:43.200 my goals. But my main goal is to trust. That's 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:44.520 my word for the year. I like to pick a 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:48.080 word every year. This year, it's trusting. It's trust because 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:53.280 after having Sunny, I started having a lot of anxiety, 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:59.360 so much anxiety, um, just about everything that could go wrong, 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.920 and I think that that's normal to feel. Also, I mean, 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.840 I'm still coming off of being completely hormonal. If she's 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:09.680 just three almost four months old now, and you know, 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:11.760 you just fall more in love with your baby every 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:15.640 single day, and it's just this huge responsibility that's completely 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.720 on your shoulders and your your partner's shoulders and sometimes 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:21.640 you know single parents, like it's all on your shoulders 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.480 and it's just such a responsibility. It is such a privilege, 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:29.160 but it is such a responsibility that for me, I 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:31.679 think I got overwhelmed with everything that could go wrong 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:35.600 because knowing that I and my husband are sole in 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.360 charge of keeping her alive. It's just like, oh my gosh, 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:42.080 what if something goes wrong, then it's it's my fault. 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.720 Then I'm the only one to blame. And I will 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.080 never be able to live with this. And but you 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:50.680 can't live like that, That's what I've realized. You can't 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:54.880 live in crippling anxiety because that's no way to live, 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:59.200 and then you miss the joy of the blessings in 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.920 your life, Like Sonny is the biggest blessing I've ever 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.040 had in my life. So why am I going to 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:07.200 wake up every day and be crippled by anxiety of 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:11.079 the things that are not that it could go wrong? Instead, 0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:12.800 why don't I wake up every day and be surrounded 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:16.560 by joy of all the blessings she brings. And my 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:18.360 brother in law told me this, and I don't know 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:20.960 if this quote's original to him, but I'm gonna get 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:23.440 it wrong. But something like God doesn't want us to 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:28.600 live to like to live through worries twice, and that's 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.920 not how it goes. But it's like, basically, you're not 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:36.199 supposed to live through hard times twice. Like whatever you're 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:39.200 thinking is going to happen in your worries, it's most 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:41.920 likely not going to happen. Something else is going to happen. 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.960 When has the things that you've worried about really actually happened. 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.800 It's always some random thing we worry about, things that 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:51.480 we see, that we hear, that we know about that's 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:55.600 happening in the world. But more likely that is not 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.800 going to be the incidents that we personally deal with, 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:02.959 because those already happened elsewhere. That's already someone else's story. 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:07.280 Our story is unique to ourselves, and we can't prepare 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:09.440 for everything. There's just no way. We don't even know 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:12.199 what can happen in this world. It's all freak stuff, 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:15.080 you know. And so I feel like for me, my 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.640 word is trust. I do not want to live in 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:24.280 anxiety anymore. And for me, the way to combat anxiety 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.800 is lean more into God. And that's the only way 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:31.240 I can do it, like I cannot do it on 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:36.000 my own. And so I think having Sonny is making 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:38.560 me realize, Like I wrote a post about this on 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:42.000 my Instagram, Um, I'm just talking about my word for 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:45.240 the year, And Sonny has made me realize the areas 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.800 of my life that I have insecurities in and that 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:52.320 I need to work on. And really, what it all 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:56.240 boils down to is trusting God because it's not up 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:59.599 to me to make this life perfect for her. I 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.400 can only do the best I can do. I know 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.959 I'm going to do my very best every single day. 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.800 I know I'm gonna make choices, good choices, the best 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.720 that I can make every day, and I cannot live 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:13.960 in fear beyond that, and I want to enjoy her life. 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.480 And so my word is trust. So in the center 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:19.880 of my vision board, I'm going to put trust because 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:21.840 I need to trust God. I need to trust the 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:24.720 flow of this life. I need to trust my instincts. 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:27.839 I need to trust in Sunny's purpose and her life. 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:32.439 Trust in Michael's flow for his life. Trust trust, trust 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.120 that God is in control and that there is a 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:38.120 bigger plan at at work here that is not my own. 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:41.560 Because once I try to micromanage, and once I try 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:43.720 to make this life go the way I want to, 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:47.440 that is when my anxiety kicks into full force, and 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:51.280 I don't want to live like that. So trust is 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:55.760 my main goal for this year. And with trust comes 0:12:55.800 --> 0:12:58.679 the ability to hand over my anxiety to God. Because 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:00.559 if I trust that he's in control role, and if 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.240 I trust that I'm following the nudges he puts in 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:05.240 my heart, if I trust that I'm doing the best 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:08.480 that I can, I can get my worries immediately over 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:10.760 to him and I don't have to carry them. And 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.560 that is what I want to live like. I do 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.880 not want to carry burdens because they're not mine to 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:20.240 carry their God's God will carry them for us. And 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.720 I am going to take full advantage of his love 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:27.199 for me because it's miserable, not like I want to 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:28.680 be wrapped up in God's love. I want to be 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:31.559 wrapped up knowing that He is here for me, that 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.120 he will carry these burdens for me, that he has 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:36.360 my life, he has me in his hands, he is 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:38.000 studying in his hands. He as Michael, and his hands, 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:39.760 he as all of us in his hands. So I 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:41.960 Am not going to carry the burden of worrying about 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:45.280 every little detail. So trust I am rambling about that. 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.000 But that's a big deal for me this year, and 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.840 that's a big focus for me. And I'm gonna work 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.800 every day to trust and let go of worry. And 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.480 I encourage all your mamas and parents and everyone out 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:57.120 there to do that as well, because living in in 0:13:57.520 --> 0:14:00.559 anxiety is the worst. It is the worst, the worst, 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.880 the worst, and we don't have to do it. We 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:06.640 have a resource in God too let go of that. 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:11.040 So let's all try to do that together. So trust 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:14.199 is my word. And then with my career, with my podcast, 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:19.800 I have had so much fulfillment doing this podcast, and 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:24.160 I am so incredibly grateful for all of you who 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.240 have tuned in, joined in, become a part of this 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:31.800 community with me, because something happened last year when I 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:36.760 really started focusing on just having honest conversations with honest women. 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.320 And sometimes I'll throw some guys in here that that 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:41.640 are a part of the same kind of conversation that 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:45.680 we're having, like real, heartfelt, soulful, let's get to the 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:48.040 nuts and both of life. And if it makes sense 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:49.880 for a guy to come on, I'm definitely not going 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:54.920 to exclude men. But I have just loved getting to 0:14:55.280 --> 0:15:00.040 be with women and have these intimate, deep conversation it 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:02.880 is about their life now, especially after being a mom, 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:06.240 Like I want to know how people navigate. I want 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:08.680 to know how you've navigated all the anxiety of being 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:12.760 a mother, how you've navigated having your career and being 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:15.120 a mother, how you've chosen to give up your career, 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:20.120 how you navigate marriage, how you navigate family life, how 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:23.120 you navigate insecurities and overcoming them. Because now that I'm 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:25.760 thirty six years old, I'm like, dang it, we all 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:29.880 are grappling with some major insecurities and self worth issues, 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.840 and let's not try to hide this. Let's like talk 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.240 about them because every single one of us, as a woman, 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:39.160 it's going through stuff and there's nothing to be ashamed 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:44.040 about because all all of us are dealing with something 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.960 and let's just talk about it and be a community 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:48.880 and support each other instead of trying to hide behind 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:53.200 this perfection image that that we thought we had to. 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.120 But now, like I feel like the veil is just 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.440 being lifted. And to me, that is why I'm so 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:02.160 grateful for social media outlets like my podcasts and outlets 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.120 where we can sit down and have real conversations, because 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.400 so many of us are using social media and joining 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.560 in social media communities to be real. And that is 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.680 what I have found with all of you is ever 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:17.880 since I've started having these real, honest conversations with women 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:22.360 you guys have started participating, and I get so many 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.480 messages and so many comments from y'all saying like, oh 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:27.520 my gosh, I relate to this, Thank you for talking 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:29.720 about this. This is like what I'm going through, And 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:32.640 that is my goal. I want us to not feel alone. 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:34.880 I want every single one of us who are out 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.480 there doing the best we can, whether we are married, 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:40.840 not married, looking for love, can't find it, feel unworthy, 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:44.160 raising children with a partner, raising children on our own, 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.920 trying to figure out our career, just struggling with all 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:54.880 these big, huge life questions, feeling overcoming incidents that happened 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:58.000 to us that make us feel insecure or unlovable, like 0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:01.040 all this stuff. We do not have to feel alone 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.960 because when you listen to the stories of these women 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.560 that I'm talking with, they are sharing that they have 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.640 gone through this. They have been through really hard times 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.320 and it is not what defines us. Yes, it is moment, Okay, 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.720 it does define us. It is a These are huge 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:20.280 moments in our lives that are defining, but it doesn't 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.080 have to be who we are. We can use them 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.199 as lessons, we can use them as stepping stones, we 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:28.639 can use them as our message to the world. So 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:31.439 many times, more often than not, the pain that we 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:33.760 have to go through is actually our message to the 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:36.159 world if we can get on the other side of it. 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.840 But it is up to us to take hold of 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:41.679 that pain, to take hold of that fear of exposing 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:44.560 ourselves thinking that we won't be loved, to realize that 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:46.600 once you can talk about something, and once you can 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:48.919 get on the other side of it and share your story, 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:52.600 the impact you can have, the amount of people that 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:55.760 you can reach, the healing that can be done is 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:59.320 just exponential. And so that is why I have loved 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:03.480 having honest conversations, because the healing that is happening, it 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.000 heals me every time I have a conversation with one 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:09.600 of these women, and I know it oftentimes heals my guests. 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.040 Getting to just talk about stories I've had so many 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:16.040 times I'm interviewing an amazing woman and they're like, oh 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:18.199 my gosh, I didn't even realize this was happening in 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:20.199 my life. Oh my gosh, I didn't even put that together. 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.080 This is so healing. And then I hear from you guys, like, wow, 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:26.800 that was such a healing story. That person really inspired me, 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.600 And it is everything to me. It makes me feel 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:32.800 like this is worth it, Like this is like the 0:18:32.840 --> 0:18:34.800 work in life that I want to do because I 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:38.400 love having conversations and I love having real intimate conversations, 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:42.360 and I'm just so grateful that I have the access 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:44.320 to talk to all these amazing women who are willing 0:18:44.320 --> 0:18:46.280 to share, and then I have the access to you 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:49.640 guys who are joining in and being a part of this, 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:53.400 and it is just so overwhelming. It feels I feel 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.359 so much love, and I hope that you guys feel 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:58.760 that love, because that is the point of all this, 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:01.040 just to know that we are in this thing together. 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:04.080 Let's stick together, Let's support each other. Let's not try 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.840 to be perfect, and let's not let's let's not be 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:09.920 ashamed of who we are. We can just be proud 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:12.000 of who we are. Let's own our stories. That is 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:15.080 my goal. So I appreciate you guys for that. So 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:18.240 I just want my podcast to keep impacting, to keep growing, 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:22.080 to keep having amazing guests on and I eventually want 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:24.040 a goal for me myself at the end of this 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:28.040 year is I want to take my podcast on a 0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:31.280 little podcast tour. I don't know exactly where, and it 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:33.119 doesn't want I don't want to start off huge, but 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:36.320 I would like to make it a show where I 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:40.359 go to cities and have these conversations live and actually 0:19:40.359 --> 0:19:42.160 I love to hear you'll speedback if you think that's 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.239 something that you'll be interested in me doing because and 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:47.920 have guests come with me and just have like awesome 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:52.080 intimate conversations and have it like in a show type form. 0:19:52.119 --> 0:19:54.159 So that's a goal, is to take my podcast on 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:56.600 the road just just a little bit at the end 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.600 of this year. Um, So let me know if that's 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:02.439 something you think that would be cool, because I feel 0:20:02.640 --> 0:20:04.800 inclined to do that. I feel like that's my next 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:07.960 step with this in growing it, and then eventually I 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:12.879 would love to somehow turn Get Real into a book, 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:15.520 like have some sort of book that goes along with it. 0:20:15.640 --> 0:20:19.560 Whether I'm just focusing on stories of conversations I've had, 0:20:19.680 --> 0:20:23.040 whether I don't know what. Maybe it's like I assess 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:26.280 lessons I've learned from doing these interviews and turn them 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:28.600 into chapters and use examples. I don't know exactly how 0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:32.600 the book would unfold, but that's a goal, is to 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:34.840 have a book that kind of just goes along with 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:40.520 all these messages that keep coming out of this podcast. UM, 0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:43.480 so also any tips or ideas that you guys have 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:45.760 on that share with me, because I love y'all's input. 0:20:46.400 --> 0:20:48.960 But that's a goal, So taking my podcast on the road, 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:54.000 doing a tour, having a book, um and then I 0:20:54.040 --> 0:20:58.600 don't know what this would look like, but I see 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:02.480 everything is stemming from this podcast, Like this podcast isn't 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:05.080 is the nuts and bolts of who I am, and 0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:07.000 it's the messages that I want to get across. I 0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:10.120 just wanted to have the as big of life as 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:12.960 it can get. So one day I would love to 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:17.760 see Get Real turned into some sort of like digital 0:21:17.800 --> 0:21:21.080 TV show or TV show or radio show or something. 0:21:21.119 --> 0:21:23.000 I don't know, or maybe it just stays the podcast. 0:21:23.000 --> 0:21:25.919 I'm not sure, but I just see it growing in 0:21:25.960 --> 0:21:28.480 the reach, like maybe we add a visual element to 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:31.639 it somehow. Maybe that just means I make it like 0:21:31.640 --> 0:21:34.440