Speaker 1: Well, hello and happy New Year friends. I hope that
Speaker 1: you all had an incredible start to your new year.
Speaker 1: And something that I like to do every year when
Speaker 1: embarking on a brand new chapter of life, it's like
Speaker 1: opening a new present. We get to start fresh, we
Speaker 1: get to start clean, and we get to realign our
Speaker 1: intentions with what it is that we want to be achieve, um,
Speaker 1: how we want to live. I think it's just such
Speaker 1: a great time to take a breath, take a break,
Speaker 1: and really focus in on what we want to put
Speaker 1: out into the world every new year, because if we
Speaker 1: don't take a minute to think about it and to
Speaker 1: get clear, then it's so easy just to get caught
Speaker 1: up in life and let life start leading us and
Speaker 1: reacting instead of responding, instead of being intentional. And so
Speaker 1: every New Year I like to I had been just
Speaker 1: writing down all my goals and visions for the year
Speaker 1: in a note in my phone, and I think that's sorry.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of recovering from allergies, so my voice sounds
Speaker 1: a little more deep and manly today. Uh. And I'm
Speaker 1: just drinking my coffee as well, so if I have
Speaker 1: to take SIPs of coffee, I might have to take
Speaker 1: a long little like a few second breaks to take
Speaker 1: a few SIPs of coffee. You know how it is
Speaker 1: when you have a baby, you got to get your
Speaker 1: coffee in anyway, I think it's just really amazing to
Speaker 1: start each new year with a vision board. And I
Speaker 1: had been doing that, just writing into my phone on
Speaker 1: a note, writing down all my goals and dreams and
Speaker 1: like dreams for my family, like family goals. Last year
Speaker 1: on the dream was to have a baby, um dreams
Speaker 1: for my career, dreams for I even put Michael's career
Speaker 1: on there because he does he writes his visions down also,
Speaker 1: and so I like to put his visions on the
Speaker 1: vision board. And so I just encourage you all to
Speaker 1: take a minute and sit down, get very clear on
Speaker 1: what it is that you want to achieve this year.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't have to be these great successes, like
Speaker 1: career successes, like you don't have to become this business
Speaker 1: mogul or make millions of dollars or do anything crazy.
Speaker 1: But I do think it is important two know where
Speaker 1: you want to go, like dive into your soul. We
Speaker 1: all came here to this earth with the soul's mission,
Speaker 1: is what I believe. I believe that we came to
Speaker 1: this earth to have an experience, and each one of
Speaker 1: us has a different blueprint on our heart that we
Speaker 1: desire to experience in this earth. And you know what
Speaker 1: it is, because when you're doing what feels right to you,
Speaker 1: when you're on your path, it feels free, it feels right,
Speaker 1: it feels easy, it feels joyous, it feels like you're elated.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, I could I just love
Speaker 1: doing this. I could do this forever. I feel so recharged.
Speaker 1: When you're not on your path, you feel drained, you
Speaker 1: feel resentful, you feel resistance, you feel angry, you feel
Speaker 1: all the negative feelings. And so I have lived both
Speaker 1: sides of that coin, where I have been on my
Speaker 1: path and felt free and light and engaged in love
Speaker 1: with what I'm doing, and I've also been on the
Speaker 1: path where I have felt so much resistance it literally
Speaker 1: made me like keel over and have a panic attack.
Speaker 1: So I don't know if you relate to that, but
Speaker 1: I do. And so, after like examining my life and
Speaker 1: realizing the difference, I am very intentional about making sure
Speaker 1: that I live a life where I feel elated and
Speaker 1: joyful and happy and even though you can't do that
Speaker 1: every day because we're humans and life happens, you can
Speaker 1: strive for it. And to me, a big way that
Speaker 1: I stay in the light and on my path is
Speaker 1: by knowing where I want to go. And to me,
Speaker 1: I'm not someone who can just I have to get clear.
Speaker 1: I can't just like start living and be like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: this is great, this is great. I need to like
Speaker 1: sit down, get intentional and get clear on what it
Speaker 1: is that I am trying to do in this life.
Speaker 1: And I think trying to figure out your whole life
Speaker 1: is too much at once. So I think breaking it
Speaker 1: down in your segments is great because, and like I said,
Speaker 1: each new year, you get a chance to reassess. You
Speaker 1: can examine the past year and see what was working
Speaker 1: for you, what wasn't, Where were you stressed, Where weren't
Speaker 1: you stressed, what made you happy, what didn't, And then
Speaker 1: you can tweak your vision. You don't have to get
Speaker 1: all figured out at once, But I do think for
Speaker 1: me and I think this helps a lot of people.
Speaker 1: To have a clear set intention and roadmap of what
Speaker 1: you want to do this year is so helpful. So
Speaker 1: at the beginning of each year, I'm meeting with my friends.
Speaker 1: Um when this podcast comes out next week. I will
Speaker 1: be meeting with my friends the following week on jan
Speaker 1: And there's four of us who made vision boards last year.
Speaker 1: My friend Kristen Brust, who y'all should follow her a
Speaker 1: little bit fancy. She's amazing. She has a new podcast
Speaker 1: coming out. Also my friend Mallory Irvine who's so super inspiring.
Speaker 1: She is just next level inspiration. She has a podcast
Speaker 1: called living Fully. Y'all should follow her to check her out.
Speaker 1: Mallory Irvine. And my other friend Ashley Wilson, who is
Speaker 1: all about living intentionally and she has a great blog.
Speaker 1: She's a beautiful Instagram page where she just talks about
Speaker 1: things that she loves intentionally and like intentional motherhood, all
Speaker 1: sorts of stuff and hers is bows and Ashley b
Speaker 1: E A U S and Ashley, So check all of
Speaker 1: them out. And we made vision boards last year and
Speaker 1: it was so awesome to see it on my wall
Speaker 1: every single day because I put it in my bath
Speaker 1: room above the toilet, so beautiful and romantic and sexy
Speaker 1: and every because like you go in your bathroom every
Speaker 1: single day, I mean you take a shower in there,
Speaker 1: let's just be wrong. You should shower and shape in
Speaker 1: your bathroom, so that is a place that you're all
Speaker 1: the time, and it's a personal spot because I feel
Speaker 1: like in your personal bathroom, really only you are going
Speaker 1: in there and your husband, I mean other people, your
Speaker 1: close friends may pop in there, but not really. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry that I am getting over this cough and you
Speaker 1: are having to hear me cough and like clear my throat.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try not to because I know it's annoying. Um,
Speaker 1: but it's crazy how when you look at it every day,
Speaker 1: it seeps into your mind and it helps you stay clear.
Speaker 1: And that was something that was different for me this
Speaker 1: year than just having it written down because I've always
Speaker 1: been a goal writer, Like I have notebooks upon notebooks
Speaker 1: upon notebooks of writing down my visions, of writing down
Speaker 1: my goals, of writing down my dreams, and like I've
Speaker 1: gone back and looked at my notebooks and I have
Speaker 1: checked off every single thing and then the thing in
Speaker 1: some parts in my notebooks that I've written, because I've
Speaker 1: done this for years. For each year, I would pretty
Speaker 1: much just write now my goals and then I would
Speaker 1: rewrite them down and rewrite them down. Like every month,
Speaker 1: I would just clean them up and like take some
Speaker 1: stuff off that wasn't resonating anymore, and like just make
Speaker 1: them more precise. And that's the thing. I could ex
Speaker 1: off things that didn't feel right. Like I started off
Speaker 1: with my notebooks of everything that I had could possibly
Speaker 1: dream of that I wanted to do, and then I
Speaker 1: started diving into the year, diving into my career more
Speaker 1: and more, and I'd be like, Okay, you know what,
Speaker 1: Actually that doesn't feel right anymore. I'm going to take
Speaker 1: that off. That's not really a goal that I want
Speaker 1: to do, So you could just clean it up as
Speaker 1: the year goes on. And I went back and I checked.
Speaker 1: I've looked through all my notebooks and pretty much everything
Speaker 1: that I really wanted to accomplish as I have accomplished,
Speaker 1: which is amazing. So the power of taking it to
Speaker 1: an actual picture board was really amazing because now I'm
Speaker 1: looking at things and I might so I'm not just
Speaker 1: like seeing them in writing and then creating a imaginary picture.
Speaker 1: I'm actually like looking at pictures on a board every
Speaker 1: single day, and these pictures it just makes it so
Speaker 1: much more real. So I really think taking it to
Speaker 1: the board. It's kind of next level and helps things
Speaker 1: materialize faster. So I'll go ahead and tell you all
Speaker 1: my goals because I think it's great to speak him
Speaker 1: out loud. So these are the goals that I'm going
Speaker 1: to be putting on my vision board, and um, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna find pictures and you know, just trying to match
Speaker 1: my goals. But my main goal is to trust. That's
Speaker 1: my word for the year. I like to pick a
Speaker 1: word every year. This year, it's trusting. It's trust because
Speaker 1: after having Sunny, I started having a lot of anxiety,
Speaker 1: so much anxiety, um, just about everything that could go wrong,
Speaker 1: and I think that that's normal to feel. Also, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm still coming off of being completely hormonal. If she's
Speaker 1: just three almost four months old now, and you know,
Speaker 1: you just fall more in love with your baby every
Speaker 1: single day, and it's just this huge responsibility that's completely
Speaker 1: on your shoulders and your your partner's shoulders and sometimes
Speaker 1: you know single parents, like it's all on your shoulders
Speaker 1: and it's just such a responsibility. It is such a privilege,
Speaker 1: but it is such a responsibility that for me, I
Speaker 1: think I got overwhelmed with everything that could go wrong
Speaker 1: because knowing that I and my husband are sole in
Speaker 1: charge of keeping her alive. It's just like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: what if something goes wrong, then it's it's my fault.
Speaker 1: Then I'm the only one to blame. And I will
Speaker 1: never be able to live with this. And but you
Speaker 1: can't live like that, That's what I've realized. You can't
Speaker 1: live in crippling anxiety because that's no way to live,
Speaker 1: and then you miss the joy of the blessings in
Speaker 1: your life, Like Sonny is the biggest blessing I've ever
Speaker 1: had in my life. So why am I going to
Speaker 1: wake up every day and be crippled by anxiety of
Speaker 1: the things that are not that it could go wrong? Instead,
Speaker 1: why don't I wake up every day and be surrounded
Speaker 1: by joy of all the blessings she brings. And my
Speaker 1: brother in law told me this, and I don't know
Speaker 1: if this quote's original to him, but I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: it wrong. But something like God doesn't want us to
Speaker 1: live to like to live through worries twice, and that's
Speaker 1: not how it goes. But it's like, basically, you're not
Speaker 1: supposed to live through hard times twice. Like whatever you're
Speaker 1: thinking is going to happen in your worries, it's most
Speaker 1: likely not going to happen. Something else is going to happen.
Speaker 1: When has the things that you've worried about really actually happened.
Speaker 1: It's always some random thing we worry about, things that
Speaker 1: we see, that we hear, that we know about that's
Speaker 1: happening in the world. But more likely that is not
Speaker 1: going to be the incidents that we personally deal with,
Speaker 1: because those already happened elsewhere. That's already someone else's story.
Speaker 1: Our story is unique to ourselves, and we can't prepare
Speaker 1: for everything. There's just no way. We don't even know
Speaker 1: what can happen in this world. It's all freak stuff,
Speaker 1: you know. And so I feel like for me, my
Speaker 1: word is trust. I do not want to live in
Speaker 1: anxiety anymore. And for me, the way to combat anxiety
Speaker 1: is lean more into God. And that's the only way
Speaker 1: I can do it, like I cannot do it on
Speaker 1: my own. And so I think having Sonny is making
Speaker 1: me realize, Like I wrote a post about this on
Speaker 1: my Instagram, Um, I'm just talking about my word for
Speaker 1: the year, And Sonny has made me realize the areas
Speaker 1: of my life that I have insecurities in and that
Speaker 1: I need to work on. And really, what it all
Speaker 1: boils down to is trusting God because it's not up
Speaker 1: to me to make this life perfect for her. I
Speaker 1: can only do the best I can do. I know
Speaker 1: I'm going to do my very best every single day.
Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna make choices, good choices, the best
Speaker 1: that I can make every day, and I cannot live
Speaker 1: in fear beyond that, and I want to enjoy her life.
Speaker 1: And so my word is trust. So in the center
Speaker 1: of my vision board, I'm going to put trust because
Speaker 1: I need to trust God. I need to trust the
Speaker 1: flow of this life. I need to trust my instincts.
Speaker 1: I need to trust in Sunny's purpose and her life.
Speaker 1: Trust in Michael's flow for his life. Trust trust, trust
Speaker 1: that God is in control and that there is a
Speaker 1: bigger plan at at work here that is not my own.
Speaker 1: Because once I try to micromanage, and once I try
Speaker 1: to make this life go the way I want to,
Speaker 1: that is when my anxiety kicks into full force, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to live like that. So trust is
Speaker 1: my main goal for this year. And with trust comes
Speaker 1: the ability to hand over my anxiety to God. Because
Speaker 1: if I trust that he's in control role, and if
Speaker 1: I trust that I'm following the nudges he puts in
Speaker 1: my heart, if I trust that I'm doing the best
Speaker 1: that I can, I can get my worries immediately over
Speaker 1: to him and I don't have to carry them. And
Speaker 1: that is what I want to live like. I do
Speaker 1: not want to carry burdens because they're not mine to
Speaker 1: carry their God's God will carry them for us. And
Speaker 1: I am going to take full advantage of his love
Speaker 1: for me because it's miserable, not like I want to
Speaker 1: be wrapped up in God's love. I want to be
Speaker 1: wrapped up knowing that He is here for me, that
Speaker 1: he will carry these burdens for me, that he has
Speaker 1: my life, he has me in his hands, he is
Speaker 1: studying in his hands. He as Michael, and his hands,
Speaker 1: he as all of us in his hands. So I
Speaker 1: Am not going to carry the burden of worrying about
Speaker 1: every little detail. So trust I am rambling about that.
Speaker 1: But that's a big deal for me this year, and
Speaker 1: that's a big focus for me. And I'm gonna work
Speaker 1: every day to trust and let go of worry. And
Speaker 1: I encourage all your mamas and parents and everyone out
Speaker 1: there to do that as well, because living in in
Speaker 1: anxiety is the worst. It is the worst, the worst,
Speaker 1: the worst, and we don't have to do it. We
Speaker 1: have a resource in God too let go of that.
Speaker 1: So let's all try to do that together. So trust
Speaker 1: is my word. And then with my career, with my podcast,
Speaker 1: I have had so much fulfillment doing this podcast, and
Speaker 1: I am so incredibly grateful for all of you who
Speaker 1: have tuned in, joined in, become a part of this
Speaker 1: community with me, because something happened last year when I
Speaker 1: really started focusing on just having honest conversations with honest women.
Speaker 1: And sometimes I'll throw some guys in here that that
Speaker 1: are a part of the same kind of conversation that
Speaker 1: we're having, like real, heartfelt, soulful, let's get to the
Speaker 1: nuts and both of life. And if it makes sense
Speaker 1: for a guy to come on, I'm definitely not going
Speaker 1: to exclude men. But I have just loved getting to
Speaker 1: be with women and have these intimate, deep conversation it
Speaker 1: is about their life now, especially after being a mom,
Speaker 1: Like I want to know how people navigate. I want
Speaker 1: to know how you've navigated all the anxiety of being
Speaker 1: a mother, how you've navigated having your career and being
Speaker 1: a mother, how you've chosen to give up your career,
Speaker 1: how you navigate marriage, how you navigate family life, how
Speaker 1: you navigate insecurities and overcoming them. Because now that I'm
Speaker 1: thirty six years old, I'm like, dang it, we all
Speaker 1: are grappling with some major insecurities and self worth issues,
Speaker 1: and let's not try to hide this. Let's like talk
Speaker 1: about them because every single one of us, as a woman,
Speaker 1: it's going through stuff and there's nothing to be ashamed
Speaker 1: about because all all of us are dealing with something
Speaker 1: and let's just talk about it and be a community
Speaker 1: and support each other instead of trying to hide behind
Speaker 1: this perfection image that that we thought we had to.
Speaker 1: But now, like I feel like the veil is just
Speaker 1: being lifted. And to me, that is why I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful for social media outlets like my podcasts and outlets
Speaker 1: where we can sit down and have real conversations, because
Speaker 1: so many of us are using social media and joining
Speaker 1: in social media communities to be real. And that is
Speaker 1: what I have found with all of you is ever
Speaker 1: since I've started having these real, honest conversations with women
Speaker 1: you guys have started participating, and I get so many
Speaker 1: messages and so many comments from y'all saying like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I relate to this, Thank you for talking
Speaker 1: about this. This is like what I'm going through, And
Speaker 1: that is my goal. I want us to not feel alone.
Speaker 1: I want every single one of us who are out
Speaker 1: there doing the best we can, whether we are married,
Speaker 1: not married, looking for love, can't find it, feel unworthy,
Speaker 1: raising children with a partner, raising children on our own,
Speaker 1: trying to figure out our career, just struggling with all
Speaker 1: these big, huge life questions, feeling overcoming incidents that happened
Speaker 1: to us that make us feel insecure or unlovable, like
Speaker 1: all this stuff. We do not have to feel alone
Speaker 1: because when you listen to the stories of these women
Speaker 1: that I'm talking with, they are sharing that they have
Speaker 1: gone through this. They have been through really hard times
Speaker 1: and it is not what defines us. Yes, it is moment, Okay,
Speaker 1: it does define us. It is a These are huge
Speaker 1: moments in our lives that are defining, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be who we are. We can use them
Speaker 1: as lessons, we can use them as stepping stones, we
Speaker 1: can use them as our message to the world. So
Speaker 1: many times, more often than not, the pain that we
Speaker 1: have to go through is actually our message to the
Speaker 1: world if we can get on the other side of it.
Speaker 1: But it is up to us to take hold of
Speaker 1: that pain, to take hold of that fear of exposing
Speaker 1: ourselves thinking that we won't be loved, to realize that
Speaker 1: once you can talk about something, and once you can
Speaker 1: get on the other side of it and share your story,
Speaker 1: the impact you can have, the amount of people that
Speaker 1: you can reach, the healing that can be done is
Speaker 1: just exponential. And so that is why I have loved
Speaker 1: having honest conversations, because the healing that is happening, it
Speaker 1: heals me every time I have a conversation with one
Speaker 1: of these women, and I know it oftentimes heals my guests.
Speaker 1: Getting to just talk about stories I've had so many
Speaker 1: times I'm interviewing an amazing woman and they're like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I didn't even realize this was happening in
Speaker 1: my life. Oh my gosh, I didn't even put that together.
Speaker 1: This is so healing. And then I hear from you guys, like, wow,
Speaker 1: that was such a healing story. That person really inspired me,
Speaker 1: And it is everything to me. It makes me feel
Speaker 1: like this is worth it, Like this is like the
Speaker 1: work in life that I want to do because I
Speaker 1: love having conversations and I love having real intimate conversations,
Speaker 1: and I'm just so grateful that I have the access
Speaker 1: to talk to all these amazing women who are willing
Speaker 1: to share, and then I have the access to you
Speaker 1: guys who are joining in and being a part of this,
Speaker 1: and it is just so overwhelming. It feels I feel
Speaker 1: so much love, and I hope that you guys feel
Speaker 1: that love, because that is the point of all this,
Speaker 1: just to know that we are in this thing together.
Speaker 1: Let's stick together, Let's support each other. Let's not try
Speaker 1: to be perfect, and let's not let's let's not be
Speaker 1: ashamed of who we are. We can just be proud
Speaker 1: of who we are. Let's own our stories. That is
Speaker 1: my goal. So I appreciate you guys for that. So
Speaker 1: I just want my podcast to keep impacting, to keep growing,
Speaker 1: to keep having amazing guests on and I eventually want
Speaker 1: a goal for me myself at the end of this
Speaker 1: year is I want to take my podcast on a
Speaker 1: little podcast tour. I don't know exactly where, and it
Speaker 1: doesn't want I don't want to start off huge, but
Speaker 1: I would like to make it a show where I
Speaker 1: go to cities and have these conversations live and actually
Speaker 1: I love to hear you'll speedback if you think that's
Speaker 1: something that you'll be interested in me doing because and
Speaker 1: have guests come with me and just have like awesome
Speaker 1: intimate conversations and have it like in a show type form.
Speaker 1: So that's a goal, is to take my podcast on
Speaker 1: the road just just a little bit at the end
Speaker 1: of this year. Um, So let me know if that's
Speaker 1: something you think that would be cool, because I feel
Speaker 1: inclined to do that. I feel like that's my next
Speaker 1: step with this in growing it, and then eventually I
Speaker 1: would love to somehow turn Get Real into a book,
Speaker 1: like have some sort of book that goes along with it.
Speaker 1: Whether I'm just focusing on stories of conversations I've had,
Speaker 1: whether I don't know what. Maybe it's like I assess
Speaker 1: lessons I've learned from doing these interviews and turn them
Speaker 1: into chapters and use examples. I don't know exactly how
Speaker 1: the book would unfold, but that's a goal, is to
Speaker 1: have a book that kind of just goes along with
Speaker 1: all these messages that keep coming out of this podcast. UM,
Speaker 1: so also any tips or ideas that you guys have
Speaker 1: on that share with me, because I love y'all's input.
Speaker 1: But that's a goal, So taking my podcast on the road,
Speaker 1: doing a tour, having a book, um and then I
Speaker 1: don't know what this would look like, but I see
Speaker 1: everything is stemming from this podcast, Like this podcast isn't
Speaker 1: is the nuts and bolts of who I am, and
Speaker 1: it's the messages that I want to get across. I
Speaker 1: just wanted to have the as big of life as
Speaker 1: it can get. So one day I would love to
Speaker 1: see Get Real turned into some sort of like digital
Speaker 1: TV show or TV show or radio show or something.
Speaker 1: I don't know, or maybe it just stays the podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, but I just see it growing in
Speaker 1: the reach, like maybe we add a visual element to
Speaker 1: it somehow. Maybe that just means I make it like
Speaker 1: a talk show for a YouTube channel. I don't know exactly,
Speaker 1: but I see like a visual element joining Get Real
Speaker 1: and making it more interactive in that way where you
Speaker 1: can actually like participate with me and my guests visually
Speaker 1: and see us on like a screen. So I mean,
Speaker 1: I would love it to be some sort of TV thing,
Speaker 1: but I don't know. I don't know how that is,
Speaker 1: or even radio, I'm not sure, or maybe we just
Speaker 1: keep it the podcast. I'm not sure, but those are
Speaker 1: My goal for the podcast is just keep growing, growing it,
Speaker 1: go on a little podcast tour, and start preparing for
Speaker 1: a book to be in association with this podcast. Um
Speaker 1: And then for my family, I just want to simplify.
Speaker 1: I want to be present. I want to be completely
Speaker 1: um engaged in Sunday's life and Michael's life. I I
Speaker 1: want to be able to participate with Michael when he's obviously,
Speaker 1: if you all have been following me, i'll know he's
Speaker 1: a musician. He travels, and he has an exciting year
Speaker 1: with a new record and a new single and new
Speaker 1: music and new opportunities, and he's going to be chasing those,
Speaker 1: which is so exciting, and I love to be able
Speaker 1: to join him on that. So not all the time,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to leave Sonny and we can't
Speaker 1: take her everywhere, but I want to be able to
Speaker 1: go with him to certain events and be a part
Speaker 1: of that. So but I also I just want to
Speaker 1: be present with my family, and so that's another big goal.
Speaker 1: I've chased and chased and chase for so long, and
Speaker 1: I've gotten so involved with like the community, and I
Speaker 1: was a person who was always going to everything all
Speaker 1: the time. And now this is crazy because I've always
Speaker 1: been a yes person. But this year is my year
Speaker 1: of no. I'm going to be a no person this year,
Speaker 1: which is crazy to think because everyone's like, say yes
Speaker 1: to this, say yes to this, and I've always been
Speaker 1: that person that says yes, yes, yes, But now I'm no, no, no,
Speaker 1: because what I have, the joy that I have in
Speaker 1: my life is right in front of me right now.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful I had all those years where I
Speaker 1: got to hustle and literally like do everything and have
Speaker 1: the freedom to do that. But now that Sunny is
Speaker 1: here after, my time is so valuable to me. There
Speaker 1: I have so little free time because I'm I have
Speaker 1: the gift to be a hands on mom because with
Speaker 1: my podcast, I can make my own schedule and we're
Speaker 1: from home, and I'm so thankful for that. I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't have that option, and we
Speaker 1: all have to do what we have to do. Um,
Speaker 1: but I think all of us have to figure out
Speaker 1: how to use the time that we do have wisely,
Speaker 1: and for me, I don't want I want to be
Speaker 1: home with my family as much as possible, and so
Speaker 1: I am saying no unless something is a hell yes.
Speaker 1: My sister told me this, she got it from someone
Speaker 1: I don't I forgot who, but I love this. Unless
Speaker 1: it is a hell yes, then it's a hell no
Speaker 1: for me this year, and I'm excited about that. I'm
Speaker 1: excited about scaling back on being busy and more focused
Speaker 1: on purposeful living. And to me, the three things that
Speaker 1: are really the only things I want to spend my
Speaker 1: time on our my family, which is Michael Sonny, and
Speaker 1: then my extended family, and obviously like close friends. I
Speaker 1: want to be there for my close friends. I want
Speaker 1: to be there for my family. I want to really
Speaker 1: pour into my podcast because that is very important to
Speaker 1: me and it's such an outlet for my heart and
Speaker 1: I feel like it is very important work that I
Speaker 1: have been blessed with the ability to be the vessel
Speaker 1: to do and I want to keep pouring into that.
Speaker 1: And then I want to be able to have adventure
Speaker 1: and experiences with Michael, and honestly, that would go back
Speaker 1: to my number one family. So really it's just two things.
Speaker 1: Focus on family and have building a life an adventure
Speaker 1: an adventureful that's not a word, an adventurous life that
Speaker 1: is UM, really focused and intentional. I want to focus
Speaker 1: on that, and then I want to focus on really
Speaker 1: having an intentional UM being intentional with my podcast. So
Speaker 1: those are my goals. It's scaled back this year for me. UM.
Speaker 1: Before I had tons of goals on there, but now
Speaker 1: I just I really want to focus on what's right
Speaker 1: in front of me. And I'm so thankful for what's
Speaker 1: right in front of me. I'm so blessed for it.
Speaker 1: I've prayed for all of this to happen, and it's
Speaker 1: all shown up for me at this point. I have
Speaker 1: had seasons of life where I have been so lost
Speaker 1: and so confused, and I have had no idea where
Speaker 1: I was going. And if you're in one of those
Speaker 1: seasons right now and you're trying to like write a
Speaker 1: vision board or create a vision board, I would just
Speaker 1: start really small, just really get quiet, and try to
Speaker 1: focus on what has brought you joy in your life,
Speaker 1: like when you're doing something, when you've done things in life,
Speaker 1: I focus on the things that have brought you the
Speaker 1: most joy in your life that could turn into your
Speaker 1: career or that are just heart fulfilling, whether it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: when I spend time with this person and we did this,
Speaker 1: I had so much joy, or when I was able
Speaker 1: to give back in this way, I had so much joy.
Speaker 1: And just write down where you have experienced the most
Speaker 1: joy in your life, and just keep focusing on where
Speaker 1: those areas are and write them down, and write them down,
Speaker 1: and write them down, and I'm telling you it will
Speaker 1: slowly materialize and you will find a way to have
Speaker 1: more of that in your life, whether it be in
Speaker 1: a job form or whether it be extracurricular outside of
Speaker 1: your job. If you focus on where you have your
Speaker 1: joy and you really prioritize on, like making time to
Speaker 1: have more of that joy, it will keep showing up
Speaker 1: more in your life. You will get more opportunities for
Speaker 1: more of that joy. So if you're feeling lost right now,
Speaker 1: that's what I encourage you to do. Right down where
Speaker 1: you feel joy and then do that, make time for it,
Speaker 1: prioritize it even if you feel like you have no
Speaker 1: extra time because you have a life that is like
Speaker 1: busy and tough and you're trying to make ends meet.
Speaker 1: Make it a priority to put that joy in your life,
Speaker 1: because you have to have joy in your life. That
Speaker 1: is to me, that is one of the key things
Speaker 1: in this life. We have to figure out a way
Speaker 1: to have joy. So that's my um encouragement. If you're
Speaker 1: feeling lost right now, and if you feel unworthy or
Speaker 1: if you feel like nothing's ever going to work out
Speaker 1: for you, know that we've all felt that way. Every
Speaker 1: single one of us has felt unworthy. My biggest struggle
Speaker 1: in life is that I haven't felt worthy, And so
Speaker 1: many people think that's shocking because they're like, what do
Speaker 1: you seem like You're so have it together and you're
Speaker 1: so happy and in your life is so great. I
Speaker 1: have struggled with unworthiness of my whole life. And so
Speaker 1: if you feel that way, do not feel alone, because
Speaker 1: we all feel that way, and that's just part of
Speaker 1: the human experience. So don't feel weird or bad or
Speaker 1: like ashamed with that, because every single one of us
Speaker 1: struggles with something on that kind of level and it's
Speaker 1: just a part of the human experience. And I'm telling
Speaker 1: you just keep going for joy and keep choosing to
Speaker 1: see the bright side. I just interviewed my friend Miley
Speaker 1: Missahan and she is an amazing person. Check out her
Speaker 1: interview on my podcast if you haven't. She's had like
Speaker 1: nine lives from being a pop star to go in Italy,
Speaker 1: following following love that ending and having babies, and like
Speaker 1: reinventing herself with a career, getting another record deal at
Speaker 1: the same time she's pregnant having to walk away from
Speaker 1: the record deal. She was like started off as Johnny
Speaker 1: Depps waitress and l a. She's had a crazy life.
Speaker 1: But she said, what does she say? She said, look
Speaker 1: for the positive in the world. I think is what
Speaker 1: she said. Choose to see the positive and choose to
Speaker 1: love every day and it just will change your life
Speaker 1: and we can change the world. I'm not quoting her correctly,
Speaker 1: but it was something like that will lead with love
Speaker 1: is what she said. Lead with love, Lead with positivity.
Speaker 1: That is profound, Lead with love, Lead with positivity. I
Speaker 1: catch myself all the time wanting to kind of complain
Speaker 1: or like if something gets stressful, wanting to kind of
Speaker 1: talk about the hard stuff of it. And my last
Speaker 1: mom chat that I just put up was on gratitude
Speaker 1: and reframing the way I think because like sometimes I'm like, gosh,
Speaker 1: all I do is like I'm busy, busy, busy all day,
Speaker 1: like I'm waking sunny, feeding sunny, cleaning bottles, pumping than
Speaker 1: doing my podcast in between stuff. Then I have different
Speaker 1: deals that I do with brands, like doing different brand
Speaker 1: deals like in between her other naps and then showing
Speaker 1: up for Michael, being a good way for him, trying
Speaker 1: to show up from my friends and they have stuff
Speaker 1: going on, traveling home to see my family, like it's
Speaker 1: all stuff that I want to do, and so I'm
Speaker 1: like it's some of me saying, oh my gosh, I'm
Speaker 1: so tired and I'm so this is so hard and
Speaker 1: this is tedious, and I'm not getting any sleep and
Speaker 1: I never get a break. It's like, goodness, gracious, I
Speaker 1: am blessed. I'm getting to do these things that bring
Speaker 1: me life, that bring me joy. I get to serve
Speaker 1: the people that I love, and I also getting to
Speaker 1: fulfill my own heart's desires. Like yes, I'm busy, but
Speaker 1: praise God, like I am busy, like I'm getting to
Speaker 1: do things I love, so thank you Jesus. And that
Speaker 1: is how I am trying to reframe when I feel overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: Is just be grateful for all the blessings I get
Speaker 1: to do, even if it's stuff that's tedious. It's like,
Speaker 1: what is my goal? Why am I doing tedious things?
Speaker 1: What is the ultimate goal that I'm doing this work for. Okay,
Speaker 1: even if you're doing your job that you don't love,
Speaker 1: like you're doing the job to get a paycheck, to
Speaker 1: provide a life for yourself so you can have a house,
Speaker 1: so you can take care of your children, Like, that's
Speaker 1: a blessing. It's a blessing. And you can always keep
Speaker 1: working towards like being more fulfilled with your days and
Speaker 1: more fulfilled with what you're doing. But for the moment,
Speaker 1: if you're doing something and it is bringing you a
Speaker 1: means to an end that provides for your life, then
Speaker 1: that is something to be grateful for. And it's just
Speaker 1: taking the time to reframe our thoughts. And of course
Speaker 1: we're not going to do it all the time because
Speaker 1: we're humans, but it's a goal and it's a goal
Speaker 1: that I'm working on, is just to reframe to live
Speaker 1: in gratitude. So for the new Year, I encourage all
Speaker 1: you guys to lead with love, find something to be
Speaker 1: grateful for Start a vision board. It doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be huge. Just dig in your heart and figure out
Speaker 1: what it is that really is calling you, What is
Speaker 1: calling you to do, to be to simplify. Maybe you're
Speaker 1: being called not to add anything to your vision board,
Speaker 1: but to take way. Maybe it's like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be a yes person this year.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to go and do all these things.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna over exert myself in areas that I
Speaker 1: don't need to. I'm gonna say no to everything first
Speaker 1: until it's a hell yes. Maybe that's what it is
Speaker 1: a year of simplifying. Maybe you're really not loving your
Speaker 1: career and you're like, gosh, I want a new career,
Speaker 1: but I don't even know where to start. Start by
Speaker 1: writing down what brings you joy. I'm telling you I
Speaker 1: think you can always find a job. A job can
Speaker 1: show up that brings you joy if you keep looking
Speaker 1: for But you have to identify what it is. Identify
Speaker 1: jobs that would be your dream job. Identify someone who
Speaker 1: you know who's doing something that you love and go
Speaker 1: talk to them, ask them how they do it, ask
Speaker 1: for advice. You just just start getting proactive on what
Speaker 1: brings you joy. And I'm telling you, the more focus
Speaker 1: on what brings you joy, the more joy comes in
Speaker 1: your life. And help somebody. Share your heart with someone
Speaker 1: to won't try to be perfect. When someone crosses your
Speaker 1: path and you feel called to tell them a nice word,
Speaker 1: do something nice for them. You see someone who has
Speaker 1: four kids and their single mom and they need a
Speaker 1: hand and you feel inclined to drop them off dinner,
Speaker 1: do it. Mother Teresa said, never suppress a generous thought.
Speaker 1: And if you feel inclined to do something generous and
Speaker 1: kind for someone, just do it. And let's have the
Speaker 1: best year of our lives. Let's trust that we're moving
Speaker 1: in the right direction. Let's trust our instincts, let's trust God,
Speaker 1: let's trust the flow, and let's have the best here yet.
Speaker 1: So I love you guys, thank you all for being
Speaker 1: here with me on this journey. And I just send
Speaker 1: you guys all blessings and love and happy, happy