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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: Your setback can be the catalyst for your biggest comeback

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Speaker 2: in life. Like you can turn it right, You can

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Speaker 2: use it to help you to get to where you

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Speaker 2: want to be. But you have to make that choice

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Speaker 2: if you let the others around you make the choice

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Speaker 2: right again, Listen to what my mama says, marylois right,

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Speaker 2: like be cautious the people whom you surround yourself with right,

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Speaker 2: because if they're at one place in their life, you

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Speaker 2: know who they want to surround themselves with, people who

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Speaker 2: are also going to be.

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Speaker 3: In that same place in their life.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 1: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments

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Speaker 4: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 4: women like you. We're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 4: college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 5: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 5: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 5: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 5: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where

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Speaker 5: black women can just be.

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Speaker 6: Hey, lady, is doctor dom here from the Cultivating her

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Speaker 6: Space podcast. Are you currently a resident of the state

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Speaker 6: of California in contemplating starting your therapy journey? Well, if so,

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Speaker 6: please reach out to me at doctor Dominique Brussard dot com.

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Speaker 6: That's Dr d Omi ni Que b r ou Ssard

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Speaker 5: You, lady. Today. We have the privilege of conversing with

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Speaker 5: a legend. Okay, I'm trying to get my inner child

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Speaker 7: And the best part about it is she is a

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Speaker 7: woman who looks like us.

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Speaker 5: Okay, once celebrated for her athletic prowess and known as

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Speaker 5: the fastest woman on the planet, Marion Jones quickly became

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Speaker 5: the covers of Time Magazine, Vogue, and Sports Illustrated, and

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Speaker 5: securing millions in endorsement deals from major brands including Nike, Gatorade,

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Speaker 5: and Got Milk. In two thousand and seven, Marion Jones

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Speaker 5: sentenced to six months in jail despite never failing a

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Speaker 5: drug test. She was the only athlete to serve time

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Speaker 5: and she voluntarily returned her medals, apologizing to her fans.

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Speaker 7: But you know what they say. You know what they say, y'all.

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Speaker 7: Failure is not final and we are not defined by

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Speaker 7: our past. Okay.

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Speaker 5: Most recently, Marian launched a new partnership with Driven, Inc.

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Speaker 5: A ground breaking coaching program dedicated to empowering professionals and entrepreneurs.

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Speaker 5: Marian empowers individuals through enhancing performance, transforming mindsets, and providing

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Speaker 5: business coaching. Marian currently resides with her family in Austin, Texas.

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Speaker 5: B Marian Jones, Welcome to cultivating her.

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Speaker 3: Space, Terry, Thank you so much for that introduction.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I wish I can just disappear a little bit

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Speaker 3: Sometimes I am excited to be here to chat with

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Speaker 2: Things in this life journey of mine, but I'm just

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Speaker 2: And so the opportunity to continue to share it is

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Speaker 4: Yes, we are definitely looking forward to this conversation, Marion,

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Speaker 4: and your comments just now like flowed beautifully into our

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Speaker 2: I wish we had a few days on a remote

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Speaker 2: And I really felt after I took my hiatus, all right.

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Speaker 3: And there are so many people that can relate to that.

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Speaker 3: And so yes, again, there are so many people who've

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Speaker 3: Like really, I'm at that place in my life, Terry.

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Speaker 3: But it's more than that mistake.

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Speaker 7: Try to like until you leave this earth. People just

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Speaker 3: But we also allow people to do that to us

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Speaker 2: Yes, you know, we're like, oh, I I made poor

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Speaker 3: I'm messed up. I know, like I didn't. It happens.

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Speaker 2: To feel like you're nothing, right like I think that

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Speaker 2: My body was prepared for it all without me even knowing.

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Speaker 3: Baha're still not gonna beat me.

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Speaker 2: They can't tell me I can't do push ups, sit ups, lunches, squats,

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Speaker 2: I don't think many adults terry and doctor dom give

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Speaker 3: And they gave me time. Thank you? In essence, See how.

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Speaker 3: There were moments of tears, There were moments of woe

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Speaker 3: But again, I just I see it as like, oh,

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Speaker 3: that just makes the pot.

444
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Speaker 2: Even better taste, right, like that, that's part of the testimony.

445
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 2: That's part of the testimony, doctor don For people to say, wait, wait,

446
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 2: you mean that once she got you know, she wasn't

447
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 2: Martha Stewart, and when she got out of being incarcerated

448
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:57,400
Speaker 2: she had multi million dollar opportunities.

449
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 3: In her lap.

450
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Speaker 2: You mean that wasn't the case. Of course, that wasn't

451
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Speaker 2: the case. Come on, we don't even got to go there.

452
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 2: Y'all can go there. I don't need to go there, right,

453
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:07,959
Speaker 2: you mean I'm gonna have to fight, okay, you mean

454
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 2: I'm going to really have to show what Marion Lloyce,

455
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 2: that's my mom, how she raised me to be. Okay, So, so.

456
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Speaker 3: I don't even know the original question, y'all. I'm sorry.

457
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 5: You hit all the nails on the head. So you've

458
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 5: done it. Yes, we can mic drop right there.

459
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 4: So I mean, and we are definitely enjoying all of

460
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 4: these gems that you are dropping as you are sharing

461
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Speaker 4: your story. But one thing that we want to do

462
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 4: is go back a little bit, right, go back to

463
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 4: Marion Jones, who was born in la And so people

464
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 4: see what's put out in the media about who you are,

465
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Speaker 4: but what are the things about your beginnings and even

466
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 4: your current that people don't know that you think it's

467
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:14,160
Speaker 4: important for them to understand in really understanding the essence

468
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 4: of who you are.

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00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean it's a challenge now to find

470
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 2: things that I haven't shared or that haven't been well documented.

471
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 2: But I don't think that I have touched on how

472
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: significant a presence my mother has been in my life.

473
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 3: I haven't given a lot of contexts as.

474
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Speaker 2: To how I like currently stay motivated and why, and

475
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: that you know that is needed for people to really

476
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,160
Speaker 2: understand how I'm able to be.

477
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 3: So resilient in all of this. My mom, my mom.

478
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Speaker 2: Is from a small third world country. The country is Belize,

479
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 2: right in Central America, right underneath Mexico. My grand my

480
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: maternal grandmother, passed away when my mom was very young,

481
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 2: three four years old. So my mom was raised for

482
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 2: a short amount of time by her father, my maternal grandfather,

483
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 2: but because of the economy, he had to travel to

484
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Speaker 2: Guatemala to work.

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Speaker 6: Right.

486
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 2: So my mother was raised by another part of the

487
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 2: family who didn't have her best interests at heart. Right,

488
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 2: So my mom had a very.

489
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 3: Hard, hard childhood.

490
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 2: Made the choice after having my brother and I only

491
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 2: have one sibling who's five years older than me. After

492
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 2: having my brother, she made the choice that she wanted

493
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 2: a better life for her family, and so she sacrificed

494
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: and found her way to the States, right, came up

495
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 2: here to the States and sacrifice.

496
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Speaker 6: Right.

497
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 2: There was family up here, but none that you want

498
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 2: to live with or hang out with or be around.

499
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: And she's young, eighteen seventeen, nineteen years old and found.

500
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 3: Her way in this big old country, right. And people

501
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 3: don't know that story. Right.

502
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 2: People don't know that My inspiration is the woman who

503
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 2: brought me into this world and who had to fight

504
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 2: tooth and nail right to make a better life.

505
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 3: And people need to hear that.

506
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 2: I think people in our world and our culture need

507
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 2: to hear that because our mamas they sacrifice a lot

508
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 2: for us, and they do not get the well deserved

509
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: attention that they deserve. Right, Like she is who I am,

510
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: is who my mom is, right, and she is times

511
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 2: one hundred of what I am in terms of fire

512
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 2: and spice and all things nice and not nice, and

513
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 2: you do not want to come across her and say

514
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 2: anything about her daughter, right. So I think that's just

515
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 2: something doctor dom that people don't know about me that

516
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 2: when I struggle, and I still do, right, I struggle with, oh,

517
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 2: marian right, like those poor choices if you would have

518
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 2: just thought here or done here, or been there, or

519
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: not been with this person or not listen to this person,

520
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 2: we can do this all day long. I sit back

521
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: and I say, Okay, Marian right, you can totally allow

522
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 2: that to consume you, right, or you can make good

523
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 2: on all of the sacrifices that your mom made for

524
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 2: you black that she hasn't even fully shared with me.

525
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 2: And I am not gonna allow like you, we talk

526
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 2: about not disappointing whomever, right, like, there's no way like

527
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna there's no more disappointing that I'm gonna take

528
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 2: my mama through. And so when I even now, when

529
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 2: doors are closed to what we're trying to.

530
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 3: Do, right, I'm thinking to myself, I think that's gonna

531
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 3: hurt my feelings. We're gonna go.

532
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 2: To the next door, and we're gonna go to the

533
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 2: next door and there will be one that opens, right.

534
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 3: And then what's gonna happen is doctor Dom and Terry.

535
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: You're gonna wish not y'all, those that closed door are

536
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 2: gonna wish right that they had gotten the story right.

537
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 3: And that's and I.

538
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 2: Just sit back, smile and say right like, you don't

539
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 2: know what my motivating force is, and it's okay exactly.

540
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 2: I am a product of a mama of color that

541
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 2: you better not out mess with.

542
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Speaker 7: Okay, I love that so much.

543
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 5: They're gonna try to spin the block, Marion, and we'll

544
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 5: see what happens when they do.

545
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 7: But they're linked to the game.

546
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 3: Right, You're so right?

547
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 5: Okay, So, Marian, we this conversation has been great so far,

548
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 5: and it's gonna be even better.

549
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 7: But we want to shift up the energy a little bit.

550
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 5: And because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman,

551
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 5: and we hear on the podcast, we believe it's okay to.

552
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 7: Be bougie, classy and ratchet.

553
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 5: You can still be elegant and dance to strip club

554
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 5: music if you so choose. So we want to invite

555
00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 5: you to the oh you blatchet segment?

556
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 7: Do you take on the challenge?

557
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 3: Let's do it?

558
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 5: Yes, Okay, now that you've agreed, we're going to tell

559
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 5: you what to expect. So we have like now, yes, Marion,

560
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 5: we have three questions for you. We have three sentence completions,

561
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 5: and we have three photos of you that we pulled.

562
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 7: Up from social media. And what we're gonna do is

563
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 7: we're gonna show you a photo that.

564
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 5: You'll choose, and we want you to give us more

565
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 5: context about the photo that we would not know just

566
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 5: by looking at it.

567
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 7: All right, into this, we got you. We'll ease into

568
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 7: this segment. The first question.

569
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 3: Is remember y'all we're friends.

570
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 7: Because we're friends, you're a legend, like we're fans. You know,

571
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 7: we're going to ease into it.

572
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 5: So the first question is what's the best piece of

573
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 5: wisdom or advice you've ever received?

574
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 2: M All right, huh yeah, Well it's certainly from my mom.

575
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 3: Is that everybody's not your friend. Everybody is not your friend.

576
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 4: Right.

577
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 2: That has resonated with me for a long time, and

578
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 2: we all go through that time in our lives. Well,

579
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 2: I did, and I know I have a lot of

580
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 2: friends whereby we're grown, right, Like we all want to

581
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 2: hear what my mama is telling us.

582
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 3: We're grown. I don't need your advice. And in looking back, right,

583
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 3: like if I had just listened to my mama.

584
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 12: Right.

585
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 2: Again, we can't go back. We only can learn from

586
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 2: our poor choices. Right. But everybody ain't your friend because

587
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: they smile on your face and because they tell you

588
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,959
Speaker 2: how great you are, patch you on the back, or

589
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 2: give you stuff. Right that your true friends will be

590
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 2: there right when there's nothing that you can give them,

591
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 2: when there's nothing that you can do for them.

592
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: Those are your true friends. And you have to learn

593
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 3: that sometimes the hardy. And my kids are learning it

594
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 3: the hard way, right, Like, you know I have them.

595
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 2: I have three kids, they're older now, two of them

596
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 2: out of the house, one of them still in the house.

597
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 2: And you know, they think at this age that your

598
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 2: high school friends, even your college friends, they're.

599
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 3: Gonna be around for l right, Like, and I'm just like, yo,

600
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 3: I just please just listen to me. There's nothing else

601
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 3: that you right, you're a little high school friend.

602
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 2: Like maybe I mean I have one or two Facebook

603
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,880
Speaker 2: friends from high school that you know I had a

604
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 2: good relationship with back then, but you know there are

605
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 2: people listening to this that have one or two should up. Well,

606
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:45,840
Speaker 2: you've made some stupid mistakes in high school.

607
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 3: They are not going to be around anyways. Yeah, and

608
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 3: not everybody you meet is your friend. That's probably the

609
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 3: best piece of advice I've been given. I love that.

610
00:34:56,520 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 11: And so for your your true friends, it's right when

611
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 11: you're kicking it with your true friends and the music

612
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 11: comes on, you know what you're gonna do.

613
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 3: Are you gonna twork? Are you going to two step?

614
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 3: I'm two stepping, So I got great for arthritis in

615
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 3: both needs.

616
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 4: When I made the stallion over here, I understand, I understand.

617
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:30,760
Speaker 2: You know, I a my and my circle is very small,

618
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 2: by the way, So let's just back up to the

619
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 2: beginning of that statement. When I'm hanging with my friends,

620
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 2: and I keep that circle, and I think that's the

621
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:38,399
Speaker 2: best way to keep it right.

622
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 3: Like I You know, I I am very I.

623
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:48,359
Speaker 2: Think very good with creating relationships and.

624
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 3: Finding common themes with people, and I love like people

625
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 3: and learning about them.

626
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: But I'm not inviting everybody in my house, nor am

627
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 2: I going out with otherbody?

628
00:35:55,600 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 3: Right, So I those that I have, right, Yeah, we

629
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 3: are I'm slow moving.

630
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 2: Also, I'll share a little secret with y'all. I am

631
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 2: part of the rhythmless nation.

632
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 3: Okay, we understand. Yeah, Like you don't get me wrong,

633
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 3: like I love good music and.

634
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:24,479
Speaker 2: I love good like people like ah, I can stand

635
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 2: watch and I can remember in college, I would go

636
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 2: out with my friends and we would.

637
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 3: Go to the club, and you know, I'm in the corner.

638
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 3: I do alone, and I'm going to do my thing.

639
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 2: I don't pull me out to the middle, right because

640
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 2: I have this thing and maybe y'all can relate whereby

641
00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: if I'm.

642
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 3: By myself and I'm just listening, like I'm on, I'm

643
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,280
Speaker 3: on rhythm.

644
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 2: But the minute I see your cousin across the dance

645
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 2: floor acting a full and off step, guess.

646
00:36:55,880 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 3: Who imitates him? Me? And I'm gonna be like, oh shoot,

647
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 3: wait wait, I get it, so that I got to

648
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 3: get it. Bag, Yes, rhythmless ennation.

649
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 5: It's all good. We are your people, so we get it.

650
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 5: We understand, we understand. So the third question for you, Marion,

651
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,399
Speaker 5: and this segment is get ready for this one.

652
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 7: What's the sexiest item you own?

653
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 11: Uh?

654
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 2: I like I am old school in that more that

655
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,879
Speaker 2: is covered up is sexy to me, right, Like.

656
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 3: I think to leave things to the imagination is what's

657
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 3: sexy to me.

658
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 2: I like a gate, I like a g A, I

659
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 2: T I like how people move, right like, I like that.

660
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 2: And so for me, I have some genes which might

661
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,320
Speaker 2: just sound really broad, right.

662
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 3: But genes like let me tell you you.

663
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Speaker 2: Find the right one on somebody or even like it

664
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 2: can make or break right, and like I have a

665
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 2: couple pair and I have so many of them, but

666
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 2: there are a few that when I put it on,

667
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:20,840
Speaker 2: like I'm feeling like I'm feeling all right, Okay, okay, as.

668
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 4: You should, yes, yes, yes, And so now we're going

669
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 4: to move to the sentence completion.

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00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, it's so fun.

671
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 4: The most embarrassing thing I've ever done to get a

672
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 4: CRUSH's attention is.

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Speaker 2: Let's see, I mean, I probably would have to take

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00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 2: it back to childhood days.

675
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 3: Right I am.

676
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:55,959
Speaker 2: So when I was when I was young, my mom, well,

677
00:38:56,120 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 2: my parents were divorced when I was really young three

678
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 2: and my mom remarried wonderful man, older man, and.

679
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 3: My mom would go to work. He was retired, so

680
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 3: he would stay home and I would walk to school.

681
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 3: Right Anyways, So there's this young, young young boy at school.

682
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 3: I don't ask me, Andre. That was his name. Andre.

683
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: Andre had a curl, a Jerry curl, but it was

684
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 2: like the perfect curl, like he had figured it out.

685
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 2: And he seemed just a little more mature than everybody else,

686
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,240
Speaker 2: which made him, at that point, I don't know, first, second,

687
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 2: third grade whatever, like so attractive, right of mature.

688
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 3: And he had everybody's attention.

689
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 2: But I mean, I'm tall and skinny and awkward and athletic,

690
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 2: right like, I didn't fit in that girly girl thing,

691
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 2: so I was never going to get his attention. And

692
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 2: so I remember going into my mom and stepdad's bathroom

693
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: and finding the first aid kit and putting a little

694
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 2: band aid right here.

695
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 3: Nothing was wrong with my dawn forehead, y'all.

696
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 2: Nothing, okay, But I put it there and I doubled

697
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: it up like it was something big under there. And

698
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 2: I got out of that house before my stepdad woke up,

699
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 2: and I was walking to school, and I.

700
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:22,839
Speaker 3: Can imagine how silly I looked.

701
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 2: And I don't even remember if he even blinked or

702
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 2: even looked my way or.

703
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 3: Whatever, but I felt like a fool. My little friends

704
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 3: were like what.

705
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 2: Holead me alone until somebody ripped it all anyways, now

706
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,439
Speaker 2: something little boy never even noticed me, but I can remember.

707
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,320
Speaker 3: That that was part of the scheme.

708
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 5: That is so funny, some of the things we do

709
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 5: when we're younger to get that that person's attention we.

710
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 7: Had, we get it. We get it. That takes us

711
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 7: too Mary.

712
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 5: Our next sentos completion, which is one question or topic

713
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Speaker 5: I wish people asked me about more often, is.

714
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 9: Food, nutrition and really how it is the catalyst for

715
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 9: longevity in our lives.

716
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:17,719
Speaker 3: And it's so that conversation is so needed in our community.

717
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 2: And I love fitness right like I'm a trainer. I

718
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 2: love to train people and help them with their body.

719
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 2: But as much as I love.

720
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 13: That nutrition is the key to getting off of all

721
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 13: of those medications that we're on to disease, to our

722
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 13: lives cut short.

723
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,800
Speaker 3: And I know that there.

724
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:48,359
Speaker 2: Is a an issue with getting healthy food in certain communities,

725
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 2: but there's still a way, right if you know how.

726
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 2: And I'm passionate about it just because I know that

727
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:01,720
Speaker 2: there is so much money that is being thrown away

728
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 2: right like this country, it's all about.

729
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 3: The dollar and we can again create our.

730
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: Own life narrative by making small changes and what we consume,

731
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 2: the fuel that we put in our body, eliminating that

732
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 2: poison called sugar. And I know, right, like I'm not

733
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 2: here pointing to fear, like I am a sugar addict

734
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 2: also right, But I also know that it is a

735
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 2: poison and I do my best to fight it.

736
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 3: Do I lose sometimes? Yes? Do I limit it? Yes?

737
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:36,360
Speaker 3: Is there a way to create some type of balance?

738
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: Yes? Does it need to be in everything that we drink,

739
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 2: in our coffee and our tea.

740
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 3: And our no.

741
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 2: Right, and the more that we can start to eliminate

742
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 2: little things and especially like like throw out some knowledge

743
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 2: when we're young, to like kids and let them start

744
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 2: to make healthy choices and see their parents making healthy choices,

745
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, Like so much of the disease that

746
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 2: is rampant in our community doesn't need to be right?

747
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 2: Does it need to be?

748
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 3: And we can control that?

749
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:15,320
Speaker 2: Right? Like we We also can control it by you know, voting,

750
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 2: of course, and putting people in office that can help

751
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:23,400
Speaker 2: with guns and things like that. But you want how

752
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:25,880
Speaker 2: we can really control how long we're here?

753
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:26,760
Speaker 7: Right?

754
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 3: Is what we put in by right?

755
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: And I don't care who's inn aufice unfortunate, Like we

756
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 2: can make that choice, right, we can cook with certain

757
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 2: products that are not like filled with poison.

758
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 3: It's so many, it's.

759
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 2: So it's so true the fact that other countries, like

760
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 2: there are things that they are they ban that are

761
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 2: like given to us, given to our kids in school

762
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: for their lunches, doctor doc and in other countries they're banned.

763
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:56,760
Speaker 3: Why why might I think that is right?

764
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 2: And it's just and it's just so sad that that's.

765
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 3: That narrative, that knowledge is not more widespread in our

766
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 3: in our community, and it sounds and it's one of

767
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 3: the things I wish people would ask me about.

768
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 2: More do you do?

769
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: That's a good one.

770
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 4: Well, thank you for putting that out there, and we

771
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 4: will definitely kind of circle back because that is a

772
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 4: very important topic.

773
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 3: And so our.

774
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:30,320
Speaker 4: Final sentence I want to see I want to s Yes,

775
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 4: they're coming up, they're coming up, But we got one more.

776
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 3: Sentence completion and then you get the pictures.

777
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 4: So our final sentence completion is what I love most

778
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:42,480
Speaker 4: about myself is.

779
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 2: Oh, my passion for people, My passion for people and

780
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 2: finding the good in them, my passion for injustice, my

781
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: passion to eliminate hurt from the world and from the

782
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 2: life some people, particularly young people.

783
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 7: So beautiful. Okay, Marian. We're at the segment now where

784
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 7: we have a folk.

785
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 5: We have three photos pulled up from your Instagram, and

786
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 5: what we want to do first is we want you

787
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 5: to choose a number out of one in three and

788
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 5: then once you choose that number, I'll share the photo

789
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 5: with us on the big screen, and then you can

790
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 5: give us some context about the photo that we don't

791
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 5: know by looking at it.

792
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 3: So I'm sharing with you one, two or three.

793
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 5: Yes, you just randomly choose the number out of one

794
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 5: in three and then I'll.

795
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 7: Share the photo. So what's your number.

796
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 3: Let's start with one one?

797
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 5: Okay, So I'm going to share this photo, no, Marian,

798
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 5: for folks that are only tuned into the audio, if

799
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 5: you can describe the photo first and then give us

800
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 5: some context about the photo that we would not know by.

801
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 7: Looking at it. And here's the photo.

802
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 2: Ah, all right, that's an easy one, so that I

803
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 2: was invited to. Okay, So for those that can't see,

804
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 2: this is a photo of myself and.

805
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 3: Dax's shepherd on ther Armchair Expert podcast.

806
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 2: They invited me to come and share my story, and

807
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 2: so this is this is this is a picture of us.

808
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 3: I really enjoyed this interview. They are both wonderful.

809
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 2: They allow space for their guests to dive in deeper

810
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 2: into their world, and they sit back that they don't.

811
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 3: Control the commentary.

812
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 2: They allow their guests to speak freely, and it was

813
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 2: just an enjoyable, enjoyable time. I'm also wearing one of

814
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:38,280
Speaker 2: my favorite shirts, which is my UNC North Carolina T shirt.

815
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 2: So for those that can't hear or can't see it,

816
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 2: that's what's happening there.

817
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 7: Represent awesome. Thank you so much. That was so fun.

818
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:50,240
Speaker 5: Marion, thank you for playing along with us for this segment.

819
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,480
Speaker 5: We just have a couple more questions for you, and

820
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,799
Speaker 5: you've shared so much already. There's so much that I

821
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,240
Speaker 5: want to ask. I'm trying my best, like keep it focused.

822
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 5: I'm thinking about just the fact that you've lift such

823
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 5: a full life already, and honestly, I'm sure you probably

824
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,880
Speaker 5: feel like you're just getting started in this new season

825
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 5: and what you're focused on. And so when you think about,

826
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 5: you know, what's important in life, when you think about legacy,

827
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 5: when you think about people like young people who are

828
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 5: living life, and they're you know, prioritizing certain things that

829
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 5: maybe aren't that important at this stage, at this age

830
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 5: and this season of your life. Having experienced all that

831
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 5: you've experienced, what's what's important to life for you?

832
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 7: And why.

833
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:35,280
Speaker 2: I am certain that I am on the right track

834
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 2: when it comes to knowing that the most important thing

835
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: and the most important thing that we all need to

836
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 2: be focused on is helping others. Right, It's it's you know,

837
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:54,240
Speaker 2: it sounds like, oh like for real. If our intent

838
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 2: in everything we do is about helping somebody else to

839
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 2: live a better life, we will all be successful.

840
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 6: Right.

841
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 3: What happens, Terry, is when money and fame and power

842
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 3: and all these other little things start taking precedent and

843
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 3: why we're doing stuff.

844
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:14,359
Speaker 2: But if, really, if the catalyst in everything we do

845
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,759
Speaker 2: is to help somebody else's life be better, right, and

846
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:20,720
Speaker 2: that becomes the norm.

847
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,720
Speaker 3: So so I would hope, and I hope I answer

848
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 3: your question with this, Terry. I would hope that like my.

849
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 2: Legacy encompasses like that, right, man, incredible talent, right, and

850
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 2: I get it. There will be things in all of

851
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 2: that story that are going to touch on that are

852
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 2: that are not so great, but ultimately right, I would

853
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: love for the narrative to be written. But she helped,

854
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 2: she gave, she sacrificed, right all for other people, right

855
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 2: like I don't.

856
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:59,879
Speaker 3: I don't have to do this, right Like I love

857
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 3: my life, I.

858
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 2: Love my family, I love who I am, I love

859
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 2: where I'm at, and I do not need to to

860
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 2: constantly like be going over stuff like I don't have

861
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 2: to deal with it, but I do it because I.

862
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 3: Know in one one individual, right, one.

863
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 2: Person whomever that is on the other part of the

864
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,719
Speaker 2: other side of the ocean, here's the story. And they're like,

865
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 2: you know what, Like, She's right, I don't have to,

866
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 2: like I mean, my mistake in life does not have

867
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:30,920
Speaker 2: to define who I am, Like tomorrow is possible, right,

868
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 2: the next hour is possible for me.

869
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,759
Speaker 3: If somebody hears that, then all of this is worth

870
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 3: it for me.

871
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, That's that's what it looks like to me

872
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 2: when it comes when I hear the word legacy and

873
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 2: when that's and then you know, people also ask terry

874
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 2: like like how what like what is your motivation?

875
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 3: Like how what is your what is the story? How

876
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 3: do I get from A to Z? A?

877
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 2: Meaning it's your mistake, Right, How do I get to Z,

878
00:50:02,080 --> 00:50:05,240
Speaker 2: which is hopefully like whatever goals you want in life?

879
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 3: Success? Right, whatever that is? How do you do that?

880
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:12,240
Speaker 3: You prepare yourself for the hiccups in life.

881
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:16,359
Speaker 2: You strategize, you plan, you reframe who you are, You

882
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 2: redefine who you are. You do not allow anybody else

883
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 2: to create your nritive. Right, shut it down, You shut

884
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 2: it down, right, like I've had to do that Terry

885
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 2: and doctor domin interviews right where somebody comes.

886
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 3: Into it with an agenda, get it.

887
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 2: I understand the media like I am a known newbie

888
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 2: to this, right, and I get it.

889
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 3: Everybody has an agenda when we talk.

890
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 7: I understood that.

891
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 3: Part of it. Now understand that I also have an agenda. Right,

892
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 3: who's going to win right versus me?

893
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 4: Right?

894
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 2: And every it could be a successful venture and everybody

895
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 2: walks away satisfied.

896
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 3: Unless you try right to create.

897
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 2: My merit right, and then it's going to be an

898
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 2: unsuccessful venture.

899
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:03,879
Speaker 7: Right.

900
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 3: So let's all work together. You know that I have mine,

901
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 3: I know that I have your, you have yours. Let's

902
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 3: work together for how.

903
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 2: Many Okay, yes, don't try it?

904
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, and you ain't new to this you're true

905
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 4: to this, you know how to you know about creating

906
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:29,919
Speaker 4: your own narrative and not letting other people define who

907
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 4: you are. Now, I know we said we were going

908
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 4: to circle back about around the topic of nutrition and

909
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 4: mar and you already in answering that question drops some

910
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 4: gems around the things that we need to be considering.

911
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 4: And so when you think about for our listeners out there,

912
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:06,959
Speaker 4: particularly black women and who are raising families who are

913
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:10,879
Speaker 4: maybe in you know what, that stage in life where

914
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 4: they're taking care of kids at home but also taking

915
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:21,360
Speaker 4: care of aging parents, what are like your top tips

916
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:31,040
Speaker 4: for having delicious but also nutritious options in the home

917
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 4: that are easy for folks who are having like so

918
00:52:34,400 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 4: many responsibilities and busy lives.

919
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that there's a myth that's out there.

920
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:44,319
Speaker 2: And it's no surprise that the myth is from these

921
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:48,640
Speaker 2: makers of the poison, that it is impossible to eat

922
00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 2: healthy on a budget, right, that it's impossible to practice healthy.

923
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 3: Living if you're a busy working mom or family.

924
00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 2: Like, it's a myth, right, So they create products that

925
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 2: make your life easy, right, and it's so tasteful, right, Like,

926
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 2: if you really sit and you think about it like

927
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 2: it's such a game, right that we are losing, like

928
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 2: our community is losing.

929
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 3: And I've already mentioned.

930
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 2: The big poison, right, which is the process sugar. And

931
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:26,719
Speaker 2: I think that if people realize that there is a

932
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:33,640
Speaker 2: way to still get your like your crutch right with

933
00:53:34,320 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 2: fruit and with so many other things, you can make

934
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:40,279
Speaker 2: your smoothies like so many people love smoothies, right.

935
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 3: And I know it takes time.

936
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 2: And let me tell you how I got a busy

937
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:46,440
Speaker 2: working mom, right, but I take time.

938
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,719
Speaker 3: I put it on my calendar, just like we all do,

939
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 3: all working women.

940
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 2: You have a calendar, right, We live by it, especially

941
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,480
Speaker 2: if you have kids or you have a career.

942
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,719
Speaker 3: If you don't got you live by your calendar, yep.

943
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:01,760
Speaker 3: And you would disappointment on your calendar.

944
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:04,799
Speaker 2: Why not put an hour on a Sunday evening on

945
00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 2: your calendar to prep for the week, even if it's

946
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 2: just your meal planning. You don't have to necessarily make

947
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:14,440
Speaker 2: eight different thirty different Wait, some people do that, if

948
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 2: you right, But just sitting down and saying on Monday,

949
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,320
Speaker 2: these are gonna be my options for me and my

950
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 2: family on Tuesday, these are our options, right, putting it

951
00:54:24,480 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 2: on your calendar, right.

952
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 3: But because oh you get caught.

953
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:34,400
Speaker 2: No, it's it's important as anything else. It's as important

954
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:37,719
Speaker 2: as getting you know, Shanika to practice.

955
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:42,279
Speaker 3: It's as important as that, right. And if people realize that,

956
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:47,200
Speaker 3: if that part is solid, right, she's gonna have energy

957
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:48,240
Speaker 3: to do her best.

958
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:52,879
Speaker 2: She's gonna have like a good attitude because you put

959
00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 2: good fuel in her body so she can do well

960
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 2: on that test.

961
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 3: She can stay up and study after practice like all that.

962
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 2: If you if you think about it anyways, you know,

963
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 2: eliminating the sugar as much as you can, limiting it,

964
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 2: making sure that every meal is not you're not chugging

965
00:55:07,680 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 2: a kool aid type drink with every meal. If you

966
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 2: like sugar, I get it right, wait until the weekend, right, Like,

967
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 2: enjoy what you have. I'm not saying take it all away,

968
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 2: but consume it with reason. Does not need to be

969
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 2: with every meal for And again this is coming from

970
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:29,920
Speaker 2: somebody who loves like and gets the jitters if you

971
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:31,239
Speaker 2: don't have it for a while. And that just tells

972
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:33,879
Speaker 2: you right there, if you take something away from your life,

973
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 2: doctor dom right, and you're getting the jitters because you

974
00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 2: don't have it.

975
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 3: Is that a healthy thing? Right, not at all, but

976
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:40,880
Speaker 3: there are other.

977
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 2: Ways to do it, Like I'm going to throw out

978
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 2: dates right and fits right, and people I know in

979
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 2: certain communities where you.

980
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 3: Don't have access to that, you're like, wait, what is that?

981
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 3: You put that in a smoothie?

982
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 14: Yes, it's like like you're drinking for just there are

983
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:01,440
Speaker 14: so many, so many different things taking out the fried

984
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,840
Speaker 14: food generally, no matter where you go, they have a.

985
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 2: Grilled option, or you do it at home, like you

986
00:56:07,200 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 2: create enough of it. And we are so creative like

987
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 2: our culture whereby we don't worry about like good tasting food.

988
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 2: We're going to figure out a way without all the salts,

989
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 2: which is also something.

990
00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 3: Else that you know in our in our culture.

991
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:23,800
Speaker 2: We like to but there are so many other things

992
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:28,200
Speaker 2: that you can season your food with without that salt. Right,

993
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 2: it's just doing a little bit of research and you know,

994
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 2: just eliminate. The sooner that we eliminate it from our

995
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 2: young people's diets, right, the easier wle them to be

996
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 2: when they get older. Right, we want to teach them.

997
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:44,160
Speaker 2: We want to make sure they can read right, we

998
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 2: want to make sure that they know how to stand

999
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 2: up for themselves. We want to make sure that they're

1000
00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 2: Why don't like give them the knowledge and the tools

1001
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:56,719
Speaker 2: when they're young that they can fight to thee right,

1002
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,319
Speaker 2: that they have a brain that is functioning to its

1003
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:01,560
Speaker 2: compaccity because.

1004
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 3: They know how to eat healthy. I get it. They

1005
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:07,880
Speaker 3: are generally some of us like in certain like ages,

1006
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 3: like we don't.

1007
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:11,319
Speaker 2: Know because we didn't. But we can control that with

1008
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:15,839
Speaker 2: our babies, right, you know, like in the schools, right

1009
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: that it will bring in these sugary fruit drink pouches.

1010
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 3: Right, and that's the that's the what Like I get it.

1011
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 12: On Halloween, get your baby, Like I'm not saying eliminated

1012
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 12: all if you can, that's great, but that I mean,

1013
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 12: come on, let's be realistic, right, you know, like Christmas,

1014
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,160
Speaker 12: they're gonna right up, they're gonna, but you don't have

1015
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 12: to stuff like put it in every lunch, Like they

1016
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 12: don't got to drink those sugary orange juices that breakfast

1017
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 12: make it healthy smoothie, I mean, And it's I get

1018
00:57:48,320 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 12: it again.

1019
00:57:48,720 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 2: We go back to the economy, and there's not a

1020
00:57:51,120 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 2: stuff but the amount of stuff that we will spend

1021
00:57:53,960 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 2: money on and not on other things.

1022
00:57:56,760 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 3: Go get yourself a juicer or a smooth like a blender. Guys,

1023
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 3: throw in some fruit in the morning.

1024
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 2: I promise you that little Johnny's gonna drink it in

1025
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 2: the morning, and it's loaded with fruit and vegetable.

1026
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 3: You don't have to know what's in it.

1027
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 2: A lot of times you throw in terry like spinach,

1028
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 2: and can you throw it an avocado in a smooth.

1029
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 7: And taste it and not taste it? That's right, yep.

1030
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:25,600
Speaker 2: But we want Johnny to have the latest air maxes

1031
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 2: and air jored and flex and inring in his ear,

1032
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 2: but you're not doing anything for his core.

1033
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 3: In his heart and his breath.

1034
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:37,560
Speaker 2: Again, Doctor Dom, this we could go on and all

1035
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 2: about all of this, and I know that you know

1036
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 2: our time.

1037
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 3: We got to wrap up, but all got to get

1038
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:43,480
Speaker 3: me back on so we can.

1039
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 5: Talk, yes, and we can sense the passion. But it's

1040
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 5: also so important. Like you said, many of us weren't

1041
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 5: raised and taught to do these things. But now that

1042
00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:53,680
Speaker 5: we know better and we have access to more, we

1043
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:57,120
Speaker 5: can change and do more. Marion, you are a gift.

1044
00:58:57,440 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 5: We honor you, we appreciate you. You are so inspiring

1045
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 5: and closing. We'd love to just give you the mic

1046
00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 5: to let listeners know how they can connect with you,

1047
00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:07,720
Speaker 5: any next steps you have for them, anything we.

1048
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 7: Didn't cover that you want to share.

1049
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 5: In closing, we love to give you the mic, but

1050
00:59:10,480 --> 00:59:13,360
Speaker 5: thank you so much for your time and energy, Oh.

1051
00:59:13,120 --> 00:59:14,919
Speaker 3: Terry and doctor dom.

1052
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 2: I appreciate the space that you've given me, and I

1053
00:59:19,560 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 2: just appreciate what you all are trying to do in

1054
00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 2: our community. We need more voices like y'all to uplift

1055
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 2: and inspire our people.

1056
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 3: Right people are women of color, and so I am

1057
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 3: so appreciative.

1058
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 2: But if there's one thing that I want people to

1059
00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 2: take away from potentially listening to my story and my

1060
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 2: journey is one we touched on it in the very beginning.

1061
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 3: That your failure in.

1062
00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:48,200
Speaker 2: Life, and all of us at some point have been

1063
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 2: in the midst of it. It does not need to

1064
00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:55,520
Speaker 2: be forever. Right, you can put a hard stop on it. Right,

1065
00:59:55,800 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 2: You do not have to stay stuck in your fielding.

1066
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:02,440
Speaker 2: There will be people around you who want you to

1067
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,960
Speaker 2: for a lot of reasons. Right, you don't have to

1068
01:00:04,960 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 2: stay there. It can also and I would hope that

1069
01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 2: people would use this as inspiration. It could also be

1070
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 2: the stepping stones to their biggest comeback.

1071
01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 3: In life.

1072
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 2: Right, So it's your setback can be the catalyst for

1073
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 2: your biggest comeback in life.

1074
01:00:22,920 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 3: Like you can turn.

1075
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:27,000
Speaker 2: It right, you can use it to help you to

1076
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:29,640
Speaker 2: get to where you want to be. But you have

1077
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:31,800
Speaker 2: to make that choice if you let the others around

1078
01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:32,680
Speaker 2: you make the choice.

1079
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 13: Right.

1080
01:00:33,440 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 2: Again, listen to what my mama says, Mary and lois right, like,

1081
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 2: be cautious the people whom you surround yourself with, right,

1082
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 2: because if they're at one place in their life, you

1083
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 2: know who they want to surround themselves with, people who

1084
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:46,840
Speaker 2: are also going to be in that same place in

1085
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 2: their life. And sometimes we got to clean our hands

1086
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 2: of certain people, right.

1087
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 3: I get it.

1088
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:53,920
Speaker 2: They're a family, there are childhood friends. We don't want

1089
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 2: to leave them behind. But that's me you saying yourself

1090
01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 2: that you want to stay there. You want to stay stuck, right,

1091
01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:05,320
Speaker 2: your generations after you to stay stuck. My mom made

1092
01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 2: the choice right at the age of seventeen eighteen nineteen.

1093
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:10,640
Speaker 3: She wasn't going to stay stuck. And it's not because

1094
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 3: of choices she made. She was stuck, right, it was

1095
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:15,920
Speaker 3: the choices of the people around her. But again, she

1096
01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 3: made the choice. She's not going to stay stuck because

1097
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:21,400
Speaker 3: mainly she didn't want her kids to be stuck.

1098
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 2: Right though you can make you can create your own narrative,

1099
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:28,920
Speaker 2: do not allow people to create that for you.

1100
01:01:31,640 --> 01:01:33,080
Speaker 7: Marian. Thank you so much.

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