1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: Hey guys, So this week we have something a little 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: bit different for you. So, in solidarity with the SAG 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: after strike, we had some episodes banked, and the truth is, 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: we just don't feel comfortable airing them. We want to 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: stand with our actor friends. We want to release them 6 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: when hopefully everybody has a fair contract and we can celebrate. 7 00:00:20,640 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: And now it's just not the time. So we're going 8 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: to hang on to them. We promise you. We have 9 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 1: some great episodes coming on up, but that means this 10 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: week we're going to pivot a little bit. We have 11 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: other interviews coming up later. Trust me, we have great 12 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: guests in the pipeline. But for today, we thought it 13 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: would be fun if you got to know me a 14 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: little bit better. So I put out on social media 15 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: what do you want to know? And I have to 16 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: be honest with you. I didn't look at all of 17 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: the questions because I wanted to be surprised. So I 18 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: have my amazing producer Mike here today. He has them all. Mike, 19 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: how scared should I be? 20 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 2: I don't think you should be scared at all, Tommy, 21 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 2: And my first question to you is are you excited 22 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 2: to be a guest on your own podcast. 23 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: That's whoa. I didn't think about it like that. It's 24 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: a little weird, a little weird to be on this 25 00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: side of the of the table or the screen, I 26 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: should say. But uh, yeah, I think we're gonna have 27 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 1: some fun. 28 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. I one of the interviews we were doing a 29 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 2: couple of weeks ago, you said something that you revealed 30 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 2: something about yourself. I can't remember specifically what it was, 31 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 2: but after we got off the interview, you were like, wow, 32 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,559 Speaker 2: I can't believe I just said that. Even I feel 33 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 2: a little like you were a little like flustered and 34 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 2: a little like not embarrassed, but you were like, wow, 35 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 2: I just revealed that about myself, and I wasn't really 36 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 2: expecting to. So I am curious to see how you're 37 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 2: gonna feel when we throw some of these questions your way. 38 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,479 Speaker 2: I don't think a lot of them are like too personal, 39 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 2: but I think they'll be fun. And I think, you know, 40 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 2: this will end up being a pretty fun episode. 41 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: I agree, I agree, and I say bring it on. 42 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: Let's see what happens. Okay, are you ready? I am ready, Mike, 43 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm ready. 44 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 2: So our first question comes to us from Todd. Shoot, Chuck, 45 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 2: I think I'm saying that name right. He wants to 46 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 2: know what it's like for you to have a relationship 47 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 2: in the public eye and on social social media. Plus 48 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: how much scrutiny have you and Geo faced throughout the years. 49 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 2: It's so amazing to have a couple like you guys 50 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 2: to look up to. 51 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: Oh wow, Well, first of all, thank you, that's very kind. 52 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: What is it like having a relationship in the public eye. 53 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: It can be a bit strange sometimes, you know. I 54 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: think Geo and I are very conscious of sharing parts 55 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 1: of our lives with the public for one main reason, 56 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 1: and that reason is visibility. And I think it's so important. 57 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: I never had that growing up, and things have gotten 58 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: progressively better over the years, but even eight years ago 59 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: when we got together, I still didn't see a lot 60 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:46,080 Speaker 1: of openly gay relationships out there. And for us, we 61 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: feel that if we can show you know, our love 62 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: and our story as Geo and Tommy just living our 63 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: everyday lives, that maybe people eventually will get to a 64 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: place where they're more accepting of you know, everybody in 65 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: this world, or maybe we can can change perception a 66 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: little bit. So it's important for us to share those 67 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 1: glimpses into our relationships, just like any other couple would write. 68 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: We do keep things private as well. We don't put 69 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: everything out there because I think in any relationship you 70 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: need to have some boundaries and then you need to 71 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:19,080 Speaker 1: have things just for yourselves. But it's important for us 72 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: to do that. In terms of scrutiny, I would say 73 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: on a day to day basis, we're pretty lucky. We 74 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: have a lot of people sharing love with us and 75 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: very excited for us on our journey. But of course 76 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: you do see comments here and there from people who 77 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: aren't necessarily supportive of a gay relationship, and that goes 78 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: for people in the community and out of the community. 79 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: We have gotten scrutiny from other people who are LGBTQ plus, 80 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: which always breaks my heart because I feel like, man, 81 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 1: we should be championing one another and we should be 82 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: lifting each other up. We know what the fight is 83 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: like that we all face, and sadly, there are some 84 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: people who do want to you down in your own community. 85 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: And when we got married, we saw some of that 86 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: when there was some press related to it, and in 87 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: some of the meanest comments were actually from people in 88 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: the community. And I bring that up because I don't 89 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: think a lot of people talk about that. It's often 90 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: you know, straight people versus gay people or whatever the 91 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: situation may be. And trust me, it's there, and there's 92 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: a fight that has to be fought. But there's also 93 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: a lot of tearing down in our own community, and 94 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 1: I hope for younger generations that is something that we 95 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: don't have as much of because it's vicious and unnecessary, 96 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 1: and like I said, our energy needs to be channeled 97 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: towards equal rights and just having our basic human you know, 98 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 1: human needs met and we shouldn't have to worry about 99 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 1: what our brothers and sisters are saying in our own 100 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: community in a negative light. So with that being said, 101 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: mostly positive, some scrutiny from everyone all walks of life, 102 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: and I just hope people, for not our sake, just 103 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: for humanities, it can learn to not type out that 104 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: mean tweet or that mean comment and just celebrate one another. 105 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:12,840 Speaker 2: That's it, absolutely all right. Let's go to Amy Irwin. 106 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 2: Amy asks, well, she starts off by saying, Hi, Tommy, 107 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,599 Speaker 2: who has been your favorite interview and who would you 108 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 2: like to interview that you haven't yet? Ooh? 109 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: Amy, Amy with the hard hitting questions. Gosh, favorite interview. 110 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: This is a really tough one for me because I 111 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 1: have to say everyone I've interviewed up to this point 112 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: has been nothing but lovely and gracious. There were a 113 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: few standouts for me. Robertson Niro. I grew up in 114 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: New Jersey. I'm an Italian boy, Italian family. I watched 115 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: all his movies growing up. I mean Raging Bowl was 116 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:48,479 Speaker 1: one of the reasons why I fell in love with 117 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: cinema and movie making. It took a million of those 118 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: courses in college. He was pretty surreal for me talking 119 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: to him. I'm a big movie fan, as you've just heard. 120 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: I loved Christopher Nole, who I just interviewed. He was 121 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: He was incredible. I'm a big fan of his movies. God, 122 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: this list goes on and on, and I would say, 123 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: if I can give you one more, who am I 124 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: going to give you? I'm gonna give you. Ryan Reynolds 125 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: was a really cool one, I think growing up. I 126 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: loved all his movies too. I don't know if you 127 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: ever saw Mike the movie what was it called, Just Friends? 128 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:24,599 Speaker 2: Of course? 129 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's a great movie him and Amy Smart right, yes, yes, 130 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: And it's a hysterical comedy. I love that growing up, 131 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: so I kept thinking about that movie when I was 132 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: interviewing him, even though it was something totally different. But 133 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,840 Speaker 1: that was a really cool moment for me too. Who 134 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: do I want to interview. I'll give you the cliche, 135 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 1: I want to talk to Oprah. Who doesn't want to 136 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: talk to Oprah? I just want to bask in her goodness. 137 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: But I love creatives. Surprisingly, I think a lot of 138 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 1: people think it's all about the movie stars and the singers, 139 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,479 Speaker 1: and it's great and I love chatting with them, and 140 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: they are creatives, But I mean creatives in the sense 141 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 1: of the directors and the cinematapographers and the people behind 142 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: the scenes. I hope I get more of a chance 143 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: to interview because they don't necessarily make television, right like 144 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: the TV show I work on, Extra is not going 145 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: to really put their interviews on. But I love picking 146 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: their brains and figuring out what's going on inside their 147 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: minds that makes them choose the decisions they make when 148 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: they create their work. So I want to get more 149 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: involved on that side of course. Also, Martin Scorsese is 150 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: a huge, a huge one of mine. I mean, I 151 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: love his movies too, so he would be epic of course. 152 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: Well, I had a question a personal follow up to that, 153 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 2: when you're interviewing people, is it more exciting to you 154 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 2: when it's somebody that is just super famous, somebody like 155 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 2: a Brad Pitt or something like that, who's just like, 156 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 2: you know, their reputation is worldwide, everybody knows who they are, 157 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 2: Tom Cruise somebody like that. Or is it more fun 158 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 2: for you when you get somebody who is sort of 159 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 2: like a famously good interview e Like, it seems like 160 00:07:56,160 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: Ryan Reynolds, though he is super famous, is kind of 161 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 2: like also famous for being kind of fun to talk to. 162 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 2: It seems like which one kind of moves the needle 163 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 2: more for you when you're interviewing people. 164 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm a sucker for a great conversation. I like 165 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: somebody who can play, who can have fun. You know, 166 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: you have to remember these actors and artists they have 167 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: to do press because it's their job. They don't do 168 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 1: it because I necessarily want to do it. They have 169 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: to promote the work that they're putting out there, right, 170 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: So not everybody loves to give an interview or have 171 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: a conversation. There's a lot of introverted people out there. 172 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: I happen to be extremely extroverted, so I try to 173 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:40,239 Speaker 1: pull as much as I can out of those introverts 174 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: and make them feel comfortable and safe and like we 175 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: can have a great conversation without any judgment or agenda, 176 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 1: which is one of my tactics in interviewing. But if 177 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:51,839 Speaker 1: somebody can show up and have fun and joke, and 178 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: the best compliment that I can get after an interview, 179 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 1: after putting it out on social media or after it 180 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: airs is man, it looked like two friends catching up. 181 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: That's my goal. 182 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 2: There you go, all right? Jason Gleeson now has written 183 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 2: in and he's got a bunch of questions, So we're 184 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 2: going to try to go through some of the best 185 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 2: ones here. I would say the first one is media related, 186 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 2: so let's go there. It's a two part question, what 187 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 2: has been the most challenging, challenging aspect of working in media? 188 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 2: And to follow that up, have you hit any walls 189 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 2: professionally because of being gay? If you have, how did 190 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 2: you overcome them? 191 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: Wow? Wow, Hello, Jason, let's see part one of that 192 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: questions Jason good questions. Man, Oh, you're gonna take my job? 193 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: I think part one of that. Oh, now my head 194 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: is my mind is do I want to start with 195 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 1: part two? Let me start a part two. Have I 196 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: hit any walls because I'm yay? The answer to that 197 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: is I cannot prove that, but I do think over 198 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 1: the years, I absolutely did not get picked or chosen 199 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: for certain things because Sally, I'm gay. Like I said, 200 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: we're in a very different time right now than we 201 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: were even eight years ago, ten years ago, fifteen years ago, 202 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: and sexuality was very much a concern as I was 203 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 1: coming up in this business. I graduated college in two 204 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 1: thousand and eight from NYU and started in this kind 205 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: of media career. I was doing acting and then transition 206 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 1: to a bunch of stuff in the business. And yeah, 207 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: I mean, let's listen. When I was acting, I absolutely 208 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: was told you're too gay, You're not gay enough, we 209 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: don't know your place. You're confusing because you quote unquote 210 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 1: look like a man, but you're gay. So how can 211 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: you be in a project where you're supposed to be 212 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 1: with a woman. So in the acting world when I 213 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,680 Speaker 1: was coming up, yes, I mean one hundred percent, it 214 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: was a conversation that I was always involved with with 215 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: by the way a lot of gay executives themselves, so 216 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,319 Speaker 1: that part yes. And then you know, in traditional broadcast, 217 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: again can't say for sure, but you hear things, You 218 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: hear whispers, you hear comments from a producer who's in 219 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: a room, or heard a comment from someone else that 220 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:04,559 Speaker 1: shouldn't have said it, So sadly there have been obstacles. 221 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:07,240 Speaker 1: But I do think that's changing. So I don't say 222 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 1: that to discourage anybody. I say that people now want 223 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: people to be their true selves, and luckily we're moving 224 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:17,199 Speaker 1: towards a more progressive world. So I think that you 225 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: should always show up as yourself. And if you don't 226 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: get a job because of who you are, then it's 227 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: not worth it. It's not worth it. You'll find your path, 228 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: you'll get to where you're going to be. And I 229 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: never could have imagined I would be where I am 230 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 1: today as a gay, closeted kid growing up in New Jersey. 231 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: So that's all to say, don't be discouraged and always 232 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: show up as yourself. And then part one might remind 233 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: me of what was Part one. 234 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 2: What has been the most challenging aspect of working in media. 235 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,280 Speaker 1: You know, media is changing the landscape of media is 236 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:50,559 Speaker 1: changing quite a bit. Social media has affected that dramatically, 237 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:55,000 Speaker 1: whether for the better or the force. You know, there's 238 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: talks about TikTok having shows and being a news source 239 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 1: and an entertainment source one day. I mean, we don't 240 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 1: know where this industry is going, which right now I 241 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: will say is a challenge because a lot of people 242 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: in power are afraid to take risks and they want 243 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: to keep doing what they know has been working for 244 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 1: decades and decades and decades. But that's changing, but we 245 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 1: don't know what that change is. So for me, I'm 246 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: always someone who pitches new projects and ideas, and to 247 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:23,960 Speaker 1: get someone to say yes to that is like pulling 248 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: teeth because everyone wants a safe bet. So personally, for me, 249 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: I'm an ideas guy. I come to the table with 250 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,560 Speaker 1: a million ideas, and it's hard to get those taken 251 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: seriously because these people who make those decisions end up 252 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: going right back to what's been working forever, even though 253 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: it's not quite working in the way it once was. 254 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 2: It's kind of what the strike is about, right, Yeah, absolutely, 255 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 2: all right. So we had two more that I think 256 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 2: we can get a little a little fun out of. 257 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,760 Speaker 2: One of them was what was your favorite what is 258 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 2: your favorite movie? 259 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: And why? Oh my god, you can't ask me that. 260 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: That is so tough. Oh that is so hard. I'm 261 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 1: gonna oh, how about this. I will give you a 262 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: favorite genre that might be surprising to people, and that 263 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 1: is old Hollywood movies. I wanted to get into this 264 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: business because I loved old Hollywood black and whites, even 265 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: Charlie Schapplin movies with no sound. I mean, I loved 266 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:33,199 Speaker 1: watching those growing up. I mentioned Raging Bowl earlier. I 267 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: loved The Graduate, I loved Casablanca, of course, bringing up 268 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: baby Marlon Brando movies. I loved old Hollywood stars Ingrid 269 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 1: Bergman and Carry Grant, And that's what I kind of 270 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 1: grew up on and really pursued passionately for a while 271 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: in terms of what I would watch on my downtime. 272 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:52,680 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna go with that old Hollywood classics. In fact, 273 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: I was saying the other day I need to start 274 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: getting back into them with any free time I have 275 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: because I miss that genre. 276 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 2: And then the last one. I know, it's a question, 277 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 2: a topic that you don't love talking about, necessarily, what 278 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:12,080 Speaker 2: do you eat to stay in such great shape? 279 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:16,240 Speaker 1: Fair question? I mean, I'm super passionate about health and 280 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: wellness and fitness. I follow mainly the Mediterranean diet, so 281 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 1: in a nutshell, lots of chicken, fish, vegetables, fruits. I 282 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: stay away from processed foods, sugar. I don't drink much alcohol, 283 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: you know, I don't drink so obviously or any of that. 284 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: So very clean, very boring. During the week I eat 285 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: the same thing every day almost, but obviously on weekends 286 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 1: I go out and have fun. 287 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 2: There we go, all right, thank you for the cavalcade 288 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 2: of questions, Jason. We move on to rich Diaz, who 289 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 2: wants to know how do you want people to remember you? 290 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 2: What do you want your legacy to be? 291 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: Man, everyone's coming from my job with these questions. 292 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 2: They're deep. Some of these are deep. 293 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 1: Great question, great question, you know. I tend to let 294 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: me think about this. I describe my career as a 295 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 1: bit all over the place. I didn't get to where 296 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 1: I got to today because I took one straight path, right. 297 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 1: I was acting for a while, I was in other 298 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: areas of the business. I then transitioned to hosting, and 299 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 1: I started on television in this you know, unscripted world, 300 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: doing like fashion segments and makeovers just to get my 301 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: in in this space. Actually, before that, I was doing 302 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: Gift Guide segments, which truth be told, I have no 303 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 1: interest in. But I said, if you can get me 304 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 1: on TV and I can get experience and get exposure, 305 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 1: then yes, I will go on and talk about this 306 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 1: toilet bowl plunger for four ninety nine that you can 307 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 1: get on Amazon today. Absolutely, so I kind of had 308 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: this very weird path to get to where I got 309 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 1: to today, and I'm so thankful for it because it 310 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:57,840 Speaker 1: allowed me to tap into all these different areas of 311 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: the entertainment business. Can go on TV and talk about fashion, fitness, travel, health, wellness, anything, 312 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: or I can go interview the biggest celebrity in the world. 313 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 1: So all that is to say that I want, no 314 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: matter what, somebody is watching me talk about wherever they 315 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 1: see me, television, their phone, wherever, I want them to 316 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:21,560 Speaker 1: feel better than they felt before they started watching my segment, 317 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:24,560 Speaker 1: my interview, my clip. And I want to just be 318 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: somebody who can put out feel good content that can 319 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 1: distract you from the everyday hardships we all face and 320 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: make you feel less alone in your own personal journey. 321 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: And that's what I want. I want us to feel connected. 322 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 1: I want us to feel together. I don't think we 323 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: have enough of that in this world. We are all 324 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: so much more similar than we are different, and I 325 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:51,160 Speaker 1: think we forget that a lot. And if I can 326 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 1: just bring five minutes of joy to your day and 327 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: maybe turn it around by being silly on television in 328 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: an interview or telling you about some new cool fitness 329 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 1: trend or whatever, then I feel like I've done my job. 330 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: So I just want to be remembered for being a real, 331 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: genuine person who's bringing you some joy. 332 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 2: Indep man, all right. Next question comes from and if 333 00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 2: I butcher this name, I'm sorry. Who birdis? Zeggers? What 334 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 2: is yours Geo's favorite travel destination minus Paris? 335 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: Oh, great question. We love Hawaii. Hawaii is very special 336 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 1: to us. We before the pandemic, have gone every year. 337 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: We're going back this year for the first time in 338 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 1: a while. Very excited. We tend to go to an 339 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:42,520 Speaker 1: island called Kawaii, which is where they film Jurassic Park. 340 00:17:43,040 --> 00:17:45,920 Speaker 1: It's very remote and we love that. You know, living 341 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:48,600 Speaker 1: in New York, we crave that. We don't go away 342 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 1: to go to clubs and be fancy and go to 343 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: five star restaurants in our finest fashion. No, no, no, I 344 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: don't care about any of that. I want to be 345 00:17:56,040 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: in a bathing suit of tank top flip flops and 346 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:01,560 Speaker 1: just chill out. So we love Hawaii for that reason. 347 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:05,399 Speaker 1: All the hiking and outdoor adventuring and just exploring we 348 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:08,520 Speaker 1: can do in Paris is obviously also very special. It's 349 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: where we got engaged. That's a close second, but yeah, 350 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:13,119 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with Hawaii. 351 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 2: Derek Rose would like to know what gives you energy? 352 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:23,399 Speaker 1: What gives me energy? Ooh, this could be interpreted in 353 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 1: a few different ways. How do you think Derek has 354 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:25,959 Speaker 1: meant this? 355 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 2: Well, it's a good question because I think Derek Rose 356 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:32,920 Speaker 2: and I think of the basketball player from that right 357 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 2: who was benched last year and perhaps needed some energy. 358 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:41,160 Speaker 2: I mean, I think that there's you could take it literally, 359 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 2: like we can go back to be a nutrition question. 360 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:45,760 Speaker 2: You know, what do you what do you eat? What 361 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 2: gives you energy? Or I mean I would think it 362 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 2: maybe means what gets you motivated to be creative, to 363 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:02,960 Speaker 2: be ambitious, et cetera. Hmmm, why don't we make it 364 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 2: that question? 365 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,960 Speaker 1: Okay, I'll go with that. I like that what gives 366 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 1: me that motivation. You know, I'm a very routined guy. 367 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:15,400 Speaker 1: I stick to my routines, and I get up and 368 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: I have my breakfast, and I verbally and this is 369 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 1: a little boo wooie, so stay with me all but 370 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 1: I verbally kind of go through the things I'm grateful 371 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 1: for and I say it out loud, and I just 372 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 1: find for me, it clears my mind. It just puts 373 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 1: me in a good frame of mind for the day. 374 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 1: I know they say one of the worst things you 375 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,720 Speaker 1: can do is pick up your cell phone right when 376 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: you wake up. I wish I couldn't, but I have 377 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: to check my emails for work. I have to check 378 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,159 Speaker 1: my phone right away. So I kind of offset that 379 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: by then eating my breakfast, doing my verbal gratefuls, and 380 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: getting in a workout, because if I don't have that 381 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: me time, just don't talk to me like I need 382 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,320 Speaker 1: to have an hour where I can unplug, focus on 383 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 1: my mental health and get myself really, really really in 384 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 1: a good frame of mind for the day. Because my 385 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:06,399 Speaker 1: days are crazy, they're shit shows, They're all over the place. 386 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: So I have to do that to stay motivated. And honestly, 387 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 1: if I don't do that, I don't feel good. I 388 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:15,600 Speaker 1: feel off, and I feel weird. So that's my number one. 389 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 2: Are you a morning workout person? 390 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:20,399 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah. I have to start my 391 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 1: day with a morning workout. I don't like going in 392 00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:25,840 Speaker 1: the afternoon. If I have to, I will, but I 393 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,360 Speaker 1: need to start my day, get it done, and then 394 00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:30,720 Speaker 1: I feel my best take on whatever's coming. 395 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 2: I wish I could do it. I envy you so much. 396 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: Hey, it's not for everyone, all right. 397 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 2: We have a question here from John Risco. What do 398 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 2: you and Geo like to do on your downtime? Second question, 399 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 2: would you ever consider being on Dancing with the Stars? 400 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 2: I remember seeing you dance. 401 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:53,719 Speaker 1: You've got to well to answer your second question, I 402 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 1: love to dance. I grew up, fun fact, teaching hip 403 00:20:57,280 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 1: hop at the local YMCA in my hometown. No training 404 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 1: is just something that was kind of boring with and 405 00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: I loved it. And I actually entered these festivals where 406 00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,239 Speaker 1: I would choreograph hip hop dances and submit them with 407 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 1: my friend Christina. So I love to dance. Would I 408 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 1: ever do the show? Yeah? I never say never to anything, 409 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 1: so yeah, I think that would be really fun. And 410 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:22,720 Speaker 1: the first question, what do we do on our downtime. 411 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: We like to travel. We like even day trips or adventures, 412 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: you know, driving out to Jersey for the shore. It 413 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,399 Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be getting on a plane. But 414 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: we like to travel and see different things. And we 415 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 1: like to spend time with family. I have a big 416 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: Italian family. We'd like spending time with friends, going to dinners, 417 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 1: walking where big walkers. We'll walk all over Central Park 418 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,720 Speaker 1: for hours if we have the time. We like adventures stuff, 419 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: especially when we travel. We love music. We love arts. 420 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:53,359 Speaker 1: I'm sure if you follow me you see them at 421 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:55,960 Speaker 1: a Broadway show probably every few weeks. I think it's 422 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: super important to support the arts, and I love it. 423 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:01,800 Speaker 1: That's another place I can escape, escape in a different 424 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:04,119 Speaker 1: world too, and forget about everything and for two and 425 00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: a half three hours and not worry about work. There's 426 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 1: something magical about that. We love music, so anything related 427 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,640 Speaker 1: to arts, I would say, is our number one thing. 428 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,960 Speaker 1: And uh yeah, I mean there's nothing really fancy I 429 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,080 Speaker 1: can throw out where we're just like everyday people. 430 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't that sad that it's a boring answer to 431 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,160 Speaker 2: just be a normal I. 432 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,680 Speaker 1: Know we're kind of boring, Like we're not that exciting. 433 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, read some books, watching TV? Yeah, Earl Martin Stranger 434 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 2: would like to know. This is going to be a 435 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 2: one word answer, but are you born and raised in 436 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:36,840 Speaker 2: New York City? 437 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:41,239 Speaker 1: No? New Jersey? Okay, there we go. 438 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:47,400 Speaker 2: We got that over with quick. Frank Robert de Luca 439 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,119 Speaker 2: would like to know. Do you and Geo ever fight 440 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:52,600 Speaker 2: or do you hold it in until you're calmer? 441 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:56,600 Speaker 1: Good question, that's a great question. We have been together 442 00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:01,080 Speaker 1: eight years, married seven and I can honestly one hundred 443 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:06,760 Speaker 1: percent like truthfully say to you we don't fight often, 444 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 1: and if we do have a disagreement, we talk it out. 445 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,399 Speaker 1: We're two individuals in a relationship. Things are gonna be different, 446 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: right I'm gonna view things differently, He's gonna view things differently, 447 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,960 Speaker 1: and when that happens, we have a conversation. We have 448 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: never gone to bed angry, and there's never been a 449 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 1: fight where one person has slept on the couch and 450 00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,159 Speaker 1: the other person slept on the bed, none of that. 451 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 1: If there's an issue, we resolve it pretty quickly. We 452 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,720 Speaker 1: talk it through, and we don't always see eye to either. 453 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 1: It doesn't always end with like okay, like we're on 454 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,440 Speaker 1: the same page. No, sometimes we have to agree to disagree, 455 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: but we respect that and to be totally honest in 456 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: a relationship I was in for most of my twenties, 457 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: not most, but a lot of my twenties, it was 458 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,560 Speaker 1: the opposite. It was like horrible fights and sleeping on 459 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 1: the couch and door slamming, and I just thought towards 460 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,639 Speaker 1: the end of that, why would anyone want to be 461 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:58,600 Speaker 1: in this? It's not for me. And look, whatever works 462 00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:00,719 Speaker 1: for you works for you. And if you're listening, like, oh, 463 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:03,440 Speaker 1: I fight all the time with my partner. That sometimes 464 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:05,880 Speaker 1: works for people. They like it, they like to engage 465 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,120 Speaker 1: in it, and that's cool. But for me, I don't 466 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 1: like it. I shut down. Like if someone starts raising 467 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: their voice to me and trying to go to that 468 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 1: place that I feel is very dark, I shut down 469 00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: and I don't give them anything right. And that sometimes 470 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:20,919 Speaker 1: we'll piss off someone even more not geo, but like 471 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:24,880 Speaker 1: my ex, because you would want the fight, So we don't. 472 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 1: We really don't disagree, I should say, we really don't 473 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: fight to a point of it getting escalated. That's not 474 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: where we are. And I think that just comes from 475 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: maybe our ages being mature and having a lot of 476 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,199 Speaker 1: respect for each other. So we're that's that's how we 477 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: that's what works for our relationship. 478 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,040 Speaker 2: As a rule. Do you kind of do you like 479 00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:46,440 Speaker 2: that philosophy of not going to be angry? Do you 480 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 2: think that that's sort of like a key to keeping 481 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 2: everybody feeling seen and heard and respected it? 482 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:55,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. I mean, first of all, sleep is important. 483 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,400 Speaker 1: Why would you want to mess up your sleep? I mean, 484 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: come on, like, because then you're up all night, you're 485 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,200 Speaker 1: all worried and you have anxiety. And I've been there, 486 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: like I said in my twenties, I was there. But 487 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 1: from aside from a health perspective, yes, for your relationship, 488 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:13,199 Speaker 1: I think that it's not ever a good idea to 489 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 1: fester and you're literally both now in your bed or 490 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:20,119 Speaker 1: ones on bed, ones on the couch, just simmering on 491 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,880 Speaker 1: what happened, and you're getting angry or and angrier and angrier, 492 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: and it's just not healthy. It's not healthy. So I 493 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: really do think you should never go to bed upset 494 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,840 Speaker 1: or angry and just try to work it out as 495 00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,440 Speaker 1: long as it takes before then, and guess what, sometimes 496 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: you got to compromise. That's what relationships are you got 497 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: to put your ego aside. You got to put your 498 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 1: pride aside. And I have pride. I'm a Jersey Italian, 499 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,240 Speaker 1: so I can say I have pride. Sometimes that needs 500 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 1: to be put aside and you just have to work 501 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 1: it out because it's worth it, or it should be 502 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,720 Speaker 1: worth it. And if it's not worth it, you got 503 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 1: to pay attention to that as well. 504 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 2: All right, are you ready for a heavy one? Oh? 505 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 1: Man, I thought we've gone through all the heavy ones. 506 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:14,560 Speaker 2: Oh no, we're just getting started, baby, Menish. I'm sorry, 507 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 2: so sorry if I just butcher this name again. Menish 508 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:23,480 Speaker 2: mystery asks everyone deals with some form of inferiority. What 509 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 2: is your relationship with deal with? What is your relationship 510 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,879 Speaker 2: and how do you deal with thoughts of inferiority? 511 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 1: Hmmm, great question. I'm gonna be very honest with you. 512 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: I think, and this might be a little controversial, but 513 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people who feel constantly inferior 514 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:59,400 Speaker 1: are the types of people that sometimes feels as though 515 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 1: they're in a position in their careers or lives where 516 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 1: they have reached their ultimate talent and success. And I 517 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 1: think what I mean by that is, yes, you see 518 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 1: me on National television. But every day I want to 519 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 1: learn and grow and I never stop a day's of 520 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:25,119 Speaker 1: a day of work and say, all right, cool, I 521 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,439 Speaker 1: was fucking awesome and I'm great, and I'm never going 522 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,919 Speaker 1: to take a note of what I did or you know, 523 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,520 Speaker 1: critique myself. No, no, no, no, no no. I want to 524 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 1: be critiquing myself and really working on myself until the 525 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 1: day I die. And I think that's sometimes why people 526 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,200 Speaker 1: are in situations professionally, whether you're at a corporate job 527 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,159 Speaker 1: or in the arts, and you're in a room and 528 00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: you feel those signs of inferiorness. Is that a word inferiorness, inferiority, 529 00:27:57,040 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 1: and you feel signs of that because you've hit your 530 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:02,959 Speaker 1: peak level. You're like, I am the best at what 531 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:06,199 Speaker 1: I do And wait a minute, why am I starting 532 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,000 Speaker 1: to not feel that way? Because I'm the best at 533 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,919 Speaker 1: what I do? Right? So I think that people who 534 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:16,200 Speaker 1: who battle that a lot, I would say is kind 535 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:18,399 Speaker 1: of take a step back and don't put yourself that 536 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 1: high on a pedestal, right, Like, know your worth, know 537 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 1: your talent, Know you can be awesome and deliver and 538 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 1: do phenomenal in the work that you're doing. But don't 539 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 1: take yourself that seriously. I in my twenties maybe was 540 00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 1: that guy that when someone would offer a critique or 541 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,879 Speaker 1: a criticism, I'd say, wait ooh the heck do you 542 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,960 Speaker 1: think you are? I am good? But thanks bro? Nice 543 00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:44,680 Speaker 1: try Now I'm like, please, what can I work on? 544 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,920 Speaker 1: How can I be better? Tell me? Because that's how 545 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,480 Speaker 1: I want to be throughout the rest of my career. 546 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:52,480 Speaker 1: And I think when we stop wanting that, or stop 547 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:58,479 Speaker 1: desiring that sort of delicious sweet spot of wanting to grow, 548 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 1: then you're in trouble. That's when you feel truly inferior. 549 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,480 Speaker 2: That's a pretty thoughtful insight, Tommy. 550 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's It's something I actually thought about a lot 551 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 1: lately because I'm doing a new and new thing on 552 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 1: the side that totally is making me vulnerable. And if 553 00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 1: I had that complex, which can also be known as 554 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,680 Speaker 1: a comparison syndrome or anything like that, I want to 555 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,840 Speaker 1: be doing the stuff I'm doing because you would go crazy. 556 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: So it's just not worth it. It's not worth it 557 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,160 Speaker 1: to think like that, and you have to kind of 558 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,200 Speaker 1: deprogram yourself to not think like that. 559 00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's switch it up a bit rad 560 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 2: Edwards wants to know boxers are briefing. 561 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 1: Boxers are briefs. 562 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:42,960 Speaker 2: I'm more of like a from one extreme. 563 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know what. I'm more of a trunks guy. 564 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 1: I like like a like a you know, I don't 565 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,440 Speaker 1: wear those traditional boxers that are super long into your knees, 566 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:52,440 Speaker 1: and I don't wear briefs, but I do like a 567 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:53,640 Speaker 1: boxer brief like a trunk. 568 00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 2: Okay, So now let's go back to some love and relationships. 569 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 2: You mentioned your first relationship a couple of minutes ago. 570 00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:08,000 Speaker 2: Rob Garner wants you to tell us about your first 571 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 2: relationship and what you learned were some of those mistakes 572 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:11,240 Speaker 2: that you made? 573 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 1: Oh man, I mean I was young. It was my 574 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 1: young twenties and in mid twenties, and I was just 575 00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,719 Speaker 1: in a relationship with someone that was so wrong for 576 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 1: me at the time and in retrospect, it probably started 577 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:33,040 Speaker 1: more as a friendship and it was just something I 578 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 1: shouldn't have been in. But I think the biggest thing 579 00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:40,479 Speaker 1: I learned from that is what I don't want go forward. 580 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,880 Speaker 1: And I convinced myself for a long time that relationships 581 00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,719 Speaker 1: were supposed to be the way that that relationship was, 582 00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:53,040 Speaker 1: and that just wasn't the case. And I think because 583 00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 1: I was insistent on trying to make it work, largely 584 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,200 Speaker 1: due to coming from divorced parents and a lot of 585 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:03,479 Speaker 1: divorce in my family and not wanting to feel like 586 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 1: my relationship wasn't going to last and that I failed. 587 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,479 Speaker 1: That's kind of something I had to work through on 588 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 1: my own, my own time. I stayed right because because 589 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 1: I didn't want to feel like this was a failure, 590 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 1: I wanted to prove everyone wrong, and I prove myself 591 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 1: wrong that you know, I can make something work even 592 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 1: though all the warning signs are clearly there, and I 593 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,360 Speaker 1: should not be in this relationship. So I really learned 594 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,720 Speaker 1: to get rid of that mentality, for one, because it's 595 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,520 Speaker 1: not healthy and no one should be with someone that's 596 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 1: not good for you. And for two, I learned exactly 597 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,200 Speaker 1: what I will never ever allow myself to settle for 598 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,240 Speaker 1: in the future again. And I think that that is 599 00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,120 Speaker 1: the number one thing we need to remember, is you 600 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,440 Speaker 1: can't beat yourself up for the past. You know, I 601 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,280 Speaker 1: spent some time saying, oh, I wasted time in my 602 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,360 Speaker 1: twenties and why the hell did I stay that long? 603 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,520 Speaker 1: And oh, man, like, what a waste of this one 604 00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,400 Speaker 1: life we have and then I said no, no, no, no, 605 00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,480 Speaker 1: no no. I learned so much about who I am 606 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 1: through that, and I don't know if I ever would 607 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:05,120 Speaker 1: have been ready to meet and marry my current husband, 608 00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:08,400 Speaker 1: and you know, if that didn't happen. So everything happens 609 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:10,520 Speaker 1: for a reason. But yeah, you have to know your 610 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 1: worth and you have to know when you're not getting 611 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:13,800 Speaker 1: what you need, it's time to go. 612 00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 2: All right, well, let's switch gears and go back to 613 00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:21,560 Speaker 2: your current relationship. We've had a lot of Geo questions. Obviously, 614 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 2: Randall Fetcho wants to know where did you meet Geo? 615 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 2: And was it instant attraction? 616 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: Geo and I met on Instagram. I slid into his DMS. 617 00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:34,480 Speaker 1: I slid very hard into his DMS. Now I'm just 618 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: kidding out very hard. I just said like, hey, how 619 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,600 Speaker 1: are you? And then we started talking and we went 620 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:42,760 Speaker 1: on a date about a week later, and yeah, it 621 00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 1: was instant attraction. Neither of us were looking for a 622 00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:50,000 Speaker 1: relationship and it just kind of happened that when we 623 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:53,080 Speaker 1: started talking, it felt like things were clicking. So we said, 624 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,240 Speaker 1: you know what, we should meet and have a drink 625 00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 1: and then we moved in together. In three weeks after that, 626 00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: so I would say it was very much instant attraction. Yes, 627 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:06,720 Speaker 1: my goodness. 628 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 2: All right, Well, to follow that up, what is the 629 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 2: best and worst part of being married to someone in 630 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,160 Speaker 2: a similar industry as yourself? 631 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 1: Ooh, the best part is we both completely understand the 632 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 1: chaotic schedules that these jobs, you know, come with, especially 633 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,080 Speaker 1: for Geo. You know, he anchors now GMA Saturday and 634 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 1: Sundays and during the week does does reporting for transportation. 635 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 1: But there was a period where he would get calls 636 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,760 Speaker 1: at work when his schedule was a little less stable, 637 00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 1: where he would have to pick up and leave and 638 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,040 Speaker 1: we wouldn't know when he would be home. I mean 639 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: it could be a week, it could be two weeks, 640 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,120 Speaker 1: and there were stories where he was gone for two weeks. 641 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,960 Speaker 1: And I always understood that comes with the job. There 642 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 1: was never the oh my god, I'm so mad you're 643 00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:57,160 Speaker 1: going again and this sucks and huge fights. No, it's 644 00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,719 Speaker 1: part of the job, and I get that being in 645 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:02,520 Speaker 1: the industry, even though it's so different, right, entertainment of 646 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: news are not similar in the slightest way. But I 647 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,640 Speaker 1: get his schedule and he gets my schedule, and it's 648 00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 1: nice that we don't have the pressure of making one 649 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:15,480 Speaker 1: another feel badly when work comes up, because it often does. 650 00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,360 Speaker 1: We often have to make tentative plans with friends because 651 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,440 Speaker 1: half the time they get canceled because I get assigned 652 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,120 Speaker 1: to a shoot or he gets assigned to a shoot, 653 00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,320 Speaker 1: and we get it. So to have that support is 654 00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,919 Speaker 1: truly incredible, and we're really lucky to have that and 655 00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,279 Speaker 1: be in an industry that we're both on different sides of, 656 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 1: because I think it could get dicey if we were 657 00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,160 Speaker 1: both doing the same thing. That just feels like a 658 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,719 Speaker 1: lot of stress. But we're in totally different lanes, so 659 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:43,839 Speaker 1: I think that's pretty cool. The most difficult thing, hmm, 660 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 1: I would say, I guess if I had to pick one. 661 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:51,080 Speaker 1: And this really isn't even such a big deal, but 662 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,680 Speaker 1: socially sometimes you know, like we don't always get to 663 00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:59,400 Speaker 1: make every birthday party or wedding or celebration that we 664 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 1: want to go to because either him or myself or 665 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,040 Speaker 1: both of us are working. So I think we do 666 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,719 Speaker 1: have to make sacrifices doing the work that we do. 667 00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,040 Speaker 1: But we always try our very best and we always 668 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,799 Speaker 1: show up and we always, you know, make sure we're 669 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,200 Speaker 1: communicating with our friends and family, but there are times 670 00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 1: when we can't do the things we always want to do. 671 00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,160 Speaker 1: A lot of holidays, get worked, you know, that sort 672 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,839 Speaker 1: of thing. So I would say that, but the good 673 00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 1: outweighs the bad. 674 00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 2: All right, we're staying in the realm of well, I'm 675 00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 2: gonna end up cutting that all right. Next question comes 676 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 2: from modern day fairly, When did you come out? 677 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:45,000 Speaker 1: Wow, I was not expecting that. I came out my 678 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,440 Speaker 1: senior year of college as I was graduating, so I 679 00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 1: guess I was what twenty two ish, which it's funny 680 00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,279 Speaker 1: in today's day and age. Some people would hear that 681 00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,160 Speaker 1: and say that's so late, you know, because people are 682 00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,759 Speaker 1: coming out really young, which is amazing and I love that. 683 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:02,560 Speaker 1: But for me, it was a bit of a journey 684 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:06,640 Speaker 1: of having to accept it for myself. And it was 685 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,080 Speaker 1: my senior year of college when I started telling family 686 00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:13,880 Speaker 1: and friends. But it was a process for me. I 687 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,000 Speaker 1: had to I had to learn how to love myself 688 00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:23,080 Speaker 1: as a gay man, which took some time. Okay, we have. 689 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:31,760 Speaker 2: Two more here. Tommy mcconnlin at mcconnlin Underscore Drawings wants 690 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,400 Speaker 2: a detailed day in the life of Tommy Tadario. 691 00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:39,239 Speaker 1: Oh gosh, that is a tough one. I have to 692 00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:41,600 Speaker 1: be super honest with you. By nature of what I 693 00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 1: do for work, every day is so different. This might 694 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:47,719 Speaker 1: actually be fascinating for you to hear. No, two days 695 00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:50,080 Speaker 1: are the same. So that's why in the mornings, like 696 00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:54,160 Speaker 1: I said earlier, I keep my schedule tight, like wake up, eat, workout, 697 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,719 Speaker 1: and then every day is different. If I'm working a 698 00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,600 Speaker 1: red carpet, that's a different day than if I'm working 699 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,000 Speaker 1: a one on one interview with somebody, and that's a 700 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,919 Speaker 1: different day than if I'm working a junket, which means 701 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,120 Speaker 1: I'm sitting down with six people at once and talking 702 00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:12,960 Speaker 1: to the cast of a project, or it's different than 703 00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:15,840 Speaker 1: working a shoot in the field. I was on Rachel 704 00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,759 Speaker 1: Ray for five six years. The show's not coming back 705 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,239 Speaker 1: in the fall, but those shoots were always different. I 706 00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,800 Speaker 1: was going to profile a lot of amazing, inspiring people 707 00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:29,799 Speaker 1: and going to their hometowns to interview them, doing health 708 00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,520 Speaker 1: and wellness segments, by checking out the latest craze and 709 00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,640 Speaker 1: filming it and walking you through what that is. So 710 00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,879 Speaker 1: every day is so totally unpredictable and so different, which 711 00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,359 Speaker 1: is why it's so hard to sometimes make plans going 712 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,200 Speaker 1: back to that, but it's I have to be prepared 713 00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,480 Speaker 1: for anything, Like right now, as I'm doing this, I 714 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,600 Speaker 1: could get a phone call saying, Tommy, you're assigned a 715 00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,760 Speaker 1: carpet tonight, and I have to just make it all happen. 716 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:54,560 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people don't realize. You 717 00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,960 Speaker 1: don't just show up and you're on camera and that's it. 718 00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:00,200 Speaker 1: You need to watch the project, You need to work 719 00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,840 Speaker 1: with your producers on the questions. You need to research 720 00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:06,040 Speaker 1: who you're talking to, and if you're doing a big event, 721 00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:10,759 Speaker 1: I sometimes talk to fifty different celebrities at one time 722 00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 1: in two hours, so that's fifty different people I need 723 00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,840 Speaker 1: to research and take notes on and be prepared to 724 00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,440 Speaker 1: learn and pivot and talk about anything that might come 725 00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:22,920 Speaker 1: up aside from the questions that I've already kind of 726 00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:26,640 Speaker 1: pre planned. So the amount of preparation is not what 727 00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,439 Speaker 1: gets talked about quite often, but I would say that's 728 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,680 Speaker 1: the majority of my day is preparing for the ten 729 00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,600 Speaker 1: minute interview, the three minute interview, the two minute and 730 00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,799 Speaker 1: forty second interview that I do later on that night. 731 00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,000 Speaker 1: So it's a lot of prep work mixed with actual shooting. 732 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:47,440 Speaker 2: All right, One last question, what are your favorite quotes 733 00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,759 Speaker 2: you give to other people for inspiration? 734 00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,799 Speaker 1: Oh? I love a good quote. I'm such a quote guy. 735 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:57,359 Speaker 1: I'm going to give you. I'll give you three. These 736 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:01,080 Speaker 1: are my three, my three favorite. First one is I 737 00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,360 Speaker 1: rather have a life of oh wells than a life 738 00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:08,560 Speaker 1: of what ifs? Think about that? I love that one. 739 00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:16,040 Speaker 1: A second favorite quote of mine, and I think Mark 740 00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,640 Speaker 1: Twain said this, Although I could be wrong, there's a 741 00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:21,720 Speaker 1: reason why God gave us two ears and one mouth. 742 00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:26,040 Speaker 1: I love that quote. And for all those wondering what 743 00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,120 Speaker 1: that means, it means let's listen and stop talking. As 744 00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 1: much as we do, we need to listen to each other. 745 00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 1: I think that's so important in this day and age. 746 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:42,040 Speaker 1: And a third quote I'm gonna go with, comparison is 747 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,160 Speaker 1: the thief to joy. It's one of my go tos. 748 00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:46,840 Speaker 1: I think it's in this day and age of social media, 749 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,840 Speaker 1: we can all be guilty of comparing ourselves. And the 750 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,239 Speaker 1: minute you do that, the minute you suck the joy 751 00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,319 Speaker 1: out of your life. So we have to try to 752 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:59,239 Speaker 1: not do that. Please don't compare yourself well. 753 00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,320 Speaker 2: Speaking of Harrison, I lied, there is a bonus question 754 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:06,160 Speaker 2: here if you if you want to answer. Oh, obviously, 755 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,040 Speaker 2: when we put the CTA up for everybody, we did 756 00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:12,759 Speaker 2: get a lot of questions about foot size. Do you 757 00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:15,000 Speaker 2: want to reveal that or should we save that for 758 00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:15,640 Speaker 2: only fans? 759 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,400 Speaker 1: For my I'm announcing my only fans said, I'm just 760 00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,800 Speaker 1: kidding my foot size. Yes, I heard there were a 761 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,080 Speaker 1: lot of questions about that for whatever reason. And you 762 00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,000 Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna give it to you. It's an eleven. 763 00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,840 Speaker 1: I am a solid eleven. That is my foot size. 764 00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:31,840 Speaker 1: No one needs to wonder anymore. 765 00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,080 Speaker 2: There, it is all right. Well the mail bag is empty, Tommy. 766 00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:37,600 Speaker 1: So all right, Mike, this was fun. This was a 767 00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,759 Speaker 1: bit weird for me that the tables were turned. But uh, 768 00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:41,640 Speaker 1: how'd I do? 769 00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,000 Speaker 2: I think you handled it? Handled it all with grace. 770 00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,000 Speaker 2: You know, there was a there was a lot of 771 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:50,200 Speaker 2: substance here, and I think that the audience now has 772 00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:54,680 Speaker 2: a much better understanding of who you are. You know, obviously, 773 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,440 Speaker 2: there's we stuck to a lot of the topics that 774 00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:02,640 Speaker 2: people seem to like, you know, sex, work, and I 775 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:07,080 Speaker 2: think that you know, that's all very endearing stuff to 776 00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:07,920 Speaker 2: everyday people. 777 00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:11,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. This this was fun. I don't often 778 00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,280 Speaker 1: open up a lot about myself when I'm interviewing people 779 00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:16,160 Speaker 1: because I want to make sure I get as much 780 00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:18,480 Speaker 1: out of the interviews as I can, and of course 781 00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,719 Speaker 1: I add some things here and there. But to have 782 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:24,760 Speaker 1: a full half hour plus of this was a little strange. 783 00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,320 Speaker 1: I might need a drink after this, all right, guys, 784 00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:29,799 Speaker 1: I had so much fun today. If you have any 785 00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:33,640 Speaker 1: questions you want to submit for another ask Tommy's segment, 786 00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:36,320 Speaker 1: you can follow me on my social at Tommy Diderio. 787 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,279 Speaker 1: You can leave some comments in my posts. I will 788 00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:42,440 Speaker 1: do another post asking for your questions. I look forward 789 00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,920 Speaker 1: to answering some. I think I did all right today, 790 00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,759 Speaker 1: so I'm ready for another one down the future. But 791 00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,080 Speaker 1: in the meantime, we have great new episodes coming with 792 00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:52,880 Speaker 1: some more of your favorite artists. So look out for 793 00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:56,799 Speaker 1: that episode drop every Tuesday, and be sure to subscribe 794 00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:00,000 Speaker 1: to the show so you never miss an episode. Super important. 795 00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,720 Speaker 1: Hit that subscribe button and I look forward to bringing 796 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:08,400 Speaker 1: you more episodes soon. I've never said this before. Is 797 00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:12,359 Speaker 1: hosted by me Tommy Didario. This podcast is produced and 798 00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:16,680 Speaker 1: edited by Mike Coscarelli, and executive producers are Andrew Piglisi 799 00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:20,480 Speaker 1: and Katrino Norvel at iHeartRadio. I've Never Said This Before 800 00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:24,279 Speaker 1: is part of the Elvis Durant podcast Network on iHeart Podcasts. 801 00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,719 Speaker 1: For more rate, review and subscribe to our show and 802 00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:31,319 Speaker 1: if you liked this episode, tell your friends. Until next time, 803 00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:32,560 Speaker 1: I'm Tommy Dederio.