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Speaker 1: I guess the thing about having different godparents is that,

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Speaker 1: like I got a better godmother than my sister. Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, not to suot a bad person, but the

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Speaker 1: Saints at Aunt is my godmother. Yeah. My sister's godmother

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Speaker 1: is kind of a distant friend of my mom's that

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Speaker 1: was close at the time. My godfather I haven't seen

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Speaker 1: in forty years. Same mine's a deadbeat. Yeah, so I

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Speaker 1: mean I kind of I don't even know who Munchy.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what Amanda's godfather is.

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Speaker 2: I just sympathize with godparents. You know, it's hard sometimes

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Speaker 2: to be a good godparents.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean to me? Like, what do you

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Speaker 1: expect from us? How many of your how many of

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Speaker 1: your nieces and nephews are you godmother too?

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Speaker 2: One technically but really all of them their parents don't

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Speaker 2: have friends. But like in the early years when my

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Speaker 2: friends started having kids early out of high school, a

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Speaker 2: lot of them asked me to be the godmother because

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Speaker 2: I was like more stable and it's an honor, right,

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Speaker 2: But then like, as life progresses and people go and

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Speaker 2: move and new relationship develop, what am I supposed to

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Speaker 2: do exactly? Like should I be checking in every week,

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Speaker 2: should I call every month? Like how you know, how

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Speaker 2: do you be a good god parent if you're not

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Speaker 2: directly in contact with the person every single day?

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Speaker 1: Good point. I actually hear that because I'm a godfather

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Speaker 1: to a buddy of mine's son, but he and I

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Speaker 1: are not as close anymore, really, and I think that's

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Speaker 1: because he and his wife don't think I'm a very

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Speaker 1: good godfather. But I also it's it's tough to be

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Speaker 1: engaged with a kid when one you're not really a kid,

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Speaker 1: a little kid guy like now a little kid lover

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Speaker 1: if he show I like kids, I know, little kid lover,

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Speaker 1: but like when he was really little, I didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know what to do with him. Same with Polly.

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Speaker 1: And now she's at the edge where she's basically body

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Speaker 1: trained and can talk and tell me what hurts, and

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Speaker 1: so I can do stuff with her. But between the

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Speaker 1: ages of this boy coming like I don't know that

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Speaker 1: age and now I don't know. I don't really talk

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Speaker 1: to his parents and so I and again it's like

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Speaker 1: it's like a circular thing, like, well, I don't think

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Speaker 1: he's very engaged with the kid, and so we don't

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Speaker 1: like him for that it's like, but I can't engage

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Speaker 1: with your kid unless you let me engage with your kid.

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Speaker 1: Plus you also picked a guy to be the godfather

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Speaker 1: who doesn't know anything about kids, right, So like, come on,

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Speaker 1: you gotta help me out here a little bit, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it just I don't know, it's such a

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Speaker 2: weird thing sometimes, and I don't know, I don't want

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Speaker 2: to be anybody's godmother anymore, feel like I'm a loser.

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Speaker 1: It's an honor. It's like I'm truly honored in all cases.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, my sister makes it easier because she

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Speaker 1: invites me into her home and sort of sometimes and

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Speaker 1: you know, let's be like play with her and tells

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Speaker 1: me what she wants for holidays. And you know, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know she helps me engage because she she knows

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Speaker 1: more than I do.

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Speaker 2: And she's your sister, so you're gonna talk to her

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Speaker 2: no matter what the relationship is natural. But when you

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Speaker 2: aren't like someone's friend or you know, like, for instance,

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Speaker 2: let me just be honest, my ex, his sister, Me

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Speaker 2: and her were really close when we were together. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and she had a daughter and she I was so

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Speaker 2: honored to be this baby's godmother. But then when me

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Speaker 2: and him fell out, of course I'm distancing from the family, right,

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Speaker 2: So then it's like, how do you engage and keep

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Speaker 2: the relationship going with the guy kid without it being

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Speaker 2: weird for everybody? So it's just tough.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's like, if I'm not talking to you

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Speaker 1: that often, I don't see you very often. I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to go knock on your door and say, can

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Speaker 1: I take your kid for ice cream? Yeah, well one

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Speaker 1: of them is my aunt, so she should be better, said.

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Speaker 1: The other one didn't talk to me since I was

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Speaker 1: a baby, So you know, as long as you're not

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Speaker 1: doing that well, But the next thing is is tough

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Speaker 1: and yeah, so.

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Speaker 2: Your the god parent. Is she still close with your

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Speaker 2: mom right now? I mean, but like we're in the

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Speaker 2: same room a lot.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it's okay, it's.

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Speaker 2: Awkward, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, Well, it's also not a father or an uncle.

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Speaker 1: It's a spiritual title, correct, So you make of it

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Speaker 1: what you're going to make of it, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean. Like, I don't think there's a definition of

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Speaker 1: what you're supposed to do. It's probably more than some

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Speaker 1: of our godparents to have done.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I just take any kind of duty

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Speaker 2: like that very seriously. But I wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if it's an ex how the hell are you?

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Speaker 2: What am I supposed to do?

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Speaker 1: There should be there should be a church should get

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Speaker 1: up on this, like this business like replacing your godparents.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You're like foster godparents, Like

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Speaker 1: you want to reassign your godparents. Like you don't talk

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Speaker 1: to some of these people anymore, like a kid, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Even pay for stuff, like hey, yeah right,