1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with beck at Tilly and Tanya Brad and 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: I heart Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast. That's right, 3 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: that is right. We are a People's Choice Award winning podcast. Um. Hello, 4 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: everybody welcome. Um. You might hear a male chuckle. Um. 5 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: That is Blake. Hello, Horman, very easy, Hi, Hi, Um Blake. 6 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: You were such a fan favorite when I was doing 7 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: jury duty. You filled in for me and everybody was 8 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: obsessed with you. So I'm very excited to have you back. 9 00:00:49,479 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: I'm excited. No, that was that was really fun last time. 10 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: I'm super excited. I'm super excited to be back. Well, 11 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 1: I'm very happy I was not there. I was. It 12 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 1: was Sands, sands me and and I got that's like 13 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: my word of the week, by the way, I've been 14 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 1: using sands and whilst I actually think it's songs because 15 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 1: you're saying the beach, it was songs me. Um. But 16 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 1: we got a lot of reaction about you and how 17 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: you might be my soul mate whatever. Laugh after Well, 18 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: because what's it's sweet? Because um, I do think you're 19 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: a nice a really nice guy. So I am actually 20 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: I think it's nice that people. Um, but it's just 21 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: funny because so then we like did some digging when 22 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: I came back next week and we looked into your 23 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: zodiac sign and you are my perfect zodiac So what 24 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: does that mean? Like so certain signs like line up. Yes, 25 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: so I'm like very into I'm a cancer and cancer 26 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: are really good with Taurists and Capricorn and Leo. Those 27 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: are like my three like main signs. So then just 28 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: like for funzies, I was like, let's find out his 29 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: sign because all the comments we were getting were like 30 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: Blake's amazing, he should take Tan, like what's his sign? 31 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: And then we're like, oh my gosh, she's a Taurist 32 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:25,679 Speaker 1: and here you are and here we are in Napa, 33 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,959 Speaker 1: and um, I'm very happy to have you here. Yeah, 34 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: it's gonna be fun. You're flirting with Blake. Would be 35 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: going so much better if your teeth weren't too We 36 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:40,359 Speaker 1: have the worst. I have bad mouth so much. I've 37 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 1: been drinking today. Yeah, it's pretty rough because she keeps 38 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: smiling at Blake flirting with him, and I'm just like, 39 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: your teeth are pur purple. It happens. Sorry, thank you 40 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: so much. Take me for what I have taken me 41 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: for all that I am. Yeah, um, so I feel 42 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: like got to know you a little bit last time. 43 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: But let's dig a little deeper do it. So you 44 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: live in Denver full time? I do live in Denver. Yeah. 45 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: I grew up in the mountains, but live in Denver 46 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: now and happily. Yeah. Yeah, so I bought a place 47 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: but three years ago, so downtown Denver. Yeah. I love 48 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:16,359 Speaker 1: it out there. And you still do your job that 49 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:19,080 Speaker 1: you did before you were on the batchelort. So no, actually, 50 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: I just quit my job last week. I was a 51 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:28,800 Speaker 1: big to do what s Yeah, I just I couldn't. 52 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: It was just so much I felt like I was 53 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 1: doing you know, I couldn't do my job right because 54 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: I was traveling so much. I just felt like I 55 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 1: wasn't my head wasn't in it. So I felt like 56 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: I was not only was it hurting me, but it 57 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: was hurting like my customers. So I was like, finally 58 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: I had to step away. I just felt like I 59 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: couldn't do both anymore. I would be embarrassed, except I 60 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 1: think you're going on paradise, so it's less embarrassing. It's 61 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: like okay, well, and that's the other thing, Like, let's 62 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: say I do end up going on paradise. I'll be 63 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: gone from whatever four to five weeks again. And my 64 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: boss is like, really, I don't think I couldn't even 65 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: do that with my job. No exactly. It's it's really hard. 66 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 1: It just became it wasn't worth it the opportunity cost 67 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: with my job and then this, it just wasn't worth it. 68 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: So I took the leap. Terrifying, really terrifying, but I'm 69 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: excited to what do your parents say to that? So 70 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: they were really against it at first, but they've seen 71 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: the last couple of months like how much like I 72 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: will fly out Friday after work, come back Monday from 73 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,479 Speaker 1: the airport, goes straight to work. So they've seen that 74 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 1: it's really taking a toll on They're like slow down, Like, yeah, 75 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:30,039 Speaker 1: so does that in Denver or are you moving to 76 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: l A? Um? I mean I'm still in Denver, Still 77 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: in Denver. A little glance. I've been very notorious about 78 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: like trying to date guys that don't live in l A. 79 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 1: It's like my thing. It's like a little bit of 80 00:04:46,520 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: a wall that I put up because I'm like, maybe 81 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: if they don't live in l A, they can't hurt 82 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:51,039 Speaker 1: me as bad. Do you know what I mean? No, 83 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 1: I do. Yeah, and the plan is still the state 84 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: in Denver right now. I don't know what's going to 85 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: happen in the future, but yeah, okay, Tanya, how do 86 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,479 Speaker 1: you feel about Blake going on Paradise? You know, it 87 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: really hurts my heart because I feel like you're not 88 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:05,599 Speaker 1: in this, Like I feel like you're not in this 89 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: with me. It's like a one side of relationship. You 90 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 1: got like two tweets about it, dude, So I don't 91 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,239 Speaker 1: know why you gotta hurt. Yeah, it's gonna the Facebook 92 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: group is really going to take a turn. Well it's 93 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:25,039 Speaker 1: fine because I have Zachar Levi right now, so yeah, 94 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: and the dude from the Residents. So you're like, now 95 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:34,119 Speaker 1: he's married with child a second and I'm so sorry 96 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: did not know that. Yeah. So another reason why I 97 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: love our Facebook group is I like, I'll briefly mention 98 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: like my semi interest in somebody and they will go 99 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: inspector gadget on it and like find everything out. So 100 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: now I've I know it's the best. Can I just 101 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: tell you that? Like it's such a it's so crazy 102 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: because like even so Janna did her podcast live last 103 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: week and we had some scrubbing listeners that came in 104 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: and came to her live podcast. They came up to 105 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: me and they're like, it's so crazy because I genuinely 106 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,360 Speaker 1: pray for you to meet your husband and I cannot 107 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: wait for that day when you And it's like it's 108 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 1: so crazy that I'm like living life with people, you know, 109 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: and it's like this really interesting and intense connection that 110 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: is cool and people in the Facebook. Yeah, it's a 111 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: very and it's loyal, like we're very like we were 112 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: the least famous people, like when we joke about this 113 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:32,359 Speaker 1: People's Choice Award, but like genuinely, the fact that we 114 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: want it is insane. We were the least famous people 115 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: in the entire crop. And yeah, and the fact that 116 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: we wanted is just like insane, you know. And it's 117 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: like I truly feel like these people that listen to 118 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 1: the podcast and we're all doing life together and it's 119 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,799 Speaker 1: like so crazy. Like I was literally moved to tears 120 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: because when someone says, when someone genuinely comes up to 121 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: you and says they're praying for you and your husband, 122 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: it's like it's genuinely. That's a key word. Yeah, because 123 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:01,720 Speaker 1: some people might just say it, but you can feel 124 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: it when people really mean it for sure. So um, 125 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: I mean I joke about it, but it's like it's 126 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: it's it's really real and it's like, so yeah, it's 127 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: really sweet. So um. Shout out to the Facebook group 128 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: scrubbing in Facebook. Shout out to the Facebook the scrubbing 129 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: in Facebook group. I'm a little tipsy, I'm not. I 130 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:28,119 Speaker 1: don't think I've ever done the podcast whilst drinking. But cheers. Okay, 131 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: so let's cheers. Um, we're excited and we have um, 132 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: we have see conversation Joanna Kramer and Michael Cosson. We're 133 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: here because I'd like to use last names please. Some 134 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: scrubbing in people might not know Michael Cosson, not Michael Kramer. Okay, 135 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: so that's actually interesting. Why did you guys? Why are 136 00:07:56,480 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: you legally I'm legally Cosson, but I go by Cramer, 137 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: but I professionally, professionally, I have to say Cramer. I 138 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: can't change it to like Cosson girl, like you know, 139 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: Cramer girl in my hand coson. Um, true, but you 140 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 1: know that would be too hard to change it to Cramer. 141 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, it's So his last name drives me 142 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: insane because I hate it more than anything because it's 143 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: so no. But everybody messes it up. So I'll say 144 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 1: cosson c A U S S as in Sam I am. 145 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: They're like, thank you, Jannah Coffin, and I'm like, I 146 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 1: just felt it out for you. It actually said the 147 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: S s is and you still say coffin Like that 148 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: drives me literally feeling because it happens all the time, 149 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: Like I literally spell it out for you literally as 150 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: in Sam literal after even after you say the S 151 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: S and Sam either that or that's yeah either rather 152 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,599 Speaker 1: people put an L like adonil in there behind the 153 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: scenes are like, oh class and got it. I'm so 154 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: we just go by Creamer so every time we go 155 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: to a hotel, you know, because it's just easier because 156 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: every time every time I do it, and so everyone's like, 157 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: good morning, Mr Kramer, what would you like? And he 158 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,719 Speaker 1: just hates it. At this point in our relationship, I'm 159 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 1: just like, yeah, whatever, but time is on our baby 160 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 1: man for Jolie, Yeah, staying a montage and Laguna, oh 161 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: great spots, gorgeous and so we were under Cramer and Jane, 162 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 1: can you give me crap about my last name and 163 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: everyone's saying it wrong. They greet us and like, hey 164 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: hello Mr and Mrs Cremeer. That's our history. Never in 165 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: the history has someone messed up Kramer. And I was like, 166 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: I do not like you, sir. Okay, So I know 167 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: that a lot of our scrubbing and listeners also listen 168 00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: to your podcast as well. There is a lot of crossover, 169 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: which I love. Yes, yes, but for the people that 170 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: don't crossover, give us a little bit of like the 171 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: specks of your relationships. So I've never heard this, I 172 00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: have never heard that. I want to hear this. Yeah, 173 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,120 Speaker 1: So like I want to know the like how long 174 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: you guys dated before he got married? And gave me 175 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 1: just the cliff notes version, because then we're going to 176 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 1: do a deep dive. Okay, go ahead, cliff notes. You're 177 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:12,200 Speaker 1: really good at this. Cliff Uh. We met on Twitter, 178 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: I saw each other in person for four days later, 179 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: I flew out to a show, Um, I said I 180 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: love you. After ten days, moved in together, got married, 181 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: I bought a house, had a kid, all within the 182 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,439 Speaker 1: first twelve months of meeting each other. Yes, that's how 183 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: we roll. I had no idea I know a little bit. Yeah, 184 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: I think that's how it's gonna be for me too. 185 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be yeah. And then uh, yeah, 186 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: so how did this twitter thing? What had what happened there? 187 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:47,559 Speaker 1: He favored it? A few of my things into my 188 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 1: m and then the rest was history. But yeah, and 189 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: we've just had a great marriage, super smooth, super smooth ride. No. 190 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: But I think the thing so it was fun because 191 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:02,560 Speaker 1: I got to be your podcast. But I think the 192 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: thing that's so so interesting about you guys as a 193 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 1: couple is a lot of people like to put on 194 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: the oh we're married and everything's great, and like look 195 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: at us and this is like the easiest thing. But 196 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: you guys are super real about marriage. And when we 197 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: were uh, when we got off the airplane and we 198 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: got on this bus to come here, I was like, oh, 199 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: let's all play some like learning game or like let's 200 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: like learn about you know, super like Tanya Soorty girls, like, 201 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 1: let's play a game. And you I asked you guys, 202 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: I said, what's the hardest thing about being married? And 203 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,200 Speaker 1: I want you guys to share that because I think 204 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 1: a lot of our listeners are married. They're either super 205 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: married or super single. I guess that's how everybody. First 206 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: of all, First of all, it's funny about where you 207 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:47,240 Speaker 1: lead with though, is at the beginning of our marriage 208 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: we totally were that couple that kind of like Michael said, 209 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: he goes, oh my gosh, I wonder what we're going 210 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:57,319 Speaker 1: to fight about, because we were used to say that 211 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:01,320 Speaker 1: because we were so like annoying any perfect Yeah, We're like, 212 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:03,959 Speaker 1: what we ever fight about? When did you hit the fan? 213 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: Like when did you have your first fight? When an 214 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:10,559 Speaker 1: Instagram girl hit me up and said that, um, I've 215 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:14,040 Speaker 1: been sleeping with your husband with your boyfriend and how 216 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: long was that into your relationships? Like two much the 217 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: flight gate but she asked that was our first fight? 218 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: So two months in? Yeah, two months in okay, And 219 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:28,840 Speaker 1: she's like, I happened to be a fan and I 220 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: saw you with like you announced that he's your boyfriend 221 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:34,679 Speaker 1: and I've been with him recently. I was like, oh, 222 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: thanks chica, And then we got into a fight and 223 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:43,720 Speaker 1: block so yeah, yeah, I'll never forget that morning that 224 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: was We're in Baltimore and then I then I went 225 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: to a hotel in Baltimore and like bald mas out like, 226 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:51,439 Speaker 1: you know, like a movie. So that was our first fight. 227 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: I see you scratching over there, but I'm just gonna 228 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: gonna take this away. What was the truth to that myself? 229 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: What do you mean was the girl? Was the girl? 230 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:04,240 Speaker 1: Was the girl that dan? Was it true? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah, 231 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:07,079 Speaker 1: that was the truth. And little than I know, she 232 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: knew that we were dating before we even Oh really, yeah, 233 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:17,240 Speaker 1: when did you find that out? I thought you told 234 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: me huh huh. Yeah, I'm pretty sure after all that 235 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 1: like found that out. She had no idea. She told 236 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: me she had no idea. She told me she had 237 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: no idea. S liar. Well, let's not go into the past. Okay, 238 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 1: another another reason why, But it's it's it's super real. 239 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:47,719 Speaker 1: I think it's refreshing. It's clearly refreshing that you guys 240 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 1: don't act like you don't have any problems in everything. 241 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: Commitment is hard, Like I think a lot of people 242 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: are like, oh, you know, just like you get married 243 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 1: in your life's just like hunky dory. But it's like 244 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 1: you really have to work on your marriage daily. And 245 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 1: it's funny because I'm at that point where I'm like, 246 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 1: I'm super single. So when I wake up in the morning. 247 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:07,679 Speaker 1: I like, I get to do what I want, when 248 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: I want, how I wanted it. It's Tanya's world and 249 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,560 Speaker 1: it's not going to be like that forever. And it's 250 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: funny because I was talking to Mike earlier and he 251 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: was like, are you that type of person that can 252 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: be smothering? And I was like, very very much so, 253 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: like I can. But that's why, like I have to 254 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: have I know, like I can't be a stay at 255 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: home mom, Like I have to have a job because 256 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: I give all myself to my job. If I didn't, 257 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: I'd be like the worst partner of all time because 258 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 1: I'd be I would be super smothering. So when put 259 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: everything into the lationship instead of the work in relationships, 260 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: put everything into my I remember was dating a girl 261 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: was a while back, and I think she she said 262 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:45,960 Speaker 1: one time she was like, because I believe as well, 263 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 1: I think relationships take work. And I remember this one 264 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 1: girls like, I don't think relationships should take work. I 265 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: think you should be very naturally And I was like 266 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 1: a big turn, yeah, And I was like, really, like, 267 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: you don't like you have to put a ton of 268 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: working relationship, you know, it should come easy and like 269 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: that's yeah, it's illusional, Like yeah, it's dream Yeah. But 270 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: I think the thing that you guys, and we've talked 271 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: about this on our podcast before, is love languages. And 272 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: the fact that you guys took the love language test 273 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: and like try to speak each other's love language to 274 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 1: each other is a huge thing because for me, I 275 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 1: was in a relationship for like four years and the 276 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: two of us had completely different love languages, and we 277 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: would try to show each other love the way we 278 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 1: accept but the way yeah, but it was not the 279 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: way that we wanted to receive it. And so we 280 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 1: were just like completely being like, but I'm showing you, 281 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,280 Speaker 1: but but we weren't seeing either. What is yours? I 282 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 1: know she's courting you right now, So I'm curious what 283 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: you are? No, I am physical touch and um talk 284 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 1: to you number one? Yeah, physical touch number one? In time? 285 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 1: What's years again? Uh? Mine is acts of service? And 286 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: then physical touches my second. Because I think I realized 287 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 1: I'm constantly talking all day and I'm constant engaging with people. 288 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 1: When I get home at night, I just want to 289 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: like touch somebody, and it's like not talk makes sense? 290 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 1: What's uh? What was I gonna say, oh, sorry, I 291 00:16:08,200 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 1: got distracted by I don't actually I kind of got 292 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:19,520 Speaker 1: distracted by my wife's beauty. Just that. Wow, there's there's 293 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 1: a real lesson. Do you feel like this is our future? 294 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 1: Do you feel like we're in our future? But the 295 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: good thing about love languages on a serious note, is 296 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: if people don't know what they are, that's a good 297 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 1: beginner lesson in communication, right to learn how to talk 298 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 1: to your partner and to learn them. So it's like, 299 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 1: if you guys find an issue with communicating, figure out 300 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 1: your love languages and start there. That's a great starting 301 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 1: point to really know each other and know how to communicate. 302 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 1: And like you said, Tanya, like understand how your partner 303 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: receives love as opposed to how you receive love. Yeah. Yeah, honey, Yeah, 304 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: you're so beautiful. God, here we go, Here we go. 305 00:16:57,680 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 1: We're going to do a little bit on like the 306 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 1: men since we have to in here. This is like 307 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 1: a really hot commodity. Yeah you guys, like wow, because 308 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 1: like a lot of a lot of girls have just 309 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: always want to know Like, Okay, so when you and 310 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 1: Janna started dating, um, is it turn off if a 311 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:26,439 Speaker 1: girl is like pursuing you, Mike says, I love it. No, Tiny, 312 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: that's awesome for you because you like you are more aggressive. Yes, 313 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: it's it's great news for me. This is good, but 314 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: it's good to know it's not working with Blake guy. 315 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 1: Let me rephrase that though, a guy who's who wants 316 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 1: to be in a relationship, or a guy who's willing 317 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 1: to be Yeah, who's willing to be in a relationship. 318 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 1: A guy who just wants to mess around, Yes, likes 319 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 1: that chase and and that I'm kind of like, no, 320 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: I don't like well easy, But a guy who's ready 321 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 1: to have something. We'll enjoy that because it's refreshing, because 322 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 1: guys are used to pursuing, so just to have that, 323 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 1: it's like it's a it's a it's a confidence thing. 324 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,160 Speaker 1: It's just like wow, like that that person, that woman 325 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:09,240 Speaker 1: is really sure of herself, and it's it's intriguing at 326 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: that point. And then also too because if not like 327 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: they're going to be going for just the you know, 328 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:18,920 Speaker 1: the younger girls that are like like, what's like that, 329 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 1: that's not the girl they're gonna end up with. They 330 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: just want do you think there's like an a quick 331 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: fix as far as when it turns for guys like 332 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:30,040 Speaker 1: how do you wake? You think that's what I mean? 333 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:37,760 Speaker 1: Just helping. I'm just helping blakes, all right, baby. Um No, 334 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:41,119 Speaker 1: I think it's people are different. Guys are different. I 335 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:44,480 Speaker 1: will say, just in a general standpoint, not until the 336 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 1: late twenties. I think, like even twenty seven is early, 337 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:51,919 Speaker 1: like eight nine. I think maybe most guys are starting 338 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 1: to be in that realm um. But still there's there's 339 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: still guys that I've known, guys that got married right 340 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 1: out of college still and still married, still married, and 341 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,400 Speaker 1: have to Charlie and Shelley, they got their high school 342 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:04,719 Speaker 1: sweet you know, they're the best um friends of mine 343 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:07,199 Speaker 1: from college. High school sweethearts, got married right after college 344 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: and have beautiful kids. So do you guys have married? Uh? 345 00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: Like married couples that you lean on in terms of 346 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:17,919 Speaker 1: like mentors or people that you go to for advice 347 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: when you have issues in your relationship. Go ahead and 348 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,760 Speaker 1: say you're bit about this. Oh okay, that's the bit 349 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 1: that I like about Okay friends. So in the very beginning, 350 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:30,399 Speaker 1: a lot of our friends they've been married for a 351 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:33,359 Speaker 1: lot longer than we have. And I will say this too, 352 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:35,920 Speaker 1: I've looked at their relationships and been like, man, they're 353 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 1: so perfect. They don't fight, Like that's the kind of 354 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: relationship I want. Like, oh, you know, now, I will 355 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 1: say side note, I love our relationship and I'm so 356 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: happy that it's this way because I know he's good, bad, 357 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:49,439 Speaker 1: ugly and all those sides. But it's funny now is 358 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: that the friends that we would go to are not 359 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 1: coming to us to ask us like, hey, so, how 360 00:19:58,119 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 1: did you get like Mike to do therapy or how 361 00:19:59,840 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 1: to you know? Or what have you guys learned through 362 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:04,239 Speaker 1: this or can you you know? It's like wow, Like 363 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,080 Speaker 1: the friends that kind of thought we were a lost 364 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:09,080 Speaker 1: cause are not coming to us, which is like the coolest, 365 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 1: almost like an affirmation for us to be like, hey, 366 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 1: they actually see us working on it, and they see 367 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:17,879 Speaker 1: that our relationship now is stronger probably than their relationship 368 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: is because we're willing to address those difficult conversations and 369 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:26,080 Speaker 1: topics where I like the say topics by the way, 370 00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: kind of thanks. Sorry, I just think it's cute every 371 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: time you say topics relationships are so great because they 372 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 1: don't make fun of you. I'm sorry, I know, I 373 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:36,679 Speaker 1: just think it's cute. No, I like, I think you 374 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: guys are really like a really strong couple, and I 375 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 1: really mean it, even though I was just like crying 376 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:47,239 Speaker 1: in the room like twenty minutes ago. Why why were 377 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: you crying? We won't go there there? Wait, what's going on? 378 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 1: Because I'm like, I think, I'm like, no, I know, 379 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,280 Speaker 1: I'm just saying maybe period. Maybe I don't mind too. 380 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:07,360 Speaker 1: Why don't you use a little look you showed me 381 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: I'm not because well I'm not yet, but maybe maybe, 382 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: like it could be maybe coming soon. I don't know. 383 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,959 Speaker 1: Why were you crying? You're gonna make fun of me, 384 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna feel like, I don't know, I feel stupid. 385 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: Tell me, don't feel stupid. This No, this is actually 386 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 1: a great This is actually really good like learning point honey. Sorry, 387 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:37,440 Speaker 1: it's still stupid because it's stupid. Okay, if you've if 388 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:41,640 Speaker 1: you heard the things I cried about, you'd be like, girl, no, 389 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: it's just stupid. Long story short. Though you miss your kids, 390 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 1: well I wish, of course I miss making No, it's 391 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: so stupid. When we got back to the room, I 392 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,440 Speaker 1: had asked Mike to like have excellent and he basically 393 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 1: said no, which is a trigger for me. Because right right, 394 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:03,639 Speaker 1: I don't feel like chosen. And then when I came downstairs, 395 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:05,399 Speaker 1: he was like one on one with you, So I 396 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,480 Speaker 1: got super triggered. And I know that you're a safe place, 397 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 1: but I saw that place, I know, but like I 398 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: saw that and was like, oh, he said no to me. 399 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:14,919 Speaker 1: But then he went down and it's been hanging out 400 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 1: with like one on one with Tania, and so I 401 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 1: got like super triggered. So that's why I know. I know, 402 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:29,400 Speaker 1: and it's stupid because I know that rationally, obviously it's 403 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: not stupid. No, it's no, it's not at all. It's 404 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 1: not stupid, especially honestly knowing what you guys have been 405 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 1: through as a couple. You are far stronger than I 406 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 1: could ever be. So just know that like you have, 407 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,880 Speaker 1: Like I'm blown away by the strength that you have 408 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,119 Speaker 1: in your relationship and just as you're like a woman, 409 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: you have so like you should be so proud of yourselves. Well, 410 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 1: I just feel stupid because I'm like, why keep my 411 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,880 Speaker 1: husband just have a conversation alone with Tanya? And it's 412 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 1: like I was just like, but why am I? Like 413 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:09,879 Speaker 1: that's understandable from a rational standpoint, right, It's easy for 414 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:13,200 Speaker 1: us to be like, no, that's silly. And but again 415 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 1: with our story, with what we've been through, we under 416 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 1: we understand it, and as rationally as as silly as 417 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,800 Speaker 1: it may seem, you know, we're to the place where 418 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,119 Speaker 1: we can acknowledge those things where even me, like, shoot, 419 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:27,840 Speaker 1: six months ago, a year ago, I would have been, 420 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 1: how defensive would I have been? I would have gone, 421 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,760 Speaker 1: I would have been like, what the this is so stupid? 422 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 1: I can't just have a conversation with someone that we're 423 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,919 Speaker 1: friends with, you know. But I understand, I empathize with that. 424 00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:40,959 Speaker 1: I think. I think just the timing from being turned 425 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:45,879 Speaker 1: down then seeing I'm like, oh wow, okay, you know, 426 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 1: and so I get that the combination of that did 427 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 1: not help, you know. So, but again it makes me sad, 428 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 1: like it really hurts me to know that you have 429 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 1: to feel that at all. It does, So don't feel stupid, 430 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,479 Speaker 1: don't feel anything like that. Yeah, you are so not 431 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 1: alone with and I want people to email both give 432 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,640 Speaker 1: out both email dresses. You are not alone that when 433 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 1: you reach out physically want that intimacy with someone, and 434 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 1: for whatever reason, why well he just took an s 435 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 1: h I T and he was like I feel the bathroom. 436 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:28,919 Speaker 1: I was like, like if I want to go to 437 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 1: my if I were to go to my room right now, 438 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: Like I was like, if I were to leave everybody 439 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 1: here and go to my room, I'd be asleep, Like 440 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: I would literally be asleep right now. You are not 441 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,840 Speaker 1: wrong and how you feel when that, how that hurts 442 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 1: you because I relate to that sure much when I'm like, 443 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:49,119 Speaker 1: why doesn't he want me? What's wrong with me? I 444 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,280 Speaker 1: literally relate to you on it, and I'm sure so 445 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:56,440 Speaker 1: many other women honestly, And I think it's what's so crazy. 446 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 1: It's like I think for women when we want that 447 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 1: and we get shut down, it's like it's something it's 448 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 1: so much worse Like for guys. I think the guys 449 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,199 Speaker 1: are like, okay, like whatever, I can handle my business myself, whatever, 450 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 1: you know, for us, it's like so triggering then for you, 451 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 1: I don't even know. I don't even let me ask 452 00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 1: you guys about that though too, from like an obviously 453 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: like Jan has been jaded and subject to my behavior, 454 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:26,639 Speaker 1: but from a standpoint of do women take it more personal? 455 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 1: Because you guys just the expectation is men always want 456 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,960 Speaker 1: to have sex. Yeah, we're light switches you turn us on, 457 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,919 Speaker 1: like you mentioned sex, and we wouldn't jump oh my 458 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:37,360 Speaker 1: god when it's really not like that. Yeah, I would 459 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,159 Speaker 1: literally think, like Blake, if I were to come to 460 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: you tomorrow and be like pathetically pathetically speaking, if it 461 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 1: was like five am and I like rolled over and 462 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 1: I was like, let's go, like, I would expect you 463 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:58,240 Speaker 1: to be like, yeah, that's like right, Like I would 464 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:02,119 Speaker 1: just think that that's just even like our situation aside, 465 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,920 Speaker 1: I would probably expect the same thing, but unfortunately with 466 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 1: our situation and be like, oh, well you don't want 467 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: it with me, but I'm sure you wanted to with 468 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: A B and C. So it's like that's where it's 469 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 1: like like layer right, But I think I would agree 470 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,359 Speaker 1: with the Tanya like that's I think that's how I 471 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,439 Speaker 1: was too with other relationships because it just feels like 472 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: such a personal attack, which is not. And that's where 473 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,479 Speaker 1: you know, Jenna had a conversation upstairs when this happened, 474 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,919 Speaker 1: and I was like, you know, I can be like, hey, 475 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:30,720 Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you for handling that properly, 476 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 1: because two weeks ago, you know, I can see that 477 00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:35,800 Speaker 1: you're working on like you could have blown that out 478 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 1: of proportion both a conversation we had upstairs. So thank you, 479 00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:41,280 Speaker 1: thank you. I haven't talked about because I'm like soaking 480 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:46,200 Speaker 1: this in, Like honestly, it's really refreshing to see a 481 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,400 Speaker 1: communication like this. Relationship is very hard to come by totally, 482 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: and I think that's so that's so like backwards about relationships. 483 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 1: It's like, I think a lot of women and and 484 00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 1: and you guys have gone through a lot in your relationships, 485 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,120 Speaker 1: so I know what you feel is heightened. But what 486 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,280 Speaker 1: you're feeling even right now is like I've felt that 487 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 1: before and I've never I've not had like not how 488 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:11,280 Speaker 1: to deal with the issues that you guys have dealt with. 489 00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:14,480 Speaker 1: So it's like it's super real. And I think there 490 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,560 Speaker 1: is a lot of combativeness in relationships because guys do 491 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,560 Speaker 1: get super would I would have freaked out, Like had 492 00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 1: I been in that situation, would be like now you 493 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,480 Speaker 1: can think I'm gonna go you know right, totally Like 494 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,919 Speaker 1: I would have freaked out, Yeah, totally. It's nice that 495 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 1: you can make and perspective totally, And that's like what 496 00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 1: I think makes a marriage. We have to do a 497 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: quick commercial, but you know what would have been great 498 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,919 Speaker 1: in that situation, I'm really trying to get V I 499 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:46,760 Speaker 1: pooh erwick v I pooh, and maybe that would have 500 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: that would have helped. Oh. Yes, I actually want to 501 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,080 Speaker 1: ask you guys, as a married couple, if you poop 502 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 1: in front of each other? But we leave streaks occasionally 503 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,720 Speaker 1: that we need to do that job. Well, I blame 504 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 1: I blame that on the toilets in l A County 505 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,359 Speaker 1: because they try to conserve water, so the waters all 506 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:10,520 Speaker 1: the way at the bottom, so it's just got a 507 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 1: slide down the side. Un I don't I think that's 508 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:15,920 Speaker 1: like I could never sit in the bathroom like I'm 509 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,320 Speaker 1: very like Michael, I need you out of the room. 510 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 1: So we go to different Yeah, we go to different 511 00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 1: What's interesting is in my past relationships, I've been very 512 00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 1: open about it because I have just lost like breakers, 513 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,920 Speaker 1: I have issues going to the bathroom, like I am constipated. 514 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,080 Speaker 1: I've been very opens. Yeah, I've been opened about it 515 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,480 Speaker 1: on the podcast. And so I'll have to sit on 516 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 1: the toilet for like twenty minutes, so like open the 517 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: door and have conversations. By the way, this is Blake's 518 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: in her Milo Manila, thank you next. That's true. But no, 519 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,840 Speaker 1: but you and Becca singing tone like in the car 520 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 1: when Michael and I were in the car after the 521 00:28:52,360 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: I Heart Awards, thank you, Secrest, thank you. You know. Um, 522 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 1: but I've sworn ever since that relationship. I was like, 523 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,760 Speaker 1: I will not poop in front of my significant other 524 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: ever since. Wait, so have you ever had a significant 525 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,880 Speaker 1: other where you're like just pooping with the door opens? Yeah, 526 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 1: and you're like, wait, are you like having conversation and 527 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, like and like your voice 528 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 1: changes like yeah, and I can't. It's it's it's awkward. 529 00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: When Jolie are three year old, she's learning to poop 530 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 1: on the potty. She sits there and looking straight in 531 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 1: your eyes and you're like, don't look at me, you 532 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 1: don't look at me, don't I can't imagine my wife. 533 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: And then we have to like watch her poop come 534 00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 1: out too. It's like this big rock that comes out. 535 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 1: I mean she just holds it for days, just lets 536 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 1: it all go. It's like a boulder coming out of her. 537 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,440 Speaker 1: Literally imagine that, veg. You're significant other and I'm like, oh, yes, yeah, 538 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:57,600 Speaker 1: that's kind of shut the soft Yeah, welcome to my 539 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 1: life living with Ta again, Blake, thank you next. So 540 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,080 Speaker 1: I really wish that I could just brush my teeth 541 00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:11,320 Speaker 1: because everybody is very close to me right now. Um. 542 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: But something that I like to brush my teeth with, 543 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:18,520 Speaker 1: especially because they're so purple, is my QUIP toothbrush. Isn't 544 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:22,560 Speaker 1: that good? Quip is a better electric toothbrush created by 545 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:26,880 Speaker 1: dentists and designers. Their sensitive sonic vibrations are gentle enough 546 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,080 Speaker 1: on your sensitive gums, which I have, and people brush 547 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: too hard and some electric toothbrushes are too abrasive. So 548 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: I built in two minute time or pulses every thirty 549 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,760 Speaker 1: seconds to remind you when to switch sides and helps 550 00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 1: guide a full and even clean because up to us 551 00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: don't brush our teeth for full two minutes. What was 552 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 1: the old rule you have to sing Happy birthday like yeah, yeah, 553 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: it's like twice all the way through. I didn't have 554 00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: the rights to sing Happy Birthday, so I couldn't do it. Yeah, 555 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 1: it's like a whole thing. But the best part about 556 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:01,200 Speaker 1: Quip is that brush heads are automatically delivered on a 557 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:05,200 Speaker 1: dentist recommended schedule every three months for just five dollars. 558 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,840 Speaker 1: But you don't act like you switch your brusheads more 559 00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 1: than three months. You do not wells, you do not. 560 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:15,360 Speaker 1: My partners are not. I like that better. I just 561 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,720 Speaker 1: break well. You're coming into the podcast a little bit later, 562 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,120 Speaker 1: but I appreciate you being here for this um. 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In the past, 604 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,880 Speaker 1: thank you, Jane, there have been trust issues broken by him. 605 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,320 Speaker 1: Sunday we relate to church and I looked in the 606 00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,120 Speaker 1: backseat to find my son covered head to toe and lipstick. 607 00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 1: Oh no, panicking, I grabbed him in the lipstick to 608 00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:54,640 Speaker 1: try to get him wiped off for a church and 609 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,040 Speaker 1: quickly I realized I have never in my life seeing 610 00:33:57,120 --> 00:34:01,000 Speaker 1: that lipstick. Say something to my husband. Am I being crazy? 611 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 1: The truck we're in is the family's nice vehicle used 612 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,920 Speaker 1: for special occasions only. He doesn't have sisters and his 613 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 1: mother is older and does not wear makeup. Help confront him? Yeah, 614 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:20,800 Speaker 1: confront whoa where did that come from? Worker? Why is 615 00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:25,560 Speaker 1: a coworker in his car? Lots of reasons meetings that 616 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:29,960 Speaker 1: should be a boundary, total boundary. Yeah, coworkers in your 617 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: car one on one? I mean with other people again, 618 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 1: different if it's like Seacrest with you, but I mean 619 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:42,040 Speaker 1: let me, I'll confront him too. I think you have 620 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:46,440 Speaker 1: to sounds a little you know, It's interesting is I 621 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,600 Speaker 1: was just cleaning out my car the other day. You 622 00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:51,560 Speaker 1: left like a little lipstick, like in this little thing 623 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,000 Speaker 1: in my truck because the cat fell off right, But 624 00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,880 Speaker 1: I grabbed it and part of me was like, is 625 00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,800 Speaker 1: she gonna remember that? This is hers? Like I know you, 626 00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,000 Speaker 1: but I had that fear like part of me was 627 00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:05,960 Speaker 1: like and I like, who's the It's yours and I'm 628 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,759 Speaker 1: not in the shape right. Part of me was like, 629 00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,600 Speaker 1: do I just throw this away and avoid this altogether? 630 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:13,200 Speaker 1: But I didn't. I put it like in this little 631 00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:16,120 Speaker 1: can I tell you guys? This? Can I tell you guys? Oh? 632 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:20,120 Speaker 1: I saw and it was shape? No? Can I tell 633 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:25,880 Speaker 1: you that car? Last night I had a boyfriend, Okay, 634 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,560 Speaker 1: most committed man you will ever meet in your life, 635 00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,960 Speaker 1: like loyal, like like a fly. It sounds like me 636 00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:35,880 Speaker 1: whatever super loyal. I found. We were cleaning out his 637 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,120 Speaker 1: apartment and he was moving and I found a thong 638 00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 1: like a hanky pinky thong hanging from the guest room 639 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,960 Speaker 1: shower and I literally flipped my ye. I was like, 640 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,920 Speaker 1: who's unaware of these? Like I was like going ape 641 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,360 Speaker 1: over this. I was like flying all over the apartment. 642 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,000 Speaker 1: And this man never gave me any inclination that he 643 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:58,399 Speaker 1: would ever cheat on me. I'm like causing the biggest scene. 644 00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:01,400 Speaker 1: He literally was like, I have no idea who's underwhere 645 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,920 Speaker 1: those are? Like He's like literally was like I don't know, no, no, 646 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,200 Speaker 1: And I was it was like the biggest fight we've 647 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 1: ever had in our four years together. Okay, so we 648 00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 1: never got to the bottom of it, Like whose underwear 649 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:16,719 Speaker 1: is this cut too? No, my best friend and her 650 00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 1: boyfriend spent the weekend with us for a wedding in Phoenix, 651 00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:23,239 Speaker 1: and she got her period, shoot washed them and left 652 00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,880 Speaker 1: him on the shower. They were my best friend. He 653 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:32,799 Speaker 1: literally had no idea, never never never told them. Yeah 654 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 1: right now, I don't care how many now because I 655 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,640 Speaker 1: found out like months after and I was like, We've 656 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,759 Speaker 1: already had this fight five hundred times. I cannot that 657 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:55,360 Speaker 1: poor guy reading it. It's about this having a side 658 00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:58,560 Speaker 1: piece that they actually put the underwear in the shower hanging, 659 00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,120 Speaker 1: Like no one is that to a disaster. But it's 660 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,480 Speaker 1: just so so now whenever I hear things like this, 661 00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:05,520 Speaker 1: like I always want to believe the benefit of the 662 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,680 Speaker 1: doubt because I'm like my boyfriend at the time, I 663 00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 1: hear that. But at the same time, this says this 664 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,400 Speaker 1: should be key for everyone. In the past three years, 665 00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,239 Speaker 1: there have been trust issues broken by him, and I 666 00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:18,759 Speaker 1: think that's a massive asterist that we have to keep 667 00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:21,440 Speaker 1: in mind that because in my case, he never once 668 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 1: wavered in that and so now, yeah, this is that. 669 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:29,359 Speaker 1: I think that definitely is something that because he has 670 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,919 Speaker 1: had some trust issues. I mean, honestly, what I would 671 00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,799 Speaker 1: do is I would hire a p I or just 672 00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:41,600 Speaker 1: ask him first. Yeah, because knowing what I know now, 673 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,680 Speaker 1: they deflect and they lie. Most people that are cheating 674 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 1: will say they're not cheating and they'll say I swear no, 675 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,680 Speaker 1: but no, no, no, hire a pill. It's funny about 676 00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:55,240 Speaker 1: this whole situation, not that it's funny for her. Sorry 677 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:58,239 Speaker 1: about that, but not too long ago, a couple months ago, 678 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:03,239 Speaker 1: we had a friend friend's daughter who's eighteen in high school. Right, 679 00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:08,160 Speaker 1: Janna is doing laundry and finds this girl size T shirt, 680 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:12,080 Speaker 1: small small shirt, girl T shirt, athletic girl T shirt 681 00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:15,759 Speaker 1: that says like Williams Williams Yeah, and Janna starts kind 682 00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:17,719 Speaker 1: of going off on me. I was like, who's this. 683 00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:20,440 Speaker 1: It's not this is not mine. I texted to my 684 00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:22,960 Speaker 1: girlfriends it's none of their. I was like Sarah and 685 00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:24,440 Speaker 1: he's like, I don't know, maybe it's Sarah's. I was like, 686 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:25,960 Speaker 1: Sarah is not a small and I was like, this 687 00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,040 Speaker 1: would not fit her. And as I texted Sarah and 688 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:29,680 Speaker 1: she's like, I'm on my way over right now, we're 689 00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 1: searching what will Sarah is ready to me like like 690 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,839 Speaker 1: we're gonna find this out. We ultimately find out it's 691 00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,480 Speaker 1: our friend's daughter, who's I don't even know what the 692 00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:45,480 Speaker 1: funny thing was. I actually I somehow I remember we 693 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:48,160 Speaker 1: were over at their house and Jolie needed a shirt, 694 00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,799 Speaker 1: so it was a large sleep shirt for Jolie. So 695 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,799 Speaker 1: then that's what she wore home. And then somewhere the 696 00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,280 Speaker 1: maid I don't know when she washed it, put it somewhere, 697 00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,440 Speaker 1: and then two seconds because yes, right, you got it 698 00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:06,120 Speaker 1: out of your closet because and so we get into 699 00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:08,320 Speaker 1: the whole argument, right and I'm just like, Gina, I 700 00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,319 Speaker 1: have no clue this, like ask your friends. We find 701 00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,080 Speaker 1: out Jan's like, I'm sorry, and then decided to sleep 702 00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:17,080 Speaker 1: in that shirt that night. I'm like, really, you've been 703 00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:20,400 Speaker 1: mad at me all day and you're sleeping the shirt 704 00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:25,400 Speaker 1: that you're like, no big deal on the bridge. All good. 705 00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:30,160 Speaker 1: I'm get out of here. That is really good in 706 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:34,360 Speaker 1: the face. YEA one more email and then jan is 707 00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:39,080 Speaker 1: gonna go eat. I'm already passed out. This is from anonymous. 708 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:42,719 Speaker 1: These are always good anymous. So I got it look 709 00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,520 Speaker 1: very official holding it like this. I look like this 710 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,960 Speaker 1: at your liberty. Uh. My husband took the words right 711 00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,360 Speaker 1: out of our mouth East and you're all thinking it. 712 00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:53,080 Speaker 1: You're all thinking My husband and I have been together 713 00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:55,480 Speaker 1: for almost four years. Since meeting my husband, his family 714 00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,359 Speaker 1: has been very difficult to deal with. They constantly make 715 00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:00,480 Speaker 1: rude and hurtful comments. Let me know that they wish 716 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:04,440 Speaker 1: I was a different kind of daughter in law. Unacceptable. 717 00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,120 Speaker 1: Where's the husband sticking up for that? Even try to 718 00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,760 Speaker 1: make rude comments about me to my own parents and sister. Recently, 719 00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:12,799 Speaker 1: we found out that my father in law took out 720 00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,600 Speaker 1: almost forty dollars in loans and put them in my 721 00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 1: husband's name without telling him. He hasn't been paying the 722 00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:22,080 Speaker 1: loans and has put them into forbearance multiple times, destroying 723 00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,640 Speaker 1: my husband's credit. We were lucky enough to be able 724 00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,480 Speaker 1: to buy our first home under my name, and we 725 00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,960 Speaker 1: were lucky to find out that the loans find out 726 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:30,560 Speaker 1: about the loans so we can pay them off before 727 00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:32,719 Speaker 1: more interest builds up. We haven't been speaking to my 728 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,359 Speaker 1: husband's family, and I feel like a less stressed version 729 00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:37,960 Speaker 1: of myself without having to constantly deal with their own kindness, 730 00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,319 Speaker 1: and my husband feels the same. Should we tell them 731 00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,480 Speaker 1: about our move and ask that they respect our space 732 00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:43,920 Speaker 1: or should we go through the move and wait for 733 00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:47,640 Speaker 1: them to find out elsewhere? I think I feel like 734 00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,760 Speaker 1: that the guy needs to have a conversation. The husband 735 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:54,799 Speaker 1: right to talk to his family, because that's first of all, 736 00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:59,160 Speaker 1: he's they're being disrespectful to his wife. You know, it's 737 00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:07,879 Speaker 1: a very interesting the mother son relationship. We've talked about 738 00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:09,719 Speaker 1: that so much, where I used to say about his mom, 739 00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:13,960 Speaker 1: like he's enabled Michael, and she's you know, Michael, you 740 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:15,640 Speaker 1: always have to come back, and so we've been like 741 00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:18,319 Speaker 1: head strong. Well, now that I have a boy, I'm like, 742 00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,920 Speaker 1: I will enable the crap out of them. Probably I 743 00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,400 Speaker 1: get it, Like I get it, I totally get it. 744 00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:26,120 Speaker 1: Like he's my like love like Jolie, go ahead, but 745 00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,200 Speaker 1: like Jason is like, I will hold him as tight 746 00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:31,520 Speaker 1: as possible, I will smother him yea, And I will 747 00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,800 Speaker 1: hate the girlfriends. Yeah you're gonna yeah, you're gonna be 748 00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:37,640 Speaker 1: the worst worst. But for that instance, I still I 749 00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:42,399 Speaker 1: think that's a little mean, that's that's extreme where it's 750 00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,520 Speaker 1: like what kind of conversation can you even have around that? 751 00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:52,680 Speaker 1: Like that's massive, that's delicious. Yeah, like yeah, so it's 752 00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,840 Speaker 1: like move like keep them out of your life. Like no, 753 00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:58,399 Speaker 1: I wouldn't like any part of that. Well I would, 754 00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:00,440 Speaker 1: I would have. I would at least allow a versation 755 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,399 Speaker 1: just to be like, this is left up and if 756 00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,359 Speaker 1: you don't realize the severity of this, like we will 757 00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,319 Speaker 1: be gone forever, like give them, give them a chance 758 00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:11,480 Speaker 1: to realize the severity. In my opinion, I mean, I 759 00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,359 Speaker 1: so I have my mom is she's like a helicopter mom. 760 00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:16,280 Speaker 1: If you will, she's you know, she can be overbearing 761 00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,440 Speaker 1: at times. She hasn't been, you know, I haven't had 762 00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:21,080 Speaker 1: a relationship where she seemed too much for my girlfriend 763 00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,200 Speaker 1: at the time. But you got to give them a 764 00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:24,879 Speaker 1: like you said, you got to give them a chance. 765 00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:26,719 Speaker 1: I think even if it's a that is overboard and 766 00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,800 Speaker 1: that is criminal inerial. But I would have this conversation 767 00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,160 Speaker 1: save one more and it's like, yeah, there's no more. 768 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,000 Speaker 1: You know, you have to cut ties, I guess. But 769 00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,560 Speaker 1: because have your parents, like has your mom ever not 770 00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,400 Speaker 1: like somebody that you brought home and then you had 771 00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,600 Speaker 1: to be like any I think she has about she's 772 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,560 Speaker 1: never she's never going to be like, Okay, you can't 773 00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,360 Speaker 1: date her, like she's never been like that. But I 774 00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,600 Speaker 1: think there's been people in the past where shoes knew. 775 00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:50,719 Speaker 1: She knew she was like, oh, this isn't gonna work, 776 00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:52,400 Speaker 1: but I don't think she ever tourced it upon me. 777 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:56,480 Speaker 1: Would you rather have your parents tell you or not 778 00:42:56,560 --> 00:43:00,600 Speaker 1: tell you in that situation like when you're dating something? Ready, 779 00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:02,480 Speaker 1: I see even if she would, if I'm in love 780 00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:03,959 Speaker 1: or I really like this person, I'm not gonna listen, 781 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,239 Speaker 1: Yeah I would. I always wanted my mom to tell 782 00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,399 Speaker 1: me because I would. Yeah, because I would you listen 783 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:10,279 Speaker 1: at Oh? Yeah? I ended every time she said she 784 00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:16,799 Speaker 1: didn't like them really, minus Mike. She she even when 785 00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:19,760 Speaker 1: he showed up at my door, She's like, I'm going upstairs. 786 00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:26,560 Speaker 1: I don't even want to look at him. But no, 787 00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:30,960 Speaker 1: what about you? Would you um My. It's interesting because like, 788 00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,560 Speaker 1: um My, my family is like everything to me, and 789 00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,200 Speaker 1: they get very invested in my relationships, and I think 790 00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:38,879 Speaker 1: for me, the hardest thing is like when things don't 791 00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:42,400 Speaker 1: work out, having them be so involved and attached. They 792 00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:44,279 Speaker 1: would never tell me at the time that they didn't 793 00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,319 Speaker 1: because they've never not liked somebody that I've dated, so 794 00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,799 Speaker 1: I've never had that issue. But my mom did tell me, 795 00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,400 Speaker 1: um years ago, she was like, I want you to 796 00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,480 Speaker 1: be able. I've never been independent. I used to be 797 00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:58,160 Speaker 1: like a monkey brancher where I would like go from 798 00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:02,239 Speaker 1: relationship to relationship to relationship. I know myself outside of relationship. 799 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:04,239 Speaker 1: My mom always told me, She's like, I want you 800 00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:07,080 Speaker 1: to be independent and learn how to live your life 801 00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:09,360 Speaker 1: on your own before you marry somebody. And I was 802 00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:14,239 Speaker 1: always like, I don't need that, Like I'm totally good. 803 00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:16,839 Speaker 1: But now I'm like, I've lived my life alone for 804 00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:18,840 Speaker 1: so long that I'm like, I'm doing things now I 805 00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,880 Speaker 1: never thought that I could do before, and it's really crazy, 806 00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:25,200 Speaker 1: like I never thought I would live alone ever, and 807 00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,479 Speaker 1: now I'm living alone and like loving it. It's gonna 808 00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:32,759 Speaker 1: be interesting when you get into relationships, really interesting and 809 00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,759 Speaker 1: I hate it you alone. I cannot sleep in the 810 00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:40,279 Speaker 1: house by myself. Really, I get a massive anxiety, like 811 00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:43,440 Speaker 1: to the point where like I will call to have 812 00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,480 Speaker 1: like an emergency or like I'll have a friend be 813 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:46,719 Speaker 1: like I need you to leave your phone on because 814 00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:47,640 Speaker 1: if I need you in the middle of the night, 815 00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,280 Speaker 1: because I just have massive PTSD, like I would freak 816 00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,480 Speaker 1: that out. Yeah. I used to be the same way, 817 00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:56,200 Speaker 1: and now I'm like, I like love it. I'm gonna 818 00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:57,960 Speaker 1: I'm any one of those guys who needs like a 819 00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,239 Speaker 1: man cave quote unquote, I need. I'll have to have 820 00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,319 Speaker 1: a room to get away. I need. I always say, 821 00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,080 Speaker 1: like I get my energy from being alone a lot 822 00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:05,719 Speaker 1: or not yet, so I get my energy from being 823 00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:07,400 Speaker 1: alone other than being like a happy hour or whatever. 824 00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,200 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna need a man cave. I'm gonna be 825 00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:12,080 Speaker 1: that guy. I love that. Tanya agrees she's fine with that. 826 00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:16,239 Speaker 1: I do. Actually, I actually just created space in my apartment. 827 00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:22,360 Speaker 1: I've created I literally made space in my closet. No, 828 00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:24,359 Speaker 1: but it's not just for Blake. It's just like for 829 00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,920 Speaker 1: my future. Like I created like space in my closet 830 00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:31,200 Speaker 1: and um, just space because it's like in your life. 831 00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:34,120 Speaker 1: If if everything's full, you don't have room for somebody. 832 00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:36,680 Speaker 1: So I've created a room for somebody. Yeah, good for you. 833 00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,920 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I have in my closet and 834 00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:43,520 Speaker 1: I have a whole third floor for your man cave. Well, 835 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:46,040 Speaker 1: thank you for letting us be on your podcast. So 836 00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,120 Speaker 1: appreciate it. We love you, and I cannot wait for 837 00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:52,160 Speaker 1: I'm I'm excited for when you do have relationship too, 838 00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,880 Speaker 1: because it's gonna be interesting because I'm you're gonna You're 839 00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:57,640 Speaker 1: gonna want to ask questions then too. I'm gonna come 840 00:45:57,640 --> 00:45:59,840 Speaker 1: to you guys used down the road I want to go. 841 00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,120 Speaker 1: I actually been very eye opening. I know. I was 842 00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:07,640 Speaker 1: asking Mike about one guy in particular that I've talked 843 00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:18,000 Speaker 1: to you about before. Oh you whispered right into the mine. Okay, yeah. 844 00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:21,200 Speaker 1: Because so it's because I have this like um, because 845 00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:24,799 Speaker 1: we have similar careers, and so I feel like at 846 00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,640 Speaker 1: the end of the day, the way that I recharge 847 00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:32,360 Speaker 1: is like, so I think he needs a chase because 848 00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:34,080 Speaker 1: the one thing that he had kind of said to 849 00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:35,800 Speaker 1: me is like when I said, like, you know Tanya, 850 00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:37,560 Speaker 1: He's like, oh, I know, like she puts it out there, 851 00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:41,880 Speaker 1: you know. So I think he needs like some mystery, 852 00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:46,360 Speaker 1: which I think is you know, isn't necessarily healthy. No not, 853 00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,640 Speaker 1: I mean, like you're not. It's not about games and mystery. 854 00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,080 Speaker 1: It's about Look, this is why I want. This is 855 00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:55,920 Speaker 1: what I need. Yeah, and you out, Okay, go, I 856 00:46:55,960 --> 00:47:02,080 Speaker 1: love love you back at kids, have fun, leave me alone. 857 00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:07,359 Speaker 1: So that is that was Janna and Mike. They're great. 858 00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:10,080 Speaker 1: They're so great. They are like and I would like 859 00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:11,880 Speaker 1: I said, I didn't talk a lot because I was 860 00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:14,600 Speaker 1: soaking that in. I know, it's so interesting when you're 861 00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:16,640 Speaker 1: with them, you just want to like soak it in. 862 00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,319 Speaker 1: Like there were moments where I felt a little uncomfortable, 863 00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:23,200 Speaker 1: but you Jann was crying, I was having a one 864 00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,320 Speaker 1: on one conversation with her husband. I was like, holy, 865 00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,120 Speaker 1: but at the same time, like I felt uncomfortable, at 866 00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:28,800 Speaker 1: the same time, they felt so comfortable to talk like 867 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,480 Speaker 1: he I didn't feel like he was ever uncomfortable, which 868 00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:33,799 Speaker 1: says a lot well, because I think with each other, 869 00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:38,000 Speaker 1: ultimately it stems from her insecurity stems a lot from 870 00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:40,920 Speaker 1: his and he knows that, which is that changes everything. 871 00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:44,000 Speaker 1: The fact that he can admit yet he has it's remarkable. 872 00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,880 Speaker 1: It is the relationship is incredible, the things they've been through, 873 00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:49,000 Speaker 1: the downs, and I literally felt so uncomfortable, and she 874 00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:50,360 Speaker 1: was like I saw him talking to you, and I 875 00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:54,320 Speaker 1: was like, I would never in a million years, but 876 00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:56,839 Speaker 1: for her to feel that way with me, I can't 877 00:47:56,880 --> 00:48:02,279 Speaker 1: even imagine what imagine like some random girl I really 878 00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:05,640 Speaker 1: felt for her. Um, okay, well, Blake Man the hour, 879 00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:08,480 Speaker 1: I have some rapid fire questions for you. Can't do it? Okay, 880 00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:14,520 Speaker 1: you ready for this? Probably probably not? Okay, So you're single? 881 00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:19,800 Speaker 1: I am Whilst you said that four times. I've counted 882 00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,560 Speaker 1: how many times you said it. It's actually very impressive. 883 00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:26,719 Speaker 1: Your song's girlfriend did Wells leave? Oh he's over to 884 00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:32,880 Speaker 1: the podcast. Yeah, I think we're gonna have Yeah. Okay. Um, 885 00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:38,000 Speaker 1: So biggest pet peeve when you're dating somebody like Broad 886 00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:41,800 Speaker 1: I guess, like, so it's weird after this conversation that 887 00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:44,880 Speaker 1: Jan might just add insecurities can be a bit of 888 00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,120 Speaker 1: a turn off for me. Um, I like, I love 889 00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,880 Speaker 1: confidence in a woman in relationships, like if you're confident 890 00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:52,560 Speaker 1: in our relationship. The securities as far as like jealousy 891 00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:53,960 Speaker 1: and everything, it's kind of a it's a bit of 892 00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 1: a pet peeve, but then coming out of that relationship, 893 00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,520 Speaker 1: like I understood while she but I guess the difference 894 00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:01,560 Speaker 1: is is his past misty have led her to have insecurity. 895 00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,399 Speaker 1: So I get that. Yeah, okay, that's a good one. 896 00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:06,480 Speaker 1: This is good for people to know that want to 897 00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:15,480 Speaker 1: date you. Okay, describe Describe yourself in three words. Oh, um, 898 00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:19,400 Speaker 1: I'm fine, I'm happy, go lucky. If that's that's just 899 00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:25,880 Speaker 1: one word, we're gonna count that as one happy go lucky. Um. Uh. Surprisingly, 900 00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:29,560 Speaker 1: I'm patient. I'm actually am patient. Yeah, I'm patient. Uh, 901 00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:36,920 Speaker 1: and make your patient. And I'm I'm confident, like I'm 902 00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,279 Speaker 1: confident in who I am, so like I'm confident what 903 00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:40,719 Speaker 1: I bring to the table. I guess, like I know 904 00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,080 Speaker 1: what I'm bringing to the table in a relationship or anything, 905 00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:46,080 Speaker 1: a job, whatever. Question for you. This is not rabid fire. 906 00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,120 Speaker 1: This is just like, if you're interested in a girl, 907 00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,680 Speaker 1: do you ask her on a date? Are you just 908 00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:53,520 Speaker 1: like a go with the flow type person. I'm more 909 00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:55,359 Speaker 1: of a go with the flow type person, Like I guess, 910 00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:58,640 Speaker 1: I like, I mean like I won't necessarily ask her 911 00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,440 Speaker 1: on a date, but I'll like start a versation and 912 00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,359 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is going somewhere and then yeah, 913 00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:03,960 Speaker 1: maybe I'll like ask on a date, but I wouldn't 914 00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,160 Speaker 1: like DM a girl and be like, hey, I want 915 00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:07,960 Speaker 1: to grab Jinks sometime or you know what I mean. 916 00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,600 Speaker 1: Can I say something that I like about you? I 917 00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:14,000 Speaker 1: like that you haven't looked at your phone this entire podcast. 918 00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:18,440 Speaker 1: I'm serious. Yeah that most people would. Yeah, that's just 919 00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:20,440 Speaker 1: like look at their phone, but just like be super destructive. 920 00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,920 Speaker 1: Feel like you're very present, which I enjoy and admire. 921 00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,320 Speaker 1: Like I said, I was like soaking this whole podcast, 922 00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,600 Speaker 1: and it's this is not a podcast. I'm usually on 923 00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:30,600 Speaker 1: something like this, like where we talk relationships and so. 924 00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:32,399 Speaker 1: So it's pretty cool, right, Yeah, because you're just stuck 925 00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:36,719 Speaker 1: con fastination usually. Yeah, it's a lot of welcome to 926 00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:39,480 Speaker 1: scrubbing in. Yeah, that's why I like it. Okay, last 927 00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:43,040 Speaker 1: person you texted, oh, um, can I check? Can I 928 00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:45,640 Speaker 1: look at my phone? Now? I'm scared to pick up 929 00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:49,360 Speaker 1: my phone. It was the Napa Valley Group. Okay, aside 930 00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:52,680 Speaker 1: from the Napa Valley Group. Text Kevin from you guys 931 00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:58,239 Speaker 1: know Kevin from Vatchination. Kevin went, yeah, firefighter Kevin. Yeah 932 00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:00,719 Speaker 1: you're friends with him? Yeah, we're going to bally here 933 00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:02,640 Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks ago. For it's like a 934 00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:09,000 Speaker 1: boot camp, um fitness boot camp retreat typing in BALI. Yeah, 935 00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,359 Speaker 1: I feel like I would love that. Um. Okay, are 936 00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:15,359 Speaker 1: you a morning person or a night owl? The older? 937 00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:17,799 Speaker 1: Good morning? More fo morning? I mean I stay up 938 00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:19,560 Speaker 1: here late too, but I can't sleep in anymore. This 939 00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:21,040 Speaker 1: is great, This is kind of this is like my 940 00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:24,880 Speaker 1: match dot com profile. So you're fitting all the com 941 00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:33,120 Speaker 1: okay U what is who's the one person that motivates you? Okay? 942 00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:37,480 Speaker 1: So actually got an interesting So my dad motivates me 943 00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:39,960 Speaker 1: a lot, but in a way not that he listens 944 00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:41,640 Speaker 1: just coming in no offense. He just says, listen to 945 00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:45,759 Speaker 1: podcast in genuary. So he he motivates me in a 946 00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:47,920 Speaker 1: in a different way. So my dad will work his 947 00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:49,720 Speaker 1: up to the you know, his hands of the bone. 948 00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:52,239 Speaker 1: He always has, always will. But it almost showed me 949 00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,759 Speaker 1: like he works so much but doesn't get paid. So 950 00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:58,479 Speaker 1: I guess just showed me that I didn't really want 951 00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:02,040 Speaker 1: to have to work like, you know, eighty hours a 952 00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:03,520 Speaker 1: week just put food on the table kind of thing. 953 00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,200 Speaker 1: You know. Not that I had a very great childhood, 954 00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:09,640 Speaker 1: but it made me almost work smart, not hard kind 955 00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:11,400 Speaker 1: of thing. It motivated me to find something that was 956 00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:13,520 Speaker 1: passionate about and that I enjoy because he doesn't enjoy 957 00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,759 Speaker 1: his job, but he works so much. So is he 958 00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:18,440 Speaker 1: motivated me in a way He probably didn't know he 959 00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:20,560 Speaker 1: motivated me. It motivated me in a way to find 960 00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:23,200 Speaker 1: something I was passionate about and something I enjoy doing 961 00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,480 Speaker 1: and not having to work so much. So great, so 962 00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:31,640 Speaker 1: your father the work life balance? Okay? And last question, um, 963 00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:35,160 Speaker 1: the best way for a girl to get your attention? Uh? So, 964 00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,520 Speaker 1: I've said this a shock and awe. I like something. 965 00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:40,560 Speaker 1: Who will say something that like is completely out of 966 00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:43,040 Speaker 1: nowhere and like completely ridiculous. I like that. I don't 967 00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,960 Speaker 1: know why I like different. I like different, like that, 968 00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:51,160 Speaker 1: I like something out of it. It's so funny. It's 969 00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:57,160 Speaker 1: get I get why our listeners were like blakes, your dude, 970 00:52:57,280 --> 00:53:00,239 Speaker 1: because everything that you say, like truly when you like 971 00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:05,080 Speaker 1: say things, I'm like, oh, like we're match, we really are. 972 00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:12,319 Speaker 1: That's crazy. That's interesting. Match dot com profile and well 973 00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:15,560 Speaker 1: is very uncomachable. So before we get to wells, um, 974 00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:17,160 Speaker 1: I want to talk to you guys when you're selling 975 00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,560 Speaker 1: online and getting your orders out. Um it can be 976 00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:22,680 Speaker 1: a real pain. 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Can I say something about what 1004 00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,719 Speaker 1: you said earlier that I thought was interesting and I 1005 00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,080 Speaker 1: just didn't think you articulated the way that you wanted to. 1006 00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:10,440 Speaker 1: But um, I think the big misconception with successes that 1007 00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:12,799 Speaker 1: has to do with money. I think that success has 1008 00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,399 Speaker 1: absolutely nothing to do with money. Yeah, and I think 1009 00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:18,279 Speaker 1: that the second that you realize that is that the 1010 00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:22,560 Speaker 1: second you will be successful in life. That's a good Yeah, 1011 00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:24,040 Speaker 1: that's a great way to Okay. Can I tell you 1012 00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,920 Speaker 1: something that my mentor has told me since I was so. 1013 00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,239 Speaker 1: I met my mentor when I was like sorry, like 1014 00:55:29,280 --> 00:55:31,400 Speaker 1: toilet grabbed your Like, yeah, who's your mentor? By the way, 1015 00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,880 Speaker 1: my mentor his name is Scotty Fink. I feel like 1016 00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:38,239 Speaker 1: your mentor is like Ariana Grande or something like you're 1017 00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,800 Speaker 1: friends with everyone who I'm like why is Tanya friends 1018 00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:45,800 Speaker 1: with like bb rexa, what's happening? Our Facebook group was 1019 00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,480 Speaker 1: like obsessed with Sophie Turner right now? Why is Marion 1020 00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,600 Speaker 1: Morris good friends? Yeah? They were like, how is tan 1021 00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:54,240 Speaker 1: your friends with Sophie turn How is Tanya at Sophie 1022 00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,840 Speaker 1: Turners party? Because they watched Game of Thrones? Why is 1023 00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:01,839 Speaker 1: Tanya like a note? Like a like a Jonas brother. 1024 00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:08,279 Speaker 1: Every time I see your Instagram and like there in there, 1025 00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:12,640 Speaker 1: why there's every time a good Tania thing, I'm like, 1026 00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:18,239 Speaker 1: oh God, she's friends everybody. No, So my mentor is 1027 00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:21,320 Speaker 1: not Ariana Grande. He is a man, a very like 1028 00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:25,359 Speaker 1: a successful man and and a great man, and ever 1029 00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:27,120 Speaker 1: since I was. I met him when I was like 1030 00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:29,319 Speaker 1: eighteen years old, and he took me under his wing 1031 00:56:29,440 --> 00:56:31,680 Speaker 1: and he told me from the very beginning, he said, 1032 00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:34,879 Speaker 1: right now, you're at this point in your career where 1033 00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,440 Speaker 1: you might want a fancy car, you don't need the 1034 00:56:37,480 --> 00:56:40,480 Speaker 1: fancy car. You might want a two story house, you 1035 00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:43,000 Speaker 1: don't need a two story house. You might want the 1036 00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:45,239 Speaker 1: nice person, you don't need the nice person. He was like, 1037 00:56:45,600 --> 00:56:48,560 Speaker 1: take the job that you love and it is going 1038 00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:52,640 Speaker 1: to elevate you, not based on money because eventually on 1039 00:56:52,680 --> 00:56:55,120 Speaker 1: the wine He's like, I'm he's married, he has children 1040 00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,799 Speaker 1: and his family. I have to take the job that's 1041 00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:00,560 Speaker 1: going to bring in the money, but right now you 1042 00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:03,000 Speaker 1: don't need that's not what you need. You're going for 1043 00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:05,200 Speaker 1: the passion and the work, and like, that's what you're 1044 00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:06,440 Speaker 1: in it for right now. And he was like, do 1045 00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:08,800 Speaker 1: not lose sight of that, because once you get to 1046 00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:11,640 Speaker 1: this point in your life, you have to do things 1047 00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:14,240 Speaker 1: for the money. You're going your kids are going to college, 1048 00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,040 Speaker 1: and I will never forget that. And I like, still 1049 00:57:17,120 --> 00:57:20,800 Speaker 1: till this day, we'll do jobs for free because I'm like, 1050 00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:25,200 Speaker 1: I see the long, the long gain from it totally. 1051 00:57:25,480 --> 00:57:29,160 Speaker 1: I listen. I follow your career because we were in 1052 00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,640 Speaker 1: similar career fields. We both work in radio, both for 1053 00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:36,240 Speaker 1: the same company. UM And I don't even know if 1054 00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,880 Speaker 1: this resonates with you at this point, but it's something 1055 00:57:38,920 --> 00:57:41,400 Speaker 1: that has actually resonated with me. It's like a thing 1056 00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:45,480 Speaker 1: that at one point made it meant something that you 1057 00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:51,200 Speaker 1: would at a time, and it's indirectly affected me. You 1058 00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:53,320 Speaker 1: spoke I don't even remember who was. You spoke to 1059 00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:55,440 Speaker 1: a woman and you were like, what's some give me 1060 00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:58,880 Speaker 1: some advice, and the woman said, uh, we're all not 1061 00:57:59,080 --> 00:58:04,320 Speaker 1: in competition. Yeah, uh, there's enough room for everyone to 1062 00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:08,640 Speaker 1: be successful. And I heard that. I was like, and 1063 00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm not even I'm not shocker, I'm not a woman, 1064 00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:13,960 Speaker 1: but I I but I heard that, and I was like, 1065 00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:17,400 Speaker 1: that's so true. It's so true for whatever gender you are, 1066 00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:22,680 Speaker 1: because you do that in any um, any field, any 1067 00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:25,800 Speaker 1: career that you're doing, You're you're always at you always 1068 00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:28,480 Speaker 1: feel like you're in a competition with people, and there's 1069 00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:33,960 Speaker 1: plenty of room for success for everybody. And I loved you, 1070 00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:36,600 Speaker 1: like I heard that and then you made it a thing. 1071 00:58:36,880 --> 00:58:38,880 Speaker 1: And then I saw that and I was like, that's 1072 00:58:38,920 --> 00:58:42,080 Speaker 1: so true because I do that all the time, where 1073 00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:44,280 Speaker 1: like you go and do auditions or whatever it is 1074 00:58:44,360 --> 00:58:48,040 Speaker 1: and you're like, Blake's here, dude, I'm never gonna I'm 1075 00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:50,240 Speaker 1: not six five, I can't win this, you know, whatever 1076 00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:52,640 Speaker 1: it is, and then then you think about it and 1077 00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:55,960 Speaker 1: you're like, no, there's room for all of us to succeed. 1078 00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:59,600 Speaker 1: And so the great thing about that messages if you 1079 00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:06,200 Speaker 1: are always like positive about everybody, then the worst thing 1080 00:59:06,280 --> 00:59:09,200 Speaker 1: that happened that can happen is that they don't get 1081 00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:11,800 Speaker 1: the thing. But the best thing that can happen is 1082 00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:15,320 Speaker 1: that everyone gets the thing, and that's so much more 1083 00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:18,560 Speaker 1: rad than I got the thing and you didn't get 1084 00:59:18,600 --> 00:59:22,400 Speaker 1: the thing, honestly, So it blesses my heart that that 1085 00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:26,160 Speaker 1: actually has had an impact with you. Because so I 1086 00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:29,560 Speaker 1: was a week into my job for the morning show 1087 00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,160 Speaker 1: with Ryan Seacrest, and I was bright eyed, bushy tailed, 1088 00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:35,480 Speaker 1: Super New, Super Green, and Ryan was like, Chelsea was 1089 00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:37,040 Speaker 1: on the phone, and he was like, you have one 1090 00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:39,360 Speaker 1: question to ask her, and that's what I said. I said, 1091 00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:41,320 Speaker 1: what's one word of advice you would give somebody that's 1092 00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:43,280 Speaker 1: new in the industry. And she said that to me 1093 00:59:43,360 --> 00:59:45,520 Speaker 1: And this was my first week on the job, and 1094 00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:48,080 Speaker 1: I will never forget it word for word. And then 1095 00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:51,000 Speaker 1: she came back on like five years later, whenever that was, 1096 00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:53,240 Speaker 1: and I got asked her again in person. I said, 1097 00:59:53,400 --> 00:59:55,880 Speaker 1: you said, you said this to me and it's had 1098 00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:59,040 Speaker 1: such a lasting impact on my career. Could she even 1099 00:59:59,080 --> 01:00:02,080 Speaker 1: remember it? Yeah? Yeah, this is that was it. That 1100 01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:06,680 Speaker 1: was the day and um and she because she remembers 1101 01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:09,880 Speaker 1: exactly who gave her that advice. And it's funny because 1102 01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:12,360 Speaker 1: at the time when I started, I was super young, 1103 01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:18,840 Speaker 1: and people were really conniving and manipulative and mean, yes, 1104 01:00:19,440 --> 01:00:22,560 Speaker 1: but when you come at it from a different perspective, 1105 01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:27,120 Speaker 1: it's so it's so different because people like like, um, 1106 01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:29,360 Speaker 1: like I just got I'm getting a lot of stuff 1107 01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:33,400 Speaker 1: with E lately, and it's it's been the most rewarding thing. 1108 01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:41,280 Speaker 1: And when all people people but like when people come 1109 01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:43,960 Speaker 1: up and say, like, this is super exciting for you, 1110 01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:46,640 Speaker 1: I'm really happy for you, and it's like when you're 1111 01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:50,160 Speaker 1: genuinely happy because for so many years up until this point, 1112 01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:53,400 Speaker 1: I've genuinely been so happy for people that have gotten 1113 01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:56,360 Speaker 1: gigs that I've wanted and I'm like, no, this is 1114 01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:58,600 Speaker 1: amazing for you. And I know my time is coming. 1115 01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:00,760 Speaker 1: I know that what's meant for me is going to 1116 01:01:00,840 --> 01:01:03,080 Speaker 1: find its way here. Here's the thing that I've found 1117 01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:05,360 Speaker 1: about six I don't even know if we're talking about success, 1118 01:01:05,400 --> 01:01:08,880 Speaker 1: but I've been thinking about success a lot um. The 1119 01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:13,960 Speaker 1: thing about success and successful people is that there will 1120 01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:19,480 Speaker 1: never be a moment where you're happy and I with 1121 01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:22,760 Speaker 1: your success. And I think that's what makes successful people 1122 01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:27,600 Speaker 1: is because this is what I do. I will write 1123 01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,400 Speaker 1: positive affirmation, I write down what I want, and then 1124 01:01:30,440 --> 01:01:33,040 Speaker 1: I give myself a time limit and I hope to 1125 01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,200 Speaker 1: make it. And I have been lucky enough in my 1126 01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:40,920 Speaker 1: life where I've made most of my goals. Um. I 1127 01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:43,480 Speaker 1: what I what I think is great about that is 1128 01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:47,200 Speaker 1: that it pushes you to do those things, and if 1129 01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:51,960 Speaker 1: you don't make them, well that's great. But at the 1130 01:01:52,040 --> 01:01:53,920 Speaker 1: end of the day, like, at least you're still like 1131 01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:59,640 Speaker 1: striving forward, right um failing forward basically, yeah, exactly. But 1132 01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:02,440 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't necessarily, like when 1133 01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:04,640 Speaker 1: everybody says, what's your five year plan, what's your ten 1134 01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:08,120 Speaker 1: year plan, It's like, I don't necessarily know exactly what 1135 01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:10,240 Speaker 1: that looks like. But I know as long as I'm 1136 01:02:10,320 --> 01:02:15,800 Speaker 1: inching forward and moving forward and like progressing in certain 1137 01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:19,680 Speaker 1: areas of my life, that'll make me happy and make 1138 01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:23,160 Speaker 1: me feel fulfilled. That makes sense totally. Like I don't 1139 01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:25,280 Speaker 1: know what the end all be all is, but I 1140 01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:28,080 Speaker 1: also know if I don't know, if you'll ever be fulfilled. 1141 01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:32,840 Speaker 1: And I think that that's what's great about work, is 1142 01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:37,000 Speaker 1: that you will always feel like you get to a 1143 01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:40,760 Speaker 1: point and you're like, great, I want an Oscar, I 1144 01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:44,840 Speaker 1: want to whatever whatever it is, like, I want to 1145 01:02:44,880 --> 01:02:47,000 Speaker 1: do that those things and then you do it, and 1146 01:02:47,040 --> 01:02:49,280 Speaker 1: then it's like, well, what's the next thing. You know, 1147 01:02:49,440 --> 01:02:52,720 Speaker 1: you're always there's always something else, You're always happy, right, yeah, yeah, 1148 01:02:52,760 --> 01:02:54,920 Speaker 1: because there's always something you're striving towards, something you want 1149 01:02:54,960 --> 01:02:58,680 Speaker 1: to reach and and and you're never going to get 1150 01:02:59,360 --> 01:03:02,160 Speaker 1: to what you want. You're never going yeah, because you're 1151 01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:04,960 Speaker 1: And I think what's great about that whole thing is 1152 01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:11,240 Speaker 1: that it's it's a subplot of being um self betterment, 1153 01:03:11,560 --> 01:03:13,920 Speaker 1: Like that's the whole thing. Yeah right, Okay, So I 1154 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:17,480 Speaker 1: have an interesting question for you. Sorry, I just totally 1155 01:03:17,520 --> 01:03:21,400 Speaker 1: took I mean I kind of it was my fault 1156 01:03:21,400 --> 01:03:23,560 Speaker 1: because I could not what I meant so well else 1157 01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:25,880 Speaker 1: I had to do it for me. So I have 1158 01:03:26,000 --> 01:03:28,520 Speaker 1: an interesting question for you because yes, so we are 1159 01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:33,600 Speaker 1: in similar fields. Um, and you're you're in the same field. 1160 01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:39,680 Speaker 1: Actually we worked for the exact same company, by the way. 1161 01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:45,960 Speaker 1: So and you are you are inst your inst relationship, yes, yes, 1162 01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:50,560 Speaker 1: whilst you are radio person. Whilst in a relationship, do 1163 01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:53,480 Speaker 1: you feel like and and this is something that I 1164 01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:57,280 Speaker 1: need to work on. Um, when you've been together for 1165 01:03:57,360 --> 01:04:01,080 Speaker 1: how long now? A long time? Mm? Almost two years? Okay, 1166 01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:03,320 Speaker 1: that's a long time. In the beginning when you were like, 1167 01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:06,080 Speaker 1: you know, when you're in the infatuation stage, do you 1168 01:04:06,120 --> 01:04:07,600 Speaker 1: feel like your career took a little bit of a 1169 01:04:07,880 --> 01:04:14,160 Speaker 1: back burner during that time. It's a good question. Uh, 1170 01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:17,479 Speaker 1: it's actually a question I don't get asked. I feel 1171 01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:20,720 Speaker 1: like enough, and I'm happy you asked it. Actually, yeah, 1172 01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:24,080 Speaker 1: because I think about it all the time. Like I 1173 01:04:24,200 --> 01:04:28,120 Speaker 1: don't literally, if I met a guy tomorrow, I can't 1174 01:04:28,160 --> 01:04:32,600 Speaker 1: see him until my second So is your question are 1175 01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:36,000 Speaker 1: you concerned about, like, how do I deal with my 1176 01:04:36,160 --> 01:04:40,680 Speaker 1: relationship with all of my work alec Yes, but no, 1177 01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:42,200 Speaker 1: But I want to ask you, do you think that 1178 01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:45,920 Speaker 1: you when you were in your honeymoon stage of your relationship, 1179 01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:51,600 Speaker 1: that your career took sidestep. I think it's funny. I 1180 01:04:52,000 --> 01:04:59,200 Speaker 1: think that everyone makes um time for things that they 1181 01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:03,880 Speaker 1: think are important. Sorry, you gotta edit that, but but 1182 01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:07,320 Speaker 1: I think that that's important because I think it's important. 1183 01:05:08,560 --> 01:05:13,320 Speaker 1: Those are things that are important to you. Um, you'll 1184 01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:15,600 Speaker 1: meet a bunch of guys in the world that will 1185 01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:19,240 Speaker 1: be like, my careers really important to me right now, 1186 01:05:19,480 --> 01:05:21,919 Speaker 1: and like they'll say those things. I said those things 1187 01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:25,840 Speaker 1: a lot of times. Uh. When you find someone who 1188 01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:30,560 Speaker 1: is more important than those things. They will make sure 1189 01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:34,560 Speaker 1: that you are more important than the things that they 1190 01:05:34,680 --> 01:05:41,040 Speaker 1: said were important beforehand. And I found that person and 1191 01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:45,520 Speaker 1: I made a lot of time for her um and 1192 01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:48,200 Speaker 1: I'm glad I did. And to be honest with you, 1193 01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:53,440 Speaker 1: it didn't change anything in my life. It really didn't. 1194 01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:57,880 Speaker 1: Like because Sarah works for people that know my my 1195 01:05:57,960 --> 01:06:01,960 Speaker 1: girlfriend's famous actor us, and she's so good at what 1196 01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:04,760 Speaker 1: she does, and she works really hard and and like 1197 01:06:04,880 --> 01:06:06,800 Speaker 1: she does her thing and then and then I do 1198 01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:11,280 Speaker 1: my thing, and we have like there you know, she 1199 01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:15,320 Speaker 1: goes on set fifteen hours a day and like she's 1200 01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:17,400 Speaker 1: doing her thing and I'm and I'm working on my thing. 1201 01:06:17,680 --> 01:06:21,360 Speaker 1: So really there's no time difference in terms of like 1202 01:06:21,520 --> 01:06:23,960 Speaker 1: making time. It's more of like okay, so like what's 1203 01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:26,720 Speaker 1: your Saturday. Looks like okay, okay, we can do that 1204 01:06:26,760 --> 01:06:29,440 Speaker 1: thing on Saturday. And then what's your Sunday, So like, uh, 1205 01:06:30,040 --> 01:06:32,880 Speaker 1: from between five am and seven pm, we can do 1206 01:06:32,920 --> 01:06:34,800 Speaker 1: a thing on Sunday. And then then it's just more 1207 01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:38,000 Speaker 1: of like a Google calendar and then you're just figuring 1208 01:06:38,080 --> 01:06:43,280 Speaker 1: those things out and and what it is is that guys, 1209 01:06:43,680 --> 01:06:47,240 Speaker 1: I will say guys, because I think it's a total 1210 01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:50,240 Speaker 1: man thing to be like I just don't have time 1211 01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:52,919 Speaker 1: for this. You have time for it, you just haven't 1212 01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:56,160 Speaker 1: found someone who you're like, I'm going to make time 1213 01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:59,040 Speaker 1: for this, you know. But and that's I think, like, 1214 01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:02,440 Speaker 1: that's like the main Do I have terrible breath right now? No? 1215 01:07:02,640 --> 01:07:04,960 Speaker 1: But Amy was like, your teeth are purple? Like HI, 1216 01:07:05,080 --> 01:07:09,400 Speaker 1: haven't no, no, no, they look great. They look great. 1217 01:07:09,440 --> 01:07:16,480 Speaker 1: They look great. I've been drinking so much. I'm like, hi, um, 1218 01:07:16,760 --> 01:07:19,120 Speaker 1: But it's true. It's something that I think I use 1219 01:07:19,200 --> 01:07:22,480 Speaker 1: as like a defense mechanism a lot in in while 1220 01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:24,920 Speaker 1: I'm dating. But also I think I deal with a 1221 01:07:24,960 --> 01:07:28,240 Speaker 1: lot of men who are like in these big moments 1222 01:07:28,240 --> 01:07:30,040 Speaker 1: in their career where they're like, oh, I'm too busy. 1223 01:07:30,160 --> 01:07:31,920 Speaker 1: Can I say something about what I think about Your 1224 01:07:31,960 --> 01:07:35,080 Speaker 1: problem is not to take over your podcast right now, 1225 01:07:35,160 --> 01:07:37,560 Speaker 1: but like, this is what I think your thing is. 1226 01:07:39,200 --> 01:07:43,120 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people want something and they 1227 01:07:43,200 --> 01:07:49,040 Speaker 1: want it right now, and when they do that, everything 1228 01:07:49,120 --> 01:07:52,200 Speaker 1: you get like horse blinders on. You're not thinking about 1229 01:07:52,200 --> 01:07:56,000 Speaker 1: anything else. The time in which you find love or 1230 01:07:56,080 --> 01:07:59,800 Speaker 1: you find someone is when you're not expecting it. So 1231 01:08:01,040 --> 01:08:04,240 Speaker 1: my advice to you, by the way, is you're on 1232 01:08:04,440 --> 01:08:07,760 Speaker 1: right now, You're on like a We talked outside this 1233 01:08:07,920 --> 01:08:09,680 Speaker 1: before the podcast. We were talking about like what I 1234 01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:11,600 Speaker 1: think you should do with your career, which I think 1235 01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:14,320 Speaker 1: is meteoric, and I think you should continue doing that. 1236 01:08:14,720 --> 01:08:18,720 Speaker 1: I think that someone will come along regardless if you're 1237 01:08:18,720 --> 01:08:22,280 Speaker 1: looking forward or not, and at that point then you'll 1238 01:08:22,360 --> 01:08:27,920 Speaker 1: figure things out when you start looking. You're trying to 1239 01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:31,400 Speaker 1: square peg roundhole all the time right now, and that 1240 01:08:31,560 --> 01:08:36,040 Speaker 1: doesn't work. Things happened, Like dude, I wasn't trying to 1241 01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:38,760 Speaker 1: hook up with Haley from Modern Family. That wasn't my 1242 01:08:39,439 --> 01:08:41,760 Speaker 1: end goal. Like, that wasn't the thing. It was something 1243 01:08:41,840 --> 01:08:44,240 Speaker 1: that like I was like hanging out on my couch, 1244 01:08:44,600 --> 01:08:47,360 Speaker 1: like doing drunk snapchat or whatever I was doing. And 1245 01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:50,360 Speaker 1: and then then I saw it and I was like, oh, dude, 1246 01:08:50,400 --> 01:08:54,680 Speaker 1: she's tweeting me, okay, whatever, And then I was yeah, 1247 01:08:54,720 --> 01:08:56,880 Speaker 1: it wasn't something that I was like going. And also 1248 01:08:56,960 --> 01:09:00,559 Speaker 1: at that point, I was very much in the mindset 1249 01:09:00,680 --> 01:09:03,559 Speaker 1: of I'm single, I want to be single for a while. 1250 01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:07,479 Speaker 1: I was not even from the TV show. I had 1251 01:09:07,560 --> 01:09:12,599 Speaker 1: been burned, I was raw, I had felt bad about 1252 01:09:12,680 --> 01:09:15,920 Speaker 1: myself and whatever. I wasn't even like ready for any 1253 01:09:15,920 --> 01:09:18,400 Speaker 1: of that kind of stuff. And then that happened, and 1254 01:09:18,479 --> 01:09:23,200 Speaker 1: then everything turned around. It completely changed. But it was 1255 01:09:23,320 --> 01:09:26,240 Speaker 1: only the moment where I was like, going on a 1256 01:09:26,320 --> 01:09:29,959 Speaker 1: TV show to like find love is the most ridiculous, 1257 01:09:30,800 --> 01:09:35,599 Speaker 1: but not even that, it's like the saddest like reaching 1258 01:09:35,760 --> 01:09:39,960 Speaker 1: for something thing. Ever, that's crazy. The second that I 1259 01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:42,479 Speaker 1: sat back and I was like, I'm the bartender guy, 1260 01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:45,639 Speaker 1: I'm like never gonna find anything. It was the second 1261 01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:50,920 Speaker 1: that something like sparked. And I'm a true believer in 1262 01:09:51,040 --> 01:09:54,200 Speaker 1: like the second you stop trying to find it is 1263 01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:56,960 Speaker 1: the second that it comes to you. And I'm so 1264 01:09:57,160 --> 01:10:01,040 Speaker 1: so you said something here into that orisonated with me 1265 01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,040 Speaker 1: was when you talked about you will make time for 1266 01:10:04,120 --> 01:10:06,080 Speaker 1: someone you want to be with, and I so I've 1267 01:10:06,600 --> 01:10:08,800 Speaker 1: I've I've used it before, I've used the whole the 1268 01:10:08,880 --> 01:10:11,559 Speaker 1: timing is off, you know. But also and I've had 1269 01:10:11,600 --> 01:10:13,080 Speaker 1: that use against me where they're like timing just not 1270 01:10:13,200 --> 01:10:15,479 Speaker 1: right now, which is it's b s. Because if you want, 1271 01:10:15,640 --> 01:10:17,360 Speaker 1: you will make time for somebody, if you want to 1272 01:10:17,439 --> 01:10:19,040 Speaker 1: be with him, you know, And like I said, if 1273 01:10:19,040 --> 01:10:20,640 Speaker 1: you're not planning on it, you don't know what it's 1274 01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:22,800 Speaker 1: gonna come and all of a sudden, you meet that person, 1275 01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:25,000 Speaker 1: you will drop everything. You will you'll drop everything to 1276 01:10:25,040 --> 01:10:26,560 Speaker 1: be with that person. You'll find time to be with 1277 01:10:26,640 --> 01:10:28,680 Speaker 1: that person. And so if you've ever been told that 1278 01:10:28,760 --> 01:10:31,080 Speaker 1: that timing is not right, that just, honestly, in my opinion, 1279 01:10:31,160 --> 01:10:33,000 Speaker 1: that just means they're probably not into because they will 1280 01:10:33,080 --> 01:10:35,439 Speaker 1: find time, like you know so, And I've used it, 1281 01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:37,599 Speaker 1: and I've had it us against me even I will 1282 01:10:37,680 --> 01:10:41,320 Speaker 1: implore people who are in relationships when you know it's 1283 01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:44,920 Speaker 1: not a thing, to tell the person that you know 1284 01:10:45,080 --> 01:10:47,519 Speaker 1: it's not a thing with that it's not a thing. Yeah, 1285 01:10:48,000 --> 01:10:51,680 Speaker 1: it's a really hard conversation and sometimes they will not 1286 01:10:51,920 --> 01:10:54,840 Speaker 1: accept it, but it's the thing that needs to be done. 1287 01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:58,479 Speaker 1: And and that's the thing that I think everyone needs 1288 01:10:58,520 --> 01:11:02,040 Speaker 1: to remember and lies like as that guy or that 1289 01:11:02,240 --> 01:11:06,080 Speaker 1: girl who's like just leading someone on, just tell him 1290 01:11:06,160 --> 01:11:09,000 Speaker 1: it's over, like dude, I gotta go do something else. 1291 01:11:09,479 --> 01:11:12,960 Speaker 1: Don't square paygroundhole things. Yeah, well, I think I think 1292 01:11:13,000 --> 01:11:14,640 Speaker 1: it's a little bit too of like why I'm not 1293 01:11:14,880 --> 01:11:21,360 Speaker 1: even on dating apps because truly, I do think it's 1294 01:11:21,400 --> 01:11:25,000 Speaker 1: just gonna come at me from like something super unexpected, 1295 01:11:25,080 --> 01:11:26,760 Speaker 1: and like I just have to put myself into just 1296 01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:31,400 Speaker 1: like different experiences and things like that, because I don't 1297 01:11:31,439 --> 01:11:33,320 Speaker 1: think I'm not the person that's going to like go 1298 01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:39,439 Speaker 1: on bumble or like my soul mad blake, like my 1299 01:11:39,560 --> 01:11:41,759 Speaker 1: soul mad blake here, like you know, if I wouldn't 1300 01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:44,760 Speaker 1: have come. But it's true because I think like a 1301 01:11:44,800 --> 01:11:48,439 Speaker 1: lot of times, um, you can force things and a 1302 01:11:48,520 --> 01:11:51,080 Speaker 1: lot of people. It's so it's like it's really sweet 1303 01:11:51,080 --> 01:11:53,200 Speaker 1: and endearing, but so many people try to set me up. 1304 01:11:54,680 --> 01:11:56,479 Speaker 1: Like I can show you three text messages with people 1305 01:11:56,560 --> 01:11:58,360 Speaker 1: that literally send me photos of guys and they're like 1306 01:11:58,400 --> 01:11:59,720 Speaker 1: he's the one on the left. What do you think. 1307 01:11:59,760 --> 01:12:01,920 Speaker 1: It's like people are constantly trying to set me up, 1308 01:12:01,960 --> 01:12:04,600 Speaker 1: and I'm like sometimes I'll and I'm open to it. 1309 01:12:04,680 --> 01:12:06,760 Speaker 1: I'm like sure, whatever if if you're an amazing person, 1310 01:12:06,840 --> 01:12:08,000 Speaker 1: so if you think this guy is good for me, 1311 01:12:08,080 --> 01:12:09,360 Speaker 1: like sure, I'll go out with him. And it's like 1312 01:12:10,320 --> 01:12:15,280 Speaker 1: when you think of your forever person, yeah, because I 1313 01:12:16,160 --> 01:12:19,400 Speaker 1: know you you're kind of crazy, so you probably had 1314 01:12:19,479 --> 01:12:21,280 Speaker 1: this thought like do you have like a meat cute 1315 01:12:21,400 --> 01:12:23,600 Speaker 1: like are you like the farmer's market And you're like, 1316 01:12:23,720 --> 01:12:27,240 Speaker 1: oh my god, we're both looking at lagoons together. At 1317 01:12:27,280 --> 01:12:31,160 Speaker 1: our bussels sprouts? How does it butter guy? How does 1318 01:12:31,200 --> 01:12:36,160 Speaker 1: it look to you? Um? So it doesn't me meeting 1319 01:12:36,320 --> 01:12:40,280 Speaker 1: this person. It doesn't like, UM, I don't have this 1320 01:12:40,640 --> 01:12:43,600 Speaker 1: perception of like what it's supposed to be. But what 1321 01:12:43,760 --> 01:12:46,120 Speaker 1: I do feel like I'm going to have with my 1322 01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:49,200 Speaker 1: partner is something because I've been very open and honest 1323 01:12:49,240 --> 01:12:53,840 Speaker 1: about UM, how I how I am in relationships and 1324 01:12:53,880 --> 01:12:57,360 Speaker 1: my expectations out of relationships and giving up I've given 1325 01:12:57,439 --> 01:13:00,320 Speaker 1: up my body before, I've given commitment, and I want 1326 01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:05,760 Speaker 1: to really, um go back to not letting myself be 1327 01:13:05,920 --> 01:13:09,160 Speaker 1: in a perpetual pattern of pain. And so I want 1328 01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:11,160 Speaker 1: to be with somebody who's going to be at my 1329 01:13:11,320 --> 01:13:15,080 Speaker 1: level and who wants to UM. I don't want to 1330 01:13:15,200 --> 01:13:18,519 Speaker 1: have an impact but like grassroots it kind of and 1331 01:13:18,680 --> 01:13:20,880 Speaker 1: be really like open and honest and have like a 1332 01:13:21,000 --> 01:13:26,559 Speaker 1: really like I want my relationship to be a testimony. Okay, 1333 01:13:26,600 --> 01:13:32,640 Speaker 1: but like fair fair enough. But the truth is is 1334 01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:37,439 Speaker 1: that you are now a public figure. So that's going 1335 01:13:37,520 --> 01:13:40,880 Speaker 1: to be an issue. Well, yeah, how is that person 1336 01:13:41,000 --> 01:13:44,800 Speaker 1: going to deal with that situation? We can't talk about 1337 01:13:45,240 --> 01:13:50,080 Speaker 1: this on the podcast. I think about how if you're 1338 01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:52,880 Speaker 1: in a relationship how would you be open to like 1339 01:13:53,400 --> 01:13:57,240 Speaker 1: talking about your relationship on your podcast. That is a 1340 01:13:57,360 --> 01:13:59,800 Speaker 1: thing you have to think about. That's crazy. And also 1341 01:14:01,600 --> 01:14:04,519 Speaker 1: Ryan Seacrest, You're on that show every single day, every day, 1342 01:14:04,640 --> 01:14:07,160 Speaker 1: and so like that person has to be a part 1343 01:14:07,240 --> 01:14:10,519 Speaker 1: of So yes, And it's funny because so I'm the 1344 01:14:10,560 --> 01:14:13,680 Speaker 1: type of person where like I have every emotion and 1345 01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:16,160 Speaker 1: I feel every emotion times dred So like I would 1346 01:14:16,160 --> 01:14:20,760 Speaker 1: literally come into work and have like a woman yeah, 1347 01:14:20,800 --> 01:14:23,400 Speaker 1: and I'd be like so giddy from like my date 1348 01:14:23,439 --> 01:14:24,920 Speaker 1: the night before, and I would like I would be 1349 01:14:25,080 --> 01:14:27,320 Speaker 1: beaming and they'd be like what happened? And I would 1350 01:14:27,320 --> 01:14:29,680 Speaker 1: just be like just like it just be diarrhea out 1351 01:14:29,720 --> 01:14:31,680 Speaker 1: of the mouth. I couldn't hold it in, and like 1352 01:14:31,800 --> 01:14:34,000 Speaker 1: seven months on the road to be like he didn't 1353 01:14:34,640 --> 01:14:38,720 Speaker 1: put on Grey's Anatomy, I'm going to and that's all 1354 01:14:38,760 --> 01:14:40,840 Speaker 1: like benign and that's all fine, and I share that 1355 01:14:41,040 --> 01:14:44,840 Speaker 1: that type of stuff, yes, but like when things really 1356 01:14:44,920 --> 01:14:48,040 Speaker 1: go wrong, and like the relationship ended, and it was 1357 01:14:48,120 --> 01:14:50,479 Speaker 1: something that I wasn't super comfortable sharing because it's like 1358 01:14:50,560 --> 01:14:53,160 Speaker 1: personal and it doesn't just involve me and involved a 1359 01:14:53,200 --> 01:14:55,800 Speaker 1: second person. I was like, you know what it ended? 1360 01:14:55,840 --> 01:14:57,200 Speaker 1: And I know I have to like kind of put 1361 01:14:57,240 --> 01:15:00,920 Speaker 1: a button on things for the air. It's like I 1362 01:15:01,040 --> 01:15:03,800 Speaker 1: lived this, this relationship on the air for so long. Yeah, 1363 01:15:03,800 --> 01:15:05,040 Speaker 1: I was like, I know I have to end this, 1364 01:15:05,280 --> 01:15:07,200 Speaker 1: Like I know I have to go on like talk 1365 01:15:07,240 --> 01:15:10,720 Speaker 1: about it. But I don't have to share exactly why 1366 01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:15,240 Speaker 1: it ended, because this is something that's not just to me. 1367 01:15:15,400 --> 01:15:17,639 Speaker 1: This is personal as somebody else that this isn't their job, 1368 01:15:17,760 --> 01:15:19,560 Speaker 1: you know. So it's like I do come at it 1369 01:15:19,640 --> 01:15:22,720 Speaker 1: with a sense of compassion and empathy for the fact 1370 01:15:22,760 --> 01:15:24,679 Speaker 1: that I'm in it with somebody else. So I don't 1371 01:15:24,760 --> 01:15:28,600 Speaker 1: share of everything. That's really funny because I've done the 1372 01:15:28,680 --> 01:15:33,439 Speaker 1: exact opposite. Every single relates the last four relationships I've 1373 01:15:33,439 --> 01:15:36,640 Speaker 1: been in, which have been when I've been on relatively 1374 01:15:36,720 --> 01:15:41,880 Speaker 1: popular tel radio shows. I told them, hey, listen, this 1375 01:15:42,160 --> 01:15:46,080 Speaker 1: is now public knowledge, just so you know, everything that 1376 01:15:46,160 --> 01:15:49,479 Speaker 1: we do is going to be just so you know, 1377 01:15:49,720 --> 01:15:51,280 Speaker 1: this is going to be a part of it, because 1378 01:15:51,360 --> 01:15:52,560 Speaker 1: this is a part of my story, and this is 1379 01:15:52,600 --> 01:15:55,040 Speaker 1: what's funny about me, or it's or it's tragic about 1380 01:15:55,040 --> 01:15:58,240 Speaker 1: me or whatever it is, just so you know. And 1381 01:15:58,439 --> 01:16:02,040 Speaker 1: so then and maybe that's maybe I'm the bad guy, 1382 01:16:02,080 --> 01:16:05,240 Speaker 1: I don't even know, but it just is what it is. 1383 01:16:05,360 --> 01:16:07,200 Speaker 1: It's socially a front and honest. Instead of being going 1384 01:16:07,280 --> 01:16:08,720 Speaker 1: in not telling him that, being going in and talking 1385 01:16:08,720 --> 01:16:10,960 Speaker 1: about them the whole time radio show. But they wouldn't 1386 01:16:10,960 --> 01:16:12,880 Speaker 1: know about it because they would get tweeted about whatever 1387 01:16:12,920 --> 01:16:16,080 Speaker 1: it is and like and but Ryan's been really respectful 1388 01:16:16,200 --> 01:16:19,600 Speaker 1: of like he loves digging into like my relationships and 1389 01:16:19,760 --> 01:16:23,400 Speaker 1: like what's going on in that. But when I do say, 1390 01:16:23,520 --> 01:16:26,200 Speaker 1: like this took a dark turn and like I need 1391 01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:27,920 Speaker 1: to like nip it in the bug, Like he's really 1392 01:16:28,000 --> 01:16:30,040 Speaker 1: respectful and so he's not gonna pull it out of me. 1393 01:16:30,120 --> 01:16:32,200 Speaker 1: So I think I think I'm good at kind of 1394 01:16:33,920 --> 01:16:37,559 Speaker 1: I tried to be, yeah, putting a little, a nice little. 1395 01:16:37,600 --> 01:16:39,760 Speaker 1: It's hard. It's an interesting I'm not in radio or 1396 01:16:39,800 --> 01:16:42,960 Speaker 1: like in your guys field, but you're in I am. 1397 01:16:43,160 --> 01:16:44,960 Speaker 1: I am, and you're right, but you can choose what 1398 01:16:45,120 --> 01:16:47,040 Speaker 1: you say. I could choose what I say. But at 1399 01:16:47,040 --> 01:16:48,519 Speaker 1: the same time, if I go out with somebody, I 1400 01:16:48,600 --> 01:16:49,840 Speaker 1: was saying, I went on a day I remember a 1401 01:16:49,880 --> 01:16:51,479 Speaker 1: couple of months ago, and people are like taking pictures 1402 01:16:51,520 --> 01:16:53,400 Speaker 1: of me while on the day. From across the room 1403 01:16:53,520 --> 01:16:57,560 Speaker 1: was this girl and you know what's her name? So 1404 01:16:57,680 --> 01:17:00,519 Speaker 1: it didn't work out, but that was the literally was like, 1405 01:17:00,640 --> 01:17:09,240 Speaker 1: what does it? Rhyme's happened all the time, Jenna, Yeah, Um, 1406 01:17:09,360 --> 01:17:10,960 Speaker 1: but I was like, but I kind of also had 1407 01:17:10,960 --> 01:17:12,479 Speaker 1: to go into being like this is my life now, 1408 01:17:13,040 --> 01:17:15,760 Speaker 1: like everything we do will be on us weekly or 1409 01:17:15,920 --> 01:17:18,160 Speaker 1: you know, like that is something. It's a hard conversation 1410 01:17:18,320 --> 01:17:20,960 Speaker 1: has super and weird weird coma. It's a very weird 1411 01:17:21,080 --> 01:17:23,920 Speaker 1: conversation to have now and like no one most people 1412 01:17:24,000 --> 01:17:25,800 Speaker 1: can relate. They can't know. But but it's it's a 1413 01:17:25,880 --> 01:17:29,680 Speaker 1: handsle thing you have to talk about absolutely well. I 1414 01:17:29,760 --> 01:17:32,320 Speaker 1: mean I hate to like end this, but our time 1415 01:17:32,439 --> 01:17:34,560 Speaker 1: is up? Is it? Our time is over? Because I 1416 01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:38,000 Speaker 1: feel like we could keep getting do you want to 1417 01:17:38,320 --> 01:17:40,800 Speaker 1: you want to break down? What else you want to 1418 01:17:40,840 --> 01:17:44,560 Speaker 1: break down? Um? Thank you so much. Well as for 1419 01:17:44,680 --> 01:17:46,519 Speaker 1: being here, you can listen. I feel so bad. I 1420 01:17:46,680 --> 01:17:50,200 Speaker 1: just came in here and like did like three minutes. Um, 1421 01:17:50,439 --> 01:17:53,080 Speaker 1: what can we plug for? What? What can we tell people? 1422 01:17:53,160 --> 01:17:56,920 Speaker 1: Where can they catch you? Braadcast? Do that? Okay? So well, 1423 01:17:57,120 --> 01:17:59,599 Speaker 1: the most recent episode of Bradcast is gonna I'm gonna 1424 01:17:59,600 --> 01:18:04,120 Speaker 1: listen to that. Yeah, So I'm so nervous about the 1425 01:18:04,160 --> 01:18:06,160 Speaker 1: episode that Wells and Stephanie just did that. I'm like 1426 01:18:06,280 --> 01:18:08,519 Speaker 1: calling our lawyers to make sure we can air it 1427 01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:11,920 Speaker 1: all like it's that people. Let me let me say 1428 01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:14,160 Speaker 1: let me say this, let me say this. I've been 1429 01:18:14,800 --> 01:18:17,400 Speaker 1: I've had mown radio show since i was sixteen years old. 1430 01:18:17,400 --> 01:18:20,880 Speaker 1: I've done nothing but interview people since i was a child. 1431 01:18:21,800 --> 01:18:27,800 Speaker 1: This was the most cringeworthy episode I've ever done, and 1432 01:18:28,400 --> 01:18:30,479 Speaker 1: it makes this episode we did with this woman Kelly 1433 01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:35,760 Speaker 1: Catrone looked like nothing. It was really okay. So listen 1434 01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:37,720 Speaker 1: to that. It was bad, but it's great. I want 1435 01:18:37,760 --> 01:18:39,280 Speaker 1: to see. I hope you don't have to add anything 1436 01:18:39,280 --> 01:18:44,280 Speaker 1: out now. I'm i missing. Also watch Modern Family script 1437 01:18:44,280 --> 01:18:49,599 Speaker 1: shot and Blake working everybody where? Can everybody catch up 1438 01:18:49,600 --> 01:18:58,400 Speaker 1: with you? No? No Instagram, that's all. I don't have 1439 01:18:58,479 --> 01:19:03,320 Speaker 1: a podcasts ram block a block at h on Instagram 1440 01:19:05,120 --> 01:19:11,800 Speaker 1: to that. Thank everybody, go, thank you, m thank you, Um, 1441 01:19:12,080 --> 01:19:15,639 Speaker 1: thank you, Janna, thank you Mike, thank you, Blake, thank 1442 01:19:15,720 --> 01:19:18,840 Speaker 1: you Wells, and thank you quip um. So go to 1443 01:19:18,960 --> 01:19:21,519 Speaker 1: get quip dot com slash Becca right now you get 1444 01:19:21,520 --> 01:19:25,240 Speaker 1: your first re Feel pack for free with equip Electric toothbrush. Um, 1445 01:19:25,439 --> 01:19:28,240 Speaker 1: thank you open Fit. You get a special extended thirty 1446 01:19:28,320 --> 01:19:30,759 Speaker 1: day free trial membership to open fit when you text 1447 01:19:30,960 --> 01:19:35,880 Speaker 1: Becca to and ship station try ship station free for 1448 01:19:36,000 --> 01:19:39,840 Speaker 1: sixty days when you use our promo code Becca Oha. 1449 01:19:42,400 --> 01:19:44,840 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, thank you so much for being being here. Um, 1450 01:19:45,000 --> 01:19:46,680 Speaker 1: since you are the guest of honor, would you like 1451 01:19:46,680 --> 01:19:50,439 Speaker 1: to call time of Death? Yes? Yeah, here we go. 1452 01:19:55,920 --> 01:20:03,040 Speaker 1: Uh good time? This is time? Yeah? What time is it? 1453 01:20:03,280 --> 01:20:14,080 Speaker 1: Time of debt? In eight two that I've had so 1454 01:20:14,200 --> 01:20:17,240 Speaker 1: much time of death? Is that what I say? Time 1455 01:20:17,280 --> 01:20:20,680 Speaker 1: of the time of death? Dud? Don't music really got me? 1456 01:20:20,920 --> 01:20:30,639 Speaker 1: I started getting nervous. Give him a little hearpia. Yeah, 1457 01:20:33,280 --> 01:20:37,720 Speaker 1: time of death. I saw you in every show. Yeah, 1458 01:20:39,240 --> 01:20:44,600 Speaker 1: he's either second freaking out, so he dies at the 1459 01:20:44,680 --> 01:20:48,519 Speaker 1: end of everybody. So did you never get to come back? No, 1460 01:20:48,640 --> 01:20:51,120 Speaker 1: he can come back, So he's got a second time. 1461 01:20:51,720 --> 01:20:55,680 Speaker 1: All of this will still be in the podcast. This 1462 01:20:55,840 --> 01:20:57,679 Speaker 1: is This is the best ending possible