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Speaker 1: Why is there no good men? Great question and we

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Speaker 1: Oh I thirty eight female, have some physical problems, but

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Speaker 1: do everything myself. I started dating a few years ago,

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Speaker 1: and was dressed as a baby from head to toe.

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Speaker 1: He had a diaper on and a binky. Oh the

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Speaker 1: whole nine yards. He was thirty six at the time.

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Speaker 1: Oh I walked out?

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Speaker 2: Am I wrong? Wow? Literally? Not wow? Wow? That's crazy?

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Speaker 3: Although, OPI, I gotta I gotta say, I'm a little disappointed.

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Speaker 2: You should have snapped a pick and shared.

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Speaker 3: It with us. Yeah, ondit Like I am slow key

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Speaker 1: We're also just like why just like like I like,

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Speaker 1: you know, you don't have to go through whole day,

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Speaker 1: but maybe just ask him, like like I would be curious,

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Speaker 1: be like what series of events led you to the

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Speaker 1: position you are now? And there's actually a comment exchange.

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Speaker 1: The original story is from Possession Possession Do four nine

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Speaker 1: to three and to Ryan says, as somebody who's actually

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Speaker 1: into this sort of thing, Oh wow, I can definitely say, no,

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Speaker 1: you were not wrong. I was assuming that this was

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Speaker 1: a first day. But even if it was not, a

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Speaker 1: to do what he did. Very true, super weird, but again,

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Speaker 1: I'm so to know what's going through this guy's dead.

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Speaker 3: Actually, there's a great therapy get Goo episode on like

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Speaker 3: the baby the baby, yeah, baby fetish thing, which is

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Speaker 3: a weird sentence, bro it is. It is very weird,

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Speaker 3: like like he he asked a lot like like isn't

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Speaker 3: it like so close to pedophilia and just basically yeah, like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and they like.

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Speaker 1: Catch people and expose them and Op says, yes, it

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Speaker 2: God especially confirmed Op. You deserve better.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry dating in your thirties ends up with the

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Speaker 2: I have an idea.

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Speaker 3: I have an idea, OPI could you make another post

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Speaker 3: on our on our subreddit, our slash okob and basically

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Speaker 3: give us your like dating profile and could uh clean, professional, nice,

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Speaker 3: non baby men politely requests your hand in marriage, your

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Speaker 3: I'm kind of low key like it's obviously like a

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Speaker 3: it's like, hey, you love OKOB? I love OKOBT bit together.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I have antivity. You can do together.

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Speaker 3: You can listen to Kobi together.

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Speaker 2: Literally, love has been made to the show. We've certified

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Speaker 2: it happen again. Hey, we're open to it. Do it, Okop.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend secretly got tested after a bachelor party in Mexico.

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Speaker 2: What, bro, someone's cheating.

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Speaker 3: Not a good look. I'm just feeling defeated after just

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Speaker 1: See, that's actually even more sketchy because you don't know

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Speaker 3: Just for some relationship context. Our relationship has zero cheating

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Speaker 1: And it's like because he denied it so many times beforehand,

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Speaker 3: Like like the tipping at the beginning, Well, honestly, I

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Speaker 3: And then I thought you were saying, like hook line

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Speaker 3: That is a good question, Like a and like an

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Speaker 3: But still I have an awful gut feeling that he cheated.

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Speaker 3: him cheating? Nah?

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Speaker 3: I got nothing, dude.

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Speaker 2: That is damning.

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Speaker 1: Coming back from a bachelor party and getting tested like

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Speaker 3: And his reaction, Yeah, his reaction just tells it all.

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Speaker 1: Everything points to break up with this thirty. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: four years, man, four years, four long years.

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Speaker 3: Well sorry, you know, Op, While we can't help this situation,

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Speaker 3: there is one thing that everyone could do.

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Speaker 1: Yes, there is one thing that is subscribe. You've made

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