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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about how we can make this world a

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Speaker 1: And that's what this podcast is about. It's about gratitude,

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Speaker 1: And I have been thinking about specifically batically in my

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Speaker 1: We have allergies. I have them. I will stand and

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Speaker 1: what I want to say to you. I've just gone

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Speaker 1: on a tangent. Why would anyone ever give me a microphone?

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Speaker 1: It's crazy, but they did, and I got something to say.

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Speaker 1: So emails. What a beautiful gift from the almighty that

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Speaker 1: we each have an email address, some of us, many

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Speaker 1: myself included. I'd say I have six burners. I have

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Speaker 1: Oh I shouldn't say this, Mama say it. I'm giving

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Speaker 1: When someone gives you their email address, I really think

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Speaker 1: it is violent to throw them on. They give you

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Speaker 1: find no problem. The violence begins when you then put

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Speaker 1: this violence. There's like the Mailchimp violence, and that is

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Speaker 1: But the people who really need to go to jail

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Speaker 1: the people who then put you on a mailing list

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Speaker 1: That is exactly what they look like. Hello, Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry for your previous experiences.

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Speaker 1: We're healing. Yeah, as a community, the podcast community. Right, Okay,

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Speaker 2: Oh man, that's a great question. Okay, I should probably

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It was exactly that of just being like thinking

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Speaker 1: Oh incredible. Go mom, did you guys have a relationship

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's it is not, as as you

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Speaker 1: So it's different, and that's okay. BEA's like that sometimes.

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Speaker 1: And in fact, I would say the premise of this

433
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Speaker 1: podcast is that it be like that. Most of the time.

434
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Speaker 1: It's different. And so it was different. What was it like,

435
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Speaker 1: if you care to share.

436
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 2: I mean, the best way I could put it is

437
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,679
Speaker 2: that he wasn't there for most of the time that

438
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:56,199
Speaker 2: I needed him. He was there for me in a

439
00:22:56,280 --> 00:23:00,040
Speaker 2: time where I needed him the most, okay, And so

440
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,480
Speaker 2: there's always an appreciation and of value in that. I

441
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 2: would say that he hasn't met my three year old son,

442
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 2: and then the last time I saw him for his birthday,

443
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: he just mostly asked me what type of car I drive?

444
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I get that. That is it sounds like

445
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: a limited tool set ye for a connection. Yeah, but

446
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 1: do you recognize the like the car question as a

447
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 1: bid for connection or how do you receive that?

448
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 2: Mostly just check in on how I'm doing in life?

449
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 2: What type of car would I be driving?

450
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: That? Okay? Like press him like how you're doing? Like

451
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:41,719
Speaker 1: are you are you making money? Type of okay? And

452
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: did you tell him what kind of car? Yeah?

453
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 2: You were like okay, yeah, but I mean but I

454
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: can't even because he wants another year and all that,

455
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 2: and I'm like, don't.

456
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Speaker 1: I don't know how long was the phone call?

457
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 2: I mean, I went to I went to his birthday party.

458
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Speaker 1: Okay, that's nice.

459
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 2: It was nice.

460
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Speaker 1: Did you speak?

461
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 2: I did speak, and I saw some friends and I

462
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 2: saw a family. We mostly it was a big group,

463
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:07,120
Speaker 2: which is great. Thank god.

464
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:09,640
Speaker 1: Other people spoke as well.

465
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 2: Right, and then again more perspective of just seeing all

466
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 2: the different types of lives in my family and people doing,

467
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 2: you know, a lot of things to celebrate, where people

468
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 2: were just like I have a half brother and his

469
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 2: main thing was he's just like, man, I'm clean and

470
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 2: sober and I've been out of jail for a couple

471
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 2: of years now, and that's my main focus.

472
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 1: And that's the bar for him. It's different. Yeah, life looks.

473
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 2: Like but and I'm like, that's beautiful. Yeah, that's amazing.

474
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 2: I'm proud of you. And if you and I don't

475
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 2: want to get into it, but like his background, if

476
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,640
Speaker 2: you knew his background, you'd be like, oh, hell, yeah,

477
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 2: I'm proud of you because you could just be like,

478
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 2: my life's been terrible and I'm just going to stay

479
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 2: on drugs.

480
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 1: Yes. Well, the will to keep going in general, regardless

481
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,439
Speaker 1: of what your situation is, I think is such a

482
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Speaker 1: sign of resilience that we all have within us. Some

483
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: of us are left able to harness it than others.

484
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 1: But when someone is able to harness that will to

485
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 1: like keep going and keep living and keep trying, I

486
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 1: think is a remarkable thing that we don't celebrate enough. Frankly,

487
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: there's lots of reasons to stop going. Yeah, right, there's many, many,

488
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 1: many reasons. Right. You said that your dad, though, was

489
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 1: not around for most of the time, but when you

490
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 1: needed him most, he was there, which sounds remarkably unique

491
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 1: in that a lot of people, myself included, would be

492
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 1: like my dad wasn't there most of the time. My

493
00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: dad wasn't there when I would have needed him most.

494
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,880
Speaker 1: Like our first real conversation was when I was eighteen

495
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: in la in college. Like I had made it essentially,

496
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 1: Mom did all the hard stuff. What was that moment

497
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 1: that you needed him most that he was able to

498
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: show up for? Even broadly speaking.

499
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was just that my mom had found herself

500
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 2: in an abusive relationship for many years and it was

501
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 2: affecting our family, and like many people, she was having

502
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:56,959
Speaker 2: a hard time just getting out of that cycle. And

503
00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: it was easier for we had got in contact with

504
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,359
Speaker 2: my dad, who had moved into Oregon, and it was

505
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 2: just an easier situation for us to leave and go

506
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 2: to there as opposed to her getting rid of him.

507
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 2: So my dad, you know, besides us not I haven't

508
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 2: seen him for like eight nine years, took me and

509
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 2: my sister and we lived with him in Oregon with

510
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 2: his with his lady, who also was terrible. Okay, okay,

511
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 2: but again, but I don't think if I hadn't left Chicago,

512
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:42,199
Speaker 2: I would have never like, I wouldn't have discovered my

513
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 2: individuality and who I am. It taught me so much,

514
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 2: just like the cultural differences from being from the South

515
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 2: side of Chicago and then move into this lily white

516
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 2: town in Salem, Oregon. It really just taught me to

517
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:58,199
Speaker 2: see people as individuals. And you know, my mom was

518
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 2: just very much about being a student and being focused

519
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 2: on things. And I was very silly and had an

520
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 2: interesting comedy from a very young age. And I don't

521
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 2: think without the buffer of being away from my mom,

522
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 2: I don't think I would have been a comedian.

523
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: Oh wow, So, like a really crucial time in your life.

524
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: How many years were you in Salem.

525
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 2: I was in Salem from when I was twelve until

526
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 2: twenty two. Well, I mean I bounced around a bit

527
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 2: in Oreo, but yeah, twenty two, twenty three.

528
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: Woll okay, so it was a cool ten years. Yeah, amazing.

529
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: And so you had your son then when you were

530
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: in Oregon. You're your eldest, so you have two sons.

531
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Speaker 1: Is it what values are you trying to instill in

532
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: both of these?

533
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 2: Oh? Thank you? Mostly right now? Empathy. I think it's

534
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: important because I don't think that's being culturally mirrored a lot.

535
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 2: We're being taught recently to just think for yourself and

536
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 2: look out for yourself only, and so I try to

537
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 2: really instilling my sons to be kind to other people,

538
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 2: to not be a pushover, not be like, you know,

539
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 2: a sucker, but that we are ady collective and so

540
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 2: that you have to look at the world like that.

541
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:16,399
Speaker 2: It's different for both of my sons. My oldest is

542
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 2: on the autism spectrum and he kind of grew up

543
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 2: he's so mostly poor, and then his last ten years

544
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 2: have been different, whereas my youngest came in smiling because

545
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 2: he knows we're rich. Yah, I said, I go, he

546
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 2: knows the life he has.

547
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 1: I'm not crying. He's like, no, Doc, I'm alive, I'm breathing.

548
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 2: I'm rich. But you can see it in him already.

549
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 2: He's more demanding, he's more Uh, it's just spoiled. He's

550
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 2: more spoiled. And so I am really focusing on him

551
00:28:54,760 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 2: of just trying to discipline, empathy, hard work, and mostly

552
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 2: just track a connectivity with family because the game with

553
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 2: my oldest having autism, one of my grand schemes is

554
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 2: to hopefully be like, hey, guys, I gotta die. Could

555
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 2: you look after.

556
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 1: I see? So you're like you're going to be the youngest,

557
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: You're like you're going to be the bridge with the

558
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 1: rest of the family, and so okay.

559
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 2: Hopefully, but I mean people, individuals. I'm trying to prepare

560
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 2: my oldest to be able to live on his own,

561
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 2: but like, if they could look out for each other,

562
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: it would really give me a love piece.

563
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah right. I have a few friends whose children are

564
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: on the spectrum, and I really do wonder what that experience.

565
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: And I know I, at this point in my life

566
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: don't know because I haven't had that experience. But I

567
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: imagine when you speak to the peace and the desire

568
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 1: for peace, especially with how your son's taken care of

569
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: when you're not here, what is it that exactly concerns you?

570
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 2: Just that he is large. He's like six foot tall,

571
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 2: six foot two, big guy. He is friendly and happy,

572
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: but he's also a black kid, and he can be

573
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 2: He doesn't listen to directions as quickly as most, so

574
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 2: I worry about his interactions with police. I worry about

575
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 2: his inter I mean, I just took him to a

576
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 2: party the other day because I was like, oh, he's

577
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 2: twenty two. He can go to a party with me

578
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,479
Speaker 2: and tell him to a Halloween party, and it's just

579
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 2: watching him interact with people and knowing I can't step

580
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: in and go, oh, he has autism, Like I have

581
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 2: to watch them kind of come up talk to him

582
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 2: and then see their interactions, and then what's beautiful is

583
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 2: usually it just plays out like they just end up

584
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: just still chit chatting for a while. It's never becomes

585
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 2: an issue. But yeah, a couple of times it has,

586
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 2: really and I worry about those things when I'm not

587
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: there to diffuse it when they're not when someone doesn't

588
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 2: get him and then they're like aggressive about it.

589
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and you've stepped in in the past. Yeah,

590
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 1: it had to be like, Okay, this is what's going on. Yeah,

591
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 1: have you tried. I don't know how this works. Do

592
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:07,479
Speaker 1: you give him the tools to try to make that

593
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: clear in those moments? I don't know how that would even.

594
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 2: That's the point, you know. I never have I never

595
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 2: been like, hey, maybe you should be like, hey, I'm Malcolm,

596
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 2: I have autism.

597
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: I love it. He's like, this is who I am. Yes,

598
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 1: but I can only imagine as a parent. That's the

599
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 1: thing with my friends too, where I go. I know

600
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 1: one of them was like, I just worry. Their son

601
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: is twenty and they're like, I hope I'm around for

602
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: a long time because he's gonna sweetest pie their son,

603
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: but like he's gonna have to live with me, I

604
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 1: feel like, and I wonder if he'll ever have a

605
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend or a boyfriend and what that will be like

606
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: is that those concerns.

607
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 2: Too absolutely and everything goes as time. You know, he

608
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: shows his interest in things at his own pace. He did.

609
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: We went to the Strip Club for his twenty first birthday.

610
00:31:55,640 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: Oh it's magic City, only been once. The wings are

611
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 1: good though, need to go for a meal?

612
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 2: Uh, And so I do. And I asked him when

613
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 2: we talk about it. And he's part of this foundation

614
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 2: that called the ed Asner Foundation that does a great

615
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 2: job as far as like social skills and work placement,

616
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 2: and they do like date nights and things like that.

617
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 2: So I just try to listen to him and let

618
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 2: him lead on all that type of stuff. And yeah,

619
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 2: I think one of the reasons why I ended up

620
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 2: and the marriage I ended up, is that I was

621
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 2: looking for that. I was like, I need someone to

622
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 2: help me, Like I can't do this on my own,

623
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 2: and I need someone else to help me watch my son.

624
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 2: And so even when I wasn't like when I could

625
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: see like, oh this isn't exactly right. Yeah, I'd be like, well.

626
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 1: She's here and she and she's willing right, And I

627
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 1: don't know if anyone else will be willing.

628
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 2: I don't know. I need to try too much. I'm

629
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: too much.

630
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: I hate that. I feel like we've all felt that

631
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: at times.

632
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and now it's been the exact like now that,

633
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 2: like she says it, the home and been out of

634
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 2: that situation, like my son's the best roommate I could

635
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 2: ever hope for, Like you cleans the house, like I was,

636
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 2: like he was gone for a week and I was like,

637
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 2: oh my god, the house is so dirty. Whatever, Yeah,

638
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 2: get him back.

639
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, I need him because then

640
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: he needs me. Yes, that's amazing.

641
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 2: I don't know how to use the dishwasher.

642
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: Oh wait, by the way, I didn't know how to

643
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: use the dishwasher for a very long time. And I

644
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: feel like at least a lot of Nigerian's I know,

645
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 1: we had a dishwasher in my house when we moved

646
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: out of that house and sold that house we lived

647
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: in from we moved in when I was in second grade.

648
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: My mom sold that house when I was twenty four.

649
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: The tag of the dishwasher was still inside the dishwasher.

650
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 2: I did not.

651
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,320
Speaker 1: We were not like and I know my brother's married

652
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: now and his wife. I feel like had to make

653
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 1: him like we use dishwasher around here. We were hand

654
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 1: washing everything. Dishwasher was like decor in our house, like

655
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: we can afford one. You better not use that shit.

656
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: You have soap, you have sponge, you know what to do.

657
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to I didn't and I had

658
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: to watch a YouTube video. This is like my first

659
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: season on SNL in my apartment because I had a dishwasher.

660
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 1: I watched a YouTube like how do you load this motherfucker?

661
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:12,200
Speaker 1: I don't know? And then I was like down a

662
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 1: rabbit hole, like everyone has their different ways, couples fight

663
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 1: about it, and I was like, well, it's just me

664
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 1: in here, so I get to load this thing I want.

665
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 1: But I am trying to learn from an expert on

666
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: YouTube how to learn load a dishwasher. So wait, you

667
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: didn't know. You didn't know either, my kids, No, I

668
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: knew how.

669
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,239
Speaker 2: To load a general dishwasher.

670
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: Dumb ass.

671
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 2: No, I loved it. I wouldn't play the dumb ass.

672
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 2: It was more of a story about hard work and

673
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 2: intentionality that they wanted you to hand wash everything. I

674
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 2: feel like that's actually a great lesson. Uh More, it's

675
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 2: more that we moved into my new house, and since

676
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 2: I've been in a new house, I've never used a

677
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 2: dishwasher because my son washes the dishes every day.

678
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 1: Okay. So you're like, I don't know how that machine works, okay,

679
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 1: because I haven't touched it. Shout out to him for

680
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: doing that. I'm obsessed. That's like, and I'm like, I

681
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 1: need to get a son. That's what I never I

682
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 1: need a son immediately. So you said that being with

683
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,280
Speaker 1: your ex, it's like this person is here, they're willing,

684
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 1: I'm too much. I come with a lot of baggage.

685
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,439
Speaker 1: You obviously a divorced What did you learn from that

686
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: relationship ultimately, and how it came to be what you

687
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 1: were in need of, what you realize maybe you don't

688
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 1: need from another person. What did you How would you

689
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 1: articulate what you've learned?

690
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, it'd be difficult because it's so long,

691
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 2: But it was the worst thing I've been through in

692
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 2: my life that turned out to be like the biggest

693
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 2: blessing for me, and just the fact that it really

694
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 2: reinstilled who I am. I had to kind of just

695
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: refine what was important to me, what I do for fun.

696
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 2: I think that in that relationship I bent a lot

697
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 2: of what I enjoyed and what I did was not

698
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 2: necessarily shared. And so slowly I'd be like, Okay, well,

699
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: she just doesn't like that, so that's fine. I do

700
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 2: that on my own. But when we're spending more time together,

701
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:10,760
Speaker 2: so I'm just not going to go do those things.

702
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, And.

703
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 2: Slowly but surely it was more and more of that

704
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 2: where I was feeling isolated and feeling like I didn't

705
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,320
Speaker 2: I got to the point where I would like second

706
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 2: guess my own jokes because I would worry about how

707
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 2: they would feel where I was writing, and I'm always

708
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 2: I always write from a place to love and the thing.

709
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 2: But I would be like, oh, I don't want to

710
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 2: go home and get in an argument about with this joke, man,

711
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: And it was just really throwing me off. I think

712
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 2: a bad relationship, especially when you're holding onto something that

713
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: you know is not good for you, can really throw

714
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:46,840
Speaker 2: you off your path in every conceivable way. It was

715
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 2: affecting my comedy was affecting my skills, of parents affecting

716
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: my health. I was gaining weight a lot again and

717
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: just going through it and being able to be by

718
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,840
Speaker 2: myself and live with that solitude and try things that

719
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 2: I mean now I do jiu jitsu and I go

720
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 2: to pilate's. I got a plates class after this, me too, come.

721
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: On the same place. I don't know why, I said,

722
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 1: probably not. We don't know, We.

723
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 2: Don't, but I wouldn't know because I probably would have

724
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 2: seen you there.

725
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: That's true, that's true. That's fair.

726
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:20,240
Speaker 2: Fair, So I just really it feels like this whole

727
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 2: relationship and getting of it just taught me to refocus

728
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 2: on who I am, know myself more, know my boundaries

729
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:28,919
Speaker 2: about who I want around me and who I don't

730
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 2: want around me. It's taught me so much so it

731
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 2: turned out to be it taught me my strength.

732
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's incredible. And honestly, I feel like saying this

733
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 1: thing that was the worst thing that happened to you

734
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: ended up being a huge blessing in disguise. Sounds so cliche,

735
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 1: but I think life, y'all might be cliches, and the

736
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: cliches are rooted in something real because I can name

737
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: some of my lowest moments and been like, but this

738
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 1: makes sense ultimately, and it's actually what I needed, And

739
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: I never would have done X, Y or Z if

740
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: I didn't have that experience. So to be able to

741
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,840
Speaker 1: have that perspective and feel clear on that now, I

742
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: think is really lovely. And the notion that you're like

743
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: pouring into yourself and doing what you like and you're

744
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: back on your game and you're doing the jokes you

745
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 1: want to do and you are doing things you want

746
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: to do for you is remarkably beautiful, and it feels

747
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: crazy and rudimentary maybe even to be like, yeah, you

748
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 1: have to find someone who likes you and hopefully you

749
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 1: guys enjoy it many of the same things and there's

750
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: more overlap than there isn't which sounds basic, but I

751
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: think all of us can say we've been in a

752
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: relationship with someone where you're like, this thing really threw

753
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 1: me off my game being connected to this person, because yeah,

754
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: just being tethered to another and do that. But I've

755
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 1: been in a relationship with someone who didn't like me

756
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, they didn't really like me, Like

757
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 1: this idea we were like committed to an idea. Yeah,

758
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,479
Speaker 1: and that happens. So to hear your perspective is really cool.

759
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, one say that because that's what it would And

760
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 2: I would say that directly to her. I'd be like,

761
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 2: I think you like the idea of me. Yeah, you

762
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:10,840
Speaker 2: like the product of me, but you don't like me.

763
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think we have all been there, and I

764
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 1: I mean, at least I can say for myself one

765
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 1: hundred percent. And so now I go to I say

766
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 1: to friends, I'm like, crazy, idea, date someone that likes you,

767
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: and date someone you like because it's easy to chase ideas. Now,

768
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 1: as far as your sons and their relationships to be,

769
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: do you have wishes for them beyond dating people who

770
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: like them for them.

771
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,720
Speaker 2: No real wishes. I just want them to be happy.

772
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:43,359
Speaker 2: I mean that was a big part of because when

773
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 2: we originally separated, my youngest was only six months and

774
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 2: so it was a very hard decision to be like,

775
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 2: oh again. I built this ideal of like, oh, I'm

776
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: gonna go out on the road, I'll come home my daddy,

777
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 2: oh my husband, none of that's going to be beautiful

778
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 2: mooval time. And then very quickly I was like this

779
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 2: hasn't gone to be beautiful and so this is.

780
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: A looking kind of ugly.

781
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. And I just remember sitting then looking at him

782
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 2: in his crib and just being like, oh, if he

783
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,400
Speaker 2: comes to me as an adult later and he was

784
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 2: in this type of relationship and I the advice I

785
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 2: would give him would be it to leave. And if

786
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 2: I can't give him that advice, if I don't follow it.

787
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, I've recently had to make tough decisions and

788
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 1: I have said I think someone said to me, like,

789
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: when you're making a decision, the thing that has been

790
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 1: helpful for them, and now I have adopted is like,

791
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: what do you want to tell your kids you did

792
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: in this moment? What do you want to tell your

793
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 1: grandkids you did in this moment? And that is such

794
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 1: a good way to shake into doing something you may

795
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: not want to do or that might be uncomfortable, but

796
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 1: you know in your heart of hearts you need to do.

797
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I think about that a lot, whether it's

798
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 2: through a relationship or you know, went out to the

799
00:40:57,400 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 2: no King's protests in Portland and it wasn't necessarily And

800
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 2: again that's the thing where like where I'm like, oh,

801
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: I myself may not make the biggest difference, but I do.

802
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 2: If my kids asked me, if my youngest asked me

803
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 2: ten fifteen years from now and they're reading about this

804
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 2: time period or whatever, and then he goes, Daddy, did

805
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 2: you do anything about freedom and speech? Did you do

806
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 2: anything about immigrants? Did you do anything about her Hispanic friends?

807
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,919
Speaker 2: You know? Was like, yeah, your dad was out there.

808
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.

809
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:27,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

810
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 1: Kids a guiding force. Quite frankly, a guiding force. Your

811
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 1: son sound incredibly special. Now, how if you were to date,

812
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,760
Speaker 1: are you dating? You are? How long before a woman

813
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 1: can meet the kids?

814
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 2: A while?

815
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: How do you have a Do you have a time limit?

816
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 2: I probably say like six months?

817
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 1: Six months? Okay, I thought you were going to say

818
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 1: like a year.

819
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 2: No, I think because my kids are a big, big,

820
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 2: big like I'm with them all the time, so year

821
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 2: would be.

822
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: That is kind of crazy, like that they would be

823
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 1: secret in the city. Yeah, do you tell on a

824
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 1: first date You're like, I have kids?

825
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 2: Oh, it's be my mean, I don't have a dating

826
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:07,439
Speaker 2: profile right now, but if I did, it's right.

827
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: I'm like father, people are here with secrets.

828
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 2: I know that.

829
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: It's really crazy.

830
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:14,320
Speaker 2: No, I get that.

831
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you have a good head on your shoulders.

832
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,760
Speaker 1: I've heard so many stories about people's the secrets abound,

833
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 1: and it's like, why would you bury that? I'm sorry,

834
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: what did you say about having a son? I'd be like, wait,

835
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 1: that's crazy. I've talked to you for two months. What

836
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 1: was that a child? Okay, that's good to know.

837
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never I've heard that before. I've heard about people.

838
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 2: A girl that day that my girlfriend, her sister deals

839
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 2: with a guy who like didn't want to claim that

840
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 2: it was his kid, and I just like for like

841
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 2: over for a while, and so I was just like

842
00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:55,480
Speaker 2: I get the fear. I get the thing, especially if

843
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 2: you're not like in that person your relationship with them.

844
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 2: But like to me, I am like I am my sons,

845
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 2: like you know, like to not be connected to them

846
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 2: would be the worst thing in my life because I

847
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: would feel like I had a disconnection from myself. So

848
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 2: like knowing what my boys are up to, knowing what

849
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 2: their life is, celebrating them and again, I mean, it

850
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 2: is not hurting dating. I always tell people, especially if

851
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 2: they're single dads that worry. It's like, okay, well, either

852
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 2: you're gonna find a really good really like grateful woman.

853
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 2: That is like good with kids. Are you gonna get

854
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 2: a lot of casual sex because you're a good dad?

855
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, And people love that. Yeah, that is a

856
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:38,919
Speaker 1: turn on when you go, wow, but he loves his kids.

857
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 2: I don't want to stay with him and them a

858
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 2: little bit of a pussy, A little bit of puy taking.

859
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: Care of you see the way he's taking care of

860
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: those kids. He could really use some pussy.

861
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 2: A little bit.

862
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 1: He carry so much.

863
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 2: And I thank each and every one of those women.

864
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: Do you want to say thank you to them?

865
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 2: Moved alone? I thank you?

866
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 1: You know what. I appreciate that people are saying thank

867
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: you to those women who gave it up in that

868
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: context and went about their business. No drama.

869
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,760
Speaker 2: Oh that's the you know what I mean, no drama.

870
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:26,399
Speaker 2: Thank you?

871
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: Thank you next.

872
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 2: I love that.

873
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:31,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, And I appreciate you saying thank you. I'm

874
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 1: so glad you looked right at those women. Can we

875
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 1: get some names something? No names? No names, no names.

876
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 1: But I was gonna say, this isn't a Drake album.

877
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 1: We're not naming people. We don't have to name people.

878
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: They can remain anonymous. So your kids, are you that

879
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,719
Speaker 1: is beautiful and you are such a huge part of

880
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 1: their lives in a way that you did not have

881
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 1: when you're growing up. Is there anything else that you

882
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: didn't have when you were growing up that you are

883
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 1: making it a point to give them? Yeah?

884
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:00,400
Speaker 2: Money?

885
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: Hold on, because Malcolm didn't have money for the first test.

886
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know he didn't.

887
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:06,320
Speaker 1: He didn't.

888
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:07,279
Speaker 2: He didn't not do you?

889
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: Are you like giving allowance? Does he have an allowance?

890
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 1: What's the story there?

891
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,879
Speaker 2: No, Well, he's just like if you look through our text,

892
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 2: conversation is literally it's just literally, can I have one

893
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 2: hundred dollars? Can I have one hundred dollars? Can one

894
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 2: hundred dollars? Does the laundry get picked up today?

895
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: And you don't ask for what?

896
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 2: I just give it?

897
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: You don't? You just give it to him. You don't

898
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 1: know what he's doing his hundred dollars.

899
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 2: I usually know it's video games or like T shirts.

900
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you're not Yeah, I just.

901
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 2: You know, I usually get one hundred dollars from the

902
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,800
Speaker 2: improv for doing a set, and so you just hand.

903
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 1: It to him. Yeah, Oh that's nice. That makes me

904
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: wish I had a dad. Damn I had a dad,

905
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: it's so crazy. Just handed me one hundred dollars. No

906
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: question does make me.

907
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is real dad's stuff. Right, here's a

908
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 2: one hundred dollars.

909
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:03,240
Speaker 1: Do you ever talk to him about saving?

910
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 4: Uh?

911
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 1: No, I feel like you're a good dad, and then

912
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:08,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, he's a bad dad.

913
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 2: I haven't talked to this young man about saving, not

914
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 2: much about I mean, he he does have some good

915
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 2: financial literacy in a way. He knows a bit about

916
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 2: budgeting more of the savings, like just things on my end.

917
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 2: But you know, he's like a trust.

918
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 1: Okay, he's a trust fun baby. I want to have

919
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 1: a trust fund baby. I don't have a NEPO baby,

920
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:33,280
Speaker 1: but I want to have a trust fund baby.

921
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

922
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fun. I know my sons. I get to

923
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: say my son is a trust fun baby.

924
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, both of us were. Yeah, they got They were

925
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 2: made way more money than I ever had a few

926
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 2: years ago.

927
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 1: So okay. You also said that you understand with your

928
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 1: your girlfriend's sister who's involved with a guy who's like

929
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 1: kind of in denial about having a child, that you

930
00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 1: understand empathy kicking in that it's scary at first. Were

931
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 1: you so scared to have kids.

932
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, ok yeah, terrifying, especially my first one. I my

933
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 2: first son was I turned twenty March twelfth, and he

934
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 2: was born April twenty third.

935
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 1: By the way, you're a pis I'm a Pisces is

936
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: my brother's birthday.

937
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 2: Hey, I knew that I was.

938
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: I just knew it was about Okay, so March twelfth,

939
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 1: your birthday twelfth?

940
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 2: And then so I so I when she was pregnant,

941
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 2: I was nineteen basically, so as a teenage you're about

942
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 2: to have a kid and and already and it's not

943
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 2: like I was like, Okay, you can have abortion or whatever.

944
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:44,920
Speaker 2: We had already had I think too. So at that

945
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 2: point I was also like, oh, this is going to

946
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 2: be my wife, so we'll figure it out. So we

947
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 2: just we're like where we're going to keep them and

948
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 2: have them in. It's G's best idea. He's the best.

949
00:47:56,680 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 2: He's amazing school dude. But it was definitely terrifying, And

950
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 2: I understand those moments where as a guy, you're just like, well,

951
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 2: maybe I should just run away, you know. But I

952
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:11,720
Speaker 2: also knew that the times were like there'd be pictures

953
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: I'd see in my house and my mom and like

954
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 2: two dudes, and I'd be like, I think this one's

955
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:17,800
Speaker 2: my dad.

956
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: I don't want that for this, for this child.

957
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, I wouldn't know. And he'd be like, no,

958
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 2: that's my friend Anton. Yeah.

959
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: I feel like your mom would have given you a

960
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 1: stern talking to you. Did you run?

961
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I mean but again and and that's

962
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 2: also she would have. And when I told her I

963
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 2: was thinking about separating from my second wife, I thought,

964
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 2: and my son was six months. I thought she was

965
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 2: going to be like, you got this baby, stick together,

966
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:48,439
Speaker 2: you guys gotta figure this out.

967
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:51,360
Speaker 1: She was the exact She was like, get out of this.

968
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: Did she not like her?

969
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 2: She did at first, but then I think she started

970
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:58,480
Speaker 2: to see it before I saw it.

971
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: Okay, got it. Sometimes you got that. People have their

972
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:02,680
Speaker 1: own journey. So when you finally did, she's like, I've

973
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: been waiting for you to say a lot of my

974
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 1: friends are like that, Oh wow, that by the way,

975
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 1: say something, you see something, say something tsa rules. But

976
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 1: I also feel like friend in a crappy relationship rule, Yeah,

977
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: I do. And I understand how delicate it is, because

978
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 1: if they stay together, you don't want to be like,

979
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: oh damn, it. I said to my friend, this person sucks.

980
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: But if you actually think your friend is in I

981
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,720
Speaker 1: want to be like emotional danger. But like emotional danger,

982
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:33,720
Speaker 1: you should say something.

983
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:36,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, And I think, yeah, I agree with you.

984
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: And if my mom had saw before we got married,

985
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,920
Speaker 2: I think she would have sure. Sure, But at that

986
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 2: point she was fully in love with her. Yes, this

987
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 2: is my daughter. Yeah, and I do have friends like that.

988
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 2: One of my friend's tiny Randy, who is now Ted

989
00:49:50,400 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 2: Saranda's assistant, I have a pipeline and and she was like,

990
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 2: I don't like.

991
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: Her, really respect And how long after she said that

992
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 1: did you start to feel like I don't like her either?

993
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 1: A couple of years years, So when she said I

994
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 1: don't like her, but you stayed in it for years.

995
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:18,800
Speaker 1: In those years, was it anything any interactions with her awkward?

996
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:20,399
Speaker 1: Or were you like I don't want to no.

997
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,840
Speaker 2: I mean we were like, you know, she used to

998
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 2: work for me and then she moved, so there was

999
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 2: a natural disconnection and but I respected it. And she

1000
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 2: had had some terrible relationships and made some terrible choices,

1001
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 2: so I was kind of like, well, I can't really

1002
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 2: trust yours.

1003
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: And you're like actually let me know how about this dick.

1004
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:40,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was a thing where you're like, oh,

1005
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:42,359
Speaker 2: she knows because she'd been through.

1006
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:43,839
Speaker 1: Yes, she sees she.

1007
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 2: Now when I see her, you know, we're closer than

1008
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 2: ever because I'm like, thank you for being one of

1009
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 2: the few people who told me from the get go.

1010
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:52,840
Speaker 1: I know, I feel like in my life, I just

1011
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: really love and have a deep appreciation for the people

1012
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 1: who have been like, said something, and some friends haven't

1013
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 1: said anything, but it's in the vibe, like I can

1014
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: be like, I can see that. I'm like, you don't

1015
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 1: support this, don't like this person for me, I can

1016
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: since you are trying to be cordials, so you've never

1017
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:12,200
Speaker 1: said anything. But I'm picking up the vibes. And then

1018
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm just not gonna address the vibe until

1019
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 1: I'm ready to get out of this thing.

1020
00:51:16,800 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 2: You know.

1021
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I respect her for saying something too. I'm like,

1022
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:24,279
Speaker 1: don't like her, Damn, that's a of course. Of course

1023
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: she's gonna go on. She's gonna go on to run

1024
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 1: Netflix one day. That's my vote. I bet, I just bet, well,

1025
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 1: this has been very nice, but what about me anyway?

1026
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 1: So I want I want to be in charge of

1027
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 1: some people okay, and it sounds like you're in charge.

1028
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 2: Of people okay, children, couple.

1029
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 1: Couple children, but also professionally right right, a couple employees.

1030
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: How do you how do you approach being a leader?

1031
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 1: What is your advice for someone who wants to be

1032
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 1: a leader.

1033
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 2: This is for me, I would say, it's again another

1034
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 2: great question. You're good at this podcast. It's something I

1035
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 2: struggle with for a while. I even would write jokes

1036
00:52:18,239 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 2: about how I didn't want to be a leader, or

1037
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 2: especially when you know, used to be like three hundred

1038
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 2: and seventy pounds on a bunch of weight, and people

1039
00:52:23,360 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 2: would be like, you're an inspiration. I'd be like, I

1040
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 2: don't want to be anything.

1041
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: I don't want that.

1042
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:29,879
Speaker 2: Wait, yeah, I be inspiration and I had to learn

1043
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 2: to embrace it that I'm naturally good at it. And

1044
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:38,360
Speaker 2: it's something that I think that you have to be

1045
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,919
Speaker 2: okay with being like, they're not leaders. Aren't sly born?

1046
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 2: You grow into it. And so for me, the best

1047
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 2: thing I try to do with any of the people

1048
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 2: I actually do is trust them and be like I

1049
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 2: put I hired you because I trust you and believe you,

1050
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:53,880
Speaker 2: and I just try to put them in a position

1051
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 2: to do their best work and then just let them

1052
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 2: do it. Like my assistant, like I just try them.

1053
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 2: I think I'm a good boss. And because I try

1054
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:04,800
Speaker 2: to just be like, look, I know, being an assistant,

1055
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 2: you're literally doing all the things I don't want to do, right,

1056
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,279
Speaker 2: And so I and I've had a couple I've have

1057
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 2: to think of my fourth assistants. So I'm always like, Okay,

1058
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:15,000
Speaker 2: it takes about two years. They tend to burn out

1059
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 2: and then there you go. And so I was like,

1060
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:19,800
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try Haley, who I love now. I was like,

1061
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 2: I wanna try to keep her as long as possible.

1062
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 2: And so her own job is just like just get

1063
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,360
Speaker 2: these things done. I don't care where you are, I

1064
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,799
Speaker 2: don't care what you gotta do. I don't care if

1065
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:31,320
Speaker 2: you need to leave town for a few days and

1066
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 2: go to visit family. As long as these things get

1067
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 2: done when I need them done, then that's fine. Yeah,

1068
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 2: And so and I think that's help our relationship. So

1069
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 2: she can go off visit families and go to Paris,

1070
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 2: like that's one of my greatest things to be as Like,

1071
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 2: as a boss, my assistant goes to Paris.

1072
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 1: On come on, I have a trust fun baby, two

1073
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 1: of them, a couple babies, and my assistant goes to Paris.

1074
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 1: How's that success? I love that? And how do you

1075
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 1: how do you discern who you think might be a

1076
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:07,240
Speaker 1: good fit, because obviously it's a little bit like dating,

1077
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:10,799
Speaker 1: and so you say you trust them, okay, but to

1078
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:13,399
Speaker 1: trust them you have to sort of believe in them

1079
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 1: to begin with. So what is sussing it? Sussing out

1080
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: the right people look like for you?

1081
00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 2: I mean, you just kind of watch them. There's a

1082
00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 2: lot a lot of it. I mean, and I hate

1083
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 2: to say it, but I hire a lot vibe based

1084
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:26,920
Speaker 2: on the vibes, well, the vibes when what I think

1085
00:54:26,920 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 2: we'd get along as people. What my job? You know,

1086
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 2: I'm not the typical balls. So sometimes like what would

1087
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:36,960
Speaker 2: work with someone else doesn't work for for for my

1088
00:54:37,120 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 2: job because I need someone who's a real self motivator.

1089
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 2: I'm not always going to be able to be like

1090
00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 2: I need you to do this, this, and this. There's

1091
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 2: a routine that comes in within my month and you

1092
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 2: need to get a handle of that routine and then

1093
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:51,759
Speaker 2: go from there. But it's basically, you know, I've had

1094
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 2: to they'll be afraid of fire people, fire people. Okay,

1095
00:54:54,719 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 2: I had this lady to be an assistant before Haley

1096
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 2: say her name, her name, I know she was in

1097
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 2: her late sixties, and I just part of me was like,

1098
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 2: how fun and cool will this be? So many comedians

1099
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:10,399
Speaker 2: or people entertainment, they always want to hire some twenty

1100
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 2: year old hot assistant that's gonna end up ruining their marriage.

1101
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 2: I'm going the other way. I'm hiring a late sixties

1102
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:22,759
Speaker 2: lady coming out of retire and then but her first

1103
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:25,319
Speaker 2: job was to just post some things on my Instagram

1104
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 2: somehow someway.

1105
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 1: It's funny that she picked up an elder to post

1106
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: on your Instagram.

1107
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 2: Made a mistake because the first thing she posted was

1108
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 2: just a video of herself singing to a parakeet. Is

1109
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 2: a parakeets saying back to her? And I was like,

1110
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 2: what is this on my page? It for a couple

1111
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 2: of hours, and so then we have to be like

1112
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:52,719
Speaker 2: and I just like, we gotta let you go, Like

1113
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 2: if you can't give I understand even not getting the

1114
00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 2: post ride, but how did your personal.

1115
00:55:58,960 --> 00:56:07,880
Speaker 1: Video my legend Franklin?

1116
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, really funny. Imagine like she lasted twenty four hours.

1117
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:26,920
Speaker 1: What wait, what was the conversation firing? That is crazy?

1118
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:29,360
Speaker 2: Oh? I let my manager fire.

1119
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 1: Didn't I'm not doing you said when I've had to fire.

1120
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: When I say I've.

1121
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 2: Had I just say let's fire, and you're making the call.

1122
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 1: I just started letting my manager do that because I

1123
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,760
Speaker 1: usually am like the Baltimore in me, the person who's

1124
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:46,799
Speaker 1: like integrity, and I want to be able to face

1125
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: people and I want to be able to say that

1126
00:56:48,760 --> 00:56:52,040
Speaker 1: I have a code. I've been like, I will do

1127
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 1: the firing, I will have the conversation. And then I realized,

1128
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is too much emotional labor for someone

1129
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:59,319
Speaker 1: who is who has fed up so much that they're

1130
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:02,320
Speaker 1: getting fired, which was also labor to deal with the FS.

1131
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:04,400
Speaker 1: So I go, manager, you do it.

1132
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 2: Actually that's the point other people.

1133
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: But also because I didn't realize that's what other people

1134
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:10,840
Speaker 1: were doing, I'm like, damn, I have to have a

1135
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 1: lot of conversations. Not that I'm firing a lot of people,

1136
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:15,880
Speaker 1: but I'm like, dap, I don't feel like having this conversation.

1137
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 1: I have a million things going on.

1138
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 2: And then I was like, wait, I tried to be phony.

1139
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 2: I'm never like I'm never like, yeah, I'm gonna do it,

1140
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 2: and then my manager says, no, I don't try to

1141
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 2: do that. But like, there are just there's also just

1142
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 2: ways of professionalism. Ay, if you're asking for requests, you

1143
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 2: probably should have you should have gone through my manager.

1144
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 2: Why are you coming directly to me? You're coming directly

1145
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 2: to me because you know this is something that's a

1146
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 2: favor that I shouldn't be doing.

1147
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 1: Yes, oop oop, And that's facts. That's true strategizing. They

1148
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:45,920
Speaker 1: are to get a yes. Do you ever engage with

1149
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: those direct asks?

1150
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 2: Not anymore? That's the thing I do if you're But

1151
00:57:50,320 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 2: that's also a couple of them where my friends that

1152
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,600
Speaker 2: I like has long term relationship with and then when

1153
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:59,160
Speaker 2: I got divorced, they shifted over to that side and

1154
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:01,640
Speaker 2: I was just like, wow, this is crazy. You think

1155
00:58:02,080 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 2: you're calling me to pitch an idea, but you want

1156
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 2: to go switch sides up inside and so I just

1157
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 2: again it was just another valuable lesson of like, no,

1158
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,120
Speaker 2: anything that's coming through real will come through her.

1159
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, fair enough. I love that boundary. I did just

1160
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:20,120
Speaker 1: want to ask you out of a almost nothing. But

1161
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 1: there's maybe a little true line, uh, Kendrick or Drake.

1162
00:58:27,320 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 1: I want to know where he's.

1163
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 2: That's such a weird question.

1164
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be one of the others, that's

1165
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 1: what you're gonna say.

1166
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 2: I mean, I just feel like I don't consider them

1167
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:42,440
Speaker 2: the same apples. Yeah, I don't, not even like like

1168
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 2: they're just two different modes. Like you listen to Kendrick

1169
00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 2: when you were like, oh, I'm on the bus, or like,

1170
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 2: I'm on the bus. Yeah, you had a real bus ride.

1171
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 2: You tell me that's not a bus ride in motherfucker

1172
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 2: on your side college, Okay, okay bus. Yeah. And then

1173
00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 2: Drake is like when you were just like, not popcorn,

1174
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 2: that's just popcorn. You know that movie theater. Both are

1175
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,959
Speaker 2: fine club going up on a Tuesday. I will still

1176
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 2: play time. And I'm just I like Macona, Okay. I'm

1177
00:59:16,760 --> 00:59:18,680
Speaker 2: a big music guy. I love all types of music.

1178
00:59:18,720 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 2: So I'm never gonna just be like Kendrick or Drake.

1179
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 2: But I don't like either of them that terribly.

1180
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 1: You heard it here first. He said both of them

1181
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:39,200
Speaker 1: both for young Kendrick is a genius. That's super Bowl performance.

1182
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: My gosh, I still watch it from time to time.

1183
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just sometimes I just be like, it's too schizophrenic.

1184
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:48,040
Speaker 2: I can't hear. I can't hear more than two voices

1185
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 2: on one track from the same person.

1186
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:51,960
Speaker 1: I like that, but that's okay, that's okay, And we

1187
00:59:52,000 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 1: don't have still like the same things, Ron And that's

1188
00:59:54,120 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 1: what I keep trying to tell you. I keep trying

1189
01:00:02,360 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: to tell you that.

1190
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I'll get it one day.

1191
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,440
Speaker 1: Well, it's not all about me. We have to help

1192
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 1: a listener of this podcast. Okay, So, Kevin, we're ready

1193
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:12,680
Speaker 1: for you. Play that track.

1194
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 4: The question I have is a very serious question, oh

1195
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 4: for myself, because of where I find myself at this

1196
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 4: time in my life.

1197
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 1: It's giving Kendrick vibes.

1198
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 4: What do I do when I can't find any Hoggen

1199
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 4: does chocolate swirl vanilla?

1200
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 1: Okay, hold on now, let me let me get serious.

1201
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:46,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to defer to you on this.

1202
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 2: What do you do and you can't find any Haggen

1203
01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:56,680
Speaker 2: does chocolate swirl with vanilla? First of all, up your

1204
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:57,439
Speaker 2: ice cream game?

1205
01:00:57,760 --> 01:00:58,200
Speaker 1: Okay.

1206
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 2: The fact that that's your go to says you a

1207
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 2: real basic bitch in the get go, Like that's what

1208
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 2: you want. I understand the chocolate Vanilla's world as the classic.

1209
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:11,640
Speaker 2: I get that, but at that point, at least I

1210
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:14,600
Speaker 2: want it from some type of mom and pop place

1211
01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 2: where I'm getting an actual salt serve or CVT here

1212
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 2: in l A. But to just get to the point

1213
01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 2: where hogging dossh Chocolate Sworld being out ruins your life,

1214
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,280
Speaker 2: try try fish food, motherfucker. I don't know. Have you

1215
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:31,560
Speaker 2: heard of Ben and Jerry's. Have you had a Magnum bar? Jenny?

1216
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:33,560
Speaker 2: You eat it eating Choco Taco?

1217
01:01:33,880 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 1: Your lie Choco Taco. They're trying to cancel chocolate.

1218
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:44,120
Speaker 2: But it was too strong. It was.

1219
01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 1: I took to the internet, talk about standing for something.

1220
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 1: I took to the internet. I was like, y'all better

1221
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 1: fucking not Taco school lunch.

1222
01:01:55,680 --> 01:02:02,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, step your game, listen into Selena.

1223
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 1: Those were the day. So that's what you do. That's

1224
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 1: your I will find another ice cream.

1225
01:02:09,400 --> 01:02:13,320
Speaker 2: There's so many different types. Go find a local establishment

1226
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,240
Speaker 2: that you can give some of your money to in

1227
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:18,760
Speaker 2: the community. Hogging doz isn't gonna do nothing for you.

1228
01:02:19,640 --> 01:02:23,560
Speaker 1: But Ben and Jerry, Ben and Jerry, is it Ben

1229
01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:27,960
Speaker 1: to Lente in the cute little plastic. Here's the crazy

1230
01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 1: thing is I don't really fuck with ice cream.

1231
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 2: Whist Oh, that's why you passed it all. I did

1232
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 2: not know. I don't know what it was.

1233
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 1: It's usually kind of weak to me. I feel about

1234
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:46,960
Speaker 1: ice cream the way I feel about breakfast, a weak link.

1235
01:02:47,040 --> 01:02:49,880
Speaker 2: I don't know what we're but I feel that about donuts.

1236
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:52,840
Speaker 1: Okay, I think I can get behind this. Have you

1237
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 1: ever had Holy Grail? Though? On Marchmont? I need you

1238
01:02:55,400 --> 01:03:00,080
Speaker 1: to go on your way after before. I need you

1239
01:03:00,160 --> 01:03:01,640
Speaker 1: to go get a holy Grail.

1240
01:03:01,480 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 3: Donut most donut and don't do nothing much understood understood.

1241
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:07,160
Speaker 1: I want you to have a holy Grail. We'll have

1242
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,600
Speaker 1: you back on the podcast. We'll talk about how you

1243
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:13,000
Speaker 1: felt about it. Made to order. I need you to

1244
01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:15,919
Speaker 1: hear me on this. And I'm also not a donut girl.

1245
01:03:16,000 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 1: Like I'm cake. I'm cake all day. How do you

1246
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 1: feel about cake?

1247
01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:23,680
Speaker 2: Cake? To me is like love me, love me, love me.

1248
01:03:24,360 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 2: I'm coming at you with sugar and ice and frost

1249
01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:33,480
Speaker 2: and love me some money. Cake Cake. It is like,

1250
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 2: get your shit together, cake, have some self respect for yourself,

1251
01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:41,560
Speaker 2: like a pie or a cobbler that doesn't need Like

1252
01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:43,760
Speaker 2: I'm sweet on the inside. I don't have to show you.

1253
01:03:44,120 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 2: I don't have to show you. On the outside, this

1254
01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:49,480
Speaker 2: just regular crust out here. But on the inside is

1255
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 2: what delicious. This cake is like mo than me. I

1256
01:03:51,880 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 2: got sprinkles all over my body.

1257
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 1: No, no, for me, pie is like oh oh to

1258
01:03:59,320 --> 01:04:02,800
Speaker 1: get good, I gotta be somebody else on the inside.

1259
01:04:03,120 --> 01:04:06,919
Speaker 1: Why I'm fruit? Fruit? Fruit is its own food. Why

1260
01:04:06,960 --> 01:04:10,919
Speaker 1: are you in here? That's what I want to know, pie, Pi.

1261
01:04:11,040 --> 01:04:12,600
Speaker 1: The only good thing about a pie is what's on

1262
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 1: the outside. Surface level, acquaintance, initial conversation, pie, the crust cakes.

1263
01:04:17,600 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 2: A liar cake will be like, oh look at me,

1264
01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:22,000
Speaker 2: I'm red Velvet's like you still chocolate cake?

1265
01:04:22,200 --> 01:04:24,560
Speaker 1: And you know what, this was still chocolate with a

1266
01:04:24,600 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 1: little red dye.

1267
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you ain't nothing. You just lying to yourself. You

1268
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:30,280
Speaker 2: put on a little mini skirt on. Don't think you

1269
01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 2: done changed up?

1270
01:04:31,560 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 1: No, No, A cobbler is I need something else to

1271
01:04:36,720 --> 01:04:41,720
Speaker 1: be myself. I need something else in order to be myself.

1272
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:44,480
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be any best thing about cobbler. Best

1273
01:04:44,480 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 1: thing about about pie the outside, the cobbler, the baked part,

1274
01:04:49,600 --> 01:04:53,840
Speaker 1: the bambers, the trumble. Okay, and honestly derivative of cake.

1275
01:04:54,280 --> 01:04:57,920
Speaker 1: And I rest my case. Your honor. It's a wonderful

1276
01:04:57,960 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 1: having you roun functions buddy.

1277
01:05:02,600 --> 01:05:06,200
Speaker 2: Thanks y.

1278
01:05:06,840 --> 01:05:10,120
Speaker 1: Wow. So you just listen to that whole conversation with

1279
01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 1: Ron Funches, and he did, in fact, as promised, say

1280
01:05:14,160 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 1: something about Drake and show me you listen, show me

1281
01:05:17,480 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 1: a real one by commenting below what he said about Drake.

1282
01:05:21,480 --> 01:05:24,000
Speaker 1: That's how I'll know, and the first hundred of you

1283
01:05:24,120 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 1: to comment what he said about Drake will be among

1284
01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:29,560
Speaker 1: the first hundred to comment what he said about Drake.

1285
01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:32,960
Speaker 1: The prize is in the task. Thank you so much.

1286
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:36,080
Speaker 1: Does that make any sense? I think it does. Love

1287
01:05:36,080 --> 01:05:38,560
Speaker 1: you guys. If you want advice from me and my

1288
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:42,280
Speaker 1: next guest, you're gonna have to call us. Hit our

1289
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:47,080
Speaker 1: hot line bling, right, you like I did that there,

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Speaker 1: hit the hot line bling. You used to call me

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Speaker 1: on my cell phone. This isn't my cell phone, but

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Speaker 1: it is a phone number. It is five zero two,

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Speaker 1: which I believe is a Kentucky area code. Why do

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Speaker 1: I know that I know eric code? I've said this

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Speaker 1: on podcasts. I just weirdly know area codes off the

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Speaker 1: top of the dome. It's very weird. But five O

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Speaker 1: two Kentucky eight four nine three two three seven or

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Speaker 1: five O two thanks TCHX. Dad's multiple of them, multiple dads, daddies, daddies,

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Speaker 1: a horem of dads. You get it anyway, call and

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Speaker 1: get advice from me and my guests. I love you truly,

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Speaker 1: thank you for listening. I really do love you. And

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Speaker 1: if never mind, I was going to steal something from

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Speaker 1: Mel Robbins, but I won't if no one else tells

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Speaker 1: you today, I love you. Cut that out, okay, bye.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Dad is a production of Will Ferrell's Big Money

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Speaker 1: Players and iHeart Podcasts. I'm your host Aego wodem Our

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Speaker 1: producer is Kevin Bartelt, and our executive producer is Matt

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