WEBVTT - Ep 5: unHinged 

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<v Speaker 1>Lisa's episode is your, it's your time to shine.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to a study that I accidentally have been doing

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<v Speaker 2>for the last two or three years. Thank God I

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<v Speaker 2>think shit's funny. That's actually not. And I started screenshotting

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<v Speaker 2>Weird shit that men would say to me on the Internet.

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<v Speaker 2>And once I started collecting all this, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on? You have a database. Like by accident.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I have proof. So when dudes are like,

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<v Speaker 2>not me. I'm like, no, you here. And I can

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<v Speaker 2>open my camera. I think I have it as what

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<v Speaker 2>the fuck. And that's the name of the album, by

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<v Speaker 2>the way. My album is What the Fuck? And it's

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<v Speaker 2>all these idiots in there.

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<v Speaker 1>We should run all of that data and all of

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<v Speaker 1>that through chat and have them make like a presentation.

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<v Speaker 2>If I wasn't so, yes, if I wasn't so lazy.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe I'll have chat do it and then we'll

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<v Speaker 2>send it to you. Because it really is interesting to

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<v Speaker 2>see the difference between. for clarity, I'm on Raya, but like, whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>not really. I turn that off, turn it on. It's

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<v Speaker 2>the same people. But I, for Hinge, I don't pay

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<v Speaker 2>for it. So low key, they definitely punish you a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit. But I'm like, I'm not going to meet

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<v Speaker 2>anyone on here anywhere. For sure.

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<v Speaker 3>I've tested it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for sure. I tried.

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<v Speaker 3>And there is a huge difference.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a huge difference, but not enough that I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to date those guys either, but better.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, as somebody who's Not single and hasn't really done

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<v Speaker 1>a lot in the apps ever.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you mean? Like, what are you getting more

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<v Speaker 2>and more people? There's an algorithm.

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<v Speaker 3>For guys, I think it's predatory because for guys, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like pay us and we'll put you at the top

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<v Speaker 3>of her list.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes. And her is a specific person?

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<v Speaker 3>All women. I mean, it's like you pay for it

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<v Speaker 3>and it'll put you at the top of.

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<v Speaker 2>The list of anyone. Based on what he put in

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<v Speaker 2>as interests and age bracket.

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<v Speaker 3>If I click the heart on a girl and like

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<v Speaker 3>send her a message or something, I think all women

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<v Speaker 3>on dating apps have way more a list of guys

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<v Speaker 3>that are like that click like. And so for the

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<v Speaker 3>guys side of it, it's like give us money and

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<v Speaker 3>we'll put you at the top of that list.

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<v Speaker 2>I've tested it too because I used to pay and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, this is a dumpster fire. And now that

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<v Speaker 2>I don't pay, it's even more of a dumpster fire.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, not like I was going to date any

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<v Speaker 2>of those other guys, but now it's like crazy. You'll see.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll see what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>How much do they want you to pay?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I did a while. I think it was something

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<v Speaker 3>like 60 bucks for the month. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is insane.

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<v Speaker 4>Whoa.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it different for girls than guys?

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<v Speaker 3>I think there was, I opted for the one that

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<v Speaker 3>let me look at everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Like there's like different tiers of it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a lot of money.

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<v Speaker 3>Like there's a $ 30 a month one and then the $ 60.

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<v Speaker 2>A month one. It is for literally not big.

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<v Speaker 1>So you feel by not paying for it that you're

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<v Speaker 1>getting less people, less men shown to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Not less men.

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<v Speaker 1>Less actual matches?

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<v Speaker 2>Not the quality. It's quality. It's quality is what I meant.

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<v Speaker 2>That's really messed up.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it is messed up.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I meant. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So they're purposely giving you shitty algorithms if you're not paying. Yes.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>So, and then, so I put in for age bracket,

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<v Speaker 2>I have it like 39 to 55, but then I

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<v Speaker 2>also have off that it's a deal breaker. So that way,

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<v Speaker 2>once it's filtered through those people, it opens it up

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<v Speaker 2>to everybody. So that's why I have like literally 16

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<v Speaker 2>year olds and 85 year olds. So it's like... This

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<v Speaker 2>is running the gamut across ages. When did apps come?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think when they started. So I obviously

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<v Speaker 2>was in relationships. And then I think in between my

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<v Speaker 2>last two boyfriends is when I was introduced. So I

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<v Speaker 2>was already in my, like, into my mid to late 30s.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I was on Bumble. So we're talking 15

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<v Speaker 2>years ago. So I think I was on Bumble and Raya, maybe.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if Hinge was out yet. So we

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<v Speaker 2>were to sign up for all of them. But back then,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't... it was great. Like, I still am friends

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<v Speaker 2>with guys that I met on the apps. No one,

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't weird. I never had, like, I trusted meeting

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<v Speaker 2>them out. No problems. Now it's like, you'll see by

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<v Speaker 2>what these men say to me. Like, I'm like, what happened? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's such a shift. So I guess for a going

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<v Speaker 2>on dating apps it felt like that's what everyone was

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<v Speaker 2>doing so I was like oh this is what we're

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<v Speaker 2>doing and back it was fun but it wasn't the

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<v Speaker 2>only way we met people like we would still go

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<v Speaker 2>out and people would talk to you where I just

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<v Speaker 2>think I'll stand behind COVID being the thing that like

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<v Speaker 2>made everyone socially awkward and not know how to act

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<v Speaker 2>because since then it's like I don't even see people

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<v Speaker 2>out in that way like socially interacting at like bars

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever unless like they're younger so apps was the

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<v Speaker 2>only thing So this last few years, I just started

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<v Speaker 2>noticing like men were mad. So I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>this is funny. So I started screenshotting everything or like

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<v Speaker 2>sending it to friends and then sort of sharing it

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<v Speaker 2>on social media and people replying being like, oh my,

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<v Speaker 2>like everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Having- Men are mad because your profile is, how would

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<v Speaker 1>you describe your profile?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna read you what I've said in my profile, okay?

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<v Speaker 2>And one of the things that pisses me off is

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<v Speaker 2>when someone is like, why don't you soften it and

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<v Speaker 2>you attract more bees with honey? And I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>your profile just.

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<v Speaker 1>Weeds out the kind of men that are not for you.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why so many are mad. That's my problem.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, I'm doing everyone like a service here

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<v Speaker 2>of like, we're not the same. This is never going

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<v Speaker 2>to work. So first I have, I lie about my age.

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<v Speaker 2>I say it's, but I recover quickly. I say I'm 45.

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<v Speaker 2>And the first thing I say is two truths and

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<v Speaker 2>a lie. I'm actually 45. I'm actually 52. I'm actually 52.

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<v Speaker 2>You would be shocked at how many people don't know

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<v Speaker 2>the math on that and guess that I'm 45. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>they don't get how that works.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a very smart move. Because I know why you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing that. Because you're putting yourself in an algorithm for

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<v Speaker 1>men that don't put above 50.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, even at 45, I've already cut. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I should be at 39 is what I should put

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<v Speaker 2>it at. Yeah. Because a 30-year-old is, like, what is

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<v Speaker 2>your age range at?

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<v Speaker 3>I used to have it set, like, 10 years in

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<v Speaker 3>either direction. But now it's, like, 30 is the goal,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like. Well, it's kind of 10 years, right?

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<v Speaker 3>Like I could talk to people in their 20s, but

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<v Speaker 3>if I'm talking to a woman of romantic interest in

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<v Speaker 3>their 20s, I'm like, you're a child.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like there might be an outlier once in a while,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's not like your norm. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So I moved the bottom up to 30 and

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<v Speaker 3>then the top is 48 because I'm 38.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So put the.

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<v Speaker 2>Try to mess with the algorithm a little bit. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>my God. Have you guys seen each other on Hinge?

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<v Speaker 3>I have not seen Lisa on Hinge.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait for that day. But we get bottom. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't pay, so I'm not getting anyone good. So

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<v Speaker 2>then I left a voice prompt. And the prompt I

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<v Speaker 2>left was, it was for the question or the statement,

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<v Speaker 2>a random fact I love is. So I said this.

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<v Speaker 5>A random fact I love is that no one wants

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<v Speaker 5>to receive a picture of your dick. like no one

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<v Speaker 5>not me not your mom definitely not your ex-girlfriend i

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<v Speaker 5>mean i guess you could send it to your doctor

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<v Speaker 5>if you have something funky going on but really yeah

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<v Speaker 5>that's it just him okay you're welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>Should i pull up the visual should i pull up

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<v Speaker 1>the visual that we mean for this image of what

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<v Speaker 1>what i sent you this morning Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way... Are you going to pull up a

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<v Speaker 2>dick pic? You're going to... Yes. Yes. We can't put

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<v Speaker 2>that on the episode. No, you can. You can. It

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<v Speaker 2>was on the internet today. This is what she means. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>even whales are showing us their dicks. We don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to see this. Even a whale is like, look at me.

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<v Speaker 2>Go home, whale. Go home, whale. It's so annoying. So,

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<v Speaker 2>I left that and I think my tone is, like,

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<v Speaker 2>soft for what I'm saying. Like, you can tell it's

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<v Speaker 2>a joke, right? No.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I just think your tone is soft, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely abrasive to, like, be talking about dicks.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think it's so funny. No, it's so good. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>what is she going to say? Parasailing is for lovers?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I don't want to see your dick.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes. To my point earlier, you're finding out exactly if

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<v Speaker 1>it's a match, if they get that or they don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I will get people that are like, I'm crying.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in the car and I'm crying.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't save those ones. Then I said, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>the type of texter who will never take your call.

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<v Speaker 2>This pisses off the boomers.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Because they really, really take this to heart. Like, we

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<v Speaker 2>will never have a call. My dad gets pissed off

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<v Speaker 2>if I text him. But also, like, I'm working. But, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I say that. Then I say I get along

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<v Speaker 2>best with people that get the joke. And then this

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<v Speaker 2>one has been a newer one that's upsetting people is

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<v Speaker 2>my most irrational fear. A man playing guitar at me

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<v Speaker 2>or insisting I watch him play underhand baseball with his friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And then in parentheses in matching outfits. Wait to see

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<v Speaker 2>how many messages I get about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You just isolated 80% of the male population.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to. watch you. That'll never happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So now what I want to know, obviously I

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<v Speaker 1>stand with your profile 1000%, but I want to know

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<v Speaker 1>what kind of answers you're getting from these men.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll see. So that match, the sport one is basically,

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<v Speaker 2>I know if you are a watch me dude. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to watch you do shit. And I get

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<v Speaker 2>guys that'll be like, but what if? And I'm like, dude.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have an issue with the guys doing those

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<v Speaker 3>activities or just that they watch you?

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<v Speaker 1>No, do you. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Live your best life. Why would I watch you bowl?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you would date a guy that is

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<v Speaker 1>on a softball team.

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<v Speaker 5>I have.

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<v Speaker 2>On a softball team?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to watch like an adult man.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but I'm saying if he was like, babe, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on this team, but like, you don't have to come watch.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Because everyone thinks they're an athlete, right? Like every dude

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<v Speaker 2>is like, I played. Go play. Go play. Are you

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<v Speaker 2>on a softball team?

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<v Speaker 3>No, but I used to be on a soccer team,

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<v Speaker 3>like a rec soccer team.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>And I never asked anybody to come watch. I just

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to get outside and run around.

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<v Speaker 2>It is a sign of a healthy man. Side note,

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<v Speaker 2>when I was married to a professional soccer player, so

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<v Speaker 2>I would go watch him job. like your job, people

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<v Speaker 2>pay to sit in the seats. Then he retired and

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<v Speaker 2>he was coaching kids here somewhere, like kids, where like

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<v Speaker 2>I know the parents don't even want to go. And

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<v Speaker 2>he would be upset that I didn't want to watch

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<v Speaker 2>him coach, coach on the sidelines. What? Like I'm still

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<v Speaker 2>not over that. Like on my day off, Instead of doing,

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<v Speaker 2>I should watch you stand. Like, that's crazy to me.

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<v Speaker 1>So.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, let's do. Put the glasses on.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go down.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do the softball responses first. So that sounds great.

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<v Speaker 2>That sounds like a great evening. What's the fear? I

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<v Speaker 2>like how you refer to uniforms as outfits. And I

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<v Speaker 2>wrote back to him. Did he think that was a flex? Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wrote back, a top and leggings is an outfit.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a set. It's a fucking set, sir. And then

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<v Speaker 2>one other guy wrote, softball? How about like a real sport, rugby?

0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:21.040
<v Speaker 2>I can't believe I had to be like, soccer, baseball, underhands. Idiots. Ah,

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<v Speaker 2>I used to play tons of softball. Was obsessed with it.

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<v Speaker 2>If I join again, will you watch?

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<v Speaker 1>Read between the lines.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wrote, unless someone is paying you to do

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<v Speaker 2>it and they serve snacks, it's going to be a

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<v Speaker 2>no for me, dog. Another guy. I think they usually

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<v Speaker 2>call these matching these. They're not called matching outfits. They're

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<v Speaker 2>called uniforms. Great. Would you watch a guy playing pickleball?

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote no. Like this is another guy. Hi, Lisa. OK,

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<v Speaker 2>not that I'm an avid softball player or anything, but

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<v Speaker 2>what's exactly the fear? And I said, the fear is

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<v Speaker 2>dating a watch me, man.

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<v Speaker 1>They're all trying to be the exception.

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<v Speaker 2>What about soccer?

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a guy named Doug. I thought it was funny.

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<v Speaker 2>To that softball one, he wrote, you have a funny profile,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't mean the side view of your face. Wow,

0:13:11.730 --> 0:13:14.880
<v Speaker 2>none of these men are funny. And they're trying so

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<v Speaker 2>hard to be. I used to have one. I said

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<v Speaker 2>my most irrational fear is serial killers, and I blame Dateline.

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<v Speaker 2>So this one man writes, Lisa, the biggest problem these

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<v Speaker 2>days with dating, all men are considered serial killers, and

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<v Speaker 2>all women are assumed to be gold diggers. I guess

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<v Speaker 2>all of us are guilty and proven innocent. How strange.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wrote, that's really serial killer-y of you. He's pissed.

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<v Speaker 2>Craig wrote, Lisa, you should be so proud to look

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<v Speaker 2>so yummy. Seeing your pictures in your profile is a

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<v Speaker 2>great way to start the year. I do have a

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<v Speaker 2>small serial killer story, dot, dot, dot. Yummy? He's the

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<v Speaker 2>serial killer. And he has a serial killer. And actually,

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<v Speaker 2>he's a cannibal. Then another guy writes, I fear women

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<v Speaker 2>who listen to true crime podcasts regularly as they are

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<v Speaker 2>significantly more likely to off their boyfriend. Causation or correlation?

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<v Speaker 2>And I wrote, I fear we're actually learning how to

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<v Speaker 2>not be murdered, John. Like, you think we're trying to

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<v Speaker 2>learn how to kill, like, stop. Another guy wrote, John wrote, well, shit,

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<v Speaker 2>that rules me out.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool.

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<v Speaker 2>That's actually kind of funny. I like that guy. There

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<v Speaker 2>are so many. Should we call him? Is he cute?

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<v Speaker 2>This is a proper, I call this folder kids. So

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<v Speaker 2>these are guys like from 18 to like 26. How

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<v Speaker 2>are they getting in? Because I have the thing off

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<v Speaker 2>the filter that says like basically once it runs out

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<v Speaker 2>of people in my age bracket, it opens it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I get everybody I can't date a child but

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<v Speaker 2>they're so much better like leaps and bounds okay so

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<v Speaker 2>Lisa can I please make love to you like he

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<v Speaker 2>said please like so nice I love you the same

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<v Speaker 2>reaction did you respond no I can't like respond to

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<v Speaker 2>children this one I did respond to because he was

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<v Speaker 2>like what Like 25. He goes, so what are you

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<v Speaker 2>looking for, Lisa? I wrote, my key is you. And

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<v Speaker 2>he goes, an older woman.

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<v Speaker 5>Funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Funny.

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<v Speaker 2>But imagine if you were age appropriate. Not the youngins

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<v Speaker 2>being a perfect match for you. It says a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>In terms of humor and pace. No, not one person

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<v Speaker 2>has said anything bad. This one guy wrote, boy, Nick,

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<v Speaker 2>he's 25.5. And you'll understand why I know this. And

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote, And he wrote, And then he wrote, He goes,

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<v Speaker 2>If that doesn't scream big boy, then I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 2>what does. He's so funny. I think he's funny. Gets better.

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<v Speaker 2>So then he writes the next day, kidding. But is

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<v Speaker 2>that really a big deal for you? I understand if

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<v Speaker 2>it is, but just wondering. Ha ha. Is he cute?

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<v Speaker 2>I cut off his face. I have no idea. But like,

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<v Speaker 2>these are guys I would actually talk to, but they're

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<v Speaker 2>like in college. So where do you draw the line

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<v Speaker 2>in terms of age? You can't be in your... Can't

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<v Speaker 2>be in your 20s. No. You can be in your 30s.

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<v Speaker 2>But not low 30s.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But also, what are we talking about? Dating or, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>No, hooking up, like, app type vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>Not like... Yeah. Yeah. I'll just... I think, like, the

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<v Speaker 2>youngest I've ever... I've never gone. Like, it's like a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I think 16 years.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>But it would be really strong for our Age Gap

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<v Speaker 1>podcast for you to be in an Age Gap relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'll only go, I can't go older because he'd

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<v Speaker 2>be dead. You know how I feel about that? I know, wild.

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<v Speaker 1>I also feel very weird about you dating someone my

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<v Speaker 1>age too, so.

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<v Speaker 5>Same.

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<v Speaker 2>But like anytime it's been 16 years, which is, that

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<v Speaker 2>was a sweet spot for a while. It's, I was

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<v Speaker 2>always like, we can't be on the outside together, like ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't it crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>You and I are 24 years apart and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like we could date.

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<v Speaker 2>But yes and no. You wouldn't date me? We're not.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not a dude. If you were a dude, I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't be able to date you.

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<v Speaker 1>If I was a dude, you wouldn't date me?

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<v Speaker 2>But I would never date someone that young.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe your person is hiding in that kid's file.

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<v Speaker 2>One of these kids. That's my point. Maybe you should

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<v Speaker 2>be more open to it. So imagine 24. Imagine in

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<v Speaker 2>10 years what that looks like. That's what I think about. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>are these girls understanding when they're dating a guy that's

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<v Speaker 2>25 years older... what that looks like.

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<v Speaker 1>They definitely are weighing the outcomes, for sure. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like anybody thinks about that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think they do. Because anytime anyone's ever tried to, like,

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<v Speaker 2>wait for it, they're like, he's amazing, but he's close

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<v Speaker 2>to my dad's age. I'm like, what? Like, it's never registered. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I've never thought to go older.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody has a preference, and I think that every relationship

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<v Speaker 1>has an expiration date.

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<v Speaker 2>And maybe it's easier.

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<v Speaker 1>To cope with the expiration date and knowing that it's

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<v Speaker 1>because of age.

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<v Speaker 2>So my only theory is maybe a younger girl would

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<v Speaker 2>be like, whatever, I sign up for this. Because when

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<v Speaker 2>I was a baby, like in my early 20s, working

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<v Speaker 2>at a hair salon in Boston, I worked at a

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<v Speaker 2>salon with all dudes. And I was like the girl.

0:18:53.500 --> 0:18:55.600
<v Speaker 2>And one of the guys one day was like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>come get coffee with me. And he was like 40.

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<v Speaker 2>And this was a serious talk. He's like to Julio.

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<v Speaker 2>You are never, ever going to be this hot in

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<v Speaker 2>your life again. I need you to marry. He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>you just marry someone rich now. And in 10 years,

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<v Speaker 2>you can marry for love. He was dead serious. Game plan.

0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.820
<v Speaker 2>He was like, for a man to pull me aside

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<v Speaker 2>at like 22 and be like, you're doing this wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>The balls on him.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think maybe girls might think like that. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>you still have your life ahead of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Love is love. And I really believe love has no

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<v Speaker 1>like boundaries or reasons sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like when I was single, I could probably

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<v Speaker 1>see myself getting into a relationship with somebody older, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>15 years older than me.

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<v Speaker 2>But imagine I'm 52. So 15 years older than me. Please.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 1>There's some guys that look really good in their 70s.

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<v Speaker 2>They're going to die. That's crazy behavior.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you have a whole other life after that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm tired already. That's like, I'm not taking care of

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<v Speaker 2>someone with erectile dysfunction.

0:20:05.830 --> 0:20:08.270
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so what about going the other way and having

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<v Speaker 1>somebody that will.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll die before them. If that's something they want to

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<v Speaker 2>sign up for, great. It's just not for me. I

0:20:15.730 --> 0:20:19.490
<v Speaker 2>have taken care of men my entire life. That's your boundary.

0:20:19.790 --> 0:20:22.889
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to hear about your testicle. I don't

0:20:22.910 --> 0:20:24.639
<v Speaker 2>want to hear that you can't get high. I don't want,

0:20:24.660 --> 0:20:26.899
<v Speaker 2>I don't care. That's not my problem. It's your problem.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing that. You need to go younger. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Long story short. The kid's folder's looking better. Isn't it great? Hold.

0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:34.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. So then Jordan, he's, totally aware of the slight

0:20:42.470 --> 0:20:46.030
<v Speaker 2>age gap but had to see how open-minded you are

0:20:46.070 --> 0:20:49.730
<v Speaker 2>to someone younger the age gap was 21 years so

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<v Speaker 2>he's my age an age gap that can go to

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<v Speaker 2>the bar i like can you like he's 30 jeremy

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<v Speaker 2>i don't see a problem with it hi lisa i

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<v Speaker 2>would love to take you out sometime Hopefully you can

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<v Speaker 2>be open-minded to my age. You are beautiful, and I

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<v Speaker 2>know this isn't ordinary, but ordinary is boring anyway.

0:21:13.930 --> 0:21:15.910
<v Speaker 3>The younger guys send better messages.

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<v Speaker 1>They're very in touch with their feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>If I got these messages from a guy my age,

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<v Speaker 2>I've never received a nice message like this from someone

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<v Speaker 2>my age, ever. You'll see. You'll see. That's so disappointing.

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<v Speaker 1>Josh.

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<v Speaker 2>Josh. My landlord charged me a pet fee the way

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<v Speaker 2>I started barking. So good. Like, they're funny. Like, they're funny.

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<v Speaker 2>If I didn't feel like a predator, I would reply

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<v Speaker 2>to these guys because it's funny. It's a really good line.

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<v Speaker 2>You should use that, Casey. That's really good? That's really good. Thanks, Josh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Antonio up next. I can tell you're into guys my age.

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<v Speaker 2>You just want them to be mature enough to have

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<v Speaker 2>a conversation with you. Like, can you imagine these boys

0:22:03.260 --> 0:22:08.490
<v Speaker 2>writing their shit out? I'm so pleasantly surprised. Like, we're

0:22:08.530 --> 0:22:11.330
<v Speaker 2>okay in the future. It's like I'm stuck in this vortex.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I said before I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't want you dating someone my age, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>after knowing.

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<v Speaker 2>All of this, I've changed my mind. I'm so glad.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. You should be open to it.

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<v Speaker 2>Evan wrote, I'll miss you after I press like. That's

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of pathetic. That's so nice. I don't know.

0:22:27.170 --> 0:22:31.359
<v Speaker 2>That aches me out. Tuck, this guy named Tuck, boy, wrote,

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<v Speaker 2>want to rose you. Fuck it. Come to one of

0:22:34.340 --> 0:22:36.580
<v Speaker 2>our parties, meaning he wanted to send me a rose.

0:22:37.140 --> 0:22:40.090
<v Speaker 2>And then I go, what the fuck, Tuck? And he goes, Lisa,

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<v Speaker 2>you should come to one of my frat parties. That

0:22:46.010 --> 0:22:46.990
<v Speaker 2>sounds so fun. Maybe you should.

0:22:48.030 --> 0:22:51.400
<v Speaker 1>We should go. Just for the story, we should go.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going to show up with me. They're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be like, why the fuck are you bringing this young bitch?

0:22:55.800 --> 0:22:57.900
<v Speaker 2>Or they're like, you bringing your mom?

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<v Speaker 1>No, they're going to be like, we thought you were

0:22:59.980 --> 0:23:03.220
<v Speaker 1>coming with your hot older friends. Clearly, this is a

0:23:03.510 --> 0:23:06.250
<v Speaker 1>whole other world for men, I think, of a younger

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<v Speaker 1>age in college that.

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<v Speaker 2>Want older women. But I'm their mom's age. They so

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<v Speaker 2>want it. What's that? Like a mommy-ish?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's... It's a similar thing for why women want.

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<v Speaker 2>To get older. I think it is mommy and daddy issues, honestly. Right?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You make them feel safe. They want to suck off

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<v Speaker 1>your tit.

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<v Speaker 2>My teat? My postmenopausal teat? Literally. Like there's nothing. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So Ryan wrote, hey, I'm writing a paper about the

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<v Speaker 2>finer things in life. I was wondering if I could

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<v Speaker 2>interview you for it. Gentlemen. Corny.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Gentlemen. I'll take corny. Wait till you see what the guys,

0:23:53.090 --> 0:23:56.290
<v Speaker 2>the dudes my age say. Rob is 22. He wrote,

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<v Speaker 2>reasons why we should go on a date. One, you're stunning. Two,

0:24:00.660 --> 0:24:03.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm an old soul who prefers dating older women. Cliche,

0:24:03.920 --> 0:24:09.270
<v Speaker 2>I know. Three, why not? That's Rob. Predictable. ChachiBT wrote that,

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<v Speaker 2>I think. But like, still.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:24:12.450 --> 0:24:16.760
<v Speaker 2>And this guy wrote, there's something just genuinely ineffable about you.

0:24:16.880 --> 0:24:18.740
<v Speaker 2>I choked on my drink and ruined, this is a

0:24:18.740 --> 0:24:20.920
<v Speaker 2>copy and paste, and ruined my shirt when I first

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<v Speaker 2>saw you. Maybe you can make it up to me

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<v Speaker 2>by coming out to USC and watching one of my games.

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<v Speaker 2>If I need to twist your arm, I'll get you

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<v Speaker 2>on the field. What sport are we talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>Would you be more open to seeing a younger guy

0:24:39.609 --> 0:24:43.750
<v Speaker 3>play sports? Like not a 50-year-old in a softball league, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a 20-year-old. If he came out of my womb.

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<v Speaker 2>That's it. I'm not watching anyone play sports, do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine me showing up with like the orange slices. Ryan,

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<v Speaker 2>I want you with the type of greed they warn

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<v Speaker 2>about in the Bible. Whoa.

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<v Speaker 4>Whoa.

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<v Speaker 2>Way too aggressive. I wrote good old fashioned Bible warning.

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<v Speaker 2>That was hardcore. Matt, I would have traded my shoes

0:25:12.940 --> 0:25:15.159
<v Speaker 2>with your shoes so your feet didn't hurt because on

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<v Speaker 2>one of my pictures, I don't have my, like it

0:25:16.680 --> 0:25:18.800
<v Speaker 2>was raining, I had my shoes off. And I was like,

0:25:18.859 --> 0:25:22.320
<v Speaker 2>angel baby, that's so nice. This one is definitely like

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<v Speaker 2>a copy paste. This is the picture I would have

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<v Speaker 2>as a Polaroid to put on my car dashboard to

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<v Speaker 2>remind myself what I'm working hard for every day.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if they're sending messages like this to girls

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<v Speaker 3>their age.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, wait.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a good question. That's a really good question. Wait.

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<v Speaker 2>So you, would you be weirded out by that? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think they are.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think they are either.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think they are.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they have a kink and they're going all

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<v Speaker 1>the way in on that. And I think for girls

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<v Speaker 1>their age, it's too easy for them. I think they

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<v Speaker 1>also like the chase of it all.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys. They're all so nice. No young guy has

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<v Speaker 2>said anything bad. Nasty. Pretty woman. The kind I'd like

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<v Speaker 2>to meet. Are you into younger guys or am I

0:26:04.930 --> 0:26:12.250
<v Speaker 2>in trouble? Like, shut the fuck up. Nothing's happening. Terrell, 23. Respectfully,

0:26:12.270 --> 0:26:15.330
<v Speaker 2>I need to be your young bull catering to all

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<v Speaker 2>of your needs from now on because, wow, you're beautiful.

0:26:20.230 --> 0:26:22.170
<v Speaker 2>Put him on a leash and bring him in here.

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote Terrell one hinge today when I posted it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay. Isn't that so nice? I want

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<v Speaker 2>to use nice for that one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, nice isn't how I would describe it.

0:26:36.920 --> 0:26:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Wait, this one I posted, and I think there's some

0:26:41.280 --> 0:26:43.740
<v Speaker 2>weird peng. I think this has to be a copy

0:26:43.760 --> 0:26:46.540
<v Speaker 2>and paste. Hey, how are you? I think we've met

0:26:46.600 --> 0:26:50.460
<v Speaker 2>before in my dreams. What is your stance on penguins?

0:26:52.880 --> 0:26:55.490
<v Speaker 2>He's just looking for an answer. Yeah, whenever they say,

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<v Speaker 2>can I ask you a question?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no.

0:26:57.160 --> 0:27:00.929
<v Speaker 2>This one's great. I'm here to interrupt whatever situationship you're entering.

0:27:00.950 --> 0:27:05.470
<v Speaker 2>I was like, solid. But obviously you're still 12. This

0:27:05.530 --> 0:27:07.690
<v Speaker 2>one's great. Are you aware of the amount of high

0:27:07.730 --> 0:27:09.570
<v Speaker 2>fives I'd get if I showed up with you to

0:27:09.590 --> 0:27:12.629
<v Speaker 2>the cookout? My therapist told me I need a MILF

0:27:12.670 --> 0:27:14.910
<v Speaker 2>in my life, Lisa. That was from Zeke.

0:27:15.570 --> 0:27:17.629
<v Speaker 1>Oh, we're bringing therapists into it now.

0:27:18.020 --> 0:27:22.520
<v Speaker 2>This guy said, we will be secretly dating, but we'll

0:27:22.560 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 2>say you're my aunt. What? Like, I show up, you're like, oh, auntie?

0:27:28.040 --> 0:27:29.520
<v Speaker 3>That sounds like a kink thing.

0:27:29.800 --> 0:27:32.500
<v Speaker 2>Dude, this is all a kink. I was like, I

0:27:32.520 --> 0:27:34.240
<v Speaker 2>was today years old when I realized I'm in a

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:35.100
<v Speaker 2>fetish category.

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:37.720
<v Speaker 1>All of these guys literally want you to put them

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<v Speaker 1>on a leash.

0:27:38.900 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Breastfeed them. Brance them around.

0:27:40.400 --> 0:27:43.459
<v Speaker 1>Breastfeed them. And take them out to dinner or something weird.

0:27:43.480 --> 0:27:45.900
<v Speaker 2>Yes. Also, I'm like, are you looking to meet, like,

0:27:46.050 --> 0:27:47.370
<v Speaker 2>sugar mama?

0:27:47.650 --> 0:27:47.890
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:27:48.210 --> 0:27:54.840
<v Speaker 2>Possibility. For sure. I can't. Words can't describe the things

0:27:54.880 --> 0:27:58.360
<v Speaker 2>I'd do for you. I love that line. I thought

0:27:58.380 --> 0:27:59.860
<v Speaker 2>he was going to say. Oh, that would work on me.

0:27:59.960 --> 0:28:02.060
<v Speaker 2>Words can't describe what I'd do to you. And he

0:28:02.100 --> 0:28:04.330
<v Speaker 2>wrote for. Like, genius, genius, genius.

0:28:04.350 --> 0:28:07.580
<v Speaker 1>That is such a good thing to say. A.

0:28:08.130 --> 0:28:10.870
<v Speaker 2>Probably not to a stranger. Or to somebody you're dating.

0:28:10.910 --> 0:28:14.590
<v Speaker 2>Or to a 52-year-old woman. On the internet. He's being

0:28:14.710 --> 0:28:18.530
<v Speaker 2>so vulnerable. Hey, I like your look, LOL. You went

0:28:18.550 --> 0:28:21.120
<v Speaker 2>to younger guys. Favorite flowers. I need to know what

0:28:21.150 --> 0:28:22.970
<v Speaker 2>to bring on our first date. dot, dot, dot.

0:28:23.290 --> 0:28:23.909
<v Speaker 3>Ugh, corny.

0:28:24.170 --> 0:28:27.949
<v Speaker 2>But still, dude, write that instead of what these old

0:28:27.990 --> 0:28:28.410
<v Speaker 2>guys wrote.

0:28:29.430 --> 0:28:29.730
<v Speaker 3>True.

0:28:30.600 --> 0:28:35.080
<v Speaker 2>So my favorite, by the way, like the universe really

0:28:35.420 --> 0:28:37.600
<v Speaker 2>like gave me a solid with this one. I was

0:28:37.640 --> 0:28:43.160
<v Speaker 2>at Baltair. This old crester, busting balls, annoying as fuck,

0:28:43.480 --> 0:28:47.540
<v Speaker 2>interrupted my dinner with my girlfriend. Months and months later,

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:52.310
<v Speaker 2>he shows up on Hinge in my inbox. And I

0:28:52.350 --> 0:28:55.690
<v Speaker 2>got the pleasure of sending him a message, a voice memo,

0:28:56.550 --> 0:29:02.240
<v Speaker 2>recalling our first meeting. So he deleted me after I

0:29:02.260 --> 0:29:04.520
<v Speaker 2>wrote this to him. What did his message say? You're

0:29:04.540 --> 0:29:06.280
<v Speaker 2>going to die. Also, he must have been drunk. Did

0:29:06.300 --> 0:29:09.459
<v Speaker 2>he remember you? No, because he was old. How old

0:29:09.500 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 2>are we talking? I think he was like probably 60. Okay,

0:29:13.100 --> 0:29:15.200
<v Speaker 2>my two truths and a lie. He must have been drunk.

0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:18.530
<v Speaker 2>So he wrote, are you still 55 when you're wet?

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<v Speaker 2>I just want you to know, an adult, he's an

0:29:24.050 --> 0:29:30.440
<v Speaker 2>attorney that lives in Brentwood. I just read 30 messages

0:29:30.500 --> 0:29:35.950
<v Speaker 2>from nice children. This fucking loser. Are you still 55

0:29:35.950 --> 0:29:38.870
<v Speaker 2>when you're wet? So when they ask gross shit, I

0:29:38.910 --> 0:29:41.810
<v Speaker 2>like to play dumb. So I wrote, huh? And he goes,

0:29:41.950 --> 0:29:44.540
<v Speaker 2>two truths and a lie. In this photo, looks like

0:29:44.580 --> 0:29:46.640
<v Speaker 2>you got caught in the rain. I know my question

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:49.400
<v Speaker 2>doesn't really make any sense. How do the two relate

0:29:49.420 --> 0:29:51.920
<v Speaker 2>to each other? They don't. But it's what popped into

0:29:51.960 --> 0:29:56.280
<v Speaker 2>my tired mind. Sorry, never mind. I was like, well,

0:29:56.320 --> 0:30:00.400
<v Speaker 2>not never mind. So I was like, wait. You look familiar.

0:30:00.420 --> 0:30:02.740
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I've seen you at Voltaire. And he

0:30:02.760 --> 0:30:05.530
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh, really? And then I, should I play the,

0:30:06.050 --> 0:30:10.510
<v Speaker 2>I left him this message. Fucking asshole. I knew it

0:30:10.550 --> 0:30:12.450
<v Speaker 2>was you. Let me read through your memory.

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<v Speaker 4>So I was sitting at the bar with my friend

0:30:15.090 --> 0:30:17.810
<v Speaker 4>and we had ordered dinner. We were starving and we're

0:30:17.850 --> 0:30:21.490
<v Speaker 4>catching up. In comes a couple of dues, one being you.

0:30:21.890 --> 0:30:24.780
<v Speaker 4>You wedge your way between us to order your drink,

0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:26.880
<v Speaker 4>even though the bar was empty.

0:30:26.900 --> 0:30:26.980
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:30:27.330 --> 0:30:29.890
<v Speaker 4>The bartender clocked it. We clocked it. It was like

0:30:29.910 --> 0:30:32.650
<v Speaker 4>a whole situation. They tried to move your drinks away

0:30:32.690 --> 0:30:35.570
<v Speaker 4>from us. You wanted nothing to do with it. Insisted

0:30:35.710 --> 0:30:38.050
<v Speaker 4>on taking your drink between us and that you claimed

0:30:38.070 --> 0:30:38.890
<v Speaker 4>you were going to walk away.

0:30:39.410 --> 0:30:40.790
<v Speaker 2>Shocking. You did not walk away.

0:30:41.250 --> 0:30:43.690
<v Speaker 4>And you stood in between my friend and I and

0:30:43.730 --> 0:30:48.180
<v Speaker 4>interrupted our conversation and our dinner and talked at us

0:30:48.440 --> 0:30:51.060
<v Speaker 4>for several minutes until finally.

0:30:51.020 --> 0:30:53.560
<v Speaker 2>My friend, who's the nice one, by the way, couldn't

0:30:53.580 --> 0:30:56.260
<v Speaker 2>handle it anymore. And she turned to you and said like, okay.

0:30:56.880 --> 0:30:58.040
<v Speaker 2>It was nice to meet you. We're good.

0:30:58.580 --> 0:31:01.700
<v Speaker 4>And you got so mad and you huffed and puffed

0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:04.580
<v Speaker 4>away as if you had any right to fucking talk

0:31:04.600 --> 0:31:07.560
<v Speaker 4>to us in the first place. And then an hour later,

0:31:07.620 --> 0:31:10.660
<v Speaker 4>we leave and she and I are outside waiting for

0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:16.860
<v Speaker 4>our Ubers. And you had the audacity to come outside,

0:31:17.040 --> 0:31:20.760
<v Speaker 4>follow us and pull us aside to let us know

0:31:20.860 --> 0:31:25.980
<v Speaker 4>how to speak to gentlemen in a respectful manner. I

0:31:26.000 --> 0:31:29.510
<v Speaker 4>was just confused because where the fuck is the gentleman, A,

0:31:30.060 --> 0:31:32.160
<v Speaker 4>and B, get uninvolved.

0:31:32.740 --> 0:31:34.240
<v Speaker 2>Mind your own fucking business.

0:31:34.660 --> 0:31:36.480
<v Speaker 4>Shocking that there are going to be women in the

0:31:36.540 --> 0:31:39.180
<v Speaker 4>world that want to eat in peace and don't want

0:31:39.200 --> 0:31:44.130
<v Speaker 4>to talk to the miserable dude that has nothing entertaining

0:31:44.750 --> 0:31:49.490
<v Speaker 4>or fun to bring to the table. Actually, yeah, you

0:31:49.510 --> 0:31:52.650
<v Speaker 4>brought up 9-11, which was also so fucking weird, dude.

0:31:53.450 --> 0:31:57.370
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I still speak to men like you like this. So, okay,

0:31:57.450 --> 0:31:57.870
<v Speaker 2>get fucked.

0:31:58.930 --> 0:32:00.230
<v Speaker 3>Like, get fucked.

0:32:00.770 --> 0:32:04.890
<v Speaker 2>What did he respond? He deleted me. So I also

0:32:04.970 --> 0:32:07.830
<v Speaker 2>wonder whenever I leave a message like that, I always

0:32:07.850 --> 0:32:12.630
<v Speaker 2>get an email being like, you've been reported for being honest. Like,

0:32:12.650 --> 0:32:14.130
<v Speaker 2>what are you going to do, kick me off hinge?

0:32:14.170 --> 0:32:18.190
<v Speaker 2>Shut up. Why did he bring up 9-11? Thank you.

0:32:18.650 --> 0:32:22.300
<v Speaker 2>Fuck if I know. But imagine that man that wanted

0:32:22.340 --> 0:32:26.240
<v Speaker 2>to tell me how to be respectful to men then

0:32:26.340 --> 0:32:28.920
<v Speaker 2>asked me if I was wet. What a weirdo. On

0:32:28.940 --> 0:32:31.550
<v Speaker 2>the internet. Help me. Like, help me.

0:32:31.560 --> 0:32:33.980
<v Speaker 1>And talked your ear off in public as a stranger.

0:32:34.180 --> 0:32:37.700
<v Speaker 2>To our backs. We were, like, just eating burgers. Like, what?

0:32:37.720 --> 0:32:41.440
<v Speaker 2>This is what is happening. The world is broken, you guys.

0:32:42.240 --> 0:32:44.260
<v Speaker 2>Who am I supposed to date? Like, when people are like,

0:32:44.300 --> 0:32:47.280
<v Speaker 2>you can't. Well, who am I supposed to date? Not him.

0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:48.219
<v Speaker 5>Who then?

0:32:48.770 --> 0:32:49.510
<v Speaker 2>He's a weirdo.

0:32:49.620 --> 0:32:50.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:32:50.380 --> 0:32:53.200
<v Speaker 2>How crazy is that, though? You know what?

0:32:53.440 --> 0:32:55.900
<v Speaker 1>The thing is that bothers me, like, have the balls

0:32:55.940 --> 0:32:59.780
<v Speaker 1>to say something back. I hate when people can, like, bite, but, like,

0:33:00.100 --> 0:33:02.460
<v Speaker 1>they don't bite, I don't know, back. It's just, like,

0:33:02.580 --> 0:33:04.300
<v Speaker 1>what a pussy move to report her over that.

0:33:05.020 --> 0:33:07.990
<v Speaker 2>Stand on business. But I'm thinking these guys, like, they're

0:33:08.010 --> 0:33:10.650
<v Speaker 2>just old dudes, like, drunk at home. Like, what else

0:33:10.710 --> 0:33:12.810
<v Speaker 2>is happening that you think this makes sense to say

0:33:12.830 --> 0:33:15.750
<v Speaker 2>to me? This one guy in his hinge, he said,

0:33:15.770 --> 0:33:16.650
<v Speaker 2>a boundary of mine is.

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 2>Being pegged. Definitely don't want to get pegged. Lisa, why

0:33:28.100 --> 0:33:34.430
<v Speaker 2>don't you prepare us for that? I truly feel, like, violated.

0:33:34.710 --> 0:33:40.950
<v Speaker 2>Can you imagine? This is... This is real. So casual,

0:33:41.010 --> 0:33:43.590
<v Speaker 2>by the way. You guys, the way he said it.

0:33:43.610 --> 0:33:46.410
<v Speaker 2>The way he's so unfazed by the shit that pops

0:33:46.530 --> 0:33:49.730
<v Speaker 2>up is, that's the crazy part. Like, I'm so desensitized.

0:33:49.990 --> 0:33:54.550
<v Speaker 2>There's nothing you could say to me. That was insane. Oh, wait. This.

0:33:55.110 --> 0:33:59.600
<v Speaker 2>Would you like to play with the thought of a

0:33:59.700 --> 0:34:06.320
<v Speaker 2>friend in a distant past? Did you hear? I didn't

0:34:06.340 --> 0:34:06.719
<v Speaker 2>stop him.

0:34:07.710 --> 0:34:12.339
<v Speaker 3>With your hands up and arms so weak, Johnny will

0:34:12.469 --> 0:34:13.300
<v Speaker 3>fall down.

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:21.660
<v Speaker 1>While on the deck they sing, all of the captains called.

0:34:21.219 --> 0:34:27.500
<v Speaker 2>Are king still. Then he also wrote... The smoke detector.

0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:31.480
<v Speaker 2>The smoke detector. So funny. And then he wrote... I

0:34:31.520 --> 0:34:35.700
<v Speaker 2>go crazy for tantra, tantra, tantra, however you say it.

0:34:35.739 --> 0:34:36.900
<v Speaker 3>And these are the older guys.

0:34:37.140 --> 0:34:39.279
<v Speaker 2>These are the Crestors. What do you want me to do?

0:34:40.320 --> 0:34:44.569
<v Speaker 2>These are like my age category. You're sick. What? He

0:34:44.590 --> 0:34:45.640
<v Speaker 2>was like, you know what I'm going to do?

0:34:45.710 --> 0:34:45.870
<v Speaker 1>Hold on.

0:34:47.370 --> 0:34:51.330
<v Speaker 2>I kind of liked it. You can't sing. I don't

0:34:51.430 --> 0:34:52.029
<v Speaker 2>think that he.

0:34:52.660 --> 0:34:54.520
<v Speaker 1>Do you think he thinks he can sing or.

0:34:54.480 --> 0:34:56.279
<v Speaker 2>Is he joking or is he fucking around? That was

0:34:56.320 --> 0:34:56.680
<v Speaker 2>not a joke.

0:34:56.700 --> 0:34:59.110
<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to figure out. I think the older guys

0:34:59.450 --> 0:35:01.250
<v Speaker 3>look at... These are all on Hinge, right?

0:35:01.350 --> 0:35:01.549
<v Speaker 1>Yes.

0:35:01.910 --> 0:35:04.250
<v Speaker 3>I think they might be thinking about Hinge differently the

0:35:04.290 --> 0:35:06.270
<v Speaker 3>way younger guys think about Hinge.

0:35:06.469 --> 0:35:06.810
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:35:07.130 --> 0:35:09.810
<v Speaker 3>I look at Hinge as like I'm looking for someone

0:35:09.830 --> 0:35:13.850
<v Speaker 3>that I want to date. And date with intention, basically.

0:35:14.989 --> 0:35:17.870
<v Speaker 3>And I think a lot of guys... my age and

0:35:17.890 --> 0:35:21.160
<v Speaker 3>younger probably look at hinge that way as well where

0:35:21.200 --> 0:35:22.580
<v Speaker 3>it's like tinder is the.

0:35:22.540 --> 0:35:25.420
<v Speaker 2>Hookup yeah app what do you think these idiots are thinking.

0:35:25.219 --> 0:35:27.859
<v Speaker 3>I think they think all the apps are the same.

0:35:27.520 --> 0:35:29.299
<v Speaker 2>Like i'm just gonna get a girl so.

0:35:29.300 --> 0:35:33.210
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna like post about pegging and ask women if

0:35:33.230 --> 0:35:35.790
<v Speaker 3>they're wet and it's like i think that's why the

0:35:35.810 --> 0:35:38.189
<v Speaker 3>younger guys aren't saying stuff like that because i think

0:35:38.290 --> 0:35:40.410
<v Speaker 3>they're like you don't do that on this app.

0:35:40.550 --> 0:35:44.280
<v Speaker 2>They're doing it on field yeah yeah exactly imagine just

0:35:44.340 --> 0:35:48.450
<v Speaker 2>being a six like an attorney like You have a

0:35:48.570 --> 0:35:51.089
<v Speaker 2>job in society. You've been around and you're like, I'm

0:35:51.110 --> 0:35:54.210
<v Speaker 2>going to ask this girl if she's wet still. What?

0:35:54.330 --> 0:35:55.989
<v Speaker 1>I think that in some way he was trying to

0:35:56.030 --> 0:35:59.750
<v Speaker 1>be funny and like stoop to your, you know, the

0:36:00.270 --> 0:36:01.609
<v Speaker 1>playing field of how funny you are.

0:36:01.630 --> 0:36:03.879
<v Speaker 2>And he's just not funny. I don't think so, because

0:36:03.890 --> 0:36:06.040
<v Speaker 2>this is the same guy that's like, you got to

0:36:06.060 --> 0:36:10.000
<v Speaker 2>be respectful. You don't listen. Like he left his friends

0:36:10.060 --> 0:36:11.799
<v Speaker 2>and I watched him come out the door and he's like.

0:36:12.810 --> 0:36:14.660
<v Speaker 2>And sees us and I was like, this guy, he's

0:36:14.700 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 2>going to really do this. Here we go. And I

0:36:17.680 --> 0:36:20.680
<v Speaker 2>like unleashed because I was like, leave, go home. Shut

0:36:20.700 --> 0:36:24.500
<v Speaker 2>the fuck up. What is happening? I like the singing

0:36:24.520 --> 0:36:26.660
<v Speaker 2>guy the most. I'm sad I didn't give him a chance.

0:36:37.180 --> 0:36:42.060
<v Speaker 2>I have an album called Ew. Ew. Let's see what

0:36:42.260 --> 0:36:46.080
<v Speaker 2>ew has. He wrote, he's in like flip-flops this dude.

0:36:46.420 --> 0:36:46.660
<v Speaker 5>What?

0:36:47.180 --> 0:36:49.460
<v Speaker 2>You look nice, but what you say and write is

0:36:49.500 --> 0:36:53.319
<v Speaker 2>a total turnoff. So again, I was like, really? How

0:36:53.340 --> 0:36:56.490
<v Speaker 2>can I change your mind? Knowing this motherfucker would actually

0:36:56.510 --> 0:37:00.170
<v Speaker 2>tell me how. He's like, well, you talk about dick pics.

0:37:00.210 --> 0:37:02.630
<v Speaker 2>You look chic, but that was too much. And I

0:37:02.650 --> 0:37:05.250
<v Speaker 2>was like, male ego has you thinking I give a shit.

0:37:06.790 --> 0:37:07.130
<v Speaker 5>Deleted.

0:37:08.160 --> 0:37:10.660
<v Speaker 2>I was like, imagine stopping on someone's profile to be like,

0:37:10.820 --> 0:37:11.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to let her know.

0:37:12.200 --> 0:37:15.109
<v Speaker 1>Imagine a grown man stopping on a woman's profile to say,

0:37:15.310 --> 0:37:16.490
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to teach her a lesson.

0:37:16.790 --> 0:37:19.169
<v Speaker 2>I'm always getting taught a lesson by a fucking guy

0:37:19.190 --> 0:37:24.390
<v Speaker 2>in sandals. Like, shut up. This guy wrote, give me

0:37:24.930 --> 0:37:27.420
<v Speaker 2>travel tips for, and what do you think his answer

0:37:27.440 --> 0:37:31.600
<v Speaker 2>is in his prompt? Give me travel tips for Uranus.

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:37.260
<v Speaker 3>See, I was going to guess something like your body.

0:37:37.320 --> 0:37:39.160
<v Speaker 2>This is an adult man.

0:37:40.400 --> 0:37:40.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:37:44.080 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 2>This guy wrote in his prompt, what if I told

0:37:46.560 --> 0:37:49.720
<v Speaker 2>you that I'm dominant, assertive, and know what I want,

0:37:50.380 --> 0:37:56.990
<v Speaker 2>and I, total gentleman. And then I screenshot his picture

0:37:57.010 --> 0:37:59.690
<v Speaker 2>because it was his tootsies in the sand. I was like, sir.

0:37:59.730 --> 0:37:59.870
<v Speaker 1>What?

0:38:00.940 --> 0:38:04.200
<v Speaker 2>A man in khaki shorts and tootsies in the sand

0:38:04.280 --> 0:38:12.980
<v Speaker 2>is not dominant. Like, shut up, asshole. Gets better. Then Zach,

0:38:13.260 --> 0:38:19.130
<v Speaker 2>he wrote, just message me. Quiet power, sharp mind. I mentor, indulge,

0:38:19.190 --> 0:38:22.330
<v Speaker 2>and occasionally take control. I might just be the reason

0:38:22.370 --> 0:38:26.190
<v Speaker 2>behind your next sugar craving smile. And one of his

0:38:26.230 --> 0:38:31.050
<v Speaker 2>prompts was, don't hate me if I'm too kinky. Zach,

0:38:32.150 --> 0:38:34.029
<v Speaker 2>why do you always take pictures of their feet? Because

0:38:34.510 --> 0:38:40.109
<v Speaker 2>you can't be kinky in a sandal with kinkles. Aren't

0:38:40.130 --> 0:38:43.029
<v Speaker 2>you embarrassed? What are you doing? You always come for

0:38:43.050 --> 0:38:46.420
<v Speaker 2>their feet. You have lipedema, bro. Like, are you okay?

0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:54.120
<v Speaker 2>You're not kinky. Shut up. It's so crazy. It's so crazy.

0:38:54.880 --> 0:38:56.660
<v Speaker 2>One guy wrote, let me clean them. He wanted to

0:38:56.680 --> 0:39:01.710
<v Speaker 2>clean my feet. Okay. Oh, the foot shit's weird. That's

0:39:01.730 --> 0:39:04.450
<v Speaker 2>just an average day for me. And then another guy

0:39:04.510 --> 0:39:07.270
<v Speaker 2>wrote to my, he's 50 because I wrote a note,

0:39:08.090 --> 0:39:11.190
<v Speaker 2>to my dick pic things. He wrote, I'll definitely take

0:39:11.230 --> 0:39:15.009
<v Speaker 2>a titty pic though. Thanks, Ray. I kind of like that.

0:39:16.190 --> 0:39:20.009
<v Speaker 2>Then this guy. He's direct. This guy must, whenever you

0:39:20.050 --> 0:39:23.220
<v Speaker 2>get direct messages, you know it's someone from Raya that

0:39:23.239 --> 0:39:23.890
<v Speaker 2>you didn't match with.

0:39:23.910 --> 0:39:24.430
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:39:26.200 --> 0:39:31.570
<v Speaker 2>I have this screenshot. January 21st. Lisa. Are you in

0:39:31.710 --> 0:39:35.200
<v Speaker 2>LA this week? Would love to have a drink. December 2022. Fire.

0:39:35.239 --> 0:39:44.710
<v Speaker 2>January 2023. Fire. February 2023. Date? This year. Love your

0:39:44.750 --> 0:39:47.590
<v Speaker 2>cool Raya vibes. Would love to take you for a

0:39:47.630 --> 0:39:49.969
<v Speaker 2>drink and dinner. I wrote, read the room, sir. Like,

0:39:50.030 --> 0:39:53.860
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck? It's been decades. Is he cute, though, Lise?

0:39:53.980 --> 0:39:56.560
<v Speaker 2>What do you think? Do you think I would have

0:39:56.580 --> 0:40:00.100
<v Speaker 2>gone on a date with him? What do you want

0:40:00.140 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 2>me to do?

0:40:00.700 --> 0:40:04.160
<v Speaker 1>I kind of, like, I look at persistence as attractive.

0:40:04.360 --> 0:40:08.330
<v Speaker 2>Boo-boo. Says the girl with the hot 36-year-old boyfriend. Like,

0:40:08.790 --> 0:40:13.820
<v Speaker 2>easy to say, asshole. He's 35. 35. Oh, I'm sorry.

0:40:14.100 --> 0:40:18.149
<v Speaker 2>He's 35, you guys. Morris wrote, I said, we'll never

0:40:18.190 --> 0:40:22.130
<v Speaker 2>take your call. He wrote, oof. And I hate to text.

0:40:22.350 --> 0:40:26.750
<v Speaker 2>It's so informal. I need to touch, smell, taste, and listen.

0:40:28.510 --> 0:40:30.529
<v Speaker 2>Way to make it weird. Like, what do you want

0:40:30.570 --> 0:40:30.890
<v Speaker 2>me to do?

0:40:31.390 --> 0:40:34.020
<v Speaker 1>Do you think that some women are responding to that

0:40:34.060 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 1>in a way that is favorable to them?

0:40:35.420 --> 0:40:37.739
<v Speaker 2>Here's the crazy thing is, sorry, guys.

0:40:38.800 --> 0:40:38.900
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:40:39.500 --> 0:40:43.200
<v Speaker 2>As you can tell a man factually, you just dried

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:45.180
<v Speaker 2>us up like the Sahara. They're like, no, I didn't.

0:40:45.460 --> 0:40:49.009
<v Speaker 2>There's no way. Like if any of these guys switch

0:40:49.070 --> 0:40:53.730
<v Speaker 2>to one of those young guys prompts, smooth sailing. But

0:40:53.770 --> 0:40:57.029
<v Speaker 2>they're so like they have no game. But also they're

0:40:57.050 --> 0:40:59.370
<v Speaker 2>just used to like having their way that I think

0:40:59.410 --> 0:41:00.950
<v Speaker 2>that's the other thing. Now we're in a place where

0:41:00.989 --> 0:41:04.510
<v Speaker 2>women are like, what's happening? Try harder. And they're like,

0:41:04.800 --> 0:41:07.200
<v Speaker 2>this is my bit. Do what I say.

0:41:07.219 --> 0:41:08.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah.

0:41:09.219 --> 0:41:12.540
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know what this means. This guy wrote

0:41:12.560 --> 0:41:18.340
<v Speaker 2>about me. 6'5, 240 pounds, looking for chemistry and connection.

0:41:19.640 --> 0:41:28.260
<v Speaker 2>Mature ejaculator. Penny, close your ears. Do we know? Mature.

0:41:28.510 --> 0:41:30.410
<v Speaker 2>I think that means he takes a while. Oh.

0:41:31.650 --> 0:41:31.750
<v Speaker 5>Oh.

0:41:32.590 --> 0:41:33.649
<v Speaker 3>That's my best guess.

0:41:33.670 --> 0:41:38.469
<v Speaker 2>Oh, instead of premature. Yeah, okay. That's a great point.

0:41:39.760 --> 0:41:43.279
<v Speaker 2>Can you fucking imagine? Then he wrote, if you need

0:41:43.300 --> 0:41:45.680
<v Speaker 2>an opener, just send me your favorite movie quote and

0:41:45.739 --> 0:41:48.660
<v Speaker 2>let's see if I can guess it, ladies. Enough with

0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:55.050
<v Speaker 2>the murdering assumptions. Enough with what? What? It really seems

0:41:55.130 --> 0:41:57.740
<v Speaker 2>like that would be a lot of work. To murder you?

0:41:57.770 --> 0:41:58.110
<v Speaker 1>Yes.

0:41:58.469 --> 0:42:02.670
<v Speaker 2>So don't flatter yourself, huh? Panini, can you imagine? You

0:42:02.710 --> 0:42:05.009
<v Speaker 2>would only be so lucky for him to murder you.

0:42:05.410 --> 0:42:09.640
<v Speaker 2>On what planet the mature ejaculator is also a serial killer?

0:42:11.820 --> 0:42:16.480
<v Speaker 2>Close your ears. Bad words. Then this other guy.

0:42:16.560 --> 0:42:17.060
<v Speaker 5>Hey, all.

0:42:17.160 --> 0:42:20.450
<v Speaker 2>I'm Keith. Newish to the app and the area, so

0:42:20.530 --> 0:42:24.009
<v Speaker 2>I'm looking for friends, a relationship, or anything between. I'm

0:42:24.050 --> 0:42:29.029
<v Speaker 2>a lot more endowed than most guys. So. Straight to

0:42:29.070 --> 0:42:32.770
<v Speaker 2>the point. I'd prefer to meet someone who appreciates my qualities.

0:42:34.670 --> 0:42:37.950
<v Speaker 2>I'm not shy, so you shouldn't be either. Casey had

0:42:37.989 --> 0:42:39.850
<v Speaker 2>a really good point. They're on the wrong app. Yeah.

0:42:39.870 --> 0:42:40.910
<v Speaker 2>And they think they're on the right one.

0:42:40.930 --> 0:42:42.330
<v Speaker 3>I was going to say, what app? Is this from

0:42:42.350 --> 0:42:43.150
<v Speaker 3>Raya or still Hinge?

0:42:43.410 --> 0:42:43.690
<v Speaker 2>Hinge.

0:42:44.010 --> 0:42:44.350
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:42:44.430 --> 0:42:47.910
<v Speaker 3>Can you? I think they just think it's all the same.

0:42:48.300 --> 0:42:50.760
<v Speaker 2>They're lost and they need to find their way home

0:42:50.969 --> 0:42:51.870
<v Speaker 2>to a different app.

0:42:52.070 --> 0:42:52.290
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:42:52.410 --> 0:42:57.810
<v Speaker 2>But imagine, like, there's, like, hundreds of thousands of me

0:42:57.910 --> 0:43:00.129
<v Speaker 2>that are getting these messages. I just happened to start

0:43:00.170 --> 0:43:04.450
<v Speaker 2>screenshotting them a couple years ago for Shits and Giggles. Like, what?

0:43:05.230 --> 0:43:07.670
<v Speaker 2>I can't imagine it. And shouldn't they just use AI

0:43:07.690 --> 0:43:11.570
<v Speaker 2>at this point to write you a message? If I

0:43:11.610 --> 0:43:13.730
<v Speaker 2>were a dude that was writing this dumb— I would just

0:43:13.750 --> 0:43:17.910
<v Speaker 2>be like, okay. Also, they probably don't know what AI is. Like, my—

0:43:19.430 --> 0:43:21.990
<v Speaker 2>My bracket. I guess actually maybe you're right. My dad

0:43:22.030 --> 0:43:23.219
<v Speaker 2>doesn't really know, right?

0:43:23.239 --> 0:43:26.540
<v Speaker 3>They probably also don't think it's dumb, the writing.

0:43:27.140 --> 0:43:27.339
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:43:27.460 --> 0:43:28.120
<v Speaker 2>They think it's good.

0:43:28.280 --> 0:43:28.420
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:43:28.440 --> 0:43:30.600
<v Speaker 2>This is what I need. This is what I need.

0:43:30.620 --> 0:43:31.959
<v Speaker 2>How old are you?

0:43:31.960 --> 0:43:32.340
<v Speaker 5>38.

0:43:32.340 --> 0:43:32.919
<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah.

0:43:34.560 --> 0:43:35.620
<v Speaker 1>We're all aligned on this.

0:43:36.480 --> 0:43:43.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that was ew. Then there's ugh. Paul, are you ready?

0:43:43.660 --> 0:43:43.739
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:43:44.920 --> 0:43:46.819
<v Speaker 2>You're going to die. This is I don't know why

0:43:46.860 --> 0:43:50.640
<v Speaker 2>this is the most offensive message I've ever gotten. You're

0:43:50.660 --> 0:43:53.560
<v Speaker 2>not all that with an exclamation point.

0:43:54.640 --> 0:43:54.980
<v Speaker 4>What?

0:43:56.060 --> 0:44:00.089
<v Speaker 2>Apparently I am. What are we talking about? So then

0:44:00.170 --> 0:44:03.529
<v Speaker 2>I wrote back. It's your Paul because he spelled it wrong.

0:44:05.790 --> 0:44:09.550
<v Speaker 2>You're not even going to believe me. I stand corrected.

0:44:10.450 --> 0:44:13.250
<v Speaker 2>The part about I will never take your call. The

0:44:13.290 --> 0:44:18.440
<v Speaker 2>part about not calling. Oh, that hurt him. I wrote, correct.

0:44:18.520 --> 0:44:21.620
<v Speaker 2>It's called a joke. Then he, I have to find

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:24.980
<v Speaker 2>the response. The part about not calling. Then he replied.

0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:27.759
<v Speaker 2>It's so sad. He replied to it and was like,

0:44:28.560 --> 0:44:30.640
<v Speaker 2>starts asking me about my day and where I'm from.

0:44:31.020 --> 0:44:35.490
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, Paul, shots fired. Like, you hate women.

0:44:36.690 --> 0:44:39.489
<v Speaker 1>I think that you made him feel really small with

0:44:39.530 --> 0:44:41.670
<v Speaker 1>that line. He loves to talk on the phone. Then

0:44:41.710 --> 0:44:45.710
<v Speaker 1>this other guy just wrote, I don't even know what

0:44:47.030 --> 0:44:52.370
<v Speaker 1>to make of this. Celebrity Jeopardy is on tonight. They

0:44:52.410 --> 0:44:55.029
<v Speaker 1>really dumb it down for them. Invented in Rome in

0:44:55.050 --> 0:44:58.560
<v Speaker 1>the 20th century, this cheesy sauce is often served with fettuccine.

0:44:59.620 --> 0:45:02.440
<v Speaker 1>Then he wrote, Alfredo, and you call yourself an Italian.

0:45:03.800 --> 0:45:06.279
<v Speaker 2>I never was talking. His name's Paul? What's his name?

0:45:06.300 --> 0:45:08.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know his name because I cut it out.

0:45:08.700 --> 0:45:12.569
<v Speaker 2>His age is showing. He was just having a conversation

0:45:12.610 --> 0:45:12.969
<v Speaker 2>with himself.

0:45:13.150 --> 0:45:13.250
<v Speaker 5>What?

0:45:14.260 --> 0:45:15.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh, he probably thought he was writing that to like

0:45:15.860 --> 0:45:20.140
<v Speaker 1>his daughter or something. He forgot what app he was in.

0:45:21.920 --> 0:45:27.580
<v Speaker 2>Then I screenshot this because on Raya, I got a

0:45:27.800 --> 0:45:30.580
<v Speaker 2>referral request. And it said, I'm not going to say

0:45:30.620 --> 0:45:33.140
<v Speaker 2>the name, but it said, requested a referral from you.

0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:38.220
<v Speaker 2>And I wrote, lols. And he goes, lol, confirm, smiley faces,

0:45:38.300 --> 0:45:40.910
<v Speaker 2>prayer hands, ha ha ha. And I go, The guy

0:45:41.030 --> 0:45:44.190
<v Speaker 2>who ghosts me and then wants a referral. Bro, are

0:45:44.250 --> 0:45:48.700
<v Speaker 2>you okay? He goes, I didn't know that. He didn't

0:45:48.719 --> 0:45:52.000
<v Speaker 2>know he ghosted you? I was like, what? I'm like,

0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:55.660
<v Speaker 2>I hate it here. I'm going to be single forever. Lisa,

0:45:55.840 --> 0:45:57.819
<v Speaker 2>what's the fun story in this pic? I don't answer.

0:45:58.530 --> 0:46:00.090
<v Speaker 2>It looks like it was a fun night and the

0:46:00.150 --> 0:46:04.230
<v Speaker 2>rain didn't dampen your mood. Having you been living in L.A. long, Lisa,

0:46:04.950 --> 0:46:08.390
<v Speaker 2>what do Thanksgiving turkeys have to be thankful for? The

0:46:08.430 --> 0:46:12.339
<v Speaker 2>salty Montauk. Local who shared it with me says it's vegetarians.

0:46:13.950 --> 0:46:14.859
<v Speaker 2>He wrote all to himself.

0:46:14.930 --> 0:46:18.690
<v Speaker 1>Once again, he thinks he's texting his daughter, his sister,

0:46:18.989 --> 0:46:21.710
<v Speaker 1>maybe even his wife. Who knows what he's up to

0:46:21.750 --> 0:46:26.069
<v Speaker 1>in his own personal life. He's in the wrong messaging app.

0:46:26.670 --> 0:46:28.550
<v Speaker 1>Why is he texting you about food?

0:46:29.940 --> 0:46:34.860
<v Speaker 2>To himself. To himself. He thinks he's in his note-taking app?

0:46:34.880 --> 0:46:37.239
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. These men are so old. These are

0:46:37.280 --> 0:46:39.860
<v Speaker 2>like separated. Like I don't get, I don't even know

0:46:39.880 --> 0:46:42.160
<v Speaker 2>what's happened. Oh my gosh. So that's what I mean

0:46:42.180 --> 0:46:44.509
<v Speaker 2>about dating my age. Like, yes, I see it. Do

0:46:44.530 --> 0:46:47.770
<v Speaker 2>you want it clearly now? I now realize why you

0:46:47.810 --> 0:46:51.630
<v Speaker 2>could never understand because you have never dated someone in

0:46:51.870 --> 0:46:59.230
<v Speaker 2>this dry, dusty generation where like they don't want to change.

0:46:59.250 --> 0:47:03.990
<v Speaker 2>Like it's crazy out there. There's more? There's more. Hi, Lisa.

0:47:04.350 --> 0:47:07.180
<v Speaker 2>You're a knockout with a great smile. I don't mind

0:47:07.200 --> 0:47:09.899
<v Speaker 2>that you're three feet taller than me because I'll climb

0:47:09.920 --> 0:47:16.160
<v Speaker 2>you like a koala. I'm going to stay silent on

0:47:16.180 --> 0:47:22.140
<v Speaker 2>that one. And I remember this. Oh, I forgot. You

0:47:22.180 --> 0:47:26.400
<v Speaker 2>loved this. Wait, remind me. I met on a date.

0:47:27.180 --> 0:47:30.720
<v Speaker 2>I met this guy on a date. And he's like, sorry,

0:47:30.739 --> 0:47:36.730
<v Speaker 2>I'm late. I wanted to get you something. And this

0:47:36.790 --> 0:47:39.089
<v Speaker 2>is what he brought me. And then I sent it

0:47:39.110 --> 0:47:41.310
<v Speaker 2>to Lexi and she was like, that cost 38 cents.

0:47:41.770 --> 0:47:43.930
<v Speaker 2>He brought me a Bitcoin, but it was like.

0:47:46.560 --> 0:47:48.100
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, OK, I was like, how much

0:47:48.140 --> 0:47:49.930
<v Speaker 2>is it worth? And he's like ten thousand. I go,

0:47:49.989 --> 0:47:52.170
<v Speaker 2>how do I cash it in? And he is like, well,

0:47:52.430 --> 0:47:54.029
<v Speaker 2>you can just buy the things that I go. What

0:47:54.050 --> 0:47:55.910
<v Speaker 2>can I purchase with that? Where can I? And I

0:47:55.950 --> 0:47:58.350
<v Speaker 2>kept it. He was like we were going in circles

0:47:58.390 --> 0:47:59.790
<v Speaker 2>for an hour about this Bitcoin.

0:47:59.810 --> 0:48:01.930
<v Speaker 3>Did he think it was an actual Bitcoin?

0:48:02.070 --> 0:48:07.150
<v Speaker 2>He told me that. This, yes, that he invests. It

0:48:07.190 --> 0:48:10.950
<v Speaker 2>was literally look like from a gumball machine. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

0:48:11.050 --> 0:48:13.250
<v Speaker 3>Looking at the picture, I was assuming he was like, oh,

0:48:13.250 --> 0:48:14.730
<v Speaker 3>this is like funny. I got you.

0:48:14.810 --> 0:48:16.620
<v Speaker 2>He was like, I am so. But he's like, no, no, no,

0:48:16.650 --> 0:48:18.450
<v Speaker 2>this is worth $ 10, 000. No, he went on with this.

0:48:19.190 --> 0:48:23.740
<v Speaker 2>It was psychotic. And then I was like, why do

0:48:23.800 --> 0:48:31.060
<v Speaker 2>I go? Why do I go? What is happening? Never

0:48:31.120 --> 0:48:34.920
<v Speaker 2>mind the ones that I actually go on. Have I

0:48:35.020 --> 0:48:37.560
<v Speaker 2>ever come back with a good story? A positive?

0:48:38.820 --> 0:48:39.040
<v Speaker 1>No.

0:48:40.780 --> 0:48:41.060
<v Speaker 3>Never.

0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:45.440
<v Speaker 1>No. And then I'll like meet random people and I'm like, oh, Elise,

0:48:45.520 --> 0:48:47.380
<v Speaker 1>what about this guy? And then I'll think of a

0:48:47.500 --> 0:48:49.720
<v Speaker 1>random really hot celebrity that's age appropriate.

0:48:49.739 --> 0:48:52.110
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, what about him? She's like, he's a fucking

0:48:52.210 --> 0:48:56.549
<v Speaker 2>woman hater. He's disgusting. I'm like, we don't even know him. Yes,

0:48:56.670 --> 0:48:58.710
<v Speaker 2>I do. But we do. The internet's real. Like, I

0:48:58.710 --> 0:49:01.750
<v Speaker 2>don't want to tell you. Also, why would I date

0:49:01.810 --> 0:49:04.069
<v Speaker 2>a celebrity? Do you know what I mean? Like, That's

0:49:04.090 --> 0:49:04.790
<v Speaker 2>what I'm approaching.

0:49:05.770 --> 0:49:08.770
<v Speaker 1>There's some really hot single celebrities in your bracket.

0:49:08.790 --> 0:49:12.250
<v Speaker 2>Oh, we have very different ideas of hot.

0:49:12.850 --> 0:49:16.719
<v Speaker 1>The last guy you were seeing looks like a 20-year-old

0:49:16.760 --> 0:49:17.640
<v Speaker 1>version of Austin.

0:49:17.719 --> 0:49:18.100
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:49:18.180 --> 0:49:19.500
<v Speaker 2>We kind of had the same idea. That he was

0:49:19.520 --> 0:49:22.780
<v Speaker 2>an anomaly. Yeah. That's not real.

0:49:23.120 --> 0:49:26.709
<v Speaker 1>He literally looked like he could be my boyfriend's hot uncle.

0:49:37.090 --> 0:49:40.390
<v Speaker 1>I think that you can make reality whatever you want

0:49:40.430 --> 0:49:40.739
<v Speaker 1>it to be.

0:49:41.219 --> 0:49:43.100
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I just pled my case.

0:49:43.520 --> 0:49:48.100
<v Speaker 1>But it exists somewhere. We just have to look really deep.

0:49:48.260 --> 0:49:49.640
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's on the app.

0:49:49.719 --> 0:49:53.140
<v Speaker 2>It's not on Hinge. It can't be. Like, it's crazy.

0:49:53.160 --> 0:49:55.279
<v Speaker 1>That's why I wanted to put out that PSA to

0:49:55.320 --> 0:49:55.980
<v Speaker 1>have people DM me.

0:49:56.500 --> 0:49:59.600
<v Speaker 2>But you know what I've also learned personally from doing

0:49:59.620 --> 0:50:04.140
<v Speaker 2>this is, like, I've realized, like, let's say you were like, oh,

0:50:04.360 --> 0:50:06.810
<v Speaker 2>I want you to meet my friend John. He's amazing.

0:50:07.660 --> 0:50:11.339
<v Speaker 2>If you've never dated John, you can't vote for him

0:50:11.700 --> 0:50:15.739
<v Speaker 2>because I have so many times done that and been

0:50:16.000 --> 0:50:18.920
<v Speaker 2>horrified by the behaviors of the men that I know

0:50:18.980 --> 0:50:22.069
<v Speaker 2>that I was always platonic with towards women. So you

0:50:22.090 --> 0:50:25.730
<v Speaker 2>don't believe in blind setups anymore? I don't think someone

0:50:25.770 --> 0:50:28.710
<v Speaker 2>telling me that their guy friend is amazing, like unless

0:50:28.750 --> 0:50:30.850
<v Speaker 2>you've had some sort of a relationship with that person,

0:50:30.870 --> 0:50:32.310
<v Speaker 2>you really don't know how that guy is going to

0:50:32.510 --> 0:50:35.200
<v Speaker 2>act in a like. You can say he's nice, he's fun,

0:50:35.219 --> 0:50:37.200
<v Speaker 2>he has a good family, he has sisters or a

0:50:37.700 --> 0:50:40.640
<v Speaker 2>good job and blah, blah, blah. But you, I have

0:50:40.719 --> 0:50:47.020
<v Speaker 2>been shocked. So how would you ideally like to meet someone? Like, naturally.

0:50:47.300 --> 0:50:49.790
<v Speaker 1>Like you slip and fall on the sidewalk and they

0:50:49.810 --> 0:50:50.489
<v Speaker 1>pick you up? Yes.

0:50:50.530 --> 0:50:54.810
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean naturally? Just like interactions in the world,

0:50:54.910 --> 0:51:00.090
<v Speaker 2>like friends of friends, like where I actually get to

0:51:00.110 --> 0:51:03.560
<v Speaker 2>know someone. That's the other thing, like, If I met

0:51:03.620 --> 0:51:05.819
<v Speaker 2>you out and you're not my type, but there's like

0:51:06.400 --> 0:51:11.350
<v Speaker 2>a connection, that's really different than... Yeah, it's very different. Like,

0:51:11.370 --> 0:51:12.610
<v Speaker 2>because I'll be like, oh, I won't go out with

0:51:12.650 --> 0:51:16.129
<v Speaker 2>a short guy. Well, I don't know. Maybe you will.

0:51:16.550 --> 0:51:18.890
<v Speaker 2>But on an app, I'm like, no, no, no. Like,

0:51:18.930 --> 0:51:21.620
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to narrow it down. Love is love. But

0:51:21.739 --> 0:51:22.980
<v Speaker 2>for all the guys out there.

0:51:24.410 --> 0:51:25.089
<v Speaker 2>Approach us.

0:51:25.210 --> 0:51:27.450
<v Speaker 1>It is the most attractive thing. Somebody will go out

0:51:27.690 --> 0:51:32.110
<v Speaker 1>with you just because you were sure about wanting to

0:51:32.150 --> 0:51:34.670
<v Speaker 1>take them out enough where you went up to them

0:51:34.790 --> 0:51:37.799
<v Speaker 1>and said something. That in itself is groundbreaking today.

0:51:37.820 --> 0:51:40.600
<v Speaker 3>But there is also nothing more intimidating than walking up

0:51:40.620 --> 0:51:43.460
<v Speaker 3>to a group of women, singling one of them out

0:51:43.620 --> 0:51:45.300
<v Speaker 3>and go like, I think you're cute.

0:51:45.360 --> 0:51:46.520
<v Speaker 2>I think the best way.

0:51:46.540 --> 0:51:48.589
<v Speaker 3>And then her friends are looking at you like, get

0:51:48.640 --> 0:51:50.330
<v Speaker 3>away from her. Get away from us.

0:51:51.090 --> 0:51:54.700
<v Speaker 2>Predator. Predators. But I do think my favorite way to

0:51:54.719 --> 0:51:56.529
<v Speaker 2>be approached is for a guy to, like, come over

0:51:56.550 --> 0:51:59.630
<v Speaker 2>and be like, hey, just wanted to, like, one guy

0:51:59.670 --> 0:52:02.410
<v Speaker 2>was like, just wanted to tell you you're beautiful. I'm

0:52:02.430 --> 0:52:04.090
<v Speaker 2>going to be over there with my friends if you're interested.

0:52:04.489 --> 0:52:06.190
<v Speaker 2>Or send a drink over the bar to him and

0:52:06.210 --> 0:52:07.750
<v Speaker 2>be like, and then he'll be like, just wanted to

0:52:07.790 --> 0:52:09.489
<v Speaker 2>say hi. I'm over here. Oh, that just happened to

0:52:09.510 --> 0:52:11.430
<v Speaker 2>our friend Crystal. By the way, was her date good?

0:52:11.890 --> 0:52:12.009
<v Speaker 4>No.

0:52:12.489 --> 0:52:12.640
<v Speaker 5>Oh.

0:52:13.380 --> 0:52:13.720
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:52:13.940 --> 0:52:14.140
<v Speaker 5>No.

0:52:14.440 --> 0:52:16.940
<v Speaker 2>I didn't tell you. I can't tell you.

0:52:17.280 --> 0:52:17.719
<v Speaker 4>No, but.

0:52:17.820 --> 0:52:18.239
<v Speaker 2>You're going to.

0:52:19.040 --> 0:52:24.400
<v Speaker 1>It probably felt good just to meet someone IRL, try

0:52:24.440 --> 0:52:26.880
<v Speaker 1>it on, and then throw it in the trash.

0:52:27.100 --> 0:52:27.239
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:52:28.140 --> 0:52:32.000
<v Speaker 2>But guys don't do... Instead, they come up to you,

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:36.210
<v Speaker 2>talk at your back, interrupt you, and then tell you

0:52:36.250 --> 0:52:41.230
<v Speaker 2>how to act. Tell you how to be. Chivalry is dead.

0:52:41.250 --> 0:52:41.390
<v Speaker 1>Dead.

0:52:41.410 --> 0:52:45.730
<v Speaker 2>Dead. The bar is so fucking low and buried. You

0:52:45.750 --> 0:52:48.489
<v Speaker 2>could literally just be like, hi. Yeah, all you have

0:52:48.510 --> 0:52:50.410
<v Speaker 2>to do is say hi. And show some teeth. I

0:52:50.450 --> 0:52:53.730
<v Speaker 2>don't know. Yeah. Have great hair and say hi. Yes. Also,

0:52:54.219 --> 0:52:58.880
<v Speaker 2>lead with your hair. It's so crazy. You guys, it's

0:52:58.900 --> 0:53:03.180
<v Speaker 2>not that hard. I think. And also, obviously, this isn't

0:53:03.200 --> 0:53:06.400
<v Speaker 2>to you. Know how to take a rejection, like a

0:53:06.440 --> 0:53:10.080
<v Speaker 2>kind rejection. Like, every time I ever say no thank you,

0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:14.200
<v Speaker 2>it becomes a fight. Now we're in a fight because

0:53:14.260 --> 0:53:16.100
<v Speaker 2>I'm not interested in you. Like, I'm not allowed to

0:53:16.140 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 2>decide for myself. I also think women have to give

0:53:18.680 --> 0:53:19.899
<v Speaker 2>kind rejections, though.

0:53:19.940 --> 0:53:20.140
<v Speaker 5>Yes.

0:53:20.160 --> 0:53:23.080
<v Speaker 2>Because I have seen women be very bitchy.

0:53:22.780 --> 0:53:25.180
<v Speaker 1>And dismissive of men that ask them out. And then

0:53:25.239 --> 0:53:28.290
<v Speaker 1>I think it feeds the cycle of us not bringing

0:53:28.330 --> 0:53:30.390
<v Speaker 1>our pods together and meeting places.

0:53:31.090 --> 0:53:31.890
<v Speaker 2>I would just lie.

0:53:32.150 --> 0:53:33.989
<v Speaker 1>I always told guys I had a boyfriend.

0:53:34.469 --> 0:53:38.469
<v Speaker 2>It's not that hard. Just lie. 100%. Yeah, but I

0:53:39.090 --> 0:53:41.330
<v Speaker 2>am not... I'm mean to you if you're mean to me.

0:53:41.610 --> 0:53:41.770
<v Speaker 5>Right.

0:53:41.810 --> 0:53:47.279
<v Speaker 2>Like, I'm matching energy. Like, I'm not... Yeah. going out and, like,

0:53:48.460 --> 0:53:50.560
<v Speaker 2>wanting to, like, shut you down just for fun.

0:53:51.760 --> 0:53:52.120
<v Speaker 5>No.

0:53:52.380 --> 0:53:52.580
<v Speaker 1>No.

0:53:52.900 --> 0:53:58.980
<v Speaker 3>I do think guys need to read body language better and, like.

0:53:59.280 --> 0:54:00.590
<v Speaker 2>Or even read body language.

0:54:00.620 --> 0:54:02.489
<v Speaker 3>I can tell if I am talking to a girl

0:54:02.530 --> 0:54:03.430
<v Speaker 3>and she's not interested.

0:54:03.450 --> 0:54:03.770
<v Speaker 2>I can.

0:54:04.310 --> 0:54:05.530
<v Speaker 3>quickly be like okay.

0:54:05.590 --> 0:54:07.950
<v Speaker 2>Isn't it of course you can you mean her back

0:54:07.989 --> 0:54:10.410
<v Speaker 2>to you when she barely turns around to like acknowledge

0:54:10.430 --> 0:54:14.630
<v Speaker 2>you and you're still there like hammering it's.

0:54:13.630 --> 0:54:15.370
<v Speaker 1>Crazy and then they bring their friends in on it

0:54:15.469 --> 0:54:18.149
<v Speaker 1>and then you oh and then their friends like he's

0:54:18.190 --> 0:54:22.730
<v Speaker 1>the best guy yeah oh that's the worst we should

0:54:22.770 --> 0:54:27.820
<v Speaker 1>save a whole episode for um I really like your

0:54:27.910 --> 0:54:32.040
<v Speaker 1>diagnosis of dating app behavior in terms of imagery I

0:54:32.060 --> 0:54:35.779
<v Speaker 1>feel like we talked a lot about responses and prompts

0:54:35.820 --> 0:54:39.500
<v Speaker 1>today and we should do a whole episode on photos.

0:54:40.400 --> 0:54:45.270
<v Speaker 2>On the upshot it's crazy.

0:54:46.510 --> 0:54:50.169
<v Speaker 1>Tell me i'm wrong no you're you're right i have

0:54:50.190 --> 0:54:54.170
<v Speaker 1>data yeah we should come back with the full data

0:54:54.210 --> 0:54:55.509
<v Speaker 1>analysis or.

0:54:55.450 --> 0:54:57.469
<v Speaker 2>We could do the dates i've actually gone on where

0:54:57.510 --> 0:55:03.650
<v Speaker 2>they're so mean for no reason but please keep dating

0:55:04.430 --> 0:55:07.110
<v Speaker 2>Don't give up. You guys, the crazy thing is I

0:55:07.190 --> 0:55:10.089
<v Speaker 2>still give guys chances. Like the irony of it all.

0:55:10.450 --> 0:55:10.669
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:55:10.989 --> 0:55:14.930
<v Speaker 2>Like it's not that I don't. It's just I'm not settling.

0:55:15.570 --> 0:55:18.150
<v Speaker 2>And of course I'm getting out quick. I'm like a

0:55:18.190 --> 0:55:19.670
<v Speaker 2>man and I'm like, I see what this is going

0:55:19.750 --> 0:55:21.469
<v Speaker 2>over and I bounce. But you still have to keep

0:55:21.510 --> 0:55:25.910
<v Speaker 2>the door open. You know, I haven't. The fact that

0:55:25.950 --> 0:55:31.700
<v Speaker 2>I'm not. I'm not jaded. I'm just not stupid. Is

0:55:31.739 --> 0:55:34.259
<v Speaker 2>what it is. And like, if you like, I think

0:55:34.300 --> 0:55:38.259
<v Speaker 2>that's what the turnoff for men is when they meet

0:55:38.320 --> 0:55:41.410
<v Speaker 2>me is that they're like immediately clock that they're not

0:55:41.430 --> 0:55:43.089
<v Speaker 2>going to pull one over on me. And that's when

0:55:43.110 --> 0:55:45.509
<v Speaker 2>they start to become assholes on the date. Cause they're

0:55:45.530 --> 0:55:48.130
<v Speaker 2>like trying to bring me down a notch by telling

0:55:48.170 --> 0:55:50.589
<v Speaker 2>me like, I have buck teeth. I'm like, dude, I

0:55:50.690 --> 0:55:54.610
<v Speaker 2>literally have a set of chiclets. Like, what are you talking?

0:55:54.670 --> 0:55:56.160
<v Speaker 2>Why would you tell me I have buck teeth? Like

0:55:56.200 --> 0:56:01.540
<v Speaker 2>it's crazy behavior. So I'm like, They just immediately meet

0:56:01.560 --> 0:56:04.319
<v Speaker 2>me and are like, oh shit, she's not going to like,

0:56:04.860 --> 0:56:07.759
<v Speaker 2>because our friend who went on a date, I'm not

0:56:07.800 --> 0:56:09.790
<v Speaker 2>going to say what the question was, but he asked

0:56:09.810 --> 0:56:13.190
<v Speaker 2>her a question and I'll do it off camera. That

0:56:13.270 --> 0:56:17.150
<v Speaker 2>is so vile and disgusting on the first date. And

0:56:17.190 --> 0:56:19.960
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, he's testing you. But this is normal.

0:56:20.850 --> 0:56:22.970
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's normal, but it's happening.

0:56:22.989 --> 0:56:25.810
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I'm like, I'm not phased. Whenever a client comes in,

0:56:25.810 --> 0:56:27.310
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you're going to die. I'm like, I'm not.

0:56:28.010 --> 0:56:28.690
<v Speaker 2>I'm actually not.

0:56:28.730 --> 0:56:30.509
<v Speaker 1>I do feel like I have dealt with a lot

0:56:30.530 --> 0:56:34.670
<v Speaker 1>of that, though, when I was single. Not from older men. Adult.

0:56:34.690 --> 0:56:35.230
<v Speaker 2>Like, that's the.

0:56:36.110 --> 0:56:39.070
<v Speaker 1>I just think a lot of men feel too comfortable.

0:56:39.350 --> 0:56:41.970
<v Speaker 2>Yes. With saying certain things to women.

0:56:42.150 --> 0:56:42.370
<v Speaker 5>Yes.

0:56:42.890 --> 0:56:44.450
<v Speaker 2>And you want a family. He's like, you know, he

0:56:44.469 --> 0:56:46.290
<v Speaker 2>wants marriage. He wants a family. You want this. You

0:56:46.330 --> 0:56:49.180
<v Speaker 2>want this. And then do you squirt? Oh, my God.

0:56:49.700 --> 0:56:51.440
<v Speaker 2>You have to ask her if we can mention it.

0:56:51.430 --> 0:56:53.020
<v Speaker 2>I'll ask her. We can mention it without her name.

0:56:53.600 --> 0:56:56.340
<v Speaker 2>It's disgusting. I'll ask her. Because that is worth mentioning.

0:56:56.739 --> 0:56:56.959
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:56:57.160 --> 0:57:00.060
<v Speaker 2>That is insane. That happened last week.

0:57:00.340 --> 0:57:00.520
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:57:00.880 --> 0:57:01.080
<v Speaker 4>Wow.

0:57:01.440 --> 0:57:04.719
<v Speaker 2>Like, this isn't... What do you think these guys would

0:57:04.739 --> 0:57:06.899
<v Speaker 2>say to me if I were to date with them?

0:57:08.020 --> 0:57:08.520
<v Speaker 2>Do you squirt?

0:57:08.620 --> 0:57:11.860
<v Speaker 1>This is everything not to do if you're a man listening.

0:57:12.640 --> 0:57:18.040
<v Speaker 2>Like, it's not hard. It's so... Well... Apply what the.

0:57:18.690 --> 0:57:21.030
<v Speaker 1>Baby boomers. Is that what they're called?

0:57:21.650 --> 0:57:22.950
<v Speaker 2>Am I a baby boomer?

0:57:23.230 --> 0:57:23.450
<v Speaker 5>No.

0:57:23.730 --> 0:57:24.710
<v Speaker 2>Who's a baby boomer?

0:57:26.410 --> 0:57:29.530
<v Speaker 3>You're like cusp Gen Z millennial.

0:57:29.550 --> 0:57:33.640
<v Speaker 1>Yes. Oh, okay. Apply what Gen Z is using to

0:57:33.960 --> 0:57:36.360
<v Speaker 1>flirt with Lisa and not hinge and just do that.

0:57:36.520 --> 0:57:38.140
<v Speaker 2>Yes. Period.

0:57:38.200 --> 0:57:39.620
<v Speaker 1>I feel like we probably gave you a lot of

0:57:39.660 --> 0:57:43.780
<v Speaker 1>really good things to use for sliding into women's DMs today.

0:57:43.800 --> 0:57:45.340
<v Speaker 3>There were a couple of good messages yesterday.

0:57:45.860 --> 0:57:49.860
<v Speaker 2>The barking one is great. Yeah, that was good. That

0:57:49.960 --> 0:57:50.940
<v Speaker 2>one is so good.

0:57:51.540 --> 0:57:54.400
<v Speaker 3>I usually go with, like, I'm trying to be really

0:57:54.440 --> 0:57:57.880
<v Speaker 3>straightforward about just, like, asking out on a date. Like,

0:57:58.020 --> 0:58:00.700
<v Speaker 3>I'll maybe, like, make a funny thing based on one

0:58:00.740 --> 0:58:01.330
<v Speaker 3>of their prompts.

0:58:01.350 --> 0:58:01.530
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:58:01.550 --> 0:58:03.790
<v Speaker 3>But then end it with, like, what are you doing

0:58:04.590 --> 0:58:05.370
<v Speaker 3>Saturday or something.

0:58:05.390 --> 0:58:05.570
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:58:05.790 --> 0:58:07.650
<v Speaker 3>Because I don't want to have a back and forth

0:58:07.710 --> 0:58:09.350
<v Speaker 3>on the app. I just want to go meet the person.

0:58:09.370 --> 0:58:11.630
<v Speaker 1>Because that being said, are you doing drinks or dinner?

0:58:11.650 --> 0:58:13.110
<v Speaker 2>Depends.

0:58:13.130 --> 0:58:16.860
<v Speaker 3>Depends. Um, usually offer a drink first.

0:58:17.480 --> 0:58:17.740
<v Speaker 1>Good.

0:58:18.340 --> 0:58:18.640
<v Speaker 3>Because.

0:58:18.660 --> 0:58:20.140
<v Speaker 2>In and out. Yeah.

0:58:20.500 --> 0:58:21.060
<v Speaker 1>It's, it's.

0:58:21.600 --> 0:58:23.720
<v Speaker 2>Or option for an out. A dinner is, is a commitment.

0:58:23.740 --> 0:58:25.140
<v Speaker 1>Who wants to have dinner with a stranger?

0:58:25.180 --> 0:58:25.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly.

0:58:27.420 --> 0:58:30.430
<v Speaker 1>I even hate a work dinner. If I know, like

0:58:30.490 --> 0:58:31.930
<v Speaker 1>work with the person, I'm like, what are we going

0:58:31.950 --> 0:58:33.490
<v Speaker 1>to talk about for an hour, two.

0:58:33.670 --> 0:58:37.770
<v Speaker 2>Hours, three hours? Nevermind a perfect stranger that you had

0:58:37.850 --> 0:58:41.150
<v Speaker 2>three like message, brief messages. Casey, I love you, but

0:58:41.170 --> 0:58:44.240
<v Speaker 2>don't ever ask me to get dinner. Got it. She's

0:58:44.280 --> 0:58:49.020
<v Speaker 2>like this the whole time. But that's the same with dating.

0:58:49.080 --> 0:58:52.710
<v Speaker 2>It's just like, I don't know, dinner. There's some friends.

0:58:52.450 --> 0:58:54.590
<v Speaker 1>That I don't even get like one-on-one dinners with.

0:58:55.470 --> 0:58:57.110
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. You know? One-on-one dinners.

0:58:57.230 --> 0:58:58.710
<v Speaker 3>I don't really do that with friends.

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<v Speaker 2>It's intense. Yeah. It's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe, first of all, I think this is going

0:59:04.460 --> 0:59:06.939
<v Speaker 1>to be very unpopular opinion. I think coffee dates are weird.

0:59:08.180 --> 0:59:09.740
<v Speaker 3>I don't like coffee dates either.

0:59:10.030 --> 0:59:12.550
<v Speaker 1>Let's get dressed up let's try to look our best

0:59:12.690 --> 0:59:15.280
<v Speaker 1>oh but yeah if you drink let's let have a

0:59:15.280 --> 0:59:16.110
<v Speaker 1>drink loosen up.

0:59:16.030 --> 0:59:18.580
<v Speaker 3>To me lisa seems to disagree but a coffee date

0:59:18.600 --> 0:59:21.419
<v Speaker 3>to me feels like like i get coffee with like

0:59:21.500 --> 0:59:24.800
<v Speaker 3>people i'm trying to like network yeah for work we.

0:59:24.680 --> 0:59:27.460
<v Speaker 1>Can get coffee casey media that feels right yeah that

0:59:27.500 --> 0:59:29.360
<v Speaker 1>feels right yes but it's also.

0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:32.690
<v Speaker 2>A very small amount of time so like it could

0:59:32.710 --> 0:59:36.050
<v Speaker 2>be a long coffee but i a coffee date to

0:59:36.110 --> 0:59:38.410
<v Speaker 2>me is more of like a let's meet and see

0:59:38.470 --> 0:59:41.890
<v Speaker 2>if we're like attracted like it could be a 30

0:59:41.890 --> 0:59:43.690
<v Speaker 2>minute thing and then it could be a hard no

0:59:44.030 --> 0:59:46.370
<v Speaker 2>like so sometimes i do me in broad daylight for.

0:59:46.250 --> 0:59:50.250
<v Speaker 1>A swap that's hysterical that's hysterical I've thought about this

0:59:50.270 --> 0:59:51.550
<v Speaker 1>because when I was single, guys would be like, do

0:59:51.570 --> 0:59:52.910
<v Speaker 1>you want to go on a walk with the dogs?

0:59:52.970 --> 0:59:56.010
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, nope. That also seems like a lot going on.

0:59:56.010 --> 0:59:56.490
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to.

0:59:56.470 --> 1:00:00.640
<v Speaker 1>Be in loungewear with you in broad daylight. Dead, dead.

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<v Speaker 1>Or a hike.

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<v Speaker 3>I was on one of those dates, like walked around

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<v Speaker 3>the Echo Park Lake. She was walking her dogs. And

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<v Speaker 3>it was like. Terrible conversation. She's distracted by the dogs.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>And that was the only time I ever did a

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<v Speaker 3>date like that.

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<v Speaker 2>And you saw her pores up close.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you weren't in love with her yet. You didn't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>You saw the rogue hair on her chin.

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<v Speaker 3>But like I'm trying to have a conversation with her.

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<v Speaker 3>It feels like she's not really listening and she's like

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<v Speaker 3>paying more attention to the dogs. I was like, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>this is a terrible idea.

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<v Speaker 1>You shouldn't be distracted on a date. You should be

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<v Speaker 1>able to be present, look the person in the eye,

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<v Speaker 1>give it your best, and leave in 30 minutes if

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<v Speaker 1>it's not for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Or an hour. I guess an hour. The worst, worst

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<v Speaker 2>date you could ask a woman on, especially for the

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<v Speaker 2>first time, is a hike.

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<v Speaker 3>I see a lot of women on the apps asking

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<v Speaker 3>to do a hike.

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<v Speaker 2>To go to the woods with you? That feels like

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<v Speaker 2>a very L.A.

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<v Speaker 1>Thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Why?

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's crazy. That is crazy. That's the thing

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<v Speaker 3>that I see on women's profiles a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Really?

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<v Speaker 3>They want to go on hikes.

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<v Speaker 2>I am not going into the woods with you. be,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to have it. Like, how are we talking?

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<v Speaker 1>This literally just reminded me that I have to text

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<v Speaker 1>my friend. She went on a hiking date on Sunday

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<v Speaker 1>with a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like I would never see how it went. But like,

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<v Speaker 2>how do you talk?

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<v Speaker 1>Also, as a girl, when you're single and you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be kind of pick me ish because you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be not too difficult, come off too difficult when

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<v Speaker 1>a guy proposes that you're just like stuck doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Because what am I supposed to say? I I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to hike with you because you might push me

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<v Speaker 1>off the cliff and kill me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because I should think that. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>hike with.

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<v Speaker 1>You because I don't want you to see my skin

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<v Speaker 1>and my chin hairs coming out.

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<v Speaker 2>I have two issues. It's how am I breathing and

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<v Speaker 2>talking and are you going to kill me here? Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>why would I go? That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>It should be after 5 p.m. only in an hour

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<v Speaker 1>time slot.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and honestly, I think it's a very uncool thing

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<v Speaker 1>If you were getting a drink date with someone, don't

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<v Speaker 1>make plans for afterwards. Because what if it's going well

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<v Speaker 1>and you want to roll it into dinner?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't make plans to do something without them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's very unattractive when I would go out

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<v Speaker 1>with a guy and he'd be like, oh, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to meet my friends for dinner.

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<v Speaker 2>You made follow-up plans? But I think it's a lie

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<v Speaker 2>and we do it so that way, just in case

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<v Speaker 2>it sucks, you have a hard out. Women can do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Men can't do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Men aren't lying about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Men are actually doing it. I'm like, I have three

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<v Speaker 2>more meetings after this. And then they're like, do you

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<v Speaker 2>want to come? Because it's going well. And you're like, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go meet all your friends and

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<v Speaker 1>spend my Friday night with your friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I just met you. I would say that if I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I only have enough to make sure they knew.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Women can do it. But men can't.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to listen to us all night long if

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<v Speaker 1>we like you. And then ghost us.

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<v Speaker 3>That's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Then you can ghost us. Then you could disappear. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the first time Austin and I had dinner,

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<v Speaker 2>neither of us spoke. We were like, so, yeah. Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>was this in Cabo?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>You guys, this was the most awkward, like, watching love happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine these two awkward people. Like, us being like, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to go out with him alone. Yeah. We had to, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you go now.

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<v Speaker 1>We went to dinner after making out in nightclubs for nights.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I could see how that would be weird. I

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<v Speaker 2>guess in that moment. So where were you from? Oh, okay.

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<v Speaker 5>Nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice.

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<v Speaker 2>But we're like, you have to. He's going back to Austin.

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<v Speaker 2>How many siblings do you have?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, cool.

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<v Speaker 2>But you had to do it. It was so awkward. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>what was he going to fly to LA and have

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<v Speaker 2>that date? You know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I had to do it or else I knew

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<v Speaker 1>I would never see him again if I didn't check

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<v Speaker 1>him out.

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<v Speaker 2>She sucked it up. She did the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I did.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But that was really awkward. I never even thought of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine having a sit-down dinner at a romantic resort in

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico with a guy you've been making out with the

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<v Speaker 1>past two nights.

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<v Speaker 2>From a bachelor party.

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<v Speaker 1>From a bachelor party that lives in a different state.

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<v Speaker 2>Who's also quiet. Yeah. Like, so shy. I never thought.

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<v Speaker 3>But you did that dinner. You're obviously together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>So even now talking about it and being like, it

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<v Speaker 3>was so awkward. Something must have clicked that you're like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to keep pursuing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was just interest. Being like, I'm interested

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<v Speaker 1>to know more about this person and get to know

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<v Speaker 1>them better.

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<v Speaker 2>Lexi leans into awkward. Like, you love when shit's weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what I mean? Yeah, because I'm awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>So I can totally see why you'd be like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>we were a total match. I love the lack of

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<v Speaker 2>eye contact.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I love the blunt outbursts. It was for me. He

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<v Speaker 2>was for me. It's so funny.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also was just... What did I have to lose? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>having a connection with someone energetically is so rare, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all talking about how hard dating is.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I mean. The way you met him in

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<v Speaker 2>the wild.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, would you... If it wasn't that circumstance in the world, like,

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<v Speaker 2>would you have matched them on an app? Would you have, like,

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<v Speaker 2>based on what he wrote?

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<v Speaker 1>We should do a whole episode and pull up the

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<v Speaker 1>footage because there's a ton of footage. Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Of us with strobe lights. Because imagine we're all laughing

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<v Speaker 2>because we're like, ha, ha, ha, this is so, like,

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<v Speaker 2>we randomly documented the beginning of their story. Like, everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because we all, everybody thought it was hilarious.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And we're all, like, so fucked up that, like,

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<v Speaker 2>it was hysterical. And then now it's like, he lives here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And, like, we met his parents. Yes. It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up the next morning after meeting him and

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<v Speaker 1>everyone was like, you're in love. Look, look.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm never going to see that guy

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<v Speaker 2>ever again. We knew. We knew.

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<v Speaker 1>Neither Austin or I can remember what we spoke about

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<v Speaker 1>or why we liked each other.

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<v Speaker 2>That's hysterical.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember distinctly saying to him, though, mid-conversation, while we're

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<v Speaker 1>blacked out in a group at a club, I was like, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>I like you and I never like anybody. Yeah. That's

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<v Speaker 1>word for word what I said. And the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>he took that as a compliment. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my guy. Instead of being like red flag. Very sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>She's telling me she likes me after knowing me for

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<v Speaker 1>two hours and she's.

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<v Speaker 2>Slurring her words. And she said she never likes anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think it's because he wasn't actually like authentically nice?

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<v Speaker 1>He mentioned something about. liking herbal tea at night. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, and then he, he also, we were

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<v Speaker 1>talking about microdosing mushrooms and he also did that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, he's evolved. He gets it.

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<v Speaker 2>This, that's the other thing. I think that this age

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<v Speaker 2>bracket that you're in back here is there's that is

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<v Speaker 2>an opportunity like that is a thing a man is

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<v Speaker 2>evolved and like gets the way the world works like.

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<v Speaker 1>He drinks tea and he takes mushrooms that's my kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of guy you know who's not mad at baltair you

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<v Speaker 2>know what i mean like he's mad at the world

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<v Speaker 2>mad at everything mad that he's old yeah like this

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<v Speaker 2>is why i lean like it's not just a looks

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<v Speaker 2>thing it's like an energy thing that makes sense you

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<v Speaker 2>know it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, obviously we were attracted to each other based

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<v Speaker 1>off the video footage, but once, you know, the liquor

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<v Speaker 1>left our systems, we also had chemistry. I also think

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<v Speaker 1>it's just a sign that if you feel like comfortable

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<v Speaker 1>with someone on that level, just try to pursue it

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<v Speaker 1>to the fullest because we weren't living in the same state.

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<v Speaker 1>We did long distance for a year. Both of us

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<v Speaker 1>were in weird parts of our career. Now we live together,

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<v Speaker 1>have a business together.

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<v Speaker 2>Like so weird. You guys were both embarrassed. That's the

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<v Speaker 2>other thing I always think. And I feel like younger

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<v Speaker 2>guys don't have this stigma. But an older guy, if

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<v Speaker 2>everything is not exactly right for them, they can't fathom

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship. So if like work is off or this

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<v Speaker 2>is off. And you guys came together at like a

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<v Speaker 2>really volatile but intense time in both of your careers

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<v Speaker 2>and lives. And personal lives. And personal lives. And it worked.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because he didn't feel. inferior or whatever it was.

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<v Speaker 1>I also think as a man who's dating, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're looking for in a woman, but there's

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<v Speaker 1>women that want to be taken care of and there's

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<v Speaker 1>women that want a partner. And Lisa's the kind of

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<v Speaker 1>woman that also wants a partner. I wanted a partner.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to show up and be 50-50 in how

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<v Speaker 1>we contribute to the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have any expectation of Yeah. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. of way I just wanted to feel like secure

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm with someone I can trust yeah something goes

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<v Speaker 1>bad we figure out together we're partners I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>rely on somebody to hold all the keys and I

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<v Speaker 1>have to ask them for permission when I want to

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<v Speaker 1>open up.

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<v Speaker 2>A door yeah that perfectly said yeah perfectly said.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah and if you are looking for that there's a

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<v Speaker 1>specific kind of girl that is also looking.

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<v Speaker 2>For that but I okay again I'm going to separate

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<v Speaker 2>the age bracket. In my age bracket, there aren't a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of men that are interested in a partner.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I can see that.

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<v Speaker 2>Very much so. Because they're stuck in their ways. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's really, really difficult. They'll meet me and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>like I meet, they have this immediate, like, they're like

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<v Speaker 2>coming at me, like just like to bring me down.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they're either divorced, widowed or single forever. So they're,

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<v Speaker 1>they're really like in a cycle of being who they are. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that seems really hard to break out of,

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<v Speaker 1>just being that stubborn.

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<v Speaker 2>And I noticed, because everyone's always like, you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>have to date a guy that's divorced. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I hear you, but I don't want to be the

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<v Speaker 2>one to rip the Band-Aid off this guy. Because these guys,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been on so many dates with newly divorced men.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, are you okay? Like, you need to learn

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<v Speaker 2>how to do this again. Because clearly, you've been taken

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<v Speaker 2>care of.

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<v Speaker 5>It takes time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy. And I'm like, I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 2>the one to teach you. Like, go learn it and

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<v Speaker 2>then circle back. It's so crazy. Lisa ain't a teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>Not anymore. I spent most of my life teaching men

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<v Speaker 2>how to act. I'm no longer doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to end this episode by any kind

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<v Speaker 1>of PSA for a man that you do want to

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<v Speaker 1>call in? Let's end on a positive note.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how to say it positively.

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<v Speaker 5>Like.

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<v Speaker 1>No, let's take this moment to manifest the man of

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<v Speaker 1>your dreams.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe that the man of my dreams exists. Not

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<v Speaker 2>a however.

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<v Speaker 1>But?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's someone that has put a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>work into themselves, and that's the hard part to find.

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<v Speaker 1>But? It is.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure it exists. I just speak it as it is.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just haven't. He exists. I just haven't met

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<v Speaker 2>him yet.

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<v Speaker 1>He's listening to this podcast right now. Lisa's phone number is.

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<v Speaker 2>But I haven't met someone my age that, like, gets

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<v Speaker 2>it and understands that, like, a woman can be independent and, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't need you. I want you. Like. We're going

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<v Speaker 2>to call him in energetically. Just take a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>And also.

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<v Speaker 2>Call him in, Lisa. Also, wait. It's not that deep,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys. Like, everyone needs to relax and have some fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, but we're manifesting right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Take deep breath. I just did.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine the feeling coming over you from head to toe

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<v Speaker 1>of this man being in front of you.

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<v Speaker 2>See him.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel him.

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<v Speaker 2>Recognize him. He's real. As it is, so it'll be. Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>God bless everyone. Hallelujah.

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<v Speaker 2>to Me, Boho Chicken, and Lisa DiGiulio. See you next Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 2>See ya, bitch.